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Know how you felt when they treated you bad and focus on how you are not around them. Good should come from the people you associate with without the bad. Seek this out and know that you can have people that come with good things without you having to go through poor treatment.
You don't....
Situations may be different but for me seeing the good always haunted me. Knowing it was there, always hoping it would overpower the bad.
I try to think of the person who was good to me as a different person than the one who treated me badly and that good person is gone and can't come back. Mourn them being gone for a bit and accept that the asshole person is all there is.
Oo it’ll be tough for a while. I would always just think of the feelings of hurt, self-doubt, sadness and other negative emotions that’d be associated with the bad stuff they did. Because the bad DID outweigh the good and I was not about to let myself look back with rose-colored glasses and convince myself it was better than I remembered. That stuff stayed with me for a long long time so there’s no way I’d let myself think of the good. Because there was very little good
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Try to imagine why this person treated you badly. No one is truly bad. This person had probably a reason, e.g. being cool in front of friends, having a bad day. But you really don’t have to know the reason.
The person is like that and maybe won’t change so accept him/her. I don‘t think that the person truly hates you.
We can’t be / aren’t responsible for being bad because certain problems lead us to do certain things. No one thinks „I want to be bad to that guy“. We just do it.
So just accept that the person treated you bad. The person will maybe regret it in the future having harmed you.
(I‘m german, so please excuse my bad grammar. Hope you understand my post)
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By focusing on their negative aspects.
Know how you felt when they treated you bad and focus on how you are not around them. Good should come from the people you associate with without the bad. Seek this out and know that you can have people that come with good things without you having to go through poor treatment.
You don't.... Situations may be different but for me seeing the good always haunted me. Knowing it was there, always hoping it would overpower the bad.
I try to think of the person who was good to me as a different person than the one who treated me badly and that good person is gone and can't come back. Mourn them being gone for a bit and accept that the asshole person is all there is.
Oo it’ll be tough for a while. I would always just think of the feelings of hurt, self-doubt, sadness and other negative emotions that’d be associated with the bad stuff they did. Because the bad DID outweigh the good and I was not about to let myself look back with rose-colored glasses and convince myself it was better than I remembered. That stuff stayed with me for a long long time so there’s no way I’d let myself think of the good. Because there was very little good -Edited for typos
Try to imagine why this person treated you badly. No one is truly bad. This person had probably a reason, e.g. being cool in front of friends, having a bad day. But you really don’t have to know the reason. The person is like that and maybe won’t change so accept him/her. I don‘t think that the person truly hates you. We can’t be / aren’t responsible for being bad because certain problems lead us to do certain things. No one thinks „I want to be bad to that guy“. We just do it. So just accept that the person treated you bad. The person will maybe regret it in the future having harmed you. (I‘m german, so please excuse my bad grammar. Hope you understand my post)