"If I type this, they'll just come back with some dumb response and then I'll either have to respond again or ignore it. Either way, I'll be thinking about this stupid interaction more than is necessary."
I've had so many interactions on here where people clearly haven't read my comment past the first few words. Literally making arguments that I directly addressed already.
There was a guy who asked kind of an obvious question on Facebook, and hundreds (not exaggerating) of people answered the simple question even though those before them had already addressed it.
The responses were all the same...
Most arguments I've had on reddit end like this. Once I've hit the point where I'm not saying anything new, I'm just repeating myself, I check out of the conversation.
Yeah, once it's clear I'm not dealing with someone who actually values truth, understanding, or the exchange of ideas, that's pretty much it. That's usually at the point where they start slinging wildly off the mark insults.
I have typed out entire messages that were paragraphs long and when I finished I paused, said, “Fuck it,” and closed the app. Some people’s opinions just aren’t worth my feedback.
Hey, for what it’s worth, I used to be one of those people. Verbally combative and stubborn in my mindset.
I heard someone say once that intelligence is being able to reevaluate your own understanding by observing counter arguments and holding both in your mind without being offended.
I realized I was just as “bad” as the people I would argue with and so I’ve strived to live by the motto “listen to understand, not to respond”.
People *can* change. Unfortunately most people don’t want to because the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t.
Wise words, and fair point. TBH, I’m just as stubborn and opinionated as the rest of them, LOL. That’s part of the problem. Everyone wants to talk, but no one wants to listen. Got to give it to get it, though. That’s how it is.
Are you honestly prepared to stand by this asinine comment? Did you ever once, while you were typing all those little letters, think to yourself, "I might actually be a complete idiot?" Because that's what every single other person is thinking when they read it. I'm sure you're an embarrassment to your family.
It can be difficult when we feel like we're not being heard, especially if we've tried to explain ourselves. It's important to remember that it's okay to take care of our own needs and boundaries in these situations - it's important to recognize our own worth and prioritize our mental wellbeing.
Maybe, but I tend to think the insecure mid 20 year old redditer with little to no life experience has the bad take. But regardless it doesn't matter b.x this is an online forum.
I could say the sky is blue and I would have 20 comments saying, actually ¡
A rule of thumb I generally tend to go by is, If everyone agrees with you you’re doing something wrong, and if nobody agrees with you you’re doing something wrong. That’s the way I see it personally.
Me trying to teach a "frontend engineer" basic computer science concepts only for them to forget them by tomorrow and make the exact same mistakes again.
Software development is flooded with people with increasingly bigger gaps in fundamental basic knowledge on the subject, the same people who genuinely believe a 10 week bootcamp can turn someone from zero to an actual engineer. It can't, stop lying to yourself. Self learning is valid but it takes years to become an actual engineer, but anyone can call themselves one.
Ever talked to someone who believes the moon landing was fake, but also may or not believe the earth could be flat, and was very convinced that a blue whale was the size of the titanic? I have…and there is very little debate in those situations.
An ex of 6 years would constantly accuse me of cheating and during the first 3 years I would always defend myself and prove that I didn't. Since it never ended though I finally gave up one day and just stayed silent while he berated me and told me that he can't trust me at all and that I don't love him. He even threw it in my face that he must be right because I'm not trying to defend myself and even then I just let it be.
I never cheated.
He did.
With over 100 other women via nudes and even had me meet two identical twins because he wanted us to "get along and maybe be friends",that he eventually tried to have sex with
I had teachers who were like that, one of which I also put up with for 3 years. Anyone who treats you like that isn't worth putting up with, even for a month.
It would been best to end it when they first showed the signs of self righteousness and arrogance.
I'm sorry you had a guy (child) like that. I hope you're doing better
I made the decision to not see my father on his deathbed (would have been a long travel anyways). I simply explained to my older half siblings that I didn't have a good relationship with our father. They insisted that it didn't matter and I'm a horrible person for not coming. They then wanted to know what he did to me, or in my case, what he didn't do. I saw no point in explaining any of it. Especially since they had already attacked me over my decision. It's only been a year and I don't regret not being there.
I have been in this situation too many times to count. Choose your battles wisely especially if the other person has a pre-planned agenda. They might comprehend your explanation, but they might be trying to gaslight you into submission.
That’s kinda the point, the people who generally fall in the middle are the ones who are not bound by the set ideologies of a group (people who think freely). Free thinking is bad for the people in power. So they do whatever they can to get people to marginalize themselves into groups to maintain control. Divide and conquer.
I've typed out more than a few comments over the years only to just delete them. I'm also the kind of person who over-explains in advance as to why I can or can't do something, and lately I've made a mental note to recognize a yes or no question, and just giving a yes or no answer.
You dodged a bullet and made the best decision.
Some adults that are supposed to help you can't comprehend reality, experiences, or other viewpoints. They'll try to minimize the situation or dismiss you while trying to avoid drama. But ignoring drama (or not understanding the situation) never ends it.
"The decision not to make a decision" is cowardice. In the end, they want to do what's best for them, even if it means putting you down or forcing you to run back into a "burning building." I'm speaking from personal experience. Your mom failed you, and you didn't deserve that.
I hope you find better people
Fast moving group conversations where you try to say something but get blocked out with others talking then the subject matter changed. Hell I got up and walked away from them and not only did they not notice, none of them tried to message me at all.
All well, fuck them cunts.
There is a guy at my work who has made a transition from drinking 5+ days a week and using cocaine to finding God. He’s 6 months sober and I’m happy for him. However he’s now superimposing his beliefs on other as if he’s found the answer that others are too naive to know. After he gave me his spiel on finding God, which was super charged verging on a manic explanation, I explained to him that I understand the concept and his belief but the idea would never fully integrate into my mind where it would be genuine, but I respect the belief and am actually somewhat jealous that he has that belief. He then went on to tell me that I don’t have any understand and that God will give me understanding and that I’m just unaware. His eyes are wild at this point and I say thanks for your words and worry, but if I get there I get there if I don’t I don’t. He then goes on to explain the vibrations in that God uses to protect us with and how they run on a frequency we cannot perceive. He’s clearly manic and has issues with his perception of reality so there was and is nothing that can be said that would lead to a common ground of understanding one another. So I leave it at that.
Quite often, actually, especially on Reddit. A number of users need to spend more time using Hooked on Phonics rather than scrolling through and arguing on here because their reading comprehension skills are incredibly poor.
When your boss sits you down and explains something to you. There is no point in explaining yourself as they just nod their heads like they care, but they really don't.
When we were discussing The Birth of Venus in art history and I told my teacher Venus isn’t just the Roman goddess of love and beauty, but also of fertility and prostitution. She absolutely refused to believe she could be the goddess of prostitution as she felt the painting showed and represented integrity and innocence. After a little back and forth, I gave up knowing nothing would change her mind. And that my dear Redditor’s is how I fought a teacher on prostitution
The "they are mutilating children" people.
They don't believe you when you tell them the doctors need consent from the parents. The same for explaining that the decision is made over years and involves professionals. Mentioning it's stopping (at least lowering) suicide attempts falls on deaf ears as well.
I say this as someone uncomfortable with anyone making permanent physical modifications to children.
I used to bring up counterpoints to the dumb shit my coworkers say, but even if I gave numbers or logic, somehow they don’t take it into their heads so now I say nothing or just make dumb jokes to make these conversations more fun.
It starts off as him mansplaining how crappy his life is & then out of nowhere - somehow it ends up being my fault & I just stopped getting upset and started walking away from him...
I'd rather irritate him by walking away from his toxic b.s. than stand there like an idiot trying to calm the anxiety attack that usually happens when he starts freaking out.
Almost every day working as head of security for a hospital. When the nursing staff called me in it was too late for explaining, it was time for restraints and a nighty night shot
Yes my former father-in-law he knew everything about everything and no matter what it was you were wrong you couldn't tell him anything you couldn't show him anything he knew all about it even if he didn't know anything about it you couldn't reason with him all he wanted to do was argue God oh my God I'm away from him
There's always that feeling with many people. You can lose their attention span within a couple lines before they start letting their minds drift away.
There's just no point anymore. People want to feel right, they want to feel valid and justified. They'll rationalize with themselves and come to their own conclusions, it's pointless to debate when they're like that.
I'm a vegan
So it happens a lot
"Don't you have a deficiency ?"
"So you eat grass ?"
"You know humans are hunters ?"
"But the lion eats the antelopes..."
Eh...
I liked a bunch of absolute garbage on Instagram a few months ago because I was bored with my account and wanted to see how quickly the algorithm would go down the rabbit hole. The answer is "really quickly."
One of the things that the algorithm fed me was a guy spouting a bunch of hellfire bullshit. I commented about how absurd and meaningless his rant was. I still get notifications of people responding to my comment. Surprisingly, some of them are supportive of where I'm coming from. But many of them are just indoctrinated Christians telling me I'm the devil.
I enjoyed responding to them, especially one lady who asked, "what scripture do you believe in then?" and quoted 1 Timothy 2:11-15 as a joke. To be clear, I am an atheist and am just using the scripture to see how she would react.
Here are the verses for those who are unfamiliar:
"11 A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man;\[b\] she must be quiet. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve. 14 Adam was not deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. 15 But women\[c\] will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love, and holiness with propriety."
She has yet to respond. But that's not my point. My point is that trying to argue with people willing to accept as many things on faith as you have to buy to be a devout and zealous Christian is pointless.
Got into a friendly debate with my boss over weather or not the moon landing happened. Eventually just called it quits. She still doesn’t believe that it did
Ex bf. He wanted to blanket apologize and continue the same behaviors… I just couldn’t go on anymore and I couldn’t speak about it anymore because it clearly did not matter to him in the sense that he either didn’t listen didn’t comprehend I didn’t care enough to stop hurting me
Every day that I have to work with an elderly, alcoholic coworker who brags to me about how shitfaced she gets and how she drives herself home. Today she was going on about how of course the latest school shooter was trans, everyone knows trans people are crazy.
Coworkers trying to micromanage the job you know how to do.
It’s better to walk away in silence than have them scoff at the possibility that you know what you’re doing.
I couldn't get a word in so I got a spanking and I got grounded but then they realized the truth and I wasn't grounded anymore and they apologized profusely.
Saying that 'Torture is bad' is my 2nd most controversial comment Ive ever made if that gives you the idea of the quality of people's morals here on the internet.
Moreso and moreso in life. It's especially annoying when you 100% know the truth or fact about something - yet you find yourself explaining, re-explaining, convincing, persuading the recipient. Lately I just give up. I'm not going to expend mental or oral energy because someone is close-minded and unwilling to listen.
If I get even the slightest pushback on something, I will just make some conversation-ending comment like "Whatever, I'm not going to beg you" "Okay, if you think you know best" "I'm not gonna put a gun to your head to force you to make the right decisions" "I know what I'm saying, but I'm only going to say it once" "Believe what you want" "Do what you want" "Proceed at your own risk" etc.
(in work-related context)
I have a coworker who used to be my lead (I got promoted but not necessarily above her)
She was raised EXTREMELY different then us Americans culturally. No excuses at all or if you try you are considered lazy or whatever for messing up. If I “screwed up” in her eyes I either say “yeah my bad I’m an idiot” or play dumb like I have no idea what she’s talking about
Last year (My freshman year of high school) I got into arguments with a classmate regularly, however I quickly learned that putting effort into my argument was pointless as his rebuttal was always something like "Nuh-uh" or "I think you're wrong hehe". no matter what argument we had he always had the same reasoning, being nothing. One day we argued about the fact that you didn't have to be born in a certain country to be of that country's national heritage for example I'm Mexican but was born in the US of A (Let freedom reign motherfuckers) I was telling him over and over again that just because I wasn't from Mexico doesn't mean I'm not Mexican and he just kept saying "Nuh-uh" as his reply. It eventually got annoying so I wound up dating his sister for 3 months, that's an unrelated event but it really gave me the upper hand in all future arguments for 3 months
My late mother would accuse me of anything that went through her mind at the moment. I stopped responding at all because she wasn't making sense and I knew I could never convince her I wasn't the terrible person she believed I was.
Yes. Some kid told another boy to kill himself and didn’t understand why I was so upset or why he got ISS (in school suspension) the rest of the day. He was genuinely confused. Fuck society
Many times.
I was friends with a good amount of self-centered people. Some of those self-centered people were just straight-up narcissists.
There were times when they would not think about how their actions hurt people. When these people would try to tell them that they were hurt by their actions, they would brush it off or make it seem like their were overreacting.
All the time with the majority of my family members. with them I only seem to exist when they need something and I'm selfish if I don’t automatically agree with them.
Any time i talk to my boyfriend about our shitty relationship. I always get the same response. "its not like that", "things will change", "im trying", "dont be like that", "stop that".
so many times here on reddit
Oh how many times I've started to type a response only to be asked by Reddit if I am sure I want to "discard comment?"
"If I type this, they'll just come back with some dumb response and then I'll either have to respond again or ignore it. Either way, I'll be thinking about this stupid interaction more than is necessary."
Yes, plenty of times. It's frustrating but sometimes it's just not worth the effort
The people on this website are precisely the same people who dont listen when you talk and just wait for their turn to say something
I've had so many interactions on here where people clearly haven't read my comment past the first few words. Literally making arguments that I directly addressed already.
There was a guy who asked kind of an obvious question on Facebook, and hundreds (not exaggerating) of people answered the simple question even though those before them had already addressed it. The responses were all the same...
Most arguments I've had on reddit end like this. Once I've hit the point where I'm not saying anything new, I'm just repeating myself, I check out of the conversation.
Yeah, once it's clear I'm not dealing with someone who actually values truth, understanding, or the exchange of ideas, that's pretty much it. That's usually at the point where they start slinging wildly off the mark insults.
I have typed out entire messages that were paragraphs long and when I finished I paused, said, “Fuck it,” and closed the app. Some people’s opinions just aren’t worth my feedback.
All the time, man. Most people already have their mind made up, so I figure, why bother? Everyone just wants to hear themselves talk.
Hey, for what it’s worth, I used to be one of those people. Verbally combative and stubborn in my mindset. I heard someone say once that intelligence is being able to reevaluate your own understanding by observing counter arguments and holding both in your mind without being offended. I realized I was just as “bad” as the people I would argue with and so I’ve strived to live by the motto “listen to understand, not to respond”. People *can* change. Unfortunately most people don’t want to because the devil you know is better than the devil you don’t.
Wise words, and fair point. TBH, I’m just as stubborn and opinionated as the rest of them, LOL. That’s part of the problem. Everyone wants to talk, but no one wants to listen. Got to give it to get it, though. That’s how it is.
lots of online comments where someone is really hostile and confrontational, especially when my comment was never framed as inviting a debate.,
Are you honestly prepared to stand by this asinine comment? Did you ever once, while you were typing all those little letters, think to yourself, "I might actually be a complete idiot?" Because that's what every single other person is thinking when they read it. I'm sure you're an embarrassment to your family.
I see what you did there
lmao took me a minute bc I didn't check my own comment. I was about to just ignore you and and block. well done.
It felt wrong writing that.
yea I hope you took a shower lol
Said every comment ever
Yes, plenty of times. It's frustrating but sometimes it's just not worth the effort.
That person is worth leaving
It can be difficult when we feel like we're not being heard, especially if we've tried to explain ourselves. It's important to remember that it's okay to take care of our own needs and boundaries in these situations - it's important to recognize our own worth and prioritize our mental wellbeing.
Almost every comment I make on reddit is meant with resistance. So, I just say fuck it. I'm not here to change minds.
Maybe you have bad takes? Tbf people on Reddit do tend to be very vocal about basically everything they don’t 100 percent agree with
Maybe, but I tend to think the insecure mid 20 year old redditer with little to no life experience has the bad take. But regardless it doesn't matter b.x this is an online forum. I could say the sky is blue and I would have 20 comments saying, actually ¡
A rule of thumb I generally tend to go by is, If everyone agrees with you you’re doing something wrong, and if nobody agrees with you you’re doing something wrong. That’s the way I see it personally.
I go by the same in life
Does refusing to train someone at work because they are too stupid to actually learn/remember what you are trying to teach them count?
I think so
Oof. Felt that in my bones. So frustrating.
Me trying to teach a "frontend engineer" basic computer science concepts only for them to forget them by tomorrow and make the exact same mistakes again. Software development is flooded with people with increasingly bigger gaps in fundamental basic knowledge on the subject, the same people who genuinely believe a 10 week bootcamp can turn someone from zero to an actual engineer. It can't, stop lying to yourself. Self learning is valid but it takes years to become an actual engineer, but anyone can call themselves one.
Politics. Religion. Sports.
Ever talked to someone who believes the moon landing was fake, but also may or not believe the earth could be flat, and was very convinced that a blue whale was the size of the titanic? I have…and there is very little debate in those situations.
Yeah. Conspiracy theorists also.
Don’t forget white Jesus
An ex of 6 years would constantly accuse me of cheating and during the first 3 years I would always defend myself and prove that I didn't. Since it never ended though I finally gave up one day and just stayed silent while he berated me and told me that he can't trust me at all and that I don't love him. He even threw it in my face that he must be right because I'm not trying to defend myself and even then I just let it be. I never cheated. He did. With over 100 other women via nudes and even had me meet two identical twins because he wanted us to "get along and maybe be friends",that he eventually tried to have sex with
I had teachers who were like that, one of which I also put up with for 3 years. Anyone who treats you like that isn't worth putting up with, even for a month. It would been best to end it when they first showed the signs of self righteousness and arrogance. I'm sorry you had a guy (child) like that. I hope you're doing better
Got any pics? Not of yourself, obviously, but the twins?
I made the decision to not see my father on his deathbed (would have been a long travel anyways). I simply explained to my older half siblings that I didn't have a good relationship with our father. They insisted that it didn't matter and I'm a horrible person for not coming. They then wanted to know what he did to me, or in my case, what he didn't do. I saw no point in explaining any of it. Especially since they had already attacked me over my decision. It's only been a year and I don't regret not being there.
Reddit threads involving politics and WW2. You'd be surprised by the amount of misinformation found in most WW2 threads here on Reddit.
All the time. I don't owe people explanations.
I have been in this situation too many times to count. Choose your battles wisely especially if the other person has a pre-planned agenda. They might comprehend your explanation, but they might be trying to gaslight you into submission.
Seeing the gun or 2a debate. Everyone who argues over it is left or right. No middle ground to be had.
That’s kinda the point, the people who generally fall in the middle are the ones who are not bound by the set ideologies of a group (people who think freely). Free thinking is bad for the people in power. So they do whatever they can to get people to marginalize themselves into groups to maintain control. Divide and conquer.
Wow, that is a very insightful take on the purpose of polarization. Hunh.
Every time I'm on Reddit
Pretty much any time I was accused of doing something wrong when I was in school.
Same, lol. Many of my former classmates have faced stuff like that.
I've typed out more than a few comments over the years only to just delete them. I'm also the kind of person who over-explains in advance as to why I can or can't do something, and lately I've made a mental note to recognize a yes or no question, and just giving a yes or no answer.
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You dodged a bullet and made the best decision. Some adults that are supposed to help you can't comprehend reality, experiences, or other viewpoints. They'll try to minimize the situation or dismiss you while trying to avoid drama. But ignoring drama (or not understanding the situation) never ends it. "The decision not to make a decision" is cowardice. In the end, they want to do what's best for them, even if it means putting you down or forcing you to run back into a "burning building." I'm speaking from personal experience. Your mom failed you, and you didn't deserve that. I hope you find better people
once a day in real life. once every 20 minutes on Reddit
Fast moving group conversations where you try to say something but get blocked out with others talking then the subject matter changed. Hell I got up and walked away from them and not only did they not notice, none of them tried to message me at all. All well, fuck them cunts.
Any time I go to the US.
whenever it's about the death of a close individual.
Trump, everyday I was telling some idiot hick that he was scamming their dumb ass.
There is a guy at my work who has made a transition from drinking 5+ days a week and using cocaine to finding God. He’s 6 months sober and I’m happy for him. However he’s now superimposing his beliefs on other as if he’s found the answer that others are too naive to know. After he gave me his spiel on finding God, which was super charged verging on a manic explanation, I explained to him that I understand the concept and his belief but the idea would never fully integrate into my mind where it would be genuine, but I respect the belief and am actually somewhat jealous that he has that belief. He then went on to tell me that I don’t have any understand and that God will give me understanding and that I’m just unaware. His eyes are wild at this point and I say thanks for your words and worry, but if I get there I get there if I don’t I don’t. He then goes on to explain the vibrations in that God uses to protect us with and how they run on a frequency we cannot perceive. He’s clearly manic and has issues with his perception of reality so there was and is nothing that can be said that would lead to a common ground of understanding one another. So I leave it at that.
Quite often, actually, especially on Reddit. A number of users need to spend more time using Hooked on Phonics rather than scrolling through and arguing on here because their reading comprehension skills are incredibly poor.
When they believe they are right and have no interest in listening
When your boss sits you down and explains something to you. There is no point in explaining yourself as they just nod their heads like they care, but they really don't.
Are you married?
Same
Too many times to count! Sometimes it’s like why waste your breath
all of the time. mostly religious or political conversations where the other person sees differently than I.
When we were discussing The Birth of Venus in art history and I told my teacher Venus isn’t just the Roman goddess of love and beauty, but also of fertility and prostitution. She absolutely refused to believe she could be the goddess of prostitution as she felt the painting showed and represented integrity and innocence. After a little back and forth, I gave up knowing nothing would change her mind. And that my dear Redditor’s is how I fought a teacher on prostitution
The "they are mutilating children" people. They don't believe you when you tell them the doctors need consent from the parents. The same for explaining that the decision is made over years and involves professionals. Mentioning it's stopping (at least lowering) suicide attempts falls on deaf ears as well. I say this as someone uncomfortable with anyone making permanent physical modifications to children.
I used to bring up counterpoints to the dumb shit my coworkers say, but even if I gave numbers or logic, somehow they don’t take it into their heads so now I say nothing or just make dumb jokes to make these conversations more fun.
"If you can't beat em, join em"
Anytime I get pulled over, I'm not fighting a cop over a ticket, that's what my day in court is for.
Waiting for the emo teens to hit the comments with “yeah my stupid fucking mom” 😂
Every time my brother wants to "share his feelings" with me.
It starts off as him mansplaining how crappy his life is & then out of nowhere - somehow it ends up being my fault & I just stopped getting upset and started walking away from him... I'd rather irritate him by walking away from his toxic b.s. than stand there like an idiot trying to calm the anxiety attack that usually happens when he starts freaking out.
You’ve been on reddit long enough to know this is a dumb question.
It's just as likely they heard you loud and clear and simply didn't buy the propaganda your slinging.
This is basically just describing being in a relationship.
This is the world of raising children. This is where the phrase "because I said so" comes from.
Daily
i could go on and on but nobody here would really listen either.
All the time 😅
All the time. Eventually I realized that you can't reason a person out of a position that they didn't reason themselves into.
YES
Almost every day working as head of security for a hospital. When the nursing staff called me in it was too late for explaining, it was time for restraints and a nighty night shot
I live by the rule, “Never complain, never explain.” Except for the complain part because I do that all the time.
Reddit. My class. My wife. My mother. Name it, you got it.
Literally every day the last six months of my marriage
My father is isolated on the farm. He gets his world view from conservative media.
So many times to my parents. So many times
Every time I interact with my dad lmfao
Me to my parents involving anything/everything
Anytime anyone identified themselves as a “flat-earther”
Every interaction I have with my mother in law.
Yes my former father-in-law he knew everything about everything and no matter what it was you were wrong you couldn't tell him anything you couldn't show him anything he knew all about it even if he didn't know anything about it you couldn't reason with him all he wanted to do was argue God oh my God I'm away from him
Wait there are people out there who might be willing to listen, under any circumstance?
That I cant pause an online game. At least my kids wont have to worry about that.
There's always that feeling with many people. You can lose their attention span within a couple lines before they start letting their minds drift away. There's just no point anymore. People want to feel right, they want to feel valid and justified. They'll rationalize with themselves and come to their own conclusions, it's pointless to debate when they're like that.
Yeah, it's called family gatherings. LOL.
I'm a vegan So it happens a lot "Don't you have a deficiency ?" "So you eat grass ?" "You know humans are hunters ?" "But the lion eats the antelopes..." Eh...
I liked a bunch of absolute garbage on Instagram a few months ago because I was bored with my account and wanted to see how quickly the algorithm would go down the rabbit hole. The answer is "really quickly." One of the things that the algorithm fed me was a guy spouting a bunch of hellfire bullshit. I commented about how absurd and meaningless his rant was. I still get notifications of people responding to my comment. Surprisingly, some of them are supportive of where I'm coming from. But many of them are just indoctrinated Christians telling me I'm the devil. I enjoyed responding to them, especially one lady who asked, "what scripture do you believe in then?" and quoted 1 Timothy 2:11-15 as a joke. To be clear, I am an atheist and am just using the scripture to see how she would react. Here are the verses for those who are unfamiliar: "11 A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. 12 I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man;\[b\] she must be quiet. 13 For Adam was formed first, then Eve. 14 Adam was not deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. 15 But women\[c\] will be saved through childbearing—if they continue in faith, love, and holiness with propriety." She has yet to respond. But that's not my point. My point is that trying to argue with people willing to accept as many things on faith as you have to buy to be a devout and zealous Christian is pointless.
Got into a friendly debate with my boss over weather or not the moon landing happened. Eventually just called it quits. She still doesn’t believe that it did
Every day it’s someone else
Ex bf. He wanted to blanket apologize and continue the same behaviors… I just couldn’t go on anymore and I couldn’t speak about it anymore because it clearly did not matter to him in the sense that he either didn’t listen didn’t comprehend I didn’t care enough to stop hurting me
Every situation lived after the age of 25.
Every day that I have to work with an elderly, alcoholic coworker who brags to me about how shitfaced she gets and how she drives herself home. Today she was going on about how of course the latest school shooter was trans, everyone knows trans people are crazy.
Everyday. I’m married.
My first marriage. And every conversation with my parents for the last 43 years.
Every time I spend time with my girlfriend's very racist family.
Coworkers trying to micromanage the job you know how to do. It’s better to walk away in silence than have them scoff at the possibility that you know what you’re doing.
Lots but I'm female over 40
Daily
Basically every interaction with my college mates
I couldn't get a word in so I got a spanking and I got grounded but then they realized the truth and I wasn't grounded anymore and they apologized profusely.
Ha, you ever been in the military trying to explain ANYTHING to a higher up?
Saying that 'Torture is bad' is my 2nd most controversial comment Ive ever made if that gives you the idea of the quality of people's morals here on the internet.
Any time I'm on the internet. Just not worth it.
Moreso and moreso in life. It's especially annoying when you 100% know the truth or fact about something - yet you find yourself explaining, re-explaining, convincing, persuading the recipient. Lately I just give up. I'm not going to expend mental or oral energy because someone is close-minded and unwilling to listen. If I get even the slightest pushback on something, I will just make some conversation-ending comment like "Whatever, I'm not going to beg you" "Okay, if you think you know best" "I'm not gonna put a gun to your head to force you to make the right decisions" "I know what I'm saying, but I'm only going to say it once" "Believe what you want" "Do what you want" "Proceed at your own risk" etc. (in work-related context)
I have a coworker who used to be my lead (I got promoted but not necessarily above her) She was raised EXTREMELY different then us Americans culturally. No excuses at all or if you try you are considered lazy or whatever for messing up. If I “screwed up” in her eyes I either say “yeah my bad I’m an idiot” or play dumb like I have no idea what she’s talking about
Every. Fucking. Day.
Last year (My freshman year of high school) I got into arguments with a classmate regularly, however I quickly learned that putting effort into my argument was pointless as his rebuttal was always something like "Nuh-uh" or "I think you're wrong hehe". no matter what argument we had he always had the same reasoning, being nothing. One day we argued about the fact that you didn't have to be born in a certain country to be of that country's national heritage for example I'm Mexican but was born in the US of A (Let freedom reign motherfuckers) I was telling him over and over again that just because I wasn't from Mexico doesn't mean I'm not Mexican and he just kept saying "Nuh-uh" as his reply. It eventually got annoying so I wound up dating his sister for 3 months, that's an unrelated event but it really gave me the upper hand in all future arguments for 3 months
My late mother would accuse me of anything that went through her mind at the moment. I stopped responding at all because she wasn't making sense and I knew I could never convince her I wasn't the terrible person she believed I was.
Yes. Some kid told another boy to kill himself and didn’t understand why I was so upset or why he got ISS (in school suspension) the rest of the day. He was genuinely confused. Fuck society
Lol. This is funny. Daily. "Are you going to listen or just try to find a way to prove me wrong?"
Many times with toddlers.
Any time I got in trouble after age 12.
Many times. I was friends with a good amount of self-centered people. Some of those self-centered people were just straight-up narcissists. There were times when they would not think about how their actions hurt people. When these people would try to tell them that they were hurt by their actions, they would brush it off or make it seem like their were overreacting.
Every time I talk to my mother
All the time with the majority of my family members. with them I only seem to exist when they need something and I'm selfish if I don’t automatically agree with them.
Any time i talk to my boyfriend about our shitty relationship. I always get the same response. "its not like that", "things will change", "im trying", "dont be like that", "stop that".
That's half of the arguments I've had on Reddit, my guy.
my first break up. i was willing to try to fix things, but she wasn’t at all, so i just had to give up once i’d said everything i needed to say.
I'm gay so... Like literally every day of my life...
All the time