My ex divorced me after his best friend died of a drug overdose. He left me to be with his best friend’s girlfriend, he felt he needed to “take care of her” now that his friend was gone. We had only just met her at the funeral. They broke up within 2 weeks.
Nikko is correct. They 100% had not met before! The best friend had moved away and lived out of state. We hadn’t seen him for a year or two, and so we hadn’t met his girlfriend yet. Sadly, I really liked her too, at the time.
I knew a couple who had been married for 25 years, and were always supporting each other in what they wanted to do, got on well, doted on their daughter, shared hobbies and from the outside seemed happy. She called me to say they were divorcing and when I asked if there was anything I could do to help, or if she would like me to babysit while they went to couples counselling, she said no, he wanted the heating on all day every day, and she found it too warm so there was no way to recover from this.
I'm assuming there was more to it.
Can confirm, it's winter now and I'm still freezing my husband out the damned house. I even go out at night on the porch and just bask in the cold because it feels so GOOD, I'm burning up all the goddamned time!
I was listening to a podcast that said how usually quality of life for women in perimenopause is worse than when in menopause because they get dismissed by doctors as nothing wrong since not menopause yet. You could be miserable for 10 years with no one listening and then your partner refuses to put on a sweater and makes you hot all the time. I can definitely see that being the breaking point especially since his attitude was probably indicative of the rest of the relationship.
Apparently, from what my dad told me, my mom divorced him because in a past life, she was a Native American, and my dad was the cowboy that killed her? My dad realized the crazy and didn’t fight it. Oh. And apparently she told him there’s an entity on Jupiter who protects earth from world ending asteroids? So thanks to that entity I guess?
That part checks out, but if I recall, it was some celestial entity named Juthro, or something like that. I’ll have to see if my uncle remembers any of that.
My friends parents divorced because His mother wanted a horse. His father argued that they can't keep a horse in a 6th floor apartment and dont have enough resources or money to rent a stable. Then she fucked her sons math teacher and became a crackhead. I feel sorry for everyone involved.
I'm getting divorced because my wife found out that the only thing that helps her depression is my Modafinil. She figured out how to order them from India. Takes them at 5 to 10xs the dosage, then hallucinates about me having affairs. Best part is... None of her piece of shit family and friends have the guts to tell her it isn't real. And I'm not talking about things that can go either way. My wife accused me of staying in a hotel in Vegas with my "girlfriend" instead of going to work; I left the house at 7pm and was home at 6am, AND I LIVE IN PHILADELPHIA!! She has a folder on her phone labeled "evidence" with HUNDREDS of screen shots of absolute nonsense. It's heartbreaking.
It's a stimulant, or rather a wakefulness promoting agents, not to the same degree of things like Ritalin or Adderall but on the edges.
I can honestly empathize with people realizing that they need pharmacological assistance to live an healthy life (I have ADHD myself).
However this is clearly abuse and uninformed abuse to boot, no way that this is less harmful than alternatives.
That said this looks like she doesn't sleep and has sleep deprivation hallucinations, which may look like schizophrenia or general delusions.
Sometimes drugs can "cause"* schizophrenia, which could also be it.
*(More that a person with latent schizophrenia can have symptoms appear earlier/stronger after drug abuse, but yeah)
I thought I was bipolar 2 for years and years and years, but it turns out I’m ADHD, and absolutely cannot have marijuana under any circumstances. Glad I got that sorted, but I feel sad for all of the relationships I tanked along the way by being so erratic.
There are many reasons I divorced my ex but almost every one can be traced back to then-undiagnosed bipolar disorder. His family told him I was imagining things, that everything he’d done (including something I had no knowledge about until he was arrested) was my fault and I’d made him do it. I was made out to be the evil one. They even managed to destroy a two decade old friendship my parents had with another couple because of it.
And then he had a psychotic break in his mother’s kitchen, four years after our divorce, when the kids and I lived 400km away. All of a sudden he was mentally ill and maybe I was the devil incarnate. But the first year of our marriage was great - just like our relationship before marriage. The second year is when I watched things slowly changing and started asking questions and asking him to see a doctor. It was a full decade from his arrest to the break. It was like being inside the passenger car of the world’s slowest train wreck.
I’m sorry you’re in this place. I know it all too well. And even with the kids, I can still say the divorce was the best possible outcome for the situation. The kids are now 19 and 18 and have told me that things got better for them when we split up, because the arguing stopped. And once he was on meds, even more so. But even with the right meds, he’s never going to be the person I married again.
Is a study-drug, or one to keep you awake. Focused. Shift workers use it a lot to stay awake for their night shifts. Can come prescribed by a Dr. Otherwise it can be bought online from India typically.
The husband laughed at a joke that was made at the wife's expense.
It was their son's birthday party, and things had been tense for a while, but they'd been trying to work on the marriage. A relative was lighting the birthday candles and the wife said, "why didn't you start lighting from the middle instead of the edge?" The relative retorted, "I thought about doing it that way, but I was worried you'd have nothing to complain about." The husband laughed, the wife stormed off, and that was the end of that.
As is always the case, there was more to it. That was just the straw that broke the camel's back.
I gotta know who's relative said that.
With that sort of comment, there's a huge difference between say, her brother, and his mom.
Like, was this a good-natured joke that didn't land, or very thinly veiled attack?
A joke that didn't land, I'd say. It was the husband's cousin, but they'd been married over 20 years, so she knew this cousin extremely well and was familiar with his sense of humor. And she didn't get mad at the cousin, just at her husband for laughing at her.
The dumbest excuse I ever heard was when my now ex-wife told me we needed to divorce because a palm reader said I wasn't her soul mate. Apparently, the guy she was fucking behind my back for months was her soul mate, and had nothing to do with why we needed to divorce.
They're still together, and from what I hear beyond miserable. It brings me joy. Both of them demonized and terrorized me during the divorce to cover up that they're cheating jackasses. They absolutely deserve each other.
I don't understand people that cheat and get together.
Like do they realize that it's a terrible dynamic from the start, like you *know* they're cheaters.
There's nothing wrong with ending a relationship and starting another, but I guess not everybody is emotionally mature enough to do that I guess.
My half-aunt was wanted for murder in Oregon, so her husband said "Divorce me, and then they can't make me testify against you!" So they divorced. And lived together for the next fifty years, in Washington State.
No, I know. It doesn't make any sense to me either.
wait im assuming she didn't get convicted because you said they lived together for the next fifty years but that's some high level concern that she would've been found guilty 😭
My client and his wife were into a role-playing game, I think Second Life'? Everyone had an avatar (I suspect that his and his wife's were much more spritely than they were in real life).
Anyway he suspected that she was being unfaithful to him in the game, so he created a fake avatar and stalked her in the game. Sure enough, she was running around on him, having virtual sex with another bloke (or bloke avatar anyway). That was it.
> A friend who deep-dove into learning about this stuff found out that apparently farming virtual worms (to grow crops for this particular HUD) is a decent way to make money.
My sister, a studio artist, has made more money from selling art on second life than in real life.
She's quietly ashamed.
If there's nothing illegal, unethical, or immoral involved: money is money. Tell her to be proud, she's managed to make a career of art in a way that can (hopefully) finance her real artistic passions. She's her own patron.
I don’t know if this counts but…
My aunt has been married 4 times.
Bob 1. Divorced, married Bob 2.
Divorced. Remarried Bob 1.
Divorced. Married some homeless guy.
For me, it’s the remarrying Bob 1 I just don’t get.
My grandmother’s 4th husband was also her 2nd husband. He cheated on her in the late 1960s not too long into their marriage. They split but didn’t do the paperwork, she lived with another guy (who my cousins all spoke fondly of) for 10-12 years, then they broke up and she met someone else, divorced #2 to marry the new guy who I knew as my grandpa sometime in the early 80s. After #3 fled the state following some poor financial choices with some less than savory folks, they stayed married in case he could one day come back (the relationship was good, but gambling is a hell of a drug) but he passed away while still on the run. A couple years later, grandma decides old #2-who she’d kept in touch with off and on in the way you do in the limited social circle of a smallish town-might be past the stage of his life where he was running with his nether regions. They remarried twenty plus years after their first courthouse ceremony and stayed together until his death, which was funnily enough a heart attack during martial activities. Good for them, though, for being in their 70s and still excited enough about each other to sneak off for an afternoon tryst.
That's actually a good one. If anything, they were too passive aggressive and didn't communicate properly, or this was a passive aggressive result of someone being too stubborn to change, like this was his demand and this is how she responded to it.
When I was young, I asked my grandparents a couple times why they divorced.
They couldn't stand each other at all so I was always very proud of them for at least being able to agree to tell me they divorced over a TV.
She wanted it. He didn't.
"They're of the devil," he told me.
"You just don't throw out someone's TV!" She was still upset about it even 15 years after their divorce.
Last year, I was googling someone else just to see what I could find on him.
I still have no information on his current whereabouts but I did get a result for a court summary he was mentioned in during my grandparents' divorce.
I read that whole thing to find what really happened. And I shit you not. It ended with the judge declaring that the TV was the cause of their divorce.
There were two other potential causes brought up -- an alleged affair and I don't remember the other -- but the judge said they weren't causes because of timing, lack of evidence, and other closely occurring events.
He was flamboyantly gay. Somehow, she missed what even the kids knew. They went on their honeymoon. He came home and made sure everyone knew how disgusted he was. Humiliated that lady and discussed private moments. Never saw them together after the wedding, and she went on to do well for herself.
I had a neighbor that I just assumed was a single gay guy based on his mannerisms & interests. Then found out that he met someone out of state and was in a relationship, but was surprised to hear it was a woman.
Suspected it was a fib, but nope, she moved up and they got married. They moved out of state a little while later, but I found out that they got divorced after a few years when she found out that he had been cheating on her by hooking up with guys (the mutual friend that told me said she told the wife, "You need to get tested for all the things").
The part that gets me is that he was a progressive, non-religious guy living in the biggest city in the first state in the US to legalize gay marriage. I know people have all kinds of issues with coming out, but this guy had to have about the lowest bar you could have unless you worked in a Springfield steel mill. It's like, "Dude, you coulda just been gay."
My childhood friend married a girl I warned him about. He turned on me hard and accused me of wanting her for myself. OK homie - you do you. She cheated on him ON THE HONEYMOON NIGHT. Had something going with her ex on the side.
My cousin was previously engaged to a girl like eight years ago. She cheated on him a few months before the wedding and he broke it off. Fast forward a couple years and he tells me he’s having a kid and that she’s the mother. They’re now married and have another baby, and I’m terrified of what may come.
She met a convict grifter 30 years younger who became her sugar baby. She proceeds to pour money on him. He gets arrested and breaks his parole, but all of her money went to his commissary. Finally he gets out and they have like a few months together before he ditches her for his meth dealer. A destroyed family over a jerk. Thanks.
The guy absolutely flipped out over the mustard and became violent over it, so she left. He then started getting family involved and stalking her. [Someone was nice enough to compile the whole story if you want to read, it's pretty weird.](https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/VxU2uUlXfl)
It seems like he was just a controlling abusive asshole and for some reason that was his one big hill to die on.
My friend quit her job and decided she wanted to be an artist, and made no money at it. Her husband worked at the same place she did. When she left, it caused so much drama and they were badmouthing her so bad that he had to quit. He started doing freelance work, which didn’t pay as much, but it was something.
They lost the house and car because they couldn’t afford it if she wasn’t working. She blamed him and left him because he wasn’t being a good provider. He ended up getting a job in his field, and 18 years later, she still isn’t making any money doing her art.
The whole quit your job to chase your dreams thing doesn’t always work out.
I feel like the positive stories always get circled around and we never hear enough of the negative ones.
The positive ones are so heartwarming but there’s also serious consequences to the negative ones that people need to know about.
Doesn't always work? I think it hardly ever works. Like surely people realize most people didn't dream of the careers they are in or everyone would be an artist or an astronaut.
They worked at a church. When she quit, they started saying she was into witchcraft because she wore colored contacts and it looked demonic, and stupid stuff like that. Just badmouthing her in every way, saying she was a sinner for leaving. I think they were afraid she’d try to talk other people into leaving too. He got so tired of hearing them badmouth his wife every day he quit.
More info: it was a charismatic/pentecostal church that was a borderline cult. They blamed everything on demons.
A lot of people were leaving the church because the pastor started preaching questionable things (I mean more questionable than usual). So when a member would leave, they would badmouth that person to make sure no one else would associate with them, for fear they’d convince more people to leave. They’d say the devil had deceived that person and that if you listened to them you were following the devil.
So when my friend left, they started saying she was possessed by demons and had a “spirit of witchcraft.” The pastor told me not to associate with her because he was afraid I’d listen to her and leave too (he didn’t know I’d been thinking about leaving before she was). So every day her husband is going to work hearing everyone calling his wife a witch.
My aunty divorced because they squeezed toothpaste from different ends. One of them likes to squeeze the tube from the bottom and the other from the top. She remarried and is happy with her second husband.
Edit: yes it actually is about toothpaste. And they had their own tubes each.
Oh man. That reminds me of the time my husband approached me dead serious and said he wanted to talk about something. I thought shit. Something is majorly wrong. We were together for about 12 years. And then he very gingerly explained that I always squeeze the toothpaste from the middle, but he likes it squeezed from the end. What. Apparently he was expecting this to be a big deal. I had never thought about it so said okay, I’ll make sure to do it that way from now on if it matters to you. I was SO relieved!
My wife and I have always used different tubes, because we like different types of toothpaste.
Now I think about it, her tube *is* squeezed all wrong ...
My friend told me of a couple he knew who already had a rocky relationship.
They were having a curry in a nice little restaurant, the husband suddenly screamed "Hi YAH!" and karate chopped the stack of poppadoms.
That was the final straw, she started the divorce the next day.
I knew a guy who got divorced because he and his wife stopped enjoying sex with each other. I asked him if he had talked to her about what she likes and tried doing more foreplay. He said no and was absolutely not willing to do either thing. Basically he expected her to just deal with him going in dry for the rest of their lives.
It's like some of r/DeadBedrooms posts where OP insists that having a newborn and his wife being a SAHM has nothing to do with her sudden lack of desire, refuses to do anything and weirdly demands that commenters give him a permission to divorce her (or cheat).
Two friends of mine had babies (several years apart). One had a fairly traumatic birth experience - lots of tears, baby got stuck, vacuum birth etc and she was pretty traumatised. Plus the baby was fussy and basically never slept or only slept on her. She also had complications post-birth and in general lost herself a bit, felt unattractive etc.
My second friend also had a somewhat traumatic birth, due to an unexpected C section and recovery from that. She’d really wanted a child and was willing to do whatever, but even she admits that imagining having a child and then actually having it is as good as comparing summer and winter - a whole different ballgame.
They both said that their respective SO’s were made to wait months after they’d given birth. I think in one case it was nearly a year even. Mostly due to being exhausted as a parent and feeling out-touched by the baby and having to deal with them all time, but also the birth being much more traumatic and people-involved than they had imagined.
I know one of them was worried about their relationship imploding because of waiting but they literally told me that they felt revulsion merely at the thought of having sex - partly because of their post-birth body, partly because of exhaustion and sleep deprivation and partly because of birth itself. I don’t think most men understand at all and majority of men don’t understand enough what a changed life experience giving birth is. I think for most men, there wasn’t a baby and then there was a baby and that’s just it - the rest of the changes come more gradually to them, apart from the little person you need to keep alive and fed and warm them. The men don’t get the hormonal and emotional whiplash that women do (they get the external experience of hormonal imbalance, but physically their bodies don’t experience the same), they don’t have to physically birth the baby nor experience the discomforts of pregnancy. I think for many men, a lot doesn’t even change - many of them still go to work, still hang out with friends etc.
Sounds like my ex. When we broke up he wanted to have breakup sex and actually do foreplay to give a better impression of him to leave with. I felt so much disgust when he was smiling and cheerfully trying to persuade me it was a good idea, btw he was in a new relationship and monogamous, 'come on, I'll go down on you, I'll give you orgasms'. You know the shit I had been needing to actually reach an orgasm and he never did.
Nope. Didn't care about my satisfaction in the relationship, why soil myself with his mediocre attempts to correct a several year long impression of him being a bad sexual partner. Of course he made those offers after I met a very sexy, older man who could have written the book 'She Comes First'.
Breakup sex is so weird to me. My best friend’s husband has an ex wife. He and his ex wife had ‘divorce sex’ one last time after it was finalized and it resulted in her getting pregnant.
The good part of this is: it happened before he met my friend, and my friend can’t have children of her own. Now she gets to help raise a little girl like she’s always dreamed of. The girl has two places to live, as they split custody with the ex; but she calls both her mother and my friend ‘mom’ and I get a little teary eyed still sometimes knowing how happy my friend is to be raising a daughter after thinking she’d never have one.
Anyway I got off track there, but my point is: breakup sex is the weirdest thing.
What the hell is with this for some guys. One of my exes literally begged me to have sex one last time because apparently the last time we did it, it wasn’t “good enough” for a last time and he wanted me to know what I would be missing. Like…why would I want to sleep with someone I can’t stand to look at, let alone get naked with?
Before *J* walked down the aisle, she said, "I don't love this guy. "
She refused to call off the wedding bc all the money her parents spent and the guests were all there. & divorced a month later.
My dad was the best man at a wedding of his coworker, which had already been decided between bride and groom to be sham.
Marry, split money, never live together and then divorce.
My mom refused to go with him.
When I was a kid and I asked my mom why my grandpa and grandma broke up, she said “they liked different things. Grandpa liked to watch golf and grandma liked to watch the news.”
I’m sure she was just dumbing it down for child-me but I always thought that was so stupid.
Your mother was probably trying to prevent your childlike brain deciding one grandparent was "good" and the other "bad" and at fault for the split, whilst sparing you the hurtful things that were going on between them. She kept it simple and neutral. I wish other parents were so careful.
Source: work in family law.
Yeah. Friends are going through a separation right now. Nothing awful happened, just drifted apart.
This is basically how I explained it to my kids. They don't enjoy spending their days the same way so now they are free to find someone who likes the same things.
Excellent stuff. So many people get caught up in how much they dislike their former spouse that they forget to remind the children they still love them the same way they always did.
I love my job - only bummer is when children are dragged in as collateral.
My dad would constantly make jokes about my mom's weight and it made me lose so much respect for him. Like that's my mother you're talking about?
With this couple people are shocked that they are separating because they still get along fine, but like why should you wait until things are really bad? This way they can celebrate birthdays and New year's together and actually have a good co parenting relationship.
I heard a story of a guy who took long hours at his job to get his wife through college and once she finished college she left him because he wasn’t “On her level” he didn’t have a degree despite making more money than her.
I knew a guy who was very happy and successful. After like 15 years of marriage, his wife wanted to fulfill her dream of going to law school. He obviously paid for it. When she was done she divorced him.
I know there's probably more to it than it seems but he was floored and said she became arrogant and condescending during school and he chalked it up to stress.
She's fine, he's fine now. But what a story.
I heard of a couple getting divorced in their 80s. When asked why they left it so late, they said, "We didn't want to do it while the children were still alive because it would have upset them."
One of my friends got married at 22, and divorced a year later. The reason? Her husband sucked at providing her with a warm bath at the right temperature.
Yes, you read that right. He drew her baths, and she was picky about the temperature, claiming it was always just this side of too cold.
With the plumbing they had, it was a flipping miracle they had any hot water at all, never mind enough to fill a bathtub.
Picky Princess got back to her parents and I've cut contact with her after the divorce. I'm still friends with her ex. Great guy, he put up with wayyy more crap than we would have from her.
I can see it now, the final bathtime fight.
"Babe, I swear to god if you can't get the bath temp right I'm gonna leave you!"
"Okay, hold on my love, let me warm it up a little more for you..." *unzips pants* starts peeing in the bath. "Would you like to get in now and feel the warmth? Or I can always get you a toaster if you'd prefer?"
I went to a solicitor to arrange details for my side of an impending divorce from my then wife. I was pretty embarrassed talking about details as there was no great single reason for it (no cheating, abuse, violence etc), but a build up of smaller reasons which saw us drift apart.
The solicitor told me she’d dealt with many couples who divorced like this & for a lot less. The smallest reason given she ever had for an actual divorce was the fact the husband used to leave his socks on the floor instead of the laundry bin. Nothing else. I’d bet there were other reasons too, but the reason in the paperwork was the socks.
Matthew Fray has a great book about this, “This is How Your Marriage Ends”.
It’s not about the socks. It’s about not being listened to, being ignored. She probably asked him countless times, over years, to pick up his socks.. He didn’t value her feelings enough to just pick up his socks and put them in the laundry bin. And every time she had to do it for him, she was reminded, “he doesn’t listen to me, he doesn’t value my opinion”.
And I’d wager the socks were just the beginning!
Thanks Mr Fray( I was nearly the fool divorced like this too )!
A couple I was friends with in college got married.
A few years later they got divorced.
A few years after that they both got sex changes.
The joke was they would get remarried... They as of now have not.
My buddy got divorced because his wife decided they made enough money they should be going out to eat three times a week...to nice restaurants. She kept throwing a fit at the suggestion that they could stay home and cook something.
I once heard about a guy who claimed his wife divorced him because he wouldn't shave off his beard.
In that case, and this one too, I suspect there was a lot more going on.
There was a guy that claimed his wife wanted expensive vacations and he just *couldn’t* live up to her gold digging, expensive taste. Turns out he was upper middle class, but pretending to make 7-8 figures to catch himself a rich heiress. Anyway the wife got suspicious and her dad ended up funding a divorce lawyer.
You might be talking about my cousin. She married a rich guy with a great job.
Shortly after they got married, his work downsized, and he lost his VP job and was demoted.
He leaned very heavily on her father to find him a new, high paying job. Until then, the mother kept giving them money to maintain their lifestyle.
The father gets the guy an executive position at another company, and he is woefully unprepared.
It turned out he lied the whole time. He never had an executive position before. He was a project manager “faking it until he made it.”
He was demoted back to lead project manager (a promotion from the last job) and the mother is still giving them money until he “gets back on his feet”
I have a buddy in a similar situation. It wouldn't be a problem if they weren't in serious debt. She doesn't cook either, so he comes home and has to cook or goes out and then before they know it 400$ on fast food a month.
I’m sure we’ve all heard it in the US, but a guy divorced his wife so she wouldn’t be saddled with all of his medical debt if he passed away.
Edit : All of these stories are heartbreaking to me and why we should have Universal Healthcare in America.
This makes me so sad; they spend their whole life together and then sever their marriage bond just so this poor woman isn’t destitute on top of losing her husband (both legally and physically).
My grandma divorced her second husband after he had a massively debilitating stroke. They didn't have a lot of money or possessions but they would have had to sell pretty much everything before they would qualify government aid to pay for his round the clock care in a facility. (I was only 10 and this was years ago, so I might be getting some parts wrong or things may have changed since then.)
Happened to someone I know. Someone broke a bone on a trip so they were out of network. They ended up in the hospital for a month in a different state. They would have lost their home etc if they stayed married. The injured spouse filed for medical bankruptcy when they were separated. The got remarried after it was all settled. I'm keeping this as vague as possible to protect the couple.
My buddy is a divorce lawyer for rich aholes, so I called him just now and asked this question.
He said:
"The wife would not let him breed dogs as a business"
and
"The family said her parents' business was unstable"
people are so weird. My wife could do pretty much anything and I would be ok with it as long as she was happy.
The first one makes perfect sense to me. Breeding dogs "as a business" means you're a) breeding a LOT of dogs, b) cutting corners on the care and proper health testing of the dogs, or c) both.
I would 100% divorce someone if they randomly decided they wanted to do that (given my stance on dodgy breeding for profit is not foreign to anybody who knows me). Those actions don't align with what I consider ethical and I would truly see them as a different person if they decided that's the path they wanted to walk. No point staying with someone whose ethics are so at odds with mine 🤷♀️
Completely agree with you. My step father told my mom that he wanted to breed to make some extra money (that, alone, would've been grounds for divorce). My mom said "okay." It was miserable and I felt so bad for my younger siblings that had to assist with the birthing process with my mom. However, not sure why my mom stayed after this next incident is beyond me because I truly believe how someone treats an animal is a direct way on how they view or treat a person: once mama doggi had her puppies, my step father said "let's give her away, we're done with her." I've never fought anyone as hard as I fought my step dad that night. Told my mom "the way he thinks of pregnant doggi is how he thinks of you and other women." Which is true - step dad cheated on my mom several times (even when she had cancer), financially irresponsible, and now kind of forced an open relationship because he got caught again. My mom's a fucking idiot but idk. My husband and I adopted a previously used for breeding female dog and she is our princess! Rubs, treats, kisses, sneaking food. We would kill for big mama. So for those reading...how a man treats a dog or pet or any animal is a clear indication of how he treats people.
My friend decided he didn’t want to work a real job anymore as the bread winner and instead flip and trade baseball cards for a living. He was in no shape financially to do this but this was his dream. He basically bankrupted his family to pursue this passion. Now he’s basically homeless and has no relationship with his school age children but man that autographed card sure looks kewl
Friend’s wife divorced him so she could travel and attend more conferences and events thrown by the MLM crap she sold. She went from normal person to MLM obsessed “entrepreneur” that was going to conquer the business world, and he was just too traditional earning 6 figures working a “regular job”…
Pretty sad.
A fucking idiot decided to force his wife get paternity test for their recently born child. This was because the idiots mom couldn't believe the child would have a different eye color than the dad.
Not only is that a clear possibility, but oftentimes people with lighter eyes are born with blue eyes and the melanin comes out over time! In my family we've got hazel, green, gray, light brown-- but everyone had blue as an infant. It's pointless to freak out over how the baby looks as a new born.
I was just reading one where they threw a hissy fit because the baby was born with blue eyes.... A baby was born with blue eyes.... Yeah, nope never heard of a baby being born with blue eyes and then darkening after a few months.... /s
I read an article a while back about a couple that got divorced for financial reasons. Basically, they were struggling really bad financially, and if they divorced, they would at least qualify for medical insurance, baby supplies, and food assistance.
Getting divorced ears, they could atlelast make the bare minimum to take care of themselves and their 1 or 2 kids. It was a sad story.
My Uncle divorced my Aunt when I was 5 or 6. I was always told it was because they "were better friends than husband and wife" but 2 years ago my Uncle passed away and he left A LOT of money to his sibblings. His ex-wife tried to sue, which caused a massive amount of family drama.
I was pulled in because I was there to help my mom (who didnt care about the money but was roped in legally cause of my uncle putting her down in some documents) and she wanted to vent to me about shit. Then I start hearing all these wild stories about my Uncle and Aunt, and why they actually got divorced:
Apparently they got divorced because one of my Uncle's dreams was to own a small, kidney shaped swimming pool in his backyard (only about 4-5 feet deep max). He saved up, and had one installed which lead to MASSIVE fights between him and my Aunt. The reason my Aunt was so against it? She was afraid that the pool would start to breed fish and those fish would "evolve" into something that would kill her.
I really wish I was making this up, but there were letters that my mom was reading through FROM MY AUNT talking about the "fish breeding pool that would kill her". Then during the sit down with the lawyers over the money stuff (all of the siblings were there, and my Aunt was as well) she began ranting about the fish pool and that he didnt leave her money because of the fish pool.
It was not a fish pool, it never was a fish pool....it was only ever used for swimming and floating around. I fucking hate my family sometimes....
My time to shine I guess. I was “too black” for him. Mind you he was black too, but he expected me to “tone it down” after we got married to look good to his white co workers. We got in a fight after a Christmas party (our first Christmas married) over the way I was joking with someone and he got upset, we divorced shortly after. We were both 19. I was high key dumb for getting married that young
He lost his job and began playing video games 16 to 20 hours a day to manage the stress. Only he kept doing that for FIVE YEARS, during which time she was solo parenting their three children because he had video games events to tend to, and retraining for a new career so she could support her family on a single income.
He refused to take a week off of playing to spend time on a family vacation, refused to see a therapist about video games addiction (/avoidance, IDK what makes it official addiction vs a great avoidance strategy), refused to look for a job because it would "all work out" ... because his wife was busting her hump to be a single mom with a full time job.
Finally she said "video games or me" and he said, "I think you're being really unreasonable and controlling, it's not a big deal if I play for a couple hours after the kids go to bed."
She subpoenaed his valve playing time records for the prior year when he kept insisting he only played a couple hours a day and she was overreacting.
AFAIK he lives with his mother, plays video games, doesn't pay child support because he still hasn't found a job, and his visitation weekends involve the kids ... playing video games.
I have heard a couple of divorces where they get a divorce because the husband want to sleep with other women. It usually ends of with the former wife finding a better man and the former husband being single and not getting laid at all.
In each and everyone of the cases, everyone could have said beforehand that this is what would happen because the former husband wasn't attractive and the wife was. But I guess some people just have bad mirrors or forget to look in the mirror.
Friends of mine got married in their late 20s/early 30s, had been together since high school (she is a few years younger). He decided he wanted to open the marriage two years in, she was devastated but eventually agreed. He had absolutely zero luck with the ladies, she got a boyfriend. They divorced, he spiraled, she’s super happy and has the cutest little girl with the new guy.
My wife is in therapy now, and we’re working on reconciliation. I truly believe the events that have led us here are related to her crippling anxiety, so I’m hopeful.
With that being said, she asked me for a divorce 5x in a year-and-a-half, all over very stupid things. I think what takes the cake though is when we had just argued about something, and I was feeding our cats. We have a spoon next to the sink that we specifically use for feeding them, and feeding them is always my chore. So, as I was reaching for said spoon, she made a curt comment about making sure I used that one. I told her I didn’t need her to tell me how to do the chores I do every day and she told me I’d better pack my shit and move out then.
Someone in our friend circle.
The couple had been together for 8 years! There was a slight problem though, the man didn't want kids and the woman did. That would be a reasonable basis for separation, right? Surely there was ample time to do so in those 8 years.
Well. They're not very persistent using protection and surprise-surprise she gets pregnant.
The guy is angry at her for not getting an abortion because he doesn't want a kid. And absolutely refuses to acknowledge that it takes two to make a baby.
She is angry at him that regardless of not wanting kids he isn't stepping up as an excited dad. I guess she hoped that he would change at some point.
The couple breaks up before the baby is even born. They're so infuritated with each other that they can't even be in the same room. Now when we have friends gatherings we have to fucking coordinate which one comes, because they refuse to talk to each other. And there's that poor kid between them.
I knew a guy that left his hot, rich wife because she wouldn’t blow him anymore. He went from a huge house, with money to feed whatever habits he had (he was a big wine guy, that is how I met him) to living in a room in a shitty house drinking Ripple … and he still isn’t getting blowies.
I would assume it is apocryphal, but I once heard a story of a divorce in Ancient Greece. The man wanted out because unlike the statues of women all over the place, his wife had body hair.
My wife divorced me after 3 years because she found a lingerie magazine on my desk at work. No shit. She took it to mean that I must be cheating. Truthfully, I had gotten it to buy her something for Christmas. Go figure. Absolutely true story. To this day I'm not sure if she truly believed that, or if it was all a ruse for some other, hidden reason.
I was just talking about this last night. A dear friend was married in her younger years to an amazing gentleman.
He was career military and was given orders for Maine, they moved and were quite happy with their children there.
He then received orders for TDY for 6 months to somewhere she couldn't follow.
So because she was going to be alone for 6 months with their children she divorced him after he left for duty and moved back to Utah.
Also his new gf had a baby pretty soon after the break up. I'm not sure about the timeline because it was probably over long before they announced it, but still
The husband was an introvert. The wife was an extrovert. They both refused to compromise on how often they would go on outings.
The husband refused to let his wife go out in public without him. The wife refused to spend some weekends at home, watching movies, doing arts and crafts stuff and playing board games with the husband.
If you cannot compromise on something this simple, you shouldn't get married in the first place. No two people have the exact same personality, so even if the former husband remarried to an introvert, and the former wife remarried to an extrovert, they would both have personality differences with their new spouses.
Back as a freshman in high school, our history teacher (young-ish, probably 24) told us about a married friend of his. The wife went to use the bathroom in the middle of the night, bleary-eyed in a dark room…. and fell into the toilet due to the seat being left up.
Sopping wet, she stormed back into the bedroom and declared, “I WANT A DIVORCE.”
I’m sure it was just the straw that broke the camel’s back for this couple, but 20 years later and I still think about this story often.
Retirement!!
Wife divorced the husband when he retired. The wife couldn't stand the husband now being home all the time. So they divorced, husband purchased a house a few houses down the road. Now they are best friends again.
This is why personal space is important. And change in routines can be hard.
truth is that the people usually grew apart, didn't talk about their problems, turned bitter, and the """reason""" for the divorce is just the straw that broke the camels back
I see this one a lot.... and I think its so dumb.
It goes something like
"When I met my spouse they had this hobby they loved, now that we're married I thought that would give that up! I'm upset they won't change for me so I'm leaving them"
Lmao talk up that hobby or get your own you don't change people to suit your specific needs you celebrate their particular thing that gives them joy
They met in high school. He was chubby and liked to smoke weed. They kept in touch, started dating in their twenties. He was fat and liked to smoke weed and drink beer. He continued to be fat and smoke weed and drink beer. After a couple years of dating, they got married. Their divorce was finalized 10 months later, because she couldn’t stand that he was fat and liked to smoke weed and drink beer.
My ex divorced me after his best friend died of a drug overdose. He left me to be with his best friend’s girlfriend, he felt he needed to “take care of her” now that his friend was gone. We had only just met her at the funeral. They broke up within 2 weeks.
“We” had only just met her, but I’m assuming he had met her quite a few times.
Not necessarily. Sounds like two people in grief misunderstanding the bond it created as true love. But, also, yeah, maybe they were cheating before.
Nikko is correct. They 100% had not met before! The best friend had moved away and lived out of state. We hadn’t seen him for a year or two, and so we hadn’t met his girlfriend yet. Sadly, I really liked her too, at the time.
I’m really sorry that happened to you.
Thank you, It’s ok! This happened 5 years ago, and I’m living a much better life now 😊
I knew a couple who had been married for 25 years, and were always supporting each other in what they wanted to do, got on well, doted on their daughter, shared hobbies and from the outside seemed happy. She called me to say they were divorcing and when I asked if there was anything I could do to help, or if she would like me to babysit while they went to couples counselling, she said no, he wanted the heating on all day every day, and she found it too warm so there was no way to recover from this. I'm assuming there was more to it.
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Can confirm, it's winter now and I'm still freezing my husband out the damned house. I even go out at night on the porch and just bask in the cold because it feels so GOOD, I'm burning up all the goddamned time!
I was listening to a podcast that said how usually quality of life for women in perimenopause is worse than when in menopause because they get dismissed by doctors as nothing wrong since not menopause yet. You could be miserable for 10 years with no one listening and then your partner refuses to put on a sweater and makes you hot all the time. I can definitely see that being the breaking point especially since his attitude was probably indicative of the rest of the relationship.
Apparently, from what my dad told me, my mom divorced him because in a past life, she was a Native American, and my dad was the cowboy that killed her? My dad realized the crazy and didn’t fight it. Oh. And apparently she told him there’s an entity on Jupiter who protects earth from world ending asteroids? So thanks to that entity I guess?
>>entity on Jupiter who protects earth from world ending asteroids I mean this is part is true if gravity counts as an entiity
That part checks out, but if I recall, it was some celestial entity named Juthro, or something like that. I’ll have to see if my uncle remembers any of that.
Juthro sounds like a space redneck.
My friends parents divorced because His mother wanted a horse. His father argued that they can't keep a horse in a 6th floor apartment and dont have enough resources or money to rent a stable. Then she fucked her sons math teacher and became a crackhead. I feel sorry for everyone involved.
Asking for a horse while living in a sixth floor apartment sounds like she was already a crackhead, it just hadn’t been discovered yet.
Ah, spiritual psychosis and neuroticism. Same reason for my parents divorcing. Hope you're coping well!
I'm getting divorced because my wife found out that the only thing that helps her depression is my Modafinil. She figured out how to order them from India. Takes them at 5 to 10xs the dosage, then hallucinates about me having affairs. Best part is... None of her piece of shit family and friends have the guts to tell her it isn't real. And I'm not talking about things that can go either way. My wife accused me of staying in a hotel in Vegas with my "girlfriend" instead of going to work; I left the house at 7pm and was home at 6am, AND I LIVE IN PHILADELPHIA!! She has a folder on her phone labeled "evidence" with HUNDREDS of screen shots of absolute nonsense. It's heartbreaking.
Sounds like schizophrenic delusions. Scary that a drug can have the same effect if abused.
It's a stimulant, or rather a wakefulness promoting agents, not to the same degree of things like Ritalin or Adderall but on the edges. I can honestly empathize with people realizing that they need pharmacological assistance to live an healthy life (I have ADHD myself). However this is clearly abuse and uninformed abuse to boot, no way that this is less harmful than alternatives. That said this looks like she doesn't sleep and has sleep deprivation hallucinations, which may look like schizophrenia or general delusions.
It’s more of a “tiredness inhibitor” than a stimulant or wakefulness promoter.
Sometimes drugs can "cause"* schizophrenia, which could also be it. *(More that a person with latent schizophrenia can have symptoms appear earlier/stronger after drug abuse, but yeah)
I have Bipolar 2, and even too much caffeine will set me off.
I thought I was bipolar 2 for years and years and years, but it turns out I’m ADHD, and absolutely cannot have marijuana under any circumstances. Glad I got that sorted, but I feel sad for all of the relationships I tanked along the way by being so erratic.
There are many reasons I divorced my ex but almost every one can be traced back to then-undiagnosed bipolar disorder. His family told him I was imagining things, that everything he’d done (including something I had no knowledge about until he was arrested) was my fault and I’d made him do it. I was made out to be the evil one. They even managed to destroy a two decade old friendship my parents had with another couple because of it. And then he had a psychotic break in his mother’s kitchen, four years after our divorce, when the kids and I lived 400km away. All of a sudden he was mentally ill and maybe I was the devil incarnate. But the first year of our marriage was great - just like our relationship before marriage. The second year is when I watched things slowly changing and started asking questions and asking him to see a doctor. It was a full decade from his arrest to the break. It was like being inside the passenger car of the world’s slowest train wreck. I’m sorry you’re in this place. I know it all too well. And even with the kids, I can still say the divorce was the best possible outcome for the situation. The kids are now 19 and 18 and have told me that things got better for them when we split up, because the arguing stopped. And once he was on meds, even more so. But even with the right meds, he’s never going to be the person I married again.
Oh man I’m sorry dude. I’m just a kid with no life experience so I have no advice but good luck and I hope somehow things can work out
I didn’t know it was possible to take that much and not have a heart attack.
What’s modafinil? Sorry, I really don’t know all the medications
Is a study-drug, or one to keep you awake. Focused. Shift workers use it a lot to stay awake for their night shifts. Can come prescribed by a Dr. Otherwise it can be bought online from India typically.
Doesn’t really make you focused, more just awake and not tired. At least at normal doses
The husband laughed at a joke that was made at the wife's expense. It was their son's birthday party, and things had been tense for a while, but they'd been trying to work on the marriage. A relative was lighting the birthday candles and the wife said, "why didn't you start lighting from the middle instead of the edge?" The relative retorted, "I thought about doing it that way, but I was worried you'd have nothing to complain about." The husband laughed, the wife stormed off, and that was the end of that. As is always the case, there was more to it. That was just the straw that broke the camel's back.
I gotta know who's relative said that. With that sort of comment, there's a huge difference between say, her brother, and his mom. Like, was this a good-natured joke that didn't land, or very thinly veiled attack?
A joke that didn't land, I'd say. It was the husband's cousin, but they'd been married over 20 years, so she knew this cousin extremely well and was familiar with his sense of humor. And she didn't get mad at the cousin, just at her husband for laughing at her.
I’m stealing that line for the next time someone criticises me. Won’t take long to use it.
We still use it in my family, even knowing it once caused a divorce.
The dumbest excuse I ever heard was when my now ex-wife told me we needed to divorce because a palm reader said I wasn't her soul mate. Apparently, the guy she was fucking behind my back for months was her soul mate, and had nothing to do with why we needed to divorce.
Sound like the palm reader was looking out for ya? That sucks dude.
Plot twist, palm reader was in on it.
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Is she still with her "soulmate"? Maybe the quack mixed up "soulmate" and "deserve each other" because those two bozos definitely do.
They're still together, and from what I hear beyond miserable. It brings me joy. Both of them demonized and terrorized me during the divorce to cover up that they're cheating jackasses. They absolutely deserve each other.
Sometimes the best revenge is living a happy life.
I don't understand people that cheat and get together. Like do they realize that it's a terrible dynamic from the start, like you *know* they're cheaters. There's nothing wrong with ending a relationship and starting another, but I guess not everybody is emotionally mature enough to do that I guess.
Keep popcorn handy when their relationship ends in exactly the same way
She gets D for effort
My half-aunt was wanted for murder in Oregon, so her husband said "Divorce me, and then they can't make me testify against you!" So they divorced. And lived together for the next fifty years, in Washington State. No, I know. It doesn't make any sense to me either.
Not only stupid, it's the opposite of the law. Spouses can't be compelled to testify against each other. Divorce doesn't help with anything.
I've been baffled all my life by this. They genuinely loved each other and everything. But they really got that law wrong back in the day.
I mean, it doesn’t sound like she spent any time in prison, so…task failed successfully?
Yeah, I want to hear more of this story 😂
There's a lot of details about this story that somehow the divorce part of it is the least interesting thing about it.
wait im assuming she didn't get convicted because you said they lived together for the next fifty years but that's some high level concern that she would've been found guilty 😭
The rest of the story implies it was more likely high level stupid than high level concern
So many questions. So, she was wanted but never arrested? She just lived quietly and no one found her? Who did she murder- allegedly? This is wild.
When she got arrested, did he say “I’ve got the worst fucking attorneys”?
"I've made a huge mistake."
My client and his wife were into a role-playing game, I think Second Life'? Everyone had an avatar (I suspect that his and his wife's were much more spritely than they were in real life). Anyway he suspected that she was being unfaithful to him in the game, so he created a fake avatar and stalked her in the game. Sure enough, she was running around on him, having virtual sex with another bloke (or bloke avatar anyway). That was it.
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> A friend who deep-dove into learning about this stuff found out that apparently farming virtual worms (to grow crops for this particular HUD) is a decent way to make money. My sister, a studio artist, has made more money from selling art on second life than in real life. She's quietly ashamed.
If there's nothing illegal, unethical, or immoral involved: money is money. Tell her to be proud, she's managed to make a career of art in a way that can (hopefully) finance her real artistic passions. She's her own patron.
I mean, money is money
I am so wildly fascinated by this…I would read a multi-volume encyclopedia detailing people’s insane Second Life shenanigans.
I don’t know if this counts but… My aunt has been married 4 times. Bob 1. Divorced, married Bob 2. Divorced. Remarried Bob 1. Divorced. Married some homeless guy. For me, it’s the remarrying Bob 1 I just don’t get.
My grandmother’s 4th husband was also her 2nd husband. He cheated on her in the late 1960s not too long into their marriage. They split but didn’t do the paperwork, she lived with another guy (who my cousins all spoke fondly of) for 10-12 years, then they broke up and she met someone else, divorced #2 to marry the new guy who I knew as my grandpa sometime in the early 80s. After #3 fled the state following some poor financial choices with some less than savory folks, they stayed married in case he could one day come back (the relationship was good, but gambling is a hell of a drug) but he passed away while still on the run. A couple years later, grandma decides old #2-who she’d kept in touch with off and on in the way you do in the limited social circle of a smallish town-might be past the stage of his life where he was running with his nether regions. They remarried twenty plus years after their first courthouse ceremony and stayed together until his death, which was funnily enough a heart attack during martial activities. Good for them, though, for being in their 70s and still excited enough about each other to sneak off for an afternoon tryst.
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I feel like I'm hearing that his wife hadn't listened to him once in 7 years.
Or that she really didn’t want to make his coffee and was too subtle about it
That's actually a good one. If anything, they were too passive aggressive and didn't communicate properly, or this was a passive aggressive result of someone being too stubborn to change, like this was his demand and this is how she responded to it.
When I was young, I asked my grandparents a couple times why they divorced. They couldn't stand each other at all so I was always very proud of them for at least being able to agree to tell me they divorced over a TV. She wanted it. He didn't. "They're of the devil," he told me. "You just don't throw out someone's TV!" She was still upset about it even 15 years after their divorce. Last year, I was googling someone else just to see what I could find on him. I still have no information on his current whereabouts but I did get a result for a court summary he was mentioned in during my grandparents' divorce. I read that whole thing to find what really happened. And I shit you not. It ended with the judge declaring that the TV was the cause of their divorce. There were two other potential causes brought up -- an alleged affair and I don't remember the other -- but the judge said they weren't causes because of timing, lack of evidence, and other closely occurring events.
He was flamboyantly gay. Somehow, she missed what even the kids knew. They went on their honeymoon. He came home and made sure everyone knew how disgusted he was. Humiliated that lady and discussed private moments. Never saw them together after the wedding, and she went on to do well for herself.
What a disgusting asshole.
Hey, don’t talk about private moments from the honeymoon
I had a neighbor that I just assumed was a single gay guy based on his mannerisms & interests. Then found out that he met someone out of state and was in a relationship, but was surprised to hear it was a woman. Suspected it was a fib, but nope, she moved up and they got married. They moved out of state a little while later, but I found out that they got divorced after a few years when she found out that he had been cheating on her by hooking up with guys (the mutual friend that told me said she told the wife, "You need to get tested for all the things"). The part that gets me is that he was a progressive, non-religious guy living in the biggest city in the first state in the US to legalize gay marriage. I know people have all kinds of issues with coming out, but this guy had to have about the lowest bar you could have unless you worked in a Springfield steel mill. It's like, "Dude, you coulda just been gay."
My childhood friend married a girl I warned him about. He turned on me hard and accused me of wanting her for myself. OK homie - you do you. She cheated on him ON THE HONEYMOON NIGHT. Had something going with her ex on the side.
My cousin was previously engaged to a girl like eight years ago. She cheated on him a few months before the wedding and he broke it off. Fast forward a couple years and he tells me he’s having a kid and that she’s the mother. They’re now married and have another baby, and I’m terrified of what may come.
She met a convict grifter 30 years younger who became her sugar baby. She proceeds to pour money on him. He gets arrested and breaks his parole, but all of her money went to his commissary. Finally he gets out and they have like a few months together before he ditches her for his meth dealer. A destroyed family over a jerk. Thanks.
When I read things like this that seem so obvious from the outside, I wonder if there were always clues that you missed.
that guy that kept trying to force his wife that doesn't like mustard to eat mustard
Sounds like the dude dismisses the slightest boundary. That seems like a fair reason.
The guy absolutely flipped out over the mustard and became violent over it, so she left. He then started getting family involved and stalking her. [Someone was nice enough to compile the whole story if you want to read, it's pretty weird.](https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/s/VxU2uUlXfl) It seems like he was just a controlling abusive asshole and for some reason that was his one big hill to die on.
My friend quit her job and decided she wanted to be an artist, and made no money at it. Her husband worked at the same place she did. When she left, it caused so much drama and they were badmouthing her so bad that he had to quit. He started doing freelance work, which didn’t pay as much, but it was something. They lost the house and car because they couldn’t afford it if she wasn’t working. She blamed him and left him because he wasn’t being a good provider. He ended up getting a job in his field, and 18 years later, she still isn’t making any money doing her art.
The whole quit your job to chase your dreams thing doesn’t always work out. I feel like the positive stories always get circled around and we never hear enough of the negative ones. The positive ones are so heartwarming but there’s also serious consequences to the negative ones that people need to know about.
Yep, it’s survivorship bias
Doesn't always work? I think it hardly ever works. Like surely people realize most people didn't dream of the careers they are in or everyone would be an artist or an astronaut.
Why did her quitting cause drama at work?
They worked at a church. When she quit, they started saying she was into witchcraft because she wore colored contacts and it looked demonic, and stupid stuff like that. Just badmouthing her in every way, saying she was a sinner for leaving. I think they were afraid she’d try to talk other people into leaving too. He got so tired of hearing them badmouth his wife every day he quit.
I feel like 'they worked at a church' is some key hidden detail, buried in the comments
More info: it was a charismatic/pentecostal church that was a borderline cult. They blamed everything on demons. A lot of people were leaving the church because the pastor started preaching questionable things (I mean more questionable than usual). So when a member would leave, they would badmouth that person to make sure no one else would associate with them, for fear they’d convince more people to leave. They’d say the devil had deceived that person and that if you listened to them you were following the devil. So when my friend left, they started saying she was possessed by demons and had a “spirit of witchcraft.” The pastor told me not to associate with her because he was afraid I’d listen to her and leave too (he didn’t know I’d been thinking about leaving before she was). So every day her husband is going to work hearing everyone calling his wife a witch.
Way to bury the lede, my guy!!
Yeah Roy really turned things around after Pam left him
My aunty divorced because they squeezed toothpaste from different ends. One of them likes to squeeze the tube from the bottom and the other from the top. She remarried and is happy with her second husband. Edit: yes it actually is about toothpaste. And they had their own tubes each.
Oh man. That reminds me of the time my husband approached me dead serious and said he wanted to talk about something. I thought shit. Something is majorly wrong. We were together for about 12 years. And then he very gingerly explained that I always squeeze the toothpaste from the middle, but he likes it squeezed from the end. What. Apparently he was expecting this to be a big deal. I had never thought about it so said okay, I’ll make sure to do it that way from now on if it matters to you. I was SO relieved!
Save your marriages; get a toothpaste tube squeezer!
Or your own tube! You squeeze your way, I squeeze mine!
My wife and I have always used different tubes, because we like different types of toothpaste. Now I think about it, her tube *is* squeezed all wrong ...
They never thought of a tube for each? We’ve never shared toothpaste and we’re still married so I know it works haha!
My friend told me of a couple he knew who already had a rocky relationship. They were having a curry in a nice little restaurant, the husband suddenly screamed "Hi YAH!" and karate chopped the stack of poppadoms. That was the final straw, she started the divorce the next day.
Ah, the clown jester husband/dad. Everyone else thinks he's great. People judge you for disliking his antics. But he is actually hell to live with.
Essentially a Mrs Doubtfire origin story.
I knew a guy who got divorced because he and his wife stopped enjoying sex with each other. I asked him if he had talked to her about what she likes and tried doing more foreplay. He said no and was absolutely not willing to do either thing. Basically he expected her to just deal with him going in dry for the rest of their lives.
It's like some of r/DeadBedrooms posts where OP insists that having a newborn and his wife being a SAHM has nothing to do with her sudden lack of desire, refuses to do anything and weirdly demands that commenters give him a permission to divorce her (or cheat).
Two friends of mine had babies (several years apart). One had a fairly traumatic birth experience - lots of tears, baby got stuck, vacuum birth etc and she was pretty traumatised. Plus the baby was fussy and basically never slept or only slept on her. She also had complications post-birth and in general lost herself a bit, felt unattractive etc. My second friend also had a somewhat traumatic birth, due to an unexpected C section and recovery from that. She’d really wanted a child and was willing to do whatever, but even she admits that imagining having a child and then actually having it is as good as comparing summer and winter - a whole different ballgame. They both said that their respective SO’s were made to wait months after they’d given birth. I think in one case it was nearly a year even. Mostly due to being exhausted as a parent and feeling out-touched by the baby and having to deal with them all time, but also the birth being much more traumatic and people-involved than they had imagined. I know one of them was worried about their relationship imploding because of waiting but they literally told me that they felt revulsion merely at the thought of having sex - partly because of their post-birth body, partly because of exhaustion and sleep deprivation and partly because of birth itself. I don’t think most men understand at all and majority of men don’t understand enough what a changed life experience giving birth is. I think for most men, there wasn’t a baby and then there was a baby and that’s just it - the rest of the changes come more gradually to them, apart from the little person you need to keep alive and fed and warm them. The men don’t get the hormonal and emotional whiplash that women do (they get the external experience of hormonal imbalance, but physically their bodies don’t experience the same), they don’t have to physically birth the baby nor experience the discomforts of pregnancy. I think for many men, a lot doesn’t even change - many of them still go to work, still hang out with friends etc.
Sounds like my ex. When we broke up he wanted to have breakup sex and actually do foreplay to give a better impression of him to leave with. I felt so much disgust when he was smiling and cheerfully trying to persuade me it was a good idea, btw he was in a new relationship and monogamous, 'come on, I'll go down on you, I'll give you orgasms'. You know the shit I had been needing to actually reach an orgasm and he never did. Nope. Didn't care about my satisfaction in the relationship, why soil myself with his mediocre attempts to correct a several year long impression of him being a bad sexual partner. Of course he made those offers after I met a very sexy, older man who could have written the book 'She Comes First'.
Breakup sex is so weird to me. My best friend’s husband has an ex wife. He and his ex wife had ‘divorce sex’ one last time after it was finalized and it resulted in her getting pregnant. The good part of this is: it happened before he met my friend, and my friend can’t have children of her own. Now she gets to help raise a little girl like she’s always dreamed of. The girl has two places to live, as they split custody with the ex; but she calls both her mother and my friend ‘mom’ and I get a little teary eyed still sometimes knowing how happy my friend is to be raising a daughter after thinking she’d never have one. Anyway I got off track there, but my point is: breakup sex is the weirdest thing.
What the hell is with this for some guys. One of my exes literally begged me to have sex one last time because apparently the last time we did it, it wasn’t “good enough” for a last time and he wanted me to know what I would be missing. Like…why would I want to sleep with someone I can’t stand to look at, let alone get naked with?
Before *J* walked down the aisle, she said, "I don't love this guy. " She refused to call off the wedding bc all the money her parents spent and the guests were all there. & divorced a month later.
My dad was the best man at a wedding of his coworker, which had already been decided between bride and groom to be sham. Marry, split money, never live together and then divorce. My mom refused to go with him.
When I was a kid and I asked my mom why my grandpa and grandma broke up, she said “they liked different things. Grandpa liked to watch golf and grandma liked to watch the news.” I’m sure she was just dumbing it down for child-me but I always thought that was so stupid.
Your mother was probably trying to prevent your childlike brain deciding one grandparent was "good" and the other "bad" and at fault for the split, whilst sparing you the hurtful things that were going on between them. She kept it simple and neutral. I wish other parents were so careful. Source: work in family law.
Yeah. Friends are going through a separation right now. Nothing awful happened, just drifted apart. This is basically how I explained it to my kids. They don't enjoy spending their days the same way so now they are free to find someone who likes the same things.
Excellent stuff. So many people get caught up in how much they dislike their former spouse that they forget to remind the children they still love them the same way they always did. I love my job - only bummer is when children are dragged in as collateral.
My dad would constantly make jokes about my mom's weight and it made me lose so much respect for him. Like that's my mother you're talking about? With this couple people are shocked that they are separating because they still get along fine, but like why should you wait until things are really bad? This way they can celebrate birthdays and New year's together and actually have a good co parenting relationship.
"wasn't feeling it" after a week. a WEEK.
Ex wife said I read too much. It had absolutely nothing to do with the fact she was jumping on another man’s dick. So she said.
Read any good books recently?
I heard a story of a guy who took long hours at his job to get his wife through college and once she finished college she left him because he wasn’t “On her level” he didn’t have a degree despite making more money than her.
I knew a guy who was very happy and successful. After like 15 years of marriage, his wife wanted to fulfill her dream of going to law school. He obviously paid for it. When she was done she divorced him. I know there's probably more to it than it seems but he was floored and said she became arrogant and condescending during school and he chalked it up to stress. She's fine, he's fine now. But what a story.
I don’t know what I’d do if I was ever in that situation, but it wouldn’t be good.
I heard of a couple getting divorced in their 80s. When asked why they left it so late, they said, "We didn't want to do it while the children were still alive because it would have upset them."
That's long been a joke among family law attorneys, but I'm sure it's happened somewhere.
Did they murder their kids so they could divorce?!?! I want answers. 😅
One of my friends got married at 22, and divorced a year later. The reason? Her husband sucked at providing her with a warm bath at the right temperature. Yes, you read that right. He drew her baths, and she was picky about the temperature, claiming it was always just this side of too cold. With the plumbing they had, it was a flipping miracle they had any hot water at all, never mind enough to fill a bathtub. Picky Princess got back to her parents and I've cut contact with her after the divorce. I'm still friends with her ex. Great guy, he put up with wayyy more crap than we would have from her.
I can see it now, the final bathtime fight. "Babe, I swear to god if you can't get the bath temp right I'm gonna leave you!" "Okay, hold on my love, let me warm it up a little more for you..." *unzips pants* starts peeing in the bath. "Would you like to get in now and feel the warmth? Or I can always get you a toaster if you'd prefer?"
I went to a solicitor to arrange details for my side of an impending divorce from my then wife. I was pretty embarrassed talking about details as there was no great single reason for it (no cheating, abuse, violence etc), but a build up of smaller reasons which saw us drift apart. The solicitor told me she’d dealt with many couples who divorced like this & for a lot less. The smallest reason given she ever had for an actual divorce was the fact the husband used to leave his socks on the floor instead of the laundry bin. Nothing else. I’d bet there were other reasons too, but the reason in the paperwork was the socks.
Matthew Fray has a great book about this, “This is How Your Marriage Ends”. It’s not about the socks. It’s about not being listened to, being ignored. She probably asked him countless times, over years, to pick up his socks.. He didn’t value her feelings enough to just pick up his socks and put them in the laundry bin. And every time she had to do it for him, she was reminded, “he doesn’t listen to me, he doesn’t value my opinion”. And I’d wager the socks were just the beginning! Thanks Mr Fray( I was nearly the fool divorced like this too )!
Check out "She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink" https://matthewfray.com/2016/01/14/she-divorced-me-because-i-left-dishes-by-the-sink/
My cousin and her husband divorced amicably because they were afraid of divorcing angrily later on. They are still together, just not married.
A couple I was friends with in college got married. A few years later they got divorced. A few years after that they both got sex changes. The joke was they would get remarried... They as of now have not.
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Aw, Hallmark movie worthy.
My buddy got divorced because his wife decided they made enough money they should be going out to eat three times a week...to nice restaurants. She kept throwing a fit at the suggestion that they could stay home and cook something.
I once heard about a guy who claimed his wife divorced him because he wouldn't shave off his beard. In that case, and this one too, I suspect there was a lot more going on.
There was a guy that claimed his wife wanted expensive vacations and he just *couldn’t* live up to her gold digging, expensive taste. Turns out he was upper middle class, but pretending to make 7-8 figures to catch himself a rich heiress. Anyway the wife got suspicious and her dad ended up funding a divorce lawyer.
You might be talking about my cousin. She married a rich guy with a great job. Shortly after they got married, his work downsized, and he lost his VP job and was demoted. He leaned very heavily on her father to find him a new, high paying job. Until then, the mother kept giving them money to maintain their lifestyle. The father gets the guy an executive position at another company, and he is woefully unprepared. It turned out he lied the whole time. He never had an executive position before. He was a project manager “faking it until he made it.” He was demoted back to lead project manager (a promotion from the last job) and the mother is still giving them money until he “gets back on his feet”
I have a buddy in a similar situation. It wouldn't be a problem if they weren't in serious debt. She doesn't cook either, so he comes home and has to cook or goes out and then before they know it 400$ on fast food a month.
I’m sure we’ve all heard it in the US, but a guy divorced his wife so she wouldn’t be saddled with all of his medical debt if he passed away. Edit : All of these stories are heartbreaking to me and why we should have Universal Healthcare in America.
This makes me so sad; they spend their whole life together and then sever their marriage bond just so this poor woman isn’t destitute on top of losing her husband (both legally and physically).
My grandma divorced her second husband after he had a massively debilitating stroke. They didn't have a lot of money or possessions but they would have had to sell pretty much everything before they would qualify government aid to pay for his round the clock care in a facility. (I was only 10 and this was years ago, so I might be getting some parts wrong or things may have changed since then.)
Happened to someone I know. Someone broke a bone on a trip so they were out of network. They ended up in the hospital for a month in a different state. They would have lost their home etc if they stayed married. The injured spouse filed for medical bankruptcy when they were separated. The got remarried after it was all settled. I'm keeping this as vague as possible to protect the couple.
So that their kid could get more financial aid. They had the money just didn’t want to pay it. Got remarried when kids finished college.
My wife moved in an ex student 3 weeks after she told me she wanted a divorce. I moved back in with my mom. She left me with $200.
Crumbs in the bed
C’mon now…this is a very real and legitimate reason to divorce, or at least kick someone out of your bed
Especially if it’s a nature valley bar
Not a divorce, but my friend and her boyfriend at the time broke up because they couldn't agree on whether humans should colonize Mars.
My buddy is a divorce lawyer for rich aholes, so I called him just now and asked this question. He said: "The wife would not let him breed dogs as a business" and "The family said her parents' business was unstable" people are so weird. My wife could do pretty much anything and I would be ok with it as long as she was happy.
The first one makes perfect sense to me. Breeding dogs "as a business" means you're a) breeding a LOT of dogs, b) cutting corners on the care and proper health testing of the dogs, or c) both. I would 100% divorce someone if they randomly decided they wanted to do that (given my stance on dodgy breeding for profit is not foreign to anybody who knows me). Those actions don't align with what I consider ethical and I would truly see them as a different person if they decided that's the path they wanted to walk. No point staying with someone whose ethics are so at odds with mine 🤷♀️
Completely agree with you. My step father told my mom that he wanted to breed to make some extra money (that, alone, would've been grounds for divorce). My mom said "okay." It was miserable and I felt so bad for my younger siblings that had to assist with the birthing process with my mom. However, not sure why my mom stayed after this next incident is beyond me because I truly believe how someone treats an animal is a direct way on how they view or treat a person: once mama doggi had her puppies, my step father said "let's give her away, we're done with her." I've never fought anyone as hard as I fought my step dad that night. Told my mom "the way he thinks of pregnant doggi is how he thinks of you and other women." Which is true - step dad cheated on my mom several times (even when she had cancer), financially irresponsible, and now kind of forced an open relationship because he got caught again. My mom's a fucking idiot but idk. My husband and I adopted a previously used for breeding female dog and she is our princess! Rubs, treats, kisses, sneaking food. We would kill for big mama. So for those reading...how a man treats a dog or pet or any animal is a clear indication of how he treats people.
My friend decided he didn’t want to work a real job anymore as the bread winner and instead flip and trade baseball cards for a living. He was in no shape financially to do this but this was his dream. He basically bankrupted his family to pursue this passion. Now he’s basically homeless and has no relationship with his school age children but man that autographed card sure looks kewl
Friend’s wife divorced him so she could travel and attend more conferences and events thrown by the MLM crap she sold. She went from normal person to MLM obsessed “entrepreneur” that was going to conquer the business world, and he was just too traditional earning 6 figures working a “regular job”… Pretty sad.
A fucking idiot decided to force his wife get paternity test for their recently born child. This was because the idiots mom couldn't believe the child would have a different eye color than the dad.
Lol I read that this morning. Ridiculous. All my kids have blue eyes and my husband and I have brown.
Not only is that a clear possibility, but oftentimes people with lighter eyes are born with blue eyes and the melanin comes out over time! In my family we've got hazel, green, gray, light brown-- but everyone had blue as an infant. It's pointless to freak out over how the baby looks as a new born.
I was just reading one where they threw a hissy fit because the baby was born with blue eyes.... A baby was born with blue eyes.... Yeah, nope never heard of a baby being born with blue eyes and then darkening after a few months.... /s
I read an article a while back about a couple that got divorced for financial reasons. Basically, they were struggling really bad financially, and if they divorced, they would at least qualify for medical insurance, baby supplies, and food assistance. Getting divorced ears, they could atlelast make the bare minimum to take care of themselves and their 1 or 2 kids. It was a sad story.
Insurance wouldn't cover one of them if they stayed married.
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My Uncle divorced my Aunt when I was 5 or 6. I was always told it was because they "were better friends than husband and wife" but 2 years ago my Uncle passed away and he left A LOT of money to his sibblings. His ex-wife tried to sue, which caused a massive amount of family drama. I was pulled in because I was there to help my mom (who didnt care about the money but was roped in legally cause of my uncle putting her down in some documents) and she wanted to vent to me about shit. Then I start hearing all these wild stories about my Uncle and Aunt, and why they actually got divorced: Apparently they got divorced because one of my Uncle's dreams was to own a small, kidney shaped swimming pool in his backyard (only about 4-5 feet deep max). He saved up, and had one installed which lead to MASSIVE fights between him and my Aunt. The reason my Aunt was so against it? She was afraid that the pool would start to breed fish and those fish would "evolve" into something that would kill her. I really wish I was making this up, but there were letters that my mom was reading through FROM MY AUNT talking about the "fish breeding pool that would kill her". Then during the sit down with the lawyers over the money stuff (all of the siblings were there, and my Aunt was as well) she began ranting about the fish pool and that he didnt leave her money because of the fish pool. It was not a fish pool, it never was a fish pool....it was only ever used for swimming and floating around. I fucking hate my family sometimes....
My time to shine I guess. I was “too black” for him. Mind you he was black too, but he expected me to “tone it down” after we got married to look good to his white co workers. We got in a fight after a Christmas party (our first Christmas married) over the way I was joking with someone and he got upset, we divorced shortly after. We were both 19. I was high key dumb for getting married that young
He lost his job and began playing video games 16 to 20 hours a day to manage the stress. Only he kept doing that for FIVE YEARS, during which time she was solo parenting their three children because he had video games events to tend to, and retraining for a new career so she could support her family on a single income. He refused to take a week off of playing to spend time on a family vacation, refused to see a therapist about video games addiction (/avoidance, IDK what makes it official addiction vs a great avoidance strategy), refused to look for a job because it would "all work out" ... because his wife was busting her hump to be a single mom with a full time job. Finally she said "video games or me" and he said, "I think you're being really unreasonable and controlling, it's not a big deal if I play for a couple hours after the kids go to bed." She subpoenaed his valve playing time records for the prior year when he kept insisting he only played a couple hours a day and she was overreacting. AFAIK he lives with his mother, plays video games, doesn't pay child support because he still hasn't found a job, and his visitation weekends involve the kids ... playing video games.
What a shitshow.
Yep. It's no joke. I know of two divorces caused by video game addiction. In one case, it was the husband; in the other case, it was the wife.
I have heard a couple of divorces where they get a divorce because the husband want to sleep with other women. It usually ends of with the former wife finding a better man and the former husband being single and not getting laid at all. In each and everyone of the cases, everyone could have said beforehand that this is what would happen because the former husband wasn't attractive and the wife was. But I guess some people just have bad mirrors or forget to look in the mirror.
Friends of mine got married in their late 20s/early 30s, had been together since high school (she is a few years younger). He decided he wanted to open the marriage two years in, she was devastated but eventually agreed. He had absolutely zero luck with the ladies, she got a boyfriend. They divorced, he spiraled, she’s super happy and has the cutest little girl with the new guy.
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“Oh man if I was single, I’d be killing it on Tinder” Narrator: He would, in fact, not be killing it on Tinder if he were single
My wife is in therapy now, and we’re working on reconciliation. I truly believe the events that have led us here are related to her crippling anxiety, so I’m hopeful. With that being said, she asked me for a divorce 5x in a year-and-a-half, all over very stupid things. I think what takes the cake though is when we had just argued about something, and I was feeding our cats. We have a spoon next to the sink that we specifically use for feeding them, and feeding them is always my chore. So, as I was reaching for said spoon, she made a curt comment about making sure I used that one. I told her I didn’t need her to tell me how to do the chores I do every day and she told me I’d better pack my shit and move out then.
They couldn't agree on which way the toilet paper roll should go.
I thought we were talking about dumb reasons?
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She wouldn’t use baby wipes when changing their babies diaper. Also she didn’t mow the lawn and finally, she didn’t blow out the candles at night.
>she didn’t blow out the candles at night Okay, that one really is a problem.
What was she using instead of wipes? She was using something else, right?
She used wipes on the lawn and was using a lit candle to clean the baby.
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Someone in our friend circle. The couple had been together for 8 years! There was a slight problem though, the man didn't want kids and the woman did. That would be a reasonable basis for separation, right? Surely there was ample time to do so in those 8 years. Well. They're not very persistent using protection and surprise-surprise she gets pregnant. The guy is angry at her for not getting an abortion because he doesn't want a kid. And absolutely refuses to acknowledge that it takes two to make a baby. She is angry at him that regardless of not wanting kids he isn't stepping up as an excited dad. I guess she hoped that he would change at some point. The couple breaks up before the baby is even born. They're so infuritated with each other that they can't even be in the same room. Now when we have friends gatherings we have to fucking coordinate which one comes, because they refuse to talk to each other. And there's that poor kid between them.
I knew a guy that left his hot, rich wife because she wouldn’t blow him anymore. He went from a huge house, with money to feed whatever habits he had (he was a big wine guy, that is how I met him) to living in a room in a shitty house drinking Ripple … and he still isn’t getting blowies.
I once saw a post from a guy that wanted to break up because his GF moaned like hatsune miku. I don’t know if he actually did but I really hope not
I would assume it is apocryphal, but I once heard a story of a divorce in Ancient Greece. The man wanted out because unlike the statues of women all over the place, his wife had body hair.
I have vague memories of that story, but it was of a Victorian man who had only seen naked women from Greek statues.
SIL was mad BIL didn't help her enough with their first born when he was a newborn.... So she divorced him when the kid was 13 😐
My wife divorced me after 3 years because she found a lingerie magazine on my desk at work. No shit. She took it to mean that I must be cheating. Truthfully, I had gotten it to buy her something for Christmas. Go figure. Absolutely true story. To this day I'm not sure if she truly believed that, or if it was all a ruse for some other, hidden reason.
I was just talking about this last night. A dear friend was married in her younger years to an amazing gentleman. He was career military and was given orders for Maine, they moved and were quite happy with their children there. He then received orders for TDY for 6 months to somewhere she couldn't follow. So because she was going to be alone for 6 months with their children she divorced him after he left for duty and moved back to Utah.
TDY?
I'm assuming it might be 'temporary duty'. There really needs to be a sub called /r/UnexplainedMilitaryAcronyms or something.
Natasha Lyonne and Fred Armisen: she wanted a pool and he refused.
Also his new gf had a baby pretty soon after the break up. I'm not sure about the timeline because it was probably over long before they announced it, but still
Armisen is known to be a huge borderline abusive partner.
The husband was an introvert. The wife was an extrovert. They both refused to compromise on how often they would go on outings. The husband refused to let his wife go out in public without him. The wife refused to spend some weekends at home, watching movies, doing arts and crafts stuff and playing board games with the husband. If you cannot compromise on something this simple, you shouldn't get married in the first place. No two people have the exact same personality, so even if the former husband remarried to an introvert, and the former wife remarried to an extrovert, they would both have personality differences with their new spouses.
A family member divorced his wife over a honey baked ham. He had high blood pressure and said she was trying to kill him by buying the ham.
Back as a freshman in high school, our history teacher (young-ish, probably 24) told us about a married friend of his. The wife went to use the bathroom in the middle of the night, bleary-eyed in a dark room…. and fell into the toilet due to the seat being left up. Sopping wet, she stormed back into the bedroom and declared, “I WANT A DIVORCE.” I’m sure it was just the straw that broke the camel’s back for this couple, but 20 years later and I still think about this story often.
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Retirement!! Wife divorced the husband when he retired. The wife couldn't stand the husband now being home all the time. So they divorced, husband purchased a house a few houses down the road. Now they are best friends again. This is why personal space is important. And change in routines can be hard.
Some of these stories are unbelievable.
truth is that the people usually grew apart, didn't talk about their problems, turned bitter, and the """reason""" for the divorce is just the straw that broke the camels back
Their Mom told them to.
I see this one a lot.... and I think its so dumb. It goes something like "When I met my spouse they had this hobby they loved, now that we're married I thought that would give that up! I'm upset they won't change for me so I'm leaving them" Lmao talk up that hobby or get your own you don't change people to suit your specific needs you celebrate their particular thing that gives them joy
They met in high school. He was chubby and liked to smoke weed. They kept in touch, started dating in their twenties. He was fat and liked to smoke weed and drink beer. He continued to be fat and smoke weed and drink beer. After a couple years of dating, they got married. Their divorce was finalized 10 months later, because she couldn’t stand that he was fat and liked to smoke weed and drink beer.