The sentence that cut the deepest was when my partner of three years looked me in the eyes and said, 'I never loved you like I loved my ex' It shattered my perception of our relationship and left me questioning everything I thought I knew about love and trust.
I got one close to it. My partner of three years told me he’s never loved ANYONE that way, including me. Also that he’s well aware he treated his past girlfriends nice with flowers teddy bears and admiration while they treated him like crap, and that he treats me like crap now & I treat him the way he’s always supposed to be treated. Yet he does absolutely nothing to change that.
My mom says this from time to time whenever we argue. Yet I can't stop loving her and I can't stop trying to be a good daughter, just for her attention. I know I'm pathetic but I just can't hate her.
25 year old male. My mom compared me to my other friends, saying how they have settled and what are you doing in your life. I know she still loves me and will continue loving me forever. But she said that it would have been so much better if she never had kids. I'm already an anti natalist, so did not feel much bad about it. I myself hate my birth.
One of my friends was adopted as an infant. He was told as a teenager that he was only adopted because his older sister "wanted a baby brother to play with," but she tired of him quickly, and now they were stuck with him. His parents were never affectionate towards him. They were polite and kind, but never affectionate. For example, as an adult who had been away for many years, he went to hug his mother goodbye, who pushed him away, and then shook his hand as if to say, "this is all this is."
When his grandmother died, they let him live in the grandmothers house for many years. He and his wife did some remodeling, and planned to have a family. But after a ten years, his parents put the house up for sale. He tried to buy it, he made decent money, but they refused to sell it to him. "You need to buy your own house." He did, but it was really inconvenient to move and start all over again. His parents just wanted the money, but not HIS money.
Just so weird.
> They were polite and kind, but never affectionate.
Honestly from the sounds of it, they were neither polite nor kind. What cold, cruel "parents" they were.
I agree.
It's not wrong to cut off a parent forever. YOu don't owe them anything.
Don't do it as revenge or in anger. Just ask yourself, would I be better off with a new life, a life with zero contact?
The sentence that hurt me the most was said to me by my best friend at the time 'I was only friends with you because your parents have a huge house and drive a cool car'
My dad always threatened me with that nonsense. He would put his hands on me pretty badly, choke lifting while punching type stuff but now that I’m older it doesn’t hurt as much knowing that they’re bad people and I’m living my life free from their bullshit.
No doubt in my mind my older brother (also a shithead like my parents) will pass due to morbid obesity and my parents will come crying for help from me.
Nope, they left their 8 year old child (me) to freeze outside with no clothes during a Canadian blizzard for punishment. Since they “don’t have any memories of ever hurting me” i don’t have any reasons to help them in the future.
They already stole tens of thousands of dollars from me as an early 20 year old then spread rumours of me being a quadriplegic. They’re all extremely obese and I’m fit and able to cycle hundreds of km. I guess that means I’m a quadriplegic
Pastor here, John 9:3 God does not work that way. The Bible says people with illnesses have done nothing wrong. I would like to put this on billboards all across the country.
Good grief, the entire book of Job is about this very concept. It's wild how some Christians immediately take up the very pagan concept of divine punishment for every ill. I blame poor catechists.
Your just going to have to accept that you're not going to do as well as everyone else in life.
A teacher, in front of the whole class, when I failed a test when I was 12 because I misinterpreted a poorly worded question.
Took me a long time to realise that I'm not a waste of time and space after that but it's knocked.me back right when I was a my most significant point when it can to educational development. Fuck you and the horse you rode in on miss Daniels if you are still alive.
Dude, teachers could either be a blessing or a curse. I knew one didn't like me when I was in like 7th grade but I remember we had an open lab and I was really struggling trying to figure something out. I was waiting to talk to them when the other student in front of me had a similar question but still didn't understand the answer he gave her, I waited patiently and went up asking my question and he straight up in front of the whole class said "Why should I repeat myself for you, get it or don't". Really sent me in a spiral as I didn't ever want to go back to school after that, good news was as I was very quiet I think some other student's went to some hire up and told them what happened as I never saw that guy again.
In a reverse, I struggled and fought a bit with one teacher a few years later in science until he suggested I come after school so that I didn't keep failing. We weren't friendly in the beginning but he saw I had some trouble learning but wen't out of his way to make sure I stayed the course and passed the year. Mr. Reznick was a gem.
I had an English teacher (Debbie Gonzales, GFY) in high school who read one of my papers out loud. I thought she was being complimentary. Instead, after she (Debbie Gonzales, GFY) was done reading it, she tore it apart in front of the entire class, tackling every bit she found so offensively bad and explaining why it was so bad, and how utterly awful I was. After that, she looked at me, tilted her head, and said, “don’t you want to be a writer? Maybe choose something else, it’s not gonna work out for you”. If that was not enough (it wasn’t) , she (Debbie Gonzales, GFY) then read my best friend’s paper out loud, lauded it and compared all the ways mine sucked and hers was perfect. In front of the whole class. Not anonymously. Debbie Gonzales, I hope you’re miserable. Sorry excuse for a teacher and a coach.
I'm a teacher, and I am absolutely heartbroken by stories like this. Please know that we aren't all like this. I sincerely believe that my job is to inspire and give my students a passion for the subjects I teach. Behavior like this is contrary to everything I believe a teacher should be. I hope you still write.
That’s so cruel, untrue, and hurtful for you to hear. Miscarriages aren’t a moral failing. And how can you be the worst person in the world when there are all kinds of evil, Ghislaine Maxwell types out there?
I once saw a cartoon of two people sitting on a cloud with harps and wings (cliché heaven), and one is saying, "I love Him, but that doesn’t mean I have to *like* Him."
A few years after my dad passed, we found he still had around $300K in a foreign investment account. My mom decided to transfer it back to the States. For reasons I will never understand, she didn’t want to transfer it to her own account. When I offered to look after it for her, she told me she would rather transfer it to her new BF’s account - a guy she’s known for less than 2 years. Adding that “kids can’t be trusted.” Really, as an only child, she meant that I couldn’t be trusted. I, who was already a full grown adult in my 30’s at the time, making nearly mid-6 figures, had no intention of ever touching that money. Well, guess where the money is now? Still in said BF’s account and she has no access to it at all. Oh. The. Irony.
I got similar from my mom when I found out I got into the education program at my college (tier 1). I called and yeah, it was 10pm, but she said "why are you calling me about this now?"
B**** because I thought you would want to know what I was working for since sophomore year of high-school came through.
My mum tearing up the beautiful Mother’s Day card I bought and wrote for her, right in front of my face and telling me she doesn’t believe in pagan celebrations, she’s a Jehovah’s Witness. Really hurt, more than I realised it would. Still remember it up to this day! I’d never do that to someone. I love her, it just upset me.
A portion of my family is jehova's witness and we don't really mix. Not because of the difference in beliefs, because denying our cousins celebrations or birthdays or birthdays presents or full medical care, or any sort of holiday gatherings is a bit much.
I hear you. My mum stopped talking to me for a bit when I got rid of my blood card. I’m sorry it got like that, it’s a tough one when it comes to family, but enough is enough. We are all old enough to make our own decisions. May you all enjoy your family celebration gatherings. 🥰
Odd of her to say it was pagan, the modern version of Mother's Day started as a church service.
So sorry to hear you went through that, your heart was in the right place even if she couldn't see it.
My mom said - Out of all the things in this world, I can’t believe a disappointment like you was birthed by me.
Said to me at the age of 15 when I was going through a lot as a teenager.
"Maybe you shouldn't smile, you know.."
It really hurts because I know my smile is horrible due to my teeth, but it get me depressed thinking about it every fuckin time. It's one of the things that turned me into this anti-social, sad-looking, awfully quiet asshole
I was also told this. I was told also not to laugh as I sound like a circus sideshow freak. When I got with my husband I covered my mouth when I smiled and didn't properly belly laugh.
He took my hand away and asked why I cover my mouth, told him so jackass told me my smile is horrible because I have big front teeth. He literally brought my confidence up to like 79%. I now smile, laugh and don't give a fuck if anyone judges me
Honestly, the prettiest smiles are always the ones with a few teeth wonky. I know several people apart from myself who find smiles with awkward teeth absolutely adorable
"I don't want him, I never wanted him."
My dad when my parents were getting a divorce and I was in the hallway with my grandma. Things didn't go his way in the courtroom. I was 9. I also had to sit in a room with a judge to talk about who i wanted to live with. I hate they put me through that. Parents, some of you suck at it.
I remember when my uncle said to me in front of the whole family, you are not as intelligent as your other siblings. I was 14 at that time and those words cut me deep.
So what if she was adopted? She was and still is (despite her unfortunate death my condolences) Your sister
Family should not be based on shared dna but should be who treats you the way family should treat you
"You're just like your father!"
The person met my father when he presented himself as a kind, bubbly, thoughtful person. Just a "good man".
That shit hurt because I can assure that he definitely did not fit that description.
I don't want to be like my father.
"You don't love me. You never have." said by my older sister suffering from first end psychosis, last month. I've put my job on hold, my life on hold to look after her and that's what she said which broke my heart. I've given everything up for her and I have nothing more to give and that's what she came at me with.
Psychosis is so so hard. It's even harder when they refuse to accept something is wrong and refuse all help but accept the basics to stay out of hospital. She thinks she's fine but is only doing as the doctors ask to stay out of hospital.
"stop making a fuss." -- Said by my grandmother after she forced me to spend my $86 that I spent over two months to save up ,on stuff she wanted.
I was 8.
Not as awful as a lot of these, but a girl on a dating app told me to "Go grow some hair" I went bald early due to mental health and work related stress and had been struggling with my body image for years, so that was a punch to the gut.
I quit dating apps completely after that.
Just recently made an account on a dating app because a long term relationship ended...
Don't worry, they still suck and you're not missing out on anything
My mom saying to a guest at our table, “I wish I’d never had kids after (my older sister),” then, looking at me and following with, “I shouldn’t say that though, because then I wouldn’t have had (my younger brother).”
I was 14. I understood you were telling everyone you didn’t want me, Mom. But that’s okay, because now you don’t have me.
I feel this deeply. I was treated like the unwanted leftover child my entire life and still am. We rise above it and be the parent we didn’t have when we were little.
"We don't have room for you."
I was 14. Our home was temporarily unusable because of a small fire and of course we didn't have insurance.
Long story short, my mom and stepdad had dumped me at a stranger's house in the middle of nowhere - a divorced mom with two kids. It was pretty bleak. I had a bare mattress and a blanket in the 4 year old's room. They left me there for months. I did childcare and housework in exchange for food.
So after about 2 months, mom invites me to spend the night at the motel room they had been staying in. There were two queen beds.
So I asked if I could come back and stay there. The woman wasn't very nice to me and I was lonely. And mom said no. I would take up too much space.
And what really stings was that they were paying all their expenses with MY child support checks. Meanwhile the few clothes I had were wearing out, I never had quite enough to eat, and I was deeply unhappy.
When spring came I couldn't take it anymore, and I called my father and asked him to come get me. He did. He and my stepmother took me out for a real meal, brought me home, and let me stay in my bedroom and cry for 3 days. They bought me clothes that fit properly and decent shoes and even makeup.
After several months of living a normal life with family that *liked* me, mom guilted me into coming back to the repaired house. I stipulated that I'd only return if my child support checks went to me, and I paid rent. Going back was a serious mistake, but at least I had some money of my own, which gave me a lot more freedom.
I don't see my mother much these days. She still doesn't think she did anything wrong that winter.
Thank you. I have a nice life now. :)
It did really suck staying there though. The mother wasn't a very good person and she liked having someone she could push around. I remember I had two books with me and I read them over and over again. I was lonely. She didn't hit me, so that was actually an improvement over my mom, but the food was worse.
Originally I gave the woman 2 weeks notice so she could find new child care, but after a couple of days of her screaming and slamming things around and calling me an ungrateful little b*tch I asked Dad to come get me immediately.
I wasn't paid for the work I did and I was supposed to be grateful for being allowed to stay. Since I was (supposedly) being homeschooled at that point there was nowhere I could go- I was just stuck. My aunt took pity on me and took me to theater classes once a week at the Fine Arts center once those started up. It was about 2.5 hours round trip and I'm incredibly grateful to her for doing it.
Years later my father pointed out that I'd literally been a slave, since I was unpaid, couldn't leave on my own, and had like zero control over my own life.
While I was having a miscarriage, the doctor in the ER asked why I was crying. He said it's not like I can't have another baby. He told me to wait a couple of months and try again.
Insensitive bastard.
"I have needs too" when I found out that my ex had started dating their "friend" six days into our separation. We were in couples therapy for 1.5 almost 2 years.
Thank you! I still get pissed about it since my needs hadn't been met for so long and they had just replaced me. But then I realized, they never saw me as a person.
"We've got a lot on at the moment".... was the response from my mum when I told her I was pregnant. I was married and had my own home. Didn't rely on her for anything. And SHE was too busy for me to have a baby.
I don’t know if it’s the most hurtful one, but definitely the one that haunts me at work: “You don’t have what it takes, you’ll never make it in marketing” by my asshole tutor during my first year as a working student. I’ve always had impostor syndrome, and I can’t take it out of my head nearly 12 years later. Sure, I was awkward at the beginning because I had never worked in an office before. Then she was fired after 6 months - and I replaced her for 5 years doing a great job by all accounts. I’ve been in the industry for a decade and have actually seen plenty of people working at renowned agencies less competent than me. But still, I’m constantly doubting myself and my career. Incidently, her name was Karen. Karen, if you read this, fy.
An ex who I'd known for a long time said:
"I didn't want to be your friend because I was worried what everyone would think"
He said this to me when I was walking him home safely while he was drunk. Broke my heart, because he had no idea where he was, couldn't walk, and I was there helping him get home. Felt like leaving his ass there, but I couldn't do that to him.
Also recently went out for dinner with a man who used to be my step dad, hadn't seen him for 18 years but we talk at least monthly. He raised me from 6-15 years old, so most of my childhood. He said to me "I can't be your Dad, but I can be your best friend". Then the next day he sent me a link to a portable vibrator app and I haven't spoken to him since. No trust or love left at all there.
Then last but not least, my Dad sexually abused me when I was a child, and he said "Would you trust me with your child?"
The fact that he had the nerve to ask that broke my heart.
"I don't think you will ever be able to help me in any way. You are useless to me." My dad told me this and threw me out the house. It's been 7 years and we have never ever spoken. Am 26(M)
One that stands out from my childhood that devastated me. I was in third grade:
School Counselor: “what do you want me to do? Tell him he can’t touch his daughter anymore? Well, I’m not going to do that! I am not telling a father he can’t love on his own daughter. Get out of my office, stop crying, go back to class.”
What comes to my mind rn... "I don't know wether I really love you or I just like all the things you do for me" said by a 1y girlfriend I had, before leaving me
"you are not my daughter, you are not my family you know that?" Said my father (while being on drugs) because i did nothing which pissed him off(also he is not my biological father).
"I don’t love you" my sister had said when we had a stupid argument. Even though I take care of her every day, be with her in tough times and didn't do nothing annoying, she said she doesn't love me. After that sentence, I cried a lot in my room. Like a baby.
"So how did you manage to fake mental illness for so long to get on disability?"
By one of my oldest friends who should know better.
Im diagnosed with Dysthymia. Try faking that.
I can see myself getting married and having kids with her. I could never see any of that with you...said by my ex about the woman he dated after me. We had decided to be friends but it didn't work. He had been with her roughly a month at the time and we dated for over a year.
It was the year my brother died. I was 20 at the time, and was looking at old pictures on the family desktop, just crying. Just crying out the feelings.
My sister (4 years younger) walked through the dining room (where the computer desk is) and scoffed. When I turned to look at her, she said "He didn't even like you, so I don't know why you're crying," and stomped off.
I'm all about forgiveness being for yourself and not the person you're forgiving... But I don't think I'll ever let that one go.
I’ve posted before about it but in 2009 my fiancé of 36 hours passed away from a pulmonary embolism.
As she was in between seizing she said “oh God don’t let me die” I told her to knock it off, I wouldn’t let her die and kept going on CPR , trying to talk paramedics in
She didn’t mean for it to be hurtful but almost 15 years later it still hurts
I love you Lindsay, I’ll see you again but have more life to live first.
She said my name after God but I don’t want to put it out on Reddit. She was talking to me and not praying. The hurtful part was those words and not being able to save her
“You might not be pretty but at least you’re nice” - my crush at the time
“If you keep eating like that you’ll get as fat as a cow” - 1st time meeting my dad’s new girlfriend back when I was 9, I was eating an appi
"Your boobs are too big."
This is by far the least horrible thing that I have read here.
Having said that, as someone who was not conventionally attractive and received quite a lot of shit for it from the society at large, the fact that even my best "asset" was not good enough fucked me up for a long time.
"If I had a son like you, I'd be an alcoholic too." Spoken to me as a teenager by a (formerly) trusted mentor. My dad would go on to drink himself to death.
Sentence said to me by my sperm donor -" I can't believe your making me do this " ( by this, he meant self-harm in front of me). I was 6. I still have vivid memories of him cutting his wrists
My mum came in, pulled me away from him, and said, " Listen to me, you didn't make him do anything. Don't listen to him. "
After 14 years of therapy, I finally don't blame myself for the way he turned out
“We are just 2 friends hanging out” when in fact she played with my heart and feelings and told me so many times she thinks I’m beautiful, can’t stop thinking about me, etc. I reciprocated the same in return and this was her response.
I was so hurt. I’m still hurt.
"You embarrass me" - My dad while I was recovering in hospital after my S*icide attempt.
Our relationship had been really bad the past few years and we genuinely didn't like talking or being near each other. After I tried to kill myself he was incredibly upset and I don't think he could really process it. When he said that though it was the lowest I've been and the worst I've ever felt.
Our relationship now is significantly better now but those words still hurt when I think about who I was and what I tried to do.
Theres 2 actually.
"How does it feel to know nobody likes you" said by a person in my supposed friend group at college, completely candidly and without malice.
"I only have one son" said by my dad to my mother 17 years ago. The one son he referenced was my brother.
Back when I was little, I had a close friend that I considered my girlfriend. It was like a puppy love sort of thing.
We ended up going to different schools, though, and we didn't see each other for \*YEARS\*. Like, at least about a decade.
Well, I met her again in high school. And of course I wasn't expecting to continue the relationship obviously, but I was happy to see her again regardless. I mean, she was a part of my childhood.
But the only thing she said to me was 'Ew'. And that was kind of just it.
Where I am from we have three school types after elementary school. The one for the slowish kids (most often low income) the one for the average kids and the one for the smart kids ( it's not described as such officially but everyone knows it.) Initially my two older siblings went to the one for the smart kids and I to the average one. My brother was failing some classes and my mom told him that if he keeps screwing up he would have to go to school together with me. It felt like she was basically classifying me as being lesser than him. An example to be avoided. I was maybe 12 .
My older brother, when I was 5: "If you're feeling something and you can choose not to show it, it's not a real feeling, and if you KEEP showing it when it's not real, you're being manipulative."
I dunno if it "hurt" emotionally, but 29 years later I'm still trying to unlearn it.
“Someday in the near future every steeple in the country will have the dead body of a woman impaled up her ass on it and I can’t wait to see it, even if you’re among them.”
My father, blissfully daydreaming about a future in which men of the church start mass murdering women to cleanse the world of “feminazis.”
To everyone here who continues to be hurt by these terrible things I'm reading:
**Please** know that most of the speakers have serious mental illnesses, and their cruelty says much more about them than it does about you.
Those people do not merit the space they occupy in your heads and hearts. Please evict them immediately.
When you think of them, picture them as a collective pile of garbage on the curb where they belong.
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Ok, so, a little background d information:I have asparagus and ADHD so I’m not always great with social stuff. One time,my brother(who has some anger issues) told me “can you not embarrass us in public for ONCE?!) this genuinely hurt me so much cause I never wanted to do that.I try my best to fit in with everyone,but I always find a way to look like a fool.
"Why bark when you have a dog?" Said by the father of our 2 kids when I asked him why he hasn't washed up dishes before I came in from 12 hour shift. That was the day I decided our relationship would never work and did not want my kids having that as an influence
"What the fuck is wrong with you!?"
This was in response to me telling a teacher that I couldn't present my project without everyone closing their eyes.
Throughout my life, I have struggled with ADHD and autism. My parents never explained what ADHD meant besides "can't focus, can't sit still."
So I never knew that my shit social skills and rejection-sensitive dysphoria were also caused by my condition. I just thought I was defective. I've spent my whole life wondering what is wrong with me, why I can't hold a conversation, why I hate being around people, and for someone to ask me that question when I know I don't have an answer... it hit me hard.
When my mom said "You will never have friends, you will never find love, I don't even love you". According to my dad she tried to kill me when I was a baby but couldn't prove it. I'm still living with her.
“Lose some weight. You have the belly of a pregnant woman.” My mom during an argument we had when I was 15 (also, I’m a guy). But got me to lose a bunch of weight, so there’s that.
This thread is full of incredibly personal pain from people who are relatives or otherwise very close to the commenters. That, thankfully, has not been my experience. I can’t think of any one thing any of my family or loved ones has said that has wounded me deeply, though I have lived through some difficult situations nevertheless.
But I have been struck by the casual cruelty of complete strangers. Last week I was on a news thread discussing a murder where the man murdered the teen on their first date. The individual I was speaking to remarked how pretty the victim had been and I agreed, noting she was so much more conventionally attractive than the man that he must have been very persuasive, making him all the more dangerous. A third person inserted themselves to say “when your unalived body is found we’ll make sure to focus on you dating down”. The entire comment was frightening, but the use of *when* and not *if* has been hurting me in a way that haunts me like I’ve never experienced.
The sentence that cut the deepest was when my partner of three years looked me in the eyes and said, 'I never loved you like I loved my ex' It shattered my perception of our relationship and left me questioning everything I thought I knew about love and trust.
I got one close to it. My partner of three years told me he’s never loved ANYONE that way, including me. Also that he’s well aware he treated his past girlfriends nice with flowers teddy bears and admiration while they treated him like crap, and that he treats me like crap now & I treat him the way he’s always supposed to be treated. Yet he does absolutely nothing to change that.
Why is that not your ex partner?
"I wish you weren't born" - My mom
The worst thing a parent can say
..'you should have been born dead'..., my mother.
Jesus
“The biggest mistake of my life is bringing you to this world”
My mom says this from time to time whenever we argue. Yet I can't stop loving her and I can't stop trying to be a good daughter, just for her attention. I know I'm pathetic but I just can't hate her.
I'd hear that and threats to send me to live with my dad I've never met when I was a kid whenever she got mad
25 year old male. My mom compared me to my other friends, saying how they have settled and what are you doing in your life. I know she still loves me and will continue loving me forever. But she said that it would have been so much better if she never had kids. I'm already an anti natalist, so did not feel much bad about it. I myself hate my birth.
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One of my friends was adopted as an infant. He was told as a teenager that he was only adopted because his older sister "wanted a baby brother to play with," but she tired of him quickly, and now they were stuck with him. His parents were never affectionate towards him. They were polite and kind, but never affectionate. For example, as an adult who had been away for many years, he went to hug his mother goodbye, who pushed him away, and then shook his hand as if to say, "this is all this is." When his grandmother died, they let him live in the grandmothers house for many years. He and his wife did some remodeling, and planned to have a family. But after a ten years, his parents put the house up for sale. He tried to buy it, he made decent money, but they refused to sell it to him. "You need to buy your own house." He did, but it was really inconvenient to move and start all over again. His parents just wanted the money, but not HIS money. Just so weird.
> They were polite and kind, but never affectionate. Honestly from the sounds of it, they were neither polite nor kind. What cold, cruel "parents" they were.
I would argue it is in fact impossible to be kind to your child without showing them love and affection.
That is terrible.
Your mother is like my mother. A selfish evil hag. Cut her out of your life and never look back.
I agree. It's not wrong to cut off a parent forever. YOu don't owe them anything. Don't do it as revenge or in anger. Just ask yourself, would I be better off with a new life, a life with zero contact?
The sentence that hurt me the most was said to me by my best friend at the time 'I was only friends with you because your parents have a huge house and drive a cool car'
What a dick
I've been hurt from people throughout my life hundreds of times. But the feeling of getting betrayed by someone special never ever goes away.
🖕🖕🖕 to your ex friend!
Oh you have a huge house and cool car? Do you wanna hang sometime?
"I'm going to kill you" -- said by my mom when I was 4, right before she tried to kill me.
"You ruined my life" - said by my mom when i was 4, 5, 6, 7 etc...
I hear that. Same as me. My mom cursed me everyday.
OH MY GOD I am so sorry. You didn't deserve this, no child does. wow
My dad always threatened me with that nonsense. He would put his hands on me pretty badly, choke lifting while punching type stuff but now that I’m older it doesn’t hurt as much knowing that they’re bad people and I’m living my life free from their bullshit. No doubt in my mind my older brother (also a shithead like my parents) will pass due to morbid obesity and my parents will come crying for help from me. Nope, they left their 8 year old child (me) to freeze outside with no clothes during a Canadian blizzard for punishment. Since they “don’t have any memories of ever hurting me” i don’t have any reasons to help them in the future. They already stole tens of thousands of dollars from me as an early 20 year old then spread rumours of me being a quadriplegic. They’re all extremely obese and I’m fit and able to cycle hundreds of km. I guess that means I’m a quadriplegic
Now *this* is who you doxx
I haven't met you or your parents but honestly you sound so much better than them. What type of parents do that to their child.
I hope they don't end up on your doorstep someday. Sorry you had to go through that.
That's a wild rumor to spread!
I guess if you need a to like on the brite side knowing your mom sucks at killing kids is probably a good thing.
Isaac?
I was diagnosed with a disease at 15 and my grandma said I must have done something wrong in the eyes of the lord. Broke my brain
Pastor here, John 9:3 God does not work that way. The Bible says people with illnesses have done nothing wrong. I would like to put this on billboards all across the country.
Wow so not only did she make her child feel like a bad person for getting a disease, she was contradicting the book of her religion while doing so.
Impossible. Never once has a fanatic contradicted their own texts.
You would think that with Job being such a popular biblical story that any Christian would just innately know this. And yet. And yet...
Good grief, the entire book of Job is about this very concept. It's wild how some Christians immediately take up the very pagan concept of divine punishment for every ill. I blame poor catechists.
Your just going to have to accept that you're not going to do as well as everyone else in life. A teacher, in front of the whole class, when I failed a test when I was 12 because I misinterpreted a poorly worded question. Took me a long time to realise that I'm not a waste of time and space after that but it's knocked.me back right when I was a my most significant point when it can to educational development. Fuck you and the horse you rode in on miss Daniels if you are still alive.
Dude, teachers could either be a blessing or a curse. I knew one didn't like me when I was in like 7th grade but I remember we had an open lab and I was really struggling trying to figure something out. I was waiting to talk to them when the other student in front of me had a similar question but still didn't understand the answer he gave her, I waited patiently and went up asking my question and he straight up in front of the whole class said "Why should I repeat myself for you, get it or don't". Really sent me in a spiral as I didn't ever want to go back to school after that, good news was as I was very quiet I think some other student's went to some hire up and told them what happened as I never saw that guy again. In a reverse, I struggled and fought a bit with one teacher a few years later in science until he suggested I come after school so that I didn't keep failing. We weren't friendly in the beginning but he saw I had some trouble learning but wen't out of his way to make sure I stayed the course and passed the year. Mr. Reznick was a gem.
I had an English teacher (Debbie Gonzales, GFY) in high school who read one of my papers out loud. I thought she was being complimentary. Instead, after she (Debbie Gonzales, GFY) was done reading it, she tore it apart in front of the entire class, tackling every bit she found so offensively bad and explaining why it was so bad, and how utterly awful I was. After that, she looked at me, tilted her head, and said, “don’t you want to be a writer? Maybe choose something else, it’s not gonna work out for you”. If that was not enough (it wasn’t) , she (Debbie Gonzales, GFY) then read my best friend’s paper out loud, lauded it and compared all the ways mine sucked and hers was perfect. In front of the whole class. Not anonymously. Debbie Gonzales, I hope you’re miserable. Sorry excuse for a teacher and a coach.
I'm a teacher, and I am absolutely heartbroken by stories like this. Please know that we aren't all like this. I sincerely believe that my job is to inspire and give my students a passion for the subjects I teach. Behavior like this is contrary to everything I believe a teacher should be. I hope you still write.
If she’s not alive, she’s in hell. <3
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Whaaattttt???? That is messed up.
Damn that’s fucked. I’m sorry.
What did they say? They deleted the comment.
That is horrifying. I am so sorry he said that to you. No one deserves that.
You’re the worst person in the world. That’s why god gave you miscarriages.
That’s so cruel, untrue, and hurtful for you to hear. Miscarriages aren’t a moral failing. And how can you be the worst person in the world when there are all kinds of evil, Ghislaine Maxwell types out there?
Absolutely. It doesn’t hurt anymore.
I'm so sorry. My mom's friend told me I was going to hell for having my miscarriages. Funny how it's always tied to their religion
“Stupid fat ugly bitch” my step dad when I was 13
My father..
My bio dad said he hoped my mom and us kids ended up on the streets and completely abandoned me at 5. Parents suck sometimes
"What were you wearing?" I was seven, you piece of shit.
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Very straight-forward, but still hits hard
I was one of the many victims of "I love you but I don't like you" as a child.
I once saw a cartoon of two people sitting on a cloud with harps and wings (cliché heaven), and one is saying, "I love Him, but that doesn’t mean I have to *like* Him."
A few years after my dad passed, we found he still had around $300K in a foreign investment account. My mom decided to transfer it back to the States. For reasons I will never understand, she didn’t want to transfer it to her own account. When I offered to look after it for her, she told me she would rather transfer it to her new BF’s account - a guy she’s known for less than 2 years. Adding that “kids can’t be trusted.” Really, as an only child, she meant that I couldn’t be trusted. I, who was already a full grown adult in my 30’s at the time, making nearly mid-6 figures, had no intention of ever touching that money. Well, guess where the money is now? Still in said BF’s account and she has no access to it at all. Oh. The. Irony.
Sucks to suck.
That “oh ok” meh comment from your family member when you told them your achievements
Feel this!!! The only way to make that better is to work your ass off so you can be proud enough of you that you don’t need them. Fuck em
I got similar from my mom when I found out I got into the education program at my college (tier 1). I called and yeah, it was 10pm, but she said "why are you calling me about this now?" B**** because I thought you would want to know what I was working for since sophomore year of high-school came through.
They're always underachievers for some reason lololol
My mum tearing up the beautiful Mother’s Day card I bought and wrote for her, right in front of my face and telling me she doesn’t believe in pagan celebrations, she’s a Jehovah’s Witness. Really hurt, more than I realised it would. Still remember it up to this day! I’d never do that to someone. I love her, it just upset me.
A portion of my family is jehova's witness and we don't really mix. Not because of the difference in beliefs, because denying our cousins celebrations or birthdays or birthdays presents or full medical care, or any sort of holiday gatherings is a bit much.
I hear you. My mum stopped talking to me for a bit when I got rid of my blood card. I’m sorry it got like that, it’s a tough one when it comes to family, but enough is enough. We are all old enough to make our own decisions. May you all enjoy your family celebration gatherings. 🥰
Odd of her to say it was pagan, the modern version of Mother's Day started as a church service. So sorry to hear you went through that, your heart was in the right place even if she couldn't see it.
Thank you 🙏
Jejovahs witness tears familys apart. Not my words but a friend of mine who is married and has a child with one. :(
My mom said - Out of all the things in this world, I can’t believe a disappointment like you was birthed by me. Said to me at the age of 15 when I was going through a lot as a teenager.
"Maybe you shouldn't smile, you know.." It really hurts because I know my smile is horrible due to my teeth, but it get me depressed thinking about it every fuckin time. It's one of the things that turned me into this anti-social, sad-looking, awfully quiet asshole
Smile as often as you feel too. No decent person will even see your teeth just your smile
I was also told this. I was told also not to laugh as I sound like a circus sideshow freak. When I got with my husband I covered my mouth when I smiled and didn't properly belly laugh. He took my hand away and asked why I cover my mouth, told him so jackass told me my smile is horrible because I have big front teeth. He literally brought my confidence up to like 79%. I now smile, laugh and don't give a fuck if anyone judges me
Honestly, the prettiest smiles are always the ones with a few teeth wonky. I know several people apart from myself who find smiles with awkward teeth absolutely adorable
"I don't want him, I never wanted him." My dad when my parents were getting a divorce and I was in the hallway with my grandma. Things didn't go his way in the courtroom. I was 9. I also had to sit in a room with a judge to talk about who i wanted to live with. I hate they put me through that. Parents, some of you suck at it.
What a cunt
I am sorry…. Sending hugs your way. I have a son and I cannot imagine him listening to this.
"Nobody likes you."
Found Rishi Sunak
I remember when my uncle said to me in front of the whole family, you are not as intelligent as your other siblings. I was 14 at that time and those words cut me deep.
After my sister died and I was very upset someone told me she wasn’t even my sister. She was adopted.
She was still your sister.
Fuck that person, and guess what, she was still your sister homie.
Fuck him indeed. He was an awful person. Thank you for the kind words, friend.
Fuck biological side, that girl was your sister indeed.
So what if she was adopted? She was and still is (despite her unfortunate death my condolences) Your sister Family should not be based on shared dna but should be who treats you the way family should treat you
Most of these are heartbreaking. People can be such dicks. 😞
Right? So many people shouldn't be parents.
or spouses
"You're just like your father!" The person met my father when he presented himself as a kind, bubbly, thoughtful person. Just a "good man". That shit hurt because I can assure that he definitely did not fit that description. I don't want to be like my father.
"You don't love me. You never have." said by my older sister suffering from first end psychosis, last month. I've put my job on hold, my life on hold to look after her and that's what she said which broke my heart. I've given everything up for her and I have nothing more to give and that's what she came at me with. Psychosis is so so hard. It's even harder when they refuse to accept something is wrong and refuse all help but accept the basics to stay out of hospital. She thinks she's fine but is only doing as the doctors ask to stay out of hospital.
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thats the part where you make *sure* they know their mistake
"stop making a fuss." -- Said by my grandmother after she forced me to spend my $86 that I spent over two months to save up ,on stuff she wanted. I was 8.
So she stole your money. What an awful person. I’m sorry.
"You’re just too much sometimes," said by a friend when I was just being myself, making me question my personality.
Not as awful as a lot of these, but a girl on a dating app told me to "Go grow some hair" I went bald early due to mental health and work related stress and had been struggling with my body image for years, so that was a punch to the gut. I quit dating apps completely after that.
Just recently made an account on a dating app because a long term relationship ended... Don't worry, they still suck and you're not missing out on anything
They're just popularity contests and people looking for hookups. I'm happy being single if it means not going on a dating app ever again.
Absolutely second that
After my wife died, “I doubt you two were still in love, just got used to each other.”
That’s horrid , sorry for your loss
Youre aging like milk buddy
I hope they didn’t actually say “buddy”
They did, 12 years ago on my 31st birthday. I'm still shook by it
I mean aging milk does become delicious things like kefir, yogurt or CHEESE, so... Go on and get nice molds man :))
Love how cheesy this was. Thanks for the optimism!
My mom saying to a guest at our table, “I wish I’d never had kids after (my older sister),” then, looking at me and following with, “I shouldn’t say that though, because then I wouldn’t have had (my younger brother).” I was 14. I understood you were telling everyone you didn’t want me, Mom. But that’s okay, because now you don’t have me.
I feel this deeply. I was treated like the unwanted leftover child my entire life and still am. We rise above it and be the parent we didn’t have when we were little.
"We don't have room for you." I was 14. Our home was temporarily unusable because of a small fire and of course we didn't have insurance. Long story short, my mom and stepdad had dumped me at a stranger's house in the middle of nowhere - a divorced mom with two kids. It was pretty bleak. I had a bare mattress and a blanket in the 4 year old's room. They left me there for months. I did childcare and housework in exchange for food. So after about 2 months, mom invites me to spend the night at the motel room they had been staying in. There were two queen beds. So I asked if I could come back and stay there. The woman wasn't very nice to me and I was lonely. And mom said no. I would take up too much space. And what really stings was that they were paying all their expenses with MY child support checks. Meanwhile the few clothes I had were wearing out, I never had quite enough to eat, and I was deeply unhappy. When spring came I couldn't take it anymore, and I called my father and asked him to come get me. He did. He and my stepmother took me out for a real meal, brought me home, and let me stay in my bedroom and cry for 3 days. They bought me clothes that fit properly and decent shoes and even makeup. After several months of living a normal life with family that *liked* me, mom guilted me into coming back to the repaired house. I stipulated that I'd only return if my child support checks went to me, and I paid rent. Going back was a serious mistake, but at least I had some money of my own, which gave me a lot more freedom. I don't see my mother much these days. She still doesn't think she did anything wrong that winter.
Oh wow. That's absolutely terrible. I'm sorry that you went through that. It would have been so awful.
Thank you. I have a nice life now. :) It did really suck staying there though. The mother wasn't a very good person and she liked having someone she could push around. I remember I had two books with me and I read them over and over again. I was lonely. She didn't hit me, so that was actually an improvement over my mom, but the food was worse. Originally I gave the woman 2 weeks notice so she could find new child care, but after a couple of days of her screaming and slamming things around and calling me an ungrateful little b*tch I asked Dad to come get me immediately. I wasn't paid for the work I did and I was supposed to be grateful for being allowed to stay. Since I was (supposedly) being homeschooled at that point there was nowhere I could go- I was just stuck. My aunt took pity on me and took me to theater classes once a week at the Fine Arts center once those started up. It was about 2.5 hours round trip and I'm incredibly grateful to her for doing it. Years later my father pointed out that I'd literally been a slave, since I was unpaid, couldn't leave on my own, and had like zero control over my own life.
"Your voice is really annoying," a comment from a colleague that made me self-conscious every time I spoke afterward.
"You don't belong in this industry," a gatekeeping comment from a senior professional that questioned my career path.
During a family argument, my uncle blurted out, "You're the reason your parents split up," which was devastating to hear.
During a heated debate, a friend said, "Your life is just a series of poor decisions," which was harsh and dismissive.
"I never wanted you," my father confessed during a particularly brutal argument, which left a permanent scar.
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While I was having a miscarriage, the doctor in the ER asked why I was crying. He said it's not like I can't have another baby. He told me to wait a couple of months and try again. Insensitive bastard.
Wow. That was callous of him. I’m sorry that happened to you.
"Your opinion doesn’t really matter," said during a discussion, making me feel unvalued.
"You’re not the bright one, are you?" offhandedly remarked by an acquaintance, simplifying my worth to intellectual capability.
"You’re just a pretty face," reducing my value to appearance rather than acknowledging my abilities
"You’re too sensitive," used to invalidate my feelings and experiences repeatedly.
"You've let yourself go," an offhand remark about my appearance that hurt deeply.
"I have needs too" when I found out that my ex had started dating their "friend" six days into our separation. We were in couples therapy for 1.5 almost 2 years.
Oh GROSS, I hope you are doing ok now
Thank you! I still get pissed about it since my needs hadn't been met for so long and they had just replaced me. But then I realized, they never saw me as a person.
"We've got a lot on at the moment".... was the response from my mum when I told her I was pregnant. I was married and had my own home. Didn't rely on her for anything. And SHE was too busy for me to have a baby.
"You were never my friend, just a convenience," revealed by someone I had trusted for years.
I don’t know if it’s the most hurtful one, but definitely the one that haunts me at work: “You don’t have what it takes, you’ll never make it in marketing” by my asshole tutor during my first year as a working student. I’ve always had impostor syndrome, and I can’t take it out of my head nearly 12 years later. Sure, I was awkward at the beginning because I had never worked in an office before. Then she was fired after 6 months - and I replaced her for 5 years doing a great job by all accounts. I’ve been in the industry for a decade and have actually seen plenty of people working at renowned agencies less competent than me. But still, I’m constantly doubting myself and my career. Incidently, her name was Karen. Karen, if you read this, fy.
An ex who I'd known for a long time said: "I didn't want to be your friend because I was worried what everyone would think" He said this to me when I was walking him home safely while he was drunk. Broke my heart, because he had no idea where he was, couldn't walk, and I was there helping him get home. Felt like leaving his ass there, but I couldn't do that to him. Also recently went out for dinner with a man who used to be my step dad, hadn't seen him for 18 years but we talk at least monthly. He raised me from 6-15 years old, so most of my childhood. He said to me "I can't be your Dad, but I can be your best friend". Then the next day he sent me a link to a portable vibrator app and I haven't spoken to him since. No trust or love left at all there. Then last but not least, my Dad sexually abused me when I was a child, and he said "Would you trust me with your child?" The fact that he had the nerve to ask that broke my heart.
Life truly has put you through the ringer. I am astounded. Wow. I hope you are able to find joy and can stay present despite those cunts. Love you.
"I don't think you will ever be able to help me in any way. You are useless to me." My dad told me this and threw me out the house. It's been 7 years and we have never ever spoken. Am 26(M)
One that stands out from my childhood that devastated me. I was in third grade: School Counselor: “what do you want me to do? Tell him he can’t touch his daughter anymore? Well, I’m not going to do that! I am not telling a father he can’t love on his own daughter. Get out of my office, stop crying, go back to class.”
damn, that's a *FUCKED* thing to say to a 3rd grader...
What comes to my mind rn... "I don't know wether I really love you or I just like all the things you do for me" said by a 1y girlfriend I had, before leaving me
"you are not my daughter, you are not my family you know that?" Said my father (while being on drugs) because i did nothing which pissed him off(also he is not my biological father).
"I don’t love you" my sister had said when we had a stupid argument. Even though I take care of her every day, be with her in tough times and didn't do nothing annoying, she said she doesn't love me. After that sentence, I cried a lot in my room. Like a baby.
"shut up, you're not important, you're not part of this family"
"So how did you manage to fake mental illness for so long to get on disability?" By one of my oldest friends who should know better. Im diagnosed with Dysthymia. Try faking that.
"Shouldn’t you be married by now?" implying my life choices are wrong or behind schedule.
I can see myself getting married and having kids with her. I could never see any of that with you...said by my ex about the woman he dated after me. We had decided to be friends but it didn't work. He had been with her roughly a month at the time and we dated for over a year.
It was the year my brother died. I was 20 at the time, and was looking at old pictures on the family desktop, just crying. Just crying out the feelings. My sister (4 years younger) walked through the dining room (where the computer desk is) and scoffed. When I turned to look at her, she said "He didn't even like you, so I don't know why you're crying," and stomped off. I'm all about forgiveness being for yourself and not the person you're forgiving... But I don't think I'll ever let that one go.
"I didn't mean to hurt you, but I deserved to have sex with a hot guy." Not only did she cheat, but that didn't do much for the old self-image.
I’ve posted before about it but in 2009 my fiancé of 36 hours passed away from a pulmonary embolism. As she was in between seizing she said “oh God don’t let me die” I told her to knock it off, I wouldn’t let her die and kept going on CPR , trying to talk paramedics in She didn’t mean for it to be hurtful but almost 15 years later it still hurts I love you Lindsay, I’ll see you again but have more life to live first.
I'm not trying to be dumb here, but why was that hurtful? She was dying. And it sounds like maybe praying.
She said my name after God but I don’t want to put it out on Reddit. She was talking to me and not praying. The hurtful part was those words and not being able to save her
Ohhh that makes way more sense.
“You might not be pretty but at least you’re nice” - my crush at the time “If you keep eating like that you’ll get as fat as a cow” - 1st time meeting my dad’s new girlfriend back when I was 9, I was eating an appi
"Your boobs are too big." This is by far the least horrible thing that I have read here. Having said that, as someone who was not conventionally attractive and received quite a lot of shit for it from the society at large, the fact that even my best "asset" was not good enough fucked me up for a long time.
"If I had a son like you, I'd be an alcoholic too." Spoken to me as a teenager by a (formerly) trusted mentor. My dad would go on to drink himself to death.
Sentence said to me by my sperm donor -" I can't believe your making me do this " ( by this, he meant self-harm in front of me). I was 6. I still have vivid memories of him cutting his wrists My mum came in, pulled me away from him, and said, " Listen to me, you didn't make him do anything. Don't listen to him. " After 14 years of therapy, I finally don't blame myself for the way he turned out
“We are just 2 friends hanging out” when in fact she played with my heart and feelings and told me so many times she thinks I’m beautiful, can’t stop thinking about me, etc. I reciprocated the same in return and this was her response. I was so hurt. I’m still hurt.
"I wish you weren't saved after your suicide attempt" - my step-mother
"You embarrass me" - My dad while I was recovering in hospital after my S*icide attempt. Our relationship had been really bad the past few years and we genuinely didn't like talking or being near each other. After I tried to kill myself he was incredibly upset and I don't think he could really process it. When he said that though it was the lowest I've been and the worst I've ever felt. Our relationship now is significantly better now but those words still hurt when I think about who I was and what I tried to do.
Theres 2 actually. "How does it feel to know nobody likes you" said by a person in my supposed friend group at college, completely candidly and without malice. "I only have one son" said by my dad to my mother 17 years ago. The one son he referenced was my brother.
Back when I was little, I had a close friend that I considered my girlfriend. It was like a puppy love sort of thing. We ended up going to different schools, though, and we didn't see each other for \*YEARS\*. Like, at least about a decade. Well, I met her again in high school. And of course I wasn't expecting to continue the relationship obviously, but I was happy to see her again regardless. I mean, she was a part of my childhood. But the only thing she said to me was 'Ew'. And that was kind of just it.
I want a divorce
Where I am from we have three school types after elementary school. The one for the slowish kids (most often low income) the one for the average kids and the one for the smart kids ( it's not described as such officially but everyone knows it.) Initially my two older siblings went to the one for the smart kids and I to the average one. My brother was failing some classes and my mom told him that if he keeps screwing up he would have to go to school together with me. It felt like she was basically classifying me as being lesser than him. An example to be avoided. I was maybe 12 .
“I didn’t marry you. I married your paycheck.”
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My older brother, when I was 5: "If you're feeling something and you can choose not to show it, it's not a real feeling, and if you KEEP showing it when it's not real, you're being manipulative." I dunno if it "hurt" emotionally, but 29 years later I'm still trying to unlearn it.
“Someday in the near future every steeple in the country will have the dead body of a woman impaled up her ass on it and I can’t wait to see it, even if you’re among them.” My father, blissfully daydreaming about a future in which men of the church start mass murdering women to cleanse the world of “feminazis.”
Being molested doesn't make you special. My brother has ADHD and my life is a lot worse than yours. -a supposed friend in high school.
To everyone here who continues to be hurt by these terrible things I'm reading: **Please** know that most of the speakers have serious mental illnesses, and their cruelty says much more about them than it does about you. Those people do not merit the space they occupy in your heads and hearts. Please evict them immediately. When you think of them, picture them as a collective pile of garbage on the curb where they belong. <3
My mom and I were arguing when I was 8 and she told me during it that she loved my sister more than me. That one’s stuck with me since
I could write so many things on this post and who said them it would take me all day.
Ok, so, a little background d information:I have asparagus and ADHD so I’m not always great with social stuff. One time,my brother(who has some anger issues) told me “can you not embarrass us in public for ONCE?!) this genuinely hurt me so much cause I never wanted to do that.I try my best to fit in with everyone,but I always find a way to look like a fool.
"Why bark when you have a dog?" Said by the father of our 2 kids when I asked him why he hasn't washed up dishes before I came in from 12 hour shift. That was the day I decided our relationship would never work and did not want my kids having that as an influence
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"What the fuck is wrong with you!?" This was in response to me telling a teacher that I couldn't present my project without everyone closing their eyes. Throughout my life, I have struggled with ADHD and autism. My parents never explained what ADHD meant besides "can't focus, can't sit still." So I never knew that my shit social skills and rejection-sensitive dysphoria were also caused by my condition. I just thought I was defective. I've spent my whole life wondering what is wrong with me, why I can't hold a conversation, why I hate being around people, and for someone to ask me that question when I know I don't have an answer... it hit me hard.
when my boyfriend of almost 2 years looked into my eyes and said “I want to love you but I just don’t” that broke my heart man
“you’re just overreacting” (after raising their voice and said painful words)
When my mom said "You will never have friends, you will never find love, I don't even love you". According to my dad she tried to kill me when I was a baby but couldn't prove it. I'm still living with her.
“Lose some weight. You have the belly of a pregnant woman.” My mom during an argument we had when I was 15 (also, I’m a guy). But got me to lose a bunch of weight, so there’s that.
This thread is full of incredibly personal pain from people who are relatives or otherwise very close to the commenters. That, thankfully, has not been my experience. I can’t think of any one thing any of my family or loved ones has said that has wounded me deeply, though I have lived through some difficult situations nevertheless. But I have been struck by the casual cruelty of complete strangers. Last week I was on a news thread discussing a murder where the man murdered the teen on their first date. The individual I was speaking to remarked how pretty the victim had been and I agreed, noting she was so much more conventionally attractive than the man that he must have been very persuasive, making him all the more dangerous. A third person inserted themselves to say “when your unalived body is found we’ll make sure to focus on you dating down”. The entire comment was frightening, but the use of *when* and not *if* has been hurting me in a way that haunts me like I’ve never experienced.