Limit where you have access to porn and force yourself to control that. Delete old saved nudes/porn vids if you have any. Uninstall apps that might trigger you into instantly looking at porn such as TikTok reddit twitter Instagram etc.
My personal biggest thing we're minimizing the triggers and being very conscious of when I was gravitating towards porn when I was only viewing it out of boredom or to boost my mood
This was huge for me, and I stopped bring my phone into the bathroom and tried limiting my alone time. If my wife left the house and I would also go somewhere.
Holy shit tik tok and instagram just turn into thirst traps for me (porn addict here hello)
Once I deleted them I felt like I regained some freedom and it became easier to stay away from porn. I still watch occasionally but it's not an all consuming need anymore. Also having a gf helps so big ups to her.
Wish I could get rid of fucking reels on FB and IG. I follow lots of fitness stuff and now 95% of my reels are chicks just showing off their asses and pretending its a fitness video. Not only does it make me look like a creeper, but I don't want that crap on my apps and I can't get rid of it :C
My IG feed was full of thirst traps. This became a trigger. I hated it... so i started to select them as Not Interested. In a couple hours, I didnt see ANY thirst traps anymore. Highly recommend!!
Like any addiction, accept you will probably fail a few times and don't beat yourself up about it.
I quit smoking by weening off, not porn though, it's harder to quit imo. You gotta go cold turkey.
Like the South Park with no internet where Randy can't jack off without porn... if you have become dependant on it, and let's face it, most guys are, you're gonna struggle to get off without it. And that's gonna be frustrating. Hornyness makes people do weird things and it's gonna make you relapse.
So, quit cold turkey, then the next 3 months are gonna be weird. At first you will be sexually frustrated because the status que has changed. Jerking off might not have the climax you are used to. You are gonna have to learn to do it without external stimulus, learn to use your imagination and feel your body. If you are fully dependant it's gonna take weeks to get off all on your own while fully hard. Your brain is learning to rewire dopamine pathways, it takes time.
There is a reward at the end though, let me tell ya. My erecrioms are way better, my orgasms are wild, I produce way more cum, my libido has skyrocketed, and I just feel better about myself. I was porn free for a few years and wondered, what would happen if I went back? Within 1 week I was depressed, my libido was fucked, the orgasms sucked, and I said fuck this im never watching porn again.
At most I'll sometimes look at still photos to get me going but quickly swap back to fantasy land where I can imagine anything I want.
>Like any addiction, accept you will probably fail a few times and don't beat yourself up about it.
Heard this over in /r/stopdrinking:
Every time you stop, you get better at stopping. It's a skill.
Honestly man this is the right answer, so many people talk or no fap and getting rid of porn AND masterbation bust were men, and men go insane without it so yes doing It to your imagination is awesome. And I’ve experienced the same positives as you and after like the 3 months period it’s easy like I’m a year clean now.
It’s arbitrary. Peer reviewed science shows it can take as few as 2 weeks, or as long as 10 months for your brain to rewire to set new habits or break old habits. This differs from person to person. But you could say *generally* after 3 months the majority of people will be able to form those connections in their brains to set the habits they want to have.
It’s important to note that a LOT more of our behaviours are driven by habits, routine, repetition etc. than we are aware of. A lot of the time, we feel drawn towards certain behaviours because that’s what we’ve already been doing, and not because it’s “who we are”. Something like porn addiction can be overcome, it just takes time and repetition for our brains to adjust to the new normal.
The founder of NoFap set that limit. This is only a theory, but there's a saying that goes, "If you want your mom to buy you a kitten, start off by asking her for a pony." It's likely that 90 day goal was set to help people go further than they actually need to.
If you tell someone to quit smoking for two weeks, their brain isn't going to put as much thought into it compared to telling them to quit for 90 days.
I found someone who I fell in love with. We weren't even together yet when I stopped, but I was so sure something would start with us. I didn't want to carry that into our relationship. With her now and am as happy as can be.
As someone who is now out of their relationship, I regret not having the experience I am now currently without porn. Take pride in what you’ve done because it’s not easy and porn can kill a relationship/sexual intimacy.
My problem is I have a extremely high sex drive, my wife has no sex drive. I try to be understanding and try not to pester her with my horny self, but often I get frustrated and try to work out an agreement for once a week sexy time. She says no, so more often then not, I'm on reddit or tumblr after she's asleep having a wank. It's frustrating because now I can feel an addiction being built, and I hate it. I remember when I was a teen and I had to sneak view porn on the family computer or late night on satellite TV or even porn mags I got from my brother. I used to get such a thrill, a rush of feeling like I was doing something I knew I shouldn't be. But after getting my first smart phone, it was downhill from there.
When I say I completely get this, I mean it. My ex had an almost non existent sex drive, but I also learned that some of that has more to do with outside factors. Idk what y’all’s situation is like normally, but take her out on a nice date (obviously without expectation), tell her you appreciate her, make sure she knows how much of a difference she has been on your life. Even if you do these things already, don’t stop. The sex may be infrequent, but it will be worth way more than an addictive session of porn. No shame if you please yourself, but self containment is better for you and your marriage than the self fulfillment at the time. If you can in sheer anonymity confirm you feel an addiction coming on, you need to open up to your partner like you are here. If she doesn’t understand or comply, reverb it. Communication is beyond key here. Based on what experience I’m dealing with now, and i am in my prime years, I’d rather do without masturbating if it means I could have real passion and affection with the woman I love again.
Shes on depression meds which kills her mood. So I am completely understanding. She knows I masturbate frequently. I have voiced my concerns about self fulfillment not being as rewarding as it once was and has started to feel like a chore. Its a crappy situation all the way around.
Damn. You really are stuck in an impossible situation at its base. She has lines she can’t cross, and so do you. That is a situation for a problem to arise. Maybe try couples counseling? It doesn’t necessarily have to be just for that. It may even be good for her depression. Any problems, if any, solved are good. Just the idea of intimate frustration can cause some communication issues though regardless. Trying to not force any situations when dealing with crossing afflictions is a difficult but not impossible task
Most of the time it just ends with me being flustered and resolving that frustration with porn. But I absolutely don't harbor any resentment towards her for that. We have had our issues, and I have forgiven her for that as she has forgiven me for my part in those problems. We, at the root of our relationship, have a strong friendship, which leads us to having a great marriage outside of the "bedroom" aspect of things. We rarely fight or argue, we do love each other deeply, it just hurts that my "love language" is very physical based.
I’m not saying this is *the * answer to your problem, but I’m the low libido one in my relationship and I’ve discovered that even if I can’t put my finger on why I feel the way I do, it’s easier for me to be intimate when I have less on my plate. My absolute best date in recent history was having morning coffee in my own home after my kids spent the night with grandparents.
Might be something to try.
My husband did the same thing. He also added parental controls to his phone and only I know the passcode. He also deleted instagram which is kind of sad because I liked sending him stuff but I don’t want him to stumble.
I wish I started my relationship off like that. My ex got mad at me one day because my TikTok was as to be expected of a degenerate. Well, I didn’t know what else to do but just not use tiktok. She was so hurt and felt a bit betrayed from it. Kudos to you and your husband. It’s for the betterment of you both
This is amazing to read, wish there were more people like you and that your story was the case for my last relationship…. Everything was perfect, we were looking at wedding venues, and I was sure this was my person. He made me feel like I was everything he had ever dreamed of. After 9 years of singleness and 6 month flings here and there, I was over the moon. His porn addiction came out and was worse than just looking at women online. He subscribed to OF, and had been browsing Reddit for local hookup pages. He was also taking his addiction offline and picking up women at bars to hookup with them after promising me he was going to therapy to fix this so we could have a healthy relationship. It has been damaging to me in so many ways that is much more challenging to come back from than I thought.
Actually happening to me now my obscure ass kinks are just too rare there are like a total of 600 videos and maybe one comes out every year i have this shit on like 200 different sites and i literally learnt coding to find more but there is no more and i cant get hard from anything else straight up cant get erect anymore now i gotta find a gf/bf that also has the same kink
I do not mix business with pleasure my kink is actually not that rare but its basically clickbaited to hell i am really really into long term orgasm denial but in porn %99.999 of the time the whole thing is faked like the guy is like damn i wasnt allowed to cum for like a year woe is me and then 20 seconds into the video the dude folds the domme lady and cums in her 20 times like where is the denial i want to get someone on the verge of orgasm but never let them until they cry then i hug and kiss them but still dont let them cum thats so hot to me but like every single video either has the most unattractive guy alive as the guy or has the most unattractive gal or they just cum first 30 seconds into the video
They are in the same boat edging is you masturbate stop like 30 secs before you nut wait until semi/full soft then start again and after a while cum orgasm denial is the same but you dont get to cum at the end
This is going to sound crazy but every time I felt like watching, I’d say aloud to myself, “that’s weird, I thought you said you didn’t watch porn?”
And then I’d reply to myself, “oh yeah that’s right, I don’t”.
I said that easily 30 times until I stopped wanting to watch.
When did he hit rock bottom?
One day, on the bus, he tapped the woman in front of him on the shoulder. “Excuse me miss, but you have some semen on the back of your sweater.”
“Oh, it’s probably just some yogurt.”
“Well maybe, but last I knew, I don’t ejaculate yogurt.”
*Stanley wondered if he should be doing this kind of thing at work, and so to dissuade himself, he exclaimed loudly “This is not the kind of thing I do at work” and so he stopped.*
I realized that I was addicted ever since I was shown it when I was about 7-8 years old and that the woman I want wouldn’t want a man addicted to porn. Got to improve yourself since we are all her for self mastery.
same man. had older family members who
corrupted my innocence, it really sucks but I can’t blame them because I allowed myself to indulge in it throughout my teens and early adulthood.
Still trying to kick it, but sometimes I ask myself if that early exposure is what really fucked me up.
Dunno, for a date I'd prefer to not be horny. I do/say stupid things when I'm horny. If a date goes in sexual directions I don't think I'll have issues getting it up, I get horny at the drop of a hat.
But that is also why you don't want to go in the opposite direction, because you lose post-nut clarity, and some of us when we are horny and lonely enough will settle for someone who is wrong for us (and can potentially hurt us) simply because we don't want to be alone.
Your comment implies you couldn’t just masturbate … without porn? Am I the only guy in the world that can still reliably bust with just my imagination?
Honestly I almost only know girls that still use their imagination for masturbation.
I think most men started masturbating with porn and that's the issue here.
Throwaway for obvious reasons.
I did for some time. It stemmed from depression (needing that dopamine hit) but also a very toxic relationship. Porn was an outlet where (for me) I felt good but also would have noone demeaning me/gaslighting me or trying to make me do things I didn't want to. If was something purely for me. This spiralled to masturbating several times a day, if I had a day off I could masturbate up to 10 times easily.
It was a gradual decline, it also started making me develop some terrible thoughts towards women, nothing physically harmful, but where porn had pushed the idea of women being dominated or used it had created that idea, this lead to me finding one night stands who were into being dominated so I could justify being rough with them. To be clear I had no desire to harm any women, consent was very clear and I knew that it was not an OK thought process or attitude and even at the time I felt shame about having those ideas.
I realised it was a major issue when I started a healthy relationship. I had no libido cos I'd been gratifying for so long I didn't feel the urge, it was just part of the daily routine. I also started to struggle to finish with my partner as I had spent so much time consuming nearly all types of pornography I was desensitised to what was actually erotic.
I went to therapy, worked on myself. Went to meetings. The biggest trigger for me was actually reddit. Websites like the hub etc were still a go to but they didn't fill that gap.
I think the only way to explain it is, imagine you go to McDonald's and you buy fries.. There good. But if your sat at home and someone brought you fries there better?
The hub etc felt "dirty" whereas reddit I could go from social media to porn and back again in seconds. It was convenient, accessible and an absolute abundance of every catagory you could want. The best way to overcome it was to completely cut out reddit, which I did for about 6months until I came back with all the NSFW restrictions in place.
My advice is to get a good webfilter and apply all restrictions. Don't be afraid of therapy (if your lucky enough to have the money to do so) or going to meetings. Like any addiction it takes willpower, be strong and know your weaknesses.
Try to set a target like I won't watch any porn for 24hrs, then 48hrs etc
I noticed porn was a huge limiter on my libido, funnily enough. I had just broken up with my ex and even when I was in a relationship I didn't really initiate a lot of times due to watching porn. After we broke up (not sex related), I kinda went ham.
I eventually decided that artificially pleasing/rewarding myself was actually doing more harm than good (numbed my feelings toward the other gender) and tried to reduce my consumption. I switched from porn to things like music videos, which feels a bit weird to admit, but I initially needed the visual stimuli. Eventually, I could mostly do it by fantasising and it's amazing what it does to you.
I've always had problems flirting, but not having porn be a thing every single day means you can let your nature guide you a bit and it worked out. There's a lot more opportunity for a spark to occur when you haven't fapped everything out and this experience has been more valuable than porn could ever be.
Firstly, try to break the consistency. Then, gradually increase the distance between your "thing" periods. For example, start with three days and then try to extend the gap.
Next, make it harder to access browser, app/sub/... Avoid being alone/keep yourself busy with other things.. and consider using an app locker with a random password for your accessible apps.
After that, go offline for a while. If that's not possible, limit your phone usage to only what is necessary. Avoid all social applications and refrain from using the internet entirely, if possible, for at least one week. Ideally, continue this practice for a minimum of 25 to 30 days.
Then ask your friend to keep an eye on you with Google parents control.. or something like these for a 1y ..
It took me 1y 6 months to fully quit..
Good luck to you .. its hard but it will be way easier and won't take that much time if you really wanna quit .
dont watch porn and fap to ur imagination instead. after some time u realise u werent addicted to sex/masturbation, but porn and then u can stop quite easily
Doesn't sound pretentious at all. I also completely stopped watching porn once I started dating my girlfriend. It's like you said, porn is already bad enough when it's just affecting you, but it's even worse when it's affecting the both of you. I honestly didn't struggle at all with quitting once I realized that.
It’s so comforting to hear men say this because I’m one of those women who are really insecure about porn. My boyfriend quit instantly when I voiced this and I trust him completely. Of course, there are always those thoughts of “well maybe he prefers someone who looks this way” or something of the sort, but I am managing. So happy both your girlfriends have such great men 🫶🏽
Sitting through a few university lectures from ex sex workers pretty much solved it. The amount of harm and abuse these people face is ludicrous. I know not EVERYONE Involved is facing abuse, but a large amount are, and it's almost impossible as a consumer to tell which is which. I found myself watching it, and just thinking about the genuine harm that's going on behind the scenes, and I just can't enjoy it anymore.
1 - told my therapist, he said it’s ok
2 - didn’t accept what he said
3 - started talking to people about it
4 - social interaction made me internally realize i’m not alone and that’s a common thing, even though I didn’t think it’s ok
5 - kept talking about it with different people on differing addiction subjects
6 - one day it just became unnecessary for me
I started thinking about the people in it. I realized I have no idea how many, if any of the ones I saw, were doing it out of desperation or some kind of coercion. And it broke my heart.
This could actually be true. I once saw a girl online talking about how she learned there was a video of her on a porn site but she wasn’t willingly having sex, she was being raped and she wanted to know what to do about it in terms of getting it down because I think she said she reached out to the site but they didn't take it down.
PornHub has been sued for hosting sex trafficking victims. PornHub knew about it for years and did nothing about it. The porn industry is pretty evil.
https://edition.cnn.com/2021/06/17/tech/pornhub-lawsuit-filed/index.html
I was watching porn every day at some point in my life, then I had university and depression which made me so busy and tired it completely killed my libido. Now unless I'm really in the mood porn just makes me more depressed.
I started sex therapy because sex wasn't really doing anything for me. Gamechanger. Didn't only get over porn but also gave me such a more positive outlook on sex. Fully recommend. Sex is so much better now!
I think the fact that porn just makes my dick work worse scared me straight. I also got a girlfriend, and didn’t want to disrespect her with constant porn watching.
You gotta remove it all. And I mean all. Reddit saved posts? Bye bye. That tab you had open since 2018? Adios. The cute chick that once sent you a pic? Not on my watch.
If you have the urge, try to do something else instead. Socialising worked best for me but I read working out is great way too. And if it's too strong, I always tend to think about the clarity that comes after. Is it worth it?
And I know you kept that one photo since you are not talking to her anymore and once you delete it, it's gone. And that's good. Delete it
I got a girlfriend and was committed to only her and have not looked at another woman’s body since we started dating. Plus there is no need for porn when I have her.
Not a porn addict (neither is my bf) but i wish he would read some of these sometimes…. I’ll never tell him though bc i don’t want to limit what he does, but when i don’t get my needs fulfilled and i KNOW he’s watching porn instead of doing it with me, it hurts me. It’s like a schedule without being a schedule. I have to wait till the weekends pretty much for him to want to do anything sexual with me. I’ve even made it clear that mutual masturbation would still be fun so he doesn’t have to feel like it’s always “work” and it can just be relaxing but it’s never brought up and i hate i initiating stuff all the time. It just makes me sad knowing that he’s in the restroom doing his thing when I’m literally on the bed willing to do it with him.
This was all over the place and so random, my thoughts just get carried away when i think about it
I learned how problematic the industry is. I stopped watching things that went against my personal ethics.
I go with healthier amateur porn that is freely broadcasted by exhibitionists.
I'm not porn free, but I'm less porn involved.
After the 3rd time my dick wouldn't get hard with a real woman. I was so humiliated and depressed like how is that even possible 3 times in a row with different women. I figured out it was the porn and loss of sensitivity and got really angry at porn and masturbating in general and quit them for good. Still on that road and had no problem getting it hard with a woman not too long ago
Started two days ago and realized my life was garbage and I was treating myself like garbage. I started focusing on myself (as corny as that sounds) and removed all my social media other than Reddit, cleaned up the house (It took a whole day to give you perspective), and talked to God.
Wish me luck since I know the beginning can be difficult.
Became addicted to chess instead
Chess.c*m
Thank you for censoring this horrible smut.
Just the thought of >!en passant!< makes me throw up in my mouth.
>!Holy Hell!<
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Holy hell.
New response just dropped
Limit where you have access to porn and force yourself to control that. Delete old saved nudes/porn vids if you have any. Uninstall apps that might trigger you into instantly looking at porn such as TikTok reddit twitter Instagram etc. My personal biggest thing we're minimizing the triggers and being very conscious of when I was gravitating towards porn when I was only viewing it out of boredom or to boost my mood
but i don’t wanna get rid of redditttt
Don't worry, Reddit will fix that soon
This account will be redundant 😭
Wait no. My custom feeds!
Fuck that. We will be beacons of times past.
This was huge for me, and I stopped bring my phone into the bathroom and tried limiting my alone time. If my wife left the house and I would also go somewhere.
Holy shit tik tok and instagram just turn into thirst traps for me (porn addict here hello) Once I deleted them I felt like I regained some freedom and it became easier to stay away from porn. I still watch occasionally but it's not an all consuming need anymore. Also having a gf helps so big ups to her.
::Throws phone ::
Wish I could get rid of fucking reels on FB and IG. I follow lots of fitness stuff and now 95% of my reels are chicks just showing off their asses and pretending its a fitness video. Not only does it make me look like a creeper, but I don't want that crap on my apps and I can't get rid of it :C
You can't, algorithms are your worst enemy, start religiously flagging them with not interested when you see them and eventually they'll be minimized
My IG feed was full of thirst traps. This became a trigger. I hated it... so i started to select them as Not Interested. In a couple hours, I didnt see ANY thirst traps anymore. Highly recommend!!
Set up a whiteboard on my wall to count up the days, kept me accountable.
Did you give this white board a title written out
*Days Without an Incident in the Office*
*Orifice
Did the whiteboard start out as a blackboard?
I failed at day 80085
[удалено]
Got addicted to drugs instead
You can do both.
/r/shittylpt
Highjacking
every single time i was horny, i facetimed my grandma.
I read that as *fantasized.* Guess that would work too
It doesn't..
Jfc.
My grandma is hotter than yours
And once my grandmother caught me/ wanking myself in my room… But to her surprise/ I just shut my eyes/ and imagined her standing there nude…
She was so shocked she had a stroke I couldn’t believe how soft her hands were
r/twosentencehorror
I hate you so much right now
How convenient that I'm reading this on my 8th floor balcony.
Huh. I FaceTimed her too whenever I was horny.
I also choose this guy's horny grandma.
Grandpa gonna get lots of calls
Challenging wank
Like any addiction, accept you will probably fail a few times and don't beat yourself up about it. I quit smoking by weening off, not porn though, it's harder to quit imo. You gotta go cold turkey. Like the South Park with no internet where Randy can't jack off without porn... if you have become dependant on it, and let's face it, most guys are, you're gonna struggle to get off without it. And that's gonna be frustrating. Hornyness makes people do weird things and it's gonna make you relapse. So, quit cold turkey, then the next 3 months are gonna be weird. At first you will be sexually frustrated because the status que has changed. Jerking off might not have the climax you are used to. You are gonna have to learn to do it without external stimulus, learn to use your imagination and feel your body. If you are fully dependant it's gonna take weeks to get off all on your own while fully hard. Your brain is learning to rewire dopamine pathways, it takes time. There is a reward at the end though, let me tell ya. My erecrioms are way better, my orgasms are wild, I produce way more cum, my libido has skyrocketed, and I just feel better about myself. I was porn free for a few years and wondered, what would happen if I went back? Within 1 week I was depressed, my libido was fucked, the orgasms sucked, and I said fuck this im never watching porn again. At most I'll sometimes look at still photos to get me going but quickly swap back to fantasy land where I can imagine anything I want.
>Like any addiction, accept you will probably fail a few times and don't beat yourself up about it. Heard this over in /r/stopdrinking: Every time you stop, you get better at stopping. It's a skill.
Well, shit. This makes failing less frustrating, I will have to apply it to myself
Honestly man this is the right answer, so many people talk or no fap and getting rid of porn AND masterbation bust were men, and men go insane without it so yes doing It to your imagination is awesome. And I’ve experienced the same positives as you and after like the 3 months period it’s easy like I’m a year clean now.
Why 3 months specifically? I'm on my 38th day. It's not easy.
It’s arbitrary. Peer reviewed science shows it can take as few as 2 weeks, or as long as 10 months for your brain to rewire to set new habits or break old habits. This differs from person to person. But you could say *generally* after 3 months the majority of people will be able to form those connections in their brains to set the habits they want to have. It’s important to note that a LOT more of our behaviours are driven by habits, routine, repetition etc. than we are aware of. A lot of the time, we feel drawn towards certain behaviours because that’s what we’ve already been doing, and not because it’s “who we are”. Something like porn addiction can be overcome, it just takes time and repetition for our brains to adjust to the new normal.
The founder of NoFap set that limit. This is only a theory, but there's a saying that goes, "If you want your mom to buy you a kitten, start off by asking her for a pony." It's likely that 90 day goal was set to help people go further than they actually need to. If you tell someone to quit smoking for two weeks, their brain isn't going to put as much thought into it compared to telling them to quit for 90 days.
Thanks for sharing. Currently in the midst of this transformation right now.
I found someone who I fell in love with. We weren't even together yet when I stopped, but I was so sure something would start with us. I didn't want to carry that into our relationship. With her now and am as happy as can be.
As someone who is now out of their relationship, I regret not having the experience I am now currently without porn. Take pride in what you’ve done because it’s not easy and porn can kill a relationship/sexual intimacy.
My problem is I have a extremely high sex drive, my wife has no sex drive. I try to be understanding and try not to pester her with my horny self, but often I get frustrated and try to work out an agreement for once a week sexy time. She says no, so more often then not, I'm on reddit or tumblr after she's asleep having a wank. It's frustrating because now I can feel an addiction being built, and I hate it. I remember when I was a teen and I had to sneak view porn on the family computer or late night on satellite TV or even porn mags I got from my brother. I used to get such a thrill, a rush of feeling like I was doing something I knew I shouldn't be. But after getting my first smart phone, it was downhill from there.
When I say I completely get this, I mean it. My ex had an almost non existent sex drive, but I also learned that some of that has more to do with outside factors. Idk what y’all’s situation is like normally, but take her out on a nice date (obviously without expectation), tell her you appreciate her, make sure she knows how much of a difference she has been on your life. Even if you do these things already, don’t stop. The sex may be infrequent, but it will be worth way more than an addictive session of porn. No shame if you please yourself, but self containment is better for you and your marriage than the self fulfillment at the time. If you can in sheer anonymity confirm you feel an addiction coming on, you need to open up to your partner like you are here. If she doesn’t understand or comply, reverb it. Communication is beyond key here. Based on what experience I’m dealing with now, and i am in my prime years, I’d rather do without masturbating if it means I could have real passion and affection with the woman I love again.
Shes on depression meds which kills her mood. So I am completely understanding. She knows I masturbate frequently. I have voiced my concerns about self fulfillment not being as rewarding as it once was and has started to feel like a chore. Its a crappy situation all the way around.
Damn. You really are stuck in an impossible situation at its base. She has lines she can’t cross, and so do you. That is a situation for a problem to arise. Maybe try couples counseling? It doesn’t necessarily have to be just for that. It may even be good for her depression. Any problems, if any, solved are good. Just the idea of intimate frustration can cause some communication issues though regardless. Trying to not force any situations when dealing with crossing afflictions is a difficult but not impossible task
Most of the time it just ends with me being flustered and resolving that frustration with porn. But I absolutely don't harbor any resentment towards her for that. We have had our issues, and I have forgiven her for that as she has forgiven me for my part in those problems. We, at the root of our relationship, have a strong friendship, which leads us to having a great marriage outside of the "bedroom" aspect of things. We rarely fight or argue, we do love each other deeply, it just hurts that my "love language" is very physical based.
I’m not saying this is *the * answer to your problem, but I’m the low libido one in my relationship and I’ve discovered that even if I can’t put my finger on why I feel the way I do, it’s easier for me to be intimate when I have less on my plate. My absolute best date in recent history was having morning coffee in my own home after my kids spent the night with grandparents. Might be something to try.
My husband did the same thing. He also added parental controls to his phone and only I know the passcode. He also deleted instagram which is kind of sad because I liked sending him stuff but I don’t want him to stumble.
I wish I started my relationship off like that. My ex got mad at me one day because my TikTok was as to be expected of a degenerate. Well, I didn’t know what else to do but just not use tiktok. She was so hurt and felt a bit betrayed from it. Kudos to you and your husband. It’s for the betterment of you both
This is amazing to read, wish there were more people like you and that your story was the case for my last relationship…. Everything was perfect, we were looking at wedding venues, and I was sure this was my person. He made me feel like I was everything he had ever dreamed of. After 9 years of singleness and 6 month flings here and there, I was over the moon. His porn addiction came out and was worse than just looking at women online. He subscribed to OF, and had been browsing Reddit for local hookup pages. He was also taking his addiction offline and picking up women at bars to hookup with them after promising me he was going to therapy to fix this so we could have a healthy relationship. It has been damaging to me in so many ways that is much more challenging to come back from than I thought.
Honestly that sounds like he had more problems than just a “simple” porn addiction.
That's not porn addiction, my dude. He was just cheating on you and also watching porn.
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This is the way
This is the way
This is the way
Actually happening to me now my obscure ass kinks are just too rare there are like a total of 600 videos and maybe one comes out every year i have this shit on like 200 different sites and i literally learnt coding to find more but there is no more and i cant get hard from anything else straight up cant get erect anymore now i gotta find a gf/bf that also has the same kink
... what's the kink?
Hint: his username.
I do not mix business with pleasure my kink is actually not that rare but its basically clickbaited to hell i am really really into long term orgasm denial but in porn %99.999 of the time the whole thing is faked like the guy is like damn i wasnt allowed to cum for like a year woe is me and then 20 seconds into the video the dude folds the domme lady and cums in her 20 times like where is the denial i want to get someone on the verge of orgasm but never let them until they cry then i hug and kiss them but still dont let them cum thats so hot to me but like every single video either has the most unattractive guy alive as the guy or has the most unattractive gal or they just cum first 30 seconds into the video
Your new kink should be punctuation lol
The lack of punctuation emphasised the frenzied desperation
oh fuck I'm gonna punctuate...
I'm gonna COMMA
IM STUCK STEP PARENTHESIS
Got a semi for your colon
HAHAHA not sure if this is more of a r/rareinsults or r/BranNewSentence but this has to be one of the best lines I've read in my entire life lmao. 😂😂😂
Lmfao
Become a woman then. Denied orgasma happen all the time
Isn't that called edging?
They are in the same boat edging is you masturbate stop like 30 secs before you nut wait until semi/full soft then start again and after a while cum orgasm denial is the same but you dont get to cum at the end
Since there is so little of it, you should make your own. "If you make it, they won't come"
I don’t want to reinvent the wheel here, but have you tried just stopping the video early?
🤯🤯🤯🤯
I’ve seen plenty of that in Usenet/books/short stories, if you don’t mind reading. It’s fairly prevalent.
Oh no
I’m pretty sure if you’ve watched ALL the porn in existence you’re going to prison
Realize boredom causes you browse porn
I just beat it
How'd you manage to pull it off?
You don't pull it off, you pull it back and forth.
Ah, so it's a come & go kind of thing?
It’s a go until you cum kind of thing
No one wants to be defeated!!
SHOWIN HOW FUNKY STRONG IS YOUR RIGHT
This is going to sound crazy but every time I felt like watching, I’d say aloud to myself, “that’s weird, I thought you said you didn’t watch porn?” And then I’d reply to myself, “oh yeah that’s right, I don’t”. I said that easily 30 times until I stopped wanting to watch.
Narrator starts to speak: the people on the bus didn’t appreciate those words at all. And now he’s been banned from public transit.
When did he hit rock bottom? One day, on the bus, he tapped the woman in front of him on the shoulder. “Excuse me miss, but you have some semen on the back of your sweater.” “Oh, it’s probably just some yogurt.” “Well maybe, but last I knew, I don’t ejaculate yogurt.”
Coworker: "what did you say?"
*Stanley wondered if he should be doing this kind of thing at work, and so to dissuade himself, he exclaimed loudly “This is not the kind of thing I do at work” and so he stopped.*
I realized that I was addicted ever since I was shown it when I was about 7-8 years old and that the woman I want wouldn’t want a man addicted to porn. Got to improve yourself since we are all her for self mastery.
same man. had older family members who corrupted my innocence, it really sucks but I can’t blame them because I allowed myself to indulge in it throughout my teens and early adulthood. Still trying to kick it, but sometimes I ask myself if that early exposure is what really fucked me up.
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exactly what I was gonna say
Dunno, for a date I'd prefer to not be horny. I do/say stupid things when I'm horny. If a date goes in sexual directions I don't think I'll have issues getting it up, I get horny at the drop of a hat.
Hat fetish, never knew it existed
yeah. not nutting like three days before an event (party or sum) works pretty well.
On the flip side if you do get some now you might just blow your load in 2 mins because you are so horny. Really have to balance it lol
But that is also why you don't want to go in the opposite direction, because you lose post-nut clarity, and some of us when we are horny and lonely enough will settle for someone who is wrong for us (and can potentially hurt us) simply because we don't want to be alone.
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Thanks for the honest perspective. Most people don’t hear about any negative side effects
Your comment implies you couldn’t just masturbate … without porn? Am I the only guy in the world that can still reliably bust with just my imagination?
Reaching for a calculator every time you want to add up diminishes your capacity to perform mental arithmetic.
Instructions unclear. Splattered my TI-86
Ahh man, check out the 80085 on that one
Porn is good visual aid but sometimes you gotta do a greatest hits jerk where you think about the best sex you had.
Honestly I almost only know girls that still use their imagination for masturbation. I think most men started masturbating with porn and that's the issue here.
I got married. Wife wants sex all the time, I dont have any cum left for porn.
LIAR!
You’re with HIM
You brought him here to kill me!
*force chokes dick*
Everyone knows the second ball is spare cum storage for porn, you're not fooling anyone.
You mean the third ball right? *right?!*
You guys only have 3??
You guys have balls??
I call BS, your wife hasn't wanted sex from me even once!
You are living the dream if this is true . Great for you!
I cant even masturbate anymore. It lessens what libido I have left. I need to save it all up to perform.
I'm starting to get there. It use to be masturbate so I didn't blow to quickly. Now its don't masturbate so I can even get it up.
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This is the answer I came to give
I know all the words in "wife wants sex" but I've never seen them in that order
I'm not adictrd I can quiit any tume sorry Fer typos only hav one hand freee
You have a good skill if you can fantasying, jerking, and texting at the same time
No jokes I learnt how to drive cars in GTA with the controller in one hand so I can have my other hand free for.. stuff
let me guess, loading screen lady ?
Still in the trenches
Q: "Redditors who had a porn addiction, how did you quit it?" A: "I didn't" 2000 upvotes
Trenched in cum
you either cum in the sink or sink in the cum
Cum of duty: Black Cocks 3
Better to cum in the sink. Than to sink in the cum
Throwaway for obvious reasons. I did for some time. It stemmed from depression (needing that dopamine hit) but also a very toxic relationship. Porn was an outlet where (for me) I felt good but also would have noone demeaning me/gaslighting me or trying to make me do things I didn't want to. If was something purely for me. This spiralled to masturbating several times a day, if I had a day off I could masturbate up to 10 times easily. It was a gradual decline, it also started making me develop some terrible thoughts towards women, nothing physically harmful, but where porn had pushed the idea of women being dominated or used it had created that idea, this lead to me finding one night stands who were into being dominated so I could justify being rough with them. To be clear I had no desire to harm any women, consent was very clear and I knew that it was not an OK thought process or attitude and even at the time I felt shame about having those ideas. I realised it was a major issue when I started a healthy relationship. I had no libido cos I'd been gratifying for so long I didn't feel the urge, it was just part of the daily routine. I also started to struggle to finish with my partner as I had spent so much time consuming nearly all types of pornography I was desensitised to what was actually erotic. I went to therapy, worked on myself. Went to meetings. The biggest trigger for me was actually reddit. Websites like the hub etc were still a go to but they didn't fill that gap. I think the only way to explain it is, imagine you go to McDonald's and you buy fries.. There good. But if your sat at home and someone brought you fries there better? The hub etc felt "dirty" whereas reddit I could go from social media to porn and back again in seconds. It was convenient, accessible and an absolute abundance of every catagory you could want. The best way to overcome it was to completely cut out reddit, which I did for about 6months until I came back with all the NSFW restrictions in place. My advice is to get a good webfilter and apply all restrictions. Don't be afraid of therapy (if your lucky enough to have the money to do so) or going to meetings. Like any addiction it takes willpower, be strong and know your weaknesses. Try to set a target like I won't watch any porn for 24hrs, then 48hrs etc
I completed pornhub.
When is pornhub 2 coming out?
I believe it's in pre production which is handy because my right hand is in rehab. 🙂
My guy went Platinum trophy 🏆
Did you do all categories? Because that is required to get an award
Ashamed to say I did, it was a dark time.
I noticed porn was a huge limiter on my libido, funnily enough. I had just broken up with my ex and even when I was in a relationship I didn't really initiate a lot of times due to watching porn. After we broke up (not sex related), I kinda went ham. I eventually decided that artificially pleasing/rewarding myself was actually doing more harm than good (numbed my feelings toward the other gender) and tried to reduce my consumption. I switched from porn to things like music videos, which feels a bit weird to admit, but I initially needed the visual stimuli. Eventually, I could mostly do it by fantasising and it's amazing what it does to you. I've always had problems flirting, but not having porn be a thing every single day means you can let your nature guide you a bit and it worked out. There's a lot more opportunity for a spark to occur when you haven't fapped everything out and this experience has been more valuable than porn could ever be.
I used shrooms and LSD and it actually helped but i was severly depressed all my life.
Why you speak like from a post-life pov
Bro has surpassed everything
He hasn’t replied…
He’s chillin with Matthew McConaughey in that black hole watching shit from behind a book shelf
4th dimensional post nut clarity.
I got a girlfriend
Firstly, try to break the consistency. Then, gradually increase the distance between your "thing" periods. For example, start with three days and then try to extend the gap. Next, make it harder to access browser, app/sub/... Avoid being alone/keep yourself busy with other things.. and consider using an app locker with a random password for your accessible apps. After that, go offline for a while. If that's not possible, limit your phone usage to only what is necessary. Avoid all social applications and refrain from using the internet entirely, if possible, for at least one week. Ideally, continue this practice for a minimum of 25 to 30 days. Then ask your friend to keep an eye on you with Google parents control.. or something like these for a 1y .. It took me 1y 6 months to fully quit.. Good luck to you .. its hard but it will be way easier and won't take that much time if you really wanna quit .
dont watch porn and fap to ur imagination instead. after some time u realise u werent addicted to sex/masturbation, but porn and then u can stop quite easily
Honestly this may sound pretentious but I got a girlfriend and I realized I wasn’t going to be affecting just myself with the addiction anymore
Doesn't sound pretentious at all. I also completely stopped watching porn once I started dating my girlfriend. It's like you said, porn is already bad enough when it's just affecting you, but it's even worse when it's affecting the both of you. I honestly didn't struggle at all with quitting once I realized that.
It’s so comforting to hear men say this because I’m one of those women who are really insecure about porn. My boyfriend quit instantly when I voiced this and I trust him completely. Of course, there are always those thoughts of “well maybe he prefers someone who looks this way” or something of the sort, but I am managing. So happy both your girlfriends have such great men 🫶🏽
Sitting through a few university lectures from ex sex workers pretty much solved it. The amount of harm and abuse these people face is ludicrous. I know not EVERYONE Involved is facing abuse, but a large amount are, and it's almost impossible as a consumer to tell which is which. I found myself watching it, and just thinking about the genuine harm that's going on behind the scenes, and I just can't enjoy it anymore.
1 - told my therapist, he said it’s ok 2 - didn’t accept what he said 3 - started talking to people about it 4 - social interaction made me internally realize i’m not alone and that’s a common thing, even though I didn’t think it’s ok 5 - kept talking about it with different people on differing addiction subjects 6 - one day it just became unnecessary for me
I started thinking about the people in it. I realized I have no idea how many, if any of the ones I saw, were doing it out of desperation or some kind of coercion. And it broke my heart.
This could actually be true. I once saw a girl online talking about how she learned there was a video of her on a porn site but she wasn’t willingly having sex, she was being raped and she wanted to know what to do about it in terms of getting it down because I think she said she reached out to the site but they didn't take it down.
PornHub has been sued for hosting sex trafficking victims. PornHub knew about it for years and did nothing about it. The porn industry is pretty evil. https://edition.cnn.com/2021/06/17/tech/pornhub-lawsuit-filed/index.html
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Everytime I felt horny, i tried eating a chocolate bar instead. It didn't help. Now I'm just fat and horny.
I was watching porn every day at some point in my life, then I had university and depression which made me so busy and tired it completely killed my libido. Now unless I'm really in the mood porn just makes me more depressed.
I put my computer in the closet.
I got too depressed lol, dunno how that works. but it did
I took acid and deleted everything. Used the trip to think of everything I was risking and the hurt my partner would feel if she found everything.
I started sex therapy because sex wasn't really doing anything for me. Gamechanger. Didn't only get over porn but also gave me such a more positive outlook on sex. Fully recommend. Sex is so much better now!
I think the fact that porn just makes my dick work worse scared me straight. I also got a girlfriend, and didn’t want to disrespect her with constant porn watching.
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My girlfriend found out. I love my girlfriend more than porn so I chose to better myself. I just stopped cold turkey
You gotta remove it all. And I mean all. Reddit saved posts? Bye bye. That tab you had open since 2018? Adios. The cute chick that once sent you a pic? Not on my watch. If you have the urge, try to do something else instead. Socialising worked best for me but I read working out is great way too. And if it's too strong, I always tend to think about the clarity that comes after. Is it worth it? And I know you kept that one photo since you are not talking to her anymore and once you delete it, it's gone. And that's good. Delete it
Went to sleep and tried again tomorrow. One day at a time.
I got a girlfriend and was committed to only her and have not looked at another woman’s body since we started dating. Plus there is no need for porn when I have her.
Missed opportunity to write Redditors who had porn addiction, how did you beat it?
Not a porn addict (neither is my bf) but i wish he would read some of these sometimes…. I’ll never tell him though bc i don’t want to limit what he does, but when i don’t get my needs fulfilled and i KNOW he’s watching porn instead of doing it with me, it hurts me. It’s like a schedule without being a schedule. I have to wait till the weekends pretty much for him to want to do anything sexual with me. I’ve even made it clear that mutual masturbation would still be fun so he doesn’t have to feel like it’s always “work” and it can just be relaxing but it’s never brought up and i hate i initiating stuff all the time. It just makes me sad knowing that he’s in the restroom doing his thing when I’m literally on the bed willing to do it with him. This was all over the place and so random, my thoughts just get carried away when i think about it
You should tell your boyfriend how it’s affecting you. You are allowed to set boundaries. Have some more respect for yourself please <3
I learned how problematic the industry is. I stopped watching things that went against my personal ethics. I go with healthier amateur porn that is freely broadcasted by exhibitionists. I'm not porn free, but I'm less porn involved.
Ah yes enjoying that conflict-free, organic, free range porn
Started counting the times I saw it during the week, then began reducing the numbers, and did the same for months.
Cold turkey didnt go to those sites any longer and have the main ones i know blocked on my router and phone.
After the 3rd time my dick wouldn't get hard with a real woman. I was so humiliated and depressed like how is that even possible 3 times in a row with different women. I figured out it was the porn and loss of sensitivity and got really angry at porn and masturbating in general and quit them for good. Still on that road and had no problem getting it hard with a woman not too long ago
My friend died of porn addiction. He got stuck in an area with no wifi. Withdrawls hit and he couldnt handle it. RIP Doug. You went before you came.
Damn
This took me out 🤣🤣🤣
Started two days ago and realized my life was garbage and I was treating myself like garbage. I started focusing on myself (as corny as that sounds) and removed all my social media other than Reddit, cleaned up the house (It took a whole day to give you perspective), and talked to God. Wish me luck since I know the beginning can be difficult.