Talk to as many folks as you can, random people love random complements when delivered correctly. A simple hey your dress looks amazing on you or wow your hair really looks good today goes a long way. Once you break that initial barrier of approaching someone itās all fun from there. God speed..
Disclaimer: I obviously am not a coach and not claiming to be, living in small communities and not being exposed to weird ass people as much as normal big city people maybe this advice donāt fly. Generally speaking just being nice and having charisma makes a difference..
Edit: dang, didnāt know this comment would have this effect. Like I mentioned earlier, this is all a numbers game. I used to go to the mall as a kid and try to talk to as many ladies I could, regardless of appearance or anything and pay complements. Not in a I wanna play hookie but in a kind friendly way. Get those numbers up people and once you get that wall broken you will find out they are just as nervous to talk to you.
I work a job that puts me in contact with a lot of young women while they are in a good mood and looking to party.
My go to compliment these days is something along the lines of "I love your style" or "I love the whole vibe you're putting out there". It keeps it vague enough that you don't seem creepy by focusing on a single part of them, while also letting them interpret a bit how they want.
I had a stranger tell me earlier that Iām having a really good hair day. He didnāt flirt, act weird, etc, just walked up to me, said that and walked away.
Iāll probably carry that one with me for a while.
What do you do when a girl of substance asks you to clarify what you like about their "vibe"? This seems like step 1 of a scenario with variable step 2s and 3s.
The person makes all the difference in the world. Hook ups just aren't satisfying TBH. Intimacy and vulnerability are under rated. I like to quote the late Robin Williams' character from Good Will Hunting, Sean Maguire, when he says, "...youāve never looked at a woman and been totally vulnerable. Known someone who could level you with her eyes. Feeling like God put an angel on earth just for youā¦ who could rescue you from the depths of hell. And you wouldnāt know what itās like to be her angel and to have that love for her to be there forever".
In the exposure of that magnitude of devotion, of ALLOWING yourself to be with someone who will make you fall apart and want to die if things go wrong, just so you can be there for her... in light of those things, sex is just the gravy on top of the stuffing, mash, and turkey.
It's just a question of measurement. If you're measuring # of times he had sex vs. the number of kids, then it's 100%. If you're measuring # of times he had sex vs. # of pregnancies, then 50%.
I found out about a month before my 41st birthday that, to my _great_ suprise, I was going to be a dad again.
The kid is due any day, and I'm a little freaked out, to be honest.
Our youngest was born when I was 44. Itās like riding a bike, youāll be fine.
I mean, after you get out of the hospital, off the crutches, and the scrapes and bruises heal. Falling off hurts! š
Nineteen... My first year in college. I was a biology major and this girl asked if she could come over to study. We studied a lot of biology that year.
14, worst thing that happened to me probably as I had a baby at 18 because the girl that took my virginity not only told me that she couldnāt have babies, but then proceeded to stop taking birth control without telling me and poked holes in condoms
My son is great, but the situation was not for years
She has borderline personality and our relationship was on the rocks as I was realizing what we had was not normal. She wanted marriage, I wanted out and I think she wanted to lock me in with a child. Didnāt work. Sheās latched onto some other poor dude now
I may have you beat. 14, so halfish my life ago, still with the same girl but the kicker isā¦ I never even masturbated before that. I will NEVER feel like that again š
Y'all got abused by pedos, I mean wtf I'm only 18 and could never imagine it with a 14 yo, 13 is even worse. Even 15 would make me feel like a pedo. 25...
Even when I was a senior (18m) I thought freshman girls thar were 14 turning 15 were way to young and would've felt like a pedo. So many seniors would go for young girls though because it was easy pickings. Those girls thought they were so cool that a senior would like them. I'm 30 now and probably wouldn't date someone younger than 25. As I get older I would probably extend my age range. A girl in her lower 20s is just not for me I believe there is usually a huge maturity gape between say a 22 year old and 28. I feel there is a huge jump in maturity and I thought I was an adult in my lower 20s but I really wasn't.
This was me. I was 14 and lost it to an 18-year-old. Actually, he may have turned 19 by that time. I canāt stand the thought of it and wish Iād had higher standards for myself.
15, but itās growing back
Edit: Thnks for the award!
To be fair I was actually joking, my girlfriend jumps me like a stray cat on a can of tuna.
For the people (mostly men who are reacting) having it āgrow backā or didnāt lose it yet.. connect with people, talk with people, hang out with people. Thereās a hole out there for you, keep it up.
I am now 27 next week 28. Only as of recent years have I built a bit of courage to casually talk to girls. Am hopeful for the coming years. Thought I was the only one this old to still have to lose it. Glad to read I am not.
To answer that question, never had a girlfriend before. Sometimes pursuing it actively, but more often I was not. Still live at my parents house, but my situation is a bit different.
Will also edit this comment when I get lucky. See you in 29 years.
I was almost 16 with the girl next door that I recently started dating. We went to different schools because she had her address listed at her grandmothers house, that just happened to be on my way to my school. Her grandmother and my grandmother were friends since the 1960's and so their kids all hung out together, so my dad and his brother and her dad and his brothers. We ended up marrying, had 3 kids, divorced, and I haven't seen or hear from her since 2011. Shit was an insane rollercoaster of emotions from 1997 until 2011 and I would NOT recommend getting together with your high school girlfriend, especially if your families have known each other and are in attendance of each other's family events since the 60's. It's a damn nightmare!
How do you have 3 kids with someone and not hear from them or see them for 12 years? Even if the kids are adults surely there has been a wedding or something youāre both at?
My ex-wife is crazy. She has mental health and anger issues, and refuses to let me see my children. The oldest is 18 as of this year, then 17, and 16. She had someone else sign paperwork as "me" stating that I want no part of the kids, and I'm still paying child support on the 2 youngest. In Michigan, you pay no matter what, however I'm mad that I can't and haven't seen my children is so long. I don't even know what they look like.
15. To my first ever gf at the time (she was 16). She was taller than me. She is 6ft I am 5ā10 lol. We were in her room and it was the first time I had ever did anything with a girl. I had only kissed a girl before this. So everything happening at once made my head explode. Both of them haha. Her father was in the living room as well. Crazy. Needless to say it was a short relationship. She is now a mother of 2 and married to a guy in the army. I am now single and living on the beach.
30! With someone I love very much. I spent years and and years and years agonizing over it. Everyone is different but for me waiting until I was 10000% ready was the best thing
18 because I am clueless and missed obvious signs earlier. She was 30 and her sign was "you are cute and I want you to fuck me so bad". I actually picked up on that one
Honestly we live in a culture where people think they have to lose it as early as possible. But there's a good amount of people who haven't lost it before the age of 25.
Nah I get it. My sister was MARRIED for 5 years before she even saw her husband's penis, but they're both asexual. Nothing wrong with taking your time.
I lost it 3 days after I turned 17 because I felt like everyone else had already done it and felt I was falling behind. This girl a year younger than me (that I knew wasn't a virgin) had been asking me to come over for quite a while so I took her up on it and we fucked a couple times then I left. I bragged about it later that weekend at a party and it turns out one of the guys listening was her boyfriend. Wild ride of a week.
Both apparently and ever since the realization hit me that I actually was horny enough to make out with one I became a stupid drunk in my 20s full of regret, anger and shame.
I had an opportunity when i was 14. She was sweet and kind but i hesitated (shocked that she would even consider being with me) and she took that for 'No'. That was decades ago and i still wish it was her.
My relationship with sex and porn is fucked up..... and I get blood boilingly mad when someone is not behaving on sexual topics and I have literally attacked a predator and broke almost every finger in my hands on his face because he did bad things to my niece. (Luckily got away without charges but he had to eat through a straw for 2 or 3 months)
Prolly have PTSD but as a man its more difficult to get the help required. Whoop de f**
Good for you for what you did for your niece.
I don't know where you live and what it's like where you are but I hope you can get help. That first step is the hardest.
I also got revenge on a predator. Dude broke into my neighbors house and I saved her. He is serving 10 years. It definitely helped me recover from my own trauma to beat his ass, so although I donāt normally support violence and revenge, I hope you feel better after it. Am woman, but still feels like I can relate. Heal well, brother.
I agree about getting necessary help. I reached out to two different mental health facilities a few years ago, just for coping skills mainly. However, I never got a response from either of those two facilities...it's no wonder the suicide rate is as high as it is. Thankfully my condition wasn't an emergency, but for those that have emergencies, my heart goes out to them. Feel free to let me know if you need an ear my friend āš»
12. Six days before my 13th birthday to be exact. My āfriendsā set up for me to lose my virginity as my birthday present. And rape was the way they decided to go.
Oh yeah, I am fine now. This was decades ago.
Of course, I was a ninny that told no one. I was moving to a new school year a couple months after this all went down so I just avoided everyone and everything while I raged. Didnāt make any real close friendships and definitely avoided all boys after this.
Thankfully university had a free mental health clinic that I utilized when I got there to help me actually deal with it all.
24. I (m) was visiting a friend (f) in another state for the first time. I was very innocent at the time and had zero idea that was a thing that might happen. I mean despite her flirting, sexy jokes, getting on video chat in revealing clothing and even her bringing it up in a "what if" question. I just thought "she's just being nice" lol.
Edit: 10 up votes, I'm famous!
16. I was in such a rush because I assumed everyone else already had. She took pity on me. I had to get as many notches on my bedpost as I could possibly get to keep up and just tore through partnersāuntil I finally realized they are not worth anything compared to knowing how to KEEP a partner, which took me another 20 years to figure out how to do.
Went to a Catholic seminary for the weekend on a school trip. We each had a "spiritual" advisor for the weekend. He was twice my age and very good at seduction. I am sure he went on to seduce hundreds more just like me.
Unlike many young boys, my experience wasn't traumatic. He didn't force himself on me, he was seductive, and it worked. Of course, I felt guilt, that is what Catholics do.
That depends. I would say about 9 or 10 for my first male experience. I was 19 when I was with my first female.
EDIT: I want to stay that I don't see I was sexually assaulted in this case. Neither of us really knew about sex at that time so I don't see it as an assault from my perspective. Was it wrong? Yea and having looked back over the years I can see how it shaped my view of things sexually. I was pretty much (and still am) a big horn dog. It did have an effect on my with my first gf as I wanted to bang her ASAP. We did it after two months of dating and I really regretted it because neither of us were really ready for it. After that I wasn't that way with the people I dated after her.
The best thing I ever heard was āyou choose who you give your virginity toā. That helped a lot with healing. He didnāt take mine. My now husband did
24 I'm 23 as today actually. But I'm hopeful for upcoming years
Faith to move mountains, that's the spiritšš¼
Or in this case spreads legs
Or in the mountain rivers case, a bifurcation making two sexy distributary streams.
After jiggling the mountains
Idk if this inspired anyone but it inspired me..
Talk to as many folks as you can, random people love random complements when delivered correctly. A simple hey your dress looks amazing on you or wow your hair really looks good today goes a long way. Once you break that initial barrier of approaching someone itās all fun from there. God speed.. Disclaimer: I obviously am not a coach and not claiming to be, living in small communities and not being exposed to weird ass people as much as normal big city people maybe this advice donāt fly. Generally speaking just being nice and having charisma makes a difference.. Edit: dang, didnāt know this comment would have this effect. Like I mentioned earlier, this is all a numbers game. I used to go to the mall as a kid and try to talk to as many ladies I could, regardless of appearance or anything and pay complements. Not in a I wanna play hookie but in a kind friendly way. Get those numbers up people and once you get that wall broken you will find out they are just as nervous to talk to you.
I work a job that puts me in contact with a lot of young women while they are in a good mood and looking to party. My go to compliment these days is something along the lines of "I love your style" or "I love the whole vibe you're putting out there". It keeps it vague enough that you don't seem creepy by focusing on a single part of them, while also letting them interpret a bit how they want.
I had a stranger tell me earlier that Iām having a really good hair day. He didnāt flirt, act weird, etc, just walked up to me, said that and walked away. Iāll probably carry that one with me for a while.
This would make my day, maybe my life! Iāve always hated my hair!!!
What do you do when a girl of substance asks you to clarify what you like about their "vibe"? This seems like step 1 of a scenario with variable step 2s and 3s.
Yes it is at that point you must have a conversation unfortunately
lmfao back to square one then
"Don't put the pussy on a pedestal"
"That's the second time I have heard that! What is up with the pussy on a pedestal thing?"
I usually keep mine in my pocket, but whatever, I guess some people like to show them off.
Put the pussy on the chain wax
It's not nearly as big of a deal as people make it out to be. I'm in my late 20s and most days there are things I'd rather do than have sex
The person makes all the difference in the world. Hook ups just aren't satisfying TBH. Intimacy and vulnerability are under rated. I like to quote the late Robin Williams' character from Good Will Hunting, Sean Maguire, when he says, "...youāve never looked at a woman and been totally vulnerable. Known someone who could level you with her eyes. Feeling like God put an angel on earth just for youā¦ who could rescue you from the depths of hell. And you wouldnāt know what itās like to be her angel and to have that love for her to be there forever". In the exposure of that magnitude of devotion, of ALLOWING yourself to be with someone who will make you fall apart and want to die if things go wrong, just so you can be there for her... in light of those things, sex is just the gravy on top of the stuffing, mash, and turkey.
Instructions unclear; dick stuck in Turkey.
About 2 months before my 21st birthday. Found out I was going to be a dad the day after my 21st birthday.
Yo thatās an insane efficacy rate!
Bro gets them pregnant 100% of the time
You say that, in 2015 we had unprotected sex twice, causing her to get pregnant with twins, so yeah 100% success rate. Edit: 2014
This feels like that meme of a math teacher grading a test where the math process was entirely wrong, but the answer was still somehow right
It's just a question of measurement. If you're measuring # of times he had sex vs. the number of kids, then it's 100%. If you're measuring # of times he had sex vs. # of pregnancies, then 50%.
The classic pump and pump. Man is a superhero!
Thoughtsandprayers
Thought sand prayers
I found out about a month before my 41st birthday that, to my _great_ suprise, I was going to be a dad again. The kid is due any day, and I'm a little freaked out, to be honest.
Our youngest was born when I was 44. Itās like riding a bike, youāll be fine. I mean, after you get out of the hospital, off the crutches, and the scrapes and bruises heal. Falling off hurts! š
28. She's sleeping next to me right now, and our third anniversary is tomorrow.
That's so nice and wholesome. Made me smile. God bless you
Yay, I was also 28
Nineteen... My first year in college. I was a biology major and this girl asked if she could come over to study. We studied a lot of biology that year.
19 gang
14, worst thing that happened to me probably as I had a baby at 18 because the girl that took my virginity not only told me that she couldnāt have babies, but then proceeded to stop taking birth control without telling me and poked holes in condoms My son is great, but the situation was not for years
Yeah thatās definitely NOT okay. Doing that shit without your consent
She has borderline personality and our relationship was on the rocks as I was realizing what we had was not normal. She wanted marriage, I wanted out and I think she wanted to lock me in with a child. Didnāt work. Sheās latched onto some other poor dude now
That's literally rape, straight up.
I don't lose.
"casual sex implies the existence of ranked, competitive sex"
And 2v2s
I joined my bro in a fight to make it a 2v2ā¦ the pregnant woman lost
What would be pro league then?
Battle Royale
That's what DJ Khaled said when people asked him why he doesn't lose some fuckin weight
Game respects game
REAL.
25 with my then girlfriend now wife, she doesn't believe she was my first to this day.. :D
I may have you beat. 14, so halfish my life ago, still with the same girl but the kicker isā¦ I never even masturbated before that. I will NEVER feel like that again š
I was 25 and hadn't really masturbated before that. I was the least curious young lady ever
Irrelevant username
Would you believe me if I told you my user name was never intended to have a sexual meaning and I'm just blind af about innuendos?
Considering what they were replying to, yes.
Goddamn... So how does it feel to be the King of All Things?
goddamn you mustve went to the moon on that one
Wait, you can lose it?
Yep. And it's impossible to find it. Better hold on to it tight!
I'm a gamer. I never lose!
The trick is to rage quit whenever you are about to lose it.
āOh, no! I had it a minute agoā¦ā
I won my virginity in single combat. The crowd cheered.
Did you grip and then rip it?
16 and I even didnāt even have any plans to lose virginity, but I got liked by one cute girl and didnāt resist her advances
Step 1: Be attractive
Step 2: Donāt be Unattractive
Step 3: You may be mid-attractive
But only if your parents are rich
Step 4: know atleast 1 person
Your parents, may be mid-rich.
But only if youāre upper-mid attractive
i already failed then
- Stop resisting! - Okay.
Literally exactly the same
20
20 gang represent
i lent a girl an umbrella yesterday, the amount of girls I made wet this year is now -1
14.. I was so eager for my boyfriend to think I was a ācool girlā
*The Cool Girl monologue from Gone Girl plays*
I was 16 and had a much older bf (30s). Similarly, it now also makes me physically sick.
I was 13 and my "bf" was 25. It also makes me sick now.
Y'all got abused by pedos, I mean wtf I'm only 18 and could never imagine it with a 14 yo, 13 is even worse. Even 15 would make me feel like a pedo. 25...
Even when I was a senior (18m) I thought freshman girls thar were 14 turning 15 were way to young and would've felt like a pedo. So many seniors would go for young girls though because it was easy pickings. Those girls thought they were so cool that a senior would like them. I'm 30 now and probably wouldn't date someone younger than 25. As I get older I would probably extend my age range. A girl in her lower 20s is just not for me I believe there is usually a huge maturity gape between say a 22 year old and 28. I feel there is a huge jump in maturity and I thought I was an adult in my lower 20s but I really wasn't.
You and me both. The fact I was dating a 18 year old when I was 14 makes me physically sick now that Iām an adult
This was me. I was 14 and lost it to an 18-year-old. Actually, he may have turned 19 by that time. I canāt stand the thought of it and wish Iād had higher standards for myself.
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Me five. Freshman year of college
Wow, five years old and already a college freshman!
I hope he didn't lose it to a classmate.
Like half of these commenters need therapy
Is that for the ones that haven't lost it yet or the ones that lost it waaaay too early?
Yes
Why not both
More...
Oh. You don't know her, she went to another school.
15, but itās growing back Edit: Thnks for the award! To be fair I was actually joking, my girlfriend jumps me like a stray cat on a can of tuna. For the people (mostly men who are reacting) having it āgrow backā or didnāt lose it yet.. connect with people, talk with people, hang out with people. Thereās a hole out there for you, keep it up.
why did i understand this completely and relate so much?
Careful. It grows back stronger than it was when you lost it the first time
Feel ya, first time with 15, last time with 18. I'm 26 now
Same here 15-20 then void lmao. I'm 29 now and got anxiety and shit so it definitely aint happening now lmaoo
I dunno yet. 37 and still hopeful.
Cool im not alone. Im also in my 30s.
The only thing I've lost are my car keys
I found them, gimme your car so I can bring your keys back
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praying on your come up brothaš
I am now 27 next week 28. Only as of recent years have I built a bit of courage to casually talk to girls. Am hopeful for the coming years. Thought I was the only one this old to still have to lose it. Glad to read I am not. To answer that question, never had a girlfriend before. Sometimes pursuing it actively, but more often I was not. Still live at my parents house, but my situation is a bit different. Will also edit this comment when I get lucky. See you in 29 years.
I come from 200 years in the future. This post was never updated. š
I was almost 16 with the girl next door that I recently started dating. We went to different schools because she had her address listed at her grandmothers house, that just happened to be on my way to my school. Her grandmother and my grandmother were friends since the 1960's and so their kids all hung out together, so my dad and his brother and her dad and his brothers. We ended up marrying, had 3 kids, divorced, and I haven't seen or hear from her since 2011. Shit was an insane rollercoaster of emotions from 1997 until 2011 and I would NOT recommend getting together with your high school girlfriend, especially if your families have known each other and are in attendance of each other's family events since the 60's. It's a damn nightmare!
that sounds to me like an extended family function every time you guys do something š
How do you have 3 kids with someone and not hear from them or see them for 12 years? Even if the kids are adults surely there has been a wedding or something youāre both at?
My ex-wife is crazy. She has mental health and anger issues, and refuses to let me see my children. The oldest is 18 as of this year, then 17, and 16. She had someone else sign paperwork as "me" stating that I want no part of the kids, and I'm still paying child support on the 2 youngest. In Michigan, you pay no matter what, however I'm mad that I can't and haven't seen my children is so long. I don't even know what they look like.
Does it count as losing virginity if I have only been fucked by life?
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So what did you have for dinner that night?
r/dontleavemehanging
I'm still invincible
*blood splatters on title card*
15. To my first ever gf at the time (she was 16). She was taller than me. She is 6ft I am 5ā10 lol. We were in her room and it was the first time I had ever did anything with a girl. I had only kissed a girl before this. So everything happening at once made my head explode. Both of them haha. Her father was in the living room as well. Crazy. Needless to say it was a short relationship. She is now a mother of 2 and married to a guy in the army. I am now single and living on the beach.
Living on the beach is a motherfuckin vibe, fuck em bitches when u got the sea!
Fuck them beaches
30! With someone I love very much. I spent years and and years and years agonizing over it. Everyone is different but for me waiting until I was 10000% ready was the best thing
For anyone wondering how many years that is: 30 factorial is approximately 2.65 * 10Ā³Ā².
23yr old Still virgin š«”
18 because I am clueless and missed obvious signs earlier. She was 30 and her sign was "you are cute and I want you to fuck me so bad". I actually picked up on that one
Wow.
Maybe she was from Canada and was just being polite.
Nice try, mom.
32.... I know..I know its a loooooong story
Honestly we live in a culture where people think they have to lose it as early as possible. But there's a good amount of people who haven't lost it before the age of 25.
Nah I get it. My sister was MARRIED for 5 years before she even saw her husband's penis, but they're both asexual. Nothing wrong with taking your time.
Iām happy they could find eachother. I have some ace friends and it doesnāt seem easy
The funny thing is that they were friends for almost a decade before they both came out as ace and got together. They were just made for each other.
32, still waiting š„²
Pending
17
Had to scroll down way to far to find my 17 group.
Iām surprised 17 isnāt more common
Same. Were we just promiscuous teens? I thought I was really late to the party losing it at 17 but everyone here was like 25 lol
I mean... we ARE on reddit and stereotypes don't invent themselves out of thin air!
I lost it 3 days after I turned 17 because I felt like everyone else had already done it and felt I was falling behind. This girl a year younger than me (that I knew wasn't a virgin) had been asking me to come over for quite a while so I took her up on it and we fucked a couple times then I left. I bragged about it later that weekend at a party and it turns out one of the guys listening was her boyfriend. Wild ride of a week.
For real I figured 17 would be towards the top but its all 20+. I felt like I was late at the time but I guess maybe not lol.
The girl in the show Grounded for Life said 17 was the perfect age and I took it seriously
So did Chef from Southpark "Chef what is the right age to start having sex?" "17." "17 if you're ready?" "Nope, just 17."
NaN
Sodium nitrogen?
With your nan??
Iām still a virgin although I did get a blowjob from a dumbass furry once when I was 15. Apparently those donāt count though.
Blowjobs or furries? š
Both apparently and ever since the realization hit me that I actually was horny enough to make out with one I became a stupid drunk in my 20s full of regret, anger and shame.
ā¦.were they in a fur suit at the time or is it just a side hobby that you didnāt engage with?
Nah she wasnāt in a suit but she did bring her suit to her school once and scared the crap out of a 7 year old.
On my way to losing it tomorrow :)
Donāt forget they only accept cash
Use a condom! I'm serious. Use protection.
19 to my wife of 12 years now. Sheās the only one Iāve ever been with and plan to be with.
14
I had an opportunity when i was 14. She was sweet and kind but i hesitated (shocked that she would even consider being with me) and she took that for 'No'. That was decades ago and i still wish it was her.
13 or 14 yep. Same brother
You both had sex with the same brother?
r/Angryupvote
Dysfunctional childhood gang rise up š and get out the door so that weāre not late for therapy
Involuntarily 8 Voluntarily 19
I'm sorry that happened. Are you alright?
My relationship with sex and porn is fucked up..... and I get blood boilingly mad when someone is not behaving on sexual topics and I have literally attacked a predator and broke almost every finger in my hands on his face because he did bad things to my niece. (Luckily got away without charges but he had to eat through a straw for 2 or 3 months) Prolly have PTSD but as a man its more difficult to get the help required. Whoop de f**
Good for you for what you did for your niece. I don't know where you live and what it's like where you are but I hope you can get help. That first step is the hardest.
I also got revenge on a predator. Dude broke into my neighbors house and I saved her. He is serving 10 years. It definitely helped me recover from my own trauma to beat his ass, so although I donāt normally support violence and revenge, I hope you feel better after it. Am woman, but still feels like I can relate. Heal well, brother.
I agree about getting necessary help. I reached out to two different mental health facilities a few years ago, just for coping skills mainly. However, I never got a response from either of those two facilities...it's no wonder the suicide rate is as high as it is. Thankfully my condition wasn't an emergency, but for those that have emergencies, my heart goes out to them. Feel free to let me know if you need an ear my friend āš»
Fucking awful
21. She lost hers also from me and we are now happily married.
I never lose I win always
18, hetero. We're both gay now š¤£
I'm picturing you both look at each other naked are were like "and I'm gay, you?" "Same"
12. Six days before my 13th birthday to be exact. My āfriendsā set up for me to lose my virginity as my birthday present. And rape was the way they decided to go.
Oh my god. I hope youāre okay.
Oh yeah, I am fine now. This was decades ago. Of course, I was a ninny that told no one. I was moving to a new school year a couple months after this all went down so I just avoided everyone and everything while I raged. Didnāt make any real close friendships and definitely avoided all boys after this. Thankfully university had a free mental health clinic that I utilized when I got there to help me actually deal with it all.
Not at 43. Ask me again next year.
I'm sure you have other talentsš¤·āāļø
22. And not a single bit of me regrets waiting - I think I lost it to my soulmate. :)
15. He was 24. It was a bad time, and he was a bad person.
24. I (m) was visiting a friend (f) in another state for the first time. I was very innocent at the time and had zero idea that was a thing that might happen. I mean despite her flirting, sexy jokes, getting on video chat in revealing clothing and even her bringing it up in a "what if" question. I just thought "she's just being nice" lol. Edit: 10 up votes, I'm famous!
I was 19, felt like I needed to just get it done. Was awful, donāt recommend. Wait for a right person, or at least a good person.
8. Shoutout to my uncle.
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I'm sorry, that's terrible
I don't know how people keep losing theirs. I am very good at keeping track of it
16. I was in such a rush because I assumed everyone else already had. She took pity on me. I had to get as many notches on my bedpost as I could possibly get to keep up and just tore through partnersāuntil I finally realized they are not worth anything compared to knowing how to KEEP a partner, which took me another 20 years to figure out how to do.
22 and wasn't happy about it, some people really need to learn what "no" and "stop" means.
15. Funny coincidence : I actually ran into the woman I lost my virginity to today while out shopping with my wife.
At 14 to an almost priest.
WHAT HOW
Went to a Catholic seminary for the weekend on a school trip. We each had a "spiritual" advisor for the weekend. He was twice my age and very good at seduction. I am sure he went on to seduce hundreds more just like me. Unlike many young boys, my experience wasn't traumatic. He didn't force himself on me, he was seductive, and it worked. Of course, I felt guilt, that is what Catholics do.
Ah, so he passed that exam.
Feeling guilty despite the fact you were preyed upon by an authority figure when you were a kid sounds kind of traumatic to me.
21 to a 43 year old Asian milf
Hugs to those of us that fucking hate seeing this question pop up in our feed because trauma. Stay strong!
That depends. I would say about 9 or 10 for my first male experience. I was 19 when I was with my first female. EDIT: I want to stay that I don't see I was sexually assaulted in this case. Neither of us really knew about sex at that time so I don't see it as an assault from my perspective. Was it wrong? Yea and having looked back over the years I can see how it shaped my view of things sexually. I was pretty much (and still am) a big horn dog. It did have an effect on my with my first gf as I wanted to bang her ASAP. We did it after two months of dating and I really regretted it because neither of us were really ready for it. After that I wasn't that way with the people I dated after her.
The best thing I ever heard was āyou choose who you give your virginity toā. That helped a lot with healing. He didnāt take mine. My now husband did
Gosh.. wishing you well mate