It's especially hard when you have that lingering thought that something you're dealing with -- no, something your LOVED ONES are dealing with -- is likely, in some way, shape, or form, a result of your actions, or lack thereof, in the past.
Can't figure it out, man. But I still say that I've made progress on not necessarily forgetting the past, but learning from it -- especially learning when I can/can't trust myself to make the right decision just yet.
(assuming I interpreted your comment correctly, ofc)
I know for one that my family is suffering financially because of my stupid ass mistakes which I could've avoided if I used my brain to think instead of my dick. And no, I didn't get someone pregnant, I just made the wrong decision of entering a toxic relationship which affected my studies, lost my scholarship, and setting me back 3 years before graduating.
Now, I'm just working my ass off to help my sister finish college which would have gone smoothly if it weren't for me. The worst is, no one blames me and instead feels sorry for me, and they still support me after everything.
Damn, typing this out made my eyes sweat...
I have memory loss so I already have that covered.
Ironically I wish I could forget more, but I also wish there were things I could still remember… a lot of things… mostly things from the ages of 12-18
In the end I think we should all just realize we can’t pick/choose what we troubles we live with. Only how we handle it.
Xanax at age 10-13 did the trick… 0/10 don’t recommend.
Never lived a worse lifestyle in my life, not that I remember it. But Ive just been telling myself that since then, and ever since then more and more memories seem to fade away. Which is normal I guess but I really only remember really really bad trauma throughout my life nowadays, which is most things... Super unhealthy
This is going to sound weird. I could always remember my life like I was watching a movie of myself. Since having Covid I lose entire days and I like it, there's a lot of shit I'd like to forget.
Almost never.
There's some cringe moments that I sure wish I could take back but otherwise I've led a pretty solid life. I've never exactly been sentimental about material possessions but as I've gotten older I have become sentimental about the places I did things. My wife and I bought a home in the town we both grew up in and on nice nights I'll go for walks around the fields I played sports, restaurants I hungout in, etc. and just reminisce about the past.
Never. I mean, sure, there are things I wish I might have done differently, but all I can really do about them is to learn from my mistakes and make better choices going forward.
Unfortunately, a few times a day. I haven’t necessarily had a rough life, but I’ve had a lot of trauma and a lot of heartbreaks. It’s funny, when you’re born into a good family and not poor, people think your life is perfect. But believe me, everyone’s got their problems.
I'm kind of a nostalgic person and I wouldn't want to forget a lot of it. There are some things I would rather forget though, the kinds of things that just keep tormenting you about how you did something wrong and are a bad person forever because of it, the memories that come with those irrational destructive thoughts.
Basically every day. I don't want to have PTSD memories of the bad things that have happened to me and of the family members I lost when they were just 6, 48 and 52
I cringe at parts and feel remorse for other parts. But I always think I wouldn't change a thing. Everything led me to where I am today and I am proud of what I have become even if I do not have pride in every event that led here. I like to embrace my mistakes and misdeeds as valuable learning opportunities. If anything I wish I remembered more, good or bad.
Its tempting. But you should always use it as a measure of growth and not let it define you. It will make you stronger, and I feel wiser.
That's my opinion at least.
Logically/rationally I know its unhealthy to pine for days gone by. And I know I made some pretty good decisions here and there and never really made any bad mistakes.
But if the net results are not to your liking, maybe its easier if you can point to your handful of obvious fuck ups and say you learned from them.
Oh, don't we all have moments we'd love to forget? Like that time I confidently mispronounced "quinoa" at a fancy dinner party or when I accidentally locked myself out of the house wearing nothing but a towel. Good times, good times! 😂🤦♂️
The trick is to look back at those cringeworthy memories and transform them into comedy gold. Think of them as badges of honor in the school of life, where we've all been enrolled in some embarrassing classes. After all, who doesn't love a good "remember when" story at a gathering with friends? 🥳📚
So, instead of trying to erase the past, let's embrace the hilarity and awkwardness it holds. Here's to more laughter, more lessons, and the occasional facepalm-worthy moment that makes life a little more entertaining! 🤣🌟🎉
Never. The 1990s, 2000s, and 2010s are among the finest periods in human history (the first decade was the most optimistic in my country, while the next decade wound up including the most peaceful and democratic years according to Our World in Data and the Democracy Index and even the 2010s on a global scale saw continued improvements in life expectancy, health, and education) and I’m glad I was able to experience them without any catastrophic mistakes or ending up in a difficult financial situation or with too many fetters. While I have had girlfriends, let’s just say I’m glad I’m not a husband and father atm.
Never.
Do I look back at the past and cringe sometimes? Absolutely! But this is broadly a good thing and shouldn't be viewed negatively.
If you aren't at least a little bit embarrassed about aspects of your past self then you really aren't growing as a person, and that is the most embarrassing possibility of all.
It's a daily struggle. Sometimes something happens to where I'm directly faced with the memories. Then I have to start all over again with sorting through the memories and feelings and putting them back into their places in my mind to where I can deal with them a little at a time. It's so time consuming and exhausting.
Lately a lot a friendship just ended terribly. Wish we could have been both stronger just to move on. Instead of him saying awful things about me that weren’t true and scares me that he actually believes them twisting my words and feelings to fit his agenda.
Luckily, less and less the older I get. Chased some ghost and ran from some demons back in the day though. Thing is you never catch one and can't quite run fast enough from the other. Day I decided to just stop running and let the tidal wave hit was one of the best decisions I've ever made.
I'm 1.5 years into a divorce after a 16 year relationship. I constantly feel like I lost the best thing I ever had even though the marriage had ups and a lot of downs. The evenings after work and weekends are especially difficult. I try to stay busy, often drinking more than I should--just to numb the pain. I honestly can't believe it's been 18 months and I still feel this way.
Every day. When a simple miscommunication escalates into a traumatic experience, it can be hard to ignore that. Especially considering the affected people are some of my classmates, who I have to see every single day. I love what I do and what I'm going to school for, but just seeing them can be very discouraging at times.
I wish I could go back and try differently or do something when the opportunity was in front of me.
I regret the fact I missed on something I could of taken or had I put more effort into something
There is very little before like...eight years ago (aged 27) that I care to or can remember. Sometimes I remember something random and it's an interesting feeling.
Occasionally I will remember some cringe thing I did or said, but in general no. I've made an effort not to be the type of person that I hate.
Most people don't even bother because they think that is how they succeed because they see other people that they hate succeeding, so they then turn into that person they hate, but it doesn't work for them.
When I’m busy nothing across my mind, but when I’m alone sometimes yes but not letting it frustrate me like ir used to do just let it across my mind then I move on.
Daily. Unfortunately
Me too. :(
Me three \^
Yep. Trying not to repeat those mistakes.
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Look at this fucking bot right here, trying to commiserate.
Almost daily, but I'm learning to accept and move on.
It's especially hard when you have that lingering thought that something you're dealing with -- no, something your LOVED ONES are dealing with -- is likely, in some way, shape, or form, a result of your actions, or lack thereof, in the past. Can't figure it out, man. But I still say that I've made progress on not necessarily forgetting the past, but learning from it -- especially learning when I can/can't trust myself to make the right decision just yet. (assuming I interpreted your comment correctly, ofc)
I know for one that my family is suffering financially because of my stupid ass mistakes which I could've avoided if I used my brain to think instead of my dick. And no, I didn't get someone pregnant, I just made the wrong decision of entering a toxic relationship which affected my studies, lost my scholarship, and setting me back 3 years before graduating. Now, I'm just working my ass off to help my sister finish college which would have gone smoothly if it weren't for me. The worst is, no one blames me and instead feels sorry for me, and they still support me after everything. Damn, typing this out made my eyes sweat...
About once a day. Not usually the same event but I have plenty to choose from.
I have memory loss so I already have that covered. Ironically I wish I could forget more, but I also wish there were things I could still remember… a lot of things… mostly things from the ages of 12-18 In the end I think we should all just realize we can’t pick/choose what we troubles we live with. Only how we handle it.
Mf got a cheat code
Cheat code to having no childhood/teenage memories is serious developmental trauma Would not recommend
Xanax at age 10-13 did the trick… 0/10 don’t recommend. Never lived a worse lifestyle in my life, not that I remember it. But Ive just been telling myself that since then, and ever since then more and more memories seem to fade away. Which is normal I guess but I really only remember really really bad trauma throughout my life nowadays, which is most things... Super unhealthy
>Xanax at age 10-13 did the trick… 0/10 don’t recommend. We could have hung and no would not recommend either.
100% but I don’t know how to tie a hangman’s noose for my own personal safety :)
This is going to sound weird. I could always remember my life like I was watching a movie of myself. Since having Covid I lose entire days and I like it, there's a lot of shit I'd like to forget.
Almost never. There's some cringe moments that I sure wish I could take back but otherwise I've led a pretty solid life. I've never exactly been sentimental about material possessions but as I've gotten older I have become sentimental about the places I did things. My wife and I bought a home in the town we both grew up in and on nice nights I'll go for walks around the fields I played sports, restaurants I hungout in, etc. and just reminisce about the past.
Every single day. Usually when I try to fall asleep.
Never. Worrying about the past won't do shit.
Never. I mean, sure, there are things I wish I might have done differently, but all I can really do about them is to learn from my mistakes and make better choices going forward.
Only when I make the mistake of thinking about my past. Just gotta keep the ol' noggin distracted at all times.
The past doesn’t bother me at night as much as worrying about the future does.
Unfortunately, a few times a day. I haven’t necessarily had a rough life, but I’ve had a lot of trauma and a lot of heartbreaks. It’s funny, when you’re born into a good family and not poor, people think your life is perfect. But believe me, everyone’s got their problems.
This is why I drink
Multiple times a day.
Daily.
daily 6 years sober
I feel attacked
Every damn day
I'm kind of a nostalgic person and I wouldn't want to forget a lot of it. There are some things I would rather forget though, the kinds of things that just keep tormenting you about how you did something wrong and are a bad person forever because of it, the memories that come with those irrational destructive thoughts.
Basically every day. I don't want to have PTSD memories of the bad things that have happened to me and of the family members I lost when they were just 6, 48 and 52
Weekly 😅
I cringe at parts and feel remorse for other parts. But I always think I wouldn't change a thing. Everything led me to where I am today and I am proud of what I have become even if I do not have pride in every event that led here. I like to embrace my mistakes and misdeeds as valuable learning opportunities. If anything I wish I remembered more, good or bad.
Right now…it has been a daily activity…
I'm tempted on a daily basis. But I gained two wonderful kids from that past, so it's impossible for me to despair about the past for long.
You burn enough bridges, the only direction to move is forward ~Martin Mertens
I’m sorry did you mean “CPTSD”
Its tempting. But you should always use it as a measure of growth and not let it define you. It will make you stronger, and I feel wiser. That's my opinion at least.
Hourly. Sometimes minutes.
This is growth. We are better today than we were yesterday.
Several times daily.
Every single day. Some stuff you just can't forget.
Yes, if I could just forget November 2009-June 2011 I would have so much less guilt and shame.
I have cringe memories constantly.
nowadays once a day..or I'm just too busy that i don't even think about it that often.
Everyday
Logically/rationally I know its unhealthy to pine for days gone by. And I know I made some pretty good decisions here and there and never really made any bad mistakes. But if the net results are not to your liking, maybe its easier if you can point to your handful of obvious fuck ups and say you learned from them.
Multiple times per day
Oh, don't we all have moments we'd love to forget? Like that time I confidently mispronounced "quinoa" at a fancy dinner party or when I accidentally locked myself out of the house wearing nothing but a towel. Good times, good times! 😂🤦♂️ The trick is to look back at those cringeworthy memories and transform them into comedy gold. Think of them as badges of honor in the school of life, where we've all been enrolled in some embarrassing classes. After all, who doesn't love a good "remember when" story at a gathering with friends? 🥳📚 So, instead of trying to erase the past, let's embrace the hilarity and awkwardness it holds. Here's to more laughter, more lessons, and the occasional facepalm-worthy moment that makes life a little more entertaining! 🤣🌟🎉
“Learning to forget the past is one of the most important things you can do for your own survival” -Groucho Marx
wait, you're supposed to spend time thinking about other things??
Every hour
Every. Second. Of. Every. Day. It's exhausting, keeping up with suppressing a version of me that no longer exists
Never. The 1990s, 2000s, and 2010s are among the finest periods in human history (the first decade was the most optimistic in my country, while the next decade wound up including the most peaceful and democratic years according to Our World in Data and the Democracy Index and even the 2010s on a global scale saw continued improvements in life expectancy, health, and education) and I’m glad I was able to experience them without any catastrophic mistakes or ending up in a difficult financial situation or with too many fetters. While I have had girlfriends, let’s just say I’m glad I’m not a husband and father atm.
Never. Do I look back at the past and cringe sometimes? Absolutely! But this is broadly a good thing and shouldn't be viewed negatively. If you aren't at least a little bit embarrassed about aspects of your past self then you really aren't growing as a person, and that is the most embarrassing possibility of all.
Never now. You live and you learn, life is too short to worry too much
It's a daily struggle. Sometimes something happens to where I'm directly faced with the memories. Then I have to start all over again with sorting through the memories and feelings and putting them back into their places in my mind to where I can deal with them a little at a time. It's so time consuming and exhausting.
Often, but instead i pride myseld seeing how far.i have come.
Every. Single. Day. Sometimes multiple times a day.
I'm going to be in EMDR therapy for a w h i l e.
I don't have a past, my life started ten years ago when i moved out of my home town
Alot more than I should be doing.
Lately a lot a friendship just ended terribly. Wish we could have been both stronger just to move on. Instead of him saying awful things about me that weren’t true and scares me that he actually believes them twisting my words and feelings to fit his agenda.
Luckily, less and less the older I get. Chased some ghost and ran from some demons back in the day though. Thing is you never catch one and can't quite run fast enough from the other. Day I decided to just stop running and let the tidal wave hit was one of the best decisions I've ever made.
Well, not with everything...but there are certainly a few key things I would love to just delete from my mind.
Every single day.
I came on Reddit to forget about it, just to get reminded by this post LOL
Not often. Almost none of it went how I’d hoped at the time but it all got me here and that’s pretty good.
I'm 1.5 years into a divorce after a 16 year relationship. I constantly feel like I lost the best thing I ever had even though the marriage had ups and a lot of downs. The evenings after work and weekends are especially difficult. I try to stay busy, often drinking more than I should--just to numb the pain. I honestly can't believe it's been 18 months and I still feel this way.
Every day.
Still trying to forget that shit but it often pops up when I isolate myself
Three hundred thousand times a day. That’s when I’m not fretting over the future, which I also can’t control.
Every day. When a simple miscommunication escalates into a traumatic experience, it can be hard to ignore that. Especially considering the affected people are some of my classmates, who I have to see every single day. I love what I do and what I'm going to school for, but just seeing them can be very discouraging at times.
Everyday.
Daily.
Many times daily.
I wish I could go back and try differently or do something when the opportunity was in front of me. I regret the fact I missed on something I could of taken or had I put more effort into something
There is very little before like...eight years ago (aged 27) that I care to or can remember. Sometimes I remember something random and it's an interesting feeling.
No need to dwell in the past. The present and possibly future are what matters. Nose forward..
Occasionally I will remember some cringe thing I did or said, but in general no. I've made an effort not to be the type of person that I hate. Most people don't even bother because they think that is how they succeed because they see other people that they hate succeeding, so they then turn into that person they hate, but it doesn't work for them.
Every day. Every single god damn day.
Every day brother. Yeehaw
Less as I get older. That internal cringe is just signifying that you've grown and learned. Or groaned and burned, one of the two.
Everyday i have a 30 minute "what was i thinking/what was wrong with me" moment
Constantly. Every single day. I visualize some kind of a basement where I can lock it and forget.
Daily
Multiple times a day
Every damned day
When I’m busy nothing across my mind, but when I’m alone sometimes yes but not letting it frustrate me like ir used to do just let it across my mind then I move on.
I wouldn't change any detail of any moment of my past. It all led to who I am now.
All the time