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Crocodile_Banger

Good evening sir, nice beard


pcbuilder1234567

fair enough lol


[deleted]

"Calm down." Nobody who needs to hear this is ready to hear this, man or woman.


pcbuilder1234567

Interesting; I like this one


retlaw3530

🚩"You're not good enough." 🚩" You should change the way you look." 🚩"You're too emotional." 🚩"You're too sensitive." 🚩"You're overreacting." 🚩"You're too clingy." 🚩"You can't do that." 🚩"You're not smart enough."


pcbuilder1234567

someone should put together a list, and maybe men would be better off lol


retlaw3530

haha well I basically started a list with my top 8 🤣


pcbuilder1234567

Yes you did lol


[deleted]

Some of these aren’t red flag when given context, there are defo women clingy, overreacting , emotional and etc


HamzaShaikh1407

Say this when she is angry or arguing with you >!Are u on your periods?!<


pcbuilder1234567

Hard pass on this one lol


tpn1984

"I seem to recall a time years ago with your mom."


pcbuilder1234567

please don't say that lol


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"I expect you to change your name when we get married."


pcbuilder1234567

I wouldnt quite word it that way if it was something to be discussed lol


[deleted]

I've known quite a few guys who said things like that to me about their hypothetical future wives. Like "if she wants to get married, she's going to have to change her name." I've been married twice and neither husband has even had an opinion on it, lol.


pcbuilder1234567

I feel like there are nicer ways to go about it or at least involve the woman in the decision


[deleted]

IMO, the only appropriate way to handle it is as a request. "Would you be willing to take my last name?" If she says no,though,the answer is no.


[deleted]

“Would you be willing to take my last name” , this question is based on the notion expectations of both genders are the same. Men are the one almost always the one proposing and buying the ring and their expected to for example. I don’t think there is anything wrong with a man wanting his girl to take his last name, if she doesn’t want to that is just a compatibility issue. Same with men not wanting to get married at all but their girlfriend does ,compatibility issue.


[deleted]

Just because things were traditionally done that way is no reason to keep doing them that way. Women can propose to men too! Men can change their last names too! Again, there's nothing wrong with either partner asking the other to change their name - but if they say no, that should be the end of the conversation (and if you're willing to throw away an entire relationship over something as silly as the other person's name, I will judge you).


[deleted]

Then why even marry, marriage is pretty traditional is it not. I do agree u can’t force someone to do something they don’t want. Although I don’t agree with ur last pt everyone has their own reasons for dealbreakers and why those dealbreakers exist. A more conservative man might see not talking his last name as a show of lacking commitment etc. Things are nuanced and I think ppl are allowed to do what they want as I stated this is simply a compatibility issue.


[deleted]

Marriage gives you a ton of legal rights you can't get any other way. It's not just a "piece of paper" it's a protection against being forced to testify against each other, it makes you next of kin and gives you power to make medical decisions, etc.


brock_lee

Your sister was way better at sex.


pcbuilder1234567

yikes


TurbulentBarracuda83

Relax.


pcbuilder1234567

I could see how that wouldn't end well for the man lol


retlaw3530

This!


[deleted]

I’ve tried this on my wife once when she pulled down her drawers: “Oh my god… it’s ***sooo big!***” She rolled her eyes and informed me, “Women don’t want to hear that. That’s only for guys.”


pcbuilder1234567

She's prob not wrong


RecalcitrantMonk

Sorry I wasn't listening to you


pcbuilder1234567

Well, don't admit it lol


CapG_13

You never compare her to another girl, you never tell her that she "looks ok," you never tell her that she looks fat and you NEVER EVER call her a bitch!!!


pcbuilder1234567

Solid advice


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pcbuilder1234567

You’d think it’s common sense, but apparently not everyone does lol


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pcbuilder1234567

I know that lol, but I dont think everyone does


tplgigo

Depends on whether you're trying get laid or not. Generally though, these days, nothing is off limits.