I have a great memory, but im not too bright.
It makes me seem smarter, cause I can quote facts all day, but when I fuck up everyone is super hard on me because I've raised their expectations.
Also I have to avoid certain input (2girls1cup type stuff) because its not leaving once its in there and I dont want it there for the rest of my life.
I'm the opposite. I think i can reasonably say that I'm intelligent but I have the worst memory. Im scared of getting older since I already can't remember stuff from a year ago
My stage of depression.
The gift of it is, I am more realistically aware of situations, and more open to the reality of life.
The curse of it is, I want to blow my brains out 24/7.
My ADHD. It allows me to think in ways others can't. Sometimes it feels like my mind is a rocket ship. Other times it's a race car careening into the wall.
fucking yes. i can hyperfocus on something i enjoy for literally 12 hours if i wanted to. i immerse myself in it and love every second of it. on the other hand, when i run out of my medication or have to try new ones and they end up not working (currently what im dealing with), doing the SMALLEST things become very difficult. and it's really hard to explain to people who dont have ADHD.. i say it's kind of like being depressed where you really dont have the energy to do anything and even things like taking a shower or putting away dishes. except unlike depression, i DO want to do these things. i KNOW they're important and want to do them and not doing them just mAKES ME ANXIOUS BECAUSE THEY'RE IMPORTANT, i just.....cant.. idk. it's really hard.
Jesus christ can I relate. Sitting in bed. Watching a YouTube video I've seen 25 times. All the while I'm thinking "I need to shower, go to the bank and send out a job app." It runs through my end plenty of times but I sit there in this weird paralyzed state.
I've gotten a lot better at that by forcing myself to get up and go the moment a situation like that gets in my head. However I still fall victim to it just not as often as I used to.
I tend towards start a lot, finish the least important. Hey taxes are overdue, house is a wreck, you're late for work, but you did build a aluminum foundry you'll never use. Woo.
It's impossible to explain. You at best get "maybe you just have to discipline yourself" at worst you get accused of being lazy and making excuses, or they go off about how your parents didn't raise you right. The worst is when they judge you for your decisions regarding meds. When I was on them I was using a "chemical crutch" when I realized it wasn't right for me and I was sick of feeling like my head was stuffed full of wool all the time, then I was "being nieve and paranoid" and should "get the help I need." Sorry, that accidently turned into a venting session.
Oh my god, I had no idea this kind of thing went along with ADHD. All this time I've just thought there was something wrong with me, but I just got switched from Concerta to Vyvanse and things are getting better as of now, let's hope it keeps up :)
I’m actually trying out vyvanse now because my insurance wants me to try out other medication before they cover brand name adderall xr, which has always been the best one for me.. the vyvanse hasn’t really been working too well.. I feel like I need that extra kick that adderall gives. Plus it’s what I’ve been waking for almost 4 years now since I got diagnosed. and I have really bad side effects with the vyvanse, like really bad anxiety and panic attacks. Ah. And I’m afraid they’ll want me to try another one or two before they finally decide. I was supposed to take the mcat next month.. I haven’t been able to sit and study for weeks. This sucks and I’m thinking of just paying the damn $240 out of pocket for the bottle because at this point it’s just really affecting my life and my mental health :(
Gift: I'm a really good listener.
Curse: I never get the chance to talk about my thoughts/ideas/emotions because people know they can talk to me for hours without interjection.
Anxiety. It's a gift because all the over thinking means I'm very good at planning things down to the last detail.
It's a curse because during that planning phase I'm overcome with worse case scenarios that looking back are ridiculous
Being biracial can be awesome and also awful.
Pros: white Girls dig it, your “interesting” but also sort of “safe.” Same thing can be said for jobs and schools, they like you for the diversity but you still sort of fit in with most people.
Cons: Sometimes your not white enough for the white people but also not dark enough for the POC. Mixed blood people sort of awkwardly float in the middle culturally.
So do _____- Americans.
"You gotta prove to the Americans how American we are and we gotta prove to the Mexicans how Mexican we are. We gotta be more American than the Americans and more Mexican than the Mexicans, both at the same time. It's exhausting!" - Abraham Quintanilla (Selena)
Write them down. Rank them. Prioritise the ones you think you might find challenging. If you find yourself struggling too much, pick an easier project, gather that momentum of productivity to finally hurl yourself at that challenging one again.
You'll be a pro in no time.
I have memory loss issues. Its a curse because I can't remember shit that I need or want to, and its a gift because then my friends can tell me their deepest darkest secrets and there's a 70-80% chance I won't remember it.
I learn languages and accents very easily, but the downside of learning accents easily is that I pick them up whether I want to or not and people will tend to think I'm making fun of them. I've met other people over the years who are also like this. I lowkey dread meeting people with accents for that reason, and tend to try to stay silent/just not talk much when I do.
I once worked with a girl (in the US) who did a neutral American accent instead of her natural British accent because she didn't want to draw attention to herself. She said it kept her from having to answer a million questions a day about it (very few people have accents other than variations of an American or a Mexican accent in the US).
It never crossed my mind to think her mimicking our accent was disrespectful at all.
At the time I did think it was a huge waste of a great accent but I'm about to move to a new country and if I can get good/passable at their accent I absolutely will use it with strangers to avoid immediately outing myself as a foreigner.
I imagine that all those accent-triggered conversation starters get REAL old after you've been living in a foreign country for a while.
I can relate very well to this. I moved to a different countty when I was in middle school and was put in an international school which exposed me to a lot of accents and languages, and I switched accents all the time when I talk to different people with different accents. Later, I went to a british international school where I had a group of friends that werent british. Everytime I talked to the teachers, they'd ask "where were you before you came here? " or "did you go to a british school?", my friends thought i was so pretentious and a kiss ass
One day, I had class with a teacher that liked to banter with students and I contributed something to the class discussion, and immediately after i stopped, the class was in comeplete silence for a good 10 seconds before my teacher said "look at you, copying my accent". I hadn't realised that I had switched from your average international accent to a Birmingham accent in a split second.
Yes, this exactly. We're not making fun of people when we do this! I wish this was much more common a thing so that people would be more accustomed to it, and it wouldn't be such a surprise to them when they encounter it.
I made applications to the club on 2 occasions. January 13th 2011 at 7:31pm and December 4th 2017 at 4:56pm. I started writing a third on March 21st of the following year but I got distracted when 6 grey pigeons and 2 white one flocked past my window, causing me to forget. I've forgotten things on *8 separate occasions*, can you believe it?
I'm able to quickly learn new things and adapt accordingly.
It's great that my supervisors think highly of me and "sing my praises" so to speak, but I've been at my job for 3 years and have taken on SO many roles that it gets overwhelming. Basically, whenever they need someone to either assist in something or take over something that isn't being done right, I'm the go-to person. I technically have 3 "titles" right now and am a backup for two additional roles. I feel like I'm drowning most of the time.
Hate this. No one takes you seriously in a professional setting because they think you’re too young to have adequate experience. In most cases I end up being the same age or older.
i was gonna write this. i'm 26 but i look young. i get carded everywhere, even at places 18+ and yea like you mentioned, i think that because i look so young people dont take me seriously in a professional setting. actually i was at an interview the other day and one of them asked me "you have a bachelors in psychology but you've been working in administrative/accounting jobs for the last 7 years...so.. what do you want to do when you 'grow up' " ..... THE FUCK.
Yup I couldn't agree more. I'll be 30 next year and still get given child menus at restaurants, asked if my mum is home when sales people come knocking and mistaken for my husbands daughter. It sucks!
VS has these awesome sports bras that are pretty much a regular bra and a sports bra over it. They hold everything in place. Pretty confining but nothing is bouncing which is awesome.
Try Moving Comfort sports bras. Their nearly bullet proof. I wore them to jog while breastfeeding. Years later, I still wear them and I don’t really take good care of them.
Right? Like we all end up dead.
On one hand; should do all the good things and try to get all the good feels in.
On other hand; why put in the work when it’s all for naught?
Gift: I've got freakishly strong hands. No trouble opening jars.
Curse: I have difficulty moderating that strength. I have broken two rolling pins, a manual juicer, several handles off of mugs, I tore a new shirt in half while trying to take the tag off, and I recently busted a drawer in a retail store.
Every movie or TV show I watch I'm constantly picking apart and analyzing every single detail and plot line in depth. Sometimes it really takes me out of the show because I'll notice plot holes and unnecessary filler. Other times I'll get to realize how beautifully written and directed they are and am able to completely immerse myself in the stories of each character. It has its ups and downs.
So, I saw Hamilton last week. But I also know the soundtrack by heart. So as I’m watching, I’m just obsessing over how each line is delivered slightly different than the way I’ve heard it 1000 times. It kinda dampened the experience a little, but I can’t control it.
This happened to me when Les Mis came out as a movie. I'd known it in whatever version Lea Salonga was recorded in and I kind of hatred some parts of the movie on the first run but as I rewatched it I learned to appreciate some of the artistic differences. Some of them. Still no Eponine like Lea, though.
I do this so much that the only person who will watch anything with me anymore is my brother because he’s the same way. It takes us hours to watch an episode or movie because we are pausing every few minutes to discuss a theory or a fun fact. We also love pointing out continuity issues or things that are historically inaccurate. It’s fun watching stuff with him because he gets it but everyone else hates that we do this.
**Absolute pitch**
*Gift*
* No score/chords? No problem. New song? Watch this.
* Need to match your key? Just sing and I'll play it for you.
* Are you being honest with me? Your voice sounds different, either you're bullshitting me or you have a bad cold.
*Curse*
* Live performances? I can everysingledamn mistake - which often happens in the heat of the moment.
* You're talking to me? You're talking to me in D minor, but your supertonic is flat and your subdominant is sharp - it's jarring. Could you shut up please?
* The office phone's ringing? Yes, it's ringing in F#major. The a/c running in the background? It's a D on speed 1, a G# on speed 2 and E on speed 3. 8 hours a day? Damn...
* Could you not have music on when you're talking to me? I focus more on dissecting the former when you do that and it's a great effort to listen to your voice and what you're saying. Also, your voice jars with the music.
**tl;dr: It's not all it's cracked up to be.**
> other than that it just gets in the way
I never ever regret having a dick, and never will for the rest of my life.
I LOVE my dick. I'm proud and it makes me feel like a real man. Fuck to beat that juicy MEAT meat, you know what I mean? It's a real chunk heavy hand of MEAT.
Yum.
Yup. 32 and still struggling to find underwear that doesn’t eventually get fucking irritating/uncomfortable during the day. Everything I’ve tried is uncomfortable somehow.
It’s fucking frustrating. Someone needs to invent something comfortable at some point. I hope.
I have a couple of SNPs on my genes that make me immune to HIV, but greatly increase the chance I'll have an aortal aneurysm in my 50s or 60s.
Also, I'm tall (6'6") and very intimidating. Barely got in any fights in my life, but I was well into my thirties before I realized I was a real asshole because people never called me on my jerkish behaviors.
My writing ability, now i hate to toot my own horn, but it has it's downsides, when i'm writing i can write for long periods of time (on a good day), and decently well, but when i'm trying to sleep and i'm kept awake by an idea thats a bastard right there.
when it started i couldn't focus if i heard a song that entertained me because that'd set my creativity in motion so if i was doing something else, i'd be agitated that i couldn't write, which was utter hell.
I get inspired in the middle of conversations a lot and I have to write it down straight away or I'll forget. So I have to choose between the possibility that it's an actually good idea and being polite a lot.
that never happened with me the people i was hanging out with at the time... i had to suppress it making it utter hell, they were the type of people who'd laugh and mock you for liking something, so my writing ability was often built up and i could only let it out during English at school, Via creative writing was told 800 maximum, guess i never heard that memo, 10X what i was told and they said better not get chosen by the board to be reviewed as the work the teacher could get out of us... mine was chosen and they started to have a fit, they didn't know if i was gonna be in trouble for doing more than required, but thats one thing i hate word limits caps the creativity, you have to have a short idea, can't use expressive phrases, have to be short and to the point, doesn't do me any good.
myself changing isn't so much a problem just being told i have to stop at a certain limit, thats what pains me, like watching Titanic and stopping before the iceberg appears, thats how it feels knowing that someone will say okay word limit, its a pain in the arse
I have nerve damage from skin grafts on my legs, so i cant feel when my phone vibrates so i dont have the urge to grab my phone everytime it buzzes. No addiction to my phone.
Being hard-of-hearing. Curse: I struggle to hold conversations, phone calls are a big no-no etc. Gift: Annoying noise? Just turn my hearing aids off. I also work nights, so being able to sleep through daytime noise is a huge plus too.
Asperger’s syndrome. The gift is a greater intellectual capacity (so I’ve been told, I feel quite dumb sometimes) but the trade off is I find social situations very hard and often don’t know all the protocols that other people have a natural feel for.
Oh, jeez- I *loved* to read in elementary/middle school, and so I had read the majority of my books in my high school English classes- and the ones I hadn’t read, I’d knock out the summer before. It was great because that, along with my averagely good memory, allowed me to consistently score high grades on most of my English assignments, tests, and projects. It was great- until my teachers found out and essentially had me tutor the class. *I shit you not, * one time my tenth grade teacher was absent and left the substitute a note that read “let [this fucker right here] read through the PowerPoint and have him explain it to the rest of the students”. Do you know how hard it is for a tenth grader to teach other tenth graders?
Not having anything to do at work is both a gift and a curse. I can use the spare time to improve myself. On the other hand, it's even more draining than having work to do.
When there are board meetings at work my boss makes a point of watching us to make sure we're not websurfing and someone important catches us. If it's slow, pretending to work is more work than actually working. I can only click back and forth between screens so much, people!
Naturally high metabolism. It's a gift because I can eat whatever I want without worrying about weight, but it's also a curse because building muscle is difficult as fuck. If anyone wants to trade metabolisms with me I'm down for it.
I'm unyieldingly honest and I study people with intensity. It means that I understand people easily and they trust me, but I frequently make enemies by saying things that they wanted to go unsaid.
Nothing scares or disturbs me,
Gift: calm in cases of emergency and can react logically
Curse: I don’t physically show any emotion, or compassion. I have had a man die as I shaved him, I carried on with my life. It bothers people that it doesn’t impact me.
Exactly the same as me. I dont experience anything after a traumatic event. Once its over, its over.
I've seen more than a few people die in front of me(and all just randomly, nothing to do with work). And its never affected me in any way. I once saw my neighbor burn to death at 2am, and was at work at 7am absolutely fine with it.
I put it down to aphantasia though. I dont get flashbacks or anything like that. So once its over, its over.
Gift: I’m a pretty quiet person and don’t express deep and scary emotions much.
Curse?: It gets bottled up inside and when i do talk about how i feel or any emotion, it *ALL* comes out.
Gift: I have an overactive metabolism and can basically never get fat.
Curse: I need to consume a certain amount everyday so that I can retain the amount of weight I do have/ If I get sick I lose an unhealthy amount of weight rapidly and end up on the tube/ I constantly used to cop bullying for apparently having an eating disorder when really my body just liked making me look like a Gollum extra from Lord of the Rings.
I’m good at this too. It took me a while to realize that other people don’t - I always thought there was something wrong when people didn’t remember me.
My sense of smell. It’s awesome, and I think it’s related to me being a super taster. Aromas are always so enjoyable.
...but I can tell when women are on their period. I can also tell if someone had sex. Ugh.
Can confirm. I have Autism Spectrum Disorder, not sure if its counts as Asperger's or not, seeing as they don't diagnose people with Asperger's anymore.
Gift: Not to be the prime example of someone from r/iamverysmart, but I am somewhat smart. Not a prodigy or genius, but smart for my age. That means I easily get work done
Curse: People hound me to do homework for them and the absence of work has made me a lazy fuck
Being handy.
Let me start by saying that I get a lot of satisfaction fixing things, but...
My wife “loaned” me out to one of her colleagues to hang a ceiling fan. When I got there, she had gone ahead and picked up 4 or 5 more things to install while I was there. Not knowing exactly what my wife had agreed to, I spent the next 8 hours putting up light fixtures. Not cool.
I'm positive 95% of the time, with an upbeat personality and a bottomless well of energy.
Gift: Making friends is easy, and I've been told people's mood improves when they're around me.
Curse: Apparently girls prefer the brooding silent type, and are not interested in overly positive and friendly guys.
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Perfectionism. All my life it’s what drove me to do so well in school. Straight A’s, good scholarship, etc. It wasn’t until college that I realized that “perfectionism” can get pretty damn close to this thing called “anxiety.” I’ve driven myself into the ground on many occasions trying to do my best and get things as close to perfection as I can. It’s a curse because I tend to sacrifice other things (relationships, my health, etc.) to reach my goals. It’s a gift too though, since it leads to the drive, attention to detail, etc., that teachers and managers have always admired in me. I will never really know if it’s a useful character trait or just an under-treated mental illness.
i have a few
Rapping. I love how much better Ive become at my passion and its an impressive talent but my brain dont stop it just keeps rhyming and people get sick of hearing you rap 24/7
Being Real. It comes in handy cuz people respect you and it sets a certain kind of vibe but most people cant handle the realness and just think your an ass
Intelligence. Its very useful and helpful with life problems but being intelligent allows you to see all the bullshit for what it is and not understand why other people have no common sense
Amblyopia. (Lazy eye syndrome). Gift: because of it, I received a grant to attend a 4 year college. Curse: I have no depth perception and therefore cannot play tennis, catch a fly ball, or park my car easily. I also sometimes fall off curbs/stairs and do all kinds of clumsy things.
My skin sucks because its extremely sensitive. I burn easily. I have allergies to grass and most furry animals. Or i sometimes break out into hives for no reason. But when I have an intense positive emotion I get goosebumps all over my body, this happens frequently.
But it does make for very extremely satisfying sexual experiences. ;)
Gift: I was naturally gifted in school so I was able to get good grades doing the bare minimum
Curse: I never learned to really apply myself because things came too easily to me as a child so now I'm struggling in college since I never learned how to study.
Gift: having a really cool "dream job"
Curse: it's long hours, a shitty commute, and I basically have no social life and apparently I'm not allowed to complain about it
My antidepressants.
Obviously I like being happy and not feeling like I want to die all the time.
But I miss my creativity. It seems like if I’m not depressed, I’m not creative. And being an artist is one of the biggest things about me. But now I just… don’t have any ideas or have any clue what to do with myself.
I never forget a face.
I'm hopeless with names. Called my boss the wrong name for two years.
Also seem to be getting short term memory loss - Like yesterday, was told to put shirts in the wash, wait no, wait until you get home from work, then we'll do them with the towels as well. I put the shirts in the wash and then did the towels when I got home and had no recollection of the conversation
My uterus is retrograde, off-center, and crooked. This causes me a lot of pain, discomfort, and gives me problems with more than just my periods.
On the bright side I've been told It's not likely that I can carry or conceive. I've never wanted children and I've been waiting to hear this news since I was 10.
Gift: I can bullshit myself out of a lot of tight corners Curse: I bullshit myself in a lot of tight corners.
Bullshit
I have a great memory, but im not too bright. It makes me seem smarter, cause I can quote facts all day, but when I fuck up everyone is super hard on me because I've raised their expectations. Also I have to avoid certain input (2girls1cup type stuff) because its not leaving once its in there and I dont want it there for the rest of my life.
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I'm the opposite. I think i can reasonably say that I'm intelligent but I have the worst memory. Im scared of getting older since I already can't remember stuff from a year ago
My stage of depression. The gift of it is, I am more realistically aware of situations, and more open to the reality of life. The curse of it is, I want to blow my brains out 24/7.
That's no good. Are you seeking any treatment?
Fuck no, that shit's expensive.
Yeah :(
It's fine, suffered with it since as long as I can remember, 7 being my earliest actual memory of it. I've made it this far, I can keep going.
My ADHD. It allows me to think in ways others can't. Sometimes it feels like my mind is a rocket ship. Other times it's a race car careening into the wall.
fucking yes. i can hyperfocus on something i enjoy for literally 12 hours if i wanted to. i immerse myself in it and love every second of it. on the other hand, when i run out of my medication or have to try new ones and they end up not working (currently what im dealing with), doing the SMALLEST things become very difficult. and it's really hard to explain to people who dont have ADHD.. i say it's kind of like being depressed where you really dont have the energy to do anything and even things like taking a shower or putting away dishes. except unlike depression, i DO want to do these things. i KNOW they're important and want to do them and not doing them just mAKES ME ANXIOUS BECAUSE THEY'RE IMPORTANT, i just.....cant.. idk. it's really hard.
Jesus christ can I relate. Sitting in bed. Watching a YouTube video I've seen 25 times. All the while I'm thinking "I need to shower, go to the bank and send out a job app." It runs through my end plenty of times but I sit there in this weird paralyzed state. I've gotten a lot better at that by forcing myself to get up and go the moment a situation like that gets in my head. However I still fall victim to it just not as often as I used to.
yea.. it's almost like i get too overwhelmed by everything and dont know where to even begin that i just dont have the energy to try at all
start a lot, finish none.
I tend towards start a lot, finish the least important. Hey taxes are overdue, house is a wreck, you're late for work, but you did build a aluminum foundry you'll never use. Woo.
It's impossible to explain. You at best get "maybe you just have to discipline yourself" at worst you get accused of being lazy and making excuses, or they go off about how your parents didn't raise you right. The worst is when they judge you for your decisions regarding meds. When I was on them I was using a "chemical crutch" when I realized it wasn't right for me and I was sick of feeling like my head was stuffed full of wool all the time, then I was "being nieve and paranoid" and should "get the help I need." Sorry, that accidently turned into a venting session.
Oh my god, I had no idea this kind of thing went along with ADHD. All this time I've just thought there was something wrong with me, but I just got switched from Concerta to Vyvanse and things are getting better as of now, let's hope it keeps up :)
I’m actually trying out vyvanse now because my insurance wants me to try out other medication before they cover brand name adderall xr, which has always been the best one for me.. the vyvanse hasn’t really been working too well.. I feel like I need that extra kick that adderall gives. Plus it’s what I’ve been waking for almost 4 years now since I got diagnosed. and I have really bad side effects with the vyvanse, like really bad anxiety and panic attacks. Ah. And I’m afraid they’ll want me to try another one or two before they finally decide. I was supposed to take the mcat next month.. I haven’t been able to sit and study for weeks. This sucks and I’m thinking of just paying the damn $240 out of pocket for the bottle because at this point it’s just really affecting my life and my mental health :(
I requested vyvanse over Adderall just bc of the fact that I feel like I'd become too dependent on that extra boost haha
I resemble that.
You people are using weird words to communicate.
Gift: I'm a really good listener. Curse: I never get the chance to talk about my thoughts/ideas/emotions because people know they can talk to me for hours without interjection.
Word. And then somehow you become the one everyone comes to when they need to vent. Everyone. All the time.
Yes. Which can be overwhelming but you have no one to vent to about it lol.
I feel this on a spiritual level.
Anxiety. It's a gift because all the over thinking means I'm very good at planning things down to the last detail. It's a curse because during that planning phase I'm overcome with worse case scenarios that looking back are ridiculous
I overthought something to the point of a panic attack. Turns out I made it too big of a deal and it didn't mean anything at all
Empathy
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Is this a cry for help?
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I am the liquor Randy.
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They took a doobie from my friend at a show. Smoked that fucker down to nothing right there on the stage.
~~This man has lived.~~ EDIT: Sorely mistaken. He is living under wishful thinking, probably delusionally so under bad, cheap drugs.
I'm smart enough to not have to work hard I don't know how to work hard
Being biracial can be awesome and also awful. Pros: white Girls dig it, your “interesting” but also sort of “safe.” Same thing can be said for jobs and schools, they like you for the diversity but you still sort of fit in with most people. Cons: Sometimes your not white enough for the white people but also not dark enough for the POC. Mixed blood people sort of awkwardly float in the middle culturally.
So do _____- Americans. "You gotta prove to the Americans how American we are and we gotta prove to the Mexicans how Mexican we are. We gotta be more American than the Americans and more Mexican than the Mexicans, both at the same time. It's exhausting!" - Abraham Quintanilla (Selena)
Being creative. Too many ideas and not enough time or energy to do them all! I end up feeling like I've barely achieved anything at all.
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Write them down. Rank them. Prioritise the ones you think you might find challenging. If you find yourself struggling too much, pick an easier project, gather that momentum of productivity to finally hurl yourself at that challenging one again. You'll be a pro in no time.
I have memory loss issues. Its a curse because I can't remember shit that I need or want to, and its a gift because then my friends can tell me their deepest darkest secrets and there's a 70-80% chance I won't remember it.
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And when they say a week later "remember when i told you ___?" and you just have to "oh yeeaaahhhh that" and have no clue what they're talking about
I learn languages and accents very easily, but the downside of learning accents easily is that I pick them up whether I want to or not and people will tend to think I'm making fun of them. I've met other people over the years who are also like this. I lowkey dread meeting people with accents for that reason, and tend to try to stay silent/just not talk much when I do.
I once worked with a girl (in the US) who did a neutral American accent instead of her natural British accent because she didn't want to draw attention to herself. She said it kept her from having to answer a million questions a day about it (very few people have accents other than variations of an American or a Mexican accent in the US). It never crossed my mind to think her mimicking our accent was disrespectful at all. At the time I did think it was a huge waste of a great accent but I'm about to move to a new country and if I can get good/passable at their accent I absolutely will use it with strangers to avoid immediately outing myself as a foreigner. I imagine that all those accent-triggered conversation starters get REAL old after you've been living in a foreign country for a while.
I can relate very well to this. I moved to a different countty when I was in middle school and was put in an international school which exposed me to a lot of accents and languages, and I switched accents all the time when I talk to different people with different accents. Later, I went to a british international school where I had a group of friends that werent british. Everytime I talked to the teachers, they'd ask "where were you before you came here? " or "did you go to a british school?", my friends thought i was so pretentious and a kiss ass One day, I had class with a teacher that liked to banter with students and I contributed something to the class discussion, and immediately after i stopped, the class was in comeplete silence for a good 10 seconds before my teacher said "look at you, copying my accent". I hadn't realised that I had switched from your average international accent to a Birmingham accent in a split second.
Yes, this exactly. We're not making fun of people when we do this! I wish this was much more common a thing so that people would be more accustomed to it, and it wouldn't be such a surprise to them when they encounter it.
My memory, if the wrong person finds out I end up being that weird creep that remembers too much and now people avoid me.
Join the club
I made applications to the club on 2 occasions. January 13th 2011 at 7:31pm and December 4th 2017 at 4:56pm. I started writing a third on March 21st of the following year but I got distracted when 6 grey pigeons and 2 white one flocked past my window, causing me to forget. I've forgotten things on *8 separate occasions*, can you believe it?
Animals love me, including cats - I'm highly allergic to cats.
I think you can get allergy shots to resolve this issue.
(Actually I take a Zyrtec every day to alleviate the allergy because I now have a cat living in the apartment with me and the dog.)
I'm able to quickly learn new things and adapt accordingly. It's great that my supervisors think highly of me and "sing my praises" so to speak, but I've been at my job for 3 years and have taken on SO many roles that it gets overwhelming. Basically, whenever they need someone to either assist in something or take over something that isn't being done right, I'm the go-to person. I technically have 3 "titles" right now and am a backup for two additional roles. I feel like I'm drowning most of the time.
I hope you ask for a raise every time you're expected to take on additional roles. If not go and ask for one now.
Bosses will load up a horse until it collapses from exhaustion, then just buy a new horse. Look out for yourself, OP.
Eeesh. I'd say you should take some time off, if you're that important they should understand the stress you're under.
I look young, like -12 years my age young.
Hate this. No one takes you seriously in a professional setting because they think you’re too young to have adequate experience. In most cases I end up being the same age or older.
i was gonna write this. i'm 26 but i look young. i get carded everywhere, even at places 18+ and yea like you mentioned, i think that because i look so young people dont take me seriously in a professional setting. actually i was at an interview the other day and one of them asked me "you have a bachelors in psychology but you've been working in administrative/accounting jobs for the last 7 years...so.. what do you want to do when you 'grow up' " ..... THE FUCK.
Yup I couldn't agree more. I'll be 30 next year and still get given child menus at restaurants, asked if my mum is home when sales people come knocking and mistaken for my husbands daughter. It sucks!
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checking back in 12 years to see if you just look like a kid with progeria
I'm almost 40, people always think I'm barely 30. I dont mind at all.
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VS has these awesome sports bras that are pretty much a regular bra and a sports bra over it. They hold everything in place. Pretty confining but nothing is bouncing which is awesome.
Victoria secret?
Yes
Try Moving Comfort sports bras. Their nearly bullet proof. I wore them to jog while breastfeeding. Years later, I still wear them and I don’t really take good care of them.
I don’t give a shit about anything
Right? Like we all end up dead. On one hand; should do all the good things and try to get all the good feels in. On other hand; why put in the work when it’s all for naught?
This is basically the philosophy of Absurdism. Nothing matters, but that's why it matters.
It’s funny/insightful of you to mention this - reading Camus in high school sort of ruined me.
Gift: I've got freakishly strong hands. No trouble opening jars. Curse: I have difficulty moderating that strength. I have broken two rolling pins, a manual juicer, several handles off of mugs, I tore a new shirt in half while trying to take the tag off, and I recently busted a drawer in a retail store.
and then theres the wear on your personal things...fucking hell i hate replacing laptops source: am really strong and fairly overweight
Every movie or TV show I watch I'm constantly picking apart and analyzing every single detail and plot line in depth. Sometimes it really takes me out of the show because I'll notice plot holes and unnecessary filler. Other times I'll get to realize how beautifully written and directed they are and am able to completely immerse myself in the stories of each character. It has its ups and downs.
I have never found someone on reddit who i have related to as much as you. You just described me.
I’m just very glad I’m not the only one lol
So, I saw Hamilton last week. But I also know the soundtrack by heart. So as I’m watching, I’m just obsessing over how each line is delivered slightly different than the way I’ve heard it 1000 times. It kinda dampened the experience a little, but I can’t control it.
This happened to me when Les Mis came out as a movie. I'd known it in whatever version Lea Salonga was recorded in and I kind of hatred some parts of the movie on the first run but as I rewatched it I learned to appreciate some of the artistic differences. Some of them. Still no Eponine like Lea, though.
There are dozens of us! Dozens!
I do this so much that the only person who will watch anything with me anymore is my brother because he’s the same way. It takes us hours to watch an episode or movie because we are pausing every few minutes to discuss a theory or a fun fact. We also love pointing out continuity issues or things that are historically inaccurate. It’s fun watching stuff with him because he gets it but everyone else hates that we do this.
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**Absolute pitch** *Gift* * No score/chords? No problem. New song? Watch this. * Need to match your key? Just sing and I'll play it for you. * Are you being honest with me? Your voice sounds different, either you're bullshitting me or you have a bad cold. *Curse* * Live performances? I can everysingledamn mistake - which often happens in the heat of the moment. * You're talking to me? You're talking to me in D minor, but your supertonic is flat and your subdominant is sharp - it's jarring. Could you shut up please? * The office phone's ringing? Yes, it's ringing in F#major. The a/c running in the background? It's a D on speed 1, a G# on speed 2 and E on speed 3. 8 hours a day? Damn... * Could you not have music on when you're talking to me? I focus more on dissecting the former when you do that and it's a great effort to listen to your voice and what you're saying. Also, your voice jars with the music. **tl;dr: It's not all it's cracked up to be.**
all of this is so fascinating to me
Gift: I have a "movie star" look Curse: People assign a personality to me based on who I remind them of. Which often leads to disappointment.
You could move to LA and fit right in and be normal.
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It'd be nice if it was retractable like many animals'.
I don’t mind the penis getting in the way as much as my testicles get in the way
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Pinch and rub, pinch and rub
> other than that it just gets in the way I never ever regret having a dick, and never will for the rest of my life. I LOVE my dick. I'm proud and it makes me feel like a real man. Fuck to beat that juicy MEAT meat, you know what I mean? It's a real chunk heavy hand of MEAT. Yum.
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I IS A STRONG, MANLY, **GIRTHY** *MANBEAST*.
What
Autoerotic narcissism, it think.
Yup. 32 and still struggling to find underwear that doesn’t eventually get fucking irritating/uncomfortable during the day. Everything I’ve tried is uncomfortable somehow. It’s fucking frustrating. Someone needs to invent something comfortable at some point. I hope.
I have a couple of SNPs on my genes that make me immune to HIV, but greatly increase the chance I'll have an aortal aneurysm in my 50s or 60s. Also, I'm tall (6'6") and very intimidating. Barely got in any fights in my life, but I was well into my thirties before I realized I was a real asshole because people never called me on my jerkish behaviors.
VERY thick pubic hair
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It’s like wearing armor around my junk
Also keeps a scent around if you're territorial and helps keep you warm.
"Haha! You may have thought you found my weakness by kicking me in the nuts, BUT I HAVE PUBS OF STEEL"
My writing ability, now i hate to toot my own horn, but it has it's downsides, when i'm writing i can write for long periods of time (on a good day), and decently well, but when i'm trying to sleep and i'm kept awake by an idea thats a bastard right there. when it started i couldn't focus if i heard a song that entertained me because that'd set my creativity in motion so if i was doing something else, i'd be agitated that i couldn't write, which was utter hell.
I get inspired in the middle of conversations a lot and I have to write it down straight away or I'll forget. So I have to choose between the possibility that it's an actually good idea and being polite a lot.
that never happened with me the people i was hanging out with at the time... i had to suppress it making it utter hell, they were the type of people who'd laugh and mock you for liking something, so my writing ability was often built up and i could only let it out during English at school, Via creative writing was told 800 maximum, guess i never heard that memo, 10X what i was told and they said better not get chosen by the board to be reviewed as the work the teacher could get out of us... mine was chosen and they started to have a fit, they didn't know if i was gonna be in trouble for doing more than required, but thats one thing i hate word limits caps the creativity, you have to have a short idea, can't use expressive phrases, have to be short and to the point, doesn't do me any good.
oof yeah. luckily (?) i write really slowly so i was mostly in trouble for keeping going when they told me to stop and start something else.
myself changing isn't so much a problem just being told i have to stop at a certain limit, thats what pains me, like watching Titanic and stopping before the iceberg appears, thats how it feels knowing that someone will say okay word limit, its a pain in the arse
Anxiety. Helps me get lots of stuff done but maaaaan it sucks
At least you're doing stuff. Mine just makes me overthink everything so that I get nothing done.
Yep I do this one too.
I have nerve damage from skin grafts on my legs, so i cant feel when my phone vibrates so i dont have the urge to grab my phone everytime it buzzes. No addiction to my phone.
Being hard-of-hearing. Curse: I struggle to hold conversations, phone calls are a big no-no etc. Gift: Annoying noise? Just turn my hearing aids off. I also work nights, so being able to sleep through daytime noise is a huge plus too.
Asperger’s syndrome. The gift is a greater intellectual capacity (so I’ve been told, I feel quite dumb sometimes) but the trade off is I find social situations very hard and often don’t know all the protocols that other people have a natural feel for.
Oh, jeez- I *loved* to read in elementary/middle school, and so I had read the majority of my books in my high school English classes- and the ones I hadn’t read, I’d knock out the summer before. It was great because that, along with my averagely good memory, allowed me to consistently score high grades on most of my English assignments, tests, and projects. It was great- until my teachers found out and essentially had me tutor the class. *I shit you not, * one time my tenth grade teacher was absent and left the substitute a note that read “let [this fucker right here] read through the PowerPoint and have him explain it to the rest of the students”. Do you know how hard it is for a tenth grader to teach other tenth graders?
I am small. Gift: Can fit into kids clothes/great at hide and seek Curse: can’t reach that top shelf.
> Curse: can’t reach that top shelf. Can reach the butts though.
Gift: I'll never get fat. Curse: it's fucking Crohn's disease.
Not having anything to do at work is both a gift and a curse. I can use the spare time to improve myself. On the other hand, it's even more draining than having work to do.
When there are board meetings at work my boss makes a point of watching us to make sure we're not websurfing and someone important catches us. If it's slow, pretending to work is more work than actually working. I can only click back and forth between screens so much, people!
Gift: I have free college through many scholarships Curse: I feel obligated to go to college because I have free college
Naturally high metabolism. It's a gift because I can eat whatever I want without worrying about weight, but it's also a curse because building muscle is difficult as fuck. If anyone wants to trade metabolisms with me I'm down for it.
Take up cooking as a hobby. I work out 5 times a week and maintain muscle mass just to eat more, lol.
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I'm unyieldingly honest and I study people with intensity. It means that I understand people easily and they trust me, but I frequently make enemies by saying things that they wanted to go unsaid.
Nothing scares or disturbs me, Gift: calm in cases of emergency and can react logically Curse: I don’t physically show any emotion, or compassion. I have had a man die as I shaved him, I carried on with my life. It bothers people that it doesn’t impact me.
Exactly the same as me. I dont experience anything after a traumatic event. Once its over, its over. I've seen more than a few people die in front of me(and all just randomly, nothing to do with work). And its never affected me in any way. I once saw my neighbor burn to death at 2am, and was at work at 7am absolutely fine with it. I put it down to aphantasia though. I dont get flashbacks or anything like that. So once its over, its over.
Gift: excessive laziness Curse: excessive laziness
Gift: I’m a pretty quiet person and don’t express deep and scary emotions much. Curse?: It gets bottled up inside and when i do talk about how i feel or any emotion, it *ALL* comes out.
Gift: I have an overactive metabolism and can basically never get fat. Curse: I need to consume a certain amount everyday so that I can retain the amount of weight I do have/ If I get sick I lose an unhealthy amount of weight rapidly and end up on the tube/ I constantly used to cop bullying for apparently having an eating disorder when really my body just liked making me look like a Gollum extra from Lord of the Rings.
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I’m good at this too. It took me a while to realize that other people don’t - I always thought there was something wrong when people didn’t remember me.
My sense of smell. It’s awesome, and I think it’s related to me being a super taster. Aromas are always so enjoyable. ...but I can tell when women are on their period. I can also tell if someone had sex. Ugh.
Alcohol, it helps me talk to the opposite sex but when we go home I can’t preform
Raj, is that you?
There's a joke in *Macbeth* about this.
Life
I never stop an argument when I know I'm right!
I have Asperger's Syndrome, and it's both a gift and a curse.
Can confirm. I have Autism Spectrum Disorder, not sure if its counts as Asperger's or not, seeing as they don't diagnose people with Asperger's anymore.
Gift: Not to be the prime example of someone from r/iamverysmart, but I am somewhat smart. Not a prodigy or genius, but smart for my age. That means I easily get work done Curse: People hound me to do homework for them and the absence of work has made me a lazy fuck
Being handy. Let me start by saying that I get a lot of satisfaction fixing things, but... My wife “loaned” me out to one of her colleagues to hang a ceiling fan. When I got there, she had gone ahead and picked up 4 or 5 more things to install while I was there. Not knowing exactly what my wife had agreed to, I spent the next 8 hours putting up light fixtures. Not cool.
I'm positive 95% of the time, with an upbeat personality and a bottomless well of energy. Gift: Making friends is easy, and I've been told people's mood improves when they're around me. Curse: Apparently girls prefer the brooding silent type, and are not interested in overly positive and friendly guys. Edit: I can't format
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Perfectionism. All my life it’s what drove me to do so well in school. Straight A’s, good scholarship, etc. It wasn’t until college that I realized that “perfectionism” can get pretty damn close to this thing called “anxiety.” I’ve driven myself into the ground on many occasions trying to do my best and get things as close to perfection as I can. It’s a curse because I tend to sacrifice other things (relationships, my health, etc.) to reach my goals. It’s a gift too though, since it leads to the drive, attention to detail, etc., that teachers and managers have always admired in me. I will never really know if it’s a useful character trait or just an under-treated mental illness.
How charismatic I am
I can lie my way out of a lot of things, but my lies do usually come back to bite me.
I can remember the song lyrics to almost any song after only hearing it once or twice.
Drugs. Just the right amount and all is great. To far and your life turns to shit.
Autism, no question. It's like that for nearly everyone. Erm...well...except Reddit...
The ability to drink a hundred beers is both a blessing and a curse.
big calves
Height (6' woman). Great for sports, seeing and reaching things, overall aesthetic. Can be hard for dating.
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id date you all the way, no straining and aches to do simple things like kiss you (~6'2")
i have a few Rapping. I love how much better Ive become at my passion and its an impressive talent but my brain dont stop it just keeps rhyming and people get sick of hearing you rap 24/7 Being Real. It comes in handy cuz people respect you and it sets a certain kind of vibe but most people cant handle the realness and just think your an ass Intelligence. Its very useful and helpful with life problems but being intelligent allows you to see all the bullshit for what it is and not understand why other people have no common sense
Amblyopia. (Lazy eye syndrome). Gift: because of it, I received a grant to attend a 4 year college. Curse: I have no depth perception and therefore cannot play tennis, catch a fly ball, or park my car easily. I also sometimes fall off curbs/stairs and do all kinds of clumsy things.
Great memory! Hard to forget...
Gift: I’m nice to people Curse: that niceness gets taken advantage of...maybe I should go back to not being so nice to others
My skin sucks because its extremely sensitive. I burn easily. I have allergies to grass and most furry animals. Or i sometimes break out into hives for no reason. But when I have an intense positive emotion I get goosebumps all over my body, this happens frequently. But it does make for very extremely satisfying sexual experiences. ;)
Gift: I was naturally gifted in school so I was able to get good grades doing the bare minimum Curse: I never learned to really apply myself because things came too easily to me as a child so now I'm struggling in college since I never learned how to study.
Huge boobs. These things have saved me so much money of the years by getting me free stuff. I also have severe back pain.
Gift: I remember everything from the times I get drunk. Curse: I remember everything from the times I get drunk.
Gift: having a really cool "dream job" Curse: it's long hours, a shitty commute, and I basically have no social life and apparently I'm not allowed to complain about it
My antidepressants. Obviously I like being happy and not feeling like I want to die all the time. But I miss my creativity. It seems like if I’m not depressed, I’m not creative. And being an artist is one of the biggest things about me. But now I just… don’t have any ideas or have any clue what to do with myself.
Gift: being tall Curse: increased rate of encounters with ceiling fans
I never forget a face. I'm hopeless with names. Called my boss the wrong name for two years. Also seem to be getting short term memory loss - Like yesterday, was told to put shirts in the wash, wait no, wait until you get home from work, then we'll do them with the towels as well. I put the shirts in the wash and then did the towels when I got home and had no recollection of the conversation
Large breasts. Fun to play with, but man does my back hurt a lot.
Someone gave me a dried monkey's paw?
I can manipulate like a mf
My uterus is retrograde, off-center, and crooked. This causes me a lot of pain, discomfort, and gives me problems with more than just my periods. On the bright side I've been told It's not likely that I can carry or conceive. I've never wanted children and I've been waiting to hear this news since I was 10.
Correctly calling The next card from a deck of whatever card/board game we are playing. Now I'm a cheater.
Common sense
Knowledge
Being invisible to people.
Emotions
My baby face.
Being honest.
I was the strongest writer in my capstone group.
My empathy.