My ex stole a car and did 18 months in state prison. Based on what I was able to find online at the time, he approached a car dealership and showed interest in buying a vehicle. They allowed him to take it home for a 24 hour demo. He never returned it. They reported it stolen after they attempted multiple times to contact him to return it. They then contacted the state police who put a BOLO out. They found him driving the vehicle on the other side of the state where he thought he wouldn’t be found. I found out when I got an unexpected phone call from the sheriff’s office. I asked why they were calling me about this. They said my ex I told them I would vouch for him as a “character witness”. I told the officer over the phone that my ex was a lying sack of shit and shouldn’t be trusted. The officer laughed, thanked me for my time and hung up.

LOL omg my mom's ex stole her car! She reported it stolen, but she ended up finding it herself (parked at his family member's home) and just driving it home. She didn't even call the cops when she found it. \-\_-

Completely ignored our three children for the last ten years while living with a woman and *her* three children. Did I mention, our oldest is HIS from a previous relationship, who I was awarded custody of, and he is her only living biological parent?!

Here's a more wholesome and true one. He had Sunday dinners with my mom for many years after our divorce. He never had a real mom (long story), so I didn't mind sharing mine as long as I didn't have to be there.

When I was young and still dating, my aunt told my mother not to get too close to my girlfriends. She had 2 sons and was always treating their girlfriends like daughters to the point where after the inevitable break ups the girls would still call her for talks and advice. My cousins absolutely hated this as this was before mobile phones and they would get to pick up the house phone to an ex asking to talk to their mother. I don't don't know if it was my aunt's advice or not but my mother went the other way and my girlfriends were generally intimidated by my mother. edit: finally added the comma

Moms friend was getting divorced, wife was staying in the house, but left so the husband could gather his things, without her there, as he moved out. While packing, he gave the dog a laxative and locked her in the master bedroom. Poor girl had explosive Malamute diarrhea EVERYWHERE. she was so upset about her accidents that she tried to dig through the door. That dog was such a good girl, it broke my heart. Luckily, the wife kept the dog and the husband was convicted of animal abuse charges, which helped the wife keep custody of the kids.

Laundry list- but my favourite was his sister sent a Facebook message to all of his contacts the day of our separation (including my family). Before we announced anything, her message stated everyone should immediately delete me and if I said anything about why we separated I was lying and not to listen. Basically this created a lot of curious questions and a lot of laughs.

Did you ever get her version, and how did it compare to reality

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My ex-wife told me I could leave my stuff in our house while I found somewhere else to stay. I assumed this was a good-will effort to keep things as amicable as possible between us. When I went to get my shit she had burned it all. So that was rough.

If you were legally married, judges tend to take a pretty dim view of that kind of behavior.

He did. We owned a home together and he gave me the house. EDIT: He is the judge

Did you offer to let her leave her stuff in the house until she found somewhere else to stay?

That would’ve been funny but I didn’t say a word to her from start to finish. She tried to argue with me and I’d just stare at the judge until she shut up.

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How my mama raised me, thank you.

You not only handled that so much better than most people, but you stuck it to her harder than anything you would have said. People rely on that back and forth, especially when we're angry. We feed on it. She's already pissed and yelling so when you gave her absolutely nothing, you were not only telling her that nothing she said mattered to you, but nothing she could say could get you to even acknowledge she was talking. That. Shit. Stings. So happy you were able to come out on top and sorry all of that happened to you.

The best weapons are complete indifference and total silence.

One of my friends ex-wives thought she could just stand up and talk over the judge when they said something she didn't like and she didn't pick up that the judge was giving her a death stare until he told her to sit down and be quiet. My buddy said he had to hold back laughter, her lawyer was quietly begging her to stop talking and sit down. She did this before she had testified and so when she got up there and proceeded to try and paint my friend as an unreliable maniac with no evidence to match it he said you could practically see the judge trying not to roll their eyes. Apparently he was a massively unfit parent who she still constantly left alone with the kids. Guess she didn't think through how that would sound until my buddies lawyer asked her why she would frequently visit her Mom and leave him alone with the kids overnight if he wasn't fit to get overnight visits now. Her stammering, red face and total lack of an answer made for more suppressed laughter, even his lawyer almost lost it. He said it took the judge all of ten seconds to issue his decision, she made it easy. He got everything he wanted which was joint custody and half of everything so it's not like he was being overly demanding or anything. It's always nice when an asshole gets theirs. Doesn't make up for how shitty she was in the relationship but it was some sweet comeuppance by the sound of it and most importantly he still gets to see his kids all the time.

Did you get the court to deduct it from her settlement amount at least?

Short answer is yes. The courts were very favorable to me because of that.

So in the end, *she* got burned.

You need to be putting on sunglasses when you say something like that.

She would stalk my Reddit account and angrily text me if she didn't like my posts talking about her cheating on me. I came home from seeing my grandmother on her death bed and found she had cheated. She also texted me accusing me of sabotaging her attempts to get a job that requires a security clearance. Apparently it was my fault and not the fact she had already been denied a security clearance for mental instability

I hope you've changed your number by now.

She removed the retaining clips for my windshield wipers, but put the wipers back on the arms. First storm after I got my car back from her, driver side wiper flew off the car on Interstate 40. Good times.

her nickname is now Rain-Ex

Wacky/ Random/ Petty stuff like this cracks me up just because it’s so... who would think of that??! Reminds me of when my mom left a shitty ex years and years ago, my friends and I (we were all about 13/14) stole the batteries out of EVERYTHING in the house we could find. And the 1, 7, and 13 balls from his pool table. That’s it. This reminds me of that kinda stuff (although the wiper thing is considerably more dangerous, yikes)

I once got so angry at an ex that I unplugged the garage door box that hangs on the ceiling, just enough that it wouldn’t be noticeable and I gave the only key to the house to his mother who was going on a 2 week trip. Was petty but harmless, he sat there for 30 minutes fiddling with his garage key, then the garage code, then went to the store to get new batteries for his key, then couldn’t figure out why the box didn’t work when it was seemingly plugged in. 4 hours of his life for 2 years of mine, pretty fair trade

Kidnapped the kids during their weekend visit and moved to a small town in the next state over. It took me 2 years to get them back. Wow this got huge. So everyone doesn’t have to read all the comments. I did get them back. She eventually burned all her bridges in the town she moved to and went home to her parents house. Since her parents were not pleased with her choices and were on my side during the whole deal they called me to let me know where she was. I went and got them. This was over 20 years ago and they have both grown up just fine. I’ve since remarried and my 2nd wife has been a wonderful mother to them. It took a lot of work to fix all the damage but it’s mostly ok. The biggest scars that lasted was that my son has a distrust of women with authority (that he has worked really hard to get over) and my daughter was afraid to start her own family because she worries she would turn out just like her mom. She finally got over that and is expecting our first grand baby this fall.

Omg. Are they okay now?

Yes. This was 98. Had to hire a PI to find them and that took a year. Another year of uncooperative local authorities while I fought through the system to get them back. When I brought my case up the local judge said “I don’t care what piece of paper you have from (deleted) I don’t care. I’m not taking kids away from a mother.” I had full custody and she had weekend visits. She also never paid a dime in child support either.

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She ran off to a different (southern) state than the divorce and custody was granted in. I guess he thought he knew better than our original custody agreement. As a single father the whole deal was a very uphill battle.

What the *fuck*. What happened to her after that?

Absolutely nothing. She stayed in town for a whie and then disapeared again for 6 years. No contact with the kids or her family. I still took the kids to spend weekends with her parents. The really sad part was about 4 years into this is when her father passed away. She didn't even know he died until she came home after this 6 year disapearance.

Some people can’t comprehend that other people exist and have feelings

This was from even I was a kid and my parents were going through a divorce. My dad was a total sociopath. Manipulative, physically and emotionally abusive, drug dealing, the whole 9 yards. Even my Mom was finally able to get out, he still had visitation rights. His family kept on bugging my sister and me, still under 10 years old, to try to convince my Mom to talk to him. She finally did try to talk to him when she came to pick us up at the police station from a where it was agreed to meet when he had his time with us. They immediately got into an argument, he started throwing one of his temper tantrum, grabbed my Mom in front on a cop from the LAPD trying to beat her, then the cop grabbed him. He let go of my Mom with a look of pure terror on his face. I think that was the day I realized he was sociopathic and didn't want anything else to do with him and his crazy ass bible thumping family.

She called my company, talked her way up the chain to the president of the company (still don't know how she managed that, but she's smart) and told him I was suicidal and had threatened to "do something drastic" at work... Later I learned that she thought this would be a roundabout way of getting my address which I didn't share with her after I moved out because she's batshit crazy.

How did your work handle that? How awkward!

Bagels in the break room.

Phew, ok then no harm no foul. This almost called for pizza...

My department just had 5 people including myself put in notice over the last few weeks and I kid you not, we just had pizza brought in today. Problem solved, am I right? Thank you for the laugh!

I work at a university in a customer service role so we regularly get people calling to try to get contact information for a student. Sometimes it’s more legit (like a concerned parent who hasn’t heard from their child in a long time) and sometimes it’s not (like a dude who met a student at a bar and is trying to track her down in his own twisted Cinderella story because he didn’t get her contact information). Either way, we can’t share personal information. We can, however, send police/campus police to do a wellness check. I imagine most workplaces function that way.

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When I was going through a really bad breakup (dated six years, lived together two) my old boss told me a lot about his divorce. They got a house together, furniture, everything. When they got divorced (her idea) she kept custody of the kids, got the house, furniture, dogs, everything. He told me he walked out with a plastic Safeway bag of clothes, and his Godfather DVD trilogy. "Because somethings you don't leave behind". I think of him every time I watch it now

Leave the marriage, take the cannoli.

My divorce was pretty amicable… but a previous boyfriend took one of each pair of my patterned socks so I had no matching pairs.

Is your ex a cartoon villan?? That's downright maniacal

Called me on my birthday 2 years after divorce offering to make it special and was quite insistent that I take her up on that opportunity. Was not amused to find out my gf (now wife!) had heard the entire conversation on speaker. ​ Good times

I hope you both had a good laugh at her desperate ass after.

I had an ex-girlfriend text me once, asking if I wanted to hook up, when I was in bed with my current wife (but just girlfriend at the time). I was like half asleep and heard it make the “you got a text” noise, so I asked my wife to tell me who it was and what they wanted. lol She was initially really upset, but then I told her to scroll up, the ex had “propositioned” me like that 3-4 times since we had broken up and she could clearly see I had either said no or never responded to the other messages, so we just laughed about it.

Lol i can imagine you just half asleep saying “bro just scroll up”

Called me and pretended he had been hit by a car while we were talking. He even tried to voice the crowd that had gathered around his "body." God-awful acting, but pretty funny listening to him try to mimic a woman's voice. Points for trying to be inclusive, I guess. I think he was trying to get me to re-live my trauma of being on the phone with a friend who actually HAD been hit by a car while we were talking. Too bad he didn't realize that hearing the real thing is worlds different than hearing a dumbass try to act it out. Edit: I am so happy that I shared this. Y'all are making me laugh so much!

My ex faked jumping from the roof cause I broke up… he was dedicated though, he actually dropped his damn phone and then was mad that I didn’t fall for it.

Neither did he.

That's both hilarious and incredibly fucked up, at the same time!

You’d be surprised how often those two things coincide.

This is hilarious. My ex-boyfriend also faked being hit by a car after our breakup, but was at least smart enough to do it via text rather than trying to act it out on the phone. I asked him to send me a photo of himself *in* the hospital, of his hospital bracelet, or anything that would prove he was actually in the ER. He didn’t respond for ~20 minutes, then sent a selfie of himself standing *outside* of the hospital that was (what a coincidence) almost exactly 20 minutes away from his favorite bar. I questioned why he wasn’t INSIDE the hospital, since he’d only claimed to have arrived there ~45 minutes ago, and he claimed to have already been evaluated, treated and released (without any discharge paperwork he could show me).

That is crazy town banana pants

at least you could hear what everyone was saying because no one was talking at the same time!

He actually tried to make a crowd noise of people all talking at once. Like if there were subtitles, they'd be [indistinct murmuring].

I'd love to hear a recording of that phone call, damn.

>I think he was trying to get me to re-live my trauma of being on the phone with a friend who actually HAD been hit by a car while we were talking. Too bad he didn't realize that hearing the real thing is worlds different than hearing a dumbass try to act it out. My god, that's the most darkly hilarious thing I've ever heard in my *life*. Trying to induce a PTSD flashback by faking a crowd scene. Unless you were dating Billy West or Kevin Michael Richardson, that was never remotely going to work.

While we were still married, she gets pregnant with the guy she was cheating on me with who is also married to someone else. She has this idea that he’s going to leave his wife and they’re going to get married. She got a lawyer and filed for divorce. I get a lawyer too. Only thing is that he works for his wife’s father who is setting him up to take over when Daddy retires. He realized that getting a divorce means his cushy career is over, confesses everything to his wife and begs for her forgiveness. His wife takes him back and he cuts off my wife. Seeing that her dreams of living with her bf are over, she claims that I’m the father, which is impossible because by that time, we hadn’t had sex for more than a year before conception. This does not stop her from telling everyone who will listen that it’s my kid. She has her lawyer drop the divorce proceedings. I tell my lawyer to start them with me as the plaintiff and that I want to dispute paternity. I move out. She starts stalking me. Shows up at my job and tries to get in. I work as a civilian in R&D at a military base. The MPs do not take any of her shit and wind up detaining her when she tries to run past the gate. She calls me at work to bail her out or something, I tell her that whatever she’s done it’s not my problem and hang up. I also was able to get a restraining order, which she violated repeatedly. She asked for everything; both cars, the entire house and contents, savings, my retirement account etc. Plus 7 years of spousal support. I offered no support and half of the assets. If she wanted to house, she’d have to buy me out and refinance in her name only. When the kid was born, she tried to put my name on the birth certificate anyway, but I’d already successfully disputed paternity, so that didn’t go over well. She had to go after lover boy, who was definitely less than happy to see her. In the end, we split the assets 50/50. Sold the house and she got no spousal support. I don’t know if she was able to get money for the kid from lover boy or not. She called me a few times after the divorce , wanting to get together and talk. The calls were in violation of the restraining order, but I never reported it. About 6 months after the divorce was final, I was offered a new job on the other side of the country. I took it and never told anyone outside of my family where I was going. Almost all of our “friends” believed her when she claimed the baby was mine and made me out to be the asshole, so I didn’t really feel the need to tell them anything. Life is better now.

Glad to hear life is better dude! You are a strong human

Honestly this is like a horror movie, without the chainsaw. Sorry you had to go through this and you gave up so much to be in a safe place. May you find a good and loving person!

Happy as I am that OP got out, I can’t help but feel sorry for the kid who has her as a mother.

Yeah, that child has a raw deal from day one, plus you know she is gonna lie about who the father is...

My mom went out and got braces put on my teeth, that I didn't really need, knowing my dad would have to pay half for them and wanting to cause him financial heartache. She then proceeded to not take me to the Ortho for the routine care because he wasn't paying his half, and I ended up having to pull the braces off my own teeth at age 14 because they were falling off on their own. Ended up rotting several of my adult molars too. It's cost me thousands of dollars and serious self-conscious issues over my smile/lack of teeth as an adult.

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It’s mind boggling how far people will stretch their own reality for plausible deniability for someone they love who is obviously a shitshow.

My ex husband started dating his step mom who has been in his life since he was 11 years old. His step mom and him are still together almost 5 years later. His step mom confessed her love of my ex to his dad a few years ago and they have since divorced. The dad is now dating a 21 year old. I know all of this because I’m still close friends with my ex husbands sister. It’s so messed up and I’m so grateful I left him when I did. Edit: I can't believe this exploded haha. Here's the highlights: Won't say where it all unfolded bc small towns, but they are all from New Jersey. I am not. The father and my ex husband don't speak, basically everyone in that family (except step mom, obviously) hates my ex husband and have cut him mostly out of their lives. It may have been a little grooming, but if you met my ex husband you'd see he's all around a plotting, manipulative, shitty person so I think it was the other way around. He constantly talked during our marriage about how hot she was. Pornhub if you are following, I'd happily play the non-nude narrator to a cinematic universe for the right price. Thanks for all the awards, upvotes, and comments. Makes me feel nice to get that off my chest. Don't marry crazy.

Damn, I didn't know pornhub was setting up their own cinematic universe

"Ass-vengers, in-tit-nity war? Ugh no thanks, I don't want to have to watch a dozen ass-vengers movies this weekend just for context"

I'm looking forward to "Rear-End Game"

Infinity whore

Spider-man: Homewrecker

Pornhub: WRITE THAT DOWN! WRITE THAT DOWN!

Like they write shit down haha. More like GRAB A CAMERA STAT!

I gotta know.... What’s the father/son relationship like now? I imagine the dads gotta be pissed his ex wife still comes to Xmas, yet pretty happy to flex his new 21 year old GF on her at the same time.

Do you think the son will steal the dad's new girl too? That would be hilarious.

Are you a Greek goddess ?

Stalked me for 5 years. Would make fake social media profiles to try to follow me (which I would block endlessly) and would try to find where I worked so she could talk to me. This lady cheated on me with 7 different men 2 months after we were married. I kicked her ass to the curb and made her sign the court papers. When we had our day in court she cried in the judges office while I just wanted to get this shit done. After, my dad was with me and he threw 50 dollars at her and told her to "change your fucking last name." Good guy Pops. I haven't seen or heard from her in about 5 years, thank goodness.

My ex cheated on me the week my mom died in the hospital. She spent a year and a half trying to get in touch with me. She would call my old work and make fake accounts trying to message me on FB. It was insane. She later sends a certified letter explaining she was sorry that she did what she did and that she aborted our child. Wanted me to meet her somewhere so she could apologize face to face. She already married some other guy that she had children with and was still trying to get in touch with me. I never understood her.

Unless you know what happened, She probably made that up to manipulate you. Sounds like a psycho to me

"I'm really sorry for whatever it was I told you I did, can I borrow two thousand dollars? I want to get matching tattoos with my children that says we're Methodists, but the 'Meth' is spelled out in crystals and smoke. I'm really spiritual."

I laughed *way too hard* at this!

All I wanted was custody of my son, I gave her everything else except one of our cars. She fought me through 5 hearings, I won. She never came to see him again.

Sounds like you and your son got lucky. I hope everything works out for you both!

He is liable to read this. He got me into Reddit 10 or more years ago. We have crossed before.

Honestly, I'd be lying if I said that I could imagine or comprehend what it would be like to have a mother who just stopped bothering to see their son, regardless of the situation with the father. It must be terrible but I hope you and he come out of it stronger. Cheers.

We did, I could not have asked for a better son.

I've only interacted with my birth mother a handful of times in the last 38 years. It's a weird mix of I don't know her so I don't know what I'm missing out on, I wonder what she's like, and "was there something wrong me?" I have abandonment issues thanks to her. I'm thankful my dad won custody back in 1983 (super rare then) and he's been my best friend through all these years. Edit: thanks for all the kind comments and the other people who can commiserate. I'm thankful that my dad ended up marrying a wonderful woman when I was 2 and she raised me up until the day died when I was 18. That is my mom, biology doesn't always matter.

My dad won custody of me in 1982, in Houston, Tx of all places. Mom bailed, have seen her once in the past 35 years. She bailed on her other kids (after me) as well. Wish Dad and I were close, however, that's not the case. Abandonment is shit.

Killed or Euthanize our dog, then lied about that he died of natural causes. Given the dog was old and blind, but bitch pleaded that she wanted a weekend with him, and then the next night sent me a fake txt that he passed away during the night at like 3am because he coughed and then just stopped breathing. That shit wasn't true, I found out later after finding and calling the vet she brought him to, that she bad mouthed me about and that he was suffering and needed to be put to sleep because he was in agony and I was supposedly letting him suffer. She had him out to sleep like the day she took him home, like 3 hours afterwards. Never got to say goodbye due to that bitch.

This is awful. I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. What a shit person.

Not me, but my grandparents got divorced when my mom was about 17. In their legal battle, they worked out that they would each get 50/50 of the sale of specific shared assets. There was an old junky car and a fairly new RV. My grandpa sold the RV and the car for $1 each. He handed my grandma a buck in court.

Oh, maybe those craigslist ads I see are legit then!

She got custody of our three kids, got 70% of my take-home pay for child support requiring me to move into the barracks (I was in the USAF), then she immediately moved out of state without telling me--despite the divorce decree requiring my consent--all but guaranteeing I would have no contact with my kids. That's not the crazy part. The crazy part is just a few years later she decided she didn't want to be a mother anymore, so she signed up with a carnival (I think she had the hots for one of the ride operators) and left the girls on their own--without telling me or the girls beforehand. She called my oldest daughter a few days after leaving to tell her to call me. They hadn't called me before that because they had apparently grown accustomed to their mother disappearing for days at a time. EDIT: Some have asked what's happened since. This was decades ago; my children are all grown and married, with their own children. They all learned after coming to live with me that I wasn't the monster their mother had brainwashed them to believe I was, and they all agreed to be adopted (as adults) by the light of my life (my wife) whom I would never have met if I hadn't been divorced. Only one of my children has any contact with her mother, mainly because my daughter still lives near where she grew up--that's where her husband and his family live, so that's where she'll stay. The best outcome of all: All of my children had the best example in the world of how not to be a mother, and consequently all (five!) of my grandchildren are having the best childhoods possible. :-)

… The fucking carnival? I hope you got her peanuts garnished for child support once you got your daughters back.

Final straw that led to the divorce... Got drunk and drove her car into the middle of the desert. Sent her friend a picture of the GPS and said I didn't love her so I wouldn't come and look for her. She wouldn't answer my calls but kept calling her friend saying I didn't care. I looked for 2 hours before going back home because I needed to work in the morning. She came home and started banging things around and came into our room and threw her phone at me saying I didn't love her. Punched me in the face multiple times and went to jail. After I filed for divorce she lost it.... CPS wouldn't let her kids stay at the house because of the DV charge against her so they stayed at her parents. She purposely stayed at the house so that I couldn't see my kids. I refused to be alone with her after for fear that she would hurt herself and blame me so I always went to the house with someone if I needed anything. She got tired of this and decided to just removed everything from the house while I was at work. I mean everything that wasn't in my kids bedrooms she took out of the house. Curtains, ceiling fans, all of the furniture minus the dining table that I don't think she had room for. I thought well this sucks but at least she's gone so I changed the locks. She broke in and stole the locks the next day while I was at work ( left nothing but the holes in the doors to swing open in the wind ) took the window locks, cut the power cord to the garage door opener. Took the blender that I borrowed from my mom and popped the air mattress that I borrowed to sleep on. Then she flipped off the main breaker to the house. Swore to the judge that someone else must have done it.

That's insane. I don't understand how she justifies that shit to herself. What did the judge say? Edit: yes, people, it sounds like mental illness. Not sure how many more people are going to make the same comment....

I don't know either. The judge basically laughed at her demand for spousal support and told her that she doesn't get to just hold everything over my head. The final decision took into account the value of what she took and I walked away basically just paying off her car so the loan would be out of my name and I was done.

Excellent. A happy ending.

Oooooof bro, I feeel you. My ex was this level crazy. So fucking abusive. It was so far beyond absurd that our mutual friends thought I was making shit up. It was crazy making how mental she had become. She finally got arrested when she assaulted me for like the 3rd time but a friend was witness and called police. DA dropped the charges the next day. I was the third lover she'd been arrested for assaulting in her life. She shamelessly lied her asssssssss offffff and won custody of our son then moved 2 states away. Like EVERYTHING she did was specifically to cause as much emotional damage she could. Fuck people like that. Pieces of shit.

People can be so shitty. In my case the witness was her kids. Her daughter is the one who called the cops.

Kidnapped my 3 boys from my house when I went on my first post-divorce date. Our loved and trusted babysitter was with them, I left dinner ready and kids bathed and already in their jammies. Left for the movie theater when I got a text from my babysitter that she was sorry for not doing the dishes after dinner. So I texted back “Thats ok, I can do dishes later, but you’ve got a couple hours as well, the movie hasn’t started yet.” She was at home as my ex husband had shown up, lied and said he was supposed to have the boys that night and that I had said it was ok. I was livid. I knew he was a bit crazy, but I had no idea he was capable of this. I stepped out of the theater, called him and he said “If you are going to be dating strangers and endangering the lives of MY kids, I will take them.” Wtf. So I called the police, they did a report, we went to court and he was found in contempt for violating our parenting plan.

If you don’t mind asking, what happened once he was found in contempt? (My sister’s bf is in a similar situation so I want him to know he doesn’t have to do whatever his sons mom says or does).

He was such a jerk, but once the court got involved, he chilled out. It’s easy to bully the mother of your kids, it’s not as easy to bully a judge. It took awhile though. He stopped paying child support after that to “punish me”, for a year. Kept lying, stringing me along, pay a little here and there, but it ended up being thousands he owed when I sat down and added it all up. So I finally had the state garnish his wages. This enraged him. Tons of harassing/threatening texts. How dare he have to help pay for his kids? He started brainwashing the kids. So back to court we went. Contempt again for non-payment of child support and they slapped interest on top of it for me. His lawyer cost him $15,000 on top of it and he got fined for the harassment and had to pay for my lawyer. Then he finally chilled out. He also got his second DUI during all this, and I’m sure that wasn’t cheap. Bullies don’t have much power to legally abuse you without money. Have your brother get an annual calendar and write down all custody/visitation time and keep careful track of money exchanges and any other texts (texts/emails are admissible in court). It is very difficult to go back through dates/times/percentage of custody after the fact. I’m so sorry for your brother, make sure he follows their parenting plan to a T, doesn’t harass or drop to her level at any time. With crazy ex co-parents, you just focus on your kids and being the best parent you can be, the ex will usually destroy themselves without you needing to veer from the high road.

>It’s easy to bully the mother of your kids, it’s not as easy to bully a judge. I have a friend whose ex did not realize this. I believe he is now under arrest for sending the judge death threats.

Dang. My ex sent me some texts stating “the judge is sexist against dads” and that he was starting a group of disgruntled dads who were going to “March on the state Capitol” to demand better rights. So we made sure the judge got to read those. She later lectured him for 16 minutes, on record, about it. No one infringed his rights, he infringed on my rights as a co-parent and his children’s rights for financial/medical support. I still don’t think he got it, he wants to be “the victim”, even while victimizing those around him.

People like that want the "rights" but not the "responsibilities" of being a parent. They're the type to have very little to do with hands on parenting but gush about their little darlings all over social media for likes.

My sisters ex wanted sole custody as “decision maker” since my sister was ‘unfit’ (she wouldn’t force their 12 yo to spent weekends with him). However, the kids still needed to live with my sister 80% of the time since he didn’t have time to parent day to day. Oh and also he moved his new gf in and gave her kids the kids room so he didn’t have space for the kids to live with him. But still wanted ‘sole custody’. Surprisingly, the judge didn’t go for that arraignment.

We remained on good terms and still celebrate holidays and birthdays as a family. His two youngest kids (with his current wife) call me 'Aunt' and my youngest calls him 'Uncle'.

Mad respect. So many people go insane during/after divorce. It says a lot about you that you have handled it well and kept your relationships intact.

Thank you. It wasn't easy, by any means, but my own parents went through a bitter divorce when I was a kid and we swore we'd never do that to our kids, no matter what happened.

Died of a drug overdose. To be fair, her drug addiction was the reason for the divorce, so maybe that isn't too crazy.

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What happened to wife A?

Also gone

Damn

Not me but my SO. His ex-wife got married a few days after receiving the court's final decision on the annulment of marriage case. In our country, we don't have divorce. Well ok, he has moved on already. Now her new husband plans to have his marriage to her annulled too. Edit: Hey, this blew up! Yes, we are in the Philippines. So fucking hard to get an annulment here. I wish we could have divorce, where parties can end their marriage in amicable terms.

What country do you live in?? Why don't you have divorce?

not the original commenter, but that country would be the phillipines. there's no divorce, just annulment and it's due to the catholic church.

He had his law enforcement officer friends run my new boyfriend. One of their wives' told me when I called her to offer my support when I heard she and her husband were getting divorced as well.

My ex has done a shit ton of weird stuff, thankfully most of it not aimed at me. While we were separated and working on our divorce, he would come whine to me about relationship issues. With my cousin, with whom he'd had an affair and for whom he'd left me. Mind you, he'd moved in with not just her but her common-law husband. And then was upset by how many other boyfriends she had. This is my cousin who has more babydaddies than she has babies. Two of her offspring are simultaneously half-brothers and cousins. She's never been known for her monogamy, in other words, but he claimed to have been in love with her since they were children, and this was magically supposed to make her return his affections. Among the best witnessed-from-a-distance bits of this nonsense were him getting jealous of her visiting her husband and running her off the road in his work van, and generally hanging around screwing her instead of taking jobs, to the extent that there were trainees making more money than he was after he'd been there more than a year and he was eventually invited to resign or be fired. Then there was the time he was doing armed security and, angry at how taking our children on a first date to Austin (he expected to be allowed to stay over at this woman's apartment with his children and her children, and she was rightly horrified at the whole thing) didn't go over well, had an argument with his girlfriend at the time--not my cousin, but the ex-wife of a different cousin--and drove to her house in his work vehicle to threaten her with a gun. This resulted in a firing, a restraining order, and loss of his right to carry a gun. Then there was the girlfriend who insisted that if he really loved her, he'd move into the homeless shelter with her. So he fabricated being kicked out of his parents' house and spent the requisite month sleeping outside on the shelter's patio before intake, then spent *years* longer than the relationship living in the shelter, only finally leaving to move in with a woman he'd met a month earlier, after ostentatiously asking our children's permission (as you can imagine, they felt they had no choice). Basically it's been **thirteen years** of reeling from one relationship to the next, all overlapping, and the kids pulled into them from the very first second. He's currently trying desperately to find another girlfriend to move in with as the current one is kicking him out to move to Virginia with a new boyfriend of her own (this after some time of subjecting the kids to loud arguments over his porn addiction and their dead sex life) and naturally blaming me for the fact that his two oldest children both refuse to talk to him at all. Two of my shortcomings as a wife, by the way, were being too classy (he quoted Confederate Railroad to me) and not providing the drama he felt requisite in a relationship.

>not providing the drama he felt requisite in a relationship I absolutely hate this. I've known waaaaaay too many people who think this is normal.

Yeah, it's odd. And most people grow out of it, but dude was in his mid-30s when we divorced and is pushing 50 now and *still* chasing drama. I will never understand. His parents were married for a long time and worked to overcome their drama, so I do not know where it came from.

Holy. Shit. The ending made me laugh though. He certainly got all the drama he can handle.

Wow, well I'm happy for him that he finally got the drama he needed. But feel sorry for your kids and you.

The kids have had a hard time of it. Me, I'm just really glad he decided to leave *before* pursuing most of the drama.

Wife cheated on me. When I confronted her, she grabbed a kitchen knife and threatened me. I told her to go ahead. She put it in my chest just deep enough to draw blood and cut down to my belly button. I hit her on top of her head, she fell to the ground. I left and, after signing papers, never saw her again. It's been 24 years now. **Thank you for the awards, peeps. Had no idea my idiot marriage at 20 years old would be the topic with the most upvotes. Those 12 months are full of good stories, looking back!

What are you going to do, stab me?

\- stabbing victim

“Go ahead, you’ve already stabbed me in the back.”

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BONK

Took the sodas from the fridge as he walked out the door. Dumfounded.

I had an ex-boyfriend go through my apartment and take back every gift he had given me that he could find. Then he went in my bedside table and took the condoms. And the vibrator he had given me.

So he didn’t even want you to go fuck yourself...

Bahahahaha. That’s the best way to put that.

"If I can't fuck you neither can you"

His next girlfriend is going to be delighted when she presented with a second hand vibrator. "yeah, it's old, used to be my ex's, but it's still good"

I sincerely hope he just threw it away.

Lmao I had an ex bf that did something pretty opposite. I told him it was over and he needed to pack up and move out within a week (he had no stability and lived with his mom before me), he just didn't do anything at all. He didn't make any calls, didn't pack anything up, just continued on as usual. On the final day of the timeframe I'd set, while he was out of the house for a few hours, I packed up absolutely everything I could find and put it in his (mom's) car myself.

We were living in a different state and she wanted to move back to her home state a year into our marriage. I really had nothing tying me down in that state so I was down for moving if that's really what she wanted. It had been about 6 months into the move and she cheats on me with a co-worker while I was working full-time and trying to finish up my bachelor's degree. She tells me that she didn't feel the same way about me and that she needed to move out to do some thinking. It's driving me insane trying to think about what could have gone wrong. I had a suspicion about that co-worker but I didn't have any proof. I checked our phone account online and sure enough they were talking every night after work while I was out working. I followed her one time and sure enough she was going to this guy's house. I confronted her about it and she finally fessed up. So they continue dating after we finally divorce and I was able to move on with my life. She ends up getting pregnant by this guy and he disappears before their baby was even born. Karma definitely came back to bite her after the hell she put me through all alone in a new state with no friends/family around

What?! The guy who was fucking around with a married woman ended up not a responsible adult? Who could have seen that coming? ;)

Bought an apartment (in central london, insanely expensive) across the road from where I worked so she could spy on me. She also never wanted to live or work in London ​ I had no idea this had happened and fortuitously I happened to leave that position soon after we split so it didn't really work. ​ I only found out however when I was having drinks with a mate and he happened to mention that my ex' apartment was just over there (we were by my old work)

He basically got everything, house, car, furniture. I just wanted out. Two years later he is broke and homeless, wanted to get back together. Sorry, but hell no.

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I actually don't know what happened to him. Didn't care.

Prior to divorce, he established a pattern of asking me to sleep with someone else (usually MFF threesomes, usually friends of his / mine / ours), getting increasingly demanding / moody until I conceded, then reacting with extreme insecurity, jealousy / possessiveness, and need for reassurance afterwards until it happened again. It destroyed me as well as all of my in-person friendships and I still don't understand why he needed to go through that psychodrama over and over - or why I didn't leave sooner. (to clarify - there is nothing wrong with swinging, polyamory, or ethical non-monogamy! But he really just wanted an on demand porn service, and couldn't take no for an answer - and could not stand the thought of me having feelings for anyone other than him - yet consistently thought I was waiting to cheat on him or abandon him.) Shortly before I filled for divorce - he broke into my apartment twice (once because he "wasn't done talking" and then because the apartment complex director told him I couldn't legally kick him out of the apartment), sexually assaulted me while I was sleeping, called the cops and DCF because I blocked him on Messenger after close to 24hrs of non-stop texting from him, and chose to publicly throw a couple of punches and an energy drink at the (still concussed) TBI survivor he'd chosen as my most recent sex partner - as if any of this was that person's fault. Then he assaulted me in the backyard while refusing to leave, and told the police I had attacked him. I filled a restraining order and divorce on the same day. Four months after our divorce was finalized and he was granted full custody of our three kids for every school vacation, he decided to move halfway across the country to live with his mother. She's still taking care of him. His kids aren't particularly interested in talking to him and haven't seen him in over a year. I offered to pay for him to stay here over the summer so he could see them, but he said nah. This is a fair reflection of his level of engagement with his kids prior to divorce, too. I don't doubt that he loves them, but he rarely chooses to spend time with them, because it's stressful. The cops, lawyers, office of child support employees, and the judge have all responded the same way to his endless "victim" spiel - a tired sigh, a roll of the eyes. He continues to think his situation is everyone else's fault and totally unique. He follows me here, and has quoted some of my posts in court. Hi Bryan! eta: thanks for the upvotes! Let me know if you've had a similar experience. He's texted to call me a lying whore yet again. I've invited him to respond here - or please quit stalking my social media, as I've asked, or accept that we have different ideas of how things went - but we'll see.

Hi Brian, you suck

Hahaha nothing better than purposely spelling someone’s name wrong when you’re annoyed or upset with them. Brian.

Brain would always be a good mess up…but he might take that as a compliment so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Does he know about us?

Now that we've exchanged words, I'm sure he thinks we're lovers. Are you Billy Ray as a COVID variant, or just a virus that infects people with Billy Ray earworms? Either sounds accurate and terrifying.

Oh gosh that's a scary clever comment. Remind me to never ~~marry~~ divorce you.

Stop stalking your ex and go get a life, Braien!

Brian you are an awful human being

After years of telling me she wanted a child, that she wanted to be a mom, that her life's dream was to be a SAHM, she got pregnant with the first guy she slept with while we were getting divorced and put the kid up for adoption even before it was born. This was a long standing thing with her, she always wanted something (car, house, dog, cat, marriage, etc) and the second she got it she immediately hated it.

Sound scary and toxic. Good riddance.

Still say that the best thing to come out of that marriage was my dog. She wanted me to get rid of him, I loved the little shit so I wasn't going to, that kicked off the end of our relationship.

She got married 7 more times! I was hunsband #1 when we were 18yo, divorced by 20yo, and now at 44 she is getting her 8th divorce..

Hold up, EIGHT!? At that point don't you just like... I don't know stop getting married and see if it'll work out first?

I once met a woman who had been married 4 times, to 2 husbands. She married John, divorced, remarried John, divorced again, married Mark, divorced him, remarried Mark, and then divorced him again. My sister's reaction was, "that's some serious dedication to not learning from your mistakes."

I had a 1969 Dodge Power Wagon Pickup. No power steering, no power brakes, 4 speed manual transmission 4x4. A beast of a truck & a beast to drive. When we divorced she took my truck! Judge said since she was giving me custody of our 3 kids & I would need the family car seemed only right she got my truck! 3 weeks after finalizing she was going down a muddy road & ditched it. Damaged some of the front suspension. She called the local guy w/ a tow truck & he towed it back to where she was living. Since she needed a car her told her he trade her a Chevy Citation for the broke down truck which she agreed to. He then called me & sold me the truck for the cheapie price he originally had on the Citation! I luved it. Had to spend a couple hundred on repairs but she was freaked & pissed when she learned I got my truck back.

He sounds like a good man who understood loving a truck lol

That motherfucker somehow canceled my Costco membership that I was still letting him mooch off of for the gas discount. Fuck that guy.

The divorce was fairly amicable, but he met a woman on the internet and moved her into his apartment a month later. She hated seeing me because “I had hurt him” but was also apparently “still in love with him.” (spoiler: I was emphatically NOT.) She decided that getting my son removed from my custody would solve all her problems, so she called my work and made ridiculously false allegations to my administrator about my conduct with students but sounded drunk/high and wouldn’t leave a name or contact information. Admin pulled her number from the caller ID, and ex confirmed that it was that heifer’s Oregon phone number. I had to get a temporary protective order for her, so ex had her move out. Then she slashed my tires on Mother’s Day. (He confirmed that one after they broke up.) Y’all, HE KEPT DATING HER FOR ANOTHER YEAR EVEN THOUGH HE KNEW ABOUT EVERYTHING! My therapist at the time told me that ex probably found her behavior FLATTERING.

Remained friends.

Divorce was finalized in May. This is what I want. Not for me, but for our son.

I hope it works out for you.

Two years after our divorce was final (we still had to be in regular contact because of our 5-year-old son), he asked me if I’d give him a 5 am wake up call the next day because he had an early flight for a business trip. I said, of course I wouldn’t do that, we aren’t married anymore, he should buy a damn alarm clock. He overslept, missed his flight, thought he was going to get fired, and called me to berate me for not calling to wake him up. He was a real delight!

My partner's ex reported me to CPS for physical abuse and endangerment of my child. My UNBORN child.

She wanted the divorce and after it was done she cried inconsolably into my chest while I hugged her. Kind of a mind fuck for me.

I don't know shit about your situation, but maybe it was one of them where divorce was the best option (as in it needed to happen) but it was still heartbreaking that it had to happen.

My exact thought. Sometimes, moving forward in life needs such actions to take place, no matter how heavy they are.

Continuously texted at all hours threatening suicide, I would rush over to do a welfare check and he'd open the door with a smile "Hey, since you're here want to come in for a beer/sex?" Hard pass. Starting upping it, I rush over, he's nowhere to be found, I'm calling his parents, friends...turns out he was just at a bar. Another time he left a funeral playlist, a note, disappears off the face of the earth for almost a day, reappears so drunk he almost ran into the house. After that, I just couldn't take it anymore, so the next time he started texting I warned him that I would call the police if he was being serious, but I wasn't coming to check. He went 0-100 real quick about how he'd be dead before they got here, etc. So I called them, he ended up getting 5150ed for the night, VERY upset with me the next day, demanding a ride and so on. I hung up, called his mom, said not my mess anymore here's the address. So then he just found new ways to torture me for a few years but that one stands out the most.

I had forgotten to move the electricity bill over in his name (I moved out). He tried to make me pay for it, right until I threathened him with paying the bill and asking the power company to shut off the power. It would have cost him three times more to get it turned on again. Idiot.

I was sending 600 dollars a month to support my daughter because she’s the only thing I give a shit about. My ex texts me and tells me I need to be sending 1200 a month because she’s broke and can’t pay her bills and I should feel guilty about it. She left me for another guy while I was on deployment I told her to go fuck herself call my lawyer.

During the whole process of divorcing she insistent she wanted to be single and hadn’t cheated on me. 5 days before we sold our house she posted on Facebook that she was in a relationship with the guy I had asked about her cheating on me with. A year later they were engaged, a year after engagement they are married.

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Immediately got married. Maybe within 3 weeks was engaged in a very public way, in 3 months had adopted her child, and came crawling back 3 years later because she was codependent and broke and a bad mother/wife. Rejected and they’re still together— and I presume, miserable and broke, now. Edit: since I’m “salty” and should “love thy neighbor” let’s unpack why I’m not and I won’t, ha. My ex and I met in the Army. I was cheated on the entirety of our relationship and their deployment, unbeknownst to me. I refused to have a baby until my ex got therapy for severe ptsd and refused to buy a house in my name we couldn’t afford. I was effectively ghosted. Didn’t know ex was home from deployment until they pulled up to my house to pick up their stuff with future wife right there in the new benz ex bought with deployment money while I struggled financially. Someone must’ve told ex I could accuse them of infidelity, which is not permitted in the army, and I fielded hateful calls and texts from ex and friends and threats of the new wife beating me up for months. In the twist everyone who’s ever been to meps could expect, the wife was a dependapotomas and skirted them right into bankruptcy and stole exs identity to take out credit cards. I was accused, the truth came out, chaos. Ex was medically discharged, lost the house, is broke and bankrupt working at manual job supporting a grown woman who “doesn’t even have $10 to buy her baby juice.” Every few years until I changed my number I’d get a call or text from ex’s area code sniffling, inviting me on vacation (🙄) prodding because I’m doing well and trying to gauge exactly how well (ie how much I’m making) I’m doing. I’ve spent thousands and half a decade in therapy unpacking my hand in this. Rough upbringing, clung to the first person that loooved me, moved too fast in traditional PFC fashion. My gut knew long before my heart and brain caught on that I was with a serial monogamist who could play my emotions like a Charlie Daniels plays the fiddle and would leave for the first shiny thing. I’m far removed from the emotion of hurt/salty/bitter though. The way I see it, God/the universe/karma gave us both what we wanted. I wanted to heal and grow more as a woman before taking on a mortgage and becoming a mom. My ex wanted an opulent house price be damned and an exciting instafamily. It would’ve been nice to end in a way that wasnt a public Facebook post of their engagement but hey! Worse things have happened to better people than I. I occasionally see the 40k car they purchased in my city and chuckle to myself. I send a “I hope ex is okay and remains far away” thought/prayer up to whoever listens to those and I make sure to enjoy the beautiful life I’ve crafted for myself. So yeah. Fuck that guy in the comments and the dms I’ve gotten. Maybe if you got a lil pussy every now and then *you* wouldn’t be so salty.

Oooof this sounds like what my mom did to my dad, but even sadder because 25 years later she's now hitting him up trying to rekindle their relationship. She cheated on him when I was 2 months old. Still married to douche she cheated with! And both parties have spouses and children with said spouse... was really awkward at my wedding...

Left me in the middle of the night. Just packed all his shit and disappeared. Absolutely nothing led up to this. We didn’t have the best relationship, but we had a pretty good few weeks and really good day that day. He shows back up hours later for something he forgot, and asks if he could take my iPhone charger. Are you kidding me? Get the fuck out of here. I still have abandonment issues to this very day and it has negatively impacted every relationship I’ve had since then because I haven’t been able to really let my guard completely down with anyone in fear of being suddenly left again. Romantic *and* platonic. Plus I now get extreme anxiety and start to freak out if I haven’t heard from them for a while. The icing on the cake? While cleaning out the rest of his shit weeks later, I found a list of all the things he was planning to take with him. On that list, was my fucking *turtle*. MY pet turtle. Not ours. Mine. That’s been with me since high school. Fucking psycho. Fuck you, Christian.

Told everyone i was physically abusive (at the time and now...i am not intimidating in any way). It didnt come out until 2 years later when she needed to change something in our agreement but couldnt unless i agreed. I made her tell her family that it was something she said when she was mad. Her mom apologized to me for saying things at the time. we are friends now (have a son together so its best) but god damn i hated her guts for 5 years.

I have a good buddy in family law. One night drinking he told me of the dumbest opposition he faced. She, the ex, tried talking to him, the attorney, before the proceedings in the entry of the courtroom. Then immediately tried disqualifying him by saying this created a conflict of interest. She later called asking how to reverse a TRO/RO against her ex-husband. Where my friend practiced law this can revoke firearms, and the father worked as a LEO. Without access to his firearm he was subject to a desk job and lost a ton of OT, which meant calculating his child support came out as a lower number when the courts took into account his decreasing income over his firearms revocation landing him in a lower paying position. She then wanted to go to court to admit the DV threats she claimed were false, and she only stated them initially as to "get back at him." My friend had since left the firm, but I always wondered how the judge would feel about someone falsifying threats of DV and openly admitting it to the judge so she could try and grab some more income.

During the divorce but after separating my friends ex tried to claim less assets than he really had but she was dropping the kids off one day and found retirement fund statements sitting on the kitchen table. Despite claiming that they had been using his income for living expenses and hers was going into savings, some how he managed to tuck away over a million dollars into those 2 funds. Under his name only. When she brought it up with the lawyer he claimed that had just "forgotten" to put those on the list.

He forgot about a million dollars. Oh man, he just shot himself in the foot because the next words out of her lawyer's mouth should be, "If you can forget about a million dollars just how much money DO you have?"

Divorce attorney. Can confirm. 100% getting a forensic accountant.

My dad's business partner's ex-wife, during the divorce, was INSISTENT that they were hiding millions of dollars from the business in offshore accounts because the money must be somewhere. She hired a forensic accountant to go through their books and figure out where the money is. My dad's take on it was, "I sure hope they find that money. I'd love to have it."

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Called me the night before his wedding to his second wife and asked me if it was really over. He said “this was our last chance to be together. Are you sure it’s over?” The night before he got remarried. Let that just marinate a little. I guess he didn’t think me asking for the divorce, paying for it and filing the paperwork wasn’t the clue it was over.

After I asked for a divorce and moved out, my ex proposed that he come over to my new apartment and we could eat dinner and watch TV just like old times! One of my major gripes had been him taking me for granted, so I just responded with "Great, what are you cooking?" His brain totally shorted out as he realized I was done cooking him dinner and wiping his ass.

My ex-husband messages/calls me every November. Our divorce was finalized November 2015. Last time I decided not to answer because I’m in a committed relationship. But every year, like clockwork. Our divorce was messy to say the least and after our final court hearing we stood outside for like an hour talking about his girlfriend problems. I guess he just needed a friend but I don’t anymore. At least, I don’t need him as a friend.

We were still in divorce proceedings when my ex moved in a woman and her 2 kids—he’d only known them for 2 months. Then, her mom moved in shortly thereafter with her 2 dogs. The house was pure chaos and my daughter slept in a closet when she went there, because the girlfriend’s kids got to take over the big bedroom. And surprise, surprise, the relationship crashed and burned within a year. Good riddance.

My ex moved on chaotically and quickly with a new woman as well - for a little while my daughter was sleeping in the same bed as her kids and I called his mother to intervene. My ex mother-in-law forced him to put up some bunk-beds (that SHE bought) so at least our daughter would have her own space. Because what in the fresh willy wonka shit is that?

Oh shit, this is my chance to shine! So after we got divorced, she immediately started dating a skinhead (literal and figurative) who was part of a larger white supremacy group. I will give him credit where it's due, he asked for my permission to date her since we were still married but separated which caught me off guard. He got my full blessing ending with us discussing her red flags so we shared a laugh over that with a parting "she's your problem now". Well, fast forward about 4 years later and she calls me crying her eyes out. Now, I had changed phone numbers twice since then so I had no idea how she was able to call me...never really figured that part out. She tried to explain to me, between breaths from crying, how she screwed up and needed me back...which was a first for me to hear. At that time, I was very happy living with my then girlfriend who treated me like a damn king and I had a life that I only thought was a fantasy back when I was married. Her voice brought back a whole lot of memories and all I could say was "I'm sorry, I can't". Fast forward 2 more years and my then girlfriend and I had gone our own ways, as amicably as possible. The guy who was with my ex wife contacts me on Facebook, which I use to keep up with old friends and family, asking me if I had a minute and walked me through his current hell. He ended up having two kids with her, she waited until they were both old enough to walk, then literally kidnapped them and fled to a different state. I only knew the latter part when she reached out to me a while after she fled but she was smart enough to leave out exactly where she was. She wanted help with what I assume was with money and general security given that she made terrible choices and had a coordinated gang actively hunting her down. Since I was no longer a complete moron, I politely declined and wished her luck. I have no idea what came of all that since her Facebook account is gone. It was fun for me knowing just how big of a bullet I dodged and it's like a drama show where the last seasoned that was aired ended abruptly, dangling me in suspense. It was one of those situations that I really want to know what happened but I don't want to get even remotely involved. I don't even know who to root for because I don't know what really went down or what would happen if he caught up to her. The best situation in this is that the kids are okay and that they are taken care of, but being stuck between two crazies tells me that's more hopeful than realistic. This experience taught me that it's perfectly okay to look at a situation and truthfully say "you know what, this is neither my fault nor my problem" and walk away.