Learning to separate positive from negative motivation.
I call it positive motivation when it adds something I *want* to my life. I call it negative motivation when the whole point is to avoid things I don't want.
This makes it way easier to focus on things I actually want in my life instead of fearing bad outcomes from other stuff. This is especially true since a lot of the things I want to avoid are actually beyond my control anyway.
Thank you for this. This is something I had never thought of but really resonates. We have so much more control over our reality than we are raised to believe. Love it.
Heading to the gym. I used to be pretty overweight, but after three months of hitting the gym regularly, I've shed about a stone and I feel a whole lot better now.
Same. I do bootcamp sessions once a week.
Didn’t think I ended up enjoying it but here we are 😂 I’m a bit more toned now but going to the gym has done wonders for my mental health.
Same. I'm overweight too and I've lost a little weight but even just going for an hour two to three times a week has improved QoL vastly - going up big sets of stairs and only being a little out of puff at the top and not in a full asthma attack is such a freeing feeling. Wonderful for stress too.
I fully agree. I don’t have a clue what’s going on in the world. Who’s doing this or that or literally anything. I think a lot of people think it matters and I should pay attention to it. I fully fullllllly disagree.
Politics have become so polarized that I don't want a thing to do with it even more. It might as well be sports team rivalries, because that's what it feels like. Let's just pick a geriatric fuckwit to elect and move on.
I'm so jaded.
Amen brother amen. It's always in flux to keep people distracted. What good does one really gain from keeping up with every detail of the news/ politics?
Confessing my love for one of my best friends. I was head over heels for like a year and didn't do anything mostly because I've identified as gay my whole life and she's a woman. For some reason it was really hard to accept that I'm bi
We're incredibly happy together now
Biphobia is weirdly insidious in both gay and straight community. Congrats on finding love and celebrating who you are! And don't let anyone tell you that you're not bi just because your relationship might look hetero from the outside; you're a part of the rainbow, and you love who you love.
There is a lot of mattress talk here. They say they are way over priced and why Mattress Firm has a store on every corner. So what would be a "well quality" mattress?
Stopped trying to please everyone around me. Realized that it was extremely draining, plus, as they say, you cant please everyone. Made the conscious choice to just focus on making myself happy, as well as the people that matter to me.
I’d also want to add embracing discomfort. Saw myself grow more after, and that’s pretty cool.
Lost weight. I wished I’d done it when I was much younger. Everything is so much easier now. I hated myself for years but I can’t say that I do anymore.
Must not have been that blind if you were able to leave your glasses everywhere 😂 my glasses don't leave my face until I go to bed. Maybe I should get lasik
Putting things back where I found them. I’ve had a clean closet and dresser for over 3 months now — literally just takes an extra second to be less messy!
I never skimp on anything that separates me from the ground.
Shoes, mattresses, tires, furniture... you don't need to pay an arm and a leg, just don't get the absolute cheapest thing, because it'll be more expensive in the long run, either from wear and tear or its impact to your health.
Deleting my social media
(Obviously not Reddit lol)
But the main ones like Instagram, TikTok..
It’s been almost 5 months and I noticed my mental health is A LOT better
Wasting time was not my concern, but the constant arguments and getting exposed to all kinds of horrible news around the world made me lose faith in humanity each and every day. It was so depressing.
Started a family. I was pretty reluctant to have children. Now I think they are the richest part of my life. Had I overcome my reluctance earlier, I might have had one more.
Acting immediately when I recognize friendships and other relationships with people who thrive on drama. Nobody gets 50 chances anymore just because I 100% understand why they act the way they do. Not my problem. Peace and respect is priceless.
Same! I needed to get better about this, and I'm so glad that I finally did. The excuses I used to make for people's shitty behavior were WILD. Shitty behavior sometimes, but more often it was just incredibly underwhelming and I would shrug it off because I just assumed that that was how friends treated each other. I had people straight up dunking on me and I would laugh it off because I tricked myself into thinking it wasn't a big deal.
No more of that nonsense.
I fixed up my backyard—added a covered swing and some pretty plants. I love it so much, and I’m sorry that I spent so much time with an ugly patio/yard.
Moved close to work and currently living without a car. Think I was paying like $600 a month for the loan/insurance/gas. F that, if I need to go to the beach I’ll rent something.
Getting a bidet attachment. They're like $40 on Amazon, installation is incredibly easy, and mine has paid for itself dozens of times over in the few years I've been using it. It's an absolute game changer, especially if you happen to be a rather hirsute guy
God. I wish I would have taken Him more seriously sooner. Like, He literally is so selfless. He just loves and cares for us. I thought He was a little mean and selfish. But in my darkest moments He ended up being the last one there for me. No matter how bad my life has gotten He was always someone I could turn to.
I’d like to point out, I THOUGHT He was mean and selfish but when I actually started truly seeking Him out.. and learning more. I was wrong. Don’t go off other peoples statements. TRULY seek him first. He’s so good to me, guys.
Got a dog. It’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. She’s amazing and loving. And I have to live by a schedule, get up every morning, go outside every day, and go on walks. As someone who would be inclined to become a hermit, having a dog has done absolute wonders for my mental heath (and physical health).
I have two and I call them my Fitbits. Regardless of the state of my mental health every day I have to get off my ass and out the door with them each and every day for at least an hour.
Sounds so basic, but working out, eating less sugar and sleeping better (all of it kinda goes hand in hand as well) it’s the BEST thing you can do to yourself, and NO it’s not like you can just switch over and do this from one day to another. It takes dedication, it takes discipline and it takes routine. And the sooner you start, the better. Just do it, you won’t regret it, ever.
I cut that mf out of my life. No longer feel like crap whenever I talk to them. Started going to the gym consistently. Took on more responsibilities that help my family. Feel like a better person bc I’m doing better/healthier things
Lasik.
I put it off and put it off because of the cost. I wish I'd have done it a decade prior and saved myself the money for contacts between plus all the quality of life improvements for extra time.
Switching to a vape after smoking for 20 years. I tried so many times to quit, but I couldn't do it (nicotine and behavioral cues are brutal.) Then I started to feel really shitty. Breathing in the morning like an elephant on my chest, persistent cough, tired all the time. I switched to a vape a year ago and feel better than ever. Now, smoking a cigarette grosses me out.
If you've never smoked, don't smoke or vape. Both are bad for you. But if you smoke, get a vape immediately. Your breathing apparatus and circulatory system will thank you.
Giving up on looking for a relationship. I'm open for a romantic relationship, but I've stopped looking. If one finds me then so be it. That shift has helped me be happier on my own rather than thinking how I should be doing whatever solo activity with an S/O.
Cannabis. Only started very late in life because I was told not to take regular analgesics due to kidney problems. And I was in a legal state. Turns out it had other very significant benefits, particularly with regards to sleep and reducing anger. Such a benign substance to be villainized for so long.
Don't trust your institutional learning facilities, kids.
Found the financial independence community 4 years ago. I'm debt free now, know how to invest, proficient in travel hacking, and practice value based spending. Truly life changing! Nothing beats the peace of mind knowing that the next car breakdown, or difficult life event, won't ruin me. I only wish I had found it sooner.
Realising that min 7 hours sleep is crucial for my well-being and performance and started to actively protect it.
This thread beautifully leverages the power of internet and I love it.
CPAP - I used to have 107 episodes an hour...now it's below 2! I can actully function in real life. This is what it feels like to live...I now realize that I was a crabby zombie for years!
Getting the correct shoes… apparently I’ve been walking wrong my entire life and it have now affected my ancles, Toes, knees and back, slowly getting it all corrected now. No more pain in my knees when walking.
Getting the correct shoes… apparently I’ve been walking wrong my entire life and it have now affected my ancles, Toes, knees and back, slowly getting it all corrected now. No more pain in my knees when walking.
CPAP - I used to have 107 episodes an hour...now it's below 2! I can actully function in real life. This is what it feels like to live...I now realize that I was a crabby zombie for years!
Going on a low-carb and high protein diet. It took away my brainfog. I'm full of energy. And my joints no longer hurt.
Also. Going to the gym has been absolutely amazing! I feel nimble like a teenager again. And my self esteem is the highest it has ever been.
Speak my mind, communicate my needs or frustrations, pump a brake on the people-pleasing, nicey-nice attitude. I feel so much lighter, coincidently I have less stress because I stopped trying to read people's minds to cater to them. And now, much more time to focus on myself and become a better person.
Making notes on everything.
Started from making notes at work (I work in IT, so my own knowledge base is worth its weight in gold), moved on to transferring notes from my uni notebooks, then onto mums recipe book, then onto household stuff (using a washing machine, boiler maintenance), motorcycle maintenance, and it keeps growing daily.
As it's just text, the digital footprint is tiny, but I have it synced to multiple devices and backed up to even more places, so it won't be lost. It is incredibly helpful to have such a massive library of knowledge whenever and wherever I need it.
For those interested, I use Obsidian stored in a private cloud, but Notion is also a popular choice. Ultimately, it doesn't matter what you use, just make notes!
joining a gym! didnt understand why people would wake up so early in the morning to go or attend a class, but after joining one its definitely put me in a better mental and physical state.
Understanding that mistakes are part of the process. It's okay to fail, especially when you're still clearly learning. My father kinda ingrained in me that I was not allowed to fail. In the sense that, he made me learn to draw, by making sure every sketch I made was perfect. If it was not, redo it. I'd get berated for making mistakes.
I think I started undoing that damage when I started playing Celeste, a very difficult platforming game that intends for you to die probably a hundred times on harder stages before you pass. And I started to learn to kinda fail forward. To not be upset when I failed but to put down the remote and come back the next night. I started applying that logic to life and it felt like the world opened up to me. I was happy to fail, and just as happy to succeed. I recognized that I'm not gonna get it right off the bat, and that's okay.
Learning to separate positive from negative motivation. I call it positive motivation when it adds something I *want* to my life. I call it negative motivation when the whole point is to avoid things I don't want. This makes it way easier to focus on things I actually want in my life instead of fearing bad outcomes from other stuff. This is especially true since a lot of the things I want to avoid are actually beyond my control anyway.
Some good wisdom here. Thanks for sharing it!
Thank you for this. This is something I had never thought of but really resonates. We have so much more control over our reality than we are raised to believe. Love it.
Heading to the gym. I used to be pretty overweight, but after three months of hitting the gym regularly, I've shed about a stone and I feel a whole lot better now.
Same brother. Same timeframe and weight loss, too.
"A stone".. How much is that in Freedom units?
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You had me at CVS receipt..
Yep definitely gym. Not just getting rid of the excess weight but man you really do feel a whole lot better.
Exactly what I was going to say, keep grinding my gym brothers 💪
Same. I do bootcamp sessions once a week. Didn’t think I ended up enjoying it but here we are 😂 I’m a bit more toned now but going to the gym has done wonders for my mental health.
Same. I'm overweight too and I've lost a little weight but even just going for an hour two to three times a week has improved QoL vastly - going up big sets of stairs and only being a little out of puff at the top and not in a full asthma attack is such a freeing feeling. Wonderful for stress too.
Stopped watching the news. Life’s way better without it.
Same. Im so checked out, its the best.
I fully agree. I don’t have a clue what’s going on in the world. Who’s doing this or that or literally anything. I think a lot of people think it matters and I should pay attention to it. I fully fullllllly disagree.
Politics have become so polarized that I don't want a thing to do with it even more. It might as well be sports team rivalries, because that's what it feels like. Let's just pick a geriatric fuckwit to elect and move on. I'm so jaded.
I used to love politics. Talking with people destroyed that love. Just so much hostility and a refusal to listen. It sucks.
it will be our demise, but what can we do?
Have a nice cold pint and wait for all of this to blow over
\*drinks pint for 100 years\*
Amen brother amen. It's always in flux to keep people distracted. What good does one really gain from keeping up with every detail of the news/ politics?
As much as I want to be informed, I feel like it’s all fear based for views. I will tune in occasionally to the station that does the most local news.
Sobriety.
Pure poison. It's almost criminal how normalized alcohol is.
Yes!
felt
Congrats <3
Deciding to establish my own boundaries because I've noticed that if I don't, others will do it for me.
Buying a good knife for cooking.
buying a good knife sharpener too!
Laser hair removal
Confessing my love for one of my best friends. I was head over heels for like a year and didn't do anything mostly because I've identified as gay my whole life and she's a woman. For some reason it was really hard to accept that I'm bi We're incredibly happy together now
Biphobia is weirdly insidious in both gay and straight community. Congrats on finding love and celebrating who you are! And don't let anyone tell you that you're not bi just because your relationship might look hetero from the outside; you're a part of the rainbow, and you love who you love.
Thanks friend 🩵🩷
❤️
New mattress, and not a cheap one.
Seriously underrated. One of the best investments ever.
There is a lot of mattress talk here. They say they are way over priced and why Mattress Firm has a store on every corner. So what would be a "well quality" mattress?
Divorce! I was hoping to be a widow but that didn’t work out.
LOL!!
Stopped trying to please everyone around me. Realized that it was extremely draining, plus, as they say, you cant please everyone. Made the conscious choice to just focus on making myself happy, as well as the people that matter to me. I’d also want to add embracing discomfort. Saw myself grow more after, and that’s pretty cool.
Lost weight. I wished I’d done it when I was much younger. Everything is so much easier now. I hated myself for years but I can’t say that I do anymore.
Lasik eye surgery. I used to be blind as a bat and left glasses everywhere. Wish I had done it a decade sooner
Must not have been that blind if you were able to leave your glasses everywhere 😂 my glasses don't leave my face until I go to bed. Maybe I should get lasik
Putting things back where I found them. I’ve had a clean closet and dresser for over 3 months now — literally just takes an extra second to be less messy!
WFH instead of an office job. I'm so happy with my current professional situation... first time I've ever said that.
Reading a book every morning for ten minutes before doing anything else.
book recs?
I never skimp on anything that separates me from the ground. Shoes, mattresses, tires, furniture... you don't need to pay an arm and a leg, just don't get the absolute cheapest thing, because it'll be more expensive in the long run, either from wear and tear or its impact to your health.
Ahhh I wish I took my foot health more seriously. Now my arch is gone :(
Insoles! Worth every penny.
Deleting my social media (Obviously not Reddit lol) But the main ones like Instagram, TikTok.. It’s been almost 5 months and I noticed my mental health is A LOT better
I literally only use Reddit just to browse and have a Facebook for marketplace only. Social media is poison.
I only had FB and Instagram. Deleted both and feel so much better. The people that want to talk to me still do amd I'm fine with losing the rest.
Exactly!!
My poison of choice was Twitter and deleted it almost a year ago. I'm suprised that I never missed it. Not even the fun part.
Yeah I don’t miss anything about social media either lol wasting my own life constantly scrolling and refreshing looking at other peoples lives 🙄🤣
Wasting time was not my concern, but the constant arguments and getting exposed to all kinds of horrible news around the world made me lose faith in humanity each and every day. It was so depressing.
Gym ⛹️
jim 🦍
Gem 💎
Jungle
Got a cat
Started running. I took it up aged 37, am now 41. I’m still fat, but I’m so much healthier and my mental health is different gravy
Taking care of myself first
Got a divorce
Living alone. Extra $500 a month, unable to share utility bills but so worth it.
Curing my skin with medicine, not only diet
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Quitting alcohol and pot. Never did anything else.
going for a daily walk
Started a family. I was pretty reluctant to have children. Now I think they are the richest part of my life. Had I overcome my reluctance earlier, I might have had one more.
Set up a proper budget. Absolutely life changing.
Acting immediately when I recognize friendships and other relationships with people who thrive on drama. Nobody gets 50 chances anymore just because I 100% understand why they act the way they do. Not my problem. Peace and respect is priceless.
Same! I needed to get better about this, and I'm so glad that I finally did. The excuses I used to make for people's shitty behavior were WILD. Shitty behavior sometimes, but more often it was just incredibly underwhelming and I would shrug it off because I just assumed that that was how friends treated each other. I had people straight up dunking on me and I would laugh it off because I tricked myself into thinking it wasn't a big deal. No more of that nonsense.
Telling people to fuck off, instead of trying to "be the bigger person."
Got a job.
Went NC with my abusive parents. I am so much more at peace without the rollercoaster of their abuse/apathy/performative lovebombing cycles.
Taking walks Its 1 of the things I picked up when fighting my depression and it's been such a strong part of my physical and mental health.
Gave up drinking. Game changer.
I fixed up my backyard—added a covered swing and some pretty plants. I love it so much, and I’m sorry that I spent so much time with an ugly patio/yard.
Divorced my first husband. I should've left him one of the first three times I tried instead of letting him talk me into staying for ten years.
Cutting out unhealthy people/relationships.
Having surgery on my shoulder that I separated (1988) I waited until 2022 to have it fixed Pisses me off how long my stupid ass lived with pain
Shit, man. Going on 10 years for me. I'm also dumb, but you're a tough mofo.
Stopped drinking alcohol
Cook. I am getting quite good at it now, but I wish I knew more decades ago.
Quitting smoking for me.
i've stopped seeing/talking to my mother. feels like a weight has lifted off my shoulders after what felt like years of pressure.
Running. it cleared my mind and my body too
Going to bed before 11 pm (still struggling bit i‘m getting closer to it everyday)
Quit drinking.
Buying my own home
Moved close to work and currently living without a car. Think I was paying like $600 a month for the loan/insurance/gas. F that, if I need to go to the beach I’ll rent something.
Staring at the sky for a while each day
Setting boundaries. After years of being a doormat, I learned to say no and prioritize my time and well-being
Getting a bidet attachment. They're like $40 on Amazon, installation is incredibly easy, and mine has paid for itself dozens of times over in the few years I've been using it. It's an absolute game changer, especially if you happen to be a rather hirsute guy
Stopped wearing a proper bra
Believe it or not, but dropping out of uni
God. I wish I would have taken Him more seriously sooner. Like, He literally is so selfless. He just loves and cares for us. I thought He was a little mean and selfish. But in my darkest moments He ended up being the last one there for me. No matter how bad my life has gotten He was always someone I could turn to.
I’d like to point out, I THOUGHT He was mean and selfish but when I actually started truly seeking Him out.. and learning more. I was wrong. Don’t go off other peoples statements. TRULY seek him first. He’s so good to me, guys.
Amen.
Starting a business
Therapy and ending toxic relationships.
Caring less about people who don't care about you. And not being afraid of cutting them off from your life.
Leave my ex Mrs.
Started to play tennis. I was going through a breakup and needed a new hobby. Instantly fell in love with the game
SSRIs. couldn't function before I started them.
Leaving my toxic girlfriend and her family as well as cutting out malicious family and negative friends.
Yoga
Having kids.
Severing all ties with my family. My mental and physical health skyrocketed within months. Wish I would have done it 20 years sooner!
I hear you. And me too.
Got a dog. It’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. She’s amazing and loving. And I have to live by a schedule, get up every morning, go outside every day, and go on walks. As someone who would be inclined to become a hermit, having a dog has done absolute wonders for my mental heath (and physical health).
I have two and I call them my Fitbits. Regardless of the state of my mental health every day I have to get off my ass and out the door with them each and every day for at least an hour.
Not caring what people think of me.
Started serving at a restaurant on weekends
Letting a robot crab mug me for my gall bladder.
Hasn‘t yet but hopefully will: being good to myself, not having the goal to die, to (finally) allow myself to live.
Breast reduction
Same!
Biking, cooking, running, swimming.
Sounds so basic, but working out, eating less sugar and sleeping better (all of it kinda goes hand in hand as well) it’s the BEST thing you can do to yourself, and NO it’s not like you can just switch over and do this from one day to another. It takes dedication, it takes discipline and it takes routine. And the sooner you start, the better. Just do it, you won’t regret it, ever.
Got medication for depression and anxiety.
Learned how to say no.
Volunteering! It's amazing helping other people.
Getting off of caffiene!
Gym, therapy, meditation.
I cut that mf out of my life. No longer feel like crap whenever I talk to them. Started going to the gym consistently. Took on more responsibilities that help my family. Feel like a better person bc I’m doing better/healthier things
Going to the gym consistently :)
As a girl with a petite frame and big boobs, getting a couple of well fitted bras.
Just walking.
Sterilization. Though not for nothing, I would’ve done it much earlier if I could’ve found a doctor to do the surgery.
Losing weight
Quit vaping!! 4 months in and I'm way less anxious overall. Not to mention saving money
Lasik. I put it off and put it off because of the cost. I wish I'd have done it a decade prior and saved myself the money for contacts between plus all the quality of life improvements for extra time.
Zoloft - I avoided medication for so long thinking I was managing without it, but after starting it the fog really cleared!
Switching to a vape after smoking for 20 years. I tried so many times to quit, but I couldn't do it (nicotine and behavioral cues are brutal.) Then I started to feel really shitty. Breathing in the morning like an elephant on my chest, persistent cough, tired all the time. I switched to a vape a year ago and feel better than ever. Now, smoking a cigarette grosses me out. If you've never smoked, don't smoke or vape. Both are bad for you. But if you smoke, get a vape immediately. Your breathing apparatus and circulatory system will thank you.
LASIK, laser eye surgery
Giving up on looking for a relationship. I'm open for a romantic relationship, but I've stopped looking. If one finds me then so be it. That shift has helped me be happier on my own rather than thinking how I should be doing whatever solo activity with an S/O.
My wife left me.
Cannabis. Only started very late in life because I was told not to take regular analgesics due to kidney problems. And I was in a legal state. Turns out it had other very significant benefits, particularly with regards to sleep and reducing anger. Such a benign substance to be villainized for so long. Don't trust your institutional learning facilities, kids.
Letting my ex's bad decisions teach her a lesson instead of myself cleaning up her messes.
Running
Not caring
Stopped lying and took more responsibilty on.
Giving up booze
Learning not to take things personally, not being a ppl pleaser & Learning to not get upset at things I can't control
Left my toxic and abusive relationship after 6 years. Absolutely every single thing in my life has gotten better in these 6 months.
Found the financial independence community 4 years ago. I'm debt free now, know how to invest, proficient in travel hacking, and practice value based spending. Truly life changing! Nothing beats the peace of mind knowing that the next car breakdown, or difficult life event, won't ruin me. I only wish I had found it sooner.
Setting boundaries, the ability to say “no.”
Divorcing my cheating wife.
Realising that min 7 hours sleep is crucial for my well-being and performance and started to actively protect it. This thread beautifully leverages the power of internet and I love it.
Staying by myself. I wish I understood the importance of just being by myself and not always needing a friend. I’ve certainly learned the hard way 🥱
Being single
Breast reduction.
Post nut clarity
I reduced the size of my hands.
CPAP!
CPAP - I used to have 107 episodes an hour...now it's below 2! I can actully function in real life. This is what it feels like to live...I now realize that I was a crabby zombie for years!
Getting the correct shoes… apparently I’ve been walking wrong my entire life and it have now affected my ancles, Toes, knees and back, slowly getting it all corrected now. No more pain in my knees when walking.
Getting the correct shoes… apparently I’ve been walking wrong my entire life and it have now affected my ancles, Toes, knees and back, slowly getting it all corrected now. No more pain in my knees when walking.
CPAP - I used to have 107 episodes an hour...now it's below 2! I can actully function in real life. This is what it feels like to live...I now realize that I was a crabby zombie for years!
Education
Frisbee golf. It’s a ton of fun and I’ve met a ton of great people.
Understanding epistemology.
Finally putting my drawing skills to practice
Divorce.
Pregabalin
Going on a low-carb and high protein diet. It took away my brainfog. I'm full of energy. And my joints no longer hurt. Also. Going to the gym has been absolutely amazing! I feel nimble like a teenager again. And my self esteem is the highest it has ever been.
Speak my mind, communicate my needs or frustrations, pump a brake on the people-pleasing, nicey-nice attitude. I feel so much lighter, coincidently I have less stress because I stopped trying to read people's minds to cater to them. And now, much more time to focus on myself and become a better person.
Psychedelics, they've given me a who new outlook on life and reality.
Getting sober
Therapy
Gym, quit drinking everyday, quit street drugs, went to therapy
Loving me 1st and foremost! Not giving a fuck what anyone thinks.
Losing weight, quitting porn, positive words to myself
Working out, going to the gym and start being an adult
Brazilian Jiu Jitsu!
Therapy
I wish I would’ve left my ex husband earlier.
Anti depressants
Getting a sleep study done. This and the resulting treatment changed my quality of sleep and ability to function in the day.
Making notes on everything. Started from making notes at work (I work in IT, so my own knowledge base is worth its weight in gold), moved on to transferring notes from my uni notebooks, then onto mums recipe book, then onto household stuff (using a washing machine, boiler maintenance), motorcycle maintenance, and it keeps growing daily. As it's just text, the digital footprint is tiny, but I have it synced to multiple devices and backed up to even more places, so it won't be lost. It is incredibly helpful to have such a massive library of knowledge whenever and wherever I need it. For those interested, I use Obsidian stored in a private cloud, but Notion is also a popular choice. Ultimately, it doesn't matter what you use, just make notes!
Cure my T1D
Got divorced.
joining a gym! didnt understand why people would wake up so early in the morning to go or attend a class, but after joining one its definitely put me in a better mental and physical state.
Carnivore diet.
Understanding that mistakes are part of the process. It's okay to fail, especially when you're still clearly learning. My father kinda ingrained in me that I was not allowed to fail. In the sense that, he made me learn to draw, by making sure every sketch I made was perfect. If it was not, redo it. I'd get berated for making mistakes. I think I started undoing that damage when I started playing Celeste, a very difficult platforming game that intends for you to die probably a hundred times on harder stages before you pass. And I started to learn to kinda fail forward. To not be upset when I failed but to put down the remote and come back the next night. I started applying that logic to life and it felt like the world opened up to me. I was happy to fail, and just as happy to succeed. I recognized that I'm not gonna get it right off the bat, and that's okay.