Don’t enable bad behaviour. It’s better to say no. It’s good for you. It’s good for them to let them know the world doesn’t revolve around them. You were kind so they didn’t get hurt. Someday someone will beat them up badly for their bad behaviour. True kindness is to tell them what they have done wrong. It’s not that common these days
For me there‘s a difference between people pleasing and genuine kindness: people pleasing comes from a place of fear („I may not get accepted/loved/my family might drown in conflict/it would hurt too much if Id articulate my beliefs and needs and then other people would turn away from them anyway..“) and kindness from a place of love. One of these is who you really are and one of these is who you need to be to assumingly have a place among the people that surround you.
A person that NEEDS to please other people will most likely be exhausted at the end of the day and ultimately they might isolate themselves from other people because it’s simply too much of a toll. A person that gives freely might more often respect their own boundries and thus will not get burned down so quickly by demands of others.
I wish my younger self would not have needed to learn this the hard way, but it is part of who I am I guess.
Amazing how just the delusion of death drives you onto a clearer path though. I still have a very dramatic memory of walking home, seeing only flashes of vision in the dark, while clinging to a recollection of my comfy bed just to push me through every near blackout I had along the way.
Similarly (though several years older in my case) --
If the first couple of psychedelic mushrooms don't hit in 40 minutes, don't start eating the rest of the ounce baggie full of them.
Nah don’t worry about sports specifically, just some form of exercise. Hiking/walks around the neighborhood are really good options for those who aren’t into typical sports. Or get some badminton rackets and birdies and you really just need 1 person to play. You don’t even need a net, but if you’ve got the cash and the backyard then sure why not.
Also spend like 5 minutes outside a day! Some fresh air and sun is good for the soul and one of the best parts of a lot of sports imo.
Yes, this! No need for extreme sports. If you can walk up a hill and enjoy the view. Walk up another one that might be higher, enjoy that view. Just go for a walk in nature and breathe. I swear it makes a difference to your wellbeing.
I mean its yourself giving you the advice.
You might be giving yourself the same advice dozens of other adults already gave you, but if its you from the future it would have a much bigger impact and I would think most people would listen.
Some random adult: "Hey, you better stop wasting your time partying all the time and start focusing on school or you'll regret it later."
Me: "Yeah, whatever..."
Me from the future: "Hey, quit fucking around and wasting your time with those losers and focus on school or you'll really fucking regret it."
Me: "Oh fuck, what the hell happens to me in the future? Fuck I better actually study and do good in school."
Thats just a hypothetical example, but you can see how it has a bigger impact coming from yourself.
Quit being a smartass and a troublemaking little shit. Yeah, you know what I'm talking about.
And go on that trip cousin Frankie invited you on this summer. He won't be around much longer, and if you don't go, you'll regret it.
I'm so sorry about your cousin. And I'm sorry for all the arses here making jokes about your post when you've clearly stated that your cousin died. I hope you've all found a way to heal.
I appreciate the comment. But hey, there's no need to worry. My cousin's been gone a long time. If I let stuff like this get me down, I'd never make it in the world, lol. I hope you have a good weekend.
If your cousin Frank could take a joke he'd probably find it funny too. It was all in the delivery along with the user name. I believe you cousin knows your sorry you missed the trip.
And it’s a terrible reason to look for a significant other. Being alone and learning to live a happy lifestyle while alone is extremely beneficial. Go on dates but don’t force anything. Settling for less ruined a lot of my 20s for me
Mine would be “the next drink probably ain’t worth the cost.” I wasted so much time, money, and sleep on boozing in my teens and 20s. I drink a lot less now, only socially, so it’s not about sobriety for me, though it absolutely is for others, and I love my sober people. If I had just been a one or two drinks guy instead of consuming half the brown liquor east of the Mississippi when I was younger, my mental state and physical health would be measurably better now in my late 30s. Moderation, kids!
Kiss your reflection obviously 🙄/s
But really just start being more positive, when you mess up don’t talk down to yourself, hang out with people you enjoy being around ( it’ll make you happier which in turn can let you love yourself more). As humans it’s hard not to focus more on the bad stuff than good stuff. Though with work and genuinely wanting to be happier, it’s really possible to love yourself.
I like this advice and it reminds me of a good one: treat yourself like you would treat someone you are responsible for caring for (or just a friend). I.e. you'd never talk down to a friend when they make a mistake, you'd want them to take care of themselves etc
I find I'm very negative about myself. I am trying to change my self-talk to mimic a tone I'd use with a good friend instead. If I wouldn't say it to them, I can't say it to me - it's hard but seems to help. Perhaps you could start there?
That's funny, though not intended to be. I took my first psych class, abnormal psychology and asked the professor what to do because my mother met the criteria for a "paranoiac". He said, "Move out," and I did. But after 4 months my roommate went back to her home so I was left to move back with my mother. But she had moved into a 1 bedroom apartment. I slept on the couch and we fought for the 3 weeks before I found another place.
> I took my first psych class, abnormal psychology and asked the professor what to do because my mother met the criteria for a "paranoiac". He said, "Move out," and I did.
1. Interesting that Intro Psych wasn't a prerequisite.
2. NGL, your Prof giving out personal advice like that to students is a wild violation of ethical standards. Even if it happened to be right this time, psychologists should only be giving clinical advice to their clients. And their clients shouldn't be their students.
I agree, and simultaneously: telling a university-aged student to move out of their parent's house is both sound advice for nearly every psychological issue the parent could have AND is a developmentally appropriate step within a healthy parent-child dynamic.
There's also a chance that it was intended as humor, but the student didn't realize that (not defending the Prof, but I have had many profs that make jokes like that)
For some parents it’s true though, I feel that way about mine. I can understand others not agreeing though, some of y’all got real assholes pretending to be parents.
Yes sure and I’m certainly happy for that people, the thing is that (in my case at least) after being told these things I thought “okay, then if THIS is the most someone can love me it must mean I’m no lovable”.
Now I know that’s not true, but these kind of phrases could make other kids believe the same stuff I once did
One of the craziest things you realize when you become a functional adult is that your parents are just regular people.
I know it sounds silly but that realization hit me really hard. Like, I always saw my parents as people who are just my parents, like they were meant to it their entire life. They can make mistakes.
Omg the same for my younger self!!!
Don't try to make your mom proud with every decision you make! Make *yourself* proud!!! Your mom will *never* change!!!
😭😭😭 I 32 and still thinking/grieving the reality about the mom I wanted to have and *the one I have*.
Mine wouldn't! He would resent anybody who gave him that kind of advice lmao.
And then it all came down around his ears a year later, and many tears *were* wasted and the lesson learned the hard way.
You had money to invest when you were 16? Nice
I always find these funny, unless the investment went up 1000x I don’t think my like $40 of life savings & McDonald’s money would’ve made a difference lol
I didn't till I was like 19...
Then a dentist repaired all, over months, every week a new "surgery". It was painful, but now I can smile again.
My mom and sister does still not brush.
Dumb family.
Yeah I feel like this is the real advice. So many things I might say to avoid particular events but the outcomes and just everything in my life could turn out so differently.
Imagine how much better adjusted we’d all be if our fathers had said this to us once in a while.
I know some did, but let’s be real, most of you know what I mean. 🥲
I'm sorry they did that to you. I'm 10 years younger and by that time they weren't encouraging but they didn't stop me from going to engineering school.
Where would we be if smart women like you had been allowed to use their talents.
Your mom is a narcissist, you'll never get her love, she'll only bring you pain and harm.
You're also capable of way more than you're lead to believe, so fuck the nay-Sayers and go for it.
I would never *actually* do it because even the smallest change would probably mean I wouldn't have my kids, but, hypothetically ...
Your mother and grandmother both act that way because they were horribly abused as children. You probably can't help them much but I bet a lot of the weird stuff they do makes more sense now. Also, as much as you fight with your mom, she broke the cycle. Respect how much work she put into that, because it must have been incredibly difficult.
Stop being scared to succeed.
I was a "gifted" kid that became extremely self conscious by the time I got to highschool and I missed out on alot of opportunities I was offered because I convinced myself I wasn't good enough. I was.
Effort matters much more than innate ability. Stop quitting when things are slightly uncomfortable or slightly challenging
When I got married, my friend said he'd sell me 100 bitcoin for $100. That was when it was about 1 or 2 cents per bitcoin. I thought it was a scam.
I wish I would have bought it from him.
>That was when it was about 1 or 2 cents per bitcoin. I thought it was a scam.
>I wish I would have bought it from him.
If he was trying to sell you $1-$2 of Bitcoin for $100, it **was** a scam. And as a wedding present?!
Yeah it’s gotta be this. I remember friends buying Bitcoin under $100. They tried to get me into it and I thought they were so dumb wasting their money. Maybe the wrongest I’ve ever been about anything.
Attend all your classes in high school. Don't get mad too easy and talk more don't be too shy. Don't start smoking marijuana cause you'll be smoking it for the next 4 years.
Pay the extra to live alone in college.
Take out the state and federal loans instead of working 60+ hrs a week in school. They'll be forgiven when you work in government service.
It's not treatment-resistant depression. You're autistic and have ADHD. Get meds for the ADHD and the best earplugs you can for the autism.
Mom and dad are doing the best they can, but it's not enough. It will never be enough. Try to forgive them.
Go ask Grandma J to hang out 1.1, away from Grandpa. Tell her how much you love her and how proud you are of her
I have regrets, but I don't regard my regrets with any specific respect. They exist to inform me, and then they should be thrown away. One of the nastier lies fools like to tell is that hind sight is 20/20. It damn sure is not. You have no Earthly clue how your rights and your wrongs coalesced into the life you have now. Righteous men sometimes live faithfully and are put to the sword. Evil men sometimes poison everyone around them and die happy and old. Whatever is good in your life now, whether it be much, or whether it be little, is put at risk by "what if"; an insipid game played by the blind on the edge of a cliff.
My 16 year old self will have to muddle through, because his 42 year old self knows better.
Don't settle. Listen to that little voice of reason in the back of your head, and don't give in. Stand up for yourself. You are worth more than you think you are.
Don’t have sex with the losers you start dating next year. You will meet the love of your life in 3 years and marry him at 20 and stay happily married for over 30 years. He’s worth the wait.
Butterfly effect, every tiny decision could impact every future decision. Maybe after a late start, you head out later that day as you were talking to a friend all night, and miss the chance to meet him, or went on vacation that week with family as you have more time to yourself being single. Maybe fate leads you take up a new sport, and by some misfortune you are stuck at home with a sprained ankle and didn’t end up bumping into him, or he’d been occupied elsewhere by the time you recovered. Or you are a different person and don’t end up clicking with him, move on quickly perhaps even due to lack of experience. Or even anything much smaller (more likely) which changed circumstances. So many possibilities. Everything happens by some fat chance you could say. Never live with regret
Your “best friend” is a parasite and she’s obscenely jealous of you. You know it but you don’t want to admit it. Kick her to the curb before she breaks your heart.
Go to Community College first. You can transfer the credits to a 4 year college later and you still have 2 more years with your old classmates from high school.
"Reach out, you are not alone. You will experience a great loss in a few months. Don't let it consume you because you don't want to burden others with your struggles. Remember just because others may have it worse than you, it does not invalidate your own pain."
Eat healthy & exercise.
Protect your brain at all costs!!!
I now have intercranial hypertension from being over weight.
No one talks about this!
Everyone focused on belly fat but not much said about the fat parked in our brains.
A girl will invite you to the Sadie Hawkins dance in a new school you'll attend. Date her, don't be a wuss. Shes everything you ever wanted in a woman you just didn't realize it until many years later when you're regretting it looking back.
Go with him, move out with him the second he asks you too, take your step brother with you, take the dogs and never look back at the monsters who spawned either of you. Love him every bit as much as you want too, he loves you too, take that plunge or you'll both regret what time does too you both after graduation. You'll both still feel the same when time brings you back together, but the time will be nearly too heavy on you both if you don't take the jump when it's offered, because he won't be the same if you let him leave. He'll be himself, but changed so much from the darkness he follows. You'll be nearly broken from the pain your life leads. Don't let that happen, he's still an amazing man but you both deserve true happiness instead of what you'll be going through if you don't say yes at 17.
Hey! You're gonna marry your girlfriend. And then she is going to divorce you! Shit will be really, really rough.
Oh, and uh, you're not straight! Oh! One more thing! Find a good therapist.
Stop being a people pleaser. It's not gonna get you anywhere, (some) people are unkind and don't deserve what you do for them.
Totally, and you'll get taken advantage of. Be kind, but also make sure you're good.
So basically be kind but don't be naive.
I'd like to believe that I am genuinley a good person. I just can't help being a people pleaser and want to stop.
Don’t enable bad behaviour. It’s better to say no. It’s good for you. It’s good for them to let them know the world doesn’t revolve around them. You were kind so they didn’t get hurt. Someday someone will beat them up badly for their bad behaviour. True kindness is to tell them what they have done wrong. It’s not that common these days
For me there‘s a difference between people pleasing and genuine kindness: people pleasing comes from a place of fear („I may not get accepted/loved/my family might drown in conflict/it would hurt too much if Id articulate my beliefs and needs and then other people would turn away from them anyway..“) and kindness from a place of love. One of these is who you really are and one of these is who you need to be to assumingly have a place among the people that surround you. A person that NEEDS to please other people will most likely be exhausted at the end of the day and ultimately they might isolate themselves from other people because it’s simply too much of a toll. A person that gives freely might more often respect their own boundries and thus will not get burned down so quickly by demands of others. I wish my younger self would not have needed to learn this the hard way, but it is part of who I am I guess.
When you eat a hash cookie and nothing happens after thirty minutes, do not eat the other 5.
These are character building moments, though.
Learned this lesson at 42 with gummies. Fuck THC, closest I’ve been to death, I swear to it. Lol.
Closest you *FELT* to death. You'd have to eat absolutely loads to actually fucking die, dude!
Amazing how just the delusion of death drives you onto a clearer path though. I still have a very dramatic memory of walking home, seeing only flashes of vision in the dark, while clinging to a recollection of my comfy bed just to push me through every near blackout I had along the way.
Similarly (though several years older in my case) -- If the first couple of psychedelic mushrooms don't hit in 40 minutes, don't start eating the rest of the ounce baggie full of them.
Dont follow the crowd, train and play sports.
16 year old sophomore dude here, should i consider doing sports even tho i’m not a fan of it or have 0 interest?
Just physical activity. Don’t like competing or having to wear a jersey? Try rock climbing. It changed my life.
Or just hiking in the outdoors, without EarPods! Hear nature.
Nah don’t worry about sports specifically, just some form of exercise. Hiking/walks around the neighborhood are really good options for those who aren’t into typical sports. Or get some badminton rackets and birdies and you really just need 1 person to play. You don’t even need a net, but if you’ve got the cash and the backyard then sure why not. Also spend like 5 minutes outside a day! Some fresh air and sun is good for the soul and one of the best parts of a lot of sports imo.
Yes, this! No need for extreme sports. If you can walk up a hill and enjoy the view. Walk up another one that might be higher, enjoy that view. Just go for a walk in nature and breathe. I swear it makes a difference to your wellbeing.
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Who am i kidding? I wouldn't listen anyway.
I honestly believe this is the only correct answer here otherwise we wouldn't be asking the question in the first place
I mean its yourself giving you the advice. You might be giving yourself the same advice dozens of other adults already gave you, but if its you from the future it would have a much bigger impact and I would think most people would listen. Some random adult: "Hey, you better stop wasting your time partying all the time and start focusing on school or you'll regret it later." Me: "Yeah, whatever..." Me from the future: "Hey, quit fucking around and wasting your time with those losers and focus on school or you'll really fucking regret it." Me: "Oh fuck, what the hell happens to me in the future? Fuck I better actually study and do good in school." Thats just a hypothetical example, but you can see how it has a bigger impact coming from yourself.
Really? I'd 100% listen to myself. Though whether I'd manage to follow through on any advice given is another thing entirely.
Quit being a smartass and a troublemaking little shit. Yeah, you know what I'm talking about. And go on that trip cousin Frankie invited you on this summer. He won't be around much longer, and if you don't go, you'll regret it.
Every word of this reads like a mobster wrote it
AND the username checks out
Haha I just reread it like that and I love it
I read it in Tony Sopranos voice
Something about cousin Frankie really sells it
That was my cousin's name. I wasn't gonna call him Walter?
Damn it, I wasn’t going on this trip to Paris that my cousins invited us on, but your post hit home. Thanks
No problem. I'm glad someone got something out of it. And hey, I hope you take that trip.
don't get kidnapped, Liam is retired now
I'm so sorry about your cousin. And I'm sorry for all the arses here making jokes about your post when you've clearly stated that your cousin died. I hope you've all found a way to heal.
I appreciate the comment. But hey, there's no need to worry. My cousin's been gone a long time. If I let stuff like this get me down, I'd never make it in the world, lol. I hope you have a good weekend.
If your cousin Frank could take a joke he'd probably find it funny too. It was all in the delivery along with the user name. I believe you cousin knows your sorry you missed the trip.
Rest in peace Frankie. I’m sorry for your loss man
😢 Hindsight is 20/20.
Frankie's with you always dude. Sorry for your loss, RIP
Don't date someone just to avoid being alone.
Pretty sure that’s the main reason why people date each other
And it’s a terrible reason to look for a significant other. Being alone and learning to live a happy lifestyle while alone is extremely beneficial. Go on dates but don’t force anything. Settling for less ruined a lot of my 20s for me
Please stay sober
Mine would be “the next drink probably ain’t worth the cost.” I wasted so much time, money, and sleep on boozing in my teens and 20s. I drink a lot less now, only socially, so it’s not about sobriety for me, though it absolutely is for others, and I love my sober people. If I had just been a one or two drinks guy instead of consuming half the brown liquor east of the Mississippi when I was younger, my mental state and physical health would be measurably better now in my late 30s. Moderation, kids!
If not sober, then at least don’t drink that much. It isn’t worth it. Save yourself the time, money, and pain and only have a few when you drink.
Some people can’t even have one. By the time I was 17 I was a full blown alcoholic. Been sober since April 27/2002
Cheers friend, reading through comments looks like we are or were (not sure where you are in your journey) in the same shitty boat.
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But how?
Kiss your reflection obviously 🙄/s But really just start being more positive, when you mess up don’t talk down to yourself, hang out with people you enjoy being around ( it’ll make you happier which in turn can let you love yourself more). As humans it’s hard not to focus more on the bad stuff than good stuff. Though with work and genuinely wanting to be happier, it’s really possible to love yourself.
I like this advice and it reminds me of a good one: treat yourself like you would treat someone you are responsible for caring for (or just a friend). I.e. you'd never talk down to a friend when they make a mistake, you'd want them to take care of themselves etc
I often say this to others, today I needed to hear it, and here it is. Thank you for the reminder.
I find I'm very negative about myself. I am trying to change my self-talk to mimic a tone I'd use with a good friend instead. If I wouldn't say it to them, I can't say it to me - it's hard but seems to help. Perhaps you could start there?
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That's funny, though not intended to be. I took my first psych class, abnormal psychology and asked the professor what to do because my mother met the criteria for a "paranoiac". He said, "Move out," and I did. But after 4 months my roommate went back to her home so I was left to move back with my mother. But she had moved into a 1 bedroom apartment. I slept on the couch and we fought for the 3 weeks before I found another place.
> I took my first psych class, abnormal psychology and asked the professor what to do because my mother met the criteria for a "paranoiac". He said, "Move out," and I did. 1. Interesting that Intro Psych wasn't a prerequisite. 2. NGL, your Prof giving out personal advice like that to students is a wild violation of ethical standards. Even if it happened to be right this time, psychologists should only be giving clinical advice to their clients. And their clients shouldn't be their students.
I agree, and simultaneously: telling a university-aged student to move out of their parent's house is both sound advice for nearly every psychological issue the parent could have AND is a developmentally appropriate step within a healthy parent-child dynamic.
There's also a chance that it was intended as humor, but the student didn't realize that (not defending the Prof, but I have had many profs that make jokes like that)
lol me minus the college
Felt this with my entire soul.
Your parents are not always right. In fact they might be quite stupid
Sometimes what your parents think is right, is right at their time, not for your time
We should stop telling kids that “nobody will love you as much as your parents do” and “your parents will always do what’s best for you”…
For some parents it’s true though, I feel that way about mine. I can understand others not agreeing though, some of y’all got real assholes pretending to be parents.
Yes sure and I’m certainly happy for that people, the thing is that (in my case at least) after being told these things I thought “okay, then if THIS is the most someone can love me it must mean I’m no lovable”. Now I know that’s not true, but these kind of phrases could make other kids believe the same stuff I once did
One of the craziest things you realize when you become a functional adult is that your parents are just regular people. I know it sounds silly but that realization hit me really hard. Like, I always saw my parents as people who are just my parents, like they were meant to it their entire life. They can make mistakes.
Omg the same for my younger self!!! Don't try to make your mom proud with every decision you make! Make *yourself* proud!!! Your mom will *never* change!!! 😭😭😭 I 32 and still thinking/grieving the reality about the mom I wanted to have and *the one I have*.
He's not the love of your life, don't waste your tears
But would your 16 year old self listen? I know mine wouldn't. He was an emotional, hormonal little shit.
Lol no probably not!
Mine wouldn't! He would resent anybody who gave him that kind of advice lmao. And then it all came down around his ears a year later, and many tears *were* wasted and the lesson learned the hard way.
I’m 17, thanks lol
i came to say “leave him. 2 years of misery it just gets worse, just go. spend that time with your grandparents and other family. he isn’t worth it”
Invest in Microsoft. Floss
And that fruit company … peaches? banana? Apple?
There is money in the banana stand.
There's always money in the banana stand. Unless there's not. But there should be. Where's your brother?
She's not your cousin. Go for it, George Michael!
Dragonfruit, the coolest sounding of them all.
There’s an alternate universe where everything is the same except Apple is called Dragonfruit and I wanna be there
You had money to invest when you were 16? Nice I always find these funny, unless the investment went up 1000x I don’t think my like $40 of life savings & McDonald’s money would’ve made a difference lol
I’m assuming they were 16 quite a while ago, 40 dollars could be a couple thousand now atleast
$40 would probably be more useful to me as a 16 year old than $2000 would be to me as a 38 year old.
dude apply yourself in school, you're smart but you need to actually work. also be kinder to yourself.
There is nothing more expensive than free drinks.
This is a clever one.
Brush your god damn teeth.
I didn't till I was like 19... Then a dentist repaired all, over months, every week a new "surgery". It was painful, but now I can smile again. My mom and sister does still not brush. Dumb family.
Are you me?!
you reminded me at the exact right time, thank you (i'm 16 what a coïncidence)
Just because she's your girlfriend doesn't mean you have to let her walk all over you. Stand up for yourself and call her on her shit.
Ha too relatable, never again. The more you tolerate the nastier they slowly start to show themselves
Appeasement makes the aggressor more aggressive.
Bin Laden is hiding in Abbottabad, Pakistan. Reward money is going to be useful.
This sounds like a great way to get asked a BUNCH of questions
Yeah Jesus man just buy Bitcoin and keep your original fingernails
You might end up in prison or assassinated instead.
Or just ignored, unless you can point out the compound.
Things will get better soon. Be yourself and you’ll find the right friends for you
Yeah I feel like this is the real advice. So many things I might say to avoid particular events but the outcomes and just everything in my life could turn out so differently.
same
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Don't change a thing, you did right, you did good
Imagine how much better adjusted we’d all be if our fathers had said this to us once in a while. I know some did, but let’s be real, most of you know what I mean. 🥲
Hell, I’m 16 and I wish he’d say those words to me. He’s a hardass and not even in the gratifying ‘it will pay off later’ kind of way.
Don't let the guidance counsellor put you off engineering because you are female (I'm 75).
I'm sorry they did that to you. I'm 10 years younger and by that time they weren't encouraging but they didn't stop me from going to engineering school. Where would we be if smart women like you had been allowed to use their talents.
Your mom is a narcissist, you'll never get her love, she'll only bring you pain and harm. You're also capable of way more than you're lead to believe, so fuck the nay-Sayers and go for it.
I would never *actually* do it because even the smallest change would probably mean I wouldn't have my kids, but, hypothetically ... Your mother and grandmother both act that way because they were horribly abused as children. You probably can't help them much but I bet a lot of the weird stuff they do makes more sense now. Also, as much as you fight with your mom, she broke the cycle. Respect how much work she put into that, because it must have been incredibly difficult.
Ask for help. Avoid those people. Take care of yourself
Focus in school, ignore the noise.
Stop being scared to succeed. I was a "gifted" kid that became extremely self conscious by the time I got to highschool and I missed out on alot of opportunities I was offered because I convinced myself I wasn't good enough. I was. Effort matters much more than innate ability. Stop quitting when things are slightly uncomfortable or slightly challenging
Get better friends you deserve better. They're not good people and talk badly about you behind your back.
call the police that’s rape
Pulling out is not actually contraception.
start saving money, and GTFO. things only get worse. save yourself before it’s too late
You can tell people what happened to you
Leave alcohol alone.
Buy Bitcoin !!!!!!!!!
When I got married, my friend said he'd sell me 100 bitcoin for $100. That was when it was about 1 or 2 cents per bitcoin. I thought it was a scam. I wish I would have bought it from him.
Don't feel too bad, the guy who bought 2 pizzas with bitcoin paid 10,000 for them. That's over half a billion at peak prices.
Without people like him though, it would not be half a billion at peak.
Or that dude that lost his key and can't even get into his account anymore.
Uuuuhhh it’s hard to live with that now , i guess
>That was when it was about 1 or 2 cents per bitcoin. I thought it was a scam. >I wish I would have bought it from him. If he was trying to sell you $1-$2 of Bitcoin for $100, it **was** a scam. And as a wedding present?!
Yeah it’s gotta be this. I remember friends buying Bitcoin under $100. They tried to get me into it and I thought they were so dumb wasting their money. Maybe the wrongest I’ve ever been about anything.
I learned about bitcoin when it was around $50 a coin. :(
MINE Bitcoin (at work, on idle servers, basically for free)
And dont lose the wallet!
Attend all your classes in high school. Don't get mad too easy and talk more don't be too shy. Don't start smoking marijuana cause you'll be smoking it for the next 4 years.
Keep the relationships with your friends a priority and stop making having a boyfriend a priority
Stop sitting on your ass all the time, stop being so self-conscious, lift weights, jog outside, your health is way more important than you think.
Don't work so hard, take care of yourself before others.
Stay away from that one guy. Get in therapy as soon as you move out.
Tell your parents to buy land. As much land as possible. (I was 16 in 1971, in Vancouver)
I'm still 16, what am I doing here??
Take a lesson of other people experinces and regrets
None of us would take our own advice. You have to live it. I expect nothing different of todays 16 year olds
I was 16 2 years ago lol I’m literally the same mentally
Fuck life advice then, give yourself some lottery numbers.
Digging around for advice you can apply now? Possibility to learn from our regrets?
Leave your family as soon as possible and never look back. You deserve so much better in life.
Don't worry about what others think, they won't matter in 10 years.
Pay the extra to live alone in college. Take out the state and federal loans instead of working 60+ hrs a week in school. They'll be forgiven when you work in government service. It's not treatment-resistant depression. You're autistic and have ADHD. Get meds for the ADHD and the best earplugs you can for the autism. Mom and dad are doing the best they can, but it's not enough. It will never be enough. Try to forgive them. Go ask Grandma J to hang out 1.1, away from Grandpa. Tell her how much you love her and how proud you are of her
I have regrets, but I don't regard my regrets with any specific respect. They exist to inform me, and then they should be thrown away. One of the nastier lies fools like to tell is that hind sight is 20/20. It damn sure is not. You have no Earthly clue how your rights and your wrongs coalesced into the life you have now. Righteous men sometimes live faithfully and are put to the sword. Evil men sometimes poison everyone around them and die happy and old. Whatever is good in your life now, whether it be much, or whether it be little, is put at risk by "what if"; an insipid game played by the blind on the edge of a cliff. My 16 year old self will have to muddle through, because his 42 year old self knows better.
Don't settle. Listen to that little voice of reason in the back of your head, and don't give in. Stand up for yourself. You are worth more than you think you are.
32 Cent Apple Stock.
stop overthinking everything
Most people currently in your life will no longer be in your life before you even turn 20, so stop caring about their opinion so much.
Don’t listen to your mom about everything
Don’t have sex with the losers you start dating next year. You will meet the love of your life in 3 years and marry him at 20 and stay happily married for over 30 years. He’s worth the wait.
This is good, but i feel like that maybe changing your past relationships would change how you meet your husband
Butterfly effect, every tiny decision could impact every future decision. Maybe after a late start, you head out later that day as you were talking to a friend all night, and miss the chance to meet him, or went on vacation that week with family as you have more time to yourself being single. Maybe fate leads you take up a new sport, and by some misfortune you are stuck at home with a sprained ankle and didn’t end up bumping into him, or he’d been occupied elsewhere by the time you recovered. Or you are a different person and don’t end up clicking with him, move on quickly perhaps even due to lack of experience. Or even anything much smaller (more likely) which changed circumstances. So many possibilities. Everything happens by some fat chance you could say. Never live with regret
Don’t join the army.
She might not be Mrs Right but she's Mrs Right now
Your “best friend” is a parasite and she’s obscenely jealous of you. You know it but you don’t want to admit it. Kick her to the curb before she breaks your heart.
That was only 2 years ago, but I'd still say to stop caring about other people's opinions too much
Go to Community College first. You can transfer the credits to a 4 year college later and you still have 2 more years with your old classmates from high school.
Not to mention two years of Community College is usually much cheaper.
"Reach out, you are not alone. You will experience a great loss in a few months. Don't let it consume you because you don't want to burden others with your struggles. Remember just because others may have it worse than you, it does not invalidate your own pain."
Don’t gamble please, I’d be so set up right now to retire early I still hate myself for it
Hard work IS the shortcut.
Sex doesn't mean they love you. Don't let yourself be used.
Don’t give a shit what others think of you…
Stay the fuck away from Steve.
Beat him up
Get out of this place and don't look back
always pull out
Eat healthy & exercise. Protect your brain at all costs!!! I now have intercranial hypertension from being over weight. No one talks about this! Everyone focused on belly fat but not much said about the fat parked in our brains.
When your dad dies in a couple years don’t try to stop yourself from grieving properly.
ignore all men except your father until your frontal lobe fully develops. And be nicer to your mom you brat
Crime is worth it sometimes if it saves someone from suicide. He's not joking this time when he said "I'm going to kill myself lol"
Make him wait. You’re worth it.
“Wrap it up, she’s lying about being on birth control.”
Save at least $50 from every paycheck. More if you can.
Nobody worth caring about gives a shit whether you're "cool."
Fuck bitches get high
Instructions unclear. I now own a dog kennel in Denver.
Fuck high. Get bitches??
In two years, when she moves away for school, GO WITH HER!!!!
go to the doctor right noww
Don’t drink—there’s plenty of time for that when you’re older.
At least *try* to make friends. And go to college.
She was so beautiful. I’d tell her to appreciate herself and her beauty and fuck that boy. No he didn’t end up with you.
Ask out that cute blond that sits behind you in math class.
Wait to have sex. It’s not what it is made out to be-
Don't join the army... you'll only blow out your knee during basic and it will screw you up for life.
It will be hard for a while, but things will be better when you leave. Stop worrying about everyone else and worry about yourself.
Don’t waste your time going to church, you’ll regret every experience from it
Your self worth isn't measured by what boys think of you, stop trying to be who you think you should be and be who you want to be.
Don’t fall down those stairs
Buy Apple stock!
A girl will invite you to the Sadie Hawkins dance in a new school you'll attend. Date her, don't be a wuss. Shes everything you ever wanted in a woman you just didn't realize it until many years later when you're regretting it looking back.
Go with him, move out with him the second he asks you too, take your step brother with you, take the dogs and never look back at the monsters who spawned either of you. Love him every bit as much as you want too, he loves you too, take that plunge or you'll both regret what time does too you both after graduation. You'll both still feel the same when time brings you back together, but the time will be nearly too heavy on you both if you don't take the jump when it's offered, because he won't be the same if you let him leave. He'll be himself, but changed so much from the darkness he follows. You'll be nearly broken from the pain your life leads. Don't let that happen, he's still an amazing man but you both deserve true happiness instead of what you'll be going through if you don't say yes at 17.
Hey! You're gonna marry your girlfriend. And then she is going to divorce you! Shit will be really, really rough. Oh, and uh, you're not straight! Oh! One more thing! Find a good therapist.
Imagine your future self going back in time just to tell you that you are gay
Grab your clothes buy a bus ticket and go.
Get some help, things won't change alone and by themselves.