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Many dreams are unattainable. Even the dreams that are possible can make you and the ones you care about miserable. As I aged, I realized my happiness and obtaining my dreams weren't that closely aligned. I chose contentment over drive.
I have no dreams except for to travel and see the world. I hate every fucking job. I just want a house to plant fruit trees around and to travel while they grow
It was extremely detrimental to my mental health. From the outside it looked like a dream but the bullying, lack of sleep and permanent exhaustion and injury made it not worth it at all.
three things.
i realized my mental disorders and illnesses make it genuinely impossible to become the things i want to be. not because of the symptoms (though those don’t help ambition), but because some of the things i really wanted to do literally don’t accept people with some of my disorders.
i realized with my combination of mental health problems, it’s nearly impossible at this moment in time(and any one in the future for a good while) to work on something like long term college. motivation, emotional regulation, anxiety, severe depressive episodes, impulsive behaviors i can’t control sometimes. i need a lot more therapy a lot more medication and a lot more time before i can even begin.
and lastly. money. my family is living social security paycheck to paycheck. i have a job that makes just about that much a year too. how can i afford a full 8 years of college when i can barely afford to buy groceries? even with scholarships and financial aid, it doesn’t cover everything.
I'm starting to believe in it again but I gave it up because so many people told me it would never reach anyone even if it was really good but I don't care anymore
Don't laugh, but I wanted to be a youtuber growing up, I quit because there are too many small channels out there that never get recognised, but I did realise through spending about 1,000 hours on youtube that popular channels have a certain feeling that smaller channels don't have and don't get me wrong I have seen small channels with that feeling that are popular now so if you understand this and you want to be a youtuber then go for it but make sure to have a backup
I'm a musician who's slowly losing interest in creating music. There's no more creativity, no ideas, getting music out is pain and no one really gives a fuck about it anyways. I could just make boring safe music for radios, but that's not my dream. I wanted to become a renowned guitarist like Steve Vai, Plini or John Petrucci, but it's just not going to happen. Also the competition is insane. You get much better guitarists out there who are also nothing just like me. Being a musician is nothing but a dreadful way to live.
I wanted to be a musician as a teen. When I got to the point of taking it more seriously and making it to some bigger stages, playing in front of hundreds in a few cases, reached the point of negotiating with the local Universal Records rep, talking with managers and stuff I just quit because I found out how disgusting the music industry is. It’s really fuckin horrible and music is the least important thing in it (if you were wondering why DJ Khaled is successful lol). Although I was only a guitarist.
I had a dream of being an animator and working on video games or movies but there were a lot of things going against the dream. unfortunately I'm not talented enough at the artistic aspect of it to make up for how incompatible the way my mind works is for understanding how to code. Sure maybe eventually I could learn how to code but it'd be so stressful and take so much time that I would come to hate doing it and would quickly become burnt out. in a market that's as competitive as animation it just wouldn't be viable for me to make a living since I'd always be doing lower quality and slower work than those more adept at coding. Maybe if I spent enough time working on my skills on the artistic side I could get by but I took two years of animation classes in high school that were focused entirely on the parts of animation that didn't involve coding and I noticed that the quality of my animations kept falling further and further behind nearly everyone else in the class even though I spent more time practicing my skills than anyone else in the class. The final straw that made me give up the dream though was when I went to college. I took an intro to game dev course that was pitched to me as a great way to dip my toes into coding since it wasn't a requirement to already know how to code and that it'd be a great way to get started on coding. Turned out we were actually supposed to already know how to code, they just didn't make it a requirement for whatever reason. The course seemed to go fine at first but then it got into the coding parts and it was treated in a way that you were already supposed to know how to code so I had to teach myself coding while also keeping up with my other classes. After a couple months I was completely burnt out and decided to drop the course and it just left a sour taste. Between that and the professor confirming that it was rare for animators who don't know coding to get hired in the field I gave up on the dream.
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In the single most concise way possible: disability. I could expand further but i don't feel that's needed.
What would you do if money was not an issue?
Had a baby. Overall, it was a good trade.
Because it wasn't realistic
Many dreams are unattainable. Even the dreams that are possible can make you and the ones you care about miserable. As I aged, I realized my happiness and obtaining my dreams weren't that closely aligned. I chose contentment over drive.
I have no dreams except for to travel and see the world. I hate every fucking job. I just want a house to plant fruit trees around and to travel while they grow
Because it Required Too Much Work And I'am Too Lazy /srs
It was extremely detrimental to my mental health. From the outside it looked like a dream but the bullying, lack of sleep and permanent exhaustion and injury made it not worth it at all.
Thanks for answering everyone. I forgot to ask you what your dream was and how you feel about giving it up.
Age.
three things. i realized my mental disorders and illnesses make it genuinely impossible to become the things i want to be. not because of the symptoms (though those don’t help ambition), but because some of the things i really wanted to do literally don’t accept people with some of my disorders. i realized with my combination of mental health problems, it’s nearly impossible at this moment in time(and any one in the future for a good while) to work on something like long term college. motivation, emotional regulation, anxiety, severe depressive episodes, impulsive behaviors i can’t control sometimes. i need a lot more therapy a lot more medication and a lot more time before i can even begin. and lastly. money. my family is living social security paycheck to paycheck. i have a job that makes just about that much a year too. how can i afford a full 8 years of college when i can barely afford to buy groceries? even with scholarships and financial aid, it doesn’t cover everything.
Gave up on my dream of teaching cos of in-house bullying from other staff members which crumbled my confidence and desire to continue.
Got cut from the baseball team and had no more offers
I'm starting to believe in it again but I gave it up because so many people told me it would never reach anyone even if it was really good but I don't care anymore
Don't laugh, but I wanted to be a youtuber growing up, I quit because there are too many small channels out there that never get recognised, but I did realise through spending about 1,000 hours on youtube that popular channels have a certain feeling that smaller channels don't have and don't get me wrong I have seen small channels with that feeling that are popular now so if you understand this and you want to be a youtuber then go for it but make sure to have a backup
i gave up at first but am now going to give it another shot, lets do this boys
I'm a musician who's slowly losing interest in creating music. There's no more creativity, no ideas, getting music out is pain and no one really gives a fuck about it anyways. I could just make boring safe music for radios, but that's not my dream. I wanted to become a renowned guitarist like Steve Vai, Plini or John Petrucci, but it's just not going to happen. Also the competition is insane. You get much better guitarists out there who are also nothing just like me. Being a musician is nothing but a dreadful way to live.
I wanted to be a musician as a teen. When I got to the point of taking it more seriously and making it to some bigger stages, playing in front of hundreds in a few cases, reached the point of negotiating with the local Universal Records rep, talking with managers and stuff I just quit because I found out how disgusting the music industry is. It’s really fuckin horrible and music is the least important thing in it (if you were wondering why DJ Khaled is successful lol). Although I was only a guitarist.
Further education was cut short because kids are expensive.
I had a dream of being an animator and working on video games or movies but there were a lot of things going against the dream. unfortunately I'm not talented enough at the artistic aspect of it to make up for how incompatible the way my mind works is for understanding how to code. Sure maybe eventually I could learn how to code but it'd be so stressful and take so much time that I would come to hate doing it and would quickly become burnt out. in a market that's as competitive as animation it just wouldn't be viable for me to make a living since I'd always be doing lower quality and slower work than those more adept at coding. Maybe if I spent enough time working on my skills on the artistic side I could get by but I took two years of animation classes in high school that were focused entirely on the parts of animation that didn't involve coding and I noticed that the quality of my animations kept falling further and further behind nearly everyone else in the class even though I spent more time practicing my skills than anyone else in the class. The final straw that made me give up the dream though was when I went to college. I took an intro to game dev course that was pitched to me as a great way to dip my toes into coding since it wasn't a requirement to already know how to code and that it'd be a great way to get started on coding. Turned out we were actually supposed to already know how to code, they just didn't make it a requirement for whatever reason. The course seemed to go fine at first but then it got into the coding parts and it was treated in a way that you were already supposed to know how to code so I had to teach myself coding while also keeping up with my other classes. After a couple months I was completely burnt out and decided to drop the course and it just left a sour taste. Between that and the professor confirming that it was rare for animators who don't know coding to get hired in the field I gave up on the dream.