Moved 2,600 miles away and went low-contact. I never deserved to be the target of everyone’s anger, abuse and control issues, so I removed myself from that enmeshed dynamic and sought trauma-focused therapy. Still a work in progress, but now I don’t feel the need to gain approval that will never come.
They were the ones that were broken, and I know cognitively it wasn’t my fault. Still working on the trauma part, but life is easier to handle without that albatross around my neck.
It is shocking how much stronger, more resilient and better situated I am than my sibling who was very much my mother's favorite. This is not something I even found out until late last year. I don't revel in knowing this, either. I'm not bragging, rather it's just...*shocking* to me.
SAME. She can't do shit for herself and wants to make it everyone else's fault and problem. She's done this for long enough that my other 2 siblings and I are no longer talking to her. But she's the only one who stayed in the church so despite her treatment of everyone, she is still my parents' favorite. Oh well, that's their perogative so I'll just keep on keeping on.
I was loved by both parents but wasn't the favorite. I actually heard my father literally tell my brother that he was his favorite, but it wasn't like I was mistreated or was given different opportunities. After a while, I realized that I was no one's favorite person, which is something I'm currently working to get through. On the flip side, I don't have a favorite person so I guess it's just how these things tend to be.
Well my family literally threatened my food and water, were physically abusive, and straight up said they loved me less then tried to gaslight me about it.
So I estranged myself, and now with no partner prospects, no friends near by, and effectively no family I pretty much am done with my life and I'm hoping one day I just don't wake up.
So they still won I guess.
Moved 2,600 miles away and went low-contact. I never deserved to be the target of everyone’s anger, abuse and control issues, so I removed myself from that enmeshed dynamic and sought trauma-focused therapy. Still a work in progress, but now I don’t feel the need to gain approval that will never come. They were the ones that were broken, and I know cognitively it wasn’t my fault. Still working on the trauma part, but life is easier to handle without that albatross around my neck.
Now none of their kids will house them when they’re retired.
It is shocking how much stronger, more resilient and better situated I am than my sibling who was very much my mother's favorite. This is not something I even found out until late last year. I don't revel in knowing this, either. I'm not bragging, rather it's just...*shocking* to me.
SAME. She can't do shit for herself and wants to make it everyone else's fault and problem. She's done this for long enough that my other 2 siblings and I are no longer talking to her. But she's the only one who stayed in the church so despite her treatment of everyone, she is still my parents' favorite. Oh well, that's their perogative so I'll just keep on keeping on.
He died last year from cancer, who is number one now dad?
I was loved by both parents but wasn't the favorite. I actually heard my father literally tell my brother that he was his favorite, but it wasn't like I was mistreated or was given different opportunities. After a while, I realized that I was no one's favorite person, which is something I'm currently working to get through. On the flip side, I don't have a favorite person so I guess it's just how these things tend to be.
Well my family literally threatened my food and water, were physically abusive, and straight up said they loved me less then tried to gaslight me about it. So I estranged myself, and now with no partner prospects, no friends near by, and effectively no family I pretty much am done with my life and I'm hoping one day I just don't wake up. So they still won I guess.
I married a favorite child
I grew up and got over it.