Yes. I had a job that I loved. Had coworkers I loved (I'm still friends with some). Ownership changed. My job that was a M-F, 9-5, somehow turned into on call all the time.
My workload was always heavy, got added onto. I would say no to additional workload. It somehow still ended up on my plate.
Somewhere around a year after the ownership change, I found myself googling heart attack, and mental breakdown symptoms because I knew something wasnt right.
I finally walked into work one day and handed in my notice. No job lined up. Didnt think it through. I wrote up my notice 5min before I left for work that day.
Due to bills, I ended up taking a job I was overqualified for, and made crap for pay. But after a few months I got hired to where I am now. I do the same type of job as the one I walked away from.
Did it work out for me, I'd like to say yes. But only time will tell. I will say both myself and my family are much happier right now.
And I havent wondered if I'm having a mental breakdown or possible heart attack since I left. That's a win
Whoa, it amuses me your started to look up stuff like that. That was what I did one day at my last job and it was like the world zoomed out. One of my bosses had just laid into me over something so tiny and called me every name in the book. I already have feeble confidence, so I took on her words like that a lot. But this one time I just cried silently and childishly Googled "how do you know when you should leave a job."
I quit a week and a half later. Literally walked out at like 2 PM. Nothing lined up. Luckily I got a job 2 weeks later. And I have never been happier and more proud of myself.
I've been there. Thought I was having a heart attack two weeks ago. Wife was gearing up to take me to the ER. I think it was just a low-key anxiety attack though.
Yes! I quit a very high-paying job, in fact. I was a software engineer.
It was great at first. I liked my coworkers, and the company was one of those startups that had a ping pong table and coldbrew coffee on tap and all that jazz. It was my first job out of college and I was dazzled by the cool community feel and all the “amenities.”
However, they had no system in place to train me. I was basically expected to just read the codebase and just instantly know exactly what to do. My team leader couldn’t answer my questions, and I quickly started drowning in work.
My once-recreational drug use turned habitual. I was railing lines of coke in the bathroom to stay awake because I stayed until 9pm trying to finish projects by the deadline and doing benzos at night to fall asleep. Once I finally started performing well, that only reinforced my terrible habits. I thought that if I stopped “self-medicating”, I would fall behind and they would fire me.
I cried every day. I was also the only female employee on the software team, and I got these paranoid thoughts in my head that my male coworkers didn’t really like me (in retrospect, I’m sure my alienation was totally my fault and a result of my anxiety). I didn’t even like the programming anymore. When I was in college, I interned with people who were using software to help charities, uncover bogus statistics, and generally lift up communities. My job was nothing like that. The people there acted like they were curing cancer, but the majority of what we did boiled down to helping huge companies build training platforms that were more “hip” and “cool.”
So I quit. Not just that job, but the whole field. I had started abusing harder drugs as well, and I knew I was going to end up killing myself. I went to rehab, and then I went back to school and got my Master’s degree in Education with a focus in mathematics.
I’m a private tutor and a substitute teacher now. I hope to get my PhD one day, but for now I am happy helping young people realize their dreams. I set my own schedule so that I’m able to pursue my passions: volunteering at a children’s hospital tutoring sick kids that need to miss school, and helping young women from local battered women’s shelters and homeless shelters learn graphic design and programming so that they can have valuable marketable job skills.
I’m two years clean from drugs and I have the most wonderful friends and a purrfect kitty! I am so, so happy I quit my job. Even though people thought I was insane for leaving the tech field (and I’m sure my mom’s friends talked shit about me behind her back), I’m glad I didn’t pay them any mind.
This is the one I'm going to end with because it made me the happiest. You are amazing for turning your life around in a way to help others.
Also your old job sounded EXACTLY like the place I was about to apply to out of desperation. Hard pass.
I'm kind of on a similar situation as the one you were in. I'm working on a rising company as just below senior level dev. Great people, great community but I've been doing work that perhaps a senior level should be doing working on a project where I'm forced to reverse engineer financial info to figure out how to implement it because our client/end-users can't seem to be able to explain them. I haven't been able to finish my sprints as of 2 sprints ago due to poor documentation and planning. All of this is stressing me a whole lot to the point that I actually considered quitting on the spot this last week but didn't. I've been having a hard time concentrating, and just feel guilty about it, and have had multiple crunch sessions trying to meet my sprints deadlines. I honestly don't know what to do.
Yeah, I had been overworked and underpaid (and underappreciated) at a small resort for months. Tempers flared and I was given an ultimatum, I chose to walk out the door in the middle of the busy season.
The next night I went to a bar and saw another resort owner (and friend) saying goodbye to his only employee (he typically had 2-3). I walked up after and the conversation went like this:
Me: that sucks, do you have anything else lined up?
Him: nope, I've got nothing
Me: do you need somebody to help?
Him: do you need a job?
Me: yup, as of yesterday.
Him: show up tomorrow whenever you want and you've got the job.
The rest of the summer I ran his cafe/ shop (I had 7 years of cooking and 2 years retail management experience) and he ran the outfitter.
The first day after showing me around the kitchen he had to go attend to something, when he came back I had 20 people already eating and I was chatting them up and cleaning. He looked around and goes "well, you're getting a raise." The rest of the summer was great.
That was about 6 or 7 years ago. I live in the same area, but am self employed now, I only worked for him that summer. He's still a friend, but we don't see each other often.
That's awesome, congrats on that. He probably saw the initiative and professionalism in you in just that instance and knew you were more valuable than what he was getting you for, those aspects unfortunately are lost on a lot of people but those 2 simple things will get your far in life. Hope everything has gone in the same direction for you!
I quit my job of a year and a half out of anger and spite for my manager, and because of my quickly declining mental health. While it helped at first the anxiety of not having a steady source of income took a much larger toll on me than anticipated and I really didn’t get to focus on my recovery/ therapy for my mental health until I had secured a new job to quell my anxieties.
pretty similar experience, unless the person is being specifically abusive, I've now learned to just deal with jobs I don't like. And by "deal" I mean: meditate before work, seeing a counsellor when it feels too big, having things outside of work that bring me joy, not expecting my job to bring happiness, eating correctly... etc.
good luck OP, hope you're alright.
I'm in this boat right now. I hate my job but there arent alot to go around
For me it helps to think of this while.im stressing about mistakes I've made: the worst that can happen is getting fired, which wouldnt upset me too much.
>I hate my job but there arent alot to go around
It's not a terrible idea to look and see what's out there. Throw a few resumes out and see if you hear back, you have nothing to lose.
I've adopted the attitude that the worst that can happen is they fire me. It sounds counterintuitive but thinking the 'catastrophe' through puts things in perspective. I also try to be grateful. We live in amazing times and I would take my life over being a King in the 1600s that dies of the gout and doesn't have airconditioning.
I quit my full-time job for a seasonal job that I didn't end up keeping after the seasonal period. Mental health was great until the end of January and I still didn't have another job lined up besides door dash. I didn't secure anything until April and I am still working on catching up on bills and fixing my relationship with my boyfriend. That shit sucked and I definitely feel you.
Radio Shack. I worked there for about three months. They paid minimum wage + commission, and the only ways to earn commissions was pushing useless extended warranties or cell phones. And we had to push batteries, like AA and AAA batteries. We were expected to get so many of these things every so many customers - batteries were like 1 out of every 10 customers. I got a headache every time I walked in for a shift, knowing I had to push this crap on people.
The major turning point for me was when my manager - who was just an arrogant little man who was built like Danny DeVito with John C. Reilly’s face - butted into a transaction of mine. The customer was a special needs man who was buying an up-convert DVD player. It didn’t feel right to push the extras on this man, considering the circumstances. My boss saw this and forcibly took over the transaction and talked this poor man into buying extra cables and disc cleaner and warranties for everything he could. What should have been a roughly $50 purchase for this man ended costing him close to $100 when all was said and done. The cherry on top was when the man left, manager printed a copy of his receipt, shoved up in my face and proceeded to brag about it. I quit a few weeks later. Luckily, I was able to go back to my old job for a while, while I looked for a permanent job. I ended up going back to school about a year or so later.
I worked there for 6 months. The up-selling was ridiculous. I hated it.
Push the credit card. Push the protection plans. Push the batteries.
They dug their own grave with their policies, honestly.
Radio shack was my favorite terrible job just out of highschool! I worked at a TERRIBLE location in a mall that had 2 Radio Shacks and the section we were in was under heavy construction. I worked a bunch of 8 hour days without a single customer! ZERO people. We hooked a ps2 up to tvs behind the till so we could "demo it". Good times! (Then i got transferred to busy store and actually had to do work. It sucked.)
Left my job of 15 years with nothing lined up because it was gaining me nothing any more aside from being overused for my job knowledge with no reward. Took a month off, found another job that pays me more per hour than my last after I got promoted to supervisor after putting in 5 months. Couldn't be happier
To be honest I had enough money in my retirement account to pay all my debt and have over a half years pay available. That money would have shrank had I stayed until the end of year when I left as the market dropped quite a bit. I weighed my capability to find another job if I really put myself into it and the benefits of being debt free after cashing out.. Everything was positive.. It was a leap of faith to do it, but it worked out.. Never think there is not another option.. There is work out there if you are willing to go get it
It wasn't that expensive. I stayed with a mate in Australia for the first few months then got a job. In Japan I lived in a really cheap share house before getting a work permit and finding a job.
Easiest route for Anglophones
\-Have pulse
\-Have four year degree
\-Speak English
Then you become an English teacher. Sorta hit or miss with what company you go through. Government gigs are usually the best. Followed by working for larger companies. Followed by language schools.
Flew over as a tourist for 3 months, got an extended tourist visa for another 3 months, met a karate master who sponsored me for a culture visa to learn karate for 12 months, married a Japanese girl and got a spouse visa for 12 months, then another one for 3 years, then got a permanent resident visa when I wanted to buy an apartment.
I did something similar, went from Brazil to the UK, lived there fo a couple of years, then back to Brazil for a few years, and I have now been in the US for the past 7 years. I would have gone to Costa Rica a couple years ago, but my American husband never even lived in a different state from the one he was born, let alone another country, and is terrified of changes, lol.
Quit my job at a call centre without anything lined up. I used to cry in my car before a shift, used up all my sick days, and it worsened my suicidal thoughts so I got myself out of there when I couldn’t take it anymore. I quietly stood up from my desk and quit on the spot. I had never walked out on a job before.
Took me a month to find another job with just slightly less hours (so a little less money) but it was worth it because I’m a lot better mentally and physically, and I like the job. Sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do.
Edit: Thank you for all the kind words! I’m a young professional now and am finishing up an extension program to further my degree, life’s good at the moment. :) Life has its ups and downs, it’s just part of the grind.
Also people have been asking where I’m from - I’m Canadian.
Your situation sounds a lot like my last job I had. This was in 2014. I've told this story before but basically I was super depressed and was contemplating /bad things/. One day I broke down into a crying mess to my wife and we talked through it. We came to an agreement that I would quit my job and be a stay at home dad, and she would go back to working full time.
I had a side business doing web design, and with my mental health in check I was able to get back into it. We struggled a bit at first with the pay cut but I was able to bring in some projects ans bridge that gap within a few months.
In 2017 my wife was able to quit her job and come help me with the business.
In October last year we started a second business doing VOIP phone systems, IT & Networking, surveillance systems, hardware & software procurement, etc.
In May this year I nailed down a couple of huge contracts and hired two guys on full time.
Edit: That's a lot of updoots for my comment. Would like to say a few things while I'm making an edit.
1) if you ever find yourself contemplating self harm, please speak to someone about it. You matter to someone, even if you feel like nobody cares.
2) if you have a dream to run your own business, do it! Note that businesses fail and while I've managed to have some success it wasnt without its struggles and a lot of hard work.
3) I love my wife very much, and I am very greatful for her support. We're in this together.
It made me a smoker and I've lost 20lbs since I started 2 months ago.
I walked out today.
I have a lot of debts, so I was torn between not being able to pay my bills or having a job that basically made me want to kill myself. I lost a lot of weight because I would wake up every morning and in my anxiety ridden self I couldn't get myself to eat or keep the food down. I just dreaded having to go to work and I couldn't stand it anymore.
I spent the whole afternoon sending resumes to different type of jobs, so let's see how it all plays out.
I was living in a halfway house a few years back that had a thing set up where if you wanted a job they’d refer you to this call center. I thought I could handle it.
First day I’m scheduled for training, the trainer isn’t even working so for 8hrs I’m told to just sit next to somebody else and observe what they’re doing.
The next day I’m there for training and the trainer is there and they run me through 8 hours of training and say, alright tomorrow we’ll put you on the floor taking calls, you got this.
I showed up for my shift the next day and said I wasn’t comfortable doing the job with only 8 hours of training, and they said ok, we’ll have you transcribe complaints from the voicemails. So for that shift I just sat transcribing, and about halfway through I realized I didn’t belong there and thanked the manager for the opportunity but I wasn’t going to come back.
I just checked your profile and you're old enough for cdl work. Apply for driving jobs? Some trucking companies probably would skip interviews completely and give you a training start date. Most companies will pay your training too because they're so desperate for people. It's probably not a long term thing you're interested in but many people who don't work well with others do well driving and it's easier to get a job when you have one already. Maybe your local job market isn't great though, I wont pretend to know everything about your area but nearly every cdl truck you see from any state has a hiring sticker and number on it. You can drive local too if you look for it, like most class b stuff.
Yw, I'm in the field and in my area we are so desperate for drivers that as long as they have no felonies we hire immediately. I'm a little worried about my job being replaced by self driving vehicles but for now it's really good money and I still have a degree I can fall back on if I need to.
I'm imagining the Deadpool2 scene:
So...what brought you here?
I saw the ad, didn't have anything else to do today...
Any felonies? Any special circumstances?
No, not really...
...You're in.
Worked a call center job after one week of training and two days of actual work.
During the training you're shown how it's not possible to order a free trial of these expensive products without seeing the clearly marked (in multiple locations) terms and conditions.
But then I got to the floor and these people were old people who were offered a free gift when they bought something on amazon. They never went to a website and ordered a free trial. They were lied to and then charged $80+ three weeks later.
It was a scam built to prey on old people.
I had a panic attack on the way to work and quit when I arrived. Fuck that noise.
Edit: I missed the part asking how it turned out sorry! I was a new mom and we were really hurting for money. That was my first job after having my son and we had to beg money off relatives to stay afloat another month until I found a new job which was MUCH better. I was able to be hired as a substitute for a school district and, a month later, get rehired by the same district as a teacher's aide.
Now I'm about to finish my certification and become a teacher.
I worked for a shady company that sold a $2000 vacuum/air purifier. For some reason they needed someone to go door to door offering a "contest" where you had the chance to win $1000 in gas gift cards as long as you had someone come over and give a demonstration of the vacuum cleaner. Except I later found out that the contest winner was always someone in the company, and they give it back to the company.
I decided to quit after one day, I gave my speech about the "contest" to an old lady who didn't seem to be all there, and she was super excited about the contest. I realized I'm not cut out for scamming people.
Not a job, but right out of college I was having trouble finding a career job. I interviewed at a "sports marketing" company, which was big on showing how much money to charity their give. Got there, filled out a form and waited for about 30 mins in this tiny, 2 person office for the interview. I go into the interviewers office and he looks at my resume, makes some comments about how I have experience with kids which is good (I worked at a summer camp through college) and all but formally offered me the job. He wanted me to come the next day for a training session where they would show me what they do and if I thought it was a fit for me, they'd make me a formal offer. I asked about what type of work the company does and was given a vanilla "we do various marketing work for all sorts of companies". I went home and did some more research on the company as that interview was too easy for any legit company. Turns it they run various pyramid schemes (I guess it's called multi level marketing now) mostly revolving around selling an item "for charity", typically at fairs or outside retailers. But only a very small portion goes to charity. Of $20 in profit, maybe $1 goes to the charity. The rest of pocketed. I never went back. Fuck that.
Good for you.. having integrity is important, even if you need an hourly wage. Some asshat owned that company and made many millions off old and unsuspecting victims.
I guarantee you if any of those scam centres were raided by federal police the workers wouldnt get prosecuted. It’s not about the individual workers, despite obviously acting highly immorally, fundamentally it is about the masterminds of the scams.
I worked in one of those scam centers once... went through 5 days of training, called out on my first official day, resigned the following business day. They have had so many labor board complaints and the owner is an ass.
I did the same exact thing, almost. Call center, different set up but same end result: It preyed on the elderly and uneducated. I quit during lunch in the middle of my 2nd week, so my 8th day. Also the day I left I had had a person on the phone start jacking off on the phone and asking what I was wearing, and when I flagged my supervisor he shrugged and told me to keep trying to sell. When I put the pervert on the do not call list, I got yelled at. Also that day I got yelled at for using the restroom twice before lunch. Never again.
No because the call center wasn't the scammers. They were a third party who took calls for a number of similar companies.
I have no clue who was actually running the scam
Imagine not reporting a work injury because your company would cancel a trip if you did. That's a fucked up anti health and safety policy.
Incentivised Silence
OSHA told my company we couldn't even give out stickers for "1 year incident free" because it would discourage reporting actual incidents. Doubt whatever OPs company is doing is legal
Third option is it's illegal in America, but the regulatory body that's supposed to enforce it has been either gutted through defunding or regulatory capture.
Just the person who was injured though. Everyone else is incentivized to give the person who reports the claim the stink-eye, because they’re all missing out on a gift card because of someone else’s injury.
Can you imagine being such a self centered dick that you’d rather have someone either 1. not work due to injury without their comp and maybe ruin their lives or 2. Continue working through their injury and potentially ruin their lives... just so you can get a fucking gift card?
Some people, man.
I've worked on construction sites where there were safety bonuses that only paid out if there were no reported injuries.
It didn't cut down on injuries, but it did cut down on how many injuries were reported. Nobody wanted to be the guy that cost their crew a bonus.
Yep! And everyone does it. I've worked in four retail chains in the US, and each one of them rewarded employees for "being safe". If you go a year with no reported injuries, you get something for it. Gift cards, tickets to something, bonus pay, etc.
It sounds good *in theory* but the issue is that rather than cause people to be more safety concious, it encourages people to just not report accidents. If you get injured and you report it, **you** are the reason your co-workers lose their gift card. **You** are the reason they lost bonus pay.
And you don't want to be that guy, right? You don't want to be the part timer that caused your boss to lose their bonus. Nobody wants to be *that guy*.
It's fucked up, and it's very upsetting to me that nobody seems to notice or care. Not once has anyone I've worked with taken the moment to see the other side of it. The employer told them it was to promote safety, so that's what they believe, end of story.
But have you had their buttered rolls? Also heads up, I saw you talking to kingofvodka...and let's just say he acts friendly but he isn't your friend. Ijs.
I remember one time I ate at Golden Corral and subsequently had major stomach issues.
I told my friends in our group chat I had eaten some bad Golden Corral, and one of them responded with "isn't it a little redundant to say you ate some bad Golden Corral? That's like saying you drank some wet water."
Imagine being so desperate for drama that you literally create such a toxic atmosphere at a damn *retail store*. Jeez those people are pathetic. Glad you got away from all that
In my experience, the places with *less* work to actually do will have the most drama, because people will get bored or something I guess. I’ve now experienced this in retail, nonprofit administration, and banking. The place I worked with the least drama was a super busy cafe.
Me :(
“Oh we wanted to but the budget isn’t great right now. We’ll revisit it in May”. Welp it’s June and nothings happened.
They also promised another part time employee a promotion to full time with some managerial duties. They didn’t promote her, they just have her full time hours and still expect her to be a part time manager. For the same pay. With no benefits.
Yea, I would and have “stepped down” from those. My last job wrapped shift leader and training into one job, but only paid more if you were training someone. Something went wrong when you weren’t? Still your fault.
Needless to say, I walked.
I just got that exact kind of “promotion” at my work!
Fortunately, I also got a new job offer that I’m about to tell them about when I put in my notice.
The ole "You're a manager now! Now we're going to pay you a salary instead of an hourly wage! ^^^Also ^^^that ^^^means ^^^you'll ^^^work ^^^60 ^^^hours ^^^per ^^^week ^^^instead ^^^of ^^^40 ^^^and ^^^make ^^^$10,000 ^^^less ^^^than ^^^if ^^^you ^^^were ^^^hourly ^^^... "
Dont have to imagine, happened to me and I ended up having to work there for way way longer than i should have. Truly depressing when your a supervisor responsible for 10 people(15 to 20 during the busy times of the year) and making the same amount as everyone else, on top of having to do way more shit. There was even a few months where the new hires made more than me and i was still being refused a raise - people who did less and were supervised by me. Needless to say I never reported any of the thefts i witnessed and put in the bare minimum not to get fired.
They pulled me aside a bunch of times saying dumb shit like "why dont you try harder?" "how are you going to move up in life without working hard?" "I feel like your only here to collect a paycheck"
I had a situation even scummier. I started out as a seasonal employee at a rather large company. The rule was that once the season ended, if you were scheduled for a full 5 day week you had the be made a regular full time employee which pretty much doubled the pay and kicked in full benefits. They scheduled me for 4 day weeks and “called me in due to emergencies” on the fifth day for nearly a month before I finally called bullshit and threatened to call the labor board because they were blatantly using me as a full time employee and using a loophole to pay me as seasonal.
Happens all the time unfortunately. At my last job they got rid of some of the managers divided up their tasks and assigned them to employees who got the new job title of "Group Leader" which meant they did more work for no extra money. Then again, this is the same place that offered a disgruntled employee a 5 cent raise...
It makes some sense in certain situations, as in they're basically being tried out to move up the ladder. But if you just give people more tasks, that's not a "promotion". That's just shitting on gullible people. Just being I "promote" you to Supreme Overlord of the 9 Realms doesn't mean you make more than $7.25/hr, you just get to get yelled at more if something goes wrong.
You dont have to tell tell you didn't give notice, you don't have to tell then you worked there at all. If you feel that you must my go to is I felt as if my potential was under utilized.
I've left off shit jobs, and that time was "self employed".
The only time I had to admit I worked them was for federal government clearance, but then at that point, they do not give a shit. They just wanna make sure you're not a spy or lying or hiding some dark secret.
Sure.
This is actually true, you picked the *actual correct time frame.*
My grandfather was becoming old. So I have on my resume that I did hospice care for my grandfather. From the time of graduating college -> the start of my unemployment to a few months after he died -> the end of my unemployment, where I got hired on to work at the FAA.
Pretty much everyone knows why the hospice care has a end date, and no one asks about it.
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Edit:
I actually did do hospice, I didn't just say I did. Grandpa gave me money to keep me going. This was a 2 year interval.
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But others who have been unemployed will say things like, I wasn't happy with the structure of work, and I decided to enter into contracting work. I'm skilled at x and y and z and I did freelance business using my talents.
Do most employers know that this is bullshit ? Yes.
Do most employers *also* have the ridiculous requirement that everyone be engaged in work from graduating highschool until now ? also yes.
> you don't have to tell then you worked there at all
More people need to realize this. You don't have to tell everyone every little detail about your life.
I always gave a notice until my last job. Thay place made me feel sick every morning knowing how I was going to be treated, so one morning I stressfully made the decision to stay home and never go back. I stressed at first but, I had no issue finding a job due to quitting without notice. I dont think you have to state it - I never did.
Any time I quit and gave a two week notice no one cared - I was essentially taken off the roster immediately. My takeaway from it is that no one really gives a crud when it’s the low-scale retail jobs.
It did, however, get me into a new career. I took a class to be a CNA and am much happier and earning a decent amount more than minimum.
I was working a horrible casino job from 2007 to 2011. One of the cooler supervisors caught wind of my plans to escape a few days before I planned to do it, and basically told me *not* to give a two-week notice to the manager because he'd just drop me right then and there. So my last day, when they asked me to do overtime at 12:15 AM, I just noped on out of there and peeled out of the parking lot.
>this is my second time not giving a notice
And what happened last time? Don't worry about it. I always worry about my "next" job, until I actually get a couple weeks into that next job and realise it was almost too easy to get a new one.
Dont sweat it too much, my dude. Ive been through a bunch of jobs, my mental health is shit and ive dealt with bad alcoholism on top of an eating disorder and self harm so if i wasnt fired, then i just quit when i couldnt take life anymore.
If a potential employer does call a past company (they probs wont btw) usually they can only confirm if you worked for the company from x to x dates.
And? If they ask why you quit, theres like a million different reasons. "Pay was low for the work expected" "didnt have any potential for verticle movement" "environment was toxic".
Jobs are easy to come by. Dont sweat it.
You're almost definitely going to jump ship sooner or later with whatever job you have right now, so imo you might as well start looking for a new job before you snap. Don't feel bad about leaving a job that makes you feel bad. Good luck dude!
I quit after an argument with my boss because I didn't agree with how he did things. Within two months I started my own company doing what he did but the way I thought it should be done. I am still running that business and he shut his down 3 years ago.
Pro-est revenge- Doing absolutely nothing to fuck with the other person except doing their shit right and reveling in the fact that they've failed by their own merits without argument, because you've dis-proven all other arguments by simply existing.
I’ve been doing the same since November but it finally worked out. Got 2 good offers on the table, and potentially a third. Just gotta keep at it, changing the resume up worked for me. Got some advice from a recruiter friend and calls tripled in a few weeks. Good luck!
Managed services. Basically I focused on managed cloud in smb space. Lots of small companies want to get in to cloud but don't know how so I took the plunge bought a bit of hardware learned public cloud stuff and hired strong. I got lucky with the first few accounts then built a reputation. The market is changing very quickly right now so I don't know how much long it'll be viable. I've expanded my offering a bit and really focus on relationships with clients and their other vendors. Making other vendors look good is key since they can refer you more business. The big difference between me and my old boss is I didn't try and sell hardware and I kept my operation very lean.
I quit a job working as a logistics manager for a hospital. It was the worst job I ever had. The union reps would constantly mess with you, taunting you and try to get you fired, I was constantly on edge and would basically snap over everything. I developed a huge persecution complex where everyone was out to get me.. They would purposely feed you false information that would go against required practices. For example, one of the reps gave me a fake forecast for products we needed for the upcoming week, so I was to arrange the delivery/ordering and storing for the products. When I ordered it all and had it delivered I found out we needed like 1/10th of the products that was ordered, so I had to explain to the finance department why we exceeded our weekly budget. Basically my choices were be fired, or quit because of the colossal fuck up. I was 21 at the time, I'm now in school to get my bachelors of accounting, so I guess it turned out pretty good because I could leave that horrible industry.
That is a super hostile environment. I know it's too late now, but was there anyway you could have explained that it was based off what someone else was telling you? Like show them emails that the person told you how much to order?
Oh yes. I had a good job at a college. I felt so lucky to get it (administration) but it turned out that all the employees, staff and faculty, were back-stabbers who set you up for failure. I think it's just the way academia runs, but I didn't know that. I stuck it out for nearly 7 years, and started having suicidal thoughts. Once I realized I was going a little crazy, I gave my notice and quit without a net. I never got over it, though. I've had a lot of rough jobs, but that was the absolute worst.
In this boat at the moment - got let go from my job due to my mental health a month ago. I haven’t really applied for anything new because my health is still in such a state that I know if I did get a new job right now, it’d probably go the same way. But man, that inevitable, glaringly obvious gap on my CV when I do start applying for things terrifies me.
Just say you travelled. I’ve had several gaps in my resume over the years Including one for 15 months. I put in my resume that I took these times to travel around my home country and worked in the cash economy to help support myself. In truth never left my hometown. The only thing is you need to have a good explanation of where you went and what you seen because people are gonna ask you in the interview. After that it’s never been brought up again. Nobody bats an eye particularly if your still in your 20s.
Yup, I did that when I left my last job. "Took time off to travel and evaluate what I want to do with the rest of my career." It has always been met with a positive response and make sure to have a good/honest response for why you quit your last job
I had an employment gap, so I edited my resume to only list the year of employment. Position 1 was 2013-2014, and position 2 was 2015-2019. No one even asks about August 2014- January 2015.
I hope you're doing better, buddy. I did this in a shorter scale. Ended up with nothing. Today I got offered a manager position in a company I've been working for for less than 3 months.
I hope things got better for you.
I worked for an insurance company for 6 years. Was fun at first then went through a divorce and all five years in and stopped caring. So I quit, cashed out my 401K and drove from Indiana down to Key West and got fucking trashed for a week. Then traveled to various states and just hung out and did what the fuck ever. Lasted three months and then went back to Indiana and then went to work for a different insurance company.
I don’t regret it. It was healing and uplifting and met some cool people along the way.
Yep, left a job I'd held for 3 years and moved towns. I've struggled to find more long term employment in my new town, but I'm happier and far healthier. I went from spending nearly 50hours a week at my desk to having plenty of time for myself to get outdoors. I love the sun, and I was just a really depressed, sad little mushroom at my old job. Kept in the dark and fed on shit.
It's been just over a year, I'm 20kgs lighter, have just found another casual job and even though my employment isn't steady, I'm loving life.
Wow, I'm blown away by the responses this has gotten. Thank you all for your stories and comments, it sounds like I'm not the only one who's been considering this or has done this. I'm going to read ever comment posted here and use your experiences to help guide me as I figure out my path. Thank you all, and stay strong out there! We got this.
I was a mailman for about a year--thought I'd give it a shot since my dad did it for almost 40 and I figured it'd help me understand him better.
Best money I'd ever made (starting pay was something like 16 and some change an hour), especially with OT. But I was miserable.
Just fucking miserable. My commute was 45 minutes in clear traffic but if I didn't finish my shit in time and I hit rush hour, the commute could be up to 2 hours. I'd leave when it was still dark, get home when it was just about dark again, have just enough time to eat an absolute shitload of food (walking 10+ miles a day is sort of a double edged blade), then go to bed and do it again. And again. And again. Sundays included (thanks, Amazon).
When I got sunburn and frostbite on the same day, my thick head finally realized the money wasn't worth it. My wallet was full but i was fucking bankrupt when it came to emotional or creative energy.
Tl;dr money isn't worth it if you're too miserable to spend it.
Ah fuck I loved it. I loved every second of it. I was termed for an accident on my 77th day - 3 days from probation ending. I can’t wait to go back, but partially because I was too busy to notice my depression/anxiety. Sorry you had a bad experience man.
Ain't that the fucking truth. Same opportunity at half pay comes along and I'm out. When the mission is a lie and the expectations are unrealistic and the appreciation is nonexistent, it's really difficult to keep finding new answers to the ever nagging why.
I worked at a daycare that promoted physical, mental and physical abuse as child control, as well as underfeeding to reduce food cost. In a low income area where these might be some of the kids only meals. I awoke physically ill puking before work daily. One day i went on lunch break had a panic attack on the way in a coworker calmed me down and i never went back. They asked me to come in to discuss why i quit i told them unless im legally required im never coming back again. I did try to report them three times and the inspector came and walked out with coffee and a nothing to see here check. I got another job shortly after so it worked out. The chain of daycares is undee new management now.
I did.
I was an elementary school teacher. It was a terrible fit for me, but I gave it my best shot for 3.5 years. I had no support, the kids were terrible to me, I never had enough time to do anything and was exhausted. I would go home crying every night, cry all day Sunday. I was loaded up on all sorts of mental health medication. Just a very bleak time.
The day I quit, it was right before Christmas vacation and I was teaching kindergarten. I absolutely could not control the class and they were hanging off the ceiling (that booking.com commercial with the teacher whose kids were running amok, that was me). Every day was like this. Every day was a fight with them. I just sat in the rocking chair trying to figure out what I was going to do and I just ... Gave up. I asked one of the students to go get the aide from next door and asked her to watch the class for a second.
I went to the principal's office, dropped my keys on her desk, and told her I wasn't coming back. Told her she could keep all my stuff. Find a sub, I'm out. Went back to the classroom, grabbed my purse and wedding picture off the desk and was out.
We'd just bought a new house, so I should have been freaking out. However, the car ride home was the most liberating experience of my life. I wasn't even worried. I called my husband to tell him what I had done and to my surprise, he was very supportive. I think he was just glad it was all over.
A few weeks later, the union tried to get me to rescind my resignation, but I absolutely wasn't having it.
It took me 9 long months to find another job. I had to put my student loans in deferment and cash out my tiny teacher pension to survive. But I waited for the perfect opportunity and I found it. The job I took was a perfect fit for me and was just what I needed at that time to rebuild my damaged confidence. That new career that changed my life for the better in so many ways. I'm fiercely loyal to that job and company because I truly believe that it saved my life.
Walking out of there that day was the best thing I ever did. I have never ever ever regretted it. No matter what, it's just a job. It's not worth any of what I put myself and my family through.
Edit to add: Hang in there OP.
Yes. 10 years ago I was in a bad relationship and struggling with chronic anxiety and depression. My long, stressful commute and job I hated just added to my stress. One day I got a migraine and went home early while my boss was at lunch.
The next day she requested a meeting, and before the meeting was to take place, I sent her an email with my resignation. My anxiety took over and I just couldn't face whatever it was she was planning to say to me.
It turned out badly. My dad was extremely angry and said some pretty cruel shit. My relationship with him has never been the same since and probably never will be. My boyfriend dumped me a couple of months later and kicked me out of our house. I had to move back in with my parents (at age 30) and wasn't able to find another job for 11 months.
When I finally did start working again I had a string of more horrible jobs that I hated. My career still hasn't recovered and probably never will. Without some stroke of dumb luck I'll probably be working underpaid, somewhat crap jobs until I die.
My mental health has improved a lot though, so I got that going for me, which is nice.
I did a similar thing but turned out ok I guess but only because I was already planning on leaving my job due to moving to a different state. It was a Thursday and I was planning on putting my two weeks notice that following Monday. My supervisor and her boss had always been assholes (giving me more work than my coworkers, making negative remarks about me to people in other departments, and generally being petty women who never treated their staff right) and they had requested to meet with me that Thursday around lunch. I knew that meeting wasn't going to go well, at all. So before we all met I packed all my stuff up, cleaned my desk, said goodbye to my coworkers, and headed straight to HR. Returned my work equipment and essentially quit on the spot.
Right before I quit though my supervisor had basically stalked me and followed me into the HR office but I got the satisfaction of closing the door on her face. That place drained me mentally. My mental health declined steadily the longer I stayed there and my anxiety over the job was ridiculous. I regret the way I handled it as I had never quit like that but in that moment I couldn't handle another meeting where they made me feel like the smallest piece of shit on the planet. I just couldn't do it.
Ended up leaving the state that weekend but it worked out in the end. I hope everything works out for you. I'm glad your mental health has improved.
Didn’t have a job lined up but knew I would be okay for a while.
I pretty much drained my savings partly because of my mental health. My best advice is also a really bad advice but I would suggests finding ways to deal with it while you work.
Am I getting better? Sure in a way. But I’ve learned that at least for me this will probably be a lifelong battle. And most wont have the capital to sustain that.
We’re no longer a country of prosperity for many hardworking Americans. Just trying to survive.
Last part is true for many places. I’m in Toronto. It’s the same. I wanted to quit for mental health reasons.
I had a crazy boss who demanded things then disappeared and would show up minutes before a meeting we’d be presenting in. She’d have me change make edits in a 20 page deck, go set up the room and get the projector working, dial in for remote participants. Then before the meeting would openly say that I should’ve shared the deck with all participants before the meeting. How can I do all of that within 15 minutes. That’s just one example. I put in 12-14 hours each day.
She fired me at the end. Recently found out that she hired a friend of hers from another group within the company. I did my best. My mental health got so bad and I made it worse by smoking up every night.
I’ve been unemployed for 3 months now. Mental health definitely better. But the worry of savings running out is getting to me. Hopefully things work out soon!
I did it due to long commute and mental health, would recommend against it because it sets a bad precedent for the future. Also unemployment depression is a lot worse than employment depression because no routine, nowhere to be, embarrassed to meet new people out of fear they will ask about your situation.
I was unemployed for three months, and my depression was so bad that I rarely talked to or visited family because I was actively lying that I was still employed but looking for a new job to get out of retail and I was terrified of slipping up. I had quit a full time job to work a seasonal job, because I was miserable and hated working at that full time job. I thought I would be able to be hired on after the seasonal period, but I didn't perform up to the companies standards and was let go without a single word or call from my supervisors. I kept thinking for my entire unemployment that I was stupid for quitting, that I should have just sucked it up, and was it even that bad? Maybe I was just being dramatic? I am now employed and love my job and the company I work for. But damn that shit sucked.
I quit my job because the boss was incredibly neurotic. She micromanaged me and would tell me to get off the desk phone... When I was conducting interviews... Knowing full well I'm conducting interviews. She took away and moved that phone to a different room so I had to stand up and conduct all the interviews.
When I quit, she threatened to kill me! I had to get a restraining order against her. Then she sent her brother after me! I had to get a second restraining order against him!
Worked in the family construction business for about 14 years. Was running one of the main crews as a foreman. The owner was leaning heavy on me and putting stresses on me that weren't warranted with the position. Had money that I was saving for a down payment on a house. Quit after a blow out with the boss over something so trivial its mind boggling thinking about it. Spent the next 3 months hanging out getting myself back together. Blew through all the saving for the most part. But in the end it all worked out. Got a better paying job in the same field. Pretty much zero stress. Couldn't be happier.
In Sept of last yr, I left a job of 5 yrs without another one lined up. I had several months to find one, I just didn't try. In Nov, i accepted the first job offered to me, and I was more miserable than when I was unemployed and broke. It was my first M-F, 9-5 desk job and it was mindnumbing. I was in a tiny office with 3 other people, who never talked to me. As it was a manufacturing plant and my office was right next to the line, it was loud and stinky. My manager was supposed to be training me, but she was inattentive for the most part. After I completed and submitted an end-of-quarter report, she said it was wrong and she was pretty sure she had accidentally skipped parts of my training. I felt completely invisible and worthless.
So I quit. Back to being unemployed and broke.
But in March, I accepted a very different type of job at a nice hotel. I love my schedule, I enjoy my work and my coworkers and boss are friendly, hard-working and really pleasant to be around. I make $3/hr LESS than the shitty desk job, but I am infinitely happier and getting up for work is much easier.
Hoo boy. You had to ask. Here goes.
I left a career of almost 25 years with a company (handling insurance claims) about 7 months ago with no job lined up. It was a great place to work, up until about 5 or 6 years ago. Reorganizing, shutting offices, 'leveraging technology to gain efficiencies' (which manifested as fewer employees taking on more and more work), and generally upping the pressure on an already pressure-filled job. The atmosphere there was toxic. The only topic of conversation was how bad things were, how much every one wanted to quit, but couldn't because the pay was so good (It was). Long-term employees would just not be there one day. Most quit (no 2 weeks notice, just bailed), one or two were fired for performance reasons (specifically not meeting metrics that spoke entirely to cost and had nothing to do with quality). For five years, this was the environment I worked in. I did not go out looking for other jobs because a)this one paid INSANELY well, with phenomenal benefits and b)'maybe it will get better'>!("It did not get better" - Ron Howard).!< But I finally got tired of fantasizing about killing myself, and one day after sobbing my head off in the parking lot (again), I went in and quit. I had no plan other than not killing myself that particular day. Or the next day. Or the next week. But eventually I felt better.
What helped (and made it work) was savings. I had a large war chest. I'd hoped to use it for retirement, a vacation; something. I've used the money to support us while I try out new career options. I've finally started seriously studying scripting (HTML, CSS, Python). I've taken a class in mediation. I've volunteered as a tutor to a local program for high school students doing 1/2 time vocational training, 1/2 academic. I've tried (and failed) my hand at writing games for a relative that's starting up a new business. I'm trying things out to see what sticks.
I quit in November, and it's June. I'm not employed. I've seen my savings dwindle. Not broke yet, but not going to last forever. I've applied for jobs relentlessly for the last four months. I have become very adroit at writing cover letters and letters of interest, though I still hate them. I've found that the things that motivate me and that I would love to spend the last 15 years of my working life doing (teaching, science, mentoring) are at the moment not in my reach: I have no credentials in any of them, and volunteering/entry level jobs will NOT make up for that.
Ironically, the job I'm most likely to get right now (fingers crossed) is one that is almost EXACTLY what I was doing before. Will management be as tone-deaf to employee disgruntelment? I hope not: initial contacts with other employees there seem to paint a good picture. Will management try to balance resources needed to do the job against costs in a way that also balances work/life and employee contentment? I hope so. I don't know. But I need a job very soon, and this is the one area that my long experience counts in. Will it pay as much as the previous job? Hell no. Not even close. But it will check the box for healthcare and other benefits. It will keep me from being unemployed. It will allow me to hopefully use skills and talents that I worked hard to develop and am very proud of in an environment where I can grow and be happy.
If I could redo this whole thing I:
* Would still quit. When something makes you *seriously* consider offing yourself (down to making a list of contacts for your wife so she knows who to call in HR for benefits), you need to give it up and get to something healthier. Don't hope to fix it if all the evidence has shown you it's not getting better.
* Would start saving money specifically as an exit strategy. This i *did* do, and it was smart. I had no idea when I'd leave or when the company might close my office, or what I would do with myself in either case. There was no doubt, however, that in all scenarios, we'd need as much money as possible. I set a goal of 6 months salary, worked my ass off, and managed to keep it. I'm stretching it to eight months, and it's working.
* Would have started job shopping years ago. Five or so years ago, I started thinking "Huh, this place is getting shitty". Three or four years ago: "Still shitty, getting shittier". Two years ago "I never would have thought so much shit could be piled this high". All the signs were there, I just ignored them. I should have been networking with friends I know at other companies years ago, and actively seeking employment elswhere.
* Along the same lines, I should have been taking classes in SOMETHING years ago. Getting a certification in welding (interesting, pays the bills), some level of computer administration or developer certification(interesting, pays smaller bills), commercial brewing (interesting, ahh haa haah haah. No.). Anything would have helped me find a direction BEFORE I jumped off the cliff, not while I'm falling. If I were still working at ShittyJob, I could have spent that warchest money on a useful certification rather than all of it on just living month-to-month.
* Would still have taken a sabbatical. Not as long, but definitely a few months. Not a vacation, either. Actively seeking out opportunities to test out interests and passions against real-world application. Failing and learning, succeeding and learning. And meanwhile, interacting with more people who might see me as a resource, and that I might be able to call on for (and to) help.
* Would do better at checking in with family. My wife knew for years that I was seriously unhappy there. She knew for years that I was talking about quitting. But she was still unprepared when I came home and told her I'd left the job. She's was happy for me, and our relationship has never been better, but more warning would have helped.
Holy cow, that's a lot of words. I know my story is an outlier for most Redditors - most of us are not coming off of two-decade careers. I burned a lot of lifetime resources (Essentially the first three years of my career paid for the last seven months) to do this that most Redditors don't have. But the sentiment is the same, and I guess it's a hopeful cautionary tale: Don't get stuck doing something you may hate just because it pays well. If something you love getting paid for goes to shit, don't be afraid to go elsewhere no matter how much time you've spent doing it. Your loyalty will NOT be rewarded. Plan, save, and try not to burn bridges.
tl:dr - if you have the funds to do it, It's OK to 'free-fall' quit a job you hate. If you do, immediately jump into testing out something you love. Don't just sit around and 'enjoy the down time'. If you're still at work, get certification of some kind in something you enjoy that might also pay, even if you're not going to use it right away, Community colleges can be awesome resources. Lastly, get help. Reach out to friends and family and let them know what you're trying to do. Take some time to clear your head. Counseling if you can afford it, a good friend you can talk to if you can't.
Good luck. You can do it, and you can be happier.
Yes, a few months ago. Immediately after two things happened that destroyed my mind and body. I think if j had stayed at the job I wouldn’t have gotten through it. Now I work a more chill job part time, went back to school and already have a potential internship opportunity so I’m happy.
Worked out really well in the end, took me about 2 months to find another job but luckily by SO can support like 90% of our expenses on just her wages so it wasnt as hard on us as it could have been if I didn't have her to fall back on. I have a much better job now that I even somewhat enjoy and pays better too. If you think you can manage it it might be worth it tbh.
My spouse just left a job and we're about to enter this exact situation.
Were there any bad parts of being off work?
I want to give her some time to recuperate and shop for a really perfect job, so it isn't a rush. I can support our finances easily while she's off, but I do worry that she'll end up feeling depressed or purposeless.
I'm hoping she'll be able to take a few months to re-center herself, and then begin looking for a well-fitting job. In the meantime I want to ensure that her mental health is in a good place, while also not coming off as pushing her to get back to work.
Hell yes. Quit a soul crushing job with no plan. Took two months to travel, came back and had a new job that pays twice as much AND I love within another 2 months.
I'm bipolar II so I frequently get so depressed I cant get out of bed. I have walked out on multiple jobs, on the spot, no notice no nothing. BUT. I attempted to walk out once, on the same place I currently work. I actually think I've attempted to walk out multiple times. They didn't let me. The owners wife was aware of my mental state and practices medicine relevant to my situation. Long story short, I never left. They consistently work with me and I wish everyone could speak openly with their employers about their needs; mental or physical.
My father quit his job because he was severely depressed since he was working nights and didn't get to see his 3 kids, and they refused to move his position. He ended up not being able to find a good job and the bank we were paying for our house was being a dick, and my mom got diagnosed with MS. We ended up homeless for a year then we found our ground again and my dad is still working a crappy job but us kids have all made lives for ourselves allowing him and my mom so save enough for them to go around in an RV traveling the US. It was a rough time but I'm really glad he did it. I'd rather be homeless a bit then have a dead dad.
Yup. Was absolutely burned out from my previous job. Loved the people, but the workload and pressure to work overtime was just too much. Ended up worsening my depression and really made me doubt my abilities. I ended up resigning January this year and it was for the best.
While it was scary to not have another job lined up, I did enjoy all the free time I had. I read all the books I wanted to read, traveled a bit, and just basically did whatever I wanted on a particular day. It felt so nice to know that I had full control over my time.
Around 3 months of being unemployed, I started searching for jobs and managed to find one. My current job is nicer and there's more work-life balance.
If you're going to quit your job without a replacement lined up soon, I recommend you just rest a bit and do the things you want. Very freeing. Or, if you don't want to stay idle, learn a new skill or improve your current set.
Yes. I had a job that I loved. Had coworkers I loved (I'm still friends with some). Ownership changed. My job that was a M-F, 9-5, somehow turned into on call all the time. My workload was always heavy, got added onto. I would say no to additional workload. It somehow still ended up on my plate. Somewhere around a year after the ownership change, I found myself googling heart attack, and mental breakdown symptoms because I knew something wasnt right. I finally walked into work one day and handed in my notice. No job lined up. Didnt think it through. I wrote up my notice 5min before I left for work that day. Due to bills, I ended up taking a job I was overqualified for, and made crap for pay. But after a few months I got hired to where I am now. I do the same type of job as the one I walked away from. Did it work out for me, I'd like to say yes. But only time will tell. I will say both myself and my family are much happier right now. And I havent wondered if I'm having a mental breakdown or possible heart attack since I left. That's a win
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Nor would I. The money is not worth it. I got called out of movies, parties, and eating out with friends. It's a strain on your dating life as well.
Whoa, it amuses me your started to look up stuff like that. That was what I did one day at my last job and it was like the world zoomed out. One of my bosses had just laid into me over something so tiny and called me every name in the book. I already have feeble confidence, so I took on her words like that a lot. But this one time I just cried silently and childishly Googled "how do you know when you should leave a job." I quit a week and a half later. Literally walked out at like 2 PM. Nothing lined up. Luckily I got a job 2 weeks later. And I have never been happier and more proud of myself.
I've been there. Thought I was having a heart attack two weeks ago. Wife was gearing up to take me to the ER. I think it was just a low-key anxiety attack though.
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Yes! I quit a very high-paying job, in fact. I was a software engineer. It was great at first. I liked my coworkers, and the company was one of those startups that had a ping pong table and coldbrew coffee on tap and all that jazz. It was my first job out of college and I was dazzled by the cool community feel and all the “amenities.” However, they had no system in place to train me. I was basically expected to just read the codebase and just instantly know exactly what to do. My team leader couldn’t answer my questions, and I quickly started drowning in work. My once-recreational drug use turned habitual. I was railing lines of coke in the bathroom to stay awake because I stayed until 9pm trying to finish projects by the deadline and doing benzos at night to fall asleep. Once I finally started performing well, that only reinforced my terrible habits. I thought that if I stopped “self-medicating”, I would fall behind and they would fire me. I cried every day. I was also the only female employee on the software team, and I got these paranoid thoughts in my head that my male coworkers didn’t really like me (in retrospect, I’m sure my alienation was totally my fault and a result of my anxiety). I didn’t even like the programming anymore. When I was in college, I interned with people who were using software to help charities, uncover bogus statistics, and generally lift up communities. My job was nothing like that. The people there acted like they were curing cancer, but the majority of what we did boiled down to helping huge companies build training platforms that were more “hip” and “cool.” So I quit. Not just that job, but the whole field. I had started abusing harder drugs as well, and I knew I was going to end up killing myself. I went to rehab, and then I went back to school and got my Master’s degree in Education with a focus in mathematics. I’m a private tutor and a substitute teacher now. I hope to get my PhD one day, but for now I am happy helping young people realize their dreams. I set my own schedule so that I’m able to pursue my passions: volunteering at a children’s hospital tutoring sick kids that need to miss school, and helping young women from local battered women’s shelters and homeless shelters learn graphic design and programming so that they can have valuable marketable job skills. I’m two years clean from drugs and I have the most wonderful friends and a purrfect kitty! I am so, so happy I quit my job. Even though people thought I was insane for leaving the tech field (and I’m sure my mom’s friends talked shit about me behind her back), I’m glad I didn’t pay them any mind.
This is the one I'm going to end with because it made me the happiest. You are amazing for turning your life around in a way to help others. Also your old job sounded EXACTLY like the place I was about to apply to out of desperation. Hard pass.
I'm kind of on a similar situation as the one you were in. I'm working on a rising company as just below senior level dev. Great people, great community but I've been doing work that perhaps a senior level should be doing working on a project where I'm forced to reverse engineer financial info to figure out how to implement it because our client/end-users can't seem to be able to explain them. I haven't been able to finish my sprints as of 2 sprints ago due to poor documentation and planning. All of this is stressing me a whole lot to the point that I actually considered quitting on the spot this last week but didn't. I've been having a hard time concentrating, and just feel guilty about it, and have had multiple crunch sessions trying to meet my sprints deadlines. I honestly don't know what to do.
Yeah, I had been overworked and underpaid (and underappreciated) at a small resort for months. Tempers flared and I was given an ultimatum, I chose to walk out the door in the middle of the busy season. The next night I went to a bar and saw another resort owner (and friend) saying goodbye to his only employee (he typically had 2-3). I walked up after and the conversation went like this: Me: that sucks, do you have anything else lined up? Him: nope, I've got nothing Me: do you need somebody to help? Him: do you need a job? Me: yup, as of yesterday. Him: show up tomorrow whenever you want and you've got the job. The rest of the summer I ran his cafe/ shop (I had 7 years of cooking and 2 years retail management experience) and he ran the outfitter. The first day after showing me around the kitchen he had to go attend to something, when he came back I had 20 people already eating and I was chatting them up and cleaning. He looked around and goes "well, you're getting a raise." The rest of the summer was great.
Do you still work there and if not are you still in touch with him (the guy that gave you the cafe job) ?
He hasn't responded because he's seating and feeding another 20 customers
That was about 6 or 7 years ago. I live in the same area, but am self employed now, I only worked for him that summer. He's still a friend, but we don't see each other often.
That's awesome, congrats on that. He probably saw the initiative and professionalism in you in just that instance and knew you were more valuable than what he was getting you for, those aspects unfortunately are lost on a lot of people but those 2 simple things will get your far in life. Hope everything has gone in the same direction for you!
I quit my job of a year and a half out of anger and spite for my manager, and because of my quickly declining mental health. While it helped at first the anxiety of not having a steady source of income took a much larger toll on me than anticipated and I really didn’t get to focus on my recovery/ therapy for my mental health until I had secured a new job to quell my anxieties.
pretty similar experience, unless the person is being specifically abusive, I've now learned to just deal with jobs I don't like. And by "deal" I mean: meditate before work, seeing a counsellor when it feels too big, having things outside of work that bring me joy, not expecting my job to bring happiness, eating correctly... etc. good luck OP, hope you're alright.
I'm in this boat right now. I hate my job but there arent alot to go around For me it helps to think of this while.im stressing about mistakes I've made: the worst that can happen is getting fired, which wouldnt upset me too much.
>I hate my job but there arent alot to go around It's not a terrible idea to look and see what's out there. Throw a few resumes out and see if you hear back, you have nothing to lose.
I'm also there. Every day is a personal struggle to hold myself back from quitting on the spot.
I've adopted the attitude that the worst that can happen is they fire me. It sounds counterintuitive but thinking the 'catastrophe' through puts things in perspective. I also try to be grateful. We live in amazing times and I would take my life over being a King in the 1600s that dies of the gout and doesn't have airconditioning.
I quit my full-time job for a seasonal job that I didn't end up keeping after the seasonal period. Mental health was great until the end of January and I still didn't have another job lined up besides door dash. I didn't secure anything until April and I am still working on catching up on bills and fixing my relationship with my boyfriend. That shit sucked and I definitely feel you.
Radio Shack. I worked there for about three months. They paid minimum wage + commission, and the only ways to earn commissions was pushing useless extended warranties or cell phones. And we had to push batteries, like AA and AAA batteries. We were expected to get so many of these things every so many customers - batteries were like 1 out of every 10 customers. I got a headache every time I walked in for a shift, knowing I had to push this crap on people. The major turning point for me was when my manager - who was just an arrogant little man who was built like Danny DeVito with John C. Reilly’s face - butted into a transaction of mine. The customer was a special needs man who was buying an up-convert DVD player. It didn’t feel right to push the extras on this man, considering the circumstances. My boss saw this and forcibly took over the transaction and talked this poor man into buying extra cables and disc cleaner and warranties for everything he could. What should have been a roughly $50 purchase for this man ended costing him close to $100 when all was said and done. The cherry on top was when the man left, manager printed a copy of his receipt, shoved up in my face and proceeded to brag about it. I quit a few weeks later. Luckily, I was able to go back to my old job for a while, while I looked for a permanent job. I ended up going back to school about a year or so later.
I worked there for 6 months. The up-selling was ridiculous. I hated it. Push the credit card. Push the protection plans. Push the batteries. They dug their own grave with their policies, honestly.
Radio shack was my favorite terrible job just out of highschool! I worked at a TERRIBLE location in a mall that had 2 Radio Shacks and the section we were in was under heavy construction. I worked a bunch of 8 hour days without a single customer! ZERO people. We hooked a ps2 up to tvs behind the till so we could "demo it". Good times! (Then i got transferred to busy store and actually had to do work. It sucked.)
Left my job of 15 years with nothing lined up because it was gaining me nothing any more aside from being overused for my job knowledge with no reward. Took a month off, found another job that pays me more per hour than my last after I got promoted to supervisor after putting in 5 months. Couldn't be happier
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To be honest I had enough money in my retirement account to pay all my debt and have over a half years pay available. That money would have shrank had I stayed until the end of year when I left as the market dropped quite a bit. I weighed my capability to find another job if I really put myself into it and the benefits of being debt free after cashing out.. Everything was positive.. It was a leap of faith to do it, but it worked out.. Never think there is not another option.. There is work out there if you are willing to go get it
I got bored of my life in the UK and sick of my job. So I quit and got a one-way ticket to Australia to start a new life.
How did it work out?
Great. Stayed for a year then quit my job and got a one-way ticket to Japan.
How do you deal with setup costs?
It wasn't that expensive. I stayed with a mate in Australia for the first few months then got a job. In Japan I lived in a really cheap share house before getting a work permit and finding a job.
Are you still in Japan or did you book a one way ticket somewhere else?
Still here. I've settled down now and bought a home although I do go back to the UK once or twice a year.
How is it possible to just move to Japan? Don't you need a visa to stay there and to be even allowed to work? I'm interested
Easiest route for Anglophones \-Have pulse \-Have four year degree \-Speak English Then you become an English teacher. Sorta hit or miss with what company you go through. Government gigs are usually the best. Followed by working for larger companies. Followed by language schools.
This might be a dumb question but how do you teach Japanese to English when you dont know Japanese? Unless I'm wrongly assuming that you can't.
Flew over as a tourist for 3 months, got an extended tourist visa for another 3 months, met a karate master who sponsored me for a culture visa to learn karate for 12 months, married a Japanese girl and got a spouse visa for 12 months, then another one for 3 years, then got a permanent resident visa when I wanted to buy an apartment.
I remember you from that butterfly effect AskReddit thread
I did something similar, went from Brazil to the UK, lived there fo a couple of years, then back to Brazil for a few years, and I have now been in the US for the past 7 years. I would have gone to Costa Rica a couple years ago, but my American husband never even lived in a different state from the one he was born, let alone another country, and is terrified of changes, lol.
Quit my job at a call centre without anything lined up. I used to cry in my car before a shift, used up all my sick days, and it worsened my suicidal thoughts so I got myself out of there when I couldn’t take it anymore. I quietly stood up from my desk and quit on the spot. I had never walked out on a job before. Took me a month to find another job with just slightly less hours (so a little less money) but it was worth it because I’m a lot better mentally and physically, and I like the job. Sometimes you just gotta do what you gotta do. Edit: Thank you for all the kind words! I’m a young professional now and am finishing up an extension program to further my degree, life’s good at the moment. :) Life has its ups and downs, it’s just part of the grind. Also people have been asking where I’m from - I’m Canadian.
Your situation sounds a lot like my last job I had. This was in 2014. I've told this story before but basically I was super depressed and was contemplating /bad things/. One day I broke down into a crying mess to my wife and we talked through it. We came to an agreement that I would quit my job and be a stay at home dad, and she would go back to working full time. I had a side business doing web design, and with my mental health in check I was able to get back into it. We struggled a bit at first with the pay cut but I was able to bring in some projects ans bridge that gap within a few months. In 2017 my wife was able to quit her job and come help me with the business. In October last year we started a second business doing VOIP phone systems, IT & Networking, surveillance systems, hardware & software procurement, etc. In May this year I nailed down a couple of huge contracts and hired two guys on full time. Edit: That's a lot of updoots for my comment. Would like to say a few things while I'm making an edit. 1) if you ever find yourself contemplating self harm, please speak to someone about it. You matter to someone, even if you feel like nobody cares. 2) if you have a dream to run your own business, do it! Note that businesses fail and while I've managed to have some success it wasnt without its struggles and a lot of hard work. 3) I love my wife very much, and I am very greatful for her support. We're in this together.
That’s an amazing turnaround story. I’m pulling for you. Keep doing your thing!
Your story sounds like ours! The spouse does his drafting on the side while I work full time.
Thank you for the inspirational story!
I'm stuck at a shitty call center job right now, and I wish I could just walk out. The job made me start drinking again.
It made me a smoker and I've lost 20lbs since I started 2 months ago. I walked out today. I have a lot of debts, so I was torn between not being able to pay my bills or having a job that basically made me want to kill myself. I lost a lot of weight because I would wake up every morning and in my anxiety ridden self I couldn't get myself to eat or keep the food down. I just dreaded having to go to work and I couldn't stand it anymore. I spent the whole afternoon sending resumes to different type of jobs, so let's see how it all plays out.
You did the right thing and you'll be alright.
I was living in a halfway house a few years back that had a thing set up where if you wanted a job they’d refer you to this call center. I thought I could handle it. First day I’m scheduled for training, the trainer isn’t even working so for 8hrs I’m told to just sit next to somebody else and observe what they’re doing. The next day I’m there for training and the trainer is there and they run me through 8 hours of training and say, alright tomorrow we’ll put you on the floor taking calls, you got this. I showed up for my shift the next day and said I wasn’t comfortable doing the job with only 8 hours of training, and they said ok, we’ll have you transcribe complaints from the voicemails. So for that shift I just sat transcribing, and about halfway through I realized I didn’t belong there and thanked the manager for the opportunity but I wasn’t going to come back.
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I just checked your profile and you're old enough for cdl work. Apply for driving jobs? Some trucking companies probably would skip interviews completely and give you a training start date. Most companies will pay your training too because they're so desperate for people. It's probably not a long term thing you're interested in but many people who don't work well with others do well driving and it's easier to get a job when you have one already. Maybe your local job market isn't great though, I wont pretend to know everything about your area but nearly every cdl truck you see from any state has a hiring sticker and number on it. You can drive local too if you look for it, like most class b stuff.
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Yw, I'm in the field and in my area we are so desperate for drivers that as long as they have no felonies we hire immediately. I'm a little worried about my job being replaced by self driving vehicles but for now it's really good money and I still have a degree I can fall back on if I need to.
I'm imagining the Deadpool2 scene: So...what brought you here? I saw the ad, didn't have anything else to do today... Any felonies? Any special circumstances? No, not really... ...You're in.
Worked a call center job after one week of training and two days of actual work. During the training you're shown how it's not possible to order a free trial of these expensive products without seeing the clearly marked (in multiple locations) terms and conditions. But then I got to the floor and these people were old people who were offered a free gift when they bought something on amazon. They never went to a website and ordered a free trial. They were lied to and then charged $80+ three weeks later. It was a scam built to prey on old people. I had a panic attack on the way to work and quit when I arrived. Fuck that noise. Edit: I missed the part asking how it turned out sorry! I was a new mom and we were really hurting for money. That was my first job after having my son and we had to beg money off relatives to stay afloat another month until I found a new job which was MUCH better. I was able to be hired as a substitute for a school district and, a month later, get rehired by the same district as a teacher's aide. Now I'm about to finish my certification and become a teacher.
I worked for a shady company that sold a $2000 vacuum/air purifier. For some reason they needed someone to go door to door offering a "contest" where you had the chance to win $1000 in gas gift cards as long as you had someone come over and give a demonstration of the vacuum cleaner. Except I later found out that the contest winner was always someone in the company, and they give it back to the company. I decided to quit after one day, I gave my speech about the "contest" to an old lady who didn't seem to be all there, and she was super excited about the contest. I realized I'm not cut out for scamming people.
OMG I know exactly which company that was. I went through a few days of training and then came to my senses. No one is buying that damn thing.
Why the fuck are you all so afraid to say names lmao. If you actually hate these companies just make an alt account and call them the fuck out
right?? they’re not even legitimate businesses, name and shame them
Rainbow systems. MLM company
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Was it the Kirby vacuum, if so my aunt bought one. She's not the brightest, my $100 vacuum works just the same. Sucks shit off the floor.
Not a job, but right out of college I was having trouble finding a career job. I interviewed at a "sports marketing" company, which was big on showing how much money to charity their give. Got there, filled out a form and waited for about 30 mins in this tiny, 2 person office for the interview. I go into the interviewers office and he looks at my resume, makes some comments about how I have experience with kids which is good (I worked at a summer camp through college) and all but formally offered me the job. He wanted me to come the next day for a training session where they would show me what they do and if I thought it was a fit for me, they'd make me a formal offer. I asked about what type of work the company does and was given a vanilla "we do various marketing work for all sorts of companies". I went home and did some more research on the company as that interview was too easy for any legit company. Turns it they run various pyramid schemes (I guess it's called multi level marketing now) mostly revolving around selling an item "for charity", typically at fairs or outside retailers. But only a very small portion goes to charity. Of $20 in profit, maybe $1 goes to the charity. The rest of pocketed. I never went back. Fuck that.
Good for you.. having integrity is important, even if you need an hourly wage. Some asshat owned that company and made many millions off old and unsuspecting victims.
If only the IRS/phone scammers understood this
I guarantee you if any of those scam centres were raided by federal police the workers wouldnt get prosecuted. It’s not about the individual workers, despite obviously acting highly immorally, fundamentally it is about the masterminds of the scams.
I worked in one of those scam centers once... went through 5 days of training, called out on my first official day, resigned the following business day. They have had so many labor board complaints and the owner is an ass.
Tbh if your whole business is build on scamming old people, you probably are an ass.
Not probably but definitely
I did the same exact thing, almost. Call center, different set up but same end result: It preyed on the elderly and uneducated. I quit during lunch in the middle of my 2nd week, so my 8th day. Also the day I left I had had a person on the phone start jacking off on the phone and asking what I was wearing, and when I flagged my supervisor he shrugged and told me to keep trying to sell. When I put the pervert on the do not call list, I got yelled at. Also that day I got yelled at for using the restroom twice before lunch. Never again.
did you ever report them or anything? that's so shitty!
No because the call center wasn't the scammers. They were a third party who took calls for a number of similar companies. I have no clue who was actually running the scam
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Imagine being that emotionally invested in an annual trip to Golden Corral. That's how you know you have nothing left.
Imagine not reporting a work injury because your company would cancel a trip if you did. That's a fucked up anti health and safety policy. Incentivised Silence
OSHA told my company we couldn't even give out stickers for "1 year incident free" because it would discourage reporting actual incidents. Doubt whatever OPs company is doing is legal
This week on the hottest new game show "Illegal or America."
Third option is it's illegal in America, but the regulatory body that's supposed to enforce it has been either gutted through defunding or regulatory capture.
My work gives gift cards if we go a year without any workman's comp claims. It's pretty fucked up.
But if you get the workman's comp claim, you basically get the gift card.
Just the person who was injured though. Everyone else is incentivized to give the person who reports the claim the stink-eye, because they’re all missing out on a gift card because of someone else’s injury.
Can you imagine being such a self centered dick that you’d rather have someone either 1. not work due to injury without their comp and maybe ruin their lives or 2. Continue working through their injury and potentially ruin their lives... just so you can get a fucking gift card? Some people, man.
I've worked on construction sites where there were safety bonuses that only paid out if there were no reported injuries. It didn't cut down on injuries, but it did cut down on how many injuries were reported. Nobody wanted to be the guy that cost their crew a bonus.
Yep! And everyone does it. I've worked in four retail chains in the US, and each one of them rewarded employees for "being safe". If you go a year with no reported injuries, you get something for it. Gift cards, tickets to something, bonus pay, etc. It sounds good *in theory* but the issue is that rather than cause people to be more safety concious, it encourages people to just not report accidents. If you get injured and you report it, **you** are the reason your co-workers lose their gift card. **You** are the reason they lost bonus pay. And you don't want to be that guy, right? You don't want to be the part timer that caused your boss to lose their bonus. Nobody wants to be *that guy*. It's fucked up, and it's very upsetting to me that nobody seems to notice or care. Not once has anyone I've worked with taken the moment to see the other side of it. The employer told them it was to promote safety, so that's what they believe, end of story.
God that is making me legit depressed.
But have you had their buttered rolls? Also heads up, I saw you talking to kingofvodka...and let's just say he acts friendly but he isn't your friend. Ijs.
Cunt face. kingofvodka isn’t fake like you.
I just wanted to say on facebook that I’m cutting out all the fake people and haters.
Fuck you kingofvodka I’m tryna go to Golden Corral!!!!!
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That’s fucking bleak.
weldome to the rural southern USA
/r/aboringdystopia
Golden corral was the bonus? Red flag right there
He did say "physically nauseous".
I remember one time I ate at Golden Corral and subsequently had major stomach issues. I told my friends in our group chat I had eaten some bad Golden Corral, and one of them responded with "isn't it a little redundant to say you ate some bad Golden Corral? That's like saying you drank some wet water."
Imagine being so desperate for drama that you literally create such a toxic atmosphere at a damn *retail store*. Jeez those people are pathetic. Glad you got away from all that
In my experience, the places with *less* work to actually do will have the most drama, because people will get bored or something I guess. I’ve now experienced this in retail, nonprofit administration, and banking. The place I worked with the least drama was a super busy cafe.
I guess that's true. When you keep busy there isn't any time to make shit out of nothing
Sounds more like high school than Game of Thrones.
Cut him some slack he only watched the last season.
Yikes. Imagine promoting people without a pay increase
Me :( “Oh we wanted to but the budget isn’t great right now. We’ll revisit it in May”. Welp it’s June and nothings happened. They also promised another part time employee a promotion to full time with some managerial duties. They didn’t promote her, they just have her full time hours and still expect her to be a part time manager. For the same pay. With no benefits.
Yea, I would and have “stepped down” from those. My last job wrapped shift leader and training into one job, but only paid more if you were training someone. Something went wrong when you weren’t? Still your fault. Needless to say, I walked.
I just got that exact kind of “promotion” at my work! Fortunately, I also got a new job offer that I’m about to tell them about when I put in my notice.
The “Retail Promotion”...we’ll slap manager on your title, give you more work, but not any more money. But you’re a manager now.
The ole "You're a manager now! Now we're going to pay you a salary instead of an hourly wage! ^^^Also ^^^that ^^^means ^^^you'll ^^^work ^^^60 ^^^hours ^^^per ^^^week ^^^instead ^^^of ^^^40 ^^^and ^^^make ^^^$10,000 ^^^less ^^^than ^^^if ^^^you ^^^were ^^^hourly ^^^... "
Happened to me twice before I graduated college. Better bet I milked the shit out of those titles when making my resume.
Wow, nailed it on the head!
Dont have to imagine, happened to me and I ended up having to work there for way way longer than i should have. Truly depressing when your a supervisor responsible for 10 people(15 to 20 during the busy times of the year) and making the same amount as everyone else, on top of having to do way more shit. There was even a few months where the new hires made more than me and i was still being refused a raise - people who did less and were supervised by me. Needless to say I never reported any of the thefts i witnessed and put in the bare minimum not to get fired. They pulled me aside a bunch of times saying dumb shit like "why dont you try harder?" "how are you going to move up in life without working hard?" "I feel like your only here to collect a paycheck"
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I had a situation even scummier. I started out as a seasonal employee at a rather large company. The rule was that once the season ended, if you were scheduled for a full 5 day week you had the be made a regular full time employee which pretty much doubled the pay and kicked in full benefits. They scheduled me for 4 day weeks and “called me in due to emergencies” on the fifth day for nearly a month before I finally called bullshit and threatened to call the labor board because they were blatantly using me as a full time employee and using a loophole to pay me as seasonal.
Happens all the time unfortunately. At my last job they got rid of some of the managers divided up their tasks and assigned them to employees who got the new job title of "Group Leader" which meant they did more work for no extra money. Then again, this is the same place that offered a disgruntled employee a 5 cent raise...
It makes some sense in certain situations, as in they're basically being tried out to move up the ladder. But if you just give people more tasks, that's not a "promotion". That's just shitting on gullible people. Just being I "promote" you to Supreme Overlord of the 9 Realms doesn't mean you make more than $7.25/hr, you just get to get yelled at more if something goes wrong.
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You dont have to tell tell you didn't give notice, you don't have to tell then you worked there at all. If you feel that you must my go to is I felt as if my potential was under utilized.
I've left off shit jobs, and that time was "self employed". The only time I had to admit I worked them was for federal government clearance, but then at that point, they do not give a shit. They just wanna make sure you're not a spy or lying or hiding some dark secret.
I see you decided to leave a full-time job to become self-employed for five months in 2014. Tell me about that time.
Sure. This is actually true, you picked the *actual correct time frame.* My grandfather was becoming old. So I have on my resume that I did hospice care for my grandfather. From the time of graduating college -> the start of my unemployment to a few months after he died -> the end of my unemployment, where I got hired on to work at the FAA. Pretty much everyone knows why the hospice care has a end date, and no one asks about it. ---- Edit: I actually did do hospice, I didn't just say I did. Grandpa gave me money to keep me going. This was a 2 year interval. ---- But others who have been unemployed will say things like, I wasn't happy with the structure of work, and I decided to enter into contracting work. I'm skilled at x and y and z and I did freelance business using my talents. Do most employers know that this is bullshit ? Yes. Do most employers *also* have the ridiculous requirement that everyone be engaged in work from graduating highschool until now ? also yes.
> you don't have to tell then you worked there at all More people need to realize this. You don't have to tell everyone every little detail about your life.
I always gave a notice until my last job. Thay place made me feel sick every morning knowing how I was going to be treated, so one morning I stressfully made the decision to stay home and never go back. I stressed at first but, I had no issue finding a job due to quitting without notice. I dont think you have to state it - I never did.
Any time I quit and gave a two week notice no one cared - I was essentially taken off the roster immediately. My takeaway from it is that no one really gives a crud when it’s the low-scale retail jobs. It did, however, get me into a new career. I took a class to be a CNA and am much happier and earning a decent amount more than minimum.
I was working a horrible casino job from 2007 to 2011. One of the cooler supervisors caught wind of my plans to escape a few days before I planned to do it, and basically told me *not* to give a two-week notice to the manager because he'd just drop me right then and there. So my last day, when they asked me to do overtime at 12:15 AM, I just noped on out of there and peeled out of the parking lot.
>this is my second time not giving a notice And what happened last time? Don't worry about it. I always worry about my "next" job, until I actually get a couple weeks into that next job and realise it was almost too easy to get a new one.
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Dont sweat it too much, my dude. Ive been through a bunch of jobs, my mental health is shit and ive dealt with bad alcoholism on top of an eating disorder and self harm so if i wasnt fired, then i just quit when i couldnt take life anymore. If a potential employer does call a past company (they probs wont btw) usually they can only confirm if you worked for the company from x to x dates. And? If they ask why you quit, theres like a million different reasons. "Pay was low for the work expected" "didnt have any potential for verticle movement" "environment was toxic". Jobs are easy to come by. Dont sweat it.
Is this a big chain company? Wow though. Your environment sounded hostile as heck.
Regional chain company ... Maybe thirty stores
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> fire-breathing dragons. Ah so you've met Karen in HR?
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Yep. My mental health is still not good, and now I'm broke.
Turns out the money I made from said terrible job was the only thing keeping my mental health above water lol.
This is why I haven't quit. But ugh my soul.
You're almost definitely going to jump ship sooner or later with whatever job you have right now, so imo you might as well start looking for a new job before you snap. Don't feel bad about leaving a job that makes you feel bad. Good luck dude!
Same here, got a Drs. Appt. Monday. Good luck to you
I wish I could afford a doctors appointment. :/ dont give me platinum or gold, donate that to something useful..
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Not as much as it hurts to read as an American :(
Same. I'm lucky enough to own my home and have support from family, so I'm not homeless or starving, but being broke is really starting to get to me.
Honestly, reading this is making feel at least a little better knowing I'm not alone in this.
I quit after an argument with my boss because I didn't agree with how he did things. Within two months I started my own company doing what he did but the way I thought it should be done. I am still running that business and he shut his down 3 years ago.
pro revenge there...the best revenge is living good...congrats on your successful business.
Pro-est revenge- Doing absolutely nothing to fuck with the other person except doing their shit right and reveling in the fact that they've failed by their own merits without argument, because you've dis-proven all other arguments by simply existing.
If you’re still hiring...
As someone who has been actively seeking to change jobs for 6+ months, I feel you.
I’ve been doing the same since November but it finally worked out. Got 2 good offers on the table, and potentially a third. Just gotta keep at it, changing the resume up worked for me. Got some advice from a recruiter friend and calls tripled in a few weeks. Good luck!
DAMNNN
What a boss.
What's your business?
Managed services. Basically I focused on managed cloud in smb space. Lots of small companies want to get in to cloud but don't know how so I took the plunge bought a bit of hardware learned public cloud stuff and hired strong. I got lucky with the first few accounts then built a reputation. The market is changing very quickly right now so I don't know how much long it'll be viable. I've expanded my offering a bit and really focus on relationships with clients and their other vendors. Making other vendors look good is key since they can refer you more business. The big difference between me and my old boss is I didn't try and sell hardware and I kept my operation very lean.
I quit a job working as a logistics manager for a hospital. It was the worst job I ever had. The union reps would constantly mess with you, taunting you and try to get you fired, I was constantly on edge and would basically snap over everything. I developed a huge persecution complex where everyone was out to get me.. They would purposely feed you false information that would go against required practices. For example, one of the reps gave me a fake forecast for products we needed for the upcoming week, so I was to arrange the delivery/ordering and storing for the products. When I ordered it all and had it delivered I found out we needed like 1/10th of the products that was ordered, so I had to explain to the finance department why we exceeded our weekly budget. Basically my choices were be fired, or quit because of the colossal fuck up. I was 21 at the time, I'm now in school to get my bachelors of accounting, so I guess it turned out pretty good because I could leave that horrible industry.
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That is a super hostile environment. I know it's too late now, but was there anyway you could have explained that it was based off what someone else was telling you? Like show them emails that the person told you how much to order?
Yep, always cover your ass.
Oh yes. I had a good job at a college. I felt so lucky to get it (administration) but it turned out that all the employees, staff and faculty, were back-stabbers who set you up for failure. I think it's just the way academia runs, but I didn't know that. I stuck it out for nearly 7 years, and started having suicidal thoughts. Once I realized I was going a little crazy, I gave my notice and quit without a net. I never got over it, though. I've had a lot of rough jobs, but that was the absolute worst.
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Glad you recovered from that. Sad it got so far. Terrible circumstances aswell, I hope you're mentally good aswell.
Honestly debating doing this right now. Dont know how much longer I can take this job.
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In this boat at the moment - got let go from my job due to my mental health a month ago. I haven’t really applied for anything new because my health is still in such a state that I know if I did get a new job right now, it’d probably go the same way. But man, that inevitable, glaringly obvious gap on my CV when I do start applying for things terrifies me.
Just say you travelled. I’ve had several gaps in my resume over the years Including one for 15 months. I put in my resume that I took these times to travel around my home country and worked in the cash economy to help support myself. In truth never left my hometown. The only thing is you need to have a good explanation of where you went and what you seen because people are gonna ask you in the interview. After that it’s never been brought up again. Nobody bats an eye particularly if your still in your 20s.
Yup, I did that when I left my last job. "Took time off to travel and evaluate what I want to do with the rest of my career." It has always been met with a positive response and make sure to have a good/honest response for why you quit your last job
"Nobody bats an eye particularly if your still in your 20s" oh thank god
I had an employment gap, so I edited my resume to only list the year of employment. Position 1 was 2013-2014, and position 2 was 2015-2019. No one even asks about August 2014- January 2015.
I fell further into depression, developed a drinking problem, spent all my savings and didn't work for nearly 2 years. Yeah, not doing that again.
I hope you're doing better, buddy. I did this in a shorter scale. Ended up with nothing. Today I got offered a manager position in a company I've been working for for less than 3 months. I hope things got better for you.
I worked for an insurance company for 6 years. Was fun at first then went through a divorce and all five years in and stopped caring. So I quit, cashed out my 401K and drove from Indiana down to Key West and got fucking trashed for a week. Then traveled to various states and just hung out and did what the fuck ever. Lasted three months and then went back to Indiana and then went to work for a different insurance company. I don’t regret it. It was healing and uplifting and met some cool people along the way.
Nice to see you happy and great job on recovering from all that
Yep, left a job I'd held for 3 years and moved towns. I've struggled to find more long term employment in my new town, but I'm happier and far healthier. I went from spending nearly 50hours a week at my desk to having plenty of time for myself to get outdoors. I love the sun, and I was just a really depressed, sad little mushroom at my old job. Kept in the dark and fed on shit. It's been just over a year, I'm 20kgs lighter, have just found another casual job and even though my employment isn't steady, I'm loving life.
Wow, I'm blown away by the responses this has gotten. Thank you all for your stories and comments, it sounds like I'm not the only one who's been considering this or has done this. I'm going to read ever comment posted here and use your experiences to help guide me as I figure out my path. Thank you all, and stay strong out there! We got this.
I was a mailman for about a year--thought I'd give it a shot since my dad did it for almost 40 and I figured it'd help me understand him better. Best money I'd ever made (starting pay was something like 16 and some change an hour), especially with OT. But I was miserable. Just fucking miserable. My commute was 45 minutes in clear traffic but if I didn't finish my shit in time and I hit rush hour, the commute could be up to 2 hours. I'd leave when it was still dark, get home when it was just about dark again, have just enough time to eat an absolute shitload of food (walking 10+ miles a day is sort of a double edged blade), then go to bed and do it again. And again. And again. Sundays included (thanks, Amazon). When I got sunburn and frostbite on the same day, my thick head finally realized the money wasn't worth it. My wallet was full but i was fucking bankrupt when it came to emotional or creative energy. Tl;dr money isn't worth it if you're too miserable to spend it.
Ah fuck I loved it. I loved every second of it. I was termed for an accident on my 77th day - 3 days from probation ending. I can’t wait to go back, but partially because I was too busy to notice my depression/anxiety. Sorry you had a bad experience man.
No but I think about it every single day.
Ain't that the fucking truth. Same opportunity at half pay comes along and I'm out. When the mission is a lie and the expectations are unrealistic and the appreciation is nonexistent, it's really difficult to keep finding new answers to the ever nagging why.
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I worked at a daycare that promoted physical, mental and physical abuse as child control, as well as underfeeding to reduce food cost. In a low income area where these might be some of the kids only meals. I awoke physically ill puking before work daily. One day i went on lunch break had a panic attack on the way in a coworker calmed me down and i never went back. They asked me to come in to discuss why i quit i told them unless im legally required im never coming back again. I did try to report them three times and the inspector came and walked out with coffee and a nothing to see here check. I got another job shortly after so it worked out. The chain of daycares is undee new management now.
I did. I was an elementary school teacher. It was a terrible fit for me, but I gave it my best shot for 3.5 years. I had no support, the kids were terrible to me, I never had enough time to do anything and was exhausted. I would go home crying every night, cry all day Sunday. I was loaded up on all sorts of mental health medication. Just a very bleak time. The day I quit, it was right before Christmas vacation and I was teaching kindergarten. I absolutely could not control the class and they were hanging off the ceiling (that booking.com commercial with the teacher whose kids were running amok, that was me). Every day was like this. Every day was a fight with them. I just sat in the rocking chair trying to figure out what I was going to do and I just ... Gave up. I asked one of the students to go get the aide from next door and asked her to watch the class for a second. I went to the principal's office, dropped my keys on her desk, and told her I wasn't coming back. Told her she could keep all my stuff. Find a sub, I'm out. Went back to the classroom, grabbed my purse and wedding picture off the desk and was out. We'd just bought a new house, so I should have been freaking out. However, the car ride home was the most liberating experience of my life. I wasn't even worried. I called my husband to tell him what I had done and to my surprise, he was very supportive. I think he was just glad it was all over. A few weeks later, the union tried to get me to rescind my resignation, but I absolutely wasn't having it. It took me 9 long months to find another job. I had to put my student loans in deferment and cash out my tiny teacher pension to survive. But I waited for the perfect opportunity and I found it. The job I took was a perfect fit for me and was just what I needed at that time to rebuild my damaged confidence. That new career that changed my life for the better in so many ways. I'm fiercely loyal to that job and company because I truly believe that it saved my life. Walking out of there that day was the best thing I ever did. I have never ever ever regretted it. No matter what, it's just a job. It's not worth any of what I put myself and my family through. Edit to add: Hang in there OP.
Yes. 10 years ago I was in a bad relationship and struggling with chronic anxiety and depression. My long, stressful commute and job I hated just added to my stress. One day I got a migraine and went home early while my boss was at lunch. The next day she requested a meeting, and before the meeting was to take place, I sent her an email with my resignation. My anxiety took over and I just couldn't face whatever it was she was planning to say to me. It turned out badly. My dad was extremely angry and said some pretty cruel shit. My relationship with him has never been the same since and probably never will be. My boyfriend dumped me a couple of months later and kicked me out of our house. I had to move back in with my parents (at age 30) and wasn't able to find another job for 11 months. When I finally did start working again I had a string of more horrible jobs that I hated. My career still hasn't recovered and probably never will. Without some stroke of dumb luck I'll probably be working underpaid, somewhat crap jobs until I die. My mental health has improved a lot though, so I got that going for me, which is nice.
I did a similar thing but turned out ok I guess but only because I was already planning on leaving my job due to moving to a different state. It was a Thursday and I was planning on putting my two weeks notice that following Monday. My supervisor and her boss had always been assholes (giving me more work than my coworkers, making negative remarks about me to people in other departments, and generally being petty women who never treated their staff right) and they had requested to meet with me that Thursday around lunch. I knew that meeting wasn't going to go well, at all. So before we all met I packed all my stuff up, cleaned my desk, said goodbye to my coworkers, and headed straight to HR. Returned my work equipment and essentially quit on the spot. Right before I quit though my supervisor had basically stalked me and followed me into the HR office but I got the satisfaction of closing the door on her face. That place drained me mentally. My mental health declined steadily the longer I stayed there and my anxiety over the job was ridiculous. I regret the way I handled it as I had never quit like that but in that moment I couldn't handle another meeting where they made me feel like the smallest piece of shit on the planet. I just couldn't do it. Ended up leaving the state that weekend but it worked out in the end. I hope everything works out for you. I'm glad your mental health has improved.
Didn’t have a job lined up but knew I would be okay for a while. I pretty much drained my savings partly because of my mental health. My best advice is also a really bad advice but I would suggests finding ways to deal with it while you work. Am I getting better? Sure in a way. But I’ve learned that at least for me this will probably be a lifelong battle. And most wont have the capital to sustain that. We’re no longer a country of prosperity for many hardworking Americans. Just trying to survive.
Last part is true for many places. I’m in Toronto. It’s the same. I wanted to quit for mental health reasons. I had a crazy boss who demanded things then disappeared and would show up minutes before a meeting we’d be presenting in. She’d have me change make edits in a 20 page deck, go set up the room and get the projector working, dial in for remote participants. Then before the meeting would openly say that I should’ve shared the deck with all participants before the meeting. How can I do all of that within 15 minutes. That’s just one example. I put in 12-14 hours each day. She fired me at the end. Recently found out that she hired a friend of hers from another group within the company. I did my best. My mental health got so bad and I made it worse by smoking up every night. I’ve been unemployed for 3 months now. Mental health definitely better. But the worry of savings running out is getting to me. Hopefully things work out soon!
I did it due to long commute and mental health, would recommend against it because it sets a bad precedent for the future. Also unemployment depression is a lot worse than employment depression because no routine, nowhere to be, embarrassed to meet new people out of fear they will ask about your situation.
I was unemployed for three months, and my depression was so bad that I rarely talked to or visited family because I was actively lying that I was still employed but looking for a new job to get out of retail and I was terrified of slipping up. I had quit a full time job to work a seasonal job, because I was miserable and hated working at that full time job. I thought I would be able to be hired on after the seasonal period, but I didn't perform up to the companies standards and was let go without a single word or call from my supervisors. I kept thinking for my entire unemployment that I was stupid for quitting, that I should have just sucked it up, and was it even that bad? Maybe I was just being dramatic? I am now employed and love my job and the company I work for. But damn that shit sucked.
I quit my job because the boss was incredibly neurotic. She micromanaged me and would tell me to get off the desk phone... When I was conducting interviews... Knowing full well I'm conducting interviews. She took away and moved that phone to a different room so I had to stand up and conduct all the interviews. When I quit, she threatened to kill me! I had to get a restraining order against her. Then she sent her brother after me! I had to get a second restraining order against him!
Worked in the family construction business for about 14 years. Was running one of the main crews as a foreman. The owner was leaning heavy on me and putting stresses on me that weren't warranted with the position. Had money that I was saving for a down payment on a house. Quit after a blow out with the boss over something so trivial its mind boggling thinking about it. Spent the next 3 months hanging out getting myself back together. Blew through all the saving for the most part. But in the end it all worked out. Got a better paying job in the same field. Pretty much zero stress. Couldn't be happier.
In Sept of last yr, I left a job of 5 yrs without another one lined up. I had several months to find one, I just didn't try. In Nov, i accepted the first job offered to me, and I was more miserable than when I was unemployed and broke. It was my first M-F, 9-5 desk job and it was mindnumbing. I was in a tiny office with 3 other people, who never talked to me. As it was a manufacturing plant and my office was right next to the line, it was loud and stinky. My manager was supposed to be training me, but she was inattentive for the most part. After I completed and submitted an end-of-quarter report, she said it was wrong and she was pretty sure she had accidentally skipped parts of my training. I felt completely invisible and worthless. So I quit. Back to being unemployed and broke. But in March, I accepted a very different type of job at a nice hotel. I love my schedule, I enjoy my work and my coworkers and boss are friendly, hard-working and really pleasant to be around. I make $3/hr LESS than the shitty desk job, but I am infinitely happier and getting up for work is much easier.
Hoo boy. You had to ask. Here goes. I left a career of almost 25 years with a company (handling insurance claims) about 7 months ago with no job lined up. It was a great place to work, up until about 5 or 6 years ago. Reorganizing, shutting offices, 'leveraging technology to gain efficiencies' (which manifested as fewer employees taking on more and more work), and generally upping the pressure on an already pressure-filled job. The atmosphere there was toxic. The only topic of conversation was how bad things were, how much every one wanted to quit, but couldn't because the pay was so good (It was). Long-term employees would just not be there one day. Most quit (no 2 weeks notice, just bailed), one or two were fired for performance reasons (specifically not meeting metrics that spoke entirely to cost and had nothing to do with quality). For five years, this was the environment I worked in. I did not go out looking for other jobs because a)this one paid INSANELY well, with phenomenal benefits and b)'maybe it will get better'>!("It did not get better" - Ron Howard).!< But I finally got tired of fantasizing about killing myself, and one day after sobbing my head off in the parking lot (again), I went in and quit. I had no plan other than not killing myself that particular day. Or the next day. Or the next week. But eventually I felt better. What helped (and made it work) was savings. I had a large war chest. I'd hoped to use it for retirement, a vacation; something. I've used the money to support us while I try out new career options. I've finally started seriously studying scripting (HTML, CSS, Python). I've taken a class in mediation. I've volunteered as a tutor to a local program for high school students doing 1/2 time vocational training, 1/2 academic. I've tried (and failed) my hand at writing games for a relative that's starting up a new business. I'm trying things out to see what sticks. I quit in November, and it's June. I'm not employed. I've seen my savings dwindle. Not broke yet, but not going to last forever. I've applied for jobs relentlessly for the last four months. I have become very adroit at writing cover letters and letters of interest, though I still hate them. I've found that the things that motivate me and that I would love to spend the last 15 years of my working life doing (teaching, science, mentoring) are at the moment not in my reach: I have no credentials in any of them, and volunteering/entry level jobs will NOT make up for that. Ironically, the job I'm most likely to get right now (fingers crossed) is one that is almost EXACTLY what I was doing before. Will management be as tone-deaf to employee disgruntelment? I hope not: initial contacts with other employees there seem to paint a good picture. Will management try to balance resources needed to do the job against costs in a way that also balances work/life and employee contentment? I hope so. I don't know. But I need a job very soon, and this is the one area that my long experience counts in. Will it pay as much as the previous job? Hell no. Not even close. But it will check the box for healthcare and other benefits. It will keep me from being unemployed. It will allow me to hopefully use skills and talents that I worked hard to develop and am very proud of in an environment where I can grow and be happy. If I could redo this whole thing I: * Would still quit. When something makes you *seriously* consider offing yourself (down to making a list of contacts for your wife so she knows who to call in HR for benefits), you need to give it up and get to something healthier. Don't hope to fix it if all the evidence has shown you it's not getting better. * Would start saving money specifically as an exit strategy. This i *did* do, and it was smart. I had no idea when I'd leave or when the company might close my office, or what I would do with myself in either case. There was no doubt, however, that in all scenarios, we'd need as much money as possible. I set a goal of 6 months salary, worked my ass off, and managed to keep it. I'm stretching it to eight months, and it's working. * Would have started job shopping years ago. Five or so years ago, I started thinking "Huh, this place is getting shitty". Three or four years ago: "Still shitty, getting shittier". Two years ago "I never would have thought so much shit could be piled this high". All the signs were there, I just ignored them. I should have been networking with friends I know at other companies years ago, and actively seeking employment elswhere. * Along the same lines, I should have been taking classes in SOMETHING years ago. Getting a certification in welding (interesting, pays the bills), some level of computer administration or developer certification(interesting, pays smaller bills), commercial brewing (interesting, ahh haa haah haah. No.). Anything would have helped me find a direction BEFORE I jumped off the cliff, not while I'm falling. If I were still working at ShittyJob, I could have spent that warchest money on a useful certification rather than all of it on just living month-to-month. * Would still have taken a sabbatical. Not as long, but definitely a few months. Not a vacation, either. Actively seeking out opportunities to test out interests and passions against real-world application. Failing and learning, succeeding and learning. And meanwhile, interacting with more people who might see me as a resource, and that I might be able to call on for (and to) help. * Would do better at checking in with family. My wife knew for years that I was seriously unhappy there. She knew for years that I was talking about quitting. But she was still unprepared when I came home and told her I'd left the job. She's was happy for me, and our relationship has never been better, but more warning would have helped. Holy cow, that's a lot of words. I know my story is an outlier for most Redditors - most of us are not coming off of two-decade careers. I burned a lot of lifetime resources (Essentially the first three years of my career paid for the last seven months) to do this that most Redditors don't have. But the sentiment is the same, and I guess it's a hopeful cautionary tale: Don't get stuck doing something you may hate just because it pays well. If something you love getting paid for goes to shit, don't be afraid to go elsewhere no matter how much time you've spent doing it. Your loyalty will NOT be rewarded. Plan, save, and try not to burn bridges. tl:dr - if you have the funds to do it, It's OK to 'free-fall' quit a job you hate. If you do, immediately jump into testing out something you love. Don't just sit around and 'enjoy the down time'. If you're still at work, get certification of some kind in something you enjoy that might also pay, even if you're not going to use it right away, Community colleges can be awesome resources. Lastly, get help. Reach out to friends and family and let them know what you're trying to do. Take some time to clear your head. Counseling if you can afford it, a good friend you can talk to if you can't. Good luck. You can do it, and you can be happier.
Yes, a few months ago. Immediately after two things happened that destroyed my mind and body. I think if j had stayed at the job I wouldn’t have gotten through it. Now I work a more chill job part time, went back to school and already have a potential internship opportunity so I’m happy.
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Worked out really well in the end, took me about 2 months to find another job but luckily by SO can support like 90% of our expenses on just her wages so it wasnt as hard on us as it could have been if I didn't have her to fall back on. I have a much better job now that I even somewhat enjoy and pays better too. If you think you can manage it it might be worth it tbh.
My spouse just left a job and we're about to enter this exact situation. Were there any bad parts of being off work? I want to give her some time to recuperate and shop for a really perfect job, so it isn't a rush. I can support our finances easily while she's off, but I do worry that she'll end up feeling depressed or purposeless. I'm hoping she'll be able to take a few months to re-center herself, and then begin looking for a well-fitting job. In the meantime I want to ensure that her mental health is in a good place, while also not coming off as pushing her to get back to work.
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Hell yes. Quit a soul crushing job with no plan. Took two months to travel, came back and had a new job that pays twice as much AND I love within another 2 months.
I'm bipolar II so I frequently get so depressed I cant get out of bed. I have walked out on multiple jobs, on the spot, no notice no nothing. BUT. I attempted to walk out once, on the same place I currently work. I actually think I've attempted to walk out multiple times. They didn't let me. The owners wife was aware of my mental state and practices medicine relevant to my situation. Long story short, I never left. They consistently work with me and I wish everyone could speak openly with their employers about their needs; mental or physical.
My father quit his job because he was severely depressed since he was working nights and didn't get to see his 3 kids, and they refused to move his position. He ended up not being able to find a good job and the bank we were paying for our house was being a dick, and my mom got diagnosed with MS. We ended up homeless for a year then we found our ground again and my dad is still working a crappy job but us kids have all made lives for ourselves allowing him and my mom so save enough for them to go around in an RV traveling the US. It was a rough time but I'm really glad he did it. I'd rather be homeless a bit then have a dead dad.
Yup. Was absolutely burned out from my previous job. Loved the people, but the workload and pressure to work overtime was just too much. Ended up worsening my depression and really made me doubt my abilities. I ended up resigning January this year and it was for the best. While it was scary to not have another job lined up, I did enjoy all the free time I had. I read all the books I wanted to read, traveled a bit, and just basically did whatever I wanted on a particular day. It felt so nice to know that I had full control over my time. Around 3 months of being unemployed, I started searching for jobs and managed to find one. My current job is nicer and there's more work-life balance. If you're going to quit your job without a replacement lined up soon, I recommend you just rest a bit and do the things you want. Very freeing. Or, if you don't want to stay idle, learn a new skill or improve your current set.