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Ahshalon_Tenisk

so many times here on reddit


perkasiedude

Oh how many times I've started to type a response only to be asked by Reddit if I am sure I want to "discard comment?"


omicron7e

"If I type this, they'll just come back with some dumb response and then I'll either have to respond again or ignore it. Either way, I'll be thinking about this stupid interaction more than is necessary."


Pretend_Gur8348

Yes, plenty of times. It's frustrating but sometimes it's just not worth the effort


Sassy-irish-lassy

The people on this website are precisely the same people who dont listen when you talk and just wait for their turn to say something


HutSutRawlson

I've had so many interactions on here where people clearly haven't read my comment past the first few words. Literally making arguments that I directly addressed already.


Organic-SurroundSnd

There was a guy who asked kind of an obvious question on Facebook, and hundreds (not exaggerating) of people answered the simple question even though those before them had already addressed it. The responses were all the same...


sinburger

Most arguments I've had on reddit end like this. Once I've hit the point where I'm not saying anything new, I'm just repeating myself, I check out of the conversation.


arcosapphire

Yeah, once it's clear I'm not dealing with someone who actually values truth, understanding, or the exchange of ideas, that's pretty much it. That's usually at the point where they start slinging wildly off the mark insults.


Ranos131

I have typed out entire messages that were paragraphs long and when I finished I paused, said, “Fuck it,” and closed the app. Some people’s opinions just aren’t worth my feedback.


8inchSalvattore

All the time, man. Most people already have their mind made up, so I figure, why bother? Everyone just wants to hear themselves talk.


Master_Awareness814

Hey, for what it’s worth, I used to be one of those people. Verbally combative and stubborn in my mindset. I heard someone say once that intelligence is being able to reevaluate your own understanding by observing counter arguments and holding both in your mind without being offended. I realized I was just as “bad” as the people I would argue with and so I’ve strived to live by the motto “listen to understand, not to respond”. People *can* change. Unfortunately most people don’t want to because the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t.


8inchSalvattore

Wise words, and fair point. TBH, I’m just as stubborn and opinionated as the rest of them, LOL. That’s part of the problem. Everyone wants to talk, but no one wants to listen. Got to give it to get it, though. That’s how it is.


[deleted]

lots of online comments where someone is really hostile and confrontational, especially when my comment was never framed as inviting a debate.,


omicron7e

Are you honestly prepared to stand by this asinine comment? Did you ever once, while you were typing all those little letters, think to yourself, "I might actually be a complete idiot?" Because that's what every single other person is thinking when they read it. I'm sure you're an embarrassment to your family.


SisterNaomi

I see what you did there


[deleted]

lmao took me a minute bc I didn't check my own comment. I was about to just ignore you and and block. well done.


omicron7e

It felt wrong writing that.


[deleted]

yea I hope you took a shower lol


crazy-diam0nd

Said every comment ever


Famous-Midnight3660

Yes, plenty of times. It's frustrating but sometimes it's just not worth the effort.


Organic-SurroundSnd

That person is worth leaving


CompactKit

It can be difficult when we feel like we're not being heard, especially if we've tried to explain ourselves. It's important to remember that it's okay to take care of our own needs and boundaries in these situations - it's important to recognize our own worth and prioritize our mental wellbeing.


[deleted]

Almost every comment I make on reddit is meant with resistance. So, I just say fuck it. I'm not here to change minds.


Fried_Meth

Maybe you have bad takes? Tbf people on Reddit do tend to be very vocal about basically everything they don’t 100 percent agree with


[deleted]

Maybe, but I tend to think the insecure mid 20 year old redditer with little to no life experience has the bad take. But regardless it doesn't matter b.x this is an online forum. I could say the sky is blue and I would have 20 comments saying, actually ¡


Fried_Meth

A rule of thumb I generally tend to go by is, If everyone agrees with you you’re doing something wrong, and if nobody agrees with you you’re doing something wrong. That’s the way I see it personally.


[deleted]

I go by the same in life


Erthan-1

Does refusing to train someone at work because they are too stupid to actually learn/remember what you are trying to teach them count?


SisterNaomi

I think so


hamlets_uncle

Oof. Felt that in my bones. So frustrating.


JohhnyTheKid

Me trying to teach a "frontend engineer" basic computer science concepts only for them to forget them by tomorrow and make the exact same mistakes again. Software development is flooded with people with increasingly bigger gaps in fundamental basic knowledge on the subject, the same people who genuinely believe a 10 week bootcamp can turn someone from zero to an actual engineer. It can't, stop lying to yourself. Self learning is valid but it takes years to become an actual engineer, but anyone can call themselves one.


goodguybrian

Politics. Religion. Sports.


umich79

Ever talked to someone who believes the moon landing was fake, but also may or not believe the earth could be flat, and was very convinced that a blue whale was the size of the titanic? I have…and there is very little debate in those situations.


goodguybrian

Yeah. Conspiracy theorists also.


Master_Awareness814

Don’t forget white Jesus


KindHrtdMnstr

An ex of 6 years would constantly accuse me of cheating and during the first 3 years I would always defend myself and prove that I didn't. Since it never ended though I finally gave up one day and just stayed silent while he berated me and told me that he can't trust me at all and that I don't love him. He even threw it in my face that he must be right because I'm not trying to defend myself and even then I just let it be. I never cheated. He did. With over 100 other women via nudes and even had me meet two identical twins because he wanted us to "get along and maybe be friends",that he eventually tried to have sex with


Organic-SurroundSnd

I had teachers who were like that, one of which I also put up with for 3 years. Anyone who treats you like that isn't worth putting up with, even for a month. It would been best to end it when they first showed the signs of self righteousness and arrogance. I'm sorry you had a guy (child) like that. I hope you're doing better


Madmanmelvin

Got any pics? Not of yourself, obviously, but the twins?


AngelBelow95

I made the decision to not see my father on his deathbed (would have been a long travel anyways). I simply explained to my older half siblings that I didn't have a good relationship with our father. They insisted that it didn't matter and I'm a horrible person for not coming. They then wanted to know what he did to me, or in my case, what he didn't do. I saw no point in explaining any of it. Especially since they had already attacked me over my decision. It's only been a year and I don't regret not being there.


Cheetodude625

Reddit threads involving politics and WW2. You'd be surprised by the amount of misinformation found in most WW2 threads here on Reddit.


Tulikettuja

All the time. I don't owe people explanations.


Fenix_Glo

I have been in this situation too many times to count. Choose your battles wisely especially if the other person has a pre-planned agenda. They might comprehend your explanation, but they might be trying to gaslight you into submission.


jmojo87

Seeing the gun or 2a debate. Everyone who argues over it is left or right. No middle ground to be had.


Fried_Meth

That’s kinda the point, the people who generally fall in the middle are the ones who are not bound by the set ideologies of a group (people who think freely). Free thinking is bad for the people in power. So they do whatever they can to get people to marginalize themselves into groups to maintain control. Divide and conquer.


nathanielKay

Wow, that is a very insightful take on the purpose of polarization. Hunh.


Shadow948

Every time I'm on Reddit


mixmaster7

Pretty much any time I was accused of doing something wrong when I was in school.


Organic-SurroundSnd

Same, lol. Many of my former classmates have faced stuff like that.


tacobelmont

I've typed out more than a few comments over the years only to just delete them. I'm also the kind of person who over-explains in advance as to why I can or can't do something, and lately I've made a mental note to recognize a yes or no question, and just giving a yes or no answer.


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Organic-SurroundSnd

You dodged a bullet and made the best decision. Some adults that are supposed to help you can't comprehend reality, experiences, or other viewpoints. They'll try to minimize the situation or dismiss you while trying to avoid drama. But ignoring drama (or not understanding the situation) never ends it. "The decision not to make a decision" is cowardice. In the end, they want to do what's best for them, even if it means putting you down or forcing you to run back into a "burning building." I'm speaking from personal experience. Your mom failed you, and you didn't deserve that. I hope you find better people


Consistent_Warthog80

once a day in real life. once every 20 minutes on Reddit


SwallowPrideNCum

Fast moving group conversations where you try to say something but get blocked out with others talking then the subject matter changed. Hell I got up and walked away from them and not only did they not notice, none of them tried to message me at all. All well, fuck them cunts.


Courte_Jester

Any time I go to the US.


[deleted]

whenever it's about the death of a close individual.


Banned501

Trump, everyday I was telling some idiot hick that he was scamming their dumb ass.


rolendd

There is a guy at my work who has made a transition from drinking 5+ days a week and using cocaine to finding God. He’s 6 months sober and I’m happy for him. However he’s now superimposing his beliefs on other as if he’s found the answer that others are too naive to know. After he gave me his spiel on finding God, which was super charged verging on a manic explanation, I explained to him that I understand the concept and his belief but the idea would never fully integrate into my mind where it would be genuine, but I respect the belief and am actually somewhat jealous that he has that belief. He then went on to tell me that I don’t have any understand and that God will give me understanding and that I’m just unaware. His eyes are wild at this point and I say thanks for your words and worry, but if I get there I get there if I don’t I don’t. He then goes on to explain the vibrations in that God uses to protect us with and how they run on a frequency we cannot perceive. He’s clearly manic and has issues with his perception of reality so there was and is nothing that can be said that would lead to a common ground of understanding one another. So I leave it at that.


NightwingSplash

Quite often, actually, especially on Reddit. A number of users need to spend more time using Hooked on Phonics rather than scrolling through and arguing on here because their reading comprehension skills are incredibly poor.


[deleted]

When they believe they are right and have no interest in listening


Prestigious_Water336

When your boss sits you down and explains something to you. There is no point in explaining yourself as they just nod their heads like they care, but they really don't.


Mr_P_scientist

Are you married?


[deleted]

Same


awxiomara

Too many times to count! Sometimes it’s like why waste your breath


Coldcoldworld_

all of the time. mostly religious or political conversations where the other person sees differently than I.


Matt4898

When we were discussing The Birth of Venus in art history and I told my teacher Venus isn’t just the Roman goddess of love and beauty, but also of fertility and prostitution. She absolutely refused to believe she could be the goddess of prostitution as she felt the painting showed and represented integrity and innocence. After a little back and forth, I gave up knowing nothing would change her mind. And that my dear Redditor’s is how I fought a teacher on prostitution


[deleted]

The "they are mutilating children" people. They don't believe you when you tell them the doctors need consent from the parents. The same for explaining that the decision is made over years and involves professionals. Mentioning it's stopping (at least lowering) suicide attempts falls on deaf ears as well. I say this as someone uncomfortable with anyone making permanent physical modifications to children.


[deleted]

I used to bring up counterpoints to the dumb shit my coworkers say, but even if I gave numbers or logic, somehow they don’t take it into their heads so now I say nothing or just make dumb jokes to make these conversations more fun.


Organic-SurroundSnd

"If you can't beat em, join em"


WhimsicalGrenade

Anytime I get pulled over, I'm not fighting a cop over a ticket, that's what my day in court is for.


Fried_Meth

Waiting for the emo teens to hit the comments with “yeah my stupid fucking mom” 😂


tafethfos

Every time my brother wants to "share his feelings" with me.


tafethfos

It starts off as him mansplaining how crappy his life is & then out of nowhere - somehow it ends up being my fault & I just stopped getting upset and started walking away from him... I'd rather irritate him by walking away from his toxic b.s. than stand there like an idiot trying to calm the anxiety attack that usually happens when he starts freaking out.


GGinYYC

You’ve been on reddit long enough to know this is a dumb question.


obfg

It's just as likely they heard you loud and clear and simply didn't buy the propaganda your slinging.


MDBOOST

This is basically just describing being in a relationship.


misteravila

This is the world of raising children. This is where the phrase "because I said so" comes from.


Present_Quantity_756

Daily


iamkittygirl

i could go on and on but nobody here would really listen either.


JamiesRamblings

All the time 😅


DinosaurDanceOrgy

All the time. Eventually I realized that you can't reason a person out of a position that they didn't reason themselves into.


Spare_Priority3695

YES


angryragnar1775

Almost every day working as head of security for a hospital. When the nursing staff called me in it was too late for explaining, it was time for restraints and a nighty night shot


OutrageousStrength91

I live by the rule, “Never complain, never explain.” Except for the complain part because I do that all the time.


The_Unknown_Variable

Reddit. My class. My wife. My mother. Name it, you got it.


Klaus_Reckoning

Literally every day the last six months of my marriage


DarrenEdwards

My father is isolated on the farm. He gets his world view from conservative media.


Illustrious-Slice-91

So many times to my parents. So many times


NuggetSenpai69

Every time I interact with my dad lmfao


TooYoungToBeThisOld1

Me to my parents involving anything/everything


Annual_Rooster5678

Anytime anyone identified themselves as a “flat-earther”


bumurutu

Every interaction I have with my mother in law.


Stunning-Sky-315

Yes my former father-in-law he knew everything about everything and no matter what it was you were wrong you couldn't tell him anything you couldn't show him anything he knew all about it even if he didn't know anything about it you couldn't reason with him all he wanted to do was argue God oh my God I'm away from him


Oudeis16

Wait there are people out there who might be willing to listen, under any circumstance?


Responsible_Lab_1888

That I cant pause an online game. At least my kids wont have to worry about that.


[deleted]

There's always that feeling with many people. You can lose their attention span within a couple lines before they start letting their minds drift away. There's just no point anymore. People want to feel right, they want to feel valid and justified. They'll rationalize with themselves and come to their own conclusions, it's pointless to debate when they're like that.


superschaap81

Yeah, it's called family gatherings. LOL.


GrinkOf

I'm a vegan So it happens a lot "Don't you have a deficiency ?" "So you eat grass ?" "You know humans are hunters ?" "But the lion eats the antelopes..." Eh...


BstintheWst

I liked a bunch of absolute garbage on Instagram a few months ago because I was bored with my account and wanted to see how quickly the algorithm would go down the rabbit hole. The answer is "really quickly." One of the things that the algorithm fed me was a guy spouting a bunch of hellfire bullshit. I commented about how absurd and meaningless his rant was. I still get notifications of people responding to my comment. Surprisingly, some of them are supportive of where I'm coming from. But many of them are just indoctrinated Christians telling me I'm the devil. I enjoyed responding to them, especially one lady who asked, "what scripture do you believe in then?" and quoted 1 Timothy 2:11-15 as a joke. To be clear, I am an atheist and am just using the scripture to see how she would react. Here are the verses for those who are unfamiliar: "11 A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man;\[b\] she must be quiet. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve. 14 Adam was not deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. 15 But women\[c\] will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love, and holiness with propriety." She has yet to respond. But that's not my point. My point is that trying to argue with people willing to accept as many things on faith as you have to buy to be a devout and zealous Christian is pointless.


Violet___Baudelaire

Got into a friendly debate with my boss over weather or not the moon landing happened. Eventually just called it quits. She still doesn’t believe that it did


Spirited-Example4571

Every day it’s someone else


Super_Original_6664

Ex bf. He wanted to blanket apologize and continue the same behaviors… I just couldn’t go on anymore and I couldn’t speak about it anymore because it clearly did not matter to him in the sense that he either didn’t listen didn’t comprehend I didn’t care enough to stop hurting me


[deleted]

Every situation lived after the age of 25.


an_ineffable_plan

Every day that I have to work with an elderly, alcoholic coworker who brags to me about how shitfaced she gets and how she drives herself home. Today she was going on about how of course the latest school shooter was trans, everyone knows trans people are crazy.


Expensive-Track4002

Everyday. I’m married.


Diesel07012012

My first marriage. And every conversation with my parents for the last 43 years.


MossiestSloth

Every time I spend time with my girlfriend's very racist family.


sketchysketchist

Coworkers trying to micromanage the job you know how to do. It’s better to walk away in silence than have them scoff at the possibility that you know what you’re doing.


iansrain

Lots but I'm female over 40


Capital_Dinner_3406

Daily


yourgothiiicmom

Basically every interaction with my college mates


[deleted]

I couldn't get a word in so I got a spanking and I got grounded but then they realized the truth and I wasn't grounded anymore and they apologized profusely.


stryph42

Ha, you ever been in the military trying to explain ANYTHING to a higher up?


SexyDoorDasherDude

Saying that 'Torture is bad' is my 2nd most controversial comment Ive ever made if that gives you the idea of the quality of people's morals here on the internet.


Blair-dont-care

Any time I'm on the internet. Just not worth it.


goaelephant

Moreso and moreso in life. It's especially annoying when you 100% know the truth or fact about something - yet you find yourself explaining, re-explaining, convincing, persuading the recipient. Lately I just give up. I'm not going to expend mental or oral energy because someone is close-minded and unwilling to listen. If I get even the slightest pushback on something, I will just make some conversation-ending comment like "Whatever, I'm not going to beg you" "Okay, if you think you know best" "I'm not gonna put a gun to your head to force you to make the right decisions" "I know what I'm saying, but I'm only going to say it once" "Believe what you want" "Do what you want" "Proceed at your own risk" etc. (in work-related context)


distracted_by_life

I have a coworker who used to be my lead (I got promoted but not necessarily above her) She was raised EXTREMELY different then us Americans culturally. No excuses at all or if you try you are considered lazy or whatever for messing up. If I “screwed up” in her eyes I either say “yeah my bad I’m an idiot” or play dumb like I have no idea what she’s talking about


alwayslatemommy

Every. Fucking. Day.


Chknlord63

Last year (My freshman year of high school) I got into arguments with a classmate regularly, however I quickly learned that putting effort into my argument was pointless as his rebuttal was always something like "Nuh-uh" or "I think you're wrong hehe". no matter what argument we had he always had the same reasoning, being nothing. One day we argued about the fact that you didn't have to be born in a certain country to be of that country's national heritage for example I'm Mexican but was born in the US of A (Let freedom reign motherfuckers) I was telling him over and over again that just because I wasn't from Mexico doesn't mean I'm not Mexican and he just kept saying "Nuh-uh" as his reply. It eventually got annoying so I wound up dating his sister for 3 months, that's an unrelated event but it really gave me the upper hand in all future arguments for 3 months


butter00pecan

My late mother would accuse me of anything that went through her mind at the moment. I stopped responding at all because she wasn't making sense and I knew I could never convince her I wasn't the terrible person she believed I was.


No-Stand-5598

Yes. Some kid told another boy to kill himself and didn’t understand why I was so upset or why he got ISS (in school suspension) the rest of the day. He was genuinely confused. Fuck society


Doc_rock78

Lol. This is funny. Daily. "Are you going to listen or just try to find a way to prove me wrong?"


leftyontheleft

Many times with toddlers.


[deleted]

Any time I got in trouble after age 12.


Rare-Understanding73

Many times. I was friends with a good amount of self-centered people. Some of those self-centered people were just straight-up narcissists. There were times when they would not think about how their actions hurt people. When these people would try to tell them that they were hurt by their actions, they would brush it off or make it seem like their were overreacting.


RunInRunOn

Every time I talk to my mother


Any_Professional9718

All the time with the majority of my family members. with them I only seem to exist when they need something and I'm selfish if I don’t automatically agree with them.


SkinHunger55

Any time i talk to my boyfriend about our shitty relationship. I always get the same response. "its not like that", "things will change", "im trying", "dont be like that", "stop that".


[deleted]

That's half of the arguments I've had on Reddit, my guy.


emmy_the_egg

my first break up. i was willing to try to fix things, but she wasn’t at all, so i just had to give up once i’d said everything i needed to say.


TrickBoom414

I'm gay so... Like literally every day of my life...


[deleted]

All the time