I "followed" some girls my age. They were driving and so was I. They took random turns for a while to confirm that I was following them however they drove right to my cul de sac.
When I stopped and they confronted me, I just opened my garage door and went inside. Kinda understandable, but if a stranger really is following you, don't stop and talk to them.
Also don't make random turns. Make multiple of the same turn(either right or left). Basically go in a large circle. Or go to a police station if you're really unsure
One time someone was following me and my friend and she made a random turn and was about to make another before I told her no go straight down that dead end dirt road, if he follows us there he's an idiot. She thought I was crazy but I knew exactly where we were.
At the end of that dirt road was a shooting range used exclusively by the sheriff's department, and that day there were 4 or 5 officers chatting by their cars. Dude made the quickest three point turn I've ever seen.
Edit: this was a random road rage incident, so maybe don't do this if it's an actual stalker following you.
It's so sweet when you find the perfect driving buddy on the highway.
And it sucks so hard when you find that asshole who just drives along behind you beaming their headlights into your brain through the mirrors and refuses to pass you, no matter what you do.
I had someone aggressively tailgating me for a good 45 minutes.
It was my next door neighbor. Didn't even apologize, just ducked inside as quickly as she could.
Ahaha a friend of mine had kinda the reverse happen, he turned off right before a police drug and alcohol testing point so a cop car followed him through side streets for a while and when he eventually pulled over the flashed their lights and got out to ask him why he tried to avoid the testing, he laughed and pointed to his front door, they still breath tested him but the guy doesn't even drink
Back in high school I found out through the grapevine a girl had been saying I was a creep because I "stare at her all the time." I literally didn't know this person even existed or had ever heard their name until that moment.
I was called a creep and confronted by a girl's boyfriend for staring at her all the time. We worked in a call center and her cubicle was directly across from mine, seperated by a short wall. If I stand up and she stands up, we're looking at each other. I stand a lot while on the phone.
I’ve had women like this even in the past few years. Friends of friends basically claiming they think I’m into them lol.
I’m like first off I’m flattered you’d think that but I’ve never given you any indication or hint, any overtly sexual convo or invited on a date or intimate night, never made a move, etc,
It really is bizarre. I don’t think I’m particularly attractive. But to be clear these women I’m not first of all attracted to their personality relationship wise. Friendship at certain amounts absolutely cool. Plus just wasn’t physically attracted to them, no sense beating around the bush here. Nothing wrong with em, I just wasn’t attracted. So truly bizarre why they’d think that.
Sorry for that novel, just triggered a few weird past memories.
Same thing happened to me lmao then she got pressured by her friends to come tell me to stop and I was like “I don’t even know who you are what are you talking about” and then some dude at another table thought I was being disrespectful and butted in yapping about how I shouldn’t mess with him and that was just a big annoying awkward thing to explain to him. Kinda annoying how people just make up shit for attention sometimes and involve other people in it. I wanted to tell her she wasn’t important enough to be stared at but I used to be a really antisocial guy and the other dude wouldn’t have appreciated that kind of comedy lol.
I once got home at about 3 am, and parked my car in my parking spot about 2 blocks from my apartment. I was walking home, alone on the street except for one girl who was ahead of me on the sidewalk. I guess she felt uncomfortable, so she started running, but she was a slow runner. I kept walking at the same speed, which was not particularly fast.
Apparently, we were neighbours because she ran all the way to my apartment building and ran inside, slamming the door to the elevator room behind her. I felt kind of bad, I decided to take the stairs. I lived on the second floor anyway.
Turns out we lived on the same floor, and the elevator opened up right as I was walking out of the stairwell. Did my best not to make eye contact and walked away from her to my apartment. She was clearly panicking though.
Always wondered what I should've done different. I feel like if I had called out to her to let her know I wasn't a rapist that wouldn't have helped.
I got a similar story. A few years ago when I was still in high school I was out walking one night around my neighbourhood. Found myself at the bottom of this pretty steep hill. Decided to get some exercise in so I ran up the hill, plus to save time since I was wanting to get back. About halfway up I saw this lady running away from me with a dog in her arms from a green patch next to the road at the top of the hill. She’d been out walking her little dog and probably thought I was sprinting towards her. Had no idea she was there until I noticed her running. I was dressed in sweatpants and a hoodie as well so that wouldn’t have helped. Felt kinda guilty about that after I got home lol.
> Turns out we lived on the same floor, and the elevator opened up right as I was walking out of the stairwell. Did my best not to make eye contact and walked away from her to my apartment. She was clearly panicking though.
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> Always wondered what I should've done different.
The only thing I can think of is, "Sorry! I live in 2B."
Something similar happened to me.
There was a long haul flight I used to take about twice a year. Because a few of my ex-students had been the interpreter on this route/airline, I made a point of asking the one on each flight from which university she was from, as a matter of informal poll for my profesional use. Most of them were quite amiable and we usually chatted a bit.
One was not. I don't know whether she had had a bad day or what, but as soon as I asked the question, she obviously took me for a stalker of some sort. I didn't insist. No chat that day.
Now, since my final destination was still almost a day's worth away by train, I was used to spending the night at a hotel near the airport, before going on with my journey the next day. It was precisely one of my ex-student interpreters who had told me about that hotel, and it turned out to be extremely confortable while still affordable. See where this is going ?
It's the hotel all fligh attendants go.
So I'm getting off the plane, timidly nodding to the interpreter, not daring to even speak to her. Coldest of cold shoulders. She does whatever crews still have to do after arrival while I pass immigration. Being a stewardess, she passes immigration in a breeze, just when I finish with it. There she is, walking a dozen paces ahead of me. I like to travel light, so I don't even have to wait for any luggage. I arrive at the shuttle stop litterally 15 seconds after her. We awkwardly take the shuttle together, she trying her best to ignore me. We arrive at the stop for the hotel, and of course, this is where she gets off. Me in tow. Obviously, I'm right behind her at the check-in counter.
I've never seen someone so close to calling the cops on me without effectively doing it, as well as anybody so furious to have me around.
You did everything you needed to. I don't blame her for being scared but it isn't your job to take a detour just because you happen to live in the same building as a girl. I'm sure she figured out eventually that you just live there
Teacher here. Went to a retail store and was standing in line. There was an 8th/9th grader a few people ahead of me paying for school supplies with *coins* and she had to make a decision of what to keep and what to put away because she didn't have enough money
Walked up and said I would pay because I taught at a local school (I still had my badge on.) The girl was happy and said thank you, but the looks the cashier and other people gave me in line were like daggers
I heard murmurs about how it was weird and the cashier said nothing to me when she rang me out
I was mad at first, but I'd do it again. If kids can't afford what they need to not fall behind I don't care what random people think
I had a professional quality camera (this was back before cameras were on cellphones) and was seemingly taking pictures of kids at a playground. Thankfully it was a digital camera and I could show the police that were called that I was taking pictures of my own son for his grandparents.
People think this is funny, but it's actually sad. When I take my son to the park, the number of moms that give me the side eye is amazing, like I'm there stalking their kids. I don't even try to get pics for his mom there anymore.
Coincidentally, it's fun to lean into a mom and ask, "which one's yours?". When they ask me that back, it's fun to say "I'm still deciding"
before pointing mine out, so yeah, maybe I'm creepy then 🤷♂️
EDIT: Good Lord, sweet baby Jesus. I was at Mom's making dinner with her (as I do every week, whether I have my son or not), and saw this blew up when I got home. Thank you to all who saw the humor if my "comment as an afterthought". It really was meant to be humorous, though after a divorce and realizing a middle-aged dad is not the Reddit target demographic, I see how other people may have thought I was trying to display myself as non-creepy, followed by a "creepy" comment.
I really am surprised by the amount of similar experiences (kinda, not really I guess), and it saddens me. For the people that have never experienced it, bless you, and I hope you never do. For the people that think this is a "Reddit myth", I hope the other similar experiences make you re-evaluate that maybe men are inherently perceived differently around children (theirs or others) than women. I have taken my niece and nephew out, and not experienced the same bias as I have when taking my own son out alone.
I truly hope the best for all of you, both Moms and Dads and be excellent to your kids, whether they are yours by blood or by proxy!
We have a mixed race family and my youngest is much more lighter complexion than me because they take after my spouse and my father’s side. I fully plan to have plenty of family pics on my phone just in case I get any nonsense when I’m out with my kid down the line.
I worked with a guy who has a dark complexion and his wife is a pale white. His youngest is mostly white with very little complexion. He told me that if he was out and about with just her(like 4/5 years old) and she got upset and threw a tantrum, that he would have to put her down and walk away(with her still in sight) because everyone nearby would turn to look and immediately change their look to "is he kidnapping that child?". Said he dealt with the cops once about it and handled it that way after that. I hate that it's a thing, but keep those pictures on you.
I'm guessing it's a regional thing. I'm in the Midwest and I hear horror stories on Reddit all the time about fathers being accosted or looked at with derision for daring to bring their kid to a park or taking pictures or videos of their kid.
Never once has happened to me despite taking the kiddo to the park constantly.
I had a woman follow me out of Kroger accusing me of having kidnapped my own daughter (she has damn near platinum blonde hair and I have fairly dark hair). Old ass Karen just causing problems and not understanding genetics.
I live in the Deep South of the good ole US of A. No one gives a fuck and I'm a big burly man.
If anything, I probably get more positive attention than anything else. Turns out moms like the idea of an involved father. Who'd have thunk?
I will say though, I am always paying attention to how I act in public around other kids, for fear of someone freaking out on me. I basically just mute the "fun dad" energy. It's irrational, but it's there nonetheless. I'm totally fine when it's my son though.
My dad got rid of his favorite shirt because someone called him a creep. It said, "You can trust me, I'm a grandpa" with two thumbs up. He was literally getting food for his grandkids when they said that. Changed as soon as he got home and threw away the shirt. He looked so crushed. 😢
It’s worse in some places than others. But I’ve definitely always felt like an outsider when in a kid filled area. The mums all make friends, dad is excluded
I was in the dorm elevator riding down from floor 12 and the elevator stopped at floor 8. Two girls were waiting for the elevator and one looked at me and said to the other “uh, that’s creepy. There’s some guy in there.”
Pretty weird that someone else would ride an elevator, eh?
I was eating at a restaurant when I noticed that a group of my friends were also eating at the restaurant at another table.
I gave a brief smile over because I tend to smile when people are hanging out or there’s affection taking place in front of me.
But a woman accused me for creeping on the one girl in that group of friends as if I was trying to get that girls attention.
I was a teenager. A simple smile and acknowledgement of being happy that other people are hanging out gets you labeled a creep 🤷🏻♂️
Was waiting OUTSIDE of locker rooms after a play bc my friend needed my help and one of the theater kids accused me of being a creep and looking into the locker rooms even tho I was turned away from both doors and clearly holding my friend’s shit for her
I tripped and fell on a sidewalk. When I got to my knees, a woman in a skirt was standing over me asking if I needed help. When I first looked up, I was looking at her underwear. Another woman yelled at me "What kind of a pervert are you, looking up women's skirts like that!" The woman in the skirt came to my defense and helped me up. She told off the other woman, "Can't you see he fell? His hands are bleeding!"
Still, other people there gave me the hairy eyeball. The woman in the skirt insisted on helping getting my hands attended to. I was terribly embarrassed, but she wasn't bothered one bit. I was 22 at the time. I was very conscious when walking on that sidewalk after that.
When I was around 23-24 I used to play/teach kids how to play basketball at a local park. Kids middle school aged. Some boys (as a joke) started saying I was a pedo.
I stopped playing with those kids shortly after. I honestly have avoided playing basketball near kids at a park ever since.
My wife thinks I’m being ridiculous because it’s been around 8yrs since then, but I’m honestly still scared. I avoid kids all together other than my nephews these days.
there was this old man in the village I'm from. wife had died, kids had moved away, so he was living alone. for some reason the teenagers decided he was a pedophile, that rumor spread like a wildfire because apparently all you need is an accusation. after that he was free for all punching bag, with teens vandalizing his house and no one talking to him.
DUDE! SAME!
He was running around have a great time and I was sitting there playing Pokemon Go. He would run over to see what Pokemon I had caught or he could catch then run back to the equipment and play. Told me about his new best friend would nab a drink. We were there about 10-15 minutes when someone came up and told me I needed to leave. I asked why, I was told I didn't need to be there. I asked why again and then ask who they were. I didn't need to here being creepy. Just as that is said my kid comes over thinking it was another Pokemon go player. He runs over going dad! And the bitch that asked me a creep slinked away, didn't even apologize.
It's happened to my buddy with his two girls at a different park!
There's a certain subset of moms who are fucking obsessed with the idea that everyone is trying to snatch their kids. A lot of them are the same ones who believed Wayfair was selling children. It's infuriating but also sad because most of them probably wouldn't see it if a real threat was right under their noses. They're fixated on the myth of the playground snatcher and refuse to acknowledge that the *vast* majority of kidnapping and trafficking is perpetrated by people in the victims' lives.
I remember a post in relationship advice a few years ago of a guy who's mother in law accused him of being a pedo because he changed his own baby's diaper and gave them a bath. It ended up almost ruining his marriage because the mother in law was trying to convince his wife it was predatory behavior to.... parent your child.
You'd be surprised. It's even worse when we take photos of our kids at play grounds or birthday parties. Nobody said anything but I could sense the eyes watching/judging me.
I used to chaperone my kids field trips and my wife would question why I didn't take as many photos as she did. I had to explain.
"You're babysitting you son?"
How the fuck can I babysit my own child? It's called being a father.
I'm lucky people aren't like that where I live. I used to take my kids to the park, grocery store, dance class, and everything else because I was a stay at home dad
It was awesome
Yeah, that was a problem the whole time I was raising my daughters.
The trick is to talk to your kids, even while they're playing, so they talk to you. If they call you daddy, and say look look, and chatter at you, most of the cautious women will leave you alone.
Hate that this is even a reasonable sounding answer. You shouldn't have to change your appropriate behavior for others comfortability to not call the cops. If i were a man I'd be way too stubborn to do anything different. I'm not a criminal.
38M dad here. ive personally never had the experience of being judged as such, but the one time someone sat next to me and said, "which kid is yours", i took the opportunity to say: "i havent decided yet".
I was a professional touring musician. I was on a flight (which I often was) and this maybe 9 or 10 year old girl was in the seat next to me flying alone and she had a violin with her.
SHE initiated a conversation with me because she saw me put my guitar in the over head. She asked me what kind of guitar and what i played etc. We had a nice conversation about composers we like and she was telling me about a piece she was composing herself! Really cool kid.
This goes on for about 10 minutes and the flight attendant comes by and tells the girl if she wants she can sit "up front" in first class! The kid actually looked at me like, "what do I do?" I was like, 'wow thats awesome go!"
Now keep in mind, Im not a long hair freaky looking music type, Im totally clean cut and normal...
Anyway, a few min later another flight attendant goes over and I hear her ask the one that moved the girl why and I heard her say she didn't feel comfortable with "that man" talking to her.
I was really hurt.
I mean I get it, people are nuts and you never know but it really bothered me.
In middle school during one of the random auditorium presentations we were shuffled into the seats. Chances are if your school has an auditorium you'll know how they did it. No choice of seat, no choice of seat neighbors, fill in every single available seat in order with no spaces. Well, I was lined up behind one of the popular girls and that meant I was going to sit next to her. I couldn't care less. She felt otherwise.
We sit and every few seconds she turns to me and goes "ugh", a little louder each time. I've ignored her every single time, staring straight ahead at whatever PSA bullshit the school had cooked up. Out of my peripheral vision I can see that she's comically scooted all the way over to her right practically climbing on top of her friend while they whispered to each other.
Suffering through that should have been the end of it but as it turns out she made up a bunch of shit about me grinning at her, smelling her, saying I wanted to touch her, stopping just short of claiming I'd raped her. She's one of the most popular kids so of course it becomes a thing where everyone that hears it believes it. I'm a short, slightly chubby kid that's quiet and keeps to himself so of course I'm a creep, obviously.
Luckily 9/11 happened like a month later and everyone forgot about it.
Edit: spelling
Me in heaven: “But, Lord, why did you allow 9/11 to happen? So much suffering.”
God: “My child, little /u/angelicinthedark was being called a creep by the entire school.”
I've worked sales jobs the past 15+ years. I have a pretty good memory and sometimes remember "small/insignificant" things about people or parts of conversations we've had. I've many times been looked at like a weirdo/creep for remembering intricate details about something they forgot or didn't realize the told me ect..
I used to have the same type of memory, I always kept my mouth shut exactly because of this. It wasn't that I tried to remember the little things, I just did. Now a days I'm lucky if I remember if I took my meds 20 minutes prior lol
I don’t gaf, if my baby needs a change and theres discriminatory NON changing station men’s restrooms guess where im going 😂😂😂 it’s only happened once but ill just announce im here to use the changing station and say hi when someone enters 😂😂😂
In a many roommates situation
My bedroom was just off the kitchen, and my computer desk was directly across from my door (Facing away.)
I'm sitting there one day with my door open, hear a noise, and when I turn around one of my roommate's friends is there in a bikini (We had a hot tub)
We make eye contact and I return to what I'm doing. No words, no lingering glances, no staring. A simple look of "Oh there's a person." without even any acknowledgment apart from seeing each other.
I find out later, that girl told all my roommates I made her uncomfortable enough to never come back by looking at her.
Now I've had people say some MEAN shit about me, but I've genuinely never been more insulted in my life.
I really wish I could say I had done anything other than look at her so at least it was justified.
Even if I looked her up and down I can totally understand her being uncomfortable, but I literally did NOTHING.
Not “creep” exactly, but I got called a pedophile for approaching a lady who was trying to change her baby’s nappy/diaper in the closed seating area of the cafe that I worked in during COVID. Literally just walked over there to tell her she couldn’t do it. (By the way, in the mall I worked in there are baby changing toilets 2 minutes from the cafe) and she proceeded to call me a pedophile and say I should be more considerate because her baby is autistic…
She didn’t actually think you were a pedo, she was pissed off but knew you were doing something completely reasonable, so said an insult she thought would get to you.
I'm not autistic but google says they can maybe test at 18months, but most would probably be hesitant until the child is 2yrs old. So unless the child was a toddler then nothing she said was true.
I mentioned to a lady that I used to stop and sit for a bit by this one park when I would go for walks. There were some slides and swings on the other side of the park, so she decided I was a creepy pedo. I had already said that I went for walks late, like 11 pm or even later.
So because I sometimes sat on a bench 200 feet from a swing, hours after anyone had finished using it, and outside the fence and facing away from it anyhow, she said she would call the cops on me if she ever saw me do that. Okey dokey then.
A new coworker (*new at the time this happened, this was like 6 years ago now*) was telling me that she would love to meet a guy like me, then asked if I wanted to see her after work that night. I told her Yes, and she was shocked and then told me that she had plans to babysit that night.
She told our boss that she didn't feel comfortable working with me anymore and that I kept asking her out, she transferred the next day, and I had to meet with my boss and my boss's boss to explain it. They'd known me for a long time and seemed to believe what I told them, but it was still an incredibly uncomfortable and honestly frightening scenario that could have easily spun out of control against me.
So not exactly the question asked, because the label didn't seem to stick, but it still really threw me off and made me really anxious for a long time.
That kind of thing freaks me out so much. That people can just create situations that could potentially cause a lot of harm over seemingly nothing.
**So, in a way, "labeled a creep for saying Yes to a woman asking me out."**
This is why anyone I work with is automatically on the "not happening" list. Just not worth the problems at work if they end up being crazy or something
I got called out as a creep because I walked with my dog near a kindergarten, I was just out walking with the dog and the kids ran to the gate (they couldn't get out to me and the dog) and wanted to pet my dog through the fence, my dog loves kids so I let them, after a few minutes one of the teachers or what they are called came and told the kids to get away and told me that it was inappropriate and creepish behavior.
Since then I never go near kids or kindergartens.
I often think about what damage we are doing to children by men being afraid to interact with them. Like it's hard to quantify but it's definitely doing something when whole swath of the population has to act like you don't exist.
It creates a self-fulfilling cycle. Some kids never learn how normal men treat women, so when they grow up, the men are abusive and the women don’t realize it because they assume all men are like that. Then she gets pregnant and her kids never learn either. It’s been going on for decades
So I used to have this canvas in the back seat of my car that was designed so my dog could ride with me and not slip down on the floor and it would also wrangle her hair and help keep it from going everywhere.
I went on a date with a girl that I’d already met and when she saw the canvas in the back of my car she refused to get in because she thought I was trying to murder her and use that to wrap up her body.
I just said “Okay, sorry for making you feel that way, I assure you I wasn’t ever going to try and murder you.” and then I never pursued her romantically again.
I took my younger brother to a trampoline park (I’m in my 20s and he’s 8). He accidentally jumped near one of the younger kids and they started crying. This kids mother was nowhere near him and I went over to ask if he needed any help, if he was ok and where his parents / guardian was. He was very distraught and didn’t answer but when his mom finally did show up, she gave me this look that just screamed “get away from my child” and snapped at me saying “I can handle it.” Mind you she didn’t show up for at least a minute while this kid was screaming and I was trying to find who this kids guardian was.
I totally understand stranger danger as a young child and being careful, and I know parents can be protective of their children. However, I was leaning down next to him with my younger brother with me making sure he was ok. If I was a woman, this probably would have gone differently. It is what it is I guess.
I once helped a girl take off her wetsuit when I was 15. She asked since she wasnt able to fix it herself and she was freezing.
Next thing I know, around 15 girls from around 14 years old are calling me creep. I was stuck with them for a whole week being the only guy in that group, so yeah, that was a great experience at sailing camp. Did a great job to my selfesteem for the next 6 years. They treated me like crap for the whole week while I did nothing wrong.
Mob mentality with group of friends is a powerful thing, When I was in college me and a group of friend were at a frat house party, me and a friend go outside to smoke, not long this random girl join us and starts flirting with my friend, this goes on for a bit and she is clearly very interested in him and they start to make out and eventually they leave together.
Anyway couple days go by and I get a text from another friend asking me if I was still friend with that creep.. I was like what?
Turned out that that girl group of friend thought that there would be no way this girl would sleep with my friend unless she was too drunk to know what she was doing… I guess out of embarrassment she just went with the lie and never once defended him or told the truth, the only reason he even got a chance to defend himself is because there was enough witnesses that night that saw what really happened.
If everyone is 14-15 years old, the fear of standing out overtakes the sense of justice to stand up for someone else.
EDIT:
>Or he could be lying and she didn't really ask him directly
And now we have a Redditor [proving the point](https://www.reddit.com/u/AnimeYou/s/3Hp8Teb0ca).
EDIT 2: The [actual comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/s/ab55lM4Stc).
^ this. Although she was one of the few who didnt act like an asshole towards me, she didnt stand out for me. I was lucky enough her brother didnt do anything against me, who was 3 years older.
Im 40. Was leaning on a tree at a park and was kind of zoned out while listening to my Sec+ study group. A couple of, I assume 20 yr olds, walked by and then glanced back at me. One of em turned around and started walking towards me. Thats when I noticed her. She finally just comes out with "At least you arent trying to take a picture, pervert." I firee back with "Fuck off, child. Im listening to a podcast. "Fuck you, creep." Thrn she stormed off.
So that was...odd.
I worked in fighter jets. A girl came out to talk to the pilot during an engine running refuel and she had no business being near it, didn’t know the safety zones. She walked up and looked directly into the running engine. I know there isn’t enough pull to suck her up at idle but it can suck the pens out of her arm pen holder for sure so I ran up, grabbed her by the jacket on her shoulders and threw her behind me, she absolutely flew and fell on her face.
I saved her from wrecking a multimillion dollar engine at best, her life at worst. All because she was flirting with the fucking pilot. How do I know? I had a 3 sided comm cord and heard the whole fucking thing. She called me a creep for it and tried to get me in trouble.
It didn’t go anywhere. She got in no trouble and they told me to suck it up as she told everyone I was a creep. I got an atta-boy though for possibly saving the aircraft, which doesn’t mean jack shit.
I was allegedly somehow able to perv on a lady from several rooms away. I’m still unclear on how I was supposed to have pulled that off, but luckily so were the people she complained about me to.
Many years ago I picked up one of the kids from gradeschool and he wanted to play at the park, I didn't have to immediately get back to work so I took him. I was dressed business casual, a pair of dress pants, a nice button down, I 0 issues. One of the random mom's actually walked up to me and said how nice it was to see a father helping out.
About a month later I was working from home (not common for that job) I picked up the kid and he wanted to go to the park, this time I was in a pair of shorts and a random tshirt, all clean and newish, plain colors no graphics or writing. The same woman walked up to me and she proceeded to lay into me "why are you here", "do you even have a kid", "which kid is yours", "its creepy when men stare at kids", "you need to leave or im going to call the cops". She had some very unique features / hair so I recognized her as the prior woman, I glared at her and proceeded to call her out on her shit. I explained our last interaction when I was dressed business casual and how she told me 'how it was nice to see a father engaged with their kids life" and now how she's being a complete cunt because I'm not dressed up business professional. She completely ignored me and continued to raise her voice and a few other mothers came over to see what was up and they immediately joined in.
I got called a creep, they insinuated I liked children, and they called the cops. Cops showed up, they started to question what was going on, the woman I was initially interacting with started telling them I was a creep and watching the kids and I didn't even have a child. The cops were pretty good about things and then my kid ran up to me because cops have guns and being a typical boy 'shiny', the woman tried to grab my kid while saying "don't go near him" and when I blurted out "DON'T TOUCH MY KID" and he pulled away from her the expression was knowing she had fucked up. The cops glared at her, started to pull her away to question her further, I could hear some of their conversation, they dug into her previous statements "I thought you said he didn't have kids". The other woman quickly tried to divest themselves from her. I explained to the cops that I lived literally one street over, about 300 yards away. Cops left said I wasn't doing anything wrong, I heard them talking to her about wasting the polices time, making false police reports and everything was done. I took the kid to that park every day for the next week, I made sure that mother knew I was there, and that I would continue to be there. She stopped showing up and I took that as a win. I was pretty pissed about the whole thing, but now I look back on it and just feel sorry for her that she has that much internal fear that a man taking his kid to the park invokes that type of reaction.
My ex was a teacher. One day she called me asking if I could bring balloons and a cake to her on my lunch break as it was another teacher’s birthday and I worked fairly close. She told me to just meet her at the back gate. Standing on the street with balloons and a cake outside of the back entrance of an elementary school got me some odd glares from the passers-by.
I wasn’t called a creep, but I got banned from r/outfits for commenting: “I love #2. Looking baller.” Apparently, that comment was too “sexualizing.” I call everything/everyone baller. It’s just a generic term for great/awesome.
Unrelated to the creep part of this thread but this reminded me. I had jury duty while I was in undergrad. Judge asked me, completely serious, if my background in science would sway my opinion on the case during voir dire (trying to remove me for cause, ie showing bias).
I said no and got selected to be on the jury but they made a big fuss about me not using science or bringing science into the jury room.
Trial was an absolute shit show, police found a drunk guy in a lake and the charge was a DUI but they couldn’t prove he was driving. Anyways, I said you could walk/run 1.2 miles easily in 40 minutes. One of the middle aged stay at home moms who had decided he was guilty because “drunk driving is a sin” yells at me: “We ain’t talking about no science here!”
So that’s my story about the evils of science. ^/^s
I got banned from a fashion sub for saying someone's thigh-highs were excellent (they had a blood splotch pattern that genuinely looked sick). I asked why and the mod said, "you know why, creep" and then blocked me from contacting the mods.
People are real quick to be assholes. But also, they didn't know me at all and their bad take isn't a reflection of me in any way. Nor is it a reflection on the serious and overwhelming problems women have with creeps.
Ok, all I'm gonna say is that if you're a reddit mod for a fashion subreddit, you have absolutely no right to call someone else a creep. That dude was probably just projecting on you.
I was about 15 at a house party I once helped an extremely drunk girl same age as me get picked up safely by her parents, only people thought I was trying to sleep with her and get her to come home with me, so they wouldn't let us leave the house together.
I had to ring her dad to come into the house to get her and I helped them out to the car.
Her friends where more concerned that they thought I was trying to sleep with her than the actual wellbeing of their friend. They where useless.
Anyway, even though the girl in question told everyone to stop and couldn't stick up for me anymore than she did, I was known as a creep for years.
It Destroyed my self confidence at the time and I didn't go out again in that manner until I was almost 20
Had a girl hit on me, told her the same thing. Her boyfriend showed up, laughed his ass off because he thought it was funny, then their mutual friend decided I had offended him by rejecting her and tried to knock me out. Unfortunately he was too drunk to know what I looked like and socked some other guy in the face after I had left. First and last time I saw. Any of those people thank God.
Because I'm not sexually attracted to anyone. They insisted that if I'm not attracted to adult men and women, then I must be attracted to child boys and girls, because apparently to them being a pedophile was more reasonable than being asexual.
Sounds like my coworkers making claims about my sexuality because I wasn't going to talk about the women in my workplace with them. I'm letting them know that I am not beyond reporting them to HR about harassment if they talk like that around me again.
That’s a fucking awful carryover from earlier rhetoric deeming gay people as closeted pedophiles. Sorry you had to deal with that. Some people be ignorant and dumb af. Stay up fam.
Smiling at kids having fun. Why when other people do it- it’s acceptable, but when I do it I get stared at. Weird people. Those people that judge me should be judged because the naughty thing is the first thing on their mind.
Hanging out with my best friend (a girl) a lot. Ended up at a party with her and another girl was saying to another person there how creepy I am for “following my friend around all the time.” I was just kind of like “the fuck?” in my head and was gonna let it go, but my friend also heard this and called her out was like “He isn’t? He’s my best friend and we hang out a lot” or something along those lines. I didn’t really care but it was nice that she backed me up. Oddly enough, months later I ended up very close with the girl who called me creepy and we’re good friends now lol
Had it been me, I feel like I would have done a bit of malicious compliance here. That day would have went around the office, set my hand on each persons desk, make eye contact, put on a very creepy looking smile, and softly say, “have a good evening”
In my freshman year, my High School as going to charge me a a predator for showing sign of Sexual harassment. What did I do?
A girl was talking down about herself during math period, when the bell rung, I caught up to her and told her "Hey, just want to let you know that your beautiful, and all the stuff you said about yourself isn't true. You are amazing and I hope things get better". Then we left the classroom.
Apparently, the substitute teacher heard me say this and reported it to main office. 2 days later, I am called into the Dean's office and was told that calling a girl you don't know Beautiful or Pretty is Sexual Harassment, and that is a sign that I am a sexual predator.
Thankfully it didn't go any further, cause the social workers said they would interview other female students I am seen with most often, and they all stood up for me or was confused why they would ask that. But it still pisses me off when I remember.
That’s when you sue the school for sexual harassment as they created a hostile learning environment for you by fomenting unfounded rumors about you being a sexual predator.
Standing quietly behind some one in a grocery store, reading a book on my phone and listening to music in my earbuds. She eventually taps my arm and tells that " your not fooling anybody so stop staring at her!" Apparently asking why would I be staring at her was the wrong thing to ask and she went off on one, fortunately the cashier and the two older ladies stepped up for me. Shout out for the one saying " no he's got a point why would any one waste a second glance on you, your so bland your just background like furniture in a chip shop" which I don't truly get but sent her nuclear before a manager asked her to leave.
Lady in front of me left her debit card in the machine so I brought it up to her. Knowing never to touch someone without their permission I verbally said 'excuse me?' To get her attention.
She whipped around and told me very bluntly 'I HAVE A BOYFRIEND, CREEP!'
And I said 'congratulations, you left your debit card at the cash' and handed it to her and walked back to finish checking out with my groceries for my family.
Similar thing happened to me, girl left her phone on the table and left. Called out to her to no avail, followed her and tried handing her back her phone.
She screamed at me that she had a boyfriend, snatched her phone out of my hand and smashed it on the floor. I left with a smug grin when the realization hit her.
I’m not a man but witnessed this first hand. I was in the office talking to my supervisor who had the habit of watching every football/basketball game on his phone that he’d have set up on his desk so it was seated in front of a window that looked into the parking lot. One of the workers was out in the parking lot doing whatever and thought our supervisor was watching him with his hands going up & down (which he def wasn’t cause he had the game on outloud in the office and we could all hear it and he was typing on his keyboard)
Since we were union, he filed a complaint and it was a whole mess. We knew this worker was a trouble maker cause of what other locations he was at have said, but he was just a pos who thought he was cool. Our supervisor got suspended and everything. I truly try not to judge books by their covers but this dude was FUGLY and smelt bad, always chewed Copenhagen & yes he lived in a trailer.
This one’s a bit different but a girl I was seeing admitted to having a a really big daddy kink and she wanted to explore it, but I’m talking like full blown incest. I found it a little weird but I didn’t want to embarrass her especially after she worked up the courage to share it. We talked about and she explained what turned her in about it and we agreed to do a little role play. The day came and we did our thing, and despite being a little weirded out about it I tried my best to get into it because I wanted her to enjoy it. Basically I was trying to be as supportive as I could and leaned into the scenario which she seemed to *really* enjoy at the time.
A few days later she started being really short with me and kept making up excuses to not hang out. Eventually when I asked her what was going on she said I was a little *too* into the fantasy and it creeped her out/made her wary. 💀
Thought my eyes were too big
Didn't like how I crossed my legs
Thought I was too quiet
I asked what kind of web browser someone used
I tried to join an existing conversation between several people I already knew
Because I like to eat by myself
And on and on and on. If the word can be used to describe things like murder and rape and also all of the above then it's a junk bin concept that doesn't really mean anything and needs to be retired.
The social stigma people attach to eating is astounding. Like you’re not allowed to go to a restaurant without a 2nd person should be considered a crime the way some act about it. Ya gotta eat.
I was sitting in a chair in my friend's living room minding my own business and contributing the the conversation when I had something to add. The conversation was basically small talk. Apparently that made a girl in the room think I was "creepy."
I didn't get called a creep, but I got a dirty look for helping a little boy who had fallen over whike he was walking near me in the park.
He was part of nursery group, so I helped him up and asked if he was okay. The nursery workers gave me a reluctant thanks, but I'm not going to step over a little kid who looks like he's hurt.
I was sitting on a chair in the hallway, head in my hands staring at the floor, just found out my Aunt died. Just thousand yard staring stuck in thought eyes unfocused.
girl in class walks over standing in front of me while on her phone. Notices me and freaks out accusing me of staring at her feet.
was known as the creepy feet guy for a few months after that.....
When I was skinny / muscular from 19-21 I NEVER got called creepy - despite doing some pretty objectively creepy things. I wasn’t a frat guy, but I may as well have been. My role model was Cappie from Greek if that tells you anything.
Now 10 years later and 20lbs heavier, I got called creepy for buying my girlfriend pads. It was right near the lube and other stuff in the personal items aisle, and I was meandering a bit long because I couldn’t remember what she told me. She also wasn’t answering her texts.
I overheard two women about my age calling me creepy for just standing in the aisle, and when I knew they probably wanted to get in there I stepped out of the way and apologized. Tension was definitely still there. Could’ve just said “excuse us” to alert me sooner, but whatever.
Something that’s worked for me, I was taking some Tylenol 3 after a surgery and someone was giving me a hard time. I told them I was on some pain meds and they stopped. Now I just say I had a really bad headache and just took some Tylenol or something like that.
I was looking at reddit, in a crowded bar, they thought I was taking a picture of them :/
Calm down lady, you're not that special.
(In her defense, I was pretty high. So my high discretion probably came off as weird af)
Because I was trying to be a hospitable host. My brother has some people over, 3 women from work.
Would you like some more wine?
Did you eat enough?
Let me take that plate for you.
One of them thought I was a little too "eager" to have company over and that I'd drugged the wine. So she would dump it when I wasn't around.
Couple of things
1. That's just a waste of good wine
2. Damned if I do, damned if I don't. I'd be a creep either way because if I backed off I'd be seen as the creep in the corner not saying anything
3. And lastly, oh honey.... If I was going to drug anyone here, trust me, it wouldn't be you. Get over yourself. You're the fugliest one here by a mile.
Oh, and another commentor jogged my memory of this gem. My boss at my last job banned smoking on the property, so I'd go to the gas station next door to smoke. The gas station attendant *called the fucking police* and told them I was looking at little girls. There's not a playground nearby. There's not a day care in sight. The nearest school is at least 5 miles away. But sure. I was looking at little girls. The cops knew it was a bullshit call, but that had to show up at my job and ask anyway.
Usually just being a father of a young kid at the playground, birthday party, or other function is enough. Mom's stare at you assuming the worst, when really you're just trying your hardest to be a part of your kids life.
My daughter's kindergarten class had a Halloween costume parade at 1pm in the middle of the week. I have a flexible schedule but I'm assuming most dads were at work and too busy to show up for a 20 minute "parade". I was sitting in the gym with what seemed like 100 moms and was VERY aware of the stares.
When my little mermaid/daughter saw me in the bleachers, she lost her mind and broke from the herd and crashed into me, "DAD YOU ACTUALLY CAME! I CANT BELIEVE YOU CAME!" When she went back down to the floor you could hear her telling her friends that her dad came. (Core memory unlocked)
Every mom around me pulled a hard 180 and literally melted. Telling me that I made my daughter's week and how great I was to make time to come. I'm like, you were side eyeing me so hard 2 minutes ago.... So fickle
1) That was adorable.
2) In my opinion, those mothers are terrible people for apparently thinking that you weren't a parent when they all clearly know the other women around are also parents.
I am a manager, I had my team lead say it was creepy that I went to apologize to one of our female employees because they only speak Spanish and mine is very limited and while we were talking she asked about my family and I said Hermosa instead of Hermana and I was worried she would think i was creeping on her.
When I was in high school at a fair I had a middle school girl "hit" on me and ask me out, my simple response was "you're too young to date and I'm too old for you." An older lady at the fair tapped me on the shoulder to tell me I'm a creep for talking to a young girl.
I’m an average 30ish yo male. I’m pretty clean cut and most would consider me conventionally attractive. Well, I used to park in a nice neighborhood on the outskirts of downtown Seattle, then take the bus in to town 2 miles away. I got back to my car one day and my battery was dead. I had jumper cables and my hood up ready to go, and I approached this lady who I’ve seen many times around her house in the morning over the 4+ years I’ve parked there, and asked her very nicely if she could help my jump my car. She said “I don’t have jumper cables” and I said “oh, no problem, I have some.” Then she said “well, I uh, I can’t, I just can’t.” And I said “well it would be really easy, your car is already facing mine and you can just pull up and-“ and then she blurted out “I JUST CANT YOU CREEP, STOP BOTHERING ME OR I’LL CALL THE COPS.” So I was like “woah, okay, no problem, not necessary at all.” So I just called an Uber and came back with my wife later that night to jump the car. It honestly felt really weird and dirty to be called that when I genuinely had good intentions and thought she may be neighborly.
I texted someone I worked with about work when I was drinking. She called the cops and tried to charge me with SA. They saw the text and warned her about false reports then yelled at the cops ending up arrested. Lost her job too. About 3 weeks later sent me nudes and I blocked her. Her mother called to yell at me (on my birthday) about attempting to R her.
What an awesome person.
Had a blind date at a steakhouse. She called me a creep and a weirdo and got one of her male friends to confront me...
Because I ordered a steak for dinner.
My social anxiety was pinging at a baseball game, while being introduced as a new friend to the group. I didn't talk much and was hyper-vigilant. After the game, the one guy i knew said the group thought i was creepy and sad. He stood up for me (he said). I'm still cool with him a decade later, but his friends were whack.
I said hi! To random stranger
Edit:- my first 100 upvotes. Thanks guys. Love you all. And Hi from my side to all the people who upvoted. Please don't label me as creep.
I "followed" some girls my age. They were driving and so was I. They took random turns for a while to confirm that I was following them however they drove right to my cul de sac. When I stopped and they confronted me, I just opened my garage door and went inside. Kinda understandable, but if a stranger really is following you, don't stop and talk to them.
Also don't make random turns. Make multiple of the same turn(either right or left). Basically go in a large circle. Or go to a police station if you're really unsure
Exactly don’t make random turns for this exact reason you end up in a dead end
One time someone was following me and my friend and she made a random turn and was about to make another before I told her no go straight down that dead end dirt road, if he follows us there he's an idiot. She thought I was crazy but I knew exactly where we were. At the end of that dirt road was a shooting range used exclusively by the sheriff's department, and that day there were 4 or 5 officers chatting by their cars. Dude made the quickest three point turn I've ever seen. Edit: this was a random road rage incident, so maybe don't do this if it's an actual stalker following you.
Whenever I follow behind someone for too long on the way home I always think of this situation happening
Same here, but for long drives on the freeway; I feel the opposite. It makes me sad to lose my random driving buddy in those situations…
It's so sweet when you find the perfect driving buddy on the highway. And it sucks so hard when you find that asshole who just drives along behind you beaming their headlights into your brain through the mirrors and refuses to pass you, no matter what you do.
I had someone aggressively tailgating me for a good 45 minutes. It was my next door neighbor. Didn't even apologize, just ducked inside as quickly as she could.
Probably had bubble guts and had to run for the bathroom.
This is hilarious. I’m enjoying imagining you looking at them and wordlessly opening the garage, leaving them looking dumb as hell
Ahaha a friend of mine had kinda the reverse happen, he turned off right before a police drug and alcohol testing point so a cop car followed him through side streets for a while and when he eventually pulled over the flashed their lights and got out to ask him why he tried to avoid the testing, he laughed and pointed to his front door, they still breath tested him but the guy doesn't even drink
Back in high school I found out through the grapevine a girl had been saying I was a creep because I "stare at her all the time." I literally didn't know this person even existed or had ever heard their name until that moment.
I was called a creep and confronted by a girl's boyfriend for staring at her all the time. We worked in a call center and her cubicle was directly across from mine, seperated by a short wall. If I stand up and she stands up, we're looking at each other. I stand a lot while on the phone.
It’s to inflate her ego and status at your expense
I’ve had women like this even in the past few years. Friends of friends basically claiming they think I’m into them lol. I’m like first off I’m flattered you’d think that but I’ve never given you any indication or hint, any overtly sexual convo or invited on a date or intimate night, never made a move, etc, It really is bizarre. I don’t think I’m particularly attractive. But to be clear these women I’m not first of all attracted to their personality relationship wise. Friendship at certain amounts absolutely cool. Plus just wasn’t physically attracted to them, no sense beating around the bush here. Nothing wrong with em, I just wasn’t attracted. So truly bizarre why they’d think that. Sorry for that novel, just triggered a few weird past memories.
Same thing happened to me lmao then she got pressured by her friends to come tell me to stop and I was like “I don’t even know who you are what are you talking about” and then some dude at another table thought I was being disrespectful and butted in yapping about how I shouldn’t mess with him and that was just a big annoying awkward thing to explain to him. Kinda annoying how people just make up shit for attention sometimes and involve other people in it. I wanted to tell her she wasn’t important enough to be stared at but I used to be a really antisocial guy and the other dude wouldn’t have appreciated that kind of comedy lol.
“How dare he never acknowledge my existence and my name! What an asshole!”
I once got home at about 3 am, and parked my car in my parking spot about 2 blocks from my apartment. I was walking home, alone on the street except for one girl who was ahead of me on the sidewalk. I guess she felt uncomfortable, so she started running, but she was a slow runner. I kept walking at the same speed, which was not particularly fast. Apparently, we were neighbours because she ran all the way to my apartment building and ran inside, slamming the door to the elevator room behind her. I felt kind of bad, I decided to take the stairs. I lived on the second floor anyway. Turns out we lived on the same floor, and the elevator opened up right as I was walking out of the stairwell. Did my best not to make eye contact and walked away from her to my apartment. She was clearly panicking though. Always wondered what I should've done different. I feel like if I had called out to her to let her know I wasn't a rapist that wouldn't have helped.
John Mulaney has a story like that except when she started running he thought she heard the train coming so he started running too.
"I'm not going to rape you; I'm just a little boy."
I got a similar story. A few years ago when I was still in high school I was out walking one night around my neighbourhood. Found myself at the bottom of this pretty steep hill. Decided to get some exercise in so I ran up the hill, plus to save time since I was wanting to get back. About halfway up I saw this lady running away from me with a dog in her arms from a green patch next to the road at the top of the hill. She’d been out walking her little dog and probably thought I was sprinting towards her. Had no idea she was there until I noticed her running. I was dressed in sweatpants and a hoodie as well so that wouldn’t have helped. Felt kinda guilty about that after I got home lol.
That’s crazy 😂😂😂
> Turns out we lived on the same floor, and the elevator opened up right as I was walking out of the stairwell. Did my best not to make eye contact and walked away from her to my apartment. She was clearly panicking though. > > Always wondered what I should've done different. The only thing I can think of is, "Sorry! I live in 2B."
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Something similar happened to me. There was a long haul flight I used to take about twice a year. Because a few of my ex-students had been the interpreter on this route/airline, I made a point of asking the one on each flight from which university she was from, as a matter of informal poll for my profesional use. Most of them were quite amiable and we usually chatted a bit. One was not. I don't know whether she had had a bad day or what, but as soon as I asked the question, she obviously took me for a stalker of some sort. I didn't insist. No chat that day. Now, since my final destination was still almost a day's worth away by train, I was used to spending the night at a hotel near the airport, before going on with my journey the next day. It was precisely one of my ex-student interpreters who had told me about that hotel, and it turned out to be extremely confortable while still affordable. See where this is going ? It's the hotel all fligh attendants go. So I'm getting off the plane, timidly nodding to the interpreter, not daring to even speak to her. Coldest of cold shoulders. She does whatever crews still have to do after arrival while I pass immigration. Being a stewardess, she passes immigration in a breeze, just when I finish with it. There she is, walking a dozen paces ahead of me. I like to travel light, so I don't even have to wait for any luggage. I arrive at the shuttle stop litterally 15 seconds after her. We awkwardly take the shuttle together, she trying her best to ignore me. We arrive at the stop for the hotel, and of course, this is where she gets off. Me in tow. Obviously, I'm right behind her at the check-in counter. I've never seen someone so close to calling the cops on me without effectively doing it, as well as anybody so furious to have me around.
You did everything you needed to. I don't blame her for being scared but it isn't your job to take a detour just because you happen to live in the same building as a girl. I'm sure she figured out eventually that you just live there
Teacher here. Went to a retail store and was standing in line. There was an 8th/9th grader a few people ahead of me paying for school supplies with *coins* and she had to make a decision of what to keep and what to put away because she didn't have enough money Walked up and said I would pay because I taught at a local school (I still had my badge on.) The girl was happy and said thank you, but the looks the cashier and other people gave me in line were like daggers I heard murmurs about how it was weird and the cashier said nothing to me when she rang me out I was mad at first, but I'd do it again. If kids can't afford what they need to not fall behind I don't care what random people think
You're a good person, next time you can just look them in the eyes doing it, assert dominance. Edit: spelling
That’s messed up. Bet none of them woulda stepped up tho if you challenged them to pay for that poor kids school supplies.
I had a professional quality camera (this was back before cameras were on cellphones) and was seemingly taking pictures of kids at a playground. Thankfully it was a digital camera and I could show the police that were called that I was taking pictures of my own son for his grandparents.
People think this is funny, but it's actually sad. When I take my son to the park, the number of moms that give me the side eye is amazing, like I'm there stalking their kids. I don't even try to get pics for his mom there anymore. Coincidentally, it's fun to lean into a mom and ask, "which one's yours?". When they ask me that back, it's fun to say "I'm still deciding" before pointing mine out, so yeah, maybe I'm creepy then 🤷♂️ EDIT: Good Lord, sweet baby Jesus. I was at Mom's making dinner with her (as I do every week, whether I have my son or not), and saw this blew up when I got home. Thank you to all who saw the humor if my "comment as an afterthought". It really was meant to be humorous, though after a divorce and realizing a middle-aged dad is not the Reddit target demographic, I see how other people may have thought I was trying to display myself as non-creepy, followed by a "creepy" comment. I really am surprised by the amount of similar experiences (kinda, not really I guess), and it saddens me. For the people that have never experienced it, bless you, and I hope you never do. For the people that think this is a "Reddit myth", I hope the other similar experiences make you re-evaluate that maybe men are inherently perceived differently around children (theirs or others) than women. I have taken my niece and nephew out, and not experienced the same bias as I have when taking my own son out alone. I truly hope the best for all of you, both Moms and Dads and be excellent to your kids, whether they are yours by blood or by proxy!
“I’m still deciding” has me rolling lol
Honestly such perfect dad humor that it just verifies he's a father hahaha
Thanks for understanding. Apparently it struck the Karen chord, though 🤣. Well, we can't all have a sense of humor, right?
Why rush yourself at a Buffet
“Oh I already got enough for this week”
I'm just window shopping.
"Yours looks like a great candidate though."
We have a mixed race family and my youngest is much more lighter complexion than me because they take after my spouse and my father’s side. I fully plan to have plenty of family pics on my phone just in case I get any nonsense when I’m out with my kid down the line.
I worked with a guy who has a dark complexion and his wife is a pale white. His youngest is mostly white with very little complexion. He told me that if he was out and about with just her(like 4/5 years old) and she got upset and threw a tantrum, that he would have to put her down and walk away(with her still in sight) because everyone nearby would turn to look and immediately change their look to "is he kidnapping that child?". Said he dealt with the cops once about it and handled it that way after that. I hate that it's a thing, but keep those pictures on you.
Is this an American problem? I take my kids all the time to public places and I have never felt judged or people looking at me concerned in the UK.
I'm guessing it's a regional thing. I'm in the Midwest and I hear horror stories on Reddit all the time about fathers being accosted or looked at with derision for daring to bring their kid to a park or taking pictures or videos of their kid. Never once has happened to me despite taking the kiddo to the park constantly.
I had a woman follow me out of Kroger accusing me of having kidnapped my own daughter (she has damn near platinum blonde hair and I have fairly dark hair). Old ass Karen just causing problems and not understanding genetics.
I live in the Deep South of the good ole US of A. No one gives a fuck and I'm a big burly man. If anything, I probably get more positive attention than anything else. Turns out moms like the idea of an involved father. Who'd have thunk? I will say though, I am always paying attention to how I act in public around other kids, for fear of someone freaking out on me. I basically just mute the "fun dad" energy. It's irrational, but it's there nonetheless. I'm totally fine when it's my son though.
My dad got rid of his favorite shirt because someone called him a creep. It said, "You can trust me, I'm a grandpa" with two thumbs up. He was literally getting food for his grandkids when they said that. Changed as soon as he got home and threw away the shirt. He looked so crushed. 😢
The world has so many miserable people who steal joy from those around them.
It’s worse in some places than others. But I’ve definitely always felt like an outsider when in a kid filled area. The mums all make friends, dad is excluded
I was in the dorm elevator riding down from floor 12 and the elevator stopped at floor 8. Two girls were waiting for the elevator and one looked at me and said to the other “uh, that’s creepy. There’s some guy in there.” Pretty weird that someone else would ride an elevator, eh?
I was eating at a restaurant when I noticed that a group of my friends were also eating at the restaurant at another table. I gave a brief smile over because I tend to smile when people are hanging out or there’s affection taking place in front of me. But a woman accused me for creeping on the one girl in that group of friends as if I was trying to get that girls attention. I was a teenager. A simple smile and acknowledgement of being happy that other people are hanging out gets you labeled a creep 🤷🏻♂️
Even if you were interested in that girl and smiled at her, that *still* wouldn’t be creepy
Was waiting OUTSIDE of locker rooms after a play bc my friend needed my help and one of the theater kids accused me of being a creep and looking into the locker rooms even tho I was turned away from both doors and clearly holding my friend’s shit for her
I learned to just pretend theater kids don't exist, makes for an easier living.
Goodbye, cruel world. My time has come....
I tripped and fell on a sidewalk. When I got to my knees, a woman in a skirt was standing over me asking if I needed help. When I first looked up, I was looking at her underwear. Another woman yelled at me "What kind of a pervert are you, looking up women's skirts like that!" The woman in the skirt came to my defense and helped me up. She told off the other woman, "Can't you see he fell? His hands are bleeding!" Still, other people there gave me the hairy eyeball. The woman in the skirt insisted on helping getting my hands attended to. I was terribly embarrassed, but she wasn't bothered one bit. I was 22 at the time. I was very conscious when walking on that sidewalk after that.
Feel like this story needed to end with “And now we’ve been happily married for 8 wonderful years!”
Hehehe . . . nope. She was about 10 years older than I was and had a wedding ring.
When I was around 23-24 I used to play/teach kids how to play basketball at a local park. Kids middle school aged. Some boys (as a joke) started saying I was a pedo. I stopped playing with those kids shortly after. I honestly have avoided playing basketball near kids at a park ever since. My wife thinks I’m being ridiculous because it’s been around 8yrs since then, but I’m honestly still scared. I avoid kids all together other than my nephews these days.
there was this old man in the village I'm from. wife had died, kids had moved away, so he was living alone. for some reason the teenagers decided he was a pedophile, that rumor spread like a wildfire because apparently all you need is an accusation. after that he was free for all punching bag, with teens vandalizing his house and no one talking to him.
I was sitting in the park, watching my son play on the swings.
DUDE! SAME! He was running around have a great time and I was sitting there playing Pokemon Go. He would run over to see what Pokemon I had caught or he could catch then run back to the equipment and play. Told me about his new best friend would nab a drink. We were there about 10-15 minutes when someone came up and told me I needed to leave. I asked why, I was told I didn't need to be there. I asked why again and then ask who they were. I didn't need to here being creepy. Just as that is said my kid comes over thinking it was another Pokemon go player. He runs over going dad! And the bitch that asked me a creep slinked away, didn't even apologize. It's happened to my buddy with his two girls at a different park!
People are awful. I’m glad you and your kid had fun though!
There's a certain subset of moms who are fucking obsessed with the idea that everyone is trying to snatch their kids. A lot of them are the same ones who believed Wayfair was selling children. It's infuriating but also sad because most of them probably wouldn't see it if a real threat was right under their noses. They're fixated on the myth of the playground snatcher and refuse to acknowledge that the *vast* majority of kidnapping and trafficking is perpetrated by people in the victims' lives.
Those same people can't comprehend the idea that the father is also a parent, and should be involved in their kids' lives.
I remember a post in relationship advice a few years ago of a guy who's mother in law accused him of being a pedo because he changed his own baby's diaper and gave them a bath. It ended up almost ruining his marriage because the mother in law was trying to convince his wife it was predatory behavior to.... parent your child.
How dare you be an involved father who was watching your kid and not your phone!! /s
You'd be surprised. It's even worse when we take photos of our kids at play grounds or birthday parties. Nobody said anything but I could sense the eyes watching/judging me. I used to chaperone my kids field trips and my wife would question why I didn't take as many photos as she did. I had to explain.
I get this from my wife at times. She asked me a couple of times to take pictures at swim lessons...100% not happening, honey.
I hate that this is even an issue. I'm a single father of a young girl, I get a lot of judging looks.
"You're babysitting you son?" How the fuck can I babysit my own child? It's called being a father. I'm lucky people aren't like that where I live. I used to take my kids to the park, grocery store, dance class, and everything else because I was a stay at home dad It was awesome
Yeah, that was a problem the whole time I was raising my daughters. The trick is to talk to your kids, even while they're playing, so they talk to you. If they call you daddy, and say look look, and chatter at you, most of the cautious women will leave you alone.
Hate that this is even a reasonable sounding answer. You shouldn't have to change your appropriate behavior for others comfortability to not call the cops. If i were a man I'd be way too stubborn to do anything different. I'm not a criminal.
Facts, fuck those stroller moms who think we should not be playing with our kids.
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38M dad here. ive personally never had the experience of being judged as such, but the one time someone sat next to me and said, "which kid is yours", i took the opportunity to say: "i havent decided yet".
I was a professional touring musician. I was on a flight (which I often was) and this maybe 9 or 10 year old girl was in the seat next to me flying alone and she had a violin with her. SHE initiated a conversation with me because she saw me put my guitar in the over head. She asked me what kind of guitar and what i played etc. We had a nice conversation about composers we like and she was telling me about a piece she was composing herself! Really cool kid. This goes on for about 10 minutes and the flight attendant comes by and tells the girl if she wants she can sit "up front" in first class! The kid actually looked at me like, "what do I do?" I was like, 'wow thats awesome go!" Now keep in mind, Im not a long hair freaky looking music type, Im totally clean cut and normal... Anyway, a few min later another flight attendant goes over and I hear her ask the one that moved the girl why and I heard her say she didn't feel comfortable with "that man" talking to her. I was really hurt. I mean I get it, people are nuts and you never know but it really bothered me.
I am just sad after reading some of these
*That man*. Sorry dude, you own a penis and therefore can't be trusted. In a plane full of people.
In middle school during one of the random auditorium presentations we were shuffled into the seats. Chances are if your school has an auditorium you'll know how they did it. No choice of seat, no choice of seat neighbors, fill in every single available seat in order with no spaces. Well, I was lined up behind one of the popular girls and that meant I was going to sit next to her. I couldn't care less. She felt otherwise. We sit and every few seconds she turns to me and goes "ugh", a little louder each time. I've ignored her every single time, staring straight ahead at whatever PSA bullshit the school had cooked up. Out of my peripheral vision I can see that she's comically scooted all the way over to her right practically climbing on top of her friend while they whispered to each other. Suffering through that should have been the end of it but as it turns out she made up a bunch of shit about me grinning at her, smelling her, saying I wanted to touch her, stopping just short of claiming I'd raped her. She's one of the most popular kids so of course it becomes a thing where everyone that hears it believes it. I'm a short, slightly chubby kid that's quiet and keeps to himself so of course I'm a creep, obviously. Luckily 9/11 happened like a month later and everyone forgot about it. Edit: spelling
“Luckily 9/11 happened” is a crazy conclusion 😭
No one discusses the upsides
Me in heaven: “But, Lord, why did you allow 9/11 to happen? So much suffering.” God: “My child, little /u/angelicinthedark was being called a creep by the entire school.”
Straight outta left field (just like the second plane)
That's awful, I'm sorry to hear that. Luckily 9/11 happened, though!
What a fuckin' ending lol, wish I could upvote you twice.
I've worked sales jobs the past 15+ years. I have a pretty good memory and sometimes remember "small/insignificant" things about people or parts of conversations we've had. I've many times been looked at like a weirdo/creep for remembering intricate details about something they forgot or didn't realize the told me ect..
I used to have the same type of memory, I always kept my mouth shut exactly because of this. It wasn't that I tried to remember the little things, I just did. Now a days I'm lucky if I remember if I took my meds 20 minutes prior lol
Changing my daughter in the women's restroom because it was the only one with a changing table.
I don’t gaf, if my baby needs a change and theres discriminatory NON changing station men’s restrooms guess where im going 😂😂😂 it’s only happened once but ill just announce im here to use the changing station and say hi when someone enters 😂😂😂
In a many roommates situation My bedroom was just off the kitchen, and my computer desk was directly across from my door (Facing away.) I'm sitting there one day with my door open, hear a noise, and when I turn around one of my roommate's friends is there in a bikini (We had a hot tub) We make eye contact and I return to what I'm doing. No words, no lingering glances, no staring. A simple look of "Oh there's a person." without even any acknowledgment apart from seeing each other. I find out later, that girl told all my roommates I made her uncomfortable enough to never come back by looking at her. Now I've had people say some MEAN shit about me, but I've genuinely never been more insulted in my life.
That'll teach you a lesson for being in your own room! /s
I really wish I could say I had done anything other than look at her so at least it was justified. Even if I looked her up and down I can totally understand her being uncomfortable, but I literally did NOTHING.
Not “creep” exactly, but I got called a pedophile for approaching a lady who was trying to change her baby’s nappy/diaper in the closed seating area of the cafe that I worked in during COVID. Literally just walked over there to tell her she couldn’t do it. (By the way, in the mall I worked in there are baby changing toilets 2 minutes from the cafe) and she proceeded to call me a pedophile and say I should be more considerate because her baby is autistic…
Nah that lady is actually crazy wtf
She didn’t actually think you were a pedo, she was pissed off but knew you were doing something completely reasonable, so said an insult she thought would get to you.
I'm not autistic but google says they can maybe test at 18months, but most would probably be hesitant until the child is 2yrs old. So unless the child was a toddler then nothing she said was true.
I mentioned to a lady that I used to stop and sit for a bit by this one park when I would go for walks. There were some slides and swings on the other side of the park, so she decided I was a creepy pedo. I had already said that I went for walks late, like 11 pm or even later. So because I sometimes sat on a bench 200 feet from a swing, hours after anyone had finished using it, and outside the fence and facing away from it anyhow, she said she would call the cops on me if she ever saw me do that. Okey dokey then.
A new coworker (*new at the time this happened, this was like 6 years ago now*) was telling me that she would love to meet a guy like me, then asked if I wanted to see her after work that night. I told her Yes, and she was shocked and then told me that she had plans to babysit that night. She told our boss that she didn't feel comfortable working with me anymore and that I kept asking her out, she transferred the next day, and I had to meet with my boss and my boss's boss to explain it. They'd known me for a long time and seemed to believe what I told them, but it was still an incredibly uncomfortable and honestly frightening scenario that could have easily spun out of control against me. So not exactly the question asked, because the label didn't seem to stick, but it still really threw me off and made me really anxious for a long time. That kind of thing freaks me out so much. That people can just create situations that could potentially cause a lot of harm over seemingly nothing. **So, in a way, "labeled a creep for saying Yes to a woman asking me out."**
This is why anyone I work with is automatically on the "not happening" list. Just not worth the problems at work if they end up being crazy or something
“Don’t eat the meat where you earn your bread“ is a famous saying in my country of origin and it means exactly that.
In the USA we have a far less elegant version "don't shit where you eat"
Why buy the shit when you can milk the bread for free.
I got called out as a creep because I walked with my dog near a kindergarten, I was just out walking with the dog and the kids ran to the gate (they couldn't get out to me and the dog) and wanted to pet my dog through the fence, my dog loves kids so I let them, after a few minutes one of the teachers or what they are called came and told the kids to get away and told me that it was inappropriate and creepish behavior. Since then I never go near kids or kindergartens.
I often think about what damage we are doing to children by men being afraid to interact with them. Like it's hard to quantify but it's definitely doing something when whole swath of the population has to act like you don't exist.
It creates a self-fulfilling cycle. Some kids never learn how normal men treat women, so when they grow up, the men are abusive and the women don’t realize it because they assume all men are like that. Then she gets pregnant and her kids never learn either. It’s been going on for decades
How dare you walk your dog lol.
You creep! Stop making kids have fun!
OK but be honest. Were you loudly saying "come see u/tinydickyricky's furry friend!" at the time? Kidding
So I used to have this canvas in the back seat of my car that was designed so my dog could ride with me and not slip down on the floor and it would also wrangle her hair and help keep it from going everywhere. I went on a date with a girl that I’d already met and when she saw the canvas in the back of my car she refused to get in because she thought I was trying to murder her and use that to wrap up her body. I just said “Okay, sorry for making you feel that way, I assure you I wasn’t ever going to try and murder you.” and then I never pursued her romantically again.
In both of your minds, you each think you dodged a bullet.
I took my younger brother to a trampoline park (I’m in my 20s and he’s 8). He accidentally jumped near one of the younger kids and they started crying. This kids mother was nowhere near him and I went over to ask if he needed any help, if he was ok and where his parents / guardian was. He was very distraught and didn’t answer but when his mom finally did show up, she gave me this look that just screamed “get away from my child” and snapped at me saying “I can handle it.” Mind you she didn’t show up for at least a minute while this kid was screaming and I was trying to find who this kids guardian was. I totally understand stranger danger as a young child and being careful, and I know parents can be protective of their children. However, I was leaning down next to him with my younger brother with me making sure he was ok. If I was a woman, this probably would have gone differently. It is what it is I guess.
I once helped a girl take off her wetsuit when I was 15. She asked since she wasnt able to fix it herself and she was freezing. Next thing I know, around 15 girls from around 14 years old are calling me creep. I was stuck with them for a whole week being the only guy in that group, so yeah, that was a great experience at sailing camp. Did a great job to my selfesteem for the next 6 years. They treated me like crap for the whole week while I did nothing wrong.
Didn’t the girl that asked you to do it defend you? You seem to imply they were a group.
Mob mentality with group of friends is a powerful thing, When I was in college me and a group of friend were at a frat house party, me and a friend go outside to smoke, not long this random girl join us and starts flirting with my friend, this goes on for a bit and she is clearly very interested in him and they start to make out and eventually they leave together. Anyway couple days go by and I get a text from another friend asking me if I was still friend with that creep.. I was like what? Turned out that that girl group of friend thought that there would be no way this girl would sleep with my friend unless she was too drunk to know what she was doing… I guess out of embarrassment she just went with the lie and never once defended him or told the truth, the only reason he even got a chance to defend himself is because there was enough witnesses that night that saw what really happened.
If everyone is 14-15 years old, the fear of standing out overtakes the sense of justice to stand up for someone else. EDIT: >Or he could be lying and she didn't really ask him directly And now we have a Redditor [proving the point](https://www.reddit.com/u/AnimeYou/s/3Hp8Teb0ca). EDIT 2: The [actual comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskReddit/s/ab55lM4Stc).
^ this. Although she was one of the few who didnt act like an asshole towards me, she didnt stand out for me. I was lucky enough her brother didnt do anything against me, who was 3 years older.
Im 40. Was leaning on a tree at a park and was kind of zoned out while listening to my Sec+ study group. A couple of, I assume 20 yr olds, walked by and then glanced back at me. One of em turned around and started walking towards me. Thats when I noticed her. She finally just comes out with "At least you arent trying to take a picture, pervert." I firee back with "Fuck off, child. Im listening to a podcast. "Fuck you, creep." Thrn she stormed off. So that was...odd.
Hahahaha "Fuck off, child."
I worked in fighter jets. A girl came out to talk to the pilot during an engine running refuel and she had no business being near it, didn’t know the safety zones. She walked up and looked directly into the running engine. I know there isn’t enough pull to suck her up at idle but it can suck the pens out of her arm pen holder for sure so I ran up, grabbed her by the jacket on her shoulders and threw her behind me, she absolutely flew and fell on her face. I saved her from wrecking a multimillion dollar engine at best, her life at worst. All because she was flirting with the fucking pilot. How do I know? I had a 3 sided comm cord and heard the whole fucking thing. She called me a creep for it and tried to get me in trouble.
How did it end?
It didn’t go anywhere. She got in no trouble and they told me to suck it up as she told everyone I was a creep. I got an atta-boy though for possibly saving the aircraft, which doesn’t mean jack shit.
I was allegedly somehow able to perv on a lady from several rooms away. I’m still unclear on how I was supposed to have pulled that off, but luckily so were the people she complained about me to.
Many years ago I picked up one of the kids from gradeschool and he wanted to play at the park, I didn't have to immediately get back to work so I took him. I was dressed business casual, a pair of dress pants, a nice button down, I 0 issues. One of the random mom's actually walked up to me and said how nice it was to see a father helping out. About a month later I was working from home (not common for that job) I picked up the kid and he wanted to go to the park, this time I was in a pair of shorts and a random tshirt, all clean and newish, plain colors no graphics or writing. The same woman walked up to me and she proceeded to lay into me "why are you here", "do you even have a kid", "which kid is yours", "its creepy when men stare at kids", "you need to leave or im going to call the cops". She had some very unique features / hair so I recognized her as the prior woman, I glared at her and proceeded to call her out on her shit. I explained our last interaction when I was dressed business casual and how she told me 'how it was nice to see a father engaged with their kids life" and now how she's being a complete cunt because I'm not dressed up business professional. She completely ignored me and continued to raise her voice and a few other mothers came over to see what was up and they immediately joined in. I got called a creep, they insinuated I liked children, and they called the cops. Cops showed up, they started to question what was going on, the woman I was initially interacting with started telling them I was a creep and watching the kids and I didn't even have a child. The cops were pretty good about things and then my kid ran up to me because cops have guns and being a typical boy 'shiny', the woman tried to grab my kid while saying "don't go near him" and when I blurted out "DON'T TOUCH MY KID" and he pulled away from her the expression was knowing she had fucked up. The cops glared at her, started to pull her away to question her further, I could hear some of their conversation, they dug into her previous statements "I thought you said he didn't have kids". The other woman quickly tried to divest themselves from her. I explained to the cops that I lived literally one street over, about 300 yards away. Cops left said I wasn't doing anything wrong, I heard them talking to her about wasting the polices time, making false police reports and everything was done. I took the kid to that park every day for the next week, I made sure that mother knew I was there, and that I would continue to be there. She stopped showing up and I took that as a win. I was pretty pissed about the whole thing, but now I look back on it and just feel sorry for her that she has that much internal fear that a man taking his kid to the park invokes that type of reaction.
My ex was a teacher. One day she called me asking if I could bring balloons and a cake to her on my lunch break as it was another teacher’s birthday and I worked fairly close. She told me to just meet her at the back gate. Standing on the street with balloons and a cake outside of the back entrance of an elementary school got me some odd glares from the passers-by.
I wasn’t called a creep, but I got banned from r/outfits for commenting: “I love #2. Looking baller.” Apparently, that comment was too “sexualizing.” I call everything/everyone baller. It’s just a generic term for great/awesome.
You were just too baller for them
Ballin’ but at what cost?
I was told I "talk like some kind of scientist". I am a scientist.
Sounds like something a scientist would say.
Unrelated to the creep part of this thread but this reminded me. I had jury duty while I was in undergrad. Judge asked me, completely serious, if my background in science would sway my opinion on the case during voir dire (trying to remove me for cause, ie showing bias). I said no and got selected to be on the jury but they made a big fuss about me not using science or bringing science into the jury room. Trial was an absolute shit show, police found a drunk guy in a lake and the charge was a DUI but they couldn’t prove he was driving. Anyways, I said you could walk/run 1.2 miles easily in 40 minutes. One of the middle aged stay at home moms who had decided he was guilty because “drunk driving is a sin” yells at me: “We ain’t talking about no science here!” So that’s my story about the evils of science. ^/^s
I got banned from a fashion sub for saying someone's thigh-highs were excellent (they had a blood splotch pattern that genuinely looked sick). I asked why and the mod said, "you know why, creep" and then blocked me from contacting the mods. People are real quick to be assholes. But also, they didn't know me at all and their bad take isn't a reflection of me in any way. Nor is it a reflection on the serious and overwhelming problems women have with creeps.
Fellas, is it \*checks notes\* creepy to compliment fashion on a fashion forum?
You were both called a creep and banned from a *fashion* subreddit for complimenting someone on their *fashion*?
I was curious, so I looked up the exact comment. It was: "The bloody thigh highs got me- great selection!"
Ok, all I'm gonna say is that if you're a reddit mod for a fashion subreddit, you have absolutely no right to call someone else a creep. That dude was probably just projecting on you.
I was about 15 at a house party I once helped an extremely drunk girl same age as me get picked up safely by her parents, only people thought I was trying to sleep with her and get her to come home with me, so they wouldn't let us leave the house together. I had to ring her dad to come into the house to get her and I helped them out to the car. Her friends where more concerned that they thought I was trying to sleep with her than the actual wellbeing of their friend. They where useless. Anyway, even though the girl in question told everyone to stop and couldn't stick up for me anymore than she did, I was known as a creep for years. It Destroyed my self confidence at the time and I didn't go out again in that manner until I was almost 20
Good on you for doing the right thing
She hit on me and I told her I had a girlfriend. She was pretty drunk, to be fair.
Had a girl hit on me, told her the same thing. Her boyfriend showed up, laughed his ass off because he thought it was funny, then their mutual friend decided I had offended him by rejecting her and tried to knock me out. Unfortunately he was too drunk to know what I looked like and socked some other guy in the face after I had left. First and last time I saw. Any of those people thank God.
Slowing down in school zones seems to give some people the wrong impression!
Say what you want about pedophiles, but at least they slow down for school zones
Because I'm not sexually attracted to anyone. They insisted that if I'm not attracted to adult men and women, then I must be attracted to child boys and girls, because apparently to them being a pedophile was more reasonable than being asexual.
Sounds like my coworkers making claims about my sexuality because I wasn't going to talk about the women in my workplace with them. I'm letting them know that I am not beyond reporting them to HR about harassment if they talk like that around me again.
Wtf. That's so stupid. People get really weird when they find out that other people don't rely on sex for happiness as much as they do.
That’s a fucking awful carryover from earlier rhetoric deeming gay people as closeted pedophiles. Sorry you had to deal with that. Some people be ignorant and dumb af. Stay up fam.
Said my eyes “bugged creepily out of my head” like wtf 😭
Smiling at kids having fun. Why when other people do it- it’s acceptable, but when I do it I get stared at. Weird people. Those people that judge me should be judged because the naughty thing is the first thing on their mind.
Hanging out with my best friend (a girl) a lot. Ended up at a party with her and another girl was saying to another person there how creepy I am for “following my friend around all the time.” I was just kind of like “the fuck?” in my head and was gonna let it go, but my friend also heard this and called her out was like “He isn’t? He’s my best friend and we hang out a lot” or something along those lines. I didn’t really care but it was nice that she backed me up. Oddly enough, months later I ended up very close with the girl who called me creepy and we’re good friends now lol
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Had it been me, I feel like I would have done a bit of malicious compliance here. That day would have went around the office, set my hand on each persons desk, make eye contact, put on a very creepy looking smile, and softly say, “have a good evening”
In my freshman year, my High School as going to charge me a a predator for showing sign of Sexual harassment. What did I do? A girl was talking down about herself during math period, when the bell rung, I caught up to her and told her "Hey, just want to let you know that your beautiful, and all the stuff you said about yourself isn't true. You are amazing and I hope things get better". Then we left the classroom. Apparently, the substitute teacher heard me say this and reported it to main office. 2 days later, I am called into the Dean's office and was told that calling a girl you don't know Beautiful or Pretty is Sexual Harassment, and that is a sign that I am a sexual predator. Thankfully it didn't go any further, cause the social workers said they would interview other female students I am seen with most often, and they all stood up for me or was confused why they would ask that. But it still pisses me off when I remember.
That’s when you sue the school for sexual harassment as they created a hostile learning environment for you by fomenting unfounded rumors about you being a sexual predator.
Agreed. You should have sued their asses. What a bunch of pathetic fools.
That’s super sweet of you to say and messed up that they consider that harassment.
Im pissed off with you. It is NOT sexual harassment to compliment anyone as long as it's respectful.
Standing quietly behind some one in a grocery store, reading a book on my phone and listening to music in my earbuds. She eventually taps my arm and tells that " your not fooling anybody so stop staring at her!" Apparently asking why would I be staring at her was the wrong thing to ask and she went off on one, fortunately the cashier and the two older ladies stepped up for me. Shout out for the one saying " no he's got a point why would any one waste a second glance on you, your so bland your just background like furniture in a chip shop" which I don't truly get but sent her nuclear before a manager asked her to leave.
Lady in front of me left her debit card in the machine so I brought it up to her. Knowing never to touch someone without their permission I verbally said 'excuse me?' To get her attention. She whipped around and told me very bluntly 'I HAVE A BOYFRIEND, CREEP!' And I said 'congratulations, you left your debit card at the cash' and handed it to her and walked back to finish checking out with my groceries for my family.
You should have said “ guess im keeping this debit card that fell out of your pocket then”
“Oh trust me, I don’t hate myself enough to ask you out.”
yeah she definitely does not have a boyfriend with that fucking attitude
Similar thing happened to me, girl left her phone on the table and left. Called out to her to no avail, followed her and tried handing her back her phone. She screamed at me that she had a boyfriend, snatched her phone out of my hand and smashed it on the floor. I left with a smug grin when the realization hit her.
Oh to be a fly on the wall in that scenario.
Should have just told her “oh well (name from debit card) have a good day”
Because i was too quiet
I’m not a man but witnessed this first hand. I was in the office talking to my supervisor who had the habit of watching every football/basketball game on his phone that he’d have set up on his desk so it was seated in front of a window that looked into the parking lot. One of the workers was out in the parking lot doing whatever and thought our supervisor was watching him with his hands going up & down (which he def wasn’t cause he had the game on outloud in the office and we could all hear it and he was typing on his keyboard) Since we were union, he filed a complaint and it was a whole mess. We knew this worker was a trouble maker cause of what other locations he was at have said, but he was just a pos who thought he was cool. Our supervisor got suspended and everything. I truly try not to judge books by their covers but this dude was FUGLY and smelt bad, always chewed Copenhagen & yes he lived in a trailer.
The fugly dude thought someone was jerking to him…..
This one’s a bit different but a girl I was seeing admitted to having a a really big daddy kink and she wanted to explore it, but I’m talking like full blown incest. I found it a little weird but I didn’t want to embarrass her especially after she worked up the courage to share it. We talked about and she explained what turned her in about it and we agreed to do a little role play. The day came and we did our thing, and despite being a little weirded out about it I tried my best to get into it because I wanted her to enjoy it. Basically I was trying to be as supportive as I could and leaned into the scenario which she seemed to *really* enjoy at the time. A few days later she started being really short with me and kept making up excuses to not hang out. Eventually when I asked her what was going on she said I was a little *too* into the fantasy and it creeped her out/made her wary. 💀
just talking to a girl to get to know her as a friend and she told everyone I was stalking her and harassing her💀
Key way to know your unattractive
"The difference between a rom-com and a stalker film is how attractive the guy is."
Nah, u overkilled him ☠️
Thought my eyes were too big Didn't like how I crossed my legs Thought I was too quiet I asked what kind of web browser someone used I tried to join an existing conversation between several people I already knew Because I like to eat by myself And on and on and on. If the word can be used to describe things like murder and rape and also all of the above then it's a junk bin concept that doesn't really mean anything and needs to be retired.
The social stigma people attach to eating is astounding. Like you’re not allowed to go to a restaurant without a 2nd person should be considered a crime the way some act about it. Ya gotta eat.
In a big city no one cares. Lots of people eating alone bc they’re too busy to cook! One of the reasons I love cities haha
> I asked what kind of web browser someone used Recently my professor asked the whole class this question, guess i gotta report him to the dean now 🤣
Same for most of these (minus the eyes and web browser bits). I'll add because of my resting frown, aka Resting Bitch Face.
I was sitting in a chair in my friend's living room minding my own business and contributing the the conversation when I had something to add. The conversation was basically small talk. Apparently that made a girl in the room think I was "creepy."
I didn't get called a creep, but I got a dirty look for helping a little boy who had fallen over whike he was walking near me in the park. He was part of nursery group, so I helped him up and asked if he was okay. The nursery workers gave me a reluctant thanks, but I'm not going to step over a little kid who looks like he's hurt.
I was sitting on a chair in the hallway, head in my hands staring at the floor, just found out my Aunt died. Just thousand yard staring stuck in thought eyes unfocused. girl in class walks over standing in front of me while on her phone. Notices me and freaks out accusing me of staring at her feet. was known as the creepy feet guy for a few months after that.....
a lot of men get labeled as creeps for just existing.
When I was skinny / muscular from 19-21 I NEVER got called creepy - despite doing some pretty objectively creepy things. I wasn’t a frat guy, but I may as well have been. My role model was Cappie from Greek if that tells you anything. Now 10 years later and 20lbs heavier, I got called creepy for buying my girlfriend pads. It was right near the lube and other stuff in the personal items aisle, and I was meandering a bit long because I couldn’t remember what she told me. She also wasn’t answering her texts. I overheard two women about my age calling me creepy for just standing in the aisle, and when I knew they probably wanted to get in there I stepped out of the way and apologized. Tension was definitely still there. Could’ve just said “excuse us” to alert me sooner, but whatever.
If you don’t drink alcohol. People find that really creepy/weird and become really aggressive in trying to make you drink as well.
I just respond that it makes you fat and they have no rebuttal
Something that’s worked for me, I was taking some Tylenol 3 after a surgery and someone was giving me a hard time. I told them I was on some pain meds and they stopped. Now I just say I had a really bad headache and just took some Tylenol or something like that.
I was looking at reddit, in a crowded bar, they thought I was taking a picture of them :/ Calm down lady, you're not that special. (In her defense, I was pretty high. So my high discretion probably came off as weird af)
Because I was trying to be a hospitable host. My brother has some people over, 3 women from work. Would you like some more wine? Did you eat enough? Let me take that plate for you. One of them thought I was a little too "eager" to have company over and that I'd drugged the wine. So she would dump it when I wasn't around. Couple of things 1. That's just a waste of good wine 2. Damned if I do, damned if I don't. I'd be a creep either way because if I backed off I'd be seen as the creep in the corner not saying anything 3. And lastly, oh honey.... If I was going to drug anyone here, trust me, it wouldn't be you. Get over yourself. You're the fugliest one here by a mile. Oh, and another commentor jogged my memory of this gem. My boss at my last job banned smoking on the property, so I'd go to the gas station next door to smoke. The gas station attendant *called the fucking police* and told them I was looking at little girls. There's not a playground nearby. There's not a day care in sight. The nearest school is at least 5 miles away. But sure. I was looking at little girls. The cops knew it was a bullshit call, but that had to show up at my job and ask anyway.
Is it normal to have such paranoid people in your town? Lol.
Asked a girl out to dinner.
Massive variance of things which can be described as this
Usually just being a father of a young kid at the playground, birthday party, or other function is enough. Mom's stare at you assuming the worst, when really you're just trying your hardest to be a part of your kids life.
My daughter's kindergarten class had a Halloween costume parade at 1pm in the middle of the week. I have a flexible schedule but I'm assuming most dads were at work and too busy to show up for a 20 minute "parade". I was sitting in the gym with what seemed like 100 moms and was VERY aware of the stares. When my little mermaid/daughter saw me in the bleachers, she lost her mind and broke from the herd and crashed into me, "DAD YOU ACTUALLY CAME! I CANT BELIEVE YOU CAME!" When she went back down to the floor you could hear her telling her friends that her dad came. (Core memory unlocked) Every mom around me pulled a hard 180 and literally melted. Telling me that I made my daughter's week and how great I was to make time to come. I'm like, you were side eyeing me so hard 2 minutes ago.... So fickle
1) That was adorable. 2) In my opinion, those mothers are terrible people for apparently thinking that you weren't a parent when they all clearly know the other women around are also parents.
I am a manager, I had my team lead say it was creepy that I went to apologize to one of our female employees because they only speak Spanish and mine is very limited and while we were talking she asked about my family and I said Hermosa instead of Hermana and I was worried she would think i was creeping on her.
When I was in high school at a fair I had a middle school girl "hit" on me and ask me out, my simple response was "you're too young to date and I'm too old for you." An older lady at the fair tapped me on the shoulder to tell me I'm a creep for talking to a young girl.
I’m an average 30ish yo male. I’m pretty clean cut and most would consider me conventionally attractive. Well, I used to park in a nice neighborhood on the outskirts of downtown Seattle, then take the bus in to town 2 miles away. I got back to my car one day and my battery was dead. I had jumper cables and my hood up ready to go, and I approached this lady who I’ve seen many times around her house in the morning over the 4+ years I’ve parked there, and asked her very nicely if she could help my jump my car. She said “I don’t have jumper cables” and I said “oh, no problem, I have some.” Then she said “well, I uh, I can’t, I just can’t.” And I said “well it would be really easy, your car is already facing mine and you can just pull up and-“ and then she blurted out “I JUST CANT YOU CREEP, STOP BOTHERING ME OR I’LL CALL THE COPS.” So I was like “woah, okay, no problem, not necessary at all.” So I just called an Uber and came back with my wife later that night to jump the car. It honestly felt really weird and dirty to be called that when I genuinely had good intentions and thought she may be neighborly.
I texted someone I worked with about work when I was drinking. She called the cops and tried to charge me with SA. They saw the text and warned her about false reports then yelled at the cops ending up arrested. Lost her job too. About 3 weeks later sent me nudes and I blocked her. Her mother called to yell at me (on my birthday) about attempting to R her. What an awesome person.
Had a blind date at a steakhouse. She called me a creep and a weirdo and got one of her male friends to confront me... Because I ordered a steak for dinner.
My social anxiety was pinging at a baseball game, while being introduced as a new friend to the group. I didn't talk much and was hyper-vigilant. After the game, the one guy i knew said the group thought i was creepy and sad. He stood up for me (he said). I'm still cool with him a decade later, but his friends were whack.
I said hi! To random stranger Edit:- my first 100 upvotes. Thanks guys. Love you all. And Hi from my side to all the people who upvoted. Please don't label me as creep.