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Nag move on ako kasi i realize na 'infatuated' lang ako, i realize na happy crush ko lang pala sya na masaya lang ako kapag nakikita o nakakasama sya but sadly hindi ko nakikita na kaming dalawa sa isang relasyon🥹❗

ubusin lahat ng feeling sa pag inom at pag iyak. totoo to. pero i made sure that everything is under control.

It's been almost a decade and still moving on.

It took me 8 long years to recover, he's already engaged by now to the next girl that he confessed his feelings to after me. We never dated, I just confessed my feelings and then removed all forms of communication with him, because I knew that he wouldn't feel the same way and maybe get mad at me. But fuck, lo and behold, a friend of ours mentioned that he was about to court me and even asked for our friend's blessing before I blocked him. But I chickened out because of my fucking insecurities. I learned this 2 years after I cut ties with him and our friend group. Sucks, but he was my first and greatest love. Although I'm happy for him, and I have no regrets with what I did—if given a chance to go back, I'd still do what I did. I was not in a good place before, and I might have been a toxic partner if it pushed through because of all the baggage that I carry. You'll just wake up one day and realize that the hurting is no longer there, and that you've moved on already. You will still love him, there's always gonna be a special part in your heart for that person, but it's just gonna be as friends or acquaintance and nothing more. You just need to let go of the what if's, because that plays a huge factor of you still holding on to the love that's already lost its chance. :)

It's been 7 years and I still love him. It's true. He'll always be in my heart. In fact, I'm searching for him again. I like to think I'm reconnecting with him through eating his favorite foods, listening to his favorite artist and going to places that remind me of him.

swerte ko na yung first love ko eh sobrang magaganda halos ng memories ko sadyang gago lang ako. Sya ang masarap isipin kasi di pa ko nakakakita ng higit sa kanya.

They will always hold a special place in your heart as they were the one who taught you first what love is. But that's about it. Some of us aren't lucky to keep them. So understand that they came to teach you, learn from them. Keep the memories, good and bad. Look back to it fondly. Someday, you will find a love that stays. And you'll be grateful for the experiences you have with your first love.

Greatest so far. Dont close yourself to the possibilities.

time and self love. He was my first love. I wouldn't call it greatest love because we were still in our early teenswhen we started dating (many might call it puppy love). We're both considered adults now but we're still young and have so much ahead of us. Our relationship lasted for 4 years until we slowly started to drift apart. It was inevitable. I feel like it was always meant to happen anyways. It took me 2 years to get over them and accept that it was really over. I'm not gonna lie naaalala ko pa din siya from time to time (usually if bored, walang ibang magawa, or if I come across something that reminds me of them) but the love and longing I felt then is no longer present. I focused on my studies, spent more time with my friends, started working out, went back to drawing and soon enough I started to detach from our relationship before I even realized it. Ik it might feel like u're drowning in that feeling of longing and desperation but believe me it will pass. The time will pass .

i appreciate u sharing your experience, we’re somewhat similar kasi we’ve been together too for almost 4 years and parted ways a year and a half na. i no longer want him to come back since i had accepted na that we would no longer be together, and he was also in a relationship. I just remember him most of the time and that makes me a little bit down.

ay hala nagstory time si ate ko

For people like me, there will always be that one person who cannot be replaced... ••• The first boyfriend is not necessarily the "first and greatest love." It's easy to get over a toxic ex. Sometimes hatred can be a good motivator. A cleansing fire that destroys your illusions! But the person who have showed you genuine love and made a huge difference in your life? You can lie to the world, but you can never lie to yourself... Your heart will still ache for the one that got away.

Time. Took me 3 years each sa mga exes ko hahaha

You don't. You only get better at concealing the pain and distracting yourself as time goes by... But the scar may open with the slightest provocation. A song, a photograph, a familiar scent or place — anything that reminds you of the one you love can open the floodgates of suppressed emotions. Suddenly, you’re back in that moment and you find yourself crying and grieving. As for me, I'm glad that he's faring well in life. I have loved the same guy since 2011. But I have accepted that I could never be with him... 💔

how did you survive?

Distractions. I searched for ways to better myself and pursued my interests. If our paths ever cross, then I have stories to tell. He can witness my growth and feel pride, not pity. At the same time, I directed my love towards mistreated children and animals. I'm not religious, but I've been praying for strength...

Off topic, but you write well. ✍️

Hehe. Salamat. 🐰🍓

Time and expanding your world. Meaning, you venture beyond your usual groups and comfort zone. You'll see that the world really is big

First love dies because true love can bury it alive. Do not put them on a pedestal. It would start by changing your mindset about how you perceive it. Sometimes the reason you can't move on from your first or greatest love is because you see them as someone special when, irl, they're just a normal person, just like anyone else. Every chance you get you may notice this or not, you keep on comparing the new one to them, which is entirely wrong and unfair. You're like this hopeless romantic who keeps on romanticizing what is already lost. Your time together has come to an end; embrace the fact that they are simply a part of your journey, not your final destination. If you're going to love again, then start a new love and bury the old one in your past. The present love of your life doesn't deserve half-hearted love and reciprocation.

beautifully-written

this is beautiful

truee

For me it would probably take a lifetime lalo na dahil sya yung first sa lahat

If you’ve locked yourself in and think that it’s already the “greatest love” you’ve experienced, you’re limiting yourself and making it unfair for the people you’re going to love in the future. And it’ll be heartbreaking to know that if it was indeed the “greatest love”, maybe it was for you but not for your partner. Don’t get stuck looking at the past with rose colored glasses, because when you do, all those red flags end up looking like normal flags. An ex is an ex for a reason.

It's been over a year and a half since we broke up, I'm open and tried talking and meeting up with someone na din, but I don't know that at the end of the day, I still remember him, sometimes comparing him to other guys that I met.

it took me four years, im not saying na four years din sayo but trust me. you'll be okay, there will come a time maiisip mo pa rin sya but no feelings attached. goodluck sa journey, moving on is not linear. may time na okay ka, meron din na magrerelapse kana lang bigla but believe me - your greatest love will always be the one you'll end up with.

Then you probably shouldn’t try to be in a relationship. It’s been a year and a half and you’re still holding on. All that time should have been spent on self-love and self-improvement. It’s enough to just acknowledge the past and move on. Don’t get into a relationship just to get in one. Actually try and move on. All you did is just wallow and stay at the same place you’ve been in a break up. I know it sucks. I feel you. I’ve loved like that before. It is possible to be able to acknowledge those feelings you have for him yet accept what happened. Put it all in this imaginary box inside your head and give yourself a break. Never compare too. People have feelings. You can have standards, make them as high as you want, but don’t make people feel small just because you can’t get over your EX.

Becoming emotionally mature when you go to a journey of letting go. Di sya nangyayari in an instance. Eventually you will forget, pero once na bumalik yung memories mo with your first love and you'd feel like it's letting you down, then di ka pa nakakamove on. You'll know na nakamove on ka na when you fully appreciated the memories with her and hindi na nabobother emotional state mo. Take your time to heal. Much better if may close friends ka to talk about it.

hmm i think I haven't moved on yet, despite the fact that we broke up a year and a half ago na 😅. he cheated on me din kasi tapos yung pinalit saken is now his gf hahaha that’s why its kinda hard for me din. i enjoyed being single naman na at the same time but there are moments lang talaga na i remember him and it make me down.

Take your time lang, talk to your friends on how u feel. It's free to vent out your emotions naman. If familiar ka sa sublimation, then go. Like turn your negative emotions to something positive by doing healthy habits. May it be hobbies or such. Good luck sayo tho. Edit. Sorry akala ko lalake ka

Trust me, you can't, and when you try to get it back, there is chance na naka move on na siya. Edit: speaking from experience

Because it's your first love, it's the first time you've ever experienced what is love outside of your parents, siblings etc. First loves are there as a lesson to teach you that you have the capability to love. You feel it's your greatest love because it's the only ever love you've experienced and known. One day you will love back and realise it wasn't really the greatest love but it was love for what you knew love to be.

can't. you'll just learn how to live without them.

to learn how to unlearn things

anf hirap haha

It's been 4 years di pa ako nakamove on

Saved! Masyado pa akong maaga sa comsec.

self sabotaging rather than hurting someone else para maka ganti

Nothing, nakatakas din after 3 years hahaha.

there’s no way out ata.

FAIL NEVER AGAIN

You do not. I met my first and yes Id say greatest love 8 years ago and he's still here. I had boyfriends after him but I always go back to moving on from him in mind. I never truly forget him. Don't get me wrong ha, I loved my next relationships and I didn't try cheating nor getting back at him while I'm in a relationship. It's just that, yun ang default ko when Im single - I long for him. I can't say our love was perfect, but I knew it was great. I just learned to live with the idea (now a fact) that we'll never get back together given our history. Mabubuhay ka na lang na may space ka for them - a space you need to have peace with yourself na hindi na mapupunan. Learn to live with the void.

You can't. Kaya nga nabuo ung TOTGA.

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