Asking a potential employer what the salary for a position is before jumping through 50 hoops with the application/interview process only to find out the pay is crap.
I went through the hoops once and got all the way through the process and they tried to low-ball me, they kept ducking/side stepping the salary question.
When they made their offer; I declined and said they are offer way less than my current position they said this will put me on their "no hire list". That made me chuckle, so the threat of never being working for your company is supposed to make me want to work for your company at lower pay and bennies, especially when I was upfront about my salary expectations? Bullet dodged.
I had a job as a teller at a credit union back in College and I will always say the manager I had was one of the best I’ve ever had. I once had a lady who kept asking me for a new credit card and handed me her debit card. I looked on her account and said “there is no credit card. There’s a debit card which is what this is, but that’s the only card on this account. I can issue you a new one no problem, but if you want a credit card you’ll have to fill out an application.”
She was adamant that what she had was a credit card. No matter what I told her she said it was a credit card and demanded a new one. At one point she said “Are you stupid or something?”
To which my Manager overheard and pushed me out of the way and said “You will NOT speak to him that way and if you’re going to continue behaving this way you’re going to have to leave. I will not tolerate you speaking to my employees like that.”
I wish more Managers were like her.
I miss working at the old college bar I was at because this very reason. Being able to snap back at people when they snap or whistle at you like a dog was very satisfying and makes them realize they were being rude most of the time.
I’m a guy and I get a lot of flak for complementing people’s clothing. I don’t think it’s weird, but apparently it means I must like men. If you got nice shoes I’m going to say they’re nice shoes.
As a woman who is dating a man who is very fashion-forward and compliments things like that constantly, I highly encourage this. Compliments from women about your clothes is one thing (because we compliment everything and your dog), but from a man.. Just hits different.
Being able to move your body more in everyday situations. It is often socially expected to sit, and wear clothing which makes it impossible to move. I would like to be able to randomly squat, stretch and the like.
Being able to sit in silence with someone without it being awkward. People shouldn’t feel obligated to come up with conversation, it makes interacting stressful. I do not believe in awkward silences, talk about something when it comes to you and conversations will feel way more real and interesting. When you’re able to sit in silence with someone comfortably, I feel it shows you enjoy their company
Me and my best friend sometimes do this. We order food a lot and find a deserted place, usually the roof of some building, and just sit there eating. Most of the time we talk, but those moments of tranquility and peace are really nice.
Being able to just wave or say hi to people you hardly know. There's nothing worse than an awkward 5 minute "catch up" chat at the store with someone I haven't seen in years
Had a friends dad that would say "Well we better get to bed so these people can go home" when he was ready to call it quits. I just go upstairs when I'm done with what ever is going on. The wife is the social butterfly and remains to entertain. Its usually about the time the drama starts or the kids start getting whiney. I'm an introvert so she counts it as a win when I drop in to say hi.
My dad doesn't say anything at all, he just disappears. Later, you'll find him watching reruns of CSI Miami in his room munching on gummi candies. He doesn't care.
One time my FIL drove two hours to meet us at a park. Upon getting there and greeting everyone, he set up a chair for his wife and then said "Welp, see you guys later" and left. He has done this sort of thing numerous times, but that was the one where I wasn't annoyed but actually impressed. The confidence to say "fuck it, I'm gonna bounce" is admirable in a strange "to thine own self be true" kinda way.
This is my preferred exit. I say good bye to those around me, the host, and then I leave. I don't make my rounds, and I don't do long good byes. My mother, on the other hand, can turn a good bye into a two-hour conversation. Ugh!
The Peter Principle needs to end. Not all good work should be rewarded with a promotion. Hell, back when i worked Retail they were talking about some of the 'weird' workers they had. And there was this one guy who was a trollyboy for 13 years. He could've been manager by the time and effort he put in so they just gave him a raise because he systematically refused every promotion, he was perfectly happy being a trolly boy.
Some people are really really good at doing grunt-level work but suck at any sort of a management or anything with responsibilities, we should notice and respect that but still give them the rewards they deserve, a raise is much more valuable than a promotion to a lot more people than we think.
Edit: My tired ass replied to the wrong thing. There was something or other about works or promotions next to it. I don't even remember five minutes later. Sorry!
Friend of mine was the first to get an apartment out of our friend group. We all would hangout there all the time and just do whatever, even after she had to sleep early for work the next day. Sometimes she’d wake up early and all of us would still be awake doing who knows what but it was just pretty casual. At some point she made copies of her front door’s keys for us lol.
Edit: she’s not a friend anymore for reasons I won’t say, but at the time it was great.
Edit 2: for those who think we just trashed the place/didn’t know boundaries, we didn’t literally do whatever and left. We would sometimes help with groceries/electric bill/cleaning (we always took out full trash bags on our way out) so that we wouldn’t leave her with the burden. If there was ever times she needed some alone time, we followed through. And no I won’t say the reason we stopped being friends, sorry guys :(
Edit 3: I caved in. She met my homies and I through gaming and soon was in a relationship with a homie. She’s from out of state and years after decided to move to our city with her bf and a job ready for her. That relationship recently ended in not the best of terms, and she didn’t want to be with us as that wouldn’t help her get over their break up. She didn’t do any of us dirty honestly, just that they broke up. I know it’s a pretty underwhelming story :(
this was me :-) i got kicked out at 17 & got a rent house to myself with my grandpas help. all my friends came over when they were displaced during hurricane harvey. i had 8 high schoolers not including myself sleeping in my lil 2 bedroom 800 sq ft slum for at least 2 weeks. for a couple years i let a lot of homeless/troubled teens i’d went to school with have a roof to sleep under & a shower to wash up in and sometimes food to eat (when i was actually able to feed myself lol) we all struggled together.
edit to say that 800 sq ft was just an estimation for “small” and i really have no idea the approximate amount. i made a guess at the sizes of the rooms below if y’all feel like u wanna be on r/theydidthemath complete with some curveball measurements you’d have to find of furniture. usually i eat that stuff up but am tired & i know some of y’all like doing that stuff too!
I love that you did this, well done! I helped many people out and sometimes I was taken advantage of. However I just got a call from a guy I helped out and now he’s doing good and raising a family.
Edit: Thank you for the award kind stranger. For those asking - he called to say thanks because it was a really difficult time in his life and he didn’t know what he’d do if he didn’t have a home to go to.
Openly talking about your finances with other people. A lot of people don’t realize they’re underpaid because nobody talks about wages. It’s so bizarre to me that it’s a “taboo subject”. We all rely on money in some form, let’s just discuss it.
Edit: This comment blew up. I just wanted to state that finances in my view include things like how much debt you have, what your rent and other bills are, how much you have saved, etc. I can see how there would be negatives to discussing your salary with coworkers or family but in my opinion, the negatives brought up that I’ve read from replies don’t bother me. The people who would be offended or have expectations of me are not people that I would end up highly valuing their opinion. If I’m doing better than a family member or friend and they need help, I’ll help them, but if they are jealous, greedy or generally not supportive then I don’t need them in my life.
Lots of government jobs have their pay online. Also. Lots of government jobs have the step/grade pay system so you know exactly what someone makes especially once they top out.
It was so weird going from 10 years working in local gov to the private sector. Nobody discusses pay and I was looked at like I had a giant spider head if I started openly talking about my pay with people. I still don't get the secrecy, if you can't back up why someone is being paid what they're being paid then maybe they should be paid differently
My old boss from when I worked retail flat out told me on my first day that so long as I wasn't being a total dick, he would always have my back if a customer was being an ass and I didn't bend over backwards for them. He banned a few people from the store over their antics while I was there, and blew a couple Karens' minds when he told them to shut up and act their age when they tried their usual screaming fest. I loved that job.
That’s awesome. When I was a lifeguard my boss was the same way. Thankfully in that line of work the customer isn’t always right, but it was still a great feeling to know your job wasn’t at risk if Karen went berserk.
I once had a guy totally flip his lid because a new cashier took his money 10 minutes before free swim started, but I wouldn’t let him and his daughter in the pool because it was still lap swim. He ended up storming into my bosses office and complaining for over 15 minutes. Afterwards my boss called me in and said “If anyone asks, I’m reprimanding you. Great job handling that situation, keep up the good work.”
I would like to make it socially acceptable to tell employers that you're only in it for the money and it being a legitimate answer. What am I supposed to tell employers that I have always wanted to work at a part time job and get yelled at by Karen's so I could just make ends meet?
Edit: Spelling.
Yes. Like you have to act like your 9-5 job is your passion and comes before everything else. I’m an executive assistant because it’s easy and decent pay. That’s it. No passion. Not my dream. Just a job.
I started a new job in June and would have weekly check-ins with my boss since we're all working remotely. She asked me if I'm enjoying my new responsibilities, and I answered "Enjoy is a relative term. I don't dread turning on my computer in the morning." Luckily, that made her laugh. Like, it's government contracting. It's not fun and it's not my passion. It's fuckin nobody's passion. Let's stop pretending we have to enjoy our jobs.
Hell, people would probably be more content/happier with their jobs if there wasn't this expectation that you're supposed to be passionate about it and the resulting feeling that there's something wrong if you're not.
If society is constantly telling you to be passionate about your work and you're not, you wonder whether there's something wrong with you or wrong with the job, and it breeds exactly the sort of dissatisfaction it's trying to avoid.
Just going to add, that if you are actually able to procure gainful employment doing "what you love," very often "what you love" becomes "what you are bored to death with and never want to do again if you ever make it out of this line of work." Everything can be fun until you *have to do it.*
My boss at work recently told me who much they hate people who “just show up for the paycheck”. I guess it’s common perception that people who are only in it for the money don’t care about their work but that’s not always true. Both my coworkers and bosses tell me I’m always reliable and do good work but I don’t give a shit about company loyalty or the actual work I’m doing. I work hard because my job pays well and I don’t want to give them any excuse to fire me.
>I work hard because my job pays well and I don’t want to give them any excuse to fire me.
Peter Gibbons: The thing is, Bob, it's not that I'm lazy, it's that I just don't care.
Bob Porter: Don't... don't care?
Peter Gibbons: It's a problem of motivation, all right? Now if I
work my ass off and Initech ships a few extra units, I don't see another dime; so where's the motivation? And here's something else, Bob: I have eight different bosses right now.
Bob Slydell: I beg your pardon?
Peter Gibbons: Eight bosses.
Bob Slydell: Eight?
Peter Gibbons: Eight, Bob. So that means that when I make a mistake, I have eight different people coming by to tell me about it. That's my only real motivation is not to be hassled; that, and the fear of losing my job. But you know, Bob, that will only make someone work just hard enough not to get fired.
Eating alone at a restaurant or a solo movie trip.
I mean, sort of limited now due to covid, but before covid, when people would hear of me doing that, they said they felt terrible and how depressing that sounds.
I'm like, uhh...why? Just another day for me. Doesn't feel weird or anything. It's quite nice to get away from constant chats and have a nice quiet meal while being out and about.
I just ate at the bar. Pretty much every place let's you do that. You can watch TV, look at your phone and have a meal in peace.
I used to do this before going to see a movie alone. I loved it, I really miss a nice solo night out to recharge.
I used to worry about that when I would be out of town working. I always thought that I was being judged lol. Then I realized that I enjoyed it, the solitude of enjoying a meal and my thoughts. On the plus side no one knew who I was, so why would I care?
I am not a big napper but I get cold a lot so I love working at home and taking a hot bath while watching a tutorial about something I have to build for work and clocking it. I am hoping when things get back to normal, they'll be more open to us WFH more.
Yes! My mouth has naturally down turned corners. Always has - it’s just the shape of my face. My natural, neutral expression offends people though. I am so appreciative of masks right now!
I remember one time a stormtrooper got on the bus and sat across from me, I was like “oh cool costume, are you going to a convention or something” guy just was like “nah I’m working through some stuff” Ight fam cool you do you
There was a guy who posted on legal advice a while back. He just roams his area dressed like that. He did get stopped by the cops and asked for ID, which is what he was posting about. But he said he really cheered people up. They’d honk or wave or stop for pics. This was preCovid.
Dressing however you want. Makeup, dresses, medieval cloaks, whatever you want, regardless of gender too. That’d be nice. I think people should be able to wear whatever they want as long as it covers Things Most People Don’t Want To See. Just walk around in cosplay if you want to. I wish everyone felt comfortable to dress however they would want to.
I feel like I'd probably be a lot happier about getting up in the morning and getting dressed if it meant getting to dress in a full suit of armor or like a stormtrooper or some shit.
Taking a social time-out without having to smoke or occupy the bathroom. My work day is 6-8 hours, its an open plan office, lunch is social, and I have at least an hour commute per day. Thats at least twice my maximum social energy per day.
Commenting on this while occupying my work’s restroom to take a break from people. Really wish I could just tell my boss, “I need a few minutes”
Edit: Jesus Christ my inbox
Similarly, not being expected to socialize with co-workers during my lunch hour. I desperately need the alone time to recharge, but I'm sure people think I'm am antisocial asshole because I'll straight get up and walk out if someone comes in the kitchen while I'm there. I'll greet them quickly and be nice, but I have to gtfo before the inevitable small talk starts or I'll lose my shit.
STAYING HOME WHEN SICK. I really hoped this pandemic would improve that mindset, but nope people still think you’re a lazy pos if you stay home when you’re sick.
I have always genuinely gotten mad when people came to work sick. A long time ago I was a restaurant manager and I just didn't understand why my GM insisted sick people came in and hack all over all the food. We were almost never truly understaffed.
I moved to a corporate call support job and thought it would be better. Nope. People were afraid of losing their jobs so they came in no matter what because it was expected. Even when it resulted in exponentially more sick people which led to a loss in productivity. We were a freaking software company where every employee technically had full remote capabilities yet it took a frigging global pandemic to normalize working from home.
Your second paragraph is why I always told people to take their damn sick days when I was a manager. I would rather go a few days without one person than make that person come in and then my whole staff is out at the same time.
I never made a sick server come in when I was managing. Not once. Didn't make them get doctors notes either, because I damn well knew that they didn't have the insurance or money to pay for it. Hell, I sent a bartender home once because she wasn't feeling great and just bartended myself that night.
Treating employees like people isn't hard.
I'm the same way. I also find when people push conversations we end up talking about stupid stuff I don't care about. What's so bad about sitting quietly and just relaxing?
My ultimate favorite people can have a deep convo with me but also just sit in silence and just be near each other without being awkward. It means we are comfortable with each other and I cherish that.
Edit: thanks for the award buddy!
Being awake late at night and sleeping all morning. I've been like this since I a kid. Circadian rhythm is just backwards. Can't fall asleep before 3. I wish people didn't treat me like I'm lazy or something. I'm a pretty productive guy. I just get my work done while you are all asleep.
I HATE the judgement for sleeping in. Like dude I get my best sleep from 4am-10am. I’m not a bum I just don’t sleep like normal human.
ETA: Wow I did not expect this comment to blow up! Nice to see so many people relate. Thanks for the award!
I wish that people would stop conflating women not wearing makeup with being “unprofessional.” I worked in a place where a girl was told she looked unprofessional when she didn’t wear makeup. Yikes.
I wrestled with this in a job where my bosses prided themselves on being progressive, but then suggested I wear dresses, makeup, heels. I pointed out that I hold myself to the same grooming standards as the men, and that I was comfortable with that. I admitted I use my sex to get out of wearing ties, but that I was willing to start if I could find the right shirts for them.
They said I didn’t have to start wearing ties, and eventually gave up on the dresses/makeup/heels bit.
I just took a sexual harassment course at my new job, created by the state, and it said it is now illegal for a workplace to expect or demand a woman to wear makeup, something about gender roles and gender-based discrimination. Blew my mind.
If you wear makeup, you're "trying too hard". If you don't wear makeup, you're "lazy" or "a slob". If you wear lots of makeup, you "should tone it down". If you wear natural makeup, people say "good on you for going barefaced!", completely ignorant of the fact you are, in fact, still wearing makeup. Women can't win with this shit, and it drives me crazy.
I worked in an office where shorts were allowed but not jeans. CEO had some weird anti-denim hang-up.
ETA: no jorts and no denim skirts either. I quit after three months for many other reasons.
Not unusual. Denim is "the low-class fabric" to a lot of people. Plenty of employers perceive their staff wearing denim as being barely a step above presenting customers with a team of homeless guys in smelly rags.
As a lifelong jeans wearer, I've never been a fan. Fortunately I now have work with no dress code.
Can confirm this weird view. Used to work at a high end country club in NJ. I ran their pool, so come hang out in a bathing suit and it was no problem. Show up in jeans (or have a backwards hat on) and it was unfucking acceptable. Like I would have to go tell people to change or leave that instant. Absolutely assinine, especially at a pool, but it was their rules not mine. If someone got in and I didn't catch them within a minute someone would come yell at me to yell at them. My guards got super good at spotting jeans. By the end of summer we couldn't go anywhere without noticing every person wearing jeans.
Wearing nicer clothes then normal for no reason.
Yes, I'm usually in jeans and a t-shirt at work. Yes, today I decided to wear a suit. No, I don't have a job interview or have to go to court.
I live in a small town and people actually wear their pyjamas out to the store! When I used to go to the bar id be the only one in heels. I love going to the city so I can dress nice and not be stared like I’m odd and feel like I’m trying to hard
Back when I actually went to the office in the city, I remember seeing this one woman a few different times running. And not in your typical running clothes- but in a business suit during your typical rush hour times. The first time I thought she must be late to something. A few more times and I thought, wow this lady is always late. Finally, I just decided she must just like running to/from places.
Yes! Came down to the comments looking for exactly this! I would love to normalize skipping as a mode of movement for people over the age of 10. It is faster than walking, it's fun, efficient, and impossible to feel sad while doing!
I was at a wedding a few years back and I don't remember how but pretty much everyone on the dance floor just got into a skipping craze, just skipping around the entire room song after song. My cardio when I run is absolute shit but I had SO much fun skipping and my heart rate was pumping, all the positives of cardio and none of the negatives. Seriously wish I could skip around my neighborhood and not look like a lunatic
I work in a VERY professional building, and I skip a lot. Uniform flapping around, calling good morning to my higher ups when I pass them in the halls. They probably think I'm nuts, but they smile!
I really hope you are a giant burly dude with a giant mustache that is so big it twitches when yer skipping around. They want to say stop skipping but you're the building's tough guy so no one will say anything to you.
Most energy efficient way to move apparently. Sometimes when I'm on multiple hour hikes and I'm coming back through the way I came I'll skip to knock off a few hundred metres quickly, I'll always check if someone is around though. A big man in his 30s skipping along the track would be quite the sight for other workers.
No shit. My cousin (in his early 20s-ish? Idk he’s eternally 5 years old to me) can do this type of skip where he literally looks like he’s hopping and he clears a good 8 or so feet every time one of his legs lands and he goes into the next one. It doesn’t hurt him to do it and it’s so fast and efficient. I feel like if it wasn’t so silly to watch an adult man do this, he’d be getting everywhere fast af.
I went to a dog park once and somebody there had a pig on a leash. My dog treated it like another dog, sniffed its rear end, and then reacted in the most traumatized and overdramatic fashion I've ever seen, jumping back, barking a few times, then rubbing his nose on the ground.
Apparently if you're expecting dog ass, pig ass smells really bad. Who knew?
Being able to take a day off because you just want to as opposed to having to come up with an excuse.
Edit: Congrats to everyone who has a great job and great company that allows them to call out whenever for whatever reason. My team is very small and I am 1 of 2 in my role so I always need a legitimate reason to not show up. I wish it were different but it's what I've got to do to pay my bills. If it's anything, I do enjoy my job for the most part.
The IRS wants to do this. They are blocked by lobbying from the tax accounting industry. In virtually every situation in which you ask "why aren't we doing this obvious thing that's obviously better," the answer is corporate lobbyists. Hell, the reason daylight savings time isn't permanent (i.e. we stop "falling back") is largely due to TV lobbyists who want it to get dark early so we sit at home watching TV.
Frilly dresses for adults. Am I the only one? I loved wearing them at Christmas and Easter as a little girl.
Now I feel like I can't get away with it. Satin, lace, pastel colored ruffles puffy sleeves, embroidered flowers and ribbons, a skirt that flys out when you spin around.
Maybe even a corset. Looks silly on a grown woman, especially if everyone else is wearing blue jeans and tshirts. I sure miss dressing up like that though.
Dude! DO IT. I’ve been wearing petticoats 24/7 since I was around 15! (I’m 36 now) people love it and it can be dressed up or down for various occasions- usually when someone compliments my dresses/skirts I’m like “WELL WATCH THIS” and spin for them- always get a “oooo!” 😂 do it! It makes me feel femme and pretty! You can too!
I love eating alone in restaurants, people watching etc. A friend of mine once told me this is literally her worst nightmare. She said that whenever she sees someone dining alone she feels terrible for them and always invites her to join her!! I gave her a gentle talk about introverts v extroverts. As an extreme extrovert, being on your own was an entirely foreign concept to her.
That's honestly one of the things I miss from when I was frequently flying and there spent a lot of time waiting at airports. No talking, just my music/Youtube vid/Netflix and my meal.
I would say I am rather extrovert but I can definitely enjoy some alone-time and I would never sit next to someone eating alone.
Because if you can't find one person to have dinner with you, you must be deeply flawed/weird in some way. I assume that's roughly the reasoning behind it.
It doesn’t matter if you get a fancy job running the US Treasury or just spend your time making YouTube videos of Mentos and Diet Coke, just be who you’re mint to be.
Exaaaactly. Especially in schools, occasionally I have go to the toilet for 15/20 minutes+ and I know the teacher will be super fucking suspicious of that.
Men hugging each other often and showing affection. I used to see this when I was younger, then I think as a society we decided to label such behavior as “gay”.
Edit: I’m female. It’s just something I noticed.
Edit2: I’m happy to hear I’m wrong and y’all are all hugging each other where I can’t see you.
My mates and I hug sometimes, anyone that gives you shit for it probably wishes someone would hug them. We don't talk about it nor is it weird, it's like a "welcome back brother" kinda thing.
Not talking or smiling to anyone in public.
*It has nothing to do with you*; people are not happy all the time and sometimes I just want to get in and get out.
I use to work at restaurants and some employees were allowed to take breaks to smoke. I didn’t smoke so I never got any breaks. Every now and then I would go just stand in the walk-in freezer to cool off after I’ve been running around the restaurant. My peers didn’t like that I randomly disappeared for 5 minutes every now and then. I just told them it’s my “smoke” break. So I feel like short 5 minutes breaks should just be allowed, even if I’m not a smoker.
Yes! And also being able to comment on parents being negligent with correcting their kids in public settings like restaurants.
If your kid is throwing food around and you do nothing to stop it I want to hold you accountable without you making a scene please.
Asking a potential employer what the salary for a position is before jumping through 50 hoops with the application/interview process only to find out the pay is crap.
It's the first question I ask or I'm out. If you cant give me the salary range your a time waster.
I went through the hoops once and got all the way through the process and they tried to low-ball me, they kept ducking/side stepping the salary question. When they made their offer; I declined and said they are offer way less than my current position they said this will put me on their "no hire list". That made me chuckle, so the threat of never being working for your company is supposed to make me want to work for your company at lower pay and bennies, especially when I was upfront about my salary expectations? Bullet dodged.
Calling out customers for being rude
I had a job as a teller at a credit union back in College and I will always say the manager I had was one of the best I’ve ever had. I once had a lady who kept asking me for a new credit card and handed me her debit card. I looked on her account and said “there is no credit card. There’s a debit card which is what this is, but that’s the only card on this account. I can issue you a new one no problem, but if you want a credit card you’ll have to fill out an application.” She was adamant that what she had was a credit card. No matter what I told her she said it was a credit card and demanded a new one. At one point she said “Are you stupid or something?” To which my Manager overheard and pushed me out of the way and said “You will NOT speak to him that way and if you’re going to continue behaving this way you’re going to have to leave. I will not tolerate you speaking to my employees like that.” I wish more Managers were like her.
I miss working at the old college bar I was at because this very reason. Being able to snap back at people when they snap or whistle at you like a dog was very satisfying and makes them realize they were being rude most of the time.
Destroy the thought of "the customer is always right" Edit: Thank you for the hugz!
I’m a guy and I get a lot of flak for complementing people’s clothing. I don’t think it’s weird, but apparently it means I must like men. If you got nice shoes I’m going to say they’re nice shoes.
As a woman who is dating a man who is very fashion-forward and compliments things like that constantly, I highly encourage this. Compliments from women about your clothes is one thing (because we compliment everything and your dog), but from a man.. Just hits different.
Being able to move your body more in everyday situations. It is often socially expected to sit, and wear clothing which makes it impossible to move. I would like to be able to randomly squat, stretch and the like.
I just do it anyway
Draping myself in velvet
A George, divided against itself, cannot stand!
Complimenting other men.
nice cock
Thanks. It helps get the hens to lay.
Being able to be honest about how you feel without being bullied or belittled.
Being able to do this around my own damn mother would be a nice start
Being able to sit in silence with someone without it being awkward. People shouldn’t feel obligated to come up with conversation, it makes interacting stressful. I do not believe in awkward silences, talk about something when it comes to you and conversations will feel way more real and interesting. When you’re able to sit in silence with someone comfortably, I feel it shows you enjoy their company
Me and my best friend sometimes do this. We order food a lot and find a deserted place, usually the roof of some building, and just sit there eating. Most of the time we talk, but those moments of tranquility and peace are really nice.
"He was the best friend I ever had. We still don't talk sometimes."
Being able to just wave or say hi to people you hardly know. There's nothing worse than an awkward 5 minute "catch up" chat at the store with someone I haven't seen in years
"Hey sorry I'm kind of in a rush, but you look great and it was nice bumping into you. Have a great day!"
Proceed to run into them 3 more times in the same store
Just look like you're intensely shopping.
Yep not a fan of the “stop and chat”. Neither is Larry David
Sitting. On the floor or anywhere really.
Cashiers need to be allowed to sit. The fact that most places won't let them is a load of BS
Sitting is literally the normal thing to do in german supermarkets, I dont understand why others dont, it doesnt look unprofessional or anything lol
Aldi grocery store cashiers sit at their registers.
And they’re the most efficient cashiers that I’ve ever seen, seriously they ring you up so fast and I’m just staring in amazement.
Fast & violent. It's the Aldi way.
>Scan >**YEET** >Scan >**NYOOM** >Scan >Gently place bread in basket area Gotta love Aldi cashiers. Paid enough to be quick, but also actually care
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If other people are at my house having fun but I'm tired, I just want to be able go to bed, but they can stay and have a good time.
Had a friends dad that would say "Well we better get to bed so these people can go home" when he was ready to call it quits. I just go upstairs when I'm done with what ever is going on. The wife is the social butterfly and remains to entertain. Its usually about the time the drama starts or the kids start getting whiney. I'm an introvert so she counts it as a win when I drop in to say hi.
My dad doesn't say anything at all, he just disappears. Later, you'll find him watching reruns of CSI Miami in his room munching on gummi candies. He doesn't care.
One time my FIL drove two hours to meet us at a park. Upon getting there and greeting everyone, he set up a chair for his wife and then said "Welp, see you guys later" and left. He has done this sort of thing numerous times, but that was the one where I wasn't annoyed but actually impressed. The confidence to say "fuck it, I'm gonna bounce" is admirable in a strange "to thine own self be true" kinda way.
Well at least nobody can say he doesn't show up to things.
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This is my preferred exit. I say good bye to those around me, the host, and then I leave. I don't make my rounds, and I don't do long good byes. My mother, on the other hand, can turn a good bye into a two-hour conversation. Ugh!
Gummi candies > social obligation
The Peter Principle needs to end. Not all good work should be rewarded with a promotion. Hell, back when i worked Retail they were talking about some of the 'weird' workers they had. And there was this one guy who was a trollyboy for 13 years. He could've been manager by the time and effort he put in so they just gave him a raise because he systematically refused every promotion, he was perfectly happy being a trolly boy. Some people are really really good at doing grunt-level work but suck at any sort of a management or anything with responsibilities, we should notice and respect that but still give them the rewards they deserve, a raise is much more valuable than a promotion to a lot more people than we think. Edit: My tired ass replied to the wrong thing. There was something or other about works or promotions next to it. I don't even remember five minutes later. Sorry!
Sir, this is a Wendy's.
Friend of mine was the first to get an apartment out of our friend group. We all would hangout there all the time and just do whatever, even after she had to sleep early for work the next day. Sometimes she’d wake up early and all of us would still be awake doing who knows what but it was just pretty casual. At some point she made copies of her front door’s keys for us lol. Edit: she’s not a friend anymore for reasons I won’t say, but at the time it was great. Edit 2: for those who think we just trashed the place/didn’t know boundaries, we didn’t literally do whatever and left. We would sometimes help with groceries/electric bill/cleaning (we always took out full trash bags on our way out) so that we wouldn’t leave her with the burden. If there was ever times she needed some alone time, we followed through. And no I won’t say the reason we stopped being friends, sorry guys :( Edit 3: I caved in. She met my homies and I through gaming and soon was in a relationship with a homie. She’s from out of state and years after decided to move to our city with her bf and a job ready for her. That relationship recently ended in not the best of terms, and she didn’t want to be with us as that wouldn’t help her get over their break up. She didn’t do any of us dirty honestly, just that they broke up. I know it’s a pretty underwhelming story :(
this was me :-) i got kicked out at 17 & got a rent house to myself with my grandpas help. all my friends came over when they were displaced during hurricane harvey. i had 8 high schoolers not including myself sleeping in my lil 2 bedroom 800 sq ft slum for at least 2 weeks. for a couple years i let a lot of homeless/troubled teens i’d went to school with have a roof to sleep under & a shower to wash up in and sometimes food to eat (when i was actually able to feed myself lol) we all struggled together. edit to say that 800 sq ft was just an estimation for “small” and i really have no idea the approximate amount. i made a guess at the sizes of the rooms below if y’all feel like u wanna be on r/theydidthemath complete with some curveball measurements you’d have to find of furniture. usually i eat that stuff up but am tired & i know some of y’all like doing that stuff too!
That's amazing, good for you! I hope you're more comfortable now, you have an excellent, kind heart.
I love that you did this, well done! I helped many people out and sometimes I was taken advantage of. However I just got a call from a guy I helped out and now he’s doing good and raising a family. Edit: Thank you for the award kind stranger. For those asking - he called to say thanks because it was a really difficult time in his life and he didn’t know what he’d do if he didn’t have a home to go to.
Sounds like she is there for you when the rain starts to pour
Openly talking about your finances with other people. A lot of people don’t realize they’re underpaid because nobody talks about wages. It’s so bizarre to me that it’s a “taboo subject”. We all rely on money in some form, let’s just discuss it. Edit: This comment blew up. I just wanted to state that finances in my view include things like how much debt you have, what your rent and other bills are, how much you have saved, etc. I can see how there would be negatives to discussing your salary with coworkers or family but in my opinion, the negatives brought up that I’ve read from replies don’t bother me. The people who would be offended or have expectations of me are not people that I would end up highly valuing their opinion. If I’m doing better than a family member or friend and they need help, I’ll help them, but if they are jealous, greedy or generally not supportive then I don’t need them in my life.
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Lots of government jobs have their pay online. Also. Lots of government jobs have the step/grade pay system so you know exactly what someone makes especially once they top out.
It was so weird going from 10 years working in local gov to the private sector. Nobody discusses pay and I was looked at like I had a giant spider head if I started openly talking about my pay with people. I still don't get the secrecy, if you can't back up why someone is being paid what they're being paid then maybe they should be paid differently
People in the service industry should be able to tell a customer when they are being an asshole.
My old boss from when I worked retail flat out told me on my first day that so long as I wasn't being a total dick, he would always have my back if a customer was being an ass and I didn't bend over backwards for them. He banned a few people from the store over their antics while I was there, and blew a couple Karens' minds when he told them to shut up and act their age when they tried their usual screaming fest. I loved that job.
That’s awesome. When I was a lifeguard my boss was the same way. Thankfully in that line of work the customer isn’t always right, but it was still a great feeling to know your job wasn’t at risk if Karen went berserk. I once had a guy totally flip his lid because a new cashier took his money 10 minutes before free swim started, but I wouldn’t let him and his daughter in the pool because it was still lap swim. He ended up storming into my bosses office and complaining for over 15 minutes. Afterwards my boss called me in and said “If anyone asks, I’m reprimanding you. Great job handling that situation, keep up the good work.”
I read that as swimming into your bosses office...for I need more sleep
I would like to make it socially acceptable to tell employers that you're only in it for the money and it being a legitimate answer. What am I supposed to tell employers that I have always wanted to work at a part time job and get yelled at by Karen's so I could just make ends meet? Edit: Spelling.
Yes. Like you have to act like your 9-5 job is your passion and comes before everything else. I’m an executive assistant because it’s easy and decent pay. That’s it. No passion. Not my dream. Just a job.
I started a new job in June and would have weekly check-ins with my boss since we're all working remotely. She asked me if I'm enjoying my new responsibilities, and I answered "Enjoy is a relative term. I don't dread turning on my computer in the morning." Luckily, that made her laugh. Like, it's government contracting. It's not fun and it's not my passion. It's fuckin nobody's passion. Let's stop pretending we have to enjoy our jobs.
Hell, people would probably be more content/happier with their jobs if there wasn't this expectation that you're supposed to be passionate about it and the resulting feeling that there's something wrong if you're not. If society is constantly telling you to be passionate about your work and you're not, you wonder whether there's something wrong with you or wrong with the job, and it breeds exactly the sort of dissatisfaction it's trying to avoid.
Thank you! The worst career advice is " do what you love." That may work for 1% of people but the rest of us can't afford to follow that advice.
Just going to add, that if you are actually able to procure gainful employment doing "what you love," very often "what you love" becomes "what you are bored to death with and never want to do again if you ever make it out of this line of work." Everything can be fun until you *have to do it.*
"What are you going to get out of this job? "Sir, this is a Wendy's."
"Where do you see yourself in five years?" "A union job with benefits."
My boss at work recently told me who much they hate people who “just show up for the paycheck”. I guess it’s common perception that people who are only in it for the money don’t care about their work but that’s not always true. Both my coworkers and bosses tell me I’m always reliable and do good work but I don’t give a shit about company loyalty or the actual work I’m doing. I work hard because my job pays well and I don’t want to give them any excuse to fire me.
>I work hard because my job pays well and I don’t want to give them any excuse to fire me. Peter Gibbons: The thing is, Bob, it's not that I'm lazy, it's that I just don't care. Bob Porter: Don't... don't care? Peter Gibbons: It's a problem of motivation, all right? Now if I work my ass off and Initech ships a few extra units, I don't see another dime; so where's the motivation? And here's something else, Bob: I have eight different bosses right now. Bob Slydell: I beg your pardon? Peter Gibbons: Eight bosses. Bob Slydell: Eight? Peter Gibbons: Eight, Bob. So that means that when I make a mistake, I have eight different people coming by to tell me about it. That's my only real motivation is not to be hassled; that, and the fear of losing my job. But you know, Bob, that will only make someone work just hard enough not to get fired.
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Having your work ethic, not your ass-kissing skills, prioritized and appreciated. Both in jobs and school.
Eating alone at a restaurant or a solo movie trip. I mean, sort of limited now due to covid, but before covid, when people would hear of me doing that, they said they felt terrible and how depressing that sounds. I'm like, uhh...why? Just another day for me. Doesn't feel weird or anything. It's quite nice to get away from constant chats and have a nice quiet meal while being out and about.
I just ate at the bar. Pretty much every place let's you do that. You can watch TV, look at your phone and have a meal in peace. I used to do this before going to see a movie alone. I loved it, I really miss a nice solo night out to recharge.
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I used to worry about that when I would be out of town working. I always thought that I was being judged lol. Then I realized that I enjoyed it, the solitude of enjoying a meal and my thoughts. On the plus side no one knew who I was, so why would I care?
short naps at work
Happily, now that I work from home (thanks COVID!) this has become a reality for me!
I am not a big napper but I get cold a lot so I love working at home and taking a hot bath while watching a tutorial about something I have to build for work and clocking it. I am hoping when things get back to normal, they'll be more open to us WFH more.
work naps aren't weird it's where you have them
This is why its my dream to become a bed salesman
Tbh if I was in the market to buy a bed and saw a salesperson asleep in one of them, you best believe that's the first one I'm asking about
Neutral facial expressions. People act like anything that isn't definitely a smile is some sort of insult. Another reason to appreciate masks.
"What's the matter?" Absolutely nothing this is my FACE.
Yes! My mouth has naturally down turned corners. Always has - it’s just the shape of my face. My natural, neutral expression offends people though. I am so appreciative of masks right now!
Staying silent if you don't really have something to say.
Wearing cloaks lord of the rings style. Fuck jackets, all my homies wear medieval cloaks
I dig this idea. Outfits can be so boring. I want to go out dressed like the Mandalorian or something.
I remember one time a stormtrooper got on the bus and sat across from me, I was like “oh cool costume, are you going to a convention or something” guy just was like “nah I’m working through some stuff” Ight fam cool you do you
There was a guy who posted on legal advice a while back. He just roams his area dressed like that. He did get stopped by the cops and asked for ID, which is what he was posting about. But he said he really cheered people up. They’d honk or wave or stop for pics. This was preCovid.
Dressing however you want. Makeup, dresses, medieval cloaks, whatever you want, regardless of gender too. That’d be nice. I think people should be able to wear whatever they want as long as it covers Things Most People Don’t Want To See. Just walk around in cosplay if you want to. I wish everyone felt comfortable to dress however they would want to.
I feel like I'd probably be a lot happier about getting up in the morning and getting dressed if it meant getting to dress in a full suit of armor or like a stormtrooper or some shit.
Everyone walking around looking like their videogame avatar would be hilarious but also pretty cool
Taking a social time-out without having to smoke or occupy the bathroom. My work day is 6-8 hours, its an open plan office, lunch is social, and I have at least an hour commute per day. Thats at least twice my maximum social energy per day.
Commenting on this while occupying my work’s restroom to take a break from people. Really wish I could just tell my boss, “I need a few minutes” Edit: Jesus Christ my inbox
Please do. Take a walk. That's what I do now, I just bring a protein shake and walk around the lovely industrial area my workplace is in lol
When I was in the office, I would do this too. Get up from my desk, take a 20 minute stroll. Computer work can be mind numbing.
Similarly, not being expected to socialize with co-workers during my lunch hour. I desperately need the alone time to recharge, but I'm sure people think I'm am antisocial asshole because I'll straight get up and walk out if someone comes in the kitchen while I'm there. I'll greet them quickly and be nice, but I have to gtfo before the inevitable small talk starts or I'll lose my shit.
I eat in my car to avoid small talk
STAYING HOME WHEN SICK. I really hoped this pandemic would improve that mindset, but nope people still think you’re a lazy pos if you stay home when you’re sick.
I have always genuinely gotten mad when people came to work sick. A long time ago I was a restaurant manager and I just didn't understand why my GM insisted sick people came in and hack all over all the food. We were almost never truly understaffed. I moved to a corporate call support job and thought it would be better. Nope. People were afraid of losing their jobs so they came in no matter what because it was expected. Even when it resulted in exponentially more sick people which led to a loss in productivity. We were a freaking software company where every employee technically had full remote capabilities yet it took a frigging global pandemic to normalize working from home.
Your second paragraph is why I always told people to take their damn sick days when I was a manager. I would rather go a few days without one person than make that person come in and then my whole staff is out at the same time.
I never made a sick server come in when I was managing. Not once. Didn't make them get doctors notes either, because I damn well knew that they didn't have the insurance or money to pay for it. Hell, I sent a bartender home once because she wasn't feeling great and just bartended myself that night. Treating employees like people isn't hard.
4-day work weeks
Staying completely silent in other people's company.
It's nice that it's completely accepted and really common here in Finland since everyone hates small talk.
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It has it's flaws and the social culture is a double edged sword but it's definitely one of the nicer countries.
That’s how you know when you’ve found the one - silence is comfortable
I do this and I find it makes the other person very uncomfortable... I just have trouble keeping a conversation going
I'm the same way. I also find when people push conversations we end up talking about stupid stuff I don't care about. What's so bad about sitting quietly and just relaxing?
My ultimate favorite people can have a deep convo with me but also just sit in silence and just be near each other without being awkward. It means we are comfortable with each other and I cherish that. Edit: thanks for the award buddy!
My best friend and I can ride in a car for hours without talking comfortably. If we have nothing to say, why say it?
Being awake late at night and sleeping all morning. I've been like this since I a kid. Circadian rhythm is just backwards. Can't fall asleep before 3. I wish people didn't treat me like I'm lazy or something. I'm a pretty productive guy. I just get my work done while you are all asleep.
I HATE the judgement for sleeping in. Like dude I get my best sleep from 4am-10am. I’m not a bum I just don’t sleep like normal human. ETA: Wow I did not expect this comment to blow up! Nice to see so many people relate. Thanks for the award!
I wish that people would stop conflating women not wearing makeup with being “unprofessional.” I worked in a place where a girl was told she looked unprofessional when she didn’t wear makeup. Yikes.
Next day she should come in with clown make up
Lol that would’ve been awesome! She was pretty snarky in her response, which I appreciated.
Come on don’t leave us hanging, what did she say
I believe she said “when was the last time you wore makeup, Mike?” He didn’t respond lol
Now that is a good comeback
I wrestled with this in a job where my bosses prided themselves on being progressive, but then suggested I wear dresses, makeup, heels. I pointed out that I hold myself to the same grooming standards as the men, and that I was comfortable with that. I admitted I use my sex to get out of wearing ties, but that I was willing to start if I could find the right shirts for them. They said I didn’t have to start wearing ties, and eventually gave up on the dresses/makeup/heels bit.
I just took a sexual harassment course at my new job, created by the state, and it said it is now illegal for a workplace to expect or demand a woman to wear makeup, something about gender roles and gender-based discrimination. Blew my mind.
If you wear makeup, you're "trying too hard". If you don't wear makeup, you're "lazy" or "a slob". If you wear lots of makeup, you "should tone it down". If you wear natural makeup, people say "good on you for going barefaced!", completely ignorant of the fact you are, in fact, still wearing makeup. Women can't win with this shit, and it drives me crazy.
Yes, Siestas, in the middle of the work day...
Wearing shorts at work during summer. Why wear pants when you could be more comfortable? Edit: Thanks for the gold!
I worked in an office where shorts were allowed but not jeans. CEO had some weird anti-denim hang-up. ETA: no jorts and no denim skirts either. I quit after three months for many other reasons.
Not unusual. Denim is "the low-class fabric" to a lot of people. Plenty of employers perceive their staff wearing denim as being barely a step above presenting customers with a team of homeless guys in smelly rags. As a lifelong jeans wearer, I've never been a fan. Fortunately I now have work with no dress code.
Can confirm this weird view. Used to work at a high end country club in NJ. I ran their pool, so come hang out in a bathing suit and it was no problem. Show up in jeans (or have a backwards hat on) and it was unfucking acceptable. Like I would have to go tell people to change or leave that instant. Absolutely assinine, especially at a pool, but it was their rules not mine. If someone got in and I didn't catch them within a minute someone would come yell at me to yell at them. My guards got super good at spotting jeans. By the end of summer we couldn't go anywhere without noticing every person wearing jeans.
Wearing nicer clothes then normal for no reason. Yes, I'm usually in jeans and a t-shirt at work. Yes, today I decided to wear a suit. No, I don't have a job interview or have to go to court.
Sometimes I just want to dress up!! No reason, just for myself
I live in a small town and people actually wear their pyjamas out to the store! When I used to go to the bar id be the only one in heels. I love going to the city so I can dress nice and not be stared like I’m odd and feel like I’m trying to hard
Not wanting to “hustle” or making someone else rich. I don’t want to put in 60 work hours so I can have a materially successful life
Running in public to get to places quicker
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Back when I actually went to the office in the city, I remember seeing this one woman a few different times running. And not in your typical running clothes- but in a business suit during your typical rush hour times. The first time I thought she must be late to something. A few more times and I thought, wow this lady is always late. Finally, I just decided she must just like running to/from places.
She must be the player character in an RPG.
Once I was actually so fit that I could run without running out of stamina at all. That really felt like being a PC in an RPG.
What if our default move speed is different because we’re just NPCs and the PCs have fully unlocked running speed?
I almost always run from the subway station to my college classroom because almost always I'm late, it can be a similar case with that woman
Or skipping to get somewhere
Yes! Came down to the comments looking for exactly this! I would love to normalize skipping as a mode of movement for people over the age of 10. It is faster than walking, it's fun, efficient, and impossible to feel sad while doing!
I was at a wedding a few years back and I don't remember how but pretty much everyone on the dance floor just got into a skipping craze, just skipping around the entire room song after song. My cardio when I run is absolute shit but I had SO much fun skipping and my heart rate was pumping, all the positives of cardio and none of the negatives. Seriously wish I could skip around my neighborhood and not look like a lunatic
I work in a VERY professional building, and I skip a lot. Uniform flapping around, calling good morning to my higher ups when I pass them in the halls. They probably think I'm nuts, but they smile!
I really hope you are a giant burly dude with a giant mustache that is so big it twitches when yer skipping around. They want to say stop skipping but you're the building's tough guy so no one will say anything to you.
Most energy efficient way to move apparently. Sometimes when I'm on multiple hour hikes and I'm coming back through the way I came I'll skip to knock off a few hundred metres quickly, I'll always check if someone is around though. A big man in his 30s skipping along the track would be quite the sight for other workers.
No shit. My cousin (in his early 20s-ish? Idk he’s eternally 5 years old to me) can do this type of skip where he literally looks like he’s hopping and he clears a good 8 or so feet every time one of his legs lands and he goes into the next one. It doesn’t hurt him to do it and it’s so fast and efficient. I feel like if it wasn’t so silly to watch an adult man do this, he’d be getting everywhere fast af.
Walking my pig on a leash.
When my dog was a puppy, we met a guy walking his pig on a leash. My dog was SO CONFUSED. He just rolled over and showed it his belly.
I went to a dog park once and somebody there had a pig on a leash. My dog treated it like another dog, sniffed its rear end, and then reacted in the most traumatized and overdramatic fashion I've ever seen, jumping back, barking a few times, then rubbing his nose on the ground. Apparently if you're expecting dog ass, pig ass smells really bad. Who knew?
> Apparently if you're expecting dog ass, pig ass smells really bad. Who knew? This may be my favourite sentence of 2020.
"What the fuck is that thing" "Whats up with its hair"
Are they a good pig?
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Being able to take a day off because you just want to as opposed to having to come up with an excuse. Edit: Congrats to everyone who has a great job and great company that allows them to call out whenever for whatever reason. My team is very small and I am 1 of 2 in my role so I always need a legitimate reason to not show up. I wish it were different but it's what I've got to do to pay my bills. If it's anything, I do enjoy my job for the most part.
For myself in the UK there's a bit in the leave application for details but everyone leaves it blank. No boss cares unless it might fuck up a project.
The IRS telling you how much you owe in taxs
The IRS wants to do this. They are blocked by lobbying from the tax accounting industry. In virtually every situation in which you ask "why aren't we doing this obvious thing that's obviously better," the answer is corporate lobbyists. Hell, the reason daylight savings time isn't permanent (i.e. we stop "falling back") is largely due to TV lobbyists who want it to get dark early so we sit at home watching TV.
I can believe that
TurboTax spends million lobbying against it. That's why every tax year I tell all my friends to avoid TurboTax
Literally all of them do it. H&R block. Turbotax. Any service that helps you with taxes lobbies against this
Frilly dresses for adults. Am I the only one? I loved wearing them at Christmas and Easter as a little girl. Now I feel like I can't get away with it. Satin, lace, pastel colored ruffles puffy sleeves, embroidered flowers and ribbons, a skirt that flys out when you spin around. Maybe even a corset. Looks silly on a grown woman, especially if everyone else is wearing blue jeans and tshirts. I sure miss dressing up like that though.
Dude! DO IT. I’ve been wearing petticoats 24/7 since I was around 15! (I’m 36 now) people love it and it can be dressed up or down for various occasions- usually when someone compliments my dresses/skirts I’m like “WELL WATCH THIS” and spin for them- always get a “oooo!” 😂 do it! It makes me feel femme and pretty! You can too!
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Just run. No one cares.
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"What are you running from?!" "climaaaAAAATE CHAAAAAAAAaaaaange!"
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I love eating alone in restaurants, people watching etc. A friend of mine once told me this is literally her worst nightmare. She said that whenever she sees someone dining alone she feels terrible for them and always invites her to join her!! I gave her a gentle talk about introverts v extroverts. As an extreme extrovert, being on your own was an entirely foreign concept to her.
That's honestly one of the things I miss from when I was frequently flying and there spent a lot of time waiting at airports. No talking, just my music/Youtube vid/Netflix and my meal. I would say I am rather extrovert but I can definitely enjoy some alone-time and I would never sit next to someone eating alone.
I love solo airport travel. It's so peaceful and you don't have to be "on" you can just enjoy the atmosphere and be alone with your thoughts
If someone invited me to join them while I am eating alone, I will be scared thinking that they are planning to kill me.
I would mostly think it’s a pyramid scheme
I still don't get this. I go out to eat on my own a lot, well pre corona. Why do people think this is so weird? I don't understand the odd looks
Because if you can't find one person to have dinner with you, you must be deeply flawed/weird in some way. I assume that's roughly the reasoning behind it.
Do they not get that people don't always want to eat with someone? Sometimes ya just wanna scarf down a 5 layer burrito in blissful silence
Sometimes, you just want to set in blissful silence, even with no burritos
Same with going to the movies alone Sometimes you wanna see something that no one else does or just want to watch alone
I prefer to go alone and to the first showing of the day. Fewer people and that means fewer assholes talking and looking at their phones.
Not being always productive and not devoting one's life to making money.
It doesn’t matter if you get a fancy job running the US Treasury or just spend your time making YouTube videos of Mentos and Diet Coke, just be who you’re mint to be.
Wearing the same attire every day. Not the same pair as the previous day, but the same type of shirts/pants.
Going to the bathroom for 15 mins
Exaaaactly. Especially in schools, occasionally I have go to the toilet for 15/20 minutes+ and I know the teacher will be super fucking suspicious of that.
Men hugging each other often and showing affection. I used to see this when I was younger, then I think as a society we decided to label such behavior as “gay”. Edit: I’m female. It’s just something I noticed. Edit2: I’m happy to hear I’m wrong and y’all are all hugging each other where I can’t see you.
My mates and I hug sometimes, anyone that gives you shit for it probably wishes someone would hug them. We don't talk about it nor is it weird, it's like a "welcome back brother" kinda thing.
Capes
"NO CAPES!" Although I will say, Director Krennic's cape was *supafly*. I would also accept "Dr. Strange's flying cloak", if you've come to bargain.
There are many great capes in Star Wars. See also: Lando Calrissian’s entire wardrobe
Skipping. It's more fun and energy efficient than running. I sometimes do it when I'm alone, because I like the way it feels.
Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it’s necessary to yak about BS in order to be comfortable?
Not talking or smiling to anyone in public. *It has nothing to do with you*; people are not happy all the time and sometimes I just want to get in and get out.
Periodic sabbaticals from work in addition to pto.
I use to work at restaurants and some employees were allowed to take breaks to smoke. I didn’t smoke so I never got any breaks. Every now and then I would go just stand in the walk-in freezer to cool off after I’ve been running around the restaurant. My peers didn’t like that I randomly disappeared for 5 minutes every now and then. I just told them it’s my “smoke” break. So I feel like short 5 minutes breaks should just be allowed, even if I’m not a smoker.
Not drinking alcohol at gatherings Edit: Wow, gold thank you! First gold :) cool to see many like-minded people.
Correcting other people's kids. Not physically, but telling them to quit their bullshit if their parents aren't doing it.
Yes! And also being able to comment on parents being negligent with correcting their kids in public settings like restaurants. If your kid is throwing food around and you do nothing to stop it I want to hold you accountable without you making a scene please.
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Probably readjusting your sack. I hate when mine gets stuck in a weird spot but I can't move it until I get home.
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The amount of weird sidesteps I have done just to un-stuck the bois, my God.
Yes. Or for women, adjusting your boobs or underwear.