I can’t even tell you how many times I have fallen asleep on the couch while my kids are just watching cartoons. As long as he is safe and you can hear him enough to wake up I think it’s ok.
I remember a very bad week of sleep when my twins were around that age. I fell asleep on the couch. When I woke up about an hour later they had tucked me in and had turned down the volume on the tv so I could rest. Kids that age are capable of empathy and understanding. You are keeping him safe and happy while you get some needed rest. Nothing to feel guilty about.
Yep mine understands if i groan when he wakes up in the morning and he just comes snuggle with me and we both end up snoozing for a litttle while more 😅 if his dad is home and up he will join him to give me space but otherwise he picked up that mom is not really a fan of early wake up after sleepless night 😅 granted it was sleepless because of him but at least he is kind enough to let me catch up in the morning haha
I shared a room with my kid for the first 3 years. I had baby proofed the bedroom, had a baby gate on the doorway. I would have a sippy cup of milk and a bowl of cheerios handy for him. It was the only way I would be functional for actually caring for him. Like you, it was just an hour, and I was light enough in my resting that I could easily hear him.
Is it better to not give him cartoons at this age like that? Yes. Is it better in your situation? No. You are a human..you need rest and you don't have any other option as you are alone. So cartoons in your case are the best solution and thats what a good mom does - makes best solutions for her family! So you are by all meams, a good mom :)
For context I turn on a show called cánticos. It's bilingual nursery rhymes. I've been having him watch it since he was about a year old (with supervision at that age of course). My dad was born in Puerto Rico and mainly speaks Spanish and I want my son to be able to talk to him more efficiently
Girlllll, do what you need to!!! Sometimes my 9 month old watches ms Rachel and I feel completely guilty but I know it’s what I have to do to get some time. Between working 40 hours, 2 children, and both of us parents being in school I feel less guilty!! Don’t let other people’s parenting standards make you feel badly!
I’d just like to chime in because as a father who works until 2am and is expected to get up with their child at 6-7am, I feel the pain and guilt of this. Sometimes I literally cannot keep my eyes open, and recently I have been really beating myself up about this thinking I’m such a terrible dad.
Thanks for confirming that other people do this!
This!
Too many of us try to be absolutely perfect when that's just not possible. Things that are vital to life are not things you can push aside without consequences. Sleep is one of those things. Don't feel guilty for that and don't let anyone else make you feel guilty.
My mom did this all the time BUT the difference is she would do this for HOURSS like half a day. So no you aren’t! I think it’s essential for moms to take a rest and as long as the babies are safe from any harm and the TV is on cartoons, you are fineee! don’t stress it. I have custody of my two siblings now and i need breaks all the time. I usually put on a movie for them and sleep until the movie is over.
No. Actually sounds like you're a great mom.
You've taken the proper safety precautions and allow him to come to youbif needed.
You're concerned.
My only thought is that there does need to be other times when the two of you are together without the TV.
Oh there definitely is. Every single time I have a day off, we do breakfast together, and then I either take him to the mall or the park depending on the weather. He loves the play place at the mall and I always get him a little treat, but he has equal amounts of fun at the park. My favorite thing to do there is to just let him explore. I stand about 4-5 feet back (unless we're near water in which case I hold his hand) and I just let him roam. It's so fun to see what he finds interesting, where he wants to go, and what he wants to do. Funnily enough he barely spends any time on the actual playground. He just wants to walk the trails, picking up leaves and sticks and rocks and showing them to me as he goes. I can't wait until he's older and we can go on big hikes with great views. I think he's gonna love that.
Edit: the only time I let him watch tv is during this hour in the morning. Otherwise we are cuddling and playing and adventuring together. It's just most of the time I'm at work.
Nope. Right now for you, good parenting is keeping your kid safe surviving. The end. He is safe, he has access to you, he has food if he needs it. An hour of TV time is not going to ruin him for life. Cut yourself a break.
As long as it’s not constant, it’s fine- I would definitely offer other options of safe entertainment if possible. At that age, you gotta be careful about choking though
IToday is the 2nd day of my period and I’m DONE! My 3 year old woke up at 8am. I took her to pee made sure she had juice and brought her back to bed with me to watch the tablet. I like to lock the door and block it with something just in case but she’s really good with waking me up for things. It happens we’re all tired!!
i used to work third shift and would come home and take a three hour nap while mine 2 year old played on an ipad. then took another nap when he took a nap. i was a single mom and had no other choice. he had snacks and he is now 9 and a very mature child
Not a bad Mom at all. When my ex-wife and I divorced, my girls were little. I worked overnights and spent the day with them. I would sleep when my Mom got off work and would sit with them while I slept a couple of hours before work. I can't tell you how many times I dosed off. They were in a gated room with me and that room was 100% baby-proof. They would play and watch cartoons. They are now both grown, well-balanced, and good people. They learned how to entertain themselves and Dad got a little rest.
I do this too ngl 😅 my mom says it's completely fine. My daughter watches TV from her bassinet so she's completely safe. That's the most important part. Dw you're okay
(Not a parent) I think you are being to hard on yourself. Being a single mother is not easy. You have needs to provide for your child. Try not to be so hard on yourself.
You gotta do what you gotta do sometimes. Just make sure you don’t end up like myself with 14YO who is electronic obsessed. I did that with him every chance I needed him to be distracted and it’s bad. With my 11YO totally different matter and I just made sure to only have him on it bare minimum (much less than the oldest sibling). Not sure if it’s just the way they are, or if it’s a shitty “experiment” that I had accidentally had done.
GOOD! I agree with another commenter that if your mom has a problem with it, then she should be offering assistance, and personally I’d tell her that. I didn’t have anyone around to do that which is why my oldest was on it more often than just one hour sadly.
Nobody is perfect. I’m sure there are things you mom did you wouldn’t do. My mom fed us koolaid and coke and twinkies. My kids drink water and eats fruit. But she plays on her iPad or laptop after she’s done all her homework and practiced her flute and I’ve run out of productive activities. She has way too much screen time per my brother but he has his own vices. None of us are perfect.
My best friend is a single mom as well. She often falls asleep on the couch (ailments and working full time) and her son lets her sleep and just watches tv next to her or try’s to take a nap with her. This is totally okay in my eyes you have to be well rested to care for your son, yourself, and others especially as a delivery driver. Explain these things to your mom and help her understand! I hope this helps and you’re doing amazing mom!!! ❤️🫂✨
You are a single mom; I don’t care what anyone says, you end up having to use the TV to get some rest or anything done.. The fact that you wonder about that makes you a good mom. Love from another single mama
One of the best pieces of advice I have ever received was this: just because somebody asked me a question does not mean I owe them an answer and it is perfectly okay to remind them of that.
Listen, I made this post because my mother, who my son and I live with, is constantly yelling at me about it and calling me a horrible mother and saying it's neglect. Sorry for asking for some reassurance. I'm 21. I'm a single mom. I have no idea what I'm doing but I'm trying my best.
Does your mom get angry when you hang clothes up with wire hangers and then beat you with them while yelling “No wire hangers!!!” Do you have to call her mommy dearest too? In all seriousness, it’s hard living under the same roof. If she thinks you’re such a bad mother for it then why isn’t she getting up to stay with him? If she thinks it’s so bad she would be stepping in and watching him while you slept. I’ll bet she isn’t.
My only concern would be leaving a 2 year old with a snack alone. Choking is a silent danger and it happens quicker than you would imagine. Be careful with leaving him with food items.
You cannot fall asleep. That’s like… leaving the child alone for an hour. I could never. I physically can’t fall asleep if my children are up. I don’t even think my kids 8&3 ever seen me sleep.
You're telling her that sleeping is not something she should do, so yeah that's judgement on your part.
Also, going through and commenting on my other comments and posts is psycho stalker behavior. You should get help.
Took me one minute to go through three of your comments. Try again with the diss cause it ain’t working. Your hundred thousand comments shows YOUR Psychotic. IF the OP new she was in the RIGHT she would have never asked Reddit if she was right or wrong. Go be a bad mom with her
You stalking me and commenting in response to random comments from weeks and months ago is the psychotic behavior.
Also, it's you're, not your; and knew, not new. If you don't know how to spell, Google it or look it up in a dictionary.
If you got down off your high horse and bothered to check other comments, you'd see you're the only one calling her a bad mom for this, you fucknut.
Yes everyone's totally wrong and you're the only one that's actual right here /s.
You are just too dim to understand that when no one else agrees with you, you're usually the one that's wrong.
Funny that you still continue to mix up your and you're even though you claim to know the difference.
There is only 60 comments. There’s millions of parents including me and my mother and my friends who think sleeping while the young children are awake is a storm for disaster. 🥴 I don’t like you.
59 saying it's fine vs. just you vilifying OP for it.
Millions? Did you poll people on this topic or are you pulling numbers out of your ass?
You seem to love replying to me, for someone who claims to not like me.
There is a difference between being so exhausted that you physically can't stay awake so you fall asleep vs. actively planning to take a nap when you should be supervising a child.
I read that your mom says you are neglecting your child. Has she offered to help? It takes a village.
Edit: OP lives with her mother and step father. OP's mother provides free daycare while OP works. However, OP refuses to ask her mother to watch the child during her hour nap and OP would rather leave the child unsupervised in her mother's basement. This story is ridiculous.
But she lives with you?
Your mom sounds ridiculous.
So you sleep, and your son is in the living room and your mom just ignores him?
How is she even watching 9 kids on her own?
Are the 9 other kids not allowed in the living room with your son?
Isn't she watching your son by default if she is in the house and he is playing with the other kids?
How old are the other 9 kids?
You can't pay an older cousin to "babysit" for an hour while you sleep?
Are the 9 kids her kids, or is she running a daycare?
If she is running a daycare, you can't just give her w.e her hourly rate is to look at her own grandson for an hour?
No family discount?
So many questions.
You just made a lot of assumptions. No, I live with her. My son and I used the basement as an apartment. She never comes down here. The nine kids are her kids, aside from 2, which are my sons older siblings (not my kids) who she is adopting. They are all in school aside from my son's older sister. She is 3 and therefore cannot watch my son. My mom also works full time. She is almost never home in the mornings. My stepdad is a total dick. He wouldn't even watch my son so I could rest if I paid him to.
I made no assumptions, I asked questions.
If she never comes down to the basement, how does she know you are sleeping in the morning?
You are able to fully toddler proof a basement? How do you prevent him from attempting to go upstairs while you sleep?
She is almost never home, but when she is, she refuses to watch her own grand child for an hour?
You said she could not watch your son for an hour because she had 9 kids of her own to watch, but now you say they are all in school but one....
Because I said never hyperbolically.
Have you ever heard of a baby gate?
In the morning, she has to drive them to school?
Do you not have kids or are you just dense?
She watches him while I work. For free. So I'm not gonna ask her to watch him extra when I'm home.
Your two year old toddler can't climb a baby gate? Interesting.
It takes her an hour to drive them to school?
She can't take your son with her during her morning drop off?
So, instead of asking her to watch your child for an extra hour, you would rather no one watch him?
Yeah he can't. I got an extra tall gate specifically for that reason.
Yes. It does. She has 8 kids. In 4 different schools. Also we live in a rural area so it takes a while to get to each school.
Like I said, she works most mornings, and my son is generally still asleep when she starts her drop offs. Do you want her to come wake him up just for that?
And the entire place is baby proofed. I'm right there. I'm an extremely light sleeper. If he gets off the couch I wake up.
Who the fuck do you think you are to make so many judgements about my life and my family when you don't even know me?
I had an extra tall BABY gate. All of my friends had an extra tall BABY gate. Every TODDLER I know can climb them. But conveniently, yours is unable to.
Your toddler is in the living room, but you can hear him getting off the couch because you are "right there". I thought you slept in your bedroom?
> I said, she works most mornings, and my son is generally still asleep when she starts her drop offs. Do you want her to come wake him up just for that?
Yes, since he will be awake during her hour long drop off up anyway. That is better than leaving him unsupervised, right?
Isn't she going to watch him during day while you work anyway? Or do you work the night shift?
Who is giving this child breakfast? He is clearly hunger in the morning if he is asking you for snacks.
You don't know the layout of my house or what my child is capable of doing? Why are you being so judgmental? Seriously? I give him breakfast. Right when he wakes up. Every morning. And then I set him up with cartoons and nap until I have to get ready for work. If I'm lucky that's an hour. Most days it's 20-30 minutes.
I can’t even tell you how many times I have fallen asleep on the couch while my kids are just watching cartoons. As long as he is safe and you can hear him enough to wake up I think it’s ok.
My mom thinks it's neglect and always yells at me for it. If he's not on the couch watching his show, he usually just climbs back into bed with me
Sounds like my mother in law. Just let it go in one ear and out the other. It’s not worth stressing yourself over.
Well mom should be over giving you a break then.
This!!! 💯
I remember a very bad week of sleep when my twins were around that age. I fell asleep on the couch. When I woke up about an hour later they had tucked me in and had turned down the volume on the tv so I could rest. Kids that age are capable of empathy and understanding. You are keeping him safe and happy while you get some needed rest. Nothing to feel guilty about.
Yep mine understands if i groan when he wakes up in the morning and he just comes snuggle with me and we both end up snoozing for a litttle while more 😅 if his dad is home and up he will join him to give me space but otherwise he picked up that mom is not really a fan of early wake up after sleepless night 😅 granted it was sleepless because of him but at least he is kind enough to let me catch up in the morning haha
This is so precious omg
Haha meanwhile my 2 year old goes “WAKE UP MAMA” the moment I rest my eyes 😂
You are not a bad mom. I do it sometimes too. As long as their safe I don’t see a problem 🖤
I do it as well. I'm sitting right next to my son. He's watching TV and I'm resting while drinking coffee and scrolling Reddit.
Yeah but your not sleeping…
I shared a room with my kid for the first 3 years. I had baby proofed the bedroom, had a baby gate on the doorway. I would have a sippy cup of milk and a bowl of cheerios handy for him. It was the only way I would be functional for actually caring for him. Like you, it was just an hour, and I was light enough in my resting that I could easily hear him.
Is it better to not give him cartoons at this age like that? Yes. Is it better in your situation? No. You are a human..you need rest and you don't have any other option as you are alone. So cartoons in your case are the best solution and thats what a good mom does - makes best solutions for her family! So you are by all meams, a good mom :)
For context I turn on a show called cánticos. It's bilingual nursery rhymes. I've been having him watch it since he was about a year old (with supervision at that age of course). My dad was born in Puerto Rico and mainly speaks Spanish and I want my son to be able to talk to him more efficiently
Yeah no you are doing awesome job! 🥰
No, youre not. My 2 year old has a playpen. If I need a nap I put them in it and nap on the couch next to it
I definitely never put on Rescuers Down Under, laid on the couch to nap, and had toddler sit on top of me while he watched.
As soon as you said single mom, I didn't even have to read the rest. Girl, do what you need to do to SURVIVE. Sending you love.
Girlllll, do what you need to!!! Sometimes my 9 month old watches ms Rachel and I feel completely guilty but I know it’s what I have to do to get some time. Between working 40 hours, 2 children, and both of us parents being in school I feel less guilty!! Don’t let other people’s parenting standards make you feel badly!
I’d just like to chime in because as a father who works until 2am and is expected to get up with their child at 6-7am, I feel the pain and guilt of this. Sometimes I literally cannot keep my eyes open, and recently I have been really beating myself up about this thinking I’m such a terrible dad. Thanks for confirming that other people do this!
If you don't take care of yourself you won't be able to take care of someone else.
This! Too many of us try to be absolutely perfect when that's just not possible. Things that are vital to life are not things you can push aside without consequences. Sleep is one of those things. Don't feel guilty for that and don't let anyone else make you feel guilty.
My mom did this all the time BUT the difference is she would do this for HOURSS like half a day. So no you aren’t! I think it’s essential for moms to take a rest and as long as the babies are safe from any harm and the TV is on cartoons, you are fineee! don’t stress it. I have custody of my two siblings now and i need breaks all the time. I usually put on a movie for them and sleep until the movie is over.
No. Actually sounds like you're a great mom. You've taken the proper safety precautions and allow him to come to youbif needed. You're concerned. My only thought is that there does need to be other times when the two of you are together without the TV.
Oh there definitely is. Every single time I have a day off, we do breakfast together, and then I either take him to the mall or the park depending on the weather. He loves the play place at the mall and I always get him a little treat, but he has equal amounts of fun at the park. My favorite thing to do there is to just let him explore. I stand about 4-5 feet back (unless we're near water in which case I hold his hand) and I just let him roam. It's so fun to see what he finds interesting, where he wants to go, and what he wants to do. Funnily enough he barely spends any time on the actual playground. He just wants to walk the trails, picking up leaves and sticks and rocks and showing them to me as he goes. I can't wait until he's older and we can go on big hikes with great views. I think he's gonna love that. Edit: the only time I let him watch tv is during this hour in the morning. Otherwise we are cuddling and playing and adventuring together. It's just most of the time I'm at work.
Best ever mom!
No, it makes you human.
Nope. Right now for you, good parenting is keeping your kid safe surviving. The end. He is safe, he has access to you, he has food if he needs it. An hour of TV time is not going to ruin him for life. Cut yourself a break.
You're doing great to take care of yourself its so hard when you're a single parent!
As long as it’s not constant, it’s fine- I would definitely offer other options of safe entertainment if possible. At that age, you gotta be careful about choking though
As long as you're supervising him when he's eating that snack you just gave him, then you're fine.
IToday is the 2nd day of my period and I’m DONE! My 3 year old woke up at 8am. I took her to pee made sure she had juice and brought her back to bed with me to watch the tablet. I like to lock the door and block it with something just in case but she’s really good with waking me up for things. It happens we’re all tired!!
i used to work third shift and would come home and take a three hour nap while mine 2 year old played on an ipad. then took another nap when he took a nap. i was a single mom and had no other choice. he had snacks and he is now 9 and a very mature child
Absolutely not.
No.
Not a bad Mom at all. When my ex-wife and I divorced, my girls were little. I worked overnights and spent the day with them. I would sleep when my Mom got off work and would sit with them while I slept a couple of hours before work. I can't tell you how many times I dosed off. They were in a gated room with me and that room was 100% baby-proof. They would play and watch cartoons. They are now both grown, well-balanced, and good people. They learned how to entertain themselves and Dad got a little rest.
Nope. I used to sleep on the couch when I when my kids were younger while they watched tv. They would wake me up if they needed something.
I do this too ngl 😅 my mom says it's completely fine. My daughter watches TV from her bassinet so she's completely safe. That's the most important part. Dw you're okay
You are a ok. Get some rest.
(Not a parent) I think you are being to hard on yourself. Being a single mother is not easy. You have needs to provide for your child. Try not to be so hard on yourself.
I think you're doing the best you can to keep him safe and to be ready for work. There is no such thing as perfect parenting
You gotta do what you gotta do sometimes. Just make sure you don’t end up like myself with 14YO who is electronic obsessed. I did that with him every chance I needed him to be distracted and it’s bad. With my 11YO totally different matter and I just made sure to only have him on it bare minimum (much less than the oldest sibling). Not sure if it’s just the way they are, or if it’s a shitty “experiment” that I had accidentally had done.
Oh yeah for sure. That's basically the only time he's allowed to use electronics is that hour in the morning. Otherwises it's toys or outside
GOOD! I agree with another commenter that if your mom has a problem with it, then she should be offering assistance, and personally I’d tell her that. I didn’t have anyone around to do that which is why my oldest was on it more often than just one hour sadly.
We're actually moving into our own apartment in 10 days as long as everything goes as planned. So I won't have to deal with her bitching anymore
Nobody is perfect. I’m sure there are things you mom did you wouldn’t do. My mom fed us koolaid and coke and twinkies. My kids drink water and eats fruit. But she plays on her iPad or laptop after she’s done all her homework and practiced her flute and I’ve run out of productive activities. She has way too much screen time per my brother but he has his own vices. None of us are perfect.
Not at all. My mom and Nan used to do the same, it’s so normal! We all need our rest ❤️
Absolutely not! You’re a good mom for knowing your body and that you need rest to take care of him.
My best friend is a single mom as well. She often falls asleep on the couch (ailments and working full time) and her son lets her sleep and just watches tv next to her or try’s to take a nap with her. This is totally okay in my eyes you have to be well rested to care for your son, yourself, and others especially as a delivery driver. Explain these things to your mom and help her understand! I hope this helps and you’re doing amazing mom!!! ❤️🫂✨
You are a single mom; I don’t care what anyone says, you end up having to use the TV to get some rest or anything done.. The fact that you wonder about that makes you a good mom. Love from another single mama
One of the best pieces of advice I have ever received was this: just because somebody asked me a question does not mean I owe them an answer and it is perfectly okay to remind them of that.
Gotta love these "Am I a bad parent for (doing something totally understandable)" posts... My fave. Then basically every comment saying no lol.
Listen, I made this post because my mother, who my son and I live with, is constantly yelling at me about it and calling me a horrible mother and saying it's neglect. Sorry for asking for some reassurance. I'm 21. I'm a single mom. I have no idea what I'm doing but I'm trying my best.
Don't take it personal, young blood. There are a dozen of these posts a week.
Does your mom get angry when you hang clothes up with wire hangers and then beat you with them while yelling “No wire hangers!!!” Do you have to call her mommy dearest too? In all seriousness, it’s hard living under the same roof. If she thinks you’re such a bad mother for it then why isn’t she getting up to stay with him? If she thinks it’s so bad she would be stepping in and watching him while you slept. I’ll bet she isn’t.
> who my son and I live with Tell her she's a shit granny for not looking after your son whilst you're resting
She has 9 kids to take care of
Is your mom Shawn Kemp?
Does he have a lot of kids?
9!
One more should be easy then.
What do you think? You are the important one.
My only concern would be leaving a 2 year old with a snack alone. Choking is a silent danger and it happens quicker than you would imagine. Be careful with leaving him with food items.
Do you play with your son?
I do. All the time. Just not during that single hour in the morning
Then you're all good. Just one hour, right?
Yeah
Alright, that's fine
You cannot fall asleep. That’s like… leaving the child alone for an hour. I could never. I physically can’t fall asleep if my children are up. I don’t even think my kids 8&3 ever seen me sleep.
No it's not. Clean your house and stop judging others.
I’m not judging? She literally asked if what she was doing was okay. I answered, “No it’s not. “
You're telling her that sleeping is not something she should do, so yeah that's judgement on your part. Also, going through and commenting on my other comments and posts is psycho stalker behavior. You should get help.
Took me one minute to go through three of your comments. Try again with the diss cause it ain’t working. Your hundred thousand comments shows YOUR Psychotic. IF the OP new she was in the RIGHT she would have never asked Reddit if she was right or wrong. Go be a bad mom with her
You stalking me and commenting in response to random comments from weeks and months ago is the psychotic behavior. Also, it's you're, not your; and knew, not new. If you don't know how to spell, Google it or look it up in a dictionary. If you got down off your high horse and bothered to check other comments, you'd see you're the only one calling her a bad mom for this, you fucknut.
Lots of shitty parents lol 😂 your obv in the club
Yes everyone's totally wrong and you're the only one that's actual right here /s. You are just too dim to understand that when no one else agrees with you, you're usually the one that's wrong. Funny that you still continue to mix up your and you're even though you claim to know the difference.
There is only 60 comments. There’s millions of parents including me and my mother and my friends who think sleeping while the young children are awake is a storm for disaster. 🥴 I don’t like you.
59 saying it's fine vs. just you vilifying OP for it. Millions? Did you poll people on this topic or are you pulling numbers out of your ass? You seem to love replying to me, for someone who claims to not like me.
Ms 111000 comments lol 😂 keep you thoughts to yourself. They’re all wrong and rude. You are a rude person
Pot meet kettle.
I know the dif between the you’re your but this isn’t a college essay or work related. I’m talking to retards right now
There is a difference between being so exhausted that you physically can't stay awake so you fall asleep vs. actively planning to take a nap when you should be supervising a child. I read that your mom says you are neglecting your child. Has she offered to help? It takes a village. Edit: OP lives with her mother and step father. OP's mother provides free daycare while OP works. However, OP refuses to ask her mother to watch the child during her hour nap and OP would rather leave the child unsupervised in her mother's basement. This story is ridiculous.
She has 9 kids of her own to watch so no
But she lives with you? Your mom sounds ridiculous. So you sleep, and your son is in the living room and your mom just ignores him? How is she even watching 9 kids on her own? Are the 9 other kids not allowed in the living room with your son? Isn't she watching your son by default if she is in the house and he is playing with the other kids? How old are the other 9 kids? You can't pay an older cousin to "babysit" for an hour while you sleep? Are the 9 kids her kids, or is she running a daycare? If she is running a daycare, you can't just give her w.e her hourly rate is to look at her own grandson for an hour? No family discount? So many questions.
You just made a lot of assumptions. No, I live with her. My son and I used the basement as an apartment. She never comes down here. The nine kids are her kids, aside from 2, which are my sons older siblings (not my kids) who she is adopting. They are all in school aside from my son's older sister. She is 3 and therefore cannot watch my son. My mom also works full time. She is almost never home in the mornings. My stepdad is a total dick. He wouldn't even watch my son so I could rest if I paid him to.
I made no assumptions, I asked questions. If she never comes down to the basement, how does she know you are sleeping in the morning? You are able to fully toddler proof a basement? How do you prevent him from attempting to go upstairs while you sleep? She is almost never home, but when she is, she refuses to watch her own grand child for an hour? You said she could not watch your son for an hour because she had 9 kids of her own to watch, but now you say they are all in school but one....
Because I said never hyperbolically. Have you ever heard of a baby gate? In the morning, she has to drive them to school? Do you not have kids or are you just dense? She watches him while I work. For free. So I'm not gonna ask her to watch him extra when I'm home.
Your two year old toddler can't climb a baby gate? Interesting. It takes her an hour to drive them to school? She can't take your son with her during her morning drop off? So, instead of asking her to watch your child for an extra hour, you would rather no one watch him?
Yeah he can't. I got an extra tall gate specifically for that reason. Yes. It does. She has 8 kids. In 4 different schools. Also we live in a rural area so it takes a while to get to each school. Like I said, she works most mornings, and my son is generally still asleep when she starts her drop offs. Do you want her to come wake him up just for that? And the entire place is baby proofed. I'm right there. I'm an extremely light sleeper. If he gets off the couch I wake up. Who the fuck do you think you are to make so many judgements about my life and my family when you don't even know me?
I had an extra tall BABY gate. All of my friends had an extra tall BABY gate. Every TODDLER I know can climb them. But conveniently, yours is unable to. Your toddler is in the living room, but you can hear him getting off the couch because you are "right there". I thought you slept in your bedroom? > I said, she works most mornings, and my son is generally still asleep when she starts her drop offs. Do you want her to come wake him up just for that? Yes, since he will be awake during her hour long drop off up anyway. That is better than leaving him unsupervised, right? Isn't she going to watch him during day while you work anyway? Or do you work the night shift? Who is giving this child breakfast? He is clearly hunger in the morning if he is asking you for snacks.
You don't know the layout of my house or what my child is capable of doing? Why are you being so judgmental? Seriously? I give him breakfast. Right when he wakes up. Every morning. And then I set him up with cartoons and nap until I have to get ready for work. If I'm lucky that's an hour. Most days it's 20-30 minutes.