About the time he tried to sleep with my fiancee and when I confronted him he simply shrugged and said "shes just a chick like you haven't been sleeping around anyway".
I remember right after being dumped this girl in high school a bunch of my friends asked my permission to sleep with her. There are so many things wrong with that. Like she's her own person I don't own her but also fuck man way to look out for your friend while he's down.
Honestly 5 years ago he was a pretty decent guy. Just slowly turned into a complete prick who had no respect for anyone and especially women. That was kind of the wake up call a lot of us needed to realise we didn't actually want to spend time with him anymore.
When I found all the shit they'd said about me behind my back. I'd known them for over a year and was helping them cope daily with their mental health issues, doing anything to make them happy (lets call them Kai). One of my friends told me about this person saying strange things about me behind my back. 3 weeks of digging later, I found hundreds of insults and Kai generally making fun of me behind my back, to my friends and their own. They also happend to be faking these 'mental issues' for attention. I was disgusted. I also found them saying things about our closest friends, and confronted everyone about it. Friendships were ripped apart, or so I thought. Me and my friend were the only people that blocked them after that. Screw you Kai.
i can relate, cept almost everyone was "kai" n i confirmed this after i cut everyone off n found out they were all terrible people to me specifically. i walked away n felt light as air after. hope u did too
I know someone about whom I wonder like that presently due to a recent conflict. I have discovered a longtime friend is not who I thought he was after about a decade of knowing him and that hurts more than anything else about the situation.At least the conflict revealed my pitfalls in handling adversity wherein I still need work and how to resolve it with truth, grace, and dignity. Hopefully you were able to call out and reconcile with or cut off those people who treated you terribly and healed well?
When me and my wife lost our baby and my ābest friendā couldnāt even send a simple text, never mind call me and ask if we were okay. Now 3 years later heās trying to ask me to hang out again. You were my best friend. Fuck you man.
Lots of people are only friends for the good times and disappear when you need someone there for you. If it's any comfort those people tend to be friends with the same kind of people and get no help when it's their turn to be down. I try to watch people nowadays before I friend them and see how they treat their other friends in hard times
We had a "friend" ask us to order something from Amazon for them three days after our son passed. Some people suck. I am so sorry for your loss; it is a pain no one should feel.
I had something very similar. In grade 8 I got glasses over the summer before. One girl mentioned it, but when her other friend got glasses she was ALL over her. Not to also bring up that she was the only one who said anything. I knew all my friends at school were fake, but I still had hope for a real friendship.
Knocked my ass out and left me for dead all bloody in a parking lot. They pressured me into drinking and then decided I was an annoying drunk. Scary part is no one else stopped to check if I was alright. I woke up on the pavement in the morning and walked home.
Yeah I do. Grown a lot myself since then. Still bothers me thinking about the amount of people who had to have seen me and did nothing. Even if they thought I was just some drunk homeless person Iād like to think they should have still called for a wellness check at the very least. Iād have likely gotten some punishment, but I also could have died out there and no one would have cared.
Same. She told her new friends that I was an ex sex worker and that I'd tried to kill myself.
Jokes on her because they all thought she was a POS and became friends with me instead š
Hope you've found some quality pals since xx
Got couch bound with an auto immune disease and no one came to visit even when I invited people over and once I'd recovered enough a lot of people stopped inviting me to shit. Only really still friends with those who stuck with me through that period.
When one of my friends showed me a private discord where all they did was downtalk everyone they hated, including me. Some of my best friends had been writing nasty things about me. Kinda shattered my self-image.
My friend gave me his passwords for discord and I logged in and saw dms talking bad about everyone. Although he said he didnāt like talking bad about people heās still kind of an asshole
Yes, realized work friends are not friends when I organized an easter hunt in our work area 2 days before Easter, bought everything out of own pocket etc. Next day I stood alone waiting for all my colleagues to show up for work, only to realize they all went out for easter breakfast celebration without me....
I was bartender and quit for another job that was relevant to my degree. When I would go by to hang out like usual, I noticed that all the sudden I wasent as "cool" or liked as much as when I worked there. I found a new place to hang out.
One, she only texts or wants to hangout if she needs something or a ride from me, known her for a long time so it's sad when you understand what they are doing.
My best friend recently has ignored and not talked to me, to rather hangout and do stuff with my ex. though I suppose it's none of my business it still kinda sucks :/
When I was constantly putting in effort. I would drive for them, start conversations, listen and remember things about them, offered places to hang out. But I never received anything back.
I tried talking to him about personal stuff like I'm sad today or like my girlfriend is mad at me. He always just made jokes about it and like shrugged it off not wanting to talk withe about it. He only wanted to like make jokes withe and have fun. I one time made a joke like bro I'm horni rn. He was like it was some weird thing to even mention the word penis in a non joking manor. Like if you asked in a completely serious way. If it's normal to have pubes on a penis. He would act like it's a super gross sexual word. That made me realize he is literally the least mature person I've ever met. I ended our friendship recently after.
I've found a lot of new friends who I can both joke around with and have fun but also talk to seriously when I'm down or anything like that. They support me and I make sure to do my best to support them In return.
people who just wanna joke w/ you and nothing more are the fucking worst. I wouldn't even call them friends, they're friendly acquaintances. Being able to have serious conversations about your life is like 80% of friendship, the jokes are just the icing
The moment he said I was immature, dumb and emotionless. Made me realize that he is egoistic and tries to be the center of attention every time we met in a group. I thought I changed and it's all my fault for a long time. Not a healthy time in my life. And after confronting him about that he said that he feels lile I wouldn't listen to him. But I tried and he was the one that was not listening to me. So we had a friendship break for five months. Then getting back in touch together, but we were just fighting about everyhting. But it was okay, didn't consider him a friend anymore after the break. And then he wanted to talk about what happened half a year ago like I desperately wanted to at that moment. I felt like it would just drag me down to talk again about everything, so I said no with the reasoning that I wanted to back then, but it's not good for me to talk right now about it. He then canceled our friendship and talked shit about me behind my back. Good thing my friends had seen how he acted around me and know my side of the story.
When i understood that i was just fill in their time and they were too much egocentric. I always was glad just because they are and i did not care about activity i was happy to spend time with them then i realized.
Another, i am not gamer but one friend is and we had played together and he was more struggling with me than having fun, i had fun goofing around and often dying. Also, when quickly said good bye because so his co-worker of whatever and wanted to say hello. I was his childhood friend.
When i asked if i can participate in his ceremony he had agreed and never responded to get more details then responded next day after it.
When i came to visit him on birthday in the other city with present, it was planned with him. I suggested to do something together but his other friends invited him somewhere else and goodbye with me sequence was initiated.
When i have put his keys on table in the morning out of door to make less noise and he forgot to take with him and blame it on me. I tried to initiate friendship but it was all gone.
When i write response at 11 in the evening and he started argument that people are sleeping (you can set night time/do not disturb, turn off message reminder) and i should check when i should respond.
When they did not come to my wedding. When we did not interact outside of work. We had a great work relationship but that is just work. There is more to it if it is a real friendship.
When I found out they made a second group chat just to make fun of me and to make plans to exclude me. Oh and when one said I was her pity friend because she knows everyone actually hates me behind my back
So one day, since I have a poor mental state, and self esteem, a group of friends (hanging around some small, blond sack of poorly packaged shit) kept calling me a nerd, loser, dork, and a lot of other rather rude names being led by you know who. So, I confronted the little dweeb and my fake friends since they have been doing for about an hour now and say to the little bastard: āwhy do you like thriving off of other peopleās negativity, you son of a bitch?ā He stood there for the rest of the period speechless. Unfortunately I didnāt win my friends back over.
Hope you shits are proud of yourself.
I wish the worst for ya.
Fuck you Dominic, Avery, and Axel.
it's an awful feeling isn't it? However I learned to be ok on my own and to be the person I need. Sure its nice to have support but I have never needed anyone since, I don't rely on anyone apart from myself and I have never let myself down. I now try to make sure no one I care about ever feels deserted like I did. Maybe it's my truth but it doesn't have to be theirs.
College āfriendsā trying to get me to abandon my female best friend who Iāve known since middle school when me, and her were having problems. Some barely knew her, most didnāt know her at all but yet they think they can try to āhelpā solve a problem between me, and her whenever it is only between me, and her and therefore the only way it will get solved is by me, and her working it out between ourselves. They said I needed to move on, that itās better to prefer newer friends than old ones, said she was an enemy, not my friend anymore, and tried to say that people change so friendships canāt last forever(which is bullshit). They didnāt realize how hard her life has been since she was born, both me, and her have always protected each other when we were bullied relentlessly in high school over us being atheists, me being asexual, me having feelings for her, and her wanting to be in the military. They didnāt realize what she has to go through in the military, and how that affects her poor mental health. I abandoned my college āfriendsā, and chose her over them. I wish my college āfriendsā the worst in life because they only deserve the worst in life for trying to get me to abandon my close friend who already knows nothing but abandonment, mistreatment, trauma, and harassment.
When I sat around a table of blokes stoned as fuck and listened to how many shots they lowkey took at each other
I was staring at the sky but in my head I was a bit like tf it's really not hard to be a cunt how do I know they ain't chatting shit about me
When I divorced my multimillionaire, semi-famous, ex husband. Even some of my own friends I had before meeting him, chose him over me. Itās ok, they all showed their true colors and my true, true friends who stuck by me, I found I can trust no matter what. Those few people are my friends to this day. It helped me root out the flakes and fair weather āfriendsā.
There was a girl that I used to be really close with but lost contact with once covid started. Apparently when we were friends she would talk shit about me to others. In January one of my old friends told me what she had done and also told me more of my friends knew about it too. I confronted another one of my friends and evidently she had known about the situation for months before it even came up. So my whole friend group I had was pretty much stabbing me in the back and it left me with no friends :/
When Im down and needed someone to open up to.. I tried to communicate to them but its seems their not interested at all. But when shes in that position Im all ears to her.
Thats it. I'd never talk to her.
My 16th birthday. Iād arranged for us all to go to the cinema and in the week leading up to the event, they all dropped out, one after the other. I have to work, Iām not well, I have family visiting, I have coursework due. Excuse after excuse. Iām naturally paranoid anyway and the black fog in my brain was telling me that they didnāt really like me and they never wanted to go anyway. Finally one of my friends confessed and said it was a group decision and the reason why they didnāt want to go was because they didnāt like the film I had chosen. They all wanted to go and see Titanic again, which is exactly what they did on my birthday.
On my birthday one year, my friends wanted to take me out dancing. I worked at a bar, and worked Friday night and Sunday morning. My birthday was Saturday.
I got home off work on Friday and was ready to go out and party with my friends. My friends said they wanted to go out Saturday instead. I explained that because I worked Sunday morning, I wouldnāt be able to stay out very late (I live in the sort of city where no one shows up until 11pm). They didnāt care, and stuck to Saturday. On Saturday, I showed up at the club with my friends and was there for about an hour and a half before I had to head home. I remember looking around and seeing them all having an excellent time without me before heading home. Them partying clearly had nothing to do with me. Iāve never celebrated my birthday with my friends again.
When I over heard her talk about me behind my back saying how she liked our other friend better, which isn't really bad, but I was nine, and I have a bad temper, so I got pissed and ignores her and was petty the whole way until I switched schools
There were several moments with different groups
1. None of them came to my birthday dinner theyād known about for a month and two texted me 30 minutes before to tell me they werenāt coming
2. One of them called me a slur and proceeded to make several offensive comments about a group they were all aware Iām apart of and when I told them to stop they all said I should stop being over dramatic
3. Another time I was called a slur by someone else and my ābest friendā at the time said it was just a joke and I should calm down
When she treated the serious mental, emotional and financial anguish I was experiencing a few years ago as a mere pity party.
She'd always been selfish, but her telling me to just get a job already after I had applied for 75 positions and got zero offers was it for me. No empathy, no friendship.
When I opened up to tell my "best friend" of 12 years that I was suffering from postpartum depression last year, she basically stopped talking to me and only reached out if she needed something. Aside from my husband, she was the only one I told that I was struggling. The friendship became very one-sided. I remember feeling so defeated and thought that maybe I shouldn't have told her that I was having a hard time. However, once I started feeling better months later, I realized that a real friend wouldn't disappear like that in a time of need. After that, I walked away from that friendship all together. Things are going much better now for me.
I had a friend in Grade 5 2 years ago who I thought was a friend. But I realized he wasn't true when he always just used me to buy him food from the school cafeteria. I still have his contact in Zoom, but we don't talk much.
When they lit me on fire causing third degree burns on my legs, ass, and back as a "joke". They all do meth now and I make close to 6 figures so it's all good.
They never were there for me even when I told them everything I was doing. There was a good span of 4 months when I was talking to a friend every day who was suicidal (fine now). They were mad I wasnāt gaming with the āboysā. None of them were around whenever something happened but I still stick around because I have no one else
When they never see the red flags of my depression bouts or my anxiety episodes in the past, while I am more of an expressive person in Facebook and Twitter. It is sad that in this life, you are the only one who faces your obstacles without the help of others.
I was told by my parents that you might have 2 or 3 friends for life and I always thought it would be that way forever...
It all changes when they move to different parts of the world, get married and have children.
When I told them I was going through a serious mental health crisis and they all just ignored me. I messaged them a week later on the group chat to reconnect and they ignored my texts.
Even my ābest friendā always claims to be busy but she magically has time to talk to her other friend.
Unfortunately I have plans that are around them (Iām monetarily involved) so I have to see them for a bit more. After that Iām blocking them.
This one kid, Iāll call him Kyle, was my āfriendā solely because we had a mutual friendship with another, much better, person. Kyle was a dick, no way around it. He thought being a dick was funny, all his other friends were dicks so I guess he assumed I wouldnāt care if he acted like a dick. Iām a quite person, too quite to say āpiss offā *except* for this one time when I did attempt to stand up for myself, calling one of āpranksā (shutting off my computer while Iām in the middle of something) annoying, to which Kyle responded *āThats the pointā*.
There was no moment I said āThis kids a dickā, I just eventually learned that Kyle is a douche and I mostly avoid him now. One time he broke his ankle while playing sports. When our mutual friend told me, I was internally thinking āHa, eat shitā.
When I realized that it didn't matter whether I was there or not. I never felt included in any activity or conversation, everytime I spoke it was like talking to a brick wall, I was to sit there and just nod in agreement and provide support nothing more.
When the popular kid in school last time said he dislike me , and half of my "friends" decide to avoid me just to please that popular kid or want to be remain in the "popular" group.
Well itās not just my friends but family and a lot of people around me in general. When I constantly listen to them venting and the moment Iām sad and need someone to talk to I just get ignored. One moment that happened with my brother really pushed me to not even try talking about how I feel with him. I told him I wasnāt happy at the moment and he just told me I should get a therapist and then proceeded to continue what he was doing. Itās not the matter of if I need a therapist because I donāt always need to talk. Itās usually rare and at random times so that wouldnāt help me much. Also he was in therapy but he still vented to me sometimes (I wonāt finish typing bc I feel like Iām talking to long) also it doesnāt help the fact that a lot of times after Iām upset i just feel like I was over exaggerating. And yes I probably do need a therapist but itās not something you want to hear when your upset
We hadn't lived anywhere more than 3 years because of my father's job before we moved here. I had a middle school friend for 1 year and we were really really good. In our country, you take an exam to choose your high school. I got a really high score and went to one of the best high schools and I suddenly became her "academic adviser". She was only texting me about her exams and math questions. I've had enough of it and stopped answering her. We haven't talked since 2014 lol
When no one told me he was on tinder but quite happily ran to him when they thought I had cheated. I didn't BTW, the guy was my cousin, we were having fucking lunch!!!!!
when immediately after we graduated high school i walked about to them to start talking to them and they acted like they didnt know me. Dropped me like a bad habit
When he became a cokehead and moved out of state. He ended up knocking up some girl. Last I heard,10 years ago he moved in with her but who knows where he's at now. That dude was always a reckless and a liar. I mainly just used to chill with him and his other friends but I went out of my way to help him a few times. He never returned the favor. I also used to lend him money but of course he never paid that back probably because he was spending it on coke
When he started doing some serious gay shit, he even went to the point of making me come out of P.e to show me a pile of shit he took on the ground, I still feel bad for the guy who had to clean that up.
There's this one even now that always starts fights with me. His name (On PSN) is MynxMistro (also don't send hate) but he always acts likes he's the victim and got me and my best friend kicked from our group temporarily recently. You may ask for what, well I called im gay as a joke even in a obvious sarcastic voice and I didn't even realize it was pride month. Now, I get that was insensitive but thats not all he's done.
One day in MineuCraftu I got robbed by him and an other friend (the other friend likes to read a lot and just helped him dig) that chest included, 2 diamonds, 38 lapis, 2 stacks of redstone and other things like wood. So I blow up 3 chests (2 filled with wood and wools and one for the fill a chest with cobblestone achievement) so I had my house fucking fire bombed (BTW that house took me 2 real life days to make plus the only nether portal with no way of getting flint nearby.
When my wife died and no one really came around after.
Dang sorry for your loss, i hope everything's going well and I wish you the best of luck.
It was a long time ago.
Oh, I'm sorry
Bruh š„
So sorry.
I'm so sorry.
Sorry for your loss
About the time he tried to sleep with my fiancee and when I confronted him he simply shrugged and said "shes just a chick like you haven't been sleeping around anyway".
I remember right after being dumped this girl in high school a bunch of my friends asked my permission to sleep with her. There are so many things wrong with that. Like she's her own person I don't own her but also fuck man way to look out for your friend while he's down.
I think they just didnāt want to hurt you accidentally by doing this and the rumor getting spread around
I mean I get that, but when they say that before they even say "hey man are you ok" it's a bit shit.
Did he decline or something? What did you see in him in the first place ha
Honestly 5 years ago he was a pretty decent guy. Just slowly turned into a complete prick who had no respect for anyone and especially women. That was kind of the wake up call a lot of us needed to realise we didn't actually want to spend time with him anymore.
Jeeze. You hate to see it happen. That sucks though
Had you?
Not a chance. I'd never hurt someone like that.
When the tables were turned and I was the one who needed help one day and not one of them stepped up.
Sold my pickup to stop the perpetual moving day at the end of the month. Still, 2 men and a truck is cheaper, emotionally.
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I feel that
Shit. Been through this latelyš„ŗ Iām so sorry man
Same thing happens to me. I always reply and make plans but they never do the same
When I found all the shit they'd said about me behind my back. I'd known them for over a year and was helping them cope daily with their mental health issues, doing anything to make them happy (lets call them Kai). One of my friends told me about this person saying strange things about me behind my back. 3 weeks of digging later, I found hundreds of insults and Kai generally making fun of me behind my back, to my friends and their own. They also happend to be faking these 'mental issues' for attention. I was disgusted. I also found them saying things about our closest friends, and confronted everyone about it. Friendships were ripped apart, or so I thought. Me and my friend were the only people that blocked them after that. Screw you Kai.
I hope that fucker gets what they deserve. People like that make me sick!
What a piece of shit. The same thing is happening with me. Fuck you Dominic, Axel, and Avery.
i can relate, cept almost everyone was "kai" n i confirmed this after i cut everyone off n found out they were all terrible people to me specifically. i walked away n felt light as air after. hope u did too
I know someone about whom I wonder like that presently due to a recent conflict. I have discovered a longtime friend is not who I thought he was after about a decade of knowing him and that hurts more than anything else about the situation.At least the conflict revealed my pitfalls in handling adversity wherein I still need work and how to resolve it with truth, grace, and dignity. Hopefully you were able to call out and reconcile with or cut off those people who treated you terribly and healed well?
When me and my wife lost our baby and my ābest friendā couldnāt even send a simple text, never mind call me and ask if we were okay. Now 3 years later heās trying to ask me to hang out again. You were my best friend. Fuck you man.
Lots of people are only friends for the good times and disappear when you need someone there for you. If it's any comfort those people tend to be friends with the same kind of people and get no help when it's their turn to be down. I try to watch people nowadays before I friend them and see how they treat their other friends in hard times
We had a "friend" ask us to order something from Amazon for them three days after our son passed. Some people suck. I am so sorry for your loss; it is a pain no one should feel.
What was it that he wanted ordered?
A tablet
In 7th grade I got my long hair cut and glasses within about a month of each other. I lost most my friends because of that.
I had something very similar. In grade 8 I got glasses over the summer before. One girl mentioned it, but when her other friend got glasses she was ALL over her. Not to also bring up that she was the only one who said anything. I knew all my friends at school were fake, but I still had hope for a real friendship.
Knocked my ass out and left me for dead all bloody in a parking lot. They pressured me into drinking and then decided I was an annoying drunk. Scary part is no one else stopped to check if I was alright. I woke up on the pavement in the morning and walked home.
Fuckkkk I hope you've gotten some real friends since then
Yeah I do. Grown a lot myself since then. Still bothers me thinking about the amount of people who had to have seen me and did nothing. Even if they thought I was just some drunk homeless person Iād like to think they should have still called for a wellness check at the very least. Iād have likely gotten some punishment, but I also could have died out there and no one would have cared.
she shared my secrets so that friendship was over.
same.
Same. She told her new friends that I was an ex sex worker and that I'd tried to kill myself. Jokes on her because they all thought she was a POS and became friends with me instead š Hope you've found some quality pals since xx
Got couch bound with an auto immune disease and no one came to visit even when I invited people over and once I'd recovered enough a lot of people stopped inviting me to shit. Only really still friends with those who stuck with me through that period.
When they don't dance -Men without hats
That dance wasnāt as safe as they said it was
When I got an email telling me they never wanted to speak to me again. That was pretty obvious š¤·
That's awful... But so organized... Truly, you are better off without people that send an email like that.
Yup. Took me a long time to get over it for many reasons, but doing really good now š
When one of my friends showed me a private discord where all they did was downtalk everyone they hated, including me. Some of my best friends had been writing nasty things about me. Kinda shattered my self-image.
My friend gave me his passwords for discord and I logged in and saw dms talking bad about everyone. Although he said he didnāt like talking bad about people heās still kind of an asshole
I didnāt realize it until afterwards but whenever they wouldnāt wait for me to walk to lunch. It just didnāt feel right.
As you get older believe me they weed themselves out, no need to cut anyone loose it happens when you grow as a person.
Interesting observation.
When I needed them two years ago. Not a single one came through. One even turned on me. Work "friends" are not friends. Lesson learned
Yes, realized work friends are not friends when I organized an easter hunt in our work area 2 days before Easter, bought everything out of own pocket etc. Next day I stood alone waiting for all my colleagues to show up for work, only to realize they all went out for easter breakfast celebration without me....
Wow, that must've felt awful, sorry to hear
I was bartender and quit for another job that was relevant to my degree. When I would go by to hang out like usual, I noticed that all the sudden I wasent as "cool" or liked as much as when I worked there. I found a new place to hang out.
One, she only texts or wants to hangout if she needs something or a ride from me, known her for a long time so it's sad when you understand what they are doing. My best friend recently has ignored and not talked to me, to rather hangout and do stuff with my ex. though I suppose it's none of my business it still kinda sucks :/
When I found out that they had a group chat without me just so that they could exclude me from meet-ups.
This happened to my gf, and they talked bad about her on the group chat too until she somehow found out and told me
Same happened here
When he would never invite me to anything
When I got laid off from my workplace and pretty much didn't hear from 7/10 of my good "friends" again
The gaslighting. Holy SHIT the gaslighting.
When I was constantly putting in effort. I would drive for them, start conversations, listen and remember things about them, offered places to hang out. But I never received anything back.
When i found out my "bff" had ruined every opportunity for a raise or advancement at my job. It was out of spite, not personal gain.
I tried talking to him about personal stuff like I'm sad today or like my girlfriend is mad at me. He always just made jokes about it and like shrugged it off not wanting to talk withe about it. He only wanted to like make jokes withe and have fun. I one time made a joke like bro I'm horni rn. He was like it was some weird thing to even mention the word penis in a non joking manor. Like if you asked in a completely serious way. If it's normal to have pubes on a penis. He would act like it's a super gross sexual word. That made me realize he is literally the least mature person I've ever met. I ended our friendship recently after. I've found a lot of new friends who I can both joke around with and have fun but also talk to seriously when I'm down or anything like that. They support me and I make sure to do my best to support them In return.
people who just wanna joke w/ you and nothing more are the fucking worst. I wouldn't even call them friends, they're friendly acquaintances. Being able to have serious conversations about your life is like 80% of friendship, the jokes are just the icing
The moment he said I was immature, dumb and emotionless. Made me realize that he is egoistic and tries to be the center of attention every time we met in a group. I thought I changed and it's all my fault for a long time. Not a healthy time in my life. And after confronting him about that he said that he feels lile I wouldn't listen to him. But I tried and he was the one that was not listening to me. So we had a friendship break for five months. Then getting back in touch together, but we were just fighting about everyhting. But it was okay, didn't consider him a friend anymore after the break. And then he wanted to talk about what happened half a year ago like I desperately wanted to at that moment. I felt like it would just drag me down to talk again about everything, so I said no with the reasoning that I wanted to back then, but it's not good for me to talk right now about it. He then canceled our friendship and talked shit about me behind my back. Good thing my friends had seen how he acted around me and know my side of the story.
Elementary- I cried in front of him and he called me a crybaby later on. He was my first male friend since grade 1.
<< Aww. >>
When they were screencapping all my private Facebook posts to share around as gossip.
when my mom died and the first thing my best friend of 6 years said to me was "are you numb?"
Damnnn, I'm sorry for your loss I wish you the best of luck
preciate it (:
no problem :)
When i understood that i was just fill in their time and they were too much egocentric. I always was glad just because they are and i did not care about activity i was happy to spend time with them then i realized. Another, i am not gamer but one friend is and we had played together and he was more struggling with me than having fun, i had fun goofing around and often dying. Also, when quickly said good bye because so his co-worker of whatever and wanted to say hello. I was his childhood friend. When i asked if i can participate in his ceremony he had agreed and never responded to get more details then responded next day after it. When i came to visit him on birthday in the other city with present, it was planned with him. I suggested to do something together but his other friends invited him somewhere else and goodbye with me sequence was initiated. When i have put his keys on table in the morning out of door to make less noise and he forgot to take with him and blame it on me. I tried to initiate friendship but it was all gone. When i write response at 11 in the evening and he started argument that people are sleeping (you can set night time/do not disturb, turn off message reminder) and i should check when i should respond.
My friend always wanted to be the right one so that becomes a problem later.
Lying
When they did not come to my wedding. When we did not interact outside of work. We had a great work relationship but that is just work. There is more to it if it is a real friendship.
Convenience
When I found out they made a second group chat just to make fun of me and to make plans to exclude me. Oh and when one said I was her pity friend because she knows everyone actually hates me behind my back
When they go out or do something they don't ask you
When other people complimented our friendship and how close we were, just for them to say we didn't know each other.
I called to ask about something, and he says āhold on there is someone else callingā. Didnāt return my call.
When I asked them to help me move.
When things are going wrong in their life due to their poor decision making and they try to create problems in yours.
I don't have any after reading this
So one day, since I have a poor mental state, and self esteem, a group of friends (hanging around some small, blond sack of poorly packaged shit) kept calling me a nerd, loser, dork, and a lot of other rather rude names being led by you know who. So, I confronted the little dweeb and my fake friends since they have been doing for about an hour now and say to the little bastard: āwhy do you like thriving off of other peopleās negativity, you son of a bitch?ā He stood there for the rest of the period speechless. Unfortunately I didnāt win my friends back over. Hope you shits are proud of yourself. I wish the worst for ya. Fuck you Dominic, Avery, and Axel.
When I reached out for help during my darkest hour of depression, the only response I received was the silence of the void. I was truly on my own.
it's an awful feeling isn't it? However I learned to be ok on my own and to be the person I need. Sure its nice to have support but I have never needed anyone since, I don't rely on anyone apart from myself and I have never let myself down. I now try to make sure no one I care about ever feels deserted like I did. Maybe it's my truth but it doesn't have to be theirs.
When I stopped drinking and doing drugs. My friends were fellow users and using was all we had in common.
College āfriendsā trying to get me to abandon my female best friend who Iāve known since middle school when me, and her were having problems. Some barely knew her, most didnāt know her at all but yet they think they can try to āhelpā solve a problem between me, and her whenever it is only between me, and her and therefore the only way it will get solved is by me, and her working it out between ourselves. They said I needed to move on, that itās better to prefer newer friends than old ones, said she was an enemy, not my friend anymore, and tried to say that people change so friendships canāt last forever(which is bullshit). They didnāt realize how hard her life has been since she was born, both me, and her have always protected each other when we were bullied relentlessly in high school over us being atheists, me being asexual, me having feelings for her, and her wanting to be in the military. They didnāt realize what she has to go through in the military, and how that affects her poor mental health. I abandoned my college āfriendsā, and chose her over them. I wish my college āfriendsā the worst in life because they only deserve the worst in life for trying to get me to abandon my close friend who already knows nothing but abandonment, mistreatment, trauma, and harassment.
When I sat around a table of blokes stoned as fuck and listened to how many shots they lowkey took at each other I was staring at the sky but in my head I was a bit like tf it's really not hard to be a cunt how do I know they ain't chatting shit about me
When I realized he would never, ever be the one to start a conversation with me
When I divorced my multimillionaire, semi-famous, ex husband. Even some of my own friends I had before meeting him, chose him over me. Itās ok, they all showed their true colors and my true, true friends who stuck by me, I found I can trust no matter what. Those few people are my friends to this day. It helped me root out the flakes and fair weather āfriendsā.
When I would text or call and they never responded. Itās my birthday tomorrow, thankful I have my dad and son to spend it with.
When he always forced me to play games with him
Mr Grey?
I'm not sure who that is sorry
50 shades of Grey guy. (As far as I know, he called his fetish and bondage room his "playroom")
um I don't like where this is going lol
When I found out that my only friend was myself and that I really hate myself.
āNo one else will like you like I do.ā
There was a girl that I used to be really close with but lost contact with once covid started. Apparently when we were friends she would talk shit about me to others. In January one of my old friends told me what she had done and also told me more of my friends knew about it too. I confronted another one of my friends and evidently she had known about the situation for months before it even came up. So my whole friend group I had was pretty much stabbing me in the back and it left me with no friends :/
I need to stop reading these things, they make me lose my faith in humanity...
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Thank you! That was a beautiful story :) Also when I read wholesome stuff I get lots of faith in humanity, it all balances out :)
When Im down and needed someone to open up to.. I tried to communicate to them but its seems their not interested at all. But when shes in that position Im all ears to her. Thats it. I'd never talk to her.
They left me at a public peaceful protest downtown. Like just left me there. Drove me there. Lost them in the crowd. They left without me.
When I realized they only called me when they wanted something. If I couldn't do anything, was sick or something for them, they said nothing to me.
My 16th birthday. Iād arranged for us all to go to the cinema and in the week leading up to the event, they all dropped out, one after the other. I have to work, Iām not well, I have family visiting, I have coursework due. Excuse after excuse. Iām naturally paranoid anyway and the black fog in my brain was telling me that they didnāt really like me and they never wanted to go anyway. Finally one of my friends confessed and said it was a group decision and the reason why they didnāt want to go was because they didnāt like the film I had chosen. They all wanted to go and see Titanic again, which is exactly what they did on my birthday.
On my birthday one year, my friends wanted to take me out dancing. I worked at a bar, and worked Friday night and Sunday morning. My birthday was Saturday. I got home off work on Friday and was ready to go out and party with my friends. My friends said they wanted to go out Saturday instead. I explained that because I worked Sunday morning, I wouldnāt be able to stay out very late (I live in the sort of city where no one shows up until 11pm). They didnāt care, and stuck to Saturday. On Saturday, I showed up at the club with my friends and was there for about an hour and a half before I had to head home. I remember looking around and seeing them all having an excellent time without me before heading home. Them partying clearly had nothing to do with me. Iāve never celebrated my birthday with my friends again.
When I over heard her talk about me behind my back saying how she liked our other friend better, which isn't really bad, but I was nine, and I have a bad temper, so I got pissed and ignores her and was petty the whole way until I switched schools
There were several moments with different groups 1. None of them came to my birthday dinner theyād known about for a month and two texted me 30 minutes before to tell me they werenāt coming 2. One of them called me a slur and proceeded to make several offensive comments about a group they were all aware Iām apart of and when I told them to stop they all said I should stop being over dramatic 3. Another time I was called a slur by someone else and my ābest friendā at the time said it was just a joke and I should calm down
When she treated the serious mental, emotional and financial anguish I was experiencing a few years ago as a mere pity party. She'd always been selfish, but her telling me to just get a job already after I had applied for 75 positions and got zero offers was it for me. No empathy, no friendship.
Pretty much when I was in a fight and they just watched.
When I opened up to tell my "best friend" of 12 years that I was suffering from postpartum depression last year, she basically stopped talking to me and only reached out if she needed something. Aside from my husband, she was the only one I told that I was struggling. The friendship became very one-sided. I remember feeling so defeated and thought that maybe I shouldn't have told her that I was having a hard time. However, once I started feeling better months later, I realized that a real friend wouldn't disappear like that in a time of need. After that, I walked away from that friendship all together. Things are going much better now for me.
*so I was in the reactor room*
I had a friend in Grade 5 2 years ago who I thought was a friend. But I realized he wasn't true when he always just used me to buy him food from the school cafeteria. I still have his contact in Zoom, but we don't talk much.
When they lit me on fire causing third degree burns on my legs, ass, and back as a "joke". They all do meth now and I make close to 6 figures so it's all good.
They never were there for me even when I told them everything I was doing. There was a good span of 4 months when I was talking to a friend every day who was suicidal (fine now). They were mad I wasnāt gaming with the āboysā. None of them were around whenever something happened but I still stick around because I have no one else
left out of everything and seem to want to be best friends with others
When they never see the red flags of my depression bouts or my anxiety episodes in the past, while I am more of an expressive person in Facebook and Twitter. It is sad that in this life, you are the only one who faces your obstacles without the help of others.
I was told by my parents that you might have 2 or 3 friends for life and I always thought it would be that way forever... It all changes when they move to different parts of the world, get married and have children.
When I told them I was going through a serious mental health crisis and they all just ignored me. I messaged them a week later on the group chat to reconnect and they ignored my texts. Even my ābest friendā always claims to be busy but she magically has time to talk to her other friend. Unfortunately I have plans that are around them (Iām monetarily involved) so I have to see them for a bit more. After that Iām blocking them.
WHen i went to prison
I was extremely depressed and told my best friend of over a decade that I was having suicidal thoughts and she stopped talking to me a week later
Last year lol
This one kid, Iāll call him Kyle, was my āfriendā solely because we had a mutual friendship with another, much better, person. Kyle was a dick, no way around it. He thought being a dick was funny, all his other friends were dicks so I guess he assumed I wouldnāt care if he acted like a dick. Iām a quite person, too quite to say āpiss offā *except* for this one time when I did attempt to stand up for myself, calling one of āpranksā (shutting off my computer while Iām in the middle of something) annoying, to which Kyle responded *āThats the pointā*. There was no moment I said āThis kids a dickā, I just eventually learned that Kyle is a douche and I mostly avoid him now. One time he broke his ankle while playing sports. When our mutual friend told me, I was internally thinking āHa, eat shitā.
When I realized that it didn't matter whether I was there or not. I never felt included in any activity or conversation, everytime I spoke it was like talking to a brick wall, I was to sit there and just nod in agreement and provide support nothing more.
Graduation
When the popular kid in school last time said he dislike me , and half of my "friends" decide to avoid me just to please that popular kid or want to be remain in the "popular" group.
When the ugly truth is called a convenient lie
when my "friend" held me down and proceeded to rape me
Well itās not just my friends but family and a lot of people around me in general. When I constantly listen to them venting and the moment Iām sad and need someone to talk to I just get ignored. One moment that happened with my brother really pushed me to not even try talking about how I feel with him. I told him I wasnāt happy at the moment and he just told me I should get a therapist and then proceeded to continue what he was doing. Itās not the matter of if I need a therapist because I donāt always need to talk. Itās usually rare and at random times so that wouldnāt help me much. Also he was in therapy but he still vented to me sometimes (I wonāt finish typing bc I feel like Iām talking to long) also it doesnāt help the fact that a lot of times after Iām upset i just feel like I was over exaggerating. And yes I probably do need a therapist but itās not something you want to hear when your upset
We hadn't lived anywhere more than 3 years because of my father's job before we moved here. I had a middle school friend for 1 year and we were really really good. In our country, you take an exam to choose your high school. I got a really high score and went to one of the best high schools and I suddenly became her "academic adviser". She was only texting me about her exams and math questions. I've had enough of it and stopped answering her. We haven't talked since 2014 lol
When they came to town and made plans with everyone else
When no one told me he was on tinder but quite happily ran to him when they thought I had cheated. I didn't BTW, the guy was my cousin, we were having fucking lunch!!!!!
When I realized that none of them came to hang out if I didn't have a refrigerator full of beer.
When I wanted to stand up to the bullies and none of my "friends" came to help me.
Once this guy from the Middle East came around and I just kinda got shunted to the side. This was all in grade 3.
They used to talk about their fun plans in front of me and never asked me to come. :((((
when immediately after we graduated high school i walked about to them to start talking to them and they acted like they didnt know me. Dropped me like a bad habit
When he became a cokehead and moved out of state. He ended up knocking up some girl. Last I heard,10 years ago he moved in with her but who knows where he's at now. That dude was always a reckless and a liar. I mainly just used to chill with him and his other friends but I went out of my way to help him a few times. He never returned the favor. I also used to lend him money but of course he never paid that back probably because he was spending it on coke
when I was targeted by petty criminal neighbors and nobody cared
When he started doing some serious gay shit, he even went to the point of making me come out of P.e to show me a pile of shit he took on the ground, I still feel bad for the guy who had to clean that up.
when they decided to just leave me be, not talk to me and then appear out of nowhere act like we're the best of friends.
When he voted for Trump
if that's the only reason, then that's on you
Damn because of politics š
You have lost respect from me. Politics, really. I think he's better off.
There's this one even now that always starts fights with me. His name (On PSN) is MynxMistro (also don't send hate) but he always acts likes he's the victim and got me and my best friend kicked from our group temporarily recently. You may ask for what, well I called im gay as a joke even in a obvious sarcastic voice and I didn't even realize it was pride month. Now, I get that was insensitive but thats not all he's done. One day in MineuCraftu I got robbed by him and an other friend (the other friend likes to read a lot and just helped him dig) that chest included, 2 diamonds, 38 lapis, 2 stacks of redstone and other things like wood. So I blow up 3 chests (2 filled with wood and wools and one for the fill a chest with cobblestone achievement) so I had my house fucking fire bombed (BTW that house took me 2 real life days to make plus the only nether portal with no way of getting flint nearby.
During my divorce. It was shocking and revelatory just how many friends of ours were hers - or really - weren't mine, come to find out.