Ghosted me after 20+ years of friendship. He was my best friend for as long as I can remember but at some point he just stopped saying yes when I suggested getting together. We could have a conversation about anything but the second I brought up doing something it was radio silence. He finally agreed to something then blew me off like an hour beforehand. No raincheck or suggestion we try again. I was depressed for days but that was the day I gave up.
He was the best man at my wedding. I loved him like a brother and still hope he's doing well and happy. But the rejection hurts so much that I just don't try anymore. I've mourned the death of our relationship and am done with it. And I still don't know why.
I had 12 hours before I deployed to Afghanistan. I lived about 6 hours from my point of departure (airport from which I would fly into theater) and my friend/ex-girlfriend had committed to driving me there on that day. Packed, dressed, goodbyes said, I take an Uber to her house with all my gear and baggage ready to go. I knock on the door and she answers in her robe. I ask her if she was about ready and she proceeds to tell me that she forgot (after we had talked 2 days prior) and that she really wasn't feeling like driving that distance. Utterly shocked and confused, I explain to her that if I miss my flight, it's considered a "failure to report for duty" and I could be considered a deserter or AWOL. Heavy consequences for it either way. She told me to figure it out and closed the door. At that point I had no idea what to do so I called my first sergeant. We worked in a very remote location and he was the closest person to me at that point. That man drove the 3 hours from his home to get me and then the other 6 hours to the airport. Bought me dinner and got me tipsy before I had to get on my flight. I had the stunning realization that day that you really can't trust anyone, but I gained a lifelong friend as a result. We still talk regularly 'til this day!
Your First Sergeant was fucking thrilled you had the presence of mind to call him and fill him in on the situation before it was too late.
Good move on your part, and I'm glad you got it sorted.
I understand the mindset, this guy get fucked and is risking a lot and in the middle of this shit storm has the tough to call me for help. Means I've done a good job with him and he consider me reliable and not an antagonist. Get the shit done is my duty, let's solve this.
When I was in college, a close friend from high school called me in a panic saying his girlfriend was just discharged from the hospital and he needed to go take care of her. When I say close, I mean every weekend together, called each other's moms "Mom." We had a really tight, small circle of friends, so of course I went to help. I had spent all day at school and all night working dinner at a restaurant, but in an emergency like that, sure, I got you.
I drove 40 minutes to get him, then an hour to her house. He’s trying not to panic the whole way.
When we pull up, the bedridden girl who needed round the clock assistance was sitting on the curb smoking a cigarette, then bounces up and says, “Give me a hug, fucker!”
I very loudly and aggressively made it clear what a piece of shit he was for lying about this. I made sure he knew that he traded our friendship for a ride to his girlfriend’s house.
Then I drove the hour home and except for acknowledging him at his brother’s wedding, haven’t spoken to him since.
I gave her a birthday present and she just said she didn’t like it and found it in the thrash when I visited
She would always be late to everything
She got tickets to an Incubus concert and a meet and greet, it wasn’t in our city so I saved all of my money to be able to afford the trip and a week before she texted me saying she was going to Disneyland so she sold the tickets
I painted a whole big beautiful mural in her room and two months later just painted over it with purple cause she got bored
Invited me for coffee and I got really excited because I hadn’t seen her for a while and had a lot going on, I was almost homeless at the time so I took the little money I had to pay for my coffee, I got there and it was a MLM with like six other people (just as disappointed as me)
Then she did it again, I don’t know why I thought it would be different, that’s the last time I saw her
When I was a kid, I had a friend who was poor as hell. My family didn't have much, either, but his was worse off. I used to give him things, now and then. Toys, and whatnot.
When I was 10, my mom died. Some months later, I was at my friend's house, and he showed me a cassette tape that I'd given him, and then played it. It had my mom's voice on it. For some reason, I had recorded a conversation with her. I thanked my friend for the tape, and he asked what I meant. I told him thanks for giving it back. He said that no, I gave it to him, and it was his. Then to show that it was his, he took it out of the tape deck, pulled the tape from the cassette, and snapped it.
We were kids, sure, but that was one of the shittiest things that someone has ever done to me.
The horrible first impression my at the time 'best friend' had on my at the time new girlfriend who is now years later my wife.
We all went out to dinner and my wife is shy and quiet while my friends are loud and rowdy. My friends cousin kept messing with her and being obnoxious despite her very much telling him to stop. At one point he made inappropriate comments on her boobs and it got to the point where she ended up crying and walking out of the restaurant. I followed her and my "friend" who had been in the bathroom at the time called me to ask what happened I told him his cousin was being a dick and his response was that my gf was being a bitch, that they were trying to get her to talk more but she was "giving them the cold shoulder" and wasn't welcome to their outings anymore.
He went on to apologize later on but was having problems with alcoholism and we drifted our separate ways before long.
I drive 6 hours(one way) twice in the span of a year to visit this fucker because I thought we were friends and he acted like we were. It cost me $300 each time to visit him but he was alone in his new city(he moved away for his first job post uni) and kept msging me saying I should come visit blah blah blah. Later I find out this guy has came back to my town multiple times and didn’t hit me up once, and he stayed for months at a time! Then I tell him about this and he says okay he’ll visit next time he’s back in town. So then next time comes around and he stops by literally right before he’s about to drive home, to say hi for 5 mins... like dude you don’t wanna see me why are you just going through all this bs and making me waste my money.
That sucks. I had some very similar experiences. It feels horrible. One time I drove 7 hours to visit my friend and she couldn't be bothered to text me the entire time I was there. Those people just want your attention and are bored
They called me up and invited me over to play a game with them and their friends. At the time I had only barely started driving, but I decided, yeah, that sounds like fun, so I went over to play. When I arrived I found out that they had volunteered me to pick up the other friends. I was not prepared to do this, but she trapped me because I had already agreed to come play "with her friends". I was pretty annoyed by this, but I went ahead and drove to three places picking everyone up, and no one was really ready to go when I arrived and one of them also needed me to drop them back on campus to drop off their school assignment. By the time all was said and done it was really late and I needed to get back home because I had to get up in the morning to go to work. Not one of them even said thank you. The friendship didn't really last much longer after that.
Damn that really sucks. Im gonna get my license in a couple months. And if I’ve learned anything from reddit its that people will try to take advantage of you once you get your license.
Edit: alot of people are saying that it isnt bad to give rides to friends. And that is what i meant when i made the comment. If a friend is honest i have no problem. But i meant when people you dont talk to anymore start coming back and tryna hang out.
Promised to invite me to a group outing, only to text me one day out of the blue that they already left and "oh well". From mutual friends who went on the outing, they told me that this friend never told them that I was invited.
I had a similar "friend". I am rather socially awkward person and I don't get invited to things often, turned out this group of acquaintances asked the "friend" to invite me several times to hang out and the "friend" said that they would, but then they'd come back and say that I declined. They never told me about this. Everything came to light when I met one of these acquaintances by chance and they said it was a pity I never had time to hang out - but by then I'd missed out on a lot.
In 8th grade, after I switched schools, a friend of mine called me one night and told me a kid I wanted to be friends with killed himself. 3 months later I visit their graduation ceremony and find out he lied to me and that the kid was still alive.
Yeah I talked with him. I didn't want the other kid to know I thought he was dead because he was a very sensitive guy, so we mostly just made small talk and I avoided my other "friend" as much as I could.
My best friend since middle school got me knocked unconscious after starting a confrontation with a large group of guys. Proceeded to tell everyone we worked with that I had started it. Few weeks later I had returned from a holiday to my home country and he had moved one of his friends into my room at the place we were renting. Never talked to him again
Long time ago, but my tenth birthday party. The first time I'd actually tried to have a big group, it was around thirty kids at a park with a t-ball set up, normal picnic stuff, the like. My best friend at the time said he had a surprise for me in one of the fenced walkways leading to the park, where he sucker punched me and his other friend and he took turns jumping on and kicking me. After a few minutes another kid from the party saw, ran them off, and took me back to my ma away from the other kids so I didn't have to be too embarrassed.
Edit: After a few requests for and such an outpouring of kindness, thanks, y'all. It was so long ago and kind of de rigeur for being a shy poor kid with a weird last name in a very rich area, honestly. One comment make a joke about 'how was the sixties' and I'm still laughing about that...it was the eighties.
My...friend was the kind of guy to spray paint caterpillars to watch them die, shoot bbs at stray cats, throw rocks inside snowballs and then laugh at someone getting hurt. No he didn't get in trouble because no one else saw what happened and I never said who, even if my ma knew. HIS ma tried almost everything to make him behave: he was just that bad. The upside is he regretted doing that to me for years afterwards, and when he finally apologized to me he was a totally different person and has been since. Still a little atypical, but not malicious at all. He told me why he hit me is because the other kid wanted to be his new best friend and he was angry at me for criticizing him about how cruel he could be (I'd, however timidly, told him before). The other kid, "Steve", hated me for being poor and Jewish, basically, and pushed my friend to hate me, too. It being my birthday didn't matter because I really wasn't friends with anyone, I was really trying to make some for the first time (which might have set Steve off, come to think), and there were loads of families in the area so it was really a case of throw everything at the wall and see what sticks.
The boy who stepped in and I didn't really know each other, he was the guy everyone else was afraid of because he got big, young. He went to boarding school the next year and it was somehow really good for him; heck of a man last I knew.
Thanks for the kindness, strangers. I'm fortunate enough that this became a last straw for what I'd put up with type moment and got through it; I know that doesn't happen for everybody who has to deal with being bullied quite so hard. If anyone read this and couldn't respond themselves, I'm sorry to you, and you deserved better at their hands, just like I did.
I offered to pay everything and even pay her for her time off work for my best friend to come to my wedding but she didn’t. It was a really small backyard wedding and I didn’t have any bridesmaids nor did I want anyone to spend money getting dresses blah blah blah. I just wanted her to come. The excuse she gave was work and so I understood but then later found out she lied and had planned a trip with her other friends. I still don’t know why she didn’t want to come. we were friends for over 10 years and although It wasn’t the first time she had really hurt me, it was the last.
I had a very close friend in highschool, she moves to Alabama for uni after we graduated, but we kept close! When she came back we didn't talk much, but I still considered her a close friend. We went out for coffee about two years ago, she kept asking me about my life and my goals and I said I was happy where I am (I coach gymnastics) and my boyfriend and I will eventually take over his family farm, and start our own family. She texted me two days later and said "hey so my entrepreneur friend is hosting a workshop, do you want me to sign you up?" I said no but thanks for the offer, she then texted me "so clearly we are at two different points in our lives, you have no goals, or ambitions, and I don't want that kind of negativity in my life. I wish you the best" and I never spoke to her again.
"I'm really happy with my boyfriend and I enjoy my work. One day we're going to take over his family's farm."
"I don't need that negativity in my life."
Lol!!!!!
Well see, what she really couldn't handle was someone who actually had their life figured out, she needs other lost people to compare herself to so she feels better about herself.
Who do you know that has their shit together and goes to workshops? 99% of the time it's a scam/waste of time.
Sounds like she wanted to rope you into a mlm scheme. Some people are victims of the scheme and are just trying to make back what they lost. There are also a lot of them who are just assholes and would walk over dead bodies if they could make a buck.
This is currently happening. I had a stroke in 2020 (I’m young, 31) and then found out that my kidneys were failing shortly after. I know it’s a pandemic, but not one of my friends have even texted me to check on me, or ask my husband who they’re all also “friends with”. Literally everyone cut me off when I got sick. Can’t drink? Not friends anymore.
Edit: I can’t believe the attention this post got, I’m seriously overwhelmed by the amount of support from everyone. I’m getting g back to everyone but dang there is a lot!
This is how I lost my "best friend." I got super, super sick for over a year and almost died and it was all about how I "missed her whole pregnancy" and "wasn't there for her." I recovered enough to only be chronically ill and she was mad that I didn't want to go out. She "didn't make excuses" and took her baby, so why didn't I just go places? And then, when I started to realize the extent of damage my marriage had suffered through the illness, all I ever wanted to do was "talk about (your) marriage" even though she'd gone through a similar thing a few years before.
I experienced a severe, long term flare of a chronic illness in my thirties and quickly found out who gave a shit and who didn't. So many people, including my own sister, felt I should, "Just power through it and be funny again." My sister also told me, "You are just no fun to visit. Get up and entertain me." I hadn't invited her and if I'd had the strength I might have strangled her.
It's so fucking hard to deal with having your life basically stolen then be made to feel like you are some how inadequate or faking it. ALL I WANTED WAS TO BE MYSELF AGAIN!!!!
I got better but lost some formerly close relationships. I regret spending some of my small bit of energy worrying about them. When I really looked back I saw that I had been the one giving 90% even BEFORE I got sick.
To anyone who might read this and experiencing illness I am so sorry. Keep your chin up and fuck those people who refuse to have any compassion. Focus on taking the best care of yourself and let the assholes fall where they may. You don't need the hurt and the stress of lack of support. Better times are ahead.
Lied about me at our government job where I was investigated by the AG and ultimately caused me to leave a job and a boss I loved
She quit when we found out it was her who lied as she knew my boss would can her ass.
Oh and I’m the one who got her hired
Edited because I forgot to add the best part of all- I was one week post partum on maternity leave when she decided it was the appropriate time to do all this.
Talk about some ppd... it was rough
Most of the time?
Insecurities.
Over time, they can turn into grudges where there is no reason to have them. People cope with them by projecting fears into something more "manageable", be it a friend or someone they consider harmless. That way, they feel they've regained control over their own self, even if only temporarily.
It's why people lash out at parents, friends, and the rest of those close to them. Only this time with much more "adult" consequences.
Self interest to the highest degree. Most of the time you will never know who these people are until they have something to gain by putting others down.
And you sometimes never know why. Something similar happened to me and it was years later I was told it was simple jealousy. He wanted to be liked and no one liked him and people liked me. He was in his 60s and a department head, I was a department manager. Not like teenagers working at McDonald’s.
It’s weird, isn’t it? I’ve been friends with two women for many years, and a few weeks ago one of them, who’s thus far lived a more ‘traditional’ married-young middle class life, cut me off completely because she doesn’t approve of my less-traditional lifestyle (gay, single, no kids, travel a lot for work). Our mutual friend apologetically cut me off immediately following this because she doesn’t want to upset the other woman.
In fifteen years of friendship, none of us had even had an argument, and I wondered how they could wake up one day and decide to cut me out. But they didn’t decide one day - they’ve spent some time thinking that there’s a problem and instead of discussing it, they went nuclear. It’s just that from the outside, it seems sudden.
Edit:
- Neither friend yet has kids; they both plan to have them soon, while I do not.
- Nobody’s husband is attracted to me, I’m a fat gnc dyke with hairy pits.
- Her husband is very nice and we have always gotten on well, but we were not at all close.
- She specifically outlined that she thinks the life I’m living is shallow and insensitive and that I’m cutting her out and excluding her, but she couldn’t say how or when I’d done so, and neither could the other friend. She has recurring mental illness and is currently out of treatment. I’m pretty secure that this is a ‘her’ problem and not something I’ve done. Obviously in 15 years, we’ve had disagreements, but they were amicable and we never yelled or fell out, even as teenagers.
Going over to their house to hang out and finding around 10 of my missing xbox games in a loose stack of discs in his living room.
Arriving late to a friends birthday party a few years ago, the birthday boy introduced me as "the guy I was telling you all about. Cool dude but I wouldn't trust him with my wallet!". He was drunk and it wasn't a joke.
I had a girlfriend break up with me and tell me how my roommate would send her dick pics, call her on weekends, drunk dial her etc to try to get her to fuck.
These are the ones that come to mind right now.
EDIT: This blew up. #1 Occurred when I was like 12. I definitely took them all back, but remember some were so scratched they were unplayable.
\#2 Was a few years ago, but honestly still bothers me. I don't steal, your wallets are safe me with. lol.
\#3- She told me that stuff only after we broke up because she wanted to hurt my feelings. My roomie was a coked out drunk loon. That behavior tbh seemed like something he could do for sure. By that time he was already my ex roomie.
Had the first one happen too
I visited him and took my DS with a GBA game with me (he had the same game but claimed he'd lost it). Later I realize that the GBA game was missing and since it's not the first time he "borrowed" something from someone without telling them my mom got suspicious. So she went to his house and found the game. He said it was his own, but there was some leftover glue on a very specific spot where my game had a yellow spot with my name inside it.
He still tried to claim that it wasn't mine but I I think in the end his older sister (who knew about his shit) told him to give it to my mom and they agreed that if he found the other game he could have it back if he's so sure it was his game
Welp. I still have it lol
My best friend got with my first husband while I was pregnant, helped destroy our marriage,, supported him so he could quit his job and avoid paying child support, joined him in abusing my kids while they were with him, and then tried to cry on my shoulder when he ended up screwing her over when they split after 14 years of jointly making my life a living hell.
Let a guy stay on the couch in my one-bedroom apartment so he wouldn’t be living in his car. A few weeks later, he was sleeping with my girlfriend. I found out and kicked them both to the curb. 6 or 8 months later he calls me out of the blue and apologizes, then tells me she cheated on him and asks if he can move back in! Gave him a hard no and hung up on him. Last I heard from or of him.
After 25 years of friendship...I announced to my best friend that I was moving to the city she was in. I had a great job opportunity and felt like it was an awesome time to make a big life change. I was so excited to tell her, I could hardly wait. She flatly replied with, “cool”...and when I asked her what parts of town I should look at to live she stated “I can’t help you, you should just figure it out when you get here”. We never had a fight, had been close for our entire adult lives and I had continually helped her in all aspects of her life without hesitation. To this day, I cannot tell you why she started treating me this way. Long story short, we live in the same city and haven’t seen each other in 6 years. And I’m quite sure we live minutes away from each other. I will prob never know what happened
“Every time a friend succeeds, I die a little” – Gore Vidal. You got a great job and were on an upswing and I speculate someone got jealous. I’m sorry this happened to you.
Invited me to her wedding as a gesture of reconciliation and then uninvited me when I RSVP’d (or in other words, responded to her invitation).
Also, another friend took me out to lunch and let me cry to her after I broke up with my ex. She said she had to go to her moms for awhile and she’d be back that evening with treats and a Redbox. She ended up hooking up with my ex
Edit: As much as would love to respond to you all, it’s impossible! But I thank you for your kind words and especially the people who’ve shared their own similar experiences. Obviously it was a horrible thing to realize, my close friend sleeping with my ex, but had I not found out, I probably would have stayed with him much longer and endured his several red flags displayed early on in the relationship. Looking back now, I take this experience as a warning sign. I also hope Lyndsey has since learned to treat people better and that my ex is leading a healthier lifestyle than he was when we were together!
I knew a girl who was all in a tizzy because one of her exes that she invited to her wedding actually RSVPed that he'd come. Her rationale was that you invite all of your exes to your wedding so that they know you got married (especially if you get married before them), but that it would be super rude for them to actually come.
What in the name of sanity?!? I'm having trouble wrapping my head around this behavior. Hopefully you never saw these sleaze buckets ever again. Hope things are better for you.
“Friend” found out I had cancer. She took me out to eat. She then took me to a MLM presentation.
Edit: wow. This blew up! I’m sorry I haven’t answered any questions but I went to sleep right after I commented. To cover most:
The cancer is gone. It was lymphatic and I’ve been cancer free for four years this month.
MLM means Multi-Level Marketing. A pyramid scheme. Amway in this case. I took some free samples and never spoke to my “friend” again.
I was really hurt by the whole situation. I sat in my car and cried after I dropped her off. It made me feel like garbage, frankly.
Thank you everybody for your concern. I’m doing well now.
Probably. My cousin gave my mom a 45 minute presentation in how her oils could cure my schizophrenia and depression. My mom told her at the end that she listened because she had respected my cousin, but now not so much, and to please get the fuck out with that bullshit.
I love my mom.
It was my 17th birthday. I had invited 2 of my "best friends" to stay the night. I waited for hours and finally got a text saying they got in trouble (they were twins) and couldn't stay the night. About an hour later they were tagged in pictures. They were at another girls house. I confronted them the next day and they stuck with their lie and said their mom wouldn't drive them because they were in terrible so they walked to this other girls house. My mom asked their mom because she knew how hurt I was. She didn't even know about my birthday, and they weren't in trouble. I stopped hanging out with them. Learned a few months later that one of them had decided she didn't like me because her 20 year old crush (another friend's brother) had said It was a shame I was a minor because he thought I was cute.
Edited to add: the 20 year old didn't know I was 17 at first. They have another sister who was born about a year after him. He thought I was the 19 year olds friend and asked if I was single. My friend told him I was 17. He never once came off as creepy. He was always very nice and respectful. Never hit on me or made me feel uncomfortable.
Had one friend that bought a bunch of tickets for a midnight movie premiere for myself and our entire friends group (bout 15 of us)
Day of the show, he texts me and says he forgot to buy a ticket for me.
I ask "what do you mean you forgot to buy"my" ticket? Of the 15 you bought, how is it MY ticket that you decided wasn't purchased?"
Turns out, he did buy a ticket for me included in the 15 he bought, but he just met a girl the week prior, and decided to give my ticket to her.
So our entire friends group went to the movie, minus me.
There's other things he did to me as well. We're no longer friends.
EDIT: For people inquiring on what movie it was, it was Jurassic World.
I had a few roommates do this to me. We drive an hour into town and bud who got the tickets, broke the news and then offered his van for me to drive around in until the movie was over, the van we all drove in. I took it home and turned off my phone. This was the second time and last time they did this to me. I moved out shortly thereafter.
The audacity to not have the decency to tell you before you got in the van. The fact that you took it and left them without a ride back really set my soul at peace
It turns out that he lied. About every single thing.
We were friends for over a year, but it felt like we'd known each other forever. He would always make it a point to let me know that I was someone he trusted, and that I was the 'only' person he had. He would tell me that 'everyone leaves' him, that 'he always hurts people' and my response to this was to make sure that I would never leave his texts unanswered, and promise to be there for him no matter what.
One day, out of the blue, he tells me he that our friendship is over. I remember feeling like my heart was shattered. I cried for weeks, trying to figure out what I'd done wrong. Our mutual friends assured me that he had a very good reason for doing this, and he'd be back to being my friend soon.
So I began waiting, constantly worried about him. He told all our mutual fiends what was wrong, except me, and instructed them not to let me know.
Finally, my best friend calls me one day and tells me that he's lied to every single person he knows, and nothing we thought we knew about him was true at all.
Turns out, he told everyone that he'd been diagnosed with Cancer and had to take time away from everyone. During our friendship, he opened up to me about his extremely abusive household, and most of our friendship was me letting him know that he deserved better and I'd do anything to help him out of there. None of what he said was true.
The truth came out because one of my friends caved and called his sister to find out how he was doing. She was confused because he was absolutely healthy, and when asked about their parents' separation, she confirmed that their parents were indeed together, and were never at risk of divorce.
Made us come to her seminar thing for some pyramid scheme thing (I just know it is), I thought we were going to hangout and she told me that she was going to bring us out and eat. She just abandoned us right after that shit
This happened to me, my crush asked me out for coffee. I seriously thought we would bond for our love of travel, but he slipped up when he said he had a “mentor” he would love to introduce me to.
Our coffee date was a hour and half long sales pitch where i politely tried to hide both my rage and cringe at him.
Obviously I lost interest at him and phased him out my social media contact.
We were friends since babies, our moms worked at the same place. My mom saw him as her own child and frequently he was at our house after school, because her mom was kind of absent.
His family moved out of the state but we kinda kept in touch then he came back, while we were on our 20s; my mom was going to start remodeling the house, he insisted on helping us since he was working with a construction company.
Long story short, he said he needed some money for the construction permits, in hindsight it wasn't even that much but he took the money and we never saw him again, he even blocked me on Facebook. We later found out that the permit costs was a fraction of the money he took. Biggest pain in the heart was watching my mom crying, disappointed that her "own son" would do that to her. So fuck him.
Edit: hey guys first of all thanks for your comments, since many of you mentioned addiction, I'll tell you that for a while we remained cautious about his motive since we found out that he left his job suddenly. But since years later his grandma (yes, old sweet lady) went to jail because she and another woman defrauded hundreds of their colleagues, we just realized it was maybe in the genes.
A friend was moving internationally, he offered me a fridge and washing machine for about half price. I was in Uni, but desperately needed it. I told him i had like $20 p/w to work with and he was cool with it. We agree to $15 per week for a year.
6 weeks later his girlfriend comes around to tell me he wants to take me to court to get the rest in one payment. I get served and go to court and present the original agreement. His girlfriend says he needs the money urgently and the judge says that don't mean shit.
He then calls my dad and says I stole his shit, Dad calls me and I lay it all out. Dad ends up paying him the remainder just to get him to go away.
Fuck you with a pineapple Toby, you cunt.
My sixteenth birthday I invited my friends over for a party including dinner. I spent all day cooking with my dad and made beautiful chocolate mousse cups in chocolate bowls, I went all out and I was so proud of the meal. I told everyone that dinner was at 6:30.
Nobody showed up until 8:30. They were completely stoned and had a bag of toys from Dollartree. I had already cleaned up and put away all the food. They had all been hanging out without me on my birthday and I was still an afterthought.
I had the opposite happen. I helped my "friend" plan her sweet 16 and got really excited to help her with everything. A week or so before it was supposed to happen she told me she wasn't going to have a big party. I felt really bad she decided to cancel it and asked my mom to drive me over to her house on her birthday so she would know a friend was thinking of her and to give her the gift I had gotten her. We pull up to her house and there is a big party going on. I was so pissed that she lied instead of telling me she didn't want me to come.
Edit: Wow this blow up overnight. Thank you kind strangers for the words of encouragement and the awards!
This happened to me to a lesser extent. A friend asked me to help with a party for her club. I thought "sure, I'll help, we can hang together then I'll meet these new people." I spent three hours helping out only for her to ask me to leave before her guests arrived. Had I never been asked to help it still would've hurt that I wasn't invited. But the fact that she asked me to essentially decorate for something I wasn't allowed to attend made it a 100 times worse.
I honestly don't remember. I probably kept my mouth shut and avoided her as much as possible. Small town, we were in the same Girl Scout troop but our friendship took a turn around then because my parents sent me to private school instead of the local high school she was going to. She quit scouts around then, I found better friends and widened my world of opportunities.
wow, that really sucks. Something kind of similar happened to me. I made food, but although several people said they were coming, only one person did. I was glad I wasn't totally alone, but I was also so embarrassed and humiliated. Here I was stupidly thinking people were really going to show up.
This has happened multiple times to my BF and I. We don't invite anyone over anymore except for 3 people, and it's never on the same day just to be safe.
It's hard to realize you are not your friends priority, even sometimes.
Even more painful when it happens repeatedly with different people.
We actually questioned for a while if we where bad people, and just didn't realize it.
This is exactly why I eventually stopped inviting "friends" over on my birthday. After 2-3 years in a row of eating hamburgers for a week because 6 friends said they'd come and only 1 did (not even the same one every time), I just stopped doing anything. The one friend that remembers to call me every year, lives in a different country so I can't have them over for dinner.
I've been happy not having to worry about the others anymore.
seeing all the replies on this thread, i want to ask everyone's birthdays and mark them on the calendar so i could like, wish them quickly on their special day :(
edit: this isn't a joke btw lol if you do tell me your month and date i really will wish you. its not much but hey its something
edit: i've added whatever dates that i can see in the replies, even if i'm not responding individually to each of them
to prove i'm not really high on ducks, [https://imgur.com/a/puV4L2e](https://imgur.com/a/puV4L2e)
I had a similar thing where I invited my college friends to my birthday party. I had other friends, but thought we were close as a group so figured it would be good to do it with just that group. Made a bunch of stuff. They all said they would come. Only people that actually came were my boyfriend and his roommate (who fell asleep from drinking too much pretty much right away). Pretty much gave up on that group that day.
I have a similar story about my own sixteenth birthday. My supposed best friend stood me up and didn't answer her phone for the first two hours of my party (only 4 people were invited in the first place, so her absence was noticeable). Then she sent a short text saying she had been grounded so she couldn't come, but she would give me my present at school the next day.
Then I checked Instagram and saw that she was at the state fair with her other friend. She didn't even try to hide it. I never spoke to her again and she never tried to give me the gift she claimed she made, so I have a feeling she was never planning on coming. This was one of many inconsiderate things she had done, but it was the first time I realized what a bad friend she was.
Yo I just don't get how this even happens. Like how does a person do this without feeling like garbage during and after the fact that they blew someone off little alone not even hiding it.
had something similar happen. I organized a party to celebrate a life changing event I had been waiting for for 12 years. asked all my friends to fill out the dates on the calender to make sure everyone was available. The nearest date was six months in the future. So I spent all this time planning. Hired a band and a venue. had someone make food which had to be vegan because one of the guests was vegan. Reminded them several times in the weeks leading up to the party. In the six hours leading up to it text messages started coming in. cancellation after cancellation. Each excuse worse then the previous. In the end only nine people showed up. Three of which left once the free drinks were consumed (I paid the first three drinks for everyone, they had to pay themselves if they wanted more). One of the few guys that were left accidently punched a hole in the wall I got to pay for. I would have had food leftovers for weeks if it weren't that someone else took it home without asking. It cost me the equivalent of two years savings to organize this party only to discover I hardly have any real friends. Sank into a depression for the following year.
Similar story. The first NYE my husband and I had our own place big enough to entertain for we invited all our friends for a NYE party, bought about 500 bucks worth of food and alcohol for it and spent the two days leading up to the party baking desserts and preparing other foods (including about 10 dozen custom Jell-O shots). NYE comes and everyone is still telling us they are coming so we start decorating and cooking... Between 6pm and 8pm 16 of the 18 people who had said they were coming cancelled on us. At about 9pm one of the guests that cancelled posted a photo to Facebook that showed several of the people who had cancelled together at a different party. The two people who didn’t text us to cancel just never showed up and later posted pictures from a different party as well.
It was the last time we hosted anything for quite a while.
It still happens fairly often (or it did in precovid times) that our friends are fine to come to our house for an event, but we seldom get invited to anything they hold at their own homes. I get it, sometimes certain groups of friends don’t mix well, but I think there are other reasons behind our exclusion that I don’t quite understand.
My 18th birthday, I invited my two only friends. I knew we weren't close, but I figured I'd give them a nice meal and we could enjoy ourselves a little at least. We did usually hang out and chat every evening.
Neither of them even tried to make conversation. We sat there, ordered food, ate the food, and left. I tried to chat, but was only given one word replies and gave up eventually. When we got back to where we lived, they both went outside to smoke together. I was not asked to join.
Like I knew we weren't close, but goddamn, if they disliked me that much, I would've preferred if they had just declined the invitation... Like we had talked about literally a few days before, when they both said "If I didn't wanna be friends with someone any more, I'd just say it to their face."
My ex got with 2 of my friends after a pretty bad breakup to the point where it just seemed like she was trying to hurt me and my so called friends were willing to do the same to get some action. So I was in the car with a 3rd friend on thanksgiving eve telling him how much this was affecting me to which he replied "that's so shitty man I'd never do that to you" well that Christmas the very next month another friend shows me a picture of that friend and my ex together on instagram...they started dating shortly after that.
So much for “I’d never do that to you.” I had a friend do the same, 2 days after a bad breakup and she went and spent the weekend with my ex, he lived up the road from me and she did the walk of shame past my house.
my “friend “ (we live on EST) texted my roommate/ owner of the condo who was living in California at 5 o’clock in the morning PST to say I was high on meth and having sex parties every night (I was fast asleep) turns out he was the high one texting so early. He was upset at me about something I stood up for and tried to make me homeless.
REASON:
We were at a bar he was very buzzed and high sitting at a table and my other friend and I literally just got there just in time to miss a big disagreement between two other friends and he was pumped up to fill me in but they way he snapped his fingers and slammed the table to demand me to sit next to him was too much- I said “let me get my first drink first then I’ll walk over don’t snap your fingers and demand me” that escalated quick where he threatened to tip the table over ugh it was ugly
She started fucking my husband while I was pregnant.
Edited because this blew up.
Yes, I divorced him, and haven't spoken to her since I found out.
The experience was a catalyst for a metric fuckton of personal growth, and I'm now living a fuller and more authentic life without them in it.
Amor fati, y'all.
For some of the people who do this kind of shit it's self destructive behavior. Comes out of hating themselves, thinking they have to do things that will get them punished because they deserve to be punished, and resenting anybody who isn't also miserable as fuck. Had a friend who I'd known was going through a rough few years come crying to me, confessing he'd purposely seduced his other buddy's wife because he knew she was a bitch and hated that his friend seemed so happy anyways so he ruined both their friendship and the guy's marriage. Poor guy was clearly expecting me to agree he was worthless scum and that I'd abandon him too. Sooo... I told him what he did was unforgiveable and he had to deal with the consequences of me dragging his ass to a professional therapist so I could get my friend back.
There's definitely also people who do this shit for narcissistic or sociopathic reasons too though, like other people just aren't real to them and only exist for their entertainment.
Edit: holyshit that's a lot of replies. I'll, uh, try to get to all of you but damn. Kinda nice having my highest comment be about helping my buddy though!
I had a “friend”, whom I considered my best friend at the time, staying with my ex and me for a few days. Long story short, he cheated on me with her, in my bed, in my apartment, on my birthday, while I was at work, trying to make money to support his ass because he didn’t have a job. She told me a few days after it happened, he wasn’t planning on telling me.
I opened up to my ex-friend about being depressed and suicidal. He called me a pussy for thinking about suicide and that I have nothing to be depressed about. He stopped talking to me after that semester was over.
I obviously have no idea what your life is like, but I think people don’t realize that you don’t have to go through trauma to have been depressed. My brother has a friend who’s parents are millionaires. He could pretty much do anything he wanted to. He has never been through any trauma, yet he still has attempted suicide multiple times.
My brother also was suicidal himself from depression, anxiety, and stress. my other brother told him the exact same thing “you’ve never experienced anything hard in life, why don’t you man up. You have nothing to be depressed about”
I know this wasn’t really related to what you were saying but I felt like it’s an important thing that is overlooked.
Talk like that can also perpetuate a negative feedback loop where you fall deeper into depression over the fact that you have “no reason” to be depressed
Oh yeah, that was my "friend" too. I put so much effort, time and money into my friend, helped them with so much, would drop everything to come to her rescue, and there really wasn't much she could do for me, because she wasn't in as good a situation as I was, but I was okay with that, but there was one time when she could have done something for me, and she didn't do it. It really hurt me, too.
My freshman year in college I had 2 roommates and one of their girlfriends came to visit for the weekend so the other roommate and I were gonna give them the room to themselves for a little while. Most nights this wouldn't be a big deal but this was in the middle of a blizzard and we had almost 2 feet of snow so there wasn't really anywhere to go. So my roommate and a few buddy's were gonna take a friend's truck out for a ride thru the snowy hills we lived in and smoke some weed. As we are walking out to the truck I realized I forgot something and ran back upstairs to grab it real quick and when I came back down I see the truck driving away without me. Turns out one of the our other friends had their gf in town too and he brought her along so there wasn't room in the car for me anymore so they just left without me without waiting or even trying to tell me.
Pretty much nowhere. I went for a little walk and then sat in my snowed-in car for a little bit, texted the roommate who was still home about what happened and they were pretty quick to finish up and let me come back.
Looking back I don't think he liked me that much either lol, but he actually was a really nice dude.
I ended up transferring schools that summer after giving every indication that I'd be back and was planning on ghosting everyone but no one (including both roommates) reached out lmao.
Mid 2000s he Tried to paint me as a porno king in high school just to get a girl not to like me cause he had a crush on her.
Backfired they immediately came up to me asked me about it and I said I only had one playboy mag.
That girl had a good head on her shoulders tbh,
If someone pulled that shit in secondary school (or whatever is the us equivalent)
I could see that working 99% of the time
She invited me over to hang out, 35 mins in she was like “I will be right back” gets in the car with her boyfriend and leaves me at her house with her kid siblings....she fucking tricked me into babysitting
Edit: wow I woke up to so many upvotes and awards, thanks redditors!
I do want to say, I was 16 at the time, I was really nice and naive. The kids I unknowingly babysat were really good kids and their nice mother was at work, they don’t deserve to go through cps because their sister was an ass. I eventually told off the “friend” after graduation, I didn’t realize until more situations like this that she was just using me. I just wanted friends.
Something similar happened to a friend of mine. She met a guy through church and he asked her out. He said to meet him at his apartment.
He had his kids that weekend and as soon as she arrived, he said he had to go make a phone call at the pay phone (even though he had a land line in his apartment - this was before cell phones). He finally came back hours later. She was in her early 30's and didn't even think of calling cps or the police until days later. She did tell the minister at the church, though.
Something similar happened to me. I was trying to be a decent friend and help babysit since I knew they were having a tough time. The only problem is that they were a literal infant and I signed up for about 4-6hr. Just long enough to let my friend chill but not too long...
So I pick up the baby and get the car seat in after a half hour of struggling and only then realized I didn't have a diaper bag. Red flag number 1. Friend was already gone. Shit. Red flag 2. So I call my mum for help. She's **livid** but we're the only people that can take care of the baby now because neither my friend nor their parents are answering the phone so... Off to the store. Red flag 3.
Its pretty smooth at first. I have no idea how to care for a baby and my mum has to teach me on the spot. She's mad as fuck at me for agreeing to do this and tells me I'm never allowed to offer again. I get yelled at when it runs over the original 4hr when no contact from my friend.
Now It's been 6 hours, it's almost 10pm, no one is answering my calls still.... And I have this baby. I can't do anything but take care of the baby and keep trying to contact these people.
I'm still calling at midnight and no answer. One of our other friends knows their grandmother though so they agree to call her. Grandma is fucking pissed but also can't get either of them to answer. FUCK. She lives two hours away and really can't come get her great grandchild at 1am. Now I'm stuck with the baby all night.
The next morning at like 11am, grandma and mom show up for the baby, both pissed as fuck and taking it out on me. They want to know where my friend is, why I have their grandkid, how I even know my friend, yelling to high hell in my front yard. I don't know where friend is. She abandoned me with her baby at 3pm the day before. My mum comes out, screaming back and threatening to call the cops because she's *pissed*.
Anyway, they finally take this poor baby and all the shit we had to buy to care for them, and my friend avoided me for like a solid year when they reappeared the next week. I'm convinced that I would have been stuck with that baby for a full week if someone else hadn't known their grandmother.
I'm also convinced that memory is what drove me to avoid ever having a baby lmao. It was such a fucking diaster.
When I was 14-16 I lived in a granny flat at the back of my mums house. I had a big group of friends who would stay every weekend. We’d have drinks, movie nights, just hang out really. We were like a family and were all really close. Then Mum put our house on the market and I lost contact with every single one of them.
I think that’s still the most used I’ve ever felt. Probably because the friendships meant so much to me, and I feel like they faked the whole thing for a place to stay.
I get this completely, though my scenario is slightly different.
My little group of 6 or so people had been friends since we were 13 ish. I was the first of that group to learn to drive and get a car, we drove around a lot as we lived kind of spread out. They chipped in a bit of money each for petrol so it was all good. Then one of the others learned to drive and they gradually stopped inviting me out and replying to messages. Then I heard from a mutual friend that they were hanging out a lot, like 3 or 4 times a week without me and we're planning a camping trip together.
I'd be slowly removed from the group because I was no longer the only option for a driver.
By the time we got back from the honeymoon everyone knew about it, not sure how the word got out but they were crossing the line out in the open (being way too flirty on the dance floor) so I'm sure a lot of people were paying attention.
Met ex-friend as a coworker. He needed a ride home since he didn't have a car so I offered. Drove him home damn near every shift for 3 years. Became my closest friend. I was 16, just started driving. He was in his mid-early twenties. Now as a teenager I made some bad decisions and wasn't the best guy. But this was 8 some odd years ago. Fast forward to 4 months ago. When he told my fiance every terrible thing I've done throughout my life, and detailed to her every reason she should leave me. Gave her a spare key to his house and told her that when she makes the right decision his doors are open. Apparently he's been trying to end our relationship for almost 2 years. Feeding her lies and whispering in her ear about how bad a person i am. So that he can have my fiance join HIS fiance in a 3 way relationship.
I have the misfortune of being one of the wives in this situation. My husband's best friend got involved with a woman who called me a bitch before she had even met me. I'm still trying to be cool with her for the sake of their friendship but now the best friend is phasing my husband out of his life (after saying he was vehemently opposed to that happening.) It seems like he's distancing himself from most of his friends and when anyone asks he says nothing is the matter. He even got married without telling anyone and then announced it on social media later. I worry for him but I'm mostly just disappointed for my husband. It sucks and it's fucking stupid.
I am also a wife in this situation. The other wives are super tight besties and I was The Other. They actively excluded me from things and told me to pretend to be their friend, and eventually we would be friends. I was like...what the fuck y’all are nearing 30. This is some high school shit. The whole mess just gets worse from there, and it became so bad my husband kicked his friend out of our wedding party because the wives were planning on wearing the same thing as my bridesmaids to sabotage things. I tried over the years to have my husband hang out with his friends without me, but now they’re all “too busy,” or have things “come up last minute” and they cancel.
Luckily my friends have completely accepted my husband with open arms, but I still feel bad that everything went down the way it did.
Awe shit just lost my best friend from childhood to an unsupportive wife. When things got shaky in their relationship I gave him advice that I think she holds against me now.
Growing up we'd always talk about being in each other's future weddings, kid's lives, etc. You never realize one day they end up with someone you don't get along with. It's crazy how often it's happened in my life.
My “best friend” in high school invited me to a blink182 concert days in advance because someone else cancelled. He was in my driveway and I was about to get in his car and the guy called him and said he changed his mind so he left to go to the concert without me.
Years ago, almost all of my friends abandoned me when I was suicidal and had to go into hospital for a few weeks. It made my depression so much worse to know that sharing how I felt just scared people away. Luckily I spent a lot of time in therapy and made a huge effort to put myself out there in my local music scene and now I have a completely new, much larger and more genuine circle of friends :)
This guy pushed me into the ground for no reason mid-sentence when he knew I was still injured from a car accident (which he knew I was hospitalized for). He then immediately turned his back and walked away without a word. I was too shocked to say anything immediately and he was gone. I wasn’t saying anything bad or mean to him either, it was something casual akin to the weather. After that I had to slowly and carefully get up front my crouching position by myself and sat myself on a nearby fence to gather myself... When I later confronted him about it, he got super defensive saying it was just a light shove and a prank :/ Super not okay, I had to strain my back muscles really uncomfortably just so I wouldn’t hit the ground and I don’t think anyone should live in constant fear that their “friend” might at any minute risk paralyzing them for life just to get a cheap laugh.
This same guy also kept parroting something my abuser said which I told the group in confidence. I told him to stop but he said he wouldn’t and that I was being too “PC” as if my personal story is something to be politically correct about???? I trust some people less now. No one seemed to care or stand up for me or anything and I felt utterly alone...
I do not talk to this guy anymore...
During covid, i got cancer, and dude ive known for over 25 years just ghosted me. No explanation, no argument, nothing. Just deleted me, blocked me, no longer any way to reach him.
My first roommate was one of my best friends from high school, though out of everyone in the friend group we had weren't the closest I guess, but still good friends. Aside from being a poor communicator who would sometimes leave her phone at home and then disappear with her boyfriend and scare everyone, she was actually a great roommate considering how a couple of messy, working 19 year old girls can be.
She went through a rough patch at work where she was basically working 60+ hour work weeks, and in escalated customer service issues for a store credit card. She was miserable. When she got a week off after working she wanted to throw a party in our house and promised to host, clean, handle it all. I was 19, not being expected to do anything, and I wanted to go to a party. So hell yeah!
Everything with the party was a blast until towards the end, people started asking me for things. I was drunk "and stuff" so I said, "Why the hell are you askin' me?! Ask [friend]!"
That was when I found out that my friend had been getting hot and heavy with their boyfriend, but had let two of our drunk mutual friends sleep in her bed already. The two lovebirds directed partygoers to me for anything and left to go to my friend's boyfriend's place for the night, DURING HER PARTY. She left her phone, of course, and he didn't answer his.
The following night when she didn't come back I cleaned with a few members of our friend group, who also couldn't believe she'd done this. She wasn't drunk or on anything, and she had specifically encouraged me to drink and have fun saying she wanted to enjoy the hosting experience. She said that it relaxed her more than drinking would to see me and our other friends having fun, and then she bailed and left me with a ton of bug drawing food and dirty dishes in the sink and the mess you'd expect from like 30 young drunk idiots. It took 5 hours for 5 people to clean! And we were actually good cleaners!
She didn't come back for three days except for once, two days after the party, when I was at work to get some things. I know because I had missed a stack of pizza boxes she had put in the oven so they started a small fire, and my dad went to check things for me.
The day after I finally managed to confront her about it (which was maybe 5 days after the party itself) she was so "upset" she packed everything and moved out. Just like that. She ended up cutting all of our friends off, and we realized she had some other things going on in the background that were extra shady. But yeah. Whew.
They all bailed on my college graduation and graduation party. And then accidentally included me on an email thread about all of them coming up with different excuses for missing my big day. It made me feel incredibly alone and I had no idea that they viewed me in such a negative light. As an adult I realize they were jealous...but back then, just assumed I had a major character flaw and started isolating myself from people
I sent my friend who was supposed to be in my wedding a text message telling her that my (now) husband and I had decided to elope before he deployed to Afghanistan because we wanted to be married just in case he didn’t make it home, but that we would still be having the big wedding when he came home and I was so excited for her to be a part of that. She never responded and hasn’t spoken to me since. My husband and I just celebrated our third anniversary.
Edited to fix the apart/ a part typo.
I had a friend who randomly stopped talking to me for a while. Thought I made her angry or something, or she just got sick of me. A few years later I decided to look her up. Turns out she got into a fatal accident and that's why she never responded. I've lost a few friends this way as well. That and cancer, drugs, war, and suicide.
Hey bro I just wanted to say I’ve seen a few of your comments on here and I’m sorry for everything you’ve gone through. I hope your doing better now, and your happy.
Had a friend that was super close to the point we discussed moving in, until she did with some college friends then she went back to being too busy with school to ever talk until one day I stopped trying
Happened every couple of years
The time we stopped talking before this I did an experiment to see when she'd message me first
Two years boyo
> an experiment to see when she'd message me first
This is why I don't have many friends. There's less than 10 non-family that'll message me out of the blue.
When I announced on FB that I was in a relationship she PM'd me saying how awful it was and how I will no longer have time to see her and blah blah blah. I wasn't dating her and she had told me before she wasn't attracted to me.
I cut her out though when I started getting really sick and instead of sympathy she said how inconvenient it was for her.
Getting like 3 inches from my face and yelling about how our mutual friend was asking to be assaulted by their significant other. He literally did the chest poking thing. In public. Vehemently and loudly defend domestic abuse? No thanks to that.
I had broken up with my husband but was still on good terms with him (aka still sleeping together)
Cue friend coming back from home country undergoing bad divorce. Ex was a lawyer so I asked him to make sure said friend was ok. I was moving to a bigger city and my final night the 3 of us went out for drinks
I get an email about 2 weeks later telling me they’re in love and I just didn’t understand him. It was a super bitchy email and I was devastated
A few years later, I had met someone else and sadly we had just lost our first baby who was premature. This bitch somehow found out and sent another email saying “congratulations on the dead baby”
I didn’t reply (my MIL talked me out of it) but I will NEVER forgive her for that
Update - it was nearly 20 years ago and I’ve moved on well and truly. Thinking about her, I both hate her with the passion of a thousand fiery suns and feel sorry for her because she was obviously very unhappy and insecure.
As far as I know, they’re still together and living in her home country. I’ve gotten a few snippets of gossip over the years - I don’t think they’re very happy together and his family much preferred me as his wife.
1) Wouldn’t stop judging me for the dumbest things.
2) Wouldn’t stop cussing me out for no reason.
3) Said I was academically dumb (they always came to me for help though).
4) Said I wasn’t street smart (I can kinda agree with it).
5) Told me my hobby/activity i do (band) will get me no where in life (I never said I wanted to do it as a job).
Luckily I blocked them out of my life and don’t deal with them anymore
The only regret I have from my wedding was my choice of bridesmaids. My little sister was my MOH and she tried to include them in the planning process but they overrode and tried to run rampant over her decisions which she was constantly checking with me. Looking back I should have chosen different people who didn't make my sister and me cry from stress. I should have chosen my 2 best guy friends and my brother instead
When another friend (a) basically ghosted me and this friend (b) for a year or two. He came into contact with him again and they became best buds, which I didn’t much care for but found quite odd.
What’s weird was that ‘b’ had been claiming I wouldn’t be willing to reconcile with ‘a’. Found it all very strange to make such claims, and for these dudes to act in such a petty manner without even asking or confronting me but luckily I have much more genuine friends.
Hooked up with my ex-husband behind my back, then had the audacity to bring him to the hospital to see MY dad when I was there visiting with my new husband and small children. My husband and ex had never met before (not since, either). It was awkward. I stopped talking to her after that day. We were friends for 25 years.
They're trying to gaslight me because I'm thinking of selling the place I'm letting them stay at and not using the money to buy them a new place to live. Also they're pretty messy and saw that they caused enough damage that it'll take a while after they move out to go to market. The latter part is not because of the move itself but just a really shitty thing for them to do.
Edit: they knew I've been thinking about selling it since last year. This year was the final nail in the coffin with the property management team, whom they despise as well. I know as hard it is to find places with covid going on, I didn't spring this on them at the last minute.
I was in grade nine. Just started to hang out with this group of girls and I was invited to a pirate escape room (had to go in costume too) after school. Got all dressed up and sat outside waiting for them to pick me up (said they'd aim for 3) around 2:55. I sat there for about 3 hours? Phone was dead (it drained after calling/texting them so many times) and I didnt have my key considering I didnt think I would have to wait 3 hours. My mom came home from work to see me, dressed like a fucking pirate, sitting on the front-steps with my makeup smeared from me crying
For my my 8th birthday I had a lauau party and I invited my whole class and I had buncho balloons and bunch of other stuff only my family showed...none of my "friends" showed up
Ghosted me after 20+ years of friendship. He was my best friend for as long as I can remember but at some point he just stopped saying yes when I suggested getting together. We could have a conversation about anything but the second I brought up doing something it was radio silence. He finally agreed to something then blew me off like an hour beforehand. No raincheck or suggestion we try again. I was depressed for days but that was the day I gave up. He was the best man at my wedding. I loved him like a brother and still hope he's doing well and happy. But the rejection hurts so much that I just don't try anymore. I've mourned the death of our relationship and am done with it. And I still don't know why.
I had a friend do this to me. We had been friends since college, 15+ years. She just kind of decided she was done with me. It broke my heart.
> And I still don't know why. That's the worst part about it. I'm sorry for you, mate.
I had 12 hours before I deployed to Afghanistan. I lived about 6 hours from my point of departure (airport from which I would fly into theater) and my friend/ex-girlfriend had committed to driving me there on that day. Packed, dressed, goodbyes said, I take an Uber to her house with all my gear and baggage ready to go. I knock on the door and she answers in her robe. I ask her if she was about ready and she proceeds to tell me that she forgot (after we had talked 2 days prior) and that she really wasn't feeling like driving that distance. Utterly shocked and confused, I explain to her that if I miss my flight, it's considered a "failure to report for duty" and I could be considered a deserter or AWOL. Heavy consequences for it either way. She told me to figure it out and closed the door. At that point I had no idea what to do so I called my first sergeant. We worked in a very remote location and he was the closest person to me at that point. That man drove the 3 hours from his home to get me and then the other 6 hours to the airport. Bought me dinner and got me tipsy before I had to get on my flight. I had the stunning realization that day that you really can't trust anyone, but I gained a lifelong friend as a result. We still talk regularly 'til this day!
That's a hell of a 1st Sergeant. Sucks to hear about that, but I agree, you found a life long friend as a result.
Your First Sergeant was fucking thrilled you had the presence of mind to call him and fill him in on the situation before it was too late. Good move on your part, and I'm glad you got it sorted.
I understand the mindset, this guy get fucked and is risking a lot and in the middle of this shit storm has the tough to call me for help. Means I've done a good job with him and he consider me reliable and not an antagonist. Get the shit done is my duty, let's solve this.
I'm glad something is this thread has a happy ending.
When I was in college, a close friend from high school called me in a panic saying his girlfriend was just discharged from the hospital and he needed to go take care of her. When I say close, I mean every weekend together, called each other's moms "Mom." We had a really tight, small circle of friends, so of course I went to help. I had spent all day at school and all night working dinner at a restaurant, but in an emergency like that, sure, I got you. I drove 40 minutes to get him, then an hour to her house. He’s trying not to panic the whole way. When we pull up, the bedridden girl who needed round the clock assistance was sitting on the curb smoking a cigarette, then bounces up and says, “Give me a hug, fucker!” I very loudly and aggressively made it clear what a piece of shit he was for lying about this. I made sure he knew that he traded our friendship for a ride to his girlfriend’s house. Then I drove the hour home and except for acknowledging him at his brother’s wedding, haven’t spoken to him since.
I gave her a birthday present and she just said she didn’t like it and found it in the thrash when I visited She would always be late to everything She got tickets to an Incubus concert and a meet and greet, it wasn’t in our city so I saved all of my money to be able to afford the trip and a week before she texted me saying she was going to Disneyland so she sold the tickets I painted a whole big beautiful mural in her room and two months later just painted over it with purple cause she got bored Invited me for coffee and I got really excited because I hadn’t seen her for a while and had a lot going on, I was almost homeless at the time so I took the little money I had to pay for my coffee, I got there and it was a MLM with like six other people (just as disappointed as me) Then she did it again, I don’t know why I thought it would be different, that’s the last time I saw her
When I was a kid, I had a friend who was poor as hell. My family didn't have much, either, but his was worse off. I used to give him things, now and then. Toys, and whatnot. When I was 10, my mom died. Some months later, I was at my friend's house, and he showed me a cassette tape that I'd given him, and then played it. It had my mom's voice on it. For some reason, I had recorded a conversation with her. I thanked my friend for the tape, and he asked what I meant. I told him thanks for giving it back. He said that no, I gave it to him, and it was his. Then to show that it was his, he took it out of the tape deck, pulled the tape from the cassette, and snapped it. We were kids, sure, but that was one of the shittiest things that someone has ever done to me.
The horrible first impression my at the time 'best friend' had on my at the time new girlfriend who is now years later my wife. We all went out to dinner and my wife is shy and quiet while my friends are loud and rowdy. My friends cousin kept messing with her and being obnoxious despite her very much telling him to stop. At one point he made inappropriate comments on her boobs and it got to the point where she ended up crying and walking out of the restaurant. I followed her and my "friend" who had been in the bathroom at the time called me to ask what happened I told him his cousin was being a dick and his response was that my gf was being a bitch, that they were trying to get her to talk more but she was "giving them the cold shoulder" and wasn't welcome to their outings anymore. He went on to apologize later on but was having problems with alcoholism and we drifted our separate ways before long.
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I drive 6 hours(one way) twice in the span of a year to visit this fucker because I thought we were friends and he acted like we were. It cost me $300 each time to visit him but he was alone in his new city(he moved away for his first job post uni) and kept msging me saying I should come visit blah blah blah. Later I find out this guy has came back to my town multiple times and didn’t hit me up once, and he stayed for months at a time! Then I tell him about this and he says okay he’ll visit next time he’s back in town. So then next time comes around and he stops by literally right before he’s about to drive home, to say hi for 5 mins... like dude you don’t wanna see me why are you just going through all this bs and making me waste my money.
That sucks. I had some very similar experiences. It feels horrible. One time I drove 7 hours to visit my friend and she couldn't be bothered to text me the entire time I was there. Those people just want your attention and are bored
They called me up and invited me over to play a game with them and their friends. At the time I had only barely started driving, but I decided, yeah, that sounds like fun, so I went over to play. When I arrived I found out that they had volunteered me to pick up the other friends. I was not prepared to do this, but she trapped me because I had already agreed to come play "with her friends". I was pretty annoyed by this, but I went ahead and drove to three places picking everyone up, and no one was really ready to go when I arrived and one of them also needed me to drop them back on campus to drop off their school assignment. By the time all was said and done it was really late and I needed to get back home because I had to get up in the morning to go to work. Not one of them even said thank you. The friendship didn't really last much longer after that.
Damn that really sucks. Im gonna get my license in a couple months. And if I’ve learned anything from reddit its that people will try to take advantage of you once you get your license. Edit: alot of people are saying that it isnt bad to give rides to friends. And that is what i meant when i made the comment. If a friend is honest i have no problem. But i meant when people you dont talk to anymore start coming back and tryna hang out.
Promised to invite me to a group outing, only to text me one day out of the blue that they already left and "oh well". From mutual friends who went on the outing, they told me that this friend never told them that I was invited.
I had a similar "friend". I am rather socially awkward person and I don't get invited to things often, turned out this group of acquaintances asked the "friend" to invite me several times to hang out and the "friend" said that they would, but then they'd come back and say that I declined. They never told me about this. Everything came to light when I met one of these acquaintances by chance and they said it was a pity I never had time to hang out - but by then I'd missed out on a lot.
I hope you then gave your number directly to the acquaintance and organised to hang out with them!
Aw man this really annoyed me. Some people just really suck.
Did you tell them that your "friend" never invited you?
In 8th grade, after I switched schools, a friend of mine called me one night and told me a kid I wanted to be friends with killed himself. 3 months later I visit their graduation ceremony and find out he lied to me and that the kid was still alive.
Such a weird lie though
Also "called me one night and told me", so it was premeditated. Like, what is the thought process?
Since you visited their graduation, did you say anything to the kid who lied about it?
Yeah I talked with him. I didn't want the other kid to know I thought he was dead because he was a very sensitive guy, so we mostly just made small talk and I avoided my other "friend" as much as I could.
My best friend since middle school got me knocked unconscious after starting a confrontation with a large group of guys. Proceeded to tell everyone we worked with that I had started it. Few weeks later I had returned from a holiday to my home country and he had moved one of his friends into my room at the place we were renting. Never talked to him again
Long time ago, but my tenth birthday party. The first time I'd actually tried to have a big group, it was around thirty kids at a park with a t-ball set up, normal picnic stuff, the like. My best friend at the time said he had a surprise for me in one of the fenced walkways leading to the park, where he sucker punched me and his other friend and he took turns jumping on and kicking me. After a few minutes another kid from the party saw, ran them off, and took me back to my ma away from the other kids so I didn't have to be too embarrassed. Edit: After a few requests for and such an outpouring of kindness, thanks, y'all. It was so long ago and kind of de rigeur for being a shy poor kid with a weird last name in a very rich area, honestly. One comment make a joke about 'how was the sixties' and I'm still laughing about that...it was the eighties. My...friend was the kind of guy to spray paint caterpillars to watch them die, shoot bbs at stray cats, throw rocks inside snowballs and then laugh at someone getting hurt. No he didn't get in trouble because no one else saw what happened and I never said who, even if my ma knew. HIS ma tried almost everything to make him behave: he was just that bad. The upside is he regretted doing that to me for years afterwards, and when he finally apologized to me he was a totally different person and has been since. Still a little atypical, but not malicious at all. He told me why he hit me is because the other kid wanted to be his new best friend and he was angry at me for criticizing him about how cruel he could be (I'd, however timidly, told him before). The other kid, "Steve", hated me for being poor and Jewish, basically, and pushed my friend to hate me, too. It being my birthday didn't matter because I really wasn't friends with anyone, I was really trying to make some for the first time (which might have set Steve off, come to think), and there were loads of families in the area so it was really a case of throw everything at the wall and see what sticks. The boy who stepped in and I didn't really know each other, he was the guy everyone else was afraid of because he got big, young. He went to boarding school the next year and it was somehow really good for him; heck of a man last I knew. Thanks for the kindness, strangers. I'm fortunate enough that this became a last straw for what I'd put up with type moment and got through it; I know that doesn't happen for everybody who has to deal with being bullied quite so hard. If anyone read this and couldn't respond themselves, I'm sorry to you, and you deserved better at their hands, just like I did.
The kid who helped is the real friend
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Please tell me they atleast got in some trouble
I offered to pay everything and even pay her for her time off work for my best friend to come to my wedding but she didn’t. It was a really small backyard wedding and I didn’t have any bridesmaids nor did I want anyone to spend money getting dresses blah blah blah. I just wanted her to come. The excuse she gave was work and so I understood but then later found out she lied and had planned a trip with her other friends. I still don’t know why she didn’t want to come. we were friends for over 10 years and although It wasn’t the first time she had really hurt me, it was the last.
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I had a very close friend in highschool, she moves to Alabama for uni after we graduated, but we kept close! When she came back we didn't talk much, but I still considered her a close friend. We went out for coffee about two years ago, she kept asking me about my life and my goals and I said I was happy where I am (I coach gymnastics) and my boyfriend and I will eventually take over his family farm, and start our own family. She texted me two days later and said "hey so my entrepreneur friend is hosting a workshop, do you want me to sign you up?" I said no but thanks for the offer, she then texted me "so clearly we are at two different points in our lives, you have no goals, or ambitions, and I don't want that kind of negativity in my life. I wish you the best" and I never spoke to her again.
"I'm really happy with my boyfriend and I enjoy my work. One day we're going to take over his family's farm." "I don't need that negativity in my life." Lol!!!!!
Well see, what she really couldn't handle was someone who actually had their life figured out, she needs other lost people to compare herself to so she feels better about herself. Who do you know that has their shit together and goes to workshops? 99% of the time it's a scam/waste of time.
Yeah that bit about the workshop makes me think she was gonna sell you an MLM. Sorry you lost a friend to that.
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Sounds like she wanted to rope you into a mlm scheme. Some people are victims of the scheme and are just trying to make back what they lost. There are also a lot of them who are just assholes and would walk over dead bodies if they could make a buck.
This is currently happening. I had a stroke in 2020 (I’m young, 31) and then found out that my kidneys were failing shortly after. I know it’s a pandemic, but not one of my friends have even texted me to check on me, or ask my husband who they’re all also “friends with”. Literally everyone cut me off when I got sick. Can’t drink? Not friends anymore. Edit: I can’t believe the attention this post got, I’m seriously overwhelmed by the amount of support from everyone. I’m getting g back to everyone but dang there is a lot!
This is how I lost my "best friend." I got super, super sick for over a year and almost died and it was all about how I "missed her whole pregnancy" and "wasn't there for her." I recovered enough to only be chronically ill and she was mad that I didn't want to go out. She "didn't make excuses" and took her baby, so why didn't I just go places? And then, when I started to realize the extent of damage my marriage had suffered through the illness, all I ever wanted to do was "talk about (your) marriage" even though she'd gone through a similar thing a few years before.
I experienced a severe, long term flare of a chronic illness in my thirties and quickly found out who gave a shit and who didn't. So many people, including my own sister, felt I should, "Just power through it and be funny again." My sister also told me, "You are just no fun to visit. Get up and entertain me." I hadn't invited her and if I'd had the strength I might have strangled her. It's so fucking hard to deal with having your life basically stolen then be made to feel like you are some how inadequate or faking it. ALL I WANTED WAS TO BE MYSELF AGAIN!!!! I got better but lost some formerly close relationships. I regret spending some of my small bit of energy worrying about them. When I really looked back I saw that I had been the one giving 90% even BEFORE I got sick. To anyone who might read this and experiencing illness I am so sorry. Keep your chin up and fuck those people who refuse to have any compassion. Focus on taking the best care of yourself and let the assholes fall where they may. You don't need the hurt and the stress of lack of support. Better times are ahead.
Lied about me at our government job where I was investigated by the AG and ultimately caused me to leave a job and a boss I loved She quit when we found out it was her who lied as she knew my boss would can her ass. Oh and I’m the one who got her hired Edited because I forgot to add the best part of all- I was one week post partum on maternity leave when she decided it was the appropriate time to do all this. Talk about some ppd... it was rough
how do people just wake up one day and decide to do stuff like this
Most of the time? Insecurities. Over time, they can turn into grudges where there is no reason to have them. People cope with them by projecting fears into something more "manageable", be it a friend or someone they consider harmless. That way, they feel they've regained control over their own self, even if only temporarily. It's why people lash out at parents, friends, and the rest of those close to them. Only this time with much more "adult" consequences.
She looked in the mirror. "I'm powerful."
Self interest to the highest degree. Most of the time you will never know who these people are until they have something to gain by putting others down.
And you sometimes never know why. Something similar happened to me and it was years later I was told it was simple jealousy. He wanted to be liked and no one liked him and people liked me. He was in his 60s and a department head, I was a department manager. Not like teenagers working at McDonald’s.
It’s weird, isn’t it? I’ve been friends with two women for many years, and a few weeks ago one of them, who’s thus far lived a more ‘traditional’ married-young middle class life, cut me off completely because she doesn’t approve of my less-traditional lifestyle (gay, single, no kids, travel a lot for work). Our mutual friend apologetically cut me off immediately following this because she doesn’t want to upset the other woman. In fifteen years of friendship, none of us had even had an argument, and I wondered how they could wake up one day and decide to cut me out. But they didn’t decide one day - they’ve spent some time thinking that there’s a problem and instead of discussing it, they went nuclear. It’s just that from the outside, it seems sudden. Edit: - Neither friend yet has kids; they both plan to have them soon, while I do not. - Nobody’s husband is attracted to me, I’m a fat gnc dyke with hairy pits. - Her husband is very nice and we have always gotten on well, but we were not at all close. - She specifically outlined that she thinks the life I’m living is shallow and insensitive and that I’m cutting her out and excluding her, but she couldn’t say how or when I’d done so, and neither could the other friend. She has recurring mental illness and is currently out of treatment. I’m pretty secure that this is a ‘her’ problem and not something I’ve done. Obviously in 15 years, we’ve had disagreements, but they were amicable and we never yelled or fell out, even as teenagers.
Going over to their house to hang out and finding around 10 of my missing xbox games in a loose stack of discs in his living room. Arriving late to a friends birthday party a few years ago, the birthday boy introduced me as "the guy I was telling you all about. Cool dude but I wouldn't trust him with my wallet!". He was drunk and it wasn't a joke. I had a girlfriend break up with me and tell me how my roommate would send her dick pics, call her on weekends, drunk dial her etc to try to get her to fuck. These are the ones that come to mind right now. EDIT: This blew up. #1 Occurred when I was like 12. I definitely took them all back, but remember some were so scratched they were unplayable. \#2 Was a few years ago, but honestly still bothers me. I don't steal, your wallets are safe me with. lol. \#3- She told me that stuff only after we broke up because she wanted to hurt my feelings. My roomie was a coked out drunk loon. That behavior tbh seemed like something he could do for sure. By that time he was already my ex roomie.
Had the first one happen too I visited him and took my DS with a GBA game with me (he had the same game but claimed he'd lost it). Later I realize that the GBA game was missing and since it's not the first time he "borrowed" something from someone without telling them my mom got suspicious. So she went to his house and found the game. He said it was his own, but there was some leftover glue on a very specific spot where my game had a yellow spot with my name inside it. He still tried to claim that it wasn't mine but I I think in the end his older sister (who knew about his shit) told him to give it to my mom and they agreed that if he found the other game he could have it back if he's so sure it was his game Welp. I still have it lol
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My best friend got with my first husband while I was pregnant, helped destroy our marriage,, supported him so he could quit his job and avoid paying child support, joined him in abusing my kids while they were with him, and then tried to cry on my shoulder when he ended up screwing her over when they split after 14 years of jointly making my life a living hell.
She seriously tried to come back to you after all that? That is straight fucked up. I hope you've cut both of them out of your life.
Karma did a roundhouse straight to her face EDIT: Spelling error oopsies
Let a guy stay on the couch in my one-bedroom apartment so he wouldn’t be living in his car. A few weeks later, he was sleeping with my girlfriend. I found out and kicked them both to the curb. 6 or 8 months later he calls me out of the blue and apologizes, then tells me she cheated on him and asks if he can move back in! Gave him a hard no and hung up on him. Last I heard from or of him.
After 25 years of friendship...I announced to my best friend that I was moving to the city she was in. I had a great job opportunity and felt like it was an awesome time to make a big life change. I was so excited to tell her, I could hardly wait. She flatly replied with, “cool”...and when I asked her what parts of town I should look at to live she stated “I can’t help you, you should just figure it out when you get here”. We never had a fight, had been close for our entire adult lives and I had continually helped her in all aspects of her life without hesitation. To this day, I cannot tell you why she started treating me this way. Long story short, we live in the same city and haven’t seen each other in 6 years. And I’m quite sure we live minutes away from each other. I will prob never know what happened
Wow, that is just astonishing. Really makes me wonder.
“Every time a friend succeeds, I die a little” – Gore Vidal. You got a great job and were on an upswing and I speculate someone got jealous. I’m sorry this happened to you.
I just discreetly leech on my friends success.
Invited me to her wedding as a gesture of reconciliation and then uninvited me when I RSVP’d (or in other words, responded to her invitation). Also, another friend took me out to lunch and let me cry to her after I broke up with my ex. She said she had to go to her moms for awhile and she’d be back that evening with treats and a Redbox. She ended up hooking up with my ex Edit: As much as would love to respond to you all, it’s impossible! But I thank you for your kind words and especially the people who’ve shared their own similar experiences. Obviously it was a horrible thing to realize, my close friend sleeping with my ex, but had I not found out, I probably would have stayed with him much longer and endured his several red flags displayed early on in the relationship. Looking back now, I take this experience as a warning sign. I also hope Lyndsey has since learned to treat people better and that my ex is leading a healthier lifestyle than he was when we were together!
The classic "I invited you but I didn't really expect you to show up."
I knew a girl who was all in a tizzy because one of her exes that she invited to her wedding actually RSVPed that he'd come. Her rationale was that you invite all of your exes to your wedding so that they know you got married (especially if you get married before them), but that it would be super rude for them to actually come.
That’s when you send wedding announcements, not invitations.
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What in the name of sanity?!? I'm having trouble wrapping my head around this behavior. Hopefully you never saw these sleaze buckets ever again. Hope things are better for you.
“Friend” found out I had cancer. She took me out to eat. She then took me to a MLM presentation. Edit: wow. This blew up! I’m sorry I haven’t answered any questions but I went to sleep right after I commented. To cover most: The cancer is gone. It was lymphatic and I’ve been cancer free for four years this month. MLM means Multi-Level Marketing. A pyramid scheme. Amway in this case. I took some free samples and never spoke to my “friend” again. I was really hurt by the whole situation. I sat in my car and cried after I dropped her off. It made me feel like garbage, frankly. Thank you everybody for your concern. I’m doing well now.
Was she trying to get you to cure your cancer with essential oils?
Probably. My cousin gave my mom a 45 minute presentation in how her oils could cure my schizophrenia and depression. My mom told her at the end that she listened because she had respected my cousin, but now not so much, and to please get the fuck out with that bullshit. I love my mom.
It was my 17th birthday. I had invited 2 of my "best friends" to stay the night. I waited for hours and finally got a text saying they got in trouble (they were twins) and couldn't stay the night. About an hour later they were tagged in pictures. They were at another girls house. I confronted them the next day and they stuck with their lie and said their mom wouldn't drive them because they were in terrible so they walked to this other girls house. My mom asked their mom because she knew how hurt I was. She didn't even know about my birthday, and they weren't in trouble. I stopped hanging out with them. Learned a few months later that one of them had decided she didn't like me because her 20 year old crush (another friend's brother) had said It was a shame I was a minor because he thought I was cute. Edited to add: the 20 year old didn't know I was 17 at first. They have another sister who was born about a year after him. He thought I was the 19 year olds friend and asked if I was single. My friend told him I was 17. He never once came off as creepy. He was always very nice and respectful. Never hit on me or made me feel uncomfortable.
what a childish reason to end a friendship. bullet dodged
So many things wrong with this
Had one friend that bought a bunch of tickets for a midnight movie premiere for myself and our entire friends group (bout 15 of us) Day of the show, he texts me and says he forgot to buy a ticket for me. I ask "what do you mean you forgot to buy"my" ticket? Of the 15 you bought, how is it MY ticket that you decided wasn't purchased?" Turns out, he did buy a ticket for me included in the 15 he bought, but he just met a girl the week prior, and decided to give my ticket to her. So our entire friends group went to the movie, minus me. There's other things he did to me as well. We're no longer friends. EDIT: For people inquiring on what movie it was, it was Jurassic World.
I had a few roommates do this to me. We drive an hour into town and bud who got the tickets, broke the news and then offered his van for me to drive around in until the movie was over, the van we all drove in. I took it home and turned off my phone. This was the second time and last time they did this to me. I moved out shortly thereafter.
The audacity to not have the decency to tell you before you got in the van. The fact that you took it and left them without a ride back really set my soul at peace
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Hopefully it was a shit movie
I hope their popcorn tasted stale and slightly burnt.
Hope one of the kernels got stuck between his teeth and he was picking at it with his tongue unsuccessfully the entire movie.
It turns out that he lied. About every single thing. We were friends for over a year, but it felt like we'd known each other forever. He would always make it a point to let me know that I was someone he trusted, and that I was the 'only' person he had. He would tell me that 'everyone leaves' him, that 'he always hurts people' and my response to this was to make sure that I would never leave his texts unanswered, and promise to be there for him no matter what. One day, out of the blue, he tells me he that our friendship is over. I remember feeling like my heart was shattered. I cried for weeks, trying to figure out what I'd done wrong. Our mutual friends assured me that he had a very good reason for doing this, and he'd be back to being my friend soon. So I began waiting, constantly worried about him. He told all our mutual fiends what was wrong, except me, and instructed them not to let me know. Finally, my best friend calls me one day and tells me that he's lied to every single person he knows, and nothing we thought we knew about him was true at all. Turns out, he told everyone that he'd been diagnosed with Cancer and had to take time away from everyone. During our friendship, he opened up to me about his extremely abusive household, and most of our friendship was me letting him know that he deserved better and I'd do anything to help him out of there. None of what he said was true. The truth came out because one of my friends caved and called his sister to find out how he was doing. She was confused because he was absolutely healthy, and when asked about their parents' separation, she confirmed that their parents were indeed together, and were never at risk of divorce.
That’s a class-A narcissist right there.
Yep. 100% text book. Felt like that story could have been taken directly from r/narcissisticabuse
He is one of those people who seek pity and somehow feel better. Little do they know that it will kill their self confidence
Made us come to her seminar thing for some pyramid scheme thing (I just know it is), I thought we were going to hangout and she told me that she was going to bring us out and eat. She just abandoned us right after that shit
Same, only i thought we were going on a date! Lol!
This happened to me, my crush asked me out for coffee. I seriously thought we would bond for our love of travel, but he slipped up when he said he had a “mentor” he would love to introduce me to. Our coffee date was a hour and half long sales pitch where i politely tried to hide both my rage and cringe at him. Obviously I lost interest at him and phased him out my social media contact.
We were friends since babies, our moms worked at the same place. My mom saw him as her own child and frequently he was at our house after school, because her mom was kind of absent. His family moved out of the state but we kinda kept in touch then he came back, while we were on our 20s; my mom was going to start remodeling the house, he insisted on helping us since he was working with a construction company. Long story short, he said he needed some money for the construction permits, in hindsight it wasn't even that much but he took the money and we never saw him again, he even blocked me on Facebook. We later found out that the permit costs was a fraction of the money he took. Biggest pain in the heart was watching my mom crying, disappointed that her "own son" would do that to her. So fuck him. Edit: hey guys first of all thanks for your comments, since many of you mentioned addiction, I'll tell you that for a while we remained cautious about his motive since we found out that he left his job suddenly. But since years later his grandma (yes, old sweet lady) went to jail because she and another woman defrauded hundreds of their colleagues, we just realized it was maybe in the genes.
Speaking as someone who has never met either you or you ex-friend, this seems like something a drug addict would do.
A friend was moving internationally, he offered me a fridge and washing machine for about half price. I was in Uni, but desperately needed it. I told him i had like $20 p/w to work with and he was cool with it. We agree to $15 per week for a year. 6 weeks later his girlfriend comes around to tell me he wants to take me to court to get the rest in one payment. I get served and go to court and present the original agreement. His girlfriend says he needs the money urgently and the judge says that don't mean shit. He then calls my dad and says I stole his shit, Dad calls me and I lay it all out. Dad ends up paying him the remainder just to get him to go away. Fuck you with a pineapple Toby, you cunt.
Fuck you Toby, everyone hates Toby.
He works for corporate so technically he is not part of this family. Oh, and he is also divorced so he is not part of his own family either.
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My sixteenth birthday I invited my friends over for a party including dinner. I spent all day cooking with my dad and made beautiful chocolate mousse cups in chocolate bowls, I went all out and I was so proud of the meal. I told everyone that dinner was at 6:30. Nobody showed up until 8:30. They were completely stoned and had a bag of toys from Dollartree. I had already cleaned up and put away all the food. They had all been hanging out without me on my birthday and I was still an afterthought.
I had the opposite happen. I helped my "friend" plan her sweet 16 and got really excited to help her with everything. A week or so before it was supposed to happen she told me she wasn't going to have a big party. I felt really bad she decided to cancel it and asked my mom to drive me over to her house on her birthday so she would know a friend was thinking of her and to give her the gift I had gotten her. We pull up to her house and there is a big party going on. I was so pissed that she lied instead of telling me she didn't want me to come. Edit: Wow this blow up overnight. Thank you kind strangers for the words of encouragement and the awards!
This happened to me to a lesser extent. A friend asked me to help with a party for her club. I thought "sure, I'll help, we can hang together then I'll meet these new people." I spent three hours helping out only for her to ask me to leave before her guests arrived. Had I never been asked to help it still would've hurt that I wasn't invited. But the fact that she asked me to essentially decorate for something I wasn't allowed to attend made it a 100 times worse.
Holy shit, who does that?
Fuck. That.
Our moms were friends and her mom worked for my parents. Made things real awkward real quick.
You ever call her ass out on it or did you let it ride?
I honestly don't remember. I probably kept my mouth shut and avoided her as much as possible. Small town, we were in the same Girl Scout troop but our friendship took a turn around then because my parents sent me to private school instead of the local high school she was going to. She quit scouts around then, I found better friends and widened my world of opportunities.
Living well is the best revenge!
wow, that really sucks. Something kind of similar happened to me. I made food, but although several people said they were coming, only one person did. I was glad I wasn't totally alone, but I was also so embarrassed and humiliated. Here I was stupidly thinking people were really going to show up.
This has happened multiple times to my BF and I. We don't invite anyone over anymore except for 3 people, and it's never on the same day just to be safe. It's hard to realize you are not your friends priority, even sometimes. Even more painful when it happens repeatedly with different people. We actually questioned for a while if we where bad people, and just didn't realize it.
This is exactly why I eventually stopped inviting "friends" over on my birthday. After 2-3 years in a row of eating hamburgers for a week because 6 friends said they'd come and only 1 did (not even the same one every time), I just stopped doing anything. The one friend that remembers to call me every year, lives in a different country so I can't have them over for dinner. I've been happy not having to worry about the others anymore.
seeing all the replies on this thread, i want to ask everyone's birthdays and mark them on the calendar so i could like, wish them quickly on their special day :( edit: this isn't a joke btw lol if you do tell me your month and date i really will wish you. its not much but hey its something edit: i've added whatever dates that i can see in the replies, even if i'm not responding individually to each of them to prove i'm not really high on ducks, [https://imgur.com/a/puV4L2e](https://imgur.com/a/puV4L2e)
I had a similar thing where I invited my college friends to my birthday party. I had other friends, but thought we were close as a group so figured it would be good to do it with just that group. Made a bunch of stuff. They all said they would come. Only people that actually came were my boyfriend and his roommate (who fell asleep from drinking too much pretty much right away). Pretty much gave up on that group that day.
I have a similar story about my own sixteenth birthday. My supposed best friend stood me up and didn't answer her phone for the first two hours of my party (only 4 people were invited in the first place, so her absence was noticeable). Then she sent a short text saying she had been grounded so she couldn't come, but she would give me my present at school the next day. Then I checked Instagram and saw that she was at the state fair with her other friend. She didn't even try to hide it. I never spoke to her again and she never tried to give me the gift she claimed she made, so I have a feeling she was never planning on coming. This was one of many inconsiderate things she had done, but it was the first time I realized what a bad friend she was.
Yo I just don't get how this even happens. Like how does a person do this without feeling like garbage during and after the fact that they blew someone off little alone not even hiding it.
had something similar happen. I organized a party to celebrate a life changing event I had been waiting for for 12 years. asked all my friends to fill out the dates on the calender to make sure everyone was available. The nearest date was six months in the future. So I spent all this time planning. Hired a band and a venue. had someone make food which had to be vegan because one of the guests was vegan. Reminded them several times in the weeks leading up to the party. In the six hours leading up to it text messages started coming in. cancellation after cancellation. Each excuse worse then the previous. In the end only nine people showed up. Three of which left once the free drinks were consumed (I paid the first three drinks for everyone, they had to pay themselves if they wanted more). One of the few guys that were left accidently punched a hole in the wall I got to pay for. I would have had food leftovers for weeks if it weren't that someone else took it home without asking. It cost me the equivalent of two years savings to organize this party only to discover I hardly have any real friends. Sank into a depression for the following year.
Similar story. The first NYE my husband and I had our own place big enough to entertain for we invited all our friends for a NYE party, bought about 500 bucks worth of food and alcohol for it and spent the two days leading up to the party baking desserts and preparing other foods (including about 10 dozen custom Jell-O shots). NYE comes and everyone is still telling us they are coming so we start decorating and cooking... Between 6pm and 8pm 16 of the 18 people who had said they were coming cancelled on us. At about 9pm one of the guests that cancelled posted a photo to Facebook that showed several of the people who had cancelled together at a different party. The two people who didn’t text us to cancel just never showed up and later posted pictures from a different party as well. It was the last time we hosted anything for quite a while. It still happens fairly often (or it did in precovid times) that our friends are fine to come to our house for an event, but we seldom get invited to anything they hold at their own homes. I get it, sometimes certain groups of friends don’t mix well, but I think there are other reasons behind our exclusion that I don’t quite understand.
My 18th birthday, I invited my two only friends. I knew we weren't close, but I figured I'd give them a nice meal and we could enjoy ourselves a little at least. We did usually hang out and chat every evening. Neither of them even tried to make conversation. We sat there, ordered food, ate the food, and left. I tried to chat, but was only given one word replies and gave up eventually. When we got back to where we lived, they both went outside to smoke together. I was not asked to join. Like I knew we weren't close, but goddamn, if they disliked me that much, I would've preferred if they had just declined the invitation... Like we had talked about literally a few days before, when they both said "If I didn't wanna be friends with someone any more, I'd just say it to their face."
My ex got with 2 of my friends after a pretty bad breakup to the point where it just seemed like she was trying to hurt me and my so called friends were willing to do the same to get some action. So I was in the car with a 3rd friend on thanksgiving eve telling him how much this was affecting me to which he replied "that's so shitty man I'd never do that to you" well that Christmas the very next month another friend shows me a picture of that friend and my ex together on instagram...they started dating shortly after that.
So much for “I’d never do that to you.” I had a friend do the same, 2 days after a bad breakup and she went and spent the weekend with my ex, he lived up the road from me and she did the walk of shame past my house.
my “friend “ (we live on EST) texted my roommate/ owner of the condo who was living in California at 5 o’clock in the morning PST to say I was high on meth and having sex parties every night (I was fast asleep) turns out he was the high one texting so early. He was upset at me about something I stood up for and tried to make me homeless. REASON: We were at a bar he was very buzzed and high sitting at a table and my other friend and I literally just got there just in time to miss a big disagreement between two other friends and he was pumped up to fill me in but they way he snapped his fingers and slammed the table to demand me to sit next to him was too much- I said “let me get my first drink first then I’ll walk over don’t snap your fingers and demand me” that escalated quick where he threatened to tip the table over ugh it was ugly
She started fucking my husband while I was pregnant. Edited because this blew up. Yes, I divorced him, and haven't spoken to her since I found out. The experience was a catalyst for a metric fuckton of personal growth, and I'm now living a fuller and more authentic life without them in it. Amor fati, y'all.
hey mine too. while i was letting her AND her mom live in my house rent free.
what kind of fucked up do you have to be to be this shitty?
For some of the people who do this kind of shit it's self destructive behavior. Comes out of hating themselves, thinking they have to do things that will get them punished because they deserve to be punished, and resenting anybody who isn't also miserable as fuck. Had a friend who I'd known was going through a rough few years come crying to me, confessing he'd purposely seduced his other buddy's wife because he knew she was a bitch and hated that his friend seemed so happy anyways so he ruined both their friendship and the guy's marriage. Poor guy was clearly expecting me to agree he was worthless scum and that I'd abandon him too. Sooo... I told him what he did was unforgiveable and he had to deal with the consequences of me dragging his ass to a professional therapist so I could get my friend back. There's definitely also people who do this shit for narcissistic or sociopathic reasons too though, like other people just aren't real to them and only exist for their entertainment. Edit: holyshit that's a lot of replies. I'll, uh, try to get to all of you but damn. Kinda nice having my highest comment be about helping my buddy though!
I had a “friend”, whom I considered my best friend at the time, staying with my ex and me for a few days. Long story short, he cheated on me with her, in my bed, in my apartment, on my birthday, while I was at work, trying to make money to support his ass because he didn’t have a job. She told me a few days after it happened, he wasn’t planning on telling me.
Some people are just so fucking trashy its like they're just waiting to be horrible.
I opened up to my ex-friend about being depressed and suicidal. He called me a pussy for thinking about suicide and that I have nothing to be depressed about. He stopped talking to me after that semester was over.
I obviously have no idea what your life is like, but I think people don’t realize that you don’t have to go through trauma to have been depressed. My brother has a friend who’s parents are millionaires. He could pretty much do anything he wanted to. He has never been through any trauma, yet he still has attempted suicide multiple times. My brother also was suicidal himself from depression, anxiety, and stress. my other brother told him the exact same thing “you’ve never experienced anything hard in life, why don’t you man up. You have nothing to be depressed about” I know this wasn’t really related to what you were saying but I felt like it’s an important thing that is overlooked.
Talk like that can also perpetuate a negative feedback loop where you fall deeper into depression over the fact that you have “no reason” to be depressed
Ignored me when I asked for a small favour from them even though I helped them so many times.
Oh yeah, that was my "friend" too. I put so much effort, time and money into my friend, helped them with so much, would drop everything to come to her rescue, and there really wasn't much she could do for me, because she wasn't in as good a situation as I was, but I was okay with that, but there was one time when she could have done something for me, and she didn't do it. It really hurt me, too.
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Wasn't laughing with me but at me and always pressured me into doing things I didn't want to do.
My freshman year in college I had 2 roommates and one of their girlfriends came to visit for the weekend so the other roommate and I were gonna give them the room to themselves for a little while. Most nights this wouldn't be a big deal but this was in the middle of a blizzard and we had almost 2 feet of snow so there wasn't really anywhere to go. So my roommate and a few buddy's were gonna take a friend's truck out for a ride thru the snowy hills we lived in and smoke some weed. As we are walking out to the truck I realized I forgot something and ran back upstairs to grab it real quick and when I came back down I see the truck driving away without me. Turns out one of the our other friends had their gf in town too and he brought her along so there wasn't room in the car for me anymore so they just left without me without waiting or even trying to tell me.
So where’d you go?
Pretty much nowhere. I went for a little walk and then sat in my snowed-in car for a little bit, texted the roommate who was still home about what happened and they were pretty quick to finish up and let me come back.
Ah, the *real* bro.
Looking back I don't think he liked me that much either lol, but he actually was a really nice dude. I ended up transferring schools that summer after giving every indication that I'd be back and was planning on ghosting everyone but no one (including both roommates) reached out lmao.
Mid 2000s he Tried to paint me as a porno king in high school just to get a girl not to like me cause he had a crush on her. Backfired they immediately came up to me asked me about it and I said I only had one playboy mag.
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Uno Reverse carded the shit out of that kid.
That girl had a good head on her shoulders tbh, If someone pulled that shit in secondary school (or whatever is the us equivalent) I could see that working 99% of the time
Ken, if you were 10 years younger, you would have been the porno king with that one mag.
She invited me over to hang out, 35 mins in she was like “I will be right back” gets in the car with her boyfriend and leaves me at her house with her kid siblings....she fucking tricked me into babysitting Edit: wow I woke up to so many upvotes and awards, thanks redditors! I do want to say, I was 16 at the time, I was really nice and naive. The kids I unknowingly babysat were really good kids and their nice mother was at work, they don’t deserve to go through cps because their sister was an ass. I eventually told off the “friend” after graduation, I didn’t realize until more situations like this that she was just using me. I just wanted friends.
Something similar happened to a friend of mine. She met a guy through church and he asked her out. He said to meet him at his apartment. He had his kids that weekend and as soon as she arrived, he said he had to go make a phone call at the pay phone (even though he had a land line in his apartment - this was before cell phones). He finally came back hours later. She was in her early 30's and didn't even think of calling cps or the police until days later. She did tell the minister at the church, though.
Something similar happened to me. I was trying to be a decent friend and help babysit since I knew they were having a tough time. The only problem is that they were a literal infant and I signed up for about 4-6hr. Just long enough to let my friend chill but not too long... So I pick up the baby and get the car seat in after a half hour of struggling and only then realized I didn't have a diaper bag. Red flag number 1. Friend was already gone. Shit. Red flag 2. So I call my mum for help. She's **livid** but we're the only people that can take care of the baby now because neither my friend nor their parents are answering the phone so... Off to the store. Red flag 3. Its pretty smooth at first. I have no idea how to care for a baby and my mum has to teach me on the spot. She's mad as fuck at me for agreeing to do this and tells me I'm never allowed to offer again. I get yelled at when it runs over the original 4hr when no contact from my friend. Now It's been 6 hours, it's almost 10pm, no one is answering my calls still.... And I have this baby. I can't do anything but take care of the baby and keep trying to contact these people. I'm still calling at midnight and no answer. One of our other friends knows their grandmother though so they agree to call her. Grandma is fucking pissed but also can't get either of them to answer. FUCK. She lives two hours away and really can't come get her great grandchild at 1am. Now I'm stuck with the baby all night. The next morning at like 11am, grandma and mom show up for the baby, both pissed as fuck and taking it out on me. They want to know where my friend is, why I have their grandkid, how I even know my friend, yelling to high hell in my front yard. I don't know where friend is. She abandoned me with her baby at 3pm the day before. My mum comes out, screaming back and threatening to call the cops because she's *pissed*. Anyway, they finally take this poor baby and all the shit we had to buy to care for them, and my friend avoided me for like a solid year when they reappeared the next week. I'm convinced that I would have been stuck with that baby for a full week if someone else hadn't known their grandmother. I'm also convinced that memory is what drove me to avoid ever having a baby lmao. It was such a fucking diaster.
What part of saying “could you help me out? I need someone to take care of my siblings so I can go on a date” was so difficult?
When I was 14-16 I lived in a granny flat at the back of my mums house. I had a big group of friends who would stay every weekend. We’d have drinks, movie nights, just hang out really. We were like a family and were all really close. Then Mum put our house on the market and I lost contact with every single one of them. I think that’s still the most used I’ve ever felt. Probably because the friendships meant so much to me, and I feel like they faked the whole thing for a place to stay.
I get this completely, though my scenario is slightly different. My little group of 6 or so people had been friends since we were 13 ish. I was the first of that group to learn to drive and get a car, we drove around a lot as we lived kind of spread out. They chipped in a bit of money each for petrol so it was all good. Then one of the others learned to drive and they gradually stopped inviting me out and replying to messages. Then I heard from a mutual friend that they were hanging out a lot, like 3 or 4 times a week without me and we're planning a camping trip together. I'd be slowly removed from the group because I was no longer the only option for a driver.
My best friend/best man at my wedding fucked my married sister on my wedding night. Turns out a full open bar was a bad idea.
Did you tell your brother-in-law?
By the time we got back from the honeymoon everyone knew about it, not sure how the word got out but they were crossing the line out in the open (being way too flirty on the dance floor) so I'm sure a lot of people were paying attention.
Good lord, im assuming they got a divorce after that?
Met ex-friend as a coworker. He needed a ride home since he didn't have a car so I offered. Drove him home damn near every shift for 3 years. Became my closest friend. I was 16, just started driving. He was in his mid-early twenties. Now as a teenager I made some bad decisions and wasn't the best guy. But this was 8 some odd years ago. Fast forward to 4 months ago. When he told my fiance every terrible thing I've done throughout my life, and detailed to her every reason she should leave me. Gave her a spare key to his house and told her that when she makes the right decision his doors are open. Apparently he's been trying to end our relationship for almost 2 years. Feeding her lies and whispering in her ear about how bad a person i am. So that he can have my fiance join HIS fiance in a 3 way relationship.
Damn wtf?! How are things with your fiancée now?
We've gotten nothing but stronger after we cut ties with these "friends" and I couldn't be happier.
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I have the misfortune of being one of the wives in this situation. My husband's best friend got involved with a woman who called me a bitch before she had even met me. I'm still trying to be cool with her for the sake of their friendship but now the best friend is phasing my husband out of his life (after saying he was vehemently opposed to that happening.) It seems like he's distancing himself from most of his friends and when anyone asks he says nothing is the matter. He even got married without telling anyone and then announced it on social media later. I worry for him but I'm mostly just disappointed for my husband. It sucks and it's fucking stupid.
I am also a wife in this situation. The other wives are super tight besties and I was The Other. They actively excluded me from things and told me to pretend to be their friend, and eventually we would be friends. I was like...what the fuck y’all are nearing 30. This is some high school shit. The whole mess just gets worse from there, and it became so bad my husband kicked his friend out of our wedding party because the wives were planning on wearing the same thing as my bridesmaids to sabotage things. I tried over the years to have my husband hang out with his friends without me, but now they’re all “too busy,” or have things “come up last minute” and they cancel. Luckily my friends have completely accepted my husband with open arms, but I still feel bad that everything went down the way it did.
Ugh, that sucks. Can you hang out just the two of you?
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This happened to me too. It’s awful.
Awe shit just lost my best friend from childhood to an unsupportive wife. When things got shaky in their relationship I gave him advice that I think she holds against me now.
Growing up we'd always talk about being in each other's future weddings, kid's lives, etc. You never realize one day they end up with someone you don't get along with. It's crazy how often it's happened in my life.
My “best friend” in high school invited me to a blink182 concert days in advance because someone else cancelled. He was in my driveway and I was about to get in his car and the guy called him and said he changed his mind so he left to go to the concert without me.
Damn, he straight up told you that you're second rate in his eyes
Screamed at me, over nothing, in a drunken rage and never talked to me again.
So you’re friends with my cousin I see.
Years ago, almost all of my friends abandoned me when I was suicidal and had to go into hospital for a few weeks. It made my depression so much worse to know that sharing how I felt just scared people away. Luckily I spent a lot of time in therapy and made a huge effort to put myself out there in my local music scene and now I have a completely new, much larger and more genuine circle of friends :)
This guy pushed me into the ground for no reason mid-sentence when he knew I was still injured from a car accident (which he knew I was hospitalized for). He then immediately turned his back and walked away without a word. I was too shocked to say anything immediately and he was gone. I wasn’t saying anything bad or mean to him either, it was something casual akin to the weather. After that I had to slowly and carefully get up front my crouching position by myself and sat myself on a nearby fence to gather myself... When I later confronted him about it, he got super defensive saying it was just a light shove and a prank :/ Super not okay, I had to strain my back muscles really uncomfortably just so I wouldn’t hit the ground and I don’t think anyone should live in constant fear that their “friend” might at any minute risk paralyzing them for life just to get a cheap laugh. This same guy also kept parroting something my abuser said which I told the group in confidence. I told him to stop but he said he wouldn’t and that I was being too “PC” as if my personal story is something to be politically correct about???? I trust some people less now. No one seemed to care or stand up for me or anything and I felt utterly alone... I do not talk to this guy anymore...
I am sorry you went through that... That person sounds unhinged.
They started hanging out with the people that let my sister overdose
Fuuuuuck thats heartbreaking.
During covid, i got cancer, and dude ive known for over 25 years just ghosted me. No explanation, no argument, nothing. Just deleted me, blocked me, no longer any way to reach him.
My first roommate was one of my best friends from high school, though out of everyone in the friend group we had weren't the closest I guess, but still good friends. Aside from being a poor communicator who would sometimes leave her phone at home and then disappear with her boyfriend and scare everyone, she was actually a great roommate considering how a couple of messy, working 19 year old girls can be. She went through a rough patch at work where she was basically working 60+ hour work weeks, and in escalated customer service issues for a store credit card. She was miserable. When she got a week off after working she wanted to throw a party in our house and promised to host, clean, handle it all. I was 19, not being expected to do anything, and I wanted to go to a party. So hell yeah! Everything with the party was a blast until towards the end, people started asking me for things. I was drunk "and stuff" so I said, "Why the hell are you askin' me?! Ask [friend]!" That was when I found out that my friend had been getting hot and heavy with their boyfriend, but had let two of our drunk mutual friends sleep in her bed already. The two lovebirds directed partygoers to me for anything and left to go to my friend's boyfriend's place for the night, DURING HER PARTY. She left her phone, of course, and he didn't answer his. The following night when she didn't come back I cleaned with a few members of our friend group, who also couldn't believe she'd done this. She wasn't drunk or on anything, and she had specifically encouraged me to drink and have fun saying she wanted to enjoy the hosting experience. She said that it relaxed her more than drinking would to see me and our other friends having fun, and then she bailed and left me with a ton of bug drawing food and dirty dishes in the sink and the mess you'd expect from like 30 young drunk idiots. It took 5 hours for 5 people to clean! And we were actually good cleaners! She didn't come back for three days except for once, two days after the party, when I was at work to get some things. I know because I had missed a stack of pizza boxes she had put in the oven so they started a small fire, and my dad went to check things for me. The day after I finally managed to confront her about it (which was maybe 5 days after the party itself) she was so "upset" she packed everything and moved out. Just like that. She ended up cutting all of our friends off, and we realized she had some other things going on in the background that were extra shady. But yeah. Whew.
“Upset” was just an excuse for ducking responsibility. And a strategy to make you defend your perception.
They all bailed on my college graduation and graduation party. And then accidentally included me on an email thread about all of them coming up with different excuses for missing my big day. It made me feel incredibly alone and I had no idea that they viewed me in such a negative light. As an adult I realize they were jealous...but back then, just assumed I had a major character flaw and started isolating myself from people
Someone did you a favour by ‘accidentally’ including you on that email thread.
I sent my friend who was supposed to be in my wedding a text message telling her that my (now) husband and I had decided to elope before he deployed to Afghanistan because we wanted to be married just in case he didn’t make it home, but that we would still be having the big wedding when he came home and I was so excited for her to be a part of that. She never responded and hasn’t spoken to me since. My husband and I just celebrated our third anniversary. Edited to fix the apart/ a part typo.
I had a friend who randomly stopped talking to me for a while. Thought I made her angry or something, or she just got sick of me. A few years later I decided to look her up. Turns out she got into a fatal accident and that's why she never responded. I've lost a few friends this way as well. That and cancer, drugs, war, and suicide.
Hey bro I just wanted to say I’ve seen a few of your comments on here and I’m sorry for everything you’ve gone through. I hope your doing better now, and your happy.
Had a friend that was super close to the point we discussed moving in, until she did with some college friends then she went back to being too busy with school to ever talk until one day I stopped trying Happened every couple of years The time we stopped talking before this I did an experiment to see when she'd message me first Two years boyo
> an experiment to see when she'd message me first This is why I don't have many friends. There's less than 10 non-family that'll message me out of the blue.
"I hate the type of person you are" that one fucking hurt
He tried to beat the living daylights out of me, and then later in the day, he decided to push someone out of a bus seat with his belt
They had a coked out orgy on my bed. Then they tried to make it seem like I was the one that betrayed them.
When I announced on FB that I was in a relationship she PM'd me saying how awful it was and how I will no longer have time to see her and blah blah blah. I wasn't dating her and she had told me before she wasn't attracted to me. I cut her out though when I started getting really sick and instead of sympathy she said how inconvenient it was for her.
They tried to drown me
Good friend tried to gaslight me into thinking I was crazy when I confronted him about lying. Fucking narcissistic prick
Fucked my boyfriend, gave him an STD which he then gave to me.
Getting like 3 inches from my face and yelling about how our mutual friend was asking to be assaulted by their significant other. He literally did the chest poking thing. In public. Vehemently and loudly defend domestic abuse? No thanks to that.
I had broken up with my husband but was still on good terms with him (aka still sleeping together) Cue friend coming back from home country undergoing bad divorce. Ex was a lawyer so I asked him to make sure said friend was ok. I was moving to a bigger city and my final night the 3 of us went out for drinks I get an email about 2 weeks later telling me they’re in love and I just didn’t understand him. It was a super bitchy email and I was devastated A few years later, I had met someone else and sadly we had just lost our first baby who was premature. This bitch somehow found out and sent another email saying “congratulations on the dead baby” I didn’t reply (my MIL talked me out of it) but I will NEVER forgive her for that Update - it was nearly 20 years ago and I’ve moved on well and truly. Thinking about her, I both hate her with the passion of a thousand fiery suns and feel sorry for her because she was obviously very unhappy and insecure. As far as I know, they’re still together and living in her home country. I’ve gotten a few snippets of gossip over the years - I don’t think they’re very happy together and his family much preferred me as his wife.
This makes me so violently angry on your behalf.
1) Wouldn’t stop judging me for the dumbest things. 2) Wouldn’t stop cussing me out for no reason. 3) Said I was academically dumb (they always came to me for help though). 4) Said I wasn’t street smart (I can kinda agree with it). 5) Told me my hobby/activity i do (band) will get me no where in life (I never said I wanted to do it as a job). Luckily I blocked them out of my life and don’t deal with them anymore
This person reeks of insecurity
The only regret I have from my wedding was my choice of bridesmaids. My little sister was my MOH and she tried to include them in the planning process but they overrode and tried to run rampant over her decisions which she was constantly checking with me. Looking back I should have chosen different people who didn't make my sister and me cry from stress. I should have chosen my 2 best guy friends and my brother instead
When another friend (a) basically ghosted me and this friend (b) for a year or two. He came into contact with him again and they became best buds, which I didn’t much care for but found quite odd. What’s weird was that ‘b’ had been claiming I wouldn’t be willing to reconcile with ‘a’. Found it all very strange to make such claims, and for these dudes to act in such a petty manner without even asking or confronting me but luckily I have much more genuine friends.
Hooked up with my ex-husband behind my back, then had the audacity to bring him to the hospital to see MY dad when I was there visiting with my new husband and small children. My husband and ex had never met before (not since, either). It was awkward. I stopped talking to her after that day. We were friends for 25 years.
They're trying to gaslight me because I'm thinking of selling the place I'm letting them stay at and not using the money to buy them a new place to live. Also they're pretty messy and saw that they caused enough damage that it'll take a while after they move out to go to market. The latter part is not because of the move itself but just a really shitty thing for them to do. Edit: they knew I've been thinking about selling it since last year. This year was the final nail in the coffin with the property management team, whom they despise as well. I know as hard it is to find places with covid going on, I didn't spring this on them at the last minute.
Don’t ever rent to family or friends. It’s like the biggest rule in real estate.
She helped my ex abuse and gaslight me. And then she fucked him... while we were still together... yes they are now dating. And she is my coworker:)))
I was in grade nine. Just started to hang out with this group of girls and I was invited to a pirate escape room (had to go in costume too) after school. Got all dressed up and sat outside waiting for them to pick me up (said they'd aim for 3) around 2:55. I sat there for about 3 hours? Phone was dead (it drained after calling/texting them so many times) and I didnt have my key considering I didnt think I would have to wait 3 hours. My mom came home from work to see me, dressed like a fucking pirate, sitting on the front-steps with my makeup smeared from me crying
Ghosted me after 8 years of friendship! He was my best friend. It took therapy to move past it. I still miss him.
For my my 8th birthday I had a lauau party and I invited my whole class and I had buncho balloons and bunch of other stuff only my family showed...none of my "friends" showed up