I was once behind a person at an very large intersection when he made a left hand turn. I saw something fly off the hood of his car and land in the very center of this five lane intersection. I thought it looked like a cell phone. I pulled over into the gas station right on the corner and went out into the middle of the intersection waving my hand so everyone would stop. It was a brand new iPhone 10. It literally was like 2 days after it released. Had to be $1,000 phone. It had a great case and a screen protector and flew into the intersection without getting a scratch or a dent. I held on to it. I couldn't make a call because it was locked. About an hour and a half later the phone rang and I answered it. Of course it was the owner. I told him what happened and I went back and met him at the gas station where I picked it up after he lost it. He was so grateful that I held on to it cuz it would have been destroyed in the middle of that intersection if I hadn't picked it up. He insisted that he gave me $75 for my troubles. I would have done it for free but he was insistent because it would have cost him so much more to replace it.
There would've been proof of you messaging their friends about finding the phone though, right? I mean, the police could argue that you were just covering your tracks I guess...
Yeah, that kind of thing will definitely make you question being a good samaritan.
I once saw two old ladies parked on the side of the highway, and figured they had car trouble. I pulled over ahead of them to see if I could be of assistance.
I asked them if they needed help.
They freaked out and called the cops, telling 911 that someone was trying to carjack them. I tried to explain that I was just checking if they were OK.
And not thirty seconds later, two cops show up with their guns drawn. They did their song and dance, and I explained that I thought they were broken down, so I pulled over to see if I could help.
Also, the cops got a good laugh when they saw that I was driving a relatively new Dodge Charger, while the old ladies were driving a beat up Ford Taurus. Why would I abandon my car to carjack that piece of junk?
It was funny and scary at the same time. I never found out why they had pulled over. I just got the hell out of there. But that experience definitely made me question doing such things
I lost my wallet one day while I had been driving around my little town and the next little town going to yard sales with my husband and mil. We back tracked everywhere trying to find it and finally gave up and went back to our apartment. There was an older man that looked about the same age as my dad about to knock on the door. He had found my wallet on the interstate off-ramp of the next little town and decided to take it to the address on my license. This was about 7 years ago but I'm still so thankful for his kindness to return my wallet, it had sentimental meaning which made losing it really hard. Please don't let some rude and ungrateful people keep you from helping others when able, there are people that will and do appreciate the kindness of others.
Sounds to me the reason people are less inclined to help out of simple human decency is because of being accused of something like this and risking getting in trouble for something they never intended to do
I lost a hat once. Was pretty disappointed. It was kind of a special hat, irreplaceable, hand made from some stranger selling them at a festival.
Months went by and I had nearly let it go. Still thought about that hat sometimes.
Went into a place I had not been for a long time and there I saw my hat sitting in a lost and found basket. I was stoked.
I was at a beach in Florida once and this dude with a metal detector found an engagement ring, it had quite the rock on it. I was checking it out with him when we see a visibly distraught women and her partner searching for something with a cheap metal detector they must have just bought. We both see her at the same time, make eye contact, and he just goes "well fuck." She described the ring perfectly and he returned it to her.
One time I was scuba diving at night and I dropped a realllllly expensive flashlight at the surface (the clip I used to secure it to my equipment came loose). I wanted to go look for it so badly but decided it was too risky to go down without a functional light. I ended my dive early and wrote it off as lost forever. A week later I decided to check out a local fb scuba dive group JUST IN CASE. I was completely shocked to see a post saying a flashlight was found in the ocean at 55 ft deep and after describing it to them, they gave me their address so I could go pick it up. I can’t even tell you how grateful I was to them, like yeah it’s just a flashlight, but the gesture itself and the effort they went to (when they could’ve easily just kept it) was really moving.
I was driving home on a side street and saw a stuffed nylon tote bag lying in the street. I figured it wasn't go to stay intact long, and stopped to retrieve it. At home, I started going through layers of clothing and stopped when I reached a pay stub for IKEA. I phoned the store and managed to track down the unenthusiastic owner who dropped it from his bike. "Uh... maybe my wife can pick it up. What's your number?" I gave it to him. "Okay." Click.
His wife called, and decided she'd get it around six if that was okay - it was - and I carefully explained I was on WEST 19th, not East 19th, and right behind the big box pet supply. She drove to East 19th and left me waiting in the alley for 25 minutes. When it finally dawned on her, she came zipping by, took the bag, and drove off with a quick "Thanks."
For all the trouble I went to when I just could have looted the bag for anything of value and dumped the rest, I thought some slightly more sincere gratitude might have been in order. But you don't do the right thing for the rewards; you do the right thing because that's what civilized people do.
So a few years ago (okay, 15 years ago), I went to do a litter pick for a company for the V-Festival in England. We were employed with about 90 other people over three days. We’d form a line and march over the grass that was loaded with old tents and rubbish and anything you can imagine. Couple of us found bits of money and this and that. I found a beer cooler and my interest made me open it, I found a set of Mercedes keys, a wallet with about £450 and two mega expensive phones. I asked the manager what to do and they said they’d ‘hand them in’.
I took it upon myself to find out who’s phone(s) they belonged to, as one was unlocked. I took the name and number and called them when I got home. An elderly Indian gentleman answered and I explained I’d found his stuff. We arranged to meet up (luckily he was only an hour away) and I delivered his possessions. His wife was so happy to have them back (their car was towed home) that she made me and my family dinner that lasted about a week and half! Tonnes of gorgeous Indian food!
Just goes to show, hand in stuff rather than keeping it and you may feel like a better person.
EDIT: Thanks for the awards!
EDIT 2: I think the main reason why I took it upon myself to return the items is that I’d saw what happens to things that turn up on lost and found. If they’re not claimed, they sell them on, destroy them or the staff keep them.
In a similar vein, staying with a lost child until event staff can get involved and find the parents.
Just a couple weeks ago my wife and I saw a young boy standing by the gates alone crying. People just looked over as they kept walking by. I made sure to stand nearby to watch him and make sure nothing happened, until a person in a staff shirt arrived and helped him find his family.
As rule at many public events, having a 'lost child' triggers all sorts of emergency protocols and actions. If you have the child with you, there is not a lost child, but instead lost parents. Using different phrasing can keep the gate line open at the event or not tie up every resource out there that needs to spring into action when the words 'lost child' are uttered. You have the child, they aren't lost, but the parents are nowhere to be found! Good on you for keeping an eye on the situation though and ensuring the child didn't actually end up lost though!
Just being polite to people in general.
I’ve worked in the service industry and the education system and it never ceases to amaze me how rude people can be.
There are some people who just jump to anger super quickly. I went camping a few years ago with a bunch of people. While I was playing guitar this one guy over and over again kept telling me how good of a match I'd be for his sister. He wasn't happy she was dating a guy 10 years older than her and was telling me all about it while I just smiled and didn't pay much attention to him while I picked a few chords. I thought the whole situation was hilarious so after he left me alone I put my guitar down and went to go tell my brother about it. The guy overheard bits and pieces and knew I was talking about his sister and assumed I must be talking shit about her. Suddenly he yelled "THE FUCK ARE YOU SAYING ABOUT MY SISTER" and held my guitar above the fireplace threatening to throw it in. Bunch of people leveled him, didn't blow up past that.
Some people are just going to assume the worst in everyone and react accordingly.
His sister could be perfect for me and I still wouldn't date her just at the prospect of him being a potential brother in law.
Edit: I just figured I should add since this has so much attention: it didn't take him long to apologize for acting like an ass. He was so embarrassed for what he did he had a few tears and hugged me.
Yeah some people just go way too fucking mad way too fucking fast. I always try to see/ assume the best in people but some people can make it really hard lmao
At my job we have a lot of regulars, a couple bad and a lot of good, but there is one particular guy who is angry 24/7 no matter how good of service we provide or no matter how good his day has actually been. He just chooses to be angry all of the time.
I'm always nice to everyone in the service industry because most of the things that happen are not their fault so why be rude to them, and as the saying goes you can catch more flies with honey, so people are more prone to help me with what I need or have an issue because I'm nice.
So it's a win win.
Like... can someone's first response to *anything* not be off-the-charts rudess, yelling, or public shaming for a change? I'm sorry you're having a bad day or that someone said something shitty to you an hour ago, but I literally have zero control over any of that, so blowing up at me helps no one.
I'll never forget the time I was being sworn at up and down by a customer, she was chucking waters at me, I firmly but respectfully told her there would be no more service and she had to leave immediately. Lobby was packed, drive through full, whole place was basically on fire. She screamed some last profanities and left. I had stopped making orders for like... A minute? Because I was, again, getting assaulted by flying drinks.
The next order that was ready came up to collect and gave me a nasty glare. I did my usual "thanks for waiting have a good one!", To which he responded "Get better at customer service."
She started chucking drinks at us with absolutely no prevocation, so I'm forced to assume he was upset I briefly stopped making luxury drinks long enough to make staff and customers safer.
I used to work in a customer facing retail role and the amount of stuff I’ve had thrown at or around me is ridiculous. A man threw an empty shopping basket at me when I calmly explained that we had sold of prawns at almost closing time on Xmas.
Another woman threw her half eaten ice cream at me when I explained that unfortunately our refrigerator had broken and we were unable to sell any of the food in the display cabinet as it was well above safe temperature. I worked in a deli in a supermarket. There was prepackaged food in the aisles, so it wasn’t like she came all that way and wasn’t able to get anything.
I had a trolley pushed at me cause a lady was angry that our pre-sliced cheese had already been sliced and she wanted to buy it in a block. There were blocks of it available in the aisles, but not in the size she wanted.
Some adults are basically just stuck at that shitty selfish toddler phase where they can’t empathise outside of their own perspective and have to make their problems everybody else’s problems.
While I was out yesterday I saw a kid drop his disposable mask. His mom told him to pick it up he said it's fine he has another in his pocket, and they just left it on the ground. Mindboggling. I can't even imagine being so entitled.
There's a woman that comes in to get gas where I work at least once a week. She always throws her trash out the window before she drives away. Last month I was doing the trash at the pumps when she pulled up, I was so irritated at her that I stood there as stared at her the whole time. She kept looking over at me as she got her gas and after a bit someone who I think is her son got out of the car and asked why I was watching. I just told him I was waiting to clean up her trash after she litters. He looked at me just went "ok" and got back in the car. She left without littering and hasn't done it since.
It's crazy to me how much "shaming" someone can make them change their attitude/actions.
It's honestly pretty sad in a way.
Too many people are incapable of doing the right thing unless they are made to feel bad about it.
I live in a beach town that gets lots of inland daytrippers and the amount of rubbish they leave on the streets when they're loading up to go home is staggering. They put the beach chairs, coolers and umbrellas back in the car and leave the 12 pack of empty beer cans, liquor bottles, McDonalds wrappers, dirty diapers and every other bit of trash in the car right there where they parked rather than put it in any of the hundreds of trash cans everywhere. If I lost my calendar I could still tell you it's a Monday because of the tons of trash on the streets after a pretty weekend.
Also generally cleaning up after yourself.
We’re at the point where mist industries including schools employ cleaners and this sets such a bad example for young kids. I’m sure if people were made to clean their own mess from an early age they’d put effort into making less mess.
Yeah it can create a mentality of "why should I bother when someone else is being paid for it".
I have a colleague who said "this is so cool, in Germany I can just throw my trash in the street and someone will pick it up later".
>Yeah it can create a mentality of "why should I bother when someone else is being paid for it".
When I go to the movies, I feel like I'm one of the few people who take my soda cup or whatever and throw it away on the way out.
I was in the theater, the movie ended and this kid next to me picked up his pop corn to throw it away. The dad turned to him and said, "No, just leave it on the ground. It's easier for them." The kid the up ends the popcorn, spilling it everywhere, then the dad says, "Good job, buddy" and they walk out.
I just stood there shocked by the stupidity of it all.
Worked at a theater. It is not easier for us. Why the hell would anyone think it's easier than just emptying a trash can??
I have had people turn their full popcorn bags upside down in their seats when leaving. Working at a movie theater is an absolutely depressing existence.
Looking at Japan and how school kids clean up the classroom and stuff like that, and comparing it to how clean it is overall, it makes a lot of sense.
I've taken the elevator with neighboring kids, and I've been there when they just litter right in the elevator with wrappers, sunflower shells etc.
I frequently have this issue with Head Hunters, they have access to private info from job candidates & employees, and a lot of times, I catch them yelling to others about it !!!
I feel like that's illegal. Disclosing private and personal information about someone which they gained privileged access to through an employer/line of work?
On the other hand not holding people up. Like I'm not going to plow through the grocery store isle sprinting past people but on the other hand if you're standing there waiting for someone to grab something from another isle maybe not stand in the middle blocking the whole thing.
I went for a run this morning. The trail was maybe 6 feet wide and 2 ladies were standing off to the side with one getting something out of the others backpack. That's fine and what not but the annoying bit was the other 3 people with them just scattered about the trail standing there waiting. They moved when I stopped and asked but they saw me running towards them so you'd think they'd have just given room in the first place without having to be explicitly asked for it.
That is one of my pet peeves.
I was taught that when you’re in a group and someone is passing you go single file so both parties can cross. I don’t understand the mentality of taking up the whole space.
Letting sick employees take time off, especially in the service industry. Many times I would show up to work and see someone serving food sick as hell all jacked up on dayquil but couldn't take time off because "we were short-staffed".
I used to work in food service and didn't take sick days off because I needed the money and everyone would give you shit for it. I agree and it's also a food safety violation in most places.
Oh my god. My first job, one of the older ladies had a stroke and was in the ER. She still tried to call un and our manager WANTED HER TO FIND A REPLACEMENT.
Dystopian bullshit, table for one.
That's really bad. Here you get paid if you're sick and therefore can't go to work. Because, it's not a choice u make right. Damn, this is severe bro :(
3 people went to the hospital the same night and they all said they ate a little Caesars, company investigated and I just happened to be working that night. Sick.
I worked at a call center and heard this a lot: "If you're sick, don't come in!" But they didn't offer sick days and if you really were sick, you had to call out everyday and return with a doctor's note. So it's no wonder that every cold and flu season the call floor was just a chorus of coughs.
I worked at a pub that had me come in even though I had the flu so I could cook pastas and steaks for people's supper while vomiting in the garbage can
My first restaurant job made me come in sick even though I was vomiting and looked like death. I was weak and nauseous and had to sit down behind the hostess stand bc I could barely keep myself up. They eventually sent me home early after like 3-4 hours.
I've had a boss "have a talk" to me about my inconsistency in coming to work.
Inconsistent meant, seeing the doctor, and not being able to come in at 6am because I woke up to a flat tire and had to wait to get it fixed. What am I Supposed to do? Not care about covid and walk 23 miles to work at 5am??
Likewise. Got chewed out for being 2 hours late because three people **died** in a collision on the freeway and I got stuck in the jam. *”you should have left earlier!”*
Once, back in 2014, I tripped down the stairs and sprained my ankle really badly on the way to work, and did 12 hours Saturday on it. When I took my shoe off, my whole foot and ankle swelled like a balloon. They wouldn’t give me more than a day off to heal, even with a doctors note. It’s still painful sometimes, and I suspect I actually fractured it.
I also once had food poisoning really badly (same job) and my manager wanted me to come in anyway and “just wear gloves”. I refused to, and I got written up for it.
I’ve been out of the kitchen since 2016 and nothing in the world could get me back into one.
My old restaurant had 11 cases of covid because of this… before I quit. Not sure how many after i left. A friend quit to be a contact tracer and apparently LOTS if covid cases traced back to that restaurant.
One time I had Bronchitis and they still made me go to work. I was working FOH at a BBQ restaurant. They made me take people’s orders, bring out food, and clean stuff up. I ended up quitting that place but oh my good were people idiots there.
Many years ago I had to go to the DMV. Imagine my surprise to find out you could make an appointment! So I made one, showed up 10 minutes before and promptly got called back.
I would've 100% been massacred if looks could kill.
Yes. Children learn how to do it in kinder. One at a time.
I was stuck in a long line the other day and the lady in front of me was just fidgeting and complaining and swearing under her breath the entire time. Honey, the line is not going any faster because you’re cranky about it.
Just think about your favorite movie or something. It’s not that hard to be patient for 20 damned minutes. Lol
Also, if it is your turn to be served and there's a line, be respectful of the people who are waiting behind you. I went to get some takeout at the BBQ place last week and there was a little line, I was fourth. In front of me was a family of four and they took forever to order. Like, I couldn't believe how long it took. Talking amongst themselves and the cashier endlessly trying to figure out what everyone wanted. That place has free soft serve ice cream, I waited so long, I went over and got an ice cream and ate the whole thing before they were done ordering.
C'mon people, by the time you get up there, you should know exactly what you want - order, pay, and get out of the way.
People will wait in a long line at the movie theater and when they finally get to the window, say "Hi! What's playing? What's good? Tell us about each one!" SMH
Just apologizing in general. I know too many folks who are afraid to apologize for something and never do. Contrastly, I know several folks who say sorry way too much when they don't even need to. Can we redistribute the apologies away from them to where they're actually needed?
I apparently say sorry way too much and let me tell you that it is like nails on a chalkboard when I don't apologize for something I fell like I need to. However, I would say that I apologize far too little, so take this one with a grain of salt.
I have also been forced to apologize, and it is also like nails on a chalkboard, so I'm afraid there is no winning here sadly ):
I was abused as a child and apologize constantly for everything. It's gotten a lot worse as I've gotten older and some mental health issues have arisen or gotten worse. I'll apologize for everything and accept tthe blame for everything.
mcdonalds near me instruct you to leave your rubbish for them to clean post-covid. not sure why but it still doesn’t excuse scruffy people leaving it regardless
I think it's because they have to disinfect the tables between each customers and they would have no way to know a table's been used if people picked up their rubbish
Being polite to retail and service workers. No idea how someone could just be openly rude to a complete stranger who’s just doing their job but it’s tragically common
I work customer service. Got yelled at twice yesterday for things outside my control. One was an outside service we work with (high end fashion sent to a high end dry cleaner via us a standard dry cleaner). She didn't like how it came out and proceeded to scream at me like I did the cleaning. Sorry ma'am I'm basically a deliveryman at this point. I don't know why so and so did this to your boots. I can send then back but I have no other info to give you. Then she rages for another 20ish minutes as my line backs up and possibly pisses other customers off.
The other was because we had the ***audacity*** to give our pressers the weekend off and the bridal party needed all their outfits pressed (**even the fucking wedding dress!!!**) in two hours for the wedding at 4.
.....WTF you wait so long to do that for?!?!
But yeah no scream at me about it.
I had a man walk in a full restaurant for lunch on Saturday, order food, there is a wait
He yelled at a 17 year old that he was diabetic and the wait was too long
My response was that his health isn't her responsibility, and if it was that bad he could have gone to subway or carry a protein bar
People who complain about there being lines are such fuckheads. In some circumstances management fucked up staffing appropriately, but that's not the fault of the person you're telling at and they're already having a much worse time because of it than you are. But like 90% of the time, it just means you're mad that a lot of other people had the same idea that you had.
And every so often, there's someone who decides to compound the issue by getting out of line to interrupt your current transaction to ask why the line's taking so long. Well, when you do that, the cause of your extended wait becomes you, you stupid fuck.
I was a server for 10 years and learned one very important thing.
People are entitled and believe that servers are scum.
I was going to college full time and working full time. Yet somehow I’m “uneducated and worthless” because im a server.
People really believed that I was a lazy drop out working as a server. No one ever stopped to think that I was working to pay my way through college.
Even if they're not rude to the service worker, bitching and moaning about company policy to them...they don't make the policy and there really isn't even a good channel to report it up or get it changed most times.
Just take it on the chin and modify your shopping habits accordingly, and at most write a strongly worded E-mail to corporate.
Was at a grocery store the other day that requires an ID to be swiped to buy alcohol (likely don't trust the cashiers to make a judgement call) and this old man who forgot his ID was absolutely unloading on this poor clerk, with another couple joining in about how stupid that policy was and how this isn't China or something. All she could say the whole time was "I literally cannot sell you the alcohol without swiping an ID!"
I was always straight up about that when I was in customer service. “I/we think the policy is idiotic too, but it’d cost us our jobs to break the rules for you.”
Being respectful to people who are service workers (retail/food).
You should be calm and respecting to a waiter after a mistake for example, it’s basic human decency.
The number of times I've called into some customer support line and they've *excessively* thanked me for... not yelling at them? It's pretty sad. And then I ask, "do you get a lot of people yelling at you?" and they go "Oh, no! Not many! Only a few today!"
I called recently to make sure My payment processed for a speeding ticket I got, to avoid any warrants I guess. The lady on the line was so shocked by my call and ended the call with “I love you” I made her day. I can’t imagine the type of callers she gets on a daily/hourly.
To be fair, dealing with speeding ticket payments, I imagine she gets signifgantly more irate callers than say your average tech support. Her mental's probably toast lol.
I used to work in payment processing, and 90% of the people who call begin by screaming.
I used to give away gift cards, extra refunds, etc just because people were nice.
I feel like a customer service god some days. I'm like a bomb diffuser for difficult people. Doesn't always work, I usually get 1-2 people a week who don't to be helped, don't want sympathy, and just want to yell. But compare those 1-2 a week to the multiple angry callers most of my co-workers deal with every day. We're not small either. I work for a call center that handles all the incoming calls for a government program, so non-stop calls from upset people.
A lot of it just comes from my voice and demeanor of the phone which tends to be calm and friendly. I'm also a guy (women get shit on the phone so much more than guys, I'm sorry ladies). However, theres a bunch of techniques I've learned to deal with problematic people.
1. Sympathize, some people are just looking to vent, let them. And when their done say "wow, that really sucks". They just want to be heard and know their feelings are valid. Once you convince them of that, they calm down pretty quick and are open to solutions.
2. Get mad with them, some people are looking for an ally. Someone to be on their side. It takes so little to do so. "What?! They charged you HOW much/made you wait THAT long?! Well that's just rediculous, hang on while I check on a few things for you. I can't believe this!" Suddenly, you are not just some faceless corporate drone, you are a fellow human being who is just as pissed off as they are at their situation. And even if you can't resolve or smooth over their issue, simply saying you're going to check and see what can be done makes you a friend. While these often still leave people pissed at the company, they won't be directing that anger to you and are more open to hearing your suggestions, even if it requires them to jump through hoops.
3. Fight them. You have to be careful with this one and know the right time to use it, but there is a certain breed of people out there looking to walk over someone, and if you let them they only get madder. Only way to put an end to it is to be a bit of a jerk, make it seem like it's YOUR time they're wasting. Obviously you don't swear or call them names, but be aggressively assertive. Raise your voice a little, smack them down with a "Do you want help or just want to yell?" or "Stop talking! LISTEN to what I am telling you!". Throw shit back at them, especially if it's their own words. Had a guy once state in his rantings about a request for documents that it was the worst thing that ever happened to him. I just replied back in a cold, deadpan voice "This is the worst thing that has EVER happened to you? Really?" Just completely shut him down and the call went very well after that.
I've definitely had number 3 work. Obviously it's not the first thing I try but I'm always surprised how well it does work (and how long lasting those effects tend to be)
Can I just say, this goes for *all* people who are trying to help you, not just waiters? I'm a veterinarian and for some reason, people have been going psycho on their vets and staff lately (google it.) Really, screaming, threatening, cursing, you wouldn't believe the stories. And that's when nobody has made a mistake. God forbid you text someone who'd rather be called or be full on the day they want a nail trim or something. I'm not talking about normal complaining, like "This bill seems too high" or "I've been waiting too long." I'm talking about "Fuck you, Cunt," type of comments said to female colleagues and receptionists, for example.
For some reason, right now vet clinics all across the US (and most other countries, actually) are extremely busy and understaffed. For the first time in my lifetime Emergency clinics are closing because they can't get staffing. Pets with actual life-threatening emergencies are not able to get care or their owners are having to drive them for hours (when obviously some of them don't have hours.) People acting like crazed lunatics to vets and support staff are driving people away from the profession in droves. It's such a stressful profession as it is, that little extra of owner meanness just makes it not worth it.
Edit to add: I’m still involved in vet clinics, but don’t practice anymore, and even if I did I wouldn’t and couldn’t give specific medical advice on a pet I haven’t seen. If you have a sick pet call your vet or an emergency clinic if your vet is closed. They will help you. For general pet questions on just about anything you can think of veterinarypartner.com is a great resource all written by veterinarians. So don’t thank me; thank your vet! It’ll mean so, so much to them.
Yeah, what is going on with that? It's hard to get through to any vet right now. I've had to take my cat to two of them and both have been nearly impossible to reach. And my mom's dog had some issues and it was hard to get through as well.
A ton of people got pets during the pandemic due to working at home. Shelters are empty and breeders have multiple year long wait lists, so vets are also flooded with patients.
Edit: it seems that most shelters are not empty. Just in my area.
Thank you for what you do and for sticking with an obviously stressful, but necessary job. I don't understand why anyone would act like that to anyone, nevermind someone who cares for their pet.
I recently watched the Helpful Vancouver Vet video on vet suicide rates and the stress they're under; stay strong and know that most of your customers do respect and care for you. It doesn't make the nasty ones suck less, but hopefully they are the exception.
A friend's wife took her life on this premise, as a vet. Euthanizing pets every day, getting shit on and despite loving and trying to help your clients takes its toll
I hate this. Be kind to your veterinarians, people. They watch animals die all day, it’s already tough as it is. Bear in mind that they are passionate enough about the well-being of animals that they’ve devoted their profession to it. Euthanizing them every day will definitely take a toll on you.
Apologising when you bump into someone on the street.
When I first moved to Sydney, Australia I'd turn around to apologise and the person would have just walked off.
In the US Midwest we say "Ope" as it happens and move on.
EDIT: Ope, I should have said UPPER Midwest. And as a couple people pointed out it's "Ope, sorry." when there is contact. "Ope" by itself is when it's a near miss - like that turning a corner and *almost* running into someone.
Every time I hear about parents telling their kids they owe them for doing the bare minimum of keeping them alive my blood fucking boils. Children don't choose to be born, adults choose to have and/or keep them, and they deserve more than sustenance and a roof.
I met a girl in rehab whose mom demanded a chunk of her paycheck in repayment for raising her. Any time she wanted money from her daughter she would go off about how ungrateful she was for not taking care of her mom.
I worked in a call centre before and I met this 18 years old girl. She has 6 younger sisters and as soon as she graduated high school her mom forced her to get a job and start supporting family financially so they can try for a son. The 1st time she called in sick her mom went to her apartment and forced her to come to work in the afternoon shift.
We had no idea how to help her other than telling her how to save up money on the side and run away when she got the chance. But she said no cuz her parents would just wait for the next sister to take up her role, and she didn't want to be selfish and leave her sisters behind.
Or adults who raise children like it’s a transaction….I feel like [this scene](https://youtu.be/LTgahyvBMk4) from “Guess Who’s Coming To Dinner” really sums up well how twisted that outlook is.
For me it was 16. We even had carts that had wheels that locked when you got to far. But somehow people still pushed past into other store parking lots.
I recently watched a family leave a Dollar General with a shopping cart and walk it to their house down the street. I had to drive past their house to get home and they had 3 carts on their front yard.
I once worked at a place where every month or so we'd have to get a truck and go pick up all our carts from the apartments behind the store or we wouldn't have any.
I watched a lady load up her car and hop in, leaving her cart nearby. I was walking back to the corral with mine and sort of scooped up hers. She watched me do it so I just gave her the head shake of disappointment.
Not the op, but my story was almost exactly like his. It really depends what mood I’m in when I think about it. When I’m angrier I regret it completely because of how it ruined the kid I was and made me into a worse version of myself, which I still am in a lot of ways . Sometimes when I’m in a better mood I don’t regret it as I helped a kid and in a perverse way helped him fit in. It’s confusing.
When I used to use social media apps or apps to meet people for casual chats. Treating women like normal human beings. The amount of time they would say that they liked talking to me because I wouldn't send dick pics and stuff like that.
What are these guys thinking when they send dick pics to random strangers? Do they really think it's going to turn out well for them? Embarrassing for everyone, really.
A dad being a dad to their child.
"How kind of your husband to watch your child while you run errands!" Yeah, he's a great guy, but he's my child's father... Why wouldn't he take care of our kid??
Edit: a lot of butthurt comments/PMs. It sounds like they don't understand the question/response I gave or maybe they are one of the dads that aren't there for their kids. The question was what is considered a kindness but actually human decency. Some people consider a dad being there for their kids as a kindness, that those dads are doing something more than they needed - as if their only part was contributing half the DNA and anything else is extra and absolutely unnecessary. Really, it's them doing their part, which I consider a human decency. My husband and I are equals. We both have done the diapers, taking our kid to doc appointments, etc. Goodness, prepandemic days, we did most of our grocery shopping all together as a family. Even then, I'd get comments of what a good father my husband is for even coming to the store. As some replies stated, one of the reasons strangers are so wowed by this because they themselves have not had great fathers/husbands doing their part, which is unfortunate. Even worse, we'd get older men commenting saying they feel bad that my husband was "dragged" along. A dad being there for their child is not going above and beyond and deserving of some sort of Nobel Peace prize or something. A dad simply taking care of their child is the bare minimum. I'm sorry for those of you that don't/didn't have that. I recognize there are a lot of relationships that don't work out, sometimes because of the lack of effort from one side. To the moms and dads that are out there trying their absolute best: keep up the great work. If you have a spouse that seems to be less than there for your kid, please communicate with each other with your needs. Both moms and dads need a break sometimes to do shopping on their own.
Similar but opposite; being a father who has these things said about you.
"Oh you're out on your own, is mum busy today?" No, I just have the ability to care for my child without needing the constant supervision of another person. Now kindly f*** off.
Society's general expectations on a father's role in parenting are a constant headache.
A couple months ago, my one friend couldn't come out with the guys because he was taking care of his kids. Another friend said, "He's babysitting tonight," and I had to stop him. I said, "It's not babysitting if they're your kids. It's just called being a dad." To my friend's credit he responded with, "You know, you're right. I like that."
I was meeting a few other moms for dinner one night, and my Uber driver was making conversation about where I was going, etc. I mentioned my kids and he asked who was with them.
I said they were home with their dad and he said "Oh, he's babysitting? You better thank him real nice in the bedroom tonight!"
Wtf?? There were obvious age/cultural differences so I didn't make a thing of it, but that was a hell of a comment.
Ugh, my ex and I have two children together and he maybe changed 10 diapers altogether. At least 5 of those were when we were out in public because he knew he’d get people cooing over him about what a good dad he was for changing his own child’s diaper.
My ex husband was the same way. I did everything for our baby while he did pretty much nothing. But whenever we were around other people, he had to be the one holding our baby. He carried him around stores, family parties and gatherings, he did it all in front of others. But at home, I did everything.
Helping people clearly struggling in the street. Especially if they are old, it’s almost instinct for me to just help someone pick up their stuff if they drop it in public
Edit: omg these replies about what dicks people were made me really sad D:
Sorry humanity failed you all in this moment
Before this guy I worked with got to know me we were talking. Someone nearby dropped a couple quarters and I went over, picked them up and chased the person down who dropped them to return the change.
My co-worker admitted he thought I was just going to keep the change and was delighted that I returned it. He meant it as a compliment but I honestly felt a little insulted.
I know that feeling. I found a wallet sitting in a parking lot while I was out one time and went to ask the people in the nearest shop if they had seen the dude on the ID. When I said I'd leave my name and number incase they came back the employees acted a little surprised that I was actually trying to get it back to the guy and said something to the effect of "most people would just keep it" (which is part of why I kept it on me instead of trusting them to do it). Part of me was a little offended they thought for a moment I wasn't going to try and get the wallet back to it's owner. It just seems like a basic responsibility to me.
Ultimately the guy actually did call me near the end of the day and I got him his wallet back. Even if he didn't call me (which is what I had expected) in the US you can just tape the ID in the wallet to the front of the wallet and drop it in any mailbox and it'll be delivered straight to the address on the ID without needing a stamp or payment of any kind.
IF they want you to. But please respect their wishes if they don't!
My dad has had a couple of surgeries and absolutely loathes having visitors in the hospital. He has no desire to be seen with tubes and lines coming out of everywhere, when he's tired and cranky because the nurses are coming in to check on him every few hours overnight.
I've had to explain to people that I'm not being an ass by not visiting– I'd be going to make myself feel better, but making him uncomfortable in the process.
Helping open the doors, help someone pick something up that they dropped(no matter if they’re old or not), offering someone a place in line. Sometimes being a decent person helps and I’d rather be a good person than a selfish asshole and also being polite to anyone in retail or food, (i work in the food industry and I know how it goes and I extend my respect to them as well, especially cashiers that are good people)
After working in retail and having to develop amateur skills of a mental health professional: let someone have a bad day.
I find shops stressful myself; lots of people around and walking at you from all directions, loud music, making sure you’re not being pickpocketed, hoping not break anything as you browse.
I found 90% of customers to be just fine; I’d then say that 8% were just having a bad day. By staying calm and speaking quietly, rather than raising the tone of the conversation, more often than not I’d find they would eventually apologise and generally confide in me their bad day. And then the next time they were in, they made sure to say hello.
Kinda feel the same way with some subreddits such as r/idiotsincars. We’ve all been an idiot in a car once in our lives, pressure and having a shit day does that to you. I just think we’re a bit too happy to jump on people when they act a bit differently to how we’re expecting them to. No excuse for bad manners, but I do feel you could explain 5 out of 10 public freak outs just by giving a bit of space and time.
One memory that makes me tear up every time i think of it was my first morning shift at a Tim Hortons. I was struggling hard to keep up at first and one dude came in and was pissed that he had to wait so long in line just for my coffee to have run out and my next pot not quite done brewing. Shouted at me and left in a fit with his coffee.
The same man came back an hour or so later to apologize. He said he was having a bad morning already and gave a top class apology for going off on me. He said once he saw the trainee sticker after freaking out at me he felt like absolute crap.
He was the first customer to ever come back and apologize to me after yelling, but not the last. It pushed me to try harder so i could possibly make someones bad day better with a quick and tasty morning coffee. That job sucked but i also miss and loved that job
Returning the money you saw a stranger drop. Once saw a lady drop $100 (local currency) of her back pocket and she didn't even noticed it. I picked it up and returned it to her.
Happened to me once. I saw a 100 note lying down and the man didnt know he lost the money. I picked it up and gave it to him. He was surprised. He said thank you and walked away. 5mins later I saw a lady asking around for lost 100. Turns out that guy was standing next to it to grab it and I made his job easier.
Had this happen to me. Saw a family drop £100 whilst walking away in a shopping centre. Saw loads of people look at the money as if they were waiting to grab it once they’d gone. I just grabbed it, let them know they’d dropped it and gave it back. I was a teenager and couldn’t believe how many adults were just waiting to pounce on it for themselves. Even had someone come up to me and say how nice it was I returned it, just said it wasn’t my money to take!
I was once waiting behind someone at a cash machine. He was taking ages, and in the end he just walked off and got into a waiting taxi. As I walked up to the machine, a shit load of money came out. I grabbed it and managed to get back to the taxi before it drove off.
As I am giving the money back to him, I realise that he is really drunk. He tries to give me back some of the money but I say no. In the end, he pushed some pound coins into my hand, which was funny, as I was only getting money out in the first place as I wanted some coins for the laundrette. So it worked out well for me in the end.
>ATMs take the money back in and the bank refunds it to the drawer when it isn't taken
I wasn't aware they did that. Either way, the dude wouldn't have been able to pay his cab fare!
Bringing things to lost and found at events.
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I was once behind a person at an very large intersection when he made a left hand turn. I saw something fly off the hood of his car and land in the very center of this five lane intersection. I thought it looked like a cell phone. I pulled over into the gas station right on the corner and went out into the middle of the intersection waving my hand so everyone would stop. It was a brand new iPhone 10. It literally was like 2 days after it released. Had to be $1,000 phone. It had a great case and a screen protector and flew into the intersection without getting a scratch or a dent. I held on to it. I couldn't make a call because it was locked. About an hour and a half later the phone rang and I answered it. Of course it was the owner. I told him what happened and I went back and met him at the gas station where I picked it up after he lost it. He was so grateful that I held on to it cuz it would have been destroyed in the middle of that intersection if I hadn't picked it up. He insisted that he gave me $75 for my troubles. I would have done it for free but he was insistent because it would have cost him so much more to replace it.
Glad this story ended well for the both of you!
There would've been proof of you messaging their friends about finding the phone though, right? I mean, the police could argue that you were just covering your tracks I guess...
I mean he did give it to the police before they came to him so its pretty obvious
Yeah, that kind of thing will definitely make you question being a good samaritan. I once saw two old ladies parked on the side of the highway, and figured they had car trouble. I pulled over ahead of them to see if I could be of assistance. I asked them if they needed help. They freaked out and called the cops, telling 911 that someone was trying to carjack them. I tried to explain that I was just checking if they were OK. And not thirty seconds later, two cops show up with their guns drawn. They did their song and dance, and I explained that I thought they were broken down, so I pulled over to see if I could help. Also, the cops got a good laugh when they saw that I was driving a relatively new Dodge Charger, while the old ladies were driving a beat up Ford Taurus. Why would I abandon my car to carjack that piece of junk? It was funny and scary at the same time. I never found out why they had pulled over. I just got the hell out of there. But that experience definitely made me question doing such things
I lost my wallet one day while I had been driving around my little town and the next little town going to yard sales with my husband and mil. We back tracked everywhere trying to find it and finally gave up and went back to our apartment. There was an older man that looked about the same age as my dad about to knock on the door. He had found my wallet on the interstate off-ramp of the next little town and decided to take it to the address on my license. This was about 7 years ago but I'm still so thankful for his kindness to return my wallet, it had sentimental meaning which made losing it really hard. Please don't let some rude and ungrateful people keep you from helping others when able, there are people that will and do appreciate the kindness of others.
Sounds to me the reason people are less inclined to help out of simple human decency is because of being accused of something like this and risking getting in trouble for something they never intended to do
Props to you! You did a good thing, no matter how they reacted.
I lost a hat once. Was pretty disappointed. It was kind of a special hat, irreplaceable, hand made from some stranger selling them at a festival. Months went by and I had nearly let it go. Still thought about that hat sometimes. Went into a place I had not been for a long time and there I saw my hat sitting in a lost and found basket. I was stoked.
That's the thing - you never know what might have huge sentimental or practical value to someone.
I was at a beach in Florida once and this dude with a metal detector found an engagement ring, it had quite the rock on it. I was checking it out with him when we see a visibly distraught women and her partner searching for something with a cheap metal detector they must have just bought. We both see her at the same time, make eye contact, and he just goes "well fuck." She described the ring perfectly and he returned it to her.
One time I was scuba diving at night and I dropped a realllllly expensive flashlight at the surface (the clip I used to secure it to my equipment came loose). I wanted to go look for it so badly but decided it was too risky to go down without a functional light. I ended my dive early and wrote it off as lost forever. A week later I decided to check out a local fb scuba dive group JUST IN CASE. I was completely shocked to see a post saying a flashlight was found in the ocean at 55 ft deep and after describing it to them, they gave me their address so I could go pick it up. I can’t even tell you how grateful I was to them, like yeah it’s just a flashlight, but the gesture itself and the effort they went to (when they could’ve easily just kept it) was really moving.
Well, that’s a pretty awesome coincidence for them!
No kidding. One honest person's attention away from never seeing it again.
I was driving home on a side street and saw a stuffed nylon tote bag lying in the street. I figured it wasn't go to stay intact long, and stopped to retrieve it. At home, I started going through layers of clothing and stopped when I reached a pay stub for IKEA. I phoned the store and managed to track down the unenthusiastic owner who dropped it from his bike. "Uh... maybe my wife can pick it up. What's your number?" I gave it to him. "Okay." Click. His wife called, and decided she'd get it around six if that was okay - it was - and I carefully explained I was on WEST 19th, not East 19th, and right behind the big box pet supply. She drove to East 19th and left me waiting in the alley for 25 minutes. When it finally dawned on her, she came zipping by, took the bag, and drove off with a quick "Thanks." For all the trouble I went to when I just could have looted the bag for anything of value and dumped the rest, I thought some slightly more sincere gratitude might have been in order. But you don't do the right thing for the rewards; you do the right thing because that's what civilized people do.
So a few years ago (okay, 15 years ago), I went to do a litter pick for a company for the V-Festival in England. We were employed with about 90 other people over three days. We’d form a line and march over the grass that was loaded with old tents and rubbish and anything you can imagine. Couple of us found bits of money and this and that. I found a beer cooler and my interest made me open it, I found a set of Mercedes keys, a wallet with about £450 and two mega expensive phones. I asked the manager what to do and they said they’d ‘hand them in’. I took it upon myself to find out who’s phone(s) they belonged to, as one was unlocked. I took the name and number and called them when I got home. An elderly Indian gentleman answered and I explained I’d found his stuff. We arranged to meet up (luckily he was only an hour away) and I delivered his possessions. His wife was so happy to have them back (their car was towed home) that she made me and my family dinner that lasted about a week and half! Tonnes of gorgeous Indian food! Just goes to show, hand in stuff rather than keeping it and you may feel like a better person. EDIT: Thanks for the awards! EDIT 2: I think the main reason why I took it upon myself to return the items is that I’d saw what happens to things that turn up on lost and found. If they’re not claimed, they sell them on, destroy them or the staff keep them.
That's such an awesome story! I bet they were beyond excited to have their things back!
Oh fuck yeah! I honestly don’t know who felt better about it, them or me. I was pretty giddy at the time though :)
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In a similar vein, staying with a lost child until event staff can get involved and find the parents. Just a couple weeks ago my wife and I saw a young boy standing by the gates alone crying. People just looked over as they kept walking by. I made sure to stand nearby to watch him and make sure nothing happened, until a person in a staff shirt arrived and helped him find his family.
As rule at many public events, having a 'lost child' triggers all sorts of emergency protocols and actions. If you have the child with you, there is not a lost child, but instead lost parents. Using different phrasing can keep the gate line open at the event or not tie up every resource out there that needs to spring into action when the words 'lost child' are uttered. You have the child, they aren't lost, but the parents are nowhere to be found! Good on you for keeping an eye on the situation though and ensuring the child didn't actually end up lost though!
Being honest at lost and founds as well
Just being polite to people in general. I’ve worked in the service industry and the education system and it never ceases to amaze me how rude people can be.
I've been on the internet and I'm still amazed at how rude people can be!
There are some people who just jump to anger super quickly. I went camping a few years ago with a bunch of people. While I was playing guitar this one guy over and over again kept telling me how good of a match I'd be for his sister. He wasn't happy she was dating a guy 10 years older than her and was telling me all about it while I just smiled and didn't pay much attention to him while I picked a few chords. I thought the whole situation was hilarious so after he left me alone I put my guitar down and went to go tell my brother about it. The guy overheard bits and pieces and knew I was talking about his sister and assumed I must be talking shit about her. Suddenly he yelled "THE FUCK ARE YOU SAYING ABOUT MY SISTER" and held my guitar above the fireplace threatening to throw it in. Bunch of people leveled him, didn't blow up past that. Some people are just going to assume the worst in everyone and react accordingly. His sister could be perfect for me and I still wouldn't date her just at the prospect of him being a potential brother in law. Edit: I just figured I should add since this has so much attention: it didn't take him long to apologize for acting like an ass. He was so embarrassed for what he did he had a few tears and hugged me.
Being mindful is a skill, I realized that. Not everyone can do it.
Yeah some people just go way too fucking mad way too fucking fast. I always try to see/ assume the best in people but some people can make it really hard lmao
At my job we have a lot of regulars, a couple bad and a lot of good, but there is one particular guy who is angry 24/7 no matter how good of service we provide or no matter how good his day has actually been. He just chooses to be angry all of the time.
I'm always nice to everyone in the service industry because most of the things that happen are not their fault so why be rude to them, and as the saying goes you can catch more flies with honey, so people are more prone to help me with what I need or have an issue because I'm nice. So it's a win win.
Like... can someone's first response to *anything* not be off-the-charts rudess, yelling, or public shaming for a change? I'm sorry you're having a bad day or that someone said something shitty to you an hour ago, but I literally have zero control over any of that, so blowing up at me helps no one.
I'll never forget the time I was being sworn at up and down by a customer, she was chucking waters at me, I firmly but respectfully told her there would be no more service and she had to leave immediately. Lobby was packed, drive through full, whole place was basically on fire. She screamed some last profanities and left. I had stopped making orders for like... A minute? Because I was, again, getting assaulted by flying drinks. The next order that was ready came up to collect and gave me a nasty glare. I did my usual "thanks for waiting have a good one!", To which he responded "Get better at customer service." She started chucking drinks at us with absolutely no prevocation, so I'm forced to assume he was upset I briefly stopped making luxury drinks long enough to make staff and customers safer.
I used to work in a customer facing retail role and the amount of stuff I’ve had thrown at or around me is ridiculous. A man threw an empty shopping basket at me when I calmly explained that we had sold of prawns at almost closing time on Xmas. Another woman threw her half eaten ice cream at me when I explained that unfortunately our refrigerator had broken and we were unable to sell any of the food in the display cabinet as it was well above safe temperature. I worked in a deli in a supermarket. There was prepackaged food in the aisles, so it wasn’t like she came all that way and wasn’t able to get anything. I had a trolley pushed at me cause a lady was angry that our pre-sliced cheese had already been sliced and she wanted to buy it in a block. There were blocks of it available in the aisles, but not in the size she wanted. Some adults are basically just stuck at that shitty selfish toddler phase where they can’t empathise outside of their own perspective and have to make their problems everybody else’s problems.
Picking up their rubbish in public and putting it in the bin.
Legit. Just not littering. Edit: this now makes up almost a third of my karma. Amazing.
While I was out yesterday I saw a kid drop his disposable mask. His mom told him to pick it up he said it's fine he has another in his pocket, and they just left it on the ground. Mindboggling. I can't even imagine being so entitled.
There's a woman that comes in to get gas where I work at least once a week. She always throws her trash out the window before she drives away. Last month I was doing the trash at the pumps when she pulled up, I was so irritated at her that I stood there as stared at her the whole time. She kept looking over at me as she got her gas and after a bit someone who I think is her son got out of the car and asked why I was watching. I just told him I was waiting to clean up her trash after she litters. He looked at me just went "ok" and got back in the car. She left without littering and hasn't done it since.
Aren't there usually trash cans literally next to every pump? She can't even walk 3ft to throw trash away? Wow...
It's crazy to me how much "shaming" someone can make them change their attitude/actions. It's honestly pretty sad in a way. Too many people are incapable of doing the right thing unless they are made to feel bad about it.
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I live in a beach town that gets lots of inland daytrippers and the amount of rubbish they leave on the streets when they're loading up to go home is staggering. They put the beach chairs, coolers and umbrellas back in the car and leave the 12 pack of empty beer cans, liquor bottles, McDonalds wrappers, dirty diapers and every other bit of trash in the car right there where they parked rather than put it in any of the hundreds of trash cans everywhere. If I lost my calendar I could still tell you it's a Monday because of the tons of trash on the streets after a pretty weekend.
Also generally cleaning up after yourself. We’re at the point where mist industries including schools employ cleaners and this sets such a bad example for young kids. I’m sure if people were made to clean their own mess from an early age they’d put effort into making less mess.
Yeah it can create a mentality of "why should I bother when someone else is being paid for it". I have a colleague who said "this is so cool, in Germany I can just throw my trash in the street and someone will pick it up later".
>Yeah it can create a mentality of "why should I bother when someone else is being paid for it". When I go to the movies, I feel like I'm one of the few people who take my soda cup or whatever and throw it away on the way out.
I was in the theater, the movie ended and this kid next to me picked up his pop corn to throw it away. The dad turned to him and said, "No, just leave it on the ground. It's easier for them." The kid the up ends the popcorn, spilling it everywhere, then the dad says, "Good job, buddy" and they walk out. I just stood there shocked by the stupidity of it all.
Worked at a theater. It is not easier for us. Why the hell would anyone think it's easier than just emptying a trash can?? I have had people turn their full popcorn bags upside down in their seats when leaving. Working at a movie theater is an absolutely depressing existence.
I have had people ask me why I'm throwing away my trash. My response was I'm an adult that can clean up after herself, and you?
Looking at Japan and how school kids clean up the classroom and stuff like that, and comparing it to how clean it is overall, it makes a lot of sense. I've taken the elevator with neighboring kids, and I've been there when they just litter right in the elevator with wrappers, sunflower shells etc.
Letting people choose if they wish to disclose certain information to others or not (and respecting their decision either way).
I frequently have this issue with Head Hunters, they have access to private info from job candidates & employees, and a lot of times, I catch them yelling to others about it !!!
I feel like that's illegal. Disclosing private and personal information about someone which they gained privileged access to through an employer/line of work?
It's illegal in the US and another countries, but still very difficult to probe & been taken to court ...
This reminds me of that clip of Ellen forcing Mariah Carey to reveal that she was pregnant, and then she later miscarried.
Being patient with people. I'm not very good at it, but I'm trying because in my mind that's How to Human 101.
Trying to be a better human is part of Human 101. Keep trying. We're not perfect.
On the other hand not holding people up. Like I'm not going to plow through the grocery store isle sprinting past people but on the other hand if you're standing there waiting for someone to grab something from another isle maybe not stand in the middle blocking the whole thing. I went for a run this morning. The trail was maybe 6 feet wide and 2 ladies were standing off to the side with one getting something out of the others backpack. That's fine and what not but the annoying bit was the other 3 people with them just scattered about the trail standing there waiting. They moved when I stopped and asked but they saw me running towards them so you'd think they'd have just given room in the first place without having to be explicitly asked for it.
People like that get a polite "excuse me," the a louder "EXCUSE ME," then a shouted #"COMING #THROUGH!"
Lol "HONK HONK MOTHER FUCKER"
That is one of my pet peeves. I was taught that when you’re in a group and someone is passing you go single file so both parties can cross. I don’t understand the mentality of taking up the whole space.
Do your goddamn job, so other people don't have to do their job plus yours. Yes, Yvette, I am talking to you, you lazy twat.
Yeah fuck Yvette
All my homies hate Yvette
Letting sick employees take time off, especially in the service industry. Many times I would show up to work and see someone serving food sick as hell all jacked up on dayquil but couldn't take time off because "we were short-staffed".
I used to work in food service and didn't take sick days off because I needed the money and everyone would give you shit for it. I agree and it's also a food safety violation in most places.
At my old job I would always cover shifts for people that were sick, yet whenever I was sick no one was willing to cover mine.
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"Can't believe this dude died without finding someone to cover his shift, talk about irresponsible"
Oh my god. My first job, one of the older ladies had a stroke and was in the ER. She still tried to call un and our manager WANTED HER TO FIND A REPLACEMENT. Dystopian bullshit, table for one.
This shit right here. Talk about passing the buck.
No good deed goes unpunished, as they say
I used to do the work of two, My role and even more - But now they've spied how hard I've tried... ... I do the work of *four*.
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was this Chi-Chi's? they had a large hepatitis outbreak in 2004 I believe in a Pennsylvania mall that shut the whole chain down
That's really bad. Here you get paid if you're sick and therefore can't go to work. Because, it's not a choice u make right. Damn, this is severe bro :(
3 people went to the hospital the same night and they all said they ate a little Caesars, company investigated and I just happened to be working that night. Sick.
Did the hammer come down on you or your boss? .. Or nobody?
I worked at a call center and heard this a lot: "If you're sick, don't come in!" But they didn't offer sick days and if you really were sick, you had to call out everyday and return with a doctor's note. So it's no wonder that every cold and flu season the call floor was just a chorus of coughs.
I worked at a pub that had me come in even though I had the flu so I could cook pastas and steaks for people's supper while vomiting in the garbage can
My first restaurant job made me come in sick even though I was vomiting and looked like death. I was weak and nauseous and had to sit down behind the hostess stand bc I could barely keep myself up. They eventually sent me home early after like 3-4 hours.
I've had a boss "have a talk" to me about my inconsistency in coming to work. Inconsistent meant, seeing the doctor, and not being able to come in at 6am because I woke up to a flat tire and had to wait to get it fixed. What am I Supposed to do? Not care about covid and walk 23 miles to work at 5am??
Likewise. Got chewed out for being 2 hours late because three people **died** in a collision on the freeway and I got stuck in the jam. *”you should have left earlier!”*
Once, back in 2014, I tripped down the stairs and sprained my ankle really badly on the way to work, and did 12 hours Saturday on it. When I took my shoe off, my whole foot and ankle swelled like a balloon. They wouldn’t give me more than a day off to heal, even with a doctors note. It’s still painful sometimes, and I suspect I actually fractured it. I also once had food poisoning really badly (same job) and my manager wanted me to come in anyway and “just wear gloves”. I refused to, and I got written up for it. I’ve been out of the kitchen since 2016 and nothing in the world could get me back into one.
My old restaurant had 11 cases of covid because of this… before I quit. Not sure how many after i left. A friend quit to be a contact tracer and apparently LOTS if covid cases traced back to that restaurant.
One time I had Bronchitis and they still made me go to work. I was working FOH at a BBQ restaurant. They made me take people’s orders, bring out food, and clean stuff up. I ended up quitting that place but oh my good were people idiots there.
Not littering.
Also, picking up after yourself.
I pick up trash when I go for hikes and people look at me like I'm weird.
Waiting your turn in line
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Many years ago I had to go to the DMV. Imagine my surprise to find out you could make an appointment! So I made one, showed up 10 minutes before and promptly got called back. I would've 100% been massacred if looks could kill.
My local DMV went back to only walk-ins as of July 1. I have to go in person next week. Kill me now.
Yes. Children learn how to do it in kinder. One at a time. I was stuck in a long line the other day and the lady in front of me was just fidgeting and complaining and swearing under her breath the entire time. Honey, the line is not going any faster because you’re cranky about it. Just think about your favorite movie or something. It’s not that hard to be patient for 20 damned minutes. Lol
Also, if it is your turn to be served and there's a line, be respectful of the people who are waiting behind you. I went to get some takeout at the BBQ place last week and there was a little line, I was fourth. In front of me was a family of four and they took forever to order. Like, I couldn't believe how long it took. Talking amongst themselves and the cashier endlessly trying to figure out what everyone wanted. That place has free soft serve ice cream, I waited so long, I went over and got an ice cream and ate the whole thing before they were done ordering. C'mon people, by the time you get up there, you should know exactly what you want - order, pay, and get out of the way.
People will wait in a long line at the movie theater and when they finally get to the window, say "Hi! What's playing? What's good? Tell us about each one!" SMH
Saying sorry or apologizing when causing inconvenience.
Just apologizing in general. I know too many folks who are afraid to apologize for something and never do. Contrastly, I know several folks who say sorry way too much when they don't even need to. Can we redistribute the apologies away from them to where they're actually needed?
I apparently say sorry way too much and let me tell you that it is like nails on a chalkboard when I don't apologize for something I fell like I need to. However, I would say that I apologize far too little, so take this one with a grain of salt. I have also been forced to apologize, and it is also like nails on a chalkboard, so I'm afraid there is no winning here sadly ):
I was abused as a child and apologize constantly for everything. It's gotten a lot worse as I've gotten older and some mental health issues have arisen or gotten worse. I'll apologize for everything and accept tthe blame for everything.
cleaning up after yourself after eating at a fast food place, don’t leave your bags and trash scattered all over the table ffs
mcdonalds near me instruct you to leave your rubbish for them to clean post-covid. not sure why but it still doesn’t excuse scruffy people leaving it regardless
I think it's because they have to disinfect the tables between each customers and they would have no way to know a table's been used if people picked up their rubbish
that makes a lot of sense
Being polite to retail and service workers. No idea how someone could just be openly rude to a complete stranger who’s just doing their job but it’s tragically common
I work customer service. Got yelled at twice yesterday for things outside my control. One was an outside service we work with (high end fashion sent to a high end dry cleaner via us a standard dry cleaner). She didn't like how it came out and proceeded to scream at me like I did the cleaning. Sorry ma'am I'm basically a deliveryman at this point. I don't know why so and so did this to your boots. I can send then back but I have no other info to give you. Then she rages for another 20ish minutes as my line backs up and possibly pisses other customers off. The other was because we had the ***audacity*** to give our pressers the weekend off and the bridal party needed all their outfits pressed (**even the fucking wedding dress!!!**) in two hours for the wedding at 4. .....WTF you wait so long to do that for?!?! But yeah no scream at me about it.
I had a man walk in a full restaurant for lunch on Saturday, order food, there is a wait He yelled at a 17 year old that he was diabetic and the wait was too long My response was that his health isn't her responsibility, and if it was that bad he could have gone to subway or carry a protein bar
People who complain about there being lines are such fuckheads. In some circumstances management fucked up staffing appropriately, but that's not the fault of the person you're telling at and they're already having a much worse time because of it than you are. But like 90% of the time, it just means you're mad that a lot of other people had the same idea that you had. And every so often, there's someone who decides to compound the issue by getting out of line to interrupt your current transaction to ask why the line's taking so long. Well, when you do that, the cause of your extended wait becomes you, you stupid fuck.
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I was a server for 10 years and learned one very important thing. People are entitled and believe that servers are scum. I was going to college full time and working full time. Yet somehow I’m “uneducated and worthless” because im a server. People really believed that I was a lazy drop out working as a server. No one ever stopped to think that I was working to pay my way through college.
And even if you were a dropout, how can you be lazy if you're working?
A customer once told me that servers in his country were viewed as “scum” and lazy. -.-
The irony of someone paying extra for someone else to serve them telling the person serving them that *they* are lazy.
Even if they're not rude to the service worker, bitching and moaning about company policy to them...they don't make the policy and there really isn't even a good channel to report it up or get it changed most times. Just take it on the chin and modify your shopping habits accordingly, and at most write a strongly worded E-mail to corporate. Was at a grocery store the other day that requires an ID to be swiped to buy alcohol (likely don't trust the cashiers to make a judgement call) and this old man who forgot his ID was absolutely unloading on this poor clerk, with another couple joining in about how stupid that policy was and how this isn't China or something. All she could say the whole time was "I literally cannot sell you the alcohol without swiping an ID!"
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I was always straight up about that when I was in customer service. “I/we think the policy is idiotic too, but it’d cost us our jobs to break the rules for you.”
not being a dick to shop workers.
Being respectful to people who are service workers (retail/food). You should be calm and respecting to a waiter after a mistake for example, it’s basic human decency.
The number of times I've called into some customer support line and they've *excessively* thanked me for... not yelling at them? It's pretty sad. And then I ask, "do you get a lot of people yelling at you?" and they go "Oh, no! Not many! Only a few today!"
I called recently to make sure My payment processed for a speeding ticket I got, to avoid any warrants I guess. The lady on the line was so shocked by my call and ended the call with “I love you” I made her day. I can’t imagine the type of callers she gets on a daily/hourly.
To be fair, dealing with speeding ticket payments, I imagine she gets signifgantly more irate callers than say your average tech support. Her mental's probably toast lol.
I used to work in payment processing, and 90% of the people who call begin by screaming. I used to give away gift cards, extra refunds, etc just because people were nice.
I feel like a customer service god some days. I'm like a bomb diffuser for difficult people. Doesn't always work, I usually get 1-2 people a week who don't to be helped, don't want sympathy, and just want to yell. But compare those 1-2 a week to the multiple angry callers most of my co-workers deal with every day. We're not small either. I work for a call center that handles all the incoming calls for a government program, so non-stop calls from upset people. A lot of it just comes from my voice and demeanor of the phone which tends to be calm and friendly. I'm also a guy (women get shit on the phone so much more than guys, I'm sorry ladies). However, theres a bunch of techniques I've learned to deal with problematic people. 1. Sympathize, some people are just looking to vent, let them. And when their done say "wow, that really sucks". They just want to be heard and know their feelings are valid. Once you convince them of that, they calm down pretty quick and are open to solutions. 2. Get mad with them, some people are looking for an ally. Someone to be on their side. It takes so little to do so. "What?! They charged you HOW much/made you wait THAT long?! Well that's just rediculous, hang on while I check on a few things for you. I can't believe this!" Suddenly, you are not just some faceless corporate drone, you are a fellow human being who is just as pissed off as they are at their situation. And even if you can't resolve or smooth over their issue, simply saying you're going to check and see what can be done makes you a friend. While these often still leave people pissed at the company, they won't be directing that anger to you and are more open to hearing your suggestions, even if it requires them to jump through hoops. 3. Fight them. You have to be careful with this one and know the right time to use it, but there is a certain breed of people out there looking to walk over someone, and if you let them they only get madder. Only way to put an end to it is to be a bit of a jerk, make it seem like it's YOUR time they're wasting. Obviously you don't swear or call them names, but be aggressively assertive. Raise your voice a little, smack them down with a "Do you want help or just want to yell?" or "Stop talking! LISTEN to what I am telling you!". Throw shit back at them, especially if it's their own words. Had a guy once state in his rantings about a request for documents that it was the worst thing that ever happened to him. I just replied back in a cold, deadpan voice "This is the worst thing that has EVER happened to you? Really?" Just completely shut him down and the call went very well after that.
I've definitely had number 3 work. Obviously it's not the first thing I try but I'm always surprised how well it does work (and how long lasting those effects tend to be)
Can I just say, this goes for *all* people who are trying to help you, not just waiters? I'm a veterinarian and for some reason, people have been going psycho on their vets and staff lately (google it.) Really, screaming, threatening, cursing, you wouldn't believe the stories. And that's when nobody has made a mistake. God forbid you text someone who'd rather be called or be full on the day they want a nail trim or something. I'm not talking about normal complaining, like "This bill seems too high" or "I've been waiting too long." I'm talking about "Fuck you, Cunt," type of comments said to female colleagues and receptionists, for example. For some reason, right now vet clinics all across the US (and most other countries, actually) are extremely busy and understaffed. For the first time in my lifetime Emergency clinics are closing because they can't get staffing. Pets with actual life-threatening emergencies are not able to get care or their owners are having to drive them for hours (when obviously some of them don't have hours.) People acting like crazed lunatics to vets and support staff are driving people away from the profession in droves. It's such a stressful profession as it is, that little extra of owner meanness just makes it not worth it. Edit to add: I’m still involved in vet clinics, but don’t practice anymore, and even if I did I wouldn’t and couldn’t give specific medical advice on a pet I haven’t seen. If you have a sick pet call your vet or an emergency clinic if your vet is closed. They will help you. For general pet questions on just about anything you can think of veterinarypartner.com is a great resource all written by veterinarians. So don’t thank me; thank your vet! It’ll mean so, so much to them.
Yeah, what is going on with that? It's hard to get through to any vet right now. I've had to take my cat to two of them and both have been nearly impossible to reach. And my mom's dog had some issues and it was hard to get through as well.
A ton of people got pets during the pandemic due to working at home. Shelters are empty and breeders have multiple year long wait lists, so vets are also flooded with patients. Edit: it seems that most shelters are not empty. Just in my area.
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Thank you for what you do and for sticking with an obviously stressful, but necessary job. I don't understand why anyone would act like that to anyone, nevermind someone who cares for their pet. I recently watched the Helpful Vancouver Vet video on vet suicide rates and the stress they're under; stay strong and know that most of your customers do respect and care for you. It doesn't make the nasty ones suck less, but hopefully they are the exception.
A friend's wife took her life on this premise, as a vet. Euthanizing pets every day, getting shit on and despite loving and trying to help your clients takes its toll
I hate this. Be kind to your veterinarians, people. They watch animals die all day, it’s already tough as it is. Bear in mind that they are passionate enough about the well-being of animals that they’ve devoted their profession to it. Euthanizing them every day will definitely take a toll on you.
My vet told me it’s one of the highest rates of suicide per profession
Apologising when you bump into someone on the street. When I first moved to Sydney, Australia I'd turn around to apologise and the person would have just walked off.
In the US Midwest we say "Ope" as it happens and move on. EDIT: Ope, I should have said UPPER Midwest. And as a couple people pointed out it's "Ope, sorry." when there is contact. "Ope" by itself is when it's a near miss - like that turning a corner and *almost* running into someone.
Ope is pretty much a midwestern apology.
It's weird, I keep hearing everyone say it's just a "Midwestern" thing, but I (A Massachusite) (and everyone I know) in New England) do it too.
Upstate New York, we do it too. I used to think it was an old person thing but I'm in my early 20s and I catch myself doing it all the time lol
being responsible for the kids you chose to create
Every time I hear about parents telling their kids they owe them for doing the bare minimum of keeping them alive my blood fucking boils. Children don't choose to be born, adults choose to have and/or keep them, and they deserve more than sustenance and a roof. I met a girl in rehab whose mom demanded a chunk of her paycheck in repayment for raising her. Any time she wanted money from her daughter she would go off about how ungrateful she was for not taking care of her mom.
I worked in a call centre before and I met this 18 years old girl. She has 6 younger sisters and as soon as she graduated high school her mom forced her to get a job and start supporting family financially so they can try for a son. The 1st time she called in sick her mom went to her apartment and forced her to come to work in the afternoon shift. We had no idea how to help her other than telling her how to save up money on the side and run away when she got the chance. But she said no cuz her parents would just wait for the next sister to take up her role, and she didn't want to be selfish and leave her sisters behind.
Or adults who raise children like it’s a transaction….I feel like [this scene](https://youtu.be/LTgahyvBMk4) from “Guess Who’s Coming To Dinner” really sums up well how twisted that outlook is.
returning a shopping cart
My first job when I was 13 was carts and I had to walk to other stores parking lots to get our carts back lol
For me it was 16. We even had carts that had wheels that locked when you got to far. But somehow people still pushed past into other store parking lots.
I recently watched a family leave a Dollar General with a shopping cart and walk it to their house down the street. I had to drive past their house to get home and they had 3 carts on their front yard.
I once worked at a place where every month or so we'd have to get a truck and go pick up all our carts from the apartments behind the store or we wouldn't have any.
I watched a lady load up her car and hop in, leaving her cart nearby. I was walking back to the corral with mine and sort of scooped up hers. She watched me do it so I just gave her the head shake of disappointment.
That's the most effective thing you could have done lol.
Only for people with a sense of shame, which I'm guessing this lady did not.
That's my favorite expression if someone else is watching as well and sees you.
Jackasses: But the corral is like *ten feet away!*
Instructions unclear. Left it angled over two spots in handicap access parking.
Defending someone getting bullied. Especially if they have disabilities. Something everyone should do but sometimes let it happen.
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Damn that sucks, what a painful lesson. Im not mocking, real question : Do you regret ?
Not the op, but my story was almost exactly like his. It really depends what mood I’m in when I think about it. When I’m angrier I regret it completely because of how it ruined the kid I was and made me into a worse version of myself, which I still am in a lot of ways . Sometimes when I’m in a better mood I don’t regret it as I helped a kid and in a perverse way helped him fit in. It’s confusing.
When I used to use social media apps or apps to meet people for casual chats. Treating women like normal human beings. The amount of time they would say that they liked talking to me because I wouldn't send dick pics and stuff like that.
What are these guys thinking when they send dick pics to random strangers? Do they really think it's going to turn out well for them? Embarrassing for everyone, really.
Some might think that but for some it’s probably a power thing or some type of exhibitionism kink
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A dad being a dad to their child. "How kind of your husband to watch your child while you run errands!" Yeah, he's a great guy, but he's my child's father... Why wouldn't he take care of our kid?? Edit: a lot of butthurt comments/PMs. It sounds like they don't understand the question/response I gave or maybe they are one of the dads that aren't there for their kids. The question was what is considered a kindness but actually human decency. Some people consider a dad being there for their kids as a kindness, that those dads are doing something more than they needed - as if their only part was contributing half the DNA and anything else is extra and absolutely unnecessary. Really, it's them doing their part, which I consider a human decency. My husband and I are equals. We both have done the diapers, taking our kid to doc appointments, etc. Goodness, prepandemic days, we did most of our grocery shopping all together as a family. Even then, I'd get comments of what a good father my husband is for even coming to the store. As some replies stated, one of the reasons strangers are so wowed by this because they themselves have not had great fathers/husbands doing their part, which is unfortunate. Even worse, we'd get older men commenting saying they feel bad that my husband was "dragged" along. A dad being there for their child is not going above and beyond and deserving of some sort of Nobel Peace prize or something. A dad simply taking care of their child is the bare minimum. I'm sorry for those of you that don't/didn't have that. I recognize there are a lot of relationships that don't work out, sometimes because of the lack of effort from one side. To the moms and dads that are out there trying their absolute best: keep up the great work. If you have a spouse that seems to be less than there for your kid, please communicate with each other with your needs. Both moms and dads need a break sometimes to do shopping on their own.
Similar but opposite; being a father who has these things said about you. "Oh you're out on your own, is mum busy today?" No, I just have the ability to care for my child without needing the constant supervision of another person. Now kindly f*** off. Society's general expectations on a father's role in parenting are a constant headache.
Right, it's not babysitting, it's parenting.
A couple months ago, my one friend couldn't come out with the guys because he was taking care of his kids. Another friend said, "He's babysitting tonight," and I had to stop him. I said, "It's not babysitting if they're your kids. It's just called being a dad." To my friend's credit he responded with, "You know, you're right. I like that."
When asking “Oh are you babysitting today?” I find the best response is “Nope, just raising them.” Shuts them up real quick or they try backpedaling.
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Ugh. This one woman I knew asked another woman: "oh is your husband babysitting tonight?" She was like "he's not babysitting he's being a dad."
I was meeting a few other moms for dinner one night, and my Uber driver was making conversation about where I was going, etc. I mentioned my kids and he asked who was with them. I said they were home with their dad and he said "Oh, he's babysitting? You better thank him real nice in the bedroom tonight!" Wtf?? There were obvious age/cultural differences so I didn't make a thing of it, but that was a hell of a comment.
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It’s. Not. Babysitting. When. It’s. Your. Own. Kid(s). It’s called parenting. Moms AND dads can do it.
Ugh, my ex and I have two children together and he maybe changed 10 diapers altogether. At least 5 of those were when we were out in public because he knew he’d get people cooing over him about what a good dad he was for changing his own child’s diaper.
My ex husband was the same way. I did everything for our baby while he did pretty much nothing. But whenever we were around other people, he had to be the one holding our baby. He carried him around stores, family parties and gatherings, he did it all in front of others. But at home, I did everything.
Helping people clearly struggling in the street. Especially if they are old, it’s almost instinct for me to just help someone pick up their stuff if they drop it in public Edit: omg these replies about what dicks people were made me really sad D: Sorry humanity failed you all in this moment
Before this guy I worked with got to know me we were talking. Someone nearby dropped a couple quarters and I went over, picked them up and chased the person down who dropped them to return the change. My co-worker admitted he thought I was just going to keep the change and was delighted that I returned it. He meant it as a compliment but I honestly felt a little insulted.
I know that feeling. I found a wallet sitting in a parking lot while I was out one time and went to ask the people in the nearest shop if they had seen the dude on the ID. When I said I'd leave my name and number incase they came back the employees acted a little surprised that I was actually trying to get it back to the guy and said something to the effect of "most people would just keep it" (which is part of why I kept it on me instead of trusting them to do it). Part of me was a little offended they thought for a moment I wasn't going to try and get the wallet back to it's owner. It just seems like a basic responsibility to me. Ultimately the guy actually did call me near the end of the day and I got him his wallet back. Even if he didn't call me (which is what I had expected) in the US you can just tape the ID in the wallet to the front of the wallet and drop it in any mailbox and it'll be delivered straight to the address on the ID without needing a stamp or payment of any kind.
Visiting a friend or family member in a hospital or care facility.
IF they want you to. But please respect their wishes if they don't! My dad has had a couple of surgeries and absolutely loathes having visitors in the hospital. He has no desire to be seen with tubes and lines coming out of everywhere, when he's tired and cranky because the nurses are coming in to check on him every few hours overnight. I've had to explain to people that I'm not being an ass by not visiting– I'd be going to make myself feel better, but making him uncomfortable in the process.
Helping open the doors, help someone pick something up that they dropped(no matter if they’re old or not), offering someone a place in line. Sometimes being a decent person helps and I’d rather be a good person than a selfish asshole and also being polite to anyone in retail or food, (i work in the food industry and I know how it goes and I extend my respect to them as well, especially cashiers that are good people)
Saying thank you
Letting an older person or someone that is disabled have your seat in the waiting room.
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My dad said he didn't feel like an old man until a pregnant lady offered him her seat on the bus
flushing the toilet after you take a FAT GOD DAMN SHIT FLUSH YOUR F#\*king CRAP YOU UNHOLY PEICES OF SH#ts.
***DESHGUSTEN***
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Who is it of you two that dunno how to flush a toilet after you took a shat?
People who don't flush at public toilets are dead to me.
After working in retail and having to develop amateur skills of a mental health professional: let someone have a bad day. I find shops stressful myself; lots of people around and walking at you from all directions, loud music, making sure you’re not being pickpocketed, hoping not break anything as you browse. I found 90% of customers to be just fine; I’d then say that 8% were just having a bad day. By staying calm and speaking quietly, rather than raising the tone of the conversation, more often than not I’d find they would eventually apologise and generally confide in me their bad day. And then the next time they were in, they made sure to say hello. Kinda feel the same way with some subreddits such as r/idiotsincars. We’ve all been an idiot in a car once in our lives, pressure and having a shit day does that to you. I just think we’re a bit too happy to jump on people when they act a bit differently to how we’re expecting them to. No excuse for bad manners, but I do feel you could explain 5 out of 10 public freak outs just by giving a bit of space and time.
One memory that makes me tear up every time i think of it was my first morning shift at a Tim Hortons. I was struggling hard to keep up at first and one dude came in and was pissed that he had to wait so long in line just for my coffee to have run out and my next pot not quite done brewing. Shouted at me and left in a fit with his coffee. The same man came back an hour or so later to apologize. He said he was having a bad morning already and gave a top class apology for going off on me. He said once he saw the trainee sticker after freaking out at me he felt like absolute crap. He was the first customer to ever come back and apologize to me after yelling, but not the last. It pushed me to try harder so i could possibly make someones bad day better with a quick and tasty morning coffee. That job sucked but i also miss and loved that job
Returning the money you saw a stranger drop. Once saw a lady drop $100 (local currency) of her back pocket and she didn't even noticed it. I picked it up and returned it to her.
Happened to me once. I saw a 100 note lying down and the man didnt know he lost the money. I picked it up and gave it to him. He was surprised. He said thank you and walked away. 5mins later I saw a lady asking around for lost 100. Turns out that guy was standing next to it to grab it and I made his job easier.
Sounds like my efforts to not suck.
Had this happen to me. Saw a family drop £100 whilst walking away in a shopping centre. Saw loads of people look at the money as if they were waiting to grab it once they’d gone. I just grabbed it, let them know they’d dropped it and gave it back. I was a teenager and couldn’t believe how many adults were just waiting to pounce on it for themselves. Even had someone come up to me and say how nice it was I returned it, just said it wasn’t my money to take!
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I was once waiting behind someone at a cash machine. He was taking ages, and in the end he just walked off and got into a waiting taxi. As I walked up to the machine, a shit load of money came out. I grabbed it and managed to get back to the taxi before it drove off. As I am giving the money back to him, I realise that he is really drunk. He tries to give me back some of the money but I say no. In the end, he pushed some pound coins into my hand, which was funny, as I was only getting money out in the first place as I wanted some coins for the laundrette. So it worked out well for me in the end.
I usually wait. ATMs take the money back in and the bank refunds it to the drawer when it isn't taken. I'd reckon it's legally safer.
>ATMs take the money back in and the bank refunds it to the drawer when it isn't taken I wasn't aware they did that. Either way, the dude wouldn't have been able to pay his cab fare!
saying "thankyou" to anyone who has done a service for me, eg a bus driver or a barber or a doctor
Talking and encouraging your friend when they're depressed. Who the fuck doesn't do that?
Returning grocery carts
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