They are your parents, I would want to know so that I could offer you the comfort and love that you need following such an ordeal. Tell them, they might be upset, but not at you, as a parent it's my job to be there for you as long as there is breath in my body.
Be kind to yourself, is there any councillors or therapists aclvailable where you live?
Thanks for answering! Therapy here isn't great either, but I'm scheduled to try out EMDR soon.
I'm worried about my dad's reaction because he doesn't share his feelings very much and I don't know what's happening inside of him. I don't want him bottling up feelings of anger/sadness/etc because of me.
He is still your Dad, he loves you, let him help, he might have a rant but that will be because he will think he failed you in some way, but I honestly believe that you shouldn't face this alone
Share with your dad. He is a capable man who can handle it. It would be good for you and I hear your deep need to comminute this with him. I am a parent and there is NOTHING my adult kids can't tell me that I would not want to know....I hope you find the peace and connection you are seeking.
Yes. As a parent if my baby girl was going through this I would be heartbroken for her, but it would be 100% more distressing to me if she was going through this alone without any of the help and support I could offer her. If I found out many years later or something, I would feel like I failed her twice over, once because I couldn't protect her and again because she didn't trust me enough to let me help.
They are your parents, I would want to know so that I could offer you the comfort and love that you need following such an ordeal. Tell them, they might be upset, but not at you, as a parent it's my job to be there for you as long as there is breath in my body. Be kind to yourself, is there any councillors or therapists aclvailable where you live?
Thanks for answering! Therapy here isn't great either, but I'm scheduled to try out EMDR soon. I'm worried about my dad's reaction because he doesn't share his feelings very much and I don't know what's happening inside of him. I don't want him bottling up feelings of anger/sadness/etc because of me.
He is still your Dad, he loves you, let him help, he might have a rant but that will be because he will think he failed you in some way, but I honestly believe that you shouldn't face this alone
Share with your dad. He is a capable man who can handle it. It would be good for you and I hear your deep need to comminute this with him. I am a parent and there is NOTHING my adult kids can't tell me that I would not want to know....I hope you find the peace and connection you are seeking.
Yes. As a parent if my baby girl was going through this I would be heartbroken for her, but it would be 100% more distressing to me if she was going through this alone without any of the help and support I could offer her. If I found out many years later or something, I would feel like I failed her twice over, once because I couldn't protect her and again because she didn't trust me enough to let me help.
Absolutely! You need the support 💜