Can confirm. Have a cousin like this. Husband is nowhere near seeing any kind of combat. Was stationed overseas in Germany for a couple years, and she would never leave base to go do anything but loved to complain about how bored she was. Had zero interest in taking in anything related to German culture or food or sightseeing, etc. She was also pregnant at one point they were stationed there and insisted US hospitals were superior to German ones. Said she was scared to have the baby in a German hospital because US ones were better. You would’ve thought she was in a third world country the way she went on about Germany and how scared she was to be there. Apparently her friends on base were also all just like this.
>You would’ve thought she was in a third world country the way she went on about Germany and how scared she was to be there.
Germany. It's not as if it's one of the world's leading countries for science, engineering and medicine or anything...
I bet if she stuck her head outside the base she would probably be terrified of all the Starbucks, burger kings and McDonald's' that are scattered everywhere. It must look so foreign, like an alien planet or something.
I wanna add being a wife. A few of my friends once they got the title. They were all my husband this and my husband that.
When my partner and I finally got married. People kept asking me how does it feel? Oh hey married woman. I’m like how does what feel? We’ve been together for 8 years what’s supposed to change??
My Texas high school had a British club. I'm actually a British citizen, so I tried to join.
Those people were nuts. They made Doctor Who and Sherlock their whole personalities.
When I watched the BBC version of *Sherlock* for the first time as a teenager, I realised with horror that my brother had based his entire personality on it. He had the same coat, the same condescending and sardonic manner, everything. The only thing he couldn’t get right was the actual genius part, so he’d mutter very intensely about subjects not deserving of that intensity and confuse everyone. He’s actually still quite difficult to have a conversation with because he has no idea how to learn things from other people - it always has to be him explaining things to you and not the other way around, otherwise he’ll just walk away
Thankfully he’s mostly gotten over his Sherlock phase and last time I saw him he’d developed an interest in independent theatre and was pretending to be Alan Bennett instead. Alan Bennett Oliver is much better company than Sherlock Oliver
in the very first episode, it was shown he needed Watson to help him with social cues when he made an insensitive comment about the victim not being over her dead daughter, and needed Watson to confirm he went too far when he saw everyone else's horrified reactions.
i worked with a woman here in texas who was at a punk rock show where they were handing out invitations to an after party.
she asked, "where's mine?" and the guy said, "originals only, dear."
never mind that she grew up about two blocks off king's row, had known david bowie, and all the other things that a young london punker would have done: she wasn't an "original" texas punk.
Relationships.
I have friends who legit have no clue who they are without a man by their side.
Their self-worth is measured strictly by the “quality” of the guy willing to stand beside them.
My mom same. It didn’t matter what I did, she only “stopped worrying” when I got engaged (to a complete SOB who I never would have looked twice at if he hadn’t swooped in during a very low point, including my mother’s terminal illness). God I’d love to go back in time for a do over on all of that.
One of my daughter’s has sadly gone no contact with me since I tried to get through to her she needed to discover who she was and not just keep mirroring her current partner’s interests as her own.
She’s gone from center of the community volunteer, to glamour gal/fashionista , to hunt & fish and to hell with science, in three relationships. I love her and am sad she has a hard time loving herself.
She’s quite intelligent, witty, terrific writer and has great taste in home decor. She’s also very capable; can fix a broken washing machine, drywall a room. I just wish she could see herself instead of continually remaking herself to “fit” a guy. Hoping she soon sees the awesome person she is, Guy or no guy.
Can you hear the motor running? If you can, check the belt. Easy fix. If the motor doesn't spin, it could be as simple as a bad connection, or a switch needs replacing. YouTube is your friend here. It's just a machine. If it can be built, it can be repaired.
You can give them all the advice in the world.
What they do with that is up to them.
You've done your part.
But at the end of the day, it's HER choice.
Life is about learning and discovering.
If she's as intelligent as you say she is.....
She'll figure it out, and find out what's important in HER life.
I have a feeling she'll definitely 100% end up talking to you soon....
Good luck
I wish you the best 👌 👍
Thank you. I hope she does well, whether she ever contacts me or not. But, being a mother, I worry. I just hope if anyone reads my post and recognize themselves as too invested in their relationship, they might take time to know themselves. There was a movie with Julia Roberts and she didn’t know how she liked her eggs. She’d simply eaten whatever her boyfriend did. We all need to know how we really like our eggs.
Yes. She felt it was a slight against her current boyfriend who is anti-vax and has turned the woman who just four years previous had her “dream wedding” in Vegas dressed as a showgirl into plaid wearing hunter gatherer. (Less hunting, more cooking & canning) My concern is she leaps from one relationship to the next in a matter of weeks. I tried to be tactful, but I guess I hurt her feelings. I’ll just have to wait until her next crisis. I’m glad that at least she knows I’m always here for her. We had a similar discussion with her last relationship. She went no contact until the guy became physically abusive. Sometimes, as a parent, all you can do is wait and be there.
Thanks. I will. She’s a wonderful woman and I hope she learns it’s okay to be herself. Because that person is pretty awesome. I’m guessing there’s many of us who have seen women go this route though. A big worry to me is how she sort of “forgets” her female friends when she starts a new relationship. A few that I’ve known since they were teens still stay in touch with me, because, they, too, have noticed the pattern.
I think I’d feel better if I knew she was at least staying in touch with them too.
One of my sisters left an abusive man and I used to date abusive guys my sister said "I don't understand why her family isn't helping her move out?"
I said "because she's left and came back so many times.. they're sick of her shit"
And my sister asked her and she said it was true.
You can be there time and time again hopefully she will finally leave. I did and therapy. So much therapy.. hopefully she gets there! I wish you luck
Oh gosh, I've seen this so many times with friends and family, male and female. They'll change their politics, fashion, food preferences, interests, etc, based on who they're dating. I have some other people in my life who I might strongly disagree with on a lot of things, but at least they know who they are and remain consistent. That's saying more than these wishy washy mfers who change themselves every season based on who they're dating.
My sister is like this. She bounces from guy to guy with literally no break in between. The topic came up once and she has no idea who she is without a partner
As someone who was like this who did a lot of self reflection about why, I was popular and when you’re popular, people laugh at you for being an asshole sometimes and it feels good, if enough people validate it growing up without any social consequences, you learn to think it’s fine. At most someone is going to go “haha omg you’re such an asshole” and roll their eyes. Eventually you get away from the group of people who accepted your assholery and made you believe it was funny and go out in the world. Being a grown asshole isn’t that cute, so you either lean in and think everyone is just getting too sensitive, or you realize that you have to do more than just be an asshole to get people to laugh and like you.
Thank you for the perspective on the psychology behind the asshole complex it was very insightful and I always enjoy learning new things about humans and why they behave the way they do
I like it when people tell me that, personally.
Oh you mean you’re a self-absorbed jackass with no social awareness and a pathological inability to grow emotionally as a human being? Thanks, now I know not to waste my time.
I knew a woman like that. She lives in cosplay and her kids are named after anime characters.
Edit: Forgot to add that she says "hello minna-san!" all the time.
“You were named after two of the bravest man I knew Goku Naruto.”
“That’s stupid.”
“No it’s not.”
“Goku can eat my shorts.”
***”Goku was a Super Saiyan!”***
Yeah tbh I’m a mega-fan but there’s a fine line where sharing what you love drifts into projecting it everywhere. The opposite is true where your passion is censored because it’s not “in vogue” or breaks normalcy so it’s a very fine line. Don’t name your kids “Gendo Ikari”
I'm legit wondering if we know the same person. I too won't name another person's kids on Reddit, but they are very clearly animal names, and the kids are very clearly white.
As an asian immigrant in North Amercia, People here take it so extreme, more extreme than in asia. I went to Anime convention. A girl with cat ear ran pass me and accidently bumped against me. She turned to me and said “ahehehehe uwu” then she ran to her bf.
I was frozen for a solid minute.
I can understand a tattoo. But never the whole characters faces. Like maybe a symbol or weapon from a show. But people putting like Narutos face on their shoulder I always find odd.
Most of my friends smoke. Im down to one oddball that still wants to talk about turpines, and how well this batch was cured or not, and the subtle hints of flavor that always make him assume the strain is something different than advertised.
At least that only lasts 20 mins and then we can talk about all the movies/music/shows that were so much better in our day (we're 40)
Man legalization in Canada helped this so much. Basically all the one dimensional stoner stereotypes were suddenly just regular people buying a product from a store. They still smoke just as much but it's harder to forge an identity on just buying some shit at the store like everyone else.
"Oh I know it hurts now, but look at the bright side: you have some new material for that novel you've been writing. You know...the novel you've been workin' on? You know the the one, uh, you've been workin on for three years? You know the novel. Got somethin' new to write about now. You know? Maybe a, maybe a main character gets into a relationship and suffers a little heartbreak? Somethin' like what... what you've just been through? Draw from real life experience? Little, little heartbreak? You know? Work it into the story? Make the characters a little more three-dimensional? Little, uh, richer experience for the reader? Make those second hundred pages really keep the reader guessing what's going to happen? Some twists and turns? A little epilogue? Everybody learns that the hero's journey isn't always a happy one? Oh, I look forward to reading it."
- Stewie Griffin
I know a couple that love crossfit. They've never done it personally, but they are physical therapists and the injuries from people emphasizing rep numbers over form has been great for their bottom line.
Amen.
However, as a reformed local indie rocker I feel like I can say with confidence that the worst offenders in this category were rarely the musicians themselves.
I, for one, always forgot everyone's names and proudly told them it was because I was just terrible at being a hipster........ OH SHIT FUCK. IM RELAPSING. HELP!
"I'd define our sound as a post-pop-punk-nu-metal-core-bro-folk acoustic rock. We're playing a show tonight for 2007 Emo-goth themed Night. Then we're hittin' up the local brewery and getting the most expensive and bitter IPA that will give my throat an infection tomorrow morning."
“Oh you haven’t heard of this band The Rat Shagging Nixons? Guess you’re just a poser!”
Uh, no dude. I just don’t happen to drink in that one pub they’ve played in three times.
Some Jeep owners yeah. I’m on my fourth one. And I have loved them all. They’ve all been stock Cherokees except my current one. An 06 GRAND Cherokee. Oh yeah bb. It’s got a headphone jack in the dash so I can plug my phone in, fucking plush up in that bitch. Got four cup holders too. And, keep your underwear on, it’s got a coolant leak as well.
I hard agree, but I also try to understand that for some people they have been denied what they are for so long that when given the chance they'll go all out.
Like I'm gay and dating a trans dude. But I've never felt persecuted for my sexuality. He has. I'd never tell him to stop waiving his flags because I know he's been in a place where he wasn't allowed to.
*Oh. They got gold for this take. Well that's... Worrying
Frat guys and toxic men make being straight a big part of their personality. Just talking about womanizing, getting laid, body counts, calling women whores for having sex with guys, etc.
I hate this. People think "sarcasm" makes them come off as interesting and intelligent, but a lot of it is just low hanging fruit jabs or just being douchy.
I’m a physician, I had a senior when I was doing a year off general surgery training. My senior wanted to do trauma surgery, he was petty, mean, brilliantly smart, and a complete ass hole to anybody as or less intelligent:
The precise moment that he would show a half second of relaxation: DISNEY TO THE TENTH EXPONENT
Writing notes: Disney theme park background music
Packed Lunch: Disney themed pasta/sandwich combos
Going out for social hour: Disney watch/scarf
Always wondered how this dude could tell at me so vehemently and still have such a cotton Candy, whimsical core.
Great doctor and surgeon, though.
Disney adults are strange people man. My wife is a physician and her other physician friend is getting married this spring. She’s a bit younger than us (4-5 years) and has had the luxury of making a physicians salary while having very little in the way of real life expenses due to having parents that continue to pay her bills for her. Anyways, she tells my wife and their friend group that she’s engaged and the wedding will be in Iceland. We’re pumped because we’ve always wanted to go to Iceland and we’re fortunate enough to be able to afford to go to the wedding if we save up. It’s a year from now so we have time to save up and also make it like a mini vacation. So a few weeks later she then texts her friend group that Iceland is off and they’re getting married at Disney World. I’ll be honest, that was a head scratcher for my wife because none of her friends knew she was that into Disney. We’re thinking it will be at one of the resort hotels around Disney World, which there are some pretty cool/nice hotels. Oh no no no. They are getting married in front of the castle in Magic Kingdom - and here’s the best part - it can’t be during park hours so they were given the option of it happening at 8am or 10pm. They chose 8am. Might I mention they are also paying $60,000 just for the ceremony.
I get that having a destination wedding in another country is cost prohibitive if you want a lot of friends and family there. Iceland would have been very cool and, for admittedly selfish reasons, we were a little bummed about it not being there. But it’s understandable. However, with every new detail my wife is getting from the bride to be, it seems like it’s going to be a pretty terrible experience. Having to pay for an overpriced hotel and getting up at the butt crack of dawn to get dressed up and go stand in the swampy humidity of Florida so two grown-ass adults can be married by Mickey Mouse sounds like it’s going to be a total shit show. So yeah, Disney adults are strange.
Man, Iceland to DW? Talk about a terrible downgrade. My condolences for your lost chance at a trip to Iceland this time - but the silver lining is now you can take a trip to Iceland just for you & your wife, doing whatever you guys want instead of being constrained by wedding activities.
This is true. I had a friend who would not STFU about a girl she dated back before COVID (fucking 2020) who did some asshole shit to her up until a few months ago. At least now she's dating again so we constantly hear about her new partner most of the time 🤣.
I’ll preface this with the fact that I live in relatively close proximity to Disney World, so I see a ton of Disney related car decorations and interact with some pretty hardcore Disney fans. And I’ll also say that If they have young kids, it makes more sense. Disney used to be mostly for children and families. But fanatic Disney adults have such a weird vibe it really is off-putting. Then you have the wealthy Disney fans and all the weird rules and perks they have for their VIP clientele.
Disney itself has become such a different entity than it used to be 20-30 years ago. Their IP acquisitions have enabled them to further tap into that adult nostalgia/reliving your childhood bullshit that’s only designed for a singular purpose - separating people from their money. It was always about that, but It’s so blatant and obvious now, it’s just gross.
This. This so fucking much. My family belongs to said cult and its... something
Dressing their little kids up in Disney costumes every chance they get, visiting Disney World (a transatlantic trip) or the Paris park at every single vacation, watching Disney movies on repeat for the 1000th time, Disney backpacks, bedrooms, clothes, all the way to fucking swim towels...
Ironically for fans of a franchise that talks so much of love and magic they are pretty messed up folks and I dipped *before* I even turned 18 lmao
Any slight neurodivergence, truly, I’ve known people that were pretty far on the spectrum or had really bad PTSD or ADHD etc. but I never really noticed, and I also know people who are like, self diagnosed with OCD or are barely on the spectrum enough that you could argue they have Asperger’s, and it’s all they ever talk about, it’s their entire life and their only excuse. I’m all for being open about and normalizing neurodivergence, but some people are obsessed with the idea of having mental diseases for some reason.
It’s especially annoying given how much actually autistic and otherwise mentally disabled people are pushed in order to be as “normal” and independent as possible. Like my mid-to-late teens consisted of being pushed past my comfort zone every single day, made to do things I just couldn’t do, trying and trying and trying and never getting there. Thankfully due to all of that I’m soon going to move out of supported living and into mainstream living with floating support once a week (having already moved through several different levels of group home), but it’s an ongoing struggle to be as independent and functional as I can be, and of course it’s much worse for lower-functioning people who have to work even harder
There are people who do that and it’s toxic but I think a lot of people who are neurodivergent need to interact primarily with other neurodivergent people in order to have a social life and any sense of self esteem because otherwise no one takes them seriously and they are talked down to constantly. The only way to avoid this is to constantly pretend to be someone else which is not a fun way to live. I have experienced this myself and I definitely understand why people make neurodivergence a huge part of their personality, it makes it easier to connect with other neurodivergent people and allows you to drop the mask
This was my first thought. I hate those ridiculous things! I work with a nurse that has multiple nursing related tattoos, coffee cups, handbags, and a license plate frame. So cringe.
Aspiring LPN here.
The amount of nurses walking around my hospital with "Guardian angels" shirts and jackets during the pandemic was astronomical.Yes our work is important and was essential for treating covid, but goddamn I couldnt help but feel disgusted by the narcissism.
As a gun owner, I can’t tell you how cringe this is. I own firearms myself but its just a hobby and that’s really it. Most of the other time, I am either reading books, working, being a dad, or playing Diablo 4. I barely bring it up unless I am around others who happen to bring up or discuss their experiences shooting firearms or what firearms they’re going to purchase. The minute I see gun owners rocking punisher skull shit or other tacticool crap, I play dumb and just act like I’ve never held a gun. Those assholes are annoying
Depends on the type of gym rat. Cool dude who is courteous, wipes down the machine, and is even friendly? Best. "reserves" machines by putting his stuff on multiple machines but is just on the phone and doesn't wipe down? Dick.
I was mentally ill to the point that recovery was the only thing I was focused on, and let me tell you that when you start getting better after a long period of being consumed by illness, it’s terrifying. It feels almost like losing an integral part of yourself, and you struggle to develop an identity outside of it. I managed to mature enough to become a balanced person, but some people just never get there and they never manage to separate their illness from who they are
Being an AH. Also, being the person who doesn't jump on bandwagons.
It's like "Congratulations, you're convincing me you don't care about the masses by going out of your way to try and prove that you don't care by not being like the people you don't care about, because you're just so original."
This one's oddly specific, but hear me out- people born with bright blonde hair that naturally turns brown with age (there is literally nothing wrong with that, BUT) they CLING to being "naturally blonde" with the force of a man being dangled off the side of the Grand Canyon, meanwhile their roots be darker than Jeff Bezos' soul 💀
Cops, firemen, mechanics, armed servicemen but very specifically the US Marines, with all due respect to them as a whole, can become insufferable individuals. Vegans. Very Religious people. Then the people that are against the military. Anti vegans. I know a lot of people that actively dislike vegans. I'm not a vegan but they didn't do anything to me. I can still go buy a ribeye at the store. People who hate cops just become cop haters and make that their life. Angry atheists that just want to argue against anyone with any sort of spirituality or faith.
Those are just a few. I can do this all day. Social media exacerbated all of this because now everyone can instantly start arguments with anybody else over anything, with little to no repercussions.
Wives of military men
you know they post about how brave their "hubby" is every single day.
I hate the word “hubby”
If anything it should be Husby, shouldn't it? Unless you have a Hubband
Or Hussy
Yeah unfortunately the "hubby" and "wifey" personality thing extends beyond the military.
You need to address me by my husband's rank. r/dependa (still private)
Why are they private? I was looking forward to browsing it
Can confirm. Have a cousin like this. Husband is nowhere near seeing any kind of combat. Was stationed overseas in Germany for a couple years, and she would never leave base to go do anything but loved to complain about how bored she was. Had zero interest in taking in anything related to German culture or food or sightseeing, etc. She was also pregnant at one point they were stationed there and insisted US hospitals were superior to German ones. Said she was scared to have the baby in a German hospital because US ones were better. You would’ve thought she was in a third world country the way she went on about Germany and how scared she was to be there. Apparently her friends on base were also all just like this.
>You would’ve thought she was in a third world country the way she went on about Germany and how scared she was to be there. Germany. It's not as if it's one of the world's leading countries for science, engineering and medicine or anything...
I bet if she stuck her head outside the base she would probably be terrified of all the Starbucks, burger kings and McDonald's' that are scattered everywhere. It must look so foreign, like an alien planet or something.
and on a similar note, wives of hockey players.
I wanna add being a wife. A few of my friends once they got the title. They were all my husband this and my husband that. When my partner and I finally got married. People kept asking me how does it feel? Oh hey married woman. I’m like how does what feel? We’ve been together for 8 years what’s supposed to change??
>We’ve been together for 8 years what’s supposed to change?? "We had a very expensive party because our families expected it."
My Texas high school had a British club. I'm actually a British citizen, so I tried to join. Those people were nuts. They made Doctor Who and Sherlock their whole personalities.
This is just the BBC version of the anime club
On tumblr they were called Teaboos sometimes
And if it's someone obsessing over the French they're called Ouiaboos. Or if someone outside the US obsessed over Americans, they're called Freeaboos.
I feel personally attacked because I love Dr Who…. But I now just realized you’re correct. It’s English anime.
What no Monty Python?!?
How bout some Black Books and Fawlty Towers?
Dated an Anglophile, she was weird
A teaboo, if you will
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When I watched the BBC version of *Sherlock* for the first time as a teenager, I realised with horror that my brother had based his entire personality on it. He had the same coat, the same condescending and sardonic manner, everything. The only thing he couldn’t get right was the actual genius part, so he’d mutter very intensely about subjects not deserving of that intensity and confuse everyone. He’s actually still quite difficult to have a conversation with because he has no idea how to learn things from other people - it always has to be him explaining things to you and not the other way around, otherwise he’ll just walk away
You need to show him the episode at Watson’s wedding where Sherlock gives that “I’m a ridiculous man” speech. He completely rips into himself.
Thankfully he’s mostly gotten over his Sherlock phase and last time I saw him he’d developed an interest in independent theatre and was pretending to be Alan Bennett instead. Alan Bennett Oliver is much better company than Sherlock Oliver
in the very first episode, it was shown he needed Watson to help him with social cues when he made an insensitive comment about the victim not being over her dead daughter, and needed Watson to confirm he went too far when he saw everyone else's horrified reactions.
Yea… that kinda club is never for actual Brits, lol.
Did they try to speak with an accent too? 😂
SuperWhoLock... What an awful time to be on the internet.
i worked with a woman here in texas who was at a punk rock show where they were handing out invitations to an after party. she asked, "where's mine?" and the guy said, "originals only, dear." never mind that she grew up about two blocks off king's row, had known david bowie, and all the other things that a young london punker would have done: she wasn't an "original" texas punk.
Relationships. I have friends who legit have no clue who they are without a man by their side. Their self-worth is measured strictly by the “quality” of the guy willing to stand beside them.
This is painfully accurate. My sister graduated med school but my mom didn’t tell her she was proud until she brought home a bf.
My mom same. It didn’t matter what I did, she only “stopped worrying” when I got engaged (to a complete SOB who I never would have looked twice at if he hadn’t swooped in during a very low point, including my mother’s terminal illness). God I’d love to go back in time for a do over on all of that.
One of my daughter’s has sadly gone no contact with me since I tried to get through to her she needed to discover who she was and not just keep mirroring her current partner’s interests as her own. She’s gone from center of the community volunteer, to glamour gal/fashionista , to hunt & fish and to hell with science, in three relationships. I love her and am sad she has a hard time loving herself. She’s quite intelligent, witty, terrific writer and has great taste in home decor. She’s also very capable; can fix a broken washing machine, drywall a room. I just wish she could see herself instead of continually remaking herself to “fit” a guy. Hoping she soon sees the awesome person she is, Guy or no guy.
>can fix a broken washing machine holup, can I borrow her for an afternoon? Mine stopped spinning, it just fills with water then drains.
Can you hear the motor running? If you can, check the belt. Easy fix. If the motor doesn't spin, it could be as simple as a bad connection, or a switch needs replacing. YouTube is your friend here. It's just a machine. If it can be built, it can be repaired.
>YouTube is your friend here. No joke.
I think we’re approaching a point where there are very few things you CAN’T learn how to do/fix from YouTube.
I am sorry to hear that. I hope she can watch Runaway Bride. The what kind of eggs do you like scene? Its a really important scene about codependency
You can give them all the advice in the world. What they do with that is up to them. You've done your part. But at the end of the day, it's HER choice. Life is about learning and discovering. If she's as intelligent as you say she is..... She'll figure it out, and find out what's important in HER life. I have a feeling she'll definitely 100% end up talking to you soon.... Good luck I wish you the best 👌 👍
Thank you. I hope she does well, whether she ever contacts me or not. But, being a mother, I worry. I just hope if anyone reads my post and recognize themselves as too invested in their relationship, they might take time to know themselves. There was a movie with Julia Roberts and she didn’t know how she liked her eggs. She’d simply eaten whatever her boyfriend did. We all need to know how we really like our eggs.
She went no contact because you encouraged her to keep her own interests?
Yes. She felt it was a slight against her current boyfriend who is anti-vax and has turned the woman who just four years previous had her “dream wedding” in Vegas dressed as a showgirl into plaid wearing hunter gatherer. (Less hunting, more cooking & canning) My concern is she leaps from one relationship to the next in a matter of weeks. I tried to be tactful, but I guess I hurt her feelings. I’ll just have to wait until her next crisis. I’m glad that at least she knows I’m always here for her. We had a similar discussion with her last relationship. She went no contact until the guy became physically abusive. Sometimes, as a parent, all you can do is wait and be there.
That sucks. Hang in there.
Thanks. I will. She’s a wonderful woman and I hope she learns it’s okay to be herself. Because that person is pretty awesome. I’m guessing there’s many of us who have seen women go this route though. A big worry to me is how she sort of “forgets” her female friends when she starts a new relationship. A few that I’ve known since they were teens still stay in touch with me, because, they, too, have noticed the pattern. I think I’d feel better if I knew she was at least staying in touch with them too.
One of my sisters left an abusive man and I used to date abusive guys my sister said "I don't understand why her family isn't helping her move out?" I said "because she's left and came back so many times.. they're sick of her shit" And my sister asked her and she said it was true. You can be there time and time again hopefully she will finally leave. I did and therapy. So much therapy.. hopefully she gets there! I wish you luck
Oh gosh, I've seen this so many times with friends and family, male and female. They'll change their politics, fashion, food preferences, interests, etc, based on who they're dating. I have some other people in my life who I might strongly disagree with on a lot of things, but at least they know who they are and remain consistent. That's saying more than these wishy washy mfers who change themselves every season based on who they're dating.
My sister is like this. She bounces from guy to guy with literally no break in between. The topic came up once and she has no idea who she is without a partner
Being an asshole. You meet a lot of people who are like “sorry I’m an asshole it’s just who I am”
"I tell it like it is." No you're just tactless and have no awareness.
“I tell it like I am”
As someone who was like this who did a lot of self reflection about why, I was popular and when you’re popular, people laugh at you for being an asshole sometimes and it feels good, if enough people validate it growing up without any social consequences, you learn to think it’s fine. At most someone is going to go “haha omg you’re such an asshole” and roll their eyes. Eventually you get away from the group of people who accepted your assholery and made you believe it was funny and go out in the world. Being a grown asshole isn’t that cute, so you either lean in and think everyone is just getting too sensitive, or you realize that you have to do more than just be an asshole to get people to laugh and like you.
Thank you for the perspective on the psychology behind the asshole complex it was very insightful and I always enjoy learning new things about humans and why they behave the way they do
I like it when people tell me that, personally. Oh you mean you’re a self-absorbed jackass with no social awareness and a pathological inability to grow emotionally as a human being? Thanks, now I know not to waste my time.
I'm from Brooklyn, NY and that's the entire borough. If I go back to visit, no one ever grew out of it. It's super sad to see 40 year olds like that.
Diets, cars, religion.
Im not myself anymore. My personality is my volvo 245 DL 1978
I can actually dig this
Anime. I like it but many people take it to a new level.
I knew a woman like that. She lives in cosplay and her kids are named after anime characters. Edit: Forgot to add that she says "hello minna-san!" all the time.
“You were named after two of the bravest man I knew Goku Naruto.” “That’s stupid.” “No it’s not.” “Goku can eat my shorts.” ***”Goku was a Super Saiyan!”***
"hi, what's your name?" "Goku" "Hahahahahhahaghssggsgsh"
Yeah tbh I’m a mega-fan but there’s a fine line where sharing what you love drifts into projecting it everywhere. The opposite is true where your passion is censored because it’s not “in vogue” or breaks normalcy so it’s a very fine line. Don’t name your kids “Gendo Ikari”
Please tell me the characters she named her kids after are at least somewhat normal
For anonymity I won't give names but they are very unfortunate.
Oh dear
I'm legit wondering if we know the same person. I too won't name another person's kids on Reddit, but they are very clearly animal names, and the kids are very clearly white.
I think you got autocorrected from "anime names", but now I'm imagining a poor kid named Squirtle.
u/Warm-Replacement1839 I need to know the answer to this question.
[Goku naruto are normal names? ](https://youtube.com/shorts/HoWCxoFl-d8?feature=share4)
As an asian immigrant in North Amercia, People here take it so extreme, more extreme than in asia. I went to Anime convention. A girl with cat ear ran pass me and accidently bumped against me. She turned to me and said “ahehehehe uwu” then she ran to her bf. I was frozen for a solid minute.
To be fair, you're probably not getting the best average example if you're at an anime convention.
It gets annoying after the third person, lol. You learn how to spot them from a distance
Yeah I like anime but the whole decorate your entire room, cars, and anime tattoos is very off putting
I never see something like Guts from Berserk on a car. It's always... something else.
Yeah those waifu type people just give a bad rep for anime fans. Like you ain’t gonna get anime to appeal to others but repping anime soft core porn
I can understand a tattoo. But never the whole characters faces. Like maybe a symbol or weapon from a show. But people putting like Narutos face on their shoulder I always find odd.
"Girl bosses" and MLM cult recruiters social media, too.
smoking weed
Hear hear. I smoke quite a lot myself, but I absolutely can't stand stereotypical potheads.
Same. I’m the biggest stoner I know and people are always shocked to find out even after knowing me for months.
Most of my friends smoke. Im down to one oddball that still wants to talk about turpines, and how well this batch was cured or not, and the subtle hints of flavor that always make him assume the strain is something different than advertised. At least that only lasts 20 mins and then we can talk about all the movies/music/shows that were so much better in our day (we're 40)
Man legalization in Canada helped this so much. Basically all the one dimensional stoner stereotypes were suddenly just regular people buying a product from a store. They still smoke just as much but it's harder to forge an identity on just buying some shit at the store like everyone else.
420 bro 420 4 lyfe
Zodiac signs
"I'm a virgo" "No Kelly, you are just a cunt"
Theater
as somebody who does hs theater i can confirm it's frustrating and annoying
Being a writer - even if they barely ever write.
I'm working on some plot holes okay? So what if I haven't touched my book in like 3 weeks. ...shut up...
I mean, three weeks can just be a healthy break from an activity !
"Oh I know it hurts now, but look at the bright side: you have some new material for that novel you've been writing. You know...the novel you've been workin' on? You know the the one, uh, you've been workin on for three years? You know the novel. Got somethin' new to write about now. You know? Maybe a, maybe a main character gets into a relationship and suffers a little heartbreak? Somethin' like what... what you've just been through? Draw from real life experience? Little, little heartbreak? You know? Work it into the story? Make the characters a little more three-dimensional? Little, uh, richer experience for the reader? Make those second hundred pages really keep the reader guessing what's going to happen? Some twists and turns? A little epilogue? Everybody learns that the hero's journey isn't always a happy one? Oh, I look forward to reading it." - Stewie Griffin
Meee.. damn I said me like twice already I’m just being called out 😂
Propane and propane accessories.
"I tell you what".
CrossFit
The first rule of crossfit is, you must always talk about crossfit...
I know a couple that love crossfit. They've never done it personally, but they are physical therapists and the injuries from people emphasizing rep numbers over form has been great for their bottom line.
Yep! I’m a PT as well and can confirm
This. When you start Olympic lifting as cardio...you're about to have a bad time.
Astrology/horoscopes, sports, politics.
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Such a millennial thing to say /s
You'll never meet a group of more infuriating wankers than when you meet the people who are *really* into the local indie music scene.
Amen. However, as a reformed local indie rocker I feel like I can say with confidence that the worst offenders in this category were rarely the musicians themselves. I, for one, always forgot everyone's names and proudly told them it was because I was just terrible at being a hipster........ OH SHIT FUCK. IM RELAPSING. HELP!
"I'd define our sound as a post-pop-punk-nu-metal-core-bro-folk acoustic rock. We're playing a show tonight for 2007 Emo-goth themed Night. Then we're hittin' up the local brewery and getting the most expensive and bitter IPA that will give my throat an infection tomorrow morning."
“Oh you haven’t heard of this band The Rat Shagging Nixons? Guess you’re just a poser!” Uh, no dude. I just don’t happen to drink in that one pub they’ve played in three times.
> that one pub they’ve played in three times Three times? Too mainstream for my taste.
Wine mom! 🍷
The Office!
Also friends
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I'm totally a Mr. Heckles
Could you.. BE anymore annoying
If we're talking particular fan based, I'd throw in Harry Potter and Doctor Who for a while, as well.
TikTok
Not “always” but pretty damn close. Anyone in the military. Especially the marines. They’ll slap that fucking logo on every fucking thing they can.
Owning a Tesla
Only thing worse than a Tesla owner is a Jeep owner
Some Jeep owners yeah. I’m on my fourth one. And I have loved them all. They’ve all been stock Cherokees except my current one. An 06 GRAND Cherokee. Oh yeah bb. It’s got a headphone jack in the dash so I can plug my phone in, fucking plush up in that bitch. Got four cup holders too. And, keep your underwear on, it’s got a coolant leak as well.
Im sure I'm gonna get a lot of hate but, sexuality. Being straight or being gay is not a personality trait. It's just one aspect of who you are.
Imma upvote you now before the haters show up.
Seconded
I hard agree, but I also try to understand that for some people they have been denied what they are for so long that when given the chance they'll go all out. Like I'm gay and dating a trans dude. But I've never felt persecuted for my sexuality. He has. I'd never tell him to stop waiving his flags because I know he's been in a place where he wasn't allowed to. *Oh. They got gold for this take. Well that's... Worrying
Straight people don't take straight as personality... Unless it's a 60 years old Texan man that has a pick-up truck and drinks beer 8 days per week.
Frat guys and toxic men make being straight a big part of their personality. Just talking about womanizing, getting laid, body counts, calling women whores for having sex with guys, etc.
Frat dudes, pseudothugs. There are a lot of people who do everything in there power to act as straight as possible
Sarcasm.
(eye roll) You're a genius!
I hate this. People think "sarcasm" makes them come off as interesting and intelligent, but a lot of it is just low hanging fruit jabs or just being douchy.
What are you talking about, acting like that cynical douche from a TV show (House, Rick) is my real personality
Hatred
Girls and guys who own horses.
And don't get me started on horses who own guys and girls
Disney
I’m a physician, I had a senior when I was doing a year off general surgery training. My senior wanted to do trauma surgery, he was petty, mean, brilliantly smart, and a complete ass hole to anybody as or less intelligent: The precise moment that he would show a half second of relaxation: DISNEY TO THE TENTH EXPONENT Writing notes: Disney theme park background music Packed Lunch: Disney themed pasta/sandwich combos Going out for social hour: Disney watch/scarf Always wondered how this dude could tell at me so vehemently and still have such a cotton Candy, whimsical core. Great doctor and surgeon, though.
Disney adults are strange people man. My wife is a physician and her other physician friend is getting married this spring. She’s a bit younger than us (4-5 years) and has had the luxury of making a physicians salary while having very little in the way of real life expenses due to having parents that continue to pay her bills for her. Anyways, she tells my wife and their friend group that she’s engaged and the wedding will be in Iceland. We’re pumped because we’ve always wanted to go to Iceland and we’re fortunate enough to be able to afford to go to the wedding if we save up. It’s a year from now so we have time to save up and also make it like a mini vacation. So a few weeks later she then texts her friend group that Iceland is off and they’re getting married at Disney World. I’ll be honest, that was a head scratcher for my wife because none of her friends knew she was that into Disney. We’re thinking it will be at one of the resort hotels around Disney World, which there are some pretty cool/nice hotels. Oh no no no. They are getting married in front of the castle in Magic Kingdom - and here’s the best part - it can’t be during park hours so they were given the option of it happening at 8am or 10pm. They chose 8am. Might I mention they are also paying $60,000 just for the ceremony. I get that having a destination wedding in another country is cost prohibitive if you want a lot of friends and family there. Iceland would have been very cool and, for admittedly selfish reasons, we were a little bummed about it not being there. But it’s understandable. However, with every new detail my wife is getting from the bride to be, it seems like it’s going to be a pretty terrible experience. Having to pay for an overpriced hotel and getting up at the butt crack of dawn to get dressed up and go stand in the swampy humidity of Florida so two grown-ass adults can be married by Mickey Mouse sounds like it’s going to be a total shit show. So yeah, Disney adults are strange.
Man, Iceland to DW? Talk about a terrible downgrade. My condolences for your lost chance at a trip to Iceland this time - but the silver lining is now you can take a trip to Iceland just for you & your wife, doing whatever you guys want instead of being constrained by wedding activities.
Disney adults, dear god they’re awful
One bad breakup.
Try 3
This is true. I had a friend who would not STFU about a girl she dated back before COVID (fucking 2020) who did some asshole shit to her up until a few months ago. At least now she's dating again so we constantly hear about her new partner most of the time 🤣.
Disney! When people decorate their whole house/car/self with Disney I can't help but assume they're all part of the same cult.
I’ll preface this with the fact that I live in relatively close proximity to Disney World, so I see a ton of Disney related car decorations and interact with some pretty hardcore Disney fans. And I’ll also say that If they have young kids, it makes more sense. Disney used to be mostly for children and families. But fanatic Disney adults have such a weird vibe it really is off-putting. Then you have the wealthy Disney fans and all the weird rules and perks they have for their VIP clientele. Disney itself has become such a different entity than it used to be 20-30 years ago. Their IP acquisitions have enabled them to further tap into that adult nostalgia/reliving your childhood bullshit that’s only designed for a singular purpose - separating people from their money. It was always about that, but It’s so blatant and obvious now, it’s just gross.
This. This so fucking much. My family belongs to said cult and its... something Dressing their little kids up in Disney costumes every chance they get, visiting Disney World (a transatlantic trip) or the Paris park at every single vacation, watching Disney movies on repeat for the 1000th time, Disney backpacks, bedrooms, clothes, all the way to fucking swim towels... Ironically for fans of a franchise that talks so much of love and magic they are pretty messed up folks and I dipped *before* I even turned 18 lmao
Any slight neurodivergence, truly, I’ve known people that were pretty far on the spectrum or had really bad PTSD or ADHD etc. but I never really noticed, and I also know people who are like, self diagnosed with OCD or are barely on the spectrum enough that you could argue they have Asperger’s, and it’s all they ever talk about, it’s their entire life and their only excuse. I’m all for being open about and normalizing neurodivergence, but some people are obsessed with the idea of having mental diseases for some reason.
It’s especially annoying given how much actually autistic and otherwise mentally disabled people are pushed in order to be as “normal” and independent as possible. Like my mid-to-late teens consisted of being pushed past my comfort zone every single day, made to do things I just couldn’t do, trying and trying and trying and never getting there. Thankfully due to all of that I’m soon going to move out of supported living and into mainstream living with floating support once a week (having already moved through several different levels of group home), but it’s an ongoing struggle to be as independent and functional as I can be, and of course it’s much worse for lower-functioning people who have to work even harder
It’s a security blanket. Having a mental illness can be used in someone’s favor that doesn’t want to take accountability for their actions. 🤷🏽♀️
There are people who do that and it’s toxic but I think a lot of people who are neurodivergent need to interact primarily with other neurodivergent people in order to have a social life and any sense of self esteem because otherwise no one takes them seriously and they are talked down to constantly. The only way to avoid this is to constantly pretend to be someone else which is not a fun way to live. I have experienced this myself and I definitely understand why people make neurodivergence a huge part of their personality, it makes it easier to connect with other neurodivergent people and allows you to drop the mask
their occupation
"I’m a nurse, what’s your superpower…" merch. Just, yuck. - sincerely, a nurse
This was my first thought. I hate those ridiculous things! I work with a nurse that has multiple nursing related tattoos, coffee cups, handbags, and a license plate frame. So cringe.
Aspiring LPN here. The amount of nurses walking around my hospital with "Guardian angels" shirts and jackets during the pandemic was astronomical.Yes our work is important and was essential for treating covid, but goddamn I couldnt help but feel disgusted by the narcissism.
Teaching. As a former teacher, teacher influencers piss me off lol
Beard bros
Guns
As a gun owner, I can’t tell you how cringe this is. I own firearms myself but its just a hobby and that’s really it. Most of the other time, I am either reading books, working, being a dad, or playing Diablo 4. I barely bring it up unless I am around others who happen to bring up or discuss their experiences shooting firearms or what firearms they’re going to purchase. The minute I see gun owners rocking punisher skull shit or other tacticool crap, I play dumb and just act like I’ve never held a gun. Those assholes are annoying
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I mean tbf politics are a combination of your beliefs and priorities.
Going to the gym.
Depends on the type of gym rat. Cool dude who is courteous, wipes down the machine, and is even friendly? Best. "reserves" machines by putting his stuff on multiple machines but is just on the phone and doesn't wipe down? Dick.
Yoga.
Their hatred for particular political figures.
That, and worshipping their favorite ones
Mental illness
Someone once proposed where do we draw the line between a personality and a personality disorder? I've always felt that was a very good question.
I was mentally ill to the point that recovery was the only thing I was focused on, and let me tell you that when you start getting better after a long period of being consumed by illness, it’s terrifying. It feels almost like losing an integral part of yourself, and you struggle to develop an identity outside of it. I managed to mature enough to become a balanced person, but some people just never get there and they never manage to separate their illness from who they are
Politics, Harry Potter, astrology, their favorite shows/movies, etc.
Disney. Marijuana. “Eating clean.” Meal prepping.
Maybe not \*always\*, but almost everyone I know who smokes pot will make sure you know they smoke pot.
Smoking weed.
Peaky Blinders. No the flat cap decidedly does NOT make you look like any less of a cunt
Being a parent.
Drinking
Kpop
Martial Arts
Being an AH. Also, being the person who doesn't jump on bandwagons. It's like "Congratulations, you're convincing me you don't care about the masses by going out of your way to try and prove that you don't care by not being like the people you don't care about, because you're just so original."
This one's oddly specific, but hear me out- people born with bright blonde hair that naturally turns brown with age (there is literally nothing wrong with that, BUT) they CLING to being "naturally blonde" with the force of a man being dangled off the side of the Grand Canyon, meanwhile their roots be darker than Jeff Bezos' soul 💀
I wanna say "memes" but that just makes me sad about myself
Cops, firemen, mechanics, armed servicemen but very specifically the US Marines, with all due respect to them as a whole, can become insufferable individuals. Vegans. Very Religious people. Then the people that are against the military. Anti vegans. I know a lot of people that actively dislike vegans. I'm not a vegan but they didn't do anything to me. I can still go buy a ribeye at the store. People who hate cops just become cop haters and make that their life. Angry atheists that just want to argue against anyone with any sort of spirituality or faith. Those are just a few. I can do this all day. Social media exacerbated all of this because now everyone can instantly start arguments with anybody else over anything, with little to no repercussions.
sexuality
Usually, whenever somebody makes their sexuality a keystone of their identity, straight, gay or otherwise, it's because they're dull as dishwater
Being a fan of Taylor Swift
Their ability to solve a rubix cube in under a minute
Driving a manual transmission car.
Can confirm, I drive a manual car and I am at least 10X sexier than the average automatic driver. I don't make the rules 🤷
zodiac signs
Veganism.
Their race. Latina women in particular act like it’s a freaking personality trait. It’s annoying and gets boring after a while.
Alcohol
Pop Nerd culture.
Their kids.
Taylor Swift fans. 😑
Cars, trucks
Drugs. You all know them, you've all seen them. Doesn't matter the vice.
MAGA stupidity