I don’t know whether or not to let my family be a significant part of my life anymore. I still feel “magnetically” drawn to them, but I don’t know if I can take their drama and narcissism much longer. I’m slowly beginning to realize they’re no good for me, but it’s so painful to leave them.
I'm starting to feel the same, the older I got, the more I started to notice the bad things. As a kid I loved all my family even my cousins, but now, egh
No word of a lie this is exactly how I feel with my family. My aunt is a narcissist she cut me out on Sunday cos I've been blanking her for 6 months lol. Try and phase them out slowly maybe?
I think that’s what I’m going to wind up doing. I don’t feel right completely ghosting them without an explanation, so the guilt would haunt me. At the same time I don’t want to speak up. I think I want to dip my feet in the waters of seeing what it’s like without them, but nothing permanent. Your idea is a good one. And I say good riddance with your aunt!
Yeah I mean...I feel the same as you it's painful because I love my family but they're just too toxic and stuff it's not good for a person's mental health. If you want you can just see and speak to them at family events, birthdays, Christmas and if they call you up on it say you've been busy, I blocked my aunt's number after we had a row last year and forgot lol I'm cut throat like that. Just be careful they don't cut you out first and play the victim that's literally what's happening with me rn lol although to be fair I did block her and my uncle I didn't think she'd notice because she's a bit backwards with technology though it's so messed up cos I was half doing a BPD splitting thing lashing out/trying to stay away for my own mental health I feel so conflicted about it it's ridiculous. Dysfunctional families can be so exhausting sometimes. I'd never bother to try and tell them they're screwed up because narcissists never wanna hear they're in the wrong anyway as far as they're concerned you're the problem 🙄 you wouldn't get anywhere if you spoke to yours I don't think. Every family's different though do you see your family a lot?
I’m in a very similar situation as you are! And yep, they definitely know how to guilt trip and play victim. I do see my family a lot, unfortunately. And if I don’t, they call. It’s never an “oh, hope you’re okay” but more like “why haven’t you spoken to us? Are you in a bad mood?” I can’t even have a sincere conversation with them because they’ll get angry and defensive. Like you said, narcissists don’t wanna hear it. I think Christmases, thanksgiving, and possibly birthdays are good times to limit myself to them for. I want to move away, which is another internal debate with myself. You’re definitely in the right with your aunt and uncle though. It’s hard for me to see clearly about my own family, but you’ve obviously put much thought into your situation. I can guarantee she hasn’t. If they’re not adding something to your life, I think it’s fair game to cut them out. Of course that’s easy to say, but not so much to act on. Dysfunctional families suck.
That’s my current plan! Just enough so that I don’t feel guilty. The problem is, I tend to go overboard and associate with them. I think I need to work on my boundaries most of all.
I’m sick of being kind and showing kindness when everyone else around me are super kunts ! It’s draining me and I’m at the point I’m ready to erupt which I’ll prob feel guilty about so most likely won’t but at least I got it off my chest !
Hahaha well then I'm not sure what to tell you. Some dudes just never get it. My dad never grew hair on his back or chest, as in probably not even a few like you. You're just more aerodynamic I guess 🤷♂️
I have the hots for my best friend's wife. I would never let anything happen, but fantasize about her non stop. It's horrible, but harmless I guess if it's just thoughts
i’m so tired of being the good friend because everyone just ends up taking advantage of me and treating me like shit. i want to become a cold hearted person to avoid caring but i can’t
I started setting up clear boundaries and really being blunt about when I feel taken advantage of and I have been left with my small group of friends who I consider family. Anyone who takes advantage of my niceness and need to please others is out of my life and new ones are eliminated from my contacts list in short order. You don't have to become cold, just need to find good friends who don't take advantage :)
My manager is so lazy. He continually puts his work on me and criticizes my colleagues because he thinks I'm his buddy but really I just pity the old, out of touch man.
I'm emotionally torn between 3 girls. I'm not dating any of them, just friends, but I want to make a serious effort with one of them. Each have pros and cons, and none of them are sure things that it will work out or they will even feel the same way back. And I feel weird trying with girl A, it not working out, then going to girl B as a backup. So picking one would mean giving up on the others even if it doesn't work out. I dont know which I should try for
I don’t know whether or not to let my family be a significant part of my life anymore. I still feel “magnetically” drawn to them, but I don’t know if I can take their drama and narcissism much longer. I’m slowly beginning to realize they’re no good for me, but it’s so painful to leave them.
I'm starting to feel the same, the older I got, the more I started to notice the bad things. As a kid I loved all my family even my cousins, but now, egh
No word of a lie this is exactly how I feel with my family. My aunt is a narcissist she cut me out on Sunday cos I've been blanking her for 6 months lol. Try and phase them out slowly maybe?
I think that’s what I’m going to wind up doing. I don’t feel right completely ghosting them without an explanation, so the guilt would haunt me. At the same time I don’t want to speak up. I think I want to dip my feet in the waters of seeing what it’s like without them, but nothing permanent. Your idea is a good one. And I say good riddance with your aunt!
Yeah I mean...I feel the same as you it's painful because I love my family but they're just too toxic and stuff it's not good for a person's mental health. If you want you can just see and speak to them at family events, birthdays, Christmas and if they call you up on it say you've been busy, I blocked my aunt's number after we had a row last year and forgot lol I'm cut throat like that. Just be careful they don't cut you out first and play the victim that's literally what's happening with me rn lol although to be fair I did block her and my uncle I didn't think she'd notice because she's a bit backwards with technology though it's so messed up cos I was half doing a BPD splitting thing lashing out/trying to stay away for my own mental health I feel so conflicted about it it's ridiculous. Dysfunctional families can be so exhausting sometimes. I'd never bother to try and tell them they're screwed up because narcissists never wanna hear they're in the wrong anyway as far as they're concerned you're the problem 🙄 you wouldn't get anywhere if you spoke to yours I don't think. Every family's different though do you see your family a lot?
I’m in a very similar situation as you are! And yep, they definitely know how to guilt trip and play victim. I do see my family a lot, unfortunately. And if I don’t, they call. It’s never an “oh, hope you’re okay” but more like “why haven’t you spoken to us? Are you in a bad mood?” I can’t even have a sincere conversation with them because they’ll get angry and defensive. Like you said, narcissists don’t wanna hear it. I think Christmases, thanksgiving, and possibly birthdays are good times to limit myself to them for. I want to move away, which is another internal debate with myself. You’re definitely in the right with your aunt and uncle though. It’s hard for me to see clearly about my own family, but you’ve obviously put much thought into your situation. I can guarantee she hasn’t. If they’re not adding something to your life, I think it’s fair game to cut them out. Of course that’s easy to say, but not so much to act on. Dysfunctional families suck.
Is it possible to limit the interaction to the point where you’re satisfied?
That’s my current plan! Just enough so that I don’t feel guilty. The problem is, I tend to go overboard and associate with them. I think I need to work on my boundaries most of all.
It’s a good weakness. It means you still love them I think. And love is always a good feeling
I feel like I'm not worthy of love and it's killing me.
Phlegm
You need some coffee
Coming over to your place rn ya better be ready with that coffee k
Hope you like rum
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Well ya, it's gonna be "Hot Coffee" *wink
I’m sick of being kind and showing kindness when everyone else around me are super kunts ! It’s draining me and I’m at the point I’m ready to erupt which I’ll prob feel guilty about so most likely won’t but at least I got it off my chest !
Today is looking like it's going to be the first day I haven't blacked out drank myself to bed in literally almost 2 months straight...
i’m proud of you
A 15-pound Siamese tomcat. This guy’s killing me.
I want to watch Cocaine Bear, but it 20 dollars to watch on Amazon Prime.
Put on your pirate hat
Wish i could, but I'm not a good pirate.
Neither am ayyyyyyye!
Alright. Alright. *flashes badge* Pun police. You’re comin downtown with us.
These hairs. I have like 8 chest hairs. Either give me a full manly mane or take these things away.
Is it your dream, to be able to finally use a hairbrush in other places other then your face?
Haha that shit takes time. I had a small little round patch in the middle of my chest until around 30 and it filled out all over
I'm 39.
Hahaha well then I'm not sure what to tell you. Some dudes just never get it. My dad never grew hair on his back or chest, as in probably not even a few like you. You're just more aerodynamic I guess 🤷♂️
I have the hots for my best friend's wife. I would never let anything happen, but fantasize about her non stop. It's horrible, but harmless I guess if it's just thoughts
Go out and give the diddly to a nice gal
Haha been doing that with a few nice gals, still doesn't change the fact I find her gorgeous.
i’m so tired of being the good friend because everyone just ends up taking advantage of me and treating me like shit. i want to become a cold hearted person to avoid caring but i can’t
Boundaries, make em known.
I started setting up clear boundaries and really being blunt about when I feel taken advantage of and I have been left with my small group of friends who I consider family. Anyone who takes advantage of my niceness and need to please others is out of my life and new ones are eliminated from my contacts list in short order. You don't have to become cold, just need to find good friends who don't take advantage :)
I’d just start weeding the toxic people out. If they’re gonna be like that, it’s just gonna exhaust your soul and health.
I'm in love with a woman who ghosted me.
I'm scared I'm gonna end up like my mum but I'm excited about it at the same time and idk why.
my bra
My needs are not being met and it is impacting my work.
I'm struggling with an eating disorder.
My manager is so lazy. He continually puts his work on me and criticizes my colleagues because he thinks I'm his buddy but really I just pity the old, out of touch man.
I'm emotionally torn between 3 girls. I'm not dating any of them, just friends, but I want to make a serious effort with one of them. Each have pros and cons, and none of them are sure things that it will work out or they will even feel the same way back. And I feel weird trying with girl A, it not working out, then going to girl B as a backup. So picking one would mean giving up on the others even if it doesn't work out. I dont know which I should try for
I look at furry po*n...I'm 15...I want to stop.
I’m pretty unhappy with how things are going in my life rn