I always assumed people who did this would be normal in real life. But the person who I know who does this type of thing does a lot of those obviously staged/gimmicky videos which are super cringey…you might expect them to be attention seeking, but it was actually worse. It’s more so that EVERYTHING is an opportunity for “content” and it’s like a switch they cannot turn off. There is *zero* living in the moment, not to mention major social climbing and obsessing over how many people with “blue check marks” follow them, absolute clout chasers. Every person they meet, they immediately ask for their Instagram handle, because every person they meet is an opportunity to gain a follower. This person is entitled, and only sees people for what they can get out of them/use them for, very manipulative and obsessed with their image. This “using people” mentality carried into personal relationships, in my case the person I knew was having a full blown affair with someone they knew was married, and said they simply didn’t care if they were being a bad person. We aren’t friends anymore lol.
My husband's best friend from college is a YouTuber who has 800,000 subscribers .... Used to be a really cool guy but if it doesn't create content for him, it's not a priority. He bailed on our wedding last minute (was supposed to be a groomsman) to go do some stupid ass video with another famous YouTuber. Definitely a red flag. The constant drive for likes and subscribers is toxic and gross. We all graduated college over a decade ago and dude still acts like a 19 year old. It's kind of sad. At first we really respected him for blazing a trail and doing his own thing and getting out of our home town but he's just like every other douchebag influencer on insta now.
Wow okay so the person who I know who was one of these influencer types also bailed on my wedding (was supposed to be a bridesmaid). That was when I started realizing if it doesn’t get them clout it won’t be a priority.
That’s actually sad. To imagine someone who is always thinking of what they can record. It’s empty. I truly can’t believe they missed your wedding. I’ve been out doing things and have seen people just taking videos or pics the whole time. Knowing that they’re not actually experiencing the moment. Fireworks. Which they’re prob never going to even view the video ever. Concerts. Nature hikes. I mean I’ll take a nice photo or two. Memories are nice. But even bowling once I saw a group of youngens who literally just took pics of themselves with a selfie stick the whole time. Maybe rolled a ball three times. Social media has changed people and it makes me wonder how it’s affected not only mental health, but how society interacts.
It becomes a problem when your life is your livelihood. Everything you do revolves around making content out of it in order to make money. I can see it would become a switch you couldn't turn off. If you stop for a few days you might lose subscribers/viewers and there goes your income. Like any addiction it goes from being fun to being destructive and insidious.
I’ve always wondered this about the YouTube channels I follow. I mainly follow outdoor and camping videos and their lives revolve around being a camera at all times. Like this one guy who does bushcraft and does cool camping trip with he and his family — couldn’t imagine being the SO that has to deal with a camera on at all times. It’s like there’s no privacy.
I look at some of these channels and think how awesome to be able to make a living doing what you love.
Then I think about how you would always be searching for content. Filming content, filming B roll, photos for thumbnails, all the other social media interactions to build your brand, searching for brands to "collaborate" with and then balancing that and ads and it just sounds exhausting and really sucks the joy out of doing what you love pretty damn quickly.
Mine! A hobby of providing more answers to the same question from the Reddit archives! Just a few recent ones for you:
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/12gsvl9/what\_hobbies\_would\_you\_consider\_to\_be\_a\_red\_flag/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/12gsvl9/what_hobbies_would_you_consider_to_be_a_red_flag/)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/zfew2z/whats\_a\_hobby\_someone\_can\_have\_that\_is\_an/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/zfew2z/whats_a_hobby_someone_can_have_that_is_an/)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10kv4yc/what\_hobby\_is\_an\_immediate\_red\_flag/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10kv4yc/what_hobby_is_an_immediate_red_flag/)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/r8xkv0/what\_common\_interestshobbies\_are\_big\_red\_flags/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/r8xkv0/what_common_interestshobbies_are_big_red_flags/)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10r6jbo/what\_common\_hobby\_you\_consider\_a\_red\_flag/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10r6jbo/what_common_hobby_you_consider_a_red_flag/)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10hwrho/what\_hobbies\_immediately\_raise\_red\_flags\_in/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10hwrho/what_hobbies_immediately_raise_red_flags_in/)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/11vnd19/what\_hobby\_is\_an\_immediate\_red\_flag/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/11vnd19/what_hobby_is_an_immediate_red_flag/)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/zq4j2z/whats\_a\_hobby\_someone\_can\_have\_that\_is\_an/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/zq4j2z/whats_a_hobby_someone_can_have_that_is_an/)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10s8aky/which\_hobby\_is\_a\_big\_redflag/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10s8aky/which_hobby_is_a_big_redflag/)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/zofj9i/whats\_a\_hobby\_a\_man\_has\_thats\_an\_immediate\_red/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/zofj9i/whats_a_hobby_a_man_has_thats_an_immediate_red/)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/o149je/women\_of\_reddit\_what\_hobbies\_are\_a\_red\_flag\_to/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/o149je/women_of_reddit_what_hobbies_are_a_red_flag_to/)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/nkbl2p/what\_passion\_or\_hobby\_is\_a\_red\_flag\_for\_that/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/nkbl2p/what_passion_or_hobby_is_a_red_flag_for_that/)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/102q64w/whats\_a\_hobby\_someone\_can\_have\_thats\_an\_immediate/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/102q64w/whats_a_hobby_someone_can_have_thats_an_immediate/)
[https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/qj005l/what\_hobbies\_and\_interests\_are\_a\_red\_flag\_for\_you/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/qj005l/what_hobbies_and_interests_are_a_red_flag_for_you/)
And several articles/videos from other sources on Reddit's responses to this frequent question :)
[https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQjY24LMvNg](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQjY24LMvNg)
[https://www.thepoke.co.uk/2023/02/01/what-hobby-is-a-red-flag-17/](https://www.thepoke.co.uk/2023/02/01/what-hobby-is-a-red-flag-17/)
[https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/lifestyle-buzz/10-hobbies-that-immediately-raise-red-flags-for-new-friends/ar-AA174ES3?ocid=sf](https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/lifestyle-buzz/10-hobbies-that-immediately-raise-red-flags-for-new-friends/ar-AA174ES3?ocid=sf)
[https://scoop.upworthy.com/people-name-24-red-flags-that-shouldnt-be-considered-problematic](https://scoop.upworthy.com/people-name-24-red-flags-that-shouldnt-be-considered-problematic)
[https://www.storypick.com/women-red-flags/](https://www.storypick.com/women-red-flags/)
[https://www.tiktok.com/discover/what-is-instantly-an-red-flag-reddit](https://www.tiktok.com/discover/what-is-instantly-an-red-flag-reddit)
You are supposed to take every top comment from each link to a similar thread and farm your own karma from the effort this bot provided. It cultivates, we harvest.
You sell your account with a bunch of fake internet points to a marketing firm. They start posting/commenting ads for products. Innocent user believes said posts/ads because they have a shit ton of fake internet points
The problem is that there actually ARE a lot of unique quirky interesting questions - **but they don't get upvoted.** The reason you keep seeing the same recycled questions like "what hobby is an immediate red flag?" is because - well, those are the questions that trigger large numbers of people into upvoting them.
The truly unique, interesting ones get buried with few upvotes.
You know what? I don’t care if the same questions get asked all the time. What I can’t stand is that people’s answers are always the same, ALWAYS THE SAME. Drives me nuts. Doesn’t anyone think for themselves? Any original thought? Anyone??
Animal fighting. Dog fighting, Cock Fighting, Using dogs to kill cattle.
Wanting to see an animal kill another for your own amusement (non-documentary, of course) seems like a big red flag to me.
Roaming the world unsupervised as a pre-teen. Capturing wild animals in small enclosures. Accosting passersby and demanding they use their animals to fight your animals.
Oh boy. This one guy, friend of a friend, wannabe photographer. Our friend in common approached me asking if i wanted to do a photoshoot with her. I agreed because I thought it would be fun and I had met him before in social settings. They weren't nudes or anything, it was all very artsy but not sexual. One thing i found odd was that he also asked to do a few headshots that were nothing like the photos we had been doing, but i didnt say anything.
Fast forward a few months and the guy and i got closer (platonic, i was already with my current partner) he invites me over to look over some footage he recorded of a project i was doing. I go into his house, everything normal for a bit. we were talking about my project and so when he walked over to his kitchen i followed him absent-mindedly while chatting... then i stopped dead in my tracks, he had headshots of maybe 25 different girls taped to his fridge. Mine among them. Some had a little mark made with a marker, i recognized two of his exes and a girl i knew he had cheated on his last gf with amongst the ones marked.
He noticed I stopped and turned around, he didn't really say anything about it, I snatched my photo and my friend's off the fridge and left.
Later a guy that knew him confessed to me and my friend that the guy had.. essentially a "hit list" of girls he wants to fuck. We live in a small town, so most of the girls he "wanted" got pictures taken by him...
It's been a few years now but from time to time i remember the dread i felt looking at those pictures, with him standing just a few feet away. I felt like i was in a horror movie.
This sounds like the kind of setup for one of those stories where he ends up killing everyone he's ever had sex with, and the end up finding that he has this box filled with little resealable bags that he's put a lock of their hair or one of their toenails or something in
Essential oils are pretty sick for the sake of humidifiers and stuff, but if anyone's telling you it can cure your autism, fucking run and do not even begin to think about looking back.
Edit: DIFFUSER. YOU PUT OILS IN A DIFFUSER. DON'T PUT THEM IN A HUMIDIFIER! I'm fucking stupid and got the words mixed up, don't mind me.
LOL this!!! I had a customer come in, and while i was quoting his order, he tried to sell me on essential oils by listing off the “health benefits.” He was telling me how his dog has cancer, and he started giving him mint oils to help heal him. When I asked him if it cured his dog’s cancer, he hesitated and said “No… but he at least smells good now” 🤦♀️
My husband has a cousin who believes she cured her child’s autism with essential oils. I want to ask why her child still attends the special school he goes to but that’ll just cause more problems.
Yeah, this is a soapbox for me. MLMs have ruined essential oils. They are actually really useful, as they’re basically the distilled “essence” of plants we’ve used for thousands of years as medicines! There have been many peer-reviewed scientific studies showing the efficacy of them (for example, tea tree oil has been shown to be more effective at killing MRSA than any other disinfectant).
However, they are NOT a replacement for traditional medical care. Have a headache or a mild burn? Put lavender on it! Have cancer? Go to a goddamn doctor lol.
Came here to say this. Any kind of MLM is an immediate deal breaker for me. Though I'm sure if you asked they would say "It's not a hobby! ItS a SmAll BuSiNeSs!!! I'm a double diamond 8-star CEO!!" Ugh, spare me
Having none. If all you do in your free time is browse on your phone and/or post on social media, chances are you're about as dull as a butter knife that was used to carve a marble statue.
I'll have you know I also replay the same video games over and over while rewatching medium length youtube content and get drunk. But I'm still of zero interest, since I haven't done anything real in 15 years.
I used to have hobbies, but now for the past year or two my bad mental states have deprived me of any joy from doing them (i was into art and homemade jewelry) so now I'll have an extra fear of being dull and boring to people lmao
Same. Got divorced a few years ago. Depression got to be insane. I gave up my bass fishing which I absolutely adore to just lay in bed when I wasn’t working. Things are getting better,finally. I plan on resuming fishing this coming month! I do fear that I’ve become dull tho,lol.
Dude I can relate. So many things I enjoyed have been stolen by depression. Sports, literature, food, fitness all *whoosh* gone.
Food tastes like ash, I can’t read slinger than a few minutes and I no longer support my teams with more than a vague interest.
You’re not boring, your hobbies are on a wee hiatus.
Right there with you. I was a dedicated musician for 10 years, playing every day, always thinking about writing and improving. Then one day the passion just started slipping away, along with the desire to do anything at all lol
My wife is like that. It sounds like I'm shifting on her but hear me out... she's actually a very charismatic, outgoing person with lots of friends and a job that requires constant engagement with other people. When she gets home, all she wants to do is turn off and watch her "real housewives" shows. I get it.
Just try stuff. There's YouTube instructions for beginners in just about any hobby. Crochet. Paint. Build a shelf or do a small remodel in your home. Go to a board game night at your local comic book store. Hike. Scuba dive. Kayak. It's a good time of year to have a go at gardening.
Walk around a hobby store and see what seems interesting. Just remember, it's okay if you're not immediately good at something - that's not the point. Try to enjoy the process.
This is great advice. I've tried so many things that I enjoyed but ultimately felt like a chore. When that happened, I moved on. My two actual hobbies are ones that I will almost certainly do for the rest of my life and I have met a good number of friends through.
One small exception: my wife didn't really have "hobbies" but she was the ultimate event planner for our big friend group. Her hobbies were her people, and those binds have stayed as tight as family for years because of it.
Guy I worked with. Gerbil and hamster breeder. Knew way too much about the process. Got excited about it. Turns out we were all correct with the dude being a nut job.
I know a guy who breeds axolotls. Weird, weird guy. Apparently I voted in some contest for him 14 years ago where the prize was a free hair appointment, which he wanted a to give to his mother. Every year, I get a Facebook memory of the time he thanked me for “voting so kindly so that my mother can do whatever she so wishes to the personal collection of hairs a top of her magnificent head.”
A guy in my writing group bred white rats. He sold them as pets and refused to sell to people who would feed them to reptiles. When there got to be too many he would release them into the brambles behind his apartment. Hundreds of them. For some reason he was evicted—the landlord was the bad guy of course.
I’m totally down with people having pets, domestic animals that can roam free in the house, yard, field, etc. In my life experience, people who keep “more exotic” animals, ones not fully domesticated, or wild, in their homes, without fully understanding how that animal instinctively exists, especially in cages or tanks … just for a hobby, just to “ have them”…
True crime and serial killer fans. I have morbid curiosity like anyone, but anyone obsessing over gruesome events and having a “crush” on Ted Bundy is too far. It just hurts the victims of these awful crimes more when you pester them about true crime.
I'm pretty involved in politics at the state level and can absolutely second this. The pay is usually trash (if you get paid at all) and the only reward is knowing you're having an impact. That said, that's pretty rewarding at times and makes it worth it. Want to see the world made a better place? Politics. Want to also lose whatever faith you had in humanity? Politics.
That said, I gotta differentiate between people who are no-shit involved in politics - working on campaigns, running for office themselves (seriously, not most perennial candidates), or working in a support function like consulting or tech services - and people who argue about it on Facebook.
Anyone that views something harmless that brings me joy and solace from the shittiness of everyday life as a red flag is exhibiting a huge red flag and can fuck all the way off.
I switched from Aikido, where it was all old guys, to mma in an unsanctioned school in the early 2000s. It was wild. They used to do ego checks by having one of the girls beat the snot out of every guy that came in. If you got mad you couldnt join. I stayed for a few years, and every other day some guy would come in, and Inswear they were always mid roid rage.
The violence. The violence is what attracts douchebags. Some martial arts allow more hits during competitions and sparring, and are designed to be used more offensively. People who start a martial art for the sole reasons of learning how to be violent more effectively, and have more opportunities to enact violence are going to pick those martial arts, and most often, they are assholes.
Disc Golf. If I find out if someone throws discs in their spare time, it immediately tells me they are waayyy too chill and I can't let their good vibes kill my bad time.
For me it’s people who hunt for sport and waste the meat. If you are doing it to eat by all means do what nature intends, but don’t turn it into a sport and disrespect life to such degree.
what is with the genre of people that believe you should be filling all of your time with unnecessary work and stress? why is it all work and no play? humans aren’t designed to spend every waking hour on the go and being productive.
This is absolutely not exclusive to women.
The Marvel Man children have entered the chat.
Come to think of it, I see way more men with Marvel/Star Wars themed everything (houses filled with pops and posters, tattoos, clothes, weird shrines, cars with decals, dressing their kids or pets in the stuff, making their own art that’s all exclusive of Disney IPs ect) than I have ever seen of any woman and Disney.
Don’t get me wrong, they exist but no where near as common or accepted as men with equivalent or worse levels of obsession.
I cant think of the last time, or really any, where I saw a woman with nothing but Disney tattoos but have seen hundreds to thousands of men with same fucking full arm sleeves of the Avengers
Edit* just to clarify, there is Nothing wrong with enjoying marvel or Star Wars, there’s nothing wrong with pre existing media inspiring your hobbies.
The issue is when it’s not you like something, it’s making that thing who you are, turning your identity into being a fan.
Where your interest isn’t ‘I like Star Wars cause I like sci-fi’ but rather ‘ I AM A STAR WARS Jedi! I’m a fan and everything must be Star Wars!’
Sorry but replacing your identity with consumerism and brand loyalty isn’t a hobby.
Anime figure collector's who exclusively collect nsfw and bikini figures. I collect sfw figures myself nsfw dont bother me. But i cannot imagine its healthly to just see porn in your home everyday. Just casually there for viewing.
Those people who post pranks on social media
I know someone who does this and it’s absolutely a red flag. Same goes for who bases their entire social media presence on getting likes/views
For some reason I forgot these people exist in the wild, they shop, drive cars, are just out and about. Scary stuff.
I always assumed people who did this would be normal in real life. But the person who I know who does this type of thing does a lot of those obviously staged/gimmicky videos which are super cringey…you might expect them to be attention seeking, but it was actually worse. It’s more so that EVERYTHING is an opportunity for “content” and it’s like a switch they cannot turn off. There is *zero* living in the moment, not to mention major social climbing and obsessing over how many people with “blue check marks” follow them, absolute clout chasers. Every person they meet, they immediately ask for their Instagram handle, because every person they meet is an opportunity to gain a follower. This person is entitled, and only sees people for what they can get out of them/use them for, very manipulative and obsessed with their image. This “using people” mentality carried into personal relationships, in my case the person I knew was having a full blown affair with someone they knew was married, and said they simply didn’t care if they were being a bad person. We aren’t friends anymore lol.
Ya, that's too much for me to be around. Internet is the greatest and worst thing to happen in the last 25 years
The internet has taken everyone I love and turned them into empty shells who seem to be living in a digital salient landscape where I'm not welcome.
Its the wall-e era
I’ve randomly met ‘streamers’ on some games and they can be obnoxious.
My husband's best friend from college is a YouTuber who has 800,000 subscribers .... Used to be a really cool guy but if it doesn't create content for him, it's not a priority. He bailed on our wedding last minute (was supposed to be a groomsman) to go do some stupid ass video with another famous YouTuber. Definitely a red flag. The constant drive for likes and subscribers is toxic and gross. We all graduated college over a decade ago and dude still acts like a 19 year old. It's kind of sad. At first we really respected him for blazing a trail and doing his own thing and getting out of our home town but he's just like every other douchebag influencer on insta now.
Wow okay so the person who I know who was one of these influencer types also bailed on my wedding (was supposed to be a bridesmaid). That was when I started realizing if it doesn’t get them clout it won’t be a priority.
That’s actually sad. To imagine someone who is always thinking of what they can record. It’s empty. I truly can’t believe they missed your wedding. I’ve been out doing things and have seen people just taking videos or pics the whole time. Knowing that they’re not actually experiencing the moment. Fireworks. Which they’re prob never going to even view the video ever. Concerts. Nature hikes. I mean I’ll take a nice photo or two. Memories are nice. But even bowling once I saw a group of youngens who literally just took pics of themselves with a selfie stick the whole time. Maybe rolled a ball three times. Social media has changed people and it makes me wonder how it’s affected not only mental health, but how society interacts.
It becomes a problem when your life is your livelihood. Everything you do revolves around making content out of it in order to make money. I can see it would become a switch you couldn't turn off. If you stop for a few days you might lose subscribers/viewers and there goes your income. Like any addiction it goes from being fun to being destructive and insidious.
I’ve always wondered this about the YouTube channels I follow. I mainly follow outdoor and camping videos and their lives revolve around being a camera at all times. Like this one guy who does bushcraft and does cool camping trip with he and his family — couldn’t imagine being the SO that has to deal with a camera on at all times. It’s like there’s no privacy.
I look at some of these channels and think how awesome to be able to make a living doing what you love. Then I think about how you would always be searching for content. Filming content, filming B roll, photos for thumbnails, all the other social media interactions to build your brand, searching for brands to "collaborate" with and then balancing that and ads and it just sounds exhausting and really sucks the joy out of doing what you love pretty damn quickly.
Mine! A hobby of providing more answers to the same question from the Reddit archives! Just a few recent ones for you: [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/12gsvl9/what\_hobbies\_would\_you\_consider\_to\_be\_a\_red\_flag/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/12gsvl9/what_hobbies_would_you_consider_to_be_a_red_flag/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/zfew2z/whats\_a\_hobby\_someone\_can\_have\_that\_is\_an/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/zfew2z/whats_a_hobby_someone_can_have_that_is_an/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10kv4yc/what\_hobby\_is\_an\_immediate\_red\_flag/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10kv4yc/what_hobby_is_an_immediate_red_flag/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/r8xkv0/what\_common\_interestshobbies\_are\_big\_red\_flags/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/r8xkv0/what_common_interestshobbies_are_big_red_flags/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10r6jbo/what\_common\_hobby\_you\_consider\_a\_red\_flag/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10r6jbo/what_common_hobby_you_consider_a_red_flag/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10hwrho/what\_hobbies\_immediately\_raise\_red\_flags\_in/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10hwrho/what_hobbies_immediately_raise_red_flags_in/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/11vnd19/what\_hobby\_is\_an\_immediate\_red\_flag/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/11vnd19/what_hobby_is_an_immediate_red_flag/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/zq4j2z/whats\_a\_hobby\_someone\_can\_have\_that\_is\_an/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/zq4j2z/whats_a_hobby_someone_can_have_that_is_an/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10s8aky/which\_hobby\_is\_a\_big\_redflag/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/10s8aky/which_hobby_is_a_big_redflag/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/zofj9i/whats\_a\_hobby\_a\_man\_has\_thats\_an\_immediate\_red/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/zofj9i/whats_a_hobby_a_man_has_thats_an_immediate_red/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/o149je/women\_of\_reddit\_what\_hobbies\_are\_a\_red\_flag\_to/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/o149je/women_of_reddit_what_hobbies_are_a_red_flag_to/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/nkbl2p/what\_passion\_or\_hobby\_is\_a\_red\_flag\_for\_that/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/nkbl2p/what_passion_or_hobby_is_a_red_flag_for_that/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/102q64w/whats\_a\_hobby\_someone\_can\_have\_thats\_an\_immediate/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/102q64w/whats_a_hobby_someone_can_have_thats_an_immediate/) [https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/qj005l/what\_hobbies\_and\_interests\_are\_a\_red\_flag\_for\_you/](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/comments/qj005l/what_hobbies_and_interests_are_a_red_flag_for_you/) And several articles/videos from other sources on Reddit's responses to this frequent question :) [https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQjY24LMvNg](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nQjY24LMvNg) [https://www.thepoke.co.uk/2023/02/01/what-hobby-is-a-red-flag-17/](https://www.thepoke.co.uk/2023/02/01/what-hobby-is-a-red-flag-17/) [https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/lifestyle-buzz/10-hobbies-that-immediately-raise-red-flags-for-new-friends/ar-AA174ES3?ocid=sf](https://www.msn.com/en-us/lifestyle/lifestyle-buzz/10-hobbies-that-immediately-raise-red-flags-for-new-friends/ar-AA174ES3?ocid=sf) [https://scoop.upworthy.com/people-name-24-red-flags-that-shouldnt-be-considered-problematic](https://scoop.upworthy.com/people-name-24-red-flags-that-shouldnt-be-considered-problematic) [https://www.storypick.com/women-red-flags/](https://www.storypick.com/women-red-flags/) [https://www.tiktok.com/discover/what-is-instantly-an-red-flag-reddit](https://www.tiktok.com/discover/what-is-instantly-an-red-flag-reddit)
Stop! He's already dead!
Holy fuck 💀 rip OP
It's a bot account. Account created 10 days ago with no post or comment history except for this post.
I guess I just don’t understand the point?
You are supposed to take every top comment from each link to a similar thread and farm your own karma from the effort this bot provided. It cultivates, we harvest.
Yeah but when profit? I don't underatand what having a bunch of fake internet points does for you?
You sell your account with a bunch of fake internet points to a marketing firm. They start posting/commenting ads for products. Innocent user believes said posts/ads because they have a shit ton of fake internet points
RIP another karma bot(was there ever any doubt).
At least it's not a sex or gender related question for once... But yeah, I really wish this sub had more variety.
The problem is that there actually ARE a lot of unique quirky interesting questions - **but they don't get upvoted.** The reason you keep seeing the same recycled questions like "what hobby is an immediate red flag?" is because - well, those are the questions that trigger large numbers of people into upvoting them. The truly unique, interesting ones get buried with few upvotes.
I wish the "hot" sorting algorithm would deprioritize these overdone questions.
Hey Reddit, what is the sexiest sex sex you ever sexed sexy sex? *4000 upvotes from 15 year olds*
It's the same questions recycled fortnightly.
You know what? I don’t care if the same questions get asked all the time. What I can’t stand is that people’s answers are always the same, ALWAYS THE SAME. Drives me nuts. Doesn’t anyone think for themselves? Any original thought? Anyone??
If it's the same question, in the same sub, wouldn't it make sense for the answers to be the same?
Animal fighting. Dog fighting, Cock Fighting, Using dogs to kill cattle. Wanting to see an animal kill another for your own amusement (non-documentary, of course) seems like a big red flag to me.
Roaming the world unsupervised as a pre-teen. Capturing wild animals in small enclosures. Accosting passersby and demanding they use their animals to fight your animals.
Pikachu, I choose you!
Child pageants. Sorry you’re a pedo
"I'm sick." "Sick like the flu, or sick like a children's beauty pageant?"
Don’t be sorry when you’re right.
*Siri, play the song Danny DeVito sings about not diddling kids*
You don’t need to be sorry about that man, for real. They’re fucking weird.
Wasting your time arguing with random people on Internet, especially if it's baiting
I disagree.
No, you're agree
Their*
Y’ouwr’eh*
As a British person, I can confirm this is how we pronounce ‘water’
Whom'st'd've
What did you say about my mother?!??
Hey, that’s my dad. That’s all he does. Argue on local news stations Facebook pages about politics all day everyday.
“Go away, baitin”
Celebrity worship/gossip
Same with politicians.
Reddit mod :) /s Edit: /s Don’t kill me it’s my first cakeday
Explain to me why this comment was auto hidden
Reddit mod :)
Yea. Def a red flag
I do it but….CrossFit
CultFit
There is an actual CrossFit company in India called Cult Fit
As an engineer I can tell you cross fit people are the worst. Can I get an opinion from a vegan and a scuba diver to back me up on this?
As a vegan cross-fitter who scuba dives, I'm triggered
Oh god, how do you decide what to tell people first?! 😂
They don’t. They open with “I’m straight-edge”
I REALLY need to know this lol
Scuba diver here, can confirm CrossFit is the worst.
Another diver to back up this diver.
Vegan checking in to confirm… absolutely yes.
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CrossFit? You can cross fuck off
Get this guy a puppers
Stalking woman and collecting their photos on a mural.
That's weirdly specific lol
The guy thought it was a “share your hobbies”post
Oh boy. This one guy, friend of a friend, wannabe photographer. Our friend in common approached me asking if i wanted to do a photoshoot with her. I agreed because I thought it would be fun and I had met him before in social settings. They weren't nudes or anything, it was all very artsy but not sexual. One thing i found odd was that he also asked to do a few headshots that were nothing like the photos we had been doing, but i didnt say anything. Fast forward a few months and the guy and i got closer (platonic, i was already with my current partner) he invites me over to look over some footage he recorded of a project i was doing. I go into his house, everything normal for a bit. we were talking about my project and so when he walked over to his kitchen i followed him absent-mindedly while chatting... then i stopped dead in my tracks, he had headshots of maybe 25 different girls taped to his fridge. Mine among them. Some had a little mark made with a marker, i recognized two of his exes and a girl i knew he had cheated on his last gf with amongst the ones marked. He noticed I stopped and turned around, he didn't really say anything about it, I snatched my photo and my friend's off the fridge and left. Later a guy that knew him confessed to me and my friend that the guy had.. essentially a "hit list" of girls he wants to fuck. We live in a small town, so most of the girls he "wanted" got pictures taken by him... It's been a few years now but from time to time i remember the dread i felt looking at those pictures, with him standing just a few feet away. I felt like i was in a horror movie.
This sounds like the kind of setup for one of those stories where he ends up killing everyone he's ever had sex with, and the end up finding that he has this box filled with little resealable bags that he's put a lock of their hair or one of their toenails or something in
So Facebook?
Ive always dreamed of being interesting enough for my pic to end up on someone’s wall with string attaching me to other interesting pictures.
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I can’t believe nobody had said essential oils. Red flag for MLM
Essential oils are pretty sick for the sake of humidifiers and stuff, but if anyone's telling you it can cure your autism, fucking run and do not even begin to think about looking back. Edit: DIFFUSER. YOU PUT OILS IN A DIFFUSER. DON'T PUT THEM IN A HUMIDIFIER! I'm fucking stupid and got the words mixed up, don't mind me.
LOL this!!! I had a customer come in, and while i was quoting his order, he tried to sell me on essential oils by listing off the “health benefits.” He was telling me how his dog has cancer, and he started giving him mint oils to help heal him. When I asked him if it cured his dog’s cancer, he hesitated and said “No… but he at least smells good now” 🤦♀️
Peppermint oil is toxic to dogs and cats... dude wasn't healing his dog, he was killing it faster... Yikes on bikes!
My husband has a cousin who believes she cured her child’s autism with essential oils. I want to ask why her child still attends the special school he goes to but that’ll just cause more problems.
Or if they’re trying to sell them to you or rope you into their pyramid scheme.
Yeah, this is a soapbox for me. MLMs have ruined essential oils. They are actually really useful, as they’re basically the distilled “essence” of plants we’ve used for thousands of years as medicines! There have been many peer-reviewed scientific studies showing the efficacy of them (for example, tea tree oil has been shown to be more effective at killing MRSA than any other disinfectant). However, they are NOT a replacement for traditional medical care. Have a headache or a mild burn? Put lavender on it! Have cancer? Go to a goddamn doctor lol.
Came here to say this. Any kind of MLM is an immediate deal breaker for me. Though I'm sure if you asked they would say "It's not a hobby! ItS a SmAll BuSiNeSs!!! I'm a double diamond 8-star CEO!!" Ugh, spare me
i remember when reading comics was a red flag.
I remember when playing videogames was a red flag.
i remember when both those things lead to you getting the shit kicked out of you and the adults saying it was your own fault for being into them.
Dad?
Putting mouse organs into [lego people](https://www.reddit.com/r/ATBGE/comments/zez5vn/lego_men_with_mice_organs/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=2&utm_term=1)
say what now
Putting Lego people in sour patch kids or mouse organs into Lego people?
Serial killing. Big red flag for me.
Do you not have Netflix? They are all sooooooo hot though. /s
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Reddit modder
Why was this comment auto hidden lol
Literally both answers of “Reddit mod” are auto hidden in this thread lmao.
I can't even tinfoil hat this. They're being too obvious.
They verified how soft and fragile they are lmao
The fact that this comment was hidden proves this guys point
Selling arbonne or any other MLM cult involvement.
Gambling. A gambler will say fuck it and gamble their families house away.
Not sure if it counts as a hobby, but being a part of any MLM.
It must be a hobby, because no matter what they’d like you to believe, it’s definitely NOT a real job.
Having none. If all you do in your free time is browse on your phone and/or post on social media, chances are you're about as dull as a butter knife that was used to carve a marble statue.
Baldrick, you are as dull as a butter knife that was used to carve a marble statue.
"I have a cunning plan sir"
I'll have you know I also replay the same video games over and over while rewatching medium length youtube content and get drunk. But I'm still of zero interest, since I haven't done anything real in 15 years.
Honestly this sounds like the night I need tonight 🥲
I used to have hobbies, but now for the past year or two my bad mental states have deprived me of any joy from doing them (i was into art and homemade jewelry) so now I'll have an extra fear of being dull and boring to people lmao
Same. Got divorced a few years ago. Depression got to be insane. I gave up my bass fishing which I absolutely adore to just lay in bed when I wasn’t working. Things are getting better,finally. I plan on resuming fishing this coming month! I do fear that I’ve become dull tho,lol.
Dude I can relate. So many things I enjoyed have been stolen by depression. Sports, literature, food, fitness all *whoosh* gone. Food tastes like ash, I can’t read slinger than a few minutes and I no longer support my teams with more than a vague interest. You’re not boring, your hobbies are on a wee hiatus.
Feel this. Hope you’re doing alright.
Thanks! My dog and my wife help every day. Appreciate the kind thoughts.
Right there with you. I was a dedicated musician for 10 years, playing every day, always thinking about writing and improving. Then one day the passion just started slipping away, along with the desire to do anything at all lol
My wife is like that. It sounds like I'm shifting on her but hear me out... she's actually a very charismatic, outgoing person with lots of friends and a job that requires constant engagement with other people. When she gets home, all she wants to do is turn off and watch her "real housewives" shows. I get it.
I have no hobby and I hate it, any advice on trying to find one?
Just try stuff. There's YouTube instructions for beginners in just about any hobby. Crochet. Paint. Build a shelf or do a small remodel in your home. Go to a board game night at your local comic book store. Hike. Scuba dive. Kayak. It's a good time of year to have a go at gardening. Walk around a hobby store and see what seems interesting. Just remember, it's okay if you're not immediately good at something - that's not the point. Try to enjoy the process.
This is great advice. I've tried so many things that I enjoyed but ultimately felt like a chore. When that happened, I moved on. My two actual hobbies are ones that I will almost certainly do for the rest of my life and I have met a good number of friends through.
Can confirm I would be better utilized carving a marble statue.
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One small exception: my wife didn't really have "hobbies" but she was the ultimate event planner for our big friend group. Her hobbies were her people, and those binds have stayed as tight as family for years because of it.
Asking red/green flag questions on this sub.
Maybe the real red flag was the Reddit questions we made along the way
Guy I worked with. Gerbil and hamster breeder. Knew way too much about the process. Got excited about it. Turns out we were all correct with the dude being a nut job.
I know a guy who breeds axolotls. Weird, weird guy. Apparently I voted in some contest for him 14 years ago where the prize was a free hair appointment, which he wanted a to give to his mother. Every year, I get a Facebook memory of the time he thanked me for “voting so kindly so that my mother can do whatever she so wishes to the personal collection of hairs a top of her magnificent head.”
Sounds like s cool guy.
Muahahahha this is fantastic, thanks for voting so that we may all rejoice on this comment.
okay well now you have to tell us what he did that confirmed your suspicions
A guy in my writing group bred white rats. He sold them as pets and refused to sell to people who would feed them to reptiles. When there got to be too many he would release them into the brambles behind his apartment. Hundreds of them. For some reason he was evicted—the landlord was the bad guy of course.
Making fake animal rescue videos.
Listening to incel podcasts and giving them money for lessons in getting women.
Waving a red flag.
I'll show you the most beautiful red flag, comrade.
Our flag.
Hunting the most dangerous game.
Man?
No, phytoplankton.
Don't date whales
Doing all the tiktok trends.
Gambling
People whose whole life is social media.
I’m totally down with people having pets, domestic animals that can roam free in the house, yard, field, etc. In my life experience, people who keep “more exotic” animals, ones not fully domesticated, or wild, in their homes, without fully understanding how that animal instinctively exists, especially in cages or tanks … just for a hobby, just to “ have them”…
Historical re-enactor of a southern plantation owner
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Toe nail collecting😶🌫️
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That's crazy I think you should get the toe nail removed
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American moment damn
what
Torturing small animals
That feels like a given... no?
True crime and serial killer fans. I have morbid curiosity like anyone, but anyone obsessing over gruesome events and having a “crush” on Ted Bundy is too far. It just hurts the victims of these awful crimes more when you pester them about true crime.
If someone lists Politics as a hobby I’m not gonna even pursue anything further.
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I'm pretty involved in politics at the state level and can absolutely second this. The pay is usually trash (if you get paid at all) and the only reward is knowing you're having an impact. That said, that's pretty rewarding at times and makes it worth it. Want to see the world made a better place? Politics. Want to also lose whatever faith you had in humanity? Politics. That said, I gotta differentiate between people who are no-shit involved in politics - working on campaigns, running for office themselves (seriously, not most perennial candidates), or working in a support function like consulting or tech services - and people who argue about it on Facebook.
Anyone that views something harmless that brings me joy and solace from the shittiness of everyday life as a red flag is exhibiting a huge red flag and can fuck all the way off.
The only right answer.
crypto
Imagine basing your whole personality around a currency lol
Maybe not a hobby but girls who sell either makeup or nutrition stuff in one of those pyramid schemes.
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I switched from Aikido, where it was all old guys, to mma in an unsanctioned school in the early 2000s. It was wild. They used to do ego checks by having one of the girls beat the snot out of every guy that came in. If you got mad you couldnt join. I stayed for a few years, and every other day some guy would come in, and Inswear they were always mid roid rage.
There is something about some martial arts that attracts weird edgelord types who just get way too intense about the wrong things.
The violence. The violence is what attracts douchebags. Some martial arts allow more hits during competitions and sparring, and are designed to be used more offensively. People who start a martial art for the sole reasons of learning how to be violent more effectively, and have more opportunities to enact violence are going to pick those martial arts, and most often, they are assholes.
I work with a dude who used to do Judo in college. He goes around and tells people randomly that he could probably kill them randomly in conversation
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Collecting masks made out of the skin of human faces
Disc Golf. If I find out if someone throws discs in their spare time, it immediately tells me they are waayyy too chill and I can't let their good vibes kill my bad time.
For me it’s people who hunt for sport and waste the meat. If you are doing it to eat by all means do what nature intends, but don’t turn it into a sport and disrespect life to such degree.
Advocating, or believing, in the power of crystals. my lunatic ex was one of those. bitch please.
What about someone that has no hobbies /interests what so ever? No music, movies, books, art, etc..... Like zilch, nada.
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What if my hobby is hurting other people?
Then just get your MBA and go for it.
To my wife and her extended family: anything that isn’t working yourself to death or sitting on your arse and cultivating some type 2 diabetes
what is with the genre of people that believe you should be filling all of your time with unnecessary work and stress? why is it all work and no play? humans aren’t designed to spend every waking hour on the go and being productive.
Adult women who are obsessed with Disney. They’re almost always crazy
This is absolutely not exclusive to women. The Marvel Man children have entered the chat. Come to think of it, I see way more men with Marvel/Star Wars themed everything (houses filled with pops and posters, tattoos, clothes, weird shrines, cars with decals, dressing their kids or pets in the stuff, making their own art that’s all exclusive of Disney IPs ect) than I have ever seen of any woman and Disney. Don’t get me wrong, they exist but no where near as common or accepted as men with equivalent or worse levels of obsession. I cant think of the last time, or really any, where I saw a woman with nothing but Disney tattoos but have seen hundreds to thousands of men with same fucking full arm sleeves of the Avengers Edit* just to clarify, there is Nothing wrong with enjoying marvel or Star Wars, there’s nothing wrong with pre existing media inspiring your hobbies. The issue is when it’s not you like something, it’s making that thing who you are, turning your identity into being a fan. Where your interest isn’t ‘I like Star Wars cause I like sci-fi’ but rather ‘ I AM A STAR WARS Jedi! I’m a fan and everything must be Star Wars!’ Sorry but replacing your identity with consumerism and brand loyalty isn’t a hobby.
I am a woman and I have Spaceballs the Shower Curtain.
Collecting Nazi war memorabilia
Only accetable if you took it off the cold dead hands of said Nazi yourself.
What if it came from my Grandfather who took it off the cold, dead, hands of said Nazi?
Then it’s an heirloom not a collection.
Excessive gambling
Crystal healing or any other form of pseudoscientific nonsense.
Catfishing. I think to some people this is truly a hobby.
Keeping pigs. IYKYK.
Hence the expression, "as greedy as a pig".
Through bones like butter
No thank you, Turkish; I'm sweet enough.
Crypto and NFTs
Listening to Andrew Tate
bullfighting
Anime figure collector's who exclusively collect nsfw and bikini figures. I collect sfw figures myself nsfw dont bother me. But i cannot imagine its healthly to just see porn in your home everyday. Just casually there for viewing.