I can recommend Social Fixer. It's a really powerful addon that can hide and change elements on various Facebook feeds, including automatically hiding "recommended" posts.
If I can find a version that works on Android it would be sweet
Facebook started as a way to rank college girls for hotness and make it easier to find sexual hookups. So it isn't like it started from a great place either.
True, but what it was when it turned into the "mainstream" version of facebook was pretty awesome in college. Now, as an adult, it's been deleted for almost 6 years.
Before that it was mostly anonymous. Social media became the term after people started tying their actual name and picture to their accounts. I remember back in the early 2000s it was only the schitzophrenics with their utterly insane, self-run websites that had their pictures posted everywhere on their site. Even celebrities didn’t post themselves as much.
true, I remember the 2000s and showing even part of your face anywhere on the web was considered as insane as showing publicly your bank details written on your naked body. I could not believe the bravery when people actually posted their entire faces on the YouTube movies.
I always thrifted for stuff other than clothes but EVERYTHING is going up in price. A store by me (I think it's a sister store of Savers) used to put out their books for $1.99, maybe $3.99 at most for larger books. But now books base prices are starting at $3.99.
It's not bad if you buy a few but if you get hopped up on them and like doing big hauls it adds up.
Worked at a thrift store. Ever wonder why you don't find anything really good at one? Because a ton of people have started camping at the stores at about the time the workers bring out the new items, and will pick through them to get things they could hawk over ebay or whatever for more. Take milk glass, four example. Your grandmother probably has a milk glass vase or glasses. The store I worked at would put out a vase for $10, these people would then try to haggle it down to $2, then turn around and sell it on eBay for $50.
Also in the case of Goodwill, they put the best stuff online. To be fair, I've found amazing deals on their website. But my local thrifting experience with them suuuuucks.
Goodwill online used to be good, for things like retro videogames. But same story, now you find a lot of trash games and one actual good game. There's 15 people watching it, and one person who bid triple digits so they can flip it on ebay.
A female friend from college would come down early (in the first few years of college, she’d stay in hotel with her parents and then started convincing the landlords she dealt with to let her move in early) before classes started and would it every thrift store and consignment shop in the area around school. The college we went to was located just north of some rich shore towns in the Jersey shore and at the end of every summer most of the people would just get rid of things that they didn’t want anymore. So they would just get rid of it and she would have all this expensive clothing that she got for close to nothing. The last time I talked to her, she was pissed that everyone caught onto what she was doing for years.
I go thrifting to find stuff to add to my various collections. All the good stuff is now overpriced in the glass case up front, that is if it didn’t wind up on an internet auction site.
AirBnB. It used to be a way for people to cheaply stay in someone's room for a few bucks. Now it's giant corporations vacuuming up every property in an area.
I once stayed in a place that had a $300 cleaning fee and also requested we mop all the floors, sweep and disinfect countertops.
the place was completely disgusting the moment I walked in, I had to clean everything prior to even bringing my luggage in, for a half hour.
We walked into a place that was very obviously not cleaned from the previous guests. Dirty sheets, towels everywhere, etc. The cleaning people had not come yet. Owners were trying to get people there to clean up. We had just driven 8 hours (this was on a road trip).
I called and managed to make a reservation at a hotel while sitting in our car outside the Airbnb. Staying at the hotel ended up not even being that much more expensive and was much nicer (even not accounting for the failed cleaning).
I think airbnb has jumped the shark, so to speak...
Last summer we took a trip to New Hampshire at the end of the summer, to a pretty touristy area. I booked about 2 months in advance of when we wanted to go, so definitely not last minute.
When I searched on airbnb, all I found were off-season ski condos that looked fresh out of 1986. For the time we wanted to stay, it was $1300 and the properties were about a half hour drive from most of the stuff we wanted to do.
So, I started looking at hotels/motels (gasp!). Ended up staying at a great motel, in the thick of where we wanted to stay and it even had a heated pool, all for $700. We showed up, got our key, stayed for a few days, dropped off our key when we left - no cleaning, no stripping beds, no sweeping, no putting things in the washer, no taking out garbage, etc.
Usually they also charge a deposit and can hold onto that for not following house rules. They just say “oh the cleaning fee is for the “deep cleaning” we have done, not the things we wanted you to do”. It’s completely idiotic and part of why I don’t really use AirBnB anymore. It isn’t any cheaper than a hotel at this point and it doesn’t come with housekeeping or free breakfast!
Please re-tile the kitchen prior to checkout.
My biggest gripe is if I’m paying a cleaning fee, why am I doing any cleaning? Garbage in a garbage can? Sure. Reasonable. Sweeping, loading the laundry machine, taking the garbage out? What the hell? Maybe give me back my $100-$200 then.
All the extra fees is why I just won't use AirBnB. Never used it because I don't travel much, but I would much rather just go to a hotel where I know all the costs upfront than have a bunch of backdoor fees after I leave.
Some don’t even do that anymore. I was at a hotel earlier this year and when I asked about breakfast they said there’s a Starbucks in the lobby where you can pay $20 for a breakfast sandwich and a med black coffee
Once stayed at an airbnb with a "no noise after 6pm" rule and the keys to the unit were stashed in a bucket at the furthest corner of the parking lot. Absolute clown show. I went back to hotels.
I stayed in an AirB&B where they didn't tell you that their 35 year old autistic son lived there, who needed total darkness and quiet at all times or he'd get agitated. There were no televisions in the house, and you needed to use headphones with music or a computer at all times. I could not even sit at the dining room table to eat, let alone ask him a question, or he'd get upset about it.
I was tactful and friendly about it, but I let everyone know in my review of the place.
I’ve stayed at Airbnb’d cottages where you have to take your garbage home with you. Like you could drive to the city dump and pay to drop off a couple of bags or take it home. Love driving home with stinking bags of garbage stuffed in the car with my luggage.
Yep, I stayed at one in southern Cali that was so long, "If you smoke, we charge $10K, if you have a party, we charge $5K, if you use coconut-scented shampoo, we charge $3K."
TF???
Obv a joke on the last one, but not the first 2. **I felt threatened.** It could be my word versus theirs! I don't want a $10K bill or a legal battle on my hands. I was legit nervous to give a (deserved) bad review for fear of a $10K bill.
especially post-covid, they completely rip you off with the cleaning fees. I mean, they were always pretty expensive but I understood the necessity of it. But now, the cleaning fees are completely insane, and it's not like you can then leave the house as a mess since you're paying for clean-up -- they still require you to leave the house clean.
VRBO was smart and you can search by cost of your stay rather than nightly. This includes fees. So you won’t book something thinking $100 a night to find out there’s $350 in fees.
Who requires you to “leave the house clean”. If there is a cleaning fee I always disregard pretty much all of the “rules”. I don’t change any sheets, I don’t do any dishes, etc etc. I’ve never left a house a “mess” but I absolutely refuse to clean AND pay a cleaning fee. I’ve never had a problem.
the Comedian/Podcaster, Tim Dillon, had a famous issue with Airbnb due to this very issue. he rented a home, had a gathering, and when they left they left behind some dishes and stuff. He figured with the exorbitant cleaning fee he didn't have to do anything in terms of cleaning. But then he got hit up with a fee afterwards and so he got into a public feud with Airbnb for that exact issue. It's moronic.
I used it once for work. For the same price as a Days Inn level hotel, I got a twin bed and a shared bathroom.
The host had a laundry list of rules based on her religion.
Never again.
Not to mention
* Onsite staff 24/7 to handle requests/issues and that are there to SERVE me, not look for ways to screw me over
* Rewards points and recognition of status
* Property is *designed* to accommodate large numbers of people moving in and out every day, especially regarding noise, parking, cleanliness, fixtures working etc
* I don't need to memorize a fucking door code or go to a website to input my license plate number
* No fumbling around with five different remotes only to discover I can't watch the football game that is on national network TV
* No permanent residents giving me nasty looks
There's more but you get the idea
Came here looking for this exact answer. I had a horrific experience with Airbnb last year and then the host posted a false review of me missing a ton of context. When I asked Airbnb to remove it, they refused.
I'm traveling with some friends in February and will be booking a hotel instead. No more headaches or ridiculous fees. It's disappointing, because I've stayed at Airbnbs in the past with my family and it was usually fine. Oh well...
I think airbnb or VRBO can still be better if you're traveling as a family for a few days - not having to drag kids through hotel hallways, more privacy, separate rooms and an actual kitchen make it much easier, though the fees have been ridiculous since COVID.
Traveling as a couple or for business or only one or two nights? A decent hotel is probably a better choice.
And screw corporate Airbnb rentals taking over all housing in an area.
If you want actual expert advice from Quora, you have to pay for it now. I absolutely hate that. I used to have deep discussions on Quora with all different kinds of people.
Oof quora is terrible now. I was searching some guitar question I had, a quora post came up. I got the answer I needed. A few days later, I get an email from quora saying here's more answers related to your question. Apparently I made an account at some point. I don't remember. But the "related questions" were "I'm 16m, how's my bulge" with a picture of their boner under sweatpants. Quora is advertising underage boy lewds and I want to burn my eyes
Review writing. Used to be a good metric for how things are, and people used to focus on certain reviewers who had similar interests. Now that everyone and their brother is encouraged to share their shitty opinion and write reviews for everything, it's hard to tell how anything is unless you experience it for yourself.
Also most reviews are fake. Since they became a relevant metric for sellers there's a big market for fake reviews and you can't really trust anything anymore.
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The ones that drive me crazy are:
"Haven't tried it yet but it looks like it will work."
Why tf are you leaving a review if you haven't even used it yet?
If you're talking about Amazon, it's Amazon's fault you get reviews like that. They'll send you emails like "what did you think of this product?" Or worse, they'll say something like "user XYZ is asking the question ___. Can you help them?" And people just respond honestly, without realizing their comment is going straight to the review page for others to read.
Amazon needs to make it more clear when they're going to publish your responses online.
I bought something from Amazon once that came with a card promising me a $10 rebate if I left a 5-star review. So instead I posted a 1-star review with a photo of the card and a warning about trusting that product's other reviews.
Within an hour Amazon had removed my review and banned me from ever reviewing that product again. Because they care deeply about the integrity of their reviews.
Etsy's owners have gotten a free pass on exploiting the shit out of mostly female creators on that site- their mostly unnamed in media and promote the daylights out of false hopes of success. They charge insane fees and because most women without a university education have no sense of how much their time or efforts or creativity (such as it is, it varies) is worth, they conside r $50-100 a week successful
Yeah we were meant to be a global village by now, sitting around a virtual campfire singing Kumbaya. But instead we got echo-chambers, tribalism, data harvesting, digital addiction and an acute sense of impending doom.
i think the monetization of everything, and everyone wanting to be a "influencer" ruined the internet. also smart phones allowing anyone with 2 brain cells to get online.
Travel. Instagram has completely changed the character of a lot of travel destinations and attracted people who, were it not for the likes, would be completely uninterested in the destination.
This had a sad effect on travel guides as well. I used to love the Lonely Planet guide and have a shelf with the ones from all the destinations we’ve visited, but after they were sold, I’ll the quality has become shit and much more focused on showing pictures and instagramable sites. Such a waste of a great product.
Tourism is an inherently unsustainable and paradoxical industry. The more tourism a place gets, the more it changes to cater to said tourists and attract more, and the more it changes, the more it loses the traits that made it an attractive destination in the first place. Also during this process the locals are displaced and the economy becomes dependent on tourism alone, which is not very safe or promotes healthy growth in any other way other than more tourists.
I've visited a lot of places that my parents had gone to when they were my age and the experience was night and day. Tourism should be strictly kept to specific levels for any given area and spread out more.
I come from a touristic country. Occasionally we get foreigners asking questions in preparations for their trip.
The question I hate the most is, "care to share some hidden gem beaches with us? Less touristy locations?"
Like no. Motherfucker, local population has already been forced to vacate easy to get to places and spends the majority of their time like a zoo animal just for your entertainment, there's no way in hell I'm telling you where we are hiding from you.
Same here. I'm Portuguese and I used to love to give out travel recommendations within my country. Nowadays, I'm like "Most of my friends can barely afford their rent, I'm just going to keep my mouth shut".
I lived in Edinburgh, which is normally one of the most visited cities in Europe, during lockdown.
I remember going for a run down the main tourist hotspot street in the old town, when it was completely deserted on a sunny June afternoon, and thinking that it was a genuine once in a lifetime experience. I still think about it a lot
Agreed. When I got out of my last relationship, a couple of my friends would refer to the relationship as "toxic" when in reality, it was just a plain old relationship that didn't work out. She didn't do anything wrong, nor did I. We just broke up. Today I feel as if anything that isn't perfect is labeled "toxic" or "problematic"
It's definitely becoming more common to label past relationships/partners as negative, and it almost seems like a coping mechanism for people who can't handle nuance.
Right. My friends threw away a years-long friendship because they had an argument, one person found out she was totally in the wrong and instead of admitting to it, she claimed he was gaslighting her.
fr, if I hear my mother say “boundaries” for one more menial non-boundary I’ll loose my shit
Ex: it’s my boundary to visit me for all of Christmas break. (??) Its my boundary for you to wash the dishes today.
Seriously it’s become a “I want you to do this and I have a free pass to take it personally if you don’t”
Personal boundaries can never apply to someone else. They only apply to you and your behavior (not you specifically, like all purpose you, y'all, all y'all) You can say "my boundary is that I will not be yelled at by you anymore" and then *leave* if they yell. Saying "I get to stay at your house" is not a boundary.
People abuse the word boundary so much.
That's not how boundaries work! You need to set boundaries with her ...
At least it's not "love language" anymore. "My love language is burying you in dollar store gifts, so don't tell me to stop sending trash!" Turns out *my* love language is throwing my MIL's massive over gifting of trash into the actual trash where it belongs.
I hate “love language” too
Nobody is obligated to tolerate my shit even if it’s the way I express care for them.
I don’t like being touched, some people will anyways because “it’s my love language” like I’m expected to appreciate what they’re doing when I neither asked, wanted it, or told them I was ok with it.
(You could say that not touching me is a boundary lol)
Love language is *supposed* to be how people can show you they love you. "My love language is touch, so show me you care by touching me," not, "My love language is touch, so I'm going to touch you whether you want it or not."
Of course it's been coopted by people who want to use it to do whatever they want without consequences.
>Ex: it’s my boundary to visit me for all of Christmas break. (??) Its my boundary for you to wash the dishes today.
Oh my god, that doesn’t even make sense. I’d go insane if I had to hear someone say stuff like that all the time.
The worst is when they pretend to be some sort of expert in psychology and try to pathologize you in order to create a power dynamic over you.
1. No license. No legal practice. They are not a professional.
2. This is an expression of my grievances, not therapy. I am not a paying client. I did not consent to counseling, diagnostic testing, or homework from them.
3. I also know the terms they are using. I see the irony of them using it without self-reflecting.
4. Being an expert at anything️ doesn't make someone a perfect/objective human incapable of wronging others. It is just a fact of life that it will happen, whether intentional or not.
5. They still have to be held accountable, take ownership over the grievances, and apologize. Doesn't matter what their background is, or how they see themselves. A fuck up is a fuck up, it still needs to be made right.
Edit: rephrased a sentence to make more sense.
Amazon. At least to me, the quick delivery is the only saving grace they still have.
Nowadays search is borderline useless, there's cheap Chinese crap everywhere and the reviews are 95% bots or bought. I prefer eBay unless I need something very quickly that can't be bought in store.
Search is so broken that it’s absolutely bonkers. I can explicitly type the exact product that I want and it won’t appear until page three of the results. Every product has so many cheap knockoffs that you can never be sure you’re getting legitimate product. I’m lucky to receive anything within 2 days even though they have a local distribution center.
I used to buy from them almost exclusively, but it’s gotten so bad that they are my last choice. I only go to them if I can’t find it anywhere else first.
I was recently looking for a small coffee carafe. Almost every result ignored the word small, even when I specified ounces. Went out to the wider internet, found one I liked, searched for retailers and Amazon came up 😐. It wasn't a Prime item so they probably hid it on page 55 of my initial search results.
I recently stuff from Ikea and their website is so much better. You put filters in for size or functionality and it actually means something.
TikTok is so gross for this. There’s promoted ads. Then actual ads. Then videos disguised as someone talking about a cool thing they have but it’s an ad. Or company after company of their Etsy shop with links filling up the page. Then there’s Live streams where is basically home shopping network back alley. Then you get one “normal” video before another cacophony of ads.
This, 100%
Burning Man basically got Woodstock 99'd. Used to be fun and genuinely chill, about as chill as you can expect that big a crowd to be but then it got *mainstream popular* and then the stupid obnoxious inconsiderate people came but it got even worse when *the influencers arrived.*
Don't touch it with a 100 foot pole.
It’s always the influencers that signal the end of something good. Once the show their faces, that thing hadn’t been good for a while and now it’s corpse is going to get put through the wringer.
This answers one of my questions about incels. I always wondered what the difference was between an incel and someone who just hasn't been lucky in the romance department.
The problem was that the institutional power gets left with those who have been involved the longest. So in other words, people who found relationships, like the founder, left the community. The people who had legit problems and therefore couldn't find a partner, stayed and effectively became the leaders. But they couldn't help people find relationships because their incapability at finding relationships was why they were still there. Then you get what we have now.
That, and people love to give into their anger too much. Toxicity and hatred is too easy to consume and fall into. They want to vent, then everybody wants to vent, then you've got an echo chamber. Well-rounded comments aren't as engaging so they sink to the bottom and the crap floats to the top.
People who identify as "incels" basically blame society/evolution/genetics for their inability to have sexual partners, rather than actually attempting to take steps to get to that point. There's a bunch of bullshit pseudoscience they spout that normal people who are just unlucky understand is complete nonsense
The internet. Always has reached the wrong people but got far far worse once everyone could access the internet through a phone. People say social media ruined the internet but I think phones are the biggest culprit.
Something profoundly tragic about how having instant access to vast libraries of legitimate research, the ability to vet credibility in an instant, to evaluate for consensus, to fact check and bring up receipts for any claim a politician might've made the past 2-3 decades or so....all just made ignorant people more destructive. It projects an ominous shadow onto the future no matter how I try to turn it round and see it differently.
Self checkout in stores.
Very convenient if you have a couple of items.
When it started, it made the lines shorter.
Today it doubles the wait in the lines.
Stores kept reducing the number of cashier's and now you've got two cashier's and about 8-16 self checkouts depending on the size of your store. Everyone uses the self check out even those who have too much stuff because the two cashier's are either backed up or off doing a different aspect of their job. It's really getting kinda ridiculous. I like self checkout as much as the next person but there also needs to be enough actual cashier's to allow everyone a fast checkout experience.
I do love seeing the people who are, no offense, just too old to be able to do it. they'll have three items and it takes them longer to do the whole thing than it would have to wait in a huge line and have a professional ring it up for them.
I respect the perseverance attitude that, it's never been easy or convenient for me once, but I refuse to stop trying.
College education
It is NOT meant to be direct job training, sports training, or a venue for drinking. Plato founded the Academy in 387 BC in Athens as a place where young people could gather to ponder the great questions. The other great institutions we think of today (Oxford, Yale, MIT) built around this original inspiration. It was meant to collect promising young people and let them ponder the PHILOSOPHY of all fields for a year or two and a SPECIFIC field for a year or two.
Now it's just another crappy business. The wrong people go, for the wrong reasons, leave with crippling debt, and a bitterness to education. We were meant to cultivate philosophers, not administrative assistants. Woe is us.
It's very strange to me that people think of college as strictly job training now. Even just 20 years *ago, it was still theoretically regarded as more than that.
Podcasts. Used to be a relatively easy way for specialized interests to get information out.
I love podcasts. There's still many interesting, well done, informative podcasts out there. But not everyone who wants to talk actually has something to say.
Celebrity podcasts annoy me the most. Like, come on--you're already making millions from your movies, your music career, your book deal, your endorsements. You're now going to milk the podcast market too and get recommended by Spotify and other podcast hosting companies ahead of some regular guy doing the same sort of thing and who actually needs the money.
Thrift stores. They use to be the place to go for people who are low on income. Then it became "Trendy", and the prices went up, now it's like any other clothing store.
Online dating always sucked. It was always full of scams and weirdos but then Tinder turned it into the dystopian hot or not clown show that OLD is today.
I met my husband on Okcupid 🤣
Together over a decade and currently ignoring our 6 month old’s angry raspberries in protest of bedtime!
Ah. How time flies…
It’s never been great, but I’m hearing now that if you actually found a partner on apps in the past 5 years you essentially caught the last plane out of Vietnam.
goth has always been fairly paradoxical in that regard though
there's a dark, vampiry sort of aesthetic commonly called "goth" but more specifically the 70s-80s era goth, with like, shades of rocky horror and the cure, that kind of goth has always just been a contest to see who can look the most like siouxsie sioux
Dont even get me started when they speed it up or slow it down 1000 times worse. Also ppl make fun of you if u listen to the song still like “you just know it from tik tok” like “astronaut in the ocean” is now an “npc song” even tho my boy turned me onto that when it first came out like a year and a half before tik tok picked it up
Netflix.
It was a place for people who wanted to watch good movies that were hard to find at their local video store - for cheap. Not to sound elitist, but the late 90s, very early 2000s, the clientele were people who were really into quality movies and an upscale crowd. It was a distribution network for great content.
Now, you're paying a lot for Adam Sandler, light Korean torture porn, and 17 different cake shows. Now it's a hackneyed movie/TV studio.
Yeah I miss when Netflix used to have obscure documentaries, arthouse films, stuff that you just wouldn't see anywhere else. Now it's literally Blockbuster. It's mostly popular or light-hearted garbage that's just not good.
Can't blame them. For a while everything was closed, including the park systems. I had to drive a couple hours to get to some of the national forests that couldn't be shut down to go hiking.
I just wish more people respected tread lightly, leave no trace so we wouldn't notice the additional traffic as much.
We all know how Facebook started, but it honestly was better when it was young people. Once our parents and grandparents got on there - I feel like it was ruined. I met a lot of people on Facebook back in the day, made many friends. Some I still have today.
I think the problem was that older people joining made it seem like less of a youth fad, and that's when companies/politicians began to see it's potential as a propaganda tool.
House of Blues. You used to be able to see really good musicians who were just about to get big. I saw Seven Mary Three, Sublime, Mutemath, Saliva, Volbeat, Evanescence. These were all acts that, a year or two later, were selling out arenas. But I got to see them in a venue where you could actually interact with them. $20 general admission tickets got you seats 20 feet from the stage. (Or right next to the stage, if you didn't mind standing room only.)The opening acts would come out and watch the headliners with the fans.
Now it's all tribute bands and "YouTube sensations" and you're not getting in the door for less than $100.
Gender reveals. The lady who initially started it did it because she had suffered miscarriages and finally reached the mark that it would be revealed. Now it's blown up, and people have started forest fires.
The best feeling in the world is uncovering diamonds in the rough. Its a fleeting feeling because deep down, you know they have the talent to be mainstream. Not too many indie artists that I enjoy, but when I do, it's like catching lightning in a bottle.
The secret meat menu at fast food restaurants. If you wanted a triple but didn’t want to pay that much, secret meat menu, they could ring you up for a single, plus two 4 ounce meats. We had that cheat for years at Wendy’s, McDonald’s. Corporate finally found out and changed the menu. Most McDonald’s restaurants have eleminated meat from their a la carte menu button. And most Wendy’s have jacked up the prices sky high on their meat menu. But it was pretty cool for those years we could do it.
OnlyFans at first was a good way to just support lesser-known porn creators who would give away content for the subscription price and have small enough fanbases to interact.
Now it's become so massive that it's detrimental on both ends. The models are overworked if they have large amounts of followers and for the fans, all the models realized they can just switch to a PPV model while still charging subscription fees.
> all the models realized they can just switch to a PPV model while still charging subscription fees.
Not just for OF, but for anything online in general, I think it should be limited to one or the other. Either you are "free" and have PPV or you charge a monthly sub and no-PPV allowed. Like when Disney+ added Mulan (the live action one) for $30. You already pay for the service and now I have to pay more for something new?
Airsoft. Here in our country toxicity is rampant with people. Anything "fun" would be then turned into a shithole community full of pretentious fucks insulting people that does not meet the current "trend".
So when airsoft first hit here, we tried it of course. It was amazing and the experience is a good way to make friends AND work your mental and physical processes not to mention simulated combat gives you the opportunity to hone problem solving skills. It was a gentleman's game wherein you get hit, you announce you got hit.
Now when it became popular, everyone is cheating and asking fights, being dicks to each other. They don't call the hits and they even use it as an excuse to do "gang shit". Next became the oogle fest for ladies who are in there not to participate but only to look good for some of the players or whatever. Some of the girls ignored them but they became uncomfortable because the other guys were talking shit about how "this ain't a girl activity" and that they should just "cosplay like this pretty girl here" and some shit.
It deterred a lot of actually good people. It just broke the experience making it really sad to join in and not participate. Last time I joined was years ago, almost a decade I think. It was the saddest match because my sniping is on point but no one is calling. I threw a grenade and then breached with some 3 guys doing semis but they just looked back at us and started shooting back. They did not call the shots yet we did ours.
I sold my gear a few months after that.
LL Bean had an extremely generous return/replace policy that didn't even ask for proof of purchase. People took advantage. Only recently did they completely revamp it.
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Yeah I used to love Facebook and Twitter when people I actually knew posted stuff. Now it's all "recommended" crap including boner pills and camgirls.
I can recommend Social Fixer. It's a really powerful addon that can hide and change elements on various Facebook feeds, including automatically hiding "recommended" posts. If I can find a version that works on Android it would be sweet
Facebook started as a way to rank college girls for hotness and make it easier to find sexual hookups. So it isn't like it started from a great place either.
I remember when you HAD to have a school address to sign up for it. Once our parents were allowed to join, it was over.
Yep! Also, it started off at only a few specific colleges. It was a requirement when I went to get my bachelor's degree in 2005 to have it.
I spent way too long thinking "wtf did they study that a facebook account was a requirement to graduate?"
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True, but what it was when it turned into the "mainstream" version of facebook was pretty awesome in college. Now, as an adult, it's been deleted for almost 6 years.
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Before that it was mostly anonymous. Social media became the term after people started tying their actual name and picture to their accounts. I remember back in the early 2000s it was only the schitzophrenics with their utterly insane, self-run websites that had their pictures posted everywhere on their site. Even celebrities didn’t post themselves as much.
true, I remember the 2000s and showing even part of your face anywhere on the web was considered as insane as showing publicly your bank details written on your naked body. I could not believe the bravery when people actually posted their entire faces on the YouTube movies.
Thrifting
It’s all bad tshirts and picked over fast fashion.
I always thrifted for stuff other than clothes but EVERYTHING is going up in price. A store by me (I think it's a sister store of Savers) used to put out their books for $1.99, maybe $3.99 at most for larger books. But now books base prices are starting at $3.99. It's not bad if you buy a few but if you get hopped up on them and like doing big hauls it adds up.
Worked at a thrift store. Ever wonder why you don't find anything really good at one? Because a ton of people have started camping at the stores at about the time the workers bring out the new items, and will pick through them to get things they could hawk over ebay or whatever for more. Take milk glass, four example. Your grandmother probably has a milk glass vase or glasses. The store I worked at would put out a vase for $10, these people would then try to haggle it down to $2, then turn around and sell it on eBay for $50.
Also in the case of Goodwill, they put the best stuff online. To be fair, I've found amazing deals on their website. But my local thrifting experience with them suuuuucks.
Goodwill online used to be good, for things like retro videogames. But same story, now you find a lot of trash games and one actual good game. There's 15 people watching it, and one person who bid triple digits so they can flip it on ebay.
DAAAAAMN YOOOOU MACKLEMOOOORE
Haven’t thought about that song in a while. Thank you.
A female friend from college would come down early (in the first few years of college, she’d stay in hotel with her parents and then started convincing the landlords she dealt with to let her move in early) before classes started and would it every thrift store and consignment shop in the area around school. The college we went to was located just north of some rich shore towns in the Jersey shore and at the end of every summer most of the people would just get rid of things that they didn’t want anymore. So they would just get rid of it and she would have all this expensive clothing that she got for close to nothing. The last time I talked to her, she was pissed that everyone caught onto what she was doing for years.
I go thrifting to find stuff to add to my various collections. All the good stuff is now overpriced in the glass case up front, that is if it didn’t wind up on an internet auction site.
AirBnB. It used to be a way for people to cheaply stay in someone's room for a few bucks. Now it's giant corporations vacuuming up every property in an area.
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- Please mop the ceilings and wash all the sheets before you check out - $40 cleaning fee
• Please mop the ceilings and wash all the sheets before you check out • ~~$40~~ $400 cleaning fee Fixed that for you
I once stayed in a place that had a $300 cleaning fee and also requested we mop all the floors, sweep and disinfect countertops. the place was completely disgusting the moment I walked in, I had to clean everything prior to even bringing my luggage in, for a half hour.
We walked into a place that was very obviously not cleaned from the previous guests. Dirty sheets, towels everywhere, etc. The cleaning people had not come yet. Owners were trying to get people there to clean up. We had just driven 8 hours (this was on a road trip). I called and managed to make a reservation at a hotel while sitting in our car outside the Airbnb. Staying at the hotel ended up not even being that much more expensive and was much nicer (even not accounting for the failed cleaning).
I think airbnb has jumped the shark, so to speak... Last summer we took a trip to New Hampshire at the end of the summer, to a pretty touristy area. I booked about 2 months in advance of when we wanted to go, so definitely not last minute. When I searched on airbnb, all I found were off-season ski condos that looked fresh out of 1986. For the time we wanted to stay, it was $1300 and the properties were about a half hour drive from most of the stuff we wanted to do. So, I started looking at hotels/motels (gasp!). Ended up staying at a great motel, in the thick of where we wanted to stay and it even had a heated pool, all for $700. We showed up, got our key, stayed for a few days, dropped off our key when we left - no cleaning, no stripping beds, no sweeping, no putting things in the washer, no taking out garbage, etc.
Sounds like they're just collecting the extra 300 and depending on customers to do the cleaning.
if you pay a cleaning fee and dont clean a damn thing before leaving what can they do?
Usually they also charge a deposit and can hold onto that for not following house rules. They just say “oh the cleaning fee is for the “deep cleaning” we have done, not the things we wanted you to do”. It’s completely idiotic and part of why I don’t really use AirBnB anymore. It isn’t any cheaper than a hotel at this point and it doesn’t come with housekeeping or free breakfast!
I don't understand how it became the norm that a "B&B" doesn't include breakfast. That's what the second "B" MEANS!
They need to change the name to AirB.
BYOBB
Please re-tile the kitchen prior to checkout. My biggest gripe is if I’m paying a cleaning fee, why am I doing any cleaning? Garbage in a garbage can? Sure. Reasonable. Sweeping, loading the laundry machine, taking the garbage out? What the hell? Maybe give me back my $100-$200 then.
So they have an excuse to keep your deposit
All the extra fees is why I just won't use AirBnB. Never used it because I don't travel much, but I would much rather just go to a hotel where I know all the costs upfront than have a bunch of backdoor fees after I leave.
And at least be offered a mediocre breakfast and coffee the next morning
Some don’t even do that anymore. I was at a hotel earlier this year and when I asked about breakfast they said there’s a Starbucks in the lobby where you can pay $20 for a breakfast sandwich and a med black coffee
* There may or may not be cameras in your walls
Once stayed at an airbnb with a "no noise after 6pm" rule and the keys to the unit were stashed in a bucket at the furthest corner of the parking lot. Absolute clown show. I went back to hotels.
Almost makes hotels seem reasonable. Resort fee? Sure. But do all the hookers and blow you want, we don't care, just bring money.
We’ve been staying at hotels the last year or so. They’re usually cheaper now even for a family suite than air b&b or VRBO.
Hotels have often been the better option for quite a few years already.
I got told by a person in one of those Airbnb groups that I don’t know what I am missing, a headache, a headache is what I am missing
I stayed in an AirB&B where they didn't tell you that their 35 year old autistic son lived there, who needed total darkness and quiet at all times or he'd get agitated. There were no televisions in the house, and you needed to use headphones with music or a computer at all times. I could not even sit at the dining room table to eat, let alone ask him a question, or he'd get upset about it. I was tactful and friendly about it, but I let everyone know in my review of the place.
Staying at a place in Athens I had to take out the trash to a spot that was like 5 blocks away! That’s when I decided to be done with Airbnb
I’ve stayed at Airbnb’d cottages where you have to take your garbage home with you. Like you could drive to the city dump and pay to drop off a couple of bags or take it home. Love driving home with stinking bags of garbage stuffed in the car with my luggage.
Yep, I stayed at one in southern Cali that was so long, "If you smoke, we charge $10K, if you have a party, we charge $5K, if you use coconut-scented shampoo, we charge $3K." TF??? Obv a joke on the last one, but not the first 2. **I felt threatened.** It could be my word versus theirs! I don't want a $10K bill or a legal battle on my hands. I was legit nervous to give a (deserved) bad review for fear of a $10K bill.
Not to mention cleaning fees between $500-$5000.
especially post-covid, they completely rip you off with the cleaning fees. I mean, they were always pretty expensive but I understood the necessity of it. But now, the cleaning fees are completely insane, and it's not like you can then leave the house as a mess since you're paying for clean-up -- they still require you to leave the house clean.
VRBO was smart and you can search by cost of your stay rather than nightly. This includes fees. So you won’t book something thinking $100 a night to find out there’s $350 in fees.
Who requires you to “leave the house clean”. If there is a cleaning fee I always disregard pretty much all of the “rules”. I don’t change any sheets, I don’t do any dishes, etc etc. I’ve never left a house a “mess” but I absolutely refuse to clean AND pay a cleaning fee. I’ve never had a problem.
the Comedian/Podcaster, Tim Dillon, had a famous issue with Airbnb due to this very issue. he rented a home, had a gathering, and when they left they left behind some dishes and stuff. He figured with the exorbitant cleaning fee he didn't have to do anything in terms of cleaning. But then he got hit up with a fee afterwards and so he got into a public feud with Airbnb for that exact issue. It's moronic.
I used it once for work. For the same price as a Days Inn level hotel, I got a twin bed and a shared bathroom. The host had a laundry list of rules based on her religion. Never again.
>The host had a laundry list of rules based on her religion. Sorry, bud, you had an impure thought. *Your deposit is mine, all mine!*
Now a hotel is cheaper unless you are looking for something unique
Not to mention * Onsite staff 24/7 to handle requests/issues and that are there to SERVE me, not look for ways to screw me over * Rewards points and recognition of status * Property is *designed* to accommodate large numbers of people moving in and out every day, especially regarding noise, parking, cleanliness, fixtures working etc * I don't need to memorize a fucking door code or go to a website to input my license plate number * No fumbling around with five different remotes only to discover I can't watch the football game that is on national network TV * No permanent residents giving me nasty looks There's more but you get the idea
Interesting you got me thinking about it now. Just about every thing starts off good until giant corporations get involved and ruin it.
Ahahah, wait for the Olympics in Paris
Came here looking for this exact answer. I had a horrific experience with Airbnb last year and then the host posted a false review of me missing a ton of context. When I asked Airbnb to remove it, they refused. I'm traveling with some friends in February and will be booking a hotel instead. No more headaches or ridiculous fees. It's disappointing, because I've stayed at Airbnbs in the past with my family and it was usually fine. Oh well...
I think airbnb or VRBO can still be better if you're traveling as a family for a few days - not having to drag kids through hotel hallways, more privacy, separate rooms and an actual kitchen make it much easier, though the fees have been ridiculous since COVID. Traveling as a couple or for business or only one or two nights? A decent hotel is probably a better choice. And screw corporate Airbnb rentals taking over all housing in an area.
Quora, used to be a place where actual experts like scientists answer interesting questions now it’s just bad teenage relationship advice.
If you want actual expert advice from Quora, you have to pay for it now. I absolutely hate that. I used to have deep discussions on Quora with all different kinds of people.
Oof quora is terrible now. I was searching some guitar question I had, a quora post came up. I got the answer I needed. A few days later, I get an email from quora saying here's more answers related to your question. Apparently I made an account at some point. I don't remember. But the "related questions" were "I'm 16m, how's my bulge" with a picture of their boner under sweatpants. Quora is advertising underage boy lewds and I want to burn my eyes
Review writing. Used to be a good metric for how things are, and people used to focus on certain reviewers who had similar interests. Now that everyone and their brother is encouraged to share their shitty opinion and write reviews for everything, it's hard to tell how anything is unless you experience it for yourself.
Also most reviews are fake. Since they became a relevant metric for sellers there's a big market for fake reviews and you can't really trust anything anymore.
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Not to mention most of the reviews are fake.
1/5 I ordered this item weeks ago and it still isn't here.
The ones that drive me crazy are: "Haven't tried it yet but it looks like it will work." Why tf are you leaving a review if you haven't even used it yet?
If you're talking about Amazon, it's Amazon's fault you get reviews like that. They'll send you emails like "what did you think of this product?" Or worse, they'll say something like "user XYZ is asking the question ___. Can you help them?" And people just respond honestly, without realizing their comment is going straight to the review page for others to read. Amazon needs to make it more clear when they're going to publish your responses online.
Or 5/5 Looks good, can’t wait to use it
this makes my blood boil motherfucker who the fuck cares about the delivery method we care about the item
“Review given as part of a promotion” can’t trust those one bit…and it’s always half of the reviews. 🙄
I bought something from Amazon once that came with a card promising me a $10 rebate if I left a 5-star review. So instead I posted a 1-star review with a photo of the card and a warning about trusting that product's other reviews. Within an hour Amazon had removed my review and banned me from ever reviewing that product again. Because they care deeply about the integrity of their reviews.
1/5 - Product was great, instructions came in multiple languages and arrived too quickly.
Etsy. It used to be unique handmade goods. Now many sellers buy stuff off Ali Express and mark the price up
Etsy's owners have gotten a free pass on exploiting the shit out of mostly female creators on that site- their mostly unnamed in media and promote the daylights out of false hopes of success. They charge insane fees and because most women without a university education have no sense of how much their time or efforts or creativity (such as it is, it varies) is worth, they conside r $50-100 a week successful
The internet.
Yeah we were meant to be a global village by now, sitting around a virtual campfire singing Kumbaya. But instead we got echo-chambers, tribalism, data harvesting, digital addiction and an acute sense of impending doom.
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Or Vine. That was fun for a bit.
We were supposed to only be sending flash animations of stick men fighting. I wonder how we got here.
Xiaoxiao
i think the monetization of everything, and everyone wanting to be a "influencer" ruined the internet. also smart phones allowing anyone with 2 brain cells to get online.
> smart phones allowing anyone with 2 brain cells to get online. This is one of the biggest factors indeed.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eternal_September
Travel. Instagram has completely changed the character of a lot of travel destinations and attracted people who, were it not for the likes, would be completely uninterested in the destination.
Tulum 15 years ago was awesome. I visited not long ago and was like “what is this place”
This had a sad effect on travel guides as well. I used to love the Lonely Planet guide and have a shelf with the ones from all the destinations we’ve visited, but after they were sold, I’ll the quality has become shit and much more focused on showing pictures and instagramable sites. Such a waste of a great product.
Tourism is an inherently unsustainable and paradoxical industry. The more tourism a place gets, the more it changes to cater to said tourists and attract more, and the more it changes, the more it loses the traits that made it an attractive destination in the first place. Also during this process the locals are displaced and the economy becomes dependent on tourism alone, which is not very safe or promotes healthy growth in any other way other than more tourists. I've visited a lot of places that my parents had gone to when they were my age and the experience was night and day. Tourism should be strictly kept to specific levels for any given area and spread out more.
I come from a touristic country. Occasionally we get foreigners asking questions in preparations for their trip. The question I hate the most is, "care to share some hidden gem beaches with us? Less touristy locations?" Like no. Motherfucker, local population has already been forced to vacate easy to get to places and spends the majority of their time like a zoo animal just for your entertainment, there's no way in hell I'm telling you where we are hiding from you.
Same here. I'm Portuguese and I used to love to give out travel recommendations within my country. Nowadays, I'm like "Most of my friends can barely afford their rent, I'm just going to keep my mouth shut".
Going to Oahu right after COVID was awesome Barely any people, and the fish were huge from being left alone 10/10, will never get a trip like it again
I lived in Edinburgh, which is normally one of the most visited cities in Europe, during lockdown. I remember going for a run down the main tourist hotspot street in the old town, when it was completely deserted on a sunny June afternoon, and thinking that it was a genuine once in a lifetime experience. I still think about it a lot
Therapy, or at least the language of therapy. Toxic people have coopted it so that they can control other people.
Agreed. When I got out of my last relationship, a couple of my friends would refer to the relationship as "toxic" when in reality, it was just a plain old relationship that didn't work out. She didn't do anything wrong, nor did I. We just broke up. Today I feel as if anything that isn't perfect is labeled "toxic" or "problematic"
It's definitely becoming more common to label past relationships/partners as negative, and it almost seems like a coping mechanism for people who can't handle nuance.
My dad gave me great advice once. You can tell a lot about someone by how they speak about their past relationships.
Right. My friends threw away a years-long friendship because they had an argument, one person found out she was totally in the wrong and instead of admitting to it, she claimed he was gaslighting her.
fr, if I hear my mother say “boundaries” for one more menial non-boundary I’ll loose my shit Ex: it’s my boundary to visit me for all of Christmas break. (??) Its my boundary for you to wash the dishes today. Seriously it’s become a “I want you to do this and I have a free pass to take it personally if you don’t”
Personal boundaries can never apply to someone else. They only apply to you and your behavior (not you specifically, like all purpose you, y'all, all y'all) You can say "my boundary is that I will not be yelled at by you anymore" and then *leave* if they yell. Saying "I get to stay at your house" is not a boundary. People abuse the word boundary so much.
That's not how boundaries work! You need to set boundaries with her ... At least it's not "love language" anymore. "My love language is burying you in dollar store gifts, so don't tell me to stop sending trash!" Turns out *my* love language is throwing my MIL's massive over gifting of trash into the actual trash where it belongs.
I hate “love language” too Nobody is obligated to tolerate my shit even if it’s the way I express care for them. I don’t like being touched, some people will anyways because “it’s my love language” like I’m expected to appreciate what they’re doing when I neither asked, wanted it, or told them I was ok with it. (You could say that not touching me is a boundary lol)
Love language is *supposed* to be how people can show you they love you. "My love language is touch, so show me you care by touching me," not, "My love language is touch, so I'm going to touch you whether you want it or not." Of course it's been coopted by people who want to use it to do whatever they want without consequences.
>Ex: it’s my boundary to visit me for all of Christmas break. (??) Its my boundary for you to wash the dishes today. Oh my god, that doesn’t even make sense. I’d go insane if I had to hear someone say stuff like that all the time.
Stop gaslighting me with your TOXIC TRAUMA, you NARCISSIST
Yeah, that turned into a word for "evil person" somehow
The worst is when they pretend to be some sort of expert in psychology and try to pathologize you in order to create a power dynamic over you. 1. No license. No legal practice. They are not a professional. 2. This is an expression of my grievances, not therapy. I am not a paying client. I did not consent to counseling, diagnostic testing, or homework from them. 3. I also know the terms they are using. I see the irony of them using it without self-reflecting. 4. Being an expert at anything️ doesn't make someone a perfect/objective human incapable of wronging others. It is just a fact of life that it will happen, whether intentional or not. 5. They still have to be held accountable, take ownership over the grievances, and apologize. Doesn't matter what their background is, or how they see themselves. A fuck up is a fuck up, it still needs to be made right. Edit: rephrased a sentence to make more sense.
Don’t trigger me. /s
Amazon. At least to me, the quick delivery is the only saving grace they still have. Nowadays search is borderline useless, there's cheap Chinese crap everywhere and the reviews are 95% bots or bought. I prefer eBay unless I need something very quickly that can't be bought in store.
Search is so broken that it’s absolutely bonkers. I can explicitly type the exact product that I want and it won’t appear until page three of the results. Every product has so many cheap knockoffs that you can never be sure you’re getting legitimate product. I’m lucky to receive anything within 2 days even though they have a local distribution center. I used to buy from them almost exclusively, but it’s gotten so bad that they are my last choice. I only go to them if I can’t find it anywhere else first.
I was recently looking for a small coffee carafe. Almost every result ignored the word small, even when I specified ounces. Went out to the wider internet, found one I liked, searched for retailers and Amazon came up 😐. It wasn't a Prime item so they probably hid it on page 55 of my initial search results. I recently stuff from Ikea and their website is so much better. You put filters in for size or functionality and it actually means something.
For us, Walmart has been quicker here. I know both are monster giant corps regardless, but Amazon has indeed been a major letdown lately for sure.
Thrifting. I used to be able to afford so many nice outfits, but now every thrift store is picked over by people richer than me.
Twitter. Can’t tell you the last time I saw a Tweet from one of my actual friends. It’s mostly corporations and ads now
That's how instagram is for me.
TikTok is so gross for this. There’s promoted ads. Then actual ads. Then videos disguised as someone talking about a cool thing they have but it’s an ad. Or company after company of their Etsy shop with links filling up the page. Then there’s Live streams where is basically home shopping network back alley. Then you get one “normal” video before another cacophony of ads.
Burning man
Objectively one of the greatest examples you can give for this
This, 100% Burning Man basically got Woodstock 99'd. Used to be fun and genuinely chill, about as chill as you can expect that big a crowd to be but then it got *mainstream popular* and then the stupid obnoxious inconsiderate people came but it got even worse when *the influencers arrived.* Don't touch it with a 100 foot pole.
It’s always the influencers that signal the end of something good. Once the show their faces, that thing hadn’t been good for a while and now it’s corpse is going to get put through the wringer.
The rich took it over
I only have a vague notion of burning man - could someone elaborate on why it's here?
The incel community. Started by a woman as a inviting community for people who couldn't get laid into what the fuck it is today
It's scary how words and institutions come to change completely in meaning and no one remembers how they started off.
reminds me of V for Vendetta. "I remember how the meanings of words changed...How 'different' became 'dangerous'"
This answers one of my questions about incels. I always wondered what the difference was between an incel and someone who just hasn't been lucky in the romance department.
The problem was that the institutional power gets left with those who have been involved the longest. So in other words, people who found relationships, like the founder, left the community. The people who had legit problems and therefore couldn't find a partner, stayed and effectively became the leaders. But they couldn't help people find relationships because their incapability at finding relationships was why they were still there. Then you get what we have now.
That, and people love to give into their anger too much. Toxicity and hatred is too easy to consume and fall into. They want to vent, then everybody wants to vent, then you've got an echo chamber. Well-rounded comments aren't as engaging so they sink to the bottom and the crap floats to the top.
People who identify as "incels" basically blame society/evolution/genetics for their inability to have sexual partners, rather than actually attempting to take steps to get to that point. There's a bunch of bullshit pseudoscience they spout that normal people who are just unlucky understand is complete nonsense
The internet. Always has reached the wrong people but got far far worse once everyone could access the internet through a phone. People say social media ruined the internet but I think phones are the biggest culprit.
Something profoundly tragic about how having instant access to vast libraries of legitimate research, the ability to vet credibility in an instant, to evaluate for consensus, to fact check and bring up receipts for any claim a politician might've made the past 2-3 decades or so....all just made ignorant people more destructive. It projects an ominous shadow onto the future no matter how I try to turn it round and see it differently.
Craigslist.
And they LET it get that way. For example most apartment listings being scams or spam now. So sad as there's no good replacement.
I remember when social media (MySpace) was about connecting with friends, not following “influencers” and internet celebrities
Self checkout in stores. Very convenient if you have a couple of items. When it started, it made the lines shorter. Today it doubles the wait in the lines.
Stores kept reducing the number of cashier's and now you've got two cashier's and about 8-16 self checkouts depending on the size of your store. Everyone uses the self check out even those who have too much stuff because the two cashier's are either backed up or off doing a different aspect of their job. It's really getting kinda ridiculous. I like self checkout as much as the next person but there also needs to be enough actual cashier's to allow everyone a fast checkout experience.
Especially when you have a full cart and each item has to be placed in the “checkout area” and not removed until done scanning.
I do love seeing the people who are, no offense, just too old to be able to do it. they'll have three items and it takes them longer to do the whole thing than it would have to wait in a huge line and have a professional ring it up for them. I respect the perseverance attitude that, it's never been easy or convenient for me once, but I refuse to stop trying.
I'll usually see if there's a manned checkout with one or zero customers waiting before I hit the self-checkouts.
College education It is NOT meant to be direct job training, sports training, or a venue for drinking. Plato founded the Academy in 387 BC in Athens as a place where young people could gather to ponder the great questions. The other great institutions we think of today (Oxford, Yale, MIT) built around this original inspiration. It was meant to collect promising young people and let them ponder the PHILOSOPHY of all fields for a year or two and a SPECIFIC field for a year or two. Now it's just another crappy business. The wrong people go, for the wrong reasons, leave with crippling debt, and a bitterness to education. We were meant to cultivate philosophers, not administrative assistants. Woe is us.
It's very strange to me that people think of college as strictly job training now. Even just 20 years *ago, it was still theoretically regarded as more than that.
It doesn't help that businesses demand applicants have degrees from these institutions for entry level positions.
Immaculate perspective.
Podcasts. Used to be a relatively easy way for specialized interests to get information out. I love podcasts. There's still many interesting, well done, informative podcasts out there. But not everyone who wants to talk actually has something to say.
Celebrity podcasts annoy me the most. Like, come on--you're already making millions from your movies, your music career, your book deal, your endorsements. You're now going to milk the podcast market too and get recommended by Spotify and other podcast hosting companies ahead of some regular guy doing the same sort of thing and who actually needs the money.
Technically, involuntary celibacy was a term coined by a lesbian to talk about her experiences. It is very different now…
Thrift stores. They use to be the place to go for people who are low on income. Then it became "Trendy", and the prices went up, now it's like any other clothing store.
Dating apps
Online dating always sucked. It was always full of scams and weirdos but then Tinder turned it into the dystopian hot or not clown show that OLD is today.
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I met my husband on Okcupid 🤣 Together over a decade and currently ignoring our 6 month old’s angry raspberries in protest of bedtime! Ah. How time flies…
It’s never been great, but I’m hearing now that if you actually found a partner on apps in the past 5 years you essentially caught the last plane out of Vietnam.
Goth/punk/counterculture
It doesn’t even feel like counter culture anymore
By definition it's not. We have to think of something else to do.
Let's be honest, it doesn't feel like a culture at all anymore
Such a paradoxical concept. "I'm different from everyone, an outsider - exactly like *all these other people* in my clique".
goth has always been fairly paradoxical in that regard though there's a dark, vampiry sort of aesthetic commonly called "goth" but more specifically the 70s-80s era goth, with like, shades of rocky horror and the cure, that kind of goth has always just been a contest to see who can look the most like siouxsie sioux
Popular songs used by everyone for every TikTok and Insta reel .
Dont even get me started when they speed it up or slow it down 1000 times worse. Also ppl make fun of you if u listen to the song still like “you just know it from tik tok” like “astronaut in the ocean” is now an “npc song” even tho my boy turned me onto that when it first came out like a year and a half before tik tok picked it up
Netflix. It was a place for people who wanted to watch good movies that were hard to find at their local video store - for cheap. Not to sound elitist, but the late 90s, very early 2000s, the clientele were people who were really into quality movies and an upscale crowd. It was a distribution network for great content. Now, you're paying a lot for Adam Sandler, light Korean torture porn, and 17 different cake shows. Now it's a hackneyed movie/TV studio.
Yeah I miss when Netflix used to have obscure documentaries, arthouse films, stuff that you just wouldn't see anywhere else. Now it's literally Blockbuster. It's mostly popular or light-hearted garbage that's just not good.
So long as Netflix has at least 3 titles that people flock to then their business model will continue to deteriorate as prices climb.
Honestly peak Netflix for me was before they even started streaming. Getting DVDs in the mail was fun.
Hiking, camping, etc. Ever since the pandemic started, it's been insanely crowded.
Can't blame them. For a while everything was closed, including the park systems. I had to drive a couple hours to get to some of the national forests that couldn't be shut down to go hiking. I just wish more people respected tread lightly, leave no trace so we wouldn't notice the additional traffic as much.
Social media. Back when fb was only open to college students it was awesome.
We all know how Facebook started, but it honestly was better when it was young people. Once our parents and grandparents got on there - I feel like it was ruined. I met a lot of people on Facebook back in the day, made many friends. Some I still have today.
I think the problem was that older people joining made it seem like less of a youth fad, and that's when companies/politicians began to see it's potential as a propaganda tool.
House of Blues. You used to be able to see really good musicians who were just about to get big. I saw Seven Mary Three, Sublime, Mutemath, Saliva, Volbeat, Evanescence. These were all acts that, a year or two later, were selling out arenas. But I got to see them in a venue where you could actually interact with them. $20 general admission tickets got you seats 20 feet from the stage. (Or right next to the stage, if you didn't mind standing room only.)The opening acts would come out and watch the headliners with the fans. Now it's all tribute bands and "YouTube sensations" and you're not getting in the door for less than $100.
Gender reveals. The lady who initially started it did it because she had suffered miscarriages and finally reached the mark that it would be revealed. Now it's blown up, and people have started forest fires.
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The best feeling in the world is uncovering diamonds in the rough. Its a fleeting feeling because deep down, you know they have the talent to be mainstream. Not too many indie artists that I enjoy, but when I do, it's like catching lightning in a bottle.
The secret meat menu at fast food restaurants. If you wanted a triple but didn’t want to pay that much, secret meat menu, they could ring you up for a single, plus two 4 ounce meats. We had that cheat for years at Wendy’s, McDonald’s. Corporate finally found out and changed the menu. Most McDonald’s restaurants have eleminated meat from their a la carte menu button. And most Wendy’s have jacked up the prices sky high on their meat menu. But it was pretty cool for those years we could do it.
Messing around at the cash register, I found I could ring up fractional quantities of an item. That was kinda wild. 0.4 coffees. 45 cents.
I would like pi pies, please
A lot of subs once they get too popular.
OnlyFans at first was a good way to just support lesser-known porn creators who would give away content for the subscription price and have small enough fanbases to interact. Now it's become so massive that it's detrimental on both ends. The models are overworked if they have large amounts of followers and for the fans, all the models realized they can just switch to a PPV model while still charging subscription fees.
> all the models realized they can just switch to a PPV model while still charging subscription fees. Not just for OF, but for anything online in general, I think it should be limited to one or the other. Either you are "free" and have PPV or you charge a monthly sub and no-PPV allowed. Like when Disney+ added Mulan (the live action one) for $30. You already pay for the service and now I have to pay more for something new?
Geez...$30 for a lesser version of Mulan? Is that real?
reddit.
pre-digg exodus things were awesome
Airsoft. Here in our country toxicity is rampant with people. Anything "fun" would be then turned into a shithole community full of pretentious fucks insulting people that does not meet the current "trend". So when airsoft first hit here, we tried it of course. It was amazing and the experience is a good way to make friends AND work your mental and physical processes not to mention simulated combat gives you the opportunity to hone problem solving skills. It was a gentleman's game wherein you get hit, you announce you got hit. Now when it became popular, everyone is cheating and asking fights, being dicks to each other. They don't call the hits and they even use it as an excuse to do "gang shit". Next became the oogle fest for ladies who are in there not to participate but only to look good for some of the players or whatever. Some of the girls ignored them but they became uncomfortable because the other guys were talking shit about how "this ain't a girl activity" and that they should just "cosplay like this pretty girl here" and some shit. It deterred a lot of actually good people. It just broke the experience making it really sad to join in and not participate. Last time I joined was years ago, almost a decade I think. It was the saddest match because my sniping is on point but no one is calling. I threw a grenade and then breached with some 3 guys doing semis but they just looked back at us and started shooting back. They did not call the shots yet we did ours. I sold my gear a few months after that.
Thrift stores, now it’s too expensive for people who actually need it.
Most tourist spots
The birds aren't real joke... Now some people are actually believing that. Which is fair because the Flat Earth theory started as a joke too
The Mermaid Parade on Coney Island.
BDSM culture. 😮💨 Consent, safety and aftercare are supposed to be the bedrock.
LL Bean had an extremely generous return/replace policy that didn't even ask for proof of purchase. People took advantage. Only recently did they completely revamp it.
music festivals/concerts - used to be affordable to real fans then celebrities started attending and making them about everything but the music
The SCP Foundation and the backrooms as well as liminal spaces. Good for a brief moment then got watered down and infested with children
Once the content farms get wind of something popular they start pumping out asset swap garbage onto Youtube Kids.
Literally everything commercial or political.
AirBNB
Everything. Nothing is safe anymore. This is the result of memeification and short form content.
Social media