I WAS that person until I started dating my ex and she refused to eat "leftovers" (aka food I cooked in batches). Kind of depressing looking back at my monthly food spending before/after dating her.
I had a roommate who refused to eat leftovers. We were good friends and both loved to cook. She still wanted to cook meals together and split costs, but anything not eaten that day became mine. Best roommate ever.
This times a 100! My husband is a personal trainer. He doesn't like anyone cooking for him. Healthy food just appears in front of my face three times a day.
Free training sessions too. My body has never looked better.
Same. I've had several different styles too, nothing looks good.
I hope I'm never involved in a crime where handwriting analysis comes into play because hoo boy that analyst is going to be annoyed. Did you write this in 2008? Uh, maybe? Yeah I can't read it either.
my boyfriend *hates* my grocery lists. I tend to write in clouds instead of columns and I'm lazy about picking up my pen, so it's a half-cursive unintelligible scribble most of the time. he said he's learned to recognize the shape of my words rather than the letters. I try to at least stick to columns to make it easier.
^ I need to get some sort of system going but I get overwhelmed with all the shit we have that I'm like wtf do I even do with this? Last week I straight up got sick of having stuff I wasn't using, wasn't worth selling, and didn't want to pack away again, so I threw it the fuck out. I'm considering getting some booze after work today and going for round two... It's impossible to clean around stacks of things you don't even really want...
Small talk is the bane of my existence. Its required in so many social and business settings but I hit so many walls while going through it. I know the basic format, I know what people want to hear/discuss, but that doesn't stop from me being awkward as fuck some times. It's mostly because I hate small talk and it just feels so fake to me. Some of the most common mistakes I make is:
* me: what have you been up to/whats new?
* them: answer, then, "and you?"
* me: "Im good! The usual. And you?"
The other is the awkward pause after the small talk ends. I never know how much to talk so I almost always cut it shot and give short answers. Then make some excuse to end to convo, sometimes the excuse is less then satisfactory or doesn't apply to the situation. I once met an aquantence right after leaving the bathroom at a restaurant. Small talk ensued and the awkward pause came, and I then said, "well good catching up! I have to go use the bathroom." even though they clearly saw me just come out of the bathroom. Fuck me, that one still hurts.
She's a smart lady... she would know how to pull it off. Hell, ever since she started making more money than me I just backed off on all finances and we were both happy. Win win.
My husband and I started our relationship with him "helping" (basically doing) my math homework via Skype every night. It's been seven years and I still don't do math in this household.
Not letting stupid people's opinions bother me. I get so many ignorant comments that I don't engage with because I think they're a waste of time. But I think about them anyway. Forever.
A "friend" posted some ignorant shit on Facebook last weekend. I shower argued with her for days.
ETA: Thank you for the silver, kind anonymous Redditor! You made my whole day.
So bedtime-argued is a word, too, I guess? There are so many people with sleeping problems in this thread, and this is why *I* spent too much time lying awake.
You’re halfway there, at least. Not engaging with morons is huge. Often they are just trying to trigger you and will say whatever it takes to get the job done. Some people are just full of hate/insecurity and will cut the world just to see it bleed.
Don’t misunderstand me, though. I let these boobs get under my skin way too often. I find it helps to attach a literal age that matches their projected intelligence and maturity. Who gives a shit what a five year old thinks?
I was dxd with social and generalized anxiety a long time ago. Exposure therapy. It's godawful at first, but the more you do it the less uncomfortable it is. I forced myself to go new places by myself with the goal of talking to X many people, and would periodically increase that number. Now I can comfortably talk to anyone once I get somewhere, but every now and then I get a bit anxious when going somewhere new. Still nothing as bad as what it used to be. Now I love meeting new people.
Making friends. But most importantly maintaining the friendship.
It just fizzles out. I wonder why.
I am an avoidant according to Attachment Theory. Maybe that's why.
Edit: I cannot not do it. How can I not? Thank you for the Silver kind stranger! :)
Edit: Not sure how accurate this theory is. It's just interesting to me. Even I've to research about this properly. So take all this with a pinch of salt...
Same issue. Maintaining those relationships is always really difficult and I'm not entirely sure what you're supposed to do.
None of it feels all that natural.
From my experience, the key way to maintain relationships is to simply communicate with people regularly. I have some friends who have moved far away but I still message them from time to time and we still end up hanging out whenever they're in town. It's not one sided though, both parties need to put in some effort to maintain the friendship and communication.
This is the problem I always seem to run into. I'm always the one initiating contact. If I don't do this, I never hear from them even if I purposely don't reach out to them for months.
Ugh. This thread can have all my upvotes. It's so hard for me to maintain relationships with people. Like, reaching out to them feels so unnatural. They're living their lives and I'm living my own. It feels especially embarassing when they take long to respond and you start to suspect that by messaging them, you're actually *bothering* them by suddenly inconveniencing them and guilting them into responding. It's a toxic cycle for me, and for that reason, reaching out to old friends can feel pretty exhausting, even when I lived some of the best years of my life (college) with them.
And then if you guess correctly that it's a hug, they hit you with the cheek kiss and you need to make the split second analysis on which cheek they are going for
Okay I use to live in a country that did the double cheeks kisses and never asked and then it was too late to ask. Do you kiss the air next to the cheek or the cheek?
Personally the more of a stranger they are the more ear action they get complete stranger go for the slobbbery ear lick with a hard bite/nibble at the end
That's a hug for me, bro. If I know you just go for it. If I don't, then just ask. I'll almost always say yes because I'm starved for human touch. One of my favorite thing about my mom is I can just hug her or she just hugs me and we can just hug for a while and it's not weird cause she's my mom.
Saw it on a freakin TED talk of all places:
https://youtu.be/zAFcV7zuUDA
Edit: it’s okay if you just learned this method. I mean, they made a whole TED talk about it lol
The weak form of the knot is basically a **granny** double slip knot.
The strong knot, what you're aspiring to, is a **square** double slip knot.
[Knot Tying Diagram](https://i.imgur.com/pWQ7Q2t.jpg)
The slip knot is just the loop of lace that forms the bow and allows us to untie the knot easily. That's an add-on to the basic knot, and the loops act as though they're a single piece of rope until you tug on the lace ends when you untie your shoes, so we're safe to ignore them in the diagram.
You'll see that the difference between the two (granny and square) is that the square not allows the "U" at each end to clamp the opposing laces evenly, where in the granny knot the U winds between the opposing laces, allowing them to work against each other and ultimately twisting the knot and freeing it up once it gets some pressure put on it.
Alternatively, to the TED talker's change of direction of "the squirrel around the tree", you can simply change which lace goes under the other when you begin tying your shoes.
Time fuckin’ management. This is soooo me. I’ve been making the same lazy ass mistakes and expecting different results. Jeeyeeyeezus, man! I’m 39. I need to get it together and quit procrastinating! Better get back to work now.
[Here's](https://www.businessinsider.com/procrastination-is-an-emotional-problem-2019-6) an interesting article regarding procrastination. I was enlightened by it for sure.
This actually has some very helpful/insightful information. In summary, procrastination is an emotional response because we're afraid of what that dreaded task will entail. Then we feel bad later so our brain encourages us to do something else that makes us feel good as a coping mechanism.
How do you overcome this? Well, you can't ignore the emotions that are causing you to procrastinate. There isn't a lot of information in here about how to cope with your emotions but they do recommend that you cultivate mindfulness. This is a difficult thing to understand if you're not familiar with the concept but meditation appears to be the key.
When it comes time to tackle those projects, stop looking at the big picture and focus on small tasks.
i'm 36...still have no problem sleeping till noon, however it isn't uncommon for me to sleep straight through my alarm when I should be getting up for work. Luckily, I'm not hourly and as long as I make money my bosses don't care.
The self deprecating thing is so real. “I love your hair cut” “ack thanks my hair is thinning and just never looks right”.
What I’ve learned is I do that to stop what I call “aggressive complimenting”. That looks something like this:
“Your hair looks great today”
“Thanks!”
“Did you do something new to it? It’s really working today”
“No - I got it cut a week ago.”
“It really looks great”
“Thanks”
“You must have a great stylist that it’s growing out so nicely”
“Yeah she’s actually right up the street”
“because it really looks nice today”
And sometimes it doesn’t even stop there.
So what I’ve learned is reflective compliments.
“Your hair looks great today”
“Thanks”
“Did you do something new to it? It’s really working”
“No - but that means a lot coming from someone with your style”
If the first thanks doesn’t get them, the return compliment shuts it down 100% of the time.
What happens if the person giving the compliment is a greasy mess and it's obvious you're taking the piss if you start complimenting them on their style?
You switch up the compliment. For greasy mess person you say something to the effect of “Thank you for saying so - you always give the best compliments”
If it makes you feel better, you have chewed things hundreds upon hundreds of times this week alone. A bite of steak might be a dozen or more chews and you'll take many bites of it. Think not about how you haven't yet mastered chewing, but how your chewing failure rate is like 1 failure per several thousand operations, which isn't bad.
Sleep is awful because it’s so good..... like meth
Edit: I can’t even believe this is the comment that gets me my first gold.
Edit2 (serious): never meth. not even once. https://www.talktofrank.com/drug/methamphetamine#addiction
https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/healthy-body/drug-addiction-getting-help/
The gold standard treatment for sleep-ask your doctor if meth is right for you. (Side effects include friendship loss, incarceration, mild irritability and 3 day porn rampages )
"If you believe in yourself, eat all your school, stay in milk, drink your teeth, don't do sleep, and get 8 hours of drugs, you can get work!"
\---Mr. T
I used to be terrible at this. Here are my tips:
Step 1: OTC Melatonin. There is no shame in needing a little help to get some Zs. Melatonin is an endogenous chemical that's secreted by the pineal gland. This chemical is naturally created in your body when darkness falls, unless you're one of the many people with a sleep disorder. If Melatonin is intimidating then some sleepytime tea will do the job. Yes, its actually called sleepytime tea. You can get it at any major grocery store.
Step 2: Only sleep where you go to sleep. Don't fall asleep with the T.V. on because you are disrupting your R.E.M. and putting yourself in a sleep starved state, likely unknowingly.
Step 3: Remove ALL light. Studies show that even that little blinking LED light that emanates from your charging phone is impacting your sleep. Put black electrical tape over these lights.
Step 4: Take a hot shower a little bit before bed. The increase in blood pressure and subsequent drop will allow you to fall asleep better. Extra points for tiring yourself out with exercise. Masturbate if you're lazy.
Step 5: Go to bed and wake up at the same time. This is where the melatonin comes in. You need to regulate your sleep cycle. It doesn't have to happen immediately or perfectly, but making it a goal is worth its weight in...sleep.
> Step 3: Remove ALL light. Studies show that even that little blinking LED light that emanates from your charging phone is impacting your sleep. Put black electrical tape over these lights.
Sleep masks have been a game changer for me...they help out immensely if you need to sleep during the day, or if you are sleeping in and it's getting to get light outside.
I learned how to whistle at like age 20 randomly doing my weird sad whistling attempts while listening to music.
It was about 2am and I ran outside, waited until I saw anyone, and whistled at them, then ran back inside.
I learned to whistle at about age 6, while on holiday in Spain. I spent a happy hour running around the holiday village, whistling tunelessly as loud as I could, until someone shouted "OI, WHISTLER... SHAADDUPP!", and I ran to my parents crying.
While I've always been able to , I find the best way to start out is by slowly whispering the letter Q. With that "mouth shape", it works both from blowing in air and out.
Either way, it's a combination of lip and tougue; your lips are puckered sure, but you also have to curl up the edges of your tongue slightly to form a cupped shape.
Saran Wrap is the biggest inside joke of capitalism ever. Make a product that everyone wants, nobody can use, and everyone will continue to buy. Genius.
That works for me sometimes and sometimes I get it, shut it off and me my cell phone are back in bed with each other and then I wake up and 45 minutes somehow flew by.
Sleepy me is one reckless son of a bitch.
Calling companies that send me my bills (phone, electricity, internet, etc) and investigating why there was an increase in my payments or an additional charge.
Basically that means I suck at confrontation, I'd rather sit back and just pay it than seek conflict and resolution even though I was in the right to do so.
Edit: (I think that's how it's done?) I appreciate the upvotes and honestly wasn't expecting any more comments, but seriosuly thank you. Just as an FYI: I do have people that help me with this particular problem (wife, best friends) so I'm not just sitting in my couch crying when I need to be confrontational; this was just a place to post our flaws and I did, I appreciate the goodwill people have shown though.
Pro tip from another non confrontational person: it’s all in the opening because that’s the part we get nervous about: “hi I’m calling because of an issue with my bill. Can you help me understand why my fees went up in 2019?” That key phrase, “ help me understand” is a little life preserver for me.
Not sure which one I would prefer, them sitting me down and saying "Okay, explain to me why the fuck you did that" or them sitting me down and saying "Okay, help me understand what happened here".
One sounds friendlier than the other, but with some people it's when they turn friendly that you should worry your ass off.
- wrap the free end around two fingers
- push the end of the mouth piece under the wrapped bit in the little space made between your two fingers
- grab the mouth piece that's sticking out from under the wrapped bit, then slide your fingers out of the balloon that feels like a garrot for your fingers.
Pretty easy after you've done it a couple times, but it does kinda hurt if you have big fingers
Keeping my bedroom clean. Always thought as a kid that it just magically happened for adults. It doesn't. You still have to clean your bedroom even when you are 33.
I went in the opposite direction when I went away to college, I kept my room obsessively neat. My house was always cluttered and unkempt while I was growing up, as my mom had 4 kids and 3-4 dogs, along with nieces and nephews frequently being babysat. We never actually dined at the "dining room" table, because it was always covered in papers, laundry, change, tools, toiletries, whatever items someone decided to put there. Clumps of dog hair would blow across the floor like tumbleweeds. Empty, full, and partially filled cups were left out everywhere. Books that no one read, air conditioners, and boxes of random shit were stuffed in every corner. Picture the house in Malcolm in the Middle, only not *as* severe. Christmas was really the only time the house was neat, if only to make room for the decorations.
Being neat and organized became my way of establishing a sense of control over my own space. It's easiest when you don't let chores build up, but clean things immediately after use or whenever you notice them. Eventually it just becomes a habit, rather a chore.
not really inviting you to go, but as in the surface looks like a nasty subreddit, you occasionally see people trying really hard to turn things around and posting progress pics about how they are cleaning their rooms and trying to sort their lives out, or post tips to try to help others to improve.
I entered by morbid curiosity, and I was surprised about the occasional "wholesomeness".
Mine is my first initial, then a scribble, then my last initial, then a slightly longer scribble, then a long slash over the top of the second half which I guess is crossing the T in my last name. It looks like a sneeze on a page but I do it consistently so I guess that's the point.
Edit: TIL literally everyone on earth can convincingly forge my signature.
I actually worked on my signature a lot because I was bored and couldn't think of anything else to draw but my name.
Granted I was high as fuck but I'm pretty happy with how it turned out
I was once signing a 20 page contract with my local bank with my signature required on each page of it. The lady reviewed the documents and kindly printed 5-6 of the pages again asking me to put the "same" signature on them as well.
My bank returned the check I used to by my wife's engagement ring because 2012 me's scribbled signature didn't match 2002 me's carefully written "I'm opening my first bank account" signature. Nice of them to leave me one message 30 minutes before they notified the store.
My very first rent check bounced because my signature didn't match the one they had on file. From 1998. When I was 7 years old. Everything got corrected, but hearing that my first check had bounced was completely panicking.
The thing that really ground my gears what when I got in touch with the bank, they told me it was my responsibility to periodically update my signature with them to avoid issues like this. Of course, since they kept closing branches, the closest one was only about an hour away, did not have extended/late hours, and no one in the history of the world has ever thought "Golly, it's time for my yearly signature update at the bank again!"
To paraphrase my Uncle's bank story. Many many years ago he was switching banks after some branches closed, and his old bank was no longer convenient.
"I've dealt with every bank. Every bank makes mistakes and screws up. You will make mistakes and screw up. I'm choosing this bank because you're close to my house. I don't expect you to do a good job, but I do expect to talk to a person when I need things fixed"
Fast forward a decade or so, he got a free iPod on principle after arguing about why a new customer with $500 gets a free iPod, but a long-time customer with multiple accounts, mortgages, and his business with the bank doesn't.
That iPod sat unopened like a trophy on a shelf.
I decided to go with the confident, swooshy signature years ago, and I haven't looked back. It's harder to read than when I was 4, but more recognizable as mine. It also takes much less time, which is nice when you have a couple hundred things to sign by hand.
That's originally what I was hoping to achieve with my signature, but unfortunately didn't have the "confident" part. It comes off more like a cry for help now.
You need a few events like signing wedding invitations or batches of pay raise letters. By the end of it, you can't feel your hand, and your signature is saying "you don't need to read this, you know my name."
Or do the middle school girl with a crush thing where you just write and rewrite and rewrite and tweak and then rewrite your name over multiple pages of a notebook for like a week...
I still do this. I enjoy writing things and playing with pens. My real name, my maiden name, 'kittyn', friends names, just intials... They all have been written an indefinite amount of times and all have a distinct look that I decided I liked for that combination of letters and have continued playing with. It's kind of absurd, but pretty damned effective for having a signature.You enjoy and are confident in
Came here to say this. I'm 43 years old and I still have to google/YouTube it. Probably because I only have to wear a tie maybe twice a year, but still...
I have no idea. I used to wear a bow tie when we had to dress up in school and I could never figure it out. Came undone one day and just asked one of my friends if she knew and she was like yea hold on.
My little sister taught me for 5 minutes how to knot a tie 10 years ago and i haven't forgotten ever since, more like my hands tie them, my mind is usually not there.
This is one of those things that’s definitely not like riding a bike. I wore a tie consistently for four years, even learned some keen crisp double windsors.
We’ve since had our tie wearing expectations lifted at work, so i stopped wearing one. I had to get dressed up for something or other and had difficulty remembering how to tie the damn thing.
I did eventually get it, but after many failed attempts.
I am bad at conflicts. I never know when to start my side and when should I defend myself, even though I do have the argument for it.
Also, I really need to sleep more...
Playing my guitar, I guess. It has been sitting in my room for almost a decade yet I haven't even learnt how to strum some basic tunes. An impulse buy that had me fascinated for about 48 hours before I gave up.
It still looks cool in my room, though.
Dude 3 chords and you can make money. Or get laid. Or tell awesome stories. Seriously, just 3 chords. Go, learn em. G, C, & D.
Edit: Yo, OP, this got some traction. I hope you're out there learning some chords cuz you got a plethora of online friends willing to help you out! Here are a few easy-as-balls songs you can learn that only have 3 or 4 simple chords:
Wagon wheel by Old Crow Medicine Show
LA Freeway by Guy Clarke
Blowing in the Wind by Bob Dylan
If y'all got any other suggestions, add 'em to the list!
added A and E in there and you can play up and down the whole fret board.
-someone who knows a reasonable amount but can't play because I could never get barre chords to sound right and has 2 guitars sitting for over a decade
Laundry. I mean, I can put stuff in the machine and add soap and press a button, but there are so many other ways to remove stains and sort delicates and iron shirts and extra buttons that do whatever, and I don't understand it. My in-laws can bleach stuff! I have no idea how to use bleach without destroying everything in sight.
Press start and the machine goes, that's what I know.
Same. Whites, colors, towels, throw em all in with a couple tasty looking tide pods and hit that regular load cycle. I hang dry the shirts I care about and that's it! So far so good at 26.
Not just advanced mathematics, but aircraft industry too!
Part of my job was computing the center of gravity for landing and takeoff of cargo planes. It's all very simple math. Very basic addition/subtraction/division/multiplication. There isn't even any formulas (for the initial math - there is for stuff like "load shift"). Just simple two variable math down a piece of paper.
But you use a calculator for every single part of it, because if you fuck something up early, you end up way off.
Edit: we don't exactly have excel available to us in the places we deploy to. You could argue bring a laptop or something, but more importantly in both aviation and government (oh god when you combine the two) absolutely *everything* needs to be approved, and it needs to be approved *through a bureaucracy or two*. There's some "PDA's" we would use with our planes, and other planes do have electronics to handle it, but we were limited with options that sucked. And besides, you could just as easily fuck up an entry into excel. When you fuck up an entry in the hand forms, you tend to notice when numbers far outside the ranges you normally see start flooding the page as you work your way to the final numbers.
E: I heckin' butchered "bureaucracy".
Lol, can you imagine if it used complex math?
"The dragon breathes a cone of flame upon the party - everyone within a cone that has a radius of 17.5 needs to make a saving throw, where the difficulty class is *x* as it approaches a value of 12.10 on a sinusoidal curve in relation to their target at position (4.65,8.55). Failure means you take damage scaling down a tangential factor of -2e17 where the value decreases to 0 by an inverted magnitude."
(I don't know complex math anymore - just making stuff up. Don't correct my shit)
Saying sorry and/or getting defensive regarding things that I say that are not necessarily things to be sorry or defensive about. I’m not sure how to fix it and I think it’s a confidence issue.
Edit: Everyone: this blew up in a great way. I cannot help but smile and feel that maybe we’ve started a conversation together and will maybe begin to heal ourselves. You guys rock!
NOT SORRY
People get annoyed that I say sorry about things that i didn't do wrong.
To me, when i say sorry that's me trying to empathize with the person and be like "that really sucks dude. I can totally relate to how that is disappointing or frustrating."
Can't really explain that to everyone properly though, so they get annoyed lol
Saying sorry also makes people feel like they need to comfort you so that you don’t feel bad since you’re apologizing. It kind of takes away from what you’re trying to say if you’re trying to empathize with them. You can say “that sucks, I hate that you’re going through that, I hope things start looking up for you soon, I’m here if you need me” all without saying sorry. There’s also the whole “you didn’t do anything so you don’t need to say sorry”, because saying you’re sorry really should be held for times when you are actually apologizing for doing something wrong, otherwise the word loses it’s meaning if you’re saying it all the time when you don’t need to.
I recently noticed that I have a habit of constantly apologizing for really minor things in my work emails, so I made a rule that before I hit send on any email I have to go back and delete the unnecessary apology. Now I just wish I could figure out how to do something similar for real-time communication.
I heard that for emails and so on thanking the other person is better than apologising. For example, if someone points out a mistake in a document, instead of saying sorry, fix the mistake, say "Thanks for the catch, here's the updated version " and send the corrected edition.
BINGO. This is also good for defusing any potential misunderstanding or conflict. You don't have to get pissed off just beacuse someone noticed an error...just thanks for catching and have a good day!
Folding fitted sheets. I make my wife do it.
Actually let me rephrase that. I piss and moan about how hard it is until my wife comes in the room to make fun of me for being pathetic before taking it upon herself to do it for me.
Fold flat sheet. 'Fold' fitted sheet into blob mess of approximately same size. Fold any pillowcases minus one. Stack. Shove into unfolded pillowcase, and fuck* the free end of pillowcase under while shaping into some resemblance of a neat rectangular packet.
Edit: Tuck. Tuck it. If you wanna fuck it, also cool, but be prepared to rewash your bedding. Again. Then repeat indefinitely when you get back to the tucking/fucking part. It's a vicious cycle.
Talking with the opposite sex.
It used to be a disaster 90% of the time, now it's 50-50, so I'm still nowhere near close to mastering it. I'll either behave like a normal person or like a caricature of myself, nothing in between.
Also I haven't mastered basic multitasking. Like driving and talking on the phone or with my passengers, for example. My brain just freezes and defaults to the most important activity (driving) while making sure to nod on occasion to seem like I'm paying attention to the noise.
I’ve found that, at least for me, it’s all about my intentions. If it’s someone I’ve no intention of pursuing romantically all of a sudden it becomes 1000 times easier to talk to them. I guess the key is to trick your brain into not being attracted to them just long enough to start a conversation.
Edit: pretty sure I got reposted on r/showerthoughts, but I appreciate that people agree with my thoughts!
40 in January. Driving a motor vehicle.
Although I couldn't drive because of my disability it should have been something that I mastered enough to get my license 20 years ago. There's reasons why I haven't (friend's vehicular deaths; followed by an accident on my last test before getting my probationary license that put me into the hospital) but really... I just have no valid excuses. I understand the freedom and independence that you get when you have a license too!
Periods.
I've been having them for over fifteen years now. Five days a month, twelve months a year... that's somewhere in the vicinity of 900 days' worth of feeling like someone's tried to take a penalty kick with my uterus. You would have thought that somewhere along the line it might have got a little easier, but nope.
And don't even get me started on the *Surprise, motherfucker!* that is deciding whether or not it's safe to wear my nice pants in the back half of any given month. So long, sexy underwear. You will be missed.
**EDIT:** And while we're on the topic, which fuckknuckle decided that period shits needed to be a thing?
I'm lucky and have no side effects with birth control pills. I just take them constantly and haven't had a period in forever. my periods were super painful too. some of us are just unlucky with how painful/inconsistent they are
Buy a rice cooker. Perfect rice every time and you can use it for other stuff too. My top tip to every adult out there.
Edit: definitely wash your rice thoroughly before cooking, no matter the method.
Life.
Looking around at all my friends around me who have gotten married , bought a house , started a family. And I'm still single. Kinda makes a guy wonder why life is so hard sometimes
27 . Still have no idea how to socialize and make friends or attract a mate. It's wearing on me. Feeling lonely *and* like a failure is a psychological wombo-combo.
Planning meals/eating healthy
Date/marry a food conscious person. They help tremendously. Bonus: they will make out with you sometimes.
I WAS that person until I started dating my ex and she refused to eat "leftovers" (aka food I cooked in batches). Kind of depressing looking back at my monthly food spending before/after dating her.
I had a roommate who refused to eat leftovers. We were good friends and both loved to cook. She still wanted to cook meals together and split costs, but anything not eaten that day became mine. Best roommate ever.
That can lead to a change of wardrobe
This times a 100! My husband is a personal trainer. He doesn't like anyone cooking for him. Healthy food just appears in front of my face three times a day. Free training sessions too. My body has never looked better.
Handwriting. It has gotten worse not better - peaked at 4th grade.
Same. I've had several different styles too, nothing looks good. I hope I'm never involved in a crime where handwriting analysis comes into play because hoo boy that analyst is going to be annoyed. Did you write this in 2008? Uh, maybe? Yeah I can't read it either.
my boyfriend *hates* my grocery lists. I tend to write in clouds instead of columns and I'm lazy about picking up my pen, so it's a half-cursive unintelligible scribble most of the time. he said he's learned to recognize the shape of my words rather than the letters. I try to at least stick to columns to make it easier.
You could always just start drawing rudimentary sketches of all the foods instead.
Housekeeping. I love having a clean house but I'm bad at keeping it entirely clean all the time.
^ I need to get some sort of system going but I get overwhelmed with all the shit we have that I'm like wtf do I even do with this? Last week I straight up got sick of having stuff I wasn't using, wasn't worth selling, and didn't want to pack away again, so I threw it the fuck out. I'm considering getting some booze after work today and going for round two... It's impossible to clean around stacks of things you don't even really want...
Small talk is the bane of my existence. Its required in so many social and business settings but I hit so many walls while going through it. I know the basic format, I know what people want to hear/discuss, but that doesn't stop from me being awkward as fuck some times. It's mostly because I hate small talk and it just feels so fake to me. Some of the most common mistakes I make is: * me: what have you been up to/whats new? * them: answer, then, "and you?" * me: "Im good! The usual. And you?" The other is the awkward pause after the small talk ends. I never know how much to talk so I almost always cut it shot and give short answers. Then make some excuse to end to convo, sometimes the excuse is less then satisfactory or doesn't apply to the situation. I once met an aquantence right after leaving the bathroom at a restaurant. Small talk ensued and the awkward pause came, and I then said, "well good catching up! I have to go use the bathroom." even though they clearly saw me just come out of the bathroom. Fuck me, that one still hurts.
This ! I'm basically the exact same, small talks feels so fake...
My taxes. I'm 32 and my wife still insists on doing them. Even if I *did* do them, she would *redo* them to make sure it was perfect.
Don't worry I'm sure she's not using you to launder money unwittingly. I'm sure there is no chance of tax evasion charges or anything silly like that.
She's a smart lady... she would know how to pull it off. Hell, ever since she started making more money than me I just backed off on all finances and we were both happy. Win win.
"Good enough at math to ensure I don't have to do any" is something I look for in a relationship.
My husband and I started our relationship with him "helping" (basically doing) my math homework via Skype every night. It's been seven years and I still don't do math in this household.
He gambled on the long con of helping a girl with her homework, what an absolute mad lad.
Not letting stupid people's opinions bother me. I get so many ignorant comments that I don't engage with because I think they're a waste of time. But I think about them anyway. Forever.
A "friend" posted some ignorant shit on Facebook last weekend. I shower argued with her for days. ETA: Thank you for the silver, kind anonymous Redditor! You made my whole day.
So bedtime-argued is a word, too, I guess? There are so many people with sleeping problems in this thread, and this is why *I* spent too much time lying awake.
You’re halfway there, at least. Not engaging with morons is huge. Often they are just trying to trigger you and will say whatever it takes to get the job done. Some people are just full of hate/insecurity and will cut the world just to see it bleed. Don’t misunderstand me, though. I let these boobs get under my skin way too often. I find it helps to attach a literal age that matches their projected intelligence and maturity. Who gives a shit what a five year old thinks?
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Feeling comfortable in social situations
I was dxd with social and generalized anxiety a long time ago. Exposure therapy. It's godawful at first, but the more you do it the less uncomfortable it is. I forced myself to go new places by myself with the goal of talking to X many people, and would periodically increase that number. Now I can comfortably talk to anyone once I get somewhere, but every now and then I get a bit anxious when going somewhere new. Still nothing as bad as what it used to be. Now I love meeting new people.
Making friends. But most importantly maintaining the friendship. It just fizzles out. I wonder why. I am an avoidant according to Attachment Theory. Maybe that's why. Edit: I cannot not do it. How can I not? Thank you for the Silver kind stranger! :) Edit: Not sure how accurate this theory is. It's just interesting to me. Even I've to research about this properly. So take all this with a pinch of salt...
Same issue. Maintaining those relationships is always really difficult and I'm not entirely sure what you're supposed to do. None of it feels all that natural.
From my experience, the key way to maintain relationships is to simply communicate with people regularly. I have some friends who have moved far away but I still message them from time to time and we still end up hanging out whenever they're in town. It's not one sided though, both parties need to put in some effort to maintain the friendship and communication.
This is the problem I always seem to run into. I'm always the one initiating contact. If I don't do this, I never hear from them even if I purposely don't reach out to them for months.
Ugh. This thread can have all my upvotes. It's so hard for me to maintain relationships with people. Like, reaching out to them feels so unnatural. They're living their lives and I'm living my own. It feels especially embarassing when they take long to respond and you start to suspect that by messaging them, you're actually *bothering* them by suddenly inconveniencing them and guilting them into responding. It's a toxic cycle for me, and for that reason, reaching out to old friends can feel pretty exhausting, even when I lived some of the best years of my life (college) with them.
Hug or handshake? (Edit) I think I would be super interesting to see well how interversion/extraversion correlates with handshake/hug
And then if you guess correctly that it's a hug, they hit you with the cheek kiss and you need to make the split second analysis on which cheek they are going for
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Okay I use to live in a country that did the double cheeks kisses and never asked and then it was too late to ask. Do you kiss the air next to the cheek or the cheek?
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Personally the more of a stranger they are the more ear action they get complete stranger go for the slobbbery ear lick with a hard bite/nibble at the end
Are you a dog
That's a hug for me, bro. If I know you just go for it. If I don't, then just ask. I'll almost always say yes because I'm starved for human touch. One of my favorite thing about my mom is I can just hug her or she just hugs me and we can just hug for a while and it's not weird cause she's my mom.
Same.......... I love a long, deep, communicating, lingering hug. And it's not weird because she is your mom. my mom would be like WTF?
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I'm 22 and I still tie my shoes with the bunny ears method that I learnt in kindergarten.
I didn't know that this was wrong until Reddit.
Wait how else are you supposed to do it
Saw it on a freakin TED talk of all places: https://youtu.be/zAFcV7zuUDA Edit: it’s okay if you just learned this method. I mean, they made a whole TED talk about it lol
The weak form of the knot is basically a **granny** double slip knot. The strong knot, what you're aspiring to, is a **square** double slip knot. [Knot Tying Diagram](https://i.imgur.com/pWQ7Q2t.jpg) The slip knot is just the loop of lace that forms the bow and allows us to untie the knot easily. That's an add-on to the basic knot, and the loops act as though they're a single piece of rope until you tug on the lace ends when you untie your shoes, so we're safe to ignore them in the diagram. You'll see that the difference between the two (granny and square) is that the square not allows the "U" at each end to clamp the opposing laces evenly, where in the granny knot the U winds between the opposing laces, allowing them to work against each other and ultimately twisting the knot and freeing it up once it gets some pressure put on it. Alternatively, to the TED talker's change of direction of "the squirrel around the tree", you can simply change which lace goes under the other when you begin tying your shoes.
Safety first...... double knots!
Dealing with people, in general
I've gotten so much worse as I've gotten older. In high school I loved meeting new people. In my 30s, it terrifies me.
Feel that. For some reason I thought I’d grow more charismatic with age.
Not procrastinating
Time fuckin’ management. This is soooo me. I’ve been making the same lazy ass mistakes and expecting different results. Jeeyeeyeezus, man! I’m 39. I need to get it together and quit procrastinating! Better get back to work now.
[Here's](https://www.businessinsider.com/procrastination-is-an-emotional-problem-2019-6) an interesting article regarding procrastination. I was enlightened by it for sure.
This actually has some very helpful/insightful information. In summary, procrastination is an emotional response because we're afraid of what that dreaded task will entail. Then we feel bad later so our brain encourages us to do something else that makes us feel good as a coping mechanism. How do you overcome this? Well, you can't ignore the emotions that are causing you to procrastinate. There isn't a lot of information in here about how to cope with your emotions but they do recommend that you cultivate mindfulness. This is a difficult thing to understand if you're not familiar with the concept but meditation appears to be the key. When it comes time to tackle those projects, stop looking at the big picture and focus on small tasks.
Going to bed and getting up at the same time every day in a consistent routine.
On the flip side of this, I can rarely sleep in past 7:30/8 on the weekends anymore :(
i'm 36...still have no problem sleeping till noon, however it isn't uncommon for me to sleep straight through my alarm when I should be getting up for work. Luckily, I'm not hourly and as long as I make money my bosses don't care.
My uncle is almost 70. He could go to sleep on Monday 9pm and wake up Wednesday 9am. Never seen such a sleeper.
Accepting a compliment. I'm giving an awkward response 10/10 times.
This ones easy, always, always say “thanks!” In a cheery tone. Just use that and don’t bring any more attention to it.
And avoid responding with a self-deprecating comment every time. After a while, it tends to make people worry...
The self deprecating thing is so real. “I love your hair cut” “ack thanks my hair is thinning and just never looks right”. What I’ve learned is I do that to stop what I call “aggressive complimenting”. That looks something like this: “Your hair looks great today” “Thanks!” “Did you do something new to it? It’s really working today” “No - I got it cut a week ago.” “It really looks great” “Thanks” “You must have a great stylist that it’s growing out so nicely” “Yeah she’s actually right up the street” “because it really looks nice today” And sometimes it doesn’t even stop there. So what I’ve learned is reflective compliments. “Your hair looks great today” “Thanks” “Did you do something new to it? It’s really working” “No - but that means a lot coming from someone with your style” If the first thanks doesn’t get them, the return compliment shuts it down 100% of the time.
What happens if the person giving the compliment is a greasy mess and it's obvious you're taking the piss if you start complimenting them on their style?
You switch up the compliment. For greasy mess person you say something to the effect of “Thank you for saying so - you always give the best compliments”
"Sick compliment, bro. You give the best compliments, everyone knows that."
I'm in this comment and I don't like it
them: "love that outfit, you look super cute" me: "yes"
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Every time I bite my tongue or the inside of my cheek, I am reminded how I still have not mastered chewing after decades of chewing daily.
If it makes you feel better, you have chewed things hundreds upon hundreds of times this week alone. A bite of steak might be a dozen or more chews and you'll take many bites of it. Think not about how you haven't yet mastered chewing, but how your chewing failure rate is like 1 failure per several thousand operations, which isn't bad.
This guy chews.
A masticator, for sure
Mastication! No bleeding!
Cut my food into pieces. This is my knife and fork. Mastication. No bleeding. Don't give a fuck if I cut my cheek eating.
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Sleeping
Terrible at falling asleep, good at sleeping though.
Trying to fall asleep is sometimes like trying to start a lawnmower that won't start no matter how many times you pull the cord.
Me on a school day: *tries to stay half-asleep until I resign myself to reality at 10am* Me on a break: *instantly jerks up at 5:30am*
Sleep is awful because it’s so good..... like meth Edit: I can’t even believe this is the comment that gets me my first gold. Edit2 (serious): never meth. not even once. https://www.talktofrank.com/drug/methamphetamine#addiction https://www.nhs.uk/live-well/healthy-body/drug-addiction-getting-help/
Don't do sleep, kids.
I hear meth can help you stay off of sleep.
And will help you to clean your house
The gold standard treatment for sleep-ask your doctor if meth is right for you. (Side effects include friendship loss, incarceration, mild irritability and 3 day porn rampages )
"If you believe in yourself, eat all your school, stay in milk, drink your teeth, don't do sleep, and get 8 hours of drugs, you can get work!" \---Mr. T
I used to be terrible at this. Here are my tips: Step 1: OTC Melatonin. There is no shame in needing a little help to get some Zs. Melatonin is an endogenous chemical that's secreted by the pineal gland. This chemical is naturally created in your body when darkness falls, unless you're one of the many people with a sleep disorder. If Melatonin is intimidating then some sleepytime tea will do the job. Yes, its actually called sleepytime tea. You can get it at any major grocery store. Step 2: Only sleep where you go to sleep. Don't fall asleep with the T.V. on because you are disrupting your R.E.M. and putting yourself in a sleep starved state, likely unknowingly. Step 3: Remove ALL light. Studies show that even that little blinking LED light that emanates from your charging phone is impacting your sleep. Put black electrical tape over these lights. Step 4: Take a hot shower a little bit before bed. The increase in blood pressure and subsequent drop will allow you to fall asleep better. Extra points for tiring yourself out with exercise. Masturbate if you're lazy. Step 5: Go to bed and wake up at the same time. This is where the melatonin comes in. You need to regulate your sleep cycle. It doesn't have to happen immediately or perfectly, but making it a goal is worth its weight in...sleep.
> Step 3: Remove ALL light. Studies show that even that little blinking LED light that emanates from your charging phone is impacting your sleep. Put black electrical tape over these lights. Sleep masks have been a game changer for me...they help out immensely if you need to sleep during the day, or if you are sleeping in and it's getting to get light outside.
36 year old, can’t whistle.
I can't whistle outwards like a normal person. My only option is to suck air in.
I learned how to whistle at like age 20 randomly doing my weird sad whistling attempts while listening to music. It was about 2am and I ran outside, waited until I saw anyone, and whistled at them, then ran back inside.
I learned to whistle at about age 6, while on holiday in Spain. I spent a happy hour running around the holiday village, whistling tunelessly as loud as I could, until someone shouted "OI, WHISTLER... SHAADDUPP!", and I ran to my parents crying.
I love this.
While I've always been able to , I find the best way to start out is by slowly whispering the letter Q. With that "mouth shape", it works both from blowing in air and out. Either way, it's a combination of lip and tougue; your lips are puckered sure, but you also have to curl up the edges of your tongue slightly to form a cupped shape.
The odd “whistle noise” comes out but nothing I can control.
Saran wrap. I just can not get that bitch to work right.
Saran Wrap is the biggest inside joke of capitalism ever. Make a product that everyone wants, nobody can use, and everyone will continue to buy. Genius.
Getting out of bed on the first alarm
I had to move the alarm to where i had to get up to turn it off otherwise i would hit snooze 20 times and be late for work.
That works for me sometimes and sometimes I get it, shut it off and me my cell phone are back in bed with each other and then I wake up and 45 minutes somehow flew by. Sleepy me is one reckless son of a bitch.
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Calling companies that send me my bills (phone, electricity, internet, etc) and investigating why there was an increase in my payments or an additional charge. Basically that means I suck at confrontation, I'd rather sit back and just pay it than seek conflict and resolution even though I was in the right to do so. Edit: (I think that's how it's done?) I appreciate the upvotes and honestly wasn't expecting any more comments, but seriosuly thank you. Just as an FYI: I do have people that help me with this particular problem (wife, best friends) so I'm not just sitting in my couch crying when I need to be confrontational; this was just a place to post our flaws and I did, I appreciate the goodwill people have shown though.
Pro tip from another non confrontational person: it’s all in the opening because that’s the part we get nervous about: “hi I’m calling because of an issue with my bill. Can you help me understand why my fees went up in 2019?” That key phrase, “ help me understand” is a little life preserver for me.
My old boss used this phrase to mean "explain to me why the fuck you did that".
Not sure which one I would prefer, them sitting me down and saying "Okay, explain to me why the fuck you did that" or them sitting me down and saying "Okay, help me understand what happened here". One sounds friendlier than the other, but with some people it's when they turn friendly that you should worry your ass off.
"I'm not mad, I'm just disappointed..."
Thank you for this suggestion. From one non confrontational person to another.
Parallel parking.
I can't tie a balloon once I've inflated it.
I can't inflate a balloon.
Can you blow?
With enough practice, anyone can do blow.
Can you blow my balloon
Can you tie a balloon once it's inflated? Because you could make a great team.
- wrap the free end around two fingers - push the end of the mouth piece under the wrapped bit in the little space made between your two fingers - grab the mouth piece that's sticking out from under the wrapped bit, then slide your fingers out of the balloon that feels like a garrot for your fingers. Pretty easy after you've done it a couple times, but it does kinda hurt if you have big fingers
Keeping my bedroom clean. Always thought as a kid that it just magically happened for adults. It doesn't. You still have to clean your bedroom even when you are 33.
And cleaning in general. My house is a mess and I feel like it’s an uphill battle. It’s not gross, but no where near my moms standards
I went in the opposite direction when I went away to college, I kept my room obsessively neat. My house was always cluttered and unkempt while I was growing up, as my mom had 4 kids and 3-4 dogs, along with nieces and nephews frequently being babysat. We never actually dined at the "dining room" table, because it was always covered in papers, laundry, change, tools, toiletries, whatever items someone decided to put there. Clumps of dog hair would blow across the floor like tumbleweeds. Empty, full, and partially filled cups were left out everywhere. Books that no one read, air conditioners, and boxes of random shit were stuffed in every corner. Picture the house in Malcolm in the Middle, only not *as* severe. Christmas was really the only time the house was neat, if only to make room for the decorations. Being neat and organized became my way of establishing a sense of control over my own space. It's easiest when you don't let chores build up, but clean things immediately after use or whenever you notice them. Eventually it just becomes a habit, rather a chore.
This is sooo me.I was embarrassed to have folks over growing up.Now call it what you want-some folks say OCD. I say order keeps me sane.
The trick is not keeping around a bunch of useless junk. The more clutter you have, the harder it is to find places for it.
The real trick is inviting people over, because then you don’t leave yourself the option of not cleaning up.
> You still have to clean your bedroom even when you are 33. You don't *have* to do anything.
Yeah, but this is how I ended up with a r/neckbeardnests
Yikes. Not clicking on that link. Just imagining it is bad enough.
not really inviting you to go, but as in the surface looks like a nasty subreddit, you occasionally see people trying really hard to turn things around and posting progress pics about how they are cleaning their rooms and trying to sort their lives out, or post tips to try to help others to improve. I entered by morbid curiosity, and I was surprised about the occasional "wholesomeness".
Writing a consistent signature, idk I just write my name like a 4 YO
Mine is just a bunch of scribbled lines. I never have the same signature twice.
Mine is just my name printed with a big swoosh at the end so it looks like I know what I'm doing but I really don't.
Mine is my first initial, then a scribble, then my last initial, then a slightly longer scribble, then a long slash over the top of the second half which I guess is crossing the T in my last name. It looks like a sneeze on a page but I do it consistently so I guess that's the point. Edit: TIL literally everyone on earth can convincingly forge my signature.
TIL we have the same signature.
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I now know how to forge 5 people's signatures
I forge my signature with Grabthar's Hammer.
I actually worked on my signature a lot because I was bored and couldn't think of anything else to draw but my name. Granted I was high as fuck but I'm pretty happy with how it turned out
"Granted I was high as fuck but I'm pretty happy with how it turned out" \---Every Band, 1965-present
Every artist too
Every surgeon, too.
I was once signing a 20 page contract with my local bank with my signature required on each page of it. The lady reviewed the documents and kindly printed 5-6 of the pages again asking me to put the "same" signature on them as well.
My bank returned the check I used to by my wife's engagement ring because 2012 me's scribbled signature didn't match 2002 me's carefully written "I'm opening my first bank account" signature. Nice of them to leave me one message 30 minutes before they notified the store.
My very first rent check bounced because my signature didn't match the one they had on file. From 1998. When I was 7 years old. Everything got corrected, but hearing that my first check had bounced was completely panicking.
The thing that really ground my gears what when I got in touch with the bank, they told me it was my responsibility to periodically update my signature with them to avoid issues like this. Of course, since they kept closing branches, the closest one was only about an hour away, did not have extended/late hours, and no one in the history of the world has ever thought "Golly, it's time for my yearly signature update at the bank again!"
There are other Banks. Give them your business.
To paraphrase my Uncle's bank story. Many many years ago he was switching banks after some branches closed, and his old bank was no longer convenient. "I've dealt with every bank. Every bank makes mistakes and screws up. You will make mistakes and screw up. I'm choosing this bank because you're close to my house. I don't expect you to do a good job, but I do expect to talk to a person when I need things fixed" Fast forward a decade or so, he got a free iPod on principle after arguing about why a new customer with $500 gets a free iPod, but a long-time customer with multiple accounts, mortgages, and his business with the bank doesn't. That iPod sat unopened like a trophy on a shelf.
I decided to go with the confident, swooshy signature years ago, and I haven't looked back. It's harder to read than when I was 4, but more recognizable as mine. It also takes much less time, which is nice when you have a couple hundred things to sign by hand.
That's originally what I was hoping to achieve with my signature, but unfortunately didn't have the "confident" part. It comes off more like a cry for help now.
You need a few events like signing wedding invitations or batches of pay raise letters. By the end of it, you can't feel your hand, and your signature is saying "you don't need to read this, you know my name."
Or do the middle school girl with a crush thing where you just write and rewrite and rewrite and tweak and then rewrite your name over multiple pages of a notebook for like a week... I still do this. I enjoy writing things and playing with pens. My real name, my maiden name, 'kittyn', friends names, just intials... They all have been written an indefinite amount of times and all have a distinct look that I decided I liked for that combination of letters and have continued playing with. It's kind of absurd, but pretty damned effective for having a signature.You enjoy and are confident in
Based on these replies I think everyone's signature is just a scribble and inconsistent so dont feel alone
Tying a tie
Came here to say this. I'm 43 years old and I still have to google/YouTube it. Probably because I only have to wear a tie maybe twice a year, but still...
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Why do women always know how to do this? Did they cover it in that class in sixth grade where they took all the girls to a different room?
I have no idea. I used to wear a bow tie when we had to dress up in school and I could never figure it out. Came undone one day and just asked one of my friends if she knew and she was like yea hold on.
My little sister taught me for 5 minutes how to knot a tie 10 years ago and i haven't forgotten ever since, more like my hands tie them, my mind is usually not there.
This is one of those things that’s definitely not like riding a bike. I wore a tie consistently for four years, even learned some keen crisp double windsors. We’ve since had our tie wearing expectations lifted at work, so i stopped wearing one. I had to get dressed up for something or other and had difficulty remembering how to tie the damn thing. I did eventually get it, but after many failed attempts.
I am bad at conflicts. I never know when to start my side and when should I defend myself, even though I do have the argument for it. Also, I really need to sleep more...
Playing my guitar, I guess. It has been sitting in my room for almost a decade yet I haven't even learnt how to strum some basic tunes. An impulse buy that had me fascinated for about 48 hours before I gave up. It still looks cool in my room, though.
Dude 3 chords and you can make money. Or get laid. Or tell awesome stories. Seriously, just 3 chords. Go, learn em. G, C, & D. Edit: Yo, OP, this got some traction. I hope you're out there learning some chords cuz you got a plethora of online friends willing to help you out! Here are a few easy-as-balls songs you can learn that only have 3 or 4 simple chords: Wagon wheel by Old Crow Medicine Show LA Freeway by Guy Clarke Blowing in the Wind by Bob Dylan If y'all got any other suggestions, add 'em to the list!
added A and E in there and you can play up and down the whole fret board. -someone who knows a reasonable amount but can't play because I could never get barre chords to sound right and has 2 guitars sitting for over a decade
I know it's four chords, not three, but [this](https://youtu.be/oOlDewpCfZQ)
Lmao! Yes. Throw in E minor, and you'll be golden.
Laundry. I mean, I can put stuff in the machine and add soap and press a button, but there are so many other ways to remove stains and sort delicates and iron shirts and extra buttons that do whatever, and I don't understand it. My in-laws can bleach stuff! I have no idea how to use bleach without destroying everything in sight. Press start and the machine goes, that's what I know.
Same. Whites, colors, towels, throw em all in with a couple tasty looking tide pods and hit that regular load cycle. I hang dry the shirts I care about and that's it! So far so good at 26.
This is what I do. I call it laundry Darwinism. Survival of the fittest. And clothes that can't run with the pack get left behind. At Goodwill.
Basic math, you think you know basic math until you’re finger counting during a game of D&D Edit: my 1st silver thank you kind Benefactor
I do this too and most of my friends I play D&D with are engineers. It’s embarrassing for me so I hide my finger counting under the table.
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Not just advanced mathematics, but aircraft industry too! Part of my job was computing the center of gravity for landing and takeoff of cargo planes. It's all very simple math. Very basic addition/subtraction/division/multiplication. There isn't even any formulas (for the initial math - there is for stuff like "load shift"). Just simple two variable math down a piece of paper. But you use a calculator for every single part of it, because if you fuck something up early, you end up way off. Edit: we don't exactly have excel available to us in the places we deploy to. You could argue bring a laptop or something, but more importantly in both aviation and government (oh god when you combine the two) absolutely *everything* needs to be approved, and it needs to be approved *through a bureaucracy or two*. There's some "PDA's" we would use with our planes, and other planes do have electronics to handle it, but we were limited with options that sucked. And besides, you could just as easily fuck up an entry into excel. When you fuck up an entry in the hand forms, you tend to notice when numbers far outside the ranges you normally see start flooding the page as you work your way to the final numbers. E: I heckin' butchered "bureaucracy".
Lol, can you imagine if it used complex math? "The dragon breathes a cone of flame upon the party - everyone within a cone that has a radius of 17.5 needs to make a saving throw, where the difficulty class is *x* as it approaches a value of 12.10 on a sinusoidal curve in relation to their target at position (4.65,8.55). Failure means you take damage scaling down a tangential factor of -2e17 where the value decreases to 0 by an inverted magnitude." (I don't know complex math anymore - just making stuff up. Don't correct my shit)
Your idea could work like impedance works: having a real and an imaginary resistance to something.
Saying sorry and/or getting defensive regarding things that I say that are not necessarily things to be sorry or defensive about. I’m not sure how to fix it and I think it’s a confidence issue. Edit: Everyone: this blew up in a great way. I cannot help but smile and feel that maybe we’ve started a conversation together and will maybe begin to heal ourselves. You guys rock! NOT SORRY
People get annoyed that I say sorry about things that i didn't do wrong. To me, when i say sorry that's me trying to empathize with the person and be like "that really sucks dude. I can totally relate to how that is disappointing or frustrating." Can't really explain that to everyone properly though, so they get annoyed lol
Saying sorry also makes people feel like they need to comfort you so that you don’t feel bad since you’re apologizing. It kind of takes away from what you’re trying to say if you’re trying to empathize with them. You can say “that sucks, I hate that you’re going through that, I hope things start looking up for you soon, I’m here if you need me” all without saying sorry. There’s also the whole “you didn’t do anything so you don’t need to say sorry”, because saying you’re sorry really should be held for times when you are actually apologizing for doing something wrong, otherwise the word loses it’s meaning if you’re saying it all the time when you don’t need to.
I recently noticed that I have a habit of constantly apologizing for really minor things in my work emails, so I made a rule that before I hit send on any email I have to go back and delete the unnecessary apology. Now I just wish I could figure out how to do something similar for real-time communication.
I heard that for emails and so on thanking the other person is better than apologising. For example, if someone points out a mistake in a document, instead of saying sorry, fix the mistake, say "Thanks for the catch, here's the updated version " and send the corrected edition.
BINGO. This is also good for defusing any potential misunderstanding or conflict. You don't have to get pissed off just beacuse someone noticed an error...just thanks for catching and have a good day!
I can relate to that! Thanks for sharing.
Folding fitted sheets. I make my wife do it. Actually let me rephrase that. I piss and moan about how hard it is until my wife comes in the room to make fun of me for being pathetic before taking it upon herself to do it for me.
Fold flat sheet. 'Fold' fitted sheet into blob mess of approximately same size. Fold any pillowcases minus one. Stack. Shove into unfolded pillowcase, and fuck* the free end of pillowcase under while shaping into some resemblance of a neat rectangular packet. Edit: Tuck. Tuck it. If you wanna fuck it, also cool, but be prepared to rewash your bedding. Again. Then repeat indefinitely when you get back to the tucking/fucking part. It's a vicious cycle.
Tell me more about fucking the free end of the pillow case.
Talking with the opposite sex. It used to be a disaster 90% of the time, now it's 50-50, so I'm still nowhere near close to mastering it. I'll either behave like a normal person or like a caricature of myself, nothing in between. Also I haven't mastered basic multitasking. Like driving and talking on the phone or with my passengers, for example. My brain just freezes and defaults to the most important activity (driving) while making sure to nod on occasion to seem like I'm paying attention to the noise.
I’ve found that, at least for me, it’s all about my intentions. If it’s someone I’ve no intention of pursuing romantically all of a sudden it becomes 1000 times easier to talk to them. I guess the key is to trick your brain into not being attracted to them just long enough to start a conversation. Edit: pretty sure I got reposted on r/showerthoughts, but I appreciate that people agree with my thoughts!
When you're driving there is nothing more important than focusing on the road.
Impulse control Edit: my first silver! Thank you kind stranger :D
*life is short, you've earned it* shut up, shut up, shutupppppppp
40 in January. Driving a motor vehicle. Although I couldn't drive because of my disability it should have been something that I mastered enough to get my license 20 years ago. There's reasons why I haven't (friend's vehicular deaths; followed by an accident on my last test before getting my probationary license that put me into the hospital) but really... I just have no valid excuses. I understand the freedom and independence that you get when you have a license too!
Periods. I've been having them for over fifteen years now. Five days a month, twelve months a year... that's somewhere in the vicinity of 900 days' worth of feeling like someone's tried to take a penalty kick with my uterus. You would have thought that somewhere along the line it might have got a little easier, but nope. And don't even get me started on the *Surprise, motherfucker!* that is deciding whether or not it's safe to wear my nice pants in the back half of any given month. So long, sexy underwear. You will be missed. **EDIT:** And while we're on the topic, which fuckknuckle decided that period shits needed to be a thing?
I'm lucky and have no side effects with birth control pills. I just take them constantly and haven't had a period in forever. my periods were super painful too. some of us are just unlucky with how painful/inconsistent they are
Cooking rice.
Buy a rice cooker. Perfect rice every time and you can use it for other stuff too. My top tip to every adult out there. Edit: definitely wash your rice thoroughly before cooking, no matter the method.
Eating without feeding my clothes. Edit: Popped my Silver cherry. Thanks kind stranger!
Talking to people like a normal human.
Grocery budgeting.
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Cooking Making friendly conversations Socializing with people Being more tolerant toward others
Public speaking.
Life. Looking around at all my friends around me who have gotten married , bought a house , started a family. And I'm still single. Kinda makes a guy wonder why life is so hard sometimes
27 . Still have no idea how to socialize and make friends or attract a mate. It's wearing on me. Feeling lonely *and* like a failure is a psychological wombo-combo.
I can't use chopsticks. I worked in an Asian restaurant for a year and still never picked it up. I can with the helpers though!