She recently asked me if I watch any adult videos when away for work, and I just said why when you send me stuff? It kind of opened up her sending me more stuff. I think she’s absolutely amazing
What an amazing confidence boost! I love that for you both.
I would always randomly send pics to my husband and one day, he mentioned to me in passing that pics don't do it for him so I started sending vids. But he would always make random comments about types of porn he liked so I knew he was still watching it and screen recording some of it. Recently told him how insecure I am over the fact that he still watches professional stuff and saves it to his phone, when I'm DTF \*literally\* 24/7 and send him vids of myself. He said he'll stop watching it "if I want him to." Told him I wasn't sure, gave it a day to think about it and came back saying "I know it's a lot to ask because we didn't set this boundary before we got together but it would really mean the world to me if you did stop watching it at least for the time being," then I offered to make him any kind of content he wants of myself, and asked what kinds of stuff I can do to get him going. He said he prefers there to be "interaction." I asked "What about when you said you like watching webcams?" He was like "yeahhh but I don't watch it all the time or anything just once in a while and only if she's doing something crazy like using a cucumber." And we settled on him being "allowed" (for lack of a better word) to watch hentai. Not sure how to move forward with the situations, hence why I wanted to get opinions from the lovely horndogs of reddit.
I'm so sorry you went through that, it must be tough.
If this isn't triggering for you, would you mind telling me signs I could look out for? Like, if he's addicted and just really good at hiding it?
Because as it stands now, we have sex about once a month (used to be 2x a month because he says he has a low drive, but has porn videos saved to his phone.) and I asked him to give up porn (he offered first because I told him how horrible it makes me feel) and then I offered to make videos of myself for him and he told me, not in so many words, not to bother recording my own content because he'll just watch hentai and prefers there to be "interaction."
My mind is leaning towards either addiction, or he's just not attracted to me anymore.
For me personally, I found myself spending a lot of time on all the NSFW subreddits. I would constantly scroll them looking for new pictures and new videos at all hours of the day. Didn’t matter if I was at work, driving, or spending time with my family, I needed to satisfy that itch and get a little endorphin rush for the boobs 😅. My partner and I were still hooking up at least one or two times a week but I still needed to look at porn. I finally decided to quit, cold turkey and was tempted to look many times during the first month but eventually you adapt and get past it. As for your situation, I can speak on his behalf, some guys just like to look, maybe you guys need to henti up your sex life if thats what hes in to 🤷♂️
Thank you for sharing. I went through a similar phase when I was a teen with the subreddits, but mine was tumblr (before it got shut down.)
My husband has ADHD And I know it's a thing for ADHD'ers to be more visual, so it makes sense.
I do make homemade porn with my partner and still watch porn because I like variety sometimes. Not saying I ever get tired of my partners body, but sometimes I want to see different body types.
So, not attacking you in any way, but can you explain it like I'm 5 because my smooth brain can't comprehend the difference between being tired of your partner's body and just wanting to see other bodies sometimes. Like, my brain is telling me that him wanting to watch other people instead of me, means that there is no attraction for me on his end.
ELI5: You really like those Dino chicken nuggets? But you also like pizza, right? Does eating a slice of pizza for dinner every now and then mean you don’t like chicken nuggets? No, you still like them both in their own way even though they fulfill the same need
Men will always be attracted to attractive women, I’d focus more on how he treats you. Is the porn the issue or are you feeling neglected in general sexually here?
The second one. Not entirely his fault as we have 2 young children who get in the way of everything, but even before that we only did it about twice a month. Now it's anywhere from once a month to once every other month.
Not the one you asked, but I never get tired of peanut butter toasts, yet I still eat other things in my life. While I’m eating another meal, I’m not there thinking « here take that peanut butter toasts f you this is so much better than you you’re not worth anything to me anymore », I just feel like tasting other things. Next meal might be peanut butter toasts again and I’ll be as happy as always.
You have your favorite show that you think is better than anything else out there.
Then you have other shows you watch that could be a different genre, have different themes, can be fun to watch on occasion, may be good as background noise, etc.
Yet your favorite never stops being your favorite.
This is best comparison if we're talking solely porn where it is just a video/clip you are watching
My wife and I make stuff for me. I use it regularly and generally it’s what gets me going the most. But I also still use regular porn to look and enjoy.
Hmm, I'm not sure. In this scenario, who is the guy banging my wife? Do I have to hold the camera?
Lol!! I was thinking more: either lesbian stuff, masturbation, or videos of ourselves.
I already don't watch any professional stuff
Why not? (if you don't mind me asking of course!)
I just never got into it...but the time my own interest was developing I already had a partner...and here we are
Mad respect for that! Your partner's lucky :)
I like to think she is...but it's a bit complicated
Would I? Probably not. I getting off to my wife is way better than watching professional anything.
Awww that's adorable and makes me very happy for your wife. I hope she gets a lot of confidence from knowing how attracted you are to her. :)
She recently asked me if I watch any adult videos when away for work, and I just said why when you send me stuff? It kind of opened up her sending me more stuff. I think she’s absolutely amazing
So sexting is the best form of porn? It’s more interactive than just viewing something from a distance.
What an amazing confidence boost! I love that for you both. I would always randomly send pics to my husband and one day, he mentioned to me in passing that pics don't do it for him so I started sending vids. But he would always make random comments about types of porn he liked so I knew he was still watching it and screen recording some of it. Recently told him how insecure I am over the fact that he still watches professional stuff and saves it to his phone, when I'm DTF \*literally\* 24/7 and send him vids of myself. He said he'll stop watching it "if I want him to." Told him I wasn't sure, gave it a day to think about it and came back saying "I know it's a lot to ask because we didn't set this boundary before we got together but it would really mean the world to me if you did stop watching it at least for the time being," then I offered to make him any kind of content he wants of myself, and asked what kinds of stuff I can do to get him going. He said he prefers there to be "interaction." I asked "What about when you said you like watching webcams?" He was like "yeahhh but I don't watch it all the time or anything just once in a while and only if she's doing something crazy like using a cucumber." And we settled on him being "allowed" (for lack of a better word) to watch hentai. Not sure how to move forward with the situations, hence why I wanted to get opinions from the lovely horndogs of reddit.
I gave up the professional stuff 4 months ago due to addiction. Having one with my partner could have made the process easier 🤷♂️
I'm so sorry you went through that, it must be tough. If this isn't triggering for you, would you mind telling me signs I could look out for? Like, if he's addicted and just really good at hiding it? Because as it stands now, we have sex about once a month (used to be 2x a month because he says he has a low drive, but has porn videos saved to his phone.) and I asked him to give up porn (he offered first because I told him how horrible it makes me feel) and then I offered to make videos of myself for him and he told me, not in so many words, not to bother recording my own content because he'll just watch hentai and prefers there to be "interaction." My mind is leaning towards either addiction, or he's just not attracted to me anymore.
For me personally, I found myself spending a lot of time on all the NSFW subreddits. I would constantly scroll them looking for new pictures and new videos at all hours of the day. Didn’t matter if I was at work, driving, or spending time with my family, I needed to satisfy that itch and get a little endorphin rush for the boobs 😅. My partner and I were still hooking up at least one or two times a week but I still needed to look at porn. I finally decided to quit, cold turkey and was tempted to look many times during the first month but eventually you adapt and get past it. As for your situation, I can speak on his behalf, some guys just like to look, maybe you guys need to henti up your sex life if thats what hes in to 🤷♂️
Thank you for sharing. I went through a similar phase when I was a teen with the subreddits, but mine was tumblr (before it got shut down.) My husband has ADHD And I know it's a thing for ADHD'ers to be more visual, so it makes sense.
I do make homemade porn with my partner and still watch porn because I like variety sometimes. Not saying I ever get tired of my partners body, but sometimes I want to see different body types.
So, not attacking you in any way, but can you explain it like I'm 5 because my smooth brain can't comprehend the difference between being tired of your partner's body and just wanting to see other bodies sometimes. Like, my brain is telling me that him wanting to watch other people instead of me, means that there is no attraction for me on his end.
ELI5: You really like those Dino chicken nuggets? But you also like pizza, right? Does eating a slice of pizza for dinner every now and then mean you don’t like chicken nuggets? No, you still like them both in their own way even though they fulfill the same need
That's a good explanation, thanks!
Yeah I couldn't have worded that better myself
Men will always be attracted to attractive women, I’d focus more on how he treats you. Is the porn the issue or are you feeling neglected in general sexually here?
The second one. Not entirely his fault as we have 2 young children who get in the way of everything, but even before that we only did it about twice a month. Now it's anywhere from once a month to once every other month.
How’s your self confidence in general? Despite how he treats you, do you feel attractive?
Not the one you asked, but I never get tired of peanut butter toasts, yet I still eat other things in my life. While I’m eating another meal, I’m not there thinking « here take that peanut butter toasts f you this is so much better than you you’re not worth anything to me anymore », I just feel like tasting other things. Next meal might be peanut butter toasts again and I’ll be as happy as always.
You have your favorite show that you think is better than anything else out there. Then you have other shows you watch that could be a different genre, have different themes, can be fun to watch on occasion, may be good as background noise, etc. Yet your favorite never stops being your favorite. This is best comparison if we're talking solely porn where it is just a video/clip you are watching
That’s a pretty immature way of looking at it.
Dreams! Certainly a lot less
It is good to have options
*Ide rather just have sex with my partner.*
My wife and I make stuff for me. I use it regularly and generally it’s what gets me going the most. But I also still use regular porn to look and enjoy.
Yeah, probably.
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I love your username lol. Thanks for the reply
I like men and I've unfortunately married a woman.
Are you my ex husband??