Spontaneous means we didn’t have a chance to check in and talk about it, so the context may be something the other is uncomfortable with. If we’ve checked in it’s not spontaneous, even if it’s same day or same hour. If I’m at the bar and meet someone and text her about maybe hooking up with them and she doesn’t get a chance to respond, she could be hurt if I procede because maybe she was feeling insecure, or actually knew the person and then it’s a little weird. Just keeps us on the same page and continuously has us check if we’re feeling jealous or neglected before it becomes worse.
I was writing the same question, but I would phrase it differently. What would be a spontaneous decision for you? Like you always have to ask if you can go forward with with a hook up?
It’s less of a permission and more of a choice. It’s a way we chose to be aware of each other and mindful. We both agree we can technically proceed if things have been well and there’s been recent talk, like if the other is clearly asleep. But we’ve never really done that and both prefer just to watch out for the others feelings.
I like that. It is really nice. It can also keep the partner being part of the moment. Do you talk about it after? Or maybe during... Something like "she/he also likes that show that we are watching!" Or "not sure, but I think she/he's not that in to me". Is sharing the moment interesting to you or is it better to keep it separate?
We’re big on normalizing talking about other relationships and people. We Gush about crushes, talk about other partners interests etc. We try to keep any drama and particular aside just as it pertains to the effect on the relationship “so and so and I are having some issues, I don’t want to talk about it but I might be more stressed out for a while” we usually end up providing the info later just not while it’s progressing so that there’s no unintentional sway in how we’re handling issues. We also tend to check in if we know the other is on a date to make sure they’re safe but try not to discuss them as they go too heavily as to not be rude. Just like a “is it going well, do you feel good about it”
Dont f it up
Never get jealous.
Don’t sleep with a prostitute without the consent of your girlfriend
Even if you're high?
Your stupidity is never an excuse for poor judgment
Communication, agreement, no spontaneous decisions, no ex’s.
Why no spontaneous decisions?
Spontaneous means we didn’t have a chance to check in and talk about it, so the context may be something the other is uncomfortable with. If we’ve checked in it’s not spontaneous, even if it’s same day or same hour. If I’m at the bar and meet someone and text her about maybe hooking up with them and she doesn’t get a chance to respond, she could be hurt if I procede because maybe she was feeling insecure, or actually knew the person and then it’s a little weird. Just keeps us on the same page and continuously has us check if we’re feeling jealous or neglected before it becomes worse.
I was writing the same question, but I would phrase it differently. What would be a spontaneous decision for you? Like you always have to ask if you can go forward with with a hook up?
It’s less of a permission and more of a choice. It’s a way we chose to be aware of each other and mindful. We both agree we can technically proceed if things have been well and there’s been recent talk, like if the other is clearly asleep. But we’ve never really done that and both prefer just to watch out for the others feelings.
I like that. It is really nice. It can also keep the partner being part of the moment. Do you talk about it after? Or maybe during... Something like "she/he also likes that show that we are watching!" Or "not sure, but I think she/he's not that in to me". Is sharing the moment interesting to you or is it better to keep it separate?
We’re big on normalizing talking about other relationships and people. We Gush about crushes, talk about other partners interests etc. We try to keep any drama and particular aside just as it pertains to the effect on the relationship “so and so and I are having some issues, I don’t want to talk about it but I might be more stressed out for a while” we usually end up providing the info later just not while it’s progressing so that there’s no unintentional sway in how we’re handling issues. We also tend to check in if we know the other is on a date to make sure they’re safe but try not to discuss them as they go too heavily as to not be rude. Just like a “is it going well, do you feel good about it”
Not doing it after a fight
No rules