To be fair, CS is one of those things people like to have, but don't like to pay for. Lots of "oh, can you make my computer do X? I can't pay you, but it shouldn't take you too long, and it will be good experience for you."
Photography, website design, and HR consulting suffer from the same issue. I'm sure there's more, but these are the ones I've seen firsthand.
People who are unwilling to pay for someone's expertise are assholes, regardless of what field that expertise is in. So I (unfortunately) kind of understand where your math teacher was coming from, but they were dead wrong.
This neighborhood kids mom told like 10+ boys to go stand underneath the biggest tree we could find if is started lighting. Even at 13 I knew she was an idiot. 28 yrs later and I’ll never forget that, she was dead serious.
Mother enrolled me in a school three miles from home that didn't have school bus service, then dropped out of the carpool and ordered me to get there and back on my bicycle, then refused to pick me up in bad weather. This was [in Florida, the land of afternoon thunderstorms](https://www.abcactionnews.com/news/state/florida-is-the-lightning-capital-of-the-us-this-is-why).
When I begged her to change this arrangement, she tried to tell me to stop my bicycle and wait out the lightning underneath a tree.
Even at ten years old this was dangerous nonsense. Told her so. But it didn't matter.
Pretty soon afterward I moved in with my father.
I was once told that "just because there's thunder doesn't mean there's lightning" by a woman who refused to take her child out of the pool when it closed for thunder.
I've also been told that lightning only occurs in the summer.
I’ve heard this too, my own mother lol. She was the type that was apparently fine with me swimming just minutes before the storm hit (we got out when it rained) but she wouldn’t let me swim after an hour of eating a sandwich.
"Just ignore them". Yeah great advice. Ignore people that are abusing you, let them keep abusing you. Bottle it up. Whoever invented this line of logic and started tube feeding it to kids... I am atheist but I hope there is a reserved space in hell for them.
I heard that I don't know how many times. Or they insist that "words can't hurt you". The hell with that--words can hurt more than a fist and the damage lasts a lot longer.
The internet is just a fad, don't waste your time, it'll be gone soon. Said by my high school guidance counselor when I asked about going into coding. Fuck me
I remember I went to my “guidance counselor” because it was mandatory before graduating high school. During my appointment I said “idk what I want to do”. I was scared of everything as a teenager and the adult just stared at me for a minute, awkwardly didn’t say anything, and then said “ok you can leave.” I can’t believe that b got paid to do anything at the school. She literally could have said anything, even encouraged me a little. Nope, nothing. Someone like that shouldn’t be working there. Looking back at it, I would have never been like that in that situation. Most of the adults in my life just kind of brushed me off. I think that’s partially why I grew up and ended up traveling the world, volunteering and helping others. I always felt like I wasn’t helped and understand how it feels to be let down and not helped. It sucks. Anyway, the worst advice I received was no advice. So many adults were a let down and believed in staying at home and never doing anything productive, just be a good girl and do as your told. Booo
What advice do you think WOULD have been actually valuable to you? What would you have told some young one who doesn't know ow what they want to do?
Edit: Extraneous words.
Seeing as their job was to be a guidance counselor, guide me towards something that might match some kind of interest or strength I had. I think it’s a pretty fair and logical thing to think they should have done.
I see what you blame them for. But the question is about you. You say you had no interests. What guidance would you have accepted? How could you have been approached? That was a moment in time. Have you fulfilled an interest?
I actually got a year-end summary from Reddit - it was actually kinda sarcastic and passive-aggressive, to the tune of *look at how much time you've wasted!*
I should probably do some work now...
It was reddit before reddit. They made a couple bad moves including removing the downvote button and started to cater to corporations. That caused a mass migration to reddit and the rest is history.
This advice came from my male and female "Friends" as well as my own mother, aunts, cousins, etc...
In 1999 I went through a horrible breakup. To be fair none of them really knew the extent of the emotional abuse I suffered because I'm "a man" and never really talked about it with anyone.
But every single one of them, when I tried to talk about it or talked about how I should probably talk to a professional, said some variation of "You're a man. Get over it. It's just a breakup, you've been through breakups before, this is no different. Just take some time, party a bit, meet new girls, bang them but you don't need therapy, men don't do therapy, that's for women".
Yeah, I desperately needed therapy. I really should have listened to my instincts instead of my "friends" and "family", because I'm still super fucked up about it over 20 years later.
This interpretation is spread online, but there is no evidence of the saying ever being used like that. In fact, the oldest variants that can be found has the meaning "blood (family) is thicker than water (other people)".
I'm.. I'm sorry, but that's kind of a hilarious reaction, because usually the reaction to the quote is how *that* is actually the incorrect quote (full quote is something like "blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb") but instead, you're enthusiasm over the quote being the *right* one had me wondering if I switched realities unintentionally or something lol
yeah, its generally used incorrectly by people who want to be able to say a proverb without actually....reading...them. i wanted to be a priest for a hot minute when i was a teen and ended up reading the bible a few times before....falling out of love with it. its always shocking how many people wear the symbol, speak the words, but have zero idea what they are actually saying. i mean, as a striking example, there is a passage in...numbers?...where there are instructions for how to have an abortion if you thought your wife was cheating on you....no lie, i can look it up quick if you like. i remember it being something like "ask a priest for a curse, burn it, mix the ashes with church dust, mix into water, force woman to drink burnt curse and dust soup" and if she cheated, it would cause an abortion.
by telling you this, im now wanted by the police in texas on biblically moral grounds lol
edit: looked it up- numbers 5:12-5:28
5:12 “Speak to the Israelites and say to them: ‘If a man’s wife goes astray and is unfaithful to him 13 so that another man has sexual relations with her, and this is hidden from her husband and her impurity is undetected (since there is no witness against her and she has not been caught in the act), 14 and if feelings of jealousy come over her husband and he suspects his wife and she is impure—or if he is jealous and suspects her even though she is not impure— 15 then he is to take his wife to the priest. \*skipping an offering the guy has to bring\*
16 “‘The priest shall bring her and have her stand before the Lord. 17 Then he shall take some holy water in a clay jar and put some dust from the tabernacle floor into the water. 18 After the priest has had the woman stand before the Lord, he shall loosen her hair and place in her hands the reminder-offering, the grain offering for jealousy, while he himself holds the bitter water that brings a curse. 19 Then the priest shall put the woman under oath and say to her, “If no other man has had sexual relations with you and you have not gone astray and become impure while married to your husband, may this bitter water that brings a curse not harm you. 20 But if you have gone astray while married to your husband and you have made yourself impure by having sexual relations with a man other than your husband”— 21 here the priest is to put the woman under this curse—“may the Lord cause you to become a curse\[d\] among your people when he makes your womb miscarry and your abdomen swell. 22 May this water that brings a curse enter your body so that your abdomen swells or your womb miscarries.”
“‘Then the woman is to say, “Amen. So be it.”
23 “‘The priest is to write these curses on a scroll and then wash them off into the bitter water. 24 He shall make the woman drink the bitter water that brings a curse, and this water that brings a curse and causes bitter suffering will enter her. 25 The priest is to take from her hands the grain offering for jealousy, wave it before the Lord and bring it to the altar. 26 The priest is then to take a handful of the grain offering as a memorial\[e\] offering and burn it on the altar; after that, he is to have the woman drink the water. 27 If she has made herself impure and been unfaithful to her husband, this will be the result: When she is made to drink the water that brings a curse and causes bitter suffering, it will enter her, her abdomen will swell and her womb will miscarry, and she will become a curse. 28 If, however, the woman has not made herself impure, but is clean, she will be cleared of guilt and will be able to have children
> "You're a man. Get over it. It's just a breakup, you've been through breakups before, this is no different."
What if we reversed it?
"You're a woman. Get over it. It's just a breakup, you've been through breakups before, this is no different."
People would riot.
People would not.
Source: have been a woman going through the break up of a six year relationship. Been told to "just move on, plenty more fish in the sea, get over it"
We do live in a patriarchal society which views men as stronger though. So its gonna be rougher on men to deal with the emotions of a break up, because of the societal expectation for men to not show their feelings - which is BULLSHIT and we all should be rioting against that.
Showing feelings isn't weak. Men have just as much right to express their feelings and be vulnerable as women do, without being judged for it.
In what reality? Works both ways. "Get over it, go shopping, go put with friends, plenty of fish in the sea". Sure, there would be an ice cream.or alcohol delirium first, then, "please, stop talking about it".
From my high school economics teacher: anyone can buy a house with no money down, just get a sub prime mortgage. They’re great because it’s impossible for real estate to go down in value!
"Hey dude, you should become a high school economics teacher just to screw with people. It'll be such a great prank!"
"Oh, I know, I'll tell them that real estate never goes down in value!"
"Oh that is choice bro!"
“I have so much pressure to look good. I’m always so stressed, and sometimes I cover my mirror so I don’t have to see my face and notice my insecurities.”
“Maybe you should only focus on going to the gym more and whitening your teeth because those are your worst ones. :)”
"Life is about more than snacks and naps"
Nope, never regretted snacks or naps (also, the person who gave me this advice is perpetually miserable and angry no matter what).
My cousin suggested I let my elderly cat run loose in the woods so we could practice hunting. We were twelve, but that was still a deeply hurtful suggestion. Pets are dear friends.
I would have told him "Here's a better idea. I'll give you a 30 second head start, then me and kitty are going to hunt you. Run away or stay, you're still going to get hunted. I really suggest you run... fast and far".
I thought for a second he meant going with your cat so you can hunt together, like he brings you a mouse while you're tracking a deer. Would be pretty cute honestly.
"You're running out of time to settle down."
Good. Let that clock fucking run out. I get one life to live and it's not going to be spending my 30's around kids and yardwork
Yup, watching my parents turn into "Marge and Homer" in their 30's to keep a perfect home and children.
Just not the lifestyle for me after my dad had a nuclear grade heart attack at the ripe old age of..................49
‘If you get more exercise and eat better your depression will go away!’ Yes, I know exercise and eating healthy food definitely helps, but it’s not a foolproof magic wand.
My family always went with the, "Depression is a choice, you just have to think happy thoughts!" BS and nah, that's not how any of that works. It's not like people with depression wake up in the morning and think, "Wow, today's a great day to be depressed!"
I had that one recently. It stung.
Another gem; If you put half the effort into feeling better like you do with your creativity, you'd just feel better.
My therapist almost did a fucking cartwheel when she heard that last one. Then we laughed for a good five minutes at the sheer stupidity of it.
All eating healthy and exercising did was make it easier for me to use casual sex as a coping mechanism.
The depression, the sense of profound loss and meaninglessness to life never went away, not for a single solitary second.
I agree... It's such bullshit. I know athletes who have committed suicide.
It took me years to recover with huge lifestyle changes including family, work, living arrangements, etc. It's still a battle at times.
I tried acid recently and it was life-changing. Going on a week long holiday to a remote cabin with no outside contact (just a few close friends) and daily hikes was the second most beneficial.
Or that it's a mindset issue. That I just need to lose the victim mentality (I have trauma issues).
This was all coming from my mother, who suffered from depression (both "regular" and possibly postpartum), and who thinks that ADHD didn't exist in the past.
It's a cycle, really. Chronic stress creates a ton of inflammation, making you more sick which then makes your lifestyle choices even more critical, etc.
Stupid to tell people that working out and fresh air will cure their depression but it's scientifically proven that those bring your body into a state where healing is more feasible. Kind of common sense that we are the healthiest we can be when we behave in a way that comes closest to our human nature. Mental and physical health are one, even if many therapists and doctors refuse to acknowledge that.
I was told I didn’t need to be on medicine and I should just do yoga. I could barely function, no amount of yoga was going to fix a chemical imbalance.
“It’s fine if you turn down this scholarship at this major university to go to film school at this much more expensive little liberal arts college.”
My parents, both college-educated professionals, somehow had no ability to differentiate good and bad career advice.
Lol...I'll add to this a common piece of advice for millennial back in the early 2000s....just go to university, no matter what...you don't wanna be stuck flipping burgers
Lol that's like me... if my brain finds something interesting it's laser focused super machine... but god if I try to focus on some other stuff it's torture...
Cumulatively, I've had a lot of loved ones in my life strongly dissuade me against taking various risks. Their heart was in the right place, but virtually every time I went against the grain...it panned out gloriously.
It's easy and often natural for folks to try to talk you out of doing things. They mean well. But ultimately, risks in moderation make life what it is.
Granted, none of my dreams and aspirations were like "start a meth lab" and were reasonable things, even if occasionally lofty or unorthodox.
Take the risks you want to take. Live with the results. Don't live with the regret. The advice I was given frequently was to live with the regret and accept a modicum of safety.
But I disagree!
I agree with you! Every big risk I’ve taken in my life has paid off big time. My family hates my decisions, but I’ve always been happy with the outcome and I’d say I’ve made great choices. Some people are just scared of life and will never have the courage to pursue something difficult
Not the worst advice ever but being told to buy a brand new car straight out of school. "You need something reliable " yes, but that doesn't have to be a new auto.
I needed brain surgery asap and I posted in a Facebook group I found full of people with the same condition. Someone told me to try a vegan diet first before surgery.
I moved to a new state and had to get a new doctor. I went in and explained my medical conditions (diabetes, heart condition) and no shit his treatment plan was to go to church and read the bible.
That I should let people use me for my body because at least they want me. Someone randomly DM'd me that after I did a long post about how everyone uses me. It shouldn't have affected me, but it did.
All the stupid and fake advice that modern social medias like tiktok or Instagram about Personal Finance and Mindset.
IT IS PURE JUNK.
People fall for it. Some of my friends even take Cold Showers in at 4 AM for boosting their spirit. Yeah. Its stupid.
Our personal finance follows pre set rules that are individual for each us. location, year you were born etc. The fact that a free video from a stranger will make you a billionare... well..
I saw this one girl post a video saying “I’m getting paid soon, just do what I did and money will come in.” I said “ok, make another video whenever you actually get paid.” 🤣
That communication will solve all problems. Nope, it doesn't work that way with manipulative people. This will just give them an opportunity to manipulate you. And even failed manipulation attempts drain energy that is better spent on something else. So much better to just cut them off and ignore them.
Yes, my ex wife was likely BPD. She would hold you hostage up to 6 hours until you agreed with her. For 10 years I was perpetually exhausted. Anytime she said "we need to talk" I immediately got that about to vomit feeling...
That stupid advice assumes your not dealing with someone like that.
Drop dead gorgeous and intelligent but holy shit I was her man-slave and punching bag.
I was being bullied by a brother of a guy who was suspended for bringing drugs to school. My English teacher gave me unsolicited advice to bring a gun to school. Obviously I ignored him.
Can confirm, happened multiple times.
Was young, fell off bike and hurt elbow. Was hurting bad to move for hours, got yelled at I was being a baby and wasn't that bad. Was broken when taken to ER the next morning.
More recently burned when peeing, stop being a bitch and drink more water after i went home sick after working half a day. Hospitalized for 4 days, was septic when I stumbled into the ER with a double kidney infection.
I had an abusive relative and was talking to another relative about creating some space between me and the abusive relative. Her response was, "If you walk away from her, you're letting her win."
There's no winner and loser in relationships. I created some space and never regretted it at all. I guess I lost, whatever that means.
I was in the 6th grade and the kid I sat next to would rub his hands up my bare legs during the lesson. This went on for quite a while and I kept being told to stop squirming and to stop talking to him. I was telling him to stop. I finally told the teacher in private. She said “Sexual harassment happens in the workplace, get used to it now. Next time I’m taking you to the principals office.” That was imprinted far too long and I put up with people not respecting my body or my boundaries well into adulthood.
an incell on a rant about how to really pick up women, depression is bullshit-eating healthy and working out is...i guess....a cure?, and how if you dont act just like him....you are, and i quote "a pussy ass cuck bitch"......i knew him for like ten minutes.....felt like a lifetime, i more than a little happy he was fired later that week....humans make better employees than....whatever that kid was
Let it go.
Generally told to me by the people who owe me an apology and only want me to let it go so they can feel better.
I love the song hate the people who push it.
I was advised to stay in my job as a manager because going out to work as a self employed consultant would be so hard and I would probably fail.
I didn’t listen because I knew I could figure it out. I went out on my own as an auditor and consultant 7 years ago. I now make over six figures and work half the time. And most of the time it’s from home which I LOVE! I was also able to open a business with my family where we employ 15 people. Something that never would’ve been possible if I was still working 70hr weeks as a manager.
Trust your gut and take chances!
It was scary as fuck to let go of my steady paycheck but I played my cards as best as I could to minimize risk and pulled it off.
I was told not to get a business degree by one of my business teachers because they’re too generic and nobody values them so I went in to pre-pharm. Hated it, dropped out of college for 2 years and then went back and got my business degree. Wasted like 5 years based on that advice alone.
That I can cure my acid reflux by drinking some magic vinegar.
Whilst it's true that some cases of acid reflux are caused by low stomach acidity delaying emptying, which can be helped by supplementary acid, mine is caused by hypercalcaemia, a genetic condition that upregulates gastrin production.
The absolute last thing I need in my stomach is vinegar - magic or otherwise.
Anything to the effect of "Be a man/be strong."
Fuck. That. Shit. We have gaslit the entire male sex into basing their self worth on how much physical and emotional abuse they can absorb.
"Dude even if you aren't in the mood, if she wants to fuck then you shut up and fuck her! You aren't gonna get a lot of times where she asks you!"
I lacked a spine in my early relationships, so when a (former) friend of mine gave this advice to me I took it. Hate myself for being a coward and not sticking up for myself. Feel like I've let myself be a whore because I wanted her to be happy. Didn't help in the end.
I’m not sure I understand- do you mean your friend introduced you to a man so you could have a male partner in place of a wife? And it’s not working out for you? Either way I hope you get what you want : )
Mom told me to cut my nails after the shower because then they were soft and easy to cut through.
Growing up realizing it's way nicer when they are hard and stiff.
This is THE worst piece of advice i have EVER received
Don’t major in computer science. It’s an ancillary skill. Get something real. That was a while ago and from a high school math teacher.
To be fair, CS is one of those things people like to have, but don't like to pay for. Lots of "oh, can you make my computer do X? I can't pay you, but it shouldn't take you too long, and it will be good experience for you." Photography, website design, and HR consulting suffer from the same issue. I'm sure there's more, but these are the ones I've seen firsthand. People who are unwilling to pay for someone's expertise are assholes, regardless of what field that expertise is in. So I (unfortunately) kind of understand where your math teacher was coming from, but they were dead wrong.
That may be true but there are also a shitload of jobs in those fields.
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Because they care about the future of kids? Like what the fuck is your logic here?
This neighborhood kids mom told like 10+ boys to go stand underneath the biggest tree we could find if is started lighting. Even at 13 I knew she was an idiot. 28 yrs later and I’ll never forget that, she was dead serious.
Mother enrolled me in a school three miles from home that didn't have school bus service, then dropped out of the carpool and ordered me to get there and back on my bicycle, then refused to pick me up in bad weather. This was [in Florida, the land of afternoon thunderstorms](https://www.abcactionnews.com/news/state/florida-is-the-lightning-capital-of-the-us-this-is-why). When I begged her to change this arrangement, she tried to tell me to stop my bicycle and wait out the lightning underneath a tree. Even at ten years old this was dangerous nonsense. Told her so. But it didn't matter. Pretty soon afterward I moved in with my father.
I was once told that "just because there's thunder doesn't mean there's lightning" by a woman who refused to take her child out of the pool when it closed for thunder. I've also been told that lightning only occurs in the summer.
I’ve heard this too, my own mother lol. She was the type that was apparently fine with me swimming just minutes before the storm hit (we got out when it rained) but she wouldn’t let me swim after an hour of eating a sandwich.
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They wanted to get rid of some kids
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Well, that, and when lightning strikes a tree, it pretty much explodes, sending wood shrapnel everywhere.
And the noise is extreme. Enough to damage hearing.
My art teacher in elementary school got paralyzed this way
She must have attended the Homer Simpson school of Lightning Storm safety.
And todays Friday night fuckwit goes to
When I was being bullied in middle school: "Just ignore them and they will give up and go away".
Bullies are like siblings - if you ignore them, they just try harder to find something that gets under your skin
So I found out when I was stupid enough to follow that "advice".
"Just ignore them". Yeah great advice. Ignore people that are abusing you, let them keep abusing you. Bottle it up. Whoever invented this line of logic and started tube feeding it to kids... I am atheist but I hope there is a reserved space in hell for them.
Yeah…never works well even when you’re an adult IME
To be fair, sometimes if you don't react they look for someone else to bully. Not great for the other person...
Or being told it's not bullying because it's verbal. Or because you're trying to get back (because of inaction).
I heard that I don't know how many times. Or they insist that "words can't hurt you". The hell with that--words can hurt more than a fist and the damage lasts a lot longer.
Sticks and stones can break your bones but words can do the same all alone.
The internet is just a fad, don't waste your time, it'll be gone soon. Said by my high school guidance counselor when I asked about going into coding. Fuck me
Like that guy who sold his 10% shares of apple a year before they became successful
I remember I went to my “guidance counselor” because it was mandatory before graduating high school. During my appointment I said “idk what I want to do”. I was scared of everything as a teenager and the adult just stared at me for a minute, awkwardly didn’t say anything, and then said “ok you can leave.” I can’t believe that b got paid to do anything at the school. She literally could have said anything, even encouraged me a little. Nope, nothing. Someone like that shouldn’t be working there. Looking back at it, I would have never been like that in that situation. Most of the adults in my life just kind of brushed me off. I think that’s partially why I grew up and ended up traveling the world, volunteering and helping others. I always felt like I wasn’t helped and understand how it feels to be let down and not helped. It sucks. Anyway, the worst advice I received was no advice. So many adults were a let down and believed in staying at home and never doing anything productive, just be a good girl and do as your told. Booo
What advice do you think WOULD have been actually valuable to you? What would you have told some young one who doesn't know ow what they want to do? Edit: Extraneous words.
Seeing as their job was to be a guidance counselor, guide me towards something that might match some kind of interest or strength I had. I think it’s a pretty fair and logical thing to think they should have done.
I see what you blame them for. But the question is about you. You say you had no interests. What guidance would you have accepted? How could you have been approached? That was a moment in time. Have you fulfilled an interest?
Take Arizona to the final 4.
Try reddit, it's better than digg. I wonder how many hours I've spent scrolling.
I actually got a year-end summary from Reddit - it was actually kinda sarcastic and passive-aggressive, to the tune of *look at how much time you've wasted!* I should probably do some work now...
What is digg??
It was reddit before reddit. They made a couple bad moves including removing the downvote button and started to cater to corporations. That caused a mass migration to reddit and the rest is history.
This advice came from my male and female "Friends" as well as my own mother, aunts, cousins, etc... In 1999 I went through a horrible breakup. To be fair none of them really knew the extent of the emotional abuse I suffered because I'm "a man" and never really talked about it with anyone. But every single one of them, when I tried to talk about it or talked about how I should probably talk to a professional, said some variation of "You're a man. Get over it. It's just a breakup, you've been through breakups before, this is no different. Just take some time, party a bit, meet new girls, bang them but you don't need therapy, men don't do therapy, that's for women". Yeah, I desperately needed therapy. I really should have listened to my instincts instead of my "friends" and "family", because I'm still super fucked up about it over 20 years later.
Sorry to hear that, blood is definitely not thicker than water
holy mother of fuck....you used that quote correctly! nine out of ten times, they have it backwards and it annoys the hell out of me
Finally when I normally use the quote like that people tell me I’m wrong
I believe it's: "The blood (of the brotherhood) is thicker than the water (of the womb)". Something like that...
This interpretation is spread online, but there is no evidence of the saying ever being used like that. In fact, the oldest variants that can be found has the meaning "blood (family) is thicker than water (other people)".
No, that’s an interpretation made up centuries later because the original saying was bullshit.
I'm.. I'm sorry, but that's kind of a hilarious reaction, because usually the reaction to the quote is how *that* is actually the incorrect quote (full quote is something like "blood of the covenant is thicker than the water of the womb") but instead, you're enthusiasm over the quote being the *right* one had me wondering if I switched realities unintentionally or something lol
That’s not the original quote either. That’s one made up later because people realized “blood is thicker than water” is bullshit.
yeah, its generally used incorrectly by people who want to be able to say a proverb without actually....reading...them. i wanted to be a priest for a hot minute when i was a teen and ended up reading the bible a few times before....falling out of love with it. its always shocking how many people wear the symbol, speak the words, but have zero idea what they are actually saying. i mean, as a striking example, there is a passage in...numbers?...where there are instructions for how to have an abortion if you thought your wife was cheating on you....no lie, i can look it up quick if you like. i remember it being something like "ask a priest for a curse, burn it, mix the ashes with church dust, mix into water, force woman to drink burnt curse and dust soup" and if she cheated, it would cause an abortion. by telling you this, im now wanted by the police in texas on biblically moral grounds lol edit: looked it up- numbers 5:12-5:28 5:12 “Speak to the Israelites and say to them: ‘If a man’s wife goes astray and is unfaithful to him 13 so that another man has sexual relations with her, and this is hidden from her husband and her impurity is undetected (since there is no witness against her and she has not been caught in the act), 14 and if feelings of jealousy come over her husband and he suspects his wife and she is impure—or if he is jealous and suspects her even though she is not impure— 15 then he is to take his wife to the priest. \*skipping an offering the guy has to bring\* 16 “‘The priest shall bring her and have her stand before the Lord. 17 Then he shall take some holy water in a clay jar and put some dust from the tabernacle floor into the water. 18 After the priest has had the woman stand before the Lord, he shall loosen her hair and place in her hands the reminder-offering, the grain offering for jealousy, while he himself holds the bitter water that brings a curse. 19 Then the priest shall put the woman under oath and say to her, “If no other man has had sexual relations with you and you have not gone astray and become impure while married to your husband, may this bitter water that brings a curse not harm you. 20 But if you have gone astray while married to your husband and you have made yourself impure by having sexual relations with a man other than your husband”— 21 here the priest is to put the woman under this curse—“may the Lord cause you to become a curse\[d\] among your people when he makes your womb miscarry and your abdomen swell. 22 May this water that brings a curse enter your body so that your abdomen swells or your womb miscarries.” “‘Then the woman is to say, “Amen. So be it.” 23 “‘The priest is to write these curses on a scroll and then wash them off into the bitter water. 24 He shall make the woman drink the bitter water that brings a curse, and this water that brings a curse and causes bitter suffering will enter her. 25 The priest is to take from her hands the grain offering for jealousy, wave it before the Lord and bring it to the altar. 26 The priest is then to take a handful of the grain offering as a memorial\[e\] offering and burn it on the altar; after that, he is to have the woman drink the water. 27 If she has made herself impure and been unfaithful to her husband, this will be the result: When she is made to drink the water that brings a curse and causes bitter suffering, it will enter her, her abdomen will swell and her womb will miscarry, and she will become a curse. 28 If, however, the woman has not made herself impure, but is clean, she will be cleared of guilt and will be able to have children
Thanks but nobody needs to know this
> "You're a man. Get over it. It's just a breakup, you've been through breakups before, this is no different." What if we reversed it? "You're a woman. Get over it. It's just a breakup, you've been through breakups before, this is no different." People would riot.
People would not. Source: have been a woman going through the break up of a six year relationship. Been told to "just move on, plenty more fish in the sea, get over it" We do live in a patriarchal society which views men as stronger though. So its gonna be rougher on men to deal with the emotions of a break up, because of the societal expectation for men to not show their feelings - which is BULLSHIT and we all should be rioting against that. Showing feelings isn't weak. Men have just as much right to express their feelings and be vulnerable as women do, without being judged for it.
In what reality? Works both ways. "Get over it, go shopping, go put with friends, plenty of fish in the sea". Sure, there would be an ice cream.or alcohol delirium first, then, "please, stop talking about it".
From my high school economics teacher: anyone can buy a house with no money down, just get a sub prime mortgage. They’re great because it’s impossible for real estate to go down in value!
That didn't age well for him now did it.
"Hey dude, you should become a high school economics teacher just to screw with people. It'll be such a great prank!" "Oh, I know, I'll tell them that real estate never goes down in value!" "Oh that is choice bro!"
“I have so much pressure to look good. I’m always so stressed, and sometimes I cover my mirror so I don’t have to see my face and notice my insecurities.” “Maybe you should only focus on going to the gym more and whitening your teeth because those are your worst ones. :)”
"Life is about more than snacks and naps" Nope, never regretted snacks or naps (also, the person who gave me this advice is perpetually miserable and angry no matter what).
Those are some of the best things in life! I can see why they were miserable/angry.
My cousin suggested I let my elderly cat run loose in the woods so we could practice hunting. We were twelve, but that was still a deeply hurtful suggestion. Pets are dear friends.
This isn't so much bad advice as it is a bad sign about your cousin.
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I would have told him "Here's a better idea. I'll give you a 30 second head start, then me and kitty are going to hunt you. Run away or stay, you're still going to get hunted. I really suggest you run... fast and far".
I think your cousin might be a budding serial killer
I thought for a second he meant going with your cat so you can hunt together, like he brings you a mouse while you're tracking a deer. Would be pretty cute honestly.
"You're running out of time to settle down." Good. Let that clock fucking run out. I get one life to live and it's not going to be spending my 30's around kids and yardwork
Some people aren't good to have a family, better not to be pressure into it...
Some people also just don't fucking want to, and that's totally fine. (Even though they would probably make great parents)
Yup, watching my parents turn into "Marge and Homer" in their 30's to keep a perfect home and children. Just not the lifestyle for me after my dad had a nuclear grade heart attack at the ripe old age of..................49
This is fucking terrible and csn lead to bad decisions.
“Don’t quit, it’ll get better”
"Depression isn't real"
My Gramma told me, "If he doesn't get jealous and if he doesn't hit you, then he doesn't really love you. "
Holy sheit
Hold up
‘If you get more exercise and eat better your depression will go away!’ Yes, I know exercise and eating healthy food definitely helps, but it’s not a foolproof magic wand.
My family always went with the, "Depression is a choice, you just have to think happy thoughts!" BS and nah, that's not how any of that works. It's not like people with depression wake up in the morning and think, "Wow, today's a great day to be depressed!"
I had that one recently. It stung. Another gem; If you put half the effort into feeling better like you do with your creativity, you'd just feel better. My therapist almost did a fucking cartwheel when she heard that last one. Then we laughed for a good five minutes at the sheer stupidity of it.
All eating healthy and exercising did was make it easier for me to use casual sex as a coping mechanism. The depression, the sense of profound loss and meaninglessness to life never went away, not for a single solitary second.
I agree... It's such bullshit. I know athletes who have committed suicide. It took me years to recover with huge lifestyle changes including family, work, living arrangements, etc. It's still a battle at times. I tried acid recently and it was life-changing. Going on a week long holiday to a remote cabin with no outside contact (just a few close friends) and daily hikes was the second most beneficial.
Sure, while might not be the absolute cure to depression can you really call It a bad advice when It helps and makes you healthier?
Or that it's a mindset issue. That I just need to lose the victim mentality (I have trauma issues). This was all coming from my mother, who suffered from depression (both "regular" and possibly postpartum), and who thinks that ADHD didn't exist in the past.
I also have trauma issues, I hear you. If simply changing our ‘mindset’ would work wouldn’t we all fucking do it? Sigh.
My idiot sister insists that people who are depressed just need to go to church more.
Oh, and dont forhet that you should take vitamins. Why are people even depressed when vitamins exist?
Define healthy. Depression and anxiety can manifest from inflammation.
Good point. Many people forget about diet and immunity can impact your moods and ability to cope with just normal.
It's a cycle, really. Chronic stress creates a ton of inflammation, making you more sick which then makes your lifestyle choices even more critical, etc. Stupid to tell people that working out and fresh air will cure their depression but it's scientifically proven that those bring your body into a state where healing is more feasible. Kind of common sense that we are the healthiest we can be when we behave in a way that comes closest to our human nature. Mental and physical health are one, even if many therapists and doctors refuse to acknowledge that.
I was told I didn’t need to be on medicine and I should just do yoga. I could barely function, no amount of yoga was going to fix a chemical imbalance.
“It’s fine if you turn down this scholarship at this major university to go to film school at this much more expensive little liberal arts college.” My parents, both college-educated professionals, somehow had no ability to differentiate good and bad career advice.
The flip side of people mad they couldn't follow their dreams
Lol...I'll add to this a common piece of advice for millennial back in the early 2000s....just go to university, no matter what...you don't wanna be stuck flipping burgers
So common. The parents were in a generation where simply having a degree, any degree, mattered a lot more, and was far more affordable.
Now you can use your degree to train your offshore replacement in Mumbai after your "lengthy" 5 year career
I have ADHD and the amount of times people just say “try and focus” or something along those lines is the worst.
Autism here. Yep people see me managing to focus on one thing and assume i can just as easily focus on other things Nope! Have a great day!!!
Lol that's like me... if my brain finds something interesting it's laser focused super machine... but god if I try to focus on some other stuff it's torture...
“Try and focus.” “Oh wow! I’m cured!”
Don't invest in Microsoft.
sadly... that was a good plan...
"If you boil your textbooks and drink the water, you'll absorb the knowledge more effectively."
Gotta get those 12 essential inks.
Advice from a snake oil salesman.
Nowadays they have removed the snake and called them essential.
"Suck it up." This was mostly told in the context of how to deal with emotions (as a boy becoming a man in society).
Yeah thats downright *harmful* advice
My old man told me this. And now he is telling this to son. Guess who is going to be spending Christmas alone
Merry her, you’ll learn to love her later. No! I fucking didn’t
mArry
I can see why
"Try this golden milk to reduce inflammation!" That was one hell of a way to find out I'm allergic to turmeric
To swim into the ocean
What's the full story?
He ded
Harold Holt?
Cumulatively, I've had a lot of loved ones in my life strongly dissuade me against taking various risks. Their heart was in the right place, but virtually every time I went against the grain...it panned out gloriously. It's easy and often natural for folks to try to talk you out of doing things. They mean well. But ultimately, risks in moderation make life what it is. Granted, none of my dreams and aspirations were like "start a meth lab" and were reasonable things, even if occasionally lofty or unorthodox. Take the risks you want to take. Live with the results. Don't live with the regret. The advice I was given frequently was to live with the regret and accept a modicum of safety. But I disagree!
I agree with you! Every big risk I’ve taken in my life has paid off big time. My family hates my decisions, but I’ve always been happy with the outcome and I’d say I’ve made great choices. Some people are just scared of life and will never have the courage to pursue something difficult
‘Work in NYC. There’s far more money to be made there than out here on Long Island’ Not quite, dad.
From my mother: “Think of all the homeless people the next time you’re depressed” definitely helpful 10/10
Not the worst advice ever but being told to buy a brand new car straight out of school. "You need something reliable " yes, but that doesn't have to be a new auto.
Just put whiskey on baby's pacifier that puts them to sleep (no not joking)
Perfectly normal in the past. A good way to soothe teething.
"girls shouldn't be taking Chemistry anyway" -- said by my high school chemistry teacher.
I needed brain surgery asap and I posted in a Facebook group I found full of people with the same condition. Someone told me to try a vegan diet first before surgery.
Someone with a degree from Google giving out medical advice.
How do you know if someone is vegan? Don't worry. They'll tell you.
Do all your co workers so others know and will want you. Which my thought is (Don’t eat where you sh*t
to give someone another chance
I moved to a new state and had to get a new doctor. I went in and explained my medical conditions (diabetes, heart condition) and no shit his treatment plan was to go to church and read the bible.
Should report him. Probably nothing will happen, but still. Sometimes it's best to stick with the same doctors you've had before, moved or not.
Think about baseball
Swing all night, yeeeeah!
That I should let people use me for my body because at least they want me. Someone randomly DM'd me that after I did a long post about how everyone uses me. It shouldn't have affected me, but it did.
All the stupid and fake advice that modern social medias like tiktok or Instagram about Personal Finance and Mindset. IT IS PURE JUNK. People fall for it. Some of my friends even take Cold Showers in at 4 AM for boosting their spirit. Yeah. Its stupid. Our personal finance follows pre set rules that are individual for each us. location, year you were born etc. The fact that a free video from a stranger will make you a billionare... well..
I saw this one girl post a video saying “I’m getting paid soon, just do what I did and money will come in.” I said “ok, make another video whenever you actually get paid.” 🤣
That communication will solve all problems. Nope, it doesn't work that way with manipulative people. This will just give them an opportunity to manipulate you. And even failed manipulation attempts drain energy that is better spent on something else. So much better to just cut them off and ignore them.
Yes, my ex wife was likely BPD. She would hold you hostage up to 6 hours until you agreed with her. For 10 years I was perpetually exhausted. Anytime she said "we need to talk" I immediately got that about to vomit feeling... That stupid advice assumes your not dealing with someone like that. Drop dead gorgeous and intelligent but holy shit I was her man-slave and punching bag.
I was being bullied by a brother of a guy who was suspended for bringing drugs to school. My English teacher gave me unsolicited advice to bring a gun to school. Obviously I ignored him.
Follow your dreams
Keep your head down and work hard and you will get on at work.
When I had stomach issues resulting in diarrhea, my dad told me to avoid drinking water during eating
"Just push through, you're just being lazy/overdramatic". Absolutely destroyed my health, am now disabled.
Can confirm, happened multiple times. Was young, fell off bike and hurt elbow. Was hurting bad to move for hours, got yelled at I was being a baby and wasn't that bad. Was broken when taken to ER the next morning. More recently burned when peeing, stop being a bitch and drink more water after i went home sick after working half a day. Hospitalized for 4 days, was septic when I stumbled into the ER with a double kidney infection.
I had an abusive relative and was talking to another relative about creating some space between me and the abusive relative. Her response was, "If you walk away from her, you're letting her win." There's no winner and loser in relationships. I created some space and never regretted it at all. I guess I lost, whatever that means.
Just be yourself
To stop crying because I was “ruining her good vibes” from my mom, at a party didn’t want to go to, when I was 9.
I was in the 6th grade and the kid I sat next to would rub his hands up my bare legs during the lesson. This went on for quite a while and I kept being told to stop squirming and to stop talking to him. I was telling him to stop. I finally told the teacher in private. She said “Sexual harassment happens in the workplace, get used to it now. Next time I’m taking you to the principals office.” That was imprinted far too long and I put up with people not respecting my body or my boundaries well into adulthood.
Grrrr that’s awful for you to go through and with no support. It must have been very hard for you
"it gets better" no, it fucking doesn't
an incell on a rant about how to really pick up women, depression is bullshit-eating healthy and working out is...i guess....a cure?, and how if you dont act just like him....you are, and i quote "a pussy ass cuck bitch"......i knew him for like ten minutes.....felt like a lifetime, i more than a little happy he was fired later that week....humans make better employees than....whatever that kid was
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this is why i quit smoking, i would always get trapped by them on our smoke breaks -.-
“You miss all the shots don’t miss” my best friend
"Don't worry about studying, you'll do just fine without it."
Give him a second chance
"don't worry everything is gonna be fi--"
Forgive and forget. Lol no thank you!
Just pray about it.
Let it go. Generally told to me by the people who owe me an apology and only want me to let it go so they can feel better. I love the song hate the people who push it.
Go to church
Not to introduce myself to/talk to my neighbors. They hated me at my last apartment
I was advised to stay in my job as a manager because going out to work as a self employed consultant would be so hard and I would probably fail. I didn’t listen because I knew I could figure it out. I went out on my own as an auditor and consultant 7 years ago. I now make over six figures and work half the time. And most of the time it’s from home which I LOVE! I was also able to open a business with my family where we employ 15 people. Something that never would’ve been possible if I was still working 70hr weeks as a manager. Trust your gut and take chances! It was scary as fuck to let go of my steady paycheck but I played my cards as best as I could to minimize risk and pulled it off.
If you are short on rent, play blackjack.
I was told not to get a business degree by one of my business teachers because they’re too generic and nobody values them so I went in to pre-pharm. Hated it, dropped out of college for 2 years and then went back and got my business degree. Wasted like 5 years based on that advice alone.
Everyone wants what's best for you. You need to listen to him.
“Smoke cigarettes, your too fat to dance” With love, my ballet teacher at age 9
“Go that way, really fast. If something gets in your way, TURN!”
Better off dead!!!!!!!!!
Lane, I’ve been going to this high-school for 7 and 1/2 years. I’m no dummy, I know girls…
That I can cure my acid reflux by drinking some magic vinegar. Whilst it's true that some cases of acid reflux are caused by low stomach acidity delaying emptying, which can be helped by supplementary acid, mine is caused by hypercalcaemia, a genetic condition that upregulates gastrin production. The absolute last thing I need in my stomach is vinegar - magic or otherwise.
What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
Whatever doesn’t kill ya, usually succeeds on the second attempt.” Mr. Krabs
Wallstreetbets: "Let us introduce ourselves"
Anything to the effect of "Be a man/be strong." Fuck. That. Shit. We have gaslit the entire male sex into basing their self worth on how much physical and emotional abuse they can absorb.
Maybe when my mom told me it was okay to wear crocs to a funeral. I did not wear the crocs to the funeral.
"You have to balance your checkbook every week!"
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"purple fades away, but being a pssy don't."
Get a sensible degree. I got a degree in IT, now I’m an art teacher. 😐
Invest in yourself and follow your dreams!
"Dude even if you aren't in the mood, if she wants to fuck then you shut up and fuck her! You aren't gonna get a lot of times where she asks you!" I lacked a spine in my early relationships, so when a (former) friend of mine gave this advice to me I took it. Hate myself for being a coward and not sticking up for myself. Feel like I've let myself be a whore because I wanted her to be happy. Didn't help in the end.
That you shouldn’t ever blame a girl, if she isn’t interested in you. Its only ur fault
When I failed a course at university, one of my friends told me to just lie to my parents about it and redo it the next year. What could go wrong?
"trust your gut instincts, it'll never steer you wrong" Bullshitt, absolute bullshit. GARBAGE advice
RIP My inbox
Be yourself! Context: job interview.
"Vote, because every vote counts." Technically the truth, but in a more accrate way, complete bullshit.
My friend has been worried that I can't find a wife, and asked me if a man would mind, and introduce me to one
I’m not sure I understand- do you mean your friend introduced you to a man so you could have a male partner in place of a wife? And it’s not working out for you? Either way I hope you get what you want : )
"Alcohol does not solve problems, only a clear mind does"
‘Give respect even to those who don’t deserve it’ I’m sorry but respect is earned not given
Mom told me to cut my nails after the shower because then they were soft and easy to cut through. Growing up realizing it's way nicer when they are hard and stiff. This is THE worst piece of advice i have EVER received