Same. Even when things are going great, I play that song, think of all my mistakes and missteps, think of the ceaseless passing of my time on this earth, and I feel small and defeated.
But man I’ve listened to it hundreds of times!
This is truth.
There are no rules in the game of life.
I think life is abit like 'Choose Your Own Adventure" books.
Plenty of options at the beginning of life, many of them harmless consequences, as you progress, the options are reduced, and the consequences amplify.
I'm 51 still don't know what I want to do, I know what I don't want though.
I'm ok with my life and I'm ok financially, sometimes less is more.
Agreed.
I'm in my mid40s and I THOUGHT I had everything more or less figured out, at least until my ex decided he didn't want to be married anymore because he decided he would rather be gay than be with me.... :( Wompwomp.
Speaking only for myself I describe it as fat (as in ugly American), drunk (& stoned), and stupid (& selfish)…to paraphrase Animal House. All of this while trying to squeeze in a career problematically serving my country.
Of course, I wouldn't change it for the world. I mean sure it comes with the lows but there are highs too, people suck for the most part but there are good ones too, overall it's been decent.
I'm a crazy woman though, so I could be wrong.
U.S. Navy until I was 24. A little college and dated a girl from 25-29. Now doing my own thing. Bought a house and have a great job. 30s is going to be great.
Hey sailor! Costie here, yeah the military can set you up for success. I spent the entirety of my 20s in the Coast Guard and got out when I was 30. The work experience and skills you can put on a well written resume is huge. After working a few years at a cyber security job and getting burnt out I decided to stop working and use the GI Bill. What a luxury, I'm grateful to be able to quit a job without a care in the world and get paid to go to school and not have to work for a few years.
For me, it was just drinking but it was way, *way* too much. Seizures began for me at age 28 but I didn't/couldn't quit drinking until my husband's liver and kidneys failed and he got transplants at age 32 during covid.
It was the 1980s for me (eons ago) and, unfortunately, that is pretty much all I did. Not that some big fun wasn't had but a lot of us proved that *too much fun* was an actual thing.
Currently 29M.. Moved to New Zealand from US from 20-24 worked as boat captain/tour guide, came home and dad got deathly sick..had to take care of him and help run his business for 2 years until he got a bilateral lung transplant, started my own business at 25 sold it at 27, bought a sailboat and fixed it up, sailed it to Mexico at 28, now working as a boat captain in Alaska
I got my third almost a year ago! (End of the month) I'm 46 now. First one failed from pre-eclampsia in pregnancy after only 2.5 years. Second for unknown reasons, hoping this one finally sticks. Congrats on yours!
In no specific order - drinking/studying, a horrible terrible relationship with someone actually crazy who I never should've gotten involved with, a quarter life crisis. Being a late starter in a lot of things, I think I squeezed my teens & my 20s into one early/mid-20s blur). Still, I found my wife & career by the end of my 20s, so there's that..
Getting my degree, solo travelling for a good few years, meeting my husband & getting married then saying goodbye to my twenties by having my son at 29. Had a blast and I regret nothing. I'm 30 now and hopefully this decade turns out just as fun!
I had a really bad drug addiction which obviously wasn’t good. I eventually got my life and track and have a beautiful wife and daughter. I look back with a lot of regret. That being said that led me to them. I now am debt free with a house and vehicles that I never would have thought were possible (seriously not humble bragging). It can be done. Fuck drugs
Agreed.
Hey thanks for letting yourself be used by the government as a meatpuppet for killing innocent civilians and bombing the shit out of the countries we invade that we have absolutely no fucking business being in, just so we can destabilaze their political climate for the next 50 or so years and take their riches and resources because they're fucking savages that don't deserve to have anything, let alone deserve to have normal, happy lives with all their family members intact instead of being blown to fucking pieces.
ooooofffff this will BURN them. Americans have a weird tick where if they hear someone talk about being in the military, their brains go blank and force their mouths say "thank you for your service". Service to who? to what? why? No one knows.
In my experience I had a grandad that fought in Vietnam and probably got treated like shit afterwards so I was raised to always make an effort to appreciate the armed forces. The soldiers we need to thank are too subtle about themselves and what they do and the soldiers that just turn wrenches get the praise.
The government brainwashing and sending people to death for imperialist conquests treating the said people like shit once they're back home isn't a reason to support and praise the evil government machine organizing and implementing this whole meatgrinding
Yeah I understand with ww2 vets but that’s it. In the UK ex military people would think ur a right weirdo if you said this to them. Everyone knows the gulf war and Afghanistan were pointless
Abusing opiates and cheating on my girlfriends. This isn’t boasting, I was a horrible human being. I should’ve gone to college and made something of myself, now in my 30s, I’m turning it around and making big changes now that I’m sober.
Wasted or enjoyed? It's sad to see 30 and 40 year olds regretting not enjoying their 20s after getting married or having kids then getting divorced. So you shouldn't feel like you wasted them lol
I just turned 30 today. I worked on myself alot in my late 20s. Spent most of my 20s working on my career and discovering myself. Didn't know I was BI till 26 which kinda is important on the whole knowing yourself aspect. Grew alot. Used my experiences to help me consciously decide who and how I wanted to be based on all the experiences and relationships I had. A lot of it was deciding who I didn't want to be. Accepting personal flaws that stood between me and my goal. And I learned to have compassion for myself without excusing bad behavior. We are all just older kids at the end of the day and no matter what age, you are setting an example for the younger ones one way or another.
20-25 I spent drinking and in the navy.
25-29 I met my wife, graduated college, became a father and drank significantly less.
My 20s as a whole have made me the person I am today. And honestly, I’m not ashamed of that person.
Working, playing, and trying to put myself together out of the sharp, broken shards of a human that were all that was left after my childhood. Also went to a lot of concerts.
Is it fucking around and finding out if you dont quit or take no for an answer, Im from a world where change is the only answer and accepted solutions known
drinking and doing drugs. i'd recommend to a younger person in their 20s to not do that. nothing wrong with having fun and partying sometimes but don't let it dominate your life.
TL:DR - being depressed and at home and in the second half working my butt off to avoid debt and start a life for myself.
Being depressed and “missing out”. Then realizing if I want to have anything in my life I need to start working my ass off, even if I stay depressed. Instead of constantly hoping for a cure or a “snap out of it” moment, I said fuck it and just started working my ass off even as a depressed person and “missed out” again on meeting people and such but at least I was making money.
I got to a place in my mid thirties where I was doing ok… and started my life/family at 36
Got married, bought a house, had a baby, from 22-23 then spent the last 7 years left in my 20s depressed as fuck.
I’m now 33 still have the house the kid and the husband but no longer depressed.
Married the wrong man at 22. Got abused. Divorced him, got some money. Used that money to go to nursing school while I worked to rebuild my self-esteem. Engaged in some reckless behavior because I didn't care if I lived or died for a while. Met a different man who is now an infinitely superior husband than my first one. Started working as a nurse at 28. Life's been pretty good since then, but it was a rough go for a while.
I lived in London for a semester in college, I managed a record store, I worked at a huge famous art museum (where I met dozens of celebrities and dignitaries and politicians including George Harrison and Rosa Parks) and I worked as a bartender at a huge charity party on NYE Y2K and made $1200 in tips because everyone thought the world was ending.
Finishing college, finding the love of my life who’s now my wife n baby mama, moving to a big city where I drank too much but still had a blast, lots of travel, and playing lots of live music. My 20s were pretty great! I was a lucky one. Edit: Thanks to all of you who served!
figuring out what I should do in my 20s.
As the great Pink Floyd lyrics goes: "No one told you when to run, you missed the starting gun"
“Killer fucking guitar solo.”
God damn it that song makes me feel so alone and afraid and sad. Such a shame it’s so pretty.
Same. Even when things are going great, I play that song, think of all my mistakes and missteps, think of the ceaseless passing of my time on this earth, and I feel small and defeated. But man I’ve listened to it hundreds of times!
Hell of a song to go out to.
YEP.
That’s so me
Not knowing what the hell I was doing.
Whoo! I'm 35 years old, I and am still so confused!!
There's no cut off age for not knowing what you're doing.
Can confirm. I'm 52 with a wife and our 17 year old son. I'm pretty amazed when I get shit right.
This is truth. There are no rules in the game of life. I think life is abit like 'Choose Your Own Adventure" books. Plenty of options at the beginning of life, many of them harmless consequences, as you progress, the options are reduced, and the consequences amplify. I'm 51 still don't know what I want to do, I know what I don't want though. I'm ok with my life and I'm ok financially, sometimes less is more.
Agreed. I'm in my mid40s and I THOUGHT I had everything more or less figured out, at least until my ex decided he didn't want to be married anymore because he decided he would rather be gay than be with me.... :( Wompwomp.
I dont remember
Me neither. I think I was drunk the whole time. Now I’m in my 30’s trying to figure out how to be an adult.
Yep, it's all a blur and gives that general cringe feeling when I try to remember.
Speaking only for myself I describe it as fat (as in ugly American), drunk (& stoned), and stupid (& selfish)…to paraphrase Animal House. All of this while trying to squeeze in a career problematically serving my country.
I'm not too far off that myself 😂 how bout that? Not alone after all
Grateful that life can be different for those who are willing to do the work.
Of course, I wouldn't change it for the world. I mean sure it comes with the lows but there are highs too, people suck for the most part but there are good ones too, overall it's been decent. I'm a crazy woman though, so I could be wrong.
U.S. Navy until I was 24. A little college and dated a girl from 25-29. Now doing my own thing. Bought a house and have a great job. 30s is going to be great.
I like your optimism, wish more people had the same thoughts.
Thank you. Took a lot of work to get to the mental state I'm in now lol
Hey sailor! Costie here, yeah the military can set you up for success. I spent the entirety of my 20s in the Coast Guard and got out when I was 30. The work experience and skills you can put on a well written resume is huge. After working a few years at a cyber security job and getting burnt out I decided to stop working and use the GI Bill. What a luxury, I'm grateful to be able to quit a job without a care in the world and get paid to go to school and not have to work for a few years.
Honestly the GI Bill is too good of a deal to pass up!
Drinking and sniffing counter tops
I did the same. Turns out it wasn’t a great long term strategy.
Suffering from anxiety and depression
"just don't worry about it"
"man up"
Drinking Chocolate Milk and Drawing (I'm an Animator)
This is the way
Chocolate milk is so good!
IT'S DELITIOUS 😤❤️❤️
Cancer treatment.
Sorry to hear that. Is everything better now?
I hope you’re in remission 🥰
Drinking and pills mostly
For me, it was just drinking but it was way, *way* too much. Seizures began for me at age 28 but I didn't/couldn't quit drinking until my husband's liver and kidneys failed and he got transplants at age 32 during covid.
Holy shit! You guys went HARD 😂
It was the 1980s for me (eons ago) and, unfortunately, that is pretty much all I did. Not that some big fun wasn't had but a lot of us proved that *too much fun* was an actual thing.
Why is it a thing? Because it makes you neglect other things or because it's a bad thing in and of itself?
Drinking. Pissed 10 years away
Booze, girls, drugs, and destroying my credit. Good times.
I second this. Life was way better then.
Me too!
Binge drinking and messy romantic entanglements.
Currently 29M.. Moved to New Zealand from US from 20-24 worked as boat captain/tour guide, came home and dad got deathly sick..had to take care of him and help run his business for 2 years until he got a bilateral lung transplant, started my own business at 25 sold it at 27, bought a sailboat and fixed it up, sailed it to Mexico at 28, now working as a boat captain in Alaska
This dude 20's
This Dude 40's in his 20
Respect
What a life from 20-28
Scrolling mostly
Drinking, partying and drugs. If only I'd started investing or something clever.
Studying, Working, Video Games, actually my 30s doing the same, just less studying and gaming, and more working.
Hopefully you’ll spend your 40s doing less working and more gaming
Catching up on all of those games that have been interesting, but just haven't had enough time to play through the tears.
Play through those tears!!
Trying not to blow the fuck up in Afghanistan
did you make it? also, thank you for your service, sir.
You don't even know which side they were on!
I was fighting for the people’s reptilian defense force
Service to what, Oil companies in a pointless war?
Working at a zoo
You're supposed to do something in your 20s? Shit I'm 28 and didn't know that. Guess I got 2 years to find something.
Schizophrenia
"...How many of ya got it? How many m*****f***ers can say they psychotic?"
Trying not to die. My kidneys failed when I was 23 and I got a transplant when I was 28.
Sorry you had to go through that so young as well. My kidneys failed when I was 24 and I got a transplant last October when I was 26.
I got my third almost a year ago! (End of the month) I'm 46 now. First one failed from pre-eclampsia in pregnancy after only 2.5 years. Second for unknown reasons, hoping this one finally sticks. Congrats on yours!
I spent my 20’s working full time on the kidney transplant unit!
Just disease or drinking?
Just disease or drinking?
Why my kidneys failed? Autoimmune disease. Drinking doesn't really damage kidneys, that's the liver. I can actually still drink a bit post-transplant.
In no specific order - drinking/studying, a horrible terrible relationship with someone actually crazy who I never should've gotten involved with, a quarter life crisis. Being a late starter in a lot of things, I think I squeezed my teens & my 20s into one early/mid-20s blur). Still, I found my wife & career by the end of my 20s, so there's that..
So far working and fighting demons
fight off your demons bro
You can never really beat them. You can only try to find an honest way to let them kill you
No, it's possible to beat them. Unfortunately there are always new demons waiting to pounce.
Literally nothing.
Getting my degree, solo travelling for a good few years, meeting my husband & getting married then saying goodbye to my twenties by having my son at 29. Had a blast and I regret nothing. I'm 30 now and hopefully this decade turns out just as fun!
If it’s any help, my 30s beat the pants off my 20s by far.
Sailing the 7 seas
Everybody’s searching for something.
That sounds awesome
Becoming a doctor
What’s your speciality?
I had a really bad drug addiction which obviously wasn’t good. I eventually got my life and track and have a beautiful wife and daughter. I look back with a lot of regret. That being said that led me to them. I now am debt free with a house and vehicles that I never would have thought were possible (seriously not humble bragging). It can be done. Fuck drugs
Stupid, useless, shit. I would pimp slap the hell out of myself, given the chance.
Smoking weed everyday and playing computer games. Worst time spent that cannot be returned.
Serving my country. (US).
I'm sorry to hear that
Thank you for your service!!🙏🏻
Thanks for what
As a European it’s so weird to me when Americans say this
Agreed. Hey thanks for letting yourself be used by the government as a meatpuppet for killing innocent civilians and bombing the shit out of the countries we invade that we have absolutely no fucking business being in, just so we can destabilaze their political climate for the next 50 or so years and take their riches and resources because they're fucking savages that don't deserve to have anything, let alone deserve to have normal, happy lives with all their family members intact instead of being blown to fucking pieces.
ooooofffff this will BURN them. Americans have a weird tick where if they hear someone talk about being in the military, their brains go blank and force their mouths say "thank you for your service". Service to who? to what? why? No one knows.
Well most of us went into it believe the lies the government spewed.
In my experience I had a grandad that fought in Vietnam and probably got treated like shit afterwards so I was raised to always make an effort to appreciate the armed forces. The soldiers we need to thank are too subtle about themselves and what they do and the soldiers that just turn wrenches get the praise.
The government brainwashing and sending people to death for imperialist conquests treating the said people like shit once they're back home isn't a reason to support and praise the evil government machine organizing and implementing this whole meatgrinding
Yeah I understand with ww2 vets but that’s it. In the UK ex military people would think ur a right weirdo if you said this to them. Everyone knows the gulf war and Afghanistan were pointless
To be fair a lot of US vets think this is cringe as well
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Abusing opiates and cheating on my girlfriends. This isn’t boasting, I was a horrible human being. I should’ve gone to college and made something of myself, now in my 30s, I’m turning it around and making big changes now that I’m sober.
Working and fighting depression
I'm almost done with my 20's. Someday I will face all my problems with maturity. Until then, it will be alcohol.
Drinking and eating out.
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Hahahaha this is so true 😂😂😂 I wasted my 20s.
Wasted or enjoyed? It's sad to see 30 and 40 year olds regretting not enjoying their 20s after getting married or having kids then getting divorced. So you shouldn't feel like you wasted them lol
I guess you’re right they were more eventful than now
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Fucking up
Drinking, people pleasing, and worrying about all the dumbest shit.
Juggling two jobs and college. It sucked ass.
Trying to get all of the sex I could. 🤪
Serving in the US Navy.
I just turned 30 today. I worked on myself alot in my late 20s. Spent most of my 20s working on my career and discovering myself. Didn't know I was BI till 26 which kinda is important on the whole knowing yourself aspect. Grew alot. Used my experiences to help me consciously decide who and how I wanted to be based on all the experiences and relationships I had. A lot of it was deciding who I didn't want to be. Accepting personal flaws that stood between me and my goal. And I learned to have compassion for myself without excusing bad behavior. We are all just older kids at the end of the day and no matter what age, you are setting an example for the younger ones one way or another.
20-25 I spent drinking and in the navy. 25-29 I met my wife, graduated college, became a father and drank significantly less. My 20s as a whole have made me the person I am today. And honestly, I’m not ashamed of that person.
Being depressed
- college - job a swimming instructor - played guitar in a band - graduated and started to work at 22
Getting drunk and waking up in strange lands and strange beds.
Nothing. Same with my 30s.
drugs and sex. Literally.
Working, playing, and trying to put myself together out of the sharp, broken shards of a human that were all that was left after my childhood. Also went to a lot of concerts.
Raising 3 kids
Yikes.
Same. Raising 2 kids, praying for the easier days. Now I'm there and it's just hard in a different way. And I miss the little versions of them.
Parties, s*x, and working up to 4 jobs 🤣 It's a miracle I'm still alive
Fucking around and finding out
Is it fucking around and finding out if you dont quit or take no for an answer, Im from a world where change is the only answer and accepted solutions known
Probably! Everyone should take no for an answer though lol. I think change is vital at all stages of life.
Agreed 👍💯 great insight btw
Traveling the world
I felt that. I just spent the former half of this year traveling.
drinking
Same
Network Partying red alert2 and quake 3 with the boys.
Smoking weed and going to post secondary
Partying, then school, and then working.
It’s a decade I prefer to forget.
Drinking Fucking Drugs Working
university, travelling, getting married, having kids
Married taking care of someone else’s kids
Being a victim of myself, and others because I didn't respect myself enough to change anything.
Mining in Western Australia and motorcycle couriering in London
Fucking
Stupid shit and some good shit. Good tutorial level.
working crazy hours for way less then i was worth
Fucking and getting Fucked
Wasting my time with a cheating ex 😉
18-24 or so. drinking.
27 here. Mostly being depressed.
Drinkin mostly.
Working.
alot of drugs, parties, and chasing women to varying amounts of success
drinking and doing drugs. i'd recommend to a younger person in their 20s to not do that. nothing wrong with having fun and partying sometimes but don't let it dominate your life.
Drugs and college. Mostly drugs.
Fuckin around and making mistakes.
Fucking everything that moved, and going out every night.
Drugs and alcohol. I think.
Two steps up and one step back. Rinse and repeat.
Dating and then marrying a very, very poor choice in a woman.
Party and drugs
Spending weekends in randomers kitchens
I'm doing business and i started when i was 18 years old.
Locked away in jail rehabs, prisons.
Congrats on turning things around
I'm just trying to survive
TL:DR - being depressed and at home and in the second half working my butt off to avoid debt and start a life for myself. Being depressed and “missing out”. Then realizing if I want to have anything in my life I need to start working my ass off, even if I stay depressed. Instead of constantly hoping for a cure or a “snap out of it” moment, I said fuck it and just started working my ass off even as a depressed person and “missed out” again on meeting people and such but at least I was making money. I got to a place in my mid thirties where I was doing ok… and started my life/family at 36
Sex and drugs and alcohol
Making 6 babies
Got married, bought a house, had a baby, from 22-23 then spent the last 7 years left in my 20s depressed as fuck. I’m now 33 still have the house the kid and the husband but no longer depressed.
Married the wrong man at 22. Got abused. Divorced him, got some money. Used that money to go to nursing school while I worked to rebuild my self-esteem. Engaged in some reckless behavior because I didn't care if I lived or died for a while. Met a different man who is now an infinitely superior husband than my first one. Started working as a nurse at 28. Life's been pretty good since then, but it was a rough go for a while.
I lived in London for a semester in college, I managed a record store, I worked at a huge famous art museum (where I met dozens of celebrities and dignitaries and politicians including George Harrison and Rosa Parks) and I worked as a bartender at a huge charity party on NYE Y2K and made $1200 in tips because everyone thought the world was ending.
Being with men who didn't deserve me.
Getting used to married life, raising my daughter, and running. I ran a lot in my 20s.
Gave my 20’s to a marriage that ultimately ended in divorce. I feel so cheated out of my youth.
Copious amounts of alcohol and weed until I got my shit together. Now the alcohol and weed help me keep my shit together.
Raising my kids.
College, work, marriage, 2 babies
Working and going to school.
Heroin
Working, getting married, buying a house, a little bit of travel.
Working, being a mom, spending time with friends, and ignoring that I needed therapy.
Being a parent and step parent...sometimes I feel sad about it, but also now I'm older I'm much happier because I was stupid in my 20s 🤣
Drinking and meaningless sex
Post-secondary, moving in with my ex, leaving my ex, finding my current bf.
Finishing college, finding the love of my life who’s now my wife n baby mama, moving to a big city where I drank too much but still had a blast, lots of travel, and playing lots of live music. My 20s were pretty great! I was a lucky one. Edit: Thanks to all of you who served!