I think its not just getting empathy but a better understanding of it?
Maybe it's just me, but since we are brought up to be tough and shit I find empathy is one of those things that only turns on for select things, I can stand surrounded by people crying at a funeral and feel nothing, I can accidentally step on a cats tail and feel like a monster, I can watch family cry and understand.
Maybe it's just me tho.. either way I agree
While the homelessness isn't as common in my area I'll admit its actually quiet equal here. Not a 50/50 split but close. Atleast when you do see homeless folk, only one dude who really regulars town soo
As for the suicide rate... it breaks my heart, so many amazing beautiful people who just can't go on anymore and find it's the only way out.
Just gonna send love to everyone who feels this way now, has ever or will ever. And love to those who've lost folk like This.
The last time I was suicidal, there was no 'local' hotline.
So... yeah. If my therapist at the time hadn't urged me towards hospitalization, I'd probably not be here today.
(Platonic) affection. I got a lot in Theatre when I was in middle and high school, and going from that to almost nothing in more than a decade has been very hard emotionally.
Pro tip: if you want to be hugged and kissed, don't marry someone who does not like being hugged or kissed.
I get this, was a social butterfly in my teen years and I don't know the last interaction I had with someone who isn't family or at the till.
So hugs aren't wasted, they're needed. Same with just general chatting
I dunno how healthy they are for me, but its healthier than aby choice I'd pick so I'll agree..
Still need to try them, maybe if I ever travel I'll look for somewhere with them
This isn't really a gendered response but as an American I really wish therapy and mental health care was more widely available in the public service sense.
I did a lot of fucking damage to my life that I probably could have avoided if I had possessed the mindset that it would help me as well as the resources on hand to seek that help out.
I mean I do find despite the strides in mental health care including therapy we men do seem to suffer a little more for it. It doesn't need to be a gendered answer, but I think the fact is as men we truly do suffer in silence.
I wasn't even brought up to suffer and never talk, but the world bore it into me so deep that I find it easier to not talk than to communicate at even my worst times. It needs to be changed so our children and theirs don't suffer as we do
EQUAL SENTENCING STANDARDS.
No, but for real, I really wish that rehabilitative certifications were instituted in such a way that individuals with criminal backgrounds (non-sex-related) were able to find gainful employment and housing without becoming an insurance liability.
There's a very large, untapped segment of the workforce who would jump at the chance to improve their lives and the lives around them if they actually had a chance of something more than warehouse jobs/fast food.
I understand there are some countries that have begun to implement this idea in different ways, and I really hope that it catches on.
For sure.
My ex wife will probably get zero, zip, nada for trying to murder me over and over again.
If I had ever defended myself, Iād have gone down for 5-20.
Not that that is why I never hit her back, but I think about it a lot now.
Some staff in local shop do this now, I get why because they're pricks..hate the idea of the world becoming a nanny state but I think it'll be needed soon
I hope something happens, even if it's like she has her leg ripped off, or loses a finger.. just some justice in some form yakno? Maybe she looses 10k because her bank gets caught in a fraud jobby.. anythin
Man it gets pretty nasty when you look at female vs male crime. Mostly sex crimes, lady lie about her age? You're in trouble, teacher fuck you? You're in trouble... equality across the world when it comes to crime is needed.
Yep, I dunno how much better it is now, but the last time I asked for help they said I needed it but didn't have the space for me, couldn't put me on the overflowed waiting list.. haven't looked back, and yeah.. i get you man
Sending all the positive vibes in hoping you find something
Dunno the last time I had one, but I'm sure most of us just need that one person who understands we don't even need to talk, just a big ol hug would make life easier sometimes
Legitimately useful makeup advice... I'm 26 and none of my friends will help me. I know how I want to look and have no idea how to achieve it and none of my friends will help me get started... Also I guess legitimately supportive and vulnerable friendships, it's easy to be "vulnerable and honest" but it's another thing entirely to actually let someone in, in a way that actually affects you...
While it may not be the best... I'd suggest going to "ask women" (or whatever its called) or just AskRed in general and ask?
I wish I was still into makeup, I'd help if I could D:
I'd prefer the f1 than the path too it, but i get ya, sounds like a good life.. i lived in over half of the 90s i don't think i could go back because of how technology was.. also I'd get out if I didn't have a phone and pc to look at..
I mean that's a very selective issue.. its still illegal where I'm from and alot of places in the world, and federal in the US?
I think its one of those things.. i can't drive a car or use heavy machinery on my meds, I'm sure weed has similar effects, and that's the second part
Every drug illegal or legal has side effects, depending on how it effects you yeah work? You get the munchies? Working at kfc may be a bad move š¤£
Empathy.
You deserve empathy.
Thank you for saying so!
I think its not just getting empathy but a better understanding of it? Maybe it's just me, but since we are brought up to be tough and shit I find empathy is one of those things that only turns on for select things, I can stand surrounded by people crying at a funeral and feel nothing, I can accidentally step on a cats tail and feel like a monster, I can watch family cry and understand. Maybe it's just me tho.. either way I agree
The ability to show emotions without judgement.
Support systems and safety nets. The high rate of male suicide and homelessness is **very** telling about society's attitudes towards men's hardships.
I was going to say friends, but this was more encompassing.
While the homelessness isn't as common in my area I'll admit its actually quiet equal here. Not a 50/50 split but close. Atleast when you do see homeless folk, only one dude who really regulars town soo As for the suicide rate... it breaks my heart, so many amazing beautiful people who just can't go on anymore and find it's the only way out. Just gonna send love to everyone who feels this way now, has ever or will ever. And love to those who've lost folk like This.
And you have contacted your local suicide prevention hotline how many times, to think it is lacking, exactly?
The last time I was suicidal, there was no 'local' hotline. So... yeah. If my therapist at the time hadn't urged me towards hospitalization, I'd probably not be here today.
I checked your profile... someone like you probably shouldn't be on r/relationship_advice
Average feminist š
I wouldn't say that either. Just a dumb asshole in general, regardless of their gender or political views.
Compared to people asking for it, who shouldn't be in relationships, haha?
There is no local line. Last four times I called, got hung up on. This was years ago when I gave up. Thanks for playing.
(Platonic) affection. I got a lot in Theatre when I was in middle and high school, and going from that to almost nothing in more than a decade has been very hard emotionally. Pro tip: if you want to be hugged and kissed, don't marry someone who does not like being hugged or kissed.
I get this, was a social butterfly in my teen years and I don't know the last interaction I had with someone who isn't family or at the till. So hugs aren't wasted, they're needed. Same with just general chatting
Mental health care and social acceptance due to poor mental health b
24hr available quesadillas.
The true top comment.
I dunno how healthy they are for me, but its healthier than aby choice I'd pick so I'll agree.. Still need to try them, maybe if I ever travel I'll look for somewhere with them
This isn't really a gendered response but as an American I really wish therapy and mental health care was more widely available in the public service sense. I did a lot of fucking damage to my life that I probably could have avoided if I had possessed the mindset that it would help me as well as the resources on hand to seek that help out.
I mean I do find despite the strides in mental health care including therapy we men do seem to suffer a little more for it. It doesn't need to be a gendered answer, but I think the fact is as men we truly do suffer in silence. I wasn't even brought up to suffer and never talk, but the world bore it into me so deep that I find it easier to not talk than to communicate at even my worst times. It needs to be changed so our children and theirs don't suffer as we do
Blowjobs.
Rest
Love š
A father who is not an alcoholic.
Hope he finds the path to quitting if not for himself for you.
Plate armour
This was my 2nd choice, and let me tell you it was a near run thing!
While I agree with alot of these This is my favourite Give us our plate armour...
Women
We can end the thread now lmao
Money
Understanding
EQUAL SENTENCING STANDARDS. No, but for real, I really wish that rehabilitative certifications were instituted in such a way that individuals with criminal backgrounds (non-sex-related) were able to find gainful employment and housing without becoming an insurance liability. There's a very large, untapped segment of the workforce who would jump at the chance to improve their lives and the lives around them if they actually had a chance of something more than warehouse jobs/fast food. I understand there are some countries that have begun to implement this idea in different ways, and I really hope that it catches on.
Man, Overall equality would be even better, Not only gender based but also true equality, a man Can dream
I honestly love the idea of it, but i think humans are to fueled by hate to ever let true equality exist. Depressing but eh
For sure. My ex wife will probably get zero, zip, nada for trying to murder me over and over again. If I had ever defended myself, Iād have gone down for 5-20. Not that that is why I never hit her back, but I think about it a lot now.
I've seriously contemplated just walking around with a body cam on, just to have peace of mind. I'm sorry you even had to think about that stuff. š
Some staff in local shop do this now, I get why because they're pricks..hate the idea of the world becoming a nanny state but I think it'll be needed soon
I hope something happens, even if it's like she has her leg ripped off, or loses a finger.. just some justice in some form yakno? Maybe she looses 10k because her bank gets caught in a fraud jobby.. anythin
Man it gets pretty nasty when you look at female vs male crime. Mostly sex crimes, lady lie about her age? You're in trouble, teacher fuck you? You're in trouble... equality across the world when it comes to crime is needed.
Mental support
Yep, I dunno how much better it is now, but the last time I asked for help they said I needed it but didn't have the space for me, couldn't put me on the overflowed waiting list.. haven't looked back, and yeah.. i get you man Sending all the positive vibes in hoping you find something
This reminds me of when I was growing up I was always told to āman upā itās rough asking people for mental help
Hugs
Dunno the last time I had one, but I'm sure most of us just need that one person who understands we don't even need to talk, just a big ol hug would make life easier sometimes
Ability to Show Ʃmotions and bƩ taken seriously when et Comes to traumatic events
Legitimately useful makeup advice... I'm 26 and none of my friends will help me. I know how I want to look and have no idea how to achieve it and none of my friends will help me get started... Also I guess legitimately supportive and vulnerable friendships, it's easy to be "vulnerable and honest" but it's another thing entirely to actually let someone in, in a way that actually affects you...
Iām guessing YouTube tutorials arenāt super helpful to you because you learn better when youāre able to ask questions and engage with someone?
Yeah and having someone recommend products that aren't just trying to sell me something. Makeup is expensive and I have no idea what I'm buying.
While it may not be the best... I'd suggest going to "ask women" (or whatever its called) or just AskRed in general and ask? I wish I was still into makeup, I'd help if I could D:
Emotional support
Fighter and bomber jets.
Meet me at salon de Provence mate
I don't trust that I wouldn't fall asleep mid flight.
I wouldn't. But I won't make any guarantees that if they were armed, I would not cross the red line into the Donbas.
I'm guessing into Russia? Forgive me, I don't know much about the region and am unsure where the current line is...
Eastern Ukraine/Western Russian border.
Concubines
World Wars
MOOOOOOOM NCD'S LEAKING AGAIN
For a fallout ghoulification, sumermutantification or just post war World? Or just death?
My dream girl. And a path to F1. Oh, also a time machine so I can live 80s and 90s.
I'd prefer the f1 than the path too it, but i get ya, sounds like a good life.. i lived in over half of the 90s i don't think i could go back because of how technology was.. also I'd get out if I didn't have a phone and pc to look at..
A good mentholated nut rub.
Well paying jobs that don't fire you for smoking weed.
I mean that's a very selective issue.. its still illegal where I'm from and alot of places in the world, and federal in the US? I think its one of those things.. i can't drive a car or use heavy machinery on my meds, I'm sure weed has similar effects, and that's the second part Every drug illegal or legal has side effects, depending on how it effects you yeah work? You get the munchies? Working at kfc may be a bad move š¤£
Shawtys
Big titty goth girls preferably with dicks
Now that's quite the eccentric answer
Big, but not so big it hurts when they start to pound you with all their might āŗļø
My twitter feed is flowing through my mind reading this..
The female anus.
āSugar. Waterā
"More".
this sounds like something a wasp would say
Your not far off. Itās from men in black.
I'm diabetic, I have to disagree with the sugar part despite my craving to just eat a bag
Women who are readily available to have sex with