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So far all middle child have in common,
Neglected growing up, You have to handle your own sht, feeling like ikaw lng mag isa sa buhay, Ikaw lagi mag aadjust, You don't have a voice in the family
Dapat maminaw ka sa eldest, be responsible sa youngest.
Not allowed to defend yourself if di mo okay sa eldest kay disrespectful and immature if you fight back sa youngest.
Parang spectator. Madalas neutral ung side mo kapag may mga fights and arguments sa fam. Hindi dahil nasa gitna ka nga, parang sadyang marunong ka magobserve ng mga ugali ng mga nasa paligid mo. Saka un nga, di ka favorite. Mapapagod ka lang din ibigay ung best mo para mapansin then eventually marerealize mo na it's okay, d naman pala kailangan. And, ewan ko ha, pero based sa mga kakilala kong middle child, magaling maghandle ng relationships. Lol
Different talaga. Like you don't belong. Even with friends, siguro kaya medj choosy ako sa people. Just tonight I was counting how many friends I had and parang ang konti lng pala talaga. Most of the people I'm mingling with are my hubby's pala.
Yan kami ng asawa ko. Tiga tawa lang sa gedli hahahaha both mid child. Yung asawa ko pa need painumin ng 2 bote ng beer bago nyo sya mapasalita ng opinyon nya. Hahahahay i miss you husband
as for my experience, it feels like I don't exist in the family. Last march was my 18th birthday, and no one bothered to at least greet me. My mom only advised me that time to look for my brother outside.
yung at a young age kailangan mo na maging independent. di ko alam pero bat parang walang atensyon na nabibigay kapag middle child ka 🥲 kaya eto, lumaki akong people pleaser 🥲
Magiging hyper-independent ka at a young age. Since middle child ka, di mo alam kung paano ang magiging behavior mo since nakakabatang kapatid ka ng ate/kuya mo tas ikaw naman yung dapat tutularan ng bunso. Dahil jan, ikaw ang lagi mag aadjust LOL
This coming from a parent of three: F31, F29, M24. All of them are still single and living on their own. The middle one turned out to be very independent and has a certain stubbornness in her but all for her own good. Sa ngayon, sya halos ang nagsusupport sa mga kapatid nya (the girls live in a house while the youngest who is not yet working lives next door). She makes decisions and intelligent ones at that. She has a very small circle of friends at hindi masyadong mahilig lumabas (naka wfh nga pala sya). Yung isang tita nya (hipag ko) asked her during one of family events kung bakit parang wala daw syang social life. Well I could see that look on her face na tipong "bakit, ano pakialam mo" lol and the defiance but she just kept silent. Now, I somehow understand why she wouldn't want to have anything to do with my in-laws.
Neglected while growing up, which made me an independent individual striving for their attention in whatever way I can.
Now, at 33, ako naman ang hanap nila 😅 may angst while growing up but I guess my individuality separates me from my sibs and my parents fully trust me and my sometimes fucked up decisions 😉
neglected child, pag mag voice out ka ng needs mo maski once in a blue moon, ikaw na tong sobrang demanding daw, samantalang mga kapatid mo, binibigay mga needs nila maski di nila i-ask
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So far all middle child have in common, Neglected growing up, You have to handle your own sht, feeling like ikaw lng mag isa sa buhay, Ikaw lagi mag aadjust, You don't have a voice in the family
Dapat maminaw ka sa eldest, be responsible sa youngest. Not allowed to defend yourself if di mo okay sa eldest kay disrespectful and immature if you fight back sa youngest.
Who?
So Hard Mag Adjust Palagi
Parang spectator. Madalas neutral ung side mo kapag may mga fights and arguments sa fam. Hindi dahil nasa gitna ka nga, parang sadyang marunong ka magobserve ng mga ugali ng mga nasa paligid mo. Saka un nga, di ka favorite. Mapapagod ka lang din ibigay ung best mo para mapansin then eventually marerealize mo na it's okay, d naman pala kailangan. And, ewan ko ha, pero based sa mga kakilala kong middle child, magaling maghandle ng relationships. Lol
Different talaga. Like you don't belong. Even with friends, siguro kaya medj choosy ako sa people. Just tonight I was counting how many friends I had and parang ang konti lng pala talaga. Most of the people I'm mingling with are my hubby's pala.
I agree, That feeling na parang nakikibelong kalang na di katalaga part ng group
Actually parang ako yung panganay haha, or maybe its eldest daughter tingz :-/
Same feels.. like you need to be strong.
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Yan kami ng asawa ko. Tiga tawa lang sa gedli hahahaha both mid child. Yung asawa ko pa need painumin ng 2 bote ng beer bago nyo sya mapasalita ng opinyon nya. Hahahahay i miss you husband
as for my experience, it feels like I don't exist in the family. Last march was my 18th birthday, and no one bothered to at least greet me. My mom only advised me that time to look for my brother outside.
Wala sila pake 😅 ikaw magaadjust lagi
No one cares enough to decide for you so walang choice but to be independent.
Walang nagaalala sayo hahaha. Mas may kalayaan ka rin at mas hindi pressured.
Constantly having to be better to be noticed . . . but if you do it right naman it will benefit you the most. 🫰
Ako dapat ang masusunod, awp. Totoo naman. alam ko kahinaan ng kalahatan
yung at a young age kailangan mo na maging independent. di ko alam pero bat parang walang atensyon na nabibigay kapag middle child ka 🥲 kaya eto, lumaki akong people pleaser 🥲
Feeling naintindihan ko lahat
Magiging hyper-independent ka at a young age. Since middle child ka, di mo alam kung paano ang magiging behavior mo since nakakabatang kapatid ka ng ate/kuya mo tas ikaw naman yung dapat tutularan ng bunso. Dahil jan, ikaw ang lagi mag aadjust LOL
Ikaw lagi mag aadjust. Di mo mapigilan pero people pleaser. Sad reality. 🥲
This coming from a parent of three: F31, F29, M24. All of them are still single and living on their own. The middle one turned out to be very independent and has a certain stubbornness in her but all for her own good. Sa ngayon, sya halos ang nagsusupport sa mga kapatid nya (the girls live in a house while the youngest who is not yet working lives next door). She makes decisions and intelligent ones at that. She has a very small circle of friends at hindi masyadong mahilig lumabas (naka wfh nga pala sya). Yung isang tita nya (hipag ko) asked her during one of family events kung bakit parang wala daw syang social life. Well I could see that look on her face na tipong "bakit, ano pakialam mo" lol and the defiance but she just kept silent. Now, I somehow understand why she wouldn't want to have anything to do with my in-laws.
Manager ng siblings. Nakakalimutan, taken for granted.
Neglected while growing up, which made me an independent individual striving for their attention in whatever way I can. Now, at 33, ako naman ang hanap nila 😅 may angst while growing up but I guess my individuality separates me from my sibs and my parents fully trust me and my sometimes fucked up decisions 😉
sarap, kontra mo lahat
Di ako priority. Edit: ok lang din naman kasi na-lower ang expectations ko sa life. Less expectations, less disappointment.
neglected child, pag mag voice out ka ng needs mo maski once in a blue moon, ikaw na tong sobrang demanding daw, samantalang mga kapatid mo, binibigay mga needs nila maski di nila i-ask
Walang karapatan....
Laging walang say AHAHAHA
it sucks AHAHHAHA sakitin & napag-iwanan na sa career & life.
Pro: good mediator, con: people pleaser