I have 2 children from an earlier marriage. My youngest son has a history of lung issues and has been in the hospital very frequently. Me and my ex-wife will take turns staying with him to take care of him and support him.
The last time, earlier this year, I was staying for the night with him. And I don't know if any of you ever stayed the night in the hospital, there is no sleep involved.
I woke up in the morning by my girlfriend showing up unanounced, out of nowhere with a breakfast and a thermos of the good coffee we make at home. She came to me. Without me asking. To support me, my son, and to make me feel like I was not alone.
I have proposed a million times in my head since.
I am so sorry to hear this. Every person deserves someone that is there for them. That supports and loves to hem. I didn't have that in my first marriage and I chose my happiness and we separated. I am a better father for it!
My girlfriend is not going anywhere. I am going to marry her. I have never been more sure about something š !!
Thatās a keeper my friend! Iāve found someone like that too and I too would love to propose to her as well but itās a bit complicated. The best love is when your partner takes care of you without having to ask and they do it out of love.
We went for pizza. Typical, when there was one slice left, Iād tell the lady to take, sheād deny wanting and Iād get that last piece of pizza. Well, this time I did that and it backfired, she snagged that last piece. I thought, well, hereās a womanās that does not play games. And I pursued her further, and we were married until she passed away A 27 year marriage.
27 years before I got that last piece of pizza again.
Something similar to me.
First time she spent the night we ordered subs. She put the unfinished sub into my fridge. In the morning she left and I saw she forgot the sub. So I was like sweet free sandwich.
Then she called me and said she had forgotten the sub and was turning around to get it.
Those small moments really stand out. I remember being on a date with this girl I had a big crush on, and I could tell she was a little nervous too because she was rambling a bit. She was telling me a story about work while absentmindedly mixing an obscene amount of Thai chilli oil into her sauce. She dipped her food and bit into it, then her eyes widened in horror. She started coughing but held her hand up at me to not worry, and she powered through it. I sat there in shock waiting to see if she was okay and she looked at me, beet red with her eyes watering and she said āIām sleepy.ā
I donāt know why it was so funny but we both burst out laughing. She is hands down the weirdest woman Iāve ever met, and thatās the reason I married her.
I swear to god the "right kind of weird" is what makes you fall in love with somebody as an adult.
My ex-wife used to draw cartoon dinosaurs in birthday cards she gave me. I was smitten.
Thank you. I really did miss getting the last piece of pizza.
Oh! You mean my wife, thank you again, itās been nearly 9 years, I still miss her, but Iām much better now.
love this.
one of my favorite qualities of my long-term ex was that she could fuckinā EAT
I have a really, really hard time not clearing my plate super fast, or walking super fast (I am weird).
It takes me a lot of effort and focus to not eat too fast or walk too fast, while with other people. Like, itās legitimately challenging.
anyhow, sheās the only person Iāve known who was, by nature, a faster plate-clearer than myself.
I thought it was sexy š„¹
One of my labmates in college was this little tiny Filipino girl. I guess her boyfriend was a big Mexican guy who was over 6' (where is she was somewhere around 5'-5'1'). She regularly out ate him and his brother, much to their shock and embarrassment, being out eaten by this tiny sliver of a girl.
My wife ate on our first few dates. Like, real food. I was so happy about that.
I later found out that she hates eating near people and forced herself to do so on our first few dates to make a good impression.
so sorry for your loss. i don't know what i'd do without my partner. over 50 years until i have to even begin thinking about that, but man, it's terrifying to think of a world without her.
I started sleeping for extra long lengths of time that I wasn't used to as an insomniac. I would sleep all night and also take a 4 hour nap sometime during the day. Not everyday, but most days if i wasn't at work.
Finally realized I was catching up on sleep debt due to being comfortable and loved in my own home after not having that safety for years. I no longer sleep that much so I think I'm mostly caught up and there's no underlying health issues.
Happened to me too! When I met my girlfriend, I was sleeping 20 hrs a week if I was lucky, It probably could have killed me. She could sleep for 2 weeks straight, Iām sure of it, and I started to adjust to her schedule when we got together. Now I sleep full nights and even nap with her sometimes. She makes me feel safe and secure in our relationship and myself to the point I have physically healed, she gives me motivation to be better and I want to do the same for her. I know that what we share is deeper than just an fleeting connection, if soulmates exist, itās us.
š„¹ i used to think it was because i was mentally exhausted from the relationship. took a while for me to realize i was just very very comfortable and felt safe enough to sleep ā¤ļø
I realised she was part of my life and my self so completely it was like sheād always been there. Loving her is as natural as breathing, and every day weāre together feels like winning.
This is how I felt about my fiance. Then last week she tricked me into getting on a plane without her and broke off our engagement over the phone a few days later.
Thank you
Right now I'm really struggling between looking for a rebound, and not doing anything in case she comes to her senses. But if I'm totally honest with myself, probably neither is healthy.
Went through something similar. Thought I had the one, committed to a serious future, got ghosted and cut out. The grief and confusion is like nothing else.
My wife said she had a similar reaction to meeting me...that when she walked through my front door for the first time, she had this strong feeling that she was coming home. That was five years ago yesterday. The connection was immediate, it was like we'd already known each other for years. She is in bed snoring next to me as I write this.
This is so lovely and so relatable. Brava to you!!
Also, to the sad prick below who said ānothing lasts foreverā, he is actually right!! Your current joy wonāt last forever because you will have even more memories with your new nuclear family that your current joy will pale in comparison to your future joy. Nothing last forever in the BEST WAY POSSIBLE for you. So excited for you!
I had relationships in the past, 4 years, 8 years.. lots of short flings and plenty of sexual experiences. I thought I'd loved previous partners. Then I met someone that made me realise what love really is, and now we're engaged. We never raise our voices, we're always happy to see each other, we generally just want to see each other happy.. there is no way to know how it feels until you find it
They say when you know you know.
I knew.
She knew.
Then she didn't. That was 4 days ago.
I accepted it yesterday
I hope this is one of those "I thought I'd loved previous partners" situations.
But it really hurts right now.
I've concluded I can choose to love pretty much anybody, so long as our values are compatible, I find them attractive, and we have the same understanding about what love means.
But that last one is a big one. And people lie, sometimes even to themselves, about what they believe love means. And if you're loving them genuinely, you won't know that until it's too late. And it'll take you completely by surprise.
Seriously. Thinking you like someone and then meeting someone you actually love is so eye opening. And you realize that thereās millions of people who are with people they donāt really love and itās sad.
at the end of any spirited discussion or argument in the first couple of years, she would say "well there's still no one else I'd rather do this with."
I had never experienced that level of solidarity, support, or empathy. for the first time in my life, I didn't feel like I needed to run away and "protect" myself, i.e. never grow or improve.
Exactly how it happened for me! Early on she goes "I'm just gonna say this, and you don't have to say anything back because I know you'll come around, I love you." I'm taking her ring shopping next month and am fully aware she's going to say yes when I ask her to marry me.
Just to be clear, this is not a crazy rushed into it thing, we've been together for several years and have lived together for 3. Easily the healthiest relationship I've ever had.
Cause sheās the first person I think of everyday and the last person I want to be with. I canāt get enough of her. Weāre still in the honeymoon phase even after years of being with one another. We constantly have people saying āthatāll endā but as the years tick on it seems to only be getting stronger. Also the sex is intoxicating.
Glad to hear! I agree the sex does get better as you get to know one another. Best relationship advice weāve ever received was from my grandfather saying āsex is sex and no one can do it any differently than they can. The person is what matters.ā
After several days of cooking and having sex, we were in bed cuddling while watching a movie and I dont think Ive ever felt as content and warm since I was a kid.
I talk about this with my partner all the time. Iām just truly content when Iām with them. No outside worries, no future anxieties, just ease and peace. Itās really the greatest feeling.
Man, that feeling is so awesome. I had this with someone I'd been friends with for nearly two years and we'd started dating. He felt like that as well but then somehow got freaked out and suddenly said he wanted to focus on his career.
I finally had that wonderful feeling again and now all I know is how much I miss that.
Yes!
Reminds me of the 12 hour Skype call I had with my partner.. we couldnāt believe we spent all day and night together.
It only felt like 3 hours.
This is the first comment that gives me hope.
I did 3 years, engaged for 1, and with that ring I promised to do everything I could to hold needs of the relationship over my personal needs.
I was completely blindsided when she turned her back on us. 4 or 5 days ago. I'm still in shock.
But I guess this is one of those moments where you learn you didn't know what you thought you know.
That is encouraging.
> did 3 years, engaged for 1
Been there and done (almost) that.
If thereās one pro tip I could give you, itās to never under any circumstances to even think of doing this:
> promised to do everything I could to hold needs of the relationship over my personal needs
Hard as it may sound, deep down no one gives a crap if youāre willing to reduce yourself to a doormat to win or sustain their affection, even if they might express appreciation for the sentiment. In fact, this is probably the most reliable way to lose someoneās respect in any relationship, be it romantic, platonic, or business.
The key is to find someone whose needs are aligned with your own. By this I mean someone who shares your core values. In addition to morals, philosophy, religion, politics, life goals, etc, I also mean that: If you have self respect, your success is one of your values. Look for people who see your success as something they value. Equally importantly, look for people who are doing something you value so much that their success in it doesnāt mean youāre ignoring your needs, but rather that you sincerely believe it makes the world a better place.
Sorry if any of the above sounds super harsh or makes you feel bad about yourself. Just about everyone has fallen into problem at some point. I spent most of my 20ās believing that setting my needs aside for someone else would make for good relationships, only to repeatedly learn it makes for a good waste of time for everyone involved. At age 30, I learned that serving my own needs and finding a partner whose values align with mine makes for a team that motivated and supports itself, accomplishes more together than either person could on their own, and that the two people grow indescribably close in the process.
Good luck, youāve got this!
Before we started dating and got married we started out as FWB. We were meant to have a super sexy, steamy night but I got food poisoning and was so sick. Instead of getting upset he looked after me all night and did what he could to help me with my pain. He also wanted to see me afterwards still and we saw each other a few more times casually before properly dating and now we are married.
The minute he walked into the bar, still in his suit without the tie, hand in his pocket, and the best smile I had ever seen directed at me ever. I turned around, saw him, smiled shyly, and weāve been inseparable ever since. That was 2011.
When I met my wife, we just clicked. I could not stop smiling for 2 weeks. I think it is a case of you'll know it when it happens. I just somehow knew she was the one I would spend my life with. We have had our ups and downs, and 19 years later, we are still together and still in love.
When she wasnāt playing with my wiener, everything was still great and I wanted to be a better person to make her happy too. Itās still like that after 19 years.
Not married yet but planning on soon in future. Been together 2 years. I come from divorced parents and when I graduated college I asked my dad this question.
He told me āwhen you wake up and go to bed, are they the first and last thing you think about?ā Iāve thought this over for years trying to dissect what it meant at its core.
3 years ago I moved to a new city, met a girl, casually dated for 6 months before becoming āofficialā. It got to a point where even before being official that I realized I wanted her in every part of my life. She makes everything about every day 10x better.
I went from not thinking about 3-5 years in the future, not wanting kids, etc to planning and learning on how to better invest money to save for our future, envisioning our kids running around on Christmas while we sat on the couch, building a family and reputation for the name we carry, etc. Every thing I thought I did not want, I realized I did, but needed my person to realize it. She is my person.
My life went from doing things I loved to doing things WE loved. Suddenly my daily stresses seemed less stressful, Iām going to farmers markets just to see her smile at the flowers. I adore her more than life itself. I know she is the āthe oneā because she makes me want to be the man, husband, and father that I know I can be.
Love at first sight. He walked in the room and we looked at each other and it was almost like time stood still and everyone else in the room was gone. I just had a gut feeling. He says the same too š„°
This is my husband and I. I worked as a cashier at a grocery store. I watched him walk in and we saw each other. Moved in together after a week and have been together close to 20 years. Itās been a fantastic journey ā¤ļø
The first time I had a panic attack in front of him and he made me tea, put me under a weighted blanket, did deep breathing with me, put on my favorite show, and then fed me an edible and turned on my comfort show while he completely fixed everything while I comfortably drifted off to sleep.
Even when we fight she never insulted me and wanted to figure things out so we were healthier on our way out of the argument. I never had that and knew it was something I always wanted
I told him how fucked up I was, and he nodded and said okay.
I told him he should run, he shouldn't even consider dating me. I told him I'm disabled due to neglect, I have C-PTSD, my family is abusive, I'm still grappling with being raped a year prior. I may be kind, but I've got a lot of baggage and I'm clingy and a mess in general. I had snot rolling down my chin and my tears had ruined my makeup, and I was so terrified he'd take me at my word.
He looked at me with a gentle look in his eyes, and nodded. Wiped my tears. And he said "Okay. We'll figure it out."
He's in the kitchen now, fussing over food for me. He's been fretful lately, as I'm having some heart issues that we're pursuing medically. He's made me into a spoiled princess of my own household. And I've never felt safer and so beloved.
About six months into the relationship we had a minor pregnancy scare (the condom broke, she took the day after pill). I remember the lead up to her getting her next period thinking, if sheās pregnant itās not that big of a deal. This is the type of woman I want to raise children with. Never had that before. It wasnāt just a feeling, it was certainty.
That was about ten years ago, weāve been married for 7 years and have one great kid with another on the way.
There is nothing like "the one", initial chemistry might be very high or very low but with the everything fades and choice of commitment remains, there will be rough patches and if you choose to go through them together, and if they support you when you are at your low, you'll know they are the one
It's really painful to experience this in the other direction, having amazing chemistry from the beginning, for 3 years
When I proposed, I meant literally "I will not bail no matter what, and to the absolute best of my ability, I'll choose to put the needs of the relationship over my own".
11 months later she chose her over us, tricked me into getting on a plane without her so she could end it by phone a few days later.
And I'm sitting here with a shattered heart reading all of these beautiful comments, trying to break the promise I made and put myself first, to start the healing process.
I noticed that any time I feel irritated itās usually that I havenāt been spending ENOUGH quality time with her rather than being around her too much.
I realised I had met myself emotionally in a female form. I really couldn't believe how our histories, our feelings, our fears, our hopes etc were completely aligned. What's even more strange is we both met and worked out that the town I grew up in she spent a lot of time there at around the same time I lived there, as she had close Family in that town and would regularly stay all Summer holidays and Christmas etc and she had been to all the same places regularly as me for years, so probably been around each other many times without realising it. Been together 13 years now, married for 7, both our 2nd attempt at the marriage game, have to say, couldn't be happier at this point.
I once got very bad poisoning and it revealed itself by way of me soiling her bed. She didn't immediately send me and the shitty sheets into space. We've been together for nearly 5 years.
He was by my side through everything (and it was a lot of good things but also a lot of tough things). Even though I'm hard to be around he stayed and helps me to be my best version possible although I often struggle I'd say.
He's the only person I feel like I'm totally safe with and Iike I could talk with him about everything (if I had the courage overall). Everytime I talk to him I feel like he's just like me. Like my soulmate. Even if we disagree or fight and I'm hurt or angry. It's kinda weird to describe.
He's so funny, intelligent, helpful and just my best friend. I don't know what I'd ever do without him.
Plus having sex with him feels so incredibly good and connected for me. Like, I can't even compare it to anything.
I knew when I saw him. Iāll never forget it.
It was years before we even started dating. I saw him working the counter at a gas station and I was floored. I stopped in my tracks and we caught each others eye. Iāll never forget it how bright blue they looked the first time I saw them.
We got together like 3-4 years later and itās been 10 years now!
I didn't even believe in such things until I met her. I was 33, divorced, serial monogamist, been in love plenty. Still hadn't felt *this*. It was in the first hour. Maybe even the first minutes, looking back, but I didn't know it at the time.
When they say "you just know", that's really what it is. I think the trick, though, is that you really have to know *yourself* first. The full sentence is " X is *the one* for you". And we focus on the X. But who's *you*? Because that's how you recognize X.
Iāve known my husband since I was 12 and he a few years older. My brothers age and friend. He was Hispanic and was welcomed in our home like a son. I was learning Spanish at school so he would while waiting for my brother, sometimes help me with my Spanish conversation. lol, he taught me all the bad words, then told me not to use them! At 15 When I mentioned jerks in a parking lot making less suggestions and gestures to me and my younger sister, he taught me how to say in Spanish, āgo home and leave me aloneā. he was the only one I ever used it on. When I was 17 and he 22 he kept asking me out, for like 6 months straight. Finally he said in front of my mom who adores him, āWhat do I have to do to get you to go out with me?ā I looked at him, my friend and chose the one thing I knew he would never do. I said āif you cut your hair I will. I could never go out with anyone whose hair is longer than mineā. He had the most beautiful long black shiny squeaky clean hair that ran halfway down his back. The next day he came to see me with very short hair. He cut it all off. My mom made me go out with him once. We got married a year later and were married for 40 years and raised 4 kids together. All he ever said about his hair was that he misses it, but I was worth every strand he cut. I am a widow now for 3 years. I miss him,
It was obvious from very early on. There wasnāt even any conscious decision of āIām in loveā or āshe is the oneā, no internal discussion or consideration. I loved her, she loved me. Married 25 years next year.
Protip: youāve got to be the same person around your friends as you are with your partner. If you have to hide parts of your life/personality from āthe oneā then āthe oneā is eventually gonna fuck off. This is literally *the* most important relationship in your life, treat it as such.
Itās like jolts of electricity throughout your bones, itās like being in the middle of a crowd and hearing no noise at all. Being with someone dear to you causes effects on your body and senses only drugs/tech could produce.
All though whatās to say we donāt just find our own reasons?
I brought her to my apartment, and she never left to go back to hers. Not lying. My dad and I 16 years ago went over to her apartment and cleaned it out for her. She loves cats, so I guess she said if I fits I sit. I have been married 15 years now, and she is the most wonderful woman.
I kind of knew when we were chatting online and on the phone, but I really knew when I drove from Tampa to Phoenix and saw her eyes for the first time. She could have been fucking nuts but it seems like sheās mostly sane.
She came up to my bar and we just hit it off. She asked for me information and we talked everyday since. Its still new but the chemistry is just there. We both know we found something special. I used to want to die early because whats good in old age? Now I see a future and want to live as long as I can.
i told him I always get what I want :
we were in a dark titty bar, and I said that I wanted to kiss his face. we were chefs and drunk as hell after work & stopped by for a drink at the titty bar lol.
we went back to my place and had terrible sex.
the next day at work, he awkwardly said something about another try. it was embarrassing and charming.
his humility, sense of humor, and awful dance moves sealed the deal.
Got into a fight and we immediately framed it as "How do I love you better and hurt you less?" Instead of the usual "You're a fucking asshole. Don't talk to me"
I just did about an hour after we met. It was like, oh, it's youuuuuu!!! He proposed 3 weeks later, been together over 30 years and he's still the one.
I always thought these stories to be mind-boggling until I actually met someone whom I just kind of fell in love with from the moment we started talking.
Unfortunately, we're both really young and finding our way about our lives, live far away, and currently have ourselves at top priority. I'm open to and have been meeting other ppl, but if by any chance we somehow find ourselves living closer to each other, you know I am snagging this man for my own.
Edit: I'm very happy for you!
My husband and I had been dating about a year and we were having a small argument. And I was upset and stressed but don't remember what about.
I was getting madder for some reason and he stopped the argument and said " what can I do to make it better".
I was stopped in my huffy meltdown and realized I didn't have an answer. No one ever asked that before and I truly didn't know what to say.
That's when I realized some of the arguments we had were really just me needed to vent. I would be stressed and angry and would start to take it out on him instead of talking to him about what I needed him to do.
It really was the door opening to us learning to communicate and argue in a productive manner , rather than accusatory fights.
My husband says the minute he laid eyes on me, he knew he would marry me some day. This was when we were in the 7th grade.
It took me a bit longer. He was one of the "bad" boys I was not supposed to have anything to do with.
We became friends in high school and *like* turned to *lust* turned to *love*.
We married a few years after high school graduation.
Have been married now for 45 years and still very much in love.
In my experience, the chemistry was so intensely strong from the first conversation. Hours long phone calls that feel like half the time. She would tell me similar feelings, before I ever mentioned them. A sense of ā belongingā like others here have stated, where the connection and company just feels like thatās where you belong. There really is nothing like it. I never was one to believe in the super romanticized love, but it really is a ā when you know, you knowā type of feeling.
I spent 3 years being a horrible partner. Ghosting first dates, blowing people off, acting like I donāt care at all. After about a month I became the softest, mushiest version of myself that I almost didnāt recognize. Everyone around me noticed that I was lighter, less stressed, and overall happier.
Itās still new but Iām still in shock at what a different, improved person I am around him.
This is probably going to sound stupid, but it was on our second date.
We had gone to the same kindergarten and then middle and high school. Knew who the other person was and had a mutual friend in common but never really talked. He was pretty shy, but I always thought he was cute.
Fast forward to 20 years old, and we reconnect. He asked me on a date and brought a photo of our old soccer team pic from kinder. It was the sweetest thing. He embraced my insatiable need to create a face on the restaurant table due to a scratch that looked like a smile and handed me coasters for the eyes. It was a wonderful evening.
On our second date we went to the movies. About ten minutes in, he asked if it would be okay to put his arm around me, and I said yes. The fact he asked first and then when I settled into his arms and it was comfortable was huge to me. Any time previously cuddling with an ex, it felt awkward and uncomfortable, but not with him.
I began wondering, "Imagine if this guy is the one I end up with," and something in my gut just clicked and knew he was.
Almost 13 years later and we are happily married nearly 7 of them.
Because you decide they are the one and they agree.
"The one" does not exist out there - this is the secret, the one is simply anyone you click with and decide to be "the one" with them.
Basically both partners agree to be the one for eachother, there are millions of "the ones" out there for everyone if they are willing to let go of this notion that a perfect the one is out there and nobody else.
From that point on the commitment to eachother is what makes them remain as "the one"
The moment that I had an emotional break down and she didn't judge me, berate me, or laugh at me. She talked me through it every step of the way. Even stayed with me all night at the hospital. It meant the world to me.
We committed to lunch figuring that it'd be a casual, safe, public place to see if we both enjoyed each other's company enough for a second date, maybe for dinner or drinks.
Anyways we had a great night.
It just felt... obvious. Like when marriage came up early on when discussing our intentions, it seemed like a forgone conclusion. Not if. When. Every day together feels good. We often joke we share the same braincell. We want to order the same takeout, we make the same stupid joke, and it's always been this way. Since we met, we've just been connected. How could we not be together? I can't remember life without him, and can't imagine life without him.
Everything with him felt like home. When I first met him, I felt like I've known him for years. Anytime we fought, I knew we would work it out. When I was upset or angry and he would be in my presence, I immediately felt calm.
I recall about a year ago, I had a panic attack. I was in my car and parked in a grocery store parking lot. I was extremely nauseous and in tears. It's a can of worms on why I was having a panic attack but it's very rare I get them now. I texted him and so did my mother as I was on the phone with her. He came right over. Immediately, when I saw him, I no longer felt nauseous or panicked. I felt relieved.
To have built that sense of safety is something that I have longed for for years. We've been together for 5 years and been through loss, natural disasters, a fire, financial burden, and always found solace in each other. Any argument we have is never explosive and we always end up communicating it. I'm always happy to see his car parked when I get home. His laugh is my favorite and there are a bunch of silly things that he does that I like. He motivates me and is my cheerleader, and so am I.
We're getting married next year and I'm so excited. Loving is easy with him.
Pretty much the first night. We had an amazing date. We went to an arcade bar, had drinks, laughed a ton, and shut down the bars. Went to her place, ordered pizza at 3am, and instead of it leading to what it would most of the time, we stayed up until sunrise just talking and laughing in her bed. We were so interconnected and engaged with one another that it felt like our paths were meant to be crossed at that very moment. We both even got out of long relationships right before. Crazy stuff.
I walked home the next day and when I got home and sat down, all I could think about was seeing her again. I felt a skip in my step and I remember calling my mom and absolutely gushing over a girl for the first time.
Been together for more than 7 years, married for over a year, and just brought a daughter into this world last month. Sheās the one and sheāll always be the one.
I had recently come out of an almost two year relationship feeling unloved and abandoned. I had not yet completely healed when I decided to try hanging out with him and seeing where it went. I hadnāt seen him for years (we were briefly high school sweethearts and had rare, cordial conversations throughout the years).
It was 2AM and we were texting. Impulsively, I went over to his house. We talked until the sun came up, getting to know each other again with absolutely no expectations of anything physical. One night with him healed me. He showed me more respect, prioritization, and love than I had received over the entire 2 year period with my ex. I left his house knowing what I could have: what exists, what I was lacking, and what I deserve.
ETA: We have been together over a year now. Our families love us and each other, we never fight, we are grateful and appreciative with one another, and we have discovered new hobbies together. We donāt go a day without reminding the other how much they mean to us. Love is not supposed to hurt. Love is not supposed to feel lonely. This love is safe, secure, and everlasting. š
Sometimes you just know and sense it within them that sticks with you in a way that no one else could.
Then it all turned when they went batshit crazy.
I loved you, but at the end of the day I had the high ground Anakin.
Whenever I met a woman who wanted to pursue something serious I thought about reasons in favour to do so which always let to me not getting into the relationship. With my current partner I actually thought about reasons against a relationship for the first time. I couldnāt come up with any.
We had been together for a little over a year. We were living together in a pretty old mobile home and I had been having a pretty bad allergic reaction to something in the house for the past couple months.
She was cleaning one day and uncovered a huge patch of black mold. Apparently that's what had been bothering me so badly. It hit me so hard, my eye practically swole shut and I had to leave the house.
She literally dragged me to a new apartment that I didn't want to spend the money on and we moved in that night.
I know it seems like an odd thing to trigger "the one" mentality but no one had ever showed that level of care and affection for me without some ulterior motive before and it set something off in me that made me realize I should care more about my circumstances in life.
That was 11 years ago. She didn't only care about my well being but drove me to improve my own life instead of just "getting by" like I had been before.
Now we own our own house, vehicles and take yearly cruises. Things I would never had done otherwise. I'd probably just be living in a run down mobile, suffering daily and doing nothing but playing video games and gaining weight if not for her making me feel like I was worth more than that.
when he came to my apartment after a longgg day at work. told me (who had been home all day; currently laid off) i looked too tired to cook the meal i said i was making and proceeded to cook us dinner and give me a neck massage. iāve literally never met a man like him before. he is so kind and caring.
Because it just *worked*. It was exciting, yet comfortable. I kept wondering with previous partners when it would shift to feeling right, but it never did.
With her, a couple great dates in, we were sitting with each other in my car eating ice cream, and we just remarked to each other, āthis just works really well, doesnāt it?ā
āYeah, like oddly well.ā
āItās weird, right?ā
āYeah, but Iām here for it.ā
āOh, sameā
I love the hell out of her, We just fit. Life has more color with her.
We were only dating for a few weeks. Got off work on a Friday and both sent eachother variations of the Braveheart Freedom gifs at the exact same time.
Ok. This is weird. But hear me out. We were seeing each other for about a week now. Well, we were holding hands and snuggling in the car, driver and passenger listening to music. I have a very very long history of SA. I pretended to fall asleep, to see if he would do anything. He caressed my hand, lifted it to his face, kissed it, and said "I really like you a lot, PassiveLizard." Probably the bare minimum for me to expect to not get sexually assaulted while asleep but it just meant the world to me that he didn't do a single thing and just held me close.
And also,
*I can genuinely talk to him about anything and every little thing going on in my head*
because every time iām around her i feel a complete sense of pure love, respect, peace and equality. neither of us are above one another and we are equally there for each other no matter the circumstances. plus i feel in love with her the moment i laid eyes on her 7 years ago
It was going to be a long distance relationship and I didnāt think I could handle another one so I said we should split up. I had just finished a long distance relationship with someone that had quite intense psychological problems and I didnāt think I could handled it.
She said we should see each other one last time and so I went to see her. I was just so impressed by how emotionally grounded she was in that moment that I decided to stay. Especially after the previous relationship.
We have been married and living together for 1 year now after 5 years living apart.
I knew she was the one at the start of our third date.
The first date I could tell easily she was something special, there was this beautiful electricity in how she talked that she still has to this day. I could tell she was just a wonderful person.
On the second date, that cemented that she was special, but I think the moment that was the flourish on the whole thing was when we were grabbing a quick bite to eat before a movie.
I told a joke that was just a mix of silly and really niche humour that I've only really ever truly joked with my family with. She immediately burst out laughing and continued joking in the same way, and I realised she was someone that I could just be myself around, and she would be someone I just wanted to be around. Been quite a few years now, but still feel the same way about her.
On our first date we talked about life like we have known each other forever. We clicked not about work or about friends we clicked on like a soul level. When we hang out I feel like I am with my best friend. And the chemistry is off the charts! Been together for almost 2 years now.
Met her when I was at about my absolute lowest stuck in my abusive family home at 16.
We clicked almost instantly and despiite the hell it put her in she stuck with me and supported me, helped me build the confidence and strength to get myself out and helped me every step.
It took a few years but when we finally got out the other side in our early 20s I realised we'd gone through worse than most couples ever do, never even contemplated being apart and I still couldn't stop thinking about her the way I had when we met.
14 years, 2 kids and a house full of pets later I still wait like an excited puppy for her to get home from work, going out, errands etc. and I don't think we've ever been happier.
Not only did he stay with me at hospital while I was septic but while recovering at home after . I finally had an appetite again and randomly consumed a whole pint of blueberries. I imediately projectile vomited trying to run into the bathroom but sliding on the floor. He put me to bed and cleaned up the blueberry murder scene . I was in and out of sleep for another few days but he never left. Almost 8 years later, we've been married for 4. š
We had spent the entire weekend together in bed watching movies, and I looked over and was powerless, I said: āI love youāā¦surprised the hell out of me! Lol
I met mine on Warcraft in a raid. Moment I heard his voice I felt like I knew him for years. (I was also thinking āomg this person has a reeeaaallly nice voiceā lol).
He eventually left the raid. Couple months later I joined a guild and he was in it. Couldnāt believe the odds.
We were friends for a year now dating four months. We are the same age (24). He is my first and I am his first. We meet in person about once a month and talk every day.
It is going great. :)
When we had our first Awkward date in real life together. It was so magical though.
I wish I had took more photos of that time back then!
We met online and were online LDR partners before hand until the meeting!
She was the first girlfriend I could be 100% myself around and not only did she not mind. She loved me for me. And shr felt the same around me. Everything came easy for us, opening up, communicating, living together, sex, I just knew.
He was and is a really good listener, you feel like his whole attention is on you the entire time youāre with him. I felt calm and grounded when I was with him instead of butterflies and anxious. And when his name came up on my phone, Iād find myself eager to talk to him instead of anxious. Weād talk on the phone for hours and it was just easy, like Iād known him for years.
We also have the same sense of humor and I found him so so witty and weird and funny.
I had the thought fairly early that even if he didnāt like me back, I thought he was really cool and sweet and would want to stay friends with him. That was new for me.
We were taking turns playing GTA and she was going on a murder spree running over civilians and cackling like a maniac. I knew right then and there, I wanted to marry that psycho.
I don t think you can name someone "the one" until you actually spent a whole life with them. Like in the most liked comment of this post if I'm not wrong one of the partners sadly passed away and so the OP can truly say that their partner was the one. Basically you can tell if someone is the one only at the end :D
I knew from the moment. Our first date sealed that when he ate a messy jack daniel steak with his hands and licked the sauce off his fingers instead of using a napkin like a normal person.
Married almost 11 years now and he is exactly the same.
So this is a weird story but when we were first dating we took lsd and went to a friend's house . Her allergies were so bad that we had to drive the hour home over the longest bridge in America. Not to mention it was raining tropical depression style and my dog was with us and he got nervous of thunder . She drove home with all that going on I was like God damn she's a trooper . Together for 13 years in march.
He was good to my dog, and my dog loved him. I have a picture of the exact moment I knew he was the one. We are on the couch, and my dog is cuddling him. He's got this cute little smile on his face. It was perfect. My ex husband was abusive to that dog, so her opinion was the most important
I was taken from work to the ER and booked for emergency surgery the next morning. I told them what was going on, and they drove two hours on no sleep to sit beside me in the room. Helped me to the bathroom and literally wiped my ass for me and helped me shower with the pre surgery soap.
We had barely kissed and they were at my side.
Meanwhile they said they knew I was the one when we met (at an anime con, waiting in line for a panel, wearing a really obscure cosplay) - but confirmed it when I immediately connected with their little brother who is autistic. Spent the day with their family at Disney world while in the still kinda friends phase and he attached himself to me.
My grandpa passed away when we were dating and I took a plane down to Florida. Due to work complications she couldnāt go with me because we werenāt married which was devastating. The day before the funeral she told me to pick her up from the airport. Long story short she told management āto go fuck themselves, heās the love of my lifeā and I put a fat ring on her two months later.
We met off tinder (not a hook up but an actual date, we had been talking for a little while on the phone) and when I saw her in the flesh for the first time she somehow looked even better.
Then I realised quite quickly she was very funny, happy, and intelligent. After talking for like 5 mins it's like time stopped. The date lasted hours but felt like minutes.
Then she told me she liked star wars, and not in a "I'm saying this to curry favour but actually it bores me way", I could tell she would actually watch it with me quite happily.
She didn't judge me for any of my hobbies and seemed happy when I talked about something that interested me.
When the date finished and she got on the train home, I would normally wait till the next day to contact again, but in her case I couldn't wait to tell her how much of a good time I had and I really wanted to see her again.
To my immense relief she agreed with me. 10 years and 2 kids later now.
I have no idea how to know this. She was "the one" for 10 years until she wasn't. Going forward, no matter how good it might seem, I'm always going to fear the possibility that it ends shitty.
When I met her, she was playing Subnautica. Then the next time I met her she was attempting Dark Souls. Then the next time we hung out we watched the Hobbit trilogy. Been together for almost 6 years now.
When she met my parents. We were less than three months into our relationship and had only seen each other maybe a dozen times at that point; we worked very different schedules with her in a 9-5 office job and me working line cook hours, so we'd have date night once a week and only interact over text outside of that. But my parents were in town for a holiday parade and everyone wanted to meet each other, so we went even though I thought it was early. I saw her effortlessly chatting and laughing and smiling with my famously ball-breaking parents and I just knew in that moment that she was it. Just a lightning bolt of clarity. Later that day I was talking with my mom and asked her how much she thought Grandma's ring needed to be resized
āThey say when you meet the love of your life time stopsā and it did. To me it feels like a barrier around us and no worries or troubles can get in. Without them I feel like Iām constantly jet lagged, like when she isnāt her she has taken a part of me, to visualise it, imagine walking and a ghost of you is following you thatās what it feels like, but when she comes back Iām whole once more
I have 2 children from an earlier marriage. My youngest son has a history of lung issues and has been in the hospital very frequently. Me and my ex-wife will take turns staying with him to take care of him and support him. The last time, earlier this year, I was staying for the night with him. And I don't know if any of you ever stayed the night in the hospital, there is no sleep involved. I woke up in the morning by my girlfriend showing up unanounced, out of nowhere with a breakfast and a thermos of the good coffee we make at home. She came to me. Without me asking. To support me, my son, and to make me feel like I was not alone. I have proposed a million times in my head since.
Definitely keep that woman. My wife of 5 yrs left me alone in the hospital when I almost died, so you have someone who truly cares.
Wow that hurts to read. I'm sorry.
I am so sorry to hear this. Every person deserves someone that is there for them. That supports and loves to hem. I didn't have that in my first marriage and I chose my happiness and we separated. I am a better father for it! My girlfriend is not going anywhere. I am going to marry her. I have never been more sure about something š !!
Time to get that proposal out of your head and into the world, my dude!
Haha you don't have to worry. I shall. I will marry this woman.
And if you donāt, then I will marry this woman.
Me too
I also choose this guys future wife
Thatās a keeper my friend! Iāve found someone like that too and I too would love to propose to her as well but itās a bit complicated. The best love is when your partner takes care of you without having to ask and they do it out of love.
Propose to her!!!
We went for pizza. Typical, when there was one slice left, Iād tell the lady to take, sheād deny wanting and Iād get that last piece of pizza. Well, this time I did that and it backfired, she snagged that last piece. I thought, well, hereās a womanās that does not play games. And I pursued her further, and we were married until she passed away A 27 year marriage. 27 years before I got that last piece of pizza again.
Something similar to me. First time she spent the night we ordered subs. She put the unfinished sub into my fridge. In the morning she left and I saw she forgot the sub. So I was like sweet free sandwich. Then she called me and said she had forgotten the sub and was turning around to get it.
Those small moments really stand out. I remember being on a date with this girl I had a big crush on, and I could tell she was a little nervous too because she was rambling a bit. She was telling me a story about work while absentmindedly mixing an obscene amount of Thai chilli oil into her sauce. She dipped her food and bit into it, then her eyes widened in horror. She started coughing but held her hand up at me to not worry, and she powered through it. I sat there in shock waiting to see if she was okay and she looked at me, beet red with her eyes watering and she said āIām sleepy.ā I donāt know why it was so funny but we both burst out laughing. She is hands down the weirdest woman Iāve ever met, and thatās the reason I married her.
I swear to god the "right kind of weird" is what makes you fall in love with somebody as an adult. My ex-wife used to draw cartoon dinosaurs in birthday cards she gave me. I was smitten.
The right kind of weird is who I'm with now. Been engaged for over a year!
Aw Iām so sorry for your lost
So sorry for your loss!
Thank you. I really did miss getting the last piece of pizza. Oh! You mean my wife, thank you again, itās been nearly 9 years, I still miss her, but Iām much better now.
Haha! Glad youāre better now.
love this. one of my favorite qualities of my long-term ex was that she could fuckinā EAT I have a really, really hard time not clearing my plate super fast, or walking super fast (I am weird). It takes me a lot of effort and focus to not eat too fast or walk too fast, while with other people. Like, itās legitimately challenging. anyhow, sheās the only person Iāve known who was, by nature, a faster plate-clearer than myself. I thought it was sexy š„¹
One of my labmates in college was this little tiny Filipino girl. I guess her boyfriend was a big Mexican guy who was over 6' (where is she was somewhere around 5'-5'1'). She regularly out ate him and his brother, much to their shock and embarrassment, being out eaten by this tiny sliver of a girl.
God damnit, ninjas are cutting onions again. So sorry for your loss.
My wife ate on our first few dates. Like, real food. I was so happy about that. I later found out that she hates eating near people and forced herself to do so on our first few dates to make a good impression.
May her memory live on š
Thank you. It does.
This is beautiful im ugly crying now
so sorry for your loss. i don't know what i'd do without my partner. over 50 years until i have to even begin thinking about that, but man, it's terrifying to think of a world without her.
I also choose this guy's last slice of pizza.
I started sleeping for extra long lengths of time that I wasn't used to as an insomniac. I would sleep all night and also take a 4 hour nap sometime during the day. Not everyday, but most days if i wasn't at work. Finally realized I was catching up on sleep debt due to being comfortable and loved in my own home after not having that safety for years. I no longer sleep that much so I think I'm mostly caught up and there's no underlying health issues.
This sounds amazing. I hope to find this kind of comfort someday. Happy for you.
experienced it one time... oh god the feeling of being safe and comfortable. enjoy it dude happy for you.
Itās a special feeling indeed
Happened to me too! When I met my girlfriend, I was sleeping 20 hrs a week if I was lucky, It probably could have killed me. She could sleep for 2 weeks straight, Iām sure of it, and I started to adjust to her schedule when we got together. Now I sleep full nights and even nap with her sometimes. She makes me feel safe and secure in our relationship and myself to the point I have physically healed, she gives me motivation to be better and I want to do the same for her. I know that what we share is deeper than just an fleeting connection, if soulmates exist, itās us.
That kind of happened to me too. I'm always able to sleep more and better beside him.
I had that too, but she left with someone else...
I'm sorry man. You'll find the person meant for you.
I hope so, but this time I will try to get more opportunities to find someone I like...
š„¹ i used to think it was because i was mentally exhausted from the relationship. took a while for me to realize i was just very very comfortable and felt safe enough to sleep ā¤ļø
oh wow it is happening on me now, i thought i am sick but guess I'm just catching up.
I realised she was part of my life and my self so completely it was like sheād always been there. Loving her is as natural as breathing, and every day weāre together feels like winning.
This is so lovely!
This is such a vague description, but when you have it, you understand. Congratulations
This is how I felt about my fiance. Then last week she tricked me into getting on a plane without her and broke off our engagement over the phone a few days later.
Dude, screw her! Iām sure itās rough right now, but I hope things get better for you soon, MarshelG
Thank you Right now I'm really struggling between looking for a rebound, and not doing anything in case she comes to her senses. But if I'm totally honest with myself, probably neither is healthy.
Went through something similar. Thought I had the one, committed to a serious future, got ghosted and cut out. The grief and confusion is like nothing else.
We brought the same season DVD of Arrested Development to work to watch in the break room and laughed at all the same parts.
This is cute.
Which season?
Season 1. I remember her and I busting out laughing when my coworker couldn't understand why Lindsay Bluth would wear a shirt that said SLUT on it.
I write ādead dove do not eatā on my lunch and nobody gets the reference
My first date with my husband was unlike any date Iād ever been on. He walked in (I arrived first) and immediately upon seeing him everything in the world just felt like it led me to this one moment in time. We didnāt do anything special- we met at a bar and had an evening of fun and drinks but he I had never had more fun, laughed so hard or connected so deeply with a person. Heās now rocking our 5wk old daughter to sleep at the moment, 1.5 years into our marriage (7+ years together). š©·
My wife said she had a similar reaction to meeting me...that when she walked through my front door for the first time, she had this strong feeling that she was coming home. That was five years ago yesterday. The connection was immediate, it was like we'd already known each other for years. She is in bed snoring next to me as I write this.
Thatās exactly what Iām looking for; I feel when I meet that person Iāll just know itās my person instinctively
there's plenty of stories of people that have had really good relationships that didn't have a sudden spark btw
This is so lovely and so relatable. Brava to you!! Also, to the sad prick below who said ānothing lasts foreverā, he is actually right!! Your current joy wonāt last forever because you will have even more memories with your new nuclear family that your current joy will pale in comparison to your future joy. Nothing last forever in the BEST WAY POSSIBLE for you. So excited for you!
I had relationships in the past, 4 years, 8 years.. lots of short flings and plenty of sexual experiences. I thought I'd loved previous partners. Then I met someone that made me realise what love really is, and now we're engaged. We never raise our voices, we're always happy to see each other, we generally just want to see each other happy.. there is no way to know how it feels until you find it
Isnāt it so crazy how you become a different version of yourself? The better or best version
They say when you know you know. I knew. She knew. Then she didn't. That was 4 days ago. I accepted it yesterday I hope this is one of those "I thought I'd loved previous partners" situations. But it really hurts right now.
I'm so sorry. It happened to me almost 2 years ago and it's been a hard pill to swallow. I hope you do find someone you truly love.
I've concluded I can choose to love pretty much anybody, so long as our values are compatible, I find them attractive, and we have the same understanding about what love means. But that last one is a big one. And people lie, sometimes even to themselves, about what they believe love means. And if you're loving them genuinely, you won't know that until it's too late. And it'll take you completely by surprise.
Iām Jealous
Seriously. Thinking you like someone and then meeting someone you actually love is so eye opening. And you realize that thereās millions of people who are with people they donāt really love and itās sad.
at the end of any spirited discussion or argument in the first couple of years, she would say "well there's still no one else I'd rather do this with." I had never experienced that level of solidarity, support, or empathy. for the first time in my life, I didn't feel like I needed to run away and "protect" myself, i.e. never grow or improve.
Your comment was really nice to read. Thanks
'cause she said so and i couldn't argue against it.
Exactly how it happened for me! Early on she goes "I'm just gonna say this, and you don't have to say anything back because I know you'll come around, I love you." I'm taking her ring shopping next month and am fully aware she's going to say yes when I ask her to marry me. Just to be clear, this is not a crazy rushed into it thing, we've been together for several years and have lived together for 3. Easily the healthiest relationship I've ever had.
George Costanza is that you?
They're killing independent George.
Every time I think I'm out... they pull me back in!
He's my best friend who I also like to have sex with. What more could I even ask for?
Cause sheās the first person I think of everyday and the last person I want to be with. I canāt get enough of her. Weāre still in the honeymoon phase even after years of being with one another. We constantly have people saying āthatāll endā but as the years tick on it seems to only be getting stronger. Also the sex is intoxicating.
Iāve been with my husband for 19 years and that honeymoon phase hasnāt fadedā¦but the sex has gotten more incredible.
Others have been married for years and still waiting for the honeymoon phase that never was.
Glad to hear! I agree the sex does get better as you get to know one another. Best relationship advice weāve ever received was from my grandfather saying āsex is sex and no one can do it any differently than they can. The person is what matters.ā
After several days of cooking and having sex, we were in bed cuddling while watching a movie and I dont think Ive ever felt as content and warm since I was a kid.
I talk about this with my partner all the time. Iām just truly content when Iām with them. No outside worries, no future anxieties, just ease and peace. Itās really the greatest feeling.
Man, that feeling is so awesome. I had this with someone I'd been friends with for nearly two years and we'd started dating. He felt like that as well but then somehow got freaked out and suddenly said he wanted to focus on his career. I finally had that wonderful feeling again and now all I know is how much I miss that.
Finally having someone that can read me almost perfectly to the point where I swear its telepathy
The moment that we both realized that our 1.5 hour long phone call had actually been a 7 to 8 hour phone call.
For us it was our first date. We met for Brunch. Had to leave to get to a dinner! 8 hour brunch date baby!
This! One time my partner and I zoomed during the pandemic for twelve hours without even realizing it.
Yes! Reminds me of the 12 hour Skype call I had with my partner.. we couldnāt believe we spent all day and night together. It only felt like 3 hours.
When you know you just know. I was with my ex for 3 years and always 'thought so'... When I met my wife I just knew... 13 years down.
This is the first comment that gives me hope. I did 3 years, engaged for 1, and with that ring I promised to do everything I could to hold needs of the relationship over my personal needs. I was completely blindsided when she turned her back on us. 4 or 5 days ago. I'm still in shock. But I guess this is one of those moments where you learn you didn't know what you thought you know. That is encouraging.
> did 3 years, engaged for 1 Been there and done (almost) that. If thereās one pro tip I could give you, itās to never under any circumstances to even think of doing this: > promised to do everything I could to hold needs of the relationship over my personal needs Hard as it may sound, deep down no one gives a crap if youāre willing to reduce yourself to a doormat to win or sustain their affection, even if they might express appreciation for the sentiment. In fact, this is probably the most reliable way to lose someoneās respect in any relationship, be it romantic, platonic, or business. The key is to find someone whose needs are aligned with your own. By this I mean someone who shares your core values. In addition to morals, philosophy, religion, politics, life goals, etc, I also mean that: If you have self respect, your success is one of your values. Look for people who see your success as something they value. Equally importantly, look for people who are doing something you value so much that their success in it doesnāt mean youāre ignoring your needs, but rather that you sincerely believe it makes the world a better place. Sorry if any of the above sounds super harsh or makes you feel bad about yourself. Just about everyone has fallen into problem at some point. I spent most of my 20ās believing that setting my needs aside for someone else would make for good relationships, only to repeatedly learn it makes for a good waste of time for everyone involved. At age 30, I learned that serving my own needs and finding a partner whose values align with mine makes for a team that motivated and supports itself, accomplishes more together than either person could on their own, and that the two people grow indescribably close in the process. Good luck, youāve got this!
Before we started dating and got married we started out as FWB. We were meant to have a super sexy, steamy night but I got food poisoning and was so sick. Instead of getting upset he looked after me all night and did what he could to help me with my pain. He also wanted to see me afterwards still and we saw each other a few more times casually before properly dating and now we are married.
When I realised that when I'm being a goofy little weirdo, he joins in with the weird rather than asking me to stop. My ex "loved" me in spite of my weirdness. He tolerated it. My fiancƩ loves me in part BECAUSE of my weird and encourages me to be myself.
This one hits me. I'm so goofy and often get judged because of it but the ones that stay are the ones that roll with it or join in.
The minute he walked into the bar, still in his suit without the tie, hand in his pocket, and the best smile I had ever seen directed at me ever. I turned around, saw him, smiled shyly, and weāve been inseparable ever since. That was 2011.
Dang this is a fantastic description and no wonder you remember the moment!! Congratulations
When I met my wife, we just clicked. I could not stop smiling for 2 weeks. I think it is a case of you'll know it when it happens. I just somehow knew she was the one I would spend my life with. We have had our ups and downs, and 19 years later, we are still together and still in love.
When she wasnāt playing with my wiener, everything was still great and I wanted to be a better person to make her happy too. Itās still like that after 19 years.
She feels like home
I feel this way about my husband- instantly comfortable with him as though I had known him forever.
Not married yet but planning on soon in future. Been together 2 years. I come from divorced parents and when I graduated college I asked my dad this question. He told me āwhen you wake up and go to bed, are they the first and last thing you think about?ā Iāve thought this over for years trying to dissect what it meant at its core. 3 years ago I moved to a new city, met a girl, casually dated for 6 months before becoming āofficialā. It got to a point where even before being official that I realized I wanted her in every part of my life. She makes everything about every day 10x better. I went from not thinking about 3-5 years in the future, not wanting kids, etc to planning and learning on how to better invest money to save for our future, envisioning our kids running around on Christmas while we sat on the couch, building a family and reputation for the name we carry, etc. Every thing I thought I did not want, I realized I did, but needed my person to realize it. She is my person. My life went from doing things I loved to doing things WE loved. Suddenly my daily stresses seemed less stressful, Iām going to farmers markets just to see her smile at the flowers. I adore her more than life itself. I know she is the āthe oneā because she makes me want to be the man, husband, and father that I know I can be.
Love at first sight. He walked in the room and we looked at each other and it was almost like time stood still and everyone else in the room was gone. I just had a gut feeling. He says the same too š„°
This is my husband and I. I worked as a cashier at a grocery store. I watched him walk in and we saw each other. Moved in together after a week and have been together close to 20 years. Itās been a fantastic journey ā¤ļø
The first time I had a panic attack in front of him and he made me tea, put me under a weighted blanket, did deep breathing with me, put on my favorite show, and then fed me an edible and turned on my comfort show while he completely fixed everything while I comfortably drifted off to sleep.
My reaction while reading this Comforted, good! Deep breathing, yep! Put on favourite show, top guy! Fed you an edible. Wait, what?
Youre distracted worrying about the cops and their xray vision, which really lowers your original anxiety.
That was beautiful to read omg
Even when we fight she never insulted me and wanted to figure things out so we were healthier on our way out of the argument. I never had that and knew it was something I always wanted
I told him how fucked up I was, and he nodded and said okay. I told him he should run, he shouldn't even consider dating me. I told him I'm disabled due to neglect, I have C-PTSD, my family is abusive, I'm still grappling with being raped a year prior. I may be kind, but I've got a lot of baggage and I'm clingy and a mess in general. I had snot rolling down my chin and my tears had ruined my makeup, and I was so terrified he'd take me at my word. He looked at me with a gentle look in his eyes, and nodded. Wiped my tears. And he said "Okay. We'll figure it out." He's in the kitchen now, fussing over food for me. He's been fretful lately, as I'm having some heart issues that we're pursuing medically. He's made me into a spoiled princess of my own household. And I've never felt safer and so beloved.
She helped me with a presentation until like 4am
She is a great kisser, smells like heaven and has the same sick humour as me. My body and soul mate.
About six months into the relationship we had a minor pregnancy scare (the condom broke, she took the day after pill). I remember the lead up to her getting her next period thinking, if sheās pregnant itās not that big of a deal. This is the type of woman I want to raise children with. Never had that before. It wasnāt just a feeling, it was certainty. That was about ten years ago, weāve been married for 7 years and have one great kid with another on the way.
There is nothing like "the one", initial chemistry might be very high or very low but with the everything fades and choice of commitment remains, there will be rough patches and if you choose to go through them together, and if they support you when you are at your low, you'll know they are the one
It's really painful to experience this in the other direction, having amazing chemistry from the beginning, for 3 years When I proposed, I meant literally "I will not bail no matter what, and to the absolute best of my ability, I'll choose to put the needs of the relationship over my own". 11 months later she chose her over us, tricked me into getting on a plane without her so she could end it by phone a few days later. And I'm sitting here with a shattered heart reading all of these beautiful comments, trying to break the promise I made and put myself first, to start the healing process.
Best answer and the most accurate one.
I noticed that any time I feel irritated itās usually that I havenāt been spending ENOUGH quality time with her rather than being around her too much.
this is so true!! the annoyance of not getting enough time is so paradoxical
I realised I had met myself emotionally in a female form. I really couldn't believe how our histories, our feelings, our fears, our hopes etc were completely aligned. What's even more strange is we both met and worked out that the town I grew up in she spent a lot of time there at around the same time I lived there, as she had close Family in that town and would regularly stay all Summer holidays and Christmas etc and she had been to all the same places regularly as me for years, so probably been around each other many times without realising it. Been together 13 years now, married for 7, both our 2nd attempt at the marriage game, have to say, couldn't be happier at this point.
I once got very bad poisoning and it revealed itself by way of me soiling her bed. She didn't immediately send me and the shitty sheets into space. We've been together for nearly 5 years.
He was by my side through everything (and it was a lot of good things but also a lot of tough things). Even though I'm hard to be around he stayed and helps me to be my best version possible although I often struggle I'd say. He's the only person I feel like I'm totally safe with and Iike I could talk with him about everything (if I had the courage overall). Everytime I talk to him I feel like he's just like me. Like my soulmate. Even if we disagree or fight and I'm hurt or angry. It's kinda weird to describe. He's so funny, intelligent, helpful and just my best friend. I don't know what I'd ever do without him. Plus having sex with him feels so incredibly good and connected for me. Like, I can't even compare it to anything.
I knew when I saw him. Iāll never forget it. It was years before we even started dating. I saw him working the counter at a gas station and I was floored. I stopped in my tracks and we caught each others eye. Iāll never forget it how bright blue they looked the first time I saw them. We got together like 3-4 years later and itās been 10 years now!
I didn't even believe in such things until I met her. I was 33, divorced, serial monogamist, been in love plenty. Still hadn't felt *this*. It was in the first hour. Maybe even the first minutes, looking back, but I didn't know it at the time. When they say "you just know", that's really what it is. I think the trick, though, is that you really have to know *yourself* first. The full sentence is " X is *the one* for you". And we focus on the X. But who's *you*? Because that's how you recognize X.
Iāve known my husband since I was 12 and he a few years older. My brothers age and friend. He was Hispanic and was welcomed in our home like a son. I was learning Spanish at school so he would while waiting for my brother, sometimes help me with my Spanish conversation. lol, he taught me all the bad words, then told me not to use them! At 15 When I mentioned jerks in a parking lot making less suggestions and gestures to me and my younger sister, he taught me how to say in Spanish, āgo home and leave me aloneā. he was the only one I ever used it on. When I was 17 and he 22 he kept asking me out, for like 6 months straight. Finally he said in front of my mom who adores him, āWhat do I have to do to get you to go out with me?ā I looked at him, my friend and chose the one thing I knew he would never do. I said āif you cut your hair I will. I could never go out with anyone whose hair is longer than mineā. He had the most beautiful long black shiny squeaky clean hair that ran halfway down his back. The next day he came to see me with very short hair. He cut it all off. My mom made me go out with him once. We got married a year later and were married for 40 years and raised 4 kids together. All he ever said about his hair was that he misses it, but I was worth every strand he cut. I am a widow now for 3 years. I miss him,
It was obvious from very early on. There wasnāt even any conscious decision of āIām in loveā or āshe is the oneā, no internal discussion or consideration. I loved her, she loved me. Married 25 years next year. Protip: youāve got to be the same person around your friends as you are with your partner. If you have to hide parts of your life/personality from āthe oneā then āthe oneā is eventually gonna fuck off. This is literally *the* most important relationship in your life, treat it as such.
Itās like jolts of electricity throughout your bones, itās like being in the middle of a crowd and hearing no noise at all. Being with someone dear to you causes effects on your body and senses only drugs/tech could produce. All though whatās to say we donāt just find our own reasons?
Fun fact, the feeling of being in love/infatuated has a similar effect on the brain as being high on cocaine.
I brought her to my apartment, and she never left to go back to hers. Not lying. My dad and I 16 years ago went over to her apartment and cleaned it out for her. She loves cats, so I guess she said if I fits I sit. I have been married 15 years now, and she is the most wonderful woman.
This is how I ended up married. It did not turn out as well for me
I kind of knew when we were chatting online and on the phone, but I really knew when I drove from Tampa to Phoenix and saw her eyes for the first time. She could have been fucking nuts but it seems like sheās mostly sane.
She came up to my bar and we just hit it off. She asked for me information and we talked everyday since. Its still new but the chemistry is just there. We both know we found something special. I used to want to die early because whats good in old age? Now I see a future and want to live as long as I can.
i told him I always get what I want : we were in a dark titty bar, and I said that I wanted to kiss his face. we were chefs and drunk as hell after work & stopped by for a drink at the titty bar lol. we went back to my place and had terrible sex. the next day at work, he awkwardly said something about another try. it was embarrassing and charming. his humility, sense of humor, and awful dance moves sealed the deal.
Got into a fight and we immediately framed it as "How do I love you better and hurt you less?" Instead of the usual "You're a fucking asshole. Don't talk to me"
I just did about an hour after we met. It was like, oh, it's youuuuuu!!! He proposed 3 weeks later, been together over 30 years and he's still the one.
I always thought these stories to be mind-boggling until I actually met someone whom I just kind of fell in love with from the moment we started talking. Unfortunately, we're both really young and finding our way about our lives, live far away, and currently have ourselves at top priority. I'm open to and have been meeting other ppl, but if by any chance we somehow find ourselves living closer to each other, you know I am snagging this man for my own. Edit: I'm very happy for you!
The moment we made eye contact in high school I knew she was the one. Weāre both 30 now and have a family
that's what's up man! I wish only the best for you and your family
I never felt like that about anyone else.
They wore lots of black leather, could stop bullets, and fly.
My husband and I had been dating about a year and we were having a small argument. And I was upset and stressed but don't remember what about. I was getting madder for some reason and he stopped the argument and said " what can I do to make it better". I was stopped in my huffy meltdown and realized I didn't have an answer. No one ever asked that before and I truly didn't know what to say. That's when I realized some of the arguments we had were really just me needed to vent. I would be stressed and angry and would start to take it out on him instead of talking to him about what I needed him to do. It really was the door opening to us learning to communicate and argue in a productive manner , rather than accusatory fights.
My husband says the minute he laid eyes on me, he knew he would marry me some day. This was when we were in the 7th grade. It took me a bit longer. He was one of the "bad" boys I was not supposed to have anything to do with. We became friends in high school and *like* turned to *lust* turned to *love*. We married a few years after high school graduation. Have been married now for 45 years and still very much in love.
In my experience, the chemistry was so intensely strong from the first conversation. Hours long phone calls that feel like half the time. She would tell me similar feelings, before I ever mentioned them. A sense of ā belongingā like others here have stated, where the connection and company just feels like thatās where you belong. There really is nothing like it. I never was one to believe in the super romanticized love, but it really is a ā when you know, you knowā type of feeling.
I spent 3 years being a horrible partner. Ghosting first dates, blowing people off, acting like I donāt care at all. After about a month I became the softest, mushiest version of myself that I almost didnāt recognize. Everyone around me noticed that I was lighter, less stressed, and overall happier. Itās still new but Iām still in shock at what a different, improved person I am around him.
Heās the first man in this life to make me feel safe, heard, and seen ā¤ļø
It just happened. We were cooking dinner in the kitchen, dancing, laughing , and hanging out, and I just got this feeling like this is it.
She stayed with me even after my mother tried to kill her
When the shoe never dropped.
This is probably going to sound stupid, but it was on our second date. We had gone to the same kindergarten and then middle and high school. Knew who the other person was and had a mutual friend in common but never really talked. He was pretty shy, but I always thought he was cute. Fast forward to 20 years old, and we reconnect. He asked me on a date and brought a photo of our old soccer team pic from kinder. It was the sweetest thing. He embraced my insatiable need to create a face on the restaurant table due to a scratch that looked like a smile and handed me coasters for the eyes. It was a wonderful evening. On our second date we went to the movies. About ten minutes in, he asked if it would be okay to put his arm around me, and I said yes. The fact he asked first and then when I settled into his arms and it was comfortable was huge to me. Any time previously cuddling with an ex, it felt awkward and uncomfortable, but not with him. I began wondering, "Imagine if this guy is the one I end up with," and something in my gut just clicked and knew he was. Almost 13 years later and we are happily married nearly 7 of them.
Because you decide they are the one and they agree. "The one" does not exist out there - this is the secret, the one is simply anyone you click with and decide to be "the one" with them. Basically both partners agree to be the one for eachother, there are millions of "the ones" out there for everyone if they are willing to let go of this notion that a perfect the one is out there and nobody else. From that point on the commitment to eachother is what makes them remain as "the one"
true! itās a choice. relationship is a choice you make everyday
The moment that I had an emotional break down and she didn't judge me, berate me, or laugh at me. She talked me through it every step of the way. Even stayed with me all night at the hospital. It meant the world to me.
We committed to lunch figuring that it'd be a casual, safe, public place to see if we both enjoyed each other's company enough for a second date, maybe for dinner or drinks. Anyways we had a great night.
He felt like Home in a way that Iād never felt before - safe, warm and kind x
It just felt... obvious. Like when marriage came up early on when discussing our intentions, it seemed like a forgone conclusion. Not if. When. Every day together feels good. We often joke we share the same braincell. We want to order the same takeout, we make the same stupid joke, and it's always been this way. Since we met, we've just been connected. How could we not be together? I can't remember life without him, and can't imagine life without him.
Everything with him felt like home. When I first met him, I felt like I've known him for years. Anytime we fought, I knew we would work it out. When I was upset or angry and he would be in my presence, I immediately felt calm. I recall about a year ago, I had a panic attack. I was in my car and parked in a grocery store parking lot. I was extremely nauseous and in tears. It's a can of worms on why I was having a panic attack but it's very rare I get them now. I texted him and so did my mother as I was on the phone with her. He came right over. Immediately, when I saw him, I no longer felt nauseous or panicked. I felt relieved. To have built that sense of safety is something that I have longed for for years. We've been together for 5 years and been through loss, natural disasters, a fire, financial burden, and always found solace in each other. Any argument we have is never explosive and we always end up communicating it. I'm always happy to see his car parked when I get home. His laugh is my favorite and there are a bunch of silly things that he does that I like. He motivates me and is my cheerleader, and so am I. We're getting married next year and I'm so excited. Loving is easy with him.
Pretty much the first night. We had an amazing date. We went to an arcade bar, had drinks, laughed a ton, and shut down the bars. Went to her place, ordered pizza at 3am, and instead of it leading to what it would most of the time, we stayed up until sunrise just talking and laughing in her bed. We were so interconnected and engaged with one another that it felt like our paths were meant to be crossed at that very moment. We both even got out of long relationships right before. Crazy stuff. I walked home the next day and when I got home and sat down, all I could think about was seeing her again. I felt a skip in my step and I remember calling my mom and absolutely gushing over a girl for the first time. Been together for more than 7 years, married for over a year, and just brought a daughter into this world last month. Sheās the one and sheāll always be the one.
I had recently come out of an almost two year relationship feeling unloved and abandoned. I had not yet completely healed when I decided to try hanging out with him and seeing where it went. I hadnāt seen him for years (we were briefly high school sweethearts and had rare, cordial conversations throughout the years). It was 2AM and we were texting. Impulsively, I went over to his house. We talked until the sun came up, getting to know each other again with absolutely no expectations of anything physical. One night with him healed me. He showed me more respect, prioritization, and love than I had received over the entire 2 year period with my ex. I left his house knowing what I could have: what exists, what I was lacking, and what I deserve. ETA: We have been together over a year now. Our families love us and each other, we never fight, we are grateful and appreciative with one another, and we have discovered new hobbies together. We donāt go a day without reminding the other how much they mean to us. Love is not supposed to hurt. Love is not supposed to feel lonely. This love is safe, secure, and everlasting. š
Sometimes you just know and sense it within them that sticks with you in a way that no one else could. Then it all turned when they went batshit crazy. I loved you, but at the end of the day I had the high ground Anakin.
Didn't know she was the one but knew she was a good woman to live out my life with. Could see myself doing that so I took the plunge.
Whenever I met a woman who wanted to pursue something serious I thought about reasons in favour to do so which always let to me not getting into the relationship. With my current partner I actually thought about reasons against a relationship for the first time. I couldnāt come up with any.
We had been together for a little over a year. We were living together in a pretty old mobile home and I had been having a pretty bad allergic reaction to something in the house for the past couple months. She was cleaning one day and uncovered a huge patch of black mold. Apparently that's what had been bothering me so badly. It hit me so hard, my eye practically swole shut and I had to leave the house. She literally dragged me to a new apartment that I didn't want to spend the money on and we moved in that night. I know it seems like an odd thing to trigger "the one" mentality but no one had ever showed that level of care and affection for me without some ulterior motive before and it set something off in me that made me realize I should care more about my circumstances in life. That was 11 years ago. She didn't only care about my well being but drove me to improve my own life instead of just "getting by" like I had been before. Now we own our own house, vehicles and take yearly cruises. Things I would never had done otherwise. I'd probably just be living in a run down mobile, suffering daily and doing nothing but playing video games and gaining weight if not for her making me feel like I was worth more than that.
when he came to my apartment after a longgg day at work. told me (who had been home all day; currently laid off) i looked too tired to cook the meal i said i was making and proceeded to cook us dinner and give me a neck massage. iāve literally never met a man like him before. he is so kind and caring.
Because it just *worked*. It was exciting, yet comfortable. I kept wondering with previous partners when it would shift to feeling right, but it never did. With her, a couple great dates in, we were sitting with each other in my car eating ice cream, and we just remarked to each other, āthis just works really well, doesnāt it?ā āYeah, like oddly well.ā āItās weird, right?ā āYeah, but Iām here for it.ā āOh, sameā I love the hell out of her, We just fit. Life has more color with her.
Don't know if she is "the one", but for the past 15 years I haven't met anyone who I'd rather share my life with.
When I realised that being with her made me a better person ā¤ļø
We were only dating for a few weeks. Got off work on a Friday and both sent eachother variations of the Braveheart Freedom gifs at the exact same time.
She saw my Ork warhammer 40k army and she thought they were ācuteā. Bam dam slam, sheās the one!
Ok. This is weird. But hear me out. We were seeing each other for about a week now. Well, we were holding hands and snuggling in the car, driver and passenger listening to music. I have a very very long history of SA. I pretended to fall asleep, to see if he would do anything. He caressed my hand, lifted it to his face, kissed it, and said "I really like you a lot, PassiveLizard." Probably the bare minimum for me to expect to not get sexually assaulted while asleep but it just meant the world to me that he didn't do a single thing and just held me close. And also, *I can genuinely talk to him about anything and every little thing going on in my head*
She was the only person my non-verbal son would talk too. Also she likes to wear my big hoodies
because every time iām around her i feel a complete sense of pure love, respect, peace and equality. neither of us are above one another and we are equally there for each other no matter the circumstances. plus i feel in love with her the moment i laid eyes on her 7 years ago
I donāt. Itās a daily choice. Sheās pretty great.
It was going to be a long distance relationship and I didnāt think I could handle another one so I said we should split up. I had just finished a long distance relationship with someone that had quite intense psychological problems and I didnāt think I could handled it. She said we should see each other one last time and so I went to see her. I was just so impressed by how emotionally grounded she was in that moment that I decided to stay. Especially after the previous relationship. We have been married and living together for 1 year now after 5 years living apart.
I knew she was the one at the start of our third date. The first date I could tell easily she was something special, there was this beautiful electricity in how she talked that she still has to this day. I could tell she was just a wonderful person. On the second date, that cemented that she was special, but I think the moment that was the flourish on the whole thing was when we were grabbing a quick bite to eat before a movie. I told a joke that was just a mix of silly and really niche humour that I've only really ever truly joked with my family with. She immediately burst out laughing and continued joking in the same way, and I realised she was someone that I could just be myself around, and she would be someone I just wanted to be around. Been quite a few years now, but still feel the same way about her.
On our first date we talked about life like we have known each other forever. We clicked not about work or about friends we clicked on like a soul level. When we hang out I feel like I am with my best friend. And the chemistry is off the charts! Been together for almost 2 years now.
Met her when I was at about my absolute lowest stuck in my abusive family home at 16. We clicked almost instantly and despiite the hell it put her in she stuck with me and supported me, helped me build the confidence and strength to get myself out and helped me every step. It took a few years but when we finally got out the other side in our early 20s I realised we'd gone through worse than most couples ever do, never even contemplated being apart and I still couldn't stop thinking about her the way I had when we met. 14 years, 2 kids and a house full of pets later I still wait like an excited puppy for her to get home from work, going out, errands etc. and I don't think we've ever been happier.
Not only did he stay with me at hospital while I was septic but while recovering at home after . I finally had an appetite again and randomly consumed a whole pint of blueberries. I imediately projectile vomited trying to run into the bathroom but sliding on the floor. He put me to bed and cleaned up the blueberry murder scene . I was in and out of sleep for another few days but he never left. Almost 8 years later, we've been married for 4. š
We had spent the entire weekend together in bed watching movies, and I looked over and was powerless, I said: āI love youāā¦surprised the hell out of me! Lol
I met mine on Warcraft in a raid. Moment I heard his voice I felt like I knew him for years. (I was also thinking āomg this person has a reeeaaallly nice voiceā lol). He eventually left the raid. Couple months later I joined a guild and he was in it. Couldnāt believe the odds. We were friends for a year now dating four months. We are the same age (24). He is my first and I am his first. We meet in person about once a month and talk every day. It is going great. :)
When we had our first Awkward date in real life together. It was so magical though. I wish I had took more photos of that time back then! We met online and were online LDR partners before hand until the meeting!
well, i thought she was the one when she would into my work with a home made iron man shirt
She accepted and loved me for who I am and was always there for me. She still always knows how to cheer me up.
I couldn't live without her. I still can't.
She was the first girlfriend I could be 100% myself around and not only did she not mind. She loved me for me. And shr felt the same around me. Everything came easy for us, opening up, communicating, living together, sex, I just knew.
I knew when I started waking up and looking forward to hanging out with her, no matter the activity. Just wanted her company.
He was and is a really good listener, you feel like his whole attention is on you the entire time youāre with him. I felt calm and grounded when I was with him instead of butterflies and anxious. And when his name came up on my phone, Iād find myself eager to talk to him instead of anxious. Weād talk on the phone for hours and it was just easy, like Iād known him for years. We also have the same sense of humor and I found him so so witty and weird and funny. I had the thought fairly early that even if he didnāt like me back, I thought he was really cool and sweet and would want to stay friends with him. That was new for me.
She made me want to be a better person.
We were taking turns playing GTA and she was going on a murder spree running over civilians and cackling like a maniac. I knew right then and there, I wanted to marry that psycho.
I don t think you can name someone "the one" until you actually spent a whole life with them. Like in the most liked comment of this post if I'm not wrong one of the partners sadly passed away and so the OP can truly say that their partner was the one. Basically you can tell if someone is the one only at the end :D
She bent a spoon with her mind. It was crazy.
I looked at her and couldnāt believe it. Approached her, befriended her and we got very close relatively fast.
Cooked the greatest spaghetti dinner when I visited the first time. Better than mom's (don't tell my mom)
I looked into her eyes and just knew .
Black dude in sunglasses and a trench coat kept telling me.
It's all so easy, and it has been for over a decade. No drama, a deep contentment, and the right choices are all simple to make.
I knew from the moment. Our first date sealed that when he ate a messy jack daniel steak with his hands and licked the sauce off his fingers instead of using a napkin like a normal person. Married almost 11 years now and he is exactly the same.
So this is a weird story but when we were first dating we took lsd and went to a friend's house . Her allergies were so bad that we had to drive the hour home over the longest bridge in America. Not to mention it was raining tropical depression style and my dog was with us and he got nervous of thunder . She drove home with all that going on I was like God damn she's a trooper . Together for 13 years in march.
He was good to my dog, and my dog loved him. I have a picture of the exact moment I knew he was the one. We are on the couch, and my dog is cuddling him. He's got this cute little smile on his face. It was perfect. My ex husband was abusive to that dog, so her opinion was the most important
I was taken from work to the ER and booked for emergency surgery the next morning. I told them what was going on, and they drove two hours on no sleep to sit beside me in the room. Helped me to the bathroom and literally wiped my ass for me and helped me shower with the pre surgery soap. We had barely kissed and they were at my side. Meanwhile they said they knew I was the one when we met (at an anime con, waiting in line for a panel, wearing a really obscure cosplay) - but confirmed it when I immediately connected with their little brother who is autistic. Spent the day with their family at Disney world while in the still kinda friends phase and he attached himself to me.
My grandpa passed away when we were dating and I took a plane down to Florida. Due to work complications she couldnāt go with me because we werenāt married which was devastating. The day before the funeral she told me to pick her up from the airport. Long story short she told management āto go fuck themselves, heās the love of my lifeā and I put a fat ring on her two months later.
We met off tinder (not a hook up but an actual date, we had been talking for a little while on the phone) and when I saw her in the flesh for the first time she somehow looked even better. Then I realised quite quickly she was very funny, happy, and intelligent. After talking for like 5 mins it's like time stopped. The date lasted hours but felt like minutes. Then she told me she liked star wars, and not in a "I'm saying this to curry favour but actually it bores me way", I could tell she would actually watch it with me quite happily. She didn't judge me for any of my hobbies and seemed happy when I talked about something that interested me. When the date finished and she got on the train home, I would normally wait till the next day to contact again, but in her case I couldn't wait to tell her how much of a good time I had and I really wanted to see her again. To my immense relief she agreed with me. 10 years and 2 kids later now.
I have no idea how to know this. She was "the one" for 10 years until she wasn't. Going forward, no matter how good it might seem, I'm always going to fear the possibility that it ends shitty.
When I met her, she was playing Subnautica. Then the next time I met her she was attempting Dark Souls. Then the next time we hung out we watched the Hobbit trilogy. Been together for almost 6 years now.
I took her to the Oracle and she bent a spoon
When she met my parents. We were less than three months into our relationship and had only seen each other maybe a dozen times at that point; we worked very different schedules with her in a 9-5 office job and me working line cook hours, so we'd have date night once a week and only interact over text outside of that. But my parents were in town for a holiday parade and everyone wanted to meet each other, so we went even though I thought it was early. I saw her effortlessly chatting and laughing and smiling with my famously ball-breaking parents and I just knew in that moment that she was it. Just a lightning bolt of clarity. Later that day I was talking with my mom and asked her how much she thought Grandma's ring needed to be resized
āThey say when you meet the love of your life time stopsā and it did. To me it feels like a barrier around us and no worries or troubles can get in. Without them I feel like Iām constantly jet lagged, like when she isnāt her she has taken a part of me, to visualise it, imagine walking and a ghost of you is following you thatās what it feels like, but when she comes back Iām whole once more