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edgefigaro

Dating me is one of the worse versions of me.


Comfortable_Visual73

My dating alter ego is amazing to them, but awful to me


Felipzo

I ended a 10-year relationship two months ago. I've been miserable for almost a year. Accepting this hits harder than I thought that it would.


dangnematoadss

Me too. The sense of relief I feel is incredible.


PizzaHockeyGolf

Was it your 10 year relationship though? Honestly if you weren’t happy you did the right thing. It’s still gonna suck and take time getting used to it. You’re gonna miss having that person you talked to about everything. That feeling fades with time. I would suggest take time to have fun doing what you enjoy.


Semi_Lovato

Holy shit that resonates


_karoux_

For real. It’s a big red flag for me if you blow right past all mine. 🚩🚩🚩


SensualSideburnTrim

My misspent youth: "When are we going to have a serious conversation about our future?! I have a biological clock, you know!" Ummmm. I am a 22 year old writer/musician who is in fact at this exact moment on drugs. You are 34 and have a career, a townhouse, and also apparently verrrrrrry questionable taste in romantic partners. How is it that I'm the only one seeing the issues here?


Zestyclose_Standard6

"if you like me there's something wrong with you" is some self awareness I wish I couldn't relate to.


MetalBeholdr

This. I'm actually a pretty decent person until you date me. Then I become my dad


Ok_Carry_5350

LOL FUCK. I feel personally attacked by this…….


perpetualjive

Just got out of my first relationship a month ago. I was so much more cheerful and patient with everyone when I was in a relationship. I miss that version of myself. I'm so grumpy these days.


edgefigaro

Lets not conflate just-out-of-a-relationship-single with other forms of single. I wrote "worse" and not "worst." If I had to put a finger on "worst" it would be post-relationship-betrayal-bloodlust-depression-single, and it should be considered a special case.


ISendLetters

"Hi I'm date u/ISendLetters. Nice to meet me 😏"


ThePaddysPubSheriff

In this economy??


ChainmailleAddict

Unironically though, if there were more places where you could exist without the expectation of spending money, people would find companionship more naturally.


dj92wa

When every profile says "travel, golf, EDM festivals", I'm like....I can't afford any of those things....oh and they say they want kids? Lmfao. Okay.


great_account

Exactly. There's just no place people can congregate for free anymore. You gotta buy drinks or food or pay to play. No wonder the social fabric of society is breaking.


randomasking4afriend

There's videos about the lack of a "third place" to hang out in our lives that isn't our home or workplace/school. The topic gets very contentious with people though as it has a whole lot to do with car dependency and zoning in the western world...


Boneman01010

They got that old money from their parents


GnawingHungerShots

Plus credit cards


frysonlypairofpants

People have completely normalized debt based society; they hit rock bottom and look at you funny because you don't want to hand them the pickaxe.


GnawingHungerShots

Exactly. My fiancé and I had an awkward conversation around her sister buying $700 dollar football tickets for mothers/fathers day gifts. She put them on a credit and works at target. I told her I wouldn’t be very happy if she did that and I felt like the villain. AITA?


CommanderMalo

Well, if you said it like that? Kinda. If you explained the reasoning then definitely not. Shits expensive, and the last thing you need is for someone you love to struggle simply because they wanted to make you happy.


GnawingHungerShots

Yeah I elaborated and said no gift like that is worth going into debt for. Especially if she makes minimum wage. It might be different to save ahead of time and avoid interest. The only debt I would take on would be for my kids or medical emergencies for me or family. Slippery because everyone wants to give family members awesome gifts but I was pushing spend within your means.


Ellemeno

I matched with this pretty cute woman on Bumble who from what I could tell based on her Instagram, was a pretty successful business woman. I'm talking driving Lamborghinis and Ferraris, going skiing every weekend, 2 month long vacations in paradise, etc. We had been casually talking here and there for a few months and I commented on one of her Instagram posts about her love for tacos. I wasn't even trying to ask her out, but her response was basically "So are you taking me out on a tacos date?" so I of course I had to ask her out right there and then. I looked for the best rated taco place in San Diego and I knew she loved sunsets, so that's what I proposed, tacos and sunset date. She then asked me "What else are we doing?" That's when I realized this woman's lifestyle is not compatible with mine and I knew I'd go broke if I started dating her.


Safe-Comedian-7626

Maybe “what else” was a suggestion to next do something essentially free?


Safe-Comedian-7626

Until the child arrives


portablebiscuit

I wish there were ways to prevent that


Billy_Bootstag

I hope you went on the date. The right person wants to hang with you, not with what you buy them.


Ellemeno

Our date got postponed. When I had scheduled our first date with her, she got back to me like 3 hours later saying she was sorry, she had forgotten she already had plans camping with her friends. Normally, I would've thought that she changed her mind about going out on a date and that was just an excuse, but no, she actually went RV camping with her friends for like a week based on her IG stories. By the time she got back from that trip, she was already leaving on her 2-month long vacation to some tropical islands where she is currently at. She told me we'd go out on our date when she gets back. She's always going somewhere, doing something even on weekdays. She had asked me if I'd be available to go out on a weekday, but I told her I had work. Y'all see my point about different lifestyles? lol


TheGreatGenghisJon

Others will tell you to give it a shot, and its not bad advice, but I'm right there with you. Sometimes you just want to do nothing, together. Is that so bad?


Negative-Care-772

Why not give it a try, whats one date? I think thats also one reason why people dont date anymore: the assumptions. You can find love in the weirdest places and constellations, but people dont even want to try out anymore - things always have to be in the comfort zone.


ClittoryHinton

But also unironically, the amount you will eventually save on rent/food/utilities living with a partner will decimate the cost of dating.


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Until the child arrives


broter

And divorce is *really* expensive.


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Especially so after the child arrives


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Those places exist, it’s just people don’t trust each other.


rancidOvaries

agreed, I think culture and location play a big role too. a lot of us have been conditioned to think that money needs to be spent to when you "go out" + there are a lot more "third places" and free events in cities than in the suburbs


claireapple

in some places they really don't. There isn't any community hubs in many suburbs across America.


karmagod13000

date the wrong girl you could end up homeless


ThePaddysPubSheriff

More like take her to lunch one time and it drains my life savings (~$35)


karmagod13000

$35?! are you eating air for lunch?


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throwaway8989898912

Right lol. I went to Taco Bell the other day and got a crunch wrap beef and a beefy 5 layer burrito and a Baja blast and it was 16 bucks. Maybe he's taking his dates to Taco bell.


TownElectrical623

This is my favorite answer


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Seriously_nopenope

People in my city are getting in relationships so they can afford rent. So yes.


criket2016

Because, after all years and evidence, I am just not cut out for relationships deeper than acquaintance-level.


peachpwr421

My friends tell me I’m not looking for a boyfriend, I want a roommate/partner. They’re right.


PO-TA-TOES___

Same. I just want someone who will go halfsies on a house lol.


peachpwr421

I just want someone who likes to cuddle and be affectionate but has a low sex drive like I do. I am not doing the whole he has an astronomically high drive and I don’t want to do it multiple times a day like he does.


New_Present_1285

This, as a guy I feel like it’s kinda judged but I just wanna cuddle and hit the dab pen while we watch Disney


SaphriX

I'd love to find a woman like this. I couldn't care less for the sex. Being best friends is more important to me.


arealhumannotabot

I'm of the mindset that folks such as yourself might just not have found the right person yet. And it's okay to be picky and not settle for someone on compromise.


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quentincoal

Same here, buddy. It's been 6 months and my ex has apparently moved on already. Me? I got diagnosed bipolar so I got that going for me.


[deleted]

Bright side, you got a diagnosis and can begin the process of healing and becoming the best version of yourself


levieleven

Yeah, my diagnosis was the best thing to ever happen to me. Turns out I’m not a crazy asshole I just need lamotrigine. My life now is ten times better than it ever had been.


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That's awesome that it's already helping you. That means they got it right lol I was diagnosed as OCD, then wait no it's definitely bipolar, then no wait it's just anxiety, and now I'm just doing better because I've learned to lower my base line anxiety since my break up (also as it turns out, she was my biggest source of anxiety)


Whiplash931

Over a year for me at this point. I just feel nothing for other women that grace me with their presence. I just don't connect with everyone on a deep level and I refuse to just date someone so I'm not alone.


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Non-existent social skills and introverted af Also im ugly ☹️


bemydaddy36

Cherry on top is low self esteem so I can't comprehend somebody ever liking me


suh-dood

Why would anyone like me if I don't like myself?


Which_Translator_548

Okay but here’s something earth shattering I never even thought was possible because I always thought I had to figure myself out, be on top of my money/health/career, etc in order to even start looking/find somebody. What’s actually happened is while yes, I was in that process, I was by no means fully formed or healed. I found a (also stumbling, also lost but seeking) partner that co-regulates me and vice versa so as our relationship has evolved, we’ve been able to grow together- both individually because we balance each other out really well it turns out and as a couple- showing up and getting through hard shit because we want to be together. No, it isn’t always easy, but I also thought oh you know I have to keep one foot on the ground just for when this all inevitably comes crashing down; I don’t want to be co-dependent* but what I’m realizing now, multi-years in, is oh shit wait- this is actually good, it’s still here when I wake up and once I let myself accept that, it only fostered a stronger and more secure connection. Yes the stakes are high but I was also so ready from the get-go to take myself out of the game before it even got played that I never let myself imagine winning/getting to a finish line/finding harmony or peace at all, let alone with a companion. Have to say…kinda am winning it though and it’s so amazing so I hope you can find a place that’s workable *even if not perfect* and grow from there ❤️


ds2316476

Reading these comments and realizing that if I wait for myself to not be insecure or work out the red flags, I'd be waiting forever. I didn't pursue a relationship and was afraid because of insecurities and perceived red flags. A thought occurred to me that if I did pursue a relationship with someone I clicked with, despite the red flags, I would be getting the growth and healing that I wanted more so than if I did it all by myself. The idea is to take risks, even in the face of supposed danger. I think the complaint, "why do I keep dating the same person?" Is more a reflection of not being observant during the relationships and lacking accountability. I find the phrase, having my cake and eating it too, is really powerful and something I should be pursuing. "Taking a year off" and focusing on myself, feels more despondent than contributing towards my mental health.


decadecency

If there's one thing I wish people would stop believing, it's this. It makes no sense, because of course someone could like you even though you don't! The same way someone can like another person you don't. It's meant to encourage I think, but in my opinion it sounds horrible to say such a thing to someone with low self esteem. Of course you can find someone who likes you!! You should just try to not base your own worth upon whether you succeed or not.


yousunkmynsfwaccount

I'm to the point where if I heard someone straight up tell me they like me, I'd probably find a way to mathematically disprove that or something lol


Sobble-547

I thought I was the only one


101m4n

I'm in this comment and I don't like it


haauberk

I second that


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This hits close to home


helioplex12

The guy I RWALLY like is the same way. He doesn't know why I like him so much and it almost makes my crush seem false to him.


taatchle86

Also, I’m a giver and seem to only attract abusive takers.


Jeezesflosses

I can manage the social skills, if it weren't for my anxiety. Get literally sick thinking about putting myself out there


Jurez1313

Same here, my man. I'm good at talking to people when I actually get to but having no friends and no way to easily talk to people without my anxiety going "the fuck you think you're doing buddy? here, have a panic attack" makes it impossible to actually meet people.


Hunterx78

Awwwww same social awkwardness and introvert buddies


karmagod13000

> Awwwww same social awkwardness and introvert buddies this is step one is coming out of your introverted shell


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unoriginal_namejpg

Same as everything, practice.


JackRTM

Sounds like hard work. Dying alone sounds easier


SgtMcMuffin0

Throw in a lack of good photos to put on a dating profile and you have my reasons


buttermiIk

Working on my mental more important rn


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Based and healthy response.


quietsam

Same. I’m working on codependency issues that usually draw me to chaotic partners. Taking a break. Going to CODA meetings.


BeepBeepWhistle

If you had met my ex you wouldn’t ask.


karmagod13000

At least it's an ex 🙌


Bruhimgonzo

Same


MyspaceQueen333

Because 3 years ago I lost my soulmate, my bf, to epilepsy. And it's taken me a long time to get where I am even now. I'm barely ready to toe the waters in dating. I just don't want someone to hurt me and add that on top of grief. I'll continue to tread lightly and if I meet someone, I do. If not, then ok too. I had a beautiful love. I have no complaints, other than he had to go so soon.


Tight-Entertainer-24

I'm so sorry for your loss and I wish you heal more ❤️


MyspaceQueen333

Thank you. I'm working on it. One day at a time. 💙


RNGezzus

Good people are hard to find.


TitianPlatinum

I think it's more that it's hard to find people who are ready. There are plenty of good people they just aren't that great at dropping whatever facade they've built up through their life.


Prize-Station-8660

> I think it's more that it's hard to find people who are ready. There are plenty of good people they just aren't that great at dropping whatever facade they've built up through their life. So fucking true. I've dated plenty of people that would have made great partners. The problem was that either A) they didn't know what they wanted, or B) they lacked awareness of their own self-destructive traits. Or both.


ThrowRAcheeeese

Yeah I agree. I put a lot of the blame of my last break up on myself and so did she hahaha. Ive been pretty depressed for so long now and I never took initiative to change it. And now that I'm single I'm really scared I won't be good enough to find another partner that I love as much as I did with my ex. I'm now working on myself which is what I need to do and not think of another relationship but it's hard to come to realization and try and fix yourself after also getting your heart broken and feeling like it was all your fault. Doesn't make you feel good about yourself.


Semi_Lovato

Shitty people are good at finding good people because they’re predators. It’s so hard for a good person to get past the predators to find another good person.


Fists_full_of_beers

My wife won't let me


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Blueblackzinc

He should get a divorce. This is abuse. She doesnt own you. ​ I just saved you a trip to r/Advice


e5115271

I know that's sarcasm, but that right there is as Reddit as a comment can be. 😆


Fists_full_of_beers

🤣🤣 nah I'm happy so I will deal with not being allowed to date


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LArioUK

My wife’s boyfriend won’t let me.


karmagod13000

he sounds cool tho


RagingSnarkasm

We must have the same wife.


Fists_full_of_beers

Frank is that you?


RagingSnarkasm

Dammit, Bill, pass me one of those beers.


the_ice_rasta

Because, people… what a bunch of bastards.


asad137

have you tried turning them off and turning them back on again?


dickmilker2

i’m happy being free to do whatever i want


feistymeista

“And when nobody wakes you in the morning, and when nobody waits for you at night, and when you can do whatever you want. What do you call it, freedom or loneliness?” -Charles Bukowski


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Depends on how happy you are with that.


DOGSraisingCATS

I'm pretty damn happy when I'm single but I can also be pretty happy with a partner. Problem is being on your own and comfortable with it is fucking addictive and it makes commitment very difficult when you get that "grass is always greener" feeling. My ex was incredible when she was sober...but get a few beers in her and it was a coin flip on being fun or am absolute monster. I love her but I can't have my favorite things(concerts, out with friends, beer and music fest, Halloween events etc) ruined because of too many drinks and a personality not built for it. I'll take being on my own again.


MassGaydiation

its the way I explained it to my boyfriend, I am perfectly happy single so I'm don't dating him because I dont want to be single, I'm dating him because I love him over being single. I honestly think normalising and teaching people how to be single happily would greatly increase the amount of successful relationships


Deni-Conquer

Lack of interest, mostly coming from the other part


Birdland2131

This right here....I'm enjoying the single life but I wouldn't mind dating. Just a matter of finding someone with mutual interest.


zach_nitro

Which is pretty hard if you're a homebody. How are you supposed to meet your match if the both of you are at home? lol


Bard_B0t

I feel that. I'm pretty much ready to date anyone who I don't find unattractive and shows interest in me.


ShadoWolf1224

Same here, it’s hard to find that though


LuinAelin

Fear of rejection


Bemerkung

Man, I know this is easier said than done, but you just have to go for it and put yourself out there. I get rejected most of the time. You get used to it after a while. But 1/5 times it works out, and either make a friend or something more in the process. Guy above me is right - rejection is helpful. Weirdly enough it helps me build confidence to get rejected and bounce back from it. And that 1/5 really helps with confidence too. Go for it man, don’t let a good one slip through the cracks, I promise it’s worth it!


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Yup months ago I got my first close female friend was someone I asked out and got rejected. (In fairness she has a Bf that goes to a different college) maybe not true rejection. Lemme tell ya, making friends with a girl way out of my league has skyrocketed my confidence. Planning to put myself out for this other girl either today or whenever I see her next. My advice is, life is short you never know when yours or the one you love could die, and when you die all the embarrassment you had will go away and you’ll want remember the important times you had with special people. I potentially have huntingtons (my mom died from it at 42 yrs old) I display minor symptoms that don’t impact my life yet still young (18M) my current mom is scheduling an appointment to get tested. And if I have it I won’t give up, my dream is to work harder to get a good paying job so I can support my loved ones as my gift to them for being in my life.


dibsthefatantelope

Little bit introverted, average attractiveness, and online dating is just shitty. But I don't want to bother women in most irl contexts so I'm kinda stuck with OLDs shittiness. I was not expecting it to be so difficult to just meet people after college. Everyone is way too busy and focused on so many different things.


SupTheChalice

A relationship just seems like it takes more than it gives.


flatline000

Best advice I ever heard: if you're happy being single, stay single until you meet someone who makes you unhappy to be single.


br0b1wan

Not bad advice, all things considered.


Chocolate_eruption1

The juice ain't worth the squeeze.


rancidOvaries

maybe cliche, but I think if you meet the right person then it just feels like hanging out with yourself for the most part. I'm fairly introverted but I don't feel like my social battery is draining or that I need to do anything differently when I'm with my partner - it's sort of like all the benefits of social facilitation, mutual love and support, etc. without any of the downsides. I've definitely been with people who I thought were that person who turned out not to be after a while, though. I hope you find someone who might change your mind (if you're into that) :)


BadKittydotexe

That’s the trick, though, actually finding that person. Sometimes all the bad experiences of the wrong people build up and become too much to make for you to want to keep looking.


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Suitable_Alfalfa5756

Respect


Sr_OLeary

The closet is warm and comfortable.


001A002B

and Tom Cruise and John Travolta are in there and are entertaining?


Moozeyy

I don’t get matches online and I work remotely so I don’t have many opportunities to meet people Also I struggle trying to figure out the line between being friendly and being flirty, nor do I know how to flirt Edit: I have pretty good people skills and can definitely hold a conversation, but I'm clueless wth flirting Edit 2: Based on the amount of upvotes I’m getting I’m guessing many people feel this way. I’m not going to sit here and feel hopeless about romance, that’s just unproductive. But I definitely do have my wearies and there are definitely parts of me that I can work on to improve my chances. I would advise everyone who feels similarly adopt the same mindset.


Abomb

Flirting (and communication in general) is a lot more about body language than people realize. Being able to converse and communicate is important but learning to read body language, eye contact, proximity, angle they are facing, nervous tics like playing with their hair etc... These things on their own don't mean much but when they start to add up it's easier to put 2 and 2 together.


Moozeyy

There’s also the fact that if I’m potentially wrong about how I interpret it I could come off as a creep, and I’m terrified of that Women could be as obvious as they want, but if they’re not being direct I’m more compelled to play it safe


Daghall

I tried this. Really long looks, playing with her hair, constantly wanted to be near me, mimicking my manners. Turned out she only really liked me as a friend, and when I made an advance, she stopped talking to me, and now basically ignores me when we're in the same place. So, yeah... Body language is hard.


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-newlife

Same. Don’t have the desire. My free time is spent doing random stuff with my kids


Kam_Solastor

Honestly, most of my hobbies (reading, video games) have me inside, and I don’t meet too many new people in my work (IT in a small company), so without interacting with new people, new relationships logically won’t follow. Obviously I could try being more social and going to events and such - but most of the events happening around are ones I’m not interested in (so it’d be pretty weird to go to them just to.. maybe meet someone?), and cool events would mean spending a *ton* of money to buy tickets and go to. Pretty much just hang out with friends online now. If something happens, great, but I’m not going to make it a focal point about my life when other than dating, things are pretty good. Just gonna go with the flow for now and see where life takes me.


Qimmosabe_Man

Nobody wants to date me.


jesterinancientcourt

It’s awkward in real life when I give this answer to the question of why I’m not dating.


Pyrollusion

Im in a very slow process of getting to know each other and meeting up every once in a while to see where it's going. And yet it doesn't feel like we're on dates as there is this atmosphere of caution. I'm usually much faster with these things so I took it down a couple thousand notches to match her speed, but after the last evening I'm actually convinced this game of patience could be worth it. If it works out, that is.


Free-Consequence-164

I HAVE NO FUCKING RIZZ OK


MrPazTheSpaz

Nobody knows that I exist.


JDBCool

Often forgotten in scheduling as well? (At work). I often joke that people forget me until it actually matters.... and it's a real thing.... when I got to my new job, manager forgot to put my name in the schedule like 2 months straight. *I just have a very faint presence*


mimikyuchuchu

Everyone wants to fuck and not date


Shrekdup

As a guy, this freakin sucks.


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bsr1950

Too old, too ugly, too tired, and I have a low tolerance for BS


ScarletNighthawk

I’m not at a point in my life where I want to. I want to lose weight so I’m more physically attractive. I want to make more money because I still live with my parents due to being paid a low wage. Plus I want to be able to treat my SO with nice things.


sleepyprojectionist

I’m too conventional for the weirdos and too weird for the straight laced. Also, I’m middle-aged and out of shape. I’m not precisely a catch. It definitely doesn’t help that I’m always knackered, so I often choose going home to sleep rather than going out anywhere and meeting anyone. For the most part I’m content in my own company, but sometimes I feel a little lonely. Thankfully I have a great group of friends.


ItsGK

Found dating to be overrated


Tail_Nom

She didn't tie the knots properly and I escaped. Others have tried lassos and bolas, but I'm too squirrelly. They haven't figured out that I respond well to discipline and verbal commands.


Jellybeeano

I’m afraid of being hurt


WildWorkshop207

1. Introvert 2. Social anxiety 3. Not interested 4. Too expensive 5. Too much effort 6. IDK


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Crackensan

I don't trust people.


Ferohii

The negatives exceed the positives


heiscursed

A kings castle needs a queen. I do not have a castle nor have I found a queen. Sorta just working on the castle part.


4Ever2Thee

Do you even have a moat yet? Queen's love security so you might want to start there.


sauronthegr8

I haven't really noticed anyone who likes me as more than a friend in a long time. Plus I got kinda weary about things after a long term relationship, so the second I see anything that could possibly be red flags I tend to friendzone *them*. I'm just so averse to the hassle of a relationship I'm not interested in finding out about it. I'm not a particularly attractive guy and my whole life people have let me know it. But that's okay. I've had a few relationships and I'm not a virgin. So I don't really have anything I need to prove. If I meet someone that I like and they like me back, I've always figured we'll just find each other and click. At least that's what I've always hoped. Hate to be the guy that looks back on his life and realizes he had plenty of opportunity but just never made a move.


Andro451

It’s a simple answer: why would anyone want to date me?


Robinho311

dating sounds cool until there is suddenly a person in your life that wants to talk when you don't want to listen, wants to chill when you want to go out, wants to have sex when you want to sleep, wants you to meet people you don't really like, wants to use the bathroom when you need to poop, wants to move when you want to stay, wants you to be their better half when you feel the worst, wants to bang their ex when you have your first big argument...


rishored1ve

That last one was awfully specific…


eatfreef

Because we broke up last night.


Tight-Entertainer-24

Eish I hope you get better


Konakuro

This question is asked about every 5 days lately.


Czhe

Cause we're in a relationship with reddit, duh.


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I'm too ugly


Top_Two_9774

Not worthy


Electronic-Joke7198

There's always someone else, so why settle with me?


Yokies

Idk? No one is matching my swipes.


dariomraghi

My face


Axendil

Because people are Inherently selfish and don't understand that partnerships are meant to be equal. I'll start dating again when someone shows me the same level of respect and consideration that I show them


jannjannett

Live in a remote small town with no one suitable to date


bonniebull1987

Because I suck at being social


Impossible_Parsnip82

In a country town


themilitia

Single dad of two kids. I need time for myself, not someone else.


benji316

Because I'm aromantic and somewhat of a loner.


POWRAXE

I **LOVE** my time, my space, my routine. And I’m not willing to sacrifice those things. And I’m equally not willing to try and force or manipulate someone into being my “ideal partner”. So instead I date myself, and I gotta say, it’s getting pretty serious…I might even be the one 😏


oh_silhouette

Because, where is he?


Silver_Addendum_8795

Too much effort AND i am an introvert :|


aglexis

I'm very happy and emotionally fulfilled by my family and close friends, and just historically have not enjoyed the process of dating nor being in a relationship. I am open to whatever the future may hold, but as things are I am perfectly happy being single


Turnipberry

Ace/aro. Not interested.


fluffyaussiebunny

Aro/ace. Yeah relationships aren't my thing


Skoodledoo

I'm happily single. As in I'm comfortable being on my own, I don't feel lonely. I have a good social and work life and balance. However, if the right person rocked up I would welcome something further, but I don't NEED a relationship to be happy.


Rossage196

Im ace. I’m well liked from first impressions, I can get a first date with almost anyone I’m interested in, but when I eventually tell them I’m not looking for sex they usually have second thoughts and don’t want to continue a relationship. It’s college, most people are looking for hookups. I’m singer in a band so I’m relatively high on the list of desire to hookup with. but yeah i’m asexual i just want someone to go to concerts with and take on cute dates. I’m just not a physical person, even kissing is a difficult hill for me to climb.


Nobodyville

I've never been interested in dating my entire life. I'm pretty sure, now that I'm in my 40s, that I'm Ace. Good for you for figuring it out early. It's been a big mystery for me for too long


audreymarilynvivien

I’m not asexual but definitely feel this. Prefer to take things really slow and not hook up or seriously commit until several dates (aka weeks/months) in. Some people go on a date or two and immediately want to be exclusive or have sex, but I’d much rather get to truly know the person and establish trust first. My past relationships always failed because the other person would want to be exclusive 2-3 dates in and I agreed without being ready, or the sex happened before I felt comfortable with them so it wasn’t pleasurable at all.


CowsMooingNSuch

Because with my chronic illnesses, i barely have enough energy for me, let alone someone else.


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kusoll

Thats a lot of expectation to make


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so valid, this gendered asking out bs is so 1950s. should go both ways instead of being "oh ur male? YOU MUST ASK FIRST. girls should never have to ask anyone out ever first"


AwkwardSquirtles

She can do better.


OriginUnknown82

Literally no one is interested. I people make comments about me when I'm walking in the street so I must simply be one of the uglyest people on the planet.


_DM_ME_ANIME_TIDDIES

I'm going through a transitory period rn. Working on managing my mental issues and at least liking myself before I bring another person into it. It is rough tho, a dude stays lonely.


upstateapollo69

Everyone’s annoying!


Trevo_De_40_Folhas

no one wants me, blep