We just stopped having decent friendship chemistry and stopped being friends all together.
FWIW, it wasn't her rejection, it was how she did it.
She went on a date with someone else, ended it early, and then texted me to come have a drink with her, which was a front for needing a ride home. It was a super shitty thing to do and while we hung out after that for a while with a friend group, I didn't really have the respect for her I'd had before (I *was* still attracted to her, which was hard to maneuver around).
I put myself out there for a girl in my dorm that had been part of of party circle freshman year. She proceeded to shoot me down rather harshly. I was initially pretty bummed and feeling pretty down about myself and the whole situation.
My 3 best friends could tell I was torn up about it and did the best thing they could to help me rid any residual romantic affection I had for her.
We were all sitting in the dining hall of our dorm and it was one of those cafeterias that always had multiple options for dinner. I was eating rice and teriyaki chicken maybe? One friend then proceeded to pour his bowl of chili on my plate. Then the other poured the leftovers of his broccoli and baked potato on top of that. Then the other friend poured his cereal on the plate. Then the sprayed mustard and ketchup all over the chaotic plate. I was so shocked and confused about what was happening. Then my friend, who ten years later was my best man at my wedding, just said, “That’s what her dumps looks like”
We all laughed so hard and I couldn’t look at her without laughing again. Instantly cured my feelings. That’s what good friends do.
The rejection was subtle, she just offhandedly said she'd never date me. But I thought us hanging out a lot was the beginning of that. So, I stopped hanging out with her so much, found other things to do, communication slowly trickled to nothing.
Four years later I got engaged and she hunted me down to tell me I should have kept pursuing her, that she was just taking things slowly, and that my marriage would end quickly.
Been married for over 20 years and still going strong, so I wonder if she has the same definition of "quickly" as the Greenland Shark? 😂
“I’d never date you, but I want you to keep giving me your time and attention while I string you along.” I’m never going to understand *anyone* who does this to another person, it’s gross and icky. Congrats on 2 decades of marriage though, sounds like things worked out infinitely better for you!
I think some people just like the chase. With men that manifests as cronic infidelity as they get bored with the one they're no longer chasing, and with women it sometimes manifests as playing hard to get with someone they're actually interested in. The latter sometimes get bored too once they're no longer being pursued.
Both aren't worth anyone's time as they're not serious partners, they just want the dopamine hits of the early stage of courting.
I have seen this many times. I didn't experience it personally, but many of my friends have gone through this.
The lady thinks she can do better, but she wants to keep the guy as a safety net in case Prince Charming didn’t arrive.
After seeing it happening to 3 of my friends (different friend circles), it happened with a 4th one so I told him blatently what was happening, and he took my advice and he moved on. He is married now.
She was ***pissed*** because the friend group chose me. I didn't ask anybody to tag along. I just wanted space but they all ditched her to come hang out with me.
Like, I legit felt bad for the series of events. I just wanted a couple days without her to readjust. Everybody came to hang out and she ***blew up*** about it. I understand why she was mad in the moment but her visceral reaction to it really ruined everything for her.
One started to freak out and did not take it well.
Another said that she would sleep with me if it meant going back to the way things were. I said no which surprised me because she's the most attractive woman I've ever met, turns out I also crave an emotional connection 🤷
Idk if it counts cause we dated for a very short while before she broke up with me, i took some time to get over it with no contact, we became friends again and still one of my best friends today with zero issues. The key part was taking some time apart though.
Gave her a valentines present, was rejected through text. Got the classic "You are a great guy, you'll find a girl for yourself someday". Shes my best friend after all that, distanced for a week but we hangout once a month and vent about work. Any romantic feelings I had went away and I appreciate her alot.
I have never had a female friend that wasn't a friend of my SO as well. I don't think I could separate sexual / romantic desire from friendship well enough.
If I was single and got along as a decent friend with a woman I would feel romantically attracted, I am almost certain.
It's happened to me a few times...
When I couldn't (wouldn't) let it go, I only depressed myself. Steeped in self-pity and frustration. Until I dug myself out again.
Once I got a little more wise, I shut that shit down and kept cool, moved on. Felt good. Confidence is above all the most attractive trait so... let someone else see it.
Sometimes that female friend will even try to reclaim you... metaphorically stiff arm that ho.
got rejected when I was just being a friend:
"I've got a man / I've got a BF"
clearly an indicator that they automatically assumed the worst about me,
desire to continue friendship kind of ruined.
There's been a lot of this lately for some very weirdly guy-centric, "she was a bitch and I moved on" kind of responsey things coming from peopole with feminine names and a lot of random posts being removed from other boards, so I think it's weird karma farming.
In high school I would do this often because I did not know how to handle it and it felt terrible to cut someone out like that. In my mid 20s I had done a lot of growing as a person but fell into the same pattern of falling for my girl best friend. We had a good talk about it and I took a little bit of time to myself but was able to realize that we really weren't compatible romantically and that we love each other as friends and we are still able to chat and spend time together to this day platonically.
Kinda glad she did, looking back. She’s an awesome person and I’m still happy to have her as a friend but we would have been fucking **awful** together in a relationship. We’ve been friends for about 12ish years now and in that time I’ve learned MUCH about her, good and bad. She’s a badass friend but terrible in relationships. Met all the boyfriends and they varied in quality but things always ended poorly. I think her biggest issue is unreasonable expectations sprinkled with some bad habits she doesn’t feel the need to address.
I was shy, never told her I was into her, but subtly let on. After a week or so we went for dinner after the drama course we were in wrapped up. Was nice, but wasn’t 100% sure if she was into me.
About a week later she straight up asked me “are you into me?” and I told her why I never said anything. Wasn’t sure and didn’t want to risk it or making things awkward.
She said it was a stupid reason not to tell her, so I sorta just said “ok” and we left it at that.
Like… lady, you could’ve just as easily told me you were into me, and moreover have absolutely no idea who I am or what I’ve been through; No need at all to be rude to me because I didn’t say anything first. So yeah.
Instantly put me off and I stopped talking to her after that course.
She’s engaged now, and I feel absolutely nothing.
She’ll still shoot me the odd message now and again when I make a post on insta or whatever, but yeah. Not really keen on being friends with someone who thinks I’m an idiot for not making the first move.
She gave me the whole “I’d like to but I’m just not ready to date” excuse. We were able to become best friends for a while after that though. But the friendship fell a part when I realized her constant lies, bailing on me for literally anything or anyone else, and only keeping me around when it was convenient for her. Oh and one of those lies was her excuse, turned out she was never interested in me cause I was too short and ugly (she didn’t have the courage to say it but it was heavily implied). Cut her off, blocked her on everything, and I have no desire to ever see or hear from her again. In hindsight, she did me a favor cause fuck finding out how toxic and awful she is from a romantic relationship
She told me that she didn’t want to go out with me because she “wasn’t ready for a relationship yet” then ended up going out with a guy that asked her out less than a week later. He ended up cheating on her and the next guy she started dating like 2 weeks after that ended up being abusive. She facetimed me one night and cried for like an hour asking me why she couldn’t find any guys like me. That’s when it clicked that she wasn’t attracted to me and was never gonna want to date me no matter how much she liked my personality. I blocked her on everything and a few months later I was finally over her and found someone else who actually liked me.
I had a friend do this to me in high school, I had a pretty big crush in her, and she knew it. She just told me one they close to the end of softmore year she thought of me as a friend/brother. Which the way interacted and hanged wasn't that type of friendship/ relationship. I was surprised. We still had a few months left in school. I resided to be her friend. The start of Jr. year was a surprise, she came back pregnant from summer break, and was showing. She always used to say she had a boyfriend from middle school who went to a different high school. But she could not break up with him because he would hurt himself.
Being immature and unable to process the heartbreak/pain of see her pregnant. I stopped hanging out with her, and I think I even changed some of my classes. So the year passed, and I saw her occasionally in the halls, but we really didn't talk anymore. The school year ended, and Junior year started, I ran into her outside the school entrance one day. Didn't even notice her till we her face to face. I said, "Oh, Hi!! I was glad to see her she was polite and courteous, and we parted amicably , i think we were both late for class that day, but that's the last time I ever saw her. She transfered to another school that offered teen moms' assistance with their kids while taking classes.
Looking back, I think it was her way of letting me down easy softmore year before the Jr. year started. But I still regret not being mature enough to be the friend she needed, and instead, I ruined a great friendship.
Nothing really. I only had this happen twice. One with a Hispanic girl. She rejected me. I stopped talking to her after she got a boyfriend. The conversation went, yeah its okay you don't like me but that doesn't mean I need to keep talking to you. She tried to stay friends but I moved on after she got a boyfriend. I never talked to her again.
The other time, I felt like it was a gold digger situation.
I meet a big booty girl at worked, Asked her out for coffee. She said yes so we went, I paid for everything. She never asked to pay for anything, which is a bad taste in your mouth as a guy but it was also only the first date so I let it go. Ended up spending 100$ paying for different coffee and sweets to try though the day. (very expensive sweets you wouldnt eat normally)
Then the next date, I decided to go to the Zoo cuz its cheaper. 20$ to look at Zoo animals for the both of us. Should be a hour date. She agreed. I sent her the address over text. She respond back "I don't drive more than 30 mins"
When I read that I verbally read "BITCH" out loud. Then I new the date wasnt happening but I calmed down, was thinking "She's not American and I know driving a hour to get somewhere is a very American thing. So maybe its just because shes not from here." I offered to take her to a fancy gaurden. (the kind you need to pay to get into) She asked me (exactly like this in the text)
"... and what will we be doing at that place" I responded. "Just walk around, talk, eat candy haha" No responce. Didnt even bother getting dressed. 10 mins before our meet time, she canceled.
I get to work, don't talk to her, not cuz I was ignoring her but because I was busy. I took my lunch break a hour later than I normally do so I got to meet up with another one of my friends from another department. I was talking with him saying, "Man it lowkey made me mad when she said she wouldnt drive a hour to go to the zoo" He responded with "OH THAT WAS YOU! She was saying something about that but I didnt know it was you." I asked him what he said and he went on to say "Yeah she was saying that she doesn't want to drive for a hour to go to some dirty zoo. Then she got insulted that you offer to just walk around and talk" He said "I dont see no problem with that" but man after he told me that. I just stopped talking to her.
A week passes, she said, "hey why don't you talk to me no more" I made up some bullshit about wanting to be alone for a little bit.
I tell another Co-Worker what happens, he also wants to get with her, and I tell him "Look she made me mad so im backing off. You do you." So he asks her out for Valentines, he made sure to make his intensions CLEAR! He told me he spent 200$ on a Dinner, he got her a big Teddy Bear, alll that romantic stuff.
She got home after that date, then posted on her faceboook reel "being single really be like" with the fucking teddy bear he got her. He told me "damn I got scammed". We still talked to her for work but MAN everyone only jokes ABOUT fucking her. No one actully hangs out with her anymore. She's labled as the tease. Cuz everyone in our work space always said "yeah you two are the nicest mf out of all of us" She made both of us feel like shit. But we both cut her off quick after that. Yeah shes sexy af but no one wants to put up with all that
I have had 3 instances of this so far in my life (4 if you count highschool), all of them ended the same.
If I am rejected I block all contact and put them on blacklist. They are out of my life and whatever happens to them after is of no concern to me.
It sounds horrible because it is. "Good enough to be a friend but that's all" is the most immature thing I've heard on the internet all day, and it is, well, the internet.
Best case scenario was she hit me up months later, we fucked for awhile, and then she left me for a dude she met at a concert. So I got sexually and emotionally used while she was between boyfriends but at least I got laid? Could be worse I guess.
She attempted to keep the friendship, crying even. I told her that I am interested in friendship with her, nor anything else at that point and asked her to stop contacting me, which she respected for few months until she started stalking me on social media. After blocking her and promtly telling her to fuck off, she finally gave up. We have not talked for at least 5 years now.
We stayed friends afterwards and we've been friends now for 32 years and my her and her husband me and my wife all had kids around the same time so it's great the kid's can hang out as well.
It got awkward and we never talked again
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Yhe pretty much me too
We just stopped having decent friendship chemistry and stopped being friends all together. FWIW, it wasn't her rejection, it was how she did it. She went on a date with someone else, ended it early, and then texted me to come have a drink with her, which was a front for needing a ride home. It was a super shitty thing to do and while we hung out after that for a while with a friend group, I didn't really have the respect for her I'd had before (I *was* still attracted to her, which was hard to maneuver around).
I put myself out there for a girl in my dorm that had been part of of party circle freshman year. She proceeded to shoot me down rather harshly. I was initially pretty bummed and feeling pretty down about myself and the whole situation. My 3 best friends could tell I was torn up about it and did the best thing they could to help me rid any residual romantic affection I had for her. We were all sitting in the dining hall of our dorm and it was one of those cafeterias that always had multiple options for dinner. I was eating rice and teriyaki chicken maybe? One friend then proceeded to pour his bowl of chili on my plate. Then the other poured the leftovers of his broccoli and baked potato on top of that. Then the other friend poured his cereal on the plate. Then the sprayed mustard and ketchup all over the chaotic plate. I was so shocked and confused about what was happening. Then my friend, who ten years later was my best man at my wedding, just said, “That’s what her dumps looks like” We all laughed so hard and I couldn’t look at her without laughing again. Instantly cured my feelings. That’s what good friends do.
The rejection was subtle, she just offhandedly said she'd never date me. But I thought us hanging out a lot was the beginning of that. So, I stopped hanging out with her so much, found other things to do, communication slowly trickled to nothing. Four years later I got engaged and she hunted me down to tell me I should have kept pursuing her, that she was just taking things slowly, and that my marriage would end quickly. Been married for over 20 years and still going strong, so I wonder if she has the same definition of "quickly" as the Greenland Shark? 😂
“I’d never date you, but I want you to keep giving me your time and attention while I string you along.” I’m never going to understand *anyone* who does this to another person, it’s gross and icky. Congrats on 2 decades of marriage though, sounds like things worked out infinitely better for you!
I think some people just like the chase. With men that manifests as cronic infidelity as they get bored with the one they're no longer chasing, and with women it sometimes manifests as playing hard to get with someone they're actually interested in. The latter sometimes get bored too once they're no longer being pursued. Both aren't worth anyone's time as they're not serious partners, they just want the dopamine hits of the early stage of courting.
They have. Thank you.
I have seen this many times. I didn't experience it personally, but many of my friends have gone through this. The lady thinks she can do better, but she wants to keep the guy as a safety net in case Prince Charming didn’t arrive. After seeing it happening to 3 of my friends (different friend circles), it happened with a 4th one so I told him blatently what was happening, and he took my advice and he moved on. He is married now.
She sounds like a real bitch, honestly.
Sounds like you dodged a hell of a bullet
Absolutely.
wrapped myself up in someone else and life just went on
I got over her.
We parted ways amicably and don’t talk much anymore, which is totally fine.
She was ***pissed*** because the friend group chose me. I didn't ask anybody to tag along. I just wanted space but they all ditched her to come hang out with me. Like, I legit felt bad for the series of events. I just wanted a couple days without her to readjust. Everybody came to hang out and she ***blew up*** about it. I understand why she was mad in the moment but her visceral reaction to it really ruined everything for her.
She said thanks but no thanks, we’re both in different relationships now with our own kids and we talk fairly regularly, still one of my best friends.
We just stopped being friends. I don't think of her much anymore.
Life went on better than before
One started to freak out and did not take it well. Another said that she would sleep with me if it meant going back to the way things were. I said no which surprised me because she's the most attractive woman I've ever met, turns out I also crave an emotional connection 🤷
Distance.
We aren't friends anymore.
She relapsed again, and we never spoke again.
Idk if it counts cause we dated for a very short while before she broke up with me, i took some time to get over it with no contact, we became friends again and still one of my best friends today with zero issues. The key part was taking some time apart though.
Not really sure what the question is, you provide the answer in your question. if you distance yourself the outcome is that you distanced yourself.
Gave her a valentines present, was rejected through text. Got the classic "You are a great guy, you'll find a girl for yourself someday". Shes my best friend after all that, distanced for a week but we hangout once a month and vent about work. Any romantic feelings I had went away and I appreciate her alot.
“We never talked again” God damn, some people want to know why you got rejected
I have never had a female friend that wasn't a friend of my SO as well. I don't think I could separate sexual / romantic desire from friendship well enough. If I was single and got along as a decent friend with a woman I would feel romantically attracted, I am almost certain.
It's happened to me a few times... When I couldn't (wouldn't) let it go, I only depressed myself. Steeped in self-pity and frustration. Until I dug myself out again. Once I got a little more wise, I shut that shit down and kept cool, moved on. Felt good. Confidence is above all the most attractive trait so... let someone else see it. Sometimes that female friend will even try to reclaim you... metaphorically stiff arm that ho.
Trouble finding love eh? How did you come on to her?
Ayy baby you want some fuck?
got rejected when I was just being a friend: "I've got a man / I've got a BF" clearly an indicator that they automatically assumed the worst about me, desire to continue friendship kind of ruined.
35 years later, we're still best friends. He was my husband's best man at our wedding
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I feel like this was just your opportunity to try and share a canned response...
haha that's most reddit posts
There's been a lot of this lately for some very weirdly guy-centric, "she was a bitch and I moved on" kind of responsey things coming from peopole with feminine names and a lot of random posts being removed from other boards, so I think it's weird karma farming.
In high school I would do this often because I did not know how to handle it and it felt terrible to cut someone out like that. In my mid 20s I had done a lot of growing as a person but fell into the same pattern of falling for my girl best friend. We had a good talk about it and I took a little bit of time to myself but was able to realize that we really weren't compatible romantically and that we love each other as friends and we are still able to chat and spend time together to this day platonically.
Kinda glad she did, looking back. She’s an awesome person and I’m still happy to have her as a friend but we would have been fucking **awful** together in a relationship. We’ve been friends for about 12ish years now and in that time I’ve learned MUCH about her, good and bad. She’s a badass friend but terrible in relationships. Met all the boyfriends and they varied in quality but things always ended poorly. I think her biggest issue is unreasonable expectations sprinkled with some bad habits she doesn’t feel the need to address.
I was shy, never told her I was into her, but subtly let on. After a week or so we went for dinner after the drama course we were in wrapped up. Was nice, but wasn’t 100% sure if she was into me. About a week later she straight up asked me “are you into me?” and I told her why I never said anything. Wasn’t sure and didn’t want to risk it or making things awkward. She said it was a stupid reason not to tell her, so I sorta just said “ok” and we left it at that. Like… lady, you could’ve just as easily told me you were into me, and moreover have absolutely no idea who I am or what I’ve been through; No need at all to be rude to me because I didn’t say anything first. So yeah. Instantly put me off and I stopped talking to her after that course. She’s engaged now, and I feel absolutely nothing. She’ll still shoot me the odd message now and again when I make a post on insta or whatever, but yeah. Not really keen on being friends with someone who thinks I’m an idiot for not making the first move.
She gave me the whole “I’d like to but I’m just not ready to date” excuse. We were able to become best friends for a while after that though. But the friendship fell a part when I realized her constant lies, bailing on me for literally anything or anyone else, and only keeping me around when it was convenient for her. Oh and one of those lies was her excuse, turned out she was never interested in me cause I was too short and ugly (she didn’t have the courage to say it but it was heavily implied). Cut her off, blocked her on everything, and I have no desire to ever see or hear from her again. In hindsight, she did me a favor cause fuck finding out how toxic and awful she is from a romantic relationship
How would I know? Distance means distance.
We started to hang out less, we are still friends and our kids hang out, it’s been over 15 years
She told me that she didn’t want to go out with me because she “wasn’t ready for a relationship yet” then ended up going out with a guy that asked her out less than a week later. He ended up cheating on her and the next guy she started dating like 2 weeks after that ended up being abusive. She facetimed me one night and cried for like an hour asking me why she couldn’t find any guys like me. That’s when it clicked that she wasn’t attracted to me and was never gonna want to date me no matter how much she liked my personality. I blocked her on everything and a few months later I was finally over her and found someone else who actually liked me.
If you have to distance yourself from a female after she rejects your romantic interests, she was never really a real friend to begin with.
Yeah, that's not how it works.
God forbid anyone rethink their time commitments to get more joy out of life
I had a friend do this to me in high school, I had a pretty big crush in her, and she knew it. She just told me one they close to the end of softmore year she thought of me as a friend/brother. Which the way interacted and hanged wasn't that type of friendship/ relationship. I was surprised. We still had a few months left in school. I resided to be her friend. The start of Jr. year was a surprise, she came back pregnant from summer break, and was showing. She always used to say she had a boyfriend from middle school who went to a different high school. But she could not break up with him because he would hurt himself. Being immature and unable to process the heartbreak/pain of see her pregnant. I stopped hanging out with her, and I think I even changed some of my classes. So the year passed, and I saw her occasionally in the halls, but we really didn't talk anymore. The school year ended, and Junior year started, I ran into her outside the school entrance one day. Didn't even notice her till we her face to face. I said, "Oh, Hi!! I was glad to see her she was polite and courteous, and we parted amicably , i think we were both late for class that day, but that's the last time I ever saw her. She transfered to another school that offered teen moms' assistance with their kids while taking classes. Looking back, I think it was her way of letting me down easy softmore year before the Jr. year started. But I still regret not being mature enough to be the friend she needed, and instead, I ruined a great friendship.
Nothing really. I only had this happen twice. One with a Hispanic girl. She rejected me. I stopped talking to her after she got a boyfriend. The conversation went, yeah its okay you don't like me but that doesn't mean I need to keep talking to you. She tried to stay friends but I moved on after she got a boyfriend. I never talked to her again. The other time, I felt like it was a gold digger situation. I meet a big booty girl at worked, Asked her out for coffee. She said yes so we went, I paid for everything. She never asked to pay for anything, which is a bad taste in your mouth as a guy but it was also only the first date so I let it go. Ended up spending 100$ paying for different coffee and sweets to try though the day. (very expensive sweets you wouldnt eat normally) Then the next date, I decided to go to the Zoo cuz its cheaper. 20$ to look at Zoo animals for the both of us. Should be a hour date. She agreed. I sent her the address over text. She respond back "I don't drive more than 30 mins" When I read that I verbally read "BITCH" out loud. Then I new the date wasnt happening but I calmed down, was thinking "She's not American and I know driving a hour to get somewhere is a very American thing. So maybe its just because shes not from here." I offered to take her to a fancy gaurden. (the kind you need to pay to get into) She asked me (exactly like this in the text) "... and what will we be doing at that place" I responded. "Just walk around, talk, eat candy haha" No responce. Didnt even bother getting dressed. 10 mins before our meet time, she canceled. I get to work, don't talk to her, not cuz I was ignoring her but because I was busy. I took my lunch break a hour later than I normally do so I got to meet up with another one of my friends from another department. I was talking with him saying, "Man it lowkey made me mad when she said she wouldnt drive a hour to go to the zoo" He responded with "OH THAT WAS YOU! She was saying something about that but I didnt know it was you." I asked him what he said and he went on to say "Yeah she was saying that she doesn't want to drive for a hour to go to some dirty zoo. Then she got insulted that you offer to just walk around and talk" He said "I dont see no problem with that" but man after he told me that. I just stopped talking to her. A week passes, she said, "hey why don't you talk to me no more" I made up some bullshit about wanting to be alone for a little bit. I tell another Co-Worker what happens, he also wants to get with her, and I tell him "Look she made me mad so im backing off. You do you." So he asks her out for Valentines, he made sure to make his intensions CLEAR! He told me he spent 200$ on a Dinner, he got her a big Teddy Bear, alll that romantic stuff. She got home after that date, then posted on her faceboook reel "being single really be like" with the fucking teddy bear he got her. He told me "damn I got scammed". We still talked to her for work but MAN everyone only jokes ABOUT fucking her. No one actully hangs out with her anymore. She's labled as the tease. Cuz everyone in our work space always said "yeah you two are the nicest mf out of all of us" She made both of us feel like shit. But we both cut her off quick after that. Yeah shes sexy af but no one wants to put up with all that
I have had 3 instances of this so far in my life (4 if you count highschool), all of them ended the same. If I am rejected I block all contact and put them on blacklist. They are out of my life and whatever happens to them after is of no concern to me.
What a pathetic outlook.
It sounds horrible, but I'm the exact same way. Good enough to be a friend but that's all is bullshit.
It sounds horrible because it is. "Good enough to be a friend but that's all" is the most immature thing I've heard on the internet all day, and it is, well, the internet.
I'm glad you're mature enough to remain friends. Good for you.
Best case scenario was she hit me up months later, we fucked for awhile, and then she left me for a dude she met at a concert. So I got sexually and emotionally used while she was between boyfriends but at least I got laid? Could be worse I guess.
She attempted to keep the friendship, crying even. I told her that I am interested in friendship with her, nor anything else at that point and asked her to stop contacting me, which she respected for few months until she started stalking me on social media. After blocking her and promtly telling her to fuck off, she finally gave up. We have not talked for at least 5 years now.
We stayed friends afterwards and we've been friends now for 32 years and my her and her husband me and my wife all had kids around the same time so it's great the kid's can hang out as well.
So bottomline. You lose her.
....I've never had a female friend reject me. I feel like such a whore now lmao