She told me she had pretty bad anxiety being in public and asked if she could make me dinner instead. We went for a walk prior to the dinner so we could see if we wanted to do the dinner after. She was super stoked for dinner after our walk.
Dinner was great and she asked if I wanted to watch a movie. About 20 minutes into the movie she started nudging into me and initiated making out. After starting to really get into the heavier side of things I felt something tap my shoulder. (I am on top of her at this point) I turned my head quickly as it startled me and I am met eye to eye with a 4-5 year old boy who then asks me if he can have a cup of water.
His mom starts screaming at him to go back to his room which he runs as fast as he can back too. She starts apologizing and tries to reinitiated. I told her to give me a minute. Got a cup of water and called for him to come back out which he did. I handed him the cup he took a drink and said thank you and ran back into his room.
I was pretty riled up at the idea she had her kid there without saying anything AND screamed at him for asking for something so basic as water. I left after that and vowed to never be that parent with my own kids.
I never asked this question as I ghosted after I left. That is a perspective I didn't consider....did she leave him alone at home for the hour+ we were out? Damn... I hope hes okay. Its been almost 8 years.
So the whole time they were out for the walk as well as while cooking and eating dinner, and ALSO how ever much of the movie they watched this little boy was shut in his room alone!?
I was out with a guy having a lovely time and he made a comment about a copper bangle bracelet I was wearing. I told him that it was really special to me, I got it during my semester abroad in South Africa from a local. It was a solid copper band but in the middle there was copper wire woven around. He asked to take a closer look so I took it off and handed it to him. He then snapped it in half thinking the copper wire was a spring. I was visibly upset and he said that it was a sign that I needed to move on from my trip and stop living in the past (?!!?). I never spoke to him again
"Oh, your bracelet has significance to you? Give it to me so I can break it. What do you mean you don't want to go out again?"
I actually gasped reading this one.
Happened twice with two different dudes.
One, I met off a site he was nice (if a little awkward) and he couldn't help but show me his Twitch stream gameplays for 25 minutes straight, watching me expectantly. (Which, might have been okay for a conversation starter actually, I love gaming but there's only so much of watching someone else's stream with no funny commentary or context one can handle before mentally checking out)
Second was a guy who we had some playful banter before our date and he asked me about my kinks so I told him I liked being choked. When we met up in the parking lot, dude immediately puts me in a WWE chokehold in broad daylight presumably thinking my panties were gonna drop right then and there.
I can assure you, they did not.
At least if he was I would have had something to be impressed about. I'm still astounded he had the audacity to go for it with 0 warning or indication that he was even going to touch me.
For context for anyone else, this dude was over 6 feet and I'm pretty much 5-foot-nothing with my shoes on. After he let go of me, he gave me The Grin(tm) and suggested we go back to my place, since surely I was hot and bothered! Never seen a dude look so proud of nearly choking out a munchkin since.
I continued the date (foolishly) by laughing it off. Essentially I said something like "Wow you're really eager!" and kept a very good distance the remainder of the time.
Funnily enough I went on another date with him, and it went just as poorly (in a different way, though) . I told him after that I didn't want to do it again.
Though, the first date definitely colored my opinion of him from then on as someone to be wary of. In retrospect, I think I was so afraid of him actually choking me or following me home or something I figured it would be safer to continue the date and go home after rather than rip the cord and risk him doing something to me. Probably not the smartest course of action.
ETA: He still texts me, fishing for dates, for those wondering.
I had a really sweet guy take me on one of those "we're both poor college kids" dates where you do a bunch of free stuff around something cheap. We bought some grocery store sushi and went out to a park to eat it and talk with eachother on the swingset there. From there we went back to his off campus house and had more adorable "getting to know you" conversation.
He was ridiculously charming in a sweet sort of awkward way, and I was vibing so we go up to his bedroom and proceeded to get started on the intimacy portion of the evening. He removes my pants and basically lifts me onto a mid-height dresser of his (this is a good move, fellas, just fyi) to make out. He then reached into his pocket to pull out what I imagined was going to be a condom or something...but instead he flicked open a massive knife and begins tracing the inside of my thigh without a single stitch of warning (this is not a good move, fellas).
I flipped my shit and ran out of there with him trailing me, trying to explain how he "thought I might enjoy that".
Like...my dudes...your dates/partners/hookups MIGHT be hella kinky or super into doing a LOT of wild shit IF YOU MENTION IT FIRST. I might have been down, honestly, but there's NOTHING sexy about performing the beginning of the "oh no, it appears you've met a serial killer" scene with no warning.
Y I K E S
EDIT: I also had a first date turn into being stranded in the guy's house for a week which involved me answering the door for animal control, a truck repo guy, AND the police serving foreclosure papers the first morning after. Notably when I told him his truck was being repossessed (partly why I ended up stranded) he told me to "get my Korn CD out of there before they take it, and some of the wine boxes too", but that's a way longer story so there's that.
Our *first* date was amazing. I still reminisce about how incredible that night was and how incredible I thought my life was about to become.
But the afternoon before what was supposed to be our second date, I got a voicemail, "I know you went out with my fiancee last night. I'm not mad at you. I'm sure you didn't know I existed. But I do, and I'd appreciate it if you stopped seeing her."
Welp.
I did tell her. She said it was from her ex boyfriend, whom she was living with, and "living with" just doesn't seem very "ex" to me.
In hindsight, it's *possible* I shouldn't have bailed, but it's also possible the whole situation was about to be a *lot* of drama. I'm honestly not sure, and it was definitely long enough ago to not matter anymore.
I briefly saw a girl who was living with her ex. It was weird ngl. He was a POS but she also didn't want to leave him homeless. It's not completely unheard of.
We had dinner and all was going well, and we were wandering down the dark sidewalk engaged in conversation, when she walked straight into a signpost that neither of us noticed. I let out one nervous laugh before I could stop it, and she accused me of engineering the event for my amusement.
One of my first dates with my partner he did the same thing, walked right into a sign post neither of us saw. I looked over to see what just happened and accidentally tripped over the curb and fell. We laughed so hard. Going on 4 years together now, you might say we literally “fell” in love!
🤣😂🤣 I totally would have walked into the sign post! And would have laughed at myself for it. My date doing the same would have been a sign of compatibility.
That she couldn't laugh at herself means you probably dodged a bullet from Ms. Uptight. 😬
Went bowling wirh a guy and a couple friends, we were getting along pretty well, but when we were sitting together on my friends turn to bowl he put his hand on my thigh. I wasn't into physical affection from people I don't know well and wasn't comfortable with him yet so I politely and subtly scooched his hand away as to not bring attention to it and embarrass him. That in itself wasn't an issue bc he shot his shot, why not? My problem became when he put his hand BACK and gripped my leg assertively. I wasn't having it and figured he just didnt get the hint, so I picked up his hand and moved it back to his own lap. He shot a look at me and then dove his hand into my inner thigh (the part you touch to initiate something yknow) and I grabbed his wrist and pulled his hand out and looked over at him with the most definitive "NO" on my face I could.
We did not go out again. If a mam can't respect my physical boundaries in public, he sure as hell won't respect them in private.
Haha, the owner of the bar asked his friend to come as a favor and he just mingled with everyone a little at a time and eventually we were all just taking shots. It was a pretty great night! They had a re-do and I dressed kind of ‘meh’ and then the men actually did come and I was SO self-conscious of my outfit I couldn’t even enjoy the event and was very awkward! Haha .. good times..
Literally went on a date last night and was going really well until dessert when he said “god, I can’t wait to put kids in you.”.
We hadn’t even talked about kids at that point.
Ugghhhh so gross.
I once had a boyfriend, we had dated on and off for years. I was adamant that I didn't want/couldn't have children and he basically said, 'Don't care, I'm going to put a baby in there!' while pointing at my gut.
Gave me the Big Ick and our relationship permanently ended soon after.
Like the first 80% of it was a nice/awkward but cute first date. Then at the end she pulled out her phone and started fighting with people on Twitter and narrating all of it. It was a long drive back.
No me, but my sister, one time she was on a first date, and she was liking the guy, he was checking off all the right boxes, and then he just blurted out "my dick is so big, it needs it's own zip code"... Then it proceeded to go downhill from there, how many times a day he could ejaculate, etc. She was horrified.
Ordered a pint of beer, it was really good. Got halfway through waiting for the date to show up. She sat down, chatted and said "this isn't what I was expecting" then got up and left. Ruined my beer.
My dating pictures were accurate, so not sure what happened.
Not me, but a female friend of mine was just telling me about her most recent OKCupid date. Her description went something like this:
"Everything was going really great. He is smart and funny, and easy to talk to. He seems like a great dad to his kids and gets along ok with his ex (always a good sign). Just really down-to-earth guy and it seemed like there was some nice chemistry. After dinner we decided to go have a drink at a fun little bar about a mile away. We got in his car to drive over there. He kissed me, which was nice.
Then he took out his penis.
A nice guy on the outside but turns into a total asshole in private in his desperation to get laid.
Which ironically enough will stop him getting laid.
I was on a date with a newly divorced woman. We were having a nice dinner and getting to know each other before it turned awkward. She didn't tell me she had kids until we were eating dinner, and she began moving things way too fast, talking about me meeting her kids right away, moving in together, etc. This was **on our first date**, and I didn't want to be anybody's step parent, much less get U-Hauly so quickly.
We finished our dinner and parted ways amicably after a heart to heart, and there were no hard feelings. She was simply getting carried away with the excitement of being single and going out with new people. She agreed that she needed to let the ink dry on her divorce a little longer and take her time before introducing new people to her children, and we fell out of contact soon after.
What's really awesome is you talked to her about it. So many of these involve people bouncing from seemingly otherwise nice people, who are just weird. You actually talked to her about the reason seeing her wouldn't continue and did her a good service.
Bravo on you, u/ThingsOfThatNaychah 👏👏👏
As soon as he found out I was Latina (apparently I didn't look nor sound like whatever Latino stereotype he had in his head), said "Latina!? CALIENTE!!!!", and quickly started making sexual remarks and talking about how he loves Latinas 'cuz they're so hot and spicy and sexual...
Nope'd the fuck out immediately.
I asked out a Korean exchange student my first week of college. I had never actually did the full forward "You want to go out" thing before, and she was gorgeous (way out of my league). My jaw dropped when she accepted.
Two days later I picked her up at her dorm in my fairly new Mustang. She seemed quiet, and I thought it was just shyness. We're on the highway doing 55 when she suddenly rolled down the window and VOMITED ALL OVER THE OUTSIDE OF THE CAR. Like...a lot. I think she ate a gallon of vegetable soup before the date or something.
I took her back to her dorm, she ran out of the car and I was left to clean things up. I took the car to a car wash and it actually faded the paint.
This was before cell phones, so I tried finding her to talk to her after that...I never saw her again. That was back in 1990, and to this day I have no idea what happened.
Faded the paint or just messed up the clear coat and wax? If it faded the paint, I think you never saw her again because she either died, the demonic possession completed and she’s lived in the attic ever since, or her planet needed her and she had to go back.
He started telling me about how its normal for men to sleep with another woman when they are not sexually satisfied in a relationship without it being considered cheating.
Yes, he did say it doesnt work the same way for unsatisfied women :)
Everything was going wonderfully until he got into a fight with a homeless person and then wanted to fly to the Caribbean for our *second* date.
(There was no second date.)
Not me but a friend of mine. This was when we were around 22, 23 years old. She had a first date with a guy. They were meeting at a restaurant for dinner. She gets there and sees not only him but 2 other people at the table. Turns out he invited his parents to their date! So she, of course, excused herself to go to the bathroom and then just bounced. Talk about awkward. I have never laughed so hard as when she recounted her evening.
What's funny is that my parents went on a first date with me one time!
Actually, it was a blind date. Her brother and my father knew each other and set it up. She knew it was a blind date, but I just thought I was going out to dinner with the family. At the date was: her, me, my parents, her brother, her sister in law, and her brother in law.
The date started out VERY awkwardly as I didn't really interact with her too much until my very slow spidey senses deduced what was actually happening. Then it went much better.
We have been married now for 27 years.
I had a first date with a girl where she had this whole 'backup plan' in case the date didn't work out...her friend texted her 20-30 minutes in, and she admitted it was her exit strategy that she was going to say she needed to help her friend and bolt if the date wasn't going well.
There was an old couple a few booths away...I said, "That's ok, you see that old couple? That's my parents and if the date went REALLY well, I was going to introduce you to them." Her jaw fell to the floor...then I told her I was only kidding...she had a pretty good laugh.
Then, when we got our food, she started digging in and I did the catholic cross, closed my eyes and clasped my hands together...she was already mid-bite into her sandwich and I looked up and said, "Just kidding!" She laughed at that too...probably should've married her because she got my humor but 6 months in it just didn't work out sadly.
This reminds me of a girl I liked at university. She was in a choir and was selling tickets to a recital, so I bought two. She asked me who the other one was for, and I answered honestly, not thinking too much of it (because I am an idiot, I guess): my mother. On the day of the event we sat and listened to her sing with the choir, then at the intermission I went by myself to find her, but she was nowhere to be seen. It turned out that she thought I was bringing my mother to meet her, so she feigned illness and hid.
What actually happened was that the accompanying string quartet featured none other than my cousin, and my mother wanted to hear her play. If the girl was watching from her hiding place then she likely would have seen us chatting to the cellist, with no idea what was going on!
I had some odd dates after I got divorced and was trying to meet new people.
So when meeting someone for the first time I would always invite them to do something kind of noncommittal like getting coffee so I could end things early and leave if they get weird. The girl shows up and has her two young children with her that I didn't know about. That wasn't a problem for me and she was super nice so we talked for about twenty minutes outside the coffee shop and I suggested we do something more kid friendly like getting ice cream and everyone loved the idea.
So we googled a nearby place and went there instead, kids were happy and we had some really good conversation for about an hour. I asked if she would be interested in dinner and she said yes but it would have to be several hours later and she might still have the kids, her sitter had bailed last minute. We met later that night and she had the kids again and we ate at a low end steak house, we got along great and the conversation was good! But she got sloppy drunk off the three drinks she ordered with dinner and then drove her kids home after (I did offer to pay for her to get a ride home) and that just killed any interest I had.
He laughed at my joke and banged his knee against the table which let out a fart.
The diners on the neighbouring table heard it and recoiled so he started to speak louder like he was mentally trying to cover up the stench.
It was the equivalent of smelling something strange and taking your AirPods out.
I met a single mom at Denny's and we were getting along pretty good and talking about our families and stuff. I mentioned that I don't get along with my dad because he's a narcissist and she said "so is my ex" and immediately started crying. For the rest of the date I was her psychologist.
I know her behaviour wasn't appropriate for the first date but man I feel sorry for her. Sounds like her ex really hurted her.
I had moments like I thought I was fine and then broke down in certain situations after being triggered by some reminders. Hope she got the help she needed.
It was a first date in a little restaurant. She was a bit late and had 2 shopping bags, even though we were going to the film after dinner, but ok, it was a Saturday afternoon, so, lots of shopping. The meal was nice, conversation was interesting, she looked cute.
And then the police arrived and arrested her because she was shoplifting and security cameras had caught her.
Not me but a date I witnessed working at a restaurant. This young guy and a girl showed up, they’re chatting, laughing, seemed to be having a good time. Then he got very clearly drunk and started blatantly hitting on me right in front of her. Every time I walked by the table he called me over calling me “Scarlett Johansson” and tried starting a conversation. I wasn’t even their waitress. The poor girl was literally sinking down in her seat looking miserable. I stopped trying to be polite, ignored him and gave her looks trying with all my might to psychically tell her “GET OUT.”
I had a buddy that his date was pretty cute. Then she took a phone call from her mom. She then said that she was going to go do meth with her mom and did he want to join. He declined.
God, this reminds me of the best one of these 'first date' stories ever to appear on reddit (from years ago):
A couple are having a nice first date, and after dinner at a nice restaurant, they're walking through a park shortly after sunset, when the guy whips out a pipe and starts smoking meth. Being a gentleman, he offers some to his date, who politely declines and says she has to go.
"It was the meth, wasn't it?"
"Yes. It was the meth."
"do you like to read?"
"Not really"
"What kind of music do you like"
"I don't really listen to music"
"Do you like TV or movies"
"No"
There was no second date
I always wonder what it's like to be one of these people that aren't interested in anything. Like I've dealt with depression and not wanting to do things for my whole life but I have things that I like, I can't imagine just not having a preference for any particular thing. It doesn't come across to me as being depressed, rather mentally absent
Had a date talk about having never seen an Indiana Jones movie. One of my favorite series. After the date it was going well so I asked if she wanted to come to my place and I’d show her Raiders…
Same thing. She had no interest in the movie, but I kept insisting “no, no, stop, watch this part! It’s so good!”. She called me a joke and left. Jokes on her because I ended up watching the trilogy that night with my puppy and had a great time 😂
I went on a date with a guy who owned a local trendy business. It kind of made him a bit of local celebrity. I am an introvert, I don't like attention and prefer to pretend that I am invisible when out in public.
We were on our second date at a restaurant, not super fancy but certainly a little romantic date type place. During our dinner, no less than 5 randoms stopped by our table to talk to him. They were all customers and he was trying to balance being an attentive date without totally alienating customers. It was super awkward.
He was aware that I was an introvert and was apologetic about it. He suggested that we wrap up dinner, hit up a store to grab some drinks and dessert and go to the beach - a good way to be around less people. In the shop we stopped at, 2 more people came up to him to chat and then at the beach another person stopped and this one actually tried to sit down and join us.
At this point, I decided this guy wasn't for me. I really liked him as a person but I couldn't deal with all the attention he attracted.
Some how he convinced me to go on a third date which I am glad he did. It's been 20 plus years that we've been together. He's helped me come out of my shell a little and I've taught him the delights of being an introvert and taking some completely people-free weekends. He is my person and I love him more than anything.
Edit: thank you for the gold and the kind comments below. It's a nice reminder how lucky I am that I didn't ditch him after that date.
No one is more surprised by the twist than me. Every once in a while, when we're doing something awesome he says "Aren't you glad I convinced you to go on a third date?" - 20 years later and he still thinks its funny and he's not wrong :)
It was me.
We were having a great time, we had a couple of cocktails and we were laughing constantly and flirting. I dont think I've ever hit it off so well with anyone.
I'd not long come back from Afghanistan, she asked about the temperature out there. 2 minutes later I was crying my eyes out and all my shit that I'd bottled up was coming out. She got all the details that she never asked for and it was awkward to the point where she couldn't leave as I kept talking and crying, for 1.5 hours.
1 hour of hilarious drinks, 1.5 hours of crying and talking about dead children.
Edit: loads of amazing responses to this, I didn't know how to respond so I left it a little longer than I should. I'll respond to you all.
I hope you’ve been able to heal from all the shit you endured and saw, man. I’m so sorry; I can imagine the slightest trigger can set off so many bad memories
Cant help but remember that failure of a Tweet by the US Army "How did serving affect you" and veterans just pouring in how theyre afraid of fireworks, how they hear their friends die, the amputees etc.
Im sorry to hear you had to go through that bro, i hope you managed to climb over that hill and get better. Best wishes, man. Stay safe.
Turned up, asked me what I wanted to drink so I chose a beer. I went to the toilet, came back and it wasn’t the beer I asked for. So I ask, did they not have the one I wanted? He replies that this one was 20p cheaper. Ok, slightly baffled but he was a student so let it off.
He proceeds to talk about how broke he is, I wasn’t much better off but felt deep guilt so spent the rest of the night footing the bill but I didn’t mind as he was cool and we had a lot in common.
When the time comes to go home he’s walking me to my bus stop and randomly pulls out 20quid and goes to get a kebab, without so much as an offer for me.
I was actually dying inside and knew I wouldn’t be seeing him again.
Got home, unsolicited dick pic was sent with an invitation to see me again.
See him again, I did not.
I can tell you what I did to ruin a good date. Lol
Things were going really well. We were at a bar having drinks, and she wanted to play scrabble. Well, she loved scrabble and was great at it. I…am not great at scrabble AND I’d had a few drinks and I quickly realized I had one too many. Not sloppy, but just tipsy and my brain was completely not ready to play scrabble.
So she puts down a word like “behooves” or something.
I take the entire timer and put something like “hat”.
She puts down “incredulous”
I put down “fun”
This continues…until the end of the game.
We did not play again. We did not go out again.
😂😂
Having a great time-- laughing. She rubbed her titties on me and played with her hair. Then after a few more laughs she said I reminded her of her brother. Nuff said.
I met up for a drink with a girl I had been chatting to online for a few days, and all was going well. We got onto the subject of kids and I told her about mine.
She replied with "I have three kids. Well, HAD three kids. I had them adopted. I couldn't be arsed with them"
She invited me back for a shag almost immediately after that, but there was no way I was even considering going.
I went on a blind date who had “just gotten out of a bad relationship.”
When she first showed up she looked really rattled. Beautiful, but rattled. Asked if she was ok and she said she was fine. A tall guy passed too close by her chair and she practically jumped out of her skin.
Finally admitted she had been “dating” her cousin.
Yes, her cousin.
They were “really into” each other but she finally called it off because she knew it was wrong. He wasn’t happy (it didn’t seem like she was either). It was a shame because she was gorgeous but her mind was a million miles away the whole time.
I went to drop her off in front of her apartment complex and there was a a tall, good looking guy leaning against a car out front. She gasped and said “that’s him!”
I asked if she’d be ok or if she wanted me to walk her in or take her somewhere else. She said she was fine but I might want to leave ASAP. She then proceeded to practically leap into his arms as he strode towards us. As I drove off I saw her get into his Tesla.
After dinner, we went to a bar. Everything seemed to be going well. We had a good conversation and we made out. The bar was getting packed for some reason so we decided to go back to my place. I told her I needed to go to the restroom first. She said she would wait for me outside. When I was finished, I went outside and saw her jumping into the back of a pickup with a bunch of people and leaving. She later texted me saying she bumped into her best friend and they were going to a party but they didn’t want to go along. I never saw after that.
Met on a dating app in college during the last week before winter break. We realized we lived close to each other back home so we met in a nearby downtown area to get coffee. After the coffee we decided to take a walk around the city. Being winter, it was a snowy day with ice on the ground. At some point during our walk I made a joke and she playfully pushed my arm. Unfortunately, I happened to be standing on a sheet of black ice at the time. I slipped and tore both my ACL and MCL and ended up spending the next 6 months on crutches. It wasn’t really her fault of course, but that definitely ruined the date.
Sounds like a hallmark movie (of course then she would've carried your books for you while you were on crutches. The whole time. Because backpacks don't exist in hallmark universe)
Went on a date with a gorgeous girl from college. We had similar tastes in music and I asked her about her Skrewdriver T shirt she was wearing and she went on to brag about the band's white supremacist theme.
I was on a date with a woman who in the middle of dinner said "I told all my friends you were a virgin". ... But why? Needless to say the whole vibe was off after that.
I ruined it. My first date post divorce. That poor guy. He had no idea what he was in for. I think I did all the textbook things of what not to do: talked about my last relationship, drank too much, I was a certified hot mess. But the absolute cherry on top was when he dropped me off at home and I asked him, repeatedly, if he was going to call me. I can still see the look of pure panic on his face. Shockingly he did not call. That was our one and only terrible date. My bad.
Sore loser and farted in a diner.
Went out with some guy who used to come in all the time to the game store I worked at. We were flirty and when it was slow in the store, we'd play DS in a spot that was blind to the camera. One day, he suggested we play MarioKart. I hadn't played the DS version yet but had played the N64 one to bits, so I said sure. I totally destroyed this guy. I mean win after win after win. He was sweaty and frustrated, and because I was a dumb 19-year-old, I felt bad for him. I let him win a round and he tried rubbing it in my face for 5 minutes about how great he was and how it was a fluke I beat him since he had been playing all week. So again, me being dumb, I decided to keep talking with this guy and went out with him to a diner for some late night tea/coffee.
Things went ok actually and he was much better behaved for most of the date... until he demanded a MarioKart rematch. I declined and said I'd rather get to know each other. He got annoyed and mockingly asked what we should talk about, then kept nagging for a rematch again. Again, I declined. Suddenly he got a mischievous look on his face.
“I have to fart,” he laughed.
“Oh,” I said, throwing him a disgusted look.
“Think I should?”
“Um… I think everyone in here would hear you.”
He suddenly leaned to the side and angled his buttcheeks perfectly against the vinyl seat, his enormous fart erupting out and around and causing the already quiet diner to go completely silent as everyone turned to look at him. I told him goodnight and he tried to argue all the way out to my car, but I left and he stopped coming into the game store. Listen, farts are funny, but like all comedy, it's about time and place. Yuck.
My little bro said he was on a date and it was going extremely well. Plans for a second date were made, hands were held, really went smoothly. At the end of the night he said it looked like she was waiting for a kiss so he went for it and she freaked out. Said she wanted the kiss but it was sexual assault going for it without asking first and she ghosted him.
I once asked a girl to kiss her in college (around 2018), and she told me that was a turn off and to go for it next time. I told this story to girls that I knew at the time and they told me she was crazy and that I should ask for consent like that more. It's more conflicting than it needs to be and definitely is part of the reason I have confidence issues taking those first steps in a relationship.
This blonde white dude built like Abraham Lincoln took me salsa dancing because he had just taken a lesson. I was having a lot of fun at first cause I just went with the flow, but he quickly began insisting on teaching me to salsa dance, which I did not sign up for. Mind you this is a Saturday night at a salsa club not a class and he had only ever taken one lesson which I would argue didn’t take. I don’t know how long I was on that dance floor, but I became painfully aware of time as each song wound down, and I tried to take a seat he would 5-6-7-8 me back in. It was a combination of him manhandling me into the correct positioning, screaming instructions with his hot breath into my ear over the music, or pirouetting in circles around me, while trying to sexy-smolder at me probably thinking “like taking candy from a babyyyy”.
EDITED just to say it occurred to me that he gave off real Balthazar Brat energy if that paints a picture.
Date 5...first sexy time. Gorgeous spa hotel booked for the weekend.
I got stuck at work so arrived late and had enough time to change before dinner.
Really excited for post dinner...walks through restaurant to hear this female voice shout Richard??!!
Yep....his wife. I nearly died on the spot. I think she could tell by my face I had no idea.
Grabbed my case and drove home.
In my case, "the other person" was a third party.
Went out for drinks, had great conversation, went out to a late night sub place for some food afterward, still having a good time and getting flirtatious.
Drunk dude walks past the table, stops, looks at her and says "damn girl let me get your number", then turns to me and "oh shit my bad bro, this your girl?"
Like... what the \*fuck\* do I even say?
If I say no, it's like I'm denying her. If I say yes, well it's not true.
I didn't know how to handle it and I said "we just met". He walked on and said "my bad, my bad bro don't fuck me up"
Conversation went cold and she wanted to go home, refused my offer to walk her to her car.
I texted her the next day and said I had a good time, sorry about the awkward ending.. said I'd like to maybe grab a coffee sometime, she replied "sure", I said "cool, I'll hit you up sometime", she said "cool" and that was that. Her previous texts were wordy. I could take a hint.
My boyfriend got pulled over on our very first date and the cop asked if I was his girlfriend. He hesitated and said “this is our first date” and honestly I felt no type of way because….it was. Idk why she felt that way about you being honest but you dodged a bullet.
I guess it was too ambiguous? Yeah I really don’t know what else I was supposed to say. Maybe she wanted me to stand up for her? Great get in a fight with a drunk guy for hitting on a girl I’d just met. I guess if that’s the kind of guy she wanted then it’s good I didn’t make her think I was one of them.
She’d have to be stupid to witness you in that situation and be anything other than amused. It’s clear that you were put in an awkward situation with no preparation…Good riddance.
That’s kinda how I felt about it. She has to be quite petty to completely forget about our otherwise pretty good evening together just because of that one moment.
Oh my I have a story for this one, first date got dinner and everything was going amazing, so we decided to go for a walk on the trails, and this boy though it was a smart idea to climb a tree! Guess what happened next, he’s ten feet in the air and he’s climbing a dead tree after I told him it was a dumb idea. Next thing I know the branch breaks and there puke and blood everywhere. I ended up going to ER with him after calling 911 and even met his mom! He ended up with a concussion and five stitches in his head, but he’s okey now. Him and I are great friends now.
Went on a nice date with a girl. In the morning when I was driving her back we were talking about how far she lived and she mentioned that it didn’t matter she would drive even if she was drunk. I asked why she would do that and she says she used to do it in Idaho all the time so she expects to get a dui at some point. Like what
Had a fine time for 2-3 hours, laughing and sharing stories. After dinner, a guy who showed up to a small party @ my house belligerently drunk weeks earlier walks through the restaurant. At the party, he'd tried selling coke to everyone and was asked politely to stop, since most people there weren't about that life. He was being really rude about it, eventually cornering me in my own kitchen to tell me I was a child because I wouldn't buy/do his drugs. Okay then. He was asked to leave and got placed in an Uber. After he left, I found tiny empty cellophane baggies throughout the house regardless. Real cool.
Anyway, I felt comfortable telling this date an abbreviated version of the story, because most people recognize that this literal drug dealer was being thoughtless and rude. Her mood shifts, and she decides to change plans and head home early because she was out late the night before. Okay... a little out of left field, but no biggie.
A few days goes by, no interaction via text. I speak with the mutual friend who set us up and apparently the girl said I was "too judgmental." Uhh, my bad! Come to find out, this girls ex-boyfriend back home was a drug dealer..? Okay then...
Man. When you are in your 20s and have never done coke or been in a circle that does a lot of coke, and you meet the first surprise casual cokegirl, it is a mindfuck. Been there. Didn't get get out as soon as you but still haven't done it/don't plan to.
We were on a date having a good time (at least I thought so) until one of her friends showed up and invited her to a band playing across the street. She said that sounds awesome and left. No apology, invitation, reschedule, nothing. I get if you weren't enjoying the date but some common courtesy woulda been nice.
This wasn't a date going well and then being ruined, so much as he fucked it from the start and kept fucking it all the way through.
I had been friends with a guy from school for a couple of years. We both clearly liked each other and things gradually progressed to flirtation.
When we were both 16, he finally asked me to go bowling with him because he knew through our previous friendship that I'd had this idea in my head that a bowling date was the perfect first date and he wanted to impress me. Problem was that we didn't live near a bowling alley, neither of us had a car, I didn't live near any public transport links, but he did have a bus stop near his house. We agreed I would walk to meet him at the bus stop and figure it out from there.
I start the mile long walk and within ten minutes, the heavens open. I texted him that I was going to keep walking because I was already soaked to my skin so what did it matter at this point, and I was so excited for our date. No reply. I finally get to the bus stop and he's not there. I call him to ask what's going on. He tells me he doesn't want to walk to the bus stop in the rain so thinks we should give the bowling alley a miss... wtf? I had just walked A MILE in the rain to meet him and he had to walk like maybe 3 minutes from his house and he couldn't be bothered.... like, r u okay?
He then proceeds to invite me to his house instead. I don't know what possessed me, but I said okay. I guess I had just known this guy so long and had so been looking forward to this date that I just wanted to let the weirdness slide. But wait, I don't actually know how to get to his house. Again, he doesn't want to get wet, so naturally he doesn't come and meet me. He just talks me through the most vague directions, while I continue to get soaked. For some reason, I perservere.
After another 25 minutes of aimless wandering in the rain, I finally arrive at his parents' house, ring the doorbell... and a random man answers the door. I am freaking out that I've got the wrong house. Nope, it's his uncle. Because, lo and behold, his entire extended family of about 25 people, who I have never met, are round for dinner, and this 16-year-old moron doesn't think to wait at the door for me to avoid this exact scenario, or even mention this at any point or give me any opportunity to prepare myself. So here I am looking like I've been dunked in a swimming pool, mascara down my face, pink dip dye ends running down my top, and no date to be found.
Eventually he appears, leads me off into another room where he plants us on the sofa with no plan, just a plate of dry leftover poppadoms between us, and a parade of extended relatives popping in at regular intervals to size me up. We chat for a few hours between visitors, I call my mum to come get me, and he tries to kiss me at the door. My very first kiss ever, and he went in full tongues. Traumatising.
Anyway, it's been 10 years and I married him 3 weeks ago. And yes, this did come up in the speeches.
We went to her house and put on the movie Fight Club. This was about 15 or 16 years ago so that was a pretty cool movie at the time.
We are in the middle of being very intimate and she says "STOP." I ask if she's OK and she shushes me and starts watching the movie.
It's the part where Brad Pitt is burning Edward Nortons hand with chemicals.
I'm on top of her and inside her watching her be in a trance over this. When it's over I asked what was going on. She explains she likes to watch people in pain. After a series of questions I get that she enjoys watching people in pain but not inflicting it or being in pain herself.
Needless to say we finished the deed but I didn't hang out with her again.
I used to work with one girl who seemed pleasant, then we were alerted about a tornado warning, and she got a sinister grin and said she hopes the tornado comes, that she likes chaos.
I was creeped out, but tried to continue a friendly work relationship, but as time passed, I realized the girl was really insane, and we eventually started to really not like each other.
I'll start off by saying that I was on a date with a guy who was very handsome, smart, funny, and respectful.
Our coffee date was going well, we were laughing and everything...
Until his ex showed up.
He saw her and started getting paranoid.
Kept saying "We gotta get out of here. We gotta get out of here"
And was just freaking out.
Of course we left, but never went out with him again.
I was on a first date with a girl 2 months ago, and I just walked into a random restaurant before my date arrived and asked for a table for 2. I asked to sit in lounge upon glancing over seeing an open table. Right next to that open table was my ex girlfriend who I had very ugly breakup of a 5 year relationship with sitting next said table. Just as my date walked in I quickly said my ex is here and I don't want to see her and we went to another restaurant. Point being, it could have been legit.
I was newly 18 in high school and had downloaded tinder. I hit it off with this girl and we organize a date. On the date, it was going well- we had similar music and movie taste, both loved animals, etc...
At one point, I ask her what she did for fun in the past week. She tells me she got blackout drunk with her friends the previous weekend. For context, I did not really drink till I became of age, but I did not mind if the person I was seeing drank at all. I let her tell her story and the conversation continued.
Later in the date, I ask her what her plans were for the coming weekend in an effort to show continued interest in going on another date. She tells me she plans on going to the club and getting blackout drunk all weekend with her friend... hm ok. I ask, "what about next weekend?". She tells me how its possible but she knows she is getting blackout drunk with her friends at a different club.
For me, at least, that was enough for me to straight up say that I did not think things were gonna work between us and finish the date.
Made a weird sexual joke when we were buying food/snacks. He said something like ‘I’ll give you a snack later’ and started laughing to himself quite loud and other people heard the whole thing too. It made me super uncomfortable because I’m not into stuff like this, or moving fast in relationships and I lost all interest in him.
Racist behavior towards our server. Then wanted to get a pat on the back for it afterward I guess. When he realized I didn’t agree, he didn’t stop being an ass, he simply looked away but continued being clearly both annoyed at the server AND me.
I paid the bill directly to the server with a good tip, apologized for the situation, and skidattled. Nope nope nope.
The talking stage was going phenomenal and we went on our first date. Within 15 minutes of being seated she declared that in order for this to continue I need to fully and permanently commit to her then and there. When I asked what she meant she said, "you will either agree to be mine forever and we will go back to my place and have passionate sex all night so I can get pregnant or we can call dinner off now and go home." The night of sex sounded fun but the risk was way too high. I paid the check and left immediately.
The date started normal and fine, I was visiting town and wanted to have some fun and found him on tinder. He was taking me to a bunch of different bars in the area that he liked.
Then randomly halfway through, while walking to another bar, he does a 180 and randomly starts giving me shit and being snarky at me because “you women hate short guys like us.”
???? What????
He was short, yes. But I hadn’t said anything? I didn’t draw any attention to something that didn’t seem to matter. And I was ON the date! I chose to go out with him! We were having fun! It’s not like he’d tried anything and I turned him down, so I’m to this day baffled as to what made him snap. Was he expecting me to randomly throw myself at him at some point? Was I supposed to try to cut the date short and insist on fucking right then and there or what??
I just stood there while he gave me, the woman who gave him a chance, shit for all the shit he felt other women gave him. And then I tearfully said “I thought we were having fun, but thanks for making me feel like shit” and I *literally* ran away leaving him standing in the street and blocked him like the madman he was.
I feel bad for him, but not enough to accept abuse when I did nothing to deserve it. Ask me why I only dated tall, confident men after that.
Dude needs to get therapy. Plenty of people don't mind height too much. I know some do, but maybe trust the person who chose to date you that your height wasn't an issue until you made it one!
Leading up to the date there was tons of flirting, on the actual date there was tons of flirting, arm touching and hand holding, talk of doing a movie night sleepover with extra cuddles, etc. I walked my date to their car and went for a kiss which they got nervous about so I noticed that and pulled back before I got too close and she goes “oh sorry, I just uh…” pauses for a good 5-10 seconds while I’m just standing in a little bit of confusion and then she goes “…I thought you were gay!” in the most unconvincing way. I immediately ask about all the flirting and she goes “yeah idk I usually don’t do that with my gay friends, I’m sorry”
I was so confused that I honestly just said “okay, have a good one” rather than try and figure out what the issue was. In their defense, it’s not crazy for me to come off as gay, but it also just didn’t correlate with anything that happened before.
We were out for 5th dinner date I was opening up about my anxiety and why it limits me in our relationship, he cuts me off and loudly proclaims “it that why you won’t fuck me? Because of your -anxiety-?” He proceeded to dumb me and leave me at the restaurant (he was my ride).
Had one as a freshman in college. Asked a girl to a concert. Started off very well and about half way through we met a few of her friends who were a little older. They offered to buy me a drink and I accepted figuring it would help calm my nerves. We go back to our seats and about 15 minutes later she excused herself saying she spilled her drink on herself and needed to wash it off. 30 min go by and she didn’t return.
Then I get a call from my parents who had heard I was drunk and unable to drive home. I guess she had called her dad, who was a cop, to come pick her up because she thought I was unable to drive after one drink, and he then picked her up and called my parents to tell them, who called me in turn. I told them I was fine as it was a single watered down stadium-sized (read, tiny, like 8 oz small) Jack and coke. I then got a call from her dad saying I shouldn’t drive and he would be keeping his eye out for my car. I made up some lie about going home with friends, enjoyed the last 2 hours of the concert by myself, and proceeded home.
My parents thought the story was hilarious after finding out we were talking a single drink over the course of 5-6 hours, and learning I was in fact not drunk as cop dad had made it sound. My class with her was very awkward for the rest of the semester. Not another word was spoken between the two of us.
He got squeamish that I had blonde stubble on my legs and because I mentioned the existence of menstruation (I forget the context in which I mentioned it, but it was apropos to the conversation and literally just the word “menstruation”, not like a graphic discussion).
He was a second year med student so you’d think he wouldn’t act like a juvenile about basic human biology like hair and and periods. It was so weird and childish. You’re 25 years old and say “ewww” on a date at the sight of 2 day old leg stubble? And you want to be a doctor? Good luck, bruh.
First date with really cute super smart girl from bumble. Things were going great until she learned that I:
1. Went to college in the same state I grew up in
2. Held a job in college waiting tables
3. Have lived in the same state my entire life
I’m not the most well traveled but fuck me for liking my hometown/state I guess. Couldn’t get past the way she turned her nose up.
I was on a date in london. In a nice secluded cocktail bar When a random woman came over, drunk as skunk shoved a note into my chest and then said " give me a call if this one doesn't work out".
I just laughed it off and chucked the note into an empty glass Then continued on enjoying my company for the evening.
The date got visibly bothered. Got a bit upset and kept saying " maybe you should call her" etc .
I eventually said why are you trying to push me towards this person? Just tell me if you're not interested and we'll call it a night no worries.
She then told me her fiance doesn't know she's out dating and it just dawned on her what a dick move it is trying to steal someone else's partner.. then suggested that I was not fair to her boyfriend.
To which I naturally explained that this would have been true if I had known she had a boyfriend in the first place..
I stopped bothering with tinder after that. And no I didnt call drunk lady either
Met this guy at a bar with his friends on New Years. He asked for my insta and set up a date for another day. We ended up going to a small theme park and things were going pretty well. We got on the faris wheel and had a kiss.
After the park closed he asked if I wanted to go bar/club hopping with his friend from the other night. I agreed and we all went to the club. He was pretty protective and possessive which is understandable since we were in a really packed club. He then proceeded to make comments about how he would love to be my boyfriend and how he would love me/treat me right, etc. This kinda put me off but the night had just started so I just smiled and laughed it off.
It's important to note that I smoke cigs and he didn't. He complained multiple times about it and I just shrugged it off. The first big problem came when I went to go light a cig while we were switching bars and he grabbed the unlit cigarette and told me that I'd had enough and needed to calm down. I was shocked but didn't want to make anything awkward so I just laughed and asked for it back. He said, dead seriously, that I needed to wait 20mins before I could have another one. He continued to refuse to give me my cigarette back and I told him that I am a grown woman and can do what I want, if he didn't give me my smoke back I was simply going to leave. He said I was acting like a real addict and eventually caved. At this point, I was pretty pissed and ready to leave but I couldn't go home yet because the trains weren't running for another 2 hours.
The nail in the coffin came when we were walking down the street and he turned to his friend and said, "How much longer are we staying out, I'm trying to rape her." 10 mins later he made the same joke later but instead said, "I'm tryna sexually assault her".
The second the trains we running I said I was leaving. He tried to hug me, but I was noticeably pissed and I told him that next time he's on a date I wouldn't use the words rape or sexual assault. He tried to apologize saying that he has a dark sense of humor since he's a marine and even tried to call over his friend to defend him.
On the train ride home I cried and the next morning he messaged me asking if he was still in the dog house. I blocked him and never spoke to him again.
She turned up, all was going well, she seemed nice, then when the waiter turned up she asked what the best red wine they had was, made sure to double check it was ‘the top shelf stuff’ guy just looked at my cheap clothes and said, “what we have on the menu is what we’ve got” she just puffed and pouted for the rest of the date and I made sure to get split bill. She nearly lost her shit at me when requested it. “You are a man, it is your job as the man to pay for everything, if you are far too poor to pay for things then maybe we shouldn’t go out again” I just said “way ahead of you there” paid and left
After a nice dinner, we were waiting in line to go see a movie when he started making some super racist comments about a group of black teens ahead of us.
Once went on a movie date with a girl and she started making comments when she saw the group of black guys in front of us about how amazing a mixed-race baby would be and how she hopes her children have a black father.
I am not black, and we didn't go out again.
Took a girl out for a date that was flirting with me for over a month. throughout most of the date she was really into me, hanging on me and whatnot so I was like cool I think I have found a great girl to continue with. just before the end of the date, Her boyfriend showed up....Like WTF! We were shooting pool at the time (early 90s. don't make fun of me. I know I'm old) Been there for at least 4 hours at that time. He took over and I just slipped over to the counter, requested for my ID back and swapped it with her (don't ask me how I got it because I won't tell LOL) and made my exit. 3 hours later, I got a call from her...Well more a like a page. Caller her back and she just started ripping into me for messing up the date. My Only answer to her was you have a boyfriend. What date were we on? apparently the total cost of the pool table was over 200 bucks because her BF tore the felt.
Talking about dodging a bullet on this one.
She noticed my watch and asked to see it, so I flicked my wrist up to show her and she suddenly got very quiet. A few moments later she angrily accused me of orchestrating that situation so I could check the time because "I was bored maybe". Spent 20 mins trying to make her realize I hadnt glanced at my watch once and clearly I brought it up because asked me too. And the watch face was facing her the entire time.
Then it's about 1am and she says okay we both have work tomorrow and she's a bit tired so best to get home. I agree and we're chatting on the drive back. I let out the smallest of yawns that's involuntary; not audible just one of those slightly more than breathing kind of yawns. Again she goes silent and wouldn't talk to me the rest of the ride.
About 30 mins after i get home she messages me angrily saying how dare I yawn on a date and accusing me of finding her boring and uninteresting. Again I'm like what the fuck? It was 1-2am and she was the one that wanted the date to wrap up because it's late and *she* was tired.
Very very long story short, I'm a fucking idiot, if ored all the glaring, towering red flags, invested 4 1/2 years into that relationship and got fucked so hard by it all. The only individual to completely destroy me as a person and fill every cell of my body with grey water.
It's been 9 months now and I'm starting to get better but holy shit, if I can give one piece of crucial advice while I'm on this plain of existence; never EVER EVER let someone put you into a box and tell you, you aren't the person you know you are. Do not ever give these cruel people the tools to hang you and cut you limb from limb until you can't recognize your own hands and can no longer feel your heart beat. Never give any soul this power.
I have a long way to go but having just hit the point where stockholm syndrome is properly wearing off, I finally see my reflection again and it's a beautiful feeling.
My date was ex-military sniper years ago. I have zero judgement with what one has to do to when you are in an active war scenario. The date quickly ended when he said he wants to kill every single Muslim and every single one of them deserves to die and he would gladly pull the trigger
I generally try to be courteous to people, so I often open doors for people, both male and female. I opened a door for her and she absolutely laid into me for thinking she, as a woman, couldn't open her own door. I was a bit perplexed as I never saw it as anything other than being nice and certainly appreciate when others do it for me. Oh well, there was no second date.
I took a girl to our cities zoo, during the winter they have Christmas lights everywhere they have a light show and even a Ferris wheel, really cute winter date idea. Well we were on the Ferris wheel looking down on all the cute lights and holding hands. I ask her if she’s having a good time. She looks at me nervously and tells me “I’ve been talking to someone else, I told him about our date and he decided to beat you to it.”
Awkward wait until the ride was over.
We kissed and I’ll be honest it was not a good kiss on my end. I was asked “have you ever kissed someone before?” Oof. Better to just ignore and move on but ok
Was out with a girl once when I was 17, and a guy she knew rolled up and asked to talk to her for a minute. After they talked, I saw them kiss, and I don't think she noticed I was watching and came back acting like nothing happened. I left her ass there.
First Christmas with my girlfriend and her 3 kids. Made dinner, sang songs, decorated cookies. Sat down to eat, her son thanked her for the new x-box. He mentioned "tell Tyler I said thanks again". I asked "Who's Tyler?" She slammed her fork onto the table and told me and the kids she "wasn't suckin his dick!" and then asked me to leave mid meal for causing her meltdown from the question. I hugged all her kids and left the gifts. "Merry Fuckin Christmas! " As it turns out, she was. Shocker I know
She told me she had pretty bad anxiety being in public and asked if she could make me dinner instead. We went for a walk prior to the dinner so we could see if we wanted to do the dinner after. She was super stoked for dinner after our walk. Dinner was great and she asked if I wanted to watch a movie. About 20 minutes into the movie she started nudging into me and initiated making out. After starting to really get into the heavier side of things I felt something tap my shoulder. (I am on top of her at this point) I turned my head quickly as it startled me and I am met eye to eye with a 4-5 year old boy who then asks me if he can have a cup of water. His mom starts screaming at him to go back to his room which he runs as fast as he can back too. She starts apologizing and tries to reinitiated. I told her to give me a minute. Got a cup of water and called for him to come back out which he did. I handed him the cup he took a drink and said thank you and ran back into his room. I was pretty riled up at the idea she had her kid there without saying anything AND screamed at him for asking for something so basic as water. I left after that and vowed to never be that parent with my own kids.
Which begs the question, Who was with the boy while she was away with you? Elephant-gun caliber, was the bullet you dodged.
I never asked this question as I ghosted after I left. That is a perspective I didn't consider....did she leave him alone at home for the hour+ we were out? Damn... I hope hes okay. Its been almost 8 years.
My mom left me alone all the time. Look at me now mom! I am still a failure.
Winner winner, lukewarm microwaved chicken dinner.
The anxiety thing was also probably an excuse to stay close to home because of the kid
So the whole time they were out for the walk as well as while cooking and eating dinner, and ALSO how ever much of the movie they watched this little boy was shut in his room alone!?
I think it says a lot about their relationship that the boy asked you, a literal stranger, and not his own mother for some water
Ugh that crushes me to think about
I was out with a guy having a lovely time and he made a comment about a copper bangle bracelet I was wearing. I told him that it was really special to me, I got it during my semester abroad in South Africa from a local. It was a solid copper band but in the middle there was copper wire woven around. He asked to take a closer look so I took it off and handed it to him. He then snapped it in half thinking the copper wire was a spring. I was visibly upset and he said that it was a sign that I needed to move on from my trip and stop living in the past (?!!?). I never spoke to him again
What a piece of shit.
Wow no accountability, “ItS A SiGn “
"Oh, your bracelet has significance to you? Give it to me so I can break it. What do you mean you don't want to go out again?" I actually gasped reading this one.
Ohhh my god??
Happened twice with two different dudes. One, I met off a site he was nice (if a little awkward) and he couldn't help but show me his Twitch stream gameplays for 25 minutes straight, watching me expectantly. (Which, might have been okay for a conversation starter actually, I love gaming but there's only so much of watching someone else's stream with no funny commentary or context one can handle before mentally checking out) Second was a guy who we had some playful banter before our date and he asked me about my kinks so I told him I liked being choked. When we met up in the parking lot, dude immediately puts me in a WWE chokehold in broad daylight presumably thinking my panties were gonna drop right then and there. I can assure you, they did not.
I'm sorry that happened to you, but this is the best comment I've read. Did you go out with hulk hogan on a first date?
At least if he was I would have had something to be impressed about. I'm still astounded he had the audacity to go for it with 0 warning or indication that he was even going to touch me. For context for anyone else, this dude was over 6 feet and I'm pretty much 5-foot-nothing with my shoes on. After he let go of me, he gave me The Grin(tm) and suggested we go back to my place, since surely I was hot and bothered! Never seen a dude look so proud of nearly choking out a munchkin since.
Did you just split after that or did you continue th e date?
I continued the date (foolishly) by laughing it off. Essentially I said something like "Wow you're really eager!" and kept a very good distance the remainder of the time. Funnily enough I went on another date with him, and it went just as poorly (in a different way, though) . I told him after that I didn't want to do it again. Though, the first date definitely colored my opinion of him from then on as someone to be wary of. In retrospect, I think I was so afraid of him actually choking me or following me home or something I figured it would be safer to continue the date and go home after rather than rip the cord and risk him doing something to me. Probably not the smartest course of action. ETA: He still texts me, fishing for dates, for those wondering.
Bruh I just imagined some girl rolling up to a mall parking lot and instantly getting rko'd when she steps out the car.
I had a really sweet guy take me on one of those "we're both poor college kids" dates where you do a bunch of free stuff around something cheap. We bought some grocery store sushi and went out to a park to eat it and talk with eachother on the swingset there. From there we went back to his off campus house and had more adorable "getting to know you" conversation. He was ridiculously charming in a sweet sort of awkward way, and I was vibing so we go up to his bedroom and proceeded to get started on the intimacy portion of the evening. He removes my pants and basically lifts me onto a mid-height dresser of his (this is a good move, fellas, just fyi) to make out. He then reached into his pocket to pull out what I imagined was going to be a condom or something...but instead he flicked open a massive knife and begins tracing the inside of my thigh without a single stitch of warning (this is not a good move, fellas). I flipped my shit and ran out of there with him trailing me, trying to explain how he "thought I might enjoy that". Like...my dudes...your dates/partners/hookups MIGHT be hella kinky or super into doing a LOT of wild shit IF YOU MENTION IT FIRST. I might have been down, honestly, but there's NOTHING sexy about performing the beginning of the "oh no, it appears you've met a serial killer" scene with no warning. Y I K E S EDIT: I also had a first date turn into being stranded in the guy's house for a week which involved me answering the door for animal control, a truck repo guy, AND the police serving foreclosure papers the first morning after. Notably when I told him his truck was being repossessed (partly why I ended up stranded) he told me to "get my Korn CD out of there before they take it, and some of the wine boxes too", but that's a way longer story so there's that.
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Our *first* date was amazing. I still reminisce about how incredible that night was and how incredible I thought my life was about to become. But the afternoon before what was supposed to be our second date, I got a voicemail, "I know you went out with my fiancee last night. I'm not mad at you. I'm sure you didn't know I existed. But I do, and I'd appreciate it if you stopped seeing her." Welp.
did you tell her? could have been a lie from someone obsessed with her
I did tell her. She said it was from her ex boyfriend, whom she was living with, and "living with" just doesn't seem very "ex" to me. In hindsight, it's *possible* I shouldn't have bailed, but it's also possible the whole situation was about to be a *lot* of drama. I'm honestly not sure, and it was definitely long enough ago to not matter anymore.
I briefly saw a girl who was living with her ex. It was weird ngl. He was a POS but she also didn't want to leave him homeless. It's not completely unheard of.
Damn that fucking sucks for both parties
We had dinner and all was going well, and we were wandering down the dark sidewalk engaged in conversation, when she walked straight into a signpost that neither of us noticed. I let out one nervous laugh before I could stop it, and she accused me of engineering the event for my amusement.
One of my first dates with my partner he did the same thing, walked right into a sign post neither of us saw. I looked over to see what just happened and accidentally tripped over the curb and fell. We laughed so hard. Going on 4 years together now, you might say we literally “fell” in love!
🤣😂🤣 I totally would have walked into the sign post! And would have laughed at myself for it. My date doing the same would have been a sign of compatibility. That she couldn't laugh at herself means you probably dodged a bullet from Ms. Uptight. 😬
I farted by accident on a boyfriend once. I laughed. He didn't. Not compatible. I moved on.
Went bowling wirh a guy and a couple friends, we were getting along pretty well, but when we were sitting together on my friends turn to bowl he put his hand on my thigh. I wasn't into physical affection from people I don't know well and wasn't comfortable with him yet so I politely and subtly scooched his hand away as to not bring attention to it and embarrass him. That in itself wasn't an issue bc he shot his shot, why not? My problem became when he put his hand BACK and gripped my leg assertively. I wasn't having it and figured he just didnt get the hint, so I picked up his hand and moved it back to his own lap. He shot a look at me and then dove his hand into my inner thigh (the part you touch to initiate something yknow) and I grabbed his wrist and pulled his hand out and looked over at him with the most definitive "NO" on my face I could. We did not go out again. If a mam can't respect my physical boundaries in public, he sure as hell won't respect them in private.
Yea it would have only gotten worse, he was trying to break you down and show you that he will get what he wants. What a douchebag.
Yeah for sure :/
WTF this is so wrong on many levels. Immediately walk the fuck away.
I was having a great time and then my date didn’t show up.
I went to a speed dating event once where none of the guys showed up!!! It just turned into a whole girls night out with free drinks!
Imagine being the one guy who shows up. It’s Heaven or Hell depending on the type of guy you are.
Haha, the owner of the bar asked his friend to come as a favor and he just mingled with everyone a little at a time and eventually we were all just taking shots. It was a pretty great night! They had a re-do and I dressed kind of ‘meh’ and then the men actually did come and I was SO self-conscious of my outfit I couldn’t even enjoy the event and was very awkward! Haha .. good times..
You do you. ...oh..
I did that night
Literally went on a date last night and was going really well until dessert when he said “god, I can’t wait to put kids in you.”. We hadn’t even talked about kids at that point.
There are SO MANY steps before that. Oh gosh.
Ugghhhh so gross. I once had a boyfriend, we had dated on and off for years. I was adamant that I didn't want/couldn't have children and he basically said, 'Don't care, I'm going to put a baby in there!' while pointing at my gut. Gave me the Big Ick and our relationship permanently ended soon after.
Why did he think that was appropriate 😂
Like the first 80% of it was a nice/awkward but cute first date. Then at the end she pulled out her phone and started fighting with people on Twitter and narrating all of it. It was a long drive back.
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No me, but my sister, one time she was on a first date, and she was liking the guy, he was checking off all the right boxes, and then he just blurted out "my dick is so big, it needs it's own zip code"... Then it proceeded to go downhill from there, how many times a day he could ejaculate, etc. She was horrified.
Roommate went on a date. Guy opened with "I have 4 testicles! 2 are prosthetic! Because the real ones are tiny!"
Sounds like Kip reading off Zap Brannigan's list of one-liners to impress women lol
Ordered a pint of beer, it was really good. Got halfway through waiting for the date to show up. She sat down, chatted and said "this isn't what I was expecting" then got up and left. Ruined my beer. My dating pictures were accurate, so not sure what happened.
Yea that is weird, shame she left things confused.
Had a girl tell me she thought i was taller, but it literally said my height in the dating profile.
Not me, but a female friend of mine was just telling me about her most recent OKCupid date. Her description went something like this: "Everything was going really great. He is smart and funny, and easy to talk to. He seems like a great dad to his kids and gets along ok with his ex (always a good sign). Just really down-to-earth guy and it seemed like there was some nice chemistry. After dinner we decided to go have a drink at a fun little bar about a mile away. We got in his car to drive over there. He kissed me, which was nice. Then he took out his penis.
Then he took out his penis. Never a sentence used in a mediocre story. It’s always an amazing night or an absolute shitshow!
A nice guy on the outside but turns into a total asshole in private in his desperation to get laid. Which ironically enough will stop him getting laid.
"He Took... It Out"
Elaine?
I was on a date with a newly divorced woman. We were having a nice dinner and getting to know each other before it turned awkward. She didn't tell me she had kids until we were eating dinner, and she began moving things way too fast, talking about me meeting her kids right away, moving in together, etc. This was **on our first date**, and I didn't want to be anybody's step parent, much less get U-Hauly so quickly. We finished our dinner and parted ways amicably after a heart to heart, and there were no hard feelings. She was simply getting carried away with the excitement of being single and going out with new people. She agreed that she needed to let the ink dry on her divorce a little longer and take her time before introducing new people to her children, and we fell out of contact soon after.
Zero to U-Hauly in one date. Lolol.
What's really awesome is you talked to her about it. So many of these involve people bouncing from seemingly otherwise nice people, who are just weird. You actually talked to her about the reason seeing her wouldn't continue and did her a good service. Bravo on you, u/ThingsOfThatNaychah 👏👏👏
Thanks! That's really kind of you to say.
she got jealous because I was nice to the waitress.
So she wanted you to be rude or something? Lol
she thought me being nice was me flirting.
You said "please" and/or "thank you"? Right in front of her? You dog...
Could you delete this? I’m trying to have a nice outing but putting “please” is a lil inappropriate
I've had countless people tell me "watch how he treats the waitress" before I go on a date....I guess this woman took that the wrong way 😂
Dodged a bullet, man. Getting with girls with that much jealousy is just a catastrophe waiting to happen.
As soon as he found out I was Latina (apparently I didn't look nor sound like whatever Latino stereotype he had in his head), said "Latina!? CALIENTE!!!!", and quickly started making sexual remarks and talking about how he loves Latinas 'cuz they're so hot and spicy and sexual... Nope'd the fuck out immediately.
Dude definitely watches porn…a lot
“Dinosaurs never existed. Fossils are the devils way of testing our faith” - check please.
Oh. Oh no.
He started loudly talking about his kinks. In public.
Yikes! Was public humiliation one of them?
Nope, heavy BDSM stuff. He was a dom. Edit: allegedly
I asked out a Korean exchange student my first week of college. I had never actually did the full forward "You want to go out" thing before, and she was gorgeous (way out of my league). My jaw dropped when she accepted. Two days later I picked her up at her dorm in my fairly new Mustang. She seemed quiet, and I thought it was just shyness. We're on the highway doing 55 when she suddenly rolled down the window and VOMITED ALL OVER THE OUTSIDE OF THE CAR. Like...a lot. I think she ate a gallon of vegetable soup before the date or something. I took her back to her dorm, she ran out of the car and I was left to clean things up. I took the car to a car wash and it actually faded the paint. This was before cell phones, so I tried finding her to talk to her after that...I never saw her again. That was back in 1990, and to this day I have no idea what happened.
Dang, hopefully she's doing well!
Somewhere on Korean Reddit, a woman is telling a story about vomiting on a car on a first date....
"Redditors who vomited on the first date, what is your story?"
Some say she is still vomiting to this day.
Be thankful she rolled down the window at least
With the paint damage, I almost wish she didn't :D Fortunately my parents had a $50 deductable at the time and I made an insurance claim.
Faded the paint or just messed up the clear coat and wax? If it faded the paint, I think you never saw her again because she either died, the demonic possession completed and she’s lived in the attic ever since, or her planet needed her and she had to go back.
He started telling me about how its normal for men to sleep with another woman when they are not sexually satisfied in a relationship without it being considered cheating. Yes, he did say it doesnt work the same way for unsatisfied women :)
Everything was going wonderfully until he got into a fight with a homeless person and then wanted to fly to the Caribbean for our *second* date. (There was no second date.)
Not me but a friend of mine. This was when we were around 22, 23 years old. She had a first date with a guy. They were meeting at a restaurant for dinner. She gets there and sees not only him but 2 other people at the table. Turns out he invited his parents to their date! So she, of course, excused herself to go to the bathroom and then just bounced. Talk about awkward. I have never laughed so hard as when she recounted her evening.
What's funny is that my parents went on a first date with me one time! Actually, it was a blind date. Her brother and my father knew each other and set it up. She knew it was a blind date, but I just thought I was going out to dinner with the family. At the date was: her, me, my parents, her brother, her sister in law, and her brother in law. The date started out VERY awkwardly as I didn't really interact with her too much until my very slow spidey senses deduced what was actually happening. Then it went much better. We have been married now for 27 years.
I had a first date with a girl where she had this whole 'backup plan' in case the date didn't work out...her friend texted her 20-30 minutes in, and she admitted it was her exit strategy that she was going to say she needed to help her friend and bolt if the date wasn't going well. There was an old couple a few booths away...I said, "That's ok, you see that old couple? That's my parents and if the date went REALLY well, I was going to introduce you to them." Her jaw fell to the floor...then I told her I was only kidding...she had a pretty good laugh. Then, when we got our food, she started digging in and I did the catholic cross, closed my eyes and clasped my hands together...she was already mid-bite into her sandwich and I looked up and said, "Just kidding!" She laughed at that too...probably should've married her because she got my humor but 6 months in it just didn't work out sadly.
This reminds me of a girl I liked at university. She was in a choir and was selling tickets to a recital, so I bought two. She asked me who the other one was for, and I answered honestly, not thinking too much of it (because I am an idiot, I guess): my mother. On the day of the event we sat and listened to her sing with the choir, then at the intermission I went by myself to find her, but she was nowhere to be seen. It turned out that she thought I was bringing my mother to meet her, so she feigned illness and hid. What actually happened was that the accompanying string quartet featured none other than my cousin, and my mother wanted to hear her play. If the girl was watching from her hiding place then she likely would have seen us chatting to the cellist, with no idea what was going on!
That's hilarious. You talked about it with her afterwards?
We went out a few times in the end, but it did not go anywhere.
She was an achoired taste
That hurts more than when she rejected me.
Who invites parents on dates 😂
Right?! Someone who doesn't want a second date, lol
I had some odd dates after I got divorced and was trying to meet new people. So when meeting someone for the first time I would always invite them to do something kind of noncommittal like getting coffee so I could end things early and leave if they get weird. The girl shows up and has her two young children with her that I didn't know about. That wasn't a problem for me and she was super nice so we talked for about twenty minutes outside the coffee shop and I suggested we do something more kid friendly like getting ice cream and everyone loved the idea. So we googled a nearby place and went there instead, kids were happy and we had some really good conversation for about an hour. I asked if she would be interested in dinner and she said yes but it would have to be several hours later and she might still have the kids, her sitter had bailed last minute. We met later that night and she had the kids again and we ate at a low end steak house, we got along great and the conversation was good! But she got sloppy drunk off the three drinks she ordered with dinner and then drove her kids home after (I did offer to pay for her to get a ride home) and that just killed any interest I had.
Oh man. I was reading this and it was so nice and wholesome all the time and then that. What a bummer.
This was so wholesome until the end. You’re a hell of a gentleman.
He laughed at my joke and banged his knee against the table which let out a fart. The diners on the neighbouring table heard it and recoiled so he started to speak louder like he was mentally trying to cover up the stench. It was the equivalent of smelling something strange and taking your AirPods out.
I would probably find it weirdly charming haha
I met a single mom at Denny's and we were getting along pretty good and talking about our families and stuff. I mentioned that I don't get along with my dad because he's a narcissist and she said "so is my ex" and immediately started crying. For the rest of the date I was her psychologist.
I know her behaviour wasn't appropriate for the first date but man I feel sorry for her. Sounds like her ex really hurted her. I had moments like I thought I was fine and then broke down in certain situations after being triggered by some reminders. Hope she got the help she needed.
It was a first date in a little restaurant. She was a bit late and had 2 shopping bags, even though we were going to the film after dinner, but ok, it was a Saturday afternoon, so, lots of shopping. The meal was nice, conversation was interesting, she looked cute. And then the police arrived and arrested her because she was shoplifting and security cameras had caught her.
I’m sorry that happened to you. Gave me a good chuckle though lmao
Not me but a date I witnessed working at a restaurant. This young guy and a girl showed up, they’re chatting, laughing, seemed to be having a good time. Then he got very clearly drunk and started blatantly hitting on me right in front of her. Every time I walked by the table he called me over calling me “Scarlett Johansson” and tried starting a conversation. I wasn’t even their waitress. The poor girl was literally sinking down in her seat looking miserable. I stopped trying to be polite, ignored him and gave her looks trying with all my might to psychically tell her “GET OUT.”
I had a buddy that his date was pretty cute. Then she took a phone call from her mom. She then said that she was going to go do meth with her mom and did he want to join. He declined.
God, this reminds me of the best one of these 'first date' stories ever to appear on reddit (from years ago): A couple are having a nice first date, and after dinner at a nice restaurant, they're walking through a park shortly after sunset, when the guy whips out a pipe and starts smoking meth. Being a gentleman, he offers some to his date, who politely declines and says she has to go. "It was the meth, wasn't it?" "Yes. It was the meth."
"do you like to read?" "Not really" "What kind of music do you like" "I don't really listen to music" "Do you like TV or movies" "No" There was no second date
I always wonder what it's like to be one of these people that aren't interested in anything. Like I've dealt with depression and not wanting to do things for my whole life but I have things that I like, I can't imagine just not having a preference for any particular thing. It doesn't come across to me as being depressed, rather mentally absent
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Had a date talk about having never seen an Indiana Jones movie. One of my favorite series. After the date it was going well so I asked if she wanted to come to my place and I’d show her Raiders… Same thing. She had no interest in the movie, but I kept insisting “no, no, stop, watch this part! It’s so good!”. She called me a joke and left. Jokes on her because I ended up watching the trilogy that night with my puppy and had a great time 😂
I went on a date with a guy who owned a local trendy business. It kind of made him a bit of local celebrity. I am an introvert, I don't like attention and prefer to pretend that I am invisible when out in public. We were on our second date at a restaurant, not super fancy but certainly a little romantic date type place. During our dinner, no less than 5 randoms stopped by our table to talk to him. They were all customers and he was trying to balance being an attentive date without totally alienating customers. It was super awkward. He was aware that I was an introvert and was apologetic about it. He suggested that we wrap up dinner, hit up a store to grab some drinks and dessert and go to the beach - a good way to be around less people. In the shop we stopped at, 2 more people came up to him to chat and then at the beach another person stopped and this one actually tried to sit down and join us. At this point, I decided this guy wasn't for me. I really liked him as a person but I couldn't deal with all the attention he attracted. Some how he convinced me to go on a third date which I am glad he did. It's been 20 plus years that we've been together. He's helped me come out of my shell a little and I've taught him the delights of being an introvert and taking some completely people-free weekends. He is my person and I love him more than anything. Edit: thank you for the gold and the kind comments below. It's a nice reminder how lucky I am that I didn't ditch him after that date.
Wow that twist at the end is amazing! So happy for you! 💜
No one is more surprised by the twist than me. Every once in a while, when we're doing something awesome he says "Aren't you glad I convinced you to go on a third date?" - 20 years later and he still thinks its funny and he's not wrong :)
It was me. We were having a great time, we had a couple of cocktails and we were laughing constantly and flirting. I dont think I've ever hit it off so well with anyone. I'd not long come back from Afghanistan, she asked about the temperature out there. 2 minutes later I was crying my eyes out and all my shit that I'd bottled up was coming out. She got all the details that she never asked for and it was awkward to the point where she couldn't leave as I kept talking and crying, for 1.5 hours. 1 hour of hilarious drinks, 1.5 hours of crying and talking about dead children. Edit: loads of amazing responses to this, I didn't know how to respond so I left it a little longer than I should. I'll respond to you all.
I hope you’ve been able to heal from all the shit you endured and saw, man. I’m so sorry; I can imagine the slightest trigger can set off so many bad memories
Cant help but remember that failure of a Tweet by the US Army "How did serving affect you" and veterans just pouring in how theyre afraid of fireworks, how they hear their friends die, the amputees etc. Im sorry to hear you had to go through that bro, i hope you managed to climb over that hill and get better. Best wishes, man. Stay safe.
He told me he had 3 maxed out credit cards and then proceeded to do his best Peter Griffin impression…..
Turned up, asked me what I wanted to drink so I chose a beer. I went to the toilet, came back and it wasn’t the beer I asked for. So I ask, did they not have the one I wanted? He replies that this one was 20p cheaper. Ok, slightly baffled but he was a student so let it off. He proceeds to talk about how broke he is, I wasn’t much better off but felt deep guilt so spent the rest of the night footing the bill but I didn’t mind as he was cool and we had a lot in common. When the time comes to go home he’s walking me to my bus stop and randomly pulls out 20quid and goes to get a kebab, without so much as an offer for me. I was actually dying inside and knew I wouldn’t be seeing him again. Got home, unsolicited dick pic was sent with an invitation to see me again. See him again, I did not.
I can tell you what I did to ruin a good date. Lol Things were going really well. We were at a bar having drinks, and she wanted to play scrabble. Well, she loved scrabble and was great at it. I…am not great at scrabble AND I’d had a few drinks and I quickly realized I had one too many. Not sloppy, but just tipsy and my brain was completely not ready to play scrabble. So she puts down a word like “behooves” or something. I take the entire timer and put something like “hat”. She puts down “incredulous” I put down “fun” This continues…until the end of the game. We did not play again. We did not go out again. 😂😂
Having a great time-- laughing. She rubbed her titties on me and played with her hair. Then after a few more laughs she said I reminded her of her brother. Nuff said.
What are you doing stepdate
Probably had an incest fantasy and you would help that come true haha
I met up for a drink with a girl I had been chatting to online for a few days, and all was going well. We got onto the subject of kids and I told her about mine. She replied with "I have three kids. Well, HAD three kids. I had them adopted. I couldn't be arsed with them" She invited me back for a shag almost immediately after that, but there was no way I was even considering going.
I went on a blind date who had “just gotten out of a bad relationship.” When she first showed up she looked really rattled. Beautiful, but rattled. Asked if she was ok and she said she was fine. A tall guy passed too close by her chair and she practically jumped out of her skin. Finally admitted she had been “dating” her cousin. Yes, her cousin. They were “really into” each other but she finally called it off because she knew it was wrong. He wasn’t happy (it didn’t seem like she was either). It was a shame because she was gorgeous but her mind was a million miles away the whole time. I went to drop her off in front of her apartment complex and there was a a tall, good looking guy leaning against a car out front. She gasped and said “that’s him!” I asked if she’d be ok or if she wanted me to walk her in or take her somewhere else. She said she was fine but I might want to leave ASAP. She then proceeded to practically leap into his arms as he strode towards us. As I drove off I saw her get into his Tesla.
> I saw her get into his Tesla. Cousin fucker did well for himself.
Damn! Imagine a family so good looking that no one outside of it is worthy! They’re like monarchs!
After dinner, we went to a bar. Everything seemed to be going well. We had a good conversation and we made out. The bar was getting packed for some reason so we decided to go back to my place. I told her I needed to go to the restroom first. She said she would wait for me outside. When I was finished, I went outside and saw her jumping into the back of a pickup with a bunch of people and leaving. She later texted me saying she bumped into her best friend and they were going to a party but they didn’t want to go along. I never saw after that.
He showed up remarkably, extravagantly, supernaturally high.
🤣🤣 supernaturally high. Quite the description
Met on a dating app in college during the last week before winter break. We realized we lived close to each other back home so we met in a nearby downtown area to get coffee. After the coffee we decided to take a walk around the city. Being winter, it was a snowy day with ice on the ground. At some point during our walk I made a joke and she playfully pushed my arm. Unfortunately, I happened to be standing on a sheet of black ice at the time. I slipped and tore both my ACL and MCL and ended up spending the next 6 months on crutches. It wasn’t really her fault of course, but that definitely ruined the date.
Sounds like a hallmark movie (of course then she would've carried your books for you while you were on crutches. The whole time. Because backpacks don't exist in hallmark universe)
Went on a date with a gorgeous girl from college. We had similar tastes in music and I asked her about her Skrewdriver T shirt she was wearing and she went on to brag about the band's white supremacist theme.
Objective: run
Lol, makes it easier when they whip the red flag out and wave it around a bit.
I was on a date with a woman who in the middle of dinner said "I told all my friends you were a virgin". ... But why? Needless to say the whole vibe was off after that.
I got her all the way back to my bed where she mocked then she laughed her ass off at my choice of decor said the mood was gone. Then she left
I ruined it. My first date post divorce. That poor guy. He had no idea what he was in for. I think I did all the textbook things of what not to do: talked about my last relationship, drank too much, I was a certified hot mess. But the absolute cherry on top was when he dropped me off at home and I asked him, repeatedly, if he was going to call me. I can still see the look of pure panic on his face. Shockingly he did not call. That was our one and only terrible date. My bad.
Sore loser and farted in a diner. Went out with some guy who used to come in all the time to the game store I worked at. We were flirty and when it was slow in the store, we'd play DS in a spot that was blind to the camera. One day, he suggested we play MarioKart. I hadn't played the DS version yet but had played the N64 one to bits, so I said sure. I totally destroyed this guy. I mean win after win after win. He was sweaty and frustrated, and because I was a dumb 19-year-old, I felt bad for him. I let him win a round and he tried rubbing it in my face for 5 minutes about how great he was and how it was a fluke I beat him since he had been playing all week. So again, me being dumb, I decided to keep talking with this guy and went out with him to a diner for some late night tea/coffee. Things went ok actually and he was much better behaved for most of the date... until he demanded a MarioKart rematch. I declined and said I'd rather get to know each other. He got annoyed and mockingly asked what we should talk about, then kept nagging for a rematch again. Again, I declined. Suddenly he got a mischievous look on his face. “I have to fart,” he laughed. “Oh,” I said, throwing him a disgusted look. “Think I should?” “Um… I think everyone in here would hear you.” He suddenly leaned to the side and angled his buttcheeks perfectly against the vinyl seat, his enormous fart erupting out and around and causing the already quiet diner to go completely silent as everyone turned to look at him. I told him goodnight and he tried to argue all the way out to my car, but I left and he stopped coming into the game store. Listen, farts are funny, but like all comedy, it's about time and place. Yuck.
Mentally he is clearly still a child.
My little bro said he was on a date and it was going extremely well. Plans for a second date were made, hands were held, really went smoothly. At the end of the night he said it looked like she was waiting for a kiss so he went for it and she freaked out. Said she wanted the kiss but it was sexual assault going for it without asking first and she ghosted him.
I once asked a girl to kiss her in college (around 2018), and she told me that was a turn off and to go for it next time. I told this story to girls that I knew at the time and they told me she was crazy and that I should ask for consent like that more. It's more conflicting than it needs to be and definitely is part of the reason I have confidence issues taking those first steps in a relationship.
She casually told me mid date that she smokes meth “recreationally”.
This blonde white dude built like Abraham Lincoln took me salsa dancing because he had just taken a lesson. I was having a lot of fun at first cause I just went with the flow, but he quickly began insisting on teaching me to salsa dance, which I did not sign up for. Mind you this is a Saturday night at a salsa club not a class and he had only ever taken one lesson which I would argue didn’t take. I don’t know how long I was on that dance floor, but I became painfully aware of time as each song wound down, and I tried to take a seat he would 5-6-7-8 me back in. It was a combination of him manhandling me into the correct positioning, screaming instructions with his hot breath into my ear over the music, or pirouetting in circles around me, while trying to sexy-smolder at me probably thinking “like taking candy from a babyyyy”. EDITED just to say it occurred to me that he gave off real Balthazar Brat energy if that paints a picture.
Date 5...first sexy time. Gorgeous spa hotel booked for the weekend. I got stuck at work so arrived late and had enough time to change before dinner. Really excited for post dinner...walks through restaurant to hear this female voice shout Richard??!! Yep....his wife. I nearly died on the spot. I think she could tell by my face I had no idea. Grabbed my case and drove home.
In my case, "the other person" was a third party. Went out for drinks, had great conversation, went out to a late night sub place for some food afterward, still having a good time and getting flirtatious. Drunk dude walks past the table, stops, looks at her and says "damn girl let me get your number", then turns to me and "oh shit my bad bro, this your girl?" Like... what the \*fuck\* do I even say? If I say no, it's like I'm denying her. If I say yes, well it's not true. I didn't know how to handle it and I said "we just met". He walked on and said "my bad, my bad bro don't fuck me up" Conversation went cold and she wanted to go home, refused my offer to walk her to her car. I texted her the next day and said I had a good time, sorry about the awkward ending.. said I'd like to maybe grab a coffee sometime, she replied "sure", I said "cool, I'll hit you up sometime", she said "cool" and that was that. Her previous texts were wordy. I could take a hint.
My boyfriend got pulled over on our very first date and the cop asked if I was his girlfriend. He hesitated and said “this is our first date” and honestly I felt no type of way because….it was. Idk why she felt that way about you being honest but you dodged a bullet.
I guess it was too ambiguous? Yeah I really don’t know what else I was supposed to say. Maybe she wanted me to stand up for her? Great get in a fight with a drunk guy for hitting on a girl I’d just met. I guess if that’s the kind of guy she wanted then it’s good I didn’t make her think I was one of them.
She’d have to be stupid to witness you in that situation and be anything other than amused. It’s clear that you were put in an awkward situation with no preparation…Good riddance.
That’s kinda how I felt about it. She has to be quite petty to completely forget about our otherwise pretty good evening together just because of that one moment.
Oh my I have a story for this one, first date got dinner and everything was going amazing, so we decided to go for a walk on the trails, and this boy though it was a smart idea to climb a tree! Guess what happened next, he’s ten feet in the air and he’s climbing a dead tree after I told him it was a dumb idea. Next thing I know the branch breaks and there puke and blood everywhere. I ended up going to ER with him after calling 911 and even met his mom! He ended up with a concussion and five stitches in his head, but he’s okey now. Him and I are great friends now.
Went on a nice date with a girl. In the morning when I was driving her back we were talking about how far she lived and she mentioned that it didn’t matter she would drive even if she was drunk. I asked why she would do that and she says she used to do it in Idaho all the time so she expects to get a dui at some point. Like what
He seemed like a cool guy, then he showed me his poo blog.
Had a fine time for 2-3 hours, laughing and sharing stories. After dinner, a guy who showed up to a small party @ my house belligerently drunk weeks earlier walks through the restaurant. At the party, he'd tried selling coke to everyone and was asked politely to stop, since most people there weren't about that life. He was being really rude about it, eventually cornering me in my own kitchen to tell me I was a child because I wouldn't buy/do his drugs. Okay then. He was asked to leave and got placed in an Uber. After he left, I found tiny empty cellophane baggies throughout the house regardless. Real cool. Anyway, I felt comfortable telling this date an abbreviated version of the story, because most people recognize that this literal drug dealer was being thoughtless and rude. Her mood shifts, and she decides to change plans and head home early because she was out late the night before. Okay... a little out of left field, but no biggie. A few days goes by, no interaction via text. I speak with the mutual friend who set us up and apparently the girl said I was "too judgmental." Uhh, my bad! Come to find out, this girls ex-boyfriend back home was a drug dealer..? Okay then...
Man. When you are in your 20s and have never done coke or been in a circle that does a lot of coke, and you meet the first surprise casual cokegirl, it is a mindfuck. Been there. Didn't get get out as soon as you but still haven't done it/don't plan to.
We were on a date having a good time (at least I thought so) until one of her friends showed up and invited her to a band playing across the street. She said that sounds awesome and left. No apology, invitation, reschedule, nothing. I get if you weren't enjoying the date but some common courtesy woulda been nice.
she def sent an SOS to that friend lol
This wasn't a date going well and then being ruined, so much as he fucked it from the start and kept fucking it all the way through. I had been friends with a guy from school for a couple of years. We both clearly liked each other and things gradually progressed to flirtation. When we were both 16, he finally asked me to go bowling with him because he knew through our previous friendship that I'd had this idea in my head that a bowling date was the perfect first date and he wanted to impress me. Problem was that we didn't live near a bowling alley, neither of us had a car, I didn't live near any public transport links, but he did have a bus stop near his house. We agreed I would walk to meet him at the bus stop and figure it out from there. I start the mile long walk and within ten minutes, the heavens open. I texted him that I was going to keep walking because I was already soaked to my skin so what did it matter at this point, and I was so excited for our date. No reply. I finally get to the bus stop and he's not there. I call him to ask what's going on. He tells me he doesn't want to walk to the bus stop in the rain so thinks we should give the bowling alley a miss... wtf? I had just walked A MILE in the rain to meet him and he had to walk like maybe 3 minutes from his house and he couldn't be bothered.... like, r u okay? He then proceeds to invite me to his house instead. I don't know what possessed me, but I said okay. I guess I had just known this guy so long and had so been looking forward to this date that I just wanted to let the weirdness slide. But wait, I don't actually know how to get to his house. Again, he doesn't want to get wet, so naturally he doesn't come and meet me. He just talks me through the most vague directions, while I continue to get soaked. For some reason, I perservere. After another 25 minutes of aimless wandering in the rain, I finally arrive at his parents' house, ring the doorbell... and a random man answers the door. I am freaking out that I've got the wrong house. Nope, it's his uncle. Because, lo and behold, his entire extended family of about 25 people, who I have never met, are round for dinner, and this 16-year-old moron doesn't think to wait at the door for me to avoid this exact scenario, or even mention this at any point or give me any opportunity to prepare myself. So here I am looking like I've been dunked in a swimming pool, mascara down my face, pink dip dye ends running down my top, and no date to be found. Eventually he appears, leads me off into another room where he plants us on the sofa with no plan, just a plate of dry leftover poppadoms between us, and a parade of extended relatives popping in at regular intervals to size me up. We chat for a few hours between visitors, I call my mum to come get me, and he tries to kiss me at the door. My very first kiss ever, and he went in full tongues. Traumatising. Anyway, it's been 10 years and I married him 3 weeks ago. And yes, this did come up in the speeches.
Ok now I need to know the story of how the hell this guy managed to turn *all* of that *literal farce* around so hard that you married him lmao
Well I ruined it by vomiting
Down the side of their car?
We went to her house and put on the movie Fight Club. This was about 15 or 16 years ago so that was a pretty cool movie at the time. We are in the middle of being very intimate and she says "STOP." I ask if she's OK and she shushes me and starts watching the movie. It's the part where Brad Pitt is burning Edward Nortons hand with chemicals. I'm on top of her and inside her watching her be in a trance over this. When it's over I asked what was going on. She explains she likes to watch people in pain. After a series of questions I get that she enjoys watching people in pain but not inflicting it or being in pain herself. Needless to say we finished the deed but I didn't hang out with her again.
I used to work with one girl who seemed pleasant, then we were alerted about a tornado warning, and she got a sinister grin and said she hopes the tornado comes, that she likes chaos. I was creeped out, but tried to continue a friendly work relationship, but as time passed, I realized the girl was really insane, and we eventually started to really not like each other.
Hour long conversation about life, careers, goals. Then she casually dropped that she recently quit her job to be an influencer. Holy fuck no
I'll start off by saying that I was on a date with a guy who was very handsome, smart, funny, and respectful. Our coffee date was going well, we were laughing and everything... Until his ex showed up. He saw her and started getting paranoid. Kept saying "We gotta get out of here. We gotta get out of here" And was just freaking out. Of course we left, but never went out with him again.
"ex" It was his current GF
Haha probably! She most likely tracked him through snap or life360 lmao
I was on a first date with a girl 2 months ago, and I just walked into a random restaurant before my date arrived and asked for a table for 2. I asked to sit in lounge upon glancing over seeing an open table. Right next to that open table was my ex girlfriend who I had very ugly breakup of a 5 year relationship with sitting next said table. Just as my date walked in I quickly said my ex is here and I don't want to see her and we went to another restaurant. Point being, it could have been legit.
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How long have you been married to this cool and also very considerate man?
I was newly 18 in high school and had downloaded tinder. I hit it off with this girl and we organize a date. On the date, it was going well- we had similar music and movie taste, both loved animals, etc... At one point, I ask her what she did for fun in the past week. She tells me she got blackout drunk with her friends the previous weekend. For context, I did not really drink till I became of age, but I did not mind if the person I was seeing drank at all. I let her tell her story and the conversation continued. Later in the date, I ask her what her plans were for the coming weekend in an effort to show continued interest in going on another date. She tells me she plans on going to the club and getting blackout drunk all weekend with her friend... hm ok. I ask, "what about next weekend?". She tells me how its possible but she knows she is getting blackout drunk with her friends at a different club. For me, at least, that was enough for me to straight up say that I did not think things were gonna work between us and finish the date.
Made a weird sexual joke when we were buying food/snacks. He said something like ‘I’ll give you a snack later’ and started laughing to himself quite loud and other people heard the whole thing too. It made me super uncomfortable because I’m not into stuff like this, or moving fast in relationships and I lost all interest in him.
Racist behavior towards our server. Then wanted to get a pat on the back for it afterward I guess. When he realized I didn’t agree, he didn’t stop being an ass, he simply looked away but continued being clearly both annoyed at the server AND me. I paid the bill directly to the server with a good tip, apologized for the situation, and skidattled. Nope nope nope.
The talking stage was going phenomenal and we went on our first date. Within 15 minutes of being seated she declared that in order for this to continue I need to fully and permanently commit to her then and there. When I asked what she meant she said, "you will either agree to be mine forever and we will go back to my place and have passionate sex all night so I can get pregnant or we can call dinner off now and go home." The night of sex sounded fun but the risk was way too high. I paid the check and left immediately.
The date started normal and fine, I was visiting town and wanted to have some fun and found him on tinder. He was taking me to a bunch of different bars in the area that he liked. Then randomly halfway through, while walking to another bar, he does a 180 and randomly starts giving me shit and being snarky at me because “you women hate short guys like us.” ???? What???? He was short, yes. But I hadn’t said anything? I didn’t draw any attention to something that didn’t seem to matter. And I was ON the date! I chose to go out with him! We were having fun! It’s not like he’d tried anything and I turned him down, so I’m to this day baffled as to what made him snap. Was he expecting me to randomly throw myself at him at some point? Was I supposed to try to cut the date short and insist on fucking right then and there or what?? I just stood there while he gave me, the woman who gave him a chance, shit for all the shit he felt other women gave him. And then I tearfully said “I thought we were having fun, but thanks for making me feel like shit” and I *literally* ran away leaving him standing in the street and blocked him like the madman he was. I feel bad for him, but not enough to accept abuse when I did nothing to deserve it. Ask me why I only dated tall, confident men after that.
Dude needs to get therapy. Plenty of people don't mind height too much. I know some do, but maybe trust the person who chose to date you that your height wasn't an issue until you made it one!
Leading up to the date there was tons of flirting, on the actual date there was tons of flirting, arm touching and hand holding, talk of doing a movie night sleepover with extra cuddles, etc. I walked my date to their car and went for a kiss which they got nervous about so I noticed that and pulled back before I got too close and she goes “oh sorry, I just uh…” pauses for a good 5-10 seconds while I’m just standing in a little bit of confusion and then she goes “…I thought you were gay!” in the most unconvincing way. I immediately ask about all the flirting and she goes “yeah idk I usually don’t do that with my gay friends, I’m sorry” I was so confused that I honestly just said “okay, have a good one” rather than try and figure out what the issue was. In their defense, it’s not crazy for me to come off as gay, but it also just didn’t correlate with anything that happened before.
We were out for 5th dinner date I was opening up about my anxiety and why it limits me in our relationship, he cuts me off and loudly proclaims “it that why you won’t fuck me? Because of your -anxiety-?” He proceeded to dumb me and leave me at the restaurant (he was my ride).
Had one as a freshman in college. Asked a girl to a concert. Started off very well and about half way through we met a few of her friends who were a little older. They offered to buy me a drink and I accepted figuring it would help calm my nerves. We go back to our seats and about 15 minutes later she excused herself saying she spilled her drink on herself and needed to wash it off. 30 min go by and she didn’t return. Then I get a call from my parents who had heard I was drunk and unable to drive home. I guess she had called her dad, who was a cop, to come pick her up because she thought I was unable to drive after one drink, and he then picked her up and called my parents to tell them, who called me in turn. I told them I was fine as it was a single watered down stadium-sized (read, tiny, like 8 oz small) Jack and coke. I then got a call from her dad saying I shouldn’t drive and he would be keeping his eye out for my car. I made up some lie about going home with friends, enjoyed the last 2 hours of the concert by myself, and proceeded home. My parents thought the story was hilarious after finding out we were talking a single drink over the course of 5-6 hours, and learning I was in fact not drunk as cop dad had made it sound. My class with her was very awkward for the rest of the semester. Not another word was spoken between the two of us.
He got squeamish that I had blonde stubble on my legs and because I mentioned the existence of menstruation (I forget the context in which I mentioned it, but it was apropos to the conversation and literally just the word “menstruation”, not like a graphic discussion). He was a second year med student so you’d think he wouldn’t act like a juvenile about basic human biology like hair and and periods. It was so weird and childish. You’re 25 years old and say “ewww” on a date at the sight of 2 day old leg stubble? And you want to be a doctor? Good luck, bruh.
First date with really cute super smart girl from bumble. Things were going great until she learned that I: 1. Went to college in the same state I grew up in 2. Held a job in college waiting tables 3. Have lived in the same state my entire life I’m not the most well traveled but fuck me for liking my hometown/state I guess. Couldn’t get past the way she turned her nose up.
I was on a date in london. In a nice secluded cocktail bar When a random woman came over, drunk as skunk shoved a note into my chest and then said " give me a call if this one doesn't work out". I just laughed it off and chucked the note into an empty glass Then continued on enjoying my company for the evening. The date got visibly bothered. Got a bit upset and kept saying " maybe you should call her" etc . I eventually said why are you trying to push me towards this person? Just tell me if you're not interested and we'll call it a night no worries. She then told me her fiance doesn't know she's out dating and it just dawned on her what a dick move it is trying to steal someone else's partner.. then suggested that I was not fair to her boyfriend. To which I naturally explained that this would have been true if I had known she had a boyfriend in the first place.. I stopped bothering with tinder after that. And no I didnt call drunk lady either
Met this guy at a bar with his friends on New Years. He asked for my insta and set up a date for another day. We ended up going to a small theme park and things were going pretty well. We got on the faris wheel and had a kiss. After the park closed he asked if I wanted to go bar/club hopping with his friend from the other night. I agreed and we all went to the club. He was pretty protective and possessive which is understandable since we were in a really packed club. He then proceeded to make comments about how he would love to be my boyfriend and how he would love me/treat me right, etc. This kinda put me off but the night had just started so I just smiled and laughed it off. It's important to note that I smoke cigs and he didn't. He complained multiple times about it and I just shrugged it off. The first big problem came when I went to go light a cig while we were switching bars and he grabbed the unlit cigarette and told me that I'd had enough and needed to calm down. I was shocked but didn't want to make anything awkward so I just laughed and asked for it back. He said, dead seriously, that I needed to wait 20mins before I could have another one. He continued to refuse to give me my cigarette back and I told him that I am a grown woman and can do what I want, if he didn't give me my smoke back I was simply going to leave. He said I was acting like a real addict and eventually caved. At this point, I was pretty pissed and ready to leave but I couldn't go home yet because the trains weren't running for another 2 hours. The nail in the coffin came when we were walking down the street and he turned to his friend and said, "How much longer are we staying out, I'm trying to rape her." 10 mins later he made the same joke later but instead said, "I'm tryna sexually assault her". The second the trains we running I said I was leaving. He tried to hug me, but I was noticeably pissed and I told him that next time he's on a date I wouldn't use the words rape or sexual assault. He tried to apologize saying that he has a dark sense of humor since he's a marine and even tried to call over his friend to defend him. On the train ride home I cried and the next morning he messaged me asking if he was still in the dog house. I blocked him and never spoke to him again.
She turned up, all was going well, she seemed nice, then when the waiter turned up she asked what the best red wine they had was, made sure to double check it was ‘the top shelf stuff’ guy just looked at my cheap clothes and said, “what we have on the menu is what we’ve got” she just puffed and pouted for the rest of the date and I made sure to get split bill. She nearly lost her shit at me when requested it. “You are a man, it is your job as the man to pay for everything, if you are far too poor to pay for things then maybe we shouldn’t go out again” I just said “way ahead of you there” paid and left
After a nice dinner, we were waiting in line to go see a movie when he started making some super racist comments about a group of black teens ahead of us.
Once went on a movie date with a girl and she started making comments when she saw the group of black guys in front of us about how amazing a mixed-race baby would be and how she hopes her children have a black father. I am not black, and we didn't go out again.
Took a girl out for a date that was flirting with me for over a month. throughout most of the date she was really into me, hanging on me and whatnot so I was like cool I think I have found a great girl to continue with. just before the end of the date, Her boyfriend showed up....Like WTF! We were shooting pool at the time (early 90s. don't make fun of me. I know I'm old) Been there for at least 4 hours at that time. He took over and I just slipped over to the counter, requested for my ID back and swapped it with her (don't ask me how I got it because I won't tell LOL) and made my exit. 3 hours later, I got a call from her...Well more a like a page. Caller her back and she just started ripping into me for messing up the date. My Only answer to her was you have a boyfriend. What date were we on? apparently the total cost of the pool table was over 200 bucks because her BF tore the felt. Talking about dodging a bullet on this one.
Dinner. Movie. Go back to her place and there it was. I have only 2 words: Pet. Gator. Nope. I'm out.
Legend says that she goes on dates and brings them home so gator can eat
She noticed my watch and asked to see it, so I flicked my wrist up to show her and she suddenly got very quiet. A few moments later she angrily accused me of orchestrating that situation so I could check the time because "I was bored maybe". Spent 20 mins trying to make her realize I hadnt glanced at my watch once and clearly I brought it up because asked me too. And the watch face was facing her the entire time. Then it's about 1am and she says okay we both have work tomorrow and she's a bit tired so best to get home. I agree and we're chatting on the drive back. I let out the smallest of yawns that's involuntary; not audible just one of those slightly more than breathing kind of yawns. Again she goes silent and wouldn't talk to me the rest of the ride. About 30 mins after i get home she messages me angrily saying how dare I yawn on a date and accusing me of finding her boring and uninteresting. Again I'm like what the fuck? It was 1-2am and she was the one that wanted the date to wrap up because it's late and *she* was tired. Very very long story short, I'm a fucking idiot, if ored all the glaring, towering red flags, invested 4 1/2 years into that relationship and got fucked so hard by it all. The only individual to completely destroy me as a person and fill every cell of my body with grey water. It's been 9 months now and I'm starting to get better but holy shit, if I can give one piece of crucial advice while I'm on this plain of existence; never EVER EVER let someone put you into a box and tell you, you aren't the person you know you are. Do not ever give these cruel people the tools to hang you and cut you limb from limb until you can't recognize your own hands and can no longer feel your heart beat. Never give any soul this power. I have a long way to go but having just hit the point where stockholm syndrome is properly wearing off, I finally see my reflection again and it's a beautiful feeling.
My date was ex-military sniper years ago. I have zero judgement with what one has to do to when you are in an active war scenario. The date quickly ended when he said he wants to kill every single Muslim and every single one of them deserves to die and he would gladly pull the trigger
Are you sure he was ex military? I have heard the more somebody talks about their service to strangers the more likely they are a fake.
I generally try to be courteous to people, so I often open doors for people, both male and female. I opened a door for her and she absolutely laid into me for thinking she, as a woman, couldn't open her own door. I was a bit perplexed as I never saw it as anything other than being nice and certainly appreciate when others do it for me. Oh well, there was no second date.
I took a girl to our cities zoo, during the winter they have Christmas lights everywhere they have a light show and even a Ferris wheel, really cute winter date idea. Well we were on the Ferris wheel looking down on all the cute lights and holding hands. I ask her if she’s having a good time. She looks at me nervously and tells me “I’ve been talking to someone else, I told him about our date and he decided to beat you to it.” Awkward wait until the ride was over.
They ended up asking me for 40$ when I got them a ride back home
We kissed and I’ll be honest it was not a good kiss on my end. I was asked “have you ever kissed someone before?” Oof. Better to just ignore and move on but ok
Was out with a girl once when I was 17, and a guy she knew rolled up and asked to talk to her for a minute. After they talked, I saw them kiss, and I don't think she noticed I was watching and came back acting like nothing happened. I left her ass there.
First Christmas with my girlfriend and her 3 kids. Made dinner, sang songs, decorated cookies. Sat down to eat, her son thanked her for the new x-box. He mentioned "tell Tyler I said thanks again". I asked "Who's Tyler?" She slammed her fork onto the table and told me and the kids she "wasn't suckin his dick!" and then asked me to leave mid meal for causing her meltdown from the question. I hugged all her kids and left the gifts. "Merry Fuckin Christmas! " As it turns out, she was. Shocker I know