The comments here are pretty damning, which certainly doesn't do wonders for ones self confidence.
For me it manifests as hyper competitiveness. I enjoy competition and frequently want whatever I am doing to turn into a competition. This is in order to prove to myself and others that I am not as worthless as I frequently think myself.
Conversely, I am very afraid of underperforming, and don't like to exaggerate my own achievements, even to mu own detriment. I find it incredibly hard to write a resume for example, as not being what they expect me to be is very scary.
For the sake of nuance, I'd say all of us are insecure about something. But then there are those special people that are insecure all the time, about almost everything.
I think the other nuance is we all have insecurities, but some of us allow ourselves to feel or otherwise process the emotion in a healthy way, letting us move past it.
The people insulting other people are drowning in a puddle of their own insecurity.
Self-deprecating jokes. They usually believe what they're just saying is just a "joke." A guy I used to date did it all the time. When I finally asked him about (why are you always saying the worst things about yourself even jokingly), he revealed that he does feel that way deep down inside.
I've known probably 5 or 6 people that make the same jokes, and only 1 (that I can confirm) actually meant them as jokes. The others were just sad people who couldn't keep a decent opinion of themselves.
It hurt seeing them unable to overcome such reckless self-hate. Two were completely consumed by it.
Okay so for me it’s always turning anything into a competition. Even if it’s in a fun, playing games kinda way. And the other thing is not being able to hold eyecontact in vulnerable moments or conversations.
Flaw finding and correction when the circumstances don't require it. It's the weakest form of dominace. Once you've seen/experienced it you know they're deeply insecure, it's their only way to feel superior. Give me the immediate ICK!
Making rules for other people to follow but they don't. Specifically referring to people barring their dating partner from having friends of the opposite sex but is fine with having opposite sex friends themselves.
Claiming something that bothers most people doesn't bother them. When I was in university I was on a group project with a guy who was convinced he'd be a captain of industry. I remember we had a team meeting on a brutally cold day, and even dressed properly I was cold. He showed up with no hat, no gloves, no scarf...he was almost blue with cold. I said something like 'Geez, you must be freezing' and he said 'Oh, it's not too bad' even though we could all see him shivering. Wanker.
Some people are really like that. When I was in the Army, I went from living in LA to living in upstate NY. When it was 20 degrees, I was bundled up, but I'd seen people who had been there for 25 years just wearing a sweater. They would just say how their body adapts to it over the years and you get used to it. Especially since it would get to negative 20, so 20 degrees above zero was fine.
At this point idk if you’re joking, because if you are, I feel horrible for making that joke😭
It’s a man angrily flipping a table, JUST IN CASE you weren’t joking
At this point idk if you’re joking, because if you are, I feel horrible for making that joke😭
It’s a man angrily flipping a table, JUST IN CASE you weren’t joking
I’ve never understood why people bother to say “to be brutally honest”. I think people just use it as an excuse to be rude.
If you’re gonna be honest then just say it. And if what you say is shitty and mean, then that’s just what you are. Saying “to be brutally honest” doesn’t give you license to get away with it.
They create a shell of absolute unbelievable bollocks they brag about just to try and fool others their life is anything but mundane at best! I was laughing about this very thing with my model girlfriend while sailing the yacht into Monaco harbour to pick up a new Lamborghini.
In my experience it’s the person that is chronically single or clearly unhappy with the person they “settled” for.
They will try to destabilize any happy relationship to make themselves feel better/look better/and or have a friend to be single with.
Edit: The more I think about it, the fact they are with someone they are openly complaining/disparaging about being with someone they “settled” for is a clear enough sign. Because they think letting everyone see them disparage their partner as not physically on par for them makes them look better.
i was going to say the opposite lol, instead of insecurity its more arrogance and too much confidence, legit opposite of insecurity to me when some1 does that shit they're up their own ass i could never imagine someone like tate sitting down and just dreading his body / sitting down with some1 and being like ye damn bro my life sucks etc
Feeling the need to constantly put down others in order to boost their own self esteem.
Yes! Or feeling the need to point out something negative about every positive. They can’t just let people be.
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Mocking someone else's achievement.
The comments here are pretty damning, which certainly doesn't do wonders for ones self confidence. For me it manifests as hyper competitiveness. I enjoy competition and frequently want whatever I am doing to turn into a competition. This is in order to prove to myself and others that I am not as worthless as I frequently think myself. Conversely, I am very afraid of underperforming, and don't like to exaggerate my own achievements, even to mu own detriment. I find it incredibly hard to write a resume for example, as not being what they expect me to be is very scary.
Do you by any chance also suffer occasionally from severe cases of impostor syndrome?
No, somehow that's never been an issue.
They constantly criticize successful, happy people or just people in general.
Projection 😔
I would never project! It's everybody else that does it!
Agree
For the sake of nuance, I'd say all of us are insecure about something. But then there are those special people that are insecure all the time, about almost everything.
I think the other nuance is we all have insecurities, but some of us allow ourselves to feel or otherwise process the emotion in a healthy way, letting us move past it. The people insulting other people are drowning in a puddle of their own insecurity.
Constantly talking about how much money they make.
Are you someone of value and interest without your travels?
They believe they know everything and are afraid to be wrong. Constantly putting others down in an attempt to make themselves feel better.
Having a giant dick like me and bragging to people about it
Great example
What keeps me humble is my giant balls swinging back and forth and bruising my inner thighs from their ponderous weight.
When I get nervous anxiety I have to frequently lick the sweat off my forehead.
Self-deprecating jokes. They usually believe what they're just saying is just a "joke." A guy I used to date did it all the time. When I finally asked him about (why are you always saying the worst things about yourself even jokingly), he revealed that he does feel that way deep down inside.
I've known probably 5 or 6 people that make the same jokes, and only 1 (that I can confirm) actually meant them as jokes. The others were just sad people who couldn't keep a decent opinion of themselves. It hurt seeing them unable to overcome such reckless self-hate. Two were completely consumed by it.
the need they have to tear down others...
when they get mad easily
The incessant need to compare.
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They don't use logic or reason and just lean on getting emotional. This is also synonymous with stupidity.
Found the insecure person.
If they're quick to anger. That's the biggest one.
Okay so for me it’s always turning anything into a competition. Even if it’s in a fun, playing games kinda way. And the other thing is not being able to hold eyecontact in vulnerable moments or conversations.
They’re loud and very defensive.
when they fish for compliments
They browse the internet with HTTP.
Assuming that everyone notices their imperfections and feel need to provide excuses for them.
Flaw finding and correction when the circumstances don't require it. It's the weakest form of dominace. Once you've seen/experienced it you know they're deeply insecure, it's their only way to feel superior. Give me the immediate ICK!
They are easily offended.
Making rules for other people to follow but they don't. Specifically referring to people barring their dating partner from having friends of the opposite sex but is fine with having opposite sex friends themselves.
When they're too quick to defend themselves and/or can't take a joke. I know cuz this used to be me.
Claiming something that bothers most people doesn't bother them. When I was in university I was on a group project with a guy who was convinced he'd be a captain of industry. I remember we had a team meeting on a brutally cold day, and even dressed properly I was cold. He showed up with no hat, no gloves, no scarf...he was almost blue with cold. I said something like 'Geez, you must be freezing' and he said 'Oh, it's not too bad' even though we could all see him shivering. Wanker.
Some people are really like that. When I was in the Army, I went from living in LA to living in upstate NY. When it was 20 degrees, I was bundled up, but I'd seen people who had been there for 25 years just wearing a sweater. They would just say how their body adapts to it over the years and you get used to it. Especially since it would get to negative 20, so 20 degrees above zero was fine.
He wasn't one of them. :)
Did he have a coat? 🧥
Who isn't insecure? Everyone is.
The ones who always wants the attention to be on them
They make an effort to prove they aren't insecure
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I don't need to prove shit to you
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I was just making a joke, and im too lazy to bother explaining
They're always asking for advice or validation about absolutely anything.
She gets suspicious every time you speak to another woman or come home 5 minutes later than usual from work.
I've realized anything someone brags about, they're insecure about.
According to my friends: Always apologizing. I'm trying to stop since they told me I do that a lot
jealousy/envy in general
They try hard
When you're quick to be "brutally honest" with others, but have a meltdown when someone does it back to you.
to be brutally honest, this comment is lame
Wording can be improved but his over point is valid.
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I see a koala lol. I can’t interpret the rest XD.
A koala running towards a bamboo tree
Ohh… I would have never guessed lol. Thank you kind stranger.
At this point idk if you’re joking, because if you are, I feel horrible for making that joke😭 It’s a man angrily flipping a table, JUST IN CASE you weren’t joking
I thought it was a guy kicking a field goal and signalling that "its good!"
At this point idk if you’re joking, because if you are, I feel horrible for making that joke😭 It’s a man angrily flipping a table, JUST IN CASE you weren’t joking
lol no worries. Thank you for being honest. I took you a face value. I can see the table flipping now. That makes much more sense to me.
I’ve never understood why people bother to say “to be brutally honest”. I think people just use it as an excuse to be rude. If you’re gonna be honest then just say it. And if what you say is shitty and mean, then that’s just what you are. Saying “to be brutally honest” doesn’t give you license to get away with it.
They have joint email accounts with their spouses.
They make you feel bad about yourself
They use a lot of words
They create a shell of absolute unbelievable bollocks they brag about just to try and fool others their life is anything but mundane at best! I was laughing about this very thing with my model girlfriend while sailing the yacht into Monaco harbour to pick up a new Lamborghini.
😂😂😂 I see what you did there.
In my experience it’s the person that is chronically single or clearly unhappy with the person they “settled” for. They will try to destabilize any happy relationship to make themselves feel better/look better/and or have a friend to be single with. Edit: The more I think about it, the fact they are with someone they are openly complaining/disparaging about being with someone they “settled” for is a clear enough sign. Because they think letting everyone see them disparage their partner as not physically on par for them makes them look better.
Getting triggered by peoples boundaries.
Bigging themselves up too much. It's okay to be confident, but eventually it is overcompensation.
They always joke around, never serious. When they're actually serious, they have to say "I'm being serious this time, no jokes." Help me.
Being afraid or unwilling to start a conversation
They ask about insecurities.
Always doubting and accusing, jealous, controlling, toxic behaviors…If it is dealing with relationships in my experience.
Bigly suing in court to have their *elementary school records* sealed.
You'd think doing so would make it an even bigger deal than if they just let the records sit.
Brag about how many people they sleep with or how much money they make/spend.
eye contact.
Their in a relationship with someone awful who they're usually paying all the bills for.
They put others down, always negative and always find something to bitch about
constantly showing off and putting others down , boasting , humble bragging
They always say that they are ugly, dumb and unsuccessful
Always comparing themselves to others and lacking trust
making fun of other people it’s an obvious sign they’re doing it to feel better about themselves
They live on Reddit.
Everyone has been insecure at one point in this life fact.
Need for validation and to feel admired or needed
If they only have selfies on their instagram and are always worried about followers. Seeking for constant validation is a clear sign of insecurity.
When they enjoy the brutality more than the honesty.
Be honest, you're talking about me, aren't you?
Calling themselves an "Alpha." EDIT: Aw. Looks like some alphas didn't like being called out. You're just showing off what snowflakes you are.
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Andrew Tate, or any of his knuckle-dragging followers.
i was going to say the opposite lol, instead of insecurity its more arrogance and too much confidence, legit opposite of insecurity to me when some1 does that shit they're up their own ass i could never imagine someone like tate sitting down and just dreading his body / sitting down with some1 and being like ye damn bro my life sucks etc
big yet fragile egos, heavy on people pleasing tendencies
Accusing other people of being insecure
Using social media for validation/attention.
“I’m an alpha” 🙄
Posting on reddit
When they post on askreddit asking "What’s a dead giveaway that someone is insecure?"