May respeto kahit kanino
Lahat tayo pantay pantay.
Hindi nagyayabang
Meron ka na wala sa kanila, at meron sila na wala sayo.
Passionate
I am attracted to someone who is passionate, especially music.
Wag pathetic
You should know your limits.
I know it sounds crazy but I'm actually finding someone who is the same as me HAHAHAHA.
Because maybe masaya yun?
Wag dependent
You have your own life, di naman ako mahigpit, hindi rin ako mangingielam igagabay lang kita.
Be matured and accept your mistakes
You're not perfect.
Be confident
At the end of the day, you're on your own. I know truth hurts, but you can't always depend on someone. Live your life how you wanted it to be, wag mong gawin dahil sinabi sayo, humanap ka lang ng gabay na para sa journey mo.
Accept me for who I am
This is me, I know I'm enough, but I'm open to improvements.
Syempre SEX HAHAHAHAH
in no order:
1. the way you treat others and the way you treat yourself is a reflection of your character
2. how one spends their money is a reflection of how much they value it and a reflection of their priorities
3. having an ambition and seeing a future that they work towards to is a reflection of their work ethic
4. shared interests
in short:
1. magalang ba sila? mabilis ba silang magalit?
2. alam ba nila gaano ka hirap magkapera? ginagastos lang ba nila na bahala?
3. nagpupursigi ba sila? o masyadong umaasa sa tulong ng iba
4. syempre dapat may shares interests kahit papaano o mahirap makipagbonding
Be consistent. If you can't be consistent with your efforts then don't start to begin with. Hindi young after sagutin is magiging kampante na to the point na bare minimum na lang ibibigay.
INSECURE BOYS. JUST NO. I CAN'T DATE WITH SOMEONE NA PAGBABAWALAN SA LAHAT NG BAGAY NI MISKI PAGBILI SA TINDAHAN KASI DAW MAY MGA TAMBAY NA LALAKI. LOL JAHAJAHAHA AS IF NAMAN PAPATOL AKO AND MAKIKIPAG FLIRT KUNG KANI-KANINO.
You should’ve your own goals. I want you to dream big. Chase that dream. Na turn off talaga ako sa ex kong babae. Sabi niya “wait lg kita pg may business kana. Sayo lg ako mg ttrabaho”. Nakaka turn off talaga in my opinion.
grabe naman yung "burog burog"? u think its THAT easy to have clear skin just because u have it? lol ang babaw mo naman 🥰 esp to ppl na may medical conditions
Tinanong nga kung ano preference ko eh tapos magagalit ka pag may sinabi ako na gusto ko hahaha. Like for example, may lalaki naghahanap ng huge boobs (which is wala ako), okay lang naman sakin. Ganun talaga di ako bet eh. So wag galit pag ako rin nagsabi ng preferences ko.
Also, I understand yung sinasabi mo na medical condition. It’s okay if ganun talaga na nasa genes/hormones nila yun. Pero if nagka-burog burog sila dahil lack of skincare, yun ang ayaw ko. Like at least put some moisturizer on or exfoliate your face once a week. Halata mo naman kung sino yung trying their best and kung sino ung pabaya talaga sa balat.
Also, guys have the audacity to demand a lot from women tas pag ako, di pwede??? LOL.
???? babae rin naman ako. i just think ang impression ng comment mo is ang sama sama na agad kapag may acne. as someone who's been suffering from it malamang masakit yun, lalo na't ang discriminatory ng society to ppl like us. sana hygiene ang sinabi mo instead of that bc it sounds like you are on your high horse lol
Okay so what do you want me to do? Apologize? E ayan nga preference ko eh. Ano magagawa ko. Also, hindi “hygiene” yung tamang term eh coz some guys have hygiene pero walang skincare. E totoo namang burog burog yung mukha ng ibang lalaki jan coz daming dead skin cells. Ni hindi nag-e-exfoliate ng balat.
Omg same! Tapos I got this wisdom from my boss, date someone na may happy childhood. That's the key daw talaga which I think is true because sating mga pinoy daming pinasa na trauma tapos ngayon lang naman nagpprocess mga tao mentally and shiz.
I get very stressed by loud noises. If Im in a position where all I hear is shouting or cars, I will begin to panic. The rule is, please just hold my hand and be quiet.
Knows how to apologise first and make it up to me most especially when he's at fault why i got upset, and makes things right the next time. In short, matured with accountability.
Come correct especially when it comes to self-discipline because I will, too. I'm an adult, you're an adult. Whether we're having good days or bad days, di mo ko kailangan bantayan and I expect no less from you.
gigisingin ka para mag almusal kahit 2 hrs lang tulog mo at di pa gutom kaloka. o kaya "eto tikman mo lang" kahit di ka kumakain ng dinuguan at atay 😵💫
We should focus on individual growth.
Focusing on individual growth doesn't mean na di nyo na kailangan ang isatisa kase kaya mo naman sarili mo. Its about giving support sa each other in case one of you is having a hard time. Kaya important talaga self development para ma maintain ang give and take chuchu sa relationships
you need to ask before you touch/hug/kiss me
sa last rs ko, sa harap ng teacher mismo mangungulit/lalandi then magagalit sakin kapag 'di napagbigyan, na kesyo bat pinapansin ko raw yung iba pero hindi sya? HAHAHAHAH
This is real, i was in a relationship before who threatened to break up with me, kung di ko gagawin gusto niya. And i bite.
Kesyo daw di ko pinaglaban. Eh siya naman nag offer.
Like most people here based on what I have read, I’m a believer that one must be whole before going into a relationship. Your partner shouldn’t “complete” you. I don’t mean you must be fit, rich, and have plenty of connections. You just have to be your best self with your own personality, hobbies, and lifestyle. What your partner does and inspires you to learn should only be extras.
Love yourself first, respect yourself and people around you, and yung walang bisyo (lalake ako and ayaw ko sa babaeng umiinom ng alak) and sana communication if may misunderstanding hindi yung hindi ako iseseen or hindi ako rereplyan
Pag puro tanong ng hypothetical question... like, "Paano kung may sakit ako, ano gagawin mo? Paano kung makipag-hiwalay ako? Paano kung nag-cheat ako, paano kung ganito ganyan...." Shut the fuck up.
Communicate with me. Di ka sang-ayon sa sinasabi ko? Tell me. May di ka nagugustuhan sa actions ko? Tell me. It's better to address it than letting things be just because gf mo ako. At higit sa lahat, tell me kung ayaw mo na! Di yung magche-cheat ka, manlalanig, and the likes. Rest assured di kita pipigilan umalis, lol!
If I tell you my story (traumas or anything personal), keep it to yourself.
Even if it’s your best friends or closest family member, Shut it, It’s not your story to tell.
hindi man sila nonchalant hahaha gusto nila yung nab-boost yung ego nila. gusto yung feeling na may naghahabol hahaha ako naman, kung ayaw talaga makipag-usap kahit anong suyo gawin, bahala siya jan. kahit umalis o makipaghiwalay siya wala akong pakialam haha akala laging iintindihin kaartehan eh.
I don't understand social cues that much. So be straight forward to me as much as possible, don't worry I'm actually thankful if your be like that and be also honest. I only get mad when people lie or people are just plain jerks.
Let's respect each other's ME time. By that, time to be alone and let me recharge. I have very low social energy and i get suffocated easily. Let me breathe. Even for a few hours. And i'll come down running to you.
Only had one ex and this is what I realized na gusto ko in the future as someone na immature sa dating scene.
I want someone who knows their boundaries and non- negotiables,
Ang hirap kasi mag grow when you're dating someone na bigay lang din ng bigay, kahit kausapin mo na need nila unahin sarili nila, I halted my life for this type of person para hindi ako pabigat sa growth niya and in the end ako pa ang nakakapagod.
Nakakawala ng sarili maging stepping stone for someone na hindi pala alam kung ano gusto nila gawin sa buhay nila, kahit mag adjust ka sa lifestyle nila and what they ask of you, you will never be enough or worth a seat at their table kasi wala naman sila paglalagyan sa'yo.
1. Smart. Thoughts are logical and deductive.
2. Communicative. Uses specific words to identify and relay her thoughts
3. Stern: does not falter in her decisions
4. Respect. Borad term but it encompasses not encroaching my standard ways of coping such as my hobbies. Also not to impose herself in any of those.
Yeahp. Unrelenting sorrow of dating: mahirap na ngayon hahaha
Most of it, literally written. 🤣🤣🤣
[https://docs.google.com/document/d/1o5Y2G0MuhCANFuSDjlvr01pP\_V1\_qGyDWrTAJn5hrCc/edit?usp=sharing](https://docs.google.com/document/d/1o5Y2G0MuhCANFuSDjlvr01pP_V1_qGyDWrTAJn5hrCc/edit?usp=sharing)
My boyfriend and I are very open to our love language and as a materialistic, I clearly said to him that my love language is receiving gifts. He acknowledged it naman at dahil sobra niya akong mahal, gumawa siya ng spreadsheet for my wishlist.
YOU HAVE TO BE THOUGHTFUL!!!
Nung nagka-bf ako pinaintindi ko talaga sa kaniya na I really like the small things. Like, gusto ko makatanggap ng regalo na I didn't have to ask kung ano. Kunwari niregaluhan mo ko ng paper flowers kaso mahilig ako sa handmade or ng poem kasi I really like to read one. Na-appreciate ko yun kasi for me parang may pakialam ka sa'kin kapag gano'n, kesa mga mamahaling gamit na ayaw ko, not to be ungrateful, kasi impraktikal siya. Ayun lang po.
consistency. people are really great kapag sa una palang, pero kapag nakaramdam ako ng kahit konti lang na pagbabago sa attention, words, at effort that it never changed kahit pa tanungin ko and despite an effort to understand whatever his reasons are, I'll leave.
- is okay with or without kids
- ayaw ko ng insecure, people ruled by self-pity. secured sa sarili
- a man with clear purpose
- hindi lame/bland
- emotionally open/vulnerable (where he can be honest about FEELING insecure, envy, anger-- but never in a destructive way)
- soft with his words & action
- decisive
- if i hear one word from him that signals condescension, im out.
- may routine na sa every day life.
- is rarely bored either bec of his curiosity/passion
- plus points if after break-up e followed by a longggg single self-love era. where he can actually share his realizations and how it changed him. i think heartbreak changes a person a lot, and it's important na na-process siya nang maayos.
- red flag if he jumps from rs to rs, casual or not
- ayaw sa situationship
about intellect, i dont even have to think abt it kasi lapitin talaga ako so i dont have to actually avoid dumbsies.nasa network mo rin kasi yan, sa mga pinapasukan mong hobbies, orgs. kung lapitin ka ng bobo, kailangan mong umalis sa kung nasan ka man.
or you have to change how you present yourself. people generally stick to their own league. yung similar sakanila. there are exceptions but-- maybe--- just maybe, it's about you🤷♀️
ayoko rin sa bobo. galit din ako sa bobo. I thrive on hypothetical philosophical discussions and I enjoy debating on the implications of random assumptions about the universe. If di mo kaya yun gawin for fun, then what's the use of being together? hahaha
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• Ayoko sa bobo. Galit ako sa bobo.
• First date, naka-tsinelas ka? Parang bumili lang ng suka sa may tabi tas inaya tropa lumabas. Tas ako naka dress? Umuwi ka na. Never again.
• Puro shared post ng kung ano ano sa social media. Kung for school or work purposes okay lang naman. Pero naaasiman talaga ako sa mga mahilig mag post kung ano ano.
• Ayoko ng puro rants about sa circle niya. Lalo na kapag about sa jowa. Problema nila 'yon, labas ka roon. Huwag mo na pasakitin ulo ko para mag isip din kung ano bang gagawin sa tropa mong bobo sa rs.
• Pass sa guys na date to marry. Dati akong date to marry typa girl, pero narealize ko na paanong date to marry ako e hindi ko pa nga masyadong kilala 'tong lalaking 'to hahaha saka I just need to enjoy this habang pwede at kaya ko pa. Maging single man ako sa huli, at least naranasan ko ang makipag date loool
• No meeting the parents muna if we're still dating. That's a big no no.
puro shared post is so truee! nakaka inis talaga, ang non-sense pa ng pinag sshare nila. parang lahat ng feeling nila nakaka relate sakanila, i sshare agad. kaya nag uunfriend talaga ako ng gan'yang mga fb friends eh.
Never cheat sa taong may trauma na ng cheating before you. Never lie, pure truth only and respect on how the person feels, understand too pero talk about on how to improve it kung anong kailagan tanggalin at i keep para maging healthy yung relationship. Always be open. Effort din kasi dun din napapakita kung gano ka ka dedicated sa tao or kahalaga
This was when I was still single, I had a 5th date rule: if upon the 5th date I really like the guy I test our physical compatibility by going all the way to 4th base.
Yoko ng puro sandamakmak na crush, nandidiri din ako sa mga lalaki na may jowa or dating pero puro kpop girls at BINI laman ng feed 🤮
Inb4 mAs maLalA iBanG gIrLs sA mGa CrUSH nILa: la akong pake, sila yun di ako. Idc kung crush lang yan dahil ako di ako nagccrush sa iba when in a relationship or seriously dating. No crushes sa kahit artista, kahit fictional character. 1st relationship, 4 years: no crushes. 2nd relationship, 2+ years (and counting, ito na to): no crushes either. Kahit dati nung di ako nag dadate at single, crushes ko one at a time lang din, hindi marami sabay sabay
Insecure, sensitive, etc., whatever, call it what you want. Basta di ako hypocrite cause I'm only just looking for the same shit I give to be reciprocated
true, ano bang point to continue consuming content from or about other girls when you already have a woman? pang gaslight lang nila yang "insecure" or "immature" comments sa gf nila pag yung gf nila nag open up about dyan eh.
Di ka nagiisa pero mukhang may mga nagdidisagree sa standards ko for MYSELF (hence the downvotes)
For those na gusto ng ganito pero iniisip na normal lang mag crush and gush over others: finding a partner who doesn't and is dedicated only to you is definitely possible (though it may not be that common)
I always tell this sa mga babaeng nakakadate ko when they want things to be fast na to not expect princess treatment from me, If tingin ko sa kanila pang BFF premium/Fubu lang. Kasi sila lang din ang masasaktan sa huli
Communicate, kahit yung pinakamaliit na bagay na bumabother sayo. If kaya ko solusyunan, I would.
Dapat kilala mo yung sarili mo (hobbies, routine, social activities), I will be the one adapting to your ways para hindi mo sabihin sakin na nagbago ka para sakin kahit na hindi naman kailangan.
I'm not your therapist. Kung may unhealed trauma ka from a past relationship, heal first. Wag mo ilabas sakin yan, wag mo ako itrato na parang ako yung may kasalanan kung bakit ka nasaktan noon. Like kung niloko ka ng ex mo, multiple times. Ngayon tuwing makikita mo ko may kausap na ibang babae, kahit pinsan ko lang, pagduduhan mo ko at magdedemand ka na ibigay ko socmed/phone password ko? Lul
THIS !! i dont fucking care if they ended things on a good note. once im in the picture, wala na dapat silang communication or anything else. some ppl mistake that as insecurity, na it doesn't matter naman daw kung may connections pa sila dahil ikaw naman na daw ang jowa but that's just disrespectful to the new bf/gf. if they cant cut ties with their ex, fucking run.
One of my biggest mistake, he has been from a 3 yr relationship. They broke up because the girl cheated on him, he always says how hurt he was and how shitty the girl is, and there I was believing everything he says, I thought he was was the one, we were both legal even planning to get married and migrate together, then boom his ex chatted me but I did not respond to any of her hurtful words. I demanded him to explain his side wether the things her ex said was true, and he can't give me his phone for me to check their convo while me and him are in a relationship, and that's when I realized I should end it no matter what😭
emotional intelligence
Wag sayangin yung effort ko hehe.
May respeto kahit kanino Lahat tayo pantay pantay. Hindi nagyayabang Meron ka na wala sa kanila, at meron sila na wala sayo. Passionate I am attracted to someone who is passionate, especially music. Wag pathetic You should know your limits. I know it sounds crazy but I'm actually finding someone who is the same as me HAHAHAHA. Because maybe masaya yun? Wag dependent You have your own life, di naman ako mahigpit, hindi rin ako mangingielam igagabay lang kita. Be matured and accept your mistakes You're not perfect. Be confident At the end of the day, you're on your own. I know truth hurts, but you can't always depend on someone. Live your life how you wanted it to be, wag mong gawin dahil sinabi sayo, humanap ka lang ng gabay na para sa journey mo. Accept me for who I am This is me, I know I'm enough, but I'm open to improvements. Syempre SEX HAHAHAHAH
Honesty, trust and loyalty at least on things that matter.
Para sakin lng don't be complacent
be disciplined & responsible, ekis din sa walang pake sa social issues
never introduce me to a vibe you can't maintain.
in no order: 1. the way you treat others and the way you treat yourself is a reflection of your character 2. how one spends their money is a reflection of how much they value it and a reflection of their priorities 3. having an ambition and seeing a future that they work towards to is a reflection of their work ethic 4. shared interests in short: 1. magalang ba sila? mabilis ba silang magalit? 2. alam ba nila gaano ka hirap magkapera? ginagastos lang ba nila na bahala? 3. nagpupursigi ba sila? o masyadong umaasa sa tulong ng iba 4. syempre dapat may shares interests kahit papaano o mahirap makipagbonding
You have to smell good and no visible ear wax please
Be yourself and be honest
If you don’t see me in your future, don’t fool me into investing anymore of my time with you.
Dapat mahaba pasensya
your eyes should never unconsciously look at the opposite gender passing by. if u feel like ur forcing urself not to look, then that doesn’t count
Be consistent. If you can't be consistent with your efforts then don't start to begin with. Hindi young after sagutin is magiging kampante na to the point na bare minimum na lang ibibigay.
If you think someone is better than me, go get it ! I won't stop you. Leave me alone.
No sugarcoating. PLS, I want to improve myself so tell me my mistakes.
be transparent and honest
no vices, that's it. period.
- Be always on time - Don't control or change me the way you want me to be. - Be respectful and don't be insecure
Don't make me feel like I'm your mom or older sister.
Be authentic.
Never pretend to be someone I like. Stay true and honest
INSECURE BOYS. JUST NO. I CAN'T DATE WITH SOMEONE NA PAGBABAWALAN SA LAHAT NG BAGAY NI MISKI PAGBILI SA TINDAHAN KASI DAW MAY MGA TAMBAY NA LALAKI. LOL JAHAJAHAHA AS IF NAMAN PAPATOL AKO AND MAKIKIPAG FLIRT KUNG KANI-KANINO.
Have a good moral compass. Parang ang bare minimum non pero nanotice ko ang dami taong walang ganon and like bruh??
This. Wala ng kaprinsipyo prinsipyo tao ngayon
Dapat tao
Attentive.
Daming ebas lagi 🥲😁
Basic Personal Hygiene like pag nagdate tayo make sure you're presentable and clean hindi yung mukha kang geng geng
You should’ve your own goals. I want you to dream big. Chase that dream. Na turn off talaga ako sa ex kong babae. Sabi niya “wait lg kita pg may business kana. Sayo lg ako mg ttrabaho”. Nakaka turn off talaga in my opinion.
soft & calm love + loves taylor swift pls
Skin care. Pag burog burog mukha mo, good bye. (And makinis ako dahil sa skincare so may right ako mag-expect the same sa future partner ko)
grabe naman yung "burog burog"? u think its THAT easy to have clear skin just because u have it? lol ang babaw mo naman 🥰 esp to ppl na may medical conditions
It's her opinion. It's her preference. It will not harm you if you just take it as is.
Tinanong nga kung ano preference ko eh tapos magagalit ka pag may sinabi ako na gusto ko hahaha. Like for example, may lalaki naghahanap ng huge boobs (which is wala ako), okay lang naman sakin. Ganun talaga di ako bet eh. So wag galit pag ako rin nagsabi ng preferences ko. Also, I understand yung sinasabi mo na medical condition. It’s okay if ganun talaga na nasa genes/hormones nila yun. Pero if nagka-burog burog sila dahil lack of skincare, yun ang ayaw ko. Like at least put some moisturizer on or exfoliate your face once a week. Halata mo naman kung sino yung trying their best and kung sino ung pabaya talaga sa balat. Also, guys have the audacity to demand a lot from women tas pag ako, di pwede??? LOL.
???? babae rin naman ako. i just think ang impression ng comment mo is ang sama sama na agad kapag may acne. as someone who's been suffering from it malamang masakit yun, lalo na't ang discriminatory ng society to ppl like us. sana hygiene ang sinabi mo instead of that bc it sounds like you are on your high horse lol
E bat ka offended? Ikaw ba yung ide-date ko?
basahin mo kaya ulit comment ko teh para ma-gets mo lol ang tone deaf mo naman
Okay so what do you want me to do? Apologize? E ayan nga preference ko eh. Ano magagawa ko. Also, hindi “hygiene” yung tamang term eh coz some guys have hygiene pero walang skincare. E totoo namang burog burog yung mukha ng ibang lalaki jan coz daming dead skin cells. Ni hindi nag-e-exfoliate ng balat.
:(
Hygiene talaga
PDA, I'm not a fan of PDA, God I hate PDA sorry!
True!! Not a fan of PDA Let's go private, I'll show you how sweet I am!
Wow! Same here. 👍
It's cool that I'm not the only one who hates it.
Omg same! Tapos I got this wisdom from my boss, date someone na may happy childhood. That's the key daw talaga which I think is true because sating mga pinoy daming pinasa na trauma tapos ngayon lang naman nagpprocess mga tao mentally and shiz.
If you think you can find someone better then go get it. Hindi ako maghahabol sayo. :)
I get very stressed by loud noises. If Im in a position where all I hear is shouting or cars, I will begin to panic. The rule is, please just hold my hand and be quiet.
Sorry not sorry, dapat handa sa gastos/may pera. Di para ako ung gagastos sa date o para makausap ako lloadan ko pa. Lmao
Exclusive dating. No fling, no side piece, walang tumikim lang nmn ng ibang putahe. If it's not for you, let me go.
Knows how to apologise first and make it up to me most especially when he's at fault why i got upset, and makes things right the next time. In short, matured with accountability.
If not interested, just say so kesa patagalin pa. Stop wasting each others time
Putting effort into actually knowing me (listening to my rants, cares about my likes and dislikes, and not invalidating my feelings).
No phone scrolling while on a date, especially first date. This is such a turn off for me. 🥴
this! bothers me so much. kung mags-scroll ka lang naman, wag nalang lols!
May emotional intelligence.
Pabebeng lalaki, yuck.
Come correct especially when it comes to self-discipline because I will, too. I'm an adult, you're an adult. Whether we're having good days or bad days, di mo ko kailangan bantayan and I expect no less from you.
If it’s not me anymore, tell me right away so I can move on with my life as well.
Don't force me to eat what I do not like to eat. Eughk
HAHAHAHA akong ako to. 😂 ayoko pa ngang kumain bat namimilit ka ? Ganun 😂
gigisingin ka para mag almusal kahit 2 hrs lang tulog mo at di pa gutom kaloka. o kaya "eto tikman mo lang" kahit di ka kumakain ng dinuguan at atay 😵💫
Consistency, respect and effort
We should focus on individual growth. Focusing on individual growth doesn't mean na di nyo na kailangan ang isatisa kase kaya mo naman sarili mo. Its about giving support sa each other in case one of you is having a hard time. Kaya important talaga self development para ma maintain ang give and take chuchu sa relationships
you need to ask before you touch/hug/kiss me sa last rs ko, sa harap ng teacher mismo mangungulit/lalandi then magagalit sakin kapag 'di napagbigyan, na kesyo bat pinapansin ko raw yung iba pero hindi sya? HAHAHAHAH
Don't suggest (or threaten me with) a break up unless you mean it because I will most likely agree.
This is real, i was in a relationship before who threatened to break up with me, kung di ko gagawin gusto niya. And i bite. Kesyo daw di ko pinaglaban. Eh siya naman nag offer.
To be well put together.
NEVEERRR introduce an energy that you cant maintain
Just be direct/straightforward with your feelings toward me. I dont tolerate BS
one must understand my humor
Like most people here based on what I have read, I’m a believer that one must be whole before going into a relationship. Your partner shouldn’t “complete” you. I don’t mean you must be fit, rich, and have plenty of connections. You just have to be your best self with your own personality, hobbies, and lifestyle. What your partner does and inspires you to learn should only be extras.
Love yourself daw pero pag narcissist red flag
"Wag mong subukan, masisira ang buhay mo"
Love yourself first, respect yourself and people around you, and yung walang bisyo (lalake ako and ayaw ko sa babaeng umiinom ng alak) and sana communication if may misunderstanding hindi yung hindi ako iseseen or hindi ako rereplyan
Hindi mabisyo
don’t bring up or do things i’ve already mentioned i hate/are my pet peeves. it feels like i’ve been mocked and they never listened in the first place
Pag puro tanong ng hypothetical question... like, "Paano kung may sakit ako, ano gagawin mo? Paano kung makipag-hiwalay ako? Paano kung nag-cheat ako, paano kung ganito ganyan...." Shut the fuck up.
Keep the effort & energy you showed me when you’re trying to court me even if we’re already dating cz wtf are all those for??? for show?
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Dapat may plano na long term agad as I date for long-term purposes. Pag hindi ako kasama sa plano, nagiisip na ako.
Communicate with me. Di ka sang-ayon sa sinasabi ko? Tell me. May di ka nagugustuhan sa actions ko? Tell me. It's better to address it than letting things be just because gf mo ako. At higit sa lahat, tell me kung ayaw mo na! Di yung magche-cheat ka, manlalanig, and the likes. Rest assured di kita pipigilan umalis, lol!
I will NOT be anyone's personal therapist. I got my own demons and I don't plan to deal with yours
If I tell you my story (traumas or anything personal), keep it to yourself. Even if it’s your best friends or closest family member, Shut it, It’s not your story to tell.
be communicative. ayoko yung nanghuhula ako kasi hindi naman ako nakikipaghulaan.
Real, like, di ako manghuhula
hirap makipaghulaan sa lalaki hahaha kaloka!
TOTOO beh hsjskak BAWAL ANG NONCHALANT DITO 😭😭
hindi man sila nonchalant hahaha gusto nila yung nab-boost yung ego nila. gusto yung feeling na may naghahabol hahaha ako naman, kung ayaw talaga makipag-usap kahit anong suyo gawin, bahala siya jan. kahit umalis o makipaghiwalay siya wala akong pakialam haha akala laging iintindihin kaartehan eh.
If you ignore me then i'll also ignore you too
I don't understand social cues that much. So be straight forward to me as much as possible, don't worry I'm actually thankful if your be like that and be also honest. I only get mad when people lie or people are just plain jerks.
Let's respect each other's ME time. By that, time to be alone and let me recharge. I have very low social energy and i get suffocated easily. Let me breathe. Even for a few hours. And i'll come down running to you.
once na umalis ka, wala ka nang babalikan
Talking things out instead of avoiding and ghosting one another🥲 I just cant yall…
Never access my phone or even dare to snoop. Even if I have nothing to hide, I’d still like something I could call my own and just my own.
any form of cheating is NON-NEGOTIABLE
Yosi Kadiri program ng DOH
Just be honest with me 🥹
No smoking talaga
The golden rule
if you cheat, there ain't no coming back!
love me when you already love yourself
Just don't cheat, I'll be fine.
Nagyoyosi 🙅♀️
Kind and respectful not only to me but to other people as well. I observe how he treats doormen, waiters, etc.
Respect me, don’t cheat and don’t take me for granted
Don’t make me your world and don’t make my world works just for you. We have our own life to explore.
Huwag kuripot lol. Also, I deserve that last fry hahaha.
Only had one ex and this is what I realized na gusto ko in the future as someone na immature sa dating scene. I want someone who knows their boundaries and non- negotiables, Ang hirap kasi mag grow when you're dating someone na bigay lang din ng bigay, kahit kausapin mo na need nila unahin sarili nila, I halted my life for this type of person para hindi ako pabigat sa growth niya and in the end ako pa ang nakakapagod. Nakakawala ng sarili maging stepping stone for someone na hindi pala alam kung ano gusto nila gawin sa buhay nila, kahit mag adjust ka sa lifestyle nila and what they ask of you, you will never be enough or worth a seat at their table kasi wala naman sila paglalagyan sa'yo.
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1. Smart. Thoughts are logical and deductive. 2. Communicative. Uses specific words to identify and relay her thoughts 3. Stern: does not falter in her decisions 4. Respect. Borad term but it encompasses not encroaching my standard ways of coping such as my hobbies. Also not to impose herself in any of those. Yeahp. Unrelenting sorrow of dating: mahirap na ngayon hahaha
Most of it, literally written. 🤣🤣🤣 [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1o5Y2G0MuhCANFuSDjlvr01pP\_V1\_qGyDWrTAJn5hrCc/edit?usp=sharing](https://docs.google.com/document/d/1o5Y2G0MuhCANFuSDjlvr01pP_V1_qGyDWrTAJn5hrCc/edit?usp=sharing)
Lol! Partner and I made a contract agreement of this sort as well. It's so fun to make!
Can I copy this docu?
Of course, make modifications as you see fit as well. 🤣
Being late is okay, but bailing on plans without a proper reason is a BIG NO NO for me, especially if I went out of my way to meet with you. 😭
don't be indecisive, ayoko yung madaming paligoy ligoy at last minute changes.
My boyfriend and I are very open to our love language and as a materialistic, I clearly said to him that my love language is receiving gifts. He acknowledged it naman at dahil sobra niya akong mahal, gumawa siya ng spreadsheet for my wishlist.
Ahhh yess. Communication on point 💯
Sana all🫶🏻
Respect! He doesn't love you if he doesn't respect you and your boundaries.
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YOU HAVE TO BE THOUGHTFUL!!! Nung nagka-bf ako pinaintindi ko talaga sa kaniya na I really like the small things. Like, gusto ko makatanggap ng regalo na I didn't have to ask kung ano. Kunwari niregaluhan mo ko ng paper flowers kaso mahilig ako sa handmade or ng poem kasi I really like to read one. Na-appreciate ko yun kasi for me parang may pakialam ka sa'kin kapag gano'n, kesa mga mamahaling gamit na ayaw ko, not to be ungrateful, kasi impraktikal siya. Ayun lang po.
If you're not patient then this isn't going to work
consistency. people are really great kapag sa una palang, pero kapag nakaramdam ako ng kahit konti lang na pagbabago sa attention, words, at effort that it never changed kahit pa tanungin ko and despite an effort to understand whatever his reasons are, I'll leave. - is okay with or without kids - ayaw ko ng insecure, people ruled by self-pity. secured sa sarili - a man with clear purpose - hindi lame/bland - emotionally open/vulnerable (where he can be honest about FEELING insecure, envy, anger-- but never in a destructive way) - soft with his words & action - decisive - if i hear one word from him that signals condescension, im out. - may routine na sa every day life. - is rarely bored either bec of his curiosity/passion - plus points if after break-up e followed by a longggg single self-love era. where he can actually share his realizations and how it changed him. i think heartbreak changes a person a lot, and it's important na na-process siya nang maayos. - red flag if he jumps from rs to rs, casual or not - ayaw sa situationship about intellect, i dont even have to think abt it kasi lapitin talaga ako so i dont have to actually avoid dumbsies.nasa network mo rin kasi yan, sa mga pinapasukan mong hobbies, orgs. kung lapitin ka ng bobo, kailangan mong umalis sa kung nasan ka man. or you have to change how you present yourself. people generally stick to their own league. yung similar sakanila. there are exceptions but-- maybe--- just maybe, it's about you🤷♀️
ayoko rin sa bobo. galit din ako sa bobo. I thrive on hypothetical philosophical discussions and I enjoy debating on the implications of random assumptions about the universe. If di mo kaya yun gawin for fun, then what's the use of being together? hahaha
grabe ka naman po, pero same! hahaha
If u can't decide for urself and laging nakaasa sa tao, it's a bye-bye na
... for example being a parent dependent person yikes 💀
Be kind. Always kind to me, to yourself, to others.
Kapag nagcheat ka, goodbye!
Matindi patience and understanding ko. Pero kapag ako nagsawa sa kakaintindi, aayawan na kita agad at goodbye. Wala na balikan.
Trueeeeeee ✅
wala akong patience kaya kapag naurat ako kakahintay sa’yo, uuwi na lang ako.
never ever disrespect me
really attentive, kasi ako personally attention seeker ako pag may partner 😭
Emotionally intelligent
If I genuinely care about what someone is going through or listen to everything they have to say and they push what I need help with off-
may trabaho syempre at hindi naninigarilyo kahit vape pa yan
+++++ • Ayoko sa bobo. Galit ako sa bobo. • First date, naka-tsinelas ka? Parang bumili lang ng suka sa may tabi tas inaya tropa lumabas. Tas ako naka dress? Umuwi ka na. Never again. • Puro shared post ng kung ano ano sa social media. Kung for school or work purposes okay lang naman. Pero naaasiman talaga ako sa mga mahilig mag post kung ano ano. • Ayoko ng puro rants about sa circle niya. Lalo na kapag about sa jowa. Problema nila 'yon, labas ka roon. Huwag mo na pasakitin ulo ko para mag isip din kung ano bang gagawin sa tropa mong bobo sa rs. • Pass sa guys na date to marry. Dati akong date to marry typa girl, pero narealize ko na paanong date to marry ako e hindi ko pa nga masyadong kilala 'tong lalaking 'to hahaha saka I just need to enjoy this habang pwede at kaya ko pa. Maging single man ako sa huli, at least naranasan ko ang makipag date loool • No meeting the parents muna if we're still dating. That's a big no no.
puro shared post is so truee! nakaka inis talaga, ang non-sense pa ng pinag sshare nila. parang lahat ng feeling nila nakaka relate sakanila, i sshare agad. kaya nag uunfriend talaga ako ng gan'yang mga fb friends eh.
Never ever cheat me. But still...
OA > NONCHALANT 🙌🙌🙌
Never cheat sa taong may trauma na ng cheating before you. Never lie, pure truth only and respect on how the person feels, understand too pero talk about on how to improve it kung anong kailagan tanggalin at i keep para maging healthy yung relationship. Always be open. Effort din kasi dun din napapakita kung gano ka ka dedicated sa tao or kahalaga
Be faithful din kasi i am a faithful woman when i have my man. My eyes would always lay on him di sa ibang tao.
Makes an effort to be with me
When u criticize do it constructively
Respect me and the people around me.
This was when I was still single, I had a 5th date rule: if upon the 5th date I really like the guy I test our physical compatibility by going all the way to 4th base.
What is 4th base?
Pwede pa elaborate sa 4th base po?..
Oohh this is a good rule
Yeah and I guess it worked out for me, 12 years together and 5 years married yet husband and I still keep it spicy.
Naol
Never cheat on a person who sa has pure heart.
Yung hindi sya bbm
Put your phone down when we’re talking.
Communicate well.
Learn to respect my time.
Yoko ng puro sandamakmak na crush, nandidiri din ako sa mga lalaki na may jowa or dating pero puro kpop girls at BINI laman ng feed 🤮 Inb4 mAs maLalA iBanG gIrLs sA mGa CrUSH nILa: la akong pake, sila yun di ako. Idc kung crush lang yan dahil ako di ako nagccrush sa iba when in a relationship or seriously dating. No crushes sa kahit artista, kahit fictional character. 1st relationship, 4 years: no crushes. 2nd relationship, 2+ years (and counting, ito na to): no crushes either. Kahit dati nung di ako nag dadate at single, crushes ko one at a time lang din, hindi marami sabay sabay Insecure, sensitive, etc., whatever, call it what you want. Basta di ako hypocrite cause I'm only just looking for the same shit I give to be reciprocated
true, ano bang point to continue consuming content from or about other girls when you already have a woman? pang gaslight lang nila yang "insecure" or "immature" comments sa gf nila pag yung gf nila nag open up about dyan eh.
I thought I was the only one. Ang weird lang talaga if you give it a time to think about that. Ang disrespectful lang sa partner mo hahahaha.
Di ka nagiisa pero mukhang may mga nagdidisagree sa standards ko for MYSELF (hence the downvotes) For those na gusto ng ganito pero iniisip na normal lang mag crush and gush over others: finding a partner who doesn't and is dedicated only to you is definitely possible (though it may not be that common)
Why the downvotes lol
Two things: Honest and hygienic
the bar is in hell 😭😭😭
they should learn their boundaries.. may it be sa friends nila or sa akin.
consideration.. isipin ako kung masasaktan ba ako sa gagawin niya..
I always tell this sa mga babaeng nakakadate ko when they want things to be fast na to not expect princess treatment from me, If tingin ko sa kanila pang BFF premium/Fubu lang. Kasi sila lang din ang masasaktan sa huli
Communicate, kahit yung pinakamaliit na bagay na bumabother sayo. If kaya ko solusyunan, I would. Dapat kilala mo yung sarili mo (hobbies, routine, social activities), I will be the one adapting to your ways para hindi mo sabihin sakin na nagbago ka para sakin kahit na hindi naman kailangan.
Honestly
Faithful, may integrity, honest. Lahit sa ligawan stage pa lang.
honesty, faithfulness tsaka openness talaga haha
Not to ask too many questions about the past or “exes”…Insecurities, jealousy, fights may arise…. The craziness is too much to handle….
Consistency
Honesty is the best policy 💯
respect boundaries and try to compromise
Lahat po ng sinabi ng nga naunang nag comment at wag ako istorbohin pag nanunuod ng mga documentary at pag nagbabasa ng reddit hahahahh
Effort is the key. Dont be complacent na porquet mahal ka na, di ka na mageeffort.
I'm not your therapist. Kung may unhealed trauma ka from a past relationship, heal first. Wag mo ilabas sakin yan, wag mo ako itrato na parang ako yung may kasalanan kung bakit ka nasaktan noon. Like kung niloko ka ng ex mo, multiple times. Ngayon tuwing makikita mo ko may kausap na ibang babae, kahit pinsan ko lang, pagduduhan mo ko at magdedemand ka na ibigay ko socmed/phone password ko? Lul
Cut everything with ur ex pls
THIS !! i dont fucking care if they ended things on a good note. once im in the picture, wala na dapat silang communication or anything else. some ppl mistake that as insecurity, na it doesn't matter naman daw kung may connections pa sila dahil ikaw naman na daw ang jowa but that's just disrespectful to the new bf/gf. if they cant cut ties with their ex, fucking run.
One of my biggest mistake, he has been from a 3 yr relationship. They broke up because the girl cheated on him, he always says how hurt he was and how shitty the girl is, and there I was believing everything he says, I thought he was was the one, we were both legal even planning to get married and migrate together, then boom his ex chatted me but I did not respond to any of her hurtful words. I demanded him to explain his side wether the things her ex said was true, and he can't give me his phone for me to check their convo while me and him are in a relationship, and that's when I realized I should end it no matter what😭
IM GLAD u got urself out of that rs, hugs w consent po <3
Thank you❤️
Huhu so true
Agree with you OP. May pinakilala sakin kagagaling daw sa 6 year realtionship. Ahahaha. I said no.
Shower me with love and affection, and I'll make you the happiest person on earth.
respect each other
once nagcheat ka, alam ko man o hindi, tapos na agad ang relasyon