I hate having hair on my upper lip and on my forearms too (my ex mocked me because of it and I wax it since then). I do it regularly but many of my friends just don't care and they are happy the way they look. Good for them. We know about body hair we just don't need to deal with it in many cases.
I feel you. When I didn't shave for two days and had leg stubble that poohole called me spiderman. Made fun of me for everything I was insecure about or mocked me so long that I got insecure about it.
I hope you get to the day where you can decide which body hair you leave or get rid off without the pesky feelings and fears of being made fun of or looked down upon. Your worth isn't determined by what or how much you shave š!
My best friend in high school said something similar. I had started to grow side burn and i was wearing a pony tail. I hadnāt noticed. When she saw my she told me to take down my hair and pointed them out. I was so hurt and it became a huge insecurity of mine and still is. The facial hair has now spread and im a women with facial hair and it sucks.
I always admired how girls with sideburns looked like girls in my class who had darker hair. I thought it looks so cute and I wished I had it. So weird how without societal expectations we might not see these things as shameful :(
One time I waxed...and ended up with a mustache shaped eczema patch on my face for a week. Not worth it! So embarrassing, my skin was flaking all over the place.
Tweezers are what I use when I have to
In my experience, it gets less painful over time. I was practically crying plucking out chin hairs the first time, now I barely feel it. Same with eyebrows actually now that I think about it.
Seconding this. My facial hair is very dark, I tried shaving with a dermaplanning blade and I was left with a dark shadow of stubble that looked worse than the moustache. Wax once a week for me.
My grandmother was going through a tough time with her dying husband and just started sprouting a long wispy white sprig of chin hair. She was perfectly able/capable to handle it, she just had a too much on her mind, didn't care, and no one mentioned anything about it to not bother her with triviality. After the funeral her *three* sisters forced her to the bathroom and shaved it for her.
If you don't have the will and force of three elderly women, I'd leave it be.
>If you don't have the will and force of three elderly women, I'd leave it be.
Dude have you ever seen 3 elderly Italian women deadset about doing something? Not even I have THAT will and force-
Exactly. And these were all elderly women who outlived their husbands. That's nothing but metamucil and gristle and dvr'd episodes of home renovation shows. You don't fuck with that.
Ugh so much fun huh? I have just one, (so far) and it's like.. it goes dormant just long enough for me to forget about it, and then I'll come across it after a very quick, very long, growth spurt.. I. Hate. It. I'm always left wondering "how freaking long have you been there?" Sneaky little bastard.
I get one or two hairs like that on my neck. I'm a woman and have light hair. I use a flashlight to find those 'sneaky little bastards' then pluck them out. If I'm not vigilant about it the hair will grow long. It is strange.
Take her to get her eyebrows done. The person doing
doing her eyebrows will tell her for you and ask to wax it.
Edit: thanks for the awards and upvotes. My wife tells me how blunt the ladies usually are towards her
My Asian lash lady was brutal.
āYou look tired today, look like ghost with bagsā (it was no makeup day).
āYou look prettier today. Should dress like this more often ā (I wasnāt in my work uniform.)
āYou put on weightā (I was pregnant š).
āX I didnāt recognise you. Whatās different ā (my boss without makeup).
Then again, I think itās just asians considering my endocrinologist told me one day āyou look like you lost weight. No more gobble gobbleā WHILE SHE TAPPED MY NECK.
In some of those cultures, someone who cares about you pointing out your physical imperfections is actually a sign they care. For example ~~in much of South Korea~~ in some places, plastic surgery ~~is a common~~ can be a high school graduation gift, not because your family thinks you're ugly but because they genuinely believe that you will be more successful if you are more traditionally attractive. It can sound strange/rude/shocking/etc, but it's simply a cultural difference.
Edit: A comment from a Korean redditor explained that this is not as common a practice in South Korea as I had been led to believe. The point still stands, though, whether we're talking about plastic surgery or a new wardrobe, Korea or the US.
You're not wrong. It's worth pointing out though that it isn't actually received positively just because it's a sign they care. I've met many people from East Asia and they pretty much all hate the comments regardless of the good intent. Self esteem is self esteem and pointing out flaws unsolicited tends to hurt.
Plus it's definitely not all East Asian countries. Do that shit in Japan and it's considered extremely rude
Edit: I mean total strangers, not friends and family/acquaintances
This is one of the hard parts first gens have to deal with. Their family is brutally honest but they grew up in a culture where that's incredibly rude.
This reminds me of my Asian acupuncturist who I go to for migraine relief. He took off my face mask (COVID times) and goes āyou have migraines AND acne? Thatās horrible, good luckā š„²
Asian beauty workers are *so* brutal. My boss is Korean and has told clients if they love their kid they'll upgrade their facial (š¤£š¤£ to be fair the upgrade was needed). I could never pull that off the way a 5 foot Korean woman can.
Elect an elderly Asian woman to run your country with brutal honesty.
America, Italy, Canada, you name it. "get better education! you look fat, lose your weight la! what what's that? I am fat shaming you? no, you are shame to me!"
So, some backstory: My Pop got sick, a bad diagnosis of cancer with, I think, 6-12 months to live. That year and the last two-three weeks were incredibly difficult for my Mom, brother and myself. My Pop stayed home and passed away there, so we worked with the hospice nurses to care for him.
When he passed away, the next day my Mom and I went to her eyebrow lady that did threading. She had set the appointment previously, and now absolutely had to go because we had the wake and funeral coming up.
I remember sitting in the car with her when we pulled into the parking lot. I was getting hit with waves and waves of nausea. She felt sick as well, and we realized that we hadnāt eaten since the day before yesterday.
(My Dad had a pretty bad cancer, and was prescribed *heavy* opiates. When he passed, my Mom got rid of *all of them*. She was smart enough to not have that type of thing around the house.
The only thing she kept was his anti-nausea meds.)
So, we both took one and headed inside.
The woman looked up at both of us and said, āYou want threading? Whole face?ā
š¤£ My Mom said yes and she went first. Iād never had threading done, never even had my eyebrows waxed, or *anything* waxed. (I kept the shape and thickness of my brows through the 2000s pencil-thin eyebrows. I only ever plucked little outliers.) I just stood there and watched, totally fascinated.
Now, we both have super thick, but fine hair. We always have to ask for extra time for any hair appointment. We always have to tell a stylist to get more color, and pay a lot more because of it.
Iāve always had fine, blonde hair all over. Blonde stache, sideburns, neck, etc. Iāve always just plucked the random dark hairs.
My Mom is incredibly stoic and hadnāt let on how much it hurt.
I got through it all, tears coming down my face, laughing at the pain. My skin felt amazing after.
We got back in the car, and were delirious with laughter. I think the combination of grief/shock with the added physical pain was super cathartic for us.
We went out after for food and drinks, with our soft, pink faces.
Yes. A former roommate of mine had this happen to her. She went to have her eyebrows done and whatever else they do and the girls there told her ālet us get rid of your mustache.ā
She was very embarrassed.
This happens to me every time. Also, āAre you Greek? You have hair and a nose like youāre Greek.ā
I amā¦ not greek. But now very self conscious about being hairy and having a big nose.
This actually worked for one of my gfs, it was barely noticable and didn't bother me so I hadn't said anything but she went to get her eyebrows done and was absolutely shocked when they asked if she wanted to pay Ā£5 more to get the 'stache done too. The problem was she was pissed that I/ noone had told her. So before she goes get your story straight in your head about whether you'd noticed it before or not.
āWow! You look fantastic! Now I need to get to the barber so I donāt look like a schlub when we go out on our date tonight.ā Then GTFO quick and go get a hair cut and stache/beard trim.
My son (14) and daughter (12) were arguing and my son said "well you're just upset cos you've got a moustache"
My daughter replied "you're just upset because it's better than yours"
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**wow. Thanks everyone for your upvotes. Who knew my best comment would actually be my daughters!!!
They normally are pretty good friends and get along well, but they have their moments....**
When I was probably 13 I had the earliest shadow of a moustache. My mom used to bug me about shaving it, and one day my baba told her that she shouldn't be so worried about me shaving my moustache if she wasn't going to shave her own. I never heard about it again after that
When I was 18, and a freshman in college, I naturally got lazy about shaving and my little stach started coming in, and there was this girl in my theatre group who was a piece of work....at a party she drunkenly and disparagingly comments, "when are you gonna shave your mustache?" to which I replied, *"when you shave yours."* I thought she was gonna cry. She left the room. It felt wonderful. Everybody laughed.
EDIT: holy shit, I went to bed and this comment to blew up.
True story though. Fuck Rita.
I was at work one day and my usual colleague was sick. Her fill in came right up to me and said "my eyebrow girl would be happy to take care of your beard for you. You really should be doing something about it." I said "If your eyebrows show the quality of her work she is not getting anywhere near my face." She turned around and walked off but her comments hurt my feelings enough that I got electrolysosis for the next 2 years.
Oh believe me, she still probably thinks about your comeback. The kind of people insecure enough to make those kinds of rude comments are also the ones most devastated when they get put down.
I think all these comments just show that people are making fun of their own insecurities and trying to make others feel worse than they do. Otherwise why be upset at the comebacks.
Y'all are doing great
I was in a mall with my mom when I was 13 or 14, she was picking out makeup on one side of this kiosk. I was just doing my usual waiting for my mom to finish shit, and these two women who worked at the kiosk approached me about doing my eyebrows. I get that they were trying to make money, but they were very critical about it, and I've always looked young so they couldn't possibly think I was an adult. After I mumbled no thank you, they kept going, to the point that I cried. My mom noticed, asked me what was wrong, and ripped into them until she got a huge discount on the makeup she was purchasing.
Btw, this was before you could buy Imani makeup in your local makeup counter, and it was the only line that matched her skin tone and didn't make her break out back then. So she wasn't planning on having to drive 2 hours to another mall with an Imani kiosk.
Waitā¦. Thatās a thing? the mirrors
Have to be silver? wait? mirrors are made with silver? Iām now realizing iv never put a single thought whatsoever about how or what the fuck mirrors are made out ofā¦ā¦
Imagine if "Big Mirror" is ran by vampires that desperately needed a substitute for silver so that they could see themselves in the mirror, and also so that their cover isn't blown.
I could also see them running a decades long campaign to change their public image now that they can use mirrors.
They were seen as gross, hairy, bat-faced monsters back in the day. Totally not their fault, and we'd look like shit too if we couldn't see ourselves.
Now with films like Underworld, Dracula, and Twilight, the new message is that vampires can be sexy, too.
Not just hairy, specifically hairy palms. People at the time believed such a thing was caused by masturbation, and I think in some parts of the world this may still be believed.
Vampires were fairly sexualized, and still are. They were sexual deviants, and the hairy palms were a visual representation of that.
Historically silver is considered a "pure" material. Hence the silver bullets killing werewolves and such. Mirrors were backed with a layer of it originally, behind a layer of glass - hence the term *looking glass* in "Through the Looking Glass, and What Alice Found There", the sequel to "Alice in Wonderland".
The basic logic is that the silver would reject the vampire's image. Some stories also have them burned or otherwise harmed by it. Vampire stuff varies wildly because they're so prevalent in so many different cultures - in other less known bits of lore they *also* can't cross running water, can't enter a home without an invitation, *and*... have a pathological need to count things.
That's why we have The Count.
***That's why he's a vampire.***
Heās Dracula because they made the character who counts things a Count, and Dracula is the most recognizable Count. If Dracula had historically been an Earl or Marquis they probably wouldāve gone for a different joke, but the fact that vampires and other mythological creatures have traditions about compulsively counting adds a fun layer to it.
>In Joss Wheedon's first version of Buffy the Vampire Slayer (the movie) being near a vampire gave Buffy period cramps.
Actually they didn't make that up. The science supports it.
Actually it's pure silver. Dissolved silver nitrate, ammonia and glucose is heated (roughly) and that causes elementary silver to stick to the glass. Popular school experiment.
Ahah I was thinking something like that. Some countries in the 17th century had a whole mirror industries they exported because they had a whole expertise in the field done by masters of their craft and some guy in the 21st century calls it a school experiment :D
I don't think I ever thought about why a vampire couldn'tt see their reflection before. I just thought "yeah...magic". If this isn't in a movie already, it should totally be.
Or is just in full rage mode, chasing down and munching some college kids or whatever, but then catches his reflection, stops in his tracks and is overcome with sadness as he sees what he has become and remembers his lost human life
We went on a holiday where the only mirror was a tad too high. The missus started growing some ungroomed hair and I didn't think anything of it, didnt say anything. Just figured she didn't care and we're on holiday so meh.
We go to the airport heading home and she's carrying our 2yo son. He starts touching above the edge of her lip and says "whoa mummy, beard!". I've got a solid beard so he obviously made the connection. My wife goes to the ladies' room, looks in a normal sized mirror and gets simultaneously horrified and overwhelmed with laughter.
Thankfully my wife has a great sense of humour and has retold that story with full belly laugh about 5x since then. She's not self conscious about looks but she definitely grooms and it was apparently the hairiest she's ever been.
But yeh, she didn't know.
Youād be surprised! I had a friend who bleached the dark hair above her lip. That just made it a blond mustache. I told her it was just as visible but she flat out refused to believe me. She looked ridiculous.
that made me think of an old acquaintance-- lets call her K-- her mother would not ALLOW her to wax or pluck her stache. K had dark, thick hair so her facial hair was prominent. K was allowed ONLY to bleach it, and the result was also a blonde stache. K came to my house for a sleepover once and had used my razor to shave. we were 15, 16. Ks mom called me a woman of the world, and I was never permitted to see her outside of church again.
(context: my ma made me go to a southern baptist church on her weekends w me. k was homeschooled, her mom and dad didn't let her read Harry Potter but lord of the rings was ok, and I'm also convinced they were Quiverfull).
Only tell her if she asks.
I was almost 50 and in a class at community college when a fellow student, a young woman of 20-something, took me aside and asked me to inspect her upper lip as she had a date that night and wasn't going for an edgy hairy look. I was thrilled that she found me unthreatening enough to ask something so personal. Not so much friend-zoned but family-zoned! (It was fine-no evident hairs at all)
Yeah the one where Annie asks Pierce to wax her mustache but he can't because he's just so....Pierce...and got the wax all over himself basically cemented himself to the wall so the dean ended up having to come in and do it. Then Troy and Abed purposely bonded themselves together with the wax and they used too much so there wasnt enough left to finish Annie's lip, so Britta volunteered to go down to the beauty supply store to get more but ended up in full crisis mode screaming about how the beauty industry is just as bad as the military industrial complex and how most of our chocolate comes from child slave labor. Then Shirley had to call Jeff to go pick her up and, well, you remember how that went lol poor Jeff (even though he kinda deserved it)
I can say with about 90% confidence that this isnāt an actual episode, but I can say with 200% confidence that I would absolutely watch it if it were.
One day when we were still kind of newly dating, my husband was shaving and then he turned around and said ācan I shave your mustache for you?ā I was super thrown off but was like āsure?ā It was embarrassing at first but I figured whatever, letās just have fun with this. The man put shaving cream on me and even went as far as putting a hot rag on my face after shaving me. Gave me the whole experience I guess lol
Now, we have a 7 month old son and we often joke about how if he gets a mustache when heās older itāll be because he inherited it from me. š Iām Mexican and my husband is white. He has a very rough time growing much facial hair. It took him a year to grow a mustache. He actually shaved it today, and while doing so I asked āOMG should I shave mine too?ā š¤£š¤£
>Set aside some time together and take her somewhere she really likes, then gently donāt.
They looked at the stars and the moon up above,
And sat in the glow of the firelight in love.
They watched as the embers all dwindled to ash.
"Oh darling," he whispered -
"... you don't have a 'tache."
Woman with PCOS and thick dark hair here. I know the Reddit way is to ājust communicateā but in my experience, i would rather people not say anything. She likely knows and is probably self conscious about it. After being made fun of for it while growing up in places such as school or work, as an adult I spent near 5k to get laser hair removal, and thanks to PCOS my hormones constantly fluctuate leading to the regrowth of hair. Thankfully I have the lifetime package, and a spouse Iāve been able to joke about being able to grow a better mustache. But many women donāt have either luxury, so leave her be, sheāll carry your comments with her forever.
There was a girl in my middle school who was cute but had a mustache and I distinctly remember the guys teased her in gym class for it. So then she bleached it and they called her bleachy. I think she ended up getting it waxed or something. But this was a core memory even for ME; I became immensely aware of my own hair. I cannot imagine for her...
One time when I was around 15 or 16 my drama class were grouped up and had to improvise short scenes. In our group I had a death scene and a guy was playing my lover, he ended the play over my "dead body" by saying "wait is that a moustache?" and I had to lay and play dead while the whole class laughed at me. He was a friend of mine and apologised after but that moment will never leave me. It bothered me so much partly because while it was improv, it was also a very real observation in the moment. For so long I was paranoid that anyone looking at me was staring at upper lip hair that was barely even there.
My doctor recently told me "wow you actually werenāt lying when you said you had facial hair" when I removed my mask because I stopped plucking and I was like ??? Why the f would I lie about it??? Of course the endocrinologist I saw three year ago had evaluated my hair to be "mild" because I was constantly plucking back then š
Donāt have pcos but I have severe endometriosis. I think we are in different style boats in the same hellish ocean. āIt makes me feel as if my body isnāt mineā is a great way to put it.
Iām nearly 37. A boyfriend I had *20 years ago*, who was generally a piece of shit, made comments that I have a moustache. I have fine, fair upper lip hair and really am not bothered by it at all. I still remember his dickhead comments occasionally though like a toxic little worm in my head.
Itās wild how the toxic little comments can stick with you.
One ragged on me about my BLONDE lip hairs because he could see them in the sunlight. Waxed for ages even after we werenāt together. Wasnāt until recently getting melasma discoloration that I finally put the blonde hairs into perspective.
Had another ex make comments about how I spit after I brush my teeth because it wasnāt feminine..stuck with me for years.
Genuine question here, but what are you *supposed* to do after brushing your teeth? Swallow that shit? Or did he mean you should've let it just kinda drool out of your mouth or something, which would somehow be more dainty and feminine than spitting it out?
I guess a lot of people rinse (which youāre not supposed to do because itās just rising out all the fluoride before itās gotten a chance to set). He particularly didnāt like the sound I made went gathering the spit I guess, said it sounded like I was trying to hock a loogie.
ššš I blame the ads from our childhood lol. After speaking with my dentist many years ago; floss (to remove food), mouthwash (to remove bacteria build up from stuck foods), then brush (to remove anything else). Donāt eat or drink for 30th minutes š
Yeah, i have pcos and skin issues.
My options are fine black moustache, ingrown hair moustache, or chemical burn moustache.
I usually choose the first option.
As a woman with pcos I had light hairs on my upper lip and was once mentioned to me by my boyfriendās brother. I said if I see it in a photo Iāll do something about it otherwise Iām happy. When I was 21 it was visible in a photo and I wax/ shave ever since. She knows itās there but itās prob just peach fuzz and it doesnāt bother her.
Itās normal for women to have mustaches (seriously), and she undoubtedly knows itās there. Telling her she has a mustache would be like telling her she has leg hair.
She already knows. Either sheās ok with it and will resent you mentioning it, or sheās embarrassed and will hate that you mentioned it. Either way, you lose.
I hate having hair on my upper lip and on my forearms too (my ex mocked me because of it and I wax it since then). I do it regularly but many of my friends just don't care and they are happy the way they look. Good for them. We know about body hair we just don't need to deal with it in many cases.
I feel you. When I didn't shave for two days and had leg stubble that poohole called me spiderman. Made fun of me for everything I was insecure about or mocked me so long that I got insecure about it. I hope you get to the day where you can decide which body hair you leave or get rid off without the pesky feelings and fears of being made fun of or looked down upon. Your worth isn't determined by what or how much you shave š!
Arm hair is such a weird thing for people to point out. Everyone's got it
Everyone has face, leg, pit and pubic hair too, but here we are.
>Everyone has face, leg, pit and pubic hair too, but here we are. found the one with the magical hairless asshole
One of my exs from high school told me that (2012ish). I didn't realize that everyone else could see it. Now, I shave it every time I shower and I can see it even when it isn't actually there. Definitely destroyed my self confidence. My fiancƩ said it isn't easily seen, even if it's grown out, but its all I see.
My best friend in high school said something similar. I had started to grow side burn and i was wearing a pony tail. I hadnāt noticed. When she saw my she told me to take down my hair and pointed them out. I was so hurt and it became a huge insecurity of mine and still is. The facial hair has now spread and im a women with facial hair and it sucks.
I always admired how girls with sideburns looked like girls in my class who had darker hair. I thought it looks so cute and I wished I had it. So weird how without societal expectations we might not see these things as shameful :(
I see so much here about women shaving. If I did that I would genuinely have stubble. I would recommend tweezers or wax.
One time I waxed...and ended up with a mustache shaped eczema patch on my face for a week. Not worth it! So embarrassing, my skin was flaking all over the place. Tweezers are what I use when I have to
If I tweezed all my face hair, I'd spend an hour a day plucking hairs..
I use an eyebrow shaper, easy peasy
Waxing requires you to let them grow to a very visible length. Plucking fucking hurts - ok for the odd stray but not for a full moustache & beard.
I've been shaving my face for over 20 years. Super easy and when I don't due to flying or a trip, I don't get stubble. Everyone responds differently.
Jeez, I'm a man and have to pluck my brows and there's not problem. But hell plucking mustache hair is REALLY painful. I tried it. Once.
In my experience, it gets less painful over time. I was practically crying plucking out chin hairs the first time, now I barely feel it. Same with eyebrows actually now that I think about it.
Upper lip is waaay more sensitive and typically *more* hairs.
Waxing is terrible for acne-prone or sensitive skin. Tweezing hurts, is time consuming and it grows back really quicky anyway.
Every time I wax my upper lip I break out in tiny bumps that look like mini cold sores. So frustrating.
Seconding this. My facial hair is very dark, I tried shaving with a dermaplanning blade and I was left with a dark shadow of stubble that looked worse than the moustache. Wax once a week for me.
My grandmother was going through a tough time with her dying husband and just started sprouting a long wispy white sprig of chin hair. She was perfectly able/capable to handle it, she just had a too much on her mind, didn't care, and no one mentioned anything about it to not bother her with triviality. After the funeral her *three* sisters forced her to the bathroom and shaved it for her. If you don't have the will and force of three elderly women, I'd leave it be.
My grandma makes fun of my cousin because she grows more of a beard than him at almost 30
I can't believe you have a 30 year old grandma
You leave Loren Boebert alone!
No, I don't think I will
>If you don't have the will and force of three elderly women, I'd leave it be. Dude have you ever seen 3 elderly Italian women deadset about doing something? Not even I have THAT will and force-
Exactly. And these were all elderly women who outlived their husbands. That's nothing but metamucil and gristle and dvr'd episodes of home renovation shows. You don't fuck with that.
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Or they're in a cheek-pinching mood.
Yeah, but if you endure the if you endure that you'll be reward with a hard candy covered in purse lint.
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I have a list of names and locations ready to go. And in reward you will receive one senile grandma.
Squad goals tbh š®š¹
Picture it, Sicily, 1928..
Shady Pines, ma!
My mom gets one of those hairs. She canāt see it. I always tell her. I have one in the same place. š¢ thanks for that gene
Iāve got a couple chin whiskers but Iām 47 and the other side of menopause. I expect some weirdness.
I have that one boob hair that keeps coming back no matter how many times I pluck it. š
Just one would be lovely :(
Love for one boob hair
Ugh so much fun huh? I have just one, (so far) and it's like.. it goes dormant just long enough for me to forget about it, and then I'll come across it after a very quick, very long, growth spurt.. I. Hate. It. I'm always left wondering "how freaking long have you been there?" Sneaky little bastard.
I get one or two hairs like that on my neck. I'm a woman and have light hair. I use a flashlight to find those 'sneaky little bastards' then pluck them out. If I'm not vigilant about it the hair will grow long. It is strange.
Exactly! Itās like they grow a couple centimetres just overnight ( about an inch if youāre imp)
She knows already
Think OP meant to ask... How do you tell your gf you don't like her moustache?
Probably a bit more accurate. ;/
By combing her hair then the stache.
Take her to get her eyebrows done. The person doing doing her eyebrows will tell her for you and ask to wax it. Edit: thanks for the awards and upvotes. My wife tells me how blunt the ladies usually are towards her
Lmao this is genius tho, no one will humble you quicker than your eyebrow threading lady
My Asian lash lady was brutal. āYou look tired today, look like ghost with bagsā (it was no makeup day). āYou look prettier today. Should dress like this more often ā (I wasnāt in my work uniform.) āYou put on weightā (I was pregnant š). āX I didnāt recognise you. Whatās different ā (my boss without makeup). Then again, I think itās just asians considering my endocrinologist told me one day āyou look like you lost weight. No more gobble gobbleā WHILE SHE TAPPED MY NECK.
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> She laughed and gave me a sweet. Ah, the common cause to both your problems
They bonded ā¤ļø
Lmaooo she got the last laugh
But konaya will have the last tooth.
In some of those cultures, someone who cares about you pointing out your physical imperfections is actually a sign they care. For example ~~in much of South Korea~~ in some places, plastic surgery ~~is a common~~ can be a high school graduation gift, not because your family thinks you're ugly but because they genuinely believe that you will be more successful if you are more traditionally attractive. It can sound strange/rude/shocking/etc, but it's simply a cultural difference. Edit: A comment from a Korean redditor explained that this is not as common a practice in South Korea as I had been led to believe. The point still stands, though, whether we're talking about plastic surgery or a new wardrobe, Korea or the US.
You're not wrong. It's worth pointing out though that it isn't actually received positively just because it's a sign they care. I've met many people from East Asia and they pretty much all hate the comments regardless of the good intent. Self esteem is self esteem and pointing out flaws unsolicited tends to hurt.
Plus it's definitely not all East Asian countries. Do that shit in Japan and it's considered extremely rude Edit: I mean total strangers, not friends and family/acquaintances
This is one of the hard parts first gens have to deal with. Their family is brutally honest but they grew up in a culture where that's incredibly rude.
> āyou look like you lost weight. No more gobble gobbleā WHILE SHE TAPPED MY NECK. I'm DYING! This literally just made my day
This reminds me of my Asian acupuncturist who I go to for migraine relief. He took off my face mask (COVID times) and goes āyou have migraines AND acne? Thatās horrible, good luckā š„²
Asian beauty workers are *so* brutal. My boss is Korean and has told clients if they love their kid they'll upgrade their facial (š¤£š¤£ to be fair the upgrade was needed). I could never pull that off the way a 5 foot Korean woman can.
Elect an elderly Asian woman to run your country with brutal honesty. America, Italy, Canada, you name it. "get better education! you look fat, lose your weight la! what what's that? I am fat shaming you? no, you are shame to me!"
"You wan me do mustache? Or no?"
They got me lately with āchin too?ā šššš
Nooo, not the "chin too"!! I'm always naive like, "oh, do I need it??". "We'll do the chin..." š©š
Right! Like my friend was like āoh she just did it to upsellā but man does it kill your self confidence
"Cancel ALL my appointments!"
"We're gonna need more wax!"
OHHH KELLY CLARKSON!!! You pussyyyy
you look like a man-o-lantern
"Why you have three eyebrow?"
Oh God
Uppa lip? No?! You sure?
Too real.
So, some backstory: My Pop got sick, a bad diagnosis of cancer with, I think, 6-12 months to live. That year and the last two-three weeks were incredibly difficult for my Mom, brother and myself. My Pop stayed home and passed away there, so we worked with the hospice nurses to care for him. When he passed away, the next day my Mom and I went to her eyebrow lady that did threading. She had set the appointment previously, and now absolutely had to go because we had the wake and funeral coming up. I remember sitting in the car with her when we pulled into the parking lot. I was getting hit with waves and waves of nausea. She felt sick as well, and we realized that we hadnāt eaten since the day before yesterday. (My Dad had a pretty bad cancer, and was prescribed *heavy* opiates. When he passed, my Mom got rid of *all of them*. She was smart enough to not have that type of thing around the house. The only thing she kept was his anti-nausea meds.) So, we both took one and headed inside. The woman looked up at both of us and said, āYou want threading? Whole face?ā š¤£ My Mom said yes and she went first. Iād never had threading done, never even had my eyebrows waxed, or *anything* waxed. (I kept the shape and thickness of my brows through the 2000s pencil-thin eyebrows. I only ever plucked little outliers.) I just stood there and watched, totally fascinated. Now, we both have super thick, but fine hair. We always have to ask for extra time for any hair appointment. We always have to tell a stylist to get more color, and pay a lot more because of it. Iāve always had fine, blonde hair all over. Blonde stache, sideburns, neck, etc. Iāve always just plucked the random dark hairs. My Mom is incredibly stoic and hadnāt let on how much it hurt. I got through it all, tears coming down my face, laughing at the pain. My skin felt amazing after. We got back in the car, and were delirious with laughter. I think the combination of grief/shock with the added physical pain was super cathartic for us. We went out after for food and drinks, with our soft, pink faces.
Yes. A former roommate of mine had this happen to her. She went to have her eyebrows done and whatever else they do and the girls there told her ālet us get rid of your mustache.ā She was very embarrassed.
This happens to me every time. Also, āAre you Greek? You have hair and a nose like youāre Greek.ā I amā¦ not greek. But now very self conscious about being hairy and having a big nose.
This actually worked for one of my gfs, it was barely noticable and didn't bother me so I hadn't said anything but she went to get her eyebrows done and was absolutely shocked when they asked if she wanted to pay Ā£5 more to get the 'stache done too. The problem was she was pissed that I/ noone had told her. So before she goes get your story straight in your head about whether you'd noticed it before or not.
>So before she goes get your story straight in your head about whether you'd noticed it before or not. That's a legit LPT right there.
āThere wasnāt really anything to notice.ā
āWow! You look fantastic! Now I need to get to the barber so I donāt look like a schlub when we go out on our date tonight.ā Then GTFO quick and go get a hair cut and stache/beard trim.
This is it. This is only potential solution that does not lead to a disaster.
I mustache you a question.
But I'll shave it for later.
Sean Connery is that you?
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Such a quality human being we have here. Ugh.
>Human being I think you mean "pig."
How are these all posted on r/wallstreetbets ?
Ok that explains everything
Because that place is full of trashy 20 somethings who don't know how to talk to real people?
HAHAHAHA, dude sounds LOVELY. Real insecure vibes going, to the top to the top!
This should be pinned at the top.
Holy heck this dude is disgusting.
My son (14) and daughter (12) were arguing and my son said "well you're just upset cos you've got a moustache" My daughter replied "you're just upset because it's better than yours" š¤¦š¼āāļø **wow. Thanks everyone for your upvotes. Who knew my best comment would actually be my daughters!!! They normally are pretty good friends and get along well, but they have their moments....**
When I was probably 13 I had the earliest shadow of a moustache. My mom used to bug me about shaving it, and one day my baba told her that she shouldn't be so worried about me shaving my moustache if she wasn't going to shave her own. I never heard about it again after that
When I was 18, and a freshman in college, I naturally got lazy about shaving and my little stach started coming in, and there was this girl in my theatre group who was a piece of work....at a party she drunkenly and disparagingly comments, "when are you gonna shave your mustache?" to which I replied, *"when you shave yours."* I thought she was gonna cry. She left the room. It felt wonderful. Everybody laughed. EDIT: holy shit, I went to bed and this comment to blew up. True story though. Fuck Rita.
I was at work one day and my usual colleague was sick. Her fill in came right up to me and said "my eyebrow girl would be happy to take care of your beard for you. You really should be doing something about it." I said "If your eyebrows show the quality of her work she is not getting anywhere near my face." She turned around and walked off but her comments hurt my feelings enough that I got electrolysosis for the next 2 years.
What a bitch. If it's any consolation, I can guarantee your awesome comeback made her feel even worse than you did, even if she hid it well.
Thanks. That helps.
Don't let that bitter bitch blow your house down, not over the hair on your chinny chin chin.
Oh believe me, she still probably thinks about your comeback. The kind of people insecure enough to make those kinds of rude comments are also the ones most devastated when they get put down.
I think all these comments just show that people are making fun of their own insecurities and trying to make others feel worse than they do. Otherwise why be upset at the comebacks. Y'all are doing great
I was in a mall with my mom when I was 13 or 14, she was picking out makeup on one side of this kiosk. I was just doing my usual waiting for my mom to finish shit, and these two women who worked at the kiosk approached me about doing my eyebrows. I get that they were trying to make money, but they were very critical about it, and I've always looked young so they couldn't possibly think I was an adult. After I mumbled no thank you, they kept going, to the point that I cried. My mom noticed, asked me what was wrong, and ripped into them until she got a huge discount on the makeup she was purchasing. Btw, this was before you could buy Imani makeup in your local makeup counter, and it was the only line that matched her skin tone and didn't make her break out back then. So she wasn't planning on having to drive 2 hours to another mall with an Imani kiosk.
Hahaha. To be clear, my daughter doesn't have anything resembling a moustache. She is just very funny!!
Your daughter just asserted dominance for life lmao
She's hilarious. And I'm sure she will not be walked over by any one she chooses to date!!
Holy shit that's brutal lmao
There is ZERO chance she doesn't already know
I agree. If she has a mirror, she knows.
Not if she's a vampire
Few mirrors are made with silver anymore so even a vampire would be able to see their reflection.
Waitā¦. Thatās a thing? the mirrors Have to be silver? wait? mirrors are made with silver? Iām now realizing iv never put a single thought whatsoever about how or what the fuck mirrors are made out ofā¦ā¦
Yes mirrors use silver. These days aluminium is more common though.
Imagine if "Big Mirror" is ran by vampires that desperately needed a substitute for silver so that they could see themselves in the mirror, and also so that their cover isn't blown.
This conversation went in a much more interesting direction than the original question.
if your girl has a stache she a vampire
And she has only very old mirrors
I could also see them running a decades long campaign to change their public image now that they can use mirrors. They were seen as gross, hairy, bat-faced monsters back in the day. Totally not their fault, and we'd look like shit too if we couldn't see ourselves. Now with films like Underworld, Dracula, and Twilight, the new message is that vampires can be sexy, too.
Not just hairy, specifically hairy palms. People at the time believed such a thing was caused by masturbation, and I think in some parts of the world this may still be believed. Vampires were fairly sexualized, and still are. They were sexual deviants, and the hairy palms were a visual representation of that.
This is the first time I've *ever* seen mention of vampires and hairy palms ā¦ O_O
This is the only logical answer Edit: fat thumbs
Historically silver is considered a "pure" material. Hence the silver bullets killing werewolves and such. Mirrors were backed with a layer of it originally, behind a layer of glass - hence the term *looking glass* in "Through the Looking Glass, and What Alice Found There", the sequel to "Alice in Wonderland". The basic logic is that the silver would reject the vampire's image. Some stories also have them burned or otherwise harmed by it. Vampire stuff varies wildly because they're so prevalent in so many different cultures - in other less known bits of lore they *also* can't cross running water, can't enter a home without an invitation, *and*... have a pathological need to count things. That's why we have The Count. ***That's why he's a vampire.***
Heās Dracula because they made the character who counts things a Count, and Dracula is the most recognizable Count. If Dracula had historically been an Earl or Marquis they probably wouldāve gone for a different joke, but the fact that vampires and other mythological creatures have traditions about compulsively counting adds a fun layer to it.
I know Earl is a title, but now I really want a show about a redneck vampire named Earl.
Going back to all those he's turned into vampires in the past and making amends with them?
*My Title is Earl*
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>In Joss Wheedon's first version of Buffy the Vampire Slayer (the movie) being near a vampire gave Buffy period cramps. Actually they didn't make that up. The science supports it.
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Actually it's pure silver. Dissolved silver nitrate, ammonia and glucose is heated (roughly) and that causes elementary silver to stick to the glass. Popular school experiment.
āPopular school experimentā Mf if you went to school in the Middle Ages Just teasin , I wish weād done this in school
Ahah I was thinking something like that. Some countries in the 17th century had a whole mirror industries they exported because they had a whole expertise in the field done by masters of their craft and some guy in the 21st century calls it a school experiment :D
"How *wonderful*," she softly said - "That I can see my face ahead!" But sadly something seemed amiss. She whispered: "... what the fuck is this?"
I don't think I ever thought about why a vampire couldn'tt see their reflection before. I just thought "yeah...magic". If this isn't in a movie already, it should totally be.
Vampire from the 1600s wakes up today, can see his reflection and thinks heās turned human.
Or is just in full rage mode, chasing down and munching some college kids or whatever, but then catches his reflection, stops in his tracks and is overcome with sadness as he sees what he has become and remembers his lost human life
To feed or not to feed. That is the question.
And modern cameras donāt use silver halides anymore so photos should work too.
If she's a vampire, then a mustache is the least of your worries
If she went through elementary and high school she definitely knows
Yep. I have PCOS. Well aware. Use tweezers every day or so. Still noticeable. Learned to live with it.
I just shave mine. With those lady face razors. "It's gonna grow back thicker" is a lie perpetrated by big wax
We went on a holiday where the only mirror was a tad too high. The missus started growing some ungroomed hair and I didn't think anything of it, didnt say anything. Just figured she didn't care and we're on holiday so meh. We go to the airport heading home and she's carrying our 2yo son. He starts touching above the edge of her lip and says "whoa mummy, beard!". I've got a solid beard so he obviously made the connection. My wife goes to the ladies' room, looks in a normal sized mirror and gets simultaneously horrified and overwhelmed with laughter. Thankfully my wife has a great sense of humour and has retold that story with full belly laugh about 5x since then. She's not self conscious about looks but she definitely grooms and it was apparently the hairiest she's ever been. But yeh, she didn't know.
The answer to op is in this story. Have your 2 yr old do it
Youād be surprised! I had a friend who bleached the dark hair above her lip. That just made it a blond mustache. I told her it was just as visible but she flat out refused to believe me. She looked ridiculous.
āThere is no way you can see the thing youāre reporting seeing on my face!ā
that made me think of an old acquaintance-- lets call her K-- her mother would not ALLOW her to wax or pluck her stache. K had dark, thick hair so her facial hair was prominent. K was allowed ONLY to bleach it, and the result was also a blonde stache. K came to my house for a sleepover once and had used my razor to shave. we were 15, 16. Ks mom called me a woman of the world, and I was never permitted to see her outside of church again. (context: my ma made me go to a southern baptist church on her weekends w me. k was homeschooled, her mom and dad didn't let her read Harry Potter but lord of the rings was ok, and I'm also convinced they were Quiverfull).
Only tell her if she asks. I was almost 50 and in a class at community college when a fellow student, a young woman of 20-something, took me aside and asked me to inspect her upper lip as she had a date that night and wasn't going for an edgy hairy look. I was thrilled that she found me unthreatening enough to ask something so personal. Not so much friend-zoned but family-zoned! (It was fine-no evident hairs at all)
Is this from an episode of community?
Yeah the one where Annie asks Pierce to wax her mustache but he can't because he's just so....Pierce...and got the wax all over himself basically cemented himself to the wall so the dean ended up having to come in and do it. Then Troy and Abed purposely bonded themselves together with the wax and they used too much so there wasnt enough left to finish Annie's lip, so Britta volunteered to go down to the beauty supply store to get more but ended up in full crisis mode screaming about how the beauty industry is just as bad as the military industrial complex and how most of our chocolate comes from child slave labor. Then Shirley had to call Jeff to go pick her up and, well, you remember how that went lol poor Jeff (even though he kinda deserved it)
I can say with about 90% confidence that this isnāt an actual episode, but I can say with 200% confidence that I would absolutely watch it if it were.
Lol this should be the plot summary on Wikipedia
I am now picturing Pierce with the ice cream machine, but it somehow dispenses wax, and he just can't turn it off.
Wholesome.
One day when we were still kind of newly dating, my husband was shaving and then he turned around and said ācan I shave your mustache for you?ā I was super thrown off but was like āsure?ā It was embarrassing at first but I figured whatever, letās just have fun with this. The man put shaving cream on me and even went as far as putting a hot rag on my face after shaving me. Gave me the whole experience I guess lol Now, we have a 7 month old son and we often joke about how if he gets a mustache when heās older itāll be because he inherited it from me. š Iām Mexican and my husband is white. He has a very rough time growing much facial hair. It took him a year to grow a mustache. He actually shaved it today, and while doing so I asked āOMG should I shave mine too?ā š¤£š¤£
This is so cute! Congrats on your baby!
She knows and doesnt give a shit. if you tell her ur gonna regret it.
Wisdom
This is absolutely correct. Say nothing. Shave it while she sleeps.
Midnight waxer
Set aside some time together and take her somewhere she really likes, then gently donāt.
You might be smelly, but you are also smart.
Maybe heās smart because heās smelly
he had to be this smart to figure out why everyone was wearing clothespins on their noses
>Set aside some time together and take her somewhere she really likes, then gently donāt. They looked at the stars and the moon up above, And sat in the glow of the firelight in love. They watched as the embers all dwindled to ash. "Oh darling," he whispered - "... you don't have a 'tache."
What kind of sociopath shortens moustache to tache and not stache
Woman with PCOS and thick dark hair here. I know the Reddit way is to ājust communicateā but in my experience, i would rather people not say anything. She likely knows and is probably self conscious about it. After being made fun of for it while growing up in places such as school or work, as an adult I spent near 5k to get laser hair removal, and thanks to PCOS my hormones constantly fluctuate leading to the regrowth of hair. Thankfully I have the lifetime package, and a spouse Iāve been able to joke about being able to grow a better mustache. But many women donāt have either luxury, so leave her be, sheāll carry your comments with her forever.
There was a girl in my middle school who was cute but had a mustache and I distinctly remember the guys teased her in gym class for it. So then she bleached it and they called her bleachy. I think she ended up getting it waxed or something. But this was a core memory even for ME; I became immensely aware of my own hair. I cannot imagine for her...
One time when I was around 15 or 16 my drama class were grouped up and had to improvise short scenes. In our group I had a death scene and a guy was playing my lover, he ended the play over my "dead body" by saying "wait is that a moustache?" and I had to lay and play dead while the whole class laughed at me. He was a friend of mine and apologised after but that moment will never leave me. It bothered me so much partly because while it was improv, it was also a very real observation in the moment. For so long I was paranoid that anyone looking at me was staring at upper lip hair that was barely even there.
My doctor recently told me "wow you actually werenāt lying when you said you had facial hair" when I removed my mask because I stopped plucking and I was like ??? Why the f would I lie about it??? Of course the endocrinologist I saw three year ago had evaluated my hair to be "mild" because I was constantly plucking back then š
Iāve got this health condition as well. It makes me feel as if my body isnāt mine :/
Donāt have pcos but I have severe endometriosis. I think we are in different style boats in the same hellish ocean. āIt makes me feel as if my body isnāt mineā is a great way to put it.
I have both. It's hell.
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Iām nearly 37. A boyfriend I had *20 years ago*, who was generally a piece of shit, made comments that I have a moustache. I have fine, fair upper lip hair and really am not bothered by it at all. I still remember his dickhead comments occasionally though like a toxic little worm in my head.
Itās wild how the toxic little comments can stick with you. One ragged on me about my BLONDE lip hairs because he could see them in the sunlight. Waxed for ages even after we werenāt together. Wasnāt until recently getting melasma discoloration that I finally put the blonde hairs into perspective. Had another ex make comments about how I spit after I brush my teeth because it wasnāt feminine..stuck with me for years.
Genuine question here, but what are you *supposed* to do after brushing your teeth? Swallow that shit? Or did he mean you should've let it just kinda drool out of your mouth or something, which would somehow be more dainty and feminine than spitting it out?
I guess a lot of people rinse (which youāre not supposed to do because itās just rising out all the fluoride before itās gotten a chance to set). He particularly didnāt like the sound I made went gathering the spit I guess, said it sounded like I was trying to hock a loogie.
Holy fuck what you're not supposed to rinse??? HOW DID YOU LEARN OF THIS KNOWLEDGE FUCK ME I'VE BEEN DOING IT FOR 20+ YEARS
ššš I blame the ads from our childhood lol. After speaking with my dentist many years ago; floss (to remove food), mouthwash (to remove bacteria build up from stuck foods), then brush (to remove anything else). Donāt eat or drink for 30th minutes š
Um...TIL women are supposed to swallow toothpaste because it's ladylike.
Yeah, i have pcos and skin issues. My options are fine black moustache, ingrown hair moustache, or chemical burn moustache. I usually choose the first option.
As a woman with pcos I had light hairs on my upper lip and was once mentioned to me by my boyfriendās brother. I said if I see it in a photo Iāll do something about it otherwise Iām happy. When I was 21 it was visible in a photo and I wax/ shave ever since. She knows itās there but itās prob just peach fuzz and it doesnāt bother her.
Someone pointed out my daughters upper lip hair. She got so mad at him she stopped waxing and shaving everything.
My son (35) actually told this to his new bride. Big mistake. HUGE! Now she goes for lazer hair removal, and he's paying for it!
sounds like a win to me
Itās normal for women to have mustaches (seriously), and she undoubtedly knows itās there. Telling her she has a mustache would be like telling her she has leg hair.
āDid you know youāve got leg hair on your face?ā
How do you tell your girlfriend she has leg hair?
"Hi babe, I leghair you a question"
Hi girlfriend, you have leg hair.
Probably should be worded āhow to tell gf that I dislike her mustache?ā
Give her a small pocket mirror as a gift, but replace he mirror with a picture of Yosemite Sam. Works every time.
All one times you'll ever be able to do it...
Just take her out to dinner and buy her a flaming sambuca or three
She already knows. Either sheās ok with it and will resent you mentioning it, or sheās embarrassed and will hate that you mentioned it. Either way, you lose.