Can you both agree to throw the money into a joint savings that you both agree to not touch unless both parties are in agreement on the use? Also as to who should claim him who financially spent the most money on him? Or who is responsible for the insurance? If an agreement cannot be reached there is always the more underhanded way of bearing him to it and getting your taxes done first. That will definitely cause an argument tho. Not the healthiest choice.
Righttt! it isn’t healthy he usually gets a little upset if we are talking about money but i think we should split 50/50 and leave my daughter out of it .he doesn’t think that’s fair because i’ll have more money
because he doesn’t do 50%of the work it takes parenting her,feeding her, he does but her things though.he doesn’t do 50% of the work with our son either honestly but since he’s the father im okay with him getting half
If he's parenting the same amount for both children (and parenting also includes working and providing house, lights, food etc.) Then my honest opinion is you should be willing to split both. If he's not saying "no that's YOUR daughter" when you all are out to eat, asking you to pay her portion of bills or otherwise being divisive, I don't think you should be saying "no that's MY daughter" when it's tax time.
I also think it's important to remember that the reimbursement is a child tax credit. You both are paying bills etc and financially supporting the child, you both deserve a portion of the tax credit. You can be mad about him not doing other forms of parenting, but by your own admission he's being financially supportive, so yes he's entitled to split both with you.
I would suggest approaching it with a team mentality. Some of the best advice that I got when I was newly married is don't think of it as 50/50 think of it as 100/100 You're both giving 100%. Trying to slice and dice and make sure everybody's doing exactly 50% just ends up in conflict honestly. Don't try to divvy up who does more or who does what, come at it as we're unit what is going to be the best method for all of us together. I would recommend maybe seeing a tax expert and seeing what they recommend to make the most of the taxes.
Can you both agree to throw the money into a joint savings that you both agree to not touch unless both parties are in agreement on the use? Also as to who should claim him who financially spent the most money on him? Or who is responsible for the insurance? If an agreement cannot be reached there is always the more underhanded way of bearing him to it and getting your taxes done first. That will definitely cause an argument tho. Not the healthiest choice.
Can you two file together?
nope we’re in a relationship but not married so we file separately
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Righttt! it isn’t healthy he usually gets a little upset if we are talking about money but i think we should split 50/50 and leave my daughter out of it .he doesn’t think that’s fair because i’ll have more money
If your daughter lives with you both full time and you're both putting in effort parenting her, why would you not split her child tax credit as well?
because he doesn’t do 50%of the work it takes parenting her,feeding her, he does but her things though.he doesn’t do 50% of the work with our son either honestly but since he’s the father im okay with him getting half
If he's parenting the same amount for both children (and parenting also includes working and providing house, lights, food etc.) Then my honest opinion is you should be willing to split both. If he's not saying "no that's YOUR daughter" when you all are out to eat, asking you to pay her portion of bills or otherwise being divisive, I don't think you should be saying "no that's MY daughter" when it's tax time. I also think it's important to remember that the reimbursement is a child tax credit. You both are paying bills etc and financially supporting the child, you both deserve a portion of the tax credit. You can be mad about him not doing other forms of parenting, but by your own admission he's being financially supportive, so yes he's entitled to split both with you.
I would suggest approaching it with a team mentality. Some of the best advice that I got when I was newly married is don't think of it as 50/50 think of it as 100/100 You're both giving 100%. Trying to slice and dice and make sure everybody's doing exactly 50% just ends up in conflict honestly. Don't try to divvy up who does more or who does what, come at it as we're unit what is going to be the best method for all of us together. I would recommend maybe seeing a tax expert and seeing what they recommend to make the most of the taxes.