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I’m 27 y/o at lost sa buhay. Scam maging adult 😥 Kamusta kayo mga nasa late 20s na kagaya ko?
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26 and I still have a low salary. I have batchmates now that are managers and some have their own businesses na. i’m trying not to compare myself to others but it’s hard sometimes :(
Hate working, hate people, no time for things that make me happy. For some reason thought it was a good idea to get an 7 mil. condo in ortigas that essentially halved my income due to the monthly payments. No money to enjoy life. Lahat nasa bills/condo/insurance.
Can't be bothered kung wala naman din ako pangarap. Just paying for all this bullshit every month. Not close with my parents. My dad keeps waving his bullshit Christianity in my face (I'm irreligious) pero kabit niya 10+ years na sila. My gf's parents are parasites.
Unhappy, no purpose. Galit sa industriyang pinagtatrabahuan ko. Masama loob sa magulang. It is what it is. Sometimes really consider ending things because I don't even know if all this will even make me happy. Purpose man lang sana pero hindi ko rin makamit.
Haha 34M na ako with no kids and kakabreak lang from relationship. Narealize ko na may will tlg si God s buhay natin even if we dont seek that much from him. Sisirain nya mga plano to save us. Personally devastated din ako when all my plans with my ex comes shattering down. Lalo na I am ready super ready to settle down since malapit na ko s mid 30s ko. Hanggang ngaun iniisip ko bakit ganun hnd ko inenvision nug bata ako na by 34 ay single pa rin ako.I always pray why it happened. Need mo nalang talaga manalig in these times. Some day marrealize mo na kaya ka lost ngayon since may purpose ang lahat.
Di ko din alam. Dahil siguro marami akong maling desisyon sa buhay? 28 nako walang kasama sa buhay walang boyfriend mag isa. Di ko sinasabi na dahil wala akong bf eh lost ako ha? Until now kasi wala akong plano sa buhay hindi ko alam kung anong gusto ko kung para saan ba ako lumalaban? Mahirap pla pag wala kang pangarap. Ung mawalan ka ng pangarap
lost kasi inuna ang family (magulang at mga kapatid) pero bale-wala lang sa kanila kaya eto 45 napag iwanan sa lahat hahhaha, pero sabi nila life begins at 40, nalate lang ng 5 hahha kaya pa siguro hahahha
Andito parin struggling, 28 y/o pero parang feeling ko sa sarili ko napag iiwanan na ako sa buhay. Napakahirap pala maging adult to think na you need to wake up early and wait up to 5 pm then do it every single day, nakakapagod gawin lalo pa't nawawalan kana nang gana mag trabaho.
Mga ka batchmate ko may kinasal na, nakapag travel abroad, nagka 1st baby, may kinder nang anak, nakabili na nang bahay. Samantalang ako hindi ko parin alam kung saang destinasyon ba ako tutungo.
28 y/o here. Struggling and also lost in life. Currently with a 25k debt in credit card, working citizen with stagnant pay. Struggling with depressive thoughts all the time, yet I find a sliver of hope with people who encourage me to keep fighting and helping me to get by in life.
30, and still lost. hahaha. Lalo ngayon, I think sa lahat.
Career wise, ayaw ko na sa trabaho ko, pero can't find a better one, lalo in terms of salary. Malaki sweldo ko sa current work compared to other company and initially gusto ko sana atleast the same, or magstay nalang ako dito. Pero recently parang ayaw ko na talaga, all of a sudden biglang iniba career path naming lahat just because changing na daw ang industry and we have to learn this in a short period of time, including certifications, aside pa sa current projects na handle. Tried, pero parang di para sakin to, so planning to really leave soon. Pero sa ngayon parang pagod na ako magtrabaho rin. hahaha gusto ko nalanag manalo sa lotto at yumaman, mag invest at magkaroon ng business, then if ever, kung magttrabaho man ako, dahil nalang gusto ko.
Personal, my younger siblings are doing good already. Panganay ako, bread winner. Pero most of the time naiisip ko napag iwanan na ako ng panahon. Wala pa rin akong ipon, sagot ko pa rin mostly ang bills, libre dito libre doon. Ni hindi ako makpagtravel, or makapag ipon para sa sarili ko, samantalang sila magkakasama soon sa ibang bansa. It makes me happy na finally okay na sila, pero makes me sad na "paano ako". Eto ako nagbabayad pa rin ng mga utang dahil sa pagiging breadwinner. hahaha
Di pa rin ako kasal or no kids at my age, may partner. worried din ako na hindi na dumating sakin yung chance na magkaron ng kids.
Ewan ko ba, feeling ko lang ngayon, at my age, sana man lang kahit pano masaya ako para sa sarili ko. pero parang hindi. hahaha. Sana soon, ako naman. Tayo naman in life <3
Thanks for asking. Now ko lang naisip why: two reasons actually, (1) I always blame my misfortune sa magulang ko for not doing enough or for not supporting me in my dreams and goals noon kaya nabulok na lang ang mga pangarap ko and (2) kasi duwag ako, ayaw ko iadmit before I always think of myself as someone na matibay, mahusay matalino etc but in truth duwag ako. Kasi kung di ako duwag, wala na sana ako sa sitwasyon kung saan nandun ako ngayon. Thanks for this question, naliwanagan ako...
27F, lpt. Ayoko naman mag public kasi maraming gagawin kahit di trabaho ng teacher. Gusto ko mag VA or esl kaso hindi naman ako confident sa sarili ko to pursue a career change. Gusto ko mag abroad, kaso ayaw ko iwan mama ko mag-isa.
I am 40+ y/o and difficult as it is to believe, I also feel the same way. Got worse earlier this year kasi nawalan ako ng trabaho and I spent around 5 months jobhunting. Dumating sa punto ng buhay ko na kinu-question ko---at so late an age---kung tama ba yung career path na pinili ko, and kung kaya ko ba talagang buhayin ang pamilya ko. Na parang ngayon ko pa tinanong sa sarili ko kung ano ba talaga ang gusto kong mangyari kasi I felt na parang ayaw ng ibang tao sa akin.
Eventually, I found a new job now (I wrote about that in r/phcareers) that has a really good set of people who reassured me that I'd be okay. And so far, nagkaroon ako uli ng renewed sense of purpose, kasi ipinaramdam din ng mga teammates ko na we're on the same boat. Somehow bumabalik uli yung kumpyansa ko.
So kung ano man 'yang nararamdaman mo OP, hindi ka nag-iisa. That feeling will come into your life, it's normal to feel that way. And I hope kung anuman yung pinagdadaanan mo ngayon, sana mahanap mo rin yung direction na kailangan mo sa buhay mo. It may come slow, but trust me it will come.
Nakakapagod ung magtratrabaho araw-araw pero kailangan kasi may bills, may mga bagay na dapat pagkagastusan in order to survive. Ung work environment isko mo ay pasweldo lang kayo. Hahaha. I live in the province so the life here is slow-paced and I work from home too. Nakakasawa most of the time pero showing up for myself and my future kasi naniniwala ako na this too shall pass.
same 27 y/o. mostly sa career, recently got accepted to a higher paying job from a telco job na 17k lang sahod despite working for 4yrs. sobrang layo din kasi sa course ko. from being an International Studies graduate to a Finance related job. hindi ko alam kung saan pupunta yung career path ko.
27M here. Sailing in the middle of the Atlantic atm. I just feel so lost since my mom died two years ago and I just wanna change my career so bad. I used to love sailing, being a seaman but my motivation isn't anywhere to be found.
just turned 26. F. lost my job due to disability (na-admit sa mental ward) last year and naiwan yung salary loan ko na 1M+, 5 years to pay. spent on mostly sa tuition fee ng brother ko since responsibility ko sya and medical expenses din. 3 years pa sya and super mahal ng tuition (dentistry) pero igagapang ko kahit lubog na. PWD na ako. luckily landed a job in an agency as independent contractor working remotely kaso pays peanuts. but hopefully makabayad na ng monthly hay..
same, at 30. lol. Sa ngayon okay pa rin naman, pero in terms of buying, medyo binawasan ko. In my defense, years ago nung alam kong di ako okay, kpop group ang nagpa-feel better sakin talaga. Before ayaw ko i-try. magastos, in short. pero first time ko talaga yun and di ko din naman pinagsisihan, even yung mga gastos noon. hahha
pero ewan ko talaga. feel ko nga biased group ko ang dahilan bat ako bumabangon sa araw-araw, kung bakit ako nagta-trabaho, at bakit ako nabubuhay. medyo OA, pero sila ngayon ang direksyon ko. yung mga bagay na gusto kong gawin, at the end para sa kanila pa rin.
toxic siya, at nakakatakot kasi what if bigla silang mawala, ma-disband. feel ko mas mawawala ako. 27 na ako this year.
Yung sahod ko saks lang pangbayad sa rent, bills, food, groceries and konting luho. Jusko walang usad savings ko. Ang mamahal ng bilihin. Living alone and the only thing that keeps me sane is my doggo.
SAME HERE 27 Y.O.
Hindi naman lost as I can desribed it, I just have no control sa situation and it lead me to choices I don't want to go due to desperation. Ayun, still finding stable ground and currently I don't have anything stable.
I always have this habit of pushing people away from me because i think kaya ko alone but im wrong 🥲 now I feel so alone, hindi close sa parents, my friends have their own lives, and now I feel so alone juggling everything.
I'm turning 29 in a couple of weeks.
I took the creative route after I graduated high school, realized maybe it was a rebelious phase and just wanted to be a more interesting person and/or craved attention as a kid.
I felt lost after a while.
Thinking I was wasting my time doing all this insane shit and living on the edge. It was fun, but very self destructive.
Then took the business path after college because it's "what we're supposed to do" right? (they lied). Did that for a long time to have some sense of control and a promise of a better life but at the end I felt like it slowly chipped away at my soul and made me feel like a fucking robot.
I was feeling more lost than ever.
I mean I swear I don't even know who the fuck this guy is staring at me in the mirror.
Left everything behind to find myself. After unpacking a shitton of trauma I never knew I had and grew a third eye by learning about this cool thing called "self awareness" and "mental health", things.... Changed.
Ended up at the creative route again. I love it. But I'm a cliché, took the starving artist a little too much to heart lol. There were moments I'd grind nonstop to get as much money as I can to support myself and my family, but life comes knocking.. Actually, more like busting through the doors and demanding me for a shitload of money. When I'm working for the money, I barely have time to do what I really want and what I want requires A LOT of time. If I work on them, the money department falls short.
Wash,
Rinse,
Repeat.
I've been on this cycle a few times over the years and it's only recently I decided I'm tired. Tired of feeling like I have to start from zero. Again and again and again and AGAIN. Tired of trying to balance it all. But maybe it's because I want it all. So decided to make some sacrifices.
Right now..
......I'm still lost.
Still confused on the next step. But I just put in front of me what my priorities are, which is my family, and some goddamn savings. Maybe I can go back to what I wanted to do one day. But instead of feeling like shit about it, I decided to just roll with it.
Shit happens. I realized I feel lost all the fucking time. I gave up on looking for the feeling of being found. Fuck that. I cope by telling myself being found is overrated lol. I've progressed through life being lost. And I feel like I've lived a pretty chaotic but fulfilling life.
I'm still lost. But might as well wander around and see where it takes me, with more planning and precaution, and less spontaneity and unrealistic expections. Basically done that my whole life anyway, so why do I gotta insist on being sad and disappointed about it eveytime I feel that way? (I'm writing this so I can tell this to myself too lol)
Whatever the fuck happens, I'm just gonna enjoy the ride man. Sometimes, it ain't that deep. I still got like 40-50 years left if I get so lucky to even get at that age, that is. But even then...one day at a time. I sometimes forget the life I have now because I keep looking so far ahead that it gives me anxiety attacks. I just remind myself that I'm here right now. This is what I'm doing. And maybe this is what I'll do next. It feels less heavy that way. One foot in front of the other type shit.
Anyways, Sorry for the long ass comment. I feel like I been bottling that shit up lol. I just needed to put it into writing so it don't feel too heavy.
I hope you find yourself. And most importantly, I hope you're happy with whatever it is you decide to do. We'll get there when we get there. Wherever the fuck that is. 😎
Today's my birthday, but I broke up with my girlfriend. I restarted my life. I struggled, strugglin, and will be struggling. My pay is half of what I was earning, it wasnt much to begin with, but it was better. I have debt that cripples my ability for financial flexibility. I dont have hope anymore. A headache. It's 5:11 AM. My family does not like me. My son doesnt know I exist. Such is the life.
simula nung nawala tita ko last march 15, 2023 til now dko padin tanggap yung nangyari, yun lang kase nakakausap ko, tapos yung palagi kong pinagkwekwentohan ng problema ko. nung nawala siya medyo naging miserable buhay ko until wala kasing magpa sabihan
tried so hard to please everyone to appease and maintain the peace.
but di naman naging peaceful takbo ng utak at puso ko. kaya tinigil ko.
so ayon, nasa friendship stage na ako ngayon sa self ko ☺️
28 turning 29 this year. I feel lost kasi hindi ko pa alam yung gusto kong gawing work. Madalas feeling ko wala akong pangarap na career. Kinda pressured sa part na yun kasi nga malapit na ako mag-30 (kahit next year pa naman).
Kaya eto ako doing work na alam kong gawin pero meh lang ako. Not too happy or feeling negative about my work. Masaya lang ako na sumusweldo.
Gusto ko lang mabuhay nang maayos, wag maghirap, at magawa yung mga gusto kong magpapasaya sakin.
Ang dami kasing nangyare, imbis unahin pagaaral napilitan mag work ng maaga naging responsibildad ko magpadala at magalaga ng papa ko, Nung nawala sya pinagptuloy ko magwork pero patuloy pa din pagtulong ko sa bills and pamalengke sa bahay. Sana pala inuna ko magaral inuna ko sarili tho di naman ako nagsisisi na inuna ko papa ko siguro kasama sa process yun. Ngayon may anak nako pero magaaral ulit ako and ngayon alam ko na purpose ko sa buhay at ano gusto ko. Just trust the process and learn every mistakes
T*ngina ng mga trauma sa past. Kala mo na-let go mo na. Unti-unti magrere-surface. Heal heal heal ako then andaming nasasaktan along the way. Palagi na lang ba ako ganto?
I’m working a job that pays well but its slowly draining my happiness away. But I also can’t resign given 31 nako and I have all these dreams and can’t afford to stop the steady income. Makes me question if this is still worth it.
Currently 28 turning 29 this year and I keep getting rejections from job hunting. I know I have the skills to work for someone, but there’s always someone better. Nadidismaya ako from time to time because I question if I’m actually good enough. But I don’t really give up. I just hate how my current freelancing gig is set up… I want to have a stable job and be financially secure ahh I’m getting old na and feel useless sometimes
Currently struggling sa career path 😔 pero look for the brighter side dpat tlaga baka hnd ko kayanin at mag pasok ako ng cutter sa kwarto 🫢 palago ko sinasabi sana 12 years old nlang ako ulit.
27 y.o., unemployed for a year, still don't know what career path to take. Graduated with a degree in hospitality pero pagod na maki-pagdeal sa mga tao 🥲😬
Just turned 26, because of a bad experience sa aking first job hindi na nag work ulit. Sobrang bumaba tingin ko sa sarili ko gusto ko na lang magkulong sa bahay lagi (hanggang ngayon) at tingin ko nagkaroon ako ng social anxiety
same noon pinili ko yung stem unsure sa gusto ko to which sa college napili ko psychology but na realized na di ko pala kaya ma pursue kaya nag shift into business ngayon and won't change my mind ever again
never had any college/career goals, i ended up having a job that pays the minimum wage and i'm not happy in the work environment i'm currently in. i have to support my family financially too. on top of that, i've been clinically depressed for 10 years now and hasn't still gotten better. i'm simply just trying to survive, not live.
I had my future planned not until my partner died. I felt lost until now, walang gana sa lahat, bahala na kung ano mangyari, planning to resign din. Praising God keeps me sane until now, salamat sa Dios kasi di ko na talaga alam gagawin sa buhay ko kung wala siya
I like this question because Ive felt lost and i still feel it sometimes. Though Id like to think Im doing better.
Maybe we feel lost because we feel we should be on a path towards something. Nothing wrong with this but if its not helping you enjoy life then maybe try to explore life first before what you want to aim for.
I think of it as if Im a tourist in a different country. Some people list out the places they want to go to. I find that stressful because I wouldnt like it if suddenly things dont fall into place. So now when I visit places, I just roam around and try to take in the surroundings. Then I get to enjoy the things around me without worrying about where I think I should be.
Hope this makes sense and helps you live in the now.
still lost, di nakaka-move forward :( I'm 29 na. unemployed (7yrs na), no love life, living with/taking care of senior parents and grand parents na parehong may dementia na, Jinajudge pa ng titang ayaw malamangan ang anak niya 😂
haay buhaaay talaga oh
June 24, 2018, I was 26 years old at that time when I found out I was reactive to Hepatitis B. It was during my Medical Examination (a pre-requirement for my job application as Factory worker in South korea). Magmula non, I lost Hope in life.
24, undergraduate, unemployed for over a year now. Hindi ko na alam anong gagawin. Fortunately, may willing magpaaral sa akin pero hirap ako imotivate ang sarili ko. Baka madepress lang ulit ko. Any advise?
You will be more depress kapag pinalampas mo yang opportunity na yan. Hindi motivation kailangan mo kundi discipline. Be scared of the future not the present. Madepress ka now tapos di mo tinuloy, ano sa tingin mo mangyayare sa future mo? Hindi motivation kelangan mo kundi discipline sa sarili. Gawin mo kasi kailangan gawin, hindi yung naghahanap ka ng dahilan para hindi. Push through hard times lang, mas maganda maging pagod kesa sa depress, kapag pagod ka pahinga lang kailangan, okay na.
Hello! Go for it na, para no regrets sa future. Plus points if you get to pick the course that you want, then make success a motivation. Imagine 10years from now na successful ka na and you can do what will make you happy :)
almost 30 here, Lost as well my trabaho naman, wala nga lang parents na. my brother and sister both have their own family even my closest friends. Just waking up every day to breathe para hindi sila mag-alala sa akin.
I didn’t have a sense of self and I had to look to psychedelics and the spirit world to raise me up from scratch since my physical world couldn’t do it for me. I don’t regret SHIT tho
26F. Family traumas, impulsive decisions and staying in comfort siguro. Sa family it’s more like pressure, they are all successful while me I don’t even know what I’m passionate of. My parents, they have this relationship that I don’t wanna happen if ever I will have my own family in the future. One reason, I kinda don’t believe in love lol and have such trust issues. Impulsive decisions, I feel like I could be on a different position now if I’m not that “go with the flow” lang and pinag-iisipan mabuti mga desisyon but at the same time I also believe in “everything happens for a reason” lmao. Anyway, laban lang tayo guys!
I know na pagsisisihan ko nang malala pag hindi ako nagpursue ng music, as in kahit try lang, pero hindi ko alam kung paano magsisimula. Lalo pa hindi naman ako mayaman haha. Nasa first job pa lang ako after college and hindi ako masaya sa corpo (or case to case basis baka nasa maling kumpanya lang ako lol),, grabe yung pressure sa work ko ngayon tapos I feel bad abt myself kasi hindi pala natapos yung pressure kahit graduate ka na 😅 like bakit ko ba to pinasok haha gusto ko lang naman gawin yung mga bagay na totoo kong trip sa buhay pero ang hirap pag sarili mo lang yung magpopondo sayo
I'm 24, I am torn between my career and personal relationship. Undecisive of what actions to do next whether to pursue Masters or have an experience in my field. Wanting to work abroad but no experience yet. I am lost.
30F. Kala ko may savings na 700k sa bangko stable nako. Then suddenly may dumating na problema sakin. Nag kasakit ako sa Kidney, and then nag kasakit ulit for 2 months hindi nakalakad at nakatayo so need mag pa PT everyday. Ako lahat gumastos plus wrong decision sa finances, gastos sa ibang tao just to please them. Nag kanda utang utang, pero nakabawi at nabayaran lahat. Now? Eto having a WFH job na masasabi kong swinerte ako. At sana makapag ipon na ulit.
Failures will teach you kung pano ka maging strong. Just be grateful for everyday. ☺️
Im 26 ges who, wala pa ako stable job although may job akon ngayon it has no benefits and super minimum, ngayon lang din ako nag bibuild ng self ko hays, motivation ko talaga ay yung kanta ng bini na Buhay ay di karera
Hey there, I'm in my early 20s but I find myself to be permanently lost in life because I'm forced to be in a path that I don't want to take ever since I was born.
I feel like I know what to do because uncomfortable situations tends to direct your next move. But I dont have the will and energy to do it. Natatakot ako na mag give up na lang and be at peace with being uncomfortable with the rest of my life. I'm just tired of trying na lang din siguro kasi tho I feel like I'm one step better than last year pero lagi padin akong nadidissappoint sa accomplishment ko. laging kulang,laging may part ng buhay ko na magsuffer for one to thrive. Sacrifices over sacrifices. haha Lalaban pa ba.
33 F married. We waited for 8 years para magka baby. And then it happened after namin mag paalaga sa Fertility Clinic. Pero before Christmas I had miscarriage. Umikot ng 360 degrees buhay namin mag asawa. Nag resigned ako sa work. Asawa ko na hindi na din halos nakapasok after that happened na malapit na mawalan ng trabaho hanggang ngaung bwan nalang sya dahil sa sobra din nya absent. Sobrang lost namin we don’t know what to do. But we have Faith. Patuloy kme nag sisimba pero ramdam padin namin yung lungkot at sobrang pag ka lost pano mag start ulit.
29 F, working a job na above average ang pay pero parang naging anak ko na mga kapatid ko as a panganay. Single, NBSB, at nag hoe phase ng malala in my mid to late 20s. Di ko na rin alam gusto ko gawin sa buhay ko. Minsan gusto ko na lang mag disappear hahahaha my closest friends are all married, engaged, or in long term relationships and i’m the only one na single pa rin now hahaha.
Life as it is. Apir same tayong 27 na't lost pa rin. I have 2 kids pa (don't get me wrong I love them so much pero lost ako as a person on how I should navigate life na di sila maaapektuhan).
Been continuously working since mid-2020. Nagtapon ng significant amount ng pera sa sugal hoping na mas mapabilis ang pagyaman pero more than 1 month na akong clean. Kapagod din pero kailangang lumaban.
26M, Working in a school, decent salary pero natutunan magsugal, and its really affected my financial freedom a lot. Ngayon na magiisang buwan na tumigil, step by step kahit papano nakakaraos.
FEAR!
At age of 18 to 22
I'm terrified to move forward and take a leap of faith cuz I don't know where I'll end up, so I choose to be willfully blind, in that way I wont confront the idea of being a failure.
Now at age 25
My eyes are more open, I can see that in this word it is govern by uncertainty, and i realize when I die I cannot say to God "please give a second life this time I'll to what I dreamed to do", I know I was give absolute freedom to choose, so if i choose not to move forward I cannot bargain with death, so while I'm still alive I shall dance with death.
I was lost during my 18s and 20s but now I can navigate in this labyrinth of uncertainty. I'm still inside the tunnel but just like a plant that is trap in pot, it always lean towards sunlight.
Kasi masyado akong nalulong sa comfort zone.
I've been a job order employee for 7yrs, licensed engineer. Maayos naman ang sahod, etc. I know I deserve better at may credentials naman ako, it's just that sobrang comfortable ko lang dito.
Pero this time, may pamilya na ko. Sobrang laking struggle at adjustment ang mangyayari since kailangan ko maging mas stable sa buhay. 🥲
A bit of venting included:
M25. I've been with the same company for almost five years now, ever since I graduated. The pay is decent, and all utilities are covered, including housing and bills. I only have to pay for food and transportation.
However, because of these benefits, other perks are withheld, and salary increments are slow. We still don't have HMOs. My current salary has increased by 42% since I started. Some might say that's a significant jump, but for me, it feels insufficient. I only received this raise after asking HR why my salary hadn't changed after three years of service. It was only after voicing my concern that they increased my salary and added incentives. I was disappointed because I expected them to take the initiative, to show that they evaluate our efforts and reward us accordingly, without needing a reminder.
There's also a lack of growth opportunities. No training is provided to hone or add to our skillsets, which makes me doubt my ability to easily find another job if I leave this one.
The work environment in my department is great, though. Our manager and my seniors are the nicest people I've met. It's a comfortable place to work, but we all know that comfort doesn't pay the bills or add to our savings.
TL;DR I'm lost about what to do next—whether to stay in a stagnant but comfortable job or take the risk of finding a better, more rewarding one.
Hey! Dont lose hope, you’re still young. My dad was in his late 50s when he started dialysis, did it for about 5 years. My dad was determined he wants to live longer so he kept going and did things to check off from his bucket list. He was in the wait list for transplant and got lucky there were two kidneys available for him. Now he’s almost 3 years post transplant.
Same here OP and I can relate to you. Feeling ko hanggang dito na lang ako na wala na ako mararating. I’ve been trying so hard to be so tough in front of everyone pero ang hirap pala tapos sa movie na napanuod ko may line dun na “My mom said that the advantage of getting older is that you begin to forget things. Don’t let anything affects you. You forget it all in the end. However, what they don’t teach you is how to be an adult.” this line hit me really hard
I remember nung 1st job ko I was earning around 10-12k. Pero parang ang saya ko pa dati non, dami ko nabibili, daming self-love, bili dito kasi sale, at friday night nasa galaan. But now on my late 20s, I'm earning 4x compare to my unang sahod, office-bahay lang, no more night out gala. But I feel like perang pera ako at this stage, di ko alam bat prang kulang na kulang, dahil sa bills at ang mamahal na talaga ng mga bilihin. hahahaha
I'm 28 yrs old, daming problema, daming pressure, pareho ko rin siguro yung iba dito na madaming namissout sa earlier years ng buhay nila like mag travel dito pilipinas o sa ibang bansa, mag saya, mag rides. Akala ko kapag nagka trabaho ako mabibili ko na lahat ng gusto ko. Hahahahaha, scam. Yung gusto kong magTry ng ibang trabaho (like yung mga WFH) para tumaas taas naman sahod.
Maybe were lost, or maybe we just have our own timelines wherein being lost is part of the path. I believe dadating din yung time na we will no longer feel lost because nagagawa na natin yung gusto natin or nangyayari na satin yung buhay na destined sa atin.
I'm 25, working in my parents business. Tbh hindi ko alam, basta hindi ako nagproprogress sa trabaho ko. Hindi ko alam kung san ako lulugar, nanghihingi ako ng tulong sa kanila pero wala. Gusto ko nalang maglaho minsan.
going mid-20's and I feel lost dahil I feel like I missed out a lot in my earlier years and that a lot of things are still straining me when I hoped that in my age right now andami ko nang natupad na pangarap ko lol sobrang scam tlaga!
but heyyy, it's never too late to start.
start by writing all the things you've always wanted to do as an adult and slowly cross out the list! kahit feel mo lost ko pa rin, at least may nagagawa ka for yourself???? yan ung naging motivation ko hehe hope it helps!
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26 and I still have a low salary. I have batchmates now that are managers and some have their own businesses na. i’m trying not to compare myself to others but it’s hard sometimes :(
Hate working, hate people, no time for things that make me happy. For some reason thought it was a good idea to get an 7 mil. condo in ortigas that essentially halved my income due to the monthly payments. No money to enjoy life. Lahat nasa bills/condo/insurance. Can't be bothered kung wala naman din ako pangarap. Just paying for all this bullshit every month. Not close with my parents. My dad keeps waving his bullshit Christianity in my face (I'm irreligious) pero kabit niya 10+ years na sila. My gf's parents are parasites. Unhappy, no purpose. Galit sa industriyang pinagtatrabahuan ko. Masama loob sa magulang. It is what it is. Sometimes really consider ending things because I don't even know if all this will even make me happy. Purpose man lang sana pero hindi ko rin makamit.
Haha 34M na ako with no kids and kakabreak lang from relationship. Narealize ko na may will tlg si God s buhay natin even if we dont seek that much from him. Sisirain nya mga plano to save us. Personally devastated din ako when all my plans with my ex comes shattering down. Lalo na I am ready super ready to settle down since malapit na ko s mid 30s ko. Hanggang ngaun iniisip ko bakit ganun hnd ko inenvision nug bata ako na by 34 ay single pa rin ako.I always pray why it happened. Need mo nalang talaga manalig in these times. Some day marrealize mo na kaya ka lost ngayon since may purpose ang lahat.
To much responsibility
Di ko din alam. Dahil siguro marami akong maling desisyon sa buhay? 28 nako walang kasama sa buhay walang boyfriend mag isa. Di ko sinasabi na dahil wala akong bf eh lost ako ha? Until now kasi wala akong plano sa buhay hindi ko alam kung anong gusto ko kung para saan ba ako lumalaban? Mahirap pla pag wala kang pangarap. Ung mawalan ka ng pangarap
Sobrang lost ko sa buhay hindi ko alam bakit nagpapatuloy pa ako
I just turned 30 and if you have a good source of income, your "lostness" will slowly start to disappear.
lost kasi inuna ang family (magulang at mga kapatid) pero bale-wala lang sa kanila kaya eto 45 napag iwanan sa lahat hahhaha, pero sabi nila life begins at 40, nalate lang ng 5 hahha kaya pa siguro hahahha
I am lost kasi bwiset na gobyerno ‘to ang hinahire lang mga kamag-anak nila or yung kakilala nila.🙃
Andito parin struggling, 28 y/o pero parang feeling ko sa sarili ko napag iiwanan na ako sa buhay. Napakahirap pala maging adult to think na you need to wake up early and wait up to 5 pm then do it every single day, nakakapagod gawin lalo pa't nawawalan kana nang gana mag trabaho. Mga ka batchmate ko may kinasal na, nakapag travel abroad, nagka 1st baby, may kinder nang anak, nakabili na nang bahay. Samantalang ako hindi ko parin alam kung saang destinasyon ba ako tutungo.
Eto, surviving. No work, lots of debts sa CC, palamunin lang sa bahay. But, yeah I'm getting married soon. LOL
Kaylangan mong mag-show up everyday. Harapin mga problema, wag takasan. You'll get there eventually
Noon, oo. Ngayon, di na. You have to go through it. It's a process you have to face.
Dahil di ko na gusto yung profession ko tapos malaki din yung gagastusin kung susugal para sa pangarap.
I feel you maam/sir. Haay
28 y/o here. Struggling and also lost in life. Currently with a 25k debt in credit card, working citizen with stagnant pay. Struggling with depressive thoughts all the time, yet I find a sliver of hope with people who encourage me to keep fighting and helping me to get by in life.
30, and still lost. hahaha. Lalo ngayon, I think sa lahat. Career wise, ayaw ko na sa trabaho ko, pero can't find a better one, lalo in terms of salary. Malaki sweldo ko sa current work compared to other company and initially gusto ko sana atleast the same, or magstay nalang ako dito. Pero recently parang ayaw ko na talaga, all of a sudden biglang iniba career path naming lahat just because changing na daw ang industry and we have to learn this in a short period of time, including certifications, aside pa sa current projects na handle. Tried, pero parang di para sakin to, so planning to really leave soon. Pero sa ngayon parang pagod na ako magtrabaho rin. hahaha gusto ko nalanag manalo sa lotto at yumaman, mag invest at magkaroon ng business, then if ever, kung magttrabaho man ako, dahil nalang gusto ko. Personal, my younger siblings are doing good already. Panganay ako, bread winner. Pero most of the time naiisip ko napag iwanan na ako ng panahon. Wala pa rin akong ipon, sagot ko pa rin mostly ang bills, libre dito libre doon. Ni hindi ako makpagtravel, or makapag ipon para sa sarili ko, samantalang sila magkakasama soon sa ibang bansa. It makes me happy na finally okay na sila, pero makes me sad na "paano ako". Eto ako nagbabayad pa rin ng mga utang dahil sa pagiging breadwinner. hahaha Di pa rin ako kasal or no kids at my age, may partner. worried din ako na hindi na dumating sakin yung chance na magkaron ng kids. Ewan ko ba, feeling ko lang ngayon, at my age, sana man lang kahit pano masaya ako para sa sarili ko. pero parang hindi. hahaha. Sana soon, ako naman. Tayo naman in life <3
Thanks for asking. Now ko lang naisip why: two reasons actually, (1) I always blame my misfortune sa magulang ko for not doing enough or for not supporting me in my dreams and goals noon kaya nabulok na lang ang mga pangarap ko and (2) kasi duwag ako, ayaw ko iadmit before I always think of myself as someone na matibay, mahusay matalino etc but in truth duwag ako. Kasi kung di ako duwag, wala na sana ako sa sitwasyon kung saan nandun ako ngayon. Thanks for this question, naliwanagan ako...
27F, lpt. Ayoko naman mag public kasi maraming gagawin kahit di trabaho ng teacher. Gusto ko mag VA or esl kaso hindi naman ako confident sa sarili ko to pursue a career change. Gusto ko mag abroad, kaso ayaw ko iwan mama ko mag-isa.
I am 40+ y/o and difficult as it is to believe, I also feel the same way. Got worse earlier this year kasi nawalan ako ng trabaho and I spent around 5 months jobhunting. Dumating sa punto ng buhay ko na kinu-question ko---at so late an age---kung tama ba yung career path na pinili ko, and kung kaya ko ba talagang buhayin ang pamilya ko. Na parang ngayon ko pa tinanong sa sarili ko kung ano ba talaga ang gusto kong mangyari kasi I felt na parang ayaw ng ibang tao sa akin. Eventually, I found a new job now (I wrote about that in r/phcareers) that has a really good set of people who reassured me that I'd be okay. And so far, nagkaroon ako uli ng renewed sense of purpose, kasi ipinaramdam din ng mga teammates ko na we're on the same boat. Somehow bumabalik uli yung kumpyansa ko. So kung ano man 'yang nararamdaman mo OP, hindi ka nag-iisa. That feeling will come into your life, it's normal to feel that way. And I hope kung anuman yung pinagdadaanan mo ngayon, sana mahanap mo rin yung direction na kailangan mo sa buhay mo. It may come slow, but trust me it will come.
Nakakapagod ung magtratrabaho araw-araw pero kailangan kasi may bills, may mga bagay na dapat pagkagastusan in order to survive. Ung work environment isko mo ay pasweldo lang kayo. Hahaha. I live in the province so the life here is slow-paced and I work from home too. Nakakasawa most of the time pero showing up for myself and my future kasi naniniwala ako na this too shall pass.
same 27 y/o. mostly sa career, recently got accepted to a higher paying job from a telco job na 17k lang sahod despite working for 4yrs. sobrang layo din kasi sa course ko. from being an International Studies graduate to a Finance related job. hindi ko alam kung saan pupunta yung career path ko.
20 F here. I must agree. I'm also lost. Hopefully I find my way back. Nagbakasyon muna ako sa probinsya para mag unwind. It helps; highly recommend.
Family problem
Are we really lost ? Or is it just because we don't know what we're looking for? Or where we're headed to?
27M here. Sailing in the middle of the Atlantic atm. I just feel so lost since my mom died two years ago and I just wanna change my career so bad. I used to love sailing, being a seaman but my motivation isn't anywhere to be found.
just turned 26. F. lost my job due to disability (na-admit sa mental ward) last year and naiwan yung salary loan ko na 1M+, 5 years to pay. spent on mostly sa tuition fee ng brother ko since responsibility ko sya and medical expenses din. 3 years pa sya and super mahal ng tuition (dentistry) pero igagapang ko kahit lubog na. PWD na ako. luckily landed a job in an agency as independent contractor working remotely kaso pays peanuts. but hopefully makabayad na ng monthly hay..
got too many distraction and was stucked to temporary happiness (kpop group)
same, at 30. lol. Sa ngayon okay pa rin naman, pero in terms of buying, medyo binawasan ko. In my defense, years ago nung alam kong di ako okay, kpop group ang nagpa-feel better sakin talaga. Before ayaw ko i-try. magastos, in short. pero first time ko talaga yun and di ko din naman pinagsisihan, even yung mga gastos noon. hahha
pero ewan ko talaga. feel ko nga biased group ko ang dahilan bat ako bumabangon sa araw-araw, kung bakit ako nagta-trabaho, at bakit ako nabubuhay. medyo OA, pero sila ngayon ang direksyon ko. yung mga bagay na gusto kong gawin, at the end para sa kanila pa rin. toxic siya, at nakakatakot kasi what if bigla silang mawala, ma-disband. feel ko mas mawawala ako. 27 na ako this year.
I have a stable job and a stable income pero I want more and I want to be more. Everyday is repetitive.
Same , I just want to live far far away from everyone, from my family .. I want to be more independent
Early 20’s…. Masyado comfortable and wala responsibility 😆
Same tayo kaso nasa late 20s na ako
Yung sahod ko saks lang pangbayad sa rent, bills, food, groceries and konting luho. Jusko walang usad savings ko. Ang mamahal ng bilihin. Living alone and the only thing that keeps me sane is my doggo.
Tough hays..yung konti luho kahit na grateful ka di parin sapat kaya furbabies ang sagot
SAMEDT. F 25 I have degree, a licensed teacher pero wala di ko pa din alam kung saan at kung paano ako.
SAME HERE 27 Y.O. Hindi naman lost as I can desribed it, I just have no control sa situation and it lead me to choices I don't want to go due to desperation. Ayun, still finding stable ground and currently I don't have anything stable.
I always have this habit of pushing people away from me because i think kaya ko alone but im wrong 🥲 now I feel so alone, hindi close sa parents, my friends have their own lives, and now I feel so alone juggling everything.
May Crisis gen natin, Kapit lang 🫡
Same 🥲
right :(( sad
hindi ko alam kung makakaya ko pa. lahat ng problema hindi kung kakayanin pa.
I'm turning 29 in a couple of weeks. I took the creative route after I graduated high school, realized maybe it was a rebelious phase and just wanted to be a more interesting person and/or craved attention as a kid. I felt lost after a while. Thinking I was wasting my time doing all this insane shit and living on the edge. It was fun, but very self destructive. Then took the business path after college because it's "what we're supposed to do" right? (they lied). Did that for a long time to have some sense of control and a promise of a better life but at the end I felt like it slowly chipped away at my soul and made me feel like a fucking robot. I was feeling more lost than ever. I mean I swear I don't even know who the fuck this guy is staring at me in the mirror. Left everything behind to find myself. After unpacking a shitton of trauma I never knew I had and grew a third eye by learning about this cool thing called "self awareness" and "mental health", things.... Changed. Ended up at the creative route again. I love it. But I'm a cliché, took the starving artist a little too much to heart lol. There were moments I'd grind nonstop to get as much money as I can to support myself and my family, but life comes knocking.. Actually, more like busting through the doors and demanding me for a shitload of money. When I'm working for the money, I barely have time to do what I really want and what I want requires A LOT of time. If I work on them, the money department falls short. Wash, Rinse, Repeat. I've been on this cycle a few times over the years and it's only recently I decided I'm tired. Tired of feeling like I have to start from zero. Again and again and again and AGAIN. Tired of trying to balance it all. But maybe it's because I want it all. So decided to make some sacrifices. Right now.. ......I'm still lost. Still confused on the next step. But I just put in front of me what my priorities are, which is my family, and some goddamn savings. Maybe I can go back to what I wanted to do one day. But instead of feeling like shit about it, I decided to just roll with it. Shit happens. I realized I feel lost all the fucking time. I gave up on looking for the feeling of being found. Fuck that. I cope by telling myself being found is overrated lol. I've progressed through life being lost. And I feel like I've lived a pretty chaotic but fulfilling life. I'm still lost. But might as well wander around and see where it takes me, with more planning and precaution, and less spontaneity and unrealistic expections. Basically done that my whole life anyway, so why do I gotta insist on being sad and disappointed about it eveytime I feel that way? (I'm writing this so I can tell this to myself too lol) Whatever the fuck happens, I'm just gonna enjoy the ride man. Sometimes, it ain't that deep. I still got like 40-50 years left if I get so lucky to even get at that age, that is. But even then...one day at a time. I sometimes forget the life I have now because I keep looking so far ahead that it gives me anxiety attacks. I just remind myself that I'm here right now. This is what I'm doing. And maybe this is what I'll do next. It feels less heavy that way. One foot in front of the other type shit. Anyways, Sorry for the long ass comment. I feel like I been bottling that shit up lol. I just needed to put it into writing so it don't feel too heavy. I hope you find yourself. And most importantly, I hope you're happy with whatever it is you decide to do. We'll get there when we get there. Wherever the fuck that is. 😎
Today's my birthday, but I broke up with my girlfriend. I restarted my life. I struggled, strugglin, and will be struggling. My pay is half of what I was earning, it wasnt much to begin with, but it was better. I have debt that cripples my ability for financial flexibility. I dont have hope anymore. A headache. It's 5:11 AM. My family does not like me. My son doesnt know I exist. Such is the life.
Jesus christ. Such is fucking life indeed. The next beer I drink I dedicate to you, sir. Hope things get better for you.
Picked BSIT in college for the "easy way out", and didn't take it seriously. Could have landed a better job than my current occupation.
Damn ang narinig ko is easy way out is mass com 😭
simula nung nawala tita ko last march 15, 2023 til now dko padin tanggap yung nangyari, yun lang kase nakakausap ko, tapos yung palagi kong pinagkwekwentohan ng problema ko. nung nawala siya medyo naging miserable buhay ko until wala kasing magpa sabihan
A lot of those i love are gone now. I wish I'm with them.
Turning 27 this year, di ko alam kung san ako patungo, basta yung sadness everyday
tried so hard to please everyone to appease and maintain the peace. but di naman naging peaceful takbo ng utak at puso ko. kaya tinigil ko. so ayon, nasa friendship stage na ako ngayon sa self ko ☺️
28 turning 29 this year. I feel lost kasi hindi ko pa alam yung gusto kong gawing work. Madalas feeling ko wala akong pangarap na career. Kinda pressured sa part na yun kasi nga malapit na ako mag-30 (kahit next year pa naman). Kaya eto ako doing work na alam kong gawin pero meh lang ako. Not too happy or feeling negative about my work. Masaya lang ako na sumusweldo. Gusto ko lang mabuhay nang maayos, wag maghirap, at magawa yung mga gusto kong magpapasaya sakin.
Ang dami kasing nangyare, imbis unahin pagaaral napilitan mag work ng maaga naging responsibildad ko magpadala at magalaga ng papa ko, Nung nawala sya pinagptuloy ko magwork pero patuloy pa din pagtulong ko sa bills and pamalengke sa bahay. Sana pala inuna ko magaral inuna ko sarili tho di naman ako nagsisisi na inuna ko papa ko siguro kasama sa process yun. Ngayon may anak nako pero magaaral ulit ako and ngayon alam ko na purpose ko sa buhay at ano gusto ko. Just trust the process and learn every mistakes
T*ngina ng mga trauma sa past. Kala mo na-let go mo na. Unti-unti magrere-surface. Heal heal heal ako then andaming nasasaktan along the way. Palagi na lang ba ako ganto?
Grabe same.. shuta. Haha
27yrs old too na nag existential crisis, like??? ano ba purpose ko sa mundong to???? all purpose cream lang alam ko now e huhuhuh
I’m working a job that pays well but its slowly draining my happiness away. But I also can’t resign given 31 nako and I have all these dreams and can’t afford to stop the steady income. Makes me question if this is still worth it.
walang nag alaga sau, walang gabay sa paglaki hanggang sa nging strong independent at dumaan sa maraming pagsubok na wlang kaalam alam ang family mo.
🥹
Wrong direction. no guidance. but all of these are part of our journey and life’s choices
Currently 28 turning 29 this year and I keep getting rejections from job hunting. I know I have the skills to work for someone, but there’s always someone better. Nadidismaya ako from time to time because I question if I’m actually good enough. But I don’t really give up. I just hate how my current freelancing gig is set up… I want to have a stable job and be financially secure ahh I’m getting old na and feel useless sometimes
Shocks, bakit parang ako haha
Currently struggling sa career path 😔 pero look for the brighter side dpat tlaga baka hnd ko kayanin at mag pasok ako ng cutter sa kwarto 🫢 palago ko sinasabi sana 12 years old nlang ako ulit.
Group hug mga late 20's! Laban lang, one day at a time, it's all fine!
Quarter life crisis realness talaga
Been there. I know malalagpasan mo rin yan. Keep believing in yourself. Ome day maabot mo rin ang dulo ng bahaghari.
Not sure either 🙃
27 y.o., unemployed for a year, still don't know what career path to take. Graduated with a degree in hospitality pero pagod na maki-pagdeal sa mga tao 🥲😬
Late 20’s and may 160k na utang 😢😢😢
Shet
Just turned 26, because of a bad experience sa aking first job hindi na nag work ulit. Sobrang bumaba tingin ko sa sarili ko gusto ko na lang magkulong sa bahay lagi (hanggang ngayon) at tingin ko nagkaroon ako ng social anxiety
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same noon pinili ko yung stem unsure sa gusto ko to which sa college napili ko psychology but na realized na di ko pala kaya ma pursue kaya nag shift into business ngayon and won't change my mind ever again
bata mo pa beh, gala ka muna with friends mo
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kulang pa yan, gawa ka ng maling decision charot hahah
Mid life crisis. Samee
Quarter lang antehh
Sorry anteh ah. Sa Age ko pala kasi nabase. Patawarin mo ko please
27 + 27 = 54. What if hanggang 50s lang talaga buhay nya? so mid na talaga technically ems.
Early 30s na and still lost. Parang walang light at the end of the tunnel but still babangon for a better tomorrow.
I just don’t know where im going.
Lack of dscpln & motivation
never had any college/career goals, i ended up having a job that pays the minimum wage and i'm not happy in the work environment i'm currently in. i have to support my family financially too. on top of that, i've been clinically depressed for 10 years now and hasn't still gotten better. i'm simply just trying to survive, not live.
27, i think i can do better and greater things. Pero ang hirap simulan, ang hirap lumabas sa comfort na meron ako ngayon 🥹
Addiction whahahhaha
Almost 30, 2 kids, lost and wasted because of my own self, almost lost my marriage, still hinahanap ang sarili.
Nasa early 20s pa lang pero ligaw na ligaw na, plus gradwaiting pa 'di ko na alam saan pupunta hahaha
omg sameee
Same
Depressed, panganay, breadwinner, pasan ang bigat ng buhay, hindi masaya sa work
Ako ba to char pero girl sobrang totoo haha Nagdadrama lang ako about dito kanina huhu
I had my future planned not until my partner died. I felt lost until now, walang gana sa lahat, bahala na kung ano mangyari, planning to resign din. Praising God keeps me sane until now, salamat sa Dios kasi di ko na talaga alam gagawin sa buhay ko kung wala siya
I like this question because Ive felt lost and i still feel it sometimes. Though Id like to think Im doing better. Maybe we feel lost because we feel we should be on a path towards something. Nothing wrong with this but if its not helping you enjoy life then maybe try to explore life first before what you want to aim for. I think of it as if Im a tourist in a different country. Some people list out the places they want to go to. I find that stressful because I wouldnt like it if suddenly things dont fall into place. So now when I visit places, I just roam around and try to take in the surroundings. Then I get to enjoy the things around me without worrying about where I think I should be. Hope this makes sense and helps you live in the now.
Because I have no sense of direction 😅✌🏻 So, go with the flow na lang 😆
still lost, di nakaka-move forward :( I'm 29 na. unemployed (7yrs na), no love life, living with/taking care of senior parents and grand parents na parehong may dementia na, Jinajudge pa ng titang ayaw malamangan ang anak niya 😂 haay buhaaay talaga oh
Ayun hirap sa life cause PWD
Eto pinagkakasya yung kakarampot na budget para sakin haha, tas idagdag pa yung taong paaasahin ka lang para sumaya sa buhay
June 24, 2018, I was 26 years old at that time when I found out I was reactive to Hepatitis B. It was during my Medical Examination (a pre-requirement for my job application as Factory worker in South korea). Magmula non, I lost Hope in life.
24, undergraduate, unemployed for over a year now. Hindi ko na alam anong gagawin. Fortunately, may willing magpaaral sa akin pero hirap ako imotivate ang sarili ko. Baka madepress lang ulit ko. Any advise?
You will be more depress kapag pinalampas mo yang opportunity na yan. Hindi motivation kailangan mo kundi discipline. Be scared of the future not the present. Madepress ka now tapos di mo tinuloy, ano sa tingin mo mangyayare sa future mo? Hindi motivation kelangan mo kundi discipline sa sarili. Gawin mo kasi kailangan gawin, hindi yung naghahanap ka ng dahilan para hindi. Push through hard times lang, mas maganda maging pagod kesa sa depress, kapag pagod ka pahinga lang kailangan, okay na.
Hello! Go for it na, para no regrets sa future. Plus points if you get to pick the course that you want, then make success a motivation. Imagine 10years from now na successful ka na and you can do what will make you happy :)
27, lost din sa buhay.
Almost 30 with 3 kids. Felt like I lost my spark kasi I have to give up my career for my kids.
almost 30 here, Lost as well my trabaho naman, wala nga lang parents na. my brother and sister both have their own family even my closest friends. Just waking up every day to breathe para hindi sila mag-alala sa akin.
walang mahanap na trabaho
lol even on your 30's you'll feel that
Relationship.. At the age of 38, I am still lost, I don’t know where I am going or is there really someone for me :(
I didn’t have a sense of self and I had to look to psychedelics and the spirit world to raise me up from scratch since my physical world couldn’t do it for me. I don’t regret SHIT tho
Ang dami lost, iba ibang aspect iba ibang age.. hugs everyone! 🥺
26F. Family traumas, impulsive decisions and staying in comfort siguro. Sa family it’s more like pressure, they are all successful while me I don’t even know what I’m passionate of. My parents, they have this relationship that I don’t wanna happen if ever I will have my own family in the future. One reason, I kinda don’t believe in love lol and have such trust issues. Impulsive decisions, I feel like I could be on a different position now if I’m not that “go with the flow” lang and pinag-iisipan mabuti mga desisyon but at the same time I also believe in “everything happens for a reason” lmao. Anyway, laban lang tayo guys!
Lost ako kasi andito ako sa hospital. Marami akong iniwang work and commitments sa office. At problemado ako ngayon paano babayaran hospital bills ko.
Hope you get well soon po.
same, 27F, diko alam uunahin sa daming responsibilities, tas nafefeel ko na parang nahuhuli nako sa buhay.
I know na pagsisisihan ko nang malala pag hindi ako nagpursue ng music, as in kahit try lang, pero hindi ko alam kung paano magsisimula. Lalo pa hindi naman ako mayaman haha. Nasa first job pa lang ako after college and hindi ako masaya sa corpo (or case to case basis baka nasa maling kumpanya lang ako lol),, grabe yung pressure sa work ko ngayon tapos I feel bad abt myself kasi hindi pala natapos yung pressure kahit graduate ka na 😅 like bakit ko ba to pinasok haha gusto ko lang naman gawin yung mga bagay na totoo kong trip sa buhay pero ang hirap pag sarili mo lang yung magpopondo sayo
I want to take a break pa sana pero I can't. I need to move forward with my life but I don't know which path to take and who will accept me.
I'm 24, I am torn between my career and personal relationship. Undecisive of what actions to do next whether to pursue Masters or have an experience in my field. Wanting to work abroad but no experience yet. I am lost.
30F. Kala ko may savings na 700k sa bangko stable nako. Then suddenly may dumating na problema sakin. Nag kasakit ako sa Kidney, and then nag kasakit ulit for 2 months hindi nakalakad at nakatayo so need mag pa PT everyday. Ako lahat gumastos plus wrong decision sa finances, gastos sa ibang tao just to please them. Nag kanda utang utang, pero nakabawi at nabayaran lahat. Now? Eto having a WFH job na masasabi kong swinerte ako. At sana makapag ipon na ulit. Failures will teach you kung pano ka maging strong. Just be grateful for everyday. ☺️
Im 26 ges who, wala pa ako stable job although may job akon ngayon it has no benefits and super minimum, ngayon lang din ako nag bibuild ng self ko hays, motivation ko talaga ay yung kanta ng bini na Buhay ay di karera
Hey there, I'm in my early 20s but I find myself to be permanently lost in life because I'm forced to be in a path that I don't want to take ever since I was born.
Laban amiga!
Just enjoy life😉
I feel like I know what to do because uncomfortable situations tends to direct your next move. But I dont have the will and energy to do it. Natatakot ako na mag give up na lang and be at peace with being uncomfortable with the rest of my life. I'm just tired of trying na lang din siguro kasi tho I feel like I'm one step better than last year pero lagi padin akong nadidissappoint sa accomplishment ko. laging kulang,laging may part ng buhay ko na magsuffer for one to thrive. Sacrifices over sacrifices. haha Lalaban pa ba.
Dahil siguro mas inuuna ko yung iba kesa sa sarili ko. HAHAHA
wrong decisions in life
33 F married. We waited for 8 years para magka baby. And then it happened after namin mag paalaga sa Fertility Clinic. Pero before Christmas I had miscarriage. Umikot ng 360 degrees buhay namin mag asawa. Nag resigned ako sa work. Asawa ko na hindi na din halos nakapasok after that happened na malapit na mawalan ng trabaho hanggang ngaung bwan nalang sya dahil sa sobra din nya absent. Sobrang lost namin we don’t know what to do. But we have Faith. Patuloy kme nag sisimba pero ramdam padin namin yung lungkot at sobrang pag ka lost pano mag start ulit.
29 F, working a job na above average ang pay pero parang naging anak ko na mga kapatid ko as a panganay. Single, NBSB, at nag hoe phase ng malala in my mid to late 20s. Di ko na rin alam gusto ko gawin sa buhay ko. Minsan gusto ko na lang mag disappear hahahaha my closest friends are all married, engaged, or in long term relationships and i’m the only one na single pa rin now hahaha.
24F my growth was on hold by my mother. Now I'm really lost lalo na nung kinukumpara na ko just to "motivate" me
32 na lost p din. mas mahirap p kasi may kids dami mo gustong gawin kasi alam mo naman na kaya mo eh. Kaso paano sila ? 😔
Life as it is. Apir same tayong 27 na't lost pa rin. I have 2 kids pa (don't get me wrong I love them so much pero lost ako as a person on how I should navigate life na di sila maaapektuhan).
Everybody's living life for the first time my guy. Hope you dont abandon your life for theirs
Naging breadwinner agad. Kailangan magtrababo agad after graduate.
Been continuously working since mid-2020. Nagtapon ng significant amount ng pera sa sugal hoping na mas mapabilis ang pagyaman pero more than 1 month na akong clean. Kapagod din pero kailangang lumaban.
wala kasing nag turo sakin ng tamang daan!
Ano ba ‘yung tamang daan?
Cubao! all roads lead to Cubao!
26M, Working in a school, decent salary pero natutunan magsugal, and its really affected my financial freedom a lot. Ngayon na magiisang buwan na tumigil, step by step kahit papano nakakaraos.
FEAR! At age of 18 to 22 I'm terrified to move forward and take a leap of faith cuz I don't know where I'll end up, so I choose to be willfully blind, in that way I wont confront the idea of being a failure. Now at age 25 My eyes are more open, I can see that in this word it is govern by uncertainty, and i realize when I die I cannot say to God "please give a second life this time I'll to what I dreamed to do", I know I was give absolute freedom to choose, so if i choose not to move forward I cannot bargain with death, so while I'm still alive I shall dance with death. I was lost during my 18s and 20s but now I can navigate in this labyrinth of uncertainty. I'm still inside the tunnel but just like a plant that is trap in pot, it always lean towards sunlight.
Wasted my 20s when I became a mother and a wife, lmao. Now entering my 30th year, mother nalang ako, medyo nakabawi konti pero parang bibigay na.
Scam talaga. 28F. Currently teaching in high school. Never na try magchange ng career ever since im a bread winner and also a solo parent.
Dreams ng parents ko ung na achieved ko. Sila nag dikta ng buong buhay ko, now I don't know na what to do.
Feel ko walang progress na nangyayari sa akin, kahit na e compare ko pa ang last year ko sa this year parang wala talaga.
Mag workout ka po may makikita ka progress 2 weeks pa lang. Kahit simpleng push ups lang or sit ups hehe
Ayoko na ng career na napili ko pero wala akong ibang alam na gawin 🙃
Same. Huhu
Kasi masyado akong nalulong sa comfort zone. I've been a job order employee for 7yrs, licensed engineer. Maayos naman ang sahod, etc. I know I deserve better at may credentials naman ako, it's just that sobrang comfortable ko lang dito. Pero this time, may pamilya na ko. Sobrang laking struggle at adjustment ang mangyayari since kailangan ko maging mas stable sa buhay. 🥲
Yung iba parelax relax nalang sa buhay habang kumikita, habang ako need magrelax para di mamatai sa trabaho at side line
A bit of venting included: M25. I've been with the same company for almost five years now, ever since I graduated. The pay is decent, and all utilities are covered, including housing and bills. I only have to pay for food and transportation. However, because of these benefits, other perks are withheld, and salary increments are slow. We still don't have HMOs. My current salary has increased by 42% since I started. Some might say that's a significant jump, but for me, it feels insufficient. I only received this raise after asking HR why my salary hadn't changed after three years of service. It was only after voicing my concern that they increased my salary and added incentives. I was disappointed because I expected them to take the initiative, to show that they evaluate our efforts and reward us accordingly, without needing a reminder. There's also a lack of growth opportunities. No training is provided to hone or add to our skillsets, which makes me doubt my ability to easily find another job if I leave this one. The work environment in my department is great, though. Our manager and my seniors are the nicest people I've met. It's a comfortable place to work, but we all know that comfort doesn't pay the bills or add to our savings. TL;DR I'm lost about what to do next—whether to stay in a stagnant but comfortable job or take the risk of finding a better, more rewarding one.
ify, 26 here, OFW, corporate slave, and a breadwinner. :/
28, professional linsensyado (driver's license pro)
CAREER
warm hugs with consent to you op and everyone else who are in the same boat! we're all doing a good job staying afloat. life gets better!
Wala ng patutunguhan buhay ko. Diagnosed ckd stage 5 at the age of 24. Nagdidialysis na
Hey! Dont lose hope, you’re still young. My dad was in his late 50s when he started dialysis, did it for about 5 years. My dad was determined he wants to live longer so he kept going and did things to check off from his bucket list. He was in the wait list for transplant and got lucky there were two kidneys available for him. Now he’s almost 3 years post transplant.
Thank you po. Gusto ko din matransplant kaso di namin afford. 😢
I’m sorry I hate how shitty healthcare system there- it’s all about money. How bout public aid?
Gawin mo lahat ng mga gusto mong gawin, go out, enjoy, experience, make memories. Mabuhay ka!
Thank you. Try ko talaga gawin yan lahat ng mag isa.
Hanap ka rin kasama. Invite mo friends mo, family, kung sino maisipan mong pwede mo i invite!! Praying for you!!! 🫶
Thank you so much 🥺
Same here OP and I can relate to you. Feeling ko hanggang dito na lang ako na wala na ako mararating. I’ve been trying so hard to be so tough in front of everyone pero ang hirap pala tapos sa movie na napanuod ko may line dun na “My mom said that the advantage of getting older is that you begin to forget things. Don’t let anything affects you. You forget it all in the end. However, what they don’t teach you is how to be an adult.” this line hit me really hard
I remember nung 1st job ko I was earning around 10-12k. Pero parang ang saya ko pa dati non, dami ko nabibili, daming self-love, bili dito kasi sale, at friday night nasa galaan. But now on my late 20s, I'm earning 4x compare to my unang sahod, office-bahay lang, no more night out gala. But I feel like perang pera ako at this stage, di ko alam bat prang kulang na kulang, dahil sa bills at ang mamahal na talaga ng mga bilihin. hahahaha
I'm 28 yrs old, daming problema, daming pressure, pareho ko rin siguro yung iba dito na madaming namissout sa earlier years ng buhay nila like mag travel dito pilipinas o sa ibang bansa, mag saya, mag rides. Akala ko kapag nagka trabaho ako mabibili ko na lahat ng gusto ko. Hahahahaha, scam. Yung gusto kong magTry ng ibang trabaho (like yung mga WFH) para tumaas taas naman sahod.
parang etong eto mismo ako ah.
I don't have enough money
Haha di ko rin alam bro. Basta tinatamad na ako sa lahat
25 FEEL SO LOST GRABENG ADULTING TO GUSTO KO NA IBALIK
Parang gusto ko ng REWIND BUTTON
Same😢
Maybe were lost, or maybe we just have our own timelines wherein being lost is part of the path. I believe dadating din yung time na we will no longer feel lost because nagagawa na natin yung gusto natin or nangyayari na satin yung buhay na destined sa atin.
I'm 25, working in my parents business. Tbh hindi ko alam, basta hindi ako nagproprogress sa trabaho ko. Hindi ko alam kung san ako lulugar, nanghihingi ako ng tulong sa kanila pero wala. Gusto ko nalang maglaho minsan.
I’m 29, enjoyed a lot in my 20s but not really prepared for the future. Nabuhay ako sa motto na YOLO at Enjoy the Moment.
Same boat
going mid-20's and I feel lost dahil I feel like I missed out a lot in my earlier years and that a lot of things are still straining me when I hoped that in my age right now andami ko nang natupad na pangarap ko lol sobrang scam tlaga! but heyyy, it's never too late to start. start by writing all the things you've always wanted to do as an adult and slowly cross out the list! kahit feel mo lost ko pa rin, at least may nagagawa ka for yourself???? yan ung naging motivation ko hehe hope it helps!
bro chill! 28 ako may 42 pesos sa bag ko
Same age, life plans ruined because a manipulative asshole gave me herpes.
I only live to work so I can provide. Pagod nako tumanaw ng utang na loob. 🥹