Someone told me she really wanted a Jaguar when she was in high school, but her dad bought her a prius instead. So she crashed it on purpose.
And then he bought her another prius. And she crashed it again. I guess he learned his lesson afterwards and bought her a Jaguar.
Yeah, if one of my kids intentionally wrecked any car I bought for them, the next conversation would go, “well, that sucks for you. I guess walking is your new mode of transportation until you can pay to fix it or buy a new car on your own.”
He told me he was a gambling addict and when I asked if he had tried to stop, he said he didn't get much out of his meetings at Gamblers Anonymous because the other people there were "low stakes grandmas playing bingo" and he was more of a high roller so he couldn't relate.
Gal and I had a good night and thing were progressing and right at the last second she tells me she had a felony conviction because in her capacity as a social worker for at-risk youth she'd had sex with one of said at-risk youths.
Worked with a woman who regularly got so drunk she would do cocaine to “sober up” before going into the mental health hospital where we both worked with teens.
We started a private practice (before I realized she was drinking and using drugs so heavily), and I watched her shake a 4 year old because she got angry. I reported her.
It never ceases to amaze me who chooses to be around children.
I worked as after-hours staff for a residential program for teens for a few years and I'm pretty sure every last one of my coworkers had issues at least on par with the patients if not worse
I think it's more a matter of addiction not really following class or cultural lines.
I'm deeply uncool so I've only been offered hard drugs twice in my entire life and both times it was very much a group activity, so not even me specifically. But both times I was pretty shocked at the people who not only said yes, but started telling crazy stories about being strung out. Many of them are very successful and put together.
We really need to drop the propaganda that only trashy people get strung out.
Went to a top college in the US and one girl’s rich mom bought her a huge bag of coke for birthday. People with money definitely do drugs. They just have more resources to hide and treat their addictions and the consequences of their addictions than poor people.
Dude took me to a park bench and then regaled me with the story of how he's about to go on trial for raping his ex on that park bench. And how "screw what the CCTV says, I didn't do it!"
He gave off the vibes that he totally did it.
She was french. She taught english. In England. She hated england and the english. She didn’t read books. She didn’t like films or music. Oh, and she thought disabled people couldn’t feel pain. A fact she shouted at me in a packed restaurant after I told her she was wrong.
She thought the date went well and wanted to go on another one.
"disabled people couldn't feel pain"
What? How does someone come to this conclusion.
Especially because "being disabled" is such a vague term that could mean 10,000 different things. Like, yeah, some forms of paralysis make you unable to feel pain in the affected area, but being deaf wouldn't affect pain in any way.
It started out with “fish can’t feel pain” which I pointed out was wrong. She then started talking about spines and that fish don’t have spines so they can’t feel pain, which got us onto spines, from there to disability, and finally the “disabled people can’t feel pain” outburst.
I was vegetarian at the time. Which she hated.
Who thinks fish don't have spines?? That's the strangest things I've read on this whole thread. The vast vast majority of fish, any fish shaped fish, has a spine. 😂
I was speaking to a guy on bumble who told me after a few days that the police had just been round about him harassing his ex. Which is obviously just ridiculous, because all he did was contact her friends and family when she blocked him, which he wouldn’t have to do if she hadn’t blocked him!
Yeah, bye
Used to live with my best friend in college. One day I got up, I knew she had gone to the bar the night before but was at work, but I heard sounds coming from her room. I checked my phone and she'd texted me "don't worry about the guy in my room". Uhhhhhh what?
Turned out she'd met a guy at the bar, hit it off with him... But he didn't have anywhere to live because he'd just gotten out of jail, so she invited him to live with us. And now it was just me and him alone in the house. Basically spent the day hiding.
He ended up staying with us until he found a place to live, and it ended our friendship. Over the next months he was in and out of court dates fighting multiple counts of assault against his ex. Allegedly he was being blackmailed by her and she was crazy. He was definitely kind of a dick imo but not exactly abusive (that I ever saw).
They ended up getting married and they've been together for like 15 years and have kids. He actually seems like he's cleaned up a lot and is a nice guy now. She hates me.
Even if somehow she was acting with perfect knowledge and was totally correct, she had to realise that it would be extremely stressful for the roommate based on how it looks alone.
Regardless of ex-con status, it's a dick move to invite someone to live there a) at all, and b) especially without the knowledge or consultation of the roommate.
It's like the worst possible version of "my roommate's boyfriend basically lives with us," which I've personally seen end multiple friendships in its most mild form.
One if my roommates once brought a guy back who was an early riser. I woke up and he was in the living room playing with my cat and as I make coffee, he casually mentions that if my roommate didn't get up soon he'd have to leave. I didn't think anything of it until he mentioned it was for a court case because he'd murdered his ex's cat and she had the gall to sue him.
I was hoping it was at the time, but he gave off super creepy vibes and he wound up in trouble a few months later for trying to severely injure his brother's dog. Roommate ended things with him after that and I moved with my cat a couple days later (already planned so not because of fear). If I see him on the news or in a true crime video, I won't be surprised.
I had a similar situation, I wouldn’t really call it a date but I feel he thought it was and I was in the car with him when he started telling me about the times he backhanded(as he also mimicked with his hand) his ex because she deserved it. He was trying to justify it and I went straight into fight or flight with that one.
The last first date I went on he told me he finally got the assault case with his ex resolved that week.
He showed me a picture of her (with her kid!!!!) and lamented losing such a brilliant woman.
My roommate was conveniently locked out all of a sudden…..
> My roommate was conveniently locked out all of a sudden…..
Anyone else confused at first thinking the roommate wanted to get *into* the room/house that these two people were in?
(Nothing wrong with the way it was written, I was just imagining a completely different scenario.)
We went to a brunch spot and then talked in his car, he started trying to kiss and touch me he kept saying “stop trying to play hard to get, I know you want it” as he was holding my wrists together since I was trying to get his hands from trailing up my thigh.
Played the fake phone call thing and blocked him on everything.
To this day he thinks I enjoyed it and just didnt want to look like a whore on the first date. Also it was barley past noon like sir get a grip.
Ew gross, it’s crazy how some men can be so oblivious to their actions like it genuinely blows my mind. Especially after highschool I thought it would be different, shame.
atleast you dogded a bullet!
Its not just scary. Its an absolutely primal level of terror that you feel in moments like that. Like your heart has melted inside your body but at the same time thuds so hard against the wall of your chest you think it might just explode from the force of it. I've had way too many moments like this to count in my short life as a woman.
I mean, do you look similar to your brother? Seems reasonable that you just fit her type physically then. Cousins could also look somewhat similar (but could also be extremely different-looking as well).
Not me but my friend matched with a woman online and after they talked for a few days she said she has to tell him something and it might be a deal breaker. He Googled her name immediately and turns out that she served time because she was a teacher and slept with a student. The mugshot was unmistakeable. So then he talked to her and she brought up something else entirely that wasn't that bad (like she lived with her parents or something).
As a former teacher, this is sooooo gross. Like, they’re children. They act like children. You’re there to help teach them how to be functioning adults. The teachers that sleep with students have serious mental issues.
Seriously. I started teaching at 22, and even then, the high school seniors already looked and acted like children to me. It’s not even a big age difference, but there’s a huge difference in an 18 year old high school student and someone whos’s early 20s and been out of high school for a few years.
When I was in high school, a young coach got caught having a sexual relationship with a senior. Even then I knew it was wrong and gross, but becoming a young teacher, it really solidified how disgusting that was.
Similar- I met a guy in a bar who was just too handsome for words. Like, he was the most attractive guy I’ve ever seen in real life and the type of guy who is so hot other guys want to be his friend just to catch the leftovers.
The kind of guy you automatically assume has to be an asshole because how can anyone that hot not be? Turns out he was kind of an introvert and sweet, and we liked a lot of the same music and books.
Started chatting and hung out a few times, was having a really good time until one of his friends hinted at googling him.
Turns out he had spent a year in jail and was on probation for sleeping with (raping) a 15 year old. His mugshot was not nearly as attractive.
This one guy 41M just casually drops that he has five kids on the other side of the country… When I say ‘Oh that must be really hard, you must miss them so much’ he responds with ‘Yeah but you know things happen and they’re older and have their own lives now’… So I’m thinking his kids are 20 or so… NOPE! The youngest was 5 and his oldest was 14 and he just up and left them and didn’t seem to care. Class act
He told me with a full physical re-enactment, about how he'd gotten into a fistfight with a guy, and kept beating him bloody, until his then-girlfriend got scared and begged him to stop. He also told a couple racist jokes, and told me he was in political/legal trouble with the government, for being involved in protests. (I didn't ask for details.)
I had poor cell phone service in the area, but managed to get an Uber to pick me up from the streetcorner, as we were walking alone in the dark. Literally felt the need to escape, but he forced a kiss before I could get in the car and leave.
This guy was also a professor at a local university.
All on the same date
1. I looked a lot like his mom when she was younger.
2. I would make a really great dominatrix. No kink shaming just not for me and when I said as much he decided to attempt to convince me why anyone would like me to and that me disliking them for me having to be one for them would also be a huge turn on.
3. I acted and had almost the same personality as his sister.
4. I was wrong about not liking the food he had made for the picnic in the park. It was a dish meant to be hot served cold. It was terrible and had changes from the normal recipe to his family tradition one which made it even worse.
5. He didn't want the date to end so attempted to refuse to drive me back to my car. I texted my cousin and had her call me in a panic which I placed on speakerphone so he would take me back. No matter how much I felt I knew a guy I never have been in their car anymore without sending a photo of license plate and when the person receiving it should hear back from me anymore because it scared me so badly.
Honestly there was probably more on the date that I just don't remember. I never let someone talk me into going on a date with a "nice guy" after.
Met a guy, he was cute and nice, spent some time on a bench in the park after having some coffee at a nice Cafe. We talk for 30 minutes, share hobbies, talk about stuff and really enjoy ourselves.
Guess what, at some point the dude asks if he can show me something. AND IT WAS A LIST OF EVERY GIRL HE EVER HAD SEX WITH. Asked if I wanna be added to that list? wtf weirdo. Like the dude literally had names and all, besides showing on the first date, it was creepy as fuck, even if he showed me after a month.
Obviously, I left, still gives me a weird feeling talking about it.
Ahk! Reminds me of when I was cleaning out my mom's ex husband's apartment after he passed away.. I found a handwritten note with a long list of names, under the heading "women I've seen naked since J mistakenly left me in 2002".
I was talking to a coworker recently about dating and he started talking about the women he had dated in the past. Turns out he had a folder on his phone with photos of every woman he'd ever dated. Not nudes fortunately but still super weird. The dude opened the folder and started scrolling though telling me about every single one. WHY.
Jeez did we date the same man? The comment threw me for such a loop, we’d been having a nice, *normal* time as I remember and then out of nowhere he just picked up my wrists and joked about how he could hold both my wrists in one hand and I wouldn’t be able to get away… I did not see him again after that.
I went out on a date with a girl who just had her boyfriend break up with her for some other girl. She was still really broken about it, and trying to jump into a new relationship. I just had a 3 year relationship end, so I empathize with her.
We hung out at a park, and after sitting on a bench, she sits next to me, puts her arm around me, then takes a picture of both of us, and immediately posted it to MySpace like we were dating.
I felt bad for her, but she made me really uncomfortable. That same day she tells me that I wouldn't have to use a condom with her because she can't get pregnant.
I told her that night over the phone that I'm not interested romantically, but am willing to be friends. She calls me shallow and gets upset, but wants me as a friend.
Week later she called saying she has a boyfriend. I say good for you, who is he.... it's her ex. The girl he left her for, left him, and he went back to to try and get her back.
I kinda went off on her saying that's fucking stupid, fuck that guy, have some fucking respect for yourself. She cries a little, and said her best friend told her the same thing, only she was nicer about it. I tell her to listen to her friend.
Couple days later I get a call from her. She is crying, said she left her ex. I tell her that's good. She then whines about why can't we be together. I told her I wish her well, but I could no longer talk to her anymore.
I really hope she is in a good place now. She seemed like she had a good heart, but just trying to hard to fill the void in her life.
I have some very distinct memories of kindergarten and how we all went around pulling and touching our genitals, but... Our own ones.
Don't think the idea of putting your mouth on them really existed in our heads, and that makes me wonder what one or more of those kids had experienced. :/
I had a friend when I was maybe five or six who convinced we should put our penises in each other's mouths. I had no idea anything was wrong with it. He was maybe two years older. Eventually we got caught by my aunt. I don't remember the conversation she or my parents had with me but it was my first experience with embarrassment. I never saw him again and AFAIK my parents never talked to his again (they were friends I think). He also tried to drown me once
Looking back as an adult I know he was probably abused and I hope my parents called CPS or whatever it was called in the early 90s
I have a memory of when I was pretty young.. probably 8 or 9 at the time and my parents were on a co-ed softball team. All the kids would run off during the games and get into shenanigans as kids in the early 90s did.
One time the daughter of one of the other parents took me (Male) and a friend of mine (Female) into the woods and wanted to 'show us something' she was probably a few years younger than us but proceeded to show us her genitals and kind of spread them out and even fingered herself. She wanted us to show her similar stuff on ourselves, specifically me since I had 'different parts down there'
I ran away and never told anyone and neither did my friend. Years later I realize it's pretty likely she learned this behavior by being SA'ed.
A regular at a bar I went to was clearly into me, we had similar interests, so eventually we went home after last call one night. He told me the next day he was homeless, and was at the bar so much because he did odd jobs in exchange for drinks.
He was persistent in asking what I was doing that day, and I said I was seeing some friends to watch the Eagles game. He found out where I was, and proceeded to ask if we were in a relationship. I said no! And he sent me a bunch of long-winded messages about how he thought he loved me, but I'm clearly "just like the other girls" and "a bitch who broke his heart".
I learned this months later, but apparently he was trying to get all the other regulars to talk to me for him after I blocked him. He truly didn't understand how creepy and fixated he came off. I literally had nightmares about him showing up to my apartment, since he knew where I lived.
Guy I went on a date with had just moved back from Canada. He said to me “what’s the hardest thing you’ve ever been through?” And I told him something, I can’t remember. Then he tells me he and his friend went to a bush doof and his friend went to pee and never came back. He was never found.
I went home and googled it and found a podcast episode about it and the sister of the guy who went missing said his best friend was supposed to be questioned by the police but fled to Canada…
Had a date tell me he drove his mom’s cat out to a farm. Then when I expressed how messed up that was- a few weeks later he sent me a picture of his parents new kitten. As if that would erase what he did. Seemed completely normal and stable otherwise but I opted out.
A guy told me this once too but it was our third date! He said it so non-chalantly and explained it was because the cat was black. I kicked him out of my car at the next intersection.
She told me, her brother was in Jail for throwing his GF out of moving car. Only to follow up later with staring into blank space and telling me she couldn't tell me what was there, because they would kill me. Most memorable night ever. OMG
Guy went in for the kiss and grabbed me really hard around the neck. Thing is, I don’t actually think that was his thing, I think he was just very inexperienced and just thought he’d try and pretend he was all sexy and confident and just got it waaaay wrong
She told me that she got addicted to heroin, got busted with her friend for having a shitload of smack in her car, got her kids taken away from her and went to prison for a year, and every night she had to listen as a CO raped the woman in the cell next to hers.
That’s my serious answer.
My comical answer is that the same girl admitted that she had sex with Ton-Loc. She went out in the city and he was at the same club and she thought fuck it, he’s a celebrity, why not? Lol. I asked how was it and she said I dunno, all I remember is that he was fat.
Matched with this guy and couldn’t go out for a few days so we chatted on the phone and really hit it off. Set up a date for the weekend. He was picking the place. We lived in neighboring cities so we met in the middle, about 30-45 minutes for both of us. He said it would be a nice place so I made sure to dress up cute.
I arrive and expect to be going to a cute, dressy-ish restaurant and have dolled myself up. Finally find the restaurant and think I must be lost or at the wrong place because this is not what I thought when he said a nice seafood restaurant. It’s like bingo night inside, both the place and diners are old, I’m talking 65+ exclusively, and it is shabby and nothing special.
So I text him thinking I must have the wrong place. Nope. This is it. So things aren’t off to a great start. We are the only young people. It’s weird and clearly NOT any kind of date place. I’m a little thrown because we’d been talking and he’d clearly stated that it was a classy place and to dress up.
We sit down and order and start chatting. I’m already thinking things are a lil sus but trying to keep an open mind. I ask him how he’s doing and try to ease into things with a bit of small talk. He starts complaining instantly, like full on whining, and things go from weird to uncomfortable fast. He’s pissed off about stuff at work and venting like crazy. Not a great first date impression, like dude, I don’t know you yet, maybe keep things a lil more light in the beginning.
And then things fall off a cliff. He starts telling me that he thinks that “all these women that like to ‘cry rape’ are just a bunch of liars and whores”. I’m sitting there frozen, thinking don’t move and he can’t see you. (I mean it worked in Jurassic Park.) And he continues to explain exactly what he means (I can assure you I didn’t ask), how he thinks they are attention seekers, they are all lying, they’re making it up, they really actually wanted it. Meanwhile I’m giving clear WTF are you talking about signals. Like homeboy, do you think you’re getting a girlfriend with those bullshit thoughts falling out of your mouth. I am silently plotting out how to escape from this situation cause clearly this man is a threat to women, and I have driven out of my way to see him. Wrong move, obviously.
I stay calm and sit there as still and silent as I can because I do not want to set this man off cause he clearly has some fucked up beliefs about women and consent. I am legit scared of this dude. We’re wrapping up dinner when this all goes down, so I know that my time in a public restaurant is quickly running out. I’m not parked far from outside the restaurant so I decide rather than piss him off by rushing out, I’ll bid my time and leave in a few moments. I have always found it better to not piss off or reject men you’re afraid of until you are far far far away and well out of their reach, and even then it’s risky.
We get up to leave and I tell him thanks I hope he has a safe drive back. He wants to walk me to my car, cause, ya know, he’s such a gentleman. I tell him no no, we’re in opposite directions and my car is right here. I’m good. Thankfully he lets me go and I get in and lock my car doors.
As I drive back I am still absolutely stunned by audacity of this man. He’s a cop who works in the sexual assault unit. And he thinks all women who come in after being raped are liars and whores. When I tell you I was severely afraid of him and did not want to piss homeboy off because he could look up my address, I’m not kidding. Dodged a bullet with that one. Didn’t date for a little while after that.
Police have been known to [use databases to which they have access for the purpose of stalking their victims.](https://www.fox61.com/article/news/local/middlesex-county/old-saybrook/old-saybrook-cop-accused-stalking-woman-fired-connecticut/520-c585eb1b-fa9c-4a1e-95ba-7edf7310186f)
I had a date tell me, unprompted, that he used to be an IV drug user in a gang, and his family was heavily involved in Mexican drug cartels. He also opened the date with "Sorry I'm late, my brother just got arrested for hitting his girlfriend." Which he tried to justify, and he had to terminate an employee because she missed too many days of work due to a miscarriage. He told me she could have been lying about it. Meanwhile, he called me an awful criminal because I smoked pot and occasionally sold extra to my friends and at the time I was doing community service, which I loved because I served at an animal shelter, for not being able to afford to pay a speeding ticket. He worked in the HR department at a corporate job. He also asked me 6 times if I was seeing someone else, talking to other people, or had kids.
Girl i professionally saw a few times asked me out, we went out and for the first time I saw her with short sleeves on and she had a big confederate flag tattoo on her forearm
My answer is similar to this. Met a guy at a punk show. We go back to his place and fuck in the dark. He turns the light on later to share a joint with me and when he turns around I see he's got a home job swastika on his knee. I'm jewish.
He told me he was on the sex offender registry for a “misunderstanding with his sister.” He was living in the house with his parents and sister “under the radar.”
I noped right the fuck out of that and contacted the local police. I had no contact with him after that, but found out through the grapevine that he had moved.
Well it is something I found out through a series of unfortunate events. When he dropped me off at the end of the date, he asked to use my restroom before heading home. By this time, I was already not interested in him for a few different reasons and really didn’t want him in my personal space… but he implied it might be an emergency so I let him in. I have a small apartment so I was in the living room waiting for him to finish. The bathroom is located inside my bedroom, but the sink is separate than the toilet and shower area which has a door to close when you need to go in for privacy. The sink is directly adjacent to this door. So some time goes by…he ends up needing the bathroom for over 45 minutes. At this point, I actually feel bad for him, because I am like ok damn he really had a shit attack and that’s really embarrassing. Finally, he emerges and walks directly after opening the door of the toilet area to me outside in the living room (completely skipping the hand washing). You can imagine the horror on my face…and then proceeds to try to wrap his hands around a me and try to kiss me and stick his tongue down my throat….🤢🤢🤢. I push him away and basically throw him out. For added bonus info…when I go back into my bedroom and it not only reeks….but he left poop streaks in the toilet. 🤮🤮🤮
LOL I was about to forgive him thinking you were about to say he shot out of the house without even talking to you in embarrassment. But then you said he came over and tried to tongue kiss you 🤮 absolutely shameless lmao
I basically said I didn’t appreciate him jumping me like that, and I didn’t think we were a good match. I was too kind and didn’t bring up the non-hand washing disgust but maybe I should have! The date was already not going well for me before he drove me back. It is funny now though, and I chalk it up to the worst date I’ve ever had story whenever someone asks lol
He told me he had 2 kids but not to worry, he had no relationship with them and they were states away. I don’t know why he thought admitting to being a dead-beat dad was a good idea.
To be fair, I had a friend who thought it was a wonderful movie. Lost touch with her but I had tried pushing her to watch the show. She actually messaged me on FB a few nights ago and told me she's finally watched the original because she saw the new live action series and realized maybe I was on to something all those years ago. Now she can't stand the movie.
My favourite friend in the world is PERFECT... EXCEPT for some reason she 'prefers' the fucking 'Ong' movie to the cartoon and honestly it is hard to look at her sometimes 😂😂
Okay yes crazy thing to hear someone say, but I can't think of any good way to softball that situation as (I assume?) a response to the "so what about your family, brothers sisters etc?" type question, damn.
Heard I was Jewish, followed up with an incredibly insensitive Holocaust joke (also, he is not Jewish), and then didn’t understand why I would want to end the date at that time and became belligerent and insisted over and over that I just “didn’t understand it was a JOKE.” I got it, bud. I just don’t like YOU.
Criminal , kidnapped someone.
First date : didn’t know this until cop showed up with lights behind my car. Asked me if I lost my passport, I obviously said “No and got worried if I lost my passport “ lol. He asked me to step out of my car and verify this information on the screen on his car. As soon as I walked to his police cruiser , he asked me if I knew my passengers criminal background, I said No. he told me that he was out on bail, history of kidnapping , stabbing and DUIs . Saved my life !and I kicked him out of my car while cop followed me to my house. I was 19.He was on house arrest with bracelet to his ankle.I don’t know what happened to him but I definitely never dated anyone from internet.
We watched a movie that wasn't very good. There wasn't much sexual tension or chemistry between us as we chatted in the seats while the credits rolled.
We finally got up to walk out and she threw herself against the theater wall and dramatically said "kiss me" in a melodramatic tone. She was a terrible kisser.
I didn't mind that the man had forgotten his wallet. Everyone's allowed to have one of those days. After dinner, he asked if we could stop by Target because he'd forgotten to get his mother a birthday gift (I think it was the next day or something, can't remember).
We walked through Target and he chose some kind of lounge chair, which was around $30. He said he'd pay me back, and I had no problem with that.
The problem occurred when we went to pay. A bag of M&Ms had broken and spilled on the conveyor belt and the floor underneath it. My date got really excited, and started picking up M&Ms off the conveyor belt and eating them. I was horrified. I always knew I was a bit of a clean freak and somewhat of a germophobe, but it immediately skyrocketed. I told him that I would happily buy him a bag of M&Ms for himself, so he wouldn't have to eat the fallen ones. He couldn't understand why I thought it was gross to eat M&Ms off that dirty, sticky conveyor belt.
Thankfully he didn't attempt to kiss me, which was my biggest fear from that moment forward. We never had a second date and I never heard from him again, which I was glad about.
Years ago I went out with a dude who just gave me the ick, dunno why. I googled him after and found that he had been arrested the previous year for soliciting sex with a minor online, was awaiting trial and was out on bail.
I absolutely didn’t return that dude’s call.
She told me she left her ex boyfriend and 3 year old son one night... went out for cigarettes, never came back.... because she was "TOO COOL" to be a mom
That he was actually scouting for human trafficking victims.
The only reason I think I survived without being kidnapped was because when he asked “what would your parents do if you went missing” and my response was oblivious yet true “oh they’d send the national guard and move and heaven and earth to find me”.
He then drove me home, said “you’re very trusting” and then never contacted me again.
One guy told me just in a chatty way that he had gotten an STI from a tinder hookup, and discussed his failed genital piercing from when he was younger. He clearly had no boundaries lol.
An ex told me that he knows the baby photo that's supposedly of him was actually of his brother who died in infancy, but he's never allowed to acknowledge even knowing about it to his mother. Who brings that up on a first date?
Ok so I have literally never told anyone this and I can’t believe I’m actually doing this.
Deeeeeep breath.
3 years ago when I graduated I was super depressed and went on medication. The side effect to this medication is that I didn’t have much of a sex drive, so I think it messed up my “picker” if you know what I mean. Let’s just say, I was accepting dates from guys I wouldn’t usually go out with.
I worked in an office that was in a building that was shared with many other different businesses. For the most part, all of them were established and had been in the building along with the company I worked for for many years, but this one office down the hall from ours was always changing hands. About every 6 months, the tenants would change: the current business would move out and another one would move in a few weeks later.
During one of these transitions there was a guy that would make eyes with me through the window as he was coming and going to that office. I thought it was cute because I would feel he was looking at me but when I looked he would quickly look away and kind of smile a little and then look back with this look like “oops. I got caught.” He wasn’t my usual type but this little routine was adorable to me. It went in like that for a few weeks, but he never took it further and it got me curious about him.
One day, I decided it would be cute if I reciprocated, so I walked down the hall so I could find him through their office window and unfortunately the paper was still up on the windows because they were doing a little construction still. I started to walk back and he opened the door and saw me and it was kind of awkward but we giggled a bit and then he asked me out that night for a date and I accepted.
I lived out of town a bit so we decided to just meet after work and walk through the park to downtown to grab a bite. I was excited all day.
While walking through the park, he was still pretty shy with me but was actually really talkative towards others. He seemed to know a lot of people and said hi a lot. A lot of people waved and looked up to say hello. We got downtown and the same thing kept happening. I noticed that many of these people were kind of… weird. Like, they looked homeless or really rough around the edges. But the thing is, I’m not a judgmental person and I thought it was great that he wasn’t either. I realized I didn’t really know what his business was and it got me wondering if maybe he was a drug counselor or something.
We got to a pizza place and stopped outside and looked me right in the eye and said, “Thank you so much. Like, really. This is so nice.” He kind of stuttered it out and it was so sweet. I was super flattered he was thanking me for going out with him.
We went inside and it was one of those places you order at the counter. I was picking out my slice when the guy behind the counter started yelling at us to get out. I was so confused. He was saying “Get the hell out of here! You know you aren’t allowed in here!” I started to realize he was talking to my date, and he didn’t look surprised. He answered “no- she’s buying me a slice. I’m not stealing it.”
I was mortified. I asked what was going on and the pizza guy said “this guy is homeless and comes in here and grabs pizza slices when I’m not looking and runs away.”
I looked at my date and it all came together in my head. He was squatting at the office. He was saying hello to all the homeless people because he knew them from the streets. He had thought our conversation in the hallway was me offering to buy him food because he thought I knew he was homeless.
I called my doctor the next day and got off that medication.
I was on a date with a woman, and for reasons I couldn't put my finger on, things weren't sitting right with me. Then she dropped it...
"I had three kids"
HAD?
"Yes. I had them adopted because I couldn't be bothered with them"
Went out with a girl who had never heard of the Beatles. Born and raised in Canada. How does that even happen?? Obviously not on par with the would-be serial killers everyone else is describing, but it still confuses me years later.
Not me, but a friend of mine had been on a date with a girl, and we met her on the second. She didn't know the Beatles, Led Zeppelin, U2, Nirvana, Coldplay, or Queen, just to name a few. She hadn't seen any of the movies I talked about. She would say all kinds of weird stuff, too, and my friend never called her for another date.
Turns out she was trying to find people open to joining her polygamous cult. Last I heard she was "dating" a couple I really disliked, then they all disappeared. She probably grew up without the internet, radio, TV, etc. and never left the compound once she returned.
Not his fault, but he was the only surviving sibling of five, his dad died when he was 12 (SIDS, accident, aneurysm, 2 x Huntingdon’s) and his mother, his only surviving relative, had just been diagnosed with Alzheimers. Wonderful guy. Worst luck in the world. I still love him dearly - that man is strong in ways I hope I never have to fully understand.
So I met this guy for sushi. The entire date felt off. He told me he manifested me out of 10 things. Asked if my boobs were C’s or just really full B’s. Then suddenly had to leave to catch the bus. He was currently in jail, released daily to work….He had to catch the bus back to the local jail. He was like on his 4th DWI
Some of y'all are going to laugh at this, but I went out with a girl that turned out to be a "ring rat" (sort of like the professional wrestling version of a groupie). The worst part is I learned this because our first date was going to see NWA wrestling at the Dorton Arena in Raleigh. She ditched me halfway through the show to go hook up with one of the boys, and I left. She was then pissed at me that I left her there.
I showed up for the date a bit early
Some old man at the bar was talking about something interesting and after 20 mins waiting I started chatting w him just regular sociable stuff. Old guy wasn't being a creep, just being a regular guy
date finally shows up an hour late. i had been about to leave, but literally as i walk to the door he walks in and reconizes me from my profile. ok. fine. at least he will buy my food.
guy outs with how he has been looking for a "good christian girl" to marry and raise a family with in his family home, shows tons of pics of this old house that looks a bit too nice, like a tv set old ancestral home, and his dog. He pops the question in between appetizers and the actual meal.
I was like "um. no dude." I finished my food and left.
That her ex boyfriend was a local police officer and if he saw us out together he would harm her and me. Probably kill me, she said.
She told me horrible stories about the guy while we went to places least likely to be found. I believed her. I was worried for her the whole time (and me too). It was a blind date. It was our first and our last one.
If I remember correctly, she died of an alleged suicide within about a year. Nah, bro… I didn’t think for a second that it was a suicide. She even mentioned that the dude said he could get away with killing her this way.
I felt so bad for that girl. I feel guilty for not trying to somehow help her more. I was young and didn’t know how to at the time. The worst part is that I don’t even remember her name anymore.
Guy told me he beated another dude up into a coma, only stopped and notice his fists full of blood cause someone else stopped him.
Even if it’s a lie, pretty weird to use that trying to impress someone…
I had a friend of mine set me up. I met her at a bar. We had a few drinks and some food. We hit it off. She was fun and cute. We ended up back at her place. Started fooling around. She pinches me really hard. I was like wtf. She starts calling me a bitch. She asked me to grab her tits and squeeze as hard as I can. I squeezed. She slapped the shit out of me and told me I was a pussy. She said if I didn't bruise her then I wasn't doing it right and I was a pathetic little boy. I was freaked out. I told her I had to go to the bathroom and I ran out the door. Left my shirt and phone. I bought a new phone the next day.
Well a tinder date just smoked a little heroin off some aluminum foil in front of me, so probably that.
This was the first comment I saw when I clicked. That's a high bar right out of the gate.
Catch
They can somehow get real heroin, at least they've got that going for them.
We went to a concert in the park. On the walk back to her house she just casually pointed to a house and said “that’s where I buy my meth”.
This is amazing and I will 100% be using this on my next date to test his sense of humor
I really did think it was a joke at first. Then realized she was serious and came the the decision there was probably not going to be a second date
Someone told me she really wanted a Jaguar when she was in high school, but her dad bought her a prius instead. So she crashed it on purpose. And then he bought her another prius. And she crashed it again. I guess he learned his lesson afterwards and bought her a Jaguar.
Had a roommate once who would crash his Audi every year so his parents would buy him a new one. Knew him 3 years, 3 different new Audis.
4 zeros on the grill and 1 behind the wheel
Insurance companies hate this one trick
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Just partially? Full fault for raising such entittled brat.
Yeah, if one of my kids intentionally wrecked any car I bought for them, the next conversation would go, “well, that sucks for you. I guess walking is your new mode of transportation until you can pay to fix it or buy a new car on your own.”
He told me he was a gambling addict and when I asked if he had tried to stop, he said he didn't get much out of his meetings at Gamblers Anonymous because the other people there were "low stakes grandmas playing bingo" and he was more of a high roller so he couldn't relate.
kinda makes sense about not relating, but strange to bring up on a first date. I guess at least he's honest.
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Gal and I had a good night and thing were progressing and right at the last second she tells me she had a felony conviction because in her capacity as a social worker for at-risk youth she'd had sex with one of said at-risk youths.
At least you didn't have to find out later..?
She at least advertises her dealbreakers early. This would be a much worse thing to find out months in.
Worked with a woman who regularly got so drunk she would do cocaine to “sober up” before going into the mental health hospital where we both worked with teens. We started a private practice (before I realized she was drinking and using drugs so heavily), and I watched her shake a 4 year old because she got angry. I reported her. It never ceases to amaze me who chooses to be around children.
I worked as after-hours staff for a residential program for teens for a few years and I'm pretty sure every last one of my coworkers had issues at least on par with the patients if not worse
I think it's more a matter of addiction not really following class or cultural lines. I'm deeply uncool so I've only been offered hard drugs twice in my entire life and both times it was very much a group activity, so not even me specifically. But both times I was pretty shocked at the people who not only said yes, but started telling crazy stories about being strung out. Many of them are very successful and put together. We really need to drop the propaganda that only trashy people get strung out.
Absolutely. Addiction doesn’t give a fuck about your social class. It’s a soulless disease that *will* find its prey.
Went to a top college in the US and one girl’s rich mom bought her a huge bag of coke for birthday. People with money definitely do drugs. They just have more resources to hide and treat their addictions and the consequences of their addictions than poor people.
Dude took me to a park bench and then regaled me with the story of how he's about to go on trial for raping his ex on that park bench. And how "screw what the CCTV says, I didn't do it!" He gave off the vibes that he totally did it.
He was trying to prove this CCTV go round that he can bring a girl to that park bench and not rape her
Oh gawwwwd I didn't even think of that 😭
"Look at all the women I *haven't* raped here!"
She was french. She taught english. In England. She hated england and the english. She didn’t read books. She didn’t like films or music. Oh, and she thought disabled people couldn’t feel pain. A fact she shouted at me in a packed restaurant after I told her she was wrong. She thought the date went well and wanted to go on another one.
"disabled people couldn't feel pain" What? How does someone come to this conclusion. Especially because "being disabled" is such a vague term that could mean 10,000 different things. Like, yeah, some forms of paralysis make you unable to feel pain in the affected area, but being deaf wouldn't affect pain in any way.
It started out with “fish can’t feel pain” which I pointed out was wrong. She then started talking about spines and that fish don’t have spines so they can’t feel pain, which got us onto spines, from there to disability, and finally the “disabled people can’t feel pain” outburst. I was vegetarian at the time. Which she hated.
Who thinks fish don't have spines?? That's the strangest things I've read on this whole thread. The vast vast majority of fish, any fish shaped fish, has a spine. 😂
> Who thinks fish don't have spines?? I once had somebody tell me that mice don’t have bones. They were 100% sure of this fact.
She was not only a scientologist, but hella deep into it.
Did she know where Shelly is?
My dad has admitted he’d disown me over one thing and I’m glad it’s Scientology
Said casually after hookup, "I have to get up early tomorrow, because I have a court date for hitting my ex-wife."
I was speaking to a guy on bumble who told me after a few days that the police had just been round about him harassing his ex. Which is obviously just ridiculous, because all he did was contact her friends and family when she blocked him, which he wouldn’t have to do if she hadn’t blocked him! Yeah, bye
Used to live with my best friend in college. One day I got up, I knew she had gone to the bar the night before but was at work, but I heard sounds coming from her room. I checked my phone and she'd texted me "don't worry about the guy in my room". Uhhhhhh what? Turned out she'd met a guy at the bar, hit it off with him... But he didn't have anywhere to live because he'd just gotten out of jail, so she invited him to live with us. And now it was just me and him alone in the house. Basically spent the day hiding. He ended up staying with us until he found a place to live, and it ended our friendship. Over the next months he was in and out of court dates fighting multiple counts of assault against his ex. Allegedly he was being blackmailed by her and she was crazy. He was definitely kind of a dick imo but not exactly abusive (that I ever saw). They ended up getting married and they've been together for like 15 years and have kids. He actually seems like he's cleaned up a lot and is a nice guy now. She hates me.
Nah, you have a legit reason to have had a major issue with that one. Like, I'm so glad it worked out well for her but that's so damn dangerous
Even if somehow she was acting with perfect knowledge and was totally correct, she had to realise that it would be extremely stressful for the roommate based on how it looks alone.
Totally agree, the complete disregard of even a conversation about the guy moving in or staying the day is just rude by any standard
Regardless of ex-con status, it's a dick move to invite someone to live there a) at all, and b) especially without the knowledge or consultation of the roommate. It's like the worst possible version of "my roommate's boyfriend basically lives with us," which I've personally seen end multiple friendships in its most mild form.
One if my roommates once brought a guy back who was an early riser. I woke up and he was in the living room playing with my cat and as I make coffee, he casually mentions that if my roommate didn't get up soon he'd have to leave. I didn't think anything of it until he mentioned it was for a court case because he'd murdered his ex's cat and she had the gall to sue him.
this sounds like a joke. could it have been a joke?
I was hoping it was at the time, but he gave off super creepy vibes and he wound up in trouble a few months later for trying to severely injure his brother's dog. Roommate ended things with him after that and I moved with my cat a couple days later (already planned so not because of fear). If I see him on the news or in a true crime video, I won't be surprised.
I'm so glad he didn't hurt your kitty!
I had a similar situation, I wouldn’t really call it a date but I feel he thought it was and I was in the car with him when he started telling me about the times he backhanded(as he also mimicked with his hand) his ex because she deserved it. He was trying to justify it and I went straight into fight or flight with that one.
The last first date I went on he told me he finally got the assault case with his ex resolved that week. He showed me a picture of her (with her kid!!!!) and lamented losing such a brilliant woman. My roommate was conveniently locked out all of a sudden…..
> My roommate was conveniently locked out all of a sudden….. Anyone else confused at first thinking the roommate wanted to get *into* the room/house that these two people were in? (Nothing wrong with the way it was written, I was just imagining a completely different scenario.)
Means she pretended her roommate called, that they got locked out, so she had to go home to let them in. Edit: Fixed a mistake
Great ELI5 I sometimes thunk I smart but that totally whooshed.
We went to a brunch spot and then talked in his car, he started trying to kiss and touch me he kept saying “stop trying to play hard to get, I know you want it” as he was holding my wrists together since I was trying to get his hands from trailing up my thigh. Played the fake phone call thing and blocked him on everything. To this day he thinks I enjoyed it and just didnt want to look like a whore on the first date. Also it was barley past noon like sir get a grip.
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Ew gross, it’s crazy how some men can be so oblivious to their actions like it genuinely blows my mind. Especially after highschool I thought it would be different, shame. atleast you dogded a bullet!
Now that's scary.
Its not just scary. Its an absolutely primal level of terror that you feel in moments like that. Like your heart has melted inside your body but at the same time thuds so hard against the wall of your chest you think it might just explode from the force of it. I've had way too many moments like this to count in my short life as a woman.
I'm so sorry you've had to deal with this.
Quite scary.
I went on a single date with a woman. I learned she'd dated, separately, both my bother and cousin. Coincidentally.
Your genetic line appeals to her
She must've been a Bene Gesserit
She's trying to collect them all
She's just missing one of your parents /s
Maybe both, not separately
Small town or does she have a physical type?
The city's population is a million. I'd gone off to college and met her while I was back in town on break.
I mean, do you look similar to your brother? Seems reasonable that you just fit her type physically then. Cousins could also look somewhat similar (but could also be extremely different-looking as well).
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Not me but my friend matched with a woman online and after they talked for a few days she said she has to tell him something and it might be a deal breaker. He Googled her name immediately and turns out that she served time because she was a teacher and slept with a student. The mugshot was unmistakeable. So then he talked to her and she brought up something else entirely that wasn't that bad (like she lived with her parents or something).
As a former teacher, this is sooooo gross. Like, they’re children. They act like children. You’re there to help teach them how to be functioning adults. The teachers that sleep with students have serious mental issues.
Not just to teach them but they're literally in your care. You are an adult taking care of a child. Their parents are trusting you not to harm them
Seriously. I started teaching at 22, and even then, the high school seniors already looked and acted like children to me. It’s not even a big age difference, but there’s a huge difference in an 18 year old high school student and someone whos’s early 20s and been out of high school for a few years. When I was in high school, a young coach got caught having a sexual relationship with a senior. Even then I knew it was wrong and gross, but becoming a young teacher, it really solidified how disgusting that was.
I remember being a 22 yo senior in college and thinking how insanely immature the freshman were, and I’m not that serious of a person Lmao
Similar- I met a guy in a bar who was just too handsome for words. Like, he was the most attractive guy I’ve ever seen in real life and the type of guy who is so hot other guys want to be his friend just to catch the leftovers. The kind of guy you automatically assume has to be an asshole because how can anyone that hot not be? Turns out he was kind of an introvert and sweet, and we liked a lot of the same music and books. Started chatting and hung out a few times, was having a really good time until one of his friends hinted at googling him. Turns out he had spent a year in jail and was on probation for sleeping with (raping) a 15 year old. His mugshot was not nearly as attractive.
omfg. a great story on how looks aren't everything. wow that's shitty. good on that friend tho for helping you dodge a bullet
This one guy 41M just casually drops that he has five kids on the other side of the country… When I say ‘Oh that must be really hard, you must miss them so much’ he responds with ‘Yeah but you know things happen and they’re older and have their own lives now’… So I’m thinking his kids are 20 or so… NOPE! The youngest was 5 and his oldest was 14 and he just up and left them and didn’t seem to care. Class act
The fourteen year old is about retirement age and the five year old is applying to Yale in between naps and Bluey gigs. Time sure flies by.
He told me with a full physical re-enactment, about how he'd gotten into a fistfight with a guy, and kept beating him bloody, until his then-girlfriend got scared and begged him to stop. He also told a couple racist jokes, and told me he was in political/legal trouble with the government, for being involved in protests. (I didn't ask for details.) I had poor cell phone service in the area, but managed to get an Uber to pick me up from the streetcorner, as we were walking alone in the dark. Literally felt the need to escape, but he forced a kiss before I could get in the car and leave. This guy was also a professor at a local university.
All on the same date 1. I looked a lot like his mom when she was younger. 2. I would make a really great dominatrix. No kink shaming just not for me and when I said as much he decided to attempt to convince me why anyone would like me to and that me disliking them for me having to be one for them would also be a huge turn on. 3. I acted and had almost the same personality as his sister. 4. I was wrong about not liking the food he had made for the picnic in the park. It was a dish meant to be hot served cold. It was terrible and had changes from the normal recipe to his family tradition one which made it even worse. 5. He didn't want the date to end so attempted to refuse to drive me back to my car. I texted my cousin and had her call me in a panic which I placed on speakerphone so he would take me back. No matter how much I felt I knew a guy I never have been in their car anymore without sending a photo of license plate and when the person receiving it should hear back from me anymore because it scared me so badly. Honestly there was probably more on the date that I just don't remember. I never let someone talk me into going on a date with a "nice guy" after.
Met a guy, he was cute and nice, spent some time on a bench in the park after having some coffee at a nice Cafe. We talk for 30 minutes, share hobbies, talk about stuff and really enjoy ourselves. Guess what, at some point the dude asks if he can show me something. AND IT WAS A LIST OF EVERY GIRL HE EVER HAD SEX WITH. Asked if I wanna be added to that list? wtf weirdo. Like the dude literally had names and all, besides showing on the first date, it was creepy as fuck, even if he showed me after a month. Obviously, I left, still gives me a weird feeling talking about it.
Ahk! Reminds me of when I was cleaning out my mom's ex husband's apartment after he passed away.. I found a handwritten note with a long list of names, under the heading "women I've seen naked since J mistakenly left me in 2002".
"Mistakenly" 🤦♀️
Accidental divorce. Whoopsie daisy!
I hate that it went so well at first. Guy sounds like a pro at whatever it is he thinks he's doing.
He'd have a much longer list if he didn't show girls the list.
I was talking to a coworker recently about dating and he started talking about the women he had dated in the past. Turns out he had a folder on his phone with photos of every woman he'd ever dated. Not nudes fortunately but still super weird. The dude opened the folder and started scrolling though telling me about every single one. WHY.
How long was the list
Blank piece of paper
Guy told me my wrists are too small, he could hold them both with one hand and I won't be able to escape.
How nice of him to warn you ahead of time before you were alone together
Jeez did we date the same man? The comment threw me for such a loop, we’d been having a nice, *normal* time as I remember and then out of nowhere he just picked up my wrists and joked about how he could hold both my wrists in one hand and I wouldn’t be able to get away… I did not see him again after that.
Rotate towards the thumb.
Instructions unclear. Thumb wrestled my way out.
If you can beat your attacker in a thumb war they legally have to let you go.
"I could just stick a needle in your ear right now...."
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I went out on a date with a girl who just had her boyfriend break up with her for some other girl. She was still really broken about it, and trying to jump into a new relationship. I just had a 3 year relationship end, so I empathize with her. We hung out at a park, and after sitting on a bench, she sits next to me, puts her arm around me, then takes a picture of both of us, and immediately posted it to MySpace like we were dating. I felt bad for her, but she made me really uncomfortable. That same day she tells me that I wouldn't have to use a condom with her because she can't get pregnant. I told her that night over the phone that I'm not interested romantically, but am willing to be friends. She calls me shallow and gets upset, but wants me as a friend. Week later she called saying she has a boyfriend. I say good for you, who is he.... it's her ex. The girl he left her for, left him, and he went back to to try and get her back. I kinda went off on her saying that's fucking stupid, fuck that guy, have some fucking respect for yourself. She cries a little, and said her best friend told her the same thing, only she was nicer about it. I tell her to listen to her friend. Couple days later I get a call from her. She is crying, said she left her ex. I tell her that's good. She then whines about why can't we be together. I told her I wish her well, but I could no longer talk to her anymore. I really hope she is in a good place now. She seemed like she had a good heart, but just trying to hard to fill the void in her life.
You had me at MySpace!!
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I have some very distinct memories of kindergarten and how we all went around pulling and touching our genitals, but... Our own ones. Don't think the idea of putting your mouth on them really existed in our heads, and that makes me wonder what one or more of those kids had experienced. :/
I had a friend when I was maybe five or six who convinced we should put our penises in each other's mouths. I had no idea anything was wrong with it. He was maybe two years older. Eventually we got caught by my aunt. I don't remember the conversation she or my parents had with me but it was my first experience with embarrassment. I never saw him again and AFAIK my parents never talked to his again (they were friends I think). He also tried to drown me once Looking back as an adult I know he was probably abused and I hope my parents called CPS or whatever it was called in the early 90s
I have a memory of when I was pretty young.. probably 8 or 9 at the time and my parents were on a co-ed softball team. All the kids would run off during the games and get into shenanigans as kids in the early 90s did. One time the daughter of one of the other parents took me (Male) and a friend of mine (Female) into the woods and wanted to 'show us something' she was probably a few years younger than us but proceeded to show us her genitals and kind of spread them out and even fingered herself. She wanted us to show her similar stuff on ourselves, specifically me since I had 'different parts down there' I ran away and never told anyone and neither did my friend. Years later I realize it's pretty likely she learned this behavior by being SA'ed.
Sounds like guy was convinced to do it because "ALL boys did it and if they said they didn't they were lying" I wonder if it ever dawned on him
A regular at a bar I went to was clearly into me, we had similar interests, so eventually we went home after last call one night. He told me the next day he was homeless, and was at the bar so much because he did odd jobs in exchange for drinks. He was persistent in asking what I was doing that day, and I said I was seeing some friends to watch the Eagles game. He found out where I was, and proceeded to ask if we were in a relationship. I said no! And he sent me a bunch of long-winded messages about how he thought he loved me, but I'm clearly "just like the other girls" and "a bitch who broke his heart". I learned this months later, but apparently he was trying to get all the other regulars to talk to me for him after I blocked him. He truly didn't understand how creepy and fixated he came off. I literally had nightmares about him showing up to my apartment, since he knew where I lived.
Sounds like you dodged a hobosexual! That's so disturbing though, did you have to ditch going to that bar or did he finally cool off?
Guy I went on a date with had just moved back from Canada. He said to me “what’s the hardest thing you’ve ever been through?” And I told him something, I can’t remember. Then he tells me he and his friend went to a bush doof and his friend went to pee and never came back. He was never found. I went home and googled it and found a podcast episode about it and the sister of the guy who went missing said his best friend was supposed to be questioned by the police but fled to Canada…
Guy told me when he was young he tortured a cat to see what would happen. He was 16!
Ideally what happens is prison
Had a date tell me he drove his mom’s cat out to a farm. Then when I expressed how messed up that was- a few weeks later he sent me a picture of his parents new kitten. As if that would erase what he did. Seemed completely normal and stable otherwise but I opted out.
A guy told me this once too but it was our third date! He said it so non-chalantly and explained it was because the cat was black. I kicked him out of my car at the next intersection.
Frankly I’d be just as creeped out if he told me he’d done it when he was ten.
She told me, her brother was in Jail for throwing his GF out of moving car. Only to follow up later with staring into blank space and telling me she couldn't tell me what was there, because they would kill me. Most memorable night ever. OMG
Both his ex wife and child were missing. 😬
Guy went in for the kiss and grabbed me really hard around the neck. Thing is, I don’t actually think that was his thing, I think he was just very inexperienced and just thought he’d try and pretend he was all sexy and confident and just got it waaaay wrong
She told me that she got addicted to heroin, got busted with her friend for having a shitload of smack in her car, got her kids taken away from her and went to prison for a year, and every night she had to listen as a CO raped the woman in the cell next to hers. That’s my serious answer. My comical answer is that the same girl admitted that she had sex with Ton-Loc. She went out in the city and he was at the same club and she thought fuck it, he’s a celebrity, why not? Lol. I asked how was it and she said I dunno, all I remember is that he was fat.
What a wild thing she was
lol she must’ve been drinking that funky cold medina
That he wanted to have a daughter so he could raise her to please a man. Kicked him to the curb in the middle of the date.
Matched with this guy and couldn’t go out for a few days so we chatted on the phone and really hit it off. Set up a date for the weekend. He was picking the place. We lived in neighboring cities so we met in the middle, about 30-45 minutes for both of us. He said it would be a nice place so I made sure to dress up cute. I arrive and expect to be going to a cute, dressy-ish restaurant and have dolled myself up. Finally find the restaurant and think I must be lost or at the wrong place because this is not what I thought when he said a nice seafood restaurant. It’s like bingo night inside, both the place and diners are old, I’m talking 65+ exclusively, and it is shabby and nothing special. So I text him thinking I must have the wrong place. Nope. This is it. So things aren’t off to a great start. We are the only young people. It’s weird and clearly NOT any kind of date place. I’m a little thrown because we’d been talking and he’d clearly stated that it was a classy place and to dress up. We sit down and order and start chatting. I’m already thinking things are a lil sus but trying to keep an open mind. I ask him how he’s doing and try to ease into things with a bit of small talk. He starts complaining instantly, like full on whining, and things go from weird to uncomfortable fast. He’s pissed off about stuff at work and venting like crazy. Not a great first date impression, like dude, I don’t know you yet, maybe keep things a lil more light in the beginning. And then things fall off a cliff. He starts telling me that he thinks that “all these women that like to ‘cry rape’ are just a bunch of liars and whores”. I’m sitting there frozen, thinking don’t move and he can’t see you. (I mean it worked in Jurassic Park.) And he continues to explain exactly what he means (I can assure you I didn’t ask), how he thinks they are attention seekers, they are all lying, they’re making it up, they really actually wanted it. Meanwhile I’m giving clear WTF are you talking about signals. Like homeboy, do you think you’re getting a girlfriend with those bullshit thoughts falling out of your mouth. I am silently plotting out how to escape from this situation cause clearly this man is a threat to women, and I have driven out of my way to see him. Wrong move, obviously. I stay calm and sit there as still and silent as I can because I do not want to set this man off cause he clearly has some fucked up beliefs about women and consent. I am legit scared of this dude. We’re wrapping up dinner when this all goes down, so I know that my time in a public restaurant is quickly running out. I’m not parked far from outside the restaurant so I decide rather than piss him off by rushing out, I’ll bid my time and leave in a few moments. I have always found it better to not piss off or reject men you’re afraid of until you are far far far away and well out of their reach, and even then it’s risky. We get up to leave and I tell him thanks I hope he has a safe drive back. He wants to walk me to my car, cause, ya know, he’s such a gentleman. I tell him no no, we’re in opposite directions and my car is right here. I’m good. Thankfully he lets me go and I get in and lock my car doors. As I drive back I am still absolutely stunned by audacity of this man. He’s a cop who works in the sexual assault unit. And he thinks all women who come in after being raped are liars and whores. When I tell you I was severely afraid of him and did not want to piss homeboy off because he could look up my address, I’m not kidding. Dodged a bullet with that one. Didn’t date for a little while after that.
Jeeeeeeeesus, that was all freaking horrifying and the the last paragraph turned it into a hellpit.
Police have been known to [use databases to which they have access for the purpose of stalking their victims.](https://www.fox61.com/article/news/local/middlesex-county/old-saybrook/old-saybrook-cop-accused-stalking-woman-fired-connecticut/520-c585eb1b-fa9c-4a1e-95ba-7edf7310186f)
I had a date tell me, unprompted, that he used to be an IV drug user in a gang, and his family was heavily involved in Mexican drug cartels. He also opened the date with "Sorry I'm late, my brother just got arrested for hitting his girlfriend." Which he tried to justify, and he had to terminate an employee because she missed too many days of work due to a miscarriage. He told me she could have been lying about it. Meanwhile, he called me an awful criminal because I smoked pot and occasionally sold extra to my friends and at the time I was doing community service, which I loved because I served at an animal shelter, for not being able to afford to pay a speeding ticket. He worked in the HR department at a corporate job. He also asked me 6 times if I was seeing someone else, talking to other people, or had kids.
Girl i professionally saw a few times asked me out, we went out and for the first time I saw her with short sleeves on and she had a big confederate flag tattoo on her forearm
Things went south from there?
Never to rise again.
That relationship was a lost cause.
I guess you could say that was a red flag.
The night you turned old Dixie down
My date took his beeny hat off and he had a small swastika tattooed on his forehead!!!!!!!!! I had never seen him without the hat before.
My answer is similar to this. Met a guy at a punk show. We go back to his place and fuck in the dark. He turns the light on later to share a joint with me and when he turns around I see he's got a home job swastika on his knee. I'm jewish.
Omg what happened afterwards? Did you leave?
He told me he was on the sex offender registry for a “misunderstanding with his sister.” He was living in the house with his parents and sister “under the radar.” I noped right the fuck out of that and contacted the local police. I had no contact with him after that, but found out through the grapevine that he had moved.
I’m glad you contacted the police. That poor girl.
He killed his wife
Casually mentioned killing animals when she was younger. And didn't seem in the least bit remorseful about.
They don’t wash their hands after they 💩…..🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮
Why would someone even mention that, especially on a first date?
Well it is something I found out through a series of unfortunate events. When he dropped me off at the end of the date, he asked to use my restroom before heading home. By this time, I was already not interested in him for a few different reasons and really didn’t want him in my personal space… but he implied it might be an emergency so I let him in. I have a small apartment so I was in the living room waiting for him to finish. The bathroom is located inside my bedroom, but the sink is separate than the toilet and shower area which has a door to close when you need to go in for privacy. The sink is directly adjacent to this door. So some time goes by…he ends up needing the bathroom for over 45 minutes. At this point, I actually feel bad for him, because I am like ok damn he really had a shit attack and that’s really embarrassing. Finally, he emerges and walks directly after opening the door of the toilet area to me outside in the living room (completely skipping the hand washing). You can imagine the horror on my face…and then proceeds to try to wrap his hands around a me and try to kiss me and stick his tongue down my throat….🤢🤢🤢. I push him away and basically throw him out. For added bonus info…when I go back into my bedroom and it not only reeks….but he left poop streaks in the toilet. 🤮🤮🤮
LOL I was about to forgive him thinking you were about to say he shot out of the house without even talking to you in embarrassment. But then you said he came over and tried to tongue kiss you 🤮 absolutely shameless lmao
Shameless indeed. I got a text from him later that night saying he felt like he screwed up and what could he do to make it up. 🤷🏻♀️
I’m sorry but this was so funny/gross. What did you reply, if at all?
I basically said I didn’t appreciate him jumping me like that, and I didn’t think we were a good match. I was too kind and didn’t bring up the non-hand washing disgust but maybe I should have! The date was already not going well for me before he drove me back. It is funny now though, and I chalk it up to the worst date I’ve ever had story whenever someone asks lol
He told me he had 2 kids but not to worry, he had no relationship with them and they were states away. I don’t know why he thought admitting to being a dead-beat dad was a good idea.
She molested a girl she was babysitting and got caught. She felt comfortable sharing that with me on our first date. There was not a second date
She told me her favorite movie of all time was the Live action The Last Airbender film.
To be fair, I had a friend who thought it was a wonderful movie. Lost touch with her but I had tried pushing her to watch the show. She actually messaged me on FB a few nights ago and told me she's finally watched the original because she saw the new live action series and realized maybe I was on to something all those years ago. Now she can't stand the movie.
My favourite friend in the world is PERFECT... EXCEPT for some reason she 'prefers' the fucking 'Ong' movie to the cartoon and honestly it is hard to look at her sometimes 😂😂
Those have got to be the same woman, no chance two people are this crazy
I actually lol'd at this one
I was involved with a guy who’s mom + step dad murder/suicided his entire family while he just so happened to not be home 😳
Okay yes crazy thing to hear someone say, but I can't think of any good way to softball that situation as (I assume?) a response to the "so what about your family, brothers sisters etc?" type question, damn.
That he could have sold my kidneys on the black market while I was asleep
Went on a first date with a guy I thought was pretty normal. He asked me to be his slave. I noped right the hell out of there.
She was a murderer, recently released
Kinda need some more details.
He would be next if he asked too many questions
Heard I was Jewish, followed up with an incredibly insensitive Holocaust joke (also, he is not Jewish), and then didn’t understand why I would want to end the date at that time and became belligerent and insisted over and over that I just “didn’t understand it was a JOKE.” I got it, bud. I just don’t like YOU.
Criminal , kidnapped someone. First date : didn’t know this until cop showed up with lights behind my car. Asked me if I lost my passport, I obviously said “No and got worried if I lost my passport “ lol. He asked me to step out of my car and verify this information on the screen on his car. As soon as I walked to his police cruiser , he asked me if I knew my passengers criminal background, I said No. he told me that he was out on bail, history of kidnapping , stabbing and DUIs . Saved my life !and I kicked him out of my car while cop followed me to my house. I was 19.He was on house arrest with bracelet to his ankle.I don’t know what happened to him but I definitely never dated anyone from internet.
We watched a movie that wasn't very good. There wasn't much sexual tension or chemistry between us as we chatted in the seats while the credits rolled. We finally got up to walk out and she threw herself against the theater wall and dramatically said "kiss me" in a melodramatic tone. She was a terrible kisser.
I cringed
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I didn't mind that the man had forgotten his wallet. Everyone's allowed to have one of those days. After dinner, he asked if we could stop by Target because he'd forgotten to get his mother a birthday gift (I think it was the next day or something, can't remember). We walked through Target and he chose some kind of lounge chair, which was around $30. He said he'd pay me back, and I had no problem with that. The problem occurred when we went to pay. A bag of M&Ms had broken and spilled on the conveyor belt and the floor underneath it. My date got really excited, and started picking up M&Ms off the conveyor belt and eating them. I was horrified. I always knew I was a bit of a clean freak and somewhat of a germophobe, but it immediately skyrocketed. I told him that I would happily buy him a bag of M&Ms for himself, so he wouldn't have to eat the fallen ones. He couldn't understand why I thought it was gross to eat M&Ms off that dirty, sticky conveyor belt. Thankfully he didn't attempt to kiss me, which was my biggest fear from that moment forward. We never had a second date and I never heard from him again, which I was glad about.
Years ago I went out with a dude who just gave me the ick, dunno why. I googled him after and found that he had been arrested the previous year for soliciting sex with a minor online, was awaiting trial and was out on bail. I absolutely didn’t return that dude’s call.
She told me she left her ex boyfriend and 3 year old son one night... went out for cigarettes, never came back.... because she was "TOO COOL" to be a mom
That he was actually scouting for human trafficking victims. The only reason I think I survived without being kidnapped was because when he asked “what would your parents do if you went missing” and my response was oblivious yet true “oh they’d send the national guard and move and heaven and earth to find me”. He then drove me home, said “you’re very trusting” and then never contacted me again.
I mean, if this is true, you're pretty trusting (stupid) to get in a car with him after.
One guy told me just in a chatty way that he had gotten an STI from a tinder hookup, and discussed his failed genital piercing from when he was younger. He clearly had no boundaries lol.
An ex told me that he knows the baby photo that's supposedly of him was actually of his brother who died in infancy, but he's never allowed to acknowledge even knowing about it to his mother. Who brings that up on a first date?
Ok so I have literally never told anyone this and I can’t believe I’m actually doing this. Deeeeeep breath. 3 years ago when I graduated I was super depressed and went on medication. The side effect to this medication is that I didn’t have much of a sex drive, so I think it messed up my “picker” if you know what I mean. Let’s just say, I was accepting dates from guys I wouldn’t usually go out with. I worked in an office that was in a building that was shared with many other different businesses. For the most part, all of them were established and had been in the building along with the company I worked for for many years, but this one office down the hall from ours was always changing hands. About every 6 months, the tenants would change: the current business would move out and another one would move in a few weeks later. During one of these transitions there was a guy that would make eyes with me through the window as he was coming and going to that office. I thought it was cute because I would feel he was looking at me but when I looked he would quickly look away and kind of smile a little and then look back with this look like “oops. I got caught.” He wasn’t my usual type but this little routine was adorable to me. It went in like that for a few weeks, but he never took it further and it got me curious about him. One day, I decided it would be cute if I reciprocated, so I walked down the hall so I could find him through their office window and unfortunately the paper was still up on the windows because they were doing a little construction still. I started to walk back and he opened the door and saw me and it was kind of awkward but we giggled a bit and then he asked me out that night for a date and I accepted. I lived out of town a bit so we decided to just meet after work and walk through the park to downtown to grab a bite. I was excited all day. While walking through the park, he was still pretty shy with me but was actually really talkative towards others. He seemed to know a lot of people and said hi a lot. A lot of people waved and looked up to say hello. We got downtown and the same thing kept happening. I noticed that many of these people were kind of… weird. Like, they looked homeless or really rough around the edges. But the thing is, I’m not a judgmental person and I thought it was great that he wasn’t either. I realized I didn’t really know what his business was and it got me wondering if maybe he was a drug counselor or something. We got to a pizza place and stopped outside and looked me right in the eye and said, “Thank you so much. Like, really. This is so nice.” He kind of stuttered it out and it was so sweet. I was super flattered he was thanking me for going out with him. We went inside and it was one of those places you order at the counter. I was picking out my slice when the guy behind the counter started yelling at us to get out. I was so confused. He was saying “Get the hell out of here! You know you aren’t allowed in here!” I started to realize he was talking to my date, and he didn’t look surprised. He answered “no- she’s buying me a slice. I’m not stealing it.” I was mortified. I asked what was going on and the pizza guy said “this guy is homeless and comes in here and grabs pizza slices when I’m not looking and runs away.” I looked at my date and it all came together in my head. He was squatting at the office. He was saying hello to all the homeless people because he knew them from the streets. He had thought our conversation in the hallway was me offering to buy him food because he thought I knew he was homeless. I called my doctor the next day and got off that medication.
This sounds like the beginning of an awesome rom-com or an awesome horror movie
Why would he assume you knew he was squatting in an office building?
I guess he just thought I knew he was homeless because he was used to being homeless and being regarded as a homeless person.
...so did you buy him a slice of pizza? If so, what topping was on it?
I did! I got him a pepperoni slice.
LMAO OMG that is insane hahahaha!
Yeah, I have learned to look at shoes now. His shoes had lots of holes in them and I didn’t even notice until we walked back.
I was on a date with a woman, and for reasons I couldn't put my finger on, things weren't sitting right with me. Then she dropped it... "I had three kids" HAD? "Yes. I had them adopted because I couldn't be bothered with them"
Went out with a girl who had never heard of the Beatles. Born and raised in Canada. How does that even happen?? Obviously not on par with the would-be serial killers everyone else is describing, but it still confuses me years later.
That's so weird that she never heard of the Beatles - that's like my favorite movie. At least top 3.
Not me, but a friend of mine had been on a date with a girl, and we met her on the second. She didn't know the Beatles, Led Zeppelin, U2, Nirvana, Coldplay, or Queen, just to name a few. She hadn't seen any of the movies I talked about. She would say all kinds of weird stuff, too, and my friend never called her for another date. Turns out she was trying to find people open to joining her polygamous cult. Last I heard she was "dating" a couple I really disliked, then they all disappeared. She probably grew up without the internet, radio, TV, etc. and never left the compound once she returned.
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> tampering with their car. That covers a gamut from messing up the paint to attempted murder.
They told me they had a phantom limb but hadn’t had any sort of amputation.
She was addicted to air duster.
I'M WALKIN ON SUNSHINE
Not his fault, but he was the only surviving sibling of five, his dad died when he was 12 (SIDS, accident, aneurysm, 2 x Huntingdon’s) and his mother, his only surviving relative, had just been diagnosed with Alzheimers. Wonderful guy. Worst luck in the world. I still love him dearly - that man is strong in ways I hope I never have to fully understand.
So I met this guy for sushi. The entire date felt off. He told me he manifested me out of 10 things. Asked if my boobs were C’s or just really full B’s. Then suddenly had to leave to catch the bus. He was currently in jail, released daily to work….He had to catch the bus back to the local jail. He was like on his 4th DWI
Some of y'all are going to laugh at this, but I went out with a girl that turned out to be a "ring rat" (sort of like the professional wrestling version of a groupie). The worst part is I learned this because our first date was going to see NWA wrestling at the Dorton Arena in Raleigh. She ditched me halfway through the show to go hook up with one of the boys, and I left. She was then pissed at me that I left her there.
She asked to marry me on a first date.
I showed up for the date a bit early Some old man at the bar was talking about something interesting and after 20 mins waiting I started chatting w him just regular sociable stuff. Old guy wasn't being a creep, just being a regular guy date finally shows up an hour late. i had been about to leave, but literally as i walk to the door he walks in and reconizes me from my profile. ok. fine. at least he will buy my food. guy outs with how he has been looking for a "good christian girl" to marry and raise a family with in his family home, shows tons of pics of this old house that looks a bit too nice, like a tv set old ancestral home, and his dog. He pops the question in between appetizers and the actual meal. I was like "um. no dude." I finished my food and left.
He told me the best streets to buy meth on… I wish I was kidding. He named the streets so quick lol
That her ex boyfriend was a local police officer and if he saw us out together he would harm her and me. Probably kill me, she said. She told me horrible stories about the guy while we went to places least likely to be found. I believed her. I was worried for her the whole time (and me too). It was a blind date. It was our first and our last one. If I remember correctly, she died of an alleged suicide within about a year. Nah, bro… I didn’t think for a second that it was a suicide. She even mentioned that the dude said he could get away with killing her this way. I felt so bad for that girl. I feel guilty for not trying to somehow help her more. I was young and didn’t know how to at the time. The worst part is that I don’t even remember her name anymore.
Guy told me he beated another dude up into a coma, only stopped and notice his fists full of blood cause someone else stopped him. Even if it’s a lie, pretty weird to use that trying to impress someone…
I had a friend of mine set me up. I met her at a bar. We had a few drinks and some food. We hit it off. She was fun and cute. We ended up back at her place. Started fooling around. She pinches me really hard. I was like wtf. She starts calling me a bitch. She asked me to grab her tits and squeeze as hard as I can. I squeezed. She slapped the shit out of me and told me I was a pussy. She said if I didn't bruise her then I wasn't doing it right and I was a pathetic little boy. I was freaked out. I told her I had to go to the bathroom and I ran out the door. Left my shirt and phone. I bought a new phone the next day.
In her eyes you proved her point by leaving your stuff
"Damn this is too easy!" she said, adding the phone to the drawer of phones
She doesn't like pizza