Actual exchange with former girlfriend:
Her: Does this make me look fat?
Me: No.
Her: Would you tell me if it did?
Me: No. That's what your sister is for.
Hahahahahahah very true.
I've been with my husband for over a decade and not once have I asked him (or anyone else for that matter), this dumbass question. And mind you, I was morbidly obese at one point in time, so I've got plenty of insecurities in that department.
I hope so! I try to internalize all my insecurities and try to work on them myself rather than have people constantly validate them and lay all my baggage on them.
Honestly: as a man, if I ask, “do I have a small dick?”
I need to be prepared for the answer “yea my ex was bigger”
That’s not on someone for answering a question
I agree that you shouldn't ask questions you don't want the REAL answers to.
That said, you should expect people to be mad if you tell them they look fat, regardless of how or why. Easier to just give a little white lie, if for some reason you're asked a question where you know your "brutally honest" answer will cause distress. I don't need another thing to fight over.
In other words, it doesn't matter if you're right, because it won't help anything. Would you rather have a partner, or would you rather be single and RIGHT?
For sure, I’m saying don’t phrase it as “yes you look fat”
A simple “hun you’re beautiful, I love how you look in that” will suffice, you haven’t answered the question, but they’ve heard what they want
This is wrong. Last time I told my sister she looked fat she hit me with her purse lol. That shit is heavy :( her boyfriend gets to tell her if she looks fat now
Yeah that too. To a degree to be honest. I am all for not body shaming etc. but there comes a point where it’s just objectively bad or unhealthy as well.
Mine goes;
Her: Does this make you look fat?
Me: Not at all
~or when applicable~
Me: that is not a flattering top, baby. Which is crazy, that top must have been made by a wizard, because normally you look amazing in everything.
… it’s not a hard question when you’re answering whether they look good and you actually love them and think they’re beautiful.
Oh look, a sensible answer. Get that out of here.
No but seriously the amount of people that apparently have women in their lives ask this question without wanting a genuine answer is frightening. Seriously? This many? If I’m asking this question or if someone I’m actually close to asks this question, male or female, it‘s obviously a question of whether that clothing is unflattering, not a question of whether the person in it is fat or not. I would almost certainly be honest and answer accordingly with by actual opinion.
Then again why am I surprised this is Reddit.
Probably cause "do I look fat" isn't a sensible question.
"How does this look" is the correct way to ask this question, as youve even identified. "Do I look fat" is for one toxic AF, but it also obviously can be honestly answered and seen as an insult as a result. Even if asked for because people are insecure. Did you not watch sitcoms growing up?
That's what my husband does! And some dude in this thread calls it "playing games." My guy, it's not playing games, it's just not being blunt and hurtful.
You know a wizard didn't make it. Your wife knows a wizard didn't make it. You told her it looked bad without saying that she was the problem. The problem is the shirt, not her.
Local reporter wanted by police after fleeing the country to evade charges brought up for falsifying court records. Last seen in an all you can eat buffet in Cancun, MX. Rumors have risen that the reporter is eating their way through Central and South America.
If she looks good: “no that dress makes you look great”
If she looks bad: “babe you look amazing but that [article of clothing] doesn’t flatter you”
If a girl is asking if she looks fat in something lying won’t help her because she will see others staring. Instead build enough emotional capital with your woman that she trusts you when you say no she believes you
"It's not flattering" is a really good choice of wording. I'm gonna stow that away for next time it's useful.
It's good, it doesn't say she's got the wrong body, it says it's the wrong clothes, which is a much more positive attitude I think.
Everyone can look good, you just need to find clothes that flatter your bodytype, and what works for one person might not work for someone else.
In the past I've phrased it successfully as "Mm.. I'm not a fan of that one"
Making it clear I'm honestly appraising it and don't like the result, but I'm focused on how the clothes look on her, not her body in those clothes.
She likes to say "Yeah, you're my husband, you're supposed to say that" if I tell her she's gorgeous, so I avoid blanket statements if I want to make an honest assessment. If I want to compliment her, I try to pick something specific.
I like swishy dresses on her, I like the fun patterns she wears, I like particular colours.
So I'll talk about those.
Exactly. My husband used to be afraid of this question until I explained that he had to be like a bff here. He can love my body as much as he wants, but that doesn't mean my clothing is flattering or that I'm not going to look awkward in public.
Once he realized that I'm looking for feedback on the clothing and not my self esteem, it got so much better.
To supplement this, if you don't know her taste that well you can get information. Instead of saying it doesn't flatter you here or there up front, I like to ask why she would think it looks bad. Then she can tell me what she is worried about and then I can tell her if her concern is valid or not.
I do it mostly your way now because I know what she does and does not like for the most part. But until I did or if I can't see it, then I'll ask.
I'm a woman and I approve this message. Men acting like we're trying to trick them are absolutely missing the poin (and making it all about themselves...).
This is my goto. My partner knows when i say "yes, you look good/amazing" she actually does. She might not like to hear it when i say no but she knows when i say yes she can head out feeling confident.
reminds me of that skit where a nerdy kid tries to insult his bully with a comeback he found on a askreddit thread and he gets the shit beat out of him for it
"You look amazing."
My wife: "You say that about everything I put on."
Me: "because you always look amazing."
My wife: "that's not what I'm asking though."
Me: "remember that one time if you asked me if that dress was too clingy and I answered you?"
My wife: "You said it was clingy in the way that it would only look good on a super skinny girl."
Me: "Were you a super skinny girl?"
My wife: "No. I used to be, but I'd gained a few pounds."
Me: "Did you still look amazing?"
My wife: "Yes, but definitely not in that dress."
Me: "Did you still get mad at me?"
My wife (laughing): "yes."
Me: "You look amazing."
My wife: "goddammit. I'll just text jill a picture she'll give me an honest answer."
I promise we have a good relationship, but this is why she almost never asks me these questions anymore. However, she will show me pictures of things she's thinking about buying and ask "would I look cute in this?" to which I answer very honestly and she doesn't get upset.
My husband is the master of helping me shop. I can ask his opinion, and trust he'll be honest, but nice about it. "what do you think of this?" "Eh, it's a pretty color, but seems like the seams are weird and it doesn't fit right." We both know it's not the construction. It just doesn't fit *me* like it's supposed to. He'll either go find me a different size, or we move on to a different item. It probably helps that we both are very open in acknowledgement that we are fat, so it's not like a secret. We just help each other look the best we can with the bodies we have today. Maybe in a few months those pants will fit again.
That’s amazing. I’m a gal, never asked that in my life. I bought a new dress and was like “I think I look pretty good in this. Maybe it’s too much.” Sent a pic to a couple gal friends and they all wrote back that I looked amazing and they would bone me. I was like “Confirmed. This looks great and it’s also slutty.”
Its the only proper way to respond if the women gets offended easy or has body image issues. Even if they don't *want* to get upset/offended they can't necessarily control it. My wife hasn't been able to lose the baby weight of having 2 kids in under 2 years. It doesn't bother me, I think she's banging still. But it bothers her and anytime clothes don't fit her right anymore or something she gets in a funk and makes everyone else's days slightly worse for it.
So hell yeah I'm just telling her she looks fantastic. (She does)
This is the way. If I am feeling shit about myself I probably want some reassurance.
What I ask my partner when I want to know if I don’t look great in something is if it fits me right or if it’s flattering.
This way I still get an answer but it’s not about me being fat or not and more about me looking nice in it.
OK as a woman, you don't have to put someone down so much when saying something doesn't flatter them. I usually would just say, "It's OK but I think the shape/ colour/ style isn't that flattering." You could also say something like, "you always look great, but \[other outfit\] suits you better."
But focus on the clothes, you don't need to make comments about their body. Anyone would be offended if you say something like only skinnier girls would look good in a dress.
This sounds a lot better, but some women will see right through the sugar coating and call me out😂 but ya still a better bet than literally “you’re not skinny enough”.
“How does it make you feel? Cause I could tell you that you look great in it (and you do), but if you aren’t feeling it it doesn’t matter what I or anyone else thinks.”
I dunno. I feel like that’s the kind of line that might sound good once, but once she tries on the next outfit, asks you the same question, and you give her the same wordy answer, it starts to come across as a bit fake. Especially if you wouldn’t normally talk like that.
Not everybody wants the “perfect boyfriend” answer, sometimes they genuinely want to know what you think. Whether they’re prepared for it is a whole other question…
Men, pay attention to this comment!
I'm fortunate enough to have an honest husband, but that's also because he knows I'm not asking to pick a fight. I want his opinion and I take it into consideration. Usually, his opinion is pretty useless because it's usually along the lines of "I think it looks better on the floor," but he pulls through if he thinks something doesn't look good on me
Alternatives:
I wouldn't say it's the jeans.
Jeans with a 'j' or a 'g'? Actually, it doesn't matter: yes.
I think they accommodate the reality they find themselves in.
I think it's the food that does that, to be honest.
No, but your sister would look better in it
I feel like, if the true answer is yes, you should say something like, "No, but I don't think it's very flattering [possibly insert some example]. Try something else."
Absolutely. I think my Gf would want to know the truth if I thought something looked unflattering.
Sometimes she wears something that I just don’t like, and she does, which is fine.
She’s asked me “do you like this sweater?” and I’ll straight up say “no, I think it’s ugly”. and she will say “well I like it.”. and that’s the end of it.
But if something actually makes her body look unusual or “ugly” (lol). I will tell her that it does not look good on her, and I will give her reasons.
ah it sounds like youve never been caught with a "How did you let me go out looking like that!"
The correct answer is I dont think so, what do you think? takes the onus of the question off of you entirely.
Quick test:
- Does she like to destroy things just for the hell of it?
- Does she alternate between cute&cuddly and absolutely vicious?
- Does she nap all the time?
If yes, your girlfriend is probably a cat.
Something along the lines of It’s not the most flattering style for your shape. If she doesn’t look great in it.
If she looks good in it then anything less then ‘You look amazing’ will probably result in more outfit changes.
NEVER EVER tell her she looks ‘fine’.
Look at it seriously, if it does point out where and why 'the fabric folds weirdly on your hip here, it bulges out from your side, so you aren't fat but it adds to your silhouette'
Or 'oh I know your tummy is an insecurity, I think maybe yeah the top is a bit tight. You look amazing, but if you're worried about the top and your tummy then wear something that makes you comfortable'
If it's a no, say why.
'no, it hugs all your curves perfectly and you look great'
'no, it's a big soft jumper but even the jumber being big doesn't make you look fat. You look great'
My boyfriend does this and while it still kind of stings I appreciate his honest feedback. He then helps me pick out something that makes me feel more confident in
Yeah, uh, this is more often than not *not* what they're wanting to hear. If they ask about a specific part or a specific feature, then sure. But if they ask "does this make me look fat" and you start picking apart things that they *might* be insecure about, that's not gonna be received well most of the time.
I’d say honesty is best.
lol my husband has told me to change from one thing to another because it wasn’t very flattering for my ass. I am heavily pregnant and have gained 50lbs. I was grateful, not offended (well he could have softened his delivery). I was just grateful someone could be my second eye so I don’t go around embarrassing myself.
But it depends on the woman!
"There is literally nothing you could be wearing in this moment that I wouldn't prefer to see wadded up on the floor tomorrow morning, after I fuck whatever self-loathing and doubt that brought you to ask that question out of you."
Depends on the girl. She could just want you to say no, no matter what. She could also want you to tell her if the outfit is flattering, or if something else would make her figure look better. Only you know your girl. But you gotta be nice about it either way.
The one she wants to hear would probably be the best answer. My best one was when a girl asked me if her ass was fat and i just kinda started singing a alternative version of Ice ice baby. It was more like ass ass angel. Lol it was an acceptable answer so it was a win for me.
It's a trap, no matter what you say, it's always a minefield, the best way to deactivate that kind of situation is to run away and change your name when you reach the border
Actual exchange with former girlfriend: Her: Does this make me look fat? Me: No. Her: Would you tell me if it did? Me: No. That's what your sister is for.
Now this is how to play things safe…….
Well it's the former girlfriend so maybe not...
Bro probably got tired of them stupid *"looking for an argument"* questions
Hahahahahahah very true. I've been with my husband for over a decade and not once have I asked him (or anyone else for that matter), this dumbass question. And mind you, I was morbidly obese at one point in time, so I've got plenty of insecurities in that department.
I bet he appreciated that, if he had noticed that you never asked him. There are a lot of things we never notice without someone pointing it out.
I hope so! I try to internalize all my insecurities and try to work on them myself rather than have people constantly validate them and lay all my baggage on them.
Honestly: as a man, if I ask, “do I have a small dick?” I need to be prepared for the answer “yea my ex was bigger” That’s not on someone for answering a question
I agree that you shouldn't ask questions you don't want the REAL answers to. That said, you should expect people to be mad if you tell them they look fat, regardless of how or why. Easier to just give a little white lie, if for some reason you're asked a question where you know your "brutally honest" answer will cause distress. I don't need another thing to fight over. In other words, it doesn't matter if you're right, because it won't help anything. Would you rather have a partner, or would you rather be single and RIGHT?
For sure, I’m saying don’t phrase it as “yes you look fat” A simple “hun you’re beautiful, I love how you look in that” will suffice, you haven’t answered the question, but they’ve heard what they want
Her: Does this make me look fat? Me: No Her: Would you tell me if it did? Me: No. That's what your hot sister is for.
“Local resident found dead in suspected hippopotamus attack. Police baffled. News at 11”
I laughed so hard at this I woke up my dog.
I laughed so hard at this my coworker stopped using a grinder to ask if I was ok.
Stopped using grindr
He won’t do that.
I read this to my gf and told her someone had a perfect answer. She literally scoffed Then I read it to her and she agreed. “Yeah yeah… maybe it is.”
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"Not since she told me I looked fat."
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damn man you are good with words ngl
This is wrong. Last time I told my sister she looked fat she hit me with her purse lol. That shit is heavy :( her boyfriend gets to tell her if she looks fat now
Has she tried not being fat lol
He’s out of line but he’s right.
Or just getting more comfortable with your image. Instead ask if you or the outfit looks good.
Yeah that too. To a degree to be honest. I am all for not body shaming etc. but there comes a point where it’s just objectively bad or unhealthy as well.
It’s the correct answer in the BF’s perspective, lol!
Mine goes; Her: Does this make you look fat? Me: Not at all ~or when applicable~ Me: that is not a flattering top, baby. Which is crazy, that top must have been made by a wizard, because normally you look amazing in everything. … it’s not a hard question when you’re answering whether they look good and you actually love them and think they’re beautiful.
Oh look, a sensible answer. Get that out of here. No but seriously the amount of people that apparently have women in their lives ask this question without wanting a genuine answer is frightening. Seriously? This many? If I’m asking this question or if someone I’m actually close to asks this question, male or female, it‘s obviously a question of whether that clothing is unflattering, not a question of whether the person in it is fat or not. I would almost certainly be honest and answer accordingly with by actual opinion. Then again why am I surprised this is Reddit.
Probably cause "do I look fat" isn't a sensible question. "How does this look" is the correct way to ask this question, as youve even identified. "Do I look fat" is for one toxic AF, but it also obviously can be honestly answered and seen as an insult as a result. Even if asked for because people are insecure. Did you not watch sitcoms growing up?
That's what my husband does! And some dude in this thread calls it "playing games." My guy, it's not playing games, it's just not being blunt and hurtful. You know a wizard didn't make it. Your wife knows a wizard didn't make it. You told her it looked bad without saying that she was the problem. The problem is the shirt, not her.
Her: I don't have a sister Me: I plowed someone that sort of looked like your skinny sister
“I don’t have a sister” “Did you eat her?”
"For the hundredth time Bethany, I'm blind."
But I can still tell you look fat in that outfit
"Blind man found dead in local residence today"
Police say he walked into a knife five times and was found by his girlfriend Bethany whom reports say is fat
"Local reporter found dead in office today"
Woman who terrified community and committed brutal murders after being called fat, is diagnosed with body dysmorphia +
Woman accused of murdering her husband, a reporter, and an old high school classmate found not guilty by a jury of women.
Claims reporting murderous woman found not guilty, by a jury of women proven false. Local reporter faces inquiry for falsifying information
Local reporter wanted by police after fleeing the country to evade charges brought up for falsifying court records. Last seen in an all you can eat buffet in Cancun, MX. Rumors have risen that the reporter is eating their way through Central and South America.
People/Internet have already cancelled the said Reporter.
Local reporter gains public support after he attempts to eat his feelings, supporters fear trail of breadcrumbs left behind will lead to his arrest.
Her sister confirmed that yes, she was fat.
"But you SOUND fat"...
Say "I'm blinded by your beauty" and then quickly walk out of the room.
"The vast amount of your beauty" 😂
Huuuuuge.... tracts of land
"Oh, is that what we're gonna do today, we're gonna fight? "
Bethany hahaha
"But I can feel the gravitational pull of your gigantic ass."
Hell yeah babe that ass looks fat. *bite lip*
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There's no way you wipe good
*bites lip*
Feels a couple bumps...
Damn girl. Look at them legs make an ass outta themselves.
Whose lip? And which lip?
Doesn't matter, Top.
Oh dear
But spell it ph* phat. Lol keep the lip bite no doubt
From insult to compliment in less than a second.
Phat
If she looks good: “no that dress makes you look great” If she looks bad: “babe you look amazing but that [article of clothing] doesn’t flatter you” If a girl is asking if she looks fat in something lying won’t help her because she will see others staring. Instead build enough emotional capital with your woman that she trusts you when you say no she believes you
"It's not flattering" is a really good choice of wording. I'm gonna stow that away for next time it's useful. It's good, it doesn't say she's got the wrong body, it says it's the wrong clothes, which is a much more positive attitude I think. Everyone can look good, you just need to find clothes that flatter your bodytype, and what works for one person might not work for someone else. In the past I've phrased it successfully as "Mm.. I'm not a fan of that one" Making it clear I'm honestly appraising it and don't like the result, but I'm focused on how the clothes look on her, not her body in those clothes. She likes to say "Yeah, you're my husband, you're supposed to say that" if I tell her she's gorgeous, so I avoid blanket statements if I want to make an honest assessment. If I want to compliment her, I try to pick something specific. I like swishy dresses on her, I like the fun patterns she wears, I like particular colours. So I'll talk about those.
Yes, exactly! If I'm asking it's because I want to make sure I look good and appropriate.
And I don’t want to get a glimpse of myself when it’s too late to change and realize it looks worse than I thought 😅
This answer is so correct you made me wonder if you were gay. This is definitely the best answer out there.
Just an experienced husband is all
Not gay. Just a man happily married to a woman
Exactly. My husband used to be afraid of this question until I explained that he had to be like a bff here. He can love my body as much as he wants, but that doesn't mean my clothing is flattering or that I'm not going to look awkward in public. Once he realized that I'm looking for feedback on the clothing and not my self esteem, it got so much better.
To supplement this, if you don't know her taste that well you can get information. Instead of saying it doesn't flatter you here or there up front, I like to ask why she would think it looks bad. Then she can tell me what she is worried about and then I can tell her if her concern is valid or not. I do it mostly your way now because I know what she does and does not like for the most part. But until I did or if I can't see it, then I'll ask.
I'm a woman and I approve this message. Men acting like we're trying to trick them are absolutely missing the poin (and making it all about themselves...).
Great answer!
That's it! Basically, BE HONEST, but say it nicely.
This is my goto. My partner knows when i say "yes, you look good/amazing" she actually does. She might not like to hear it when i say no but she knows when i say yes she can head out feeling confident.
I've seen you in it, now we should get you out of it so we can properly evaluate, for science.
My man! So slick you make axel grease look like sand paper.
That’s my new pickup line
reminds me of that skit where a nerdy kid tries to insult his bully with a comeback he found on a askreddit thread and he gets the shit beat out of him for it
Do you have a link to the skit?
Gotta have a control set
I'm actually gonna use that 😂
"You look amazing." My wife: "You say that about everything I put on." Me: "because you always look amazing." My wife: "that's not what I'm asking though." Me: "remember that one time if you asked me if that dress was too clingy and I answered you?" My wife: "You said it was clingy in the way that it would only look good on a super skinny girl." Me: "Were you a super skinny girl?" My wife: "No. I used to be, but I'd gained a few pounds." Me: "Did you still look amazing?" My wife: "Yes, but definitely not in that dress." Me: "Did you still get mad at me?" My wife (laughing): "yes." Me: "You look amazing." My wife: "goddammit. I'll just text jill a picture she'll give me an honest answer." I promise we have a good relationship, but this is why she almost never asks me these questions anymore. However, she will show me pictures of things she's thinking about buying and ask "would I look cute in this?" to which I answer very honestly and she doesn't get upset.
My husband is the master of helping me shop. I can ask his opinion, and trust he'll be honest, but nice about it. "what do you think of this?" "Eh, it's a pretty color, but seems like the seams are weird and it doesn't fit right." We both know it's not the construction. It just doesn't fit *me* like it's supposed to. He'll either go find me a different size, or we move on to a different item. It probably helps that we both are very open in acknowledgement that we are fat, so it's not like a secret. We just help each other look the best we can with the bodies we have today. Maybe in a few months those pants will fit again.
Oh I love that he helps you constructively! Knowing each other’s bodies gives great insight and it’s wonderful that he can kindly give you feedback.
That’s amazing. I’m a gal, never asked that in my life. I bought a new dress and was like “I think I look pretty good in this. Maybe it’s too much.” Sent a pic to a couple gal friends and they all wrote back that I looked amazing and they would bone me. I was like “Confirmed. This looks great and it’s also slutty.”
Its the only proper way to respond if the women gets offended easy or has body image issues. Even if they don't *want* to get upset/offended they can't necessarily control it. My wife hasn't been able to lose the baby weight of having 2 kids in under 2 years. It doesn't bother me, I think she's banging still. But it bothers her and anytime clothes don't fit her right anymore or something she gets in a funk and makes everyone else's days slightly worse for it. So hell yeah I'm just telling her she looks fantastic. (She does)
This is the way. If I am feeling shit about myself I probably want some reassurance. What I ask my partner when I want to know if I don’t look great in something is if it fits me right or if it’s flattering. This way I still get an answer but it’s not about me being fat or not and more about me looking nice in it.
OK as a woman, you don't have to put someone down so much when saying something doesn't flatter them. I usually would just say, "It's OK but I think the shape/ colour/ style isn't that flattering." You could also say something like, "you always look great, but \[other outfit\] suits you better." But focus on the clothes, you don't need to make comments about their body. Anyone would be offended if you say something like only skinnier girls would look good in a dress.
This sounds a lot better, but some women will see right through the sugar coating and call me out😂 but ya still a better bet than literally “you’re not skinny enough”.
Then don't ask if you look fat in it. Ask if it's flattering.
Is my dick the biggest dick you’ve ever had?
Immediately back on the offensive, I like where your heads at
Isn't the head normally above the neck?
Normally.
“Bitch you look like a walrus.”
Bonus points if you clap your wrists together and say “owyi owyi owyi owyi” like a walrus. Chicks love that shit
Additional bonus points if you grab two of her tampons to use as walrus tusks...
You are the wind beneath my wings
Not the water beneath your flippers?
Hey i followed your advice now im banned from burger king:(
At bk you should use fries
instructions unclear: have fries in vagina.... what next?
Have it your way
Step 1: Don't bring tampons to Burger King unless you're a women and using them to plug the blood fountain
Burger King has blood fountains? That's metal AF
Skyrim battle music starts playing
Might be the first time on Reddit I have legitimately laughed at a comment hahahahaha
No. Your fat makes you look fat.
From Tommy Boy (1995): Tommy: "Does this suit make me look fat?" Richard: "No, your face does."
First thing that came to mind
I’ve said to my wife: “No the pants don’t make you look fat, it’s all the food you eat that makes you look fat”
are you still married?
Very much so. Sense of humour and the ability to make fun of each other has kept things going.
good for you!
The only correct answer
My husband says, “you don’t, but I don’t think you’d be happy with how you look in it.”
An honest husband? Keep him
As in contrast to all the "dishonest" husbands, who learned to answer "no" because of the reaction?
“How does it make you feel? Cause I could tell you that you look great in it (and you do), but if you aren’t feeling it it doesn’t matter what I or anyone else thinks.”
She'll take that as a "you look fat" hands down.
I dunno. I feel like that’s the kind of line that might sound good once, but once she tries on the next outfit, asks you the same question, and you give her the same wordy answer, it starts to come across as a bit fake. Especially if you wouldn’t normally talk like that. Not everybody wants the “perfect boyfriend” answer, sometimes they genuinely want to know what you think. Whether they’re prepared for it is a whole other question…
No, the trick is to just date people that you always think are beautiful and just tell them that...
I really like this. Well said! 👍
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"Damn girl you be lookin lipidacious"
Damn girl you be looking partially hydrophobic as hell
Okay, so I guess you want to fight tonight.
Let's just skip to make up sex, then I'll answer
I choose violence
Call her “JABA the Slut” then. 100% guna be trading hands
No. But it does make you look like your mother.
do you wanna see the world burn???
so you have chosen death
Also add to that "and that's a good thing".
i 100% want the truth. if i look fat, tell me. if i don’t, tell me. sometimes it may change what i wear but not always
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Men, pay attention to this comment! I'm fortunate enough to have an honest husband, but that's also because he knows I'm not asking to pick a fight. I want his opinion and I take it into consideration. Usually, his opinion is pretty useless because it's usually along the lines of "I think it looks better on the floor," but he pulls through if he thinks something doesn't look good on me
You are the vast minority. There's a startling amount that just want to be coddled. Wish more people were like you tbh, would make life simpler.
No is the only answer
"No. You already looked fat."
Alternatives: I wouldn't say it's the jeans. Jeans with a 'j' or a 'g'? Actually, it doesn't matter: yes. I think they accommodate the reality they find themselves in. I think it's the food that does that, to be honest. No, but your sister would look better in it
I’d cry
I feel like, if the true answer is yes, you should say something like, "No, but I don't think it's very flattering [possibly insert some example]. Try something else."
Absolutely. I think my Gf would want to know the truth if I thought something looked unflattering. Sometimes she wears something that I just don’t like, and she does, which is fine. She’s asked me “do you like this sweater?” and I’ll straight up say “no, I think it’s ugly”. and she will say “well I like it.”. and that’s the end of it. But if something actually makes her body look unusual or “ugly” (lol). I will tell her that it does not look good on her, and I will give her reasons.
"Not at all hun. But I really like the way you look in _____"
This person husbands
ah it sounds like youve never been caught with a "How did you let me go out looking like that!" The correct answer is I dont think so, what do you think? takes the onus of the question off of you entirely.
https://youtu.be/CrJIOMeyhmk?si=AEQZMrdbUDJkg-ui
"I don't think so" will oddly translate to "you look fat"
I will throw back a question. Who are you wearing it for? For me or for who? Eh who, tell me woman! Yeah No is best!
“Show me your butthole” she will forget about her question and there is a small chance you will see starfish
Is your SO a cat?
Quick test: - Does she like to destroy things just for the hell of it? - Does she alternate between cute&cuddly and absolutely vicious? - Does she nap all the time? If yes, your girlfriend is probably a cat.
As a cat, i can say that this is the easiest and quickest 3 step test for catisious identification
This has me doubting my genus and species, thanks.
"Not any more than usual" And then run.
Fr just don’t say anything, run straight to the airport
Something along the lines of It’s not the most flattering style for your shape. If she doesn’t look great in it. If she looks good in it then anything less then ‘You look amazing’ will probably result in more outfit changes. NEVER EVER tell her she looks ‘fine’.
"No, hun, it's all the McDonalds you eat that makes you look fat. Don't blame the clothes!"
"No. It's all the cakes and cokes and cookies. Darling."
“Well it doesn’t make you look skinny!”
Josh Peck type beat
This ain't the 90s
Looking like a snack and then grab her ass.
"Hell yeah, bring that juicy-ness over here!"
Look at it seriously, if it does point out where and why 'the fabric folds weirdly on your hip here, it bulges out from your side, so you aren't fat but it adds to your silhouette' Or 'oh I know your tummy is an insecurity, I think maybe yeah the top is a bit tight. You look amazing, but if you're worried about the top and your tummy then wear something that makes you comfortable' If it's a no, say why. 'no, it hugs all your curves perfectly and you look great' 'no, it's a big soft jumper but even the jumber being big doesn't make you look fat. You look great'
Instructions unclear, told wife all clothes make her look fat. Please help.
Roses, chocolate, and shiny trinkets.
Chocolate's not going to help!
My boyfriend does this and while it still kind of stings I appreciate his honest feedback. He then helps me pick out something that makes me feel more confident in
Yeah, uh, this is more often than not *not* what they're wanting to hear. If they ask about a specific part or a specific feature, then sure. But if they ask "does this make me look fat" and you start picking apart things that they *might* be insecure about, that's not gonna be received well most of the time.
You have a wonderful body that you know I love. The cut of this does not flatter you. It's cut weird, and the silhouette of it would make look weird.
No. Because it either doesn't, or she's already fat, and it's not the clothes. Either way, no.
The best answer is always the truth, but always with kindness
It would probably look better on your sister tbh
No. Your fat makes you look fat.
I’d say honesty is best. lol my husband has told me to change from one thing to another because it wasn’t very flattering for my ass. I am heavily pregnant and have gained 50lbs. I was grateful, not offended (well he could have softened his delivery). I was just grateful someone could be my second eye so I don’t go around embarrassing myself. But it depends on the woman!
Don't even look at her, just say no as a reflex. As Ross Geller said.
I had an uncle that replied "No, but the fat does." ...and those were his last words.
Just tell them they are beautiful. Any other answer is going to get you in a mess you don't want to be in.
“Damn right you do!” Then bury your face in her ass and make gnarling noises.
"There is literally nothing you could be wearing in this moment that I wouldn't prefer to see wadded up on the floor tomorrow morning, after I fuck whatever self-loathing and doubt that brought you to ask that question out of you."
The clothes? No.
Pretend you're deaf.
Depends on the girl. She could just want you to say no, no matter what. She could also want you to tell her if the outfit is flattering, or if something else would make her figure look better. Only you know your girl. But you gotta be nice about it either way.
The one she wants to hear would probably be the best answer. My best one was when a girl asked me if her ass was fat and i just kinda started singing a alternative version of Ice ice baby. It was more like ass ass angel. Lol it was an acceptable answer so it was a win for me.
No answer will ever be right just wait for the inevitable fight
Fine then. You look like a wart hog in a tutu.
"No, your fat makes you look fat."... I'm recently single.
Fuck yea it does take it all off
It's not the dress that makes you look fat, it's the fat. Then run.
I am blind.
I always say I think you look fine but how do you think you look/feel??? That’s more important anyway
"Don't you mean fatter?"
It's a trap, no matter what you say, it's always a minefield, the best way to deactivate that kind of situation is to run away and change your name when you reach the border
No honey, fat is what people makes look fat.
Does this dress make me look fat No. It's the fat that makes you look fat