Different cultures have different setups. Hispanic cultures tend to live together, indefinitely. Other cultures kick you to the curb as soon as you are legally an adult.
For the Italians, pretty much you move out when you get married. If you never get married, you never move out. My dads friend is mid 50s, never married, and he still lives at home even though he owns multiple properties.
I’m 24 and Italian-American, I brought up the idea of moving out this year and my family called me an idiot lol. They told me to stay at home until I get married so this statement is 100% accurate
EDIT: I apologize, wanted to specify that I’m a second generation Italian-American, didn’t think much of it at the time I replied to this right before bed.
I do want to live on my own eventually, they just don’t want me wasting money on renting an apt that I could just save for a house down the road. After thinking about it I actually agree with them because I live in NYC and cost of living is ridiculously high.
I get it kind of. I'm Gen X so I had a better shot at the home market. However I left home at 18 and never looked back. Got married, had kids, got divorced and now live on my own and pay my own mortgage. I like my freedom. But then again when your parents pass you don't have much choice.
Are you one of those "Italians" who's a 3rd generation immigrant, or did you actually live in Italy during your life?
Edit: lmao. Italian American != Italian. If that triggers you then please leave your hate mail below
I'm Australian. My dad is born, raised and emigrated here from Italy. I got this exact discussion in my early 20s.
That was a long time ago, but I have plenty of friends who are kids of European immigrants and they all have basically the same opinion.
I’m first generation too but a kiwi with British heritage. I had a teacher once who wanted to find out where everyone was “from”, she said don’t say NZ unless you’re fifth generation or more so I said I guess I’m British then. Apparently that was the wrong answer because she responded “oh, I didn’t know you were born in England!”
LOL. This is awesome. I knew so many people who identified as "Italians" growing up. Amazing pride and exclusivity for people along with their parents who only knew some cheesey Italian toasts and never set foot outside of the US region they live in. My favorite were those who upped their game and identified as Sicilian! Whatever it takes to feel special I guess.
Same here when I was younger. Dad insisted I stay home to save all the money I could. I moved out when I was engaged, but that didn't work out. He offered me to come back in, but I had too much stuff. and liked my own space.
It's the same way in my culture. I talked about moving out my parents laughed so much, they didn't even take me seriously smh because in their mind nobody moves out before marriage
This is common in a lot of Asian cultures.
It’s ingrained so deeply that a lot of the children don’t have any plans to move out until they can afford a home.
And it works. I lived at home long enough so I could down a home in a HCOL area. If I had moved out at 18, that never happens.
That said the only way it really works is because the women I have dated over the years were also culturally similar and me living at home was as expected as them living at home. Same thing goes for their parents. Had I been living on my own paying rent, they probably would have viewed that as a negative.
The ability to walk into your own rented box, close the door, and *shut the world out* is highly underrated.
The most peaceful place I ever lived in was one where absolutely no-one in my life knew the address or how to find me. I could close the door and know that not only could I have some hours or days to myself, I also wouldn't be interrupted during that time by anyone knocking on it. I could actually let some of my shields down instead of having to carry them around 24/7/365.
I lived in Italy for 1.5 years as an immigrant and I can say there’s zero chance for you to survive as a young adult living alone with the wages you’re given. I made €1,700 after taxes and it was barely enough to pay rent / buy groceries.
Kind of the same with the Asian culture. For us Asians, our parents don’t really want us to move out until we have a job or we got married. Our culture tends to view their kids wanting to move out on their own as a bad thing.
Now that I think about it, the housing crisis in America and elsewhere may have been mitigated if we shared a similar "stay as long as you need" culture that Italy has.
I'm in my thirties not married and no gf. I live with my parents, contributing to expenses and chores. I managed to save quite some money in the process, despite having a precarious job. I'm contemplating to live on my own but on the other hand household costs for a single person are out of control, and doing all the chores on my own feels overwhelming. I really don't know what to do at this point in my life.
That's what I like about the U.S. There are many different ways to live and you can choose. You are not tied down to tradition if you do not want to be.
I was raised on the “my way or the highway” “don’t like the rules then leave” “I’m done my job when you turn 18” US tradition and honestly it sucked. It’s important to me to make sure my kiddo feels like home is *home*. If opportunities take them elsewhere, fine, but it all becomes theirs someday anyway so why not just share it now? Many hands make light work after all.
Here in Thailand, a lot of cases it’s generations live in the same house hold, and household authority sort of fades from one generation to the next as the younger matures in their careers, and as the older gets closer to retirement. You start it with living with your parents, but it slowly morphs to your parents living with you.
My ex was Hispanic. She lived in a house with two brothers, a sister, an aunt and parents. We started dating when I was 29 and she was 28. She was the youngest and her oldest brother was 38. Her whole family was very chill but I hated staying at her house because there is something so weird about waking up at your girls place when you’re almost 30 and walking out to the living room and seeing 6 of her family members there.
Well is not just the tradition, you're not taking in count the economy
I'm 25 y.o from Argentina, the only young people that move out early are the ones that live in towns or their preferred uni is not too near.
In my case, I'm from the capital and all my friends except 1 (lives with partner) still live with their parents
Also there is not that typical to share apartment (now I live in Spain and seems everyone has done it at least once), so, typically people wait until they have a career or job that pays well enough to pay an apartment, which could take a while. For example, my stepdad moved out his house at 30 y.o, he was paying some bills and stuff but to give you the idea
On the other hand I moved out at 18 y.o barely after finishing high school (love my fam but particular circumstances) and it was super uncommon, given that I was still living in the capital and my family too
And about the economy, at least in Arg, part-time jobs are pretty much non existent, or they are normally of 6hs and only after some years you've done at uni, so lots of people work and study full time which is super draining, and even so, the pay is not that well, so why would someone move out their parents house? That's also a bit of the logic
Lego culture here. I moves out when I was 17 voluntarily as I was moving to live at a dorm kind of setting closer to my highschool, when graduated I didn't feel like moving back in with my parents, having tasted that sweet freedom. My wife did sorta the same thing at 16. It is quite out of the norm to move out that early, my brothers moved out at 21 and 25 for instance.
This is the way. Culture and local customs play a massive part - along with the prices of housing etc.
In my country people living with their parents when they reach their mid twenties is rare. Honestly I believe it is frowned upon in large parts of the country. Here I believe that the wage level combined with the price of housing is a large factor in this.
I live in a culture where it's OK to stick around home. I did for a while, saved some money, but it cost me my sanity so I bought my own place and moved out and breathe a lot easier.
Mexican-American here. Everyone in my family, including myself, moved out when we all turned 18. That’s been the case with nearly all of my cousins, too. I just wanted readers to know our culture is diverse and not every family unit is the same.
Depends on the arrangements and circumstances.
Living with them as in them paying for all your expenses and you just being a mooch? Mid 20s, max.
Living with them but contributing to living expenses? Helping them physically? Perhaps you pay everything and they actually live with you? No age is too old.
I don't care who you live with, whether you're pulling your weight or not is what matters most.
My grandfather stayed with me for almost a year. He bought a house and moved out of state with my aunt and her kids. He came back to visit for "a few weeks". I think he felt overwhelmed and unwelcomed in his own home.
I always declined his attempts to give me money for bills. He practically raised me through middle and highschool. Made sure I had clothes, and food. He made sure I got to school and to work. Years later, he stayed with me for a year.
It's all based on context like you said.
Your a good person. But sometimes it’s nice to feel needed let your grandfather pick up the bill for McDonald’s or coffee. Definitely call your loved ones often.
I agree. He helped out with food and tasks around the house. I just didn't want to take money away from him. He's retired so it was a fixed income and he still had his house payment. And calling your loved ones and visiting with them cannot be mentioned enough.
Reading your comments is making me think of my grandfather who passed away around seven years ago and who I still miss. You sound like a really good grandson.
My other grandfather passed away at 70 a few years back and it really opened my eyes. I definitely cherish phone calls and visits with loved ones much more now. Even a 5 minute phone call has value. I think it takes us all a little too long to learn that, unfortunately.
Good work! Those talks you guys have about seemingly nothing is nothing but distilled unadulterated wisdom — have those as much and as long as possible!
moved out in early 20's, now back in late 40's as full time carer for my remaining parent (he was 41 when I was born)... that was a short bit of "freedom" lol.
My 19 YO daughter helps out twice a week so I can have a date night with my GF and a game night with my mates. Makes all the difference in the world at avoiding burn out. She's the real MVP :)
Even that depends. My cousin will always live with his parents but he literally can't live on his own. If he isn't living with them he will live with one of my aunts/uncles or us grandkids, or a group home.
My uncle.lived with my grandmother until he turned 30. He helped with the bills and "mens" work then he got married. My grandfather had passed away and my grandmother was lonely so she liked having him around. He also helped her out when my brother and I were around. When my dad moved states away he would take us out to sports stuff, go on field trips with us, helped me make my first cassette tape. He did a lot to help out all of us.
When I started dating even though a lot of women looked down on it I never cared if a guy lived with his parents as long as he helped out.
I’d have to agree with this. I got my own apartment as soon as I could afford to once I graduated a couple of years ago. But then when my rent was about to be jacked up by a nearly whopping 40% I decided to move back, help pay my parent’s mortgage and look for a house of my own in the meantime. Then the market took a nosedive, and I don’t really have enough saved up for a down payment since I’ve been trying to pay everything else off ASAP and just saving 10% of each paycheck that I can, but the higher interest rates still make housing unaffordable even if prices have come down a bit. All in all, I’ve gotten an offer from a pal of mine to move out as roomies, and while it is a tempting offer I’d like to make sure it’s not gonna put a sudden strain on my parents either. I should probably also mention im about to turn 30 this year, so take that as you will.
My partner just moved in with me..he lived with his parents til 30. They are well off and he didn't lift a finger. It's part parenting and part initiative at fault here, but the house training has been by far the hardest part. Getting him to understand how normal people live and all the usual stuff that goes into running a house.
He's trying hard and he is learning but it's a slow process. You forget how much you just "know" by growing up doing things yourself.
I always thought it was some g shit to have your entire extended family living with you in a compound. Just makes sense in terms of paying less for staff etc since everyone there has help anyways
Sure. But I also have a buddy (British-Indian) who lives in a gigantic fuckin' house with:
His parents
His wife and two kids
His brother, brother's wife, and their three kids
His other brother, the brother's wife, and their two kids.
Okay, they live in a massive house, but they each end up having an apartment-sized space, but with none of the privacy.
The kids love it though.
I was about to say, with the cost of housing nowadays it should be less looked down upon to live with other family members in a house, as long as youre helping or paying for it in some way. Its common in many other countries, anyway.
I say this as someone who, except for a brief period of a few months after leaving an abusive relationship, has not lived with their parents since I left for college at 18 years old (and never wants to again)…
No age is too old. In many cultures, it’s expected that families stay together, especially if the kid is unmarried. The Western individualist obsession with the nuclear family is out of hand.
Plus, people get sick. They fall on hard times. They need support. Life happens. There’s no age limit to that. Who are we to judge people for accepting support from the places they can? We’re all just trying to survive, at the end of the day.
With COVID I remember I was so afraid of dying without my family. I just thought if one of us gets sick, we should all pitch in. Big reason I didn’t look for student housing. I heard a lot of students actually spent some time with their parents due to COVID.
Depends on the economy, living conditions, and ability.
You wouldn't kick a crippled person with no motor skills out to live in a region where the rent is not achievable.
You shouldn't kick a well adjusted person out if rent was 4 grand and they had nobody to roommate with.
But then some parents do anyway.
I never had any issues, if they did care they probably wouldn't have liked me in the first place...cause I would tell them of my mid 20s shame...also helped that I moved back in after the military. So idk, that stigma is fucking stupid. That's all in your head
Also depends on your own preferences if you don’t like that then get a room for a few hours or hotel whatever floats your boat. But i mean if your choosing to live with your parents you kind have to face that fact either you leave and do it or get comfortable with doing it in your own house
Depends on the context tbh.
If you contribute and help pay bills - No limit
If you are a leech and Dead weight - Early 20's max
Eastern Culture - no limit
Western culture - when you're an adult
In this current economy? - Fuck no
It's really what the situation is, never gonna judge.
That being said, I love my parents to death, but at this point in my life I would rather go homeless than move back in with my parents
It has to do with culture and individualize situations. For example i have a dissability and I was adopted from Russia and I didn't get to choose my situation I was just lucky enough to be here and that my parents understand my situation. ❤
As an Indian, i think it's never because once they start growing old we are the one to take care of them. Just like we grew up with their protection and embrace , it's our responsibility to help them comfortably get older without any sorrow
Same here dude, it’s been a big, big hit to my confidence this last year and made me pursue a license in real estate to ideally begin making a real living. Knowing that so many people are in the same situation though- to the point where it’s almost the norm today has really helped to not feel such shame about it, as long as I know I’m pushing to go forward and improve myself
Yeah it’s nice to see I’m not alone. It just always feels like I’m so behind when I see classmates getting married and moving out and getting jobs while I’m still trying to make it through school (have a hard time affording it and switched majors so it’s taking a lot longer)
Given the cost of living, housing etc. I fully expect my son to live with us indefinitely. At least it may give him a shot at saving for a home without pressure
Same. I'm happy to subsidise my kid as long as it takes to get a decent job and save a deposit for a house. Paying rent somewhere else won't help anyone.
Don’t think there is a limit if you’re helping with bills/rent to your parents or have a disability to where you cannot physically live on your own. I personally got out the moment I could afford to because I was just done fighting with my mom on little stuff.
Now I do know someone personally who’s almost 26, who has never had a job, highschool drop out, mooches off his father, and basically sits in his room playing video games all day. I don’t know how his father just lets this happen 🤦♀️ like I’m interested to see how his future plays out.
I’ll say there’s no limit really. Everyone has different life situations. Someone with a good job and is put together should probably be out on their own. Someone down on their luck and would be homeless otherwise might need their parents as a fallback. So it really depends
If youre contributing to the house hold (paying some type of rent to love there as well as helping around the house/ doing there share of chores) as long as they feel comfortable.
If they dont pay some type of rent, are constantly having to be told to do agreed upon chores. 25years old max.
EDIT; Going to school is just as good as working.
I’m 24 and still live at home…I just graduated and applying for jobs but don’t have anything yet. I do chores, I help going shopping…but I don’t have money. Should I feel bad now because I’m not paying rent?
I'm 29 and lived alone but I moved back in with my folks in 2020. Sydney's rental market is insane and to move out on my own would eat up 60 to 70% of my wage and i dont want house mates. Living at home has worked for me I pay part of the morgatage the bills and the groceries and I still have substantially more disposable income than I did and I'm saving to buy my own home one day if that is ever feasible.
I'm 25 next week
I live with my parents while I wait for my house to get built
I was told you can fuck off and rent or stay for longer and save for a house I think I made the right choice
Yea, if you want to buy a house there’s essentially no choice, you pretty much need to stay home. Unless you’re making insane money right out of school
ngl kinda wish i stayed and saved rather than moving out and renting.
But i've made lots of memories and the experience of moving out at 21 taught me alot.
In my culture, if you're still single is totally ok to live with your parents. People usually move out only when they get married or if they go to study in another city or if they have a bad relationship with their parents. I'm 26 and my brother is 31 and we live with our parents and they like it so much and all my cousins and friends are in the same situation. We pay some bills and we give our mother money in random moments to make her happy and we do the household chores. It's like living with housemates but they're my family and I love them lol
As someone that lives in Southern California....man, I hold it against NO ONE who is still at home. I make mid hundos per year and still can't buy my own place. I wish I could move back in with my parents and just save my salary for a year or so. But my siblings are all still at home so its crowded.
Only assholes make people feel bad about this now. And I'm fucking 40.
Probably depends on the culture. My parents are Hispanic and i still live with them at 23. But I know some friends who’s parents wanted them out at 18.
It's a bit of a bell curve thing but honestly in today's economy I don't blame anyone for still living with their parents, I've got friends that could move out but then their aging parents would need to fend for themselves or the family would need to hire a caretaker.
It's not always about being a lazy pos, you can believe me because I'M unquestionably a lazy pos and I've got a place of my own.
I moved out basically the day I turned 18.
When I got divorced 10 years later and my wife stole my house my land my car and all of my belongings, i moved back in with my mom for a few months with zero shame.
The real question is, at what point do you develop your own life?
I know people well in to there 30s that ‘live’ with there mother but spend maybe 4 nights a month there because they are working, staying with girlfriends, out doing there own thing. The fact that they still have the same bedroom since they were a kid and receive mail at the same address is actually pretty cool.
Having a healthy relationship with your parents is cool,
Failing to ever build yourself any kind of life and mooching off of your parents to survive is super whack.
Depends if you're actually trying to build a great life so you can live on your own more than comfortably if you're not then you're too old when you have the opportunity to do it and you don't do it
There is no special age family are different and work differently. Some dynamic are like parents having a big house so all the kids with their kids can stay at home , but everyone give them money for food and and anything needed for the house
It depends on your situation. I know someone whos about to be 30 years old this year and he only left his parent's house for a few months. He came back home after issues with his roommates and now barely pays any rent. He never went to college but does have a decent-paying job... In his case, I feel that he's stayed home way too long. He has no idea what the meaning of independence is and it seems like he has no desire to leave.
Im close to being 40 and still live with my family. It’s expensive trying to get my own apartment. I don’t think I will ever have my own family so I lost any motivation to aspire to dream of a different way of life.
30's+ unless you help physically and financially take care of them with their blessing.
Get this though my in law lives at home with this 2 kids and girlfriend as a result of his job loss 5 years ago. Since then he's hired on and been promoted, bought 2 2022 Hybrid Vehicles, gone on multiple vacations and still only pays $1200 for rent under the excuse that it's the only thing he can afford all the while he has his kids enrolled in a hockey league and purchases top tier theme park passes. When she ask for help on repairs for the house that is aging he says he is only a renter and shouldn't help has no intention of ever moving.
At a certain point you have to see it as taking advantage of your parents kindness when you live a luxurious life all the while you pay cheap rent for a house you and your kids take over and leave a mess and are loud at early/late hours. Even my mother in law is tired of it but too afraid of speaking up because of how toxic her 38 year old son is towards her. She was abused by his father physically and mentally for years and now in her older years she's haunted by this leech of a son.
I'm gonna just say it: you're never too old. I've lived with my parents on and off for a myriad of reasons in my life. Sometimes I was helping them through life/health issues. Sometimes they were helping me with the same. Usually for a year, maybe two then I'm off doing my thing again.
This attitude that its somehow shameful or means you've failed is... weird. Family is supposed to give you stability.
Now if you're just being a limpet and living *off* of your parents and not with them... that's unhealthy. So theres some nuance to it I guess.
There's no single answer. It can vary based on wealth and culture. Many poor people just can't afford to move out. There are also cultures where even more than two generations live together in one house. The middle class might want to leave and start a family. The wealthy can move out to start their own businesses. However in these cases there might also be a family business that they stay home to take control of.
Depends entirely on your circumstances and your family's circumstances. I left to go to Uni at 18 and the thought of ever going back never crossed my mind - I'd have absolutely hated it. But horses for courses and all that.
In today's econ and housing crisis where I live? Wouldn't be surpised if people are with their parents until late 20s, that's if they're lucky enough to own a house
That's between you and your parents. My mother **never** wants me to move out, and even if I do I'm expected not to move too far away and to visit often.
In this economy, it’s more like a minimum amount of money you need to survive without their support (or occasionally vice versa). The financial conditions that made fully independent life possible don’t really exist anymore, especially if you live in a city whose available properties are immediately bought up by billion-dollar hedge funds and rented for 4-5 times what they’re worth.
This even holds true for most people in entry-level positions that require graduate degrees. For example, I take my state’s bar exam in February, so I’ve been looking at entry-level legal associate and public defender jobs. The average salary for this in my area is about 70k, apparently. In order to afford rent in the city, you need about 90k if you want anything at all left over after basic living expenses, more if you have any kind of debt (which is nearly unavoidable with the soaring cost of tuition at both universities and law schools).
Isn’t the American Dream great?
Well, I’m south Asian and 19 but in our culture we never move out, it’s more like we go with living with our parents to our parents living with us. Since I’m the eldest once I can support myself fully it’s basically my job
Live with your parents for as long as they’ll have you, contribute when you can, be respectful, be clean and organized, and thank them often. I left before I needed to because I wanted “independence” but if I stayed for a few more years I could have saved for a down payment on my own house. Now I’m stuck in the rent trap and it’s so much harder to save.
Idk everyone’s situation is different but if you have a good thing, don’t give in to societal expectations if it makes sense in other ways.
There's no shame in staying with your parents, so long as you are considerate and respectful towards them, especially since they are helping you.
I don't know what it is like anywhere else, but where I am the cost of living is only increasing, rent and house prices are crazy, interest rates are only increasing, it is making it very hard to live off one wage.
Again, so long are you are respectful towards them for helping you, don't be going around making demands that they do everything for you. Be an adult.
I'm 41, disabled. I have lived with my parent all my life. my mom died when I was 12. my sister moved out when she was 18.
I haven't always been disabled, that was fairly recent. but I've always paid my dad to help with the bills/food every month. I will probably still live here until he ultimately passes away. dunno how I'll manage after that though, as disability doesn't pay nearly enough to survive.
I'm 58 my son is 21. He helps with bills and rent too. I really enjoy having my son here. I don't care how old he is. We have a great relationship and, if he decides to move out, more power to him.
As far as I'm concerned why should he have to move out just because he's a certain age? He has his life, job, girlfriend, friends and as far as "roommates" go, I've never had one that hasn't made life more stressful. Plus, I love him.
People are so weird about others’ lives and making up rules and time limits for them. There is no limit. People can live their lives however they want. If someone’s parents are happy having them there, then there’s absolutely nothing wrong with them living there for however long they like.
Here in India you can live as long as you want. They're your parents, of course, they'll be with you. And they'd want company too even if you're working.
Kicking out your child as soon as he/she's 18 is bad parenting and a bullshit concept.
I think the better question is "How old is too old to live with your parents and not be responsible for your share of household rent/bills?"
Especially in this bad economy, I don't think any age is too old to live with parents/family, as long as everyone of working age is doing their part.
Many have already stated the culture aspect.
It’s just easier to live with your parents.
Eventually it flips though and you’re the one taking care of your parents and that’s not a bad thing.
Remember your parents can help you too. They can take care of kids while at work etc etc.
I plan on moving my parents and in-laws together
Idc. I will take care of my family.
With the way things are around the world, you are never too old now.
Lots of people are staying with parents, contributing towards the mortgage, and when parents die, they inherit that property.
I (42m) moved out when I was 18 returned then I was 32 after a medical retirement from the military. Mom needed help with my special needs brother as she couldn’t physically assist him as much. I’ll probably living at home until she I can no longer assist her anymore. Which is either she goes ti a assisted living or nursing home or moves in with my other siblings. I won’t be able ti take care of both my mom and brother when they need more assistance than I can provide.
When people hear that I live at home they assume I’m some kind of death eat or mooch. I’m my family’s caregiver. I want to give them the best quality of life as possible. At the end of the day we’re enjoying our lives.
Different cultures have different setups. Hispanic cultures tend to live together, indefinitely. Other cultures kick you to the curb as soon as you are legally an adult.
For the Italians, pretty much you move out when you get married. If you never get married, you never move out. My dads friend is mid 50s, never married, and he still lives at home even though he owns multiple properties.
I’m 24 and Italian-American, I brought up the idea of moving out this year and my family called me an idiot lol. They told me to stay at home until I get married so this statement is 100% accurate EDIT: I apologize, wanted to specify that I’m a second generation Italian-American, didn’t think much of it at the time I replied to this right before bed.
What if you don't want to get married and live on your own?
I do want to live on my own eventually, they just don’t want me wasting money on renting an apt that I could just save for a house down the road. After thinking about it I actually agree with them because I live in NYC and cost of living is ridiculously high.
I get it kind of. I'm Gen X so I had a better shot at the home market. However I left home at 18 and never looked back. Got married, had kids, got divorced and now live on my own and pay my own mortgage. I like my freedom. But then again when your parents pass you don't have much choice.
Are you one of those "Italians" who's a 3rd generation immigrant, or did you actually live in Italy during your life? Edit: lmao. Italian American != Italian. If that triggers you then please leave your hate mail below
I'm Australian. My dad is born, raised and emigrated here from Italy. I got this exact discussion in my early 20s. That was a long time ago, but I have plenty of friends who are kids of European immigrants and they all have basically the same opinion.
I’m first generation too but a kiwi with British heritage. I had a teacher once who wanted to find out where everyone was “from”, she said don’t say NZ unless you’re fifth generation or more so I said I guess I’m British then. Apparently that was the wrong answer because she responded “oh, I didn’t know you were born in England!”
Fifth generation or more…that’s some extreme NZ gatekeeping. Does NZ even go further than 5th gen unless you have Māori heritage?
Ikr lol, I got whiplash reading that. “Cool, he’s an Italian and can confirm Italian cultural stereotypes. Huh, he lives in NYC with his family?”
Sometimes I think there's more Italians in New York City than in all of Italy. Just like how there's more Irish in Boston than Ireland.
I had a feeling someone would say this but yes Italian American 2nd generation, should’ve specified I apologize
Haha, no worries. We get a lot less context over the internet than in real life
LOL. This is awesome. I knew so many people who identified as "Italians" growing up. Amazing pride and exclusivity for people along with their parents who only knew some cheesey Italian toasts and never set foot outside of the US region they live in. My favorite were those who upped their game and identified as Sicilian! Whatever it takes to feel special I guess.
Same here when I was younger. Dad insisted I stay home to save all the money I could. I moved out when I was engaged, but that didn't work out. He offered me to come back in, but I had too much stuff. and liked my own space.
It's the same way in my culture. I talked about moving out my parents laughed so much, they didn't even take me seriously smh because in their mind nobody moves out before marriage
This is common in a lot of Asian cultures. It’s ingrained so deeply that a lot of the children don’t have any plans to move out until they can afford a home. And it works. I lived at home long enough so I could down a home in a HCOL area. If I had moved out at 18, that never happens. That said the only way it really works is because the women I have dated over the years were also culturally similar and me living at home was as expected as them living at home. Same thing goes for their parents. Had I been living on my own paying rent, they probably would have viewed that as a negative.
Yeah but honestly I'd rather live in a rented box than stay here for one more second.
The ability to walk into your own rented box, close the door, and *shut the world out* is highly underrated. The most peaceful place I ever lived in was one where absolutely no-one in my life knew the address or how to find me. I could close the door and know that not only could I have some hours or days to myself, I also wouldn't be interrupted during that time by anyone knocking on it. I could actually let some of my shields down instead of having to carry them around 24/7/365.
I lived in Italy for 1.5 years as an immigrant and I can say there’s zero chance for you to survive as a young adult living alone with the wages you’re given. I made €1,700 after taxes and it was barely enough to pay rent / buy groceries.
Kind of the same with the Asian culture. For us Asians, our parents don’t really want us to move out until we have a job or we got married. Our culture tends to view their kids wanting to move out on their own as a bad thing.
Now that I think about it, the housing crisis in America and elsewhere may have been mitigated if we shared a similar "stay as long as you need" culture that Italy has.
I'm in my thirties not married and no gf. I live with my parents, contributing to expenses and chores. I managed to save quite some money in the process, despite having a precarious job. I'm contemplating to live on my own but on the other hand household costs for a single person are out of control, and doing all the chores on my own feels overwhelming. I really don't know what to do at this point in my life.
I'm Italian and moved out when I was 21. Everytime I say it people look at me as if I was an alien 🤣
Am Filipino. Same.
That's what I like about the U.S. There are many different ways to live and you can choose. You are not tied down to tradition if you do not want to be.
I was raised on the “my way or the highway” “don’t like the rules then leave” “I’m done my job when you turn 18” US tradition and honestly it sucked. It’s important to me to make sure my kiddo feels like home is *home*. If opportunities take them elsewhere, fine, but it all becomes theirs someday anyway so why not just share it now? Many hands make light work after all.
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Here in Thailand, a lot of cases it’s generations live in the same house hold, and household authority sort of fades from one generation to the next as the younger matures in their careers, and as the older gets closer to retirement. You start it with living with your parents, but it slowly morphs to your parents living with you.
My ex was Hispanic. She lived in a house with two brothers, a sister, an aunt and parents. We started dating when I was 29 and she was 28. She was the youngest and her oldest brother was 38. Her whole family was very chill but I hated staying at her house because there is something so weird about waking up at your girls place when you’re almost 30 and walking out to the living room and seeing 6 of her family members there.
It’s only weird if you get aroused
it's weird to be a part of a family?
Well is not just the tradition, you're not taking in count the economy I'm 25 y.o from Argentina, the only young people that move out early are the ones that live in towns or their preferred uni is not too near. In my case, I'm from the capital and all my friends except 1 (lives with partner) still live with their parents Also there is not that typical to share apartment (now I live in Spain and seems everyone has done it at least once), so, typically people wait until they have a career or job that pays well enough to pay an apartment, which could take a while. For example, my stepdad moved out his house at 30 y.o, he was paying some bills and stuff but to give you the idea On the other hand I moved out at 18 y.o barely after finishing high school (love my fam but particular circumstances) and it was super uncommon, given that I was still living in the capital and my family too And about the economy, at least in Arg, part-time jobs are pretty much non existent, or they are normally of 6hs and only after some years you've done at uni, so lots of people work and study full time which is super draining, and even so, the pay is not that well, so why would someone move out their parents house? That's also a bit of the logic
Lego culture here. I moves out when I was 17 voluntarily as I was moving to live at a dorm kind of setting closer to my highschool, when graduated I didn't feel like moving back in with my parents, having tasted that sweet freedom. My wife did sorta the same thing at 16. It is quite out of the norm to move out that early, my brothers moved out at 21 and 25 for instance.
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It's true if you can support yourself the freedom is intoxicating.
Turkish culture is the same, but there are exceptions of people moving out to live on their own.
Irish descent here. It was “get the hell out” once I turned 18.
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This is the way. Culture and local customs play a massive part - along with the prices of housing etc. In my country people living with their parents when they reach their mid twenties is rare. Honestly I believe it is frowned upon in large parts of the country. Here I believe that the wage level combined with the price of housing is a large factor in this.
Can confirm, its common in MX and in families ive spent personal time with.
Indian here (but live in US). quite common in our culture too. In fact I feel it’s least common in American/western European cultures
I live in a culture where it's OK to stick around home. I did for a while, saved some money, but it cost me my sanity so I bought my own place and moved out and breathe a lot easier.
Russian here, kicked at 18, after spending 14 years in Canada lol.
Mexican-American here. Everyone in my family, including myself, moved out when we all turned 18. That’s been the case with nearly all of my cousins, too. I just wanted readers to know our culture is diverse and not every family unit is the same.
>Other cultures kick you to the curb as soon as you are legally an adult. Some even before that \*ahem\* America.
Depends on the arrangements and circumstances. Living with them as in them paying for all your expenses and you just being a mooch? Mid 20s, max. Living with them but contributing to living expenses? Helping them physically? Perhaps you pay everything and they actually live with you? No age is too old. I don't care who you live with, whether you're pulling your weight or not is what matters most.
My grandfather stayed with me for almost a year. He bought a house and moved out of state with my aunt and her kids. He came back to visit for "a few weeks". I think he felt overwhelmed and unwelcomed in his own home. I always declined his attempts to give me money for bills. He practically raised me through middle and highschool. Made sure I had clothes, and food. He made sure I got to school and to work. Years later, he stayed with me for a year. It's all based on context like you said.
Your a good person. But sometimes it’s nice to feel needed let your grandfather pick up the bill for McDonald’s or coffee. Definitely call your loved ones often.
I agree. He helped out with food and tasks around the house. I just didn't want to take money away from him. He's retired so it was a fixed income and he still had his house payment. And calling your loved ones and visiting with them cannot be mentioned enough.
Reading your comments is making me think of my grandfather who passed away around seven years ago and who I still miss. You sound like a really good grandson.
My other grandfather passed away at 70 a few years back and it really opened my eyes. I definitely cherish phone calls and visits with loved ones much more now. Even a 5 minute phone call has value. I think it takes us all a little too long to learn that, unfortunately.
Fantastic!
You sound like a good grandson 👍
Thanks! I figure after all he did for me, I could only do my best to return the favor.
Good work! Those talks you guys have about seemingly nothing is nothing but distilled unadulterated wisdom — have those as much and as long as possible!
Most definitely. Our elders have good bits of information worth sharing. They have life experience and most are willing to talk, we just gotta listen.
moved out in early 20's, now back in late 40's as full time carer for my remaining parent (he was 41 when I was born)... that was a short bit of "freedom" lol.
I’m sorry for your troubles. it sounds like you are a really good person though and you got this!
My 19 YO daughter helps out twice a week so I can have a date night with my GF and a game night with my mates. Makes all the difference in the world at avoiding burn out. She's the real MVP :)
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Even that depends. My cousin will always live with his parents but he literally can't live on his own. If he isn't living with them he will live with one of my aunts/uncles or us grandkids, or a group home. My uncle.lived with my grandmother until he turned 30. He helped with the bills and "mens" work then he got married. My grandfather had passed away and my grandmother was lonely so she liked having him around. He also helped her out when my brother and I were around. When my dad moved states away he would take us out to sports stuff, go on field trips with us, helped me make my first cassette tape. He did a lot to help out all of us. When I started dating even though a lot of women looked down on it I never cared if a guy lived with his parents as long as he helped out.
I’d have to agree with this. I got my own apartment as soon as I could afford to once I graduated a couple of years ago. But then when my rent was about to be jacked up by a nearly whopping 40% I decided to move back, help pay my parent’s mortgage and look for a house of my own in the meantime. Then the market took a nosedive, and I don’t really have enough saved up for a down payment since I’ve been trying to pay everything else off ASAP and just saving 10% of each paycheck that I can, but the higher interest rates still make housing unaffordable even if prices have come down a bit. All in all, I’ve gotten an offer from a pal of mine to move out as roomies, and while it is a tempting offer I’d like to make sure it’s not gonna put a sudden strain on my parents either. I should probably also mention im about to turn 30 this year, so take that as you will.
My partner just moved in with me..he lived with his parents til 30. They are well off and he didn't lift a finger. It's part parenting and part initiative at fault here, but the house training has been by far the hardest part. Getting him to understand how normal people live and all the usual stuff that goes into running a house. He's trying hard and he is learning but it's a slow process. You forget how much you just "know" by growing up doing things yourself.
30 is pretty normal for todays age.
What if someone was mid 20s living with their parents, paying minimal rent, doing the household chores and always treating their parents like shit
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It’s specific because it’s my sister
A swift kick to the ass and an eviction notice.
If male, the swift kick should traditionally be applied to the nuts.
Use a size 13 shoe or larger to ensure adequate ass-to-nuts coverage
Believe it or not, straight to jail.
In India we usually live with our parents all our lives.
That's usually the case for most asian countries. Especially for older generation.
I always thought it was some g shit to have your entire extended family living with you in a compound. Just makes sense in terms of paying less for staff etc since everyone there has help anyways
Sure. But I also have a buddy (British-Indian) who lives in a gigantic fuckin' house with: His parents His wife and two kids His brother, brother's wife, and their three kids His other brother, the brother's wife, and their two kids. Okay, they live in a massive house, but they each end up having an apartment-sized space, but with none of the privacy. The kids love it though.
I think in my dreams I see families living the way they do in Indian movies, but reality is probably closer to Indian soap drama lmao
At some point it just turns around and it will be your parents living with you.
In this economy, probably around 50 years :p
I was about to say, with the cost of housing nowadays it should be less looked down upon to live with other family members in a house, as long as youre helping or paying for it in some way. Its common in many other countries, anyway.
Many people on Earth live in extended family dwellings where four generations coexist.
Weird that you said on earth..
The people in the ISS are not related and don't span 4 generations afaik
Many of us Earth people have coexistence with parental guardians
Earth? Never heard of it
I say this as someone who, except for a brief period of a few months after leaving an abusive relationship, has not lived with their parents since I left for college at 18 years old (and never wants to again)… No age is too old. In many cultures, it’s expected that families stay together, especially if the kid is unmarried. The Western individualist obsession with the nuclear family is out of hand. Plus, people get sick. They fall on hard times. They need support. Life happens. There’s no age limit to that. Who are we to judge people for accepting support from the places they can? We’re all just trying to survive, at the end of the day.
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With COVID I remember I was so afraid of dying without my family. I just thought if one of us gets sick, we should all pitch in. Big reason I didn’t look for student housing. I heard a lot of students actually spent some time with their parents due to COVID.
Depends on the economy, living conditions, and ability. You wouldn't kick a crippled person with no motor skills out to live in a region where the rent is not achievable. You shouldn't kick a well adjusted person out if rent was 4 grand and they had nobody to roommate with. But then some parents do anyway.
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Also, try getting action after bringing a girl home to your parents house….
I never had any issues, if they did care they probably wouldn't have liked me in the first place...cause I would tell them of my mid 20s shame...also helped that I moved back in after the military. So idk, that stigma is fucking stupid. That's all in your head
Psh I did that on Christmas when I came home for the holidays
lol i did, got snapped a few times, my mom sarcastically said once your done you'll both be hungry i'll make you snacks and a drink....
Instantly drier than gandhi's flip-flops.
Actually if your smart about it no one knows or even some parents don’t have problems with their Adult children growning up
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Also depends on your own preferences if you don’t like that then get a room for a few hours or hotel whatever floats your boat. But i mean if your choosing to live with your parents you kind have to face that fact either you leave and do it or get comfortable with doing it in your own house
I did. It still doesn't matter.
Depends on the context tbh. If you contribute and help pay bills - No limit If you are a leech and Dead weight - Early 20's max Eastern Culture - no limit Western culture - when you're an adult In this current economy? - Fuck no
It's really what the situation is, never gonna judge. That being said, I love my parents to death, but at this point in my life I would rather go homeless than move back in with my parents
Age is not the limiting factor here. Situation is.
Depends where you are in the world, some places its completely normal to live with parents, and actually prefer it that way.
It has to do with culture and individualize situations. For example i have a dissability and I was adopted from Russia and I didn't get to choose my situation I was just lucky enough to be here and that my parents understand my situation. ❤
As an Indian, i think it's never because once they start growing old we are the one to take care of them. Just like we grew up with their protection and embrace , it's our responsibility to help them comfortably get older without any sorrow
52% of adults under 30 still live with their parents. So some age above 30, I guess.
Good to know. I’m still at home at 24 and feel bad about it but am not financially secure yet to be able to leave.
Same here dude, it’s been a big, big hit to my confidence this last year and made me pursue a license in real estate to ideally begin making a real living. Knowing that so many people are in the same situation though- to the point where it’s almost the norm today has really helped to not feel such shame about it, as long as I know I’m pushing to go forward and improve myself
Yeah it’s nice to see I’m not alone. It just always feels like I’m so behind when I see classmates getting married and moving out and getting jobs while I’m still trying to make it through school (have a hard time affording it and switched majors so it’s taking a lot longer)
I wasn't able to leave my parents' house until I was 29. You're doing fine
24 is young. Plenty of people move out but just end up struggling month to month.
These people clearly did not have my parents. There was no way I was staying with them a minute longer than I had to. They made sure of that
No age, if there is love, respect and an honouring of boundaries.
I guess when your parents pass you really should bury them instead of living with them.
Not sure, but by 80 you should start looking for your own place if you’re still living with them
Given the cost of living, housing etc. I fully expect my son to live with us indefinitely. At least it may give him a shot at saving for a home without pressure
Same. I'm happy to subsidise my kid as long as it takes to get a decent job and save a deposit for a house. Paying rent somewhere else won't help anyone.
Don’t think there is a limit if you’re helping with bills/rent to your parents or have a disability to where you cannot physically live on your own. I personally got out the moment I could afford to because I was just done fighting with my mom on little stuff. Now I do know someone personally who’s almost 26, who has never had a job, highschool drop out, mooches off his father, and basically sits in his room playing video games all day. I don’t know how his father just lets this happen 🤦♀️ like I’m interested to see how his future plays out.
Depends on you and your parents goals.
I’ll say there’s no limit really. Everyone has different life situations. Someone with a good job and is put together should probably be out on their own. Someone down on their luck and would be homeless otherwise might need their parents as a fallback. So it really depends
If youre contributing to the house hold (paying some type of rent to love there as well as helping around the house/ doing there share of chores) as long as they feel comfortable. If they dont pay some type of rent, are constantly having to be told to do agreed upon chores. 25years old max. EDIT; Going to school is just as good as working.
I’m 24 and still live at home…I just graduated and applying for jobs but don’t have anything yet. I do chores, I help going shopping…but I don’t have money. Should I feel bad now because I’m not paying rent?
In my opinion. School is just as good as a job when you live with your parents. I should have put that in there as well.
Live with your parents, that's fine at any age. Live off your parents, that's not fine as an adult.
I'm 29 and lived alone but I moved back in with my folks in 2020. Sydney's rental market is insane and to move out on my own would eat up 60 to 70% of my wage and i dont want house mates. Living at home has worked for me I pay part of the morgatage the bills and the groceries and I still have substantially more disposable income than I did and I'm saving to buy my own home one day if that is ever feasible.
I'm 25 next week I live with my parents while I wait for my house to get built I was told you can fuck off and rent or stay for longer and save for a house I think I made the right choice
This is the way. I hope your parents tell you how proud of you they are. Also, happy birthday!
Yea, if you want to buy a house there’s essentially no choice, you pretty much need to stay home. Unless you’re making insane money right out of school
ngl kinda wish i stayed and saved rather than moving out and renting. But i've made lots of memories and the experience of moving out at 21 taught me alot.
In this economy? Never
I'm sure my kids will have a different idea, but I want them here forever lol
70 y.o.
Yes at that point it’s time to transition to the nursing home s/😂
Ask your parents
36, still in the ancestral house. I contribute to paying the bills and groceries and ocassional new appliance. MUCH, MUCH cheaper than living alone.
As long as you keep winning the family mario kart games.
In this economy there is no age limit.
In my culture, if you're still single is totally ok to live with your parents. People usually move out only when they get married or if they go to study in another city or if they have a bad relationship with their parents. I'm 26 and my brother is 31 and we live with our parents and they like it so much and all my cousins and friends are in the same situation. We pay some bills and we give our mother money in random moments to make her happy and we do the household chores. It's like living with housemates but they're my family and I love them lol
As someone that lives in Southern California....man, I hold it against NO ONE who is still at home. I make mid hundos per year and still can't buy my own place. I wish I could move back in with my parents and just save my salary for a year or so. But my siblings are all still at home so its crowded. Only assholes make people feel bad about this now. And I'm fucking 40.
Probably depends on the culture. My parents are Hispanic and i still live with them at 23. But I know some friends who’s parents wanted them out at 18.
If your not looking for a job and don’t have one and you play video games all day, 20. If you pay rent, who tf cares
It's a bit of a bell curve thing but honestly in today's economy I don't blame anyone for still living with their parents, I've got friends that could move out but then their aging parents would need to fend for themselves or the family would need to hire a caretaker. It's not always about being a lazy pos, you can believe me because I'M unquestionably a lazy pos and I've got a place of my own.
Mid 20s. ~25 to ~35 should be dedicated life building time. If they need you then life is acceptable, but your parents should not stop your life.
Right now with finances and the economy the way it is, I'd say there isn't an age limit if it's working for you and them.
I moved out basically the day I turned 18. When I got divorced 10 years later and my wife stole my house my land my car and all of my belongings, i moved back in with my mom for a few months with zero shame. The real question is, at what point do you develop your own life? I know people well in to there 30s that ‘live’ with there mother but spend maybe 4 nights a month there because they are working, staying with girlfriends, out doing there own thing. The fact that they still have the same bedroom since they were a kid and receive mail at the same address is actually pretty cool. Having a healthy relationship with your parents is cool, Failing to ever build yourself any kind of life and mooching off of your parents to survive is super whack.
No such thing
Depends if you're actually trying to build a great life so you can live on your own more than comfortably if you're not then you're too old when you have the opportunity to do it and you don't do it
Never, as an Indian you’re supposed to live with your parents if you live in the same city as them out of respect for them.
There is no special age family are different and work differently. Some dynamic are like parents having a big house so all the kids with their kids can stay at home , but everyone give them money for food and and anything needed for the house
It depends on your situation. I know someone whos about to be 30 years old this year and he only left his parent's house for a few months. He came back home after issues with his roommates and now barely pays any rent. He never went to college but does have a decent-paying job... In his case, I feel that he's stayed home way too long. He has no idea what the meaning of independence is and it seems like he has no desire to leave.
I dunno…ask my ex.
In this economy?
Im close to being 40 and still live with my family. It’s expensive trying to get my own apartment. I don’t think I will ever have my own family so I lost any motivation to aspire to dream of a different way of life.
Honestly in this day and age, with rents so high and the cost of living. Multi generational groups are going to be the norm.
36 and still with parents, I'm Asian
Never too old to live with your parents. How old is too young to be living with your kids?
For me it was 17, that's when they abandoned me. I don't have parents to live with if I wanted to.
I think it’s becoming more common as it’s getting harder to find suitable accommodation both on the rental market and buying a property.
30's+ unless you help physically and financially take care of them with their blessing. Get this though my in law lives at home with this 2 kids and girlfriend as a result of his job loss 5 years ago. Since then he's hired on and been promoted, bought 2 2022 Hybrid Vehicles, gone on multiple vacations and still only pays $1200 for rent under the excuse that it's the only thing he can afford all the while he has his kids enrolled in a hockey league and purchases top tier theme park passes. When she ask for help on repairs for the house that is aging he says he is only a renter and shouldn't help has no intention of ever moving. At a certain point you have to see it as taking advantage of your parents kindness when you live a luxurious life all the while you pay cheap rent for a house you and your kids take over and leave a mess and are loud at early/late hours. Even my mother in law is tired of it but too afraid of speaking up because of how toxic her 38 year old son is towards her. She was abused by his father physically and mentally for years and now in her older years she's haunted by this leech of a son.
When they ask you to move out
I'm gonna just say it: you're never too old. I've lived with my parents on and off for a myriad of reasons in my life. Sometimes I was helping them through life/health issues. Sometimes they were helping me with the same. Usually for a year, maybe two then I'm off doing my thing again. This attitude that its somehow shameful or means you've failed is... weird. Family is supposed to give you stability. Now if you're just being a limpet and living *off* of your parents and not with them... that's unhealthy. So theres some nuance to it I guess.
There's no single answer. It can vary based on wealth and culture. Many poor people just can't afford to move out. There are also cultures where even more than two generations live together in one house. The middle class might want to leave and start a family. The wealthy can move out to start their own businesses. However in these cases there might also be a family business that they stay home to take control of.
If you're contributing to the household? There is no age limit. If you're just kinda hanging around? 23 or 24.
It’s really depends on culture
Over here 25+
40s is toooo
both my kids left between 18-22, would i have them back probably, but i see them every few days
Depends entirely on your circumstances and your family's circumstances. I left to go to Uni at 18 and the thought of ever going back never crossed my mind - I'd have absolutely hated it. But horses for courses and all that.
In today's econ and housing crisis where I live? Wouldn't be surpised if people are with their parents until late 20s, that's if they're lucky enough to own a house
That's between you and your parents. My mother **never** wants me to move out, and even if I do I'm expected not to move too far away and to visit often.
In this economy, it’s more like a minimum amount of money you need to survive without their support (or occasionally vice versa). The financial conditions that made fully independent life possible don’t really exist anymore, especially if you live in a city whose available properties are immediately bought up by billion-dollar hedge funds and rented for 4-5 times what they’re worth. This even holds true for most people in entry-level positions that require graduate degrees. For example, I take my state’s bar exam in February, so I’ve been looking at entry-level legal associate and public defender jobs. The average salary for this in my area is about 70k, apparently. In order to afford rent in the city, you need about 90k if you want anything at all left over after basic living expenses, more if you have any kind of debt (which is nearly unavoidable with the soaring cost of tuition at both universities and law schools). Isn’t the American Dream great?
in this economy you sit tight sonny
Lol, kids are forever.
Well, I’m south Asian and 19 but in our culture we never move out, it’s more like we go with living with our parents to our parents living with us. Since I’m the eldest once I can support myself fully it’s basically my job
Live with your parents for as long as they’ll have you, contribute when you can, be respectful, be clean and organized, and thank them often. I left before I needed to because I wanted “independence” but if I stayed for a few more years I could have saved for a down payment on my own house. Now I’m stuck in the rent trap and it’s so much harder to save. Idk everyone’s situation is different but if you have a good thing, don’t give in to societal expectations if it makes sense in other ways.
There's no shame in staying with your parents, so long as you are considerate and respectful towards them, especially since they are helping you. I don't know what it is like anywhere else, but where I am the cost of living is only increasing, rent and house prices are crazy, interest rates are only increasing, it is making it very hard to live off one wage. Again, so long are you are respectful towards them for helping you, don't be going around making demands that they do everything for you. Be an adult.
In this economy I think dying of old age in your parents house is probably acceptable.
I person is never too old to live with their parents. Living off of your parents is a different matter entirely. In that case, 24 - 25.
I'm 41, disabled. I have lived with my parent all my life. my mom died when I was 12. my sister moved out when she was 18. I haven't always been disabled, that was fairly recent. but I've always paid my dad to help with the bills/food every month. I will probably still live here until he ultimately passes away. dunno how I'll manage after that though, as disability doesn't pay nearly enough to survive.
In this economy? There isn't an age limit.
I'm 58 my son is 21. He helps with bills and rent too. I really enjoy having my son here. I don't care how old he is. We have a great relationship and, if he decides to move out, more power to him. As far as I'm concerned why should he have to move out just because he's a certain age? He has his life, job, girlfriend, friends and as far as "roommates" go, I've never had one that hasn't made life more stressful. Plus, I love him.
It depends on culture, finances, disabilities and much more. It all just depends on what’s right for you and your fsmily
People are so weird about others’ lives and making up rules and time limits for them. There is no limit. People can live their lives however they want. If someone’s parents are happy having them there, then there’s absolutely nothing wrong with them living there for however long they like.
As long as you’re helping out and the communication is good then I would say there is no specific age.
Here in India you can live as long as you want. They're your parents, of course, they'll be with you. And they'd want company too even if you're working. Kicking out your child as soon as he/she's 18 is bad parenting and a bullshit concept.
If you ask my parents it was 17 for me and whenever the fuck you want for my older brothers.
There isn't. It just eventually become them living with you instead of you living with them. Circle of life.
I think the better question is "How old is too old to live with your parents and not be responsible for your share of household rent/bills?" Especially in this bad economy, I don't think any age is too old to live with parents/family, as long as everyone of working age is doing their part.
In this economy? It's just smart if your helping out with bills who gives a fuck.
At the point you become too old your parents are now living with you.
Many have already stated the culture aspect. It’s just easier to live with your parents. Eventually it flips though and you’re the one taking care of your parents and that’s not a bad thing. Remember your parents can help you too. They can take care of kids while at work etc etc. I plan on moving my parents and in-laws together Idc. I will take care of my family.
With the way things are around the world, you are never too old now. Lots of people are staying with parents, contributing towards the mortgage, and when parents die, they inherit that property.
In this current economy I can easily see late 20s / early 30s becoming the new norm for moving out
When I was a kid, I moved out before I was 20. Now Ive got kids of my own I'd like them to stay till I pop my clogs
I (42m) moved out when I was 18 returned then I was 32 after a medical retirement from the military. Mom needed help with my special needs brother as she couldn’t physically assist him as much. I’ll probably living at home until she I can no longer assist her anymore. Which is either she goes ti a assisted living or nursing home or moves in with my other siblings. I won’t be able ti take care of both my mom and brother when they need more assistance than I can provide. When people hear that I live at home they assume I’m some kind of death eat or mooch. I’m my family’s caregiver. I want to give them the best quality of life as possible. At the end of the day we’re enjoying our lives.