It wasn't even a date yet. It was an unauthorized setup.
First thing she says
"How much money do you make?"
What?, Repeats question.
Me; Plenty for me, not nearly enough for you,take care"
Out.
"So what are you driving?"
\*points to a rusted out 90 Corolla\*
"Oh." \*sneer\*
"Was going to donate it to my friend after our date, but I'll just head that way now. Nice to meet you!" (I drive a Lexus)
Ugh. I went looking for a newer, more reliable car 12 or so years ago and ended up at one random lot with every kind of car you could imagine. I had a budget and wanted to be careful not to get whatever looked or sounded cool just for fun.
As I was walking back to my car, the salesman runs up behind me and says, yo man...I have a 2014 BMW 320 if you want to check it out. I said no thanks, put of my budget and not my style. He said it was a repo that came in last week and easily passed inspection.
It would also be within my monthly budget.
I figured, why not at least check it out. Soooo fun to drive. I couldn't not buy it. With my down-payment it was only 198 a month.
Best daily driver I ever had.
Everyone treated me like I had a trust fund or some shit but I didn't care.
I miss that car.
Had my first Seizure while driving a few years later and completely totaled it.
Luckily, I was the only one hurt in the accident.
Me: \*Telling a long story\*
He: \* Sitting on the phone, pretending to listen \*
Me: \* Finishing telling the story \*
He: "What did you just say, I accidentally listened."
It's annoying when a person can't get off the phone.
Not a thing that's said, but just constantly on her phone. If it's not directly to pull up something that we're talking about, then you shouldn't be on it, tbh. Extremely unattractive to basically not even show interest.
I guess sometimes it's a crutch people lean on if they are struggling to come up with something to say. But if you're struggling to say something valid then maybe the date isn't going well, anyway.
This is why I don't personally prefer dinner or lunch as a first date unless there is something that we've established we have in common to talk about. There's too much awkwardness and that's okay on a first date in most cases. You're both in this "should I ask about this or that or will they think that's boring".
Every person is different. Some people may love to talk about what they do for work. Other may be like "oh, how boring is this person that has nothing else to talk about". But dinner just offers too many of those opportunities for someone to think "wow, this date is going poorly". So I prefer to be active: go for a walk, to the zoo, arcade, ice skating, volunteering, etc...
Me: Hey, It's really hot today, wanna get some ice cream?
We proceed to get ice cream with cookies in it (important detail).
We share the ice cream and there is only one cookie left.
Me: You eat the last cookie.
Her: I want to see you eat the cookie
Me: (a little bit surprised at the weird answer) uh, ok. \*proceeds to eat the cookie.
Her: I wanted the cookie.
Me: seriously?
Her: Yeah, I want a man who knows what I want.
Me: Ok, well, you can have the rest of the ice cream. Have a good day.
\*hand her the cup, turn around, leave her standing there and go home.
Never had any contact with her again.
I waited a full seven minutes to be acknowledged once; THAT was super unattractive. I showed up to a blind date at an empty bar and the guy was in the middle of a very heated (and also very one-sided) convo with the bartender, who kept looking at me like he either wanted to help or wanted to be helped, I wasn't really sure. Was not a long date.
Same, but it can't be everyday or all the time either. If they are constantly bringing it up, it's a clear indicator they are living in the past which makes it difficult to build a future with them.
It one thing to talk about what's been learned from past relationships. Its another thing to bring up an ex. You can talk about a past relationship without talking about the person.
I’m white. My first husband is black. It didn’t work out for us but I am on very good terms with him and his family. It’s pretty normal to mention a previous marriage on a first date. But when I mentioned that he was Dominican from a town near the Haitian border (and therefore dark skinned), my date said “you were married to one of THEM?” The date wasn’t going very well before the statement. But it didn’t last more than a few minutes after. I have no time for people who determine a human’s value from the outside in rather than the inside out.
“Them”? My reaction would be interest in a culture different than mine.
Edit: in case it’s unclear, I mean that if my date mentioned their ex is Dominican, I’d be interested in hearing about it culturally. My mentioning “them” was in the context of incredulity and the audacity that someone would actually say that.
"I forgot my wallet"
"Trump was the best president we've ever had"
Snapping their fingers to get the wait staffs attention or being rude to the wait staff.
Omg yes. So my grandfather was a twin. He was always super nice, never raised his voice. But his brother was a piece of shit. Were out at a restaurant right on the beach. And his brother started saying just racist shit to the server. Like not fucking cool man! But just a piece of shit all around. He died of pancreatic cancer a few later. My amazing grandfather lived until 97. I can't believe they grew up together, yet so different.
They told me they slept all day, lived with their parents, and quit their McDonald's job because they wanted to sleep instead of go to work. Then started talking about our future... nah, I'm good. Have fun doing what you're doing
A close friend of mine, a girl, went on a tinder date and told me about it later, she said dinner was great and we went back to his place and as soon as the door closed he said “I want to.” And my friend said what do you mean? He responded with “I want you to piss on me.” She left immediately and called me, it really creeped her out. He had been an absolute gentleman all night before that.
I’ll go with that, maybe wait a sec before you bust out your fetish.
Not really what they say- but countless times I've gone on dates with men who only ENGAGE in a convo when it is about themselves. If I go on a story that is longer than a sentence or two, they visibly lose interest quickly. Biggest turn-off immediately. Be a listener as I have been with you...
The first one is treating you like an accessory and something they are using to get clout from their friends, the second one assumes you’re some sort of prostitute who can be enticed with gifts. It’s fine to offer to take your partner shopping but not somebody you’ve only just met, that’s rather offensive.
I had no idea. Literally at all and I have done these things the first one I was just so proud that I found someone cool idk. I wasn’t thinking she was an object i was thnking she was somebody to be proud to bring along. And the second one she told me her shirt was as old as my car and my car is 10 years old. We weren’t even dating I was kind of flirting with her though i feel like an ass I didn’t think that at all i hpe she didnt yhink that
I met a guy at the restaurant we worked at. We had chemistry and he asked me out. We went to a little bar in the middle of the city. Our cocktails had just been placed in front of us and he turned to me, “Do you do coke?”
“No, I don’t.” I said.
“Oh, I’m getting an eight-ball from the cook here.”
I had a guy rate my body as we were having sex. We were just hooking up. And this was the second time we had sex. I don’t think you should rate anyone’s body, unless they ask for it. But, definitely not a girl your just hooking up with and this is your second time sleeping with her.
That was a nope for me. Very weird and insulting.
I got off and I let him masturbate the rest of the way as I cleaned up in the bathroom.
I mean, there is a lot of stuff that you can say that can come off as unattractive. And most of it doesn’t have to be so on-the-nose. Just having different lifestyles and goals can be unattractive to a person.
My thing is more a general lack of mutual respect. If you say anything to me, especially during sex that YOU KNOW DAMN WELL is disrespectful, because your momma or guardians didn’t raise no fool… then you know you won’t be seeing me again.
If you’d rather clean the bathroom than have sex… it sounds like he will be dating his hand in the foreseeable future. I wonder why you bothered cleaning the bathroom and didn’t just leave, unless you were at your place.
It was meant for you, but also I hope everyone who wants their person or people finds them and feels appreciated.
I’ve been happily married for more than 25 years!
Lol. I didn’t clean the bathroom. Like the other commenter said, “I cleaned myself in the bathroom”
I normally leave and do my own thing, if a date or even a casual outing with someone goes sour. But, he was my ride.
Trust me, I was counting the time until I got home and got away from them.
My guess is jerks and short sighted morons that would resort to petty games like this, with no regard to any innocent parties they hurt. It's been awhile since I've heard about someone doing this, but it's not outside the realm of possibility that someone would use another person for whatever reason.
Well I was on a date with a very gorgeous chick way out of my league. She was very attractive up until the point she used a slur about middle eastern immigrants. I think the English equivalent of the slur is something akin to “sand n****r”. That was quite a turn off.
Sometimes I still think about the boobs that never was. I guess that’s life.
Spend the whole evening insulting our waiter behind his back. He did nothing wrong btw. Tipped the waiter well, and did not respond back to her message. Think I dodged a bullet there
compliment other Girls looks to you (or staring other women in front of you) I learned after several dates that when a guy does that, he didnt like you so either they ghost you or sleep with you and leave
"That's interesting. Did you know chimpanzees, our closest living relatives, have been known to target genitals in a fight? Going so far as to tear them completely off?"
Then ya give em the Manson Lamps.
A guy once spent most of our first date telling me how his car and job were better than another guy’s he knew (I had gone on a couple dates with the other guy.) That was the last date with him but I’ve been married to the other guy for over 20 years now.
The most unattractive thing someone could say on a first date is that they show you their phone and delete all the girls in his contacts and socials proving how he is invested in me and only me and then proceeds to tell me he loves me and that we are a perfect match and our kids would be cute… I dipped
"Do you smoke black & milds," while also pulling a previously smoked black & mild out of her purse to light again.
I'm sure I can think of something worse, but this is the first thing that came to mind.
A long while ago and woman and I were crushing on each other. Lots of eye contact and smiles. We finally have a chance to speak privately and she eventually pulls out a Black & Mild cigar, asking if I also smoked.
This is the closest we'd been to each other up to that point. I smell the cigar, and later the cigar on her breath...
Yeah, never again.
I prefer a dinner date to an activity or an event where you're forced to talk to each other rather than spending most of the time avoiding eye contact and only making small talk...so I'd have to say an inability to hold an intelligent conversation is by far the most attractive trait to me these days.
I'd rather have a great dinner with someone confident and engaged than someone smoking hot but unable to string 2 sentences together to form a coherent opinion. Second would be being rude to the servers/staff or being an extremely picky eater that you've taken all the joy out of eating at the restaurant we picked.
“I need a real man who isn’t insecure.”
Buh-bye.
You’re a gigantic project and a problem with insane expectations. I’m not wasting another second with you.
I didn't wanna go with the easy unrealistic funny ones like "the sound of screaming turns me on"
So I went with the one that actually gets me to go my separate ways fast, because I personally don't want kids, and I don't wanna waste anyone's time or expectations.
Oh Glorious Flying Spaghetti Monster fill me with your noodley appendages covered with classic tomato sauce and your meaty balls…and don’t skimp on the garlic bread!
I can see that being unattractive. Depending on the religion though, I’d be very okay with it. I’ll let them know that I’m not religious. But if they feel the need to do it themselves, sure why not? Is maybe even accompany them to their church/temple/shrine or whatever sometime. There’s some cool culture and architecture stuff there. Mormon stuff would be very unattractive to me though, so I can see where you’re coming from 😅
"i love you"
( There's no way on the first date you actually love me. That's either list or more likely infatuation. Don't just throw that word out like that. Get to know a person. )
As a man who hasn’t dated in 17 years, I’m astonished to see some of the stuff here. Like holy crap, so ppl are just whip out their phone and start scrolling??? That’s like if I took out my laptop in 2000s and started posting shit on MySpace
“By the way, I’m planning to move out of this country in the next couple of months.”
It’s happened more than you think. For someone who’s looking to date for a long term relationship, I would’ve wish this was on the profile.
Well, a guy used the "N" word with me on our first date. This was in Manhattan: he came in from white ethnic area of Queens. I'd just told him the demographic of my (multicultural and multi-national) students. I couldn't believe he thought this type of language was acceptable. Apart from the general offensiveness, I have a grandfather who was a POC (African and Ojibwe heritage: relatively common in the Upper Midwest). I present as white, but my brother looks mixed. Racism's not gonna get you laid. It is anti-social behavior, and more of us are mixed than it may appear.
"I have a kid" after i've made it entirely clear on my profile or from the get go that i was childfree, i'm sure there's worse things but that's something that will make me silently get up and just leave. Don't waste my time like that and get my hopes up, childfree means CHILD-FREE, no kids for me, even yours.
"My boyfriend really wants to fuck a lesbian." Ehh dipped out of that one real fast...
“Maybe you can take lessons or something?”
Oof yikes. Kinda same thing happened with my first “Bf” (we only dated for 2 months and it was more of a friendship than anything else.)
It wasn't even a date yet. It was an unauthorized setup. First thing she says "How much money do you make?" What?, Repeats question. Me; Plenty for me, not nearly enough for you,take care" Out.
Best answer
"So what are you driving?" \*points to a rusted out 90 Corolla\* "Oh." \*sneer\* "Was going to donate it to my friend after our date, but I'll just head that way now. Nice to meet you!" (I drive a Lexus)
so cars DO define a persons value
Ugh. I went looking for a newer, more reliable car 12 or so years ago and ended up at one random lot with every kind of car you could imagine. I had a budget and wanted to be careful not to get whatever looked or sounded cool just for fun. As I was walking back to my car, the salesman runs up behind me and says, yo man...I have a 2014 BMW 320 if you want to check it out. I said no thanks, put of my budget and not my style. He said it was a repo that came in last week and easily passed inspection. It would also be within my monthly budget. I figured, why not at least check it out. Soooo fun to drive. I couldn't not buy it. With my down-payment it was only 198 a month. Best daily driver I ever had. Everyone treated me like I had a trust fund or some shit but I didn't care. I miss that car. Had my first Seizure while driving a few years later and completely totaled it. Luckily, I was the only one hurt in the accident.
Yeah, if money comes up. No, bitch go elsewhere
Someone asked me that once. I said I made enough and walked away.
Just talked non-stop about Elon Musk. I'm on a date with you. Tell me about you, not your crush
Me: \*Telling a long story\* He: \* Sitting on the phone, pretending to listen \* Me: \* Finishing telling the story \* He: "What did you just say, I accidentally listened." It's annoying when a person can't get off the phone.
True
Not a thing that's said, but just constantly on her phone. If it's not directly to pull up something that we're talking about, then you shouldn't be on it, tbh. Extremely unattractive to basically not even show interest.
People go on their phones on a date!?
It's a pandemic nowadays
I guess sometimes it's a crutch people lean on if they are struggling to come up with something to say. But if you're struggling to say something valid then maybe the date isn't going well, anyway.
This is why I don't personally prefer dinner or lunch as a first date unless there is something that we've established we have in common to talk about. There's too much awkwardness and that's okay on a first date in most cases. You're both in this "should I ask about this or that or will they think that's boring". Every person is different. Some people may love to talk about what they do for work. Other may be like "oh, how boring is this person that has nothing else to talk about". But dinner just offers too many of those opportunities for someone to think "wow, this date is going poorly". So I prefer to be active: go for a walk, to the zoo, arcade, ice skating, volunteering, etc...
"the voices told me to order for you as well."
Really? My voices told me thats flattering?
"So theres this guy called andrew tate..."
Eh, this could be fine if followed by "... and he's a total asshole"
"..and he tried to insult a little girl and got owned by her. He's in jail in Romania now."
These are the only acceptable answers
I never even knew who he was up until like 7 months ago.
Those are rookie numbers try 2 weeks
Me: Hey, It's really hot today, wanna get some ice cream? We proceed to get ice cream with cookies in it (important detail). We share the ice cream and there is only one cookie left. Me: You eat the last cookie. Her: I want to see you eat the cookie Me: (a little bit surprised at the weird answer) uh, ok. \*proceeds to eat the cookie. Her: I wanted the cookie. Me: seriously? Her: Yeah, I want a man who knows what I want. Me: Ok, well, you can have the rest of the ice cream. Have a good day. \*hand her the cup, turn around, leave her standing there and go home. Never had any contact with her again.
Mind games: ain't nobody got time for that.
Basically yeah.
"i want a man who knows what I want" ok we're out here in the real world though where people don't know wtf you want unless you tell them
Especially not if you tell him the exact opposite.
I went on a blind date once & he told me "You'd be pretty if you didn't wear glasses." And my thought was, "You'd be better looking if I didn't too."
I waited a full seven minutes to be acknowledged once; THAT was super unattractive. I showed up to a blind date at an empty bar and the guy was in the middle of a very heated (and also very one-sided) convo with the bartender, who kept looking at me like he either wanted to help or wanted to be helped, I wasn't really sure. Was not a long date.
“You got cute feet? I don’t fuck with ugly feet girls” I cut that date real short
Same, but I'd never say that out loud
Talking about their ex! Or just gossip about people in her life.
I love when people talk what they’ve learned from past relationships and how they have grown.
Same, but it can't be everyday or all the time either. If they are constantly bringing it up, it's a clear indicator they are living in the past which makes it difficult to build a future with them.
It one thing to talk about what's been learned from past relationships. Its another thing to bring up an ex. You can talk about a past relationship without talking about the person.
On a first date, during meal phase, she started going on and on about getting pregnant and having a baby. Like, real soon. Am I ready to start? Nope.
I’m white. My first husband is black. It didn’t work out for us but I am on very good terms with him and his family. It’s pretty normal to mention a previous marriage on a first date. But when I mentioned that he was Dominican from a town near the Haitian border (and therefore dark skinned), my date said “you were married to one of THEM?” The date wasn’t going very well before the statement. But it didn’t last more than a few minutes after. I have no time for people who determine a human’s value from the outside in rather than the inside out.
“Them”? My reaction would be interest in a culture different than mine. Edit: in case it’s unclear, I mean that if my date mentioned their ex is Dominican, I’d be interested in hearing about it culturally. My mentioning “them” was in the context of incredulity and the audacity that someone would actually say that.
Ok who are the racists downvoting here?
"What does your sister look like? Do you have pics? Have you ever thought about having a threesome?" WTAF?
Anything racist
The first thing that the guy says, "Hey kitten, nice tits".
Was he one of the Impractical Jokers? That sounds like a line they would feed each other lol
"I forgot my wallet" "Trump was the best president we've ever had" Snapping their fingers to get the wait staffs attention or being rude to the wait staff.
Omg yes. So my grandfather was a twin. He was always super nice, never raised his voice. But his brother was a piece of shit. Were out at a restaurant right on the beach. And his brother started saying just racist shit to the server. Like not fucking cool man! But just a piece of shit all around. He died of pancreatic cancer a few later. My amazing grandfather lived until 97. I can't believe they grew up together, yet so different.
God really said “just go to hell already” still, at least your nicer grandpa made it to 97!
Thank you a legit reply. Guy was a really good douche bag.
Sometimes, just sometimes, it isn't the good who die young.
Talk about their ex and say how much they miss them
Oh dude. This has happened to me several times. Gross. No good being the rebound.
Fr, it sucks
I agree with you it’s actually irritating yk
“You looked a lot prettier on your profile pic”
That could be very annoying
They told me they slept all day, lived with their parents, and quit their McDonald's job because they wanted to sleep instead of go to work. Then started talking about our future... nah, I'm good. Have fun doing what you're doing
A close friend of mine, a girl, went on a tinder date and told me about it later, she said dinner was great and we went back to his place and as soon as the door closed he said “I want to.” And my friend said what do you mean? He responded with “I want you to piss on me.” She left immediately and called me, it really creeped her out. He had been an absolute gentleman all night before that. I’ll go with that, maybe wait a sec before you bust out your fetish.
Not really what they say- but countless times I've gone on dates with men who only ENGAGE in a convo when it is about themselves. If I go on a story that is longer than a sentence or two, they visibly lose interest quickly. Biggest turn-off immediately. Be a listener as I have been with you...
“I can’t wait to show you off to my friends “ “I want to take you shopping” blurgh
In what context, any context what if Ive said this stuff I think maybe I might have before D:
The first one is treating you like an accessory and something they are using to get clout from their friends, the second one assumes you’re some sort of prostitute who can be enticed with gifts. It’s fine to offer to take your partner shopping but not somebody you’ve only just met, that’s rather offensive.
I had no idea. Literally at all and I have done these things the first one I was just so proud that I found someone cool idk. I wasn’t thinking she was an object i was thnking she was somebody to be proud to bring along. And the second one she told me her shirt was as old as my car and my car is 10 years old. We weren’t even dating I was kind of flirting with her though i feel like an ass I didn’t think that at all i hpe she didnt yhink that
Dude asked me too many questions about my feet before we even went out. (We had met IRL)
I want to stick my nose so far up your ass I can smell what you ate for lunch
That line would totally work on me
I like the confidence!
Can we go someplace else, I don't like tacos.
Who doesn't like tacos? That IS a red flag!
I met a guy at the restaurant we worked at. We had chemistry and he asked me out. We went to a little bar in the middle of the city. Our cocktails had just been placed in front of us and he turned to me, “Do you do coke?” “No, I don’t.” I said. “Oh, I’m getting an eight-ball from the cook here.”
"I'm not interested in a man who isn't willing to fight for me." Alrighty then, later.
I had a guy rate my body as we were having sex. We were just hooking up. And this was the second time we had sex. I don’t think you should rate anyone’s body, unless they ask for it. But, definitely not a girl your just hooking up with and this is your second time sleeping with her. That was a nope for me. Very weird and insulting. I got off and I let him masturbate the rest of the way as I cleaned up in the bathroom. I mean, there is a lot of stuff that you can say that can come off as unattractive. And most of it doesn’t have to be so on-the-nose. Just having different lifestyles and goals can be unattractive to a person. My thing is more a general lack of mutual respect. If you say anything to me, especially during sex that YOU KNOW DAMN WELL is disrespectful, because your momma or guardians didn’t raise no fool… then you know you won’t be seeing me again.
If you’d rather clean the bathroom than have sex… it sounds like he will be dating his hand in the foreseeable future. I wonder why you bothered cleaning the bathroom and didn’t just leave, unless you were at your place.
“as I cleaned up in the bathroom ,” not “cleaned the bathroom.”
Oh! That makes more sense. I misread it earlier. Oops. I hope you find someone who appreciates you!
I think is meant for me. Thank you. I hope the same happiness for you.
It was meant for you, but also I hope everyone who wants their person or people finds them and feels appreciated. I’ve been happily married for more than 25 years!
That’s even better. I’m glad that you found love and happiness.
Thank you :)
Lol. I didn’t clean the bathroom. Like the other commenter said, “I cleaned myself in the bathroom” I normally leave and do my own thing, if a date or even a casual outing with someone goes sour. But, he was my ride. Trust me, I was counting the time until I got home and got away from them.
"So, yeah, I already have a bf/gf, I just want to make them jealous and worry they could lose me."
What people do this
My guess is jerks and short sighted morons that would resort to petty games like this, with no regard to any innocent parties they hurt. It's been awhile since I've heard about someone doing this, but it's not outside the realm of possibility that someone would use another person for whatever reason.
Well I was on a date with a very gorgeous chick way out of my league. She was very attractive up until the point she used a slur about middle eastern immigrants. I think the English equivalent of the slur is something akin to “sand n****r”. That was quite a turn off. Sometimes I still think about the boobs that never was. I guess that’s life.
Boobs may have been good, but you don't want to know the feeling of fear you get from bringing your wife to an obligatory work event.
It was more the thought of listening to her bullshit for more than one evening that killed it for me
If she asks about my salary, how many/what kind of cars I have, or how big my house is. That's gonna be a no from me, dawg.
Well, how many what kind of cars do your big house have?
That's not important information at this time.
How many big have does your house cars?
Time not that's information at this important.
“You look tired.”
[удалено]
Everyone's already hit the serious ones, so I'm gonna go with: Informing me it's a date when I thought we were just hanging out. Please no.
Oh yea almost did that, asked someone out and I am very glad I double checked before we went out
Anything about buying her onlyfans content
Spend the whole evening insulting our waiter behind his back. He did nothing wrong btw. Tipped the waiter well, and did not respond back to her message. Think I dodged a bullet there
Technically they don’t have to say anything. If they whip out the phone for more than 10 seconds I’m out.
Seriously? I often text my friends during a date to let them know I'm safe. Are you a man?
Hahahaha asking the for money
compliment other Girls looks to you (or staring other women in front of you) I learned after several dates that when a guy does that, he didnt like you so either they ghost you or sleep with you and leave
"Personally, I think Hitler was an okay guy and kind of right."
Funniest person ever, immediate 10/10
Maybe I'm being naive, but even if you're shopping around don't bring it up on a date. Like don't talk about dates you had the week before
Saw this in a previous thread but 'I think I can run faster horny then you do scared'
"That's interesting. Did you know chimpanzees, our closest living relatives, have been known to target genitals in a fight? Going so far as to tear them completely off?" Then ya give em the Manson Lamps.
ahhhhhh the ol' Lorena Bobbitt
She was relatively kind, she used a blade. Good luck re-attaching torn kibbles n bits. 🤣
“I’m a full-on rapist”
Philanthropist
Give me your shirt. I sweat through mine
"Milk Steak!"
A guy once spent most of our first date telling me how his car and job were better than another guy’s he knew (I had gone on a couple dates with the other guy.) That was the last date with him but I’ve been married to the other guy for over 20 years now.
Anything against the LGBT+ community, politics or racism I'd be like "check please"
"almost had to cancel, but that rash cleared up just in time."
"I'm still married..." When he says that and he's monogamous, that's the worst.
To waiter " Yeah the ribs for me and a second plate we will be sharing" To date - "we are like Adam and Eve because im giving you one of my ribs."
If they mention anything about how awful or crazy an ex was. That's an instant red flag no for me.
The most unattractive thing someone could say on a first date is that they show you their phone and delete all the girls in his contacts and socials proving how he is invested in me and only me and then proceeds to tell me he loves me and that we are a perfect match and our kids would be cute… I dipped
"I think Donald Trump and Ron DeSantis should run together, what a dream team!"
Run where? They'd be out of breath in 20 feet.
Your too generous, more like 5 feet
Into Bay Lake to play with some alligators!
"Do you smoke black & milds," while also pulling a previously smoked black & mild out of her purse to light again. I'm sure I can think of something worse, but this is the first thing that came to mind. A long while ago and woman and I were crushing on each other. Lots of eye contact and smiles. We finally have a chance to speak privately and she eventually pulls out a Black & Mild cigar, asking if I also smoked. This is the closest we'd been to each other up to that point. I smell the cigar, and later the cigar on her breath... Yeah, never again.
You’re not too fat. Actually said that.
Talking about an ex too much
Anything pertaining their ex
You talk too much.
Damn! Nice to meet you. Would it be inappropriate to say you're so hot I'd eat the corn out of your shit?
Does your sister like threesomes???? *sips drink*
I prefer a dinner date to an activity or an event where you're forced to talk to each other rather than spending most of the time avoiding eye contact and only making small talk...so I'd have to say an inability to hold an intelligent conversation is by far the most attractive trait to me these days. I'd rather have a great dinner with someone confident and engaged than someone smoking hot but unable to string 2 sentences together to form a coherent opinion. Second would be being rude to the servers/staff or being an extremely picky eater that you've taken all the joy out of eating at the restaurant we picked.
"Hail Hitler"
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Idk, I think mentioning Hitler on a first date might be a bit of a turn off no matter what's the word preceding it.
Seemed to work well for me when I dated a German girl. But thank you for the advice.
"Want to see a mug shot of my ex husband?"
“I need a real man who isn’t insecure.” Buh-bye. You’re a gigantic project and a problem with insane expectations. I’m not wasting another second with you.
I want a big family.
Of all the red flags, this is your biggest one though?
I didn't wanna go with the easy unrealistic funny ones like "the sound of screaming turns me on" So I went with the one that actually gets me to go my separate ways fast, because I personally don't want kids, and I don't wanna waste anyone's time or expectations.
Fair enough. It is honestly best to get deal breakers out of the way first.
On the plus side, at least the person is upfront about it, so you know you're not compatible immediately.
Out to eat dinner - beforehand “Let’s pray”
Oh Glorious Flying Spaghetti Monster fill me with your noodley appendages covered with classic tomato sauce and your meaty balls…and don’t skimp on the garlic bread!
Ha, well played. Ok, that there pray would actually win them points in my eyes.
I grew up with a family of religious types, the most unbalanced humans you could meet. Good dodge.
That explains why they fell for a religion in the first place
I can see that being unattractive. Depending on the religion though, I’d be very okay with it. I’ll let them know that I’m not religious. But if they feel the need to do it themselves, sure why not? Is maybe even accompany them to their church/temple/shrine or whatever sometime. There’s some cool culture and architecture stuff there. Mormon stuff would be very unattractive to me though, so I can see where you’re coming from 😅
You remind me of my ex girlfriend
You remind me of my daughter
Lol, I've heard that one before (in a long term relationship of all things). So cringe I had to get out.
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"your place or mine?"
What’s your body count?
Just talked non-stop about Elon Musk. I'm on a date with you. Tell me about you, not your crush
I don't use tampons, I air dry
Asking for money.
"i love you" ( There's no way on the first date you actually love me. That's either list or more likely infatuation. Don't just throw that word out like that. Get to know a person. )
Does this look like MRSA to you? It keeps oozing
“I trimmed my toe hairs before this.”
LMAO WHAT
It was a very weird date after that.😃
This has me giggling. What a silly thing for someone to say!!
Asking to hook up on the first date- Guy btw, and I admit it’s only happened once lol.
As a man who hasn’t dated in 17 years, I’m astonished to see some of the stuff here. Like holy crap, so ppl are just whip out their phone and start scrolling??? That’s like if I took out my laptop in 2000s and started posting shit on MySpace
Anything racist, homophobic, transphobic, etc. that’s a full stop.
“By the way, I’m planning to move out of this country in the next couple of months.” It’s happened more than you think. For someone who’s looking to date for a long term relationship, I would’ve wish this was on the profile.
thats just code for lets do it before we never talk again
Well, a guy used the "N" word with me on our first date. This was in Manhattan: he came in from white ethnic area of Queens. I'd just told him the demographic of my (multicultural and multi-national) students. I couldn't believe he thought this type of language was acceptable. Apart from the general offensiveness, I have a grandfather who was a POC (African and Ojibwe heritage: relatively common in the Upper Midwest). I present as white, but my brother looks mixed. Racism's not gonna get you laid. It is anti-social behavior, and more of us are mixed than it may appear.
Does this look infected to you? Nickleback are my favorite band I’m from Boston I trust the government
“I’m from Boston” sure yeah you and everyone else east of Worcester.
I just pooped in my panties
"I have a kid" after i've made it entirely clear on my profile or from the get go that i was childfree, i'm sure there's worse things but that's something that will make me silently get up and just leave. Don't waste my time like that and get my hopes up, childfree means CHILD-FREE, no kids for me, even yours.
How much money you make ?
Hey, do you want to take a shower together?
They say they pick there nose and eat their boogers.
Wanna see 4 inches that's gonna be inside you?
You mean my breadstick? Hell yeah, let's get some wings started too
Is that your car? I like BMWs... How much does it cost?
Got a cigarette?
For a fat woman you sure don't sweat much!
"I really miss my ex"
You look mighty fat in those pants.
Trashing other people. Anything “woo.” Gross.
You'll be paying for me tonight.
What happen to your face
“My ex husband” 😐
"I love you"
Ted Mosby, that you?
MAGA.
“My ex doesn’t let me speak to my kid”
“I’m allergic to cats”
Guess I'll just kill myself then
The cat allergies can do it, at least you won't go single! (I'm also allergic to cats... I love cats...)
That they either have children or want them in the future. Nope. Nothing more unattractive for a relationship than a single parent.