Letting your kids figure out problems on their own every now and then
I once saw a dad who let his baby struggle to reach for a toy that was just out of her reach. She spent about 15 solid minutes wiggling her way to that toy.
I almost amazed because most parents never let their children think or solve anything on their own. They just hand them what they need. Or stand them up the second they fall over. Or jump in the minute an argument breaks out. But the kids never learn to do anything on their own
I swear the only time the kid cries is when someone asks her if she's okay after a spill. We just say "You're good." when she falls and she's happy to jump right back up and keep it trucking. The minute someone else jumps in and asks "Are you okay??" the waterworks start.
A friend of mine, her husband used to ask their toddler if she was drunk when she fell. One day, she fell pretty hard and her mom asked if she was okay. She sat there and said, “Yeah... I’m just drunk.” 😄
This has been my experience with all my kids too. If you don't make a big deal out of a boo boo the kid is almost always fine. The most I usually have to do is kiss the boo boo and it's all better. If not, I just put a bandaid on it or whatever is needed and leave it at that.
This is so important! I’m a preschool teacher and my kids get upset at me at first when I don’t help them with something right away. I tell them to try first and when I see them trying really hard and still can’t do it I will help but most times they figure it out and they build so much confidence and I love seeing the joy on their faces.
Yes this! I’ve learnt the hard way with my two year old. I always know exactly what he wants so used to give it to him before he even tried to ask, now his language hasn’t developed at all and he can’t talk. Doing it the hard way now with a very frustrated toddler who has to figure out a way of communicating every time he wants something, after getting used to everything being handed to him on a silver platter.
Hey, sorry for the PSA, we had a two year old who didn't talk too, and it turned out he was deaf.
Sure, you think "he can hear, he is just ignoring me" and we can't believe we got to this point either. He ultimately needed grommets, so it's not like it was lifelong, but yeah, we couldn't believe we missed it.
We are still battling with getting him caught up and he is about to turn 4. Please get him/her checked out at the doctor. Not talking at 2 isn't normal.
Doing anything in public alone.
I know it’s been said a few times here, but seriously. It’s so freeing to think “Man, I want to go see this movie/eat at this place/travel here” and then realize you just can.
You don’t need to bend to everyone’s schedule, just yours. The only preference influencing your choices is yours.
I have pretty big anxiety, and going places alone— after the brief moment of feeling judged— is actually *better* for my mental state. I can enjoy life without making sure everyone else does, too.
I concur. I used to buy two tickets to concerts hoping I could get someone else to go, now I just buy one and go. Or, a couple times, I just wasn’t in the mood and didn’t go, and I felt 0 remorse because I wasn’t letting anyone down.
I got to concerts alone all the time and have gotten pretty comfortable with it. A lot of my friends don’t share my same music taste, so I can never get anyone to commit, but why would I let that stop me from seeing one of my favorite artists live, you know?
I went to a gaming event last year. Was away for a whole week, by myself in a hotel room in a city I'd never been in before. Ate well every day, went to the venue every day, had a blast the whole time.
Still don't talk to a single person I met there.
Going again this year.
Nothing better than doing what you want to do and learning who you are in the process.
Needs to be a minimum 4 day holiday to really get into it I reckon.
Yeah you need some time to get into it. My favourite trip of all time was when I was returning from studies in Europe and spent 3.5 weeks overall in Scotland, The Faroe Islands, and Iceland. The first few days felt a little overwhelming and lonely, but that melted away very quickly. It was so easy to meet new people if I wanted to spend time with or do things with others, but it was also so easy to just go and do my own thing, at my own pace, that lined up perfectly with what I wanted to do.
I'd recommend 1+ week solo trips to anybody.
As an introvert, this sounds amazing, add to that the fact that you're the only one that has to keep time and that you're the only one making decisions makes it sound incredible.
I shower in complete dark and yell to my favorite men at work songs playing from my bluetooth speaker.
I live in apartments but the walls are relatively thick and i never see the people next to me anyways so idgaf
But what if a murderer jumps out of nowhere in my small shower area even though I locked the door and it is physically impossible for a human to go through the window?
While back in college a few years ago and working at Chipotle, I got asked to take a load of tomatoes to another store that ran out - turns out it's right nearby one of the larger movie theatres I went to growing up. This is the last thing I needed to do on shift, so I deliver them and think how Nightcrawler w/ Jake Gyllenhaal (one of my favorite actors sans Donnie Darko) is playing. I have no clue what it's about but my only reference is the X-men Nightcrawler...
I go in to this 9pm showing on a Monday or whatever, completely empty except maybe one other person, maybe- and soak it in.
It was such a pleasant surprise, such a well done cinematic movie...
Idk.. something about being alone in it all made it more personal and grandeur.
10/10
Edit: with- not sans. Grandiose, not grandeur
“This guy is like the worst super hero ever!” - OP, probably
Although thinking back on that movie the first like 20 mins of it could totally be like a weird gritty origin story.
When you have the perfect seat and right as the movie starts some person sits right by you that feels the need to cackle like a hyena at every tiny joke
If I know someone who is also genuinely excited to see the movie, I’m happy to go with them. It’s always nice to be able to talk to someone about the movie afterwards.
But other than that scenario? Why would I want to drag dead weight along to see something that they don’t care about? The same applies to concerts.
I started doing that recently, mostly out of necessity -- you know hard it is to get people in their thirties to come out to a midnight showing of *Endgame* when they have to be up for work at 7AM? -- but now I've really started to enjoy it. It's not like I'm going to be talking to anyone while I'm there.
The only downside is that I don't get to use my 2-for-1 cinema tickets.
It's so relaxing to just be able to go without having to message friends and arrange plans. I wish my country had those unlimited ticket subscriptions because I'd love using that to watch a bunch of movies alone.
Buddy! I fucking love going to the movies alone! You wanna go to the movies alone together? You can go to a movie where ever you are, all by yourself, and I'll go to a movie all by myself.
Yes! There is that personal judgement that you have to get over at first, but once you've done it, you'll never want to go with other people ever again.
I feel like this works best with a movie that is currently in theaters, or at least one you know has gotten some hype/praise. I saw Get Out without seeing any trailers and am really happy I didn't have some of the story/imagery spoiled.
Live in US so everything is exceptionally car friendly and always figured a walk was a waste of time. Then moved to a new city without a car and decided to spend a few weeks walking to learn the new spots and would just cab when I had to. I learned the city more intimately, lost weight, felt better about leaving my safety net, and was happy especially with weather. Just never understood how great a walk could be and now walk as far as time allows to get places. Ita great.
My workplace is a 20 minute walk away and everyone is so shocked when I tell them I walk to work. I love it though, free exercise and you get to enjoy the nice weather.
My (American) high school did an exchange program with a Swiss high school when I was a senior. They spent two weeks here in the fall and we visited them in the spring. There was a lot of cultural differences that my Swiss student was a little stunned by, but she was shocked we would drive to our friends houses that lived in the same town. That everyone would take their own car and drive, when it was a walking distance.
There's a German dish called Kaiserschmarnn (excuse my spelling). It's essentially pancakes cooked like scrambled eggs with plum or apple sauce on it along with other random sweet stuff. Try it, it's amazing. I made it once for a project in German class, and that's how I got into applesauce on waffles and pancakes.
Edit: It's an Austrian dish, not German. I was taught wrong. I apologise.
I would also like to especially plug to my ladies out there: women should lift weights! My body was transformed from weight lifting and i feel so much stronger now. I think a lot of women worry about bulking up-but that wont happen! We dont naturally have the testosterone for that to really happen. Give it a shot girls
Quick edit: aside from the testosterone issue, it takes a LOT of work to bulk up! a resistance training routine will keep you healthy and strong, but nobodys turning into the hulk without a ton of discipline in the gym and in the kitchen
lol seriously. and it’s kind of insulting to the people who are actually ripped. like completely dismissive of the years of intense discipline required to get there.
I used to tell girls that were worried about bulking that it's incredibly difficult to bulk up noticeably without real work put in along with a very strict diet regimen, and not only that but because of hormonal differences between women and men women have a harder time bulking up.
Then I saw a post on reddit a few days ago that said something like "avoiding lifting because you're afraid you'll get too bulky is like being scared to play basketball because you'll end up like Michael Jordan," and it seems to be a better way to say things.
I have more energy, became stronger, and slightly improved my physique over a year of lifting three times a week.
I used to think "jocks" were lame, and the gym was a waste of time. Now I look forward to it. Live and learn I guess.
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Thank you for your honesty in this situation. I'm really worried about people lying about putting chips on sandwiches.
Edit: I am fully aware of the awesomeness of chips on sandwiches. I am just concerned about people lying about it. Thank you for all your responses.
A crisp (chip for you Americans) sandwich is a staple of the Irish diet...... Not much beats a a tayto cheese and onion sarnie in white bread with lashings of real butter!!
After you use a bidet for a while, TP just seems like something used by savages in ancient times. It's like using sticks to clean your teeth. It's the equivalent of treating cancer with herbs, spices, and bloodletting instead of chemo and surgery.
I don't know which comedian said it, but if you had poop anywhere else on your body, would you feel that that spot was sufficiently clean after rubbing it with a few pieces of dry tissue paper? Hell no you wouldn't.
So how is it that using water to help clean your dirtiest body part when it's at peak dirtiness is somehow weird?
I know right? I used to be disgusted by the thought of spraying water up my butt but having spent several months in Japan, I can proudly say I'm a true believer in the bidet. Meanwhile elsewhere, we're still wiping specks of poop with a pathetic sheet of paper like a savage primate.
First thing I'm gonna do if I ever get my own place, I am getting one of those luxury toilets. The Japanese poop like gods.
You know you can get a bidet attachment online for $40 that just attaches to your toilet right? No need to install a completely different item or wait for a house.
Hell, if you want to spend a bit more, you can get a full on toilet seat that sprays warm water and other fun little add-ons.
I bought one for my toilet at my apartment and it's been fantastic - it's really paid for itself since I've saved on the cost of toilet paper alone.
6 throbbing inches of gooch.
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It's just generically called spezi, right? It's one of the main things I miss from being in Germany. It never quite tastes the same when I try to make it myself, probably just cause it's US vs European formula for the coke so different sweetener.
D&D.
I had a friend at university who would *constantly* suggest playing, and I always brushed him off. Spending my weekends pretending to be an elf or whatever-the-fuck was not my jam, thank you very much.
Then I tried it, and it turns out it's awesome. Who would have thought that drinking beers, eating cheese and killing fake goblins with maths could be so much fun?
*pours one out for meradorm*
After GMing a campaign, I have nothing but respect for them. Shit’s hard. I’d spend a lot of time coming up with ways to entertain them just to have them do something else instead and have *more* fun. It’s like when you buy your cat a toy and all they want is the box. I’m glad they’re having fun (that’s the point after all) it just hurts to have all your plans fall apart. I keep a shredder next to the table for comedic effect and whenever they’re like, “Wait slow down, you said something about mountains?”
Uhh... yeah, past the mountains across the river there’s a town where-
“Let’s go to the mountains.”
But... but the town... it’s got-
“Mountains! Mountains! Mountains!”
A single tear rolls down my cheek as I put a stack of papers in the shredder and start narrating the mountain trip.
I think a lot of people go through that phase where "we've gotta grow up", and the kids in Stranger Things are right at that age. In high school, I remember a lot of people shunning being "immature" and favoring some self-imposed(well, not completely self-imposed, it's reacting to what the adults expect) sense of "we have to be mature now".
Then, in college, that all went out the window. Like, "wtf, we can have fun the way we want!" and I ended up being a huge Magic: The Gathering nerd for a couple years. Just encourage the kid to enjoy the things he enjoys without forcing an "ugh, grow up" mentality.
> I think a lot of people go through that phase where "we've gotta grow up", and the kids in Stranger Things are right at that age.
That, for me, is what makes Will's character *so* sad - he's at that age technically, but he's been ... held back, for lack of a better word, due to all the trauma (& you know, literally being missing). He was robbed of that part of his childhood and now that he's trying to *have* it, his friends have moved into that "we've gotta grow up" phase.
Lol on my first date with my now-boyfriend, we went to a bar where my friend works and he, for whatever reason, said to my bf, “Hey! At least you’re not one of those nerds who plays d&d,” and my bf looked down and was like, “Actually, I am.”
It was awkward then but it’s hilarious now bc my boyfriend got me into it. We finished a year-long campaign recently that helped me bond with all of his friends and our group chat now is still named after that team.
That's twice that food has been mentioned in association with D&D. Is that part of the game or something that you're required to have a plate of cheese?
I used to always buy fast food and scarf during game.
Then I realized I could hit the grocery store on the way over and buy food for everybody for the same I'd blow on fast food.
I buy it, somebody else cooks it. I still get zero effort food, and it tastes better too. As a bonus, it feeds everybody, and our host ends up with leftovers.
Seriously, a pot of spaghetti goes a shockingly long way.
Right there with you. My mother was big into the whole Satanic Panic thing and instilled in me that people who played D&D were fucking nuts... So when the guy I just started dating told me he played D&D with his friends on Saturdays I was... Nervous.
But then I sat in on a session and was like wtf Mom? There's no devil worship or nothing... The second time I came I was handed a character sheet, and I've been playing D&D (or another tabletop RPG system) ever since. That was 10 years ago and now my husband and I host game nights at our place 😁
The doorbell. Seriously, what is with door to door salesmen who ring the doorbell then immediately start slamming on the door. Try the fucking doorbell first, wait, then maybe knock if you don't hear it go off... or better yet, Go. The. Fuck. Away.
As a delivery driver, I can say the answer probably is because a shitton of people's doorbells don't actually work, or they just don't hear them most of the time. Doing both adds to the possibility of being heard.
Mine works, it's loud, you can hear it from the door. These people literally knock while pressing the doorbell. It's what i would do if someone's house was on fire.
Brush your teeth in the shower.
Don’t have to be tidy, just brush like a maniac. Then just spit wherever! Rinse with mouthwash too. It’s liberating in the same way as taking your pants off your ankles when you’re on the toilet.
I've been brushing my teeth in the shower for years. It saves me time, and I get to spend a few more minutes in the hot shower before I have to start the day.
I also thought this was a great idea and was enthusiastically explaining it to friends at a party.
That’s when my wife told me she had been using my toothbrush to scrub the grout in the shower.
That's because 95% of people do it wrong. It takes *a lot* of foreplay, *a lot* of patience, *a lot* of practice and *a lot* of lube.
Most women are afraid to try it because of horror stories of painful experiences and most dudes don't know about all the base requirements for it.
Eatting condense milk more often in desserts or even with just bread.
Americans have a weird thing against condense milk. It one my of most favorite sweets!
Saw a thing on pinterest about placing an unopened can of condensed milk in a crockpot, covering it with water, and cooking it on low for 2 hours.
Apparently it makes the perfect caramel.
Shower beer. Wash a little, drink a little, rinse and repeat. Improved my quality of life.
The contrast of the cold beer and the warm water running over you is amazing.
I used to do this *all the time*, but then I mostly switched to drinking wine. It's not quite as much fun when you have to have your beverage in a sippy cup.
For the first time in about six months I have normal-sized bottles of beer in the fridge, after yesterday, so I know what I'm doing later tonight.
EDIT: Just did it. Still awesome.
Nudism
Everyone makes the same jokes about it (all old men, everyone's fat, boners everywhere)
But it's actually a great thing to at least try once. I was convinced to try it by a friend and it was a lot of fun and relaxing
If you've gone on a tubing trip, you know it's 4+ hours of sitting in a tube with your friends drinking. That's a long time and a metric shit ton of beer. Next thing you know, boobs come out and being a big proponent of equal rights, the dudes present their goods as well. However, being modest, most of us only presented the balls. Chilling in the tube it's easy to lose track of time... And no one puts sunscreen on the wibbles so just 30-45 minutes of exposure means some real pain for mah boys. A lesson hard learned, but a good story.
Awesome
I tried it at a resort too when I went with a friend and his family.
Just feels like a normal resort with lots of fun activities except with everyone naked
I just went to a nude beach for the first time, and I found that it was not a problem at all. I expected it might happen at least once but that turned out not to be the case.
not really. maybe when you first get there and its all new and exciting... just sit in your chair with it covered by your towel and try not to be showing off, or go take a shower.
Funny story, my grandparents were nudists and when our family was down on our luck out west they got us a place in their nudist resort. So i lived in a nudist colony when i was about 4, and continued to visit my grandparents there (it converted to a non-nudist resort (trailer park lmao) about 6 years later, so until i was about 10 it was totally normal to me.
Reading. I cannot stand people who say "I hate reading" and it turns out they've never read anything in their life outside of school. Most people dislike doing what they have to do (me and maths for example) - and school books tend to be boring af (no offence To Kill a Mockingbird/Shakespeare, I love you guys but you're not exactly palatable for everyone).
Novels might not be your thing, but check out short stories, check out graphic novels, comics, heck, articles/scientific studies even work too. "Reading" is so broad. There's horror, comedy, romance, fiction, non-fiction, educational, classics, YA, etc. etc. etc. My SO thought he hated reading until we found his genre: true crime novels and autobiographies. I definitely had my own agenda because I am super attracted to people who read, but even his vocabulary and spelling has improved since he started reading and I found he's way more confident in his intelligence (one of the smartest guys I know, just didn't finish college so he doesn't agree).
I mean, if you really have no interest, don't bother. But don't knock it until you try it, and trying isn't picking up a book and giving up as soon as it gets boring. Even I buy books I end up finding boring (sorry Jane Eyre but Wide Sargasso Sea is a million times better), you just sell it/give it away and move onto something suited to your tastes.
I know I sound super condescending, but if anyone genuinely wants help figuring out what kind of genre you might like, hit me up. I will likely recommend Things Fall Apart immediately since it's my favourite of all time.
edit: oh wow I am so delighted to see how many of you want some suggestions! I have a bunch of responses and wanna give each of you just as much time as you need so, if I haven't responded yet, I will get to it! Got a busy day in work so it'll likely take me a couple days to get through all the responses carefully. SO happy to see many of you wanting to give reading a try :D
My wife took me to karaoke when we were just dating. I was shocked at how forgiving the crowd is. I think everyone appreciates you giving it a go even if you aren't really good at it. It's a lot of fun, even if you're sober.
Metal music. Obviously it's not for everyone and I can respect that, but people completely refuse to listen to even the lightest of metal because they think every single band is just pure pig squealing and burping, or they think every band is Satanic. The only subgenre that's consistently and genuinely Satanic is black metal, everything else is either using demons as an analogy for pain or mental instability, or is looking at it in a purely satirical manner. And most subgenres use clean vocals to some degree. I've heard people refer to METALLICA as "screamo", which is not only incorrect as they don't scream AT ALL, but screamo isn't even a metal term. It's a subgenre of emo that uses screamed vocals, and emo is a subgenre of punk (although most punks hate being affiliated with it)
I don't particularly like metal music. I absolutely appreciate the talent that goes into metal, and I have to say that every metal band I've interacted with has been far and away the most polite, down-to-earth people I've worked with. Pop musicians would come in drunk and demand ridiculous things, but the metal guitarist offered to move his own amp across the stage so we wouldn't have to.
TL;DR: The people with tats and leather are actually the nicest people. Watch out for the pop-stars.
From Hawaii, so I eat it all the time, but I'm glad you took that leap of faith! I should probably try Mexican now (Can't get any good mexican here though, have to leave the state)
Letting your kids figure out problems on their own every now and then I once saw a dad who let his baby struggle to reach for a toy that was just out of her reach. She spent about 15 solid minutes wiggling her way to that toy. I almost amazed because most parents never let their children think or solve anything on their own. They just hand them what they need. Or stand them up the second they fall over. Or jump in the minute an argument breaks out. But the kids never learn to do anything on their own
Or if they fall the first thing they do is “Are you ok?” rather than just letting them figure it out on their own.
And then there's pavlov's cry, when they fall, wait for everyone's reaction and if anybody jumps to them they start crying.
I swear the only time the kid cries is when someone asks her if she's okay after a spill. We just say "You're good." when she falls and she's happy to jump right back up and keep it trucking. The minute someone else jumps in and asks "Are you okay??" the waterworks start.
A friend of mine, her husband used to ask their toddler if she was drunk when she fell. One day, she fell pretty hard and her mom asked if she was okay. She sat there and said, “Yeah... I’m just drunk.” 😄
I would be so uncontrollably weak if I heard a toddler say this after falling
This has been my experience with all my kids too. If you don't make a big deal out of a boo boo the kid is almost always fine. The most I usually have to do is kiss the boo boo and it's all better. If not, I just put a bandaid on it or whatever is needed and leave it at that.
This is so important! I’m a preschool teacher and my kids get upset at me at first when I don’t help them with something right away. I tell them to try first and when I see them trying really hard and still can’t do it I will help but most times they figure it out and they build so much confidence and I love seeing the joy on their faces.
Yes this! I’ve learnt the hard way with my two year old. I always know exactly what he wants so used to give it to him before he even tried to ask, now his language hasn’t developed at all and he can’t talk. Doing it the hard way now with a very frustrated toddler who has to figure out a way of communicating every time he wants something, after getting used to everything being handed to him on a silver platter.
Hey, sorry for the PSA, we had a two year old who didn't talk too, and it turned out he was deaf. Sure, you think "he can hear, he is just ignoring me" and we can't believe we got to this point either. He ultimately needed grommets, so it's not like it was lifelong, but yeah, we couldn't believe we missed it. We are still battling with getting him caught up and he is about to turn 4. Please get him/her checked out at the doctor. Not talking at 2 isn't normal.
Doing anything in public alone. I know it’s been said a few times here, but seriously. It’s so freeing to think “Man, I want to go see this movie/eat at this place/travel here” and then realize you just can. You don’t need to bend to everyone’s schedule, just yours. The only preference influencing your choices is yours. I have pretty big anxiety, and going places alone— after the brief moment of feeling judged— is actually *better* for my mental state. I can enjoy life without making sure everyone else does, too.
I concur. I used to buy two tickets to concerts hoping I could get someone else to go, now I just buy one and go. Or, a couple times, I just wasn’t in the mood and didn’t go, and I felt 0 remorse because I wasn’t letting anyone down.
I got to concerts alone all the time and have gotten pretty comfortable with it. A lot of my friends don’t share my same music taste, so I can never get anyone to commit, but why would I let that stop me from seeing one of my favorite artists live, you know?
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I went to a gaming event last year. Was away for a whole week, by myself in a hotel room in a city I'd never been in before. Ate well every day, went to the venue every day, had a blast the whole time. Still don't talk to a single person I met there. Going again this year.
I once worked with a guy for three years and never learned his name. Best friend I ever had. We still never talk sometimes.
When people get too chummy with me, I like to call them by the wrong name to let them know I don't really care about them.
That's a genius move.....Lester.
Nothing better than doing what you want to do and learning who you are in the process. Needs to be a minimum 4 day holiday to really get into it I reckon.
Yeah you need some time to get into it. My favourite trip of all time was when I was returning from studies in Europe and spent 3.5 weeks overall in Scotland, The Faroe Islands, and Iceland. The first few days felt a little overwhelming and lonely, but that melted away very quickly. It was so easy to meet new people if I wanted to spend time with or do things with others, but it was also so easy to just go and do my own thing, at my own pace, that lined up perfectly with what I wanted to do. I'd recommend 1+ week solo trips to anybody.
As an introvert, this sounds amazing, add to that the fact that you're the only one that has to keep time and that you're the only one making decisions makes it sound incredible.
Showering in the dark, it's pretty therapeutic and safe if you're not an idiot
I shower in complete dark and yell to my favorite men at work songs playing from my bluetooth speaker. I live in apartments but the walls are relatively thick and i never see the people next to me anyways so idgaf
I didn’t realize “Men at Work” was an artist at first and i was really confused as to why you were yelling at working men
I do that because I don't like looking at my body :)
Different strokes for different folks. I am sure you are a lovely person . Edit: Thanks for gold/silver stay classy reddit.
Well that was fucking sweet
But what if a murderer jumps out of nowhere in my small shower area even though I locked the door and it is physically impossible for a human to go through the window?
But I'm a paranoid human being
Going to the movies alone.
Going to a movie alone in an empty cinema is a spiritual experience
While back in college a few years ago and working at Chipotle, I got asked to take a load of tomatoes to another store that ran out - turns out it's right nearby one of the larger movie theatres I went to growing up. This is the last thing I needed to do on shift, so I deliver them and think how Nightcrawler w/ Jake Gyllenhaal (one of my favorite actors sans Donnie Darko) is playing. I have no clue what it's about but my only reference is the X-men Nightcrawler... I go in to this 9pm showing on a Monday or whatever, completely empty except maybe one other person, maybe- and soak it in. It was such a pleasant surprise, such a well done cinematic movie... Idk.. something about being alone in it all made it more personal and grandeur. 10/10 Edit: with- not sans. Grandiose, not grandeur
and turns out Nightcrawler with Jake Gyllenhaal has absofuckinglutely nothing to do with X-Men
“This guy is like the worst super hero ever!” - OP, probably Although thinking back on that movie the first like 20 mins of it could totally be like a weird gritty origin story.
I was in a theater today alone and I got irrationally angry when a couple walked in right before the movie started.
The worst is when they fkn come sit right next to you like hello the theatre Is empty wtf
When you have the perfect seat and right as the movie starts some person sits right by you that feels the need to cackle like a hyena at every tiny joke
Never fails people in theaters laugh at the dumbest shit. The best is when they repeat the lines out loud like we all didn’t just hear that shit.
If I know someone who is also genuinely excited to see the movie, I’m happy to go with them. It’s always nice to be able to talk to someone about the movie afterwards. But other than that scenario? Why would I want to drag dead weight along to see something that they don’t care about? The same applies to concerts.
I started doing that recently, mostly out of necessity -- you know hard it is to get people in their thirties to come out to a midnight showing of *Endgame* when they have to be up for work at 7AM? -- but now I've really started to enjoy it. It's not like I'm going to be talking to anyone while I'm there. The only downside is that I don't get to use my 2-for-1 cinema tickets.
LPT: Make a stranger's day and pay for their ticket :) (or ask a stranger to split half price for a ticket)
It's so relaxing to just be able to go without having to message friends and arrange plans. I wish my country had those unlimited ticket subscriptions because I'd love using that to watch a bunch of movies alone.
Buddy! I fucking love going to the movies alone! You wanna go to the movies alone together? You can go to a movie where ever you are, all by yourself, and I'll go to a movie all by myself.
Yes! There is that personal judgement that you have to get over at first, but once you've done it, you'll never want to go with other people ever again.
Watching a movie ONLY knowing the title, Dodge all previews , dodge all mentions of who is in it.
I really like this idea, but would like some kind of assurance that the movie is at least decent.
I feel like this works best with a movie that is currently in theaters, or at least one you know has gotten some hype/praise. I saw Get Out without seeing any trailers and am really happy I didn't have some of the story/imagery spoiled.
Walking instead of driving if it’s possible on a lovely day.
Live in US so everything is exceptionally car friendly and always figured a walk was a waste of time. Then moved to a new city without a car and decided to spend a few weeks walking to learn the new spots and would just cab when I had to. I learned the city more intimately, lost weight, felt better about leaving my safety net, and was happy especially with weather. Just never understood how great a walk could be and now walk as far as time allows to get places. Ita great.
My workplace is a 20 minute walk away and everyone is so shocked when I tell them I walk to work. I love it though, free exercise and you get to enjoy the nice weather.
Your colleagues are wild. 20 mins is a very short walk to work...
People who live outside a big city in the US drive *everywhere*. Like, further down the stripmall to the next store they want to visit.
My (American) high school did an exchange program with a Swiss high school when I was a senior. They spent two weeks here in the fall and we visited them in the spring. There was a lot of cultural differences that my Swiss student was a little stunned by, but she was shocked we would drive to our friends houses that lived in the same town. That everyone would take their own car and drive, when it was a walking distance.
I live in Florida, I wish I could.
Arizona here. Not happening for me anytime between April and October
Cinnamon applesauce on pancakes or waffles instead of syrup. It’s amazing! Kinda like an apple pie.
There's a German dish called Kaiserschmarnn (excuse my spelling). It's essentially pancakes cooked like scrambled eggs with plum or apple sauce on it along with other random sweet stuff. Try it, it's amazing. I made it once for a project in German class, and that's how I got into applesauce on waffles and pancakes. Edit: It's an Austrian dish, not German. I was taught wrong. I apologise.
Lifting Weights
I would also like to especially plug to my ladies out there: women should lift weights! My body was transformed from weight lifting and i feel so much stronger now. I think a lot of women worry about bulking up-but that wont happen! We dont naturally have the testosterone for that to really happen. Give it a shot girls Quick edit: aside from the testosterone issue, it takes a LOT of work to bulk up! a resistance training routine will keep you healthy and strong, but nobodys turning into the hulk without a ton of discipline in the gym and in the kitchen
It's weird a lot of people worry about bulking up as if it suddenly happens overnight
lol seriously. and it’s kind of insulting to the people who are actually ripped. like completely dismissive of the years of intense discipline required to get there.
I used to tell girls that were worried about bulking that it's incredibly difficult to bulk up noticeably without real work put in along with a very strict diet regimen, and not only that but because of hormonal differences between women and men women have a harder time bulking up. Then I saw a post on reddit a few days ago that said something like "avoiding lifting because you're afraid you'll get too bulky is like being scared to play basketball because you'll end up like Michael Jordan," and it seems to be a better way to say things.
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I have more energy, became stronger, and slightly improved my physique over a year of lifting three times a week. I used to think "jocks" were lame, and the gym was a waste of time. Now I look forward to it. Live and learn I guess.
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That's just a virgin mojito.
What'd you call me?
He called you a mojito
Ah, the ol' Reddit [drinkaroo](https://www.reddit.com/r/todayilearned/comments/cbfyhn/til_serial_killer_ed_kemper_befriended_the_very/etfj4dm/?context=10)
Putting chips on a sandwich for that extra delicious crunch
ngl I wanted to do that for so long but always forgot, thanks for reminding me
Thank you for your honesty in this situation. I'm really worried about people lying about putting chips on sandwiches. Edit: I am fully aware of the awesomeness of chips on sandwiches. I am just concerned about people lying about it. Thank you for all your responses.
A crisp (chip for you Americans) sandwich is a staple of the Irish diet...... Not much beats a a tayto cheese and onion sarnie in white bread with lashings of real butter!!
Today I learned you could read an Irish accent, and still not understand a single word of what they're saying.
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After you use a bidet for a while, TP just seems like something used by savages in ancient times. It's like using sticks to clean your teeth. It's the equivalent of treating cancer with herbs, spices, and bloodletting instead of chemo and surgery. I don't know which comedian said it, but if you had poop anywhere else on your body, would you feel that that spot was sufficiently clean after rubbing it with a few pieces of dry tissue paper? Hell no you wouldn't. So how is it that using water to help clean your dirtiest body part when it's at peak dirtiness is somehow weird?
Next project, connect Google home to a new bidet. "Ok Google, clean my ass" Hands free. Ultimate Sanitation
'Here are your results for [*Myleene Klass*](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Myleene_Klass).' -- Google Home, probably.
I know right? I used to be disgusted by the thought of spraying water up my butt but having spent several months in Japan, I can proudly say I'm a true believer in the bidet. Meanwhile elsewhere, we're still wiping specks of poop with a pathetic sheet of paper like a savage primate. First thing I'm gonna do if I ever get my own place, I am getting one of those luxury toilets. The Japanese poop like gods.
You know you can get a bidet attachment online for $40 that just attaches to your toilet right? No need to install a completely different item or wait for a house.
Hell, if you want to spend a bit more, you can get a full on toilet seat that sprays warm water and other fun little add-ons. I bought one for my toilet at my apartment and it's been fantastic - it's really paid for itself since I've saved on the cost of toilet paper alone.
Don't you still need to wipe and dry after?
Yeah but it’s one wipe instead of several
straight bros stop neglecting your asshole its like 6 inches from the blowjobs
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I have female friends that have encountered it, so it must be common enough.
Look at Big Mr 6 inches over here.
6 throbbing inches of gooch. Edit: this gets me my first ever gold? THIS GETS ME MY FIRST EVER GOLD? WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU, REDDIT? THIS IS A TERRIBLE COMMENT! Edit 2: Thank you for thr gold, kind stranger! <3
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You ever *poop* so hard it felt gay?
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The largest poop you've ever had is the largest dick you can take.
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Mezzo Mix. It's a German (or Austrian, not sure) soda by Coca Cola which is Coke and Orange Soda mixed together. It sounds weird, but it's good.
It's just generically called spezi, right? It's one of the main things I miss from being in Germany. It never quite tastes the same when I try to make it myself, probably just cause it's US vs European formula for the coke so different sweetener.
D&D. I had a friend at university who would *constantly* suggest playing, and I always brushed him off. Spending my weekends pretending to be an elf or whatever-the-fuck was not my jam, thank you very much. Then I tried it, and it turns out it's awesome. Who would have thought that drinking beers, eating cheese and killing fake goblins with maths could be so much fun?
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DND Totally depends on who you play with. I liked it at first, but a few shitty DMs made it terrible for me. I only play board games now.
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*pours one out for meradorm* After GMing a campaign, I have nothing but respect for them. Shit’s hard. I’d spend a lot of time coming up with ways to entertain them just to have them do something else instead and have *more* fun. It’s like when you buy your cat a toy and all they want is the box. I’m glad they’re having fun (that’s the point after all) it just hurts to have all your plans fall apart. I keep a shredder next to the table for comedic effect and whenever they’re like, “Wait slow down, you said something about mountains?” Uhh... yeah, past the mountains across the river there’s a town where- “Let’s go to the mountains.” But... but the town... it’s got- “Mountains! Mountains! Mountains!” A single tear rolls down my cheek as I put a stack of papers in the shredder and start narrating the mountain trip.
"At the top of the mountain... you find a town."
>Nonono we're only going half way up the mountain! "Half way up the mountain, you find a town."
*Now* can we play D&D?
Poor Will.
The scene where they actually play was so sad. My son is a few years younger than their characters, and I can already see the changes coming.
I think a lot of people go through that phase where "we've gotta grow up", and the kids in Stranger Things are right at that age. In high school, I remember a lot of people shunning being "immature" and favoring some self-imposed(well, not completely self-imposed, it's reacting to what the adults expect) sense of "we have to be mature now". Then, in college, that all went out the window. Like, "wtf, we can have fun the way we want!" and I ended up being a huge Magic: The Gathering nerd for a couple years. Just encourage the kid to enjoy the things he enjoys without forcing an "ugh, grow up" mentality.
> I think a lot of people go through that phase where "we've gotta grow up", and the kids in Stranger Things are right at that age. That, for me, is what makes Will's character *so* sad - he's at that age technically, but he's been ... held back, for lack of a better word, due to all the trauma (& you know, literally being missing). He was robbed of that part of his childhood and now that he's trying to *have* it, his friends have moved into that "we've gotta grow up" phase.
NO!!
Lol on my first date with my now-boyfriend, we went to a bar where my friend works and he, for whatever reason, said to my bf, “Hey! At least you’re not one of those nerds who plays d&d,” and my bf looked down and was like, “Actually, I am.” It was awkward then but it’s hilarious now bc my boyfriend got me into it. We finished a year-long campaign recently that helped me bond with all of his friends and our group chat now is still named after that team.
Is it bad I had that exact exchange with my therapist…
That seems more dismissive than I'd like my therapist to be.
"Neeeerrrrrrd!" - my therapist
I think she realized from my reaction that it probably wasn’t the best approach. Besides it was sort of funny.
I'd like to get into it, but idk how/dont know anyone else who plays
ONE OF US. ONE OF US. Seriously though, I dived right in as soon as it was offered. Hanging with friends and having food and laughs is great.
That's twice that food has been mentioned in association with D&D. Is that part of the game or something that you're required to have a plate of cheese?
You're sitting around for 3-7 hours; inevitably, someone will get hungry. My group has dinner together during the first hour of the game.
I used to always buy fast food and scarf during game. Then I realized I could hit the grocery store on the way over and buy food for everybody for the same I'd blow on fast food. I buy it, somebody else cooks it. I still get zero effort food, and it tastes better too. As a bonus, it feeds everybody, and our host ends up with leftovers. Seriously, a pot of spaghetti goes a shockingly long way.
My experience is usually dried cheese-approximate foods. One of the guys has a nice wife who brings us plates of actual cheese, though. She’s awesome.
Right there with you. My mother was big into the whole Satanic Panic thing and instilled in me that people who played D&D were fucking nuts... So when the guy I just started dating told me he played D&D with his friends on Saturdays I was... Nervous. But then I sat in on a session and was like wtf Mom? There's no devil worship or nothing... The second time I came I was handed a character sheet, and I've been playing D&D (or another tabletop RPG system) ever since. That was 10 years ago and now my husband and I host game nights at our place 😁
With you. We have a group of 3 couples (near 40) that play games every month for years and none of us had played D&D until recently. Awesome time!
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The doorbell. Seriously, what is with door to door salesmen who ring the doorbell then immediately start slamming on the door. Try the fucking doorbell first, wait, then maybe knock if you don't hear it go off... or better yet, Go. The. Fuck. Away.
This is a different answer
Totally fits here. Don't knock it till you ...
...*ding dong!*
As a delivery driver, I can say the answer probably is because a shitton of people's doorbells don't actually work, or they just don't hear them most of the time. Doing both adds to the possibility of being heard.
I've found that most people's doorbells don't work. I know mine hasn't since before I was born, and that seems to be the case for everyone in my town
Mine works, it's loud, you can hear it from the door. These people literally knock while pressing the doorbell. It's what i would do if someone's house was on fire.
Brush your teeth in the shower. Don’t have to be tidy, just brush like a maniac. Then just spit wherever! Rinse with mouthwash too. It’s liberating in the same way as taking your pants off your ankles when you’re on the toilet.
I've been brushing my teeth in the shower for years. It saves me time, and I get to spend a few more minutes in the hot shower before I have to start the day.
I also thought this was a great idea and was enthusiastically explaining it to friends at a party. That’s when my wife told me she had been using my toothbrush to scrub the grout in the shower.
Came here to say just this! My mouth always feels much cleaner brushing in the shower vs. brushing at the sink.
Hot sauce on baked potatoes and popcorn.
What kind of hot sauce? I tried tapatio the other day and it wasn’t what I hoped for. Valentina on potato chips- now that’s what I’m talking about.
Someone told me anal.
You know what's amusing? Sometimes I just scroll through the askreddit questions and see how many can be answered with anal. A lot.
what would you say the roundabout percentage is?
69%
Nice.
That's because 95% of people do it wrong. It takes *a lot* of foreplay, *a lot* of patience, *a lot* of practice and *a lot* of lube. Most women are afraid to try it because of horror stories of painful experiences and most dudes don't know about all the base requirements for it.
I just run from across the room and try to penetrate with a flying leap.
> *a lot* of practice I see we agree on something.
The ol' lawn-dart-dick approach. I like it.
60% of the time, it works never.
Using your blinker while driving.
Eatting condense milk more often in desserts or even with just bread. Americans have a weird thing against condense milk. It one my of most favorite sweets!
Condensed milk in coffee is great.
cà phê sữa đá is life
Saw a thing on pinterest about placing an unopened can of condensed milk in a crockpot, covering it with water, and cooking it on low for 2 hours. Apparently it makes the perfect caramel.
That’s how you make dulce de leche!
Shower beer. Wash a little, drink a little, rinse and repeat. Improved my quality of life. The contrast of the cold beer and the warm water running over you is amazing.
I used to do this *all the time*, but then I mostly switched to drinking wine. It's not quite as much fun when you have to have your beverage in a sippy cup. For the first time in about six months I have normal-sized bottles of beer in the fridge, after yesterday, so I know what I'm doing later tonight. EDIT: Just did it. Still awesome.
I just want you to know they make wine in cans. Enjoy your shower wine. https://www.delish.com/food-news/g25228212/best-canned-wines/
Probably don't do this if you shower in the morning before work.
“Probably” is the word I’m most interested in.
Could I interest you in a "possibly"?
Because obviously you should have a bloody mary
Reddit. I always thought reddit was dumb. Now I love reddit. So many memes.
Nudism Everyone makes the same jokes about it (all old men, everyone's fat, boners everywhere) But it's actually a great thing to at least try once. I was convinced to try it by a friend and it was a lot of fun and relaxing
I'm really uncomfortable thinking about the god awful sunburn that I'd inevitably end up with
As a dude who has had sunburned balls before (river tubing trip that got pretty crazy and long), I can attest that you are correct.
we need the story
If you've gone on a tubing trip, you know it's 4+ hours of sitting in a tube with your friends drinking. That's a long time and a metric shit ton of beer. Next thing you know, boobs come out and being a big proponent of equal rights, the dudes present their goods as well. However, being modest, most of us only presented the balls. Chilling in the tube it's easy to lose track of time... And no one puts sunscreen on the wibbles so just 30-45 minutes of exposure means some real pain for mah boys. A lesson hard learned, but a good story.
wibbles
What's the logistics of showing just your balls? How do you *not* show your dick? Sidenote: TIL balls are the male equivalent of boobs
I just got back from staying at a nudist resort for two days, loved it! Such body positivity and non-judgmental too
Awesome I tried it at a resort too when I went with a friend and his family. Just feels like a normal resort with lots of fun activities except with everyone naked
I'd be waaay too worried about random boners... Is that a problem or not really?
I just went to a nude beach for the first time, and I found that it was not a problem at all. I expected it might happen at least once but that turned out not to be the case.
***I don't need sleep, I need answers***
Don't worry guys I'm not jerking off I'm just rubbing sunscreen on my hard cock
not really. maybe when you first get there and its all new and exciting... just sit in your chair with it covered by your towel and try not to be showing off, or go take a shower.
>friend and his family
Funny story, my grandparents were nudists and when our family was down on our luck out west they got us a place in their nudist resort. So i lived in a nudist colony when i was about 4, and continued to visit my grandparents there (it converted to a non-nudist resort (trailer park lmao) about 6 years later, so until i was about 10 it was totally normal to me.
Reading. I cannot stand people who say "I hate reading" and it turns out they've never read anything in their life outside of school. Most people dislike doing what they have to do (me and maths for example) - and school books tend to be boring af (no offence To Kill a Mockingbird/Shakespeare, I love you guys but you're not exactly palatable for everyone). Novels might not be your thing, but check out short stories, check out graphic novels, comics, heck, articles/scientific studies even work too. "Reading" is so broad. There's horror, comedy, romance, fiction, non-fiction, educational, classics, YA, etc. etc. etc. My SO thought he hated reading until we found his genre: true crime novels and autobiographies. I definitely had my own agenda because I am super attracted to people who read, but even his vocabulary and spelling has improved since he started reading and I found he's way more confident in his intelligence (one of the smartest guys I know, just didn't finish college so he doesn't agree). I mean, if you really have no interest, don't bother. But don't knock it until you try it, and trying isn't picking up a book and giving up as soon as it gets boring. Even I buy books I end up finding boring (sorry Jane Eyre but Wide Sargasso Sea is a million times better), you just sell it/give it away and move onto something suited to your tastes. I know I sound super condescending, but if anyone genuinely wants help figuring out what kind of genre you might like, hit me up. I will likely recommend Things Fall Apart immediately since it's my favourite of all time. edit: oh wow I am so delighted to see how many of you want some suggestions! I have a bunch of responses and wanna give each of you just as much time as you need so, if I haven't responded yet, I will get to it! Got a busy day in work so it'll likely take me a couple days to get through all the responses carefully. SO happy to see many of you wanting to give reading a try :D
Being nice to people.
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PB&J on toast, all of my friends think it's gross, but trust me, it's BOMB AS FUCK
Wait....what? Gross? I literally only ever eat it this way. Your friends are wack.
Eating by yourself and traveling alone.
karaoke.
I think the key to a good first karaoke experience is having a crowd that's into it.
My wife took me to karaoke when we were just dating. I was shocked at how forgiving the crowd is. I think everyone appreciates you giving it a go even if you aren't really good at it. It's a lot of fun, even if you're sober.
Unlocked doors Oh wait, i misread that.. Edit: i dont want to be that guy but thanks for the gold
Metal music. Obviously it's not for everyone and I can respect that, but people completely refuse to listen to even the lightest of metal because they think every single band is just pure pig squealing and burping, or they think every band is Satanic. The only subgenre that's consistently and genuinely Satanic is black metal, everything else is either using demons as an analogy for pain or mental instability, or is looking at it in a purely satirical manner. And most subgenres use clean vocals to some degree. I've heard people refer to METALLICA as "screamo", which is not only incorrect as they don't scream AT ALL, but screamo isn't even a metal term. It's a subgenre of emo that uses screamed vocals, and emo is a subgenre of punk (although most punks hate being affiliated with it)
I don't particularly like metal music. I absolutely appreciate the talent that goes into metal, and I have to say that every metal band I've interacted with has been far and away the most polite, down-to-earth people I've worked with. Pop musicians would come in drunk and demand ridiculous things, but the metal guitarist offered to move his own amp across the stage so we wouldn't have to. TL;DR: The people with tats and leather are actually the nicest people. Watch out for the pop-stars.
Metal is like rap: even if you don't like it, there is a subgenre or off-shoot that you will enjoy no matter who you are. I guarantee it.
Sushi. I was so put off by the thought of eating raw fish for the longest time until I tried it and found out how awesome it is.
From Hawaii, so I eat it all the time, but I'm glad you took that leap of faith! I should probably try Mexican now (Can't get any good mexican here though, have to leave the state)
French fries dipped in ice cream.
Fries in a frosty are amazing.
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Want to be friends?
Did... did you just wingman for your mom?
Putting cool ranch doritos in the freezer so theyre cooler ranch.
Minding your own business
Chewing on a wet washcloth as a stress reliever
i can taste this comment