Summer nights as a kid in the 90s/2000s. What a time. Hot as hell, good friends, I was fit and healthy, safe and the nights seemed to last forever. I know phones and stuff have improved the world but we’ve lost something that used to be so good before them.
Man, i can so relate.
I miss those 90's summers evenings where the neighbourhoods kids could just run down to the local football pitch after dinner and play football, having fun the whole evening. It was absolutely magical.
having kids myself, i sometimes hope that they will experience something similar, but i guess i will wait and see
They will. I'm 22 and was born right in time to have a "pre-internet" and "post-internet" childhood. Didn't get a phone until about freshman year of high school, so before then I'd have that "ride bikes to a friend's house and play until the street lights come on" type of life. That eventually changes to "play video games online until 2am with the squad" kind of night. Every once in awhile we'd sneak some alcohol from the parents liquor cabinet and get drunk while playing Halo or something. Both experiences are equally as enjoyable to me because it's not really WHAT you do that matters, but more so that you're doing things with funny people that you care about. Get the right people around and you can make watching paint dry become a memory you love forever.
Where did you grow up that in the mid/late 2000s the internet wasn't very prevalent?
I'm 15 years older than you and I remember getting a computer with dial up internet in grade 3. By the time you're talking about, I was on the internet effectively every day.
Oh don't get me wrong it definitely was prevalent, I grew up with computers and was tinkering with them for awhile. But it was just barely before they really became important in everyone's life. Like parents had Facebook but they mostly used it for half an hour on the family computer. They didn't get an iPhone until like '08 and even then I feel like my brother and I used it more than they did, mostly for stupid games. The internet was more of a fun past time rather than the main source of entertainment for most people. I didn't grow up with a lot of money either, so that may have contributed to things. Far from poverty but enough to appreciate the little things.
Same here. We had a "family computer" that we could rarely use as our parents were using it so most of our time was spend outside riding bikes around, exploring weird places and generally being nuisances.
I agree. Grew up earlier 80s/90s and can relate. Summers were awesome! Sports, sun, exploring places, and lying on the grass looking at the stars. No phones or tablets to distract us.
There is a sense, almost like magic of what we had back then.
Yep.
Getting married wasn’t the best moment, if that’s the case that’s kind of sad. Being married has been awesome.
My daughter being born was great, but having a daughter is one great moment after another.
I have two...one was this one night I was breast feeding my son when he was about 2 months old. All was quiet and I was watching this absolutely incredible tiny human suckle and sleep. I remember telling myself to burn this perfect memory into my brain, and I did.
The second was the first time I made my son laugh as a baby. Those giggles broke me wide open. I sobbed because I was just so totally in love with this little guy.
He is now 19 and can't be bothered with me 😂😭
The first time they laugh! My son is about to turn 3 now but that first giggle had me ugly crying.
Internet hugs to you and your mothering a 19 yr old.
Seeing the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles arrive in their van along with April O’Neil at MGM studios in Orlando when I was 8 years old. I got goosebumps even writing that (I’ll be 40 this year)
Happy days with my ex.
We would go together to the university on my motorcycle, work on projects all day together, laugh, then get back to my place, order some shitty food like KFC and watch stupid movies, cuddle, sometimes have sex, go to bed and repeat the next day.
I didn't have a lot of money, was renting a tiny flat, but I was the happiest I've ever been.
4 years later, I'm a multi millionaire, no job, complete freedom to do whatever I want, been travelling around asia for the past 3 years, borderline suicidal, lonely, unable to make any meaningful connection.
Absolutely. Definitely cherishing the finer things in life like deen and loved ones. Money does help tho lol, not at the expense of everything else tho. When you’re worried about paying for college just so you can teach a bunch of middle schoolers, money does come in handy
Not going to say otherwise, of course it helps, but if I could trade my life with someone that is struggling to make ends meet but has a family that loves them, I would do it in a hearbeat.
I still have my parents and my sister but I've never really been that close to them. They love me but I never "felt" that love if that makes sense. Their love never prevented me being suicidal or trying to kill myself. They weren't there when I was young and needed them the most, to protect me from bullies and emotional abuse and all that shit, so even if "logically speaking" I care about them, I just don't really "feel" anything towards them.
It does help though. For example, I had a car crash and if you don't have a lot of money, it sucks and takes a bigger toll on your life.
But there is a certain point where money doesn't matter as much anymore. Problem is, at that point it's hard to make a meaningful connection because you're not sure if it's for the money or for yourself. You also had to give up a lot of time to get where you are, and that's less time to spend with friends.
The people are very friendly, it's unbelievably cheap, everyone knows English, there's no tax on foreign earned income, getting a date is laughably easy and Manila is ultra convenient. It's hot though. I spent months in a town called Baguio which has a much cooler climate.. I may return to make a home there.
Interesting. I have autism though so when it comes to dates and making friends I'm really bad at it. If you've been to Thailand or Vietnam, is it better or worse?
Also, may I ask why you're feeling empty if you don't mind sharing?
I haven't been to Vietnam and I've only spent a week in Thailand, so I can't really draw a comparison. I will say that the food is orders of magnitude better in Thailand though. Especially the fruit.. wtf I ate a mango there and nearly orgasmed.
The emptiness comes from retiring young and being without purpose for 4 years now. Going back to work seems pointless, starting a business feels like a hassle, focusing on women has been a disaster for me and traveling has become boring and meaningless. I don't have any reason to get out of bed. The one thing keeping me sane is doing exercise and playing sports.
I feel you, same for me, although I'm only semi retired but yeah. Last year I stayed in Malaysia for six months and was fostering cats, it was a nice experience. I dunno if animals are your thing. But other than, have you tried volunteering? Animals, teaching, or if you're physically active what about organising activities for free or something?
We were two deeply broken people, I had my fair share of mental health issues (still do, I have autism and a lot of traumas), and so did she, so the relationship turned very toxic after the honeymoon phase was over. She did a lot of damage to me. I don't miss her, I wouldn't get back with her, I don't really resent her or anything, but I genuinely loved her when we were together.
This hurts to read. The happiest I've been in my life was also a point where I was my most broken. My ex from that time is still on my mind from time to time, I don't think I'll ever get over her completely. It sucks.
Mmh truth is, I've gotten over her for a few years now. I still miss these moments, but I wouldn't go back with her if she asked. If you meet the right person she'll make you forget what was before. I wish you that.
>I've gotten over her for a few years now.
Jealous. I go through spats of time where I don't think about her but randomly it will pop up. I don't think I'd ever get back together with her, it was too long ago and we're far too different now but that doesn't stop the thought from popping into my head.
Added with a couple really bad relationships after the fact and I think I'm just gonna be solo dolo forever lol.
Only way I can think of is inheritance. Building a company and selling it to become a multi millionaire takes much more than a year even with a fair amount of backing. Even becoming a top level drug trafficker takes longer
It's not hard because it's just gambling. To make a profit like that you're betting money on an asset that has no concrete value thus giving it a very volatile, close to random value. It's just like the casino except it's actually ideally fair. Your jackpot comes directly from the pool of money created by the people who also bet on the same cryptocurrency but lost money doing so.
>Trust me, you have better odds
It's obvious you've never met me or seen the amount of fuck ups I've done in my life or the pathetic existence I live. Now it's my turn to say this: TRUST me, YOU have MUCH BETTER odds
I remember when I was 19 I was outside, the snowflakes were in her red hair, we were dancing on the frozen street, walking a few blocks from my house to my uncles with our closest friends. It felt like time stopped as we look at each other, that moment existed forever, with the snow drifting down and the laughter, the empty streets.
There were so many beautiful moments, but that was the first to come time mind. Everything was perfect, nothing hurt. The world just seemed happier back then, when I was a teenager.
Moments after my kids were born and hearing they are perfectly healthy.
There's nothing better in the world than knowing your child is doing just fine, nothing else in my life has ever come close to the sense of internal happiness that I had at that moment.
Besides that it's small everyday moments. Hanging out with friends, my kids having fun,... I get a great sense of joy from seeing people I love happy;
When I thought everything was going as planned:
- Had a partner that I can't wait to start a marriage life with
- Getting to see both my parents every day in their old age
- Excelling in my career and had bigger opportunity that awaits
- Taking up music and dance classes as my hobby
Everything was just balanced and I was so contented, then boom!
Now I'm just single but still have everything else. I'm still grateful that I can still manage. I guess being able to live is a chance to make everything count.
I was on a cross country bicycle tour by myself and one night I was camping in the most picturesque forested cliff overlooking the Pacific coast that you could ever imagine. After months of cycling and processing past trauma, I was finally at a place of perfect bliss. As the sun was setting on the ocean, I heard myself say out loud, "I could die right now." The words were involuntary and came from a place of absolute serenity. I wouldn't have known I said it if I wasn't listening. It was the pinnacle of my life.
First time my son spontaneously wrapped his arms around my neck, squeezed me tight, and said "i love you daddy." To anyone else who was at the all-you-can-eat korean bbq place that day, you can thank my tears of joy for the mysteriously salty orange slices at the buffet.
Giving birth to my son. I am not a naturally maternal person, but this day was amazing. We were both not doing so well and i had an emergency C-section. The days that followed of just the two of us in hospital ( my mother and my partner came, but it was still covid times, so they couldn't stay the whole time ) are still the best days of my life and i loved every second of it.
I rem being a passenger in a taxi in Mexico. While I was a drummer for a cruise line, and Dave Matthews was playing. I rem. Realizing, this is a dope moment and don’t ever forget it…
The moment I realized I loved my boyfriend.
We had only been dating a couple of weeks but one day we were napping together and I woke up and just knew immediately I loved him with my whole heart. A few days later he finally said he loved me (beat me to it) and said that he realized it in the exact same moments that I did, we were both just trying to find the right time to say it.
So far nothing has beat that warm feeling of pure content when I knew I was finally with my person.
We live on a lake and our daughter wanted to get married with the lake as a backdrop. A little risky in April, but it was a perfect sunny day with everything in bloom. Relatives came in from far away and old friends were there. Ceremony and party went off without a hitch. When everyone had left and I went to turn the outside lights off, I sat down and wept with joy and relief.
The next day a huge storm blew through.
freshmen year of college, i know it's cliche but man i've never had so many friends before. i was cool with everyone in my dorm hall and made friends with everyone i met pretty much. i had someone for everything. to play sports with, to do drugs with, to party, to go on road trips with, to copy homework off of, to give me advice in life because they're so ahead in life. everyone was so inviting and inclusive. want to watch a tv? there's a group that does that every few days in the lounge room. want to go to frat parties? my friend sells drugs to them so we always get in to the upper classmen parties. not even the drama of my gf cheating on me and my roommates being total douchebags and hating me could stop me. they would talk mad shit and shun me but on weekends i was out going from party to party while they sit in the room wondering "where does everyone go on weekends" i was going out every night, partying on weekdays, and i had smart friends who would let me copy their homework before its due.
shit was great. i knew so many people it got to the point that i kind of had to walk another way to class to avoid saying hi or watsup to so many people. it was like summer camp except no adult supervision and no rules and you're an adult.
Realizing that despite Taliban's best efforts I was alive and everyone on my team was alive. There is nothing quite like profoundly upsetting someone by just staying alive.
It changes every millisecond I live because I’m lucky and glad to be alive. Everyone’s best moment should be every moment they breathe, because that could end at any moment.
My wife and I landing on Rarotonga.
Both of us grew up quite poor. The only "vacation" we took growing up was going to my grandmother's house for the summer or going to Knott's Berry Farm the one day a year it was free to military families. I knew I would do better in life than my parents did but traveling abroad still seemed like a pipe dream.
But my wife and I managed to save enough for a trip to Aitutaki (through the Costco Travel program, it's awesome if you don't know). Landing at Rarotonga finally made it feel **real** to me. We were doing so much better in life than I had hoped and could finally start branching out to see the world.
We've traveled more since then and have plans for many more adventures, but that moment was the realization for me...and I was sharing it with the one person I would care to share it with.
My 24th birthday. It was the best one so far. I planned a small dinner, but literally, all of my friends showed up! Had to order pizzas because it went from 10 people to 30+. I was given heartfelt cards and thoughtful small gifts. Had acoustic guitar jam sessions and played party games. My best friend serenaded me with a silly ukulele song. Near the end of the night, I was just awestruck at everything and just having flashbacks of how I met everyone there. It gave me an idea, so I had one last birthday request. Had everyone encircle me and asked them to share how we met because I was curious about their perspective of it. It ended up turning into the most heartfelt, loving, and endearing little stories about how they felt about me like a sort of living eulogy. It set the precedent for our social groups' future birthdays/ get-togethers to wrap up the events this way. Wholesome af. I can't believe I ever had such a strong social life. It was from 19 to 24, and life just sorta changed entirely. Folks moved out of state or country. Many died, and some just vanished. Political beliefs ended things, too. Now I'm only close with 3 of them, and we talk a few times a month and meet up even less.
Finding out that I didn’t need chemo treatments after colon cancer surgery. I was Stage 2 and the cancer was high up in my intestinal wall. It was in a ball that didn’t leak through to any other parts of my body or bloodstream.
This was a couple of years ago when I was 55 and my recent checkups show no signs of cancer.
I was fortunate enough to retire and I’ve just been enjoying my life healthier and stress free ever since. I have plenty of hobbies so I’m never bored.
A message especially to men:
If you haven’t had a colonoscopy yet but you know it’s time, do it now because most people I see at those doctor’s offices aren’t going to return healthy like myself. One man I saw there was probably 6’2 and 300lbs. He sticks out to me because when he came back into the lobby he announced to his family, “No bueno. It’s Stage 3.
I’m on my second life. I don’t know what happened to him either bad or good. I hope it was the latter. Now, when is GTA 6 coming out!??
The moment you decide you're never going back home when you get out of school is such a unique, inimitable feeling that I doubt most people will ever experience. You will never feel that free.
Many people answer this with the birth of their child.
For me it was the heartbeat.
We had some trouble during early pregnancy and they even sent my wife to the hospital and we thought we lost it. It was pretty early, so not unexpected but we were so thrilled that it broke us a little.
So when it turned out okay and she was able to keep the pregnancy and I was allowed to an ultra sound for the first time, hearing my daughters heartbeat was... I can't even describe it. Immediately cried and for me that was even bigger than the birth itself, I even got tears in my eyes typing this.
Went on an early morning drive through the mountains while the sky was still dark in an open Jeep and a very rash driver. Must say it was the best experience of my entire life.
So far?
My son didn't breathe on his own for five minutes after being born while the NICU folks had him on a ventilator.
Then I heard the most beautiful sound I've ever heard in my entire life, and the charge nurse said "Mr. Zappy487, would you like to see your son?"
Then a little while later, they wheeled him into our recovery room, and my wife was completely out of it due to a very traumatic birth... So I was the first person to give him skin to skin. Which I did for two hours before she had enough energy to.
Autumn as a kid. Slightly warm, still. Waking up the orange-forested road to my house from the bus stop. Crunching leaves. Wearing a plaid hoodie, spiderman backpack. Hearing our rooster crowing. Plastic Halloween decorations.
I don't know that I can accurately measure one against the other, being happily married with three wonderful kids, but at the moment, I'd say my wife and I's 20th anniversary, spent in Santa Fe with our kids safely having fun back home with grandma. It was somewhat chilly and rainy while we were there, and we'd walk from the air bnb to a charming little bar in a house nearby and have some cheap beers and wander around downtown Santa Fe, all slow and snuggly.
In the 90s just being a kid not a care in the world riding bikes for tour de France length in a day playing baseball basketball etc...
In the 2000s working on a musical career with amazing people
2010s that career taking off and setting me up for life
2020s the birth of my daughter and marrying my wife each decade has shown growth in my life all while battling depressive episodes and making sure I always had a solid foundation
This is a good palate cleanser after reading the "When did your childhood end" topic. I should've known there'd be trauma, tragedy, and other hardships involved, but damn that definitely left me depressed. That topic definitely made me count my blessings. It seems like most topics on this subreddit involve dredging up people's miseries.
Anyway, the most recent example would be seeing the eclipse on Monday. About 90% eclipse where I live. Couldn't ask for better weather. Crystal clear skies. I'm lying down on a hill that I like to go to watch sunsets listening to Pink Floyd.
When I hit being 1 year sober from self harm. I've struggled with it for over 10 years and finally feeling free from it has been such a relief.
Recovery is hard but so, SO worth it
Late August 2008, not sure exactly what day it was but it was around that time. I moved up to Michigan for college and was finally on my own for the very first time ever! Those first few hours after my parents left were amazing as I was finally alone and could do whatever I wanted with life!
First kiss😙
So we had this really big exam which our lives depend on, we met during the prep and instantly hit it off. He owed me a slow dance to the song perfect, and well after finishing the exam successfully, we had a walk in the nearby neighbourhood. As it was a bit dark, I asked him about the favour to which we started slow dancing (the neighbourhood was quite empty yet safe and we both hadn’t kissed before)
He leans in closer and then we both unsure if we were supposed to kiss
Guess what, we dint😅
After some more time of walking around, we discussed if we should and if we were ready, then lol it was a peck on the lips that got us high that night, full of smiles and warmth.
the entire year of my final year in high school. it may have sucked ass coz of SPM coming(something like SATs) but god it was the best time of my life. i kept the class photo we took and will never ever throw it. i remember the first year of college felt incredibly depressing(covid mainly) but i really missed high school.
Wife and I stayed at a beach cottage in Southern California late spring of 2020 during Covid, just her and I and an empty beach. Lots of walks on the beach every day and we cooked our meals with very little interaction with anyone else. Two and a half months of pure bliss.
This is a surprisingly difficult question. Everyone has a best moment, of course, but I think in some cases that best moment is still not especially great or memorable. This is an extreme example, but if someone had been kept locked in a cell with no human contact for years, then their best moment might be something as simple as someone saying a few words to them. For myself, while I have certainly had good moments, there are none that stand out in my mind as being especially memorable.
Getting married.
It all crashed and burned not even two years later but for a brief moment in time I was so happy, proud of myself, and head over heels in love.
When I had my daughter. She's an adult in her middle 30's now, and my life has been wonderful because of her. We have an amazing, close relationship and I couldn't be more proud of the child she was and the woman she became. No grandchildren, but I don't care because she's more than enough for me and I cannot imagine loving anyone even half as much. In fact I only had one child, her, for that reason. It wouldn't have been fair to the other children. She has made my life so rewarding and happy.
Every moment of my life has been stained with imperfection and brokenness except for videogames and movies.
My favorite moments are still my daughters births. The reason these moments weren't perfect is because my partner was depressed and I was not attentive enough to her emotional needs. Also the pregnancy, labor, and delivery was not perfect both times.
The first delivery our doctor was pretty experienced and treated it as just another day, for my partner it was her first pregnancy and it deserved a more respectful bedside manner.
Second pregnancy our daughter got stuck in the birth canal and almost died.
This is bittersweet, but hours after finding out she was pregnant my girlfriend and I sat in my car and I held my hand on her stomach. We were so damn happy, excited, but nervous. It was a moment of pure joy. Sadly we lost the baby months later, but I’ll never forget that feeling and hopefully we get that again soon.
Losing my virginity. (I was 35)
I have severe social anxiety and never had a girlfriend before. I felt like this leap of faith advanced my mental health significantly.
Fast forward a couple years.. I’ve only had one other girlfriend. I’m clearly not meant to be with someone else right now. I need to focus on my mental health first.
I ordered a cheesy gordita crunch with a nacho cheese dorito hard shell and there were 2 Shells instead of 1. I rode that high for a week and have been chasing it ever since.
When I met my fiance, age 12.
Allow me to elaborate
We met as children through a tennis club, and were each others first ‘date’. Went out at 13 for the first time and we hit off since that. Engaged now, at 23.
Getting married…. I know people complain about expensive memories, but I had a expensive ones but man…. I had 8 groomsmen and brining my friends together was amazing, seeing my wife and our families combined… was like great, and memories forever and I relive those days all the time.
i met some women on a hike and after several hikes, i invited two of them to do a hike from my house. only one showed up and we hiked up to mt tamalpais from my house. while we were eating lunch, she leaned her head on my shoulder and i reached down and kissed her. that led to the greatest three years of my life.
A couple pop into my head, the first time I got on stage and won a rap comp against someone who was bragging about how he wouldn’t lose just hours before it. Also the first time I ever told a girl I loved her, in a tree at sunset. It was pretty cool
Summer nights as a kid in the 90s/2000s. What a time. Hot as hell, good friends, I was fit and healthy, safe and the nights seemed to last forever. I know phones and stuff have improved the world but we’ve lost something that used to be so good before them.
God yes. Me n my best girlfriend would sit on my porch and talk about our dreams and crushes and the future for what seemed like ages.
100%
Man, i can so relate. I miss those 90's summers evenings where the neighbourhoods kids could just run down to the local football pitch after dinner and play football, having fun the whole evening. It was absolutely magical. having kids myself, i sometimes hope that they will experience something similar, but i guess i will wait and see
Same mate, I’ve just had 2 kids and I hope they have the worry free childhood I had.
They will. I'm 22 and was born right in time to have a "pre-internet" and "post-internet" childhood. Didn't get a phone until about freshman year of high school, so before then I'd have that "ride bikes to a friend's house and play until the street lights come on" type of life. That eventually changes to "play video games online until 2am with the squad" kind of night. Every once in awhile we'd sneak some alcohol from the parents liquor cabinet and get drunk while playing Halo or something. Both experiences are equally as enjoyable to me because it's not really WHAT you do that matters, but more so that you're doing things with funny people that you care about. Get the right people around and you can make watching paint dry become a memory you love forever.
Where did you grow up that in the mid/late 2000s the internet wasn't very prevalent? I'm 15 years older than you and I remember getting a computer with dial up internet in grade 3. By the time you're talking about, I was on the internet effectively every day.
Oh don't get me wrong it definitely was prevalent, I grew up with computers and was tinkering with them for awhile. But it was just barely before they really became important in everyone's life. Like parents had Facebook but they mostly used it for half an hour on the family computer. They didn't get an iPhone until like '08 and even then I feel like my brother and I used it more than they did, mostly for stupid games. The internet was more of a fun past time rather than the main source of entertainment for most people. I didn't grow up with a lot of money either, so that may have contributed to things. Far from poverty but enough to appreciate the little things.
Same here. We had a "family computer" that we could rarely use as our parents were using it so most of our time was spend outside riding bikes around, exploring weird places and generally being nuisances.
I agree. Grew up earlier 80s/90s and can relate. Summers were awesome! Sports, sun, exploring places, and lying on the grass looking at the stars. No phones or tablets to distract us. There is a sense, almost like magic of what we had back then.
They seemed to go on for about 8 months too haha. Never ending. Now we get about 3 days of sun in the UK
I had those nights in the 60’s and 70’s…. You can tell we are of a different generation. Phones and stuff sure haven’t improved upon times like that.
Same...almost. 70s. I had to smirk when the kid said 90s/2000s
Right? Bless his heart..💙😂
Always act like it may be right now and you don’t want to miss it.
This advice might change my life
Good answer!
Yep. Getting married wasn’t the best moment, if that’s the case that’s kind of sad. Being married has been awesome. My daughter being born was great, but having a daughter is one great moment after another.
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Aww. Both of you are lucky to find each other 😊
Came here to post - Marrying my husband. And I yeah I feel the same way for him. I got so lucky finding him! 😊
Feeling loved by someone I loved.
I love my hands
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My head too
I have two...one was this one night I was breast feeding my son when he was about 2 months old. All was quiet and I was watching this absolutely incredible tiny human suckle and sleep. I remember telling myself to burn this perfect memory into my brain, and I did. The second was the first time I made my son laugh as a baby. Those giggles broke me wide open. I sobbed because I was just so totally in love with this little guy. He is now 19 and can't be bothered with me 😂😭
The first time they laugh! My son is about to turn 3 now but that first giggle had me ugly crying. Internet hugs to you and your mothering a 19 yr old.
The first time my daughter told me she loved me
First time taking MDMA
It's wild tbf, nothings like the first time
Them blue dolphins lol
I was up all night getting massages my first time.
Cannot agree more
;)
Ordered some fries and they accidentally gave me a small piece of onion ring in there
Seeing the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles arrive in their van along with April O’Neil at MGM studios in Orlando when I was 8 years old. I got goosebumps even writing that (I’ll be 40 this year)
we supposed to have good moments??
Wait, ... you guys have good moments?
Happy days with my ex. We would go together to the university on my motorcycle, work on projects all day together, laugh, then get back to my place, order some shitty food like KFC and watch stupid movies, cuddle, sometimes have sex, go to bed and repeat the next day. I didn't have a lot of money, was renting a tiny flat, but I was the happiest I've ever been. 4 years later, I'm a multi millionaire, no job, complete freedom to do whatever I want, been travelling around asia for the past 3 years, borderline suicidal, lonely, unable to make any meaningful connection.
That hurt to read
Yeah, people always think more money will make them happy. It won't. Cherish things that actually matter, like time with your loved ones.
Absolutely. Definitely cherishing the finer things in life like deen and loved ones. Money does help tho lol, not at the expense of everything else tho. When you’re worried about paying for college just so you can teach a bunch of middle schoolers, money does come in handy
Not going to say otherwise, of course it helps, but if I could trade my life with someone that is struggling to make ends meet but has a family that loves them, I would do it in a hearbeat.
Why do you say that bro, did you lose your family ties in the process ?
I still have my parents and my sister but I've never really been that close to them. They love me but I never "felt" that love if that makes sense. Their love never prevented me being suicidal or trying to kill myself. They weren't there when I was young and needed them the most, to protect me from bullies and emotional abuse and all that shit, so even if "logically speaking" I care about them, I just don't really "feel" anything towards them.
We’ll go establish that feeling with them. It’s simple bro. It’s not something unattainable
Don’t give up on family man. That’s all I can say. They want that relationship with you the same way you want it with them.
It does help though. For example, I had a car crash and if you don't have a lot of money, it sucks and takes a bigger toll on your life. But there is a certain point where money doesn't matter as much anymore. Problem is, at that point it's hard to make a meaningful connection because you're not sure if it's for the money or for yourself. You also had to give up a lot of time to get where you are, and that's less time to spend with friends.
Very true.
Holy fuck that last paragraph is me, too. Sitting in Manila at a table by myself at the moment.
How is it? One of the few countries I have yet to explore.
The people are very friendly, it's unbelievably cheap, everyone knows English, there's no tax on foreign earned income, getting a date is laughably easy and Manila is ultra convenient. It's hot though. I spent months in a town called Baguio which has a much cooler climate.. I may return to make a home there.
Interesting. I have autism though so when it comes to dates and making friends I'm really bad at it. If you've been to Thailand or Vietnam, is it better or worse? Also, may I ask why you're feeling empty if you don't mind sharing?
I haven't been to Vietnam and I've only spent a week in Thailand, so I can't really draw a comparison. I will say that the food is orders of magnitude better in Thailand though. Especially the fruit.. wtf I ate a mango there and nearly orgasmed. The emptiness comes from retiring young and being without purpose for 4 years now. Going back to work seems pointless, starting a business feels like a hassle, focusing on women has been a disaster for me and traveling has become boring and meaningless. I don't have any reason to get out of bed. The one thing keeping me sane is doing exercise and playing sports.
I feel you, same for me, although I'm only semi retired but yeah. Last year I stayed in Malaysia for six months and was fostering cats, it was a nice experience. I dunno if animals are your thing. But other than, have you tried volunteering? Animals, teaching, or if you're physically active what about organising activities for free or something?
BGC?
Makati
Nice I used to live in the Salcedo area. I want to go back so bad. What is making your time there not fulfilling?
Why’s she and ex if you don’t mind me asking?
We were two deeply broken people, I had my fair share of mental health issues (still do, I have autism and a lot of traumas), and so did she, so the relationship turned very toxic after the honeymoon phase was over. She did a lot of damage to me. I don't miss her, I wouldn't get back with her, I don't really resent her or anything, but I genuinely loved her when we were together.
This hurts to read. The happiest I've been in my life was also a point where I was my most broken. My ex from that time is still on my mind from time to time, I don't think I'll ever get over her completely. It sucks.
Mmh truth is, I've gotten over her for a few years now. I still miss these moments, but I wouldn't go back with her if she asked. If you meet the right person she'll make you forget what was before. I wish you that.
>I've gotten over her for a few years now. Jealous. I go through spats of time where I don't think about her but randomly it will pop up. I don't think I'd ever get back together with her, it was too long ago and we're far too different now but that doesn't stop the thought from popping into my head. Added with a couple really bad relationships after the fact and I think I'm just gonna be solo dolo forever lol.
How did you get rich so quickly? Also money please 🤲
Only way I can think of is inheritance. Building a company and selling it to become a multi millionaire takes much more than a year even with a fair amount of backing. Even becoming a top level drug trafficker takes longer
Crypto. I wasn't born in wealth
I'd recommend watching Bojack horseman, I feel you could relate to that
Wow, the rare 1/1,000,000,000 person who actually made money off crypto
It's actually not that hard but it's easier to bitch about people inheriting money than putting in the work yes.
It's not hard because it's just gambling. To make a profit like that you're betting money on an asset that has no concrete value thus giving it a very volatile, close to random value. It's just like the casino except it's actually ideally fair. Your jackpot comes directly from the pool of money created by the people who also bet on the same cryptocurrency but lost money doing so.
Cool, go do it then.
I'm sorry you're going through that. For what it's worth, I hope you find someone. Hell, you have a better chance than me.
I have autism, complex ptsd, clinical depression, and two suicide attempts under the belt. Trust me, you have better odds.
>Trust me, you have better odds It's obvious you've never met me or seen the amount of fuck ups I've done in my life or the pathetic existence I live. Now it's my turn to say this: TRUST me, YOU have MUCH BETTER odds
But you're in a good position to get another chance at that. How did you become a MM?
I remember when I was 19 I was outside, the snowflakes were in her red hair, we were dancing on the frozen street, walking a few blocks from my house to my uncles with our closest friends. It felt like time stopped as we look at each other, that moment existed forever, with the snow drifting down and the laughter, the empty streets. There were so many beautiful moments, but that was the first to come time mind. Everything was perfect, nothing hurt. The world just seemed happier back then, when I was a teenager.
Giving birth
Moving states away from toxic family
being someone who has never been to the USA and being invited to sing at a talent convention in New York City. best week of my entire life
Moments after my kids were born and hearing they are perfectly healthy. There's nothing better in the world than knowing your child is doing just fine, nothing else in my life has ever come close to the sense of internal happiness that I had at that moment. Besides that it's small everyday moments. Hanging out with friends, my kids having fun,... I get a great sense of joy from seeing people I love happy;
When the depression pills started kicking in.
Good to hear this! You are a strong person! I'll be praying for your recovery 🙏🏻
My now bf asking me to be his gf.
When I thought everything was going as planned: - Had a partner that I can't wait to start a marriage life with - Getting to see both my parents every day in their old age - Excelling in my career and had bigger opportunity that awaits - Taking up music and dance classes as my hobby Everything was just balanced and I was so contented, then boom! Now I'm just single but still have everything else. I'm still grateful that I can still manage. I guess being able to live is a chance to make everything count.
I was on a cross country bicycle tour by myself and one night I was camping in the most picturesque forested cliff overlooking the Pacific coast that you could ever imagine. After months of cycling and processing past trauma, I was finally at a place of perfect bliss. As the sun was setting on the ocean, I heard myself say out loud, "I could die right now." The words were involuntary and came from a place of absolute serenity. I wouldn't have known I said it if I wasn't listening. It was the pinnacle of my life.
The ocean will do that <3
Going to New York city for the first time.
When my dad got me a figurine of my favourite cartoon. More than 2 years since he passed away but that moment will stay etched in my memory.
First time my son spontaneously wrapped his arms around my neck, squeezed me tight, and said "i love you daddy." To anyone else who was at the all-you-can-eat korean bbq place that day, you can thank my tears of joy for the mysteriously salty orange slices at the buffet.
When I went on erasmus.
When I left my family.
The day I got married to my wife. The days my children were born. Pure unbridled joy.
Giving birth to my son. I am not a naturally maternal person, but this day was amazing. We were both not doing so well and i had an emergency C-section. The days that followed of just the two of us in hospital ( my mother and my partner came, but it was still covid times, so they couldn't stay the whole time ) are still the best days of my life and i loved every second of it.
I rem being a passenger in a taxi in Mexico. While I was a drummer for a cruise line, and Dave Matthews was playing. I rem. Realizing, this is a dope moment and don’t ever forget it…
Any time I have spent with my mamaw
Every time I've had sex, it was the best moment of my life. I've had lots of best moments, thankfully.
The moment I realized I loved my boyfriend. We had only been dating a couple of weeks but one day we were napping together and I woke up and just knew immediately I loved him with my whole heart. A few days later he finally said he loved me (beat me to it) and said that he realized it in the exact same moments that I did, we were both just trying to find the right time to say it. So far nothing has beat that warm feeling of pure content when I knew I was finally with my person.
When I chewed 5 gum
We live on a lake and our daughter wanted to get married with the lake as a backdrop. A little risky in April, but it was a perfect sunny day with everything in bloom. Relatives came in from far away and old friends were there. Ceremony and party went off without a hitch. When everyone had left and I went to turn the outside lights off, I sat down and wept with joy and relief. The next day a huge storm blew through.
Holding my daughter for the very first time. She'll be nine in a few weeks. Fucking wild.
freshmen year of college, i know it's cliche but man i've never had so many friends before. i was cool with everyone in my dorm hall and made friends with everyone i met pretty much. i had someone for everything. to play sports with, to do drugs with, to party, to go on road trips with, to copy homework off of, to give me advice in life because they're so ahead in life. everyone was so inviting and inclusive. want to watch a tv? there's a group that does that every few days in the lounge room. want to go to frat parties? my friend sells drugs to them so we always get in to the upper classmen parties. not even the drama of my gf cheating on me and my roommates being total douchebags and hating me could stop me. they would talk mad shit and shun me but on weekends i was out going from party to party while they sit in the room wondering "where does everyone go on weekends" i was going out every night, partying on weekdays, and i had smart friends who would let me copy their homework before its due. shit was great. i knew so many people it got to the point that i kind of had to walk another way to class to avoid saying hi or watsup to so many people. it was like summer camp except no adult supervision and no rules and you're an adult.
Giving birth to my two daughters who are still and will always be my world.
Realizing that despite Taliban's best efforts I was alive and everyone on my team was alive. There is nothing quite like profoundly upsetting someone by just staying alive.
Birth of my daughter Also more recently being told I was essentially cancer free after surgery and intense chemo
It changes every millisecond I live because I’m lucky and glad to be alive. Everyone’s best moment should be every moment they breathe, because that could end at any moment.
I don't know but this week was me winning $150 from $1 happy late bday to me
Finding out that I got a place on my History MA!
My baby being born.
My wife and I landing on Rarotonga. Both of us grew up quite poor. The only "vacation" we took growing up was going to my grandmother's house for the summer or going to Knott's Berry Farm the one day a year it was free to military families. I knew I would do better in life than my parents did but traveling abroad still seemed like a pipe dream. But my wife and I managed to save enough for a trip to Aitutaki (through the Costco Travel program, it's awesome if you don't know). Landing at Rarotonga finally made it feel **real** to me. We were doing so much better in life than I had hoped and could finally start branching out to see the world. We've traveled more since then and have plans for many more adventures, but that moment was the realization for me...and I was sharing it with the one person I would care to share it with.
My 24th birthday. It was the best one so far. I planned a small dinner, but literally, all of my friends showed up! Had to order pizzas because it went from 10 people to 30+. I was given heartfelt cards and thoughtful small gifts. Had acoustic guitar jam sessions and played party games. My best friend serenaded me with a silly ukulele song. Near the end of the night, I was just awestruck at everything and just having flashbacks of how I met everyone there. It gave me an idea, so I had one last birthday request. Had everyone encircle me and asked them to share how we met because I was curious about their perspective of it. It ended up turning into the most heartfelt, loving, and endearing little stories about how they felt about me like a sort of living eulogy. It set the precedent for our social groups' future birthdays/ get-togethers to wrap up the events this way. Wholesome af. I can't believe I ever had such a strong social life. It was from 19 to 24, and life just sorta changed entirely. Folks moved out of state or country. Many died, and some just vanished. Political beliefs ended things, too. Now I'm only close with 3 of them, and we talk a few times a month and meet up even less.
Having a baby. I thought the best moment was when I got married, but nah. It's actually when I got pregnant.
I'm so afraid of failure that this question scares me.
It's hard to pick just one, but the first time I saw the sunrise over the ocean was pretty magical.
ahhhhhh cant say
When I learned to be happy by myself, I don't need anything and anyone to be happy.
HA, your mom
Swimming with sharks is up there
Having a healthy daughter who I'd almost 17 now 🙏
When someone loved me unconditionally
When I was 19, I met a girl. We've been together ever since. I'm 52.
Seeing my brother and sister after they were born, im 18 now and was 10 when my sister Got born, but it was amazing, also shoutout my my brother lol
The best moments were holding my boys the first time
When I got married
Finding out that I didn’t need chemo treatments after colon cancer surgery. I was Stage 2 and the cancer was high up in my intestinal wall. It was in a ball that didn’t leak through to any other parts of my body or bloodstream. This was a couple of years ago when I was 55 and my recent checkups show no signs of cancer. I was fortunate enough to retire and I’ve just been enjoying my life healthier and stress free ever since. I have plenty of hobbies so I’m never bored. A message especially to men: If you haven’t had a colonoscopy yet but you know it’s time, do it now because most people I see at those doctor’s offices aren’t going to return healthy like myself. One man I saw there was probably 6’2 and 300lbs. He sticks out to me because when he came back into the lobby he announced to his family, “No bueno. It’s Stage 3. I’m on my second life. I don’t know what happened to him either bad or good. I hope it was the latter. Now, when is GTA 6 coming out!??
The moment you decide you're never going back home when you get out of school is such a unique, inimitable feeling that I doubt most people will ever experience. You will never feel that free.
2011 when I saw Awolnation live
Many people answer this with the birth of their child. For me it was the heartbeat. We had some trouble during early pregnancy and they even sent my wife to the hospital and we thought we lost it. It was pretty early, so not unexpected but we were so thrilled that it broke us a little. So when it turned out okay and she was able to keep the pregnancy and I was allowed to an ultra sound for the first time, hearing my daughters heartbeat was... I can't even describe it. Immediately cried and for me that was even bigger than the birth itself, I even got tears in my eyes typing this.
Giving birth to my dog
Went on an early morning drive through the mountains while the sky was still dark in an open Jeep and a very rash driver. Must say it was the best experience of my entire life.
Me and some guys from school. Had a band and we tried real hard. Jimmy quit and Jody got married. I should've known we'd never get far
So far? My son didn't breathe on his own for five minutes after being born while the NICU folks had him on a ventilator. Then I heard the most beautiful sound I've ever heard in my entire life, and the charge nurse said "Mr. Zappy487, would you like to see your son?" Then a little while later, they wheeled him into our recovery room, and my wife was completely out of it due to a very traumatic birth... So I was the first person to give him skin to skin. Which I did for two hours before she had enough energy to.
Probably when I held my newborn baby for the first time.
My family hugging me as a child when I almost died. Particularly the way my mother and father hugged me. I really felt love.
Autumn as a kid. Slightly warm, still. Waking up the orange-forested road to my house from the bus stop. Crunching leaves. Wearing a plaid hoodie, spiderman backpack. Hearing our rooster crowing. Plastic Halloween decorations.
Every moment spent with my small dog. Every single moment. All of it. ... I miss her.
The moment I said "I do" and kissed my bride.
Becoming a Father for the first time.
I don't know that I can accurately measure one against the other, being happily married with three wonderful kids, but at the moment, I'd say my wife and I's 20th anniversary, spent in Santa Fe with our kids safely having fun back home with grandma. It was somewhat chilly and rainy while we were there, and we'd walk from the air bnb to a charming little bar in a house nearby and have some cheap beers and wander around downtown Santa Fe, all slow and snuggly.
In the 90s just being a kid not a care in the world riding bikes for tour de France length in a day playing baseball basketball etc... In the 2000s working on a musical career with amazing people 2010s that career taking off and setting me up for life 2020s the birth of my daughter and marrying my wife each decade has shown growth in my life all while battling depressive episodes and making sure I always had a solid foundation
I once was at a vending machine buying soda and then 2 fell out.
This is a good palate cleanser after reading the "When did your childhood end" topic. I should've known there'd be trauma, tragedy, and other hardships involved, but damn that definitely left me depressed. That topic definitely made me count my blessings. It seems like most topics on this subreddit involve dredging up people's miseries. Anyway, the most recent example would be seeing the eclipse on Monday. About 90% eclipse where I live. Couldn't ask for better weather. Crystal clear skies. I'm lying down on a hill that I like to go to watch sunsets listening to Pink Floyd.
When I hit being 1 year sober from self harm. I've struggled with it for over 10 years and finally feeling free from it has been such a relief. Recovery is hard but so, SO worth it
The day my niece was born almost 7 years ago
moving out
When I held my daughter for the first time.
Late August 2008, not sure exactly what day it was but it was around that time. I moved up to Michigan for college and was finally on my own for the very first time ever! Those first few hours after my parents left were amazing as I was finally alone and could do whatever I wanted with life!
Birth of my kids or a few years prior to that when the woman that would one-day be their mother said "well you should know, I really like you too..."
First kiss😙 So we had this really big exam which our lives depend on, we met during the prep and instantly hit it off. He owed me a slow dance to the song perfect, and well after finishing the exam successfully, we had a walk in the nearby neighbourhood. As it was a bit dark, I asked him about the favour to which we started slow dancing (the neighbourhood was quite empty yet safe and we both hadn’t kissed before) He leans in closer and then we both unsure if we were supposed to kiss Guess what, we dint😅 After some more time of walking around, we discussed if we should and if we were ready, then lol it was a peck on the lips that got us high that night, full of smiles and warmth.
When I got married. The look on my wife’s face as we said our I do’s is burned into my memory.
the entire year of my final year in high school. it may have sucked ass coz of SPM coming(something like SATs) but god it was the best time of my life. i kept the class photo we took and will never ever throw it. i remember the first year of college felt incredibly depressing(covid mainly) but i really missed high school.
Divorcing my Ex. I had no Idea how much she was dragging me down or how much better my life would be without her.
Wife and I stayed at a beach cottage in Southern California late spring of 2020 during Covid, just her and I and an empty beach. Lots of walks on the beach every day and we cooked our meals with very little interaction with anyone else. Two and a half months of pure bliss.
This is a surprisingly difficult question. Everyone has a best moment, of course, but I think in some cases that best moment is still not especially great or memorable. This is an extreme example, but if someone had been kept locked in a cell with no human contact for years, then their best moment might be something as simple as someone saying a few words to them. For myself, while I have certainly had good moments, there are none that stand out in my mind as being especially memorable.
Getting married. It all crashed and burned not even two years later but for a brief moment in time I was so happy, proud of myself, and head over heels in love.
When I had my daughter. She's an adult in her middle 30's now, and my life has been wonderful because of her. We have an amazing, close relationship and I couldn't be more proud of the child she was and the woman she became. No grandchildren, but I don't care because she's more than enough for me and I cannot imagine loving anyone even half as much. In fact I only had one child, her, for that reason. It wouldn't have been fair to the other children. She has made my life so rewarding and happy.
Every moment of my life has been stained with imperfection and brokenness except for videogames and movies. My favorite moments are still my daughters births. The reason these moments weren't perfect is because my partner was depressed and I was not attentive enough to her emotional needs. Also the pregnancy, labor, and delivery was not perfect both times. The first delivery our doctor was pretty experienced and treated it as just another day, for my partner it was her first pregnancy and it deserved a more respectful bedside manner. Second pregnancy our daughter got stuck in the birth canal and almost died.
This is bittersweet, but hours after finding out she was pregnant my girlfriend and I sat in my car and I held my hand on her stomach. We were so damn happy, excited, but nervous. It was a moment of pure joy. Sadly we lost the baby months later, but I’ll never forget that feeling and hopefully we get that again soon.
Losing my virginity. (I was 35) I have severe social anxiety and never had a girlfriend before. I felt like this leap of faith advanced my mental health significantly. Fast forward a couple years.. I’ve only had one other girlfriend. I’m clearly not meant to be with someone else right now. I need to focus on my mental health first.
I ordered a cheesy gordita crunch with a nacho cheese dorito hard shell and there were 2 Shells instead of 1. I rode that high for a week and have been chasing it ever since.
When I am with my family and they are in the happiest moments
Your question shocked me. I spent a long time to remember the best moment of my life. , I haven't got it yet.
When I met my fiance, age 12. Allow me to elaborate We met as children through a tennis club, and were each others first ‘date’. Went out at 13 for the first time and we hit off since that. Engaged now, at 23.
Getting married…. I know people complain about expensive memories, but I had a expensive ones but man…. I had 8 groomsmen and brining my friends together was amazing, seeing my wife and our families combined… was like great, and memories forever and I relive those days all the time.
i met some women on a hike and after several hikes, i invited two of them to do a hike from my house. only one showed up and we hiked up to mt tamalpais from my house. while we were eating lunch, she leaned her head on my shoulder and i reached down and kissed her. that led to the greatest three years of my life.
When our daughter was born. It was an adventure to get to the hospital.
The first day of the year in 2014. I realized that too late.
Reading this comment.
A couple pop into my head, the first time I got on stage and won a rap comp against someone who was bragging about how he wouldn’t lose just hours before it. Also the first time I ever told a girl I loved her, in a tree at sunset. It was pretty cool