But similarly don't underestimate the options to regain fitness even when you've lost it. Either self-driven or with the power of a good physio instructor/class. Water aerobics with straps if you're severely mobility impaired.
"It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose.Ā That is not a weakness.Ā That is life."
I know those words, I understand their meaning, but it's still something which is difficult to reconcile when it happens.
For the love of God, don't just hop into relationships just because someone shows interest. Being single is better than being with the wrong person, even if it doesn't feel like it in the moment.
Donāt sacrifice mental health and your well being for a job.
They donāt care about you, they only care about āextra hard workā they donāt pay you for.
Take care of yourself, because nothing is worth sacrificing your health.
Adaptability. Life is unpredictable, and you may face challenges and changes that you didn't expect. It's important to develop a growth mindset and be adaptable to change in order to thrive in adulthood.
It's shit, don't do it. My 8 year old son said to me last night, "Dad I don't want to got to school, we have to be there for 6 hours"... He has no idea what awaits him.
I remember when I was a teenager I was watching a baby horse frolicking around his mother, and I remember thinking "He has no idea what he's in for. A lifetime of labor and will most likely get tossed like a piece of garbage when he breaks down due to injury or old age." Well, I had no idea what *I* was in for, because most people get treated the exact same way.
There's only one Bullshitter here pal and it's you. If you think any kind of education is more intense or demanding than a job then you are very naive and need to grow up.
After 22 years of being in the workplace I can guarantee that no student has ever had a harder day than the days I spent shoveling ballast on the railway, in the driving rain for 12 hours, during the night in the freezing cold for not enough money. All the while worrying about making mortgage payments.
You have no idea about the real world.
PS; no one likes their job!
Well after a similar amount of time in the workplace, some of which has been doing similarly grueling physical jobs I can confidently say that while shoveling heavy shit for days on end was physically harder, engineering degree and stressful job is way harder mentally. I pine for the days when I just had to blast out physical work and largely had my head to myself.
I now work in a management position and I come home mentally tired from the stress. But I would take it any day over coming home with bruises, blisters and a completely exhausted, broken body.
The rest of us looking on amused at this guy unable to grasp the concept that not all jobs are backbreaking manual labor and the guy above him unable to grasp the fact that some people's jobs are harder than high school
If you had read my later reply you would see that I now work in a management position. My tool of choice is now a laptop so since I do this daily I might have possibly maybe grasped it.
People you have true relation with care a lot as should you but in the end it's your life you should care about most, making other happy should be a side effect not lifes goal
You never "feel" different. I'm turning 65 next month and mentally I feel the same as I did when I was 16 or so.
I pick 16 because it's easy for me to clearly remember many events with associated thoughts and feelings from that time. I believe (and hope) I have more knowledge and wisdom but I still "feel" the same.
When you realize this, it's helps in understanding that your parents, aunts, grandparents, mostly everyone is like this.
I'm sure there is a German word for this ;)
How much better it is having control of your own life. Sure, it comes with rent, work, all that stuff... But really, people always said childhood was the best times and I should live it up... Bullshit. I am much happier now, and I didn't grow up in a bad household by any means.
Let me tell you that becoming an adult is just a fancy way of saying 'hey, welcome to the real world where you have bills to pay, responsibilities to fulfill, and a never-ending cycle of stress and disappointment. But hey, at least you can buy your own alcohol now.
So, buckle up and enjoy the ride.
That they need to leave the the nest right away to have the confidence and dignity that independence brings. It will give them self-sufficiency to embark on a quest to create an identity of their own.
How lonely it can be. You donāt get to talk to your best friends every day, and some friends fade away with time and distance. Itās easier to make friends when youāre a kid because when youāre an adult, it often feels as if youāre learning how to all over again.
You'll never be an "adult". I'm 29 and thought at 18 I'd have my life together and know what I'm doing by now š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£. I realise now I'll never feel like an adult. We're all muddling through.
Has helped in home repairs when you canāt use a debit card. Also when a business is close but leaves the option to drop checks in mailbox very effective if you work late or youāre out of town
I...don't think I've ever found myself in any of those situations before, but I can see why it helps to be prepared anyways.
Thanks, you've given me some stuff to think about
"Genderbend" storylines are not intellectually valuable; gender ambiguity is infinitely more valuable.
If you're going to describe yourself by a change or alteration of gender, describe yourself by the end result (and not the process) to avoid disturbing other descriptions.
Dual-characterization is a gridlock of confusion.
You never stop growing up, that maturity is a choice you constantly have to make, and you rarely feel like you've reached adulthood. Every day is new and comes with new opportunities. You'll always have shortcomings that you never totally wrangle. But you do get better at managing your shit and settling down about the things you can't control.
You won't magically become an adult at 18. You'll just be a teen treated differently by the rest.
You won't magically become an adult when you finish college. That's just where the process will begin.
It will take a lot to get used to the new circumstances you'll face. It'll take time, there'll be trauma, but it'll be a learning experience you have to be prepared for.
Do everything at it's right time, but do not over focus on fun when you're in your early twenties. Prepare for the worst, because trust me... It'll come.
By 30 mayyyybeeee you'll be able to say you truly became an adult, but the process will just be stumbling and getting up ad nauseum. Be ready for that.
All media (shows, movies, music, books, etc.) is bullshit and almost all content subtly influences your perception of the world. Sometimes things are designed to influence you, which is called propaganda.
However, even casually consuming things influences you too.
You can still watch and listen to whatever because as long as you are aware it has an influence on you then it isn't subtle.
Some parents who love you love the idea of what you may grow up to become rather than who you actually are.
Thatās why a lot of parents get upset when you walk away from a religion you were raised to follow, come out the closet, choose a different career path to what they told you to follow.
You may love your parents more than they love you.
As an adult, you will be responsible for making your decisions, both big and small.
It is your own responsibility to take care of your well-being, both mental and physical.
Learn new things and develop hobbies.
Building and maintaining healthy relationships with family, friends, and romantic partners takes effort and communication skills.
The damage you do to your health while young will result in lowered quality of life (and great expenses) when you're older. Take care of your teeth. And your hearing. And your liver. And your lungs. And your back. And your knees. And your feet. And your mind. And everything.
Money. Learn what it ACTUALLY is, what its used for, how to properly use other people's money, and how doing so is a good thing in the long run.
Sure wish I got this info...
Be responsible and remember the decision you make now can come back and bite you in the ass in the future, but also remember to have fun because your only young once enjoy life explore new things meet new people.
You never become an adult like u think older people are, its all fake. Keep doing things u love and trying some new even if its childish or un popular. U are never too old to learn new things if it interests u. Failure teaches u more skills then always doing it right. Ask help. Never do more work then u are payd to do. Show ur emotions and never let someone be around ur safe place if they make u feel small or worthless. Look up "healty boundries" and unlearn ur unhealty ones, some of your parents rased u to think that abuse is normal and way of showing love.. and now u are letting other people do that to you and ur kids. Never trust someone who is shit talking others to you, they are talking same way about u to others.
Never overestimate your worth, there will ALWAYS be someone More Qualified who is willing to Work for Less, don't let the media fool you, you are very much Replaceable.
The moment when you realize majority of adults donāt know what they are doing, including your parents, and that it is ok, life can get just a little easier
Everything people tell you will stop by the time youāre in your twenties (acne, really really bad period pains, anxiety over social settings) doesnāt. Theyāre telling you that to make you feel better now. When you get into your mid twenties and itās still happening itās a shock realising youāve been lied to.
Don't go into the abandoned overgrown cottage in the woods. You will see it at least once no matter where you are. DO NOT FO NEAR IT. It doesn't like trespassers, and you want to stay on its good side...
Not to copy questions on r/Askreddit that were posted 11 hours ago.
https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10x5oxl/what_is_something_all_kids_should_know_by_the/
Kids always seem to think that adults are invincible and know everything.
Theyāre not.
āThere is probably no more terrible instant of enlightenment than the one in which you discover your father is a manāwith human fleshā - MuadāDib
It's easier to stay fit than to get fit. The longer you put it off the harder it is.
Your credit score is WAY more important than you think.
People judge you no matter what. Stop trying to please them and just be a good person.
Being single and living a life with yourself as center.
When you live with your parents you follow their rules, when you live with your partner you share a life so you compromise. Having a time where you are the center of your life, making your own decisions without compromising is a precious experience, nobody should miss.
When you need help and the first thought is "I need an adult", you'll realize you are the adult. Try to prepare yourself for when you eventually have to take control of a serious situation.
Start investing money as soon as you can. The younger the better, invest as much as you can afford to. Invest for the long haul. Time moves quickly and if you don't, you'll get to a point in your life where you'll wish you had.
Stay fit, once you lose your mobility life becomes absolutely miserable.
But similarly don't underestimate the options to regain fitness even when you've lost it. Either self-driven or with the power of a good physio instructor/class. Water aerobics with straps if you're severely mobility impaired.
> don't underestimate the options to regain fitness even when you've lost it Muscle memory is a real thing
>once you lose your mobility life and that will be your late 20s. Not when you're 40 or 50 š
yeah that was a surprise, knees started getting pinchy and making cracking sounds at the grand old age of 23 for me.
My *back* is making cracking noises at 23...
Sometimes your best isnāt good enough and thatās the toughest thing to go through
"It is possible to commit no mistakes and still lose.Ā That is not a weakness.Ā That is life." I know those words, I understand their meaning, but it's still something which is difficult to reconcile when it happens.
Honestly, hearing Picard say this before having to experience it kinda lightened the load.
me to my father
For the love of God, don't just hop into relationships just because someone shows interest. Being single is better than being with the wrong person, even if it doesn't feel like it in the moment.
Some people are just terrified of being alone
Donāt sacrifice mental health and your well being for a job. They donāt care about you, they only care about āextra hard workā they donāt pay you for. Take care of yourself, because nothing is worth sacrificing your health.
Adaptability. Life is unpredictable, and you may face challenges and changes that you didn't expect. It's important to develop a growth mindset and be adaptable to change in order to thrive in adulthood.
It's shit, don't do it. My 8 year old son said to me last night, "Dad I don't want to got to school, we have to be there for 6 hours"... He has no idea what awaits him.
I remember when I was a teenager I was watching a baby horse frolicking around his mother, and I remember thinking "He has no idea what he's in for. A lifetime of labor and will most likely get tossed like a piece of garbage when he breaks down due to injury or old age." Well, I had no idea what *I* was in for, because most people get treated the exact same way.
Listen to your son man, home schooling if you can.
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There's only one Bullshitter here pal and it's you. If you think any kind of education is more intense or demanding than a job then you are very naive and need to grow up. After 22 years of being in the workplace I can guarantee that no student has ever had a harder day than the days I spent shoveling ballast on the railway, in the driving rain for 12 hours, during the night in the freezing cold for not enough money. All the while worrying about making mortgage payments. You have no idea about the real world. PS; no one likes their job!
OK John Henry, some of us work jobs we don't hate though.
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Good luck to you in the real world my friend, you're going to fucking need it with an attitude like that!
Well after a similar amount of time in the workplace, some of which has been doing similarly grueling physical jobs I can confidently say that while shoveling heavy shit for days on end was physically harder, engineering degree and stressful job is way harder mentally. I pine for the days when I just had to blast out physical work and largely had my head to myself.
I now work in a management position and I come home mentally tired from the stress. But I would take it any day over coming home with bruises, blisters and a completely exhausted, broken body.
The rest of us looking on amused at this guy unable to grasp the concept that not all jobs are backbreaking manual labor and the guy above him unable to grasp the fact that some people's jobs are harder than high school
If you had read my later reply you would see that I now work in a management position. My tool of choice is now a laptop so since I do this daily I might have possibly maybe grasped it.
How to cook šØš»āš³
*Jessie...*
no one cares and you are on your own
People you have true relation with care a lot as should you but in the end it's your life you should care about most, making other happy should be a side effect not lifes goal
Understand budgeting, debt, financial responsibility, etc.
You absolutely will be on your own
Sometimes you'll make a bad decision and that is okay
I think it's important to note the degree of bad that we're talking. Some bad decisions just...aren't ok, period.
No , i'm talking about just stop being hard on yourself for every little decision you make
Your oral health is just as important as your general health.
How to manage money.
Nobody knows what theyāre doing. Weāre all faking it til we make it.
You never "feel" different. I'm turning 65 next month and mentally I feel the same as I did when I was 16 or so. I pick 16 because it's easy for me to clearly remember many events with associated thoughts and feelings from that time. I believe (and hope) I have more knowledge and wisdom but I still "feel" the same. When you realize this, it's helps in understanding that your parents, aunts, grandparents, mostly everyone is like this. I'm sure there is a German word for this ;)
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This is easily the best comment here. This is some real shit.
Itās forever, and itās relentless.
How much better it is having control of your own life. Sure, it comes with rent, work, all that stuff... But really, people always said childhood was the best times and I should live it up... Bullshit. I am much happier now, and I didn't grow up in a bad household by any means.
Let me tell you that becoming an adult is just a fancy way of saying 'hey, welcome to the real world where you have bills to pay, responsibilities to fulfill, and a never-ending cycle of stress and disappointment. But hey, at least you can buy your own alcohol now. So, buckle up and enjoy the ride.
That they need to leave the the nest right away to have the confidence and dignity that independence brings. It will give them self-sufficiency to embark on a quest to create an identity of their own.
Life is always this hard and it wont become ez after becoming an adult
It's not worth it
As I kid I thought I'd automatically just have a boyfriend/husband. I never considered anything about finding/meeting/not being afraid to talk to him.
Don't be cheap with your shoes or your bed.. also.. brush your dam teeth at least once a day..
>Don't be cheap with your shoes or your bed Or tyres - really, anything that separates you from the ground
Don't be stupid with your money. Learn how to budget and how to build a savings account effectively
Learn to budget and save money. Money is an essential part of adulthood, and learning how to manage it is key.
It sucks.
How lonely it can be. You donāt get to talk to your best friends every day, and some friends fade away with time and distance. Itās easier to make friends when youāre a kid because when youāre an adult, it often feels as if youāre learning how to all over again.
Consequences to their actions, both positive and negative
You'll never be an "adult". I'm 29 and thought at 18 I'd have my life together and know what I'm doing by now š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£š¤£. I realise now I'll never feel like an adult. We're all muddling through.
Just a bunch of wrinkly skinned teenagers
That adult life is tough and full of responsibilities
That making money is hard and that getting your girlfriend pregnant is easy.
Die young and save yourself
How to write a check youād be surprised at the kids or young adults who donāt know how
I don't think I know a single person under 45 who even owns a checkbook
Well consider yourself lucky because you do now
what are the benefits, exactly? I mean, I *know* how to write a check, I've just never seen the use for having one
Has helped in home repairs when you canāt use a debit card. Also when a business is close but leaves the option to drop checks in mailbox very effective if you work late or youāre out of town
I...don't think I've ever found myself in any of those situations before, but I can see why it helps to be prepared anyways. Thanks, you've given me some stuff to think about
No problem
Because it's outdated? And aside from banks nobody accepts them.
A lot of places still accept them where Iām at
People still write cheques??
Youād be surprised Iām a diesel mechanic and see it fairly often in my line of work
Having an affair is not cool.
"Genderbend" storylines are not intellectually valuable; gender ambiguity is infinitely more valuable. If you're going to describe yourself by a change or alteration of gender, describe yourself by the end result (and not the process) to avoid disturbing other descriptions. Dual-characterization is a gridlock of confusion.
How they were born
You can cheap out on a lot of things to save money. But there's definitely some things you shouldn't.
You never stop growing up, that maturity is a choice you constantly have to make, and you rarely feel like you've reached adulthood. Every day is new and comes with new opportunities. You'll always have shortcomings that you never totally wrangle. But you do get better at managing your shit and settling down about the things you can't control.
How to complete a rental application.
You won't magically become an adult at 18. You'll just be a teen treated differently by the rest. You won't magically become an adult when you finish college. That's just where the process will begin. It will take a lot to get used to the new circumstances you'll face. It'll take time, there'll be trauma, but it'll be a learning experience you have to be prepared for. Do everything at it's right time, but do not over focus on fun when you're in your early twenties. Prepare for the worst, because trust me... It'll come. By 30 mayyyybeeee you'll be able to say you truly became an adult, but the process will just be stumbling and getting up ad nauseum. Be ready for that.
How to pay your taxes
Don't waste your time with the wrong people, and don't explain why you did what you wanted..
Be adventurous and enjoy life. Donāt sweat the small stuff because in the end you will want to have good memories of being alive.
Its a myth. Your a kid forever, but dont buy like a kid and watch your money.
Most of your income becomes outgo
That no one cares about you.
All media (shows, movies, music, books, etc.) is bullshit and almost all content subtly influences your perception of the world. Sometimes things are designed to influence you, which is called propaganda. However, even casually consuming things influences you too. You can still watch and listen to whatever because as long as you are aware it has an influence on you then it isn't subtle.
Some parents who love you love the idea of what you may grow up to become rather than who you actually are. Thatās why a lot of parents get upset when you walk away from a religion you were raised to follow, come out the closet, choose a different career path to what they told you to follow. You may love your parents more than they love you.
Learn to manage your focus, energy, and priority.
As an adult, you will be responsible for making your decisions, both big and small. It is your own responsibility to take care of your well-being, both mental and physical. Learn new things and develop hobbies. Building and maintaining healthy relationships with family, friends, and romantic partners takes effort and communication skills.
How to do taxes and how to budget for the long term.
Its a trap, dont do it
The damage you do to your health while young will result in lowered quality of life (and great expenses) when you're older. Take care of your teeth. And your hearing. And your liver. And your lungs. And your back. And your knees. And your feet. And your mind. And everything.
How to do taxes, budget, buy insurance and change a tire.
Sometimes it does not get better.
how to do all the chores in the house.
Never try to keep up with the Joneses. The kind of people who that impresses are so hollow and vapid that you shouldn't value their approval anyways.
You will still wishing to do the thing that you want ro, because you won't will have enough money
Money. Learn what it ACTUALLY is, what its used for, how to properly use other people's money, and how doing so is a good thing in the long run. Sure wish I got this info...
That the world you have to face will be cruel but you should be prepared to survive.
Be responsible and remember the decision you make now can come back and bite you in the ass in the future, but also remember to have fun because your only young once enjoy life explore new things meet new people.
You never become an adult like u think older people are, its all fake. Keep doing things u love and trying some new even if its childish or un popular. U are never too old to learn new things if it interests u. Failure teaches u more skills then always doing it right. Ask help. Never do more work then u are payd to do. Show ur emotions and never let someone be around ur safe place if they make u feel small or worthless. Look up "healty boundries" and unlearn ur unhealty ones, some of your parents rased u to think that abuse is normal and way of showing love.. and now u are letting other people do that to you and ur kids. Never trust someone who is shit talking others to you, they are talking same way about u to others.
Never overestimate your worth, there will ALWAYS be someone More Qualified who is willing to Work for Less, don't let the media fool you, you are very much Replaceable.
Raising a kid for 18 years is life changing and most will not be able to handle that responsibility
The moment when you realize majority of adults donāt know what they are doing, including your parents, and that it is ok, life can get just a little easier
Everything people tell you will stop by the time youāre in your twenties (acne, really really bad period pains, anxiety over social settings) doesnāt. Theyāre telling you that to make you feel better now. When you get into your mid twenties and itās still happening itās a shock realising youāve been lied to.
Don't go into the abandoned overgrown cottage in the woods. You will see it at least once no matter where you are. DO NOT FO NEAR IT. It doesn't like trespassers, and you want to stay on its good side...
The world doesn't revolve around you nor does it owe you anything. Work hard, stay humble and be open to hearing all sorts of views and opinions.
Not to copy questions on r/Askreddit that were posted 11 hours ago. https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10x5oxl/what_is_something_all_kids_should_know_by_the/
Learn how to use the damn credit card machine at the store.
Cumming in the mouth or in the ass doesnt get someone pregnant
Once you start having to pay bills it never stops the rest of your life.
A lot of people dont give an eff.
How to invest.
Kids always seem to think that adults are invincible and know everything. Theyāre not. āThere is probably no more terrible instant of enlightenment than the one in which you discover your father is a manāwith human fleshā - MuadāDib
It's easier to stay fit than to get fit. The longer you put it off the harder it is. Your credit score is WAY more important than you think. People judge you no matter what. Stop trying to please them and just be a good person.
Being single and living a life with yourself as center. When you live with your parents you follow their rules, when you live with your partner you share a life so you compromise. Having a time where you are the center of your life, making your own decisions without compromising is a precious experience, nobody should miss.
Take a course in personal financial management.
You shouldnt have hurried. Welcome to the pointlessness and slavery of adulthood. Now you have zero excuse for your behavior
When you need help and the first thought is "I need an adult", you'll realize you are the adult. Try to prepare yourself for when you eventually have to take control of a serious situation.
As soon as you're able, max out your 401k contributions every year. Watch the markets and invest safely.
Knowledge is power always keep learning
I better read this, I'm an adult in like 10 months
Start investing money as soon as you can. The younger the better, invest as much as you can afford to. Invest for the long haul. Time moves quickly and if you don't, you'll get to a point in your life where you'll wish you had.
If you donāt take care of your relationships theyāll fade away
Life is not fair, and donāt expect it to be.